BTT 59 - The Worst Red Flags Women Show in a LTR
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- Опубліковано 7 чер 2020
- Following up to last weeks video, I asked men: What's the worst red flag you've seen in an LTR past the year mark, that made you end the relationship, that you didn't see in the early stages of dating?
This video covers red flags in LTRs after the one year mark.
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Really bad advice on insurance. NEVER buy whole life. Fire your advisor. Buy term and invest the difference.
A major red flag if she has got a beard and wearing some glasses........ Also bold!!
The comment about women who have a lot of male friends is spot on. An old sergeant of mine said it best, "a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on." Excellent work as usual Rich!
Not necessarily, they’re usually just there for emotional needs, not sex.
Music - The Voice Of The Soul Bullshit! It starts with emotional support, then leads to sex. Fuck off with that shit
@@VoiceOfThe Jody spotted.
B. W. Fisher
It can lead to sex, but not always. I speak from past experience. They’ll use you for validation, emotional support and a self-esteem/ego boost when they’re feeling low (beta need), then they go and hook up with Chad or Tyrone for excitement & sex (alpha seed). They can have a number of male orbiters in the background which fulfil her needs. She can’t get everything she wants in one man. It’s not black & white. Don’t believe me? Just ask Rollo.
@@VoiceOfThe Bull Shit
If she has friends that are "divorced" then you've had it. A bitter, divorced woman will try and destroy your/her relationship because she will need justification of why HER(friends) relationship failed and the in-group preference will eventually split YOUR relationship up.
I agree with what you said. A girl I was dating blew me off as soon as her best friend got dumped by a guy I grew up with. After she wasn't getting served by him, she went nuts and didn't want to see me or her best friend be happy.
Agreed 👍
@@thedriver7132 its good for you, loyal girls would rather blew their beastie no matter how old their friendship is.
@@possessorofgreatness7620 "Spoken like a true prodigy" (Mr. Wolf)
Yep.. my ex's fat, ugly friend got in and fucked shit up.
Loved me till she went away for a 'girls' trip for the weekend.. then came back and was done. We don't need weak minded girls who play puppet to their friends.
Her kids dad is a crack head and would just show up at her house whenever he wanted and she didn't want to fix that either. Thank fuck I've found the red pill.😁💊
Broke up with my girl just last week. Holy shit she had so many flags. Depression, anxiety, on meds, bunch of guy friends, smoked a bunch of weed and partied, phone addict and the list went on. She also seemed not to care much about the relationship until i split with her and now she’s crying for me back saying she regrets this and that. Hell to the no.
Same boat, my friend.
Take her back pump her and dump her again
Why on earth did you even get involved with her in the first place?
@@turtleanton6539 Smash and dash!
Thats what you call a loser, a female loser. Guys don't realise that females can be massive losers, it's just cuter for them when they're younger
Major Red flag, she goes on holiday without you with her bestie.
Yup...girls only trips are a huge flag. If she goes on one...she's demoted to plate status only. She will show you her true nature without you doing a thing. A trustworthy chick in an LTR won't go out to clubs, or trips without you.
@@santoparfano1910 What if she travels across country to visit her family + gay male best friend? Yeah.. probably still plate status
I just don't have the deep desire to have a relationship with a woman after many tries and failures. They represent nothing positive in my life, but simply serve as a drain and a burden to my life which consists of raising my daughter (I have full custody), taking care of my house and yard, working, lifting, fishing and other outdoors activities...listening to this content further entrenches my value of making myself my mental point of origin and enjoying my life for myself.
I hear you brother.
Glad you have the custody.
@Matt MSW I occasionally interact, but it's low engagement beyond hooking up. I typically find a more fulfilling trade off for my energies.
Mission and purpose should be all that matters
I respect that but tbh it sounds like you have no more interest because you got what u needed. A child. Why would you now put up with any shit when the purpose is complete
My ex and I used to be best friends and had an amazing relationship until she started becoming a feminist. She went from being a girly girl to a more masculine lesbian. She started hanging out with college cheerleaders and I believe they corrupted her. She used to beg for sex and never denied me sex but things got very cloudy when her friends started corrupting her. I can’t explain the pain I felt after I broke things off. Her toxic mindset ruined our relationship and she has told all of her friends/ co-workers (she worked at my gym at the time and basically got her the job) so she trashed my name even though she still told me she loved me. I tried to make things work after we broke up but she refused to take any blame for our issues. Toxic mindset pushed me away. She also got terribly jealous when my mom told her she will need to learn to keep up with me bec. I am a very motivated person and she got scared I’d leave her. She also asked me before the quarantine while she was working at my gym “Who have you been f**ckin lately?!” I told her “I haven’t, I’m trying to figure out what I want in life and I’m working on myself rn” she then chewed me out. She thought I broke up with her to sleep around. A few weeks later I found out she had already slept with multiple people and was mad because she realized she messed up. She is mad bec. I won’t take her back
You fucked up by being friends with a women in the first place. regardless if she's your ex or not
Good thing is you didn't accept her.
