When I watched this, it made me feel bad for her, the fact that she thinks that and allowed someone to convince her she has nothing to offer… like baby. You need therapy. You need self love. You need boundaries and higher standards.
She thisss sheeee that… this Woman aka Queen is speaking from her Heart . Dont Say she is broken or anythingg.. she is telling her own FAX. Let her be . ❤️
Translation: She’s overwhelmed AF because she has to do it all and has nothing left to give. I can relate! This is the effects of men not being men, no time left for us left to be women.
I'm sorry. We can't continue to blame men OR women for the decisions/poor choices we make in life. If we continue to do the same things, expecting different results, that's called insanity.
She took an introspective look at her CURRENT self and discovered she have nothing to offer. If a single parent is only focused on providing for their kids and has very little energy for anything else. Sometimes you don't have the energy to pour into another person soul. Until she can find balance and peace , getting in a relationship NOW is wasting everyone's energy and time.
Seriously I am a single mother who has been doing this thing alone for 13 years. All I do is work and go home and all men want is sex. I am independent. And I do not know who I am outside of a mother. How do you find yourself again?
Very simple.. start by doing hobbies.. every weekend or every other weekend....do something different... The excitement will come back into your life ....find your happy..... I love kayaking I didn't know... I like it until I tried it.. skating.. horseback riding.. jet ski.... just to name a few. Girl I'm having so much fun..
To me, she’s saying she’s recognizing that she needs a lot of her time. Like she knows she doesn’t know herself and she’s too busy to find out about herself. Makes me feel real bad for her… :(
I think when worded properly that’s a very good question a lot of people really do not have anything to offer and they will know that and still waste a person’s time.
She sounds ignorant...when I say that I mean no disrespect! She really doesn't understand her worth...And The Manosphere really doesn't have a clue how to process information...they are just always looking to bullying women!
I agree with Derrick's response! In my opinion men who ask this question are usually lame & have nothing to offer or even values a woman or a relationship. I hope women wake up & realise this!
I applaud her honesty…. This is the type of woman that will grow and become MORE just for the simple fact that she is self aware …..so many others will find an excuse and remain single.
If he's isn't gonna offer anything then he doesn't get anything. U mirror what he brings. The correct response to that dudes question is this... "it all depends on you Sir. Men are supposed to lead. So if you contribute to the relationship so will I. If you won't then not only will I not but I'll lose interested bc im looking for quality men. Not interested in the games or wasting my time."
I understand where she is coming from. Yes. She has alot to offer. With offerings from both sides. And on the same page from jump street, should be a WIN..WIN SITUATION. Along with what Mr. Jxn said. He always breaks it down in terms that make the most sense. Whether you agree or not.
don't offer no benefits unless you have a ring on your finger and he providing and protecting and bring you happiness. She does have nurturing and cooking etc just don't give those benefits out unless your getting what you need as a women. period
Your message will give her a different outlook on what she brings to the table beside her body. You are create in the imagine of God that has granted you with many talents to perform motherhood and everything you need to do in life to accomplish your heart desire. Seek God first and he will add patience, love, peace, joy and happiness in your life. Never devalue your life by offer your sacred raisin cake, it's more to you as knowing you are Proverbs 31 women. You have to make time for yourself by running a strict schedule at home to get me time for yourself. Treat yourself with me time.
wow, I've been asking myself the same as this woman, since I was young I've had little nurturing from my caregivers, trauma and a violent relationship in between bringing up my 4 kids by myself for the last 30 years and I don't have a lot financially as in assets, nor do I know what I am passionate about that's self care or who I am without the label of mother, sister. parentless dsughter
I have been feeling EXACTLY like her lately, I completely relate, I don't think we have a lack of self worth per se, but a level of responsibility we want to have with others as to not cause collateral damage unto them, and I think that's priceless but unfortunately I do not have the antidote other than a long journey of bootstrapping
Some men treat you as a mat and seeing you in scrapes blame you for things you never did. Some MEN seeing you in scrapes just offer the hand. This is the only difference. One asks you to buy a delicacy when you are on travel abroad and getting it just does it on the floor. The others one is happy you met and pays your dinner just to chat with you.
