Camille Paglia on masculine communication and feminine communication

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  • @xeno2752
    @xeno2752 5 років тому +137

    Experiment proposal about choice of attire and intersexual contact:
    1- Prepare a dressing room with a variety of sexy and non-sexy pieces of clothing in all colors and sizes.
    2- Gather three groups of women. Tell the first one that they're going to meet a group of men for informal conversation, tell the second one that they're going to meet another group of women. The third group is the control; don't tell them anything.
    3- Note if those factors change how often every piece of clothing is chosen.
    4- See if women dress for other women or for men.

    • @dataexpunged6969
      @dataexpunged6969 4 роки тому +18

      That's a genius idea. I'm a woman and I would actually love to see the results

    • @xeno2752
      @xeno2752 4 роки тому +7

      @TheyCallMe Doug "Proven" is essentially a meaningless word without a source.

    • @dataexpunged6969
      @dataexpunged6969 4 роки тому +8

      @@xeno2752 exactly. And that's bs anyway, because I know for a fact that many women dress up for men 😂😂😂

    • @Mrariesdave
      @Mrariesdave 3 роки тому +12

      @@dataexpunged6969 Sure, women dress for men but the fact is that men (straight) simply don't grasp the entire presentation the way another woman would. [A gay man here who has been watching the hetero circus all my life].

    • @dataexpunged6969
      @dataexpunged6969 3 роки тому +7

      @@Mrariesdave lmao "hetero-circus". That's the most accurate description I've ever seen 😂🤣 Sometimes I thank the world that I'm bi

  • @jesus_built_my_hotrod
    @jesus_built_my_hotrod 6 років тому +273

    Be prepared, OK? To listen, OK? At 100 miles an hour, OK?

    • @johnnyplatis
      @johnnyplatis 5 років тому +16

      OK!

    • @saraf5414
      @saraf5414 5 років тому +9

      Instruction not clear enough. Ended up mind boggled

    • @emilbrandwyne5747
      @emilbrandwyne5747 5 років тому +2

      more like 100 words a second

    • @mikemcmullin149
      @mikemcmullin149 4 роки тому +8

      She's one of a few people who actually talks fast enough that I'm not bored or disinterested

    • @caseyweitzel9351
      @caseyweitzel9351 4 роки тому +1

      Actually laughed out loud to this haha

  • @lanecore75
    @lanecore75 6 років тому +268

    I can't seem to make my wife understand how I loathe to be bombarded by her when she gets home. I need a bit of solitude and down time before I can listen to every single thing someone said to her or the way this person was dressed. It is actually exhausting listening to her barrage of thoughts spoken in rapid fire succession. I have to remind her to occasionally take a breath. Camille Paglia absolutely nailed the differencees in gender communication. Loved it.

    • @SamsonZoomBespoke
      @SamsonZoomBespoke 5 років тому +4

      Shes treating you like a girlfriend. You need to separate yourself sincerely and learn to teach her how to treat you. AGree to check in with your facial expression approval. See tramwaypods.ca for civic optimism.

    • @billypersistent6127
      @billypersistent6127 5 років тому +21

      You just dislike your wife. This isn't some complicated gender issue.

    • @kurokamei
      @kurokamei 5 років тому

      @Sugar 100% agree.

    • @dreg5845
      @dreg5845 4 роки тому +2

      I dont ever want to hear that shit. I DONT CARE WHAT SOMEONE ELSE DOES!!!!

    • @brittmclean5700
      @brittmclean5700 4 роки тому +16

      Ask a woman how her day went and she'll tell you more than you ever wanted to know, if a man attempts to tell another man how his day went his buddies will tell him to shut the fuck up and if he's in his right mind he will thank them for it.

  • @superchargedVR1
    @superchargedVR1 6 років тому +428

    Great info but Camille don't EVER start drinking Red Bull..

    • @DaWhiteWolffie
      @DaWhiteWolffie 6 років тому +11

      She's have an instant heart attack. lol

    • @seansteel3326
      @seansteel3326 6 років тому +28

      Legend has it that she fell in a cauldron of red bull when she was a baby, just like Obelix fell into the cauldron of magic potion as a baby and was forever endowed with superhuman strength.

    • @seanprater8322
      @seanprater8322 5 років тому

      😂😂😂

    • @whynottalklikeapirat
      @whynottalklikeapirat 5 років тому +12

      Red Bull was modeled after her, ok...

    • @johns9478
      @johns9478 4 роки тому +5

      Red Bull may give you wings, but it would give Camille Paglia a jet pack.

  • @azluan
    @azluan 6 років тому +92

    I just love her when she goes into art and psychology, really brilliant remarks, no wonder she's a professor.

    • @prschuster
      @prschuster 6 років тому +5

      She's much more attuned to gender issues than Jordan Peterson.

  • @tpriceism
    @tpriceism 6 років тому +165

    I love this women. She is so SPOT ON in her theories and observations!

    • @peteroehring695
      @peteroehring695 5 років тому +3

      You meant to say woman. Women is the plural of woman. Got it?

    • @eddarby469
      @eddarby469 3 роки тому

      She remarked in another video that we HAD to get out of the fifties, but the feminists later (after second wave) took everything too far and began to screw everything up. I didn't live through the 50s so I don't know what was so awful that we had to put behind us. But from everything I hear it sounded like a golden age.

    • @tpriceism
      @tpriceism 3 роки тому +3

      @@peteroehring695 Sorry, you are correct. I should have said "woman". Thank you kindly.