Good job dude 👍
lemmieatit - Well of course I do to an extent. We were together for 3 years and she was my 1st LTR. I’m not into her anymore but making the call to end it wasn’t easy. Watching someone go from being my best friend to a women who resented me was horrible to watch. Big lesson and I’m glad I learned it while being young.
@@mrblondeheart9562 , at least you learn at a young age. Most got it late. You're young. Now do the work and apply the Red pill to the T. Also the Rational male open my eyes to women. Good Luck man.
Henry P I appreciate it! Best of luck to you, brother! I put the work in everyday and am working to build the best future I can
I think I ignored every red flag imaginable. Glad I found you Rich.
She accused me of taking her for granted and not valueing her enough.
At this point she has already been cheating on me.
TRUE THATS CALLED PROJECTING HER SHIITTY CHOICES ONTO YOU
@@leanwoodworks exactly, she taked him for granted, no the other way arround. Its like when they accuses you of cheating, hello!! They are the cheaters!
Just ghost her, then
simple
You know what is injustice, men going to work. Women staying at home fully paid and expecting or entitled.
Then do not be in this type of relationship
Simple
A big red flag 🚩 for me is if the girl is a phone addict ! 💉 📱
Oh yeah.
Going on dates, and they sit there poking away at their phone the whole time, or even interrupting the conversation to chat with mommy for 10 minutes in another language, and you can't understand. Too many women today would rather get "likes" from 100 guys online, than develop a real relationship with 1 guy, face to face. This is a mental disorder.
@@ruralsquirrel5158 Just fucking leave if they do that even just once.
I haven't met a girl who isn't
@@YOUPIMatin123 I did.
Perfect timing for this video for me. Dumped my 6 month STR a week ago after noticing red flags. She wants me back and is begging but after this great video I am easily not giving her another chance. She’s already screwed up a few times and says she’ll stop, but her actions say otherwise. Thanks Rich!
"I promise I won't do this/that anymore"...
Is always a lie.
It is the lie told by those who are only sorry to have been caught/called out.
So...
She was "begging" for it?
Well done on taking corrective action
You struck a chord with me..."Can a woman divert a man's success "... I was in a bad marriage , in my mid 30s at the time. Three kids, house...etc.etc. I started a used equipment company from scratch.
I was killing it ....making leaps and bounds.
She started burning more money away on credit cards. I knew eventually where this was going. I slowly stopped hunting deals and the business slowly died.
I was in such a bad place in my life at the time. My rational thought was....I'm not building this business to give this evil psychopathic 1/2 of it.....and paying and paying when the divorce finally comes.
Why wouldn't you file instead of waiting? REAL QUESTION NO BS
The knowledge and confidence to build a successful business is the only part that matters. Broom her. Start again.
Updates?
true
Me ex told me “when we are hanging out with my friends, you be quiet “.
She said the same when hanging out with her family.
Hey, I am an MD, have businesses in the US and Mexico, I make 6 figures. It has nothing to do with me, she has low self esteem. Dumped her :)
Being Honest, I am done with women, after 20 years of trying to make a woman happy, she ended our marriage when things went to crap.. leaving me to take the hit.. lesson learned
Same thing happened to me after 15 years. I got jacked, now I'm banging 21 year olds.
Too many guys do not understand. Your job is not to please her. Your job is not to make her happy. Recently my wife has said to me 'my job is to serve you at your pleasure.' And I have said to my wife, many times, 'Your job is to take care of me.' I have never strayed from that position. I pay for her. I keep her in clovers. I am always happy to listen to her, even to seek her advice on some things. But any money decision is mine, FYI, we have been married since the mid 90s, and we were exclusive for 5 years previously. Rollo Tomassi has famously said a woman should be a compliment to your life, not the focus. I agree. A woman should enhance your life, not make it more difficult.
