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The comment about women who have a lot of male friends is spot on. An old sergeant of mine said it best, "a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on." Excellent work as usual Rich!
B. W. Fisher It can lead to sex, but not always. I speak from past experience. They’ll use you for validation, emotional support and a self-esteem/ego boost when they’re feeling low (beta need), then they go and hook up with Chad or Tyrone for excitement & sex (alpha seed). They can have a number of male orbiters in the background which fulfil her needs. She can’t get everything she wants in one man. It’s not black & white. Don’t believe me? Just ask Rollo.
Broke up with my girl just last week. Holy shit she had so many flags. Depression, anxiety, on meds, bunch of guy friends, smoked a bunch of weed and partied, phone addict and the list went on. She also seemed not to care much about the relationship until i split with her and now she’s crying for me back saying she regrets this and that. Hell to the no.
If she has friends that are "divorced" then you've had it. A bitter, divorced woman will try and destroy your/her relationship because she will need justification of why HER(friends) relationship failed and the in-group preference will eventually split YOUR relationship up.
I agree with what you said. A girl I was dating blew me off as soon as her best friend got dumped by a guy I grew up with. After she wasn't getting served by him, she went nuts and didn't want to see me or her best friend be happy.
Yep.. my ex's fat, ugly friend got in and fucked shit up. Loved me till she went away for a 'girls' trip for the weekend.. then came back and was done. We don't need weak minded girls who play puppet to their friends. Her kids dad is a crack head and would just show up at her house whenever he wanted and she didn't want to fix that either. Thank fuck I've found the red pill.😁💊
I just don't have the deep desire to have a relationship with a woman after many tries and failures. They represent nothing positive in my life, but simply serve as a drain and a burden to my life which consists of raising my daughter (I have full custody), taking care of my house and yard, working, lifting, fishing and other outdoors activities...listening to this content further entrenches my value of making myself my mental point of origin and enjoying my life for myself.
I respect that but tbh it sounds like you have no more interest because you got what u needed. A child. Why would you now put up with any shit when the purpose is complete
Yup...girls only trips are a huge flag. If she goes on one...she's demoted to plate status only. She will show you her true nature without you doing a thing. A trustworthy chick in an LTR won't go out to clubs, or trips without you.
My ex and I used to be best friends and had an amazing relationship until she started becoming a feminist. She went from being a girly girl to a more masculine lesbian. She started hanging out with college cheerleaders and I believe they corrupted her. She used to beg for sex and never denied me sex but things got very cloudy when her friends started corrupting her. I can’t explain the pain I felt after I broke things off. Her toxic mindset ruined our relationship and she has told all of her friends/ co-workers (she worked at my gym at the time and basically got her the job) so she trashed my name even though she still told me she loved me. I tried to make things work after we broke up but she refused to take any blame for our issues. Toxic mindset pushed me away. She also got terribly jealous when my mom told her she will need to learn to keep up with me bec. I am a very motivated person and she got scared I’d leave her. She also asked me before the quarantine while she was working at my gym “Who have you been f**ckin lately?!” I told her “I haven’t, I’m trying to figure out what I want in life and I’m working on myself rn” she then chewed me out. She thought I broke up with her to sleep around. A few weeks later I found out she had already slept with multiple people and was mad because she realized she messed up. She is mad bec. I won’t take her back
lemmieatit - Well of course I do to an extent. We were together for 3 years and she was my 1st LTR. I’m not into her anymore but making the call to end it wasn’t easy. Watching someone go from being my best friend to a women who resented me was horrible to watch. Big lesson and I’m glad I learned it while being young.
@@mrblondeheart9562 , at least you learn at a young age. Most got it late. You're young. Now do the work and apply the Red pill to the T. Also the Rational male open my eyes to women. Good Luck man.
Going on dates, and they sit there poking away at their phone the whole time, or even interrupting the conversation to chat with mommy for 10 minutes in another language, and you can't understand. Too many women today would rather get "likes" from 100 guys online, than develop a real relationship with 1 guy, face to face. This is a mental disorder.
You struck a chord with me..."Can a woman divert a man's success "... I was in a bad marriage , in my mid 30s at the time. Three kids, house...etc.etc. I started a used equipment company from scratch. I was killing it ....making leaps and bounds. She started burning more money away on credit cards. I knew eventually where this was going. I slowly stopped hunting deals and the business slowly died. I was in such a bad place in my life at the time. My rational thought was....I'm not building this business to give this evil psychopathic 1/2 of it.....and paying and paying when the divorce finally comes.
Agreed. However, talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words. You cannot say one thing and then do something different. You cannot treat her like a queen, unless you are the king. I have said to my wife, many times, that the queen is the most powerful piece on the chessboard. But with great power comes great responsibility (kudos to Spider Man), and her job, as a queen, is to serve and more importantly, to protect the king. We have been married since the mid 90s.
@@chineduogboh4594 everyone likes to think they hold value. Most people don't. Nothing wrong with it, but to act like you're a high value individual means just that. You're an actor. Making money and not being a POS is easy, but you'd think it's impossible judging by the state of 80% of men and women.
@@curtism-w6b The Netherlands, Sweden, and a few other European countries have a queen. My wife is not a queen. She never claimed she was or is. She gets joy from pleasing people. She has said to me and I quote "My job is to serve you at your pleasure." No joke. My job is to pay for her and our children. I say no to her on the regular. I also say yes on the regular. It is also my job to ensure our finances remain positive, which I do.
Being Honest, I am done with women, after 20 years of trying to make a woman happy, she ended our marriage when things went to crap.. leaving me to take the hit.. lesson learned
Too many guys do not understand. Your job is not to please her. Your job is not to make her happy. Recently my wife has said to me 'my job is to serve you at your pleasure.' And I have said to my wife, many times, 'Your job is to take care of me.' I have never strayed from that position. I pay for her. I keep her in clovers. I am always happy to listen to her, even to seek her advice on some things. But any money decision is mine, FYI, we have been married since the mid 90s, and we were exclusive for 5 years previously. Rollo Tomassi has famously said a woman should be a compliment to your life, not the focus. I agree. A woman should enhance your life, not make it more difficult.
To be fair, trying to "make someone happy" is a basic misunderstanding that you have to take responsiblity for. Yes that's what all the songs on the radio say but it's not true. People's emotions are their own responsibility. It ain't your job to "make people feel".
49:00 No! Do *not* get a Whole Life insurance policy with a cash surrender value. The "lump sum" you would cash-out of a Whole Life policy is exponentially smaller than if you were to get a Term Life policy and invest the difference (between the Whole Life and Term Life) in mutual funds. Dave Ramsey has explained this repeatedly on his syndicated radio show.
What if you out live the term policy, and have become sick or uninsurable in the interim? Dave Ramsey isn’t going to pay your son’s or daughter’s bills after you’re in the ground. Get a proper policy AND mutual funds.
@@leanwoodworks exactly, she taked him for granted, no the other way arround. Its like when they accuses you of cheating, hello!! They are the cheaters!
I can 100% admit to valuing emotions first and foremost, but I also highly value logic; emotions just win out to begin with. Most of the time now, I have to sit back and ask myself "am I playing the victim and choosing to feel this way because it serves me somehow? Or am I actually being maltreated in some way?" More often than not, I'm playing the victim and will apologize and listen to the logic at that point. I completely deflate because it's my own fault for getting upset, he was just trying to help so I really can't be mad at that.
Here's my 3 Major Red Flags : 1) she won't allow me to see her cell phone and said I will never see her cell phone even if we were to get married 2) she has gone away on weekend trips and for the day but won't tell me where she is going or who she was with 3) she has a male best friend who she says is like a brother to her but she feels the need to go see him alone at his house on a Friday when I am working and his wife is working. I told her I was going to inform his wife and she blew up at me getting defensive and angry. When I questioned her and want to talk about things she avoids me it's not a good time. So I go back later and try to talk and I get the same answer, it's not a good time. It's deny, deny, deny!
Me ex told me “when we are hanging out with my friends, you be quiet “. She said the same when hanging out with her family. Hey, I am an MD, have businesses in the US and Mexico, I make 6 figures. It has nothing to do with me, she has low self esteem. Dumped her :)
To an extent How, conservative bible thumpers can be worse because they blind side a man and they have a different form of entitlement. Just remember, it is always the man's fault.
Oh yes I remember leaving my laptop on the dining table during my seperation from my ex wife .She read an email about purchasing a property .Remember she did not want to be with me any longer so I was don .She went so crazy about it I just thought yes I am making the correct decision. The BS that makes them lose their composure is unreal. Never happy no gratitude for anything even when they get their own way.
After my son was born my wife's Dr. put her on Lexapro to "prevent" post-partem depression before it could occur. She completely changed, became detached, depressed, uninterested in anything, and zero sex drive. This went on for a couple years. After talking, reasoning, and begging her to stop taking them I eventually ended up offering to pay her to quit taking them just to see what would happen. She accepted, i paid, and what do you know, she went right back to normal and been good ever since.
So many red flags, it's so easy to see them now. I wish you would've been around 15 years ago. I've read the unplugged alpha and have learned alot. Thank you Rich!