I can understand a lot of what she is saying. Healing has to start somewhere and the place where you start is where you feel like the way she feels. She has to love and nurture herself and build a loving relationship with herself. There is no guarantees with the opposite sex so just to think someone SHOULD be nice to you and then you will feel good and be happy can be a bit of a fantasy.
First off Mr Jaxn please allow me to compliment you on how beautiful 😍 you look 👀 in natural lighting ☺️☀️. I like ❤️ the shirt 👕 and love 💗 the biceps 💪🏾! Furthermore, Sis has low self esteem. Her masculine energy overrides her feminine energy. No good. I’d recommend her to do some soul searching. Focus 🧘🏾♀️ on herself and kids before she dates again. She needs to change the type of men she entertains. That’s the root of her problem.
‘Her masculine energy overrides her feminine energy’. When talking about African-American women, that’s like saying ‘water is wet’. It holds true for approximately everyone of them.
@@abdulabdul-qg3mc Shut yo face😡! You don’t know shit! There’s plenty of African American women who embrace their femininity. Don’t mistake our strength for being masculine. We have to be strong 💪🏾 and teach it to our children. Because social injustice and inequality runs freely through this country.
"Her masculine energy overrides her feminine energy." Despite her being a beautiful young woman (and she, herself, mentioning her good looks several times), I got that vibe from her, too! I suspect she's just tired -- and a little resentful -- from having to do it all without the help of her children's father.
Girls, just avoid girls....... Being a woman is easy, is not about looks, boyfriends, motherhood, is different, natural instincts which not one with teach you. It should he woken up. Then all thoughts about men go away. You become happy as you are. Harmony is the key.
No. She is NOT manic, not by a long shot. Her conversation is clear, concise, honest and straight to the point. What IS painfully obvious to me us the mere fact that she answered the question in a way which mimicked the self righteous, dehumanizing way in which it was posed. She did not have to answer him at all. Nothing about HIS conversation warranted any level of response. He was THAT nasty!
When I watched this, it made me feel bad for her, the fact that she thinks that and allowed someone to convince her she has nothing to offer… like baby. You need therapy. You need self love. You need boundaries and higher standards.
Is it your position that everyone has something to offer or an equal amount to offer? She just told you what she has to offer currently.
@@garygreen7104 that woman has a lot to offer she hasn’t tapped into it because she has low self esteem and doesn’t know her worth.
@@Untitled0752 stop y’all try to overvalue y’all selves
@@Untitled0752 not everyone has something to offer. She doesn’t have what men want and she acknowledges that. And that is ok.
@@davidnurse1028 exactly. These females bein Denial . This is why some dating life is in failure because they can’t face the truth.
She thisss sheeee that… this Woman aka Queen is speaking from her Heart . Dont Say she is broken or anythingg.. she is telling her own FAX. Let her be . ❤️
I respect her honesty
I acknowledge her honesty but I think she’ needs some serious healing
To find her self and her worth
That's what she's doing. She's not demeaning herself. She's being honest.
She knws Her worth and it aint much
No 1 knws Her like She knws Her
💯
@@yolandawilson6619 exactly. Fran goofy
To sum her message up she acknowledges that it starts with SELF & I COMMEND her for this 🖤
Translation: She’s overwhelmed AF because she has to do it all and has nothing left to give. I can relate! This is the effects of men not being men, no time left for us left to be women.
Keep men out of it
Makes me worry about her mental health and the children's safety when single mothers are overwhelmed, depressed, angry etc.
That’s called adulting
I'm sorry. We can't continue to blame men OR women for the decisions/poor choices we make in life. If we continue to do the same things, expecting different results, that's called insanity.
She took an introspective look at her CURRENT self and discovered she have nothing to offer. If a single parent is only focused on providing for their kids and has very little energy for anything else. Sometimes you don't have the energy to pour into another person soul. Until she can find balance and peace , getting in a relationship NOW is wasting everyone's energy and time.
She just needs love. She’s so tired.
If that’s what u saw , ur lost
She need to love and value herSELF.