To be fair, trying to "make someone happy" is a basic misunderstanding that you have to take responsiblity for. Yes that's what all the songs on the radio say but it's not true.
People's emotions are their own responsibility. It ain't your job to "make people feel".
I hope you are doing well in your new, free life
Rich you smashed it, this is your best video yet. So much of the subject matter is relatable.
Acting like a queen is an easy fix. Remind her that she's not. 😂
Agreed. However, talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words. You cannot say one thing and then do something different. You cannot treat her like a queen, unless you are the king. I have said to my wife, many times, that the queen is the most powerful piece on the chessboard. But with great power comes great responsibility (kudos to Spider Man), and her job, as a queen, is to serve and more importantly, to protect the king. We have been married since the mid 90s.
Bro EVERY GIRL KEEPS CLAIMING SHE IS A QUEEN it has me dead
@@Ace.0.0.0. the only queen I know is Queen Elizabeth. Everyone else is a regular woman and will be treated accordingly.
@@chineduogboh4594 everyone likes to think they hold value. Most people don't. Nothing wrong with it, but to act like you're a high value individual means just that. You're an actor. Making money and not being a POS is easy, but you'd think it's impossible judging by the state of 80% of men and women.
@@user-ty5di3ku6o The Netherlands, Sweden, and a few other European countries have a queen. My wife is not a queen. She never claimed she was or is. She gets joy from pleasing people. She has said to me and I quote "My job is to serve you at your pleasure." No joke. My job is to pay for her and our children. I say no to her on the regular. I also say yes on the regular. It is also my job to ensure our finances remain positive, which I do.
Here's my 3 Major Red Flags : 1) she won't allow me to see her cell phone and said I will never see her cell phone even if we were to get married 2) she has gone away on weekend trips and for the day but won't tell me where she is going or who she was with 3) she has a male best friend who she says is like a brother to her but she feels the need to go see him alone at his house on a Friday when I am working and his wife is working. I told her I was going to inform his wife and she blew up at me getting defensive and angry. When I questioned her and want to talk about things she avoids me it's not a good time. So I go back later and try to talk and I get the same answer, it's not a good time. It's deny, deny, deny!
I know it's toxic to talk about it but there is a direct connection between liberalism and unbearable women
Conservative
100% conservative libertarians are the best people to neighbor
To an extent
How, conservative bible thumpers can be worse because they blind side a man and they have a different form of entitlement.
Just remember, it is always the man's fault.
Truth is not toxic my friend
Of course…
the only way a relationship's going to work is if the woman is more into you than you are to her. PERIOD. All these videos are good, but that's THE message you need to ABSOLUTELY understand!!!
agreed
She has to always chase - it is what they want anyway
Not true.a men should be the one inlove more than a woman does .it works like that or atleast be at the same level.ive been the one loving more it never worked.
I can 100% admit to valuing emotions first and foremost, but I also highly value logic; emotions just win out to begin with. Most of the time now, I have to sit back and ask myself "am I playing the victim and choosing to feel this way because it serves me somehow? Or am I actually being maltreated in some way?" More often than not, I'm playing the victim and will apologize and listen to the logic at that point. I completely deflate because it's my own fault for getting upset, he was just trying to help so I really can't be mad at that.
Good for you that you re starting to recognize those things about you :)
49:00 No! Do *not* get a Whole Life insurance policy with a cash surrender value. The "lump sum" you would cash-out of a Whole Life policy is exponentially smaller than if you were to get a Term Life policy and invest the difference (between the Whole Life and Term Life) in mutual funds. Dave Ramsey has explained this repeatedly on his syndicated radio show.
What if you out live the term policy, and have become sick or uninsurable in the interim?
Dave Ramsey isn’t going to pay your son’s or daughter’s bills after you’re in the ground.
Get a proper policy AND mutual funds.
Rich, thank you for all of your hard work! I appreciate you
Used to watch you with my dad Rich. He's no longer with us and you now keep my thinking about women on track. 27 years old, working hard on multiple business and lots of girls supplement my life, they will never be the main focus!
Did he say he went out for milk and cigarettes and not come back?
@Chuikov no he passed away unexpectedly
No there are some women who are logical and not deciding with emotions. Raised by my dad’s influence as I saw he had a happier life working for himself and got a lot of good insight. You say about 90% of what he would say about dating, picking a mate, etc
Another very informative video. Thumbs up...