Rich, your channel is brilliant. Wish I followed some of this before I wound up in the divorce that I am currently in. I always thought of myself as a cynic, but my concerns are real and pervasive. I ignored some of my own rules of thumb and got my ass kicked.
the only way a relationship's going to work is if the woman is more into you than you are to her. PERIOD. All these videos are good, but that's THE message you need to ABSOLUTELY understand!!!
Not true.a men should be the one inlove more than a woman does .it works like that or atleast be at the same level.ive been the one loving more it never worked.
Again, this is the type of information that is best digested with experience. You may take notes and memorize the playbook but until you get on the playing field you won't recognize any of this. But if you ignore any of these warnings you will pay.
Commenting on the topic he talked about where you should never let a women derail you from your passion and dreams. Im really big into customizing and restoring old vehicles thats always made me happen and thats a part of who i am. I remember in my second year with my covert narc ex that we started talking about finding a house to buy together and i told her i wanted a house with a shop to work on my vehicles and continue my passion because that meant a lot to me. I could see in her attitude and face that she absolutely hated my passion or it bothered her that i was that adamant about it. I told her thats one thing i wont ever change and i think thats one thing that started her discard of me. She ironically stopped talking about moving in after that day
There is no logical reason for a man of value to be in a relationship in this day and age. We have the most access to sex than any of our previous ancestors without the hassle of committing ourselves to one woman for our entire life and yet most men are too blinded by their need for female validation, in terms of one high smv woman staying faithful to them forever, to ever see what a great time it is to be a high value man. I personally love the times we are in, easy access to hot women and great opportunities to make money due to unstable economies. Men should really stop complaining about not being able to find the “one” and understand that as long as you stay in top shape (most won’t do this) and become financially independent (most won’t do this either) you could not be living in any better of times.
most men cant have easy sex outside of a relationship. me included ngl. you're in the top 20 percent if you can. women have a buffet of choosing with social media.
Efe Sezer Being a high value man comes with a price and the rent is due everyday. I do not know any men who are in top physical shape and financially independent that have problems attracting hot women. If you are not willing to do these things you do not deserve to be spoiled for choice, it really is that simple but most would rather make excuses than put in the work.
@War hammer Yea the need to further your legacy. It has to be a precious thing to have sons and daughters and see them grow up in a stable environment. Having a strong bond and relationship with each one as they develop. To me it's a privilege. But you just can't find a reliable woman that won't screw you over in this day and age. I am not a promiscuous person. I have had fuck buddies, but we always had to have something in common with each other besides need for sex. Like some sort of emotional connection, intellectual connection and also sense of humor has to match. But even with the fuck buddies, a lot of them are so damaged emotionally and psychologically. Lots were sexually abused as kids, have daddy/mommy issues and are not even ready to actually face all those demons for their lives to become better. They live in denial and are usually very delusional about almost everything.
I can't say if it was for sure my singular need for validation from a female that kept me in the "one-itis" zone? I do know that having taken the time to reflect the piece that was missing in my own life (unbeknownst to me) was that of "felt security". Having risked being vulnerable in front of a woman who actually liked boys, with her own sense of felt security has definitely given me the strength to curb my appetites and drop some bad habits/addictions all together. Which has only facilitated the integration of my own Locus of Control, the establishment of my own boundaries/limits or "frame" as it is known in the Manosphere. I stumbled into a unicorn and my life will doubtless never be the same.
Wow you hit the nail on the head few times. I was married 17yrs got divorced and on my second going on 7yrs. And I’m realizing I’m a Livin handyman and sexless she doesn’t even make me feel wanted. I know it’s getting close to the end. Listening to you I realize I’m a Alpha male. Just a matter of time.
Unlocking your smartphone while you sleep is an instant fucking dealbreaker - most people have their banking apps and sensitive emails on there. The fuck.
So her not letting you look through her phone or laptop is a red flag-but so is her wanting to look through your stuff? Which is it? Should people in a serious relationship be looking through each other’s personal stuff-or not?
The Chris Rock line was spot on, Rich. Look at Patrice O'Neal's comedy. Chris Rock, Dave Chappelle, Bill Burr etc everyone says he was the funniest of them and the best lady's man. He tells red pill jokes and was on the Black Phillip podcast talking about nothing but red pill stuff. That he'd say to women. In their face. And totally dominate the argument 😂
@@TT-xl2td take a look at Patrice's ladies ....average was a 3.5 plus he died broke in a charity ward ...to this day his comedy buddies support his mom
@@duke9555 yep I’m aware if all that. Often the best theorists aren’t the best in practice. Despite that his understanding of intergender relations was extremely high level. Further, understanding the dynamics bares no intersection with financial success. 🤜🤛 And also, relative to his SMV, he did okay. 400lbs, broke, ill etc. Though He did have some fame/notoriety etc.
Dam dude, you're pretty on point. Kinda wish you were around throughout my shitty relationships (or at least knew about you). Thank you for your shares man
My experience with my wife on anti-depressants was pretty much the same, for the three years she was on them, we had sex once a year. And it was so bad, I didn't finish.
Says "No need for a condom, If I get pregnant I'll just get an abortion." Or says "No need for a condom I'm on birth control (or will use MAP pill). Happened to me and then after in a casual convo she said if she got pregnant she'd keep it and just give it up for adoption. She either forgot her original notions or was lying. Or, wants to get preggers to guilt you into staying with her. Big RED FLAG.
Obviously you are right about basically everything in this video, and I think you do a great job with all these. I know it’s not my place, but I just really wanted to say, it IS possible to be loved for who you are, not what you provide. most women are shallow and vindictive and mean, but some are not. You won’t meet us at a bar or Instagram though. I’ve been in a LTR for 5 years and we have been thru it. He’s had several jobs, got fired from a couple, walked out of a couple others, I think the longest stretch was 5 months no job. His car broke down a couple years ago and he didn’t have $ for a new one for a while. But I didn’t stop loving him just cause I had to pay the bills for a while and drive him everywhere. I did that bc he is so smart, we compliment each other intellectually, he’s the only one I can talk to about politics and men’s rights, and just cause I love him with all my heart. I am not gonna say I am perfect and have no problems, I do, I am on anti depressants among other issues, but I just really want to hit it home that there is women out there that will love you for you. I know women treat you guys so bad nowadays and it is horrible and heartbreaking. I’m sorry that you have been treated this way, and I am sorry for overstepping. I just... I just really hope you guys find good girls.
men analyze the world on probabilities, not possibilities. there is a possibility what you say might be true but not probable. it's like asking a lion to wait for the deer to come to him, while it may be possible it's not probable
A lot of people are commenting about the ads... Do you know how the algorithms work? The ads are tailored to YOU... Not to the content creator. Something to think about.
I've met a few women that said the same thing where they claimed that most of their friends were guys because you know women don't really get along with each other that much and had two different women that said that exact same thing and in reality they of course we're just going to keep talking to other men while trying to have a boyfriend the app that I'm being period. I learned that the hard way the first time I ever heard that when I was young and then met a few women since then that tried to say that and that's a dead giveaway red flag when you meet a woman and they tell you that
There are so many red flags out there that 99.9% of women will have at least one of them. I guess it boils down to avoiding the most important ones for you! My top three for a 1 year LTR are: 1) her relation with her father and how her mom (and her friends) treat(s) the men in their lives and past lives. 2) if you find (and it bothers you) that she is more focused in things/chores (buying, small projects, travel, supers with friends, 'improving how you look') rather than getting to know you, your likes and showing she enjoys spending time with you. If those awkward silences are abundant the first year... you are NOT compatible and she is filling the void with HER projects. You must end it or you will be miserable. Specially if she is bringing out the worst in you (anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, anger, doubt). Your friends will let you know or seem concerned for you. 3) Slowly finding out she was VERY promiscuous and she won't be your slut. You have this feeling she is holding back A LOT sexually. She does not even share her kinks with you; after you lay your on the line and she finds you weird. That is a sign there is no trust here and it is all transactional "love"; the minute you hit a hard patch it will be over (losing a job, having kids, being ill). Or the minute she get attention from someone with higher SMV she will not flinch. I left my ex before we even had kids. We were together 5 years. The lack of communication was not tolerable for me anymore; i felt I was losing my mind. And I could not open her up. I sometimes think it was a combination of her daddy issues, the way she was brought up and all the men she was with. And on my side I needed more affection that she could not give... She probably had many ups and down with men...and she would protect herself from me despite my blue pill ways...wait specially because of my blue pill ways. Never ever put a woman on a pedestal.
If you're going to have a kid and get life insurance, have a trust for your children be the beneficiary and have a trusted person like a friend or sibling as the trustee. Your trustee can then make sure the money is legitimately used for your kid's support and not the mom's next boyfriend's new car.
Used to watch you with my dad Rich. He's no longer with us and you now keep my thinking about women on track. 27 years old, working hard on multiple business and lots of girls supplement my life, they will never be the main focus!
No there are some women who are logical and not deciding with emotions. Raised by my dad’s influence as I saw he had a happier life working for himself and got a lot of good insight. You say about 90% of what he would say about dating, picking a mate, etc
As a woman who pretty much understand and agree with almost everything discussed here, I feel bad for men. For me, I’ve decided to simply stop dating... or trying to date. I don’t think any of it is worth it. I’m not quite sure I want kids and I don’t like sex enough to go looking for a bf. I already know that’s not fair to any man who dates me. At least I admit that, I’m under no illusion. I think most men here if you examine yourself deep down, you’ll realize you actually detest women. You probably deal with women ONLY because you need sex and you aren’t gay. That’s gotta be hard. 😞 I’m not just saying that because I’m mad about the content/comments. I’m not! I agree with y’all! How do you go about seeking someone to have sex with knowing that you hate them all deep down?!