    • @rontauranac
      @rontauranac Рік тому

      She takes her observations on men and women from soap operas and crappy staged TV shows... She's like a scientist who study the world by reading the Bible.
      This woman has a Dunning-Kruger syndrome, m'kay ?

  • @arnddeshives147
    @arnddeshives147 4 роки тому +123

    She totally left out that men usually talk with a lot of humour, even when complaining about things. We entertain each other the whole time :D

    • @Tes-qe1jc
      @Tes-qe1jc 4 роки тому +26

      @@lorenecingala9580 "If you want to tell people the truth, you better be funny. Otherwise, they will kill you." - George Carlin

    • @chrisjury6931
      @chrisjury6931 4 роки тому +19

      Good point - it might have arisen as a coping mechanism for trauma.

    • @VengefulPolititron
      @VengefulPolititron 3 роки тому +1

      wasn't George. it was... a different guy I forget.

    • @ST-yc7uj
      @ST-yc7uj Рік тому +5

      Masking their frustration

  • @guyharris9646
    @guyharris9646 4 роки тому +15

    Camille I love you. One issue men have with female conversation is the endless repetition. They say the same thing over and over.

  • @kodyeldridge5847
    @kodyeldridge5847 6 років тому +77

    I recommend watching her videos at 0.75 speed.

    • @dasugo
      @dasugo 5 років тому +4

      Bloody hell!! You are right! She sounds normal at 0.75
      Thank you.

    • @thisisdk7859
      @thisisdk7859 4 роки тому +2

      Wow! It works. Wow...

    • @MN-de
      @MN-de 4 роки тому +1

      Ok!

    • @eddarby469
      @eddarby469 3 роки тому +1

      ... good advice ...

  • @theknightswhosay
    @theknightswhosay 5 років тому +41

    My grandfather had 4 sisters. He'd watch them talk and shake his head and say, "Everyone is talking, and nobody is listening." They would pick up on each other's sentences so fast, and three of the four would be verbally reacting to the sentence fragment of the first.

    • @dataexpunged6969
      @dataexpunged6969 4 роки тому +7

      If they weren't listening then they wouldn't be able to comprehend what the other is saying, which is obviously the opposite of what happens. Looks like it was your grandpa who wasn't listening and comprehending

    • @k3630
      @k3630 3 роки тому +1

      The other day at my friends house, His young teenage daughter, with a few of her friends, and they just make noise, like I literally couldn't make out what they were saying

    • @Charles50Kal
      @Charles50Kal 3 роки тому

      Vote UKIP on 6th of May

    • @VengefulPolititron
      @VengefulPolititron 3 роки тому

      intellectual shorthand. but yeah

    • @ST-yc7uj
      @ST-yc7uj Рік тому +1

      Italians

  • @6663000
    @6663000 5 років тому +36

    She had a great discussion on this topic with Jordan Peterson as well.
    When men speak to one other about anything important, there is always a physical component to the conversation... by that I mean there's the constant underlying understanding that if you say certain things, or say things in a certain way, it could result in a physical fight (or even lethal violence), there are some basic dominance things going on, men can actually communicate *through* violence or the threat of violence... the dynamic is totally different when men and women speak to one another.

    • @Kenar.E
      @Kenar.E 4 роки тому +1

      Yes, I remember that, but here we are on a different level. This concept is true when two men have an altercation: "Beware dude, if you step out I have the ability to fuck you up".
      But in this video she was talking about confidentiality between men, which is different than the confidentiality between women.
      If we are friends I can, of course, vent out with you about my problems, but because I mainly want a solution, an opinion, and I will very rarely cry my eyes out with you for the sake of it.
      I will even end up cracking a joke about my shitty situation with my wife/gf/job/boss/mother/father/younameit.
      Women? They just want to vent out for the sake of being told "Oh honey, that's hard!"
      Which is completely nonsense for a man.

    • @renoldojeffrey4653
      @renoldojeffrey4653 3 роки тому +1

      @@Kenar.E It may seem like that, but that’s because women want to feel heard and not just “be fixed” or have their issues figured out all the time because they most likely already know the solution to their issue. it’s not better or worse, it’s just different. Women don’t need to just accommodate or learn to think like men and men shouldn’t do the same, they’re uniquely different in their own ways and we should appreciate the differences.

    • @Kenar.E
      @Kenar.E 3 роки тому +3

      @@renoldojeffrey4653 I know, and I know it's different, but since I KNOW it maybe THEY should too!
      I told my GF: if you want a solution come to me, if you want to vent, talk with your friends.
      But of course she doesn't and I am stuck in this eternal loop of listening-"I'm so sorry for your situation".
      Also: when I finally DID NOT tell her a solution but just listened she looked at me waiting for something.
      I said: "What?"
      She: "Well, tell me something."
      Me: "I'm sorry to heat that, it sucks..." and I believed it!
      She: "No I mean, tell me..." and she interrupted herself.
      Me: "ARE YOU TELLING ME THAT I HAVE TO GIVE YOU A SOLUTION!?!?"
      She laughed, I laughed, I threw her out the window.

    • @pascalscherr5206
      @pascalscherr5206 3 роки тому +5

      Yeah when I got into boxing and I'd mention it in conversation with other guys there'd always be this very subtle shift in their body language and mannerisms toward me
      It made me realize how much fighting or physical dominance underlies male conversations when we're not even necessarily aware of it

  • @valentinewiggin9705
    @valentinewiggin9705 3 роки тому +10

    I always experienced existencial anxiety, so when I found a woman that loved talking about every single trivial event that she experienced I felt as I had been blessed by god to have someone around me that kept my feet on the ground. I appreciate time alone, but I also love relaxing by listening the story about how her friend finally found the purse she was looking for. :)

    • @MamaEliseLockwood
      @MamaEliseLockwood Рік тому

      That is so sweet 🥰

    • @florencehenderson3707
      @florencehenderson3707 Рік тому

      ah ok, that is a more positive spin on it. I can understand that, maybe that's why the SOUND of a woman's voice seems to be so important to men... then they don't care what she is talking about so much LOL.. ? true, if I like someone's voice, I will listen to anything. but that's rare!