So many red flags, it's so easy to see them now. I wish you would've been around 15 years ago. I've read the unplugged alpha and have learned alot. Thank you Rich!
Mate I would love to hear RED flags for people you work with
Unless she have really high interest just don't. As you can stuck up in workplace Meetoo crap.
I was never a player but most of the chicks I hooked up with had a boyfriend, I later found out. Learned abit about women when I was single.
All the family pictures in the bedroom and the kids rushing in during should have been a clue
@@CEWIII9873 hahaha yeah, should have known.
Rich, your channel is brilliant. Wish I followed some of this before I wound up in the divorce that I am currently in. I always thought of myself as a cynic, but my concerns are real and pervasive. I ignored some of my own rules of thumb and got my ass kicked.
Updates?
Great video - MANY good pieces of advice in here.
After my son was born my wife's Dr. put her on Lexapro to "prevent" post-partem depression before it could occur. She completely changed, became detached, depressed, uninterested in anything, and zero sex drive. This went on for a couple years. After talking, reasoning, and begging her to stop taking them I eventually ended up offering to pay her to quit taking them just to see what would happen. She accepted, i paid, and what do you know, she went right back to normal and been good ever since.
Another great episode of BTT.
Man you really nailed it bro! Great job you're doing to help guys out here man
Oh yes I remember leaving my laptop on the dining table during my seperation from my ex wife .She read an email about purchasing a property .Remember she did not want to be with me any longer so I was don .She went so crazy about it I just thought yes I am making the correct decision. The BS that makes them lose their composure is unreal. Never happy no gratitude for anything even when they get their own way.
Funny how the mere thought of you obtaining anything in your life without them, just makes them lose their mind.
Did you have to split that asset with her?
Dam dude, you're pretty on point.
Kinda wish you were around throughout my shitty relationships (or at least knew about you).
Thank you for your shares man
Again, this is the type of information that is best digested with experience. You may take notes and memorize the playbook but until you get on the playing field you won't recognize any of this. But if you ignore any of these warnings you will pay.
She got him babysitting her kid? HELL NO!
I love listening to your videos...I don’t know if this sounds strange but you give the best insight on how women should treat their men...with the respect that most deserve..... I think more women should listen to you. Maybe they don’t all realize when they are being horrible, we learn from what we grew up around.
You should be serving the needs of your family instead of posting on the internet
Now
BACK TO THE KITCHEN!
Also we need a video on why men let down good women.
the more I read the Rational Male and watch your videos both old and new, the number of red flags my ex ticked off
Unlocking your smartphone while you sleep is an instant fucking dealbreaker - most people have their banking apps and sensitive emails on there. The fuck.
So her not letting you look through her phone or laptop is a red flag-but so is her wanting to look through your stuff?
Which is it? Should people in a serious relationship be looking through each other’s personal stuff-or not?
Commenting on the topic he talked about where you should never let a women derail you from your passion and dreams. Im really big into customizing and restoring old vehicles thats always made me happen and thats a part of who i am. I remember in my second year with my covert narc ex that we started talking about finding a house to buy together and i told her i wanted a house with a shop to work on my vehicles and continue my passion because that meant a lot to me. I could see in her attitude and face that she absolutely hated my passion or it bothered her that i was that adamant about it. I told her thats one thing i wont ever change and i think thats one thing that started her discard of me. She ironically stopped talking about moving in after that day
Just started to watch/listen to Richard Cooper. The red pill terminology/lingo is accurate, informative, and hilarious at the same time
Wow you hit the nail on the head few times. I was married 17yrs got divorced and on my second going on 7yrs. And I’m realizing I’m a Livin handyman and sexless she doesn’t even make me feel wanted. I know it’s getting close to the end. Listening to you I realize I’m a Alpha male. Just a matter of time.
Well
did you finally let your b alls drop and divorce her?
@@CEWIII9873gangster
The Chris Rock line was spot on, Rich. Look at Patrice O'Neal's comedy. Chris Rock, Dave Chappelle, Bill Burr etc everyone says he was the funniest of them and the best lady's man. He tells red pill jokes and was on the Black Phillip podcast talking about nothing but red pill stuff. That he'd say to women. In their face. And totally dominate the argument 😂
He was instinctively so aware of male/female dynamics , really incredible
@@TT-xl2td take a look at Patrice's ladies ....average was a 3.5 plus he died broke in a charity ward ...to this day his comedy buddies support his mom
@@duke9555 yep I’m aware if all that. Often the best theorists aren’t the best in practice. Despite that his understanding of intergender relations was extremely high level. Further, understanding the dynamics bares no intersection with financial success. 🤜🤛
And also, relative to his SMV, he did okay. 400lbs, broke, ill etc. Though He did have some fame/notoriety etc.