It’s not about hating women. It’s about the system and the minds that have been corrupted. If a woman is not submissive to her man.. where he leads the relationship won’t work. You can’t have two presidents in a relationship. One person has to be the Vice President. Feminism has taught women they can be like a man and be the president. That won’t work with a masculine man... ya know... the washboard Abs, muscular, successful man. Guys like this have options and they won’t deal with a competitive alpha dominant female who wants to control the relationship and climb the ladder of life. It all comes down to risk assessment. Cost benefit analysis. A growing number of men have stepped out of the dating market because there’s no upside for us. So we focus on ourselves and live the bachelor life. It’s a stress free life.
Any type of insurance other than term is a waste of money. Insurance is NOT a good "investment" vehicle. You're better off investing money in a mutual fund.
Yep... invest in a mutual fund (or similar vehicle), and structure your will to place the fund into a trust for your children in the event of your death (and don't be stupid when choosing an executor). Then, when she brings up the insurance issue, just say, "I got it covered babe."
Великолепный стрим! Все по-делу и по-сути. Очень жаль,что много русских парней его не смотрят и даже не удосуживаются перевести беседу! В России очень много "подкаблучников" и баборабов. Здравомыслящих мало. Твои ролики помогают не сломаться . Лично я, с помощью твоих видосов, убеждаюсь в том, что делаю все правильно.
In an LTR atm, shes not perfect but none of these flags have popped up as of yet. Regardless I always keep my eye open, since I used to be a blue pilled dude , now I’m focused on my purpose to become a doctor, at the gym, eating healthy etc, and she’s in my frame currently. Rational male, this channel, and before the trainwreck are truly a blessing
Why? You are making a mistake Do not be into an LTR as a doctor until you are well established. But go ahead, make the same mistake all the other divorced doctors have. Say goodbye to your money and peace of mind when the divorce rolls around
Disagree with sleeping away from your phone. Phones are needed in emergencies, break in, fire, medical emergency (heart attacks, accidents, and strokes are leading causes of death). Need the phone in reach at all times. Further, you spend presumably 2/3rd of the day by your phone so it seems bizarre to worry about these waves at night. If really worried, turn it off or on Airplane mode.
About a year ago I had a dog who was the sweetest, kindest Lab I've ever met. About a month after this girl moved in with me any time she came around he would get aggressive. Nipping at her, growling, showing all sorts of abnormal behavior for him. So I started doing some investigating. Turns out she had been getting into my underwear drawer and stealing money (About $80 by the time I caught it) as well as smoking around my kids in the house. Which I had said at the beginning of the relationship was a deal breaker. She was out of my house the next day. But I wouldn't have caught it had it not been for that dog
i'm living with someone, it went sour only after 6 months, couldnt make her happy, now I have to find a place to live buying a sailboat possibly, done with LTRs
Removed from subscription feed. Still subscribed, but had to go to your channel to find it. Stefan Molyneux's Women, Masculinity, and Riots was still up. Arbitrary?
ANTIDEPRESSANTS: That numbness, though. She had kid #2 was on SSRI -- baby blues--- a few months turned into 5+ years. Nookie free zone! Source of contention. Weight gain! She didnt care as everything good evaporated gone including the marriage. 10 years. Boom. Gone. Cant prescreen for baby blues until youre there.
Rich, Many times I’ve seen situations where the gay best friend has had sex with the girl when they’ve been high or drunk AND giving them poor relationship advice
Love your content! I agree with the vast majority of your tips on women. I met my wife when I was 35. We were married 4 years later and have been for 10 years. I have the unicorn. If I can, you can too. About my wife: - She is a SMOKESHOW. Solid 9 when I met her. She is 47 now, but still more attractive that 95% of women her age in Illinois. - She has NO kids. Doesn't want any either. - She has NO family within 300 miles of here. I personally cannot stand dating women with big families that are close by. Yuck. Always up in your business. - She has had a credit score in the 800s since we met. Very rare. - She has a good career at a fortune 50 company, though she makes less than me. We live very comfortably on the combined income. - She has written me a sweet, encouraging note and left it by the coffee machine every morning for over 10 years. She even sets a fresh packet of sugar and a coffee straw out next to it :-) - She hugs me, kisses me, and tells me she loves me at least 5x a day. - She gives great, long massages whenever I want one. - She NEVER, EVER says no to sex. Even more admirable when you consider than her sex drive completely dried up about 5 years ago. I can wake her up at 3 am for sex on a workday and she will with no hesitation. She always encourages me to wake her up any time at all for sex. What a woman. Usually I won't because I honestly feel bad for disrupting her sleep. - She does 100% of all of our shopping. - She dutifully send out all cards to all of our friends and family like a pro - She NEVER gets jealous if I look at another woman. She will even point out the hot ones for me and it seems to amuse her :-) - She lets me play video games all day every day if I want to and she seems to be able to entertain herself as long as needed. - She actually got me a bell I can ring when I am in the basement in my man cave. When I ring it, she brings me a hot coffee. I AM NOT KIDDING GUYS!!! -She never yells. She has yelled at me ONE time in 14 years. ONE sentence. She never slams door or throws things or loses her shit in any way. -She is fucking HILARIOUS. Great sense of humor. -She doesn't smoke. -She knows how to shoot a gun -SHE COMPLIMENTS MY LIFE AND MAKES IT BETTER IN EVERY MEASURABLE WAY There are too many wonderful things about her to list here. Writing that list, I am not sure I would believe a woman like that existed if someone else was describing her. The point is. I found a unicorn. They are out there. They are hard to find. Mine was 1 in about 200. I honestly think she is WAY too good for me, but I would never tell her that. Why would I do that?! I am nothing special. When we got married I might have been a 7. Never had a 6 pack, but never had any complaints. I always struggle keeping weight off. I am 6'0, 6 figure salary, really good, thick dark hair. Decent package. But, I have no college education. I came from the trailer parks of Topeka Kansas. How did I land a unicorn? PATIENCE. I dated/messed around with maybe 200 women since I was 16, but only 5 were "serious". That might sound like a lot of women but chasing women is the ONLY thing I ever did. No sport, no friends, no hobbies. chasing women. All. the. time. I almost married 2 women prior to meeting my wife and they would have been absolute disasters. THANK GOD I waited. The moral of the story is, if you can find HALF of what I have, you will have a woman worth marrying. If don't see anything in that list above that you could say about your GF, run. Be confident. If you aren't confident, ACT confident. Don't chase them. Kitten and the string. Be the string she cant quite grab. NEVER put in more effort than they do. Good luck.
You met her at 35, vetted her for 4 years. Good for you, man. I also scored a unicorn, somewhat less than you. My wife is also a pleaser. She has said to me several times "My job is to serve you at your pleasure." And I have said to her many times "Your job is to take care of me." I support (pay for) her. We are both retired. I'm in my late 50s, She is early 60s. There are 3 years between us. We were together for 5 years before we married. We are coming up to anniversary 25. One thing I am curious about is your wife- how did she get this way? What was her life and her environment like before she met you? What was it like in her formative years? It seems she has no issues. - Only that she may not be worthy of your attention! Inquiring minds want to know. Spill it !
I had to learn the going out with friends the hard way, with more than one girl, I was made to feel bad for thinking, if she's getting dressed up, to go dancing and drinking with other guys, sorry with her friends, why are you going out to dance with other guys?? shouldn't you want to go with your own guy, if you want to go dancing?
Exactly.....she's NOT just dancing with these other dudes in the club. Who's not there at the club with her yet she's dressed to kill? YOU. So who is she trying to impress? NOT you because you aren't there with her. Lesson learned... yes? She's screwing other dudes in the club's bathroom. Trust me...I know first hand from an old gf who did this, AND when I learned red pill truth 30 years ago....i morphed into the Alpha dude who hooked up with married women. They were the easiest to hook up with. When u learn the true nature of women it frees up alot of energy to devote to making money and only focusing on your goals. Women will become an accessory not the focus...
If her ex-boyfriend is such a great guy, why the fuck are they broken up? HE broke up with HER and she's HOPING he will take her back. Because I haven't talked to any of my exes since we broke up. No reason to.
Envy , this could be a purchase you make , a relationship with family member or friend, a success in your life or career , she comments on her family members in a way that they seem to have more or attain more than her . Jealousy, although a small amount of jealousy feels like flattering to you . If this continues or gets worse to the point it begins to be irrational then there is most definitely underlying mental health problems. If you cannot shake this idea of jealousy even with facts or rational conversation. Leave the relationship immediately. Why I say this is because I experienced it but I did not see it as I had no experience of it before. Red pill community has woken me and given me the tools to spot it and deal with it but best of all it gave me the ability justify my relationship break up .
My ex threw just about every one of these red flags..but the good news,she started all those same things with the “Just a friend” she had that she left me for..immediately into their relationship,where with me it took a year..