  • @jeffcauhape6880
    @jeffcauhape6880 3 роки тому +12

    When asked about the difference between male and female soldiers in the Infantry, one Captain commented that two men can share a fox hole for two hours without speaking, and neither one will wonder if the other is mad at them.

  • @Maceta444
    @Maceta444 5 років тому +25

    Man she is so spot on in her observation of the differences in men and women when they "come home from work". I never really tought about it but I hardly tell anything about what happened in college to my family besides a funny anecdote. And my dad is silent as a rock and always has been. But my mom and sister go over it sometimes to the neurotic point of recalling whole conversations of minutes "so then I said and then she said so I said to her..."

    • @florencehenderson3707
      @florencehenderson3707 Рік тому

      absolutely! it's so often about what someone said, and you have to get the words exactly right and their facial expression and all of that.. so she says and HE said and then SHE.... and the women are completely engaged by it.. :) .... it can be social land mine talking to a woman... she wants you to trash everyone you know... and then put a smile on for them...

  • @ianrajkumar
    @ianrajkumar 4 роки тому +9

    Her comment on Brazil is accurate, I've been living here for almost 3 years and a lot of women dress extremely sexy.. and us men? T-shirt and Jeans and that's enough, I never heard women here expressed the slightest concern about the way men dress.

  • @febweb17
    @febweb17 Рік тому +4

    I was raised in a household of 4 women and no men until I was 15. My mother taught me how cook, iron and keep myself clean. I could, and still can, chat with women. When my wife goes clothes shopping I go with her and give her my honest opinion. At times I find conversation with some other men boring, cars and sport are ok for a while but often that's the only conversation they have. I don't care what sort of car you've got, I only care that it's reliable, and sport is only a game. Having said that I'm a definite heterosexual with no yearning to wear my wives clothes. I'm a hunter gatherer who enjoys the company of like-minded men and women who don't treat me as some sort of toxic male.

  • @brandongarcia2765
    @brandongarcia2765 6 років тому +9

    This is SO GOOD. I understand exactly where she is coming from because most of what she is talking about are pretty much across the board generalisms that we as people often dispute the specifics (like, two actual guys who have a fight and get a beer after. Not likely, however, I do think that attitude is the EXACT sentiment that heterosexual men have about maybe conflict [?]), but it's understood to us that we act this way. So, this is good.

  • @redsnow1167
    @redsnow1167 6 років тому +27

    Lol this is fantastic. This woman is wonderful.

  • @MrSzymonurai
    @MrSzymonurai 5 років тому +3

    Thank you for posting these lectures

  • @mensrea1251
    @mensrea1251 4 роки тому +2

    She’s such a fearless, educated speaker. Love it.

  • @olafspetzki
    @olafspetzki Рік тому +3

    "Men don't need to communicate."
    It's even worse. When men come home from a stressful day at work the often urgently need their calm and peace to decompress, to reduce tension that build up during the day. So not only don't they need to communicate, they need to not talk or listen. They need to be deprived from input and verbal interaction for a while.
    In such a situation pressing a man into listening to machine gun blablabla can be extremely stressful for a man. In fact so stressful that they flip out.
    This is even more the case because men communicate very differently. Men speak less words, the story is compact and in order and filled with facts. No side stories, nothing unnecessary, few emotions. Men tell summaries. If a have to listen to a woman's story and I am in a stressed mode it feels like diving through a pipe holding my breath desperately hoping for the end of the pipe.

    • @florencehenderson3707
      @florencehenderson3707 Рік тому

      😳wow women should understand this... just wait a few hours on the story...

  • @gregc3614
    @gregc3614 6 років тому +8

    She is great!

  • @PerfectSolutionsLTDA
    @PerfectSolutionsLTDA 4 роки тому +3

    I'm a man and I'm from Brazil, (lived here my whole life)
    I'm a living witness of what she described memememd

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому +1

      Fato, irmão - a mulherada parece que fala pelos cotovelos e se veste como se fosse pra um baile de gala, já os homens se vestem casual e quando falam parecem que ficam entre show de comédia e um campeonato de ofensa...