Patrice is the godfather of RP to me
Rich you are a great UA-camr thanks for all the help man
Very good Rich!
Just leaving a comment to help this wonderful awaken community
The ads before your videos of the blonde woman are hilarious.
A lot of people are commenting about the ads...
Do you know how the algorithms work?
The ads are tailored to YOU... Not to the content creator.
Something to think about.
This video is Complete greatness... listen to it guys and apply it
Rich? Your content and book changed my life. Thank you for doing what you do.
As always, great survival tips.
Awesome video.
Bending the knee starts with the marriage proposal.
Men, if you ever propose. Do it standing up
Wow 😯 u r saving lives thanks king for the advic r
@@IbrahimHassanDayTrade
The real advice is don't get married
How about standing over her like Muhammad Ali and Joe Frazier?
@@CEWIII9873
Good one
27:38 dude I thought he said, "we got a few superchads rolling through" 😂 hell yeah brother
As a woman who pretty much understand and agree with almost everything discussed here, I feel bad for men. For me, I’ve decided to simply stop dating... or trying to date. I don’t think any of it is worth it. I’m not quite sure I want kids and I don’t like sex enough to go looking for a bf. I already know that’s not fair to any man who dates me. At least I admit that, I’m under no illusion.
I think most men here if you examine yourself deep down, you’ll realize you actually detest women. You probably deal with women ONLY because you need sex and you aren’t gay. That’s gotta be hard. 😞
I’m not just saying that because I’m mad about the content/comments. I’m not! I agree with y’all! How do you go about seeking someone to have sex with knowing that you hate them all deep down?!
Men don't hate women. It's the other way around. Such a hypocrite.
It’s not about hating women. It’s about the system and the minds that have been corrupted. If a woman is not submissive to her man.. where he leads the relationship won’t work. You can’t have two presidents in a relationship. One person has to be the Vice President. Feminism has taught women they can be like a man and be the president. That won’t work with a masculine man... ya know... the washboard Abs, muscular, successful man. Guys like this have options and they won’t deal with a competitive alpha dominant female who wants to control the relationship and climb the ladder of life.
It all comes down to risk assessment. Cost benefit analysis. A growing number of men have stepped out of the dating market because there’s no upside for us. So we focus on ourselves and live the bachelor life. It’s a stress free life.
Through a glory hole
simple
@@Skeetopunk01 but still do hook ups.
Says "No need for a condom, If I get pregnant I'll just get an abortion." Or says "No need for a condom I'm on birth control (or will use MAP pill). Happened to me and then after in a casual convo she said if she got pregnant she'd keep it and just give it up for adoption. She either forgot her original notions or was lying. Or, wants to get preggers to guilt you into staying with her. Big RED FLAG.
My lord. Always wear a raincoat.
Smash and dash
My experience with my wife on anti-depressants was pretty much the same, for the three years she was on them, we had sex once a year. And it was so bad, I didn't finish.
Happened to me in my young twenties. Nightmare.
Yeah, myself in my mid-twenties
So...
You let your b alls drop and divorced her, right?
In an LTR atm, shes not perfect but none of these flags have popped up as of yet. Regardless I always keep my eye open, since I used to be a blue pilled dude , now I’m focused on my purpose to become a doctor, at the gym, eating healthy etc, and she’s in my frame currently. Rational male, this channel, and before the trainwreck are truly a blessing
Why?
You are making a mistake
Do not be into an LTR as a doctor until you are well established.
But go ahead, make the same mistake all the other divorced doctors have.
Say goodbye to your money and peace of mind when the divorce rolls around
There is no logical reason for a man of value to be in a relationship in this day and age. We have the most access to sex than any of our previous ancestors without the hassle of committing ourselves to one woman for our entire life and yet most men are too blinded by their need for female validation, in terms of one high smv woman staying faithful to them forever, to ever see what a great time it is to be a high value man. I personally love the times we are in, easy access to hot women and great opportunities to make money due to unstable economies. Men should really stop complaining about not being able to find the “one” and understand that as long as you stay in top shape (most won’t do this) and become financially independent (most won’t do this either) you could not be living in any better of times.
most men cant have easy sex outside of a relationship. me included ngl. you're in the top 20 percent if you can. women have a buffet of choosing with social media.