And you should have told her, "you're here to do all the things I would have to pay for as a single guy"- ie: cook for me, clean for me, give me sex,......No freebies!
Reconnecting with an ex- should only be undertaken when there is clear evidence that whatever issue(s) caused the divorce/separation the first time are openly being addressed during the "let's get re-aquainted/vetting phase of a renewed relationship. Also if you see new/old signs of potential problem patterns now is the time to bring them to her attention.
My ex just wwnt to therapy for the past 5 months. We broke up and she got put on some meds and now I have no clue who she is! Totally different woman! Dodge a bullet there!
Man one of my friends needs to hear these red flags. Problem is he is in denial. You couldn't convince him if you literally banged his girlfriend in front of him.
I personally enjoy when women or anyone competes with me. As a Sith, it is the will of nature that the strong eclipses the weak. If I am surpassed in power, then I deserve to be struck down. Rule of two.
Girls night out?! HtotheELL no! I see my girls for lunch, spa dates, shopping during the day, maybe 3-4 times a year for a birthday dinner, and then it's early evening. Oh, wait! We also go to the symphony/ballet/opera because their husbands aren't into it. But there's 8 of us (28-78 yrs) and we're not on the prowl! I would never EVER be in a relationship and then "go out with the girls" to get male approbation.
Going thru the ringer now... lost respect from her. Still living together and it’s so uncomfortable. Might be sleeping in my truck for a few months. Gotta pull the trigger... onward and upward.
@@nsane260 I understand your thought process I really do. However, in the West, there are potential legal ramifications for this. For instance, if she decides to spend all of the money, and then go further into debt, and you try and stop her, that can be labeled "financial abuse."
How to avoid betatization by 1000 concessions. Eventually you’re gonna get asked 1000 times to do things you were already planning on doing. Feels like a checkmate cause you’re not gonna avoid doing it if you already wanted to do it.
Major Red Flag: Her mom(which has short pink hair) calls you and yells at the phone, complains to you because her daughter didn't answer the phone calls way back to home after having a date with you.
good question: which one of these red flags would you make an exception for? anyone who knows women, basically knows one who doesnt exemplify ANY of these is rare. so which do you tolerate and why? good one-off video
Cash value insurance is the worst investment you can make. I do it for a living. Buy term and invest the difference. Read up on your policy specifics. You’ll hate it. The fine print will be enlightening.
Idk it might be good tho if u get along and talk abt her relationship and ask him y it didn’t work out u know maybe find things in past abt her maybe 🤷♂️
Ha! Covid brought my LTR back into the relationship. I was pleasantly surprised. Until I found out her working from home basically ended the affair she was having with co worker. Can't make this stuff up.
Think most of the red flags have been covered already, however a few odd ball ones I have noticed include..... 1: Train Tickets: Generally I have found if you begin dating a women and you notice she has lots of used train tickets in her purse / bag / house then unless she catches a train everyday for work then that usually signals a women travelling around to meet men for dates. This can also happen with things like bus tickets, in fact I once dated a women and noticed she always had bus tickets thrown in the bottom of her bag, one day when she wasn't about I pulled them all out and it turns out she was catching the bus to her ex boyfriends area 3 or 4 times a week whilst I was at work. Remember if a women gets on a train, plane, coach or travels any type of distance then often there is a man waiting at the other end to greet her off the train or whatever. 2: Bodily Grooming / Best Knickers: You can actually see this one happening in front of your own eyes. However often a women will tell you she is going out to see female friends, that she is going away for a meal with her family, that she is meeting a female friend for a quiet coffee and catch up. Then this women will proceed to head upstairs and spend the next 2 or 3 hours bathing / grooming / shaving all her legs / under arms / vagina. That to meet her parents or female friends this women needs to shave her vagina? She will then pick out the best sexiest knickers and clothes she owns, basically the exact same stuff she wore to meet you for a 1st / 2nd / 3rd date. She then leaves to meet her friend or family dressed up for a first date and vanishes all weekend and takes hours to answer calls or messages on her mobile. If a women says she is meeting family / close friends but gets ready for a first date or sex then be warned. 3: Affair: If a women admits to you that she has already had affairs with people / that she has cheated on people / that she has slept with attached or even married men before then I would strongly advise getting out of there or YOU will be the next victim, be that in a month or 10 years down the line. Often you will find women who cheat and have affairs do so because it turns them on sexually, that they often have a fetish or attached man fantasy. Often women look at attached or married man has having more value, where YOU the man trying to honestly date her are NOT as valuable, in fact in her eyes your second rate and the man she really wants is a married alpha. Honestly I have known a few women who are sexually obsessed by having affairs and if they have done it before there is a dam good chance they will do it again in the future and wreck your life in the process. 4: Private Phone Use: If you begin dating a women and often when her phone rings she leaves the room / goes into another private room / runs outside in the garden where you can't hear, like she is always getting calls she doesn't want you to hear then that is a huge red flag. Generally if a women is cheating on someone she will need to escape 2 or 3 times to call / message her other boyfriends. She will need to sneak into the garden 2 or 3 times to answer calls and texts to the other men she is seeing. If a women constantly doesn't want YOU to hear her phone calls then its usually other men she is speaking with. If you notice a women sneaking off to make little private calls then its not a good sign.
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Really bad advice on insurance. NEVER buy whole life. Fire your advisor. Buy term and invest the difference.
A major red flag if she has got a beard and wearing some glasses........ Also bold!!
The comment about women who have a lot of male friends is spot on. An old sergeant of mine said it best, "a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on." Excellent work as usual Rich!
Not necessarily, they’re usually just there for emotional needs, not sex.
Music - The Voice Of The Soul Bullshit! It starts with emotional support, then leads to sex. Fuck off with that shit
@@VoiceOfThe Jody spotted.
B. W. Fisher
It can lead to sex, but not always. I speak from past experience. They’ll use you for validation, emotional support and a self-esteem/ego boost when they’re feeling low (beta need), then they go and hook up with Chad or Tyrone for excitement & sex (alpha seed). They can have a number of male orbiters in the background which fulfil her needs. She can’t get everything she wants in one man. It’s not black & white. Don’t believe me? Just ask Rollo.
@@VoiceOfThe Bull Shit
Broke up with my girl just last week. Holy shit she had so many flags. Depression, anxiety, on meds, bunch of guy friends, smoked a bunch of weed and partied, phone addict and the list went on. She also seemed not to care much about the relationship until i split with her and now she’s crying for me back saying she regrets this and that. Hell to the no.
Same boat, my friend.
Take her back pump her and dump her again
Why on earth did you even get involved with her in the first place?
@@turtleanton6539 Smash and dash!
Thats what you call a loser, a female loser. Guys don't realise that females can be massive losers, it's just cuter for them when they're younger
If she has friends that are "divorced" then you've had it. A bitter, divorced woman will try and destroy your/her relationship because she will need justification of why HER(friends) relationship failed and the in-group preference will eventually split YOUR relationship up.
I agree with what you said. A girl I was dating blew me off as soon as her best friend got dumped by a guy I grew up with. After she wasn't getting served by him, she went nuts and didn't want to see me or her best friend be happy.
Agreed 👍
@@thedriver7132 its good for you, loyal girls would rather blew their beastie no matter how old their friendship is.
@@possessorofgreatness7620 "Spoken like a true prodigy" (Mr. Wolf)
Yep.. my ex's fat, ugly friend got in and fucked shit up.
Loved me till she went away for a 'girls' trip for the weekend.. then came back and was done. We don't need weak minded girls who play puppet to their friends.
Her kids dad is a crack head and would just show up at her house whenever he wanted and she didn't want to fix that either. Thank fuck I've found the red pill.😁💊
I just don't have the deep desire to have a relationship with a woman after many tries and failures. They represent nothing positive in my life, but simply serve as a drain and a burden to my life which consists of raising my daughter (I have full custody), taking care of my house and yard, working, lifting, fishing and other outdoors activities...listening to this content further entrenches my value of making myself my mental point of origin and enjoying my life for myself.
I hear you brother.
Glad you have the custody.
@Matt MSW I occasionally interact, but it's low engagement beyond hooking up. I typically find a more fulfilling trade off for my energies.
Mission and purpose should be all that matters
I respect that but tbh it sounds like you have no more interest because you got what u needed. A child. Why would you now put up with any shit when the purpose is complete
I think I ignored every red flag imaginable. Glad I found you Rich.
Major Red flag, she goes on holiday without you with her bestie.
Yup...girls only trips are a huge flag. If she goes on one...she's demoted to plate status only. She will show you her true nature without you doing a thing. A trustworthy chick in an LTR won't go out to clubs, or trips without you.
@@santoparfano1910 What if she travels across country to visit her family + gay male best friend? Yeah.. probably still plate status
My ex and I used to be best friends and had an amazing relationship until she started becoming a feminist. She went from being a girly girl to a more masculine lesbian. She started hanging out with college cheerleaders and I believe they corrupted her. She used to beg for sex and never denied me sex but things got very cloudy when her friends started corrupting her. I can’t explain the pain I felt after I broke things off. Her toxic mindset ruined our relationship and she has told all of her friends/ co-workers (she worked at my gym at the time and basically got her the job) so she trashed my name even though she still told me she loved me. I tried to make things work after we broke up but she refused to take any blame for our issues. Toxic mindset pushed me away. She also got terribly jealous when my mom told her she will need to learn to keep up with me bec. I am a very motivated person and she got scared I’d leave her. She also asked me before the quarantine while she was working at my gym “Who have you been f**ckin lately?!” I told her “I haven’t, I’m trying to figure out what I want in life and I’m working on myself rn” she then chewed me out. She thought I broke up with her to sleep around. A few weeks later I found out she had already slept with multiple people and was mad because she realized she messed up. She is mad bec. I won’t take her back
You fucked up by being friends with a women in the first place. regardless if she's your ex or not
Good thing is you didn't accept her.