  • @jacquesvandermeer6668
    @jacquesvandermeer6668 4 роки тому +7

    In fairness I should express a caveat to the diatribe I feel I’m about to launch into, i.e., I should admit to being somewhat provoked by what I perceive as propagation of terrible male stereotypes which I have long since overcome as models of my world view, and also I have only begun to listen to Camille Paglia’s presentations. In any case, to be alive is to be provoked, it can’t and shouldn’t be avoided - could lead to insight of some merit to me. Anyway for what it’s worth here is my somewhat reactive response, meant to support men like myself who don’t subscribe to stereotypical male self-image)
    (By the way I sure hope she has an oxygen canister close by...and paddles) Enough. In my experience not all heterosexual men are relegated only to grunting and expressions of machismo and braggadocio. Many of us read excellent authors, appreciate fine and creative music, are versed in the philosophies of various art movements, are lovers of jazz and classical music, attend art shows, are creative and artistic ourselves and are not threatened by gay men or women. (and could you recognize such an Epicurian if you lurched headlong into one?) Many of us “guys” know that a well developed sense of humour and solid self-confidence are perhaps the male attributes which women, those who like men, find most attractive. [please indulge a brief outburst if you will but my god! you get paid to disseminate (de-seminate) these male stereotypes? C’est tres ordinaire] For a woman to appreciate the aforementioned qualities in a man requires, however, an environment where they can both stop and breathe. Otherwise how are they going to know there’s anyone else there? How are they going to experience and appreciate the otherness of each other? Certainly not by philibustering and riding rough over the other. (That would be an attribute of the male stereotype you appear to purvey in so obdurate a manner,
    wouldn’t it ?) I would never have found myself trapped at the receiving end of such a philibustering diatribe. I’d have left abruptly as soon as I witnessed the trip I’m supposed to take. Because, I regularly engage in heathy and mutually respectful conversations with women and men whom I encounter. There are emotionally intelligent men in this world and really, I bother to respond (even though I experience this presentation as a browbeating while I’m trying to keep an open mind.) ...I bother to respond so as to encourage them to pursue the authorship of their own lives and to eschew the tyranny of ersatz authority at any speed. Authorship over authority and dialogue over lecturing every time. Steady on men! And as for me I believe I should continue to explore the further thinking of Camille Paglia. There must be more to her than this, she is so widely honoured and celebrated.

    • @intothenight528
      @intothenight528 Рік тому

      my new fave word 'braggadocio'

    • @westbw7525
      @westbw7525 Рік тому

      lol easy to be bombastic behind a pen name. Get a grip

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому

      Dude, you did too much just to say "the stereotype is valid, but I choose not to abide to it".

  • @critiqueview859
    @critiqueview859 3 місяці тому

    I hope she's healthy and strong we need her continued insights in both academia and in sex/gender discussions to continue far into the future- to figure out and elucidate- one of the greatest mysteries of Woman/Mankind in regard to dialogue involving "Viva la différence".

  • @joeschmoe6802
    @joeschmoe6802 4 роки тому +19

    How does she explain heterosexual men who are writers, or talk show hosts, or newsmen? I think that she accurately portrays a blue collar version of men (of course not all blue collar men, but generally true.) She doesn't seem to acknowledge the articulate heterosexual male. Her analysis is interesting, as always (I love listening to her speak.) However, it's pretty one dimensional as it pertains to males (probably in terms of females, too.) I think that there is a continum, of heterosexual men that ranges from the cro magnon men, to the more sensitive, more articulate males. Her brush is broad. However, I think that she overly generalizes for sake of making a point.

    • @DeltaflashSeven
      @DeltaflashSeven 4 роки тому +12

      If you aren't going to talk in generalities how could you talk at all about the genders? There are billions of members of both genders and there is of course fantastic variability, but that doesn't mean that there are also statistical and obvious trends on both sides. Also people adapt to the general not the exceptions. So when you meet a new woman or man, you will have generalized expectations and procedures when you initiate conversation. You will realize that every individual is unique and as you get to know them you will adapt to there personality, but that doesn't mean there is a general reality that men and women are different in this way. These generality also become obvious when you put groups of people together, because a group of 100 random women will most certainly act very different together than a group of 100 random men, even with the outliers in the mix. To think otherwise is borderline insanity.

    • @joeschmoe6802
      @joeschmoe6802 4 роки тому +7

      @@DeltaflashSeven You are effectively saying that you have to generalize about each genders behavior, I say bull shit. There are guys who like sports, other guy don't. There are women who like to work in a shop, others don't. The generalizations don't work, and are a disservice to people who don't reside within the generalizatioins.

    • @j3ffn4v4rr0
      @j3ffn4v4rr0 4 роки тому +8

      @@joeschmoe6802 You're effectively saying that the practice of making a point by using generalizations is BS.........and that's BS. It's actually totally non-logical to focus on the generalization rather than the point, and attempting to negate the point by turning the attention toward all the ways generalizations are not universal. Hey, guess what....NO generalization is universal.

    • @pfftwhut7638
      @pfftwhut7638 3 роки тому

      Those are jobs. Construction workers don't come home and start sawing and hammering

    • @DontDrinkthatstuff
      @DontDrinkthatstuff 2 роки тому

      @@joeschmoe6802 Men exist on a more diverse spectrum so I definitely hear what you're saying but typically there's a personality type that the average man can fit into as long is it isn't too specific.

  • @repeatrepeatrepeat
    @repeatrepeatrepeat 4 роки тому

    i'm overwhelmed by this video.

  • @SupernalOne
    @SupernalOne 5 років тому +21

    Right, if there's a problem brought to my attention that I must fix, I want to know symptoms, details specific to solving the problem -- I really don't need to know or care about the emotions that were elicited by the problem or all the inaccurate surmises that didn't hold water, it's confusing, distracting, counterproductive -- no offense, but call your mother for that bit, I need to get on about fixing the problem

  • @BoopShooBee
    @BoopShooBee 6 років тому +71

    Did you ever watch chickens. The hens walk around going cluck cluck cluck constantly, and every now and then the rooster will let out a loud COCK A DOODLE DO.
    Us humans are so much like chickens it's embarrassing. And chickens aren't even mammals.

  • @EvoXoverdrive
    @EvoXoverdrive 4 роки тому +4

    we, gay men, are here to correct the communication error between str8 men and women :P
    ..me..helping couples connect since i was out...

  • @valerianmandrake
    @valerianmandrake Рік тому

    She keeps saying "okay?" and I zone out of her frantic hysterical speech after 30 seconds

  • @johnglennmercury7
    @johnglennmercury7 4 роки тому +9

    I passed a primary school this morning where there was about 6 boys aged 11-12 hanging around outside. One greeted a new arrival with a kick in the belly. It was hilarious. That's. What. Boys. Do.

  • @tomoth77
    @tomoth77 Рік тому +2

    When women get together to talk about a problem, they talk about the problem. When men get together to talk about a problem, they talk about the solution.

    • @brandonvandyck
      @brandonvandyck  Рік тому

      Had not heard that. Rings true...

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому

      ​​@@brandonvandyck pretty much this: men apply the "the smallest distance between 2 points is a straight line" principle in COMMUNICATION, going like this:
      Men see problem -> men analyze problem -> IF he can solve problem by himself, then he solve the problem -> IF NOT, talk to someone who knows and solve the problem -> ONLY THEN you b*tch and moan about the problem, but during that, you TEACH how to solve the problem.

  • @nicksundby
    @nicksundby 3 роки тому +5

    I'm a guy but often it seems to me that women's compliments for each other are not sincere.

    • @desireesmith862
      @desireesmith862 Рік тому +1

      I’m a girl and I’ve often thought the same. Many girls seem to compliment to make themselves look better rather than because it’s their honest opinion. Honestly makes me a bit disillusioned.

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому

      Women's compliments to eachother are ALWAYS laced with poison in their voice.
      Men curse one another in jest.
      Humans are WEIRD, man...

  • @mickadatwist1620
    @mickadatwist1620 3 роки тому

    I truly enjoy this

  • @romulomenellicardoso4201
    @romulomenellicardoso4201 4 роки тому

    When she talked about Brazil... Soooo true.

  • @joshjohnson2600
    @joshjohnson2600 4 роки тому +7

    Haha I keep seeing posts about how fast she talks. She says “okay” instead of uh or um...you all do that and you speak slower. Her brain to mouth connectivity is superior.

  • @puma0316
    @puma0316 Рік тому +2

    All I hear from her is how women are awful to men because they want to talk. Interesting she never mentions that it is compromise between both. What she says is that men don't need to communicate.
    A woman at home with kids or a woman who works want to talk to their partner. But somehow that's her problem and she needs to be silent. That drive home, men, that's your alone time and be prepared to hear your partner when you walk in the door, because her psyche can't take holding all the information in. At the same time, women, give him some time before the conversation, because his psyche can't handle it.
    Respect seems to be needed when talking about this issue. It is not just a one sided problem amd most of us don't live in a traditional hunter/gatherer society. Men may think women are tedious because they want to talk but women think men are just as tedious because they don't.
    To the women dress for other women...they do AND they dress for men. Men may not compliment but they LOOK.

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому

      Problem:
      Our biology (neural architectural arrangement) DID NOT advanced as fast as our technology - we are still with the same brains our species have 20 thousand years ago, and no amount of demanding now can change this.
      We still are caveman hunters, we just became VERY good in making tools to obtain food faster and easier...
      Also, on the dress: men look at the "whole picture", not the details - if it looks good, its good. If not, than it is not.
      Yep - we men are still APES...

  • @joaodecarvalho7012
    @joaodecarvalho7012 4 роки тому +13

    Fashion probably has more to do with status than beauty.

    • @srijanagrawal255
      @srijanagrawal255 3 роки тому

      yes, personally, i always wear a black shirt with grey pants because i wanna look like rich

    • @VengefulPolititron
      @VengefulPolititron 3 роки тому +1

      long nails Means don't have to work.
      anything difficult is better.
      in Africa its fat.
      here is high heels and thin.
      also purses are so your belongings don't ruin the shape of your body
      makeup is an extreme copy of what happens to their faces during the bang bang.
      it's all programmed

    • @joaodecarvalho7012
      @joaodecarvalho7012 3 роки тому +2

      @@VengefulPolititron There is an idea that the elites tend to differentiate themselves from the masses. The increasing speed of change in fashion, which has been occurring since the 19th century, would occur because the masses began to enrich and copy the elites, leading them to look for new ways to differentiate themselves.

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому

      Its both.

  • @grrrlbreaker
    @grrrlbreaker 2 роки тому

    Thank G-d for subtitles!

  • @saucyjk6453
    @saucyjk6453 6 років тому +12

    Truly a national treasure The Keith Richards of feminism.Love you camille.

  • @starwarfan8342
    @starwarfan8342 5 років тому +8

    Goddamit I have to take my precalculus final tomorrow
    Why am I here

  • @MyPaperTiger
    @MyPaperTiger 4 роки тому +3

    Interesting how she mentions that she noticed gay men having "female social abilities". I know there were studies done where they found certain brain structures differing between the sexes and gay men and women held the same brain shape differences as their opposite sex. So I would venture to say that it could very well be "nature" as well as societal pressures that give gay men the gift of "feminine" levels of perception and conversation.

    • @Elite_agent_Miko
      @Elite_agent_Miko 3 роки тому

      Gift of feminine levels of perception and conversation. I don't mean to be rude here but from what i've seen that socalled gift is something that make the process of achieve equality between genders ect. Much more difficult and slow.

  • @JohnSmith-dj5gf
    @JohnSmith-dj5gf 3 роки тому +2

    Woman: Blah blah blah talk talk talk.....
    Man: Does any of this have anything to do with me?
    Woman: No
    Man: eh, I’ve lost interest

  • @benjamingisby
    @benjamingisby 3 роки тому +4

    Refreshing to see someone think for themselves by looking around for themselves without a sexist woke lens.

    • @florencehenderson3707
      @florencehenderson3707 Рік тому

      when I was a young feminist I was so fascinated by her, but also triggered !! now I just love her. and I don't have to agree with everything she says, I'm just glad she is saying it.

  • @stephenbrookes7268
    @stephenbrookes7268 4 роки тому +3

    I wonder if having grown up in a house full of women is why I find it difficult to communicate with guys. I have very few guy friends. Women on the other hand are drawn to me like a magnet.

    • @stephenbrookes7268
      @stephenbrookes7268 3 роки тому

      @Austin Kalkins The nature v. nurture argument has certainly been responsible for some abominations, like eugenics and conversion therapies. It does rather seem that we are what we believe we are in our mind. Forcing a person to change what they are is only going to lead to mental health issues.
      I think the best way to deal with children is to give them unbiased information, and let them sort out what they want to believe. Enforcing a political or religious ideology on kids is a form of abuse.
      Encouraging them to form a set of principles that they feel are theirs and are high level principles is best. Unfortunately what usually happens is parent teach their children their own prejudices. Children are also very susceptible to trends and fads, but there is a great deal of danger in making irreversible changes to a child's body to embrace their current fad as any ephemeral beliefs that they may have in preteen or adolescence are subject to change very rapidly. I am very much in favour of showing a child the path, holding their hand as they walk it if necessary and waiting to see what happens
      I just made sure that my sons were given an abundance of unbiased knowledge, the ability to differentiate between good and bad information by researching, a reasonable level of formal education and support in any chosen path. If we simply teach them how to learn without forcing our beliefs on them we have fulfilled our role as parents.

    • @VengefulPolititron
      @VengefulPolititron 3 роки тому

      explain fast and slow twitch muscles.

  • @terencewinters2154
    @terencewinters2154 4 роки тому +1

    Emotions are often unresolved feelings and feeling how women get their charge which is why they more often hold grudges. men often see these feelings as some of explosive dynamite and either put them aside for mutual self preservation or keep their distances in order not to get into fight or flight conflicts. Or there others who relish this conflict to assure their dominance. In sum men fight over strength and women over beauty. And they both fight over money.

  • @zaxbitterzen2178
    @zaxbitterzen2178 4 роки тому +5

    Weirdly enough when I get into a passionate topic I tend to enter near lightspeed speech like she does.

  • @lawrencethompson8996
    @lawrencethompson8996 6 років тому +11

    Bill Burr illustrates the differences quite well in some of his stand up routines

  • @zedchild
    @zedchild 5 років тому +5

    Camille Paglia has never had a conversation with me. There are men that CAN HAVE WONDERFULL CONVERSATIONS, those of us (straight guys) that can, are just not inclined to do so with everybody, nor, especially on command. I do have to say, that she really reminds me of me when i get all wound up because I'm interacting with somebody that i feel is worth my time. I do it then i pay the penalty, almost as if it's a hangover. One of the biggest traits of being an Introvert (INTJ variety).

    • @LordOfTheWhores
      @LordOfTheWhores 5 років тому +2

      As a straight male I have met a lot of younger girls like her and had in depth conversations that lasted for hours but around other men my thought process changes but I tend to mirror people I'm around but still preserve my core beliefs. I'd actually love to sit down and talk to her.

    • @zedchild
      @zedchild 5 років тому +2

      @@LordOfTheWhores As would I. I have deep conversations with anybody that can hold them. Sometimes they assume the status if a student and i the teacher. In other cases, we are peers. In rarer cases, i am the student, and they are the teacher. When Camille says that men aren't that way, i really take it as many or most are that way. I tend to agree with her. But some of the most profound conversations ever had been with others my age, both male and female, that i happen to meet by chance. In fact, that is how my spouse and I fell in love. Talking while sitting in the sauna at the Austin, Texas Townlake YMCA. She and i have some of the most wonderful conversations. Camille generalizes and it is true enough to resonate with people. There are differences between the sexes. But It is not as all-encompassing as many would believe. Cas in point: you and I both have had long deep conversations with women. I've learned about as much from women as i have from men. The only difference i have noticed is straight guys generally expect or think I want to get them in the sack. Straight women are typically surprised, some vocally disappointed when they learn I wish to just talk with them and not take them to bed. But, for the most part, they tell me that they can say things to me that they would not be able to say to most other guys. All because I'm particular about who I'll have sex with.

    • @mirifyk1
      @mirifyk1 5 років тому +2

      What is true at the population level doesn't not necessarily apply to the individual.

  • @mk-themakening4448
    @mk-themakening4448 4 роки тому +5

    I would say that for males aesthetic perception of clothing on women especially is too closely linked to sexuality and thus it results in them not daring to give such compliments as they dont want to show attraction towards them too directly (you might be rejected after all) and are scared of misleading unattractive women (or fellow men) into the conclusion of them being perceived as sexually attractive. We dont have a sufficiently unmisleading way of separating the persons attractiveness from the beauty of their clothes in both our perception and our speech

    • @CanadianMonarchist
      @CanadianMonarchist Рік тому +1

      As a bisexual man I always compliment women on their clothes and accessories.

    • @Anaximander9
      @Anaximander9 7 днів тому

      I think most men don't focus on the clothing a woman is wearing. Instead they are focused on how the women looks, particularly from a sexual aspect. In short, women focus on fashion, men on beauty.

  • @lauryn2868
    @lauryn2868 4 роки тому +1

    This is so interesting 🧐

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому

      Spread the info to other woman, I BEG YOU!

  • @designthinkingwithgian
    @designthinkingwithgian 4 роки тому +2

    Women do dress for men too, but to COMPETE with other women. We are all animalsz

  • @DaWhiteWolffie
    @DaWhiteWolffie 6 років тому +2

    DOh! I wanted to hear the whole lecture.

  • @Rwecosher
    @Rwecosher 4 роки тому

    How bloody relieving! Thank you for saying the truth and not ramming bullshit ideology into me. Get real, women!

  • @SliszMeisterGeneral
    @SliszMeisterGeneral 4 роки тому +1

    Oh my god do watch it at 0.75 speed!!!

  • @davidw4987
    @davidw4987 5 років тому +22

    This is all mostly true but something of a gross generalisation. There are plenty of straight men who are great conversationalists in the right time and place and there are of course plenty of women who rise well above talking about minutiae of looks, relationships and clothes.

    • @fuckeverybodyonhere
      @fuckeverybodyonhere 4 роки тому +1

      Yeah, the gay ones

    • @mementomori286
      @mementomori286 3 роки тому

      @@fuckeverybodyonhere i'm not gay

    • @jacobodom8401
      @jacobodom8401 3 роки тому

      @@mementomori286 Who would ever think you're gay with all the sex scenes in your books?

    • @paccawacca4069
      @paccawacca4069 3 роки тому +3

      I fucking hate it when people complain about generalisation.
      Trends exist, and its implied that their are exceptions.

    • @lamentate07
      @lamentate07 10 місяців тому

      Yes, but men who are great conversationalists tend to viewed as a bit odd and unconventional.

  • @MrGarysugarman
    @MrGarysugarman 2 роки тому +1

    Men do notice the micro particulars of a woman's hot outfit - we just don't blurt it out in micro detail.

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому

      Pretty much - its almost "cavemen" the thought process:
      Woman pretty? I feel good, so is good.
      Woman not pretty? I feel no good, so is bad.

  • @OneTwo1989
    @OneTwo1989 4 роки тому +4

    she's like the Tarantino of the academics

  • @Un2100
    @Un2100 Рік тому

    Men don't care about words because they read emotions, words just get into the way of the useful comunication.
    The only thing words can give its facts and information. Emotions can be red in other ways

  • @mandelorean6243
    @mandelorean6243 Рік тому

    Women being the voice of the community, who doesn't belong, who needs to go etc make me realize a new view on what I've always noticed with them.. When saying anything negative about someone else they OFTEN finish with "Oh, but she/he is a nice person though."
    I'm starting to think it's their speech patterns that are along the lines of condemning but reassuring others that she doesn't mean to oust this individual, just that is trivial slander.

  • @raindrop6041
    @raindrop6041 4 роки тому +2

    ahahahah this is so funny! i am laughing so hard!

  • @juanmilano224
    @juanmilano224 4 роки тому +9

    Ben shapiro italian mother

    • @SebastianJArt
      @SebastianJArt 3 роки тому +1

      He'd be smart if she were his mom.

    • @juanmilano224
      @juanmilano224 3 роки тому

      @@SebastianJArt were? Is it not "was"?

  • @FriedPi-mc5yt
    @FriedPi-mc5yt 4 роки тому +1

    3/4 speed is the answer.

  • @azizdemnati7058
    @azizdemnati7058 5 років тому

    hehe just saved by this woman westen girls!! i thaught u didnt exist long time ago. bravo Camille

  • @amidaobscura
    @amidaobscura 6 років тому

    Look for "Mark Gungor Tale of Two Brains Full" in UA-cam. He talks about men and women communication, and does it with humour. Awesome.

  • @rushelm8101
    @rushelm8101 Рік тому

    Under the terms of Feminism, mens behaviour is required to accord with women's requirements. I constantly hear how "self-focussed" men are, how about we all recognise men's right to communicate how they feel comfortable to communicate.

  • @leefields3658
    @leefields3658 Рік тому +1

    How on earth did she come to understand men so well?!?

    • @florencehenderson3707
      @florencehenderson3707 Рік тому +2

      paying very close, unbiased attention... she is fascinated by this stuff and willing to look at it as truthfully as she can.

  • @johns9478
    @johns9478 4 роки тому +1

    This woman understand men better than the brainwashed college boys I meet

  • @ST-yc7uj
    @ST-yc7uj 4 роки тому +2

    Women dress not for other women, but because they don't want to be underdressed, because even though
    a man does not notice in detail why a woman looks nice to him, he will surely be unconsciously turning his head after the best dressed women in the room.
    Women praise each other for good style in the same way men do for good work,but they are competing with each other as well as enjoying having a good opponent next to them.
    A lesbian woman can't pick up on this, the same way a gay man can't inherently feel the purpose of the fist fights.

  • @emilbrandwyne5747
    @emilbrandwyne5747 5 років тому +1

    Russel Brand is not gay. Just an example

  • @davidlewis1474
    @davidlewis1474 4 роки тому +3

    Give her a glass of water

  • @ethereal_land
    @ethereal_land 4 роки тому +3

    This was far fetched and just a little ridiculous

  • @nikoisfun
    @nikoisfun 4 роки тому

    Im not familiar with the housewives what exactly is the referring to?

  • @crosscastle100
    @crosscastle100 3 роки тому +1

    0.75 speed good

  • @jimb3093
    @jimb3093 2 роки тому

    Kind of reminds me of Ken Burns

  • @petroglyph79
    @petroglyph79 6 років тому +2

    Heterosexual men conversate its just that we dont talk to women. Cause men and women dont talk about the same shit.😁

  • @angelabrooke5059
    @angelabrooke5059 14 днів тому +1

    She is generalising a little though. I agree that women notice the nuances of other women's dress but some are way more interested than others. I will notice another woman's clothes and comment on something that looks nice but do not want to spend overly long talking about clothes etc. I want to talk about more cerebral things - except talking about emotions and relationships is also a big one. Some women want to talk about clothes, shopping,hair , nails ( !!!) ad nauseam and I think more tom boyish women are bored by this.

  • @byourselfluvyourself9978
    @byourselfluvyourself9978 4 роки тому

    She is the only female understanding men!

  • @flip-phone_becky4655
    @flip-phone_becky4655 2 роки тому

    6:29 - That part could be really scary. "Look at her necklace!!".... Is that a person being nice or are they inviting group based mockery and bullying? Mmmmmmmmmmm..... Scary. We'd need to know more about how was saying it, who it was about, the people who were there, the group dynamic, and past events to know.

  • @kohaku1821
    @kohaku1821 3 роки тому +2

    Ummm..... Have you ever seen guys in drama club?

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 3 місяці тому

      Exception to the rule...

  • @A.B467
    @A.B467 2 роки тому

    I don‘t know why I don‘t recognise myself in the way she described women

  • @JohnDoe-zl6qw
    @JohnDoe-zl6qw 17 днів тому +1

    *It's not that men are oblivious to women's fashion, scattered thought process, and broken sentence structure. It's that we don't care to waste our time obsessing over childish frivolities that contribute nothing to meeting and overcoming the challenges of life and maintaining a functioning civilization.*
    *We've got work to get done; we don't have the luxury of sitting around talking about our feelings all day. And when the work day is done, all we want to do is relax and recharge our batteries (in whatever manner befits each man) because we know we have to get up tomorrow and do it all over again.*

  • @brittmclean5700
    @brittmclean5700 4 роки тому +1

    The Bible" A man sharpens a man like iron sharpens iron" The friction between us brings out the edge in both.

  • @prschuster
    @prschuster 6 років тому

    Feminists, please stop demanding that men express their feelings the same way women do.

  • @binnybullsack6884
    @binnybullsack6884 Рік тому +2

    So they objectify themselves, but it's still men's fault.

  • @benisjamin6583
    @benisjamin6583 4 роки тому

    Any sources? Where is this clip from.

  • @MrMexijorge
    @MrMexijorge Рік тому

    Yes there is something essential, it's called biology and MGTOW.

  • @madeasimmons9746
    @madeasimmons9746 Рік тому

    The difference in the IQ chart for men and women is not genius and psychopath; it's genius and idiot.

  • @AnubisOda
    @AnubisOda 4 роки тому

    Play this back at 0.25 speed, so funny.

  • @MattFoleysGhost
    @MattFoleysGhost Рік тому

    I was definitely a better conversationalist when I was younger but if you don’t surround yourself with great conversationalist you lose it, start internalizing, and on the outside your just like all the other cis men.

  • @sarameiragootblatt1819
    @sarameiragootblatt1819 4 роки тому +3

    My husband is a good conversator. This is a little reductionist.

    • @Thomas-fu8vp
      @Thomas-fu8vp 4 роки тому

      Maybe he is bisexual.

    • @lewistaylor2858
      @lewistaylor2858 4 роки тому +2

      there are always outliers

    • @mpg73
      @mpg73 3 роки тому +1

      Can we not point out general trends without elaborating all the asterisks anymore?

  • @cbcsucks2205
    @cbcsucks2205 3 роки тому +1

    It is well known anthropologically that language was developed by women.
    Someone had to tell the man the trash was piling up in the cave.

  • @brclb90
    @brclb90 5 років тому +1

    Its like she has to cover three curriculums but has the time for one.

  • @keld101
    @keld101 4 роки тому +1

    ok

  • @Ogrematic
    @Ogrematic 4 роки тому +1

    I dated a girl who used to talk about her feelings all the time. She had feelings about every damn thing. One day I gave up listening and just watched tv till the ads. Then I looked at her, listened for a minute, asked her how about the last thing she said, asked her how it made her feel, then turned back to the tv when the ads were over. She talked non-stop for 4 freakin' hours. I no longer care about your freakin' feelings, I've had enough. I know women always comment on how others dress, and those comments are always different when the other person is in/out of earshot, but I only look at other men like they are competitors in the ring. I don't care how they dress, just how they handle themselves.

    • @CanadianMonarchist
      @CanadianMonarchist Рік тому

      It sounds like you both had a lovely evening.

    • @florencehenderson3707
      @florencehenderson3707 Рік тому +1

      I think women should stop being petty and trivial and when they are being that way, and taking up ALLLL the air in the room it should be pointed out to them. I don't think men should have to listen to them constantly when they act that way and men should find a woman they're actually compatible talking to...dreamy, I know, but turning off your brain while someone prattles on four hours sounds like a dysfunctional relationship...

  • @flip-phone_becky4655
    @flip-phone_becky4655 2 роки тому

    She can see it because she's outside of it.

  • @nikolarajkovic4595
    @nikolarajkovic4595 4 роки тому

    1:50 she was interrupting herself and almost talking over herself

  • @louisfrancis11
    @louisfrancis11 3 роки тому

    Okay

  • @chrisjury6931
    @chrisjury6931 4 роки тому

    Well, when your in the woods and the Grizzly is heading your way you don't have much time for chat, and those who did probably did not survive - I think community style is a case of natural selection.