Efe Sezer Being a high value man comes with a price and the rent is due everyday. I do not know any men who are in top physical shape and financially independent that have problems attracting hot women. If you are not willing to do these things you do not deserve to be spoiled for choice, it really is that simple but most would rather make excuses than put in the work.
@War hammer Yea the need to further your legacy. It has to be a precious thing to have sons and daughters and see them grow up in a stable environment.
Having a strong bond and relationship with each one as they develop. To me it's a privilege. But you just can't find a reliable woman that won't screw you over in this day and age.
I am not a promiscuous person. I have had fuck buddies, but we always had to have something in common with each other besides need for sex.
Like some sort of emotional connection, intellectual connection and also sense of humor has to match. But even with the fuck buddies, a lot of them are so damaged emotionally and psychologically.
Lots were sexually abused as kids, have daddy/mommy issues and are not even ready to actually face all those demons for their lives to become better. They live in denial and are usually very delusional about almost everything.
I can't say if it was for sure my singular need for validation from a female that kept me in the "one-itis" zone?
I do know that having taken the time to reflect the piece that was missing in my own life (unbeknownst to me) was that of "felt security".
Having risked being vulnerable in front of a woman who actually liked boys, with her own sense of felt security has definitely given me the strength to curb my appetites and drop some bad habits/addictions all together.
Which has only facilitated the integration of my own Locus of Control, the establishment of my own boundaries/limits or "frame" as it is known in the Manosphere.
I stumbled into a unicorn and my life will doubtless never be the same.
I've met a few women that said the same thing where they claimed that most of their friends were guys because you know women don't really get along with each other that much and had two different women that said that exact same thing and in reality they of course we're just going to keep talking to other men while trying to have a boyfriend the app that I'm being period. I learned that the hard way the first time I ever heard that when I was young and then met a few women since then that tried to say that and that's a dead giveaway red flag when you meet a woman and they tell you that
"How come you've never been married?"
"Because im too busy investing. Cant do that when your married."
There are so many red flags out there that 99.9% of women will have at least one of them. I guess it boils down to avoiding the most important ones for you!
My top three for a 1 year LTR are:
1) her relation with her father and how her mom (and her friends) treat(s) the men in their lives and past lives.
2) if you find (and it bothers you) that she is more focused in things/chores (buying, small projects, travel, supers with friends, 'improving how you look') rather than getting to know you, your likes and showing she enjoys spending time with you. If those awkward silences are abundant the first year... you are NOT compatible and she is filling the void with HER projects. You must end it or you will be miserable. Specially if she is bringing out the worst in you (anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, anger, doubt). Your friends will let you know or seem concerned for you.
3) Slowly finding out she was VERY promiscuous and she won't be your slut. You have this feeling she is holding back A LOT sexually. She does not even share her kinks with you; after you lay your on the line and she finds you weird. That is a sign there is no trust here and it is all transactional "love"; the minute you hit a hard patch it will be over (losing a job, having kids, being ill). Or the minute she get attention from someone with higher SMV she will not flinch.
I left my ex before we even had kids. We were together 5 years. The lack of communication was not tolerable for me anymore; i felt I was losing my mind. And I could not open her up. I sometimes think it was a combination of her daddy issues, the way she was brought up and all the men she was with. And on my side I needed more affection that she could not give... She probably had many ups and down with men...and she would protect herself from me despite my blue pill ways...wait specially because of my blue pill ways. Never ever put a woman on a pedestal.
Put space between your points
It is easier to read instead of a wall of Roman text
Obviously you are right about basically everything in this video, and I think you do a great job with all these.
I know it’s not my place, but I just really wanted to say, it IS possible to be loved for who you are, not what you provide. most women are shallow and vindictive and mean, but some are not. You won’t meet us at a bar or Instagram though.
I’ve been in a LTR for 5 years and we have been thru it. He’s had several jobs, got fired from a couple, walked out of a couple others, I think the longest stretch was 5 months no job. His car broke down a couple years ago and he didn’t have $ for a new one for a while. But I didn’t stop loving him just cause I had to pay the bills for a while and drive him everywhere. I did that bc he is so smart, we compliment each other intellectually, he’s the only one I can talk to about politics and men’s rights, and just cause I love him with all my heart.
I am not gonna say I am perfect and have no problems, I do, I am on anti depressants among other issues, but I just really want to hit it home that there is women out there that will love you for you.