Good job dude 👍
lemmieatit - Well of course I do to an extent. We were together for 3 years and she was my 1st LTR. I’m not into her anymore but making the call to end it wasn’t easy. Watching someone go from being my best friend to a women who resented me was horrible to watch. Big lesson and I’m glad I learned it while being young.
@@mrblondeheart9562 , at least you learn at a young age. Most got it late. You're young. Now do the work and apply the Red pill to the T. Also the Rational male open my eyes to women. Good Luck man.
Henry P I appreciate it! Best of luck to you, brother! I put the work in everyday and am working to build the best future I can
Rich you smashed it, this is your best video yet. So much of the subject matter is relatable.
A big red flag 🚩 for me is if the girl is a phone addict ! 💉 📱
Oh yeah.
Going on dates, and they sit there poking away at their phone the whole time, or even interrupting the conversation to chat with mommy for 10 minutes in another language, and you can't understand. Too many women today would rather get "likes" from 100 guys online, than develop a real relationship with 1 guy, face to face. This is a mental disorder.
@@ICXCTSARSLAVY Just fucking leave if they do that even just once.
I haven't met a girl who isn't
@@YOUPIMatin123 I did.
You struck a chord with me..."Can a woman divert a man's success "... I was in a bad marriage , in my mid 30s at the time. Three kids, house...etc.etc. I started a used equipment company from scratch.
I was killing it ....making leaps and bounds.
She started burning more money away on credit cards. I knew eventually where this was going. I slowly stopped hunting deals and the business slowly died.
I was in such a bad place in my life at the time. My rational thought was....I'm not building this business to give this evil psychopathic 1/2 of it.....and paying and paying when the divorce finally comes.
Why wouldn't you file instead of waiting? REAL QUESTION NO BS
The knowledge and confidence to build a successful business is the only part that matters. Broom her. Start again.
Updates?
true
Acting like a queen is an easy fix. Remind her that she's not. 😂
Agreed. However, talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words. You cannot say one thing and then do something different. You cannot treat her like a queen, unless you are the king. I have said to my wife, many times, that the queen is the most powerful piece on the chessboard. But with great power comes great responsibility (kudos to Spider Man), and her job, as a queen, is to serve and more importantly, to protect the king. We have been married since the mid 90s.
Bro EVERY GIRL KEEPS CLAIMING SHE IS A QUEEN it has me dead
@@Ace.0.0.0. the only queen I know is Queen Elizabeth. Everyone else is a regular woman and will be treated accordingly.
@@chineduogboh4594 everyone likes to think they hold value. Most people don't. Nothing wrong with it, but to act like you're a high value individual means just that. You're an actor. Making money and not being a POS is easy, but you'd think it's impossible judging by the state of 80% of men and women.
@@curtism-w6b The Netherlands, Sweden, and a few other European countries have a queen. My wife is not a queen. She never claimed she was or is. She gets joy from pleasing people. She has said to me and I quote "My job is to serve you at your pleasure." No joke. My job is to pay for her and our children. I say no to her on the regular. I also say yes on the regular. It is also my job to ensure our finances remain positive, which I do.
Being Honest, I am done with women, after 20 years of trying to make a woman happy, she ended our marriage when things went to crap.. leaving me to take the hit.. lesson learned
Same thing happened to me after 15 years. I got jacked, now I'm banging 21 year olds.
Too many guys do not understand. Your job is not to please her. Your job is not to make her happy. Recently my wife has said to me 'my job is to serve you at your pleasure.' And I have said to my wife, many times, 'Your job is to take care of me.' I have never strayed from that position. I pay for her. I keep her in clovers. I am always happy to listen to her, even to seek her advice on some things. But any money decision is mine, FYI, we have been married since the mid 90s, and we were exclusive for 5 years previously. Rollo Tomassi has famously said a woman should be a compliment to your life, not the focus. I agree. A woman should enhance your life, not make it more difficult.
To be fair, trying to "make someone happy" is a basic misunderstanding that you have to take responsiblity for. Yes that's what all the songs on the radio say but it's not true.
People's emotions are their own responsibility. It ain't your job to "make people feel".
I hope you are doing well in your new, free life
49:00 No! Do *not* get a Whole Life insurance policy with a cash surrender value. The "lump sum" you would cash-out of a Whole Life policy is exponentially smaller than if you were to get a Term Life policy and invest the difference (between the Whole Life and Term Life) in mutual funds. Dave Ramsey has explained this repeatedly on his syndicated radio show.
What if you out live the term policy, and have become sick or uninsurable in the interim?
Dave Ramsey isn’t going to pay your son’s or daughter’s bills after you’re in the ground.
Get a proper policy AND mutual funds.
She accused me of taking her for granted and not valueing her enough.
At this point she has already been cheating on me.
TRUE THATS CALLED PROJECTING HER SHIITTY CHOICES ONTO YOU
@@leanwoodworks exactly, she taked him for granted, no the other way arround. Its like when they accuses you of cheating, hello!! They are the cheaters!
Just ghost her, then
simple
You know what is injustice, men going to work. Women staying at home fully paid and expecting or entitled.
Then do not be in this type of relationship
Simple
I can 100% admit to valuing emotions first and foremost, but I also highly value logic; emotions just win out to begin with. Most of the time now, I have to sit back and ask myself "am I playing the victim and choosing to feel this way because it serves me somehow? Or am I actually being maltreated in some way?" More often than not, I'm playing the victim and will apologize and listen to the logic at that point. I completely deflate because it's my own fault for getting upset, he was just trying to help so I really can't be mad at that.
Good for you that you re starting to recognize those things about you :)
Here's my 3 Major Red Flags : 1) she won't allow me to see her cell phone and said I will never see her cell phone even if we were to get married 2) she has gone away on weekend trips and for the day but won't tell me where she is going or who she was with 3) she has a male best friend who she says is like a brother to her but she feels the need to go see him alone at his house on a Friday when I am working and his wife is working. I told her I was going to inform his wife and she blew up at me getting defensive and angry. When I questioned her and want to talk about things she avoids me it's not a good time. So I go back later and try to talk and I get the same answer, it's not a good time. It's deny, deny, deny!
Me ex told me “when we are hanging out with my friends, you be quiet “.
She said the same when hanging out with her family.
Hey, I am an MD, have businesses in the US and Mexico, I make 6 figures. It has nothing to do with me, she has low self esteem. Dumped her :)
I know it's toxic to talk about it but there is a direct connection between liberalism and unbearable women
Conservative
100% conservative libertarians are the best people to neighbor
To an extent
How, conservative bible thumpers can be worse because they blind side a man and they have a different form of entitlement.
Just remember, it is always the man's fault.
Truth is not toxic my friend
Of course…
Oh yes I remember leaving my laptop on the dining table during my seperation from my ex wife .She read an email about purchasing a property .Remember she did not want to be with me any longer so I was don .She went so crazy about it I just thought yes I am making the correct decision. The BS that makes them lose their composure is unreal. Never happy no gratitude for anything even when they get their own way.
Funny how the mere thought of you obtaining anything in your life without them, just makes them lose their mind.
Did you have to split that asset with her?
After my son was born my wife's Dr. put her on Lexapro to "prevent" post-partem depression before it could occur. She completely changed, became detached, depressed, uninterested in anything, and zero sex drive. This went on for a couple years. After talking, reasoning, and begging her to stop taking them I eventually ended up offering to pay her to quit taking them just to see what would happen. She accepted, i paid, and what do you know, she went right back to normal and been good ever since.
She got him babysitting her kid? HELL NO!
I was never a player but most of the chicks I hooked up with had a boyfriend, I later found out. Learned abit about women when I was single.
All the family pictures in the bedroom and the kids rushing in during should have been a clue
@@CEWIII9873 hahaha yeah, should have known.
So many red flags, it's so easy to see them now. I wish you would've been around 15 years ago. I've read the unplugged alpha and have learned alot. Thank you Rich!
Rich, your channel is brilliant. Wish I followed some of this before I wound up in the divorce that I am currently in. I always thought of myself as a cynic, but my concerns are real and pervasive. I ignored some of my own rules of thumb and got my ass kicked.
Updates?
the only way a relationship's going to work is if the woman is more into you than you are to her. PERIOD. All these videos are good, but that's THE message you need to ABSOLUTELY understand!!!
agreed
She has to always chase - it is what they want anyway
Not true.a men should be the one inlove more than a woman does .it works like that or atleast be at the same level.ive been the one loving more it never worked.
Just started to watch/listen to Richard Cooper. The red pill terminology/lingo is accurate, informative, and hilarious at the same time
Again, this is the type of information that is best digested with experience. You may take notes and memorize the playbook but until you get on the playing field you won't recognize any of this. But if you ignore any of these warnings you will pay.