She hit the nail on the head but I feel like she’s not happy with herself .be happy with yourself and not try to find it in others .
Absolutely starts at home, with yourself!
Oooo girl! I felt this in my soul! Its such a struggle
Maybe once she sees herself differently, then she’ll thinks differently.
Yeah I agree with her I have things to work on within myself before I can do be with anyone 💯🤷🏽♀️
Derrick, you are absolutely on point 👍...🎤...
Seriously I am a single mother who has been doing this thing alone for 13 years. All I do is work and go home and all men want is sex. I am independent. And I do not know who I am outside of a mother. How do you find yourself again?
Very simple.. start by doing hobbies.. every weekend or every other weekend....do something different... The excitement will come back into your life ....find your happy..... I love kayaking I didn't know... I like it until I tried it.. skating.. horseback riding.. jet ski.... just to name a few. Girl I'm having so much fun..
Go back to the men you had kids with
...she simply is NOT ready for a relationship @ this time! & NOThing is wrong with that!
To me, she’s saying she’s recognizing that she needs a lot of her time. Like she knows she doesn’t know herself and she’s too busy to find out about herself. Makes me feel real bad for her… :(
Then, she need to set aside time FOR herSELF... to heal and be happy within.
She has a lot to offer! Every woman does. If someone asked me that, I would say NEXT!!
I think when worded properly that’s a very good question a lot of people really do not have anything to offer and they will know that and still waste a person’s time.
It's all about the delivery
Huh?
@@crazywonderful241 How should it be worded??
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e in a way where she doesn't have to offer anything but p***y. You and I both know this.
She is not wrong but, she is not right. You can always use your time to build yourself up and take care of your mental health.
Some people don't know where to begin, or just have a fear of CHANGE.
You have alot to offer just let God lead you to the right one that's worth what you have to offer
Huh
So you’re going to be in denial for her? Wow!
@@tak2ulata I'm not in denial just my opinion
WORD... I like Derricks response 🥊🍍♥️🍃
She sounds ignorant...when I say that I mean no disrespect! She really doesn't understand her worth...And The Manosphere really doesn't have a clue how to process information...they are just always looking to bullying women!
I agree with Derrick's response! In my opinion men who ask this question are usually lame & have nothing to offer or even values a woman or a relationship. I hope women wake up & realise this!
How are they lame the fact of the matter Is this woman always want more than they're willing to give and I think men are tired of that
Femal logic is simply astonishing.
Been through too much too soon. When she said I'm 32.. I was like wow!
I applaud her honesty…. This is the type of woman that will grow and become MORE just for the simple fact that she is self aware …..so many others will find an excuse and remain single.
Omg if anyone knows how to get ahold of her please let me know! I know things he never said that changed my life & can help her!
If he's isn't gonna offer anything then he doesn't get anything. U mirror what he brings. The correct response to that dudes question is this... "it all depends on you Sir. Men are supposed to lead. So if you contribute to the relationship so will I. If you won't then not only will I not but I'll lose interested bc im looking for quality men. Not interested in the games or wasting my time."
I understand where she is coming from. Yes. She has alot to offer. With offerings from both sides. And on the same page from jump street, should be a WIN..WIN SITUATION. Along with what Mr. Jxn said. He always breaks it down in terms that make the most sense. Whether you agree or not.
Yea she's speaking about herself, as she stated..
Exactly she needs therapy and to stop trying to date anyone at this point
I overstand her & love her guts to make it public she not alone. Derrick is also correct in his balanced response
What a revolting, insensitive thug-like question. I would have immediately said adieu.
Adios amigo and don't let the door hit you in the a--👍💯
A $200.00 date will not change a Woman's character.
Relationships have to be give and take.
don't offer no benefits unless you have a ring on your finger and he providing and protecting and bring you happiness. She does have nurturing and cooking etc just don't give those benefits out unless your getting what you need as a women. period
I feel you..exactly!
Your message will give her a different outlook on what she brings to the table beside her body. You are create in the imagine of God that has granted you with many talents to perform motherhood and everything you need to do in life to accomplish your heart desire. Seek God first and he will add patience, love, peace, joy and happiness in your life. Never devalue your life by offer your sacred raisin cake, it's more to you as knowing you are Proverbs 31 women. You have to make time for yourself by running a strict schedule at home to get me time for yourself. Treat yourself with me time.