I know women treat you guys so bad nowadays and it is horrible and heartbreaking. I’m sorry that you have been treated this way, and I am sorry for overstepping. I just... I just really hope you guys find good girls.
men analyze the world on probabilities, not possibilities. there is a possibility what you say might be true but not probable. it's like asking a lion to wait for the deer to come to him, while it may be possible it's not probable
He must be some Chad for you to stick with him like you have.
Did you meet him through prison pen pals?
Disagree with sleeping away from your phone. Phones are needed in emergencies, break in, fire, medical emergency (heart attacks, accidents, and strokes are leading causes of death). Need the phone in reach at all times. Further, you spend presumably 2/3rd of the day by your phone so it seems bizarre to worry about these waves at night. If really worried, turn it off or on Airplane mode.
1,00:13 😹. Thank you Rich for your great channel.
Reconnecting with an ex- should only be undertaken when there is clear evidence that whatever issue(s) caused the divorce/separation the first time are openly being addressed during the "let's get re-aquainted/vetting phase of a renewed relationship.
Also if you see new/old signs of potential problem patterns now is the time to bring them to her attention.
Dip means get up outta there lol Come on Rich get with the lingo buddy. Much respect that was funny.
Removed from subscription feed. Still subscribed, but had to go to your channel to find it.
Stefan Molyneux's Women, Masculinity, and Riots was still up. Arbitrary?
Envy , this could be a purchase you make , a relationship with family member or friend, a success in your life or career , she comments on her family members in a way that they seem to have more or attain more than her .
Jealousy, although a small amount of jealousy feels like flattering to you . If this continues or gets worse to the point it begins to be irrational then there is most definitely underlying mental health problems. If you cannot shake this idea of jealousy even with facts or rational conversation. Leave the relationship immediately.
Why I say this is because I experienced it but I did not see it as I had no experience of it before. Red pill community has woken me and given me the tools to spot it and deal with it but best of all it gave me the ability justify my relationship break up .
Seek therapy
or the bottle
How can you not love this content? The dislikes are from salty woman or beta simps.
good question: which one of these red flags would you make an exception for? anyone who knows women, basically knows one who doesnt exemplify ANY of these is rare. so which do you tolerate and why? good one-off video
My ex threw just about every one of these red flags..but the good news,she started all those same things with the “Just a friend” she had that she left me for..immediately into their relationship,where with me it took a year..
I guess I should have known when she told me "youre here to pay" is that a Red Flag?
And you should have told her, "you're here to do all the things I would have to pay for as a single guy"- ie: cook for me, clean for me, give me sex,......No freebies!
Real men also do culture, paint paintings, build rustic furniture or plays guitar in a surf band with their buddies
and nude canvas painting
@@CEWIII9873 of course😁
About a year ago I had a dog who was the sweetest, kindest Lab I've ever met. About a month after this girl moved in with me any time she came around he would get aggressive. Nipping at her, growling, showing all sorts of abnormal behavior for him. So I started doing some investigating. Turns out she had been getting into my underwear drawer and stealing money (About $80 by the time I caught it) as well as smoking around my kids in the house. Which I had said at the beginning of the relationship was a deal breaker. She was out of my house the next day. But I wouldn't have caught it had it not been for that dog
Why on earth would you let a shady stranger around your kids, you deadbeat
Great boy he is!
Any type of insurance other than term is a waste of money. Insurance is NOT a good "investment" vehicle. You're better off investing money in a mutual fund.
Yep... invest in a mutual fund (or similar vehicle), and structure your will to place the fund into a trust for your children in the event of your death (and don't be stupid when choosing an executor).
Then, when she brings up the insurance issue, just say, "I got it covered babe."
A moment of silence for the fallen soldier that gave up his super successful business and went back to a 9-5. 😔
My ex just wwnt to therapy for the past 5 months. We broke up and she got put on some meds and now I have no clue who she is! Totally different woman! Dodge a bullet there!
check out the 1:15:55 moment 😂😂😂 Rich is so damn hilarious , love this Episode
That’s was funny ngl lol 😂
If you're going to have a kid and get life insurance, have a trust for your children be the beneficiary and have a trusted person like a friend or sibling as the trustee. Your trustee can then make sure the money is legitimately used for your kid's support and not the mom's next boyfriend's new car.