Mate I would love to hear RED flags for people you work with
Unless she have really high interest just don't. As you can stuck up in workplace Meetoo crap.
Commenting on the topic he talked about where you should never let a women derail you from your passion and dreams. Im really big into customizing and restoring old vehicles thats always made me happen and thats a part of who i am. I remember in my second year with my covert narc ex that we started talking about finding a house to buy together and i told her i wanted a house with a shop to work on my vehicles and continue my passion because that meant a lot to me. I could see in her attitude and face that she absolutely hated my passion or it bothered her that i was that adamant about it. I told her thats one thing i wont ever change and i think thats one thing that started her discard of me. She ironically stopped talking about moving in after that day
Another very informative video. Thumbs up...
There is no logical reason for a man of value to be in a relationship in this day and age. We have the most access to sex than any of our previous ancestors without the hassle of committing ourselves to one woman for our entire life and yet most men are too blinded by their need for female validation, in terms of one high smv woman staying faithful to them forever, to ever see what a great time it is to be a high value man. I personally love the times we are in, easy access to hot women and great opportunities to make money due to unstable economies. Men should really stop complaining about not being able to find the “one” and understand that as long as you stay in top shape (most won’t do this) and become financially independent (most won’t do this either) you could not be living in any better of times.
most men cant have easy sex outside of a relationship. me included ngl. you're in the top 20 percent if you can. women have a buffet of choosing with social media.
Efe Sezer Being a high value man comes with a price and the rent is due everyday. I do not know any men who are in top physical shape and financially independent that have problems attracting hot women. If you are not willing to do these things you do not deserve to be spoiled for choice, it really is that simple but most would rather make excuses than put in the work.
@War hammer Yea the need to further your legacy. It has to be a precious thing to have sons and daughters and see them grow up in a stable environment.
Having a strong bond and relationship with each one as they develop. To me it's a privilege. But you just can't find a reliable woman that won't screw you over in this day and age.
I am not a promiscuous person. I have had fuck buddies, but we always had to have something in common with each other besides need for sex.
Like some sort of emotional connection, intellectual connection and also sense of humor has to match. But even with the fuck buddies, a lot of them are so damaged emotionally and psychologically.
Lots were sexually abused as kids, have daddy/mommy issues and are not even ready to actually face all those demons for their lives to become better. They live in denial and are usually very delusional about almost everything.
I can't say if it was for sure my singular need for validation from a female that kept me in the "one-itis" zone?
I do know that having taken the time to reflect the piece that was missing in my own life (unbeknownst to me) was that of "felt security".
Having risked being vulnerable in front of a woman who actually liked boys, with her own sense of felt security has definitely given me the strength to curb my appetites and drop some bad habits/addictions all together.
Which has only facilitated the integration of my own Locus of Control, the establishment of my own boundaries/limits or "frame" as it is known in the Manosphere.
I stumbled into a unicorn and my life will doubtless never be the same.
Wow you hit the nail on the head few times. I was married 17yrs got divorced and on my second going on 7yrs. And I’m realizing I’m a Livin handyman and sexless she doesn’t even make me feel wanted. I know it’s getting close to the end. Listening to you I realize I’m a Alpha male. Just a matter of time.
Well
did you finally let your b alls drop and divorce her?
@@CEWIII9873gangster
Unlocking your smartphone while you sleep is an instant fucking dealbreaker - most people have their banking apps and sensitive emails on there. The fuck.
So her not letting you look through her phone or laptop is a red flag-but so is her wanting to look through your stuff?
Which is it? Should people in a serious relationship be looking through each other’s personal stuff-or not?
The Chris Rock line was spot on, Rich. Look at Patrice O'Neal's comedy. Chris Rock, Dave Chappelle, Bill Burr etc everyone says he was the funniest of them and the best lady's man. He tells red pill jokes and was on the Black Phillip podcast talking about nothing but red pill stuff. That he'd say to women. In their face. And totally dominate the argument 😂
He was instinctively so aware of male/female dynamics , really incredible
@@TT-xl2td take a look at Patrice's ladies ....average was a 3.5 plus he died broke in a charity ward ...to this day his comedy buddies support his mom
@@duke9555 yep I’m aware if all that. Often the best theorists aren’t the best in practice. Despite that his understanding of intergender relations was extremely high level. Further, understanding the dynamics bares no intersection with financial success. 🤜🤛
And also, relative to his SMV, he did okay. 400lbs, broke, ill etc. Though He did have some fame/notoriety etc.
Patrice is the godfather of RP to me
Dam dude, you're pretty on point.
Kinda wish you were around throughout my shitty relationships (or at least knew about you).
Thank you for your shares man
the more I read the Rational Male and watch your videos both old and new, the number of red flags my ex ticked off
My experience with my wife on anti-depressants was pretty much the same, for the three years she was on them, we had sex once a year. And it was so bad, I didn't finish.
Happened to me in my young twenties. Nightmare.
Yeah, myself in my mid-twenties
So...
You let your b alls drop and divorced her, right?
Man you really nailed it bro! Great job you're doing to help guys out here man
Says "No need for a condom, If I get pregnant I'll just get an abortion." Or says "No need for a condom I'm on birth control (or will use MAP pill). Happened to me and then after in a casual convo she said if she got pregnant she'd keep it and just give it up for adoption. She either forgot her original notions or was lying. Or, wants to get preggers to guilt you into staying with her. Big RED FLAG.
My lord. Always wear a raincoat.
Smash and dash
Obviously you are right about basically everything in this video, and I think you do a great job with all these.
I know it’s not my place, but I just really wanted to say, it IS possible to be loved for who you are, not what you provide. most women are shallow and vindictive and mean, but some are not. You won’t meet us at a bar or Instagram though.
I’ve been in a LTR for 5 years and we have been thru it. He’s had several jobs, got fired from a couple, walked out of a couple others, I think the longest stretch was 5 months no job. His car broke down a couple years ago and he didn’t have $ for a new one for a while. But I didn’t stop loving him just cause I had to pay the bills for a while and drive him everywhere. I did that bc he is so smart, we compliment each other intellectually, he’s the only one I can talk to about politics and men’s rights, and just cause I love him with all my heart.
I am not gonna say I am perfect and have no problems, I do, I am on anti depressants among other issues, but I just really want to hit it home that there is women out there that will love you for you.
I know women treat you guys so bad nowadays and it is horrible and heartbreaking. I’m sorry that you have been treated this way, and I am sorry for overstepping. I just... I just really hope you guys find good girls.
men analyze the world on probabilities, not possibilities. there is a possibility what you say might be true but not probable. it's like asking a lion to wait for the deer to come to him, while it may be possible it's not probable
He must be some Chad for you to stick with him like you have.
Did you meet him through prison pen pals?
Bending the knee starts with the marriage proposal.
Men, if you ever propose. Do it standing up
Wow 😯 u r saving lives thanks king for the advic r
@@IbrahimHassanDayTrade
The real advice is don't get married
How about standing over her like Muhammad Ali and Joe Frazier?
@@CEWIII9873
Good one
Rich, thank you for all of your hard work! I appreciate you
The ads before your videos of the blonde woman are hilarious.
A lot of people are commenting about the ads...
Do you know how the algorithms work?
The ads are tailored to YOU... Not to the content creator.
Something to think about.
I've met a few women that said the same thing where they claimed that most of their friends were guys because you know women don't really get along with each other that much and had two different women that said that exact same thing and in reality they of course we're just going to keep talking to other men while trying to have a boyfriend the app that I'm being period. I learned that the hard way the first time I ever heard that when I was young and then met a few women since then that tried to say that and that's a dead giveaway red flag when you meet a woman and they tell you that
There are so many red flags out there that 99.9% of women will have at least one of them. I guess it boils down to avoiding the most important ones for you!
My top three for a 1 year LTR are:
1) her relation with her father and how her mom (and her friends) treat(s) the men in their lives and past lives.
2) if you find (and it bothers you) that she is more focused in things/chores (buying, small projects, travel, supers with friends, 'improving how you look') rather than getting to know you, your likes and showing she enjoys spending time with you. If those awkward silences are abundant the first year... you are NOT compatible and she is filling the void with HER projects. You must end it or you will be miserable. Specially if she is bringing out the worst in you (anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, anger, doubt). Your friends will let you know or seem concerned for you.
3) Slowly finding out she was VERY promiscuous and she won't be your slut. You have this feeling she is holding back A LOT sexually. She does not even share her kinks with you; after you lay your on the line and she finds you weird. That is a sign there is no trust here and it is all transactional "love"; the minute you hit a hard patch it will be over (losing a job, having kids, being ill). Or the minute she get attention from someone with higher SMV she will not flinch.
I left my ex before we even had kids. We were together 5 years. The lack of communication was not tolerable for me anymore; i felt I was losing my mind. And I could not open her up. I sometimes think it was a combination of her daddy issues, the way she was brought up and all the men she was with. And on my side I needed more affection that she could not give... She probably had many ups and down with men...and she would protect herself from me despite my blue pill ways...wait specially because of my blue pill ways. Never ever put a woman on a pedestal.