She should have answered and said I have a Rib seeing as how God made me From you For you
I love you guys so much ❤️❤️
Good one Derrick. SELF WORTH & COMMITMENT TO BUILD. I respect her perspective but devalued
Yes true love this
wow, I've been asking myself the same as this woman, since I was young I've had little nurturing from my caregivers, trauma and a violent relationship in between bringing up my 4 kids by myself for the last 30 years and I don't have a lot financially as in assets, nor do I know what I am passionate about that's self care or who I am without the label of mother, sister. parentless dsughter
Derrick you said a mouthful!!!😏
I hear the young lady, but I have to agree with Derrick on this,he is on point.
I have been feeling EXACTLY like her lately, I completely relate, I don't think we have a lack of self worth per se, but a level of responsibility we want to have with others as to not cause collateral damage unto them, and I think that's priceless but unfortunately I do not have the antidote other than a long journey of bootstrapping
Some men treat you as a mat and seeing you in scrapes blame you for things you never did.
Some MEN seeing you in scrapes just offer the hand.
This is the only difference.
One asks you to buy a delicacy when you are on travel abroad and getting it just does it on the floor.
The others one is happy you met and pays your dinner just to chat with you.
I love you so much Derrick ❤️❤️
Tyrone can't lose
Did he just say build a bitch?
@@aye927 I don't understand these females.
I can understand a lot of what she is saying. Healing has to start somewhere and the place where you start is where you feel like the way she feels. She has to love and nurture herself and build a loving relationship with herself. There is no guarantees with the opposite sex so just to think someone SHOULD be nice to you and then you will feel good and be happy can be a bit of a fantasy.
Amen
How do i do a video to send to you as you wud be shocked with what ive got going on in my life.
Hi
Well she was honest. I respect that BUT I wonder why she wear the pants in her past relationships.
Her own choices
She's irritating me for some reason
❤❤❤
She got lot miles to
Right
Oh geez. She must be watching F and F.
First off Mr Jaxn please allow me to compliment you on how beautiful 😍 you look 👀 in natural lighting ☺️☀️. I like ❤️ the shirt 👕 and love 💗 the biceps 💪🏾! Furthermore, Sis has low self esteem. Her masculine energy overrides her feminine energy. No good. I’d recommend her to do some soul searching. Focus 🧘🏾♀️ on herself and kids before she dates again. She needs to change the type of men she entertains. That’s the root of her problem.
‘Her masculine energy overrides her feminine energy’. When talking about African-American women, that’s like saying ‘water is wet’. It holds true for approximately everyone of them.
@@abdulabdul-qg3mc Shut yo face😡! You don’t know shit! There’s plenty of African American women who embrace their femininity. Don’t mistake our strength for being masculine. We have to be strong 💪🏾 and teach it to our children. Because social injustice and inequality runs freely through this country.
He’s very married!
@@nikkithurston8922 So you think 🤔 So? I feel differently about that!
"Her masculine energy overrides her feminine energy." Despite her being a beautiful young woman (and she, herself, mentioning her good looks several times), I got that vibe from her, too!
I suspect she's just tired -- and a little resentful -- from having to do it all without the help of her children's father.
My name is Tony smith merry Christmas 🎅 🎄❤ 🎄❤ 🎄
Lol 😂
Girls, just avoid girls.......
Being a woman is easy, is not about looks, boyfriends, motherhood, is different, natural instincts which not one with teach you. It should he woken up.
Then all thoughts about men go away. You become happy as you are.
Harmony is the key.
I can dig where She is comin frm
Theee most honest I've heard a Female b
She seems a bit manic…
No. She is NOT manic, not by a long shot. Her conversation is clear, concise, honest and straight to the point.
What IS painfully obvious to me us the mere fact that she answered the question in a way which mimicked the self righteous, dehumanizing way in which it was posed. She did not have to answer him at all. Nothing about HIS conversation warranted any level of response. He was THAT nasty!