But I need my next car to have leather seats and wood grain!
i'm living with someone, it went sour only after 6 months, couldnt make her happy, now I have to find a place to live buying a sailboat possibly, done with LTRs
One cannot make someone happy - one can only make oneself happy
Rich, Many times I’ve seen situations where the gay best friend has had sex with the girl when they’ve been high or drunk AND giving them poor relationship advice
If her ex-boyfriend is such a great guy, why the fuck are they broken up? HE broke up with HER and she's HOPING he will take her back. Because I haven't talked to any of my exes since we broke up. No reason to.
57:00 great answer
Women will never tell you everything, very true, itll be like picking out chicken teeth to find out things
Hypnosis is real. You start to believe she actually wants you after enough time.
they are good liers. beware
Great content 👍 I was dating this filipina now ex dumped her but I remember she asked me to setup bank account and I said ok but she wanted half of my money in the Philippines in her account so that it's easy for her to have access to the money to pay for our condo and spending for food and stuff like that and I just laughed my ass off and no never do that
I'm pilipino . That's right men.. don't trust
What is happening now. Is that women have no problem telling you what the want and need almost immediately.
How much go you Earn Do you own this home.
I have even had them ask me to co-sign a mortgage. Lend them huge sums of money. I would say. The Nerve. But women are practiced manipulators. It is basically how they have survived.
When men are in a conversation you get our true feeling. Women are generally thinking what lie will he accept. Then I have to remember it.
In our parents time it was never this way. You took care of them. And your eventual family. And they gave you respect .
The Respect is gone from dating and marriage. I hear it from so many guys.
My favorite one.... I have a lot of guy friends because they are less drama.
Girls night out?! HtotheELL no! I see my girls for lunch, spa dates, shopping during the day, maybe 3-4 times a year for a birthday dinner, and then it's early evening. Oh, wait! We also go to the symphony/ballet/opera because their husbands aren't into it. But there's 8 of us (28-78 yrs) and we're not on the prowl! I would never EVER be in a relationship and then "go out with the girls" to get male approbation.
Behaviors changing during engagement.
Major Red Flag: Her mom(which has short pink hair) calls you and yells at the phone, complains to you because her daughter didn't answer the phone calls way back to home after having a date with you.
Your laugh made my day
I had to learn the going out with friends the hard way, with more than one girl, I was made to feel bad for thinking, if she's getting dressed up, to go dancing and drinking with other guys, sorry with her friends, why are you going out to dance with other guys?? shouldn't you want to go with your own guy, if you want to go dancing?
Exactly.....she's NOT just dancing with these other dudes in the club. Who's not there at the club with her yet she's dressed to kill? YOU. So who is she trying to impress? NOT you because you aren't there with her. Lesson learned... yes? She's screwing other dudes in the club's bathroom. Trust me...I know first hand from an old gf who did this, AND when I learned red pill truth 30 years ago....i morphed into the Alpha dude who hooked up with married women. They were the easiest to hook up with. When u learn the true nature of women it frees up alot of energy to devote to making money and only focusing on your goals. Women will become an accessory not the focus...
Ha! Covid brought my LTR back into the relationship. I was pleasantly surprised. Until I found out her working from home basically ended the affair she was having with co worker. Can't make this stuff up.
How to avoid betatization by 1000 concessions. Eventually you’re gonna get asked 1000 times to do things you were already planning on doing. Feels like a checkmate cause you’re not gonna avoid doing it if you already wanted to do it.
My ex told me she was on anti-depressants, but would peel the labels off the bottle.
look in her medicine cabinet, check for depakote, lamictal, valproate, they're drugs for bipolar
ANTIDEPRESSANTS: That numbness, though. She had kid #2 was on SSRI -- baby blues--- a few months turned into 5+ years. Nookie free zone! Source of contention. Weight gain! She didnt care as everything good evaporated gone including the marriage. 10 years. Boom. Gone. Cant prescreen for baby blues until youre there.
Man one of my friends needs to hear these red flags. Problem is he is in denial. You couldn't convince him if you literally banged his girlfriend in front of him.
😆🤣 thats fuck up love blinds you sometimes
Hahahaha 😂😂
Haha, funny..
Love is blind. Lust is Hellen Keller.
Is he that blind?
I personally enjoy when women or anyone competes with me. As a Sith, it is the will of nature that the strong eclipses the weak. If I am surpassed in power, then I deserve to be struck down. Rule of two.
The sith always betray one another. Be careful not to choke on your aspirations kurk.
and the Lucas style in cest of course...