Put space between your points
It is easier to read instead of a wall of Roman text
If you're going to have a kid and get life insurance, have a trust for your children be the beneficiary and have a trusted person like a friend or sibling as the trustee. Your trustee can then make sure the money is legitimately used for your kid's support and not the mom's next boyfriend's new car.
But I need my next car to have leather seats and wood grain!
Just leaving a comment to help this wonderful awaken community
Rich? Your content and book changed my life. Thank you for doing what you do.
"How come you've never been married?"
"Because im too busy investing. Cant do that when your married."
27:38 dude I thought he said, "we got a few superchads rolling through" 😂 hell yeah brother
Rich you are a great UA-camr thanks for all the help man
Used to watch you with my dad Rich. He's no longer with us and you now keep my thinking about women on track. 27 years old, working hard on multiple business and lots of girls supplement my life, they will never be the main focus!
Did he say he went out for milk and cigarettes and not come back?
@Chuikov no he passed away unexpectedly
No there are some women who are logical and not deciding with emotions. Raised by my dad’s influence as I saw he had a happier life working for himself and got a lot of good insight. You say about 90% of what he would say about dating, picking a mate, etc
As a woman who pretty much understand and agree with almost everything discussed here, I feel bad for men. For me, I’ve decided to simply stop dating... or trying to date. I don’t think any of it is worth it. I’m not quite sure I want kids and I don’t like sex enough to go looking for a bf. I already know that’s not fair to any man who dates me. At least I admit that, I’m under no illusion.
I think most men here if you examine yourself deep down, you’ll realize you actually detest women. You probably deal with women ONLY because you need sex and you aren’t gay. That’s gotta be hard. 😞
I’m not just saying that because I’m mad about the content/comments. I’m not! I agree with y’all! How do you go about seeking someone to have sex with knowing that you hate them all deep down?!
Men don't hate women. It's the other way around. Such a hypocrite.
It’s not about hating women. It’s about the system and the minds that have been corrupted. If a woman is not submissive to her man.. where he leads the relationship won’t work. You can’t have two presidents in a relationship. One person has to be the Vice President. Feminism has taught women they can be like a man and be the president. That won’t work with a masculine man... ya know... the washboard Abs, muscular, successful man. Guys like this have options and they won’t deal with a competitive alpha dominant female who wants to control the relationship and climb the ladder of life.
It all comes down to risk assessment. Cost benefit analysis. A growing number of men have stepped out of the dating market because there’s no upside for us. So we focus on ourselves and live the bachelor life. It’s a stress free life.
Through a glory hole
simple
@@Skeetopunk01 but still do hook ups.
Women will never tell you everything, very true, itll be like picking out chicken teeth to find out things
Any type of insurance other than term is a waste of money. Insurance is NOT a good "investment" vehicle. You're better off investing money in a mutual fund.
Yep... invest in a mutual fund (or similar vehicle), and structure your will to place the fund into a trust for your children in the event of your death (and don't be stupid when choosing an executor).
Then, when she brings up the insurance issue, just say, "I got it covered babe."
Великолепный стрим! Все по-делу и по-сути. Очень жаль,что много русских парней его не смотрят и даже не удосуживаются перевести беседу! В России очень много "подкаблучников" и баборабов. Здравомыслящих мало. Твои ролики помогают не сломаться . Лично я, с помощью твоих видосов, убеждаюсь в том, что делаю все правильно.
In an LTR atm, shes not perfect but none of these flags have popped up as of yet. Regardless I always keep my eye open, since I used to be a blue pilled dude , now I’m focused on my purpose to become a doctor, at the gym, eating healthy etc, and she’s in my frame currently. Rational male, this channel, and before the trainwreck are truly a blessing
Why?
You are making a mistake
Do not be into an LTR as a doctor until you are well established.
But go ahead, make the same mistake all the other divorced doctors have.
Say goodbye to your money and peace of mind when the divorce rolls around
Disagree with sleeping away from your phone. Phones are needed in emergencies, break in, fire, medical emergency (heart attacks, accidents, and strokes are leading causes of death). Need the phone in reach at all times. Further, you spend presumably 2/3rd of the day by your phone so it seems bizarre to worry about these waves at night. If really worried, turn it off or on Airplane mode.
Another great episode of BTT.
About a year ago I had a dog who was the sweetest, kindest Lab I've ever met. About a month after this girl moved in with me any time she came around he would get aggressive. Nipping at her, growling, showing all sorts of abnormal behavior for him. So I started doing some investigating. Turns out she had been getting into my underwear drawer and stealing money (About $80 by the time I caught it) as well as smoking around my kids in the house. Which I had said at the beginning of the relationship was a deal breaker. She was out of my house the next day. But I wouldn't have caught it had it not been for that dog
Why on earth would you let a shady stranger around your kids, you deadbeat
Great boy he is!
i'm living with someone, it went sour only after 6 months, couldnt make her happy, now I have to find a place to live buying a sailboat possibly, done with LTRs
One cannot make someone happy - one can only make oneself happy
Removed from subscription feed. Still subscribed, but had to go to your channel to find it.
Stefan Molyneux's Women, Masculinity, and Riots was still up. Arbitrary?
ANTIDEPRESSANTS: That numbness, though. She had kid #2 was on SSRI -- baby blues--- a few months turned into 5+ years. Nookie free zone! Source of contention. Weight gain! She didnt care as everything good evaporated gone including the marriage. 10 years. Boom. Gone. Cant prescreen for baby blues until youre there.
Rich, Many times I’ve seen situations where the gay best friend has had sex with the girl when they’ve been high or drunk AND giving them poor relationship advice
Love your content! I agree with the vast majority of your tips on women.
I met my wife when I was 35. We were married 4 years later and have been for 10 years. I have the unicorn. If I can, you can too. About my wife:
- She is a SMOKESHOW. Solid 9 when I met her. She is 47 now, but still more attractive that 95% of women her age in Illinois.
- She has NO kids. Doesn't want any either.
- She has NO family within 300 miles of here. I personally cannot stand dating women with big families that are close by. Yuck. Always up in your business.
- She has had a credit score in the 800s since we met. Very rare.
- She has a good career at a fortune 50 company, though she makes less than me. We live very comfortably on the combined income.
- She has written me a sweet, encouraging note and left it by the coffee machine every morning for over 10 years. She even sets a fresh packet of sugar and a coffee straw out next to it :-)
- She hugs me, kisses me, and tells me she loves me at least 5x a day.
- She gives great, long massages whenever I want one.
- She NEVER, EVER says no to sex. Even more admirable when you consider than her sex drive completely dried up about 5 years ago. I can wake her up at 3 am for sex on a workday and she will with no hesitation. She always encourages me to wake her up any time at all for sex. What a woman. Usually I won't because I honestly feel bad for disrupting her sleep.
- She does 100% of all of our shopping.
- She dutifully send out all cards to all of our friends and family like a pro
- She NEVER gets jealous if I look at another woman. She will even point out the hot ones for me and it seems to amuse her :-)
- She lets me play video games all day every day if I want to and she seems to be able to entertain herself as long as needed.
- She actually got me a bell I can ring when I am in the basement in my man cave. When I ring it, she brings me a hot coffee. I AM NOT KIDDING GUYS!!!
-She never yells. She has yelled at me ONE time in 14 years. ONE sentence. She never slams door or throws things or loses her shit in any way.
-She is fucking HILARIOUS. Great sense of humor.
-She doesn't smoke.
-She knows how to shoot a gun
-SHE COMPLIMENTS MY LIFE AND MAKES IT BETTER IN EVERY MEASURABLE WAY
There are too many wonderful things about her to list here. Writing that list, I am not sure I would believe a woman like that existed if someone else was describing her. The point is. I found a unicorn. They are out there. They are hard to find. Mine was 1 in about 200. I honestly think she is WAY too good for me, but I would never tell her that. Why would I do that?!
I am nothing special. When we got married I might have been a 7. Never had a 6 pack, but never had any complaints. I always struggle keeping weight off. I am 6'0, 6 figure salary, really good, thick dark hair. Decent package. But, I have no college education. I came from the trailer parks of Topeka Kansas.
How did I land a unicorn? PATIENCE. I dated/messed around with maybe 200 women since I was 16, but only 5 were "serious". That might sound like a lot of women but chasing women is the ONLY thing I ever did. No sport, no friends, no hobbies. chasing women. All. the. time. I almost married 2 women prior to meeting my wife and they would have been absolute disasters. THANK GOD I waited. The moral of the story is, if you can find HALF of what I have, you will have a woman worth marrying. If don't see anything in that list above that you could say about your GF, run.
Be confident. If you aren't confident, ACT confident.
Don't chase them. Kitten and the string. Be the string she cant quite grab.
NEVER put in more effort than they do.
Good luck.
You lucky fuck. Congrats dude.
I guess I'm not alone in this list.. She's a jewel I tell you.
You met her at 35, vetted her for 4 years. Good for you, man. I also scored a unicorn, somewhat less than you. My wife is also a pleaser. She has said to me several times "My job is to serve you at your pleasure." And I have said to her many times "Your job is to take care of me." I support (pay for) her. We are both retired. I'm in my late 50s, She is early 60s. There are 3 years between us. We were together for 5 years before we married. We are coming up to anniversary 25. One thing I am curious about is your wife- how did she get this way? What was her life and her environment like before she met you? What was it like in her formative years? It seems she has no issues. - Only that she may not be worthy of your attention!
