I got married at 18 and divorced at 22. Im 32 now. I promise you will find that special person hun. Maybe this is just God's path to something greater. Just always believe that.
I married my first husband when I was 18 as well and both of us were headed to college. We were together since we were 15 in high school and were eachother's first times. He was a really nice guy and always treated me great, we almost never fought, and were together for 13 years before we got divorced. Basically we got a mortgage loan when we hit 22 after my husband graduated and he scored a VERY high paying job and I dropped out. The reason for divorce was on my end sadly... My husband was on the "smaller" side and was only like 6 inches down there... he couldn't satisfy me because of that. I had been cheating on him from the age of 19 to 31 (through almost the entire marriage) with 8 guys in college and about another 8 I met online after I dropped out. One day while my husband was at work I invited one of my friends with benefits over and one of his friends for a threesome because he hadn't been laid in over a year and had blue balls supposedly lol, not sure if that is a thing but yeah lol... blue balls just sounds weird I guess... So yeah... we had sex and my main friend with benefits mostly just watched lol it was kinda weird like he just sat in the corner and jerked so idk what was up with that but yeah... Well, my husband came home two hours early and kind of caught us because we were upstairs and didn't hear him come inside and I didn't notice until I heard him open the door... Let's just say things got VERY awkward and I almost had a heart attack when he caught me! He saw me in the middle of missionary and just stood there motionless and crying for like 3 minutes straight lol so I told the guys to get dressed and leave and I apologized to my husband and tried to hug him and told him I was sorry and wouldn't do it again but he just didn't react at all and then just yelled at me like a crazy person saying "I loved you, why did you do this? We were just talking about having kids because we are 30 like you wanted!" before leaving and not coming back home for like a week. He handed me divorce papers and begged me to sign them so I did, I ended up getting the house and car but he got his truck, I let him get all of his stuff, and he moved out. I saw my ex-husband about 4 months ago (like a year and a half since we got divorced) while I was shopping and he was with some new woman who was prettier than me so I think she will cheat on him as well because he is lacking "down there" and no woman can deal with that. Sadly, my friend with benefits blocked my number ever since that day we got caught but I've been dating a few different guys but I'm not sure which one to pick. It's just lonely living in a 3 bedroom and 2 bath place by myself so I have been trying to get pregnant but I got diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian syndrome about 2 years ago so my gynecologist told me I will have a hard time getting pregnant. I've been seeing 6 different guys since my divorce but none of them seem to be able to get me pregnant, it's just frustrating you know? I have always wanted kids but I wish I would have had them younger but I was always on birth control. Sometimes I wonder if I should have just not cheated on my ex husband and just been content with my larger toys but that's in the past now. Sorry for venting, this subject just triggers me...
Wouldn't it be awesome if we could of sent you a message assuring you that God had incredible plans for your future!! Michel, your future is absolutely beautiful!! Your future husband is amazing, and you love you so completely!!
Personally this is your business. Support is what I can give. Judgement is something no one has a right to in any cases. This season will pass. A close family member went through this at your age. She is fine now happily married. We just gave her a lot of love and support. Hang close to your momma she will help you through all of this. Please don’t let the trolls get to you. A lot have faith and care about you. Many prayers for you. Remember you have to put your oxygen mask first before you can take care of others.
I watched this two years ago when you released it, Michel! I’m watching again now as a woman who’s just ended an engagement 30 days before our wedding. Thank you for your vulnerability. It gives hope for the future! Especially since we have the benefit now (in 2024) of seeing where your journey takes you!
Hey all, I know we are supporting Michel with thoughts, prayers, and advice. But another way we can support her that someone suggested over on the Facebook group is by rewatching her old videos to increase her views and in turn helping her financially. Just an idea!
This!! That's what im talking about...let's show up for eachother in hard times. I will definitely watch her old videos. May the Lord bring her peace and understanding as she heals 💗
I won't give you any advice, nor give my opinion as I could never understand what you are truly going through. Just know I'm here for you, as are a lot of people, to support you however we can. I'm glad you're with family at this time. Take all the time you need to heal, we'll be here no matter what.
I am from a Christian family and I was married young. By 24 we were divorced. My ex ended up not sharing my same values. It was one of the worst things in my life. If I had to do it again, I would every time. I became such a strong successful woman because of it. I have a great man now, and have been with him for 11 years. It took me years of being alone and finding myself to be happy and allow someone else in my life. You will get there. Give yourself time and grace. You will come out of this stronger, I promise.
Beautiful Michel ~ it's now August 31, 2023 ... and just look where you are now; engaged to Jordy & you guys + your folks have just purchased a home in Oceanside! 🥰
You have wedding planned with me and now we are divorcing together. Everything you’re saying is exactly how I feel. We really do have good things ahead and there is always a plan for us ❤️ Love you sissy❤️
I’m so sorry girl ❤️ check out Marriage Helper (UA-cam and Save My Marriage course - not just abt saving your marriage but about working on yourself and communication with your spouse). They seriously helped save my life when my spouse said he wanted out
Oh, sweet girl. My daughter went through this 4 years ago - unexpectedly found herself in a divorce situation. She moved back home and took time to heal. I'm pleased to report that she has fallen in love again, and is once again happy. Give yourself time. Allow yourself to grieve the relationship. Take good care of yourself. You WILL smile again. This Momma believes in you.
I have been struggling broken up before wedding, abused bz men's, I have no opportunity as moving back home. I have to go through alone everything. Breakdowns every week and sine turned 30 it's getting even harder. Finding someone geniue is impossible it feels like. I been single for 10 months and my trust and head still very far from healing. It might be that not everyone will be happy again and find someone true ever. 🫨🥺
I am a therapist so this is professional as well as personal experience. THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY TO GRIEVE. Do your best to give yourself grace and time. Sometimes journaling or some way to externalize feelings can help. Blessings to you both as you navigate this heartbreaking (no matter the reason) path.
I agree when I was grieving an emotional loss of a personal connection I felt so much better writing a letter to the person but never actually sending it. Just writing out my thoughts and feelings over the split really helped me.
I am also a therapist/clinical social worker and I just wanted to send you my support. Marriage can be the hardest thing we go through, plus being public at such a vulnerable time adds a new level of potential distress. But, you are just so clearly a brave woman and so strong --and just please remember you're just not alone. Debbie is absolutely right about grief, it's not linear and it can affect you somatically (like throwing up). Anyway, my gorgeous girl (inside and out), you just show up exactly how you are at any moment as the beautiful strong woman you are, and I really think you will be so embraced. I hope you can take some time for yourself to heal. I have never met you, but I truly want that for you. You give so much even on your videos and if we can give you anything back as a community, I'm think many of us will. Cling to those good moments that bring you healing. Sending TLC.
This can be looked up as I'm limited professionally in how I can help (ethics/legality), but I just wanted to offer a quasi resource I learned professionally from a modality called "dialectical behavioral therapy." It's an acronym called TIPS to reduce moments of high distress, at least temporarily, to take the edge off intense periods of emotional pain. There's a lot of evidence to support breathwork soothing the body. It goes as follows: T: TEMPRRATURE CHANGE Ex: Bundle up with warm blankets, walk outside in the air, cold plunge or hot shower I: INTENSE EXERCISE Ex: 10 jumping Jacks, 10 second run in place P: PACE BREATHING Ex: slow your system down by breathing slowly (inhale for 3 seconds, hold for 3, exhale for 3) OR for low motivation days you can fire breathe (take short breaths in and out quickly to get oxygen flowing) S: Self Soothe Ex: playing with Max, writing, talk to a friend, laugh when you can, walk in nature, those things that you eluded to that give you moments of joy
Michel, I have been subscribed to you for years and I didn’t realize how much I cared about you as a person until I cried watching you cry about this. I can’t tell you how sorry I am. I can only tell you that time is the ultimate healer and that I hope you find joy and support from others in your life in this new chapter. Sending good vibes and prayers your way.
Michel I am so sorry!! I clicked on this so fast. I never would have expected this. I am sending you love and support. You deserve all the happiness and love in the world. There is no wrong way to grieve. I have thrown up from emotional distress as well. You are not irreparably broken or alone. I hope we can support you and not make this any harder for you than it already is.
I have several friends who went through divorces earlier in their 20’s than you are (you and I are the same age.) They voiced similar shame and isolation for being divorced in their 20’s. You are not alone. I hope that it brings you some solace that they are healing and happier now. You will get through this. You are so strong❤️
Michel, I'm so sorry to for your pain. With all you've gone thru with your health......you have shown how strong you really are. ( I have had Lupus for over 30 yrs...........but I have lost a lot of family and friends--- mostly thru cancer---and I'm still here.) You will be fine......may not be real soon, but you will be. You have an awesome family, lean on them. You also have so very many people on here who love you. I've loved you from the first time I saw one of your videos. Just hold on to Jesus, be true to yourself, lean on family and friends. Take care of yourself
I planned my wedding watching your videos and now I am also getting a divorce. I AM WITH YOU. I have also never grieved before and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. This pain is like no other but I keep telling myself I’m going to be okay. Blessings to you as you navigate this.
Also divorced young. What I would say to myself is “One day you’ll be proud you made it through this” and “I’m proud of who I am”. Time and what I did with the time was what helped me the most. I wish you healing, gratitude and internal happiness!
I'm so sorry, Michel. I went through this at 27...after 7 years of marriage and three little boys. When you said it feels like you've been hit by a car...that's EXACTLY how I put it. I promise you that everything does get better, even my relationship with God is so much stronger. I wish nothing but the best for you both. 😥❤🙏
I've always looked up to you, you are such a strong woman. Everybody grieves differently so you take all the time you need. "Every storm runs out of rain eventually" you'll get through this girly sending you all the love and support ❤️🌼
I went through a lot of financial crisis during my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college..
I'm a single dad. Not quite long I started investing. I'm very curious and need help on how to enhance and increase my returns. Any good investment tips would be appreciated
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@@stephaniefythm just got out of my marriage,I have had the intentions of starting investing. But I always thought it was late and I think I need to stop procrastinating. I will definitely 🔍 Regina Louise Collaro and see what she can advise .Thanks a lot . This was of so much help to me .
I know you'll probably never read this, but please know you're not alone. I was with my ex for 18 years, from the age of 14 to 32. We broke up in January of 2021. I had to grieve my relationship, the future I thought I would have, and everything in between. I was inconsolable depressed and in a very dark place. Please know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing whatever you need to do to bring any sort of light into your life right now. I did some things that looking back seem silly or waste of time to other people, but it was all about survival. Taking the next step into moving on even if just for that minute. Hour by hour will pass and day by day will turn into month by month, and someday you won't even notice that you stopped crying. All my love and positive energy is with you and I am truly heartbroken for you. Please know your worth and listen for your inner peace.
Sending prayers during this hard time. This isn’t an easy time and you deserve to have the space you need, but your community here loves you for you. Grief has stages sweetheart and as much as it hurts you will become stronger and you’ll find support that you didn’t even know you had. Just continue being you and your community will be here for you whenever you’re ready for us to be here for you. Sending love, hugs, and prayers darlin.
Michel, you will be okay! I was in a relationship from 18-27. I’m 27 now. And I can’t tell you how painful it was. It was a feeling and emotion I had never experienced prior to that moment. I stopped eating, felt completely broken, like a failure and it did take me some time. But now when I look back I see it happened the way it was supposed to. I’ve made room in my life for things I wasn’t making room for while in a relationship. Because, as you stated, I was focused so much on trying to be the most loving/understanding partner and thought that would be enough. I hope you heal quickly! You will be happy! I know it!!
Michel, I cried with you. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is so hard to vocalize grief, and I think you’re so brave to share this online. Please take all the time you need to heal.
At 51 I can look back and realize this one life has been like multiple lifetimes. Different times, places, people, circumstances, etc. What is all-encompassing today will become a memory that feels like a different lifetime as life moves on. What is important is what kind of memory you choose to make it. It is all shaping you, creating the platform by which you will make your future choices, and challenging you to step into who you are as an individual. Be gentle with yourself and don't even read comments from negative people. I promise, theirs, is an opinion that means nothing to you unless you allow it to. The pain of the moment is sadly inevitable *hugs* I wish you much peace and understanding in your heart. Without any long stories, I want to give you one piece of advice. When you do stand up and take that deep breath and think 'what now?" It is very interesting to look at the scene of your life as the beginning of a chick flick. Imagine the leading lady you'd be rooting for, and be her. You will find yourself whole again.
I'm finding it hard to think one day the man I loved with everything I had will be more a scene of a different life. I know it'll happen just as I now look at my childhood or high-school years this way. But it seems so diminishing for such a big love. How does one do it?
It feels strange “liking” this video but just know others are going through this too and it truly does get better after some time. For me it was about a year after moving out. Being friends has helped. Giving myself permission to not handle the photos and wedding related items has also helped. 🖤 you’re a warrior. Do what YOU need to do every day.
Sending thoughts and prayers to you both. Please take time to care for yourself in this hard time. As someone who has been going back and forth with this over the last few months I know this is extremely hard. You are a strong woman and an incredibly strong person to go through this publicly. The people that watch you love you the way you are. Happy times and sad times we are here for you.
Michel, I was in my early-mid twenties when I went through a divorce and I'm Christian (now in my 30's). I'm so very very sorry for your heartache. I prayed at the time I was going through it that it would somehow benefit someone else. If you ever want to talk or you have any questions that I can attempt to answer or even just pray with you, I would absolutely do that. I'm part of your facebook group and also follow on instagram if you ever want to reach out. Praying for you.
Aww, praying for you. Went through a long difficult divorce in my 20’s myself and now I’m in my 30’s and it’s just difficult all the way around especially being Christian and feeling judged with kids. God is Omniscient, Omnipotent and Omnipresent, you’re never alone. Sending love and prayers hang in there, you’ll get through this ♥️
Michel, idk how I came across your channel, but I’m glad I did. I can relate in so many ways. I got married at 20, probably should’ve divorced at 23. It was so hard coming to terms, especially being a Christian getting divorced. I’m now in my 30s about to get divorced. In my case, I feel like I wasted so much time staying in an unhealthy marriage. Hang in there, praying for you ❤️
This hits me hard. I, too, am dealing with this situation.... We met when we were 12. Started dating at 17, got married at 22. He's 33...I'm about to be 33, and we are getting divorced.. I so know what you're feeling.
Oh sweetheart I'm sorry sad that you are dealing with a divorce. It's not easy for anyone. Sending lots of hugs and prayers for the both of you. You are HUMAN!! You deserve to show your emotions, it's hard to feel good everyday especially in a situation like that. Yes you can throw up, not sleep and be a general mess in general but it's part of your grieving process. Wishing all the best to both of you. ❤❤❤
When I saw you went to Texas by yourself I feared the worst. I prayed so so much whatever it was would pass and you would be ok. No matter what God is on your side and will get you through this. You will come out stronger and your followers will always have your back and support you. It may not make sense now, but it will later. “The teacher is always silent during the test.” The best thing you can do for yourself is take care of YOU and stick with Your faith in God. Cherish the good memories you had, have no regrets, and know that this will lead to something better for both you and Brook. We love you so so much and will be here for you no matter how you feel, whether you want to film or not.
Michel, though I am 41 now, you remind me a lot of my younger self. I went through a divorce around your age, which was final after only 4 years of marriage. We had a dog together, we lived far from our families, I am Christian - it wasn’t easy. What I can tell you is that we are both okay. You WILL be okay. But for right now, it’s okay to not be okay. Please take care of yourself and do not hesitate to reach out if I can be of any support. ❤️
I am also going through a divorce at 26 years old. Your words echo exactly how I feel. Thank you for sharing part of your life with us. I know it’s not easy but you have made me feel so much less alone by sharing this. I know things will get better for us ❤️. Sending hugs
I went through this at 30, after 8 years. I can tell you it gets harder before it gets better, but you do learn to move forward. I actually just found out that my ex has remarried and welcomed his first child...its hard for me, but I know what we had was real and I will never forget how we grew and changed through our time together. You will get through this. Just keep one foot in front of the other. The good thing is that you're still young and you have your entire life ahead of you. You will be okay, I promise.
@@TheKatiecatapillar yes, but nothing is as easy to perpetuate as young love. I have since found myself in a couple of long-term relationships, but the older you get, the more baggage people come with, myself included. so nothing permanent (yet) Though I am hopeful
Oh Michel, my heart aches for you. I’m not sure if you need these verses, but the Lord put these on my heart: The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
I’m so sorry Michel. You are light and love and you deserve nothing but those things! It will all be okay in time and you will get through this. Sending love and prayers your way. 💖
I went through a divorce at 27. I was so ashamed I didn’t even tell my parents for months. You’re going to be ok. I promise. I’m 41 now and happily married. You are so brave to be so transparent. I couldn’t at your age. Praying for you. You will find your happily ever after.
I like how you identified this as a “season”. Please allow yourself to grieve. With support, you will heal and you will be able to move forward! Girl, you got this! Big hugs❣️ As a Christian as well, let me encourage you that Jesus doesn’t want you to stay in a relationship where your hurting. He is all you need. Trust him and he will direct your steps!
I’m so sorry. :( I’ve gone through it twice, and it’s so difficult and heartbreaking. I will be keeping you and your families in my thoughts and prayers.
Michel 💛🌷 i am so sorry sweetie. That's a hard thing for anyone - regardless of why/how it happens - dont ever feel the need to share the reasons - it is NO ONE elses business. I am so so sorry. Take care of yourself. Youre a strong person, and have such an amazing heart. We'll all be here to support you. xoxo
Oh Michel. I can’t even imagine how you feel. Your grief process is just that, yours. You do whatever you have to do and know that you have my support.
I am watching this after having just watched your video of your wedding to Jordy. God is good. Always trust the process. All things work together for our highest good, no matter what.
I usually don't comment but your tears truly hurt my own heart. I went through a divorce at 23 as well, and I can completely empathize as you go through this. Divorce is not black and white, and I had a lot of grace towards my ex-husband, like you. Despite our challenges, we are human beings and deserve dignity and respect. And that is a private, intimate matter, between you two. Good luck sweet heart
@@Gustavog74 see the time stamp and the rest of the content before bashing people. It's a good thing she moved on because there is no point in crying for a criminal. Hope you are doing well in your own life. Cheers.
I’m so sorry Michel. I know how it feels. I’m going through something similar (I say similar because I don’t know the reason why you guys are getting divorced)... but I’m christian, got married young, I thought being a good wife was enough for keeping my marriage strong, I never ever imagined I would be filling for a divorce... and now I am. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to go through all of this rollercoaster of emotions and still have to share. It’s all new to me too. Painful. Honestly, I still don’t know how I’m going to go through this. I’m searching for apartments, organizing our finances etc. But I know I’m strong. We are strong. Maybe we have to learn something from this to be able to get a bigger blessing?! I don’t know, some days I’m all positive and other days I just cry, feel ashamed and don’t care about anything (just my family know, and close friends). But one day at a time. Michel, I’ll be praying for you. We are going to get through this. 🤍
Oh Michel I just want to give you the biggest most giant hug possible! You are such a strong, beautiful woman and I am sending you all the love and support you need.
I’m so sorry Michel, my heart goes out to both of you during this difficult time. No matter the reason, you both deserve as much happiness and joy life has to offer. You are not alone in this even though grief can feel isolating. I hope you find comfort in your family, close loved ones, and this community during this time. We all accept you with open arms. Please feel comfortable to do everything you need in order to take care of yourself without judgement. You will get through this with time sweet girl!
I have been through a similar situation. My relationship with the Lord just grew stronger and I’m married now, and I’m happy! It’s not easy and I went to a ton of therapy and sometimes I still have hard moments. You’re not alone ❤️
I'm so sorry. Lay in the arms of your Father God, he loves you and wants the best for you. Time will heal, this is just a season. You are such a sweet lady. God bless you and safe travels
First, let me say that you are adorable, and your smile brightens my day. I look forward to hearing “Hi friends” and seeing that big ole beautiful smile! Seeing you so hurt is heartbreaking. I am much, much older than you, but when I was your age, I also went through a very painful divorce. I felt like my heart would LITERALLY BREAK. Like you, I had never grieved, so it devastated me. As a Christian, it also embarrassed me. My husband and I attended the same Church, and though we had only dated for a couple of years, we had known each other since the age of 5. I felt like a complete failure in so many ways. I want you to know that your heart WILL HEAL, and you will be a better person on the other side of all the sadness and confusion. God has a plan for you, and He is walking by your side throughout this journey. We love you, and I am praying for you. On a humorous note... I was seen as the girl that always had it together. However, people were not aware that I used to get in my car and just drive around SCREAMING! I’m not sure why, but it made me feel better. I also prayed a lot, but at one point my prayers turned into questions such as, “Ok God, how long are we going to be doing this?” Or “I don’t mean to rush you God, but can you hurry and show me the lesson?” I actually started laughing through the pain. Instead of doing what others expect of you, do what makes YOU feel better.
I am 23 years old and currently going through a separation that wants to result into a divorce. Coincidentally, your video popped up on my feed. God knows I needed this. Please pray for my marriage. For God to restore and make a miracle out of this mess🙏🏻❤️
@@queengeebisadondashe5571 Hi there. I just want you to know that only time can heal. We got divorced and it has been the best thing that has ever happened to me… what I thought was out to destroy me was only the ignition to get me started on my purpose and full potential in life. It’s true when they say “God knows what He’s doing.” He closed one door but opens 10 others. Praying for you!! It all gets better🙌🏻❤️
I went through a divorce in my early 30s, it’s not easy. You’re not alone, lean in on your friends and family. They will help you through it! Also, take time for yourself. It’s so important. It gets better, so much better! I’m now remarried to such a great, loving man with two fantastic step kids and so much happier. Sending big hugs!
We’re so sorry, Michel! All of us will be here for you on days you can’t bring yourself to post, on days you post and you’re upset or down, and days you are happy. Please take time for yourself to heal.
Take your time to heal, Michel. We're just here to listen to you without any judgments. I'm praying for better days for you. I admire your courage to still share with us your personal life. We all go through tough times. It is totally understandable if you need to take a break and slow down. Do what you think will feel best for you. You are enough. ❤
I’m so sorry, Michel. I went through a divorce at 26 and it felt like the end of the world. There’s no wrong way to grieve and however you show up here will only allow all those who watch the opportunity to remember their own messy and beautiful humanity. Hold onto your faith ❤️ Both you and Brook will be okay one day. Sending so much love.
Sending you prayers sweet girl. You will get through this, and be stronger than ever! We all hate to see you hurting like this. But coming from someone who’s gone through this, you are WAY more stronger than you think! Feel all the emotions, it’s ok. You have an amazing family support system. Reaching out and giving you a big hug from So. Cal.❤️❤️
My prayers are with you and I know exactly how you feel, I myself got a divorce at 21 years old and am a Christian as well. Counseling was the best thing for myself during that time even when I wanted to give in to all my feelings Jesus and my counselor were always there for me. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through truly and I feel so sorry for you to have to go through this. ❤️❤️❤️
I have been subscribed to you and I didn’t realize how much I cared about you as a person until I cried watching you cry about this. Lets just say I can empathize with you, keep your family close, and grieve in whatever way you want. Don't judge yourself or be too hard on yourself. Keep strong
I'm praying for you. No need to put a silver lining on things, because that actually invalidates/suppresses those emotions. Take care of your privacy, don't worry about stigma or judgement. Easier said than done. I have family members that got divorced (young, also Christian) and know that it's complicated. One had to get antidepressants temporarily while they managed it. I've had some therapy sessions and realized it's all the little things that build up underneath until it's like an iceberg, and when you see the tip come out, it can make everything, little and large, unbearable. For me, things like perfectionism, little pieces of childhood trauma, etc. were more formative than I thought for anxiety and depression. At any point you might want to ask for that help. I also recommend a podcast I've been listening to called The Full Cup -- in a nutshell, it's empowering self-therapy, a psychological yet Christian perspective on things, slow at first but it becomes great and is applicable to everyone. Brene Brown talks about shame (and empathy/grief); I recommend her material, dealing with shame and self-criticism myself. Take care of yourself and feel your grief and know that your family, friends, and Christ are there to be with you.
What 🥺🥺🥺🥺😩😩😩😩 I will pray for Brook and yourself in these times . Sigh . I felt this from you said you will be in Texas for a while .I really pray for you hun for strength in these times . Just wow
I’m currently separated and haven’t had any communication with my husband for some weeks now. I tried for many months to get him to work on our marriage and he didn’t and admitted he hasn’t been trying. He made the decision to get a divorce. This has been really helpful and I feel like someone was saying all of my thoughts out loud, particularly about telling ur family n how hard it is to be there for them through that whilst ur trying to process ur own emotional turmoil. And moving back to family, giving up my career and processing all of the emotional grief. I’m in my 30s. I’m also worried about finding a husband that I will want to have children with soon. Thanks for sharing ur thoughts, felt like a mirror. ❤
Hey! ☺️ I am in a good place, thank you for asking. I have moved back in with my family. He filed for divorce very quickly and I always told him it’s not what I want but I won’t contest it. I asked for no money, nothing. Not contesting it is the best decision I made for myself (even though everyone thought I was mad lol). But it has allowed me to move on quicker with the process, the heartbreak, grief and my life. It should be finalised by the end of the year and I’ve been very strong and cut off all communication with him. Also, feels great to know everything I have is from my own money and hard work. I didn’t need money, I wanted his love and support. I am not rich but luckily I am stable enough to be able to afford to take some solid time out of my career and have been investing time in myself- sitting alone at coffee shops with good music or reading, local day trips alone and I am planning on a couple of solo holidays abroad (I used to like doing that prior to getting married and when I was single). I turned 35 this week. I’ve started speaking to people but no dates. Scary dating world! It’s changed a lot and seems people lead you on then ghost. That’s hard. Feeds the rejection I’ve felt in my marriage but counselling and self care has helped. Only sad and unanticipated result of the divorce tag I’ve felt is that men seem to think I just want ‘fun’ now. No, I still want and would love marriage again. It’s like being back in my early 20’s! So bizarre.
I’m so sorry you guys have to go through this... Sending you lots of love and support! We will be here waiting for your videos, take your time to rebuild yourself
Oh Michel I am so so sorry. 😞 you are in my prayers sister. I’m so sorry you are going through this. ❤️ I’m sending you so much love. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
I’m soooo happy that Max will be with you!!! He will be the best listener. I’ve always had an animal to voice my opinions to and they never tell anyone. Drive safely. ❤️❤️
I've been through 2 divorces. The way you feel, you won't always feel. You have to worry about YOU. Don't worry about what other ppl think. You do what you have to do. Grieving is normal, you never expected to be on this page. Bigger and better things are in your near future babe.
I’m so sorry to hear about this but honestly, happy at the same time. Life is too short to be unhappy and whether it’s one sided or two, this is the best thing for you in the end. Better now then after years of wasted time and pent up resentment. You are already a lot stronger then you think you are by sharing this with your community.
Oh my goodness, sending a big hug to you!! Please don’t pay attention to all the ignorant comments. You need to do what you need to do HOWEVER you need to do it ❤️❤️❤️ stay close to your support system.
I just came across this video searching for someone in my shoes. I am going through a divorce as we speak… papers are being served to my husband tomorrow. I thank you for being so vulnerable and honest and sharing your story and feelings. I now don’t feel to alone and lost. I hope since this video your life has seen some sunshine. You deserve it. I am holding on to hope myself, one day I can find myself again… but the road is rough getting there. I just pray each day that God grants be the strength I need and will take it day by day. 💛
Oh sweet heart I was your age when I got divorced and with 2 babies and though I never thought I'd never get through it.... I DID AND YOU WILL THE BOTH OF YOU!!!!! Prayers sent.
You know you have every right to turn off comments, if you wish. Since you did not, you don’t have to read them now or ever. We (or hopefully most of us) can continue to love you both and support you both as you go your separate ways. I went through this in my mid twenties. As bad as it hurt, I later realized it was better to be apart than to stay in a relationship that was not working.
Sending both you and Brook comfort and strength in such a difficult time. The loss of what we thought our life would be is often the most difficult to process.
20 is so young omg i will turn 23 and can barely find a crush let alone go through divorces and find love.. can you give me tips on how to find the man of my dreams?
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this, there is a new life waiting for you but you need to get through the grieving process to get to the other side. There is no right or wrong way to go through this. Just know that all of us who have walked this walk are with you in thought and spirit. Hugs from NC
This hurt my heart for you and Brooke; I'm not married, but I am in a very unstable relationship of 7.5 years with 3 children aged 3.5, 2.5, and 6.5 months. It's been more apparent lately that it is not going to get better, but is in fact becoming much worse. It is so hard to figure out how to even leave the relationship. Be very grateful for your independence and your very loving supportive family. They look like they are the best, and lean into them when you need to because that is exactly what family is supposed to be for. You are so loved by all of us, and I have felt all those emotions and then some. It will be a journey, and you will not only survive, but you will thrive once you have healed. Take care of YOURSELF. And do not think that you have to tell anyone why or how this very difficult decision was made. You do not owe "us" anything at all!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Sending so much Love Light & Gratitude✨
I’m here for you Michel. I’ve watched you for a long time and you are wonderful. I’m sorry this has happened to you. I know it’s cheesy but when one door closes, one opens. And you are resilient.
My heart hurts for you and this season of grief you're enduring. I truly believe with all my heart that you will find peace and happiness again. You have absolutely 100% nothing to be ashamed of, and anyone that makes you feel that way should be ashamed themselves. I know this is your career, but take time if you need it. We'll be here when you're ready! Sending love and hugs from TN!
My thoughts are with you. Even though I am 39 now, I got divorced at 22 with a 1 year old. All I can offer is that you will come out the other side....and I truly believe that there is no right or wrong way to do this or feel. I was raised to not believe in divorce either, but after the first year....my family understood, and they came around as did my other super religious relatives/friends.
"Faith begins where understanding ends". Oh my goodness sweet Michel, I'm so sorry you're going through this. You are such a light, and deserve the world. I hope you can remember your future as much as you do your past. Your future needs you! You are the ultimate gem, and one day, I know, you'll meet a person that will make this terrible, terrible thing have meaning. I'm so sorry for the pain and grief you're going through. It's truly like having a funeral for someone who is still living, heartbreak is. But you are the kindest and loveliest, and your best days are ahead of you. This I am sure of. With a soul like yours, I am 1000% sure your person is on the way. Sending you so much love from Austin, TX. If you're ever in town, and need a friend (albeit this being so weird since its UA-cam and all I know I know) please (please) do reach out. I have so much respect for the human you are, and consider you a GF. Praying for you, and your fam! xoxo. -Neetika B
You deserve all the joy and happiness in the world! You are such a joy on this platform and I’m so sorry this happened 😢 Sending you virtual hugs and prayers! Gods got you girl 🙏🏻❤️
All my love! It’s always a hard decision. I know how you feel. Thinking my christian marriage would last, it killed me when it was over. Things will get better. I promise. I’m happily married to a wonderful man that I’ve been with for 10 years.
Sending so much love and light your way ❤ You are a strong, confident, beautiful woman. You have so much support within your family friends and the community you have grown. You will be ok on the other side of this. Your strength and support will help you find your way ❤ So much love
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I will be praying for you. I went through a divorce as a christian in my early 20s. It wasn't my choice, but I felt shame also. I am now 51 and have been married for 22 years. Cling to God and you will definitely make it through. I understand the pain but that too shall pass, love you girl.
I got married at 18 and divorced at 22. Im 32 now. I promise you will find that special person hun. Maybe this is just God's path to something greater. Just always believe that.
I married my first husband when I was 18 as well and both of us were headed to college. We were together since we were 15 in high school and were eachother's first times. He was a really nice guy and always treated me great, we almost never fought, and were together for 13 years before we got divorced. Basically we got a mortgage loan when we hit 22 after my husband graduated and he scored a VERY high paying job and I dropped out.
The reason for divorce was on my end sadly... My husband was on the "smaller" side and was only like 6 inches down there... he couldn't satisfy me because of that. I had been cheating on him from the age of 19 to 31 (through almost the entire marriage) with 8 guys in college and about another 8 I met online after I dropped out.
One day while my husband was at work I invited one of my friends with benefits over and one of his friends for a threesome because he hadn't been laid in over a year and had blue balls supposedly lol, not sure if that is a thing but yeah lol... blue balls just sounds weird I guess...
So yeah... we had sex and my main friend with benefits mostly just watched lol it was kinda weird like he just sat in the corner and jerked so idk what was up with that but yeah... Well, my husband came home two hours early and kind of caught us because we were upstairs and didn't hear him come inside and I didn't notice until I heard him open the door...
Let's just say things got VERY awkward and I almost had a heart attack when he caught me! He saw me in the middle of missionary and just stood there motionless and crying for like 3 minutes straight lol so I told the guys to get dressed and leave and I apologized to my husband and tried to hug him and told him I was sorry and wouldn't do it again but he just didn't react at all and then just yelled at me like a crazy person saying "I loved you, why did you do this? We were just talking about having kids because we are 30 like you wanted!" before leaving and not coming back home for like a week.
He handed me divorce papers and begged me to sign them so I did, I ended up getting the house and car but he got his truck, I let him get all of his stuff, and he moved out.
I saw my ex-husband about 4 months ago (like a year and a half since we got divorced) while I was shopping and he was with some new woman who was prettier than me so I think she will cheat on him as well because he is lacking "down there" and no woman can deal with that.
Sadly, my friend with benefits blocked my number ever since that day we got caught but I've been dating a few different guys but I'm not sure which one to pick. It's just lonely living in a 3 bedroom and 2 bath place by myself so I have been trying to get pregnant but I got diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian syndrome about 2 years ago so my gynecologist told me I will have a hard time getting pregnant.
I've been seeing 6 different guys since my divorce but none of them seem to be able to get me pregnant, it's just frustrating you know? I have always wanted kids but I wish I would have had them younger but I was always on birth control. Sometimes I wonder if I should have just not cheated on my ex husband and just been content with my larger toys but that's in the past now.
Sorry for venting, this subject just triggers me...
If only this Michel knew that Jordy was going to be in her future.
August 31, 2023 ~ Yes, look at beautiful Michel now ... What a difference two plus years can make!!!
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Wouldn't it be awesome if we could of sent you a message assuring you that God had incredible plans for your future!! Michel, your future is absolutely beautiful!! Your future husband is amazing, and you love you so completely!!
Personally this is your business. Support is what I can give. Judgement is something no one has a right to in any cases. This season will pass. A close family member went through this at your age. She is fine now happily married. We just gave her a lot of love and support. Hang close to your momma she will help you through all of this. Please don’t let the trolls get to you. A lot have faith and care about you. Many prayers for you.
Remember you have to put your oxygen mask first before you can take care of others.
I watched this two years ago when you released it, Michel! I’m watching again now as a woman who’s just ended an engagement 30 days before our wedding. Thank you for your vulnerability. It gives hope for the future! Especially since we have the benefit now (in 2024) of seeing where your journey takes you!
Why you don't get married
Hey all, I know we are supporting Michel with thoughts, prayers, and advice. But another way we can support her that someone suggested over on the Facebook group is by rewatching her old videos to increase her views and in turn helping her financially. Just an idea!
This!! That's what im talking about...let's show up for eachother in hard times. I will definitely watch her old videos. May the Lord bring her peace and understanding as she heals 💗
1000% agree. Great posting Cheyenne!
This!
Great idea! I missed some and will watch those.
We've got you girl! I'll let your videos play alllll day long ❤
I won't give you any advice, nor give my opinion as I could never understand what you are truly going through. Just know I'm here for you, as are a lot of people, to support you however we can. I'm glad you're with family at this time. Take all the time you need to heal, we'll be here no matter what.
I am from a Christian family and I was married young. By 24 we were divorced. My ex ended up not sharing my same values. It was one of the worst things in my life. If I had to do it again, I would every time. I became such a strong successful woman because of it. I have a great man now, and have been with him for 11 years. It took me years of being alone and finding myself to be happy and allow someone else in my life. You will get there. Give yourself time and grace. You will come out of this stronger, I promise.
Beautiful Michel ~ it's now August 31, 2023 ... and just look where you are now; engaged to Jordy & you guys + your folks have just purchased a home in Oceanside! 🥰
You have wedding planned with me and now we are divorcing together. Everything you’re saying is exactly how I feel. We really do have good things ahead and there is always a plan for us ❤️ Love you sissy❤️
Warm wishes for your healing,don’t be sad, it’s exciting too, creating a life from scratch, all the possibilities.
I’m so sorry girl ❤️ check out Marriage Helper (UA-cam and Save My Marriage course - not just abt saving your marriage but about working on yourself and communication with your spouse). They seriously helped save my life when my spouse said he wanted out
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Oh, sweet girl. My daughter went through this 4 years ago - unexpectedly found herself in a divorce situation. She moved back home and took time to heal. I'm pleased to report that she has fallen in love again, and is once again happy. Give yourself time. Allow yourself to grieve the relationship. Take good care of yourself. You WILL smile again. This Momma believes in you.
I’m glad you let your daughter return home to heal- I wish I had the same support from my mother when I went through my divorce.
Crazy... when its unexpected
I have been struggling broken up before wedding, abused bz men's, I have no opportunity as moving back home. I have to go through alone everything.
Breakdowns every week and sine turned 30 it's getting even harder.
Finding someone geniue is impossible it feels like. I been single for 10 months and my trust and head still very far from healing.
It might be that not everyone will be happy again and find someone true ever. 🫨🥺
I am a therapist so this is professional as well as personal experience. THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY TO GRIEVE. Do your best to give yourself grace and time. Sometimes journaling or some way to externalize feelings can help. Blessings to you both as you navigate this heartbreaking (no matter the reason) path.
I agree when I was grieving an emotional loss of a personal connection I felt so much better writing a letter to the person but never actually sending it. Just writing out my thoughts and feelings over the split really helped me.
If she would have cuckolded her husband correctly it would have motivated him to change his ways for the better and they might still be together.
I am also a therapist/clinical social worker and I just wanted to send you my support. Marriage can be the hardest thing we go through, plus being public at such a vulnerable time adds a new level of potential distress. But, you are just so clearly a brave woman and so strong --and just please remember you're just not alone. Debbie is absolutely right about grief, it's not linear and it can affect you somatically (like throwing up).
Anyway, my gorgeous girl (inside and out), you just show up exactly how you are at any moment as the beautiful strong woman you are, and I really think you will be so embraced.
I hope you can take some time for yourself to heal. I have never met you, but I truly want that for you. You give so much even on your videos and if we can give you anything back as a community, I'm think many of us will. Cling to those good moments that bring you healing. Sending TLC.
This can be looked up as I'm limited professionally in how I can help (ethics/legality), but I just wanted to offer a quasi resource I learned professionally from a modality called "dialectical behavioral therapy."
It's an acronym called TIPS to reduce moments of high distress, at least temporarily, to take the edge off intense periods of emotional pain. There's a lot of evidence to support breathwork soothing the body. It goes as follows:
T: TEMPRRATURE CHANGE
Ex: Bundle up with warm blankets, walk outside in the air, cold plunge or hot shower
I: INTENSE EXERCISE
Ex: 10 jumping Jacks, 10 second run in place
P: PACE BREATHING
Ex: slow your system down by breathing slowly (inhale for 3 seconds, hold for 3, exhale for 3) OR for low motivation days you can fire breathe (take short breaths in and out quickly to get oxygen flowing)
S: Self Soothe
Ex: playing with Max, writing, talk to a friend, laugh when you can, walk in nature, those things that you eluded to that give you moments of joy
@@janeandrew3376 You most certainly are. Thanks for sharing your self inquiry. 🕵🏻♂️
Michel, I have been subscribed to you for years and I didn’t realize how much I cared about you as a person until I cried watching you cry about this. I can’t tell you how sorry I am. I can only tell you that time is the ultimate healer and that I hope you find joy and support from others in your life in this new chapter. Sending good vibes and prayers your way.
Michel I am so sorry!! I clicked on this so fast. I never would have expected this. I am sending you love and support. You deserve all the happiness and love in the world. There is no wrong way to grieve. I have thrown up from emotional distress as well. You are not irreparably broken or alone. I hope we can support you and not make this any harder for you than it already is.
I have several friends who went through divorces earlier in their 20’s than you are (you and I are the same age.) They voiced similar shame and isolation for being divorced in their 20’s. You are not alone. I hope that it brings you some solace that they are healing and happier now. You will get through this. You are so strong❤️
Michel, I'm so sorry to for your pain. With all you've gone thru with your health......you have shown how strong you really are. ( I have had Lupus for over 30 yrs...........but I have lost a lot of family and friends--- mostly thru cancer---and I'm still here.)
You will be fine......may not be real soon, but you will be. You have an awesome family, lean on them. You also have so very many people on here who love you. I've loved you from the first time I saw one of your videos.
Just hold on to Jesus, be true to yourself, lean on family and friends. Take care of yourself
I planned my wedding watching your videos and now I am also getting a divorce. I AM WITH YOU. I have also never grieved before and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. This pain is like no other but I keep telling myself I’m going to be okay. Blessings to you as you navigate this.
Also divorced young.
What I would say to myself is
“One day you’ll be proud you made it through this” and “I’m proud of who I am”.
Time and what I did with the time was what helped me the most.
I wish you healing, gratitude and internal happiness!
I'm so sorry, Michel. I went through this at 27...after 7 years of marriage and three little boys. When you said it feels like you've been hit by a car...that's EXACTLY how I put it. I promise you that everything does get better, even my relationship with God is so much stronger. I wish nothing but the best for you both. 😥❤🙏
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Did you find someone?
I am so sorry Michel. My heart is breaking for you right now. Praying for you and sending hugs your way ❤
I've always looked up to you, you are such a strong woman. Everybody grieves differently so you take all the time you need. "Every storm runs out of rain eventually" you'll get through this girly sending you all the love and support ❤️🌼
I went through a lot of financial crisis during my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college..
I'm a single dad. Not quite long I started investing. I'm very curious and need help on how to enhance and increase my returns. Any good investment tips would be appreciated
@@eadad4371 Generally, investing requires higher knowledge. For this reason, It's important to have a solid support structure (financial consultant) to guide you through especially in asset picking. I operate with (Regina Louise Collaro) an investment advisor who partners with a licensed wealth management firm. For the record, the experience has been the best for my finance.She is quite popular for her services so you might have heard of her.
She made me financially stable investing through her help, now I earn on a monthly basis through her passive income strategy... So I’ll advise you do get a good Investment advisor for yourself.
@@stephaniefythm That’s great , your investment advisor must be really good,I have seen testimonies of people using the help of investment advisors in making them more financial stable. Do you mind sharing more info on this person?
@@eadad4371 look her up on the internet and leave her a message she's quite popular for her services as she was recently featured on cnn. She can work with anyone irrespective of where their located
@@stephaniefythm just got out of my marriage,I have had the intentions of starting investing. But I always thought it was late and I think I need to stop procrastinating. I will definitely 🔍 Regina Louise Collaro and see what she can advise .Thanks a lot . This was of so much help to me .
I know you'll probably never read this, but please know you're not alone. I was with my ex for 18 years, from the age of 14 to 32. We broke up in January of 2021. I had to grieve my relationship, the future I thought I would have, and everything in between. I was inconsolable depressed and in a very dark place. Please know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing whatever you need to do to bring any sort of light into your life right now. I did some things that looking back seem silly or waste of time to other people, but it was all about survival. Taking the next step into moving on even if just for that minute. Hour by hour will pass and day by day will turn into month by month, and someday you won't even notice that you stopped crying. All my love and positive energy is with you and I am truly heartbroken for you. Please know your worth and listen for your inner peace.
Sending prayers during this hard time. This isn’t an easy time and you deserve to have the space you need, but your community here loves you for you. Grief has stages sweetheart and as much as it hurts you will become stronger and you’ll find support that you didn’t even know you had. Just continue being you and your community will be here for you whenever you’re ready for us to be here for you. Sending love, hugs, and prayers darlin.
Michel, you will be okay! I was in a relationship from 18-27. I’m 27 now. And I can’t tell you how painful it was. It was a feeling and emotion I had never experienced prior to that moment. I stopped eating, felt completely broken, like a failure and it did take me some time. But now when I look back I see it happened the way it was supposed to. I’ve made room in my life for things I wasn’t making room for while in a relationship. Because, as you stated, I was focused so much on trying to be the most loving/understanding partner and thought that would be enough. I hope you heal quickly! You will be happy! I know it!!
Michel, I cried with you. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is so hard to vocalize grief, and I think you’re so brave to share this online. Please take all the time you need to heal.
At 51 I can look back and realize this one life has been like multiple lifetimes. Different times, places, people, circumstances, etc. What is all-encompassing today will become a memory that feels like a different lifetime as life moves on. What is important is what kind of memory you choose to make it. It is all shaping you, creating the platform by which you will make your future choices, and challenging you to step into who you are as an individual. Be gentle with yourself and don't even read comments from negative people. I promise, theirs, is an opinion that means nothing to you unless you allow it to. The pain of the moment is sadly inevitable *hugs* I wish you much peace and understanding in your heart. Without any long stories, I want to give you one piece of advice. When you do stand up and take that deep breath and think 'what now?" It is very interesting to look at the scene of your life as the beginning of a chick flick. Imagine the leading lady you'd be rooting for, and be her. You will find yourself whole again.
I'm finding it hard to think one day the man I loved with everything I had will be more a scene of a different life. I know it'll happen just as I now look at my childhood or high-school years this way. But it seems so diminishing for such a big love. How does one do it?
@@blueseptember2174 maybe it's about loving yourself right now.
It feels strange “liking” this video but just know others are going through this too and it truly does get better after some time. For me it was about a year after moving out. Being friends has helped. Giving myself permission to not handle the photos and wedding related items has also helped. 🖤 you’re a warrior. Do what YOU need to do every day.
Praying fiercely for you, Michel. Sending so much love ❤️
@@aooapaaooapanews3004 Not the time or the place. Take your pathetic comments elsewhere.
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Wow I just happened upon this video- prayers right now for your lives! Jesus loves you deeply! 💕
Sending thoughts and prayers to you both. Please take time to care for yourself in this hard time. As someone who has been going back and forth with this over the last few months I know this is extremely hard. You are a strong woman and an incredibly strong person to go through this publicly. The people that watch you love you the way you are. Happy times and sad times we are here for you.
Michel, I was in my early-mid twenties when I went through a divorce and I'm Christian (now in my 30's). I'm so very very sorry for your heartache. I prayed at the time I was going through it that it would somehow benefit someone else. If you ever want to talk or you have any questions that I can attempt to answer or even just pray with you, I would absolutely do that. I'm part of your facebook group and also follow on instagram if you ever want to reach out. Praying for you.
Aww, praying for you. Went through a long difficult divorce in my 20’s myself and now I’m in my 30’s and it’s just difficult all the way around especially being Christian and feeling judged with kids. God is Omniscient, Omnipotent and Omnipresent, you’re never alone. Sending love and prayers hang in there, you’ll get through this ♥️
Michel, idk how I came across your channel, but I’m glad I did. I can relate in so many ways. I got married at 20, probably should’ve divorced at 23. It was so hard coming to terms, especially being a Christian getting divorced. I’m now in my 30s about to get divorced. In my case, I feel like I wasted so much time staying in an unhealthy marriage. Hang in there, praying for you ❤️
Aww I'm sorry
This hits me hard. I, too, am dealing with this situation.... We met when we were 12. Started dating at 17, got married at 22. He's 33...I'm about to be 33, and we are getting divorced.. I so know what you're feeling.
Oh sweetheart I'm sorry sad that you are dealing with a divorce. It's not easy for anyone. Sending lots of hugs and prayers for the both of you. You are HUMAN!! You deserve to show your emotions, it's hard to feel good everyday especially in a situation like that. Yes you can throw up, not sleep and be a general mess in general but it's part of your grieving process. Wishing all the best to both of you. ❤❤❤
When I saw you went to Texas by yourself I feared the worst. I prayed so so much whatever it was would pass and you would be ok. No matter what God is on your side and will get you through this. You will come out stronger and your followers will always have your back and support you. It may not make sense now, but it will later. “The teacher is always silent during the test.” The best thing you can do for yourself is take care of YOU and stick with Your faith in God. Cherish the good memories you had, have no regrets, and know that this will lead to something better for both you and Brook. We love you so so much and will be here for you no matter how you feel, whether you want to film or not.
Michel, though I am 41 now, you remind me a lot of my younger self. I went through a divorce around your age, which was final after only 4 years of marriage. We had a dog together, we lived far from our families, I am Christian - it wasn’t easy. What I can tell you is that we are both okay. You WILL be okay. But for right now, it’s okay to not be okay. Please take care of yourself and do not hesitate to reach out if I can be of any support. ❤️
How did you split your dog or handle that situation sometimes I want to leave but don’t want to lose the dog :(
Did you keep in touch with your ex? Or is no contact better in your opinion?
I am also going through a divorce at 26 years old. Your words echo exactly how I feel. Thank you for sharing part of your life with us. I know it’s not easy but you have made me feel so much less alone by sharing this. I know things will get better for us ❤️. Sending hugs
I went through this at 30, after 8 years. I can tell you it gets harder before it gets better, but you do learn to move forward. I actually just found out that my ex has remarried and welcomed his first child...its hard for me, but I know what we had was real and I will never forget how we grew and changed through our time together. You will get through this. Just keep one foot in front of the other. The good thing is that you're still young and you have your entire life ahead of you. You will be okay, I promise.
Did you manage to find love again?
@@TheKatiecatapillar yes, but nothing is as easy to perpetuate as young love. I have since found myself in a couple of long-term relationships, but the older you get, the more baggage people come with, myself included. so nothing permanent (yet) Though I am hopeful
Oh Michel, my heart aches for you. I’m not sure if you need these verses, but the Lord put these on my heart:
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
Beautiful...thanks for sharing 🌺 @Cameron Hupp
Amen 🙏🙏
Amen
I’m so sorry Michel. You are light and love and you deserve nothing but those things! It will all be okay in time and you will get through this. Sending love and prayers your way. 💖
I went through a divorce at 27. I was so ashamed I didn’t even tell my parents for months. You’re going to be ok. I promise. I’m 41 now and happily married. You are so brave to be so transparent. I couldn’t at your age. Praying for you. You will find your happily ever after.
Im 27 now and go throgh divorce after 8..almost 9 years. I have the feeling i will never find someone :(...
@@indiaa.110 yes!
@@susanmeier5168 you will. :)
Please don’t feel shame Michel. You try so hard and things just don’t always work out. You will be ok 😘
I like how you identified this as a “season”. Please allow yourself to grieve. With support, you will heal and you will be able to move forward! Girl, you got this! Big hugs❣️
As a Christian as well, let me encourage you that Jesus doesn’t want you to stay in a relationship where your hurting. He is all you need. Trust him and he will direct your steps!
I’m so sorry. :( I’ve gone through it twice, and it’s so difficult and heartbreaking. I will be keeping you and your families in my thoughts and prayers.
Michel 💛🌷 i am so sorry sweetie. That's a hard thing for anyone - regardless of why/how it happens - dont ever feel the need to share the reasons - it is NO ONE elses business. I am so so sorry. Take care of yourself. Youre a strong person, and have such an amazing heart. We'll all be here to support you. xoxo
Oh Michel. I can’t even imagine how you feel. Your grief process is just that, yours. You do whatever you have to do and know that you have my support.
I am watching this after having just watched your video of your wedding to Jordy. God is good. Always trust the process. All things work together for our highest good, no matter what.
I usually don't comment but your tears truly hurt my own heart. I went through a divorce at 23 as well, and I can completely empathize as you go through this. Divorce is not black and white, and I had a lot of grace towards my ex-husband, like you. Despite our challenges, we are human beings and deserve dignity and respect. And that is a private, intimate matter, between you two. Good luck sweet heart
Fake tears. She moved on already.
@@Gustavog74 see the time stamp and the rest of the content before bashing people. It's a good thing she moved on because there is no point in crying for a criminal. Hope you are doing well in your own life. Cheers.
I’m so sorry Michel. I know how it feels. I’m going through something similar (I say similar because I don’t know the reason why you guys are getting divorced)... but I’m christian, got married young, I thought being a good wife was enough for keeping my marriage strong, I never ever imagined I would be filling for a divorce... and now I am. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to go through all of this rollercoaster of emotions and still have to share. It’s all new to me too. Painful. Honestly, I still don’t know how I’m going to go through this. I’m searching for apartments, organizing our finances etc. But I know I’m strong. We are strong. Maybe we have to learn something from this to be able to get a bigger blessing?! I don’t know, some days I’m all positive and other days I just cry, feel ashamed and don’t care about anything (just my family know, and close friends). But one day at a time. Michel, I’ll be praying for you. We are going to get through this. 🤍
Oh Michel I just want to give you the biggest most giant hug possible! You are such a strong, beautiful woman and I am sending you all the love and support you need.
I am crying with you, Michel. It’s ok to totally feel everything thru this hard time. Don’t apologize! Praying for you both ♥️
I’m so sorry Michel, my heart goes out to both of you during this difficult time. No matter the reason, you both deserve as much happiness and joy life has to offer. You are not alone in this even though grief can feel isolating. I hope you find comfort in your family, close loved ones, and this community during this time. We all accept you with open arms. Please feel comfortable to do everything you need in order to take care of yourself without judgement. You will get through this with time sweet girl!
I have been through a similar situation. My relationship with the Lord just grew stronger and I’m married now, and I’m happy! It’s not easy and I went to a ton of therapy and sometimes I still have hard moments. You’re not alone ❤️
I’m so sorry. I’ve been there and it’s so difficult, but you will come through stronger with a better sense of yourself and your needs. ❤️
I'm so sorry. Lay in the arms of your Father God, he loves you and wants the best for you. Time will heal, this is just a season. You are such a sweet lady. God bless you and safe travels
Sending thoughts. Everyone in this community is here for you. Don’t be afraid to take time off if you can. Love you!
First, let me say that you are adorable, and your smile brightens my day. I look forward to hearing “Hi friends” and seeing that big ole beautiful smile!
Seeing you so hurt is heartbreaking. I am much, much older than you, but when I was your age, I also went through a very painful divorce. I felt like my heart would LITERALLY BREAK. Like you, I had never grieved, so it devastated me. As a Christian, it also embarrassed me. My husband and I attended the same Church, and though we had only dated for a couple of years, we had known each other since the age of 5. I felt like a complete failure in so many ways. I want you to know that your heart WILL HEAL, and you will be a better person on the other side of all the sadness and confusion. God has a plan for you, and He is walking by your side throughout this journey. We love you, and I am praying for you.
On a humorous note... I was seen as the girl that always had it together. However, people were not aware that I used to get in my car and just drive around SCREAMING! I’m not sure why, but it made me feel better. I also prayed a lot, but at one point my prayers turned into questions such as, “Ok God, how long are we going to be doing this?” Or “I don’t mean to rush you God, but can you hurry and show me the lesson?” I actually started laughing through the pain. Instead of doing what others expect of you, do what makes YOU feel better.
I am 23 years old and currently going through a separation that wants to result into a divorce. Coincidentally, your video popped up on my feed. God knows I needed this. Please pray for my marriage. For God to restore and make a miracle out of this mess🙏🏻❤️
Me and you are in the same boat. How has it been? I don't know if I even want God to restore anything. I just want peace
@@queengeebisadondashe5571 Hi there. I just want you to know that only time can heal. We got divorced and it has been the best thing that has ever happened to me… what I thought was out to destroy me was only the ignition to get me started on my purpose and full potential in life. It’s true when they say “God knows what He’s doing.” He closed one door but opens 10 others. Praying for you!! It all gets better🙌🏻❤️
I went through a divorce in my early 30s, it’s not easy. You’re not alone, lean in on your friends and family. They will help you through it! Also, take time for yourself. It’s so important. It gets better, so much better! I’m now remarried to such a great, loving man with two fantastic step kids and so much happier. Sending big hugs!
We’re so sorry, Michel! All of us will be here for you on days you can’t bring yourself to post, on days you post and you’re upset or down, and days you are happy. Please take time for yourself to heal.
Take your time to heal, Michel. We're just here to listen to you without any judgments. I'm praying for better days for you. I admire your courage to still share with us your personal life. We all go through tough times. It is totally understandable if you need to take a break and slow down. Do what you think will feel best for you. You are enough. ❤
God bless you and Brook. Everyone grieves in different ways. Don’t listen to anyone else’s options. You be you and to heck with everyone else. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I’m so sorry, Michel. I went through a divorce at 26 and it felt like the end of the world. There’s no wrong way to grieve and however you show up here will only allow all those who watch the opportunity to remember their own messy and beautiful humanity. Hold onto your faith ❤️ Both you and Brook will be okay one day. Sending so much love.
I wish u both the best. Michel we love you and pray God gives you the comfort you need.
You’re so brave for sharing this. Will be praying for you and BrookeS
Sending you prayers sweet girl. You will get through this, and be stronger than ever! We all hate to see you hurting like this. But coming from someone who’s gone through this, you are WAY more stronger than you think! Feel all the emotions, it’s ok. You have an amazing family support system. Reaching out and giving you a big hug from So. Cal.❤️❤️
My prayers are with you and I know exactly how you feel, I myself got a divorce at 21 years old and am a Christian as well. Counseling was the best thing for myself during that time even when I wanted to give in to all my feelings Jesus and my counselor were always there for me. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through truly and I feel so sorry for you to have to go through this. ❤️❤️❤️
I have been subscribed to you and I didn’t realize how much I cared about you as a person until I cried watching you cry about this. Lets just say I can empathize with you, keep your family close, and grieve in whatever way you want. Don't judge yourself or be too hard on yourself. Keep strong
I'm praying for you. No need to put a silver lining on things, because that actually invalidates/suppresses those emotions. Take care of your privacy, don't worry about stigma or judgement. Easier said than done. I have family members that got divorced (young, also Christian) and know that it's complicated. One had to get antidepressants temporarily while they managed it.
I've had some therapy sessions and realized it's all the little things that build up underneath until it's like an iceberg, and when you see the tip come out, it can make everything, little and large, unbearable. For me, things like perfectionism, little pieces of childhood trauma, etc. were more formative than I thought for anxiety and depression. At any point you might want to ask for that help. I also recommend a podcast I've been listening to called The Full Cup -- in a nutshell, it's empowering self-therapy, a psychological yet Christian perspective on things, slow at first but it becomes great and is applicable to everyone. Brene Brown talks about shame (and empathy/grief); I recommend her material, dealing with shame and self-criticism myself.
Take care of yourself and feel your grief and know that your family, friends, and Christ are there to be with you.
So proud of you for still trying to see the light and the silver lining even though it feels like your falling apart. That takes bravery. Much love
What 🥺🥺🥺🥺😩😩😩😩 I will pray for Brook and yourself in these times . Sigh . I felt this from you said you will be in Texas for a while .I really pray for you hun for strength in these times . Just wow
I’m currently separated and haven’t had any communication with my husband for some weeks now. I tried for many months to get him to work on our marriage and he didn’t and admitted he hasn’t been trying. He made the decision to get a divorce. This has been really helpful and I feel like someone was saying all of my thoughts out loud, particularly about telling ur family n how hard it is to be there for them through that whilst ur trying to process ur own emotional turmoil. And moving back to family, giving up my career and processing all of the emotional grief. I’m in my 30s. I’m also worried about finding a husband that I will want to have children with soon. Thanks for sharing ur thoughts, felt like a mirror. ❤
This is so sweet and sad. Would love to hear where you are now. I hope you are ok. ❤
Hey! ☺️ I am in a good place, thank you for asking.
I have moved back in with my family. He filed for divorce very quickly and I always told him it’s not what I want but I won’t contest it. I asked for no money, nothing. Not contesting it is the best decision I made for myself (even though everyone thought I was mad lol). But it has allowed me to move on quicker with the process, the heartbreak, grief and my life. It should be finalised by the end of the year and I’ve been very strong and cut off all communication with him. Also, feels great to know everything I have is from my own money and hard work. I didn’t need money, I wanted his love and support. I am not rich but luckily I am stable enough to be able to afford to take some solid time out of my career and have been investing time in myself- sitting alone at coffee shops with good music or reading, local day trips alone and I am planning on a couple of solo holidays abroad (I used to like doing that prior to getting married and when I was single).
I turned 35 this week. I’ve started speaking to people but no dates. Scary dating world! It’s changed a lot and seems people lead you on then ghost. That’s hard. Feeds the rejection I’ve felt in my marriage but counselling and self care has helped.
Only sad and unanticipated result of the divorce tag I’ve felt is that men seem to think I just want ‘fun’ now. No, I still want and would love marriage again. It’s like being back in my early 20’s! So bizarre.
I can’t imagine how difficult this time must be. Praying for you both and your strength and healing 💓
I’m so sorry you guys have to go through this... Sending you lots of love and support! We will be here waiting for your videos, take your time to rebuild yourself
Oh Michel I am so so sorry. 😞 you are in my prayers sister. I’m so sorry you are going through this. ❤️ I’m sending you so much love. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
I’m soooo happy that Max will be with you!!! He will be the best listener. I’ve always had an animal to voice my opinions to and they never tell anyone. Drive safely. ❤️❤