Inquiring minds want to know. Spill it !
Ben H
Can I ask, what nationality is she? I’m thinking I might need to move to find a unicorn like this.
You will find it comforting to know that your wife says the same thing about you when we are finished.
I had to learn the going out with friends the hard way, with more than one girl, I was made to feel bad for thinking, if she's getting dressed up, to go dancing and drinking with other guys, sorry with her friends, why are you going out to dance with other guys?? shouldn't you want to go with your own guy, if you want to go dancing?
Exactly.....she's NOT just dancing with these other dudes in the club. Who's not there at the club with her yet she's dressed to kill? YOU. So who is she trying to impress? NOT you because you aren't there with her. Lesson learned... yes? She's screwing other dudes in the club's bathroom. Trust me...I know first hand from an old gf who did this, AND when I learned red pill truth 30 years ago....i morphed into the Alpha dude who hooked up with married women. They were the easiest to hook up with. When u learn the true nature of women it frees up alot of energy to devote to making money and only focusing on your goals. Women will become an accessory not the focus...
If her ex-boyfriend is such a great guy, why the fuck are they broken up? HE broke up with HER and she's HOPING he will take her back. Because I haven't talked to any of my exes since we broke up. No reason to.
Envy , this could be a purchase you make , a relationship with family member or friend, a success in your life or career , she comments on her family members in a way that they seem to have more or attain more than her .
Jealousy, although a small amount of jealousy feels like flattering to you . If this continues or gets worse to the point it begins to be irrational then there is most definitely underlying mental health problems. If you cannot shake this idea of jealousy even with facts or rational conversation. Leave the relationship immediately.
Why I say this is because I experienced it but I did not see it as I had no experience of it before. Red pill community has woken me and given me the tools to spot it and deal with it but best of all it gave me the ability justify my relationship break up .
Seek therapy
or the bottle
My ex threw just about every one of these red flags..but the good news,she started all those same things with the “Just a friend” she had that she left me for..immediately into their relationship,where with me it took a year..
I guess I should have known when she told me "youre here to pay" is that a Red Flag?
And you should have told her, "you're here to do all the things I would have to pay for as a single guy"- ie: cook for me, clean for me, give me sex,......No freebies!
Real men also do culture, paint paintings, build rustic furniture or plays guitar in a surf band with their buddies
and nude canvas painting
@@CEWIII9873 of course😁
Reconnecting with an ex- should only be undertaken when there is clear evidence that whatever issue(s) caused the divorce/separation the first time are openly being addressed during the "let's get re-aquainted/vetting phase of a renewed relationship.
Also if you see new/old signs of potential problem patterns now is the time to bring them to her attention.
My ex just wwnt to therapy for the past 5 months. We broke up and she got put on some meds and now I have no clue who she is! Totally different woman! Dodge a bullet there!
How can you not love this content? The dislikes are from salty woman or beta simps.
As always, great survival tips.
57:00 great answer
Man one of my friends needs to hear these red flags. Problem is he is in denial. You couldn't convince him if you literally banged his girlfriend in front of him.
😆🤣 thats fuck up love blinds you sometimes
Hahahaha 😂😂
Haha, funny..
Love is blind. Lust is Hellen Keller.
Is he that blind?
My favorite one.... I have a lot of guy friends because they are less drama.
I personally enjoy when women or anyone competes with me. As a Sith, it is the will of nature that the strong eclipses the weak. If I am surpassed in power, then I deserve to be struck down. Rule of two.
The sith always betray one another. Be careful not to choke on your aspirations kurk.
and the Lucas style in cest of course...
Hypnosis is real. You start to believe she actually wants you after enough time.
they are good liers. beware
Girls night out?! HtotheELL no! I see my girls for lunch, spa dates, shopping during the day, maybe 3-4 times a year for a birthday dinner, and then it's early evening. Oh, wait! We also go to the symphony/ballet/opera because their husbands aren't into it. But there's 8 of us (28-78 yrs) and we're not on the prowl! I would never EVER be in a relationship and then "go out with the girls" to get male approbation.
look in her medicine cabinet, check for depakote, lamictal, valproate, they're drugs for bipolar
Going thru the ringer now... lost respect from her. Still living together and it’s so uncomfortable. Might be sleeping in my truck for a few months. Gotta pull the trigger... onward and upward.
Grow some balls. Kick her out and level up.
She can move out. Don't be a puss.
Hope you didn't end up in your truck big dog
Same here
updates?
Great video - MANY good pieces of advice in here.
The one with bad finances management is bad, all women are bad with money.
Red flag should be: she doesn't let you manage your joined finances.
Do not join finances!
simple
@@CEWIII9873 why wouldn't you want to manege her pay? 🤷
@@nsane260 I understand your thought process I really do.
However, in the West, there are potential legal ramifications for this.
For instance, if she decides to spend all of the money, and then go further into debt, and you try and stop her, that can be labeled "financial abuse."
@@CEWIII9873 true. Depends where you live.
@@CEWIII9873 but still. You can't judge her by her spending skill. It's enough of she lets you handle this.
How to avoid betatization by 1000 concessions. Eventually you’re gonna get asked 1000 times to do things you were already planning on doing. Feels like a checkmate cause you’re not gonna avoid doing it if you already wanted to do it.
Expecting the current to be friends with the former partner is a level of delusion only a woman could be capable of.
This video is Complete greatness... listen to it guys and apply it
Major Red Flag: Her mom(which has short pink hair) calls you and yells at the phone, complains to you because her daughter didn't answer the phone calls way back to home after having a date with you.
What happen to Dr Shawn?
good question: which one of these red flags would you make an exception for? anyone who knows women, basically knows one who doesnt exemplify ANY of these is rare. so which do you tolerate and why? good one-off video
Dip means get up outta there lol Come on Rich get with the lingo buddy. Much respect that was funny.
Cash value insurance is the worst investment you can make. I do it for a living. Buy term and invest the difference. Read up on your policy specifics. You’ll hate it. The fine print will be enlightening.
1,00:13 😹. Thank you Rich for your great channel.
"You have to get along with my ex-boyfriend!"
.........
....so that means I should expect you to get along with my ex then.
she'll expect you to prep him before he f's her then clean them up
That’s bad idea her and ur ex together she be shit abt u
Idk it might be good tho if u get along and talk abt her relationship and ask him y it didn’t work out u know maybe find things in past abt her maybe 🤷♂️
Ha! Covid brought my LTR back into the relationship. I was pleasantly surprised. Until I found out her working from home basically ended the affair she was having with co worker. Can't make this stuff up.
Think most of the red flags have been covered already, however a few odd ball ones I have noticed include.....
1: Train Tickets: Generally I have found if you begin dating a women and you notice she has lots of used train tickets in her purse / bag / house then unless she catches a train everyday for work then that usually signals a women travelling around to meet men for dates. This can also happen with things like bus tickets, in fact I once dated a women and noticed she always had bus tickets thrown in the bottom of her bag, one day when she wasn't about I pulled them all out and it turns out she was catching the bus to her ex boyfriends area 3 or 4 times a week whilst I was at work. Remember if a women gets on a train, plane, coach or travels any type of distance then often there is a man waiting at the other end to greet her off the train or whatever.
2: Bodily Grooming / Best Knickers: You can actually see this one happening in front of your own eyes. However often a women will tell you she is going out to see female friends, that she is going away for a meal with her family, that she is meeting a female friend for a quiet coffee and catch up. Then this women will proceed to head upstairs and spend the next 2 or 3 hours bathing / grooming / shaving all her legs / under arms / vagina. That to meet her parents or female friends this women needs to shave her vagina? She will then pick out the best sexiest knickers and clothes she owns, basically the exact same stuff she wore to meet you for a 1st / 2nd / 3rd date. She then leaves to meet her friend or family dressed up for a first date and vanishes all weekend and takes hours to answer calls or messages on her mobile. If a women says she is meeting family / close friends but gets ready for a first date or sex then be warned.
3: Affair: If a women admits to you that she has already had affairs with people / that she has cheated on people / that she has slept with attached or even married men before then I would strongly advise getting out of there or YOU will be the next victim, be that in a month or 10 years down the line. Often you will find women who cheat and have affairs do so because it turns them on sexually, that they often have a fetish or attached man fantasy. Often women look at attached or married man has having more value, where YOU the man trying to honestly date her are NOT as valuable, in fact in her eyes your second rate and the man she really wants is a married alpha. Honestly I have known a few women who are sexually obsessed by having affairs and if they have done it before there is a dam good chance they will do it again in the future and wreck your life in the process.
4: Private Phone Use: If you begin dating a women and often when her phone rings she leaves the room / goes into another private room / runs outside in the garden where you can't hear, like she is always getting calls she doesn't want you to hear then that is a huge red flag. Generally if a women is cheating on someone she will need to escape 2 or 3 times to call / message her other boyfriends. She will need to sneak into the garden 2 or 3 times to answer calls and texts to the other men she is seeing. If a women constantly doesn't want YOU to hear her phone calls then its usually other men she is speaking with. If you notice a women sneaking off to make little private calls then its not a good sign.
I appreciate how you organized this.
Most people opt for the wall of Roman text method
My ex told me she was on anti-depressants, but would peel the labels off the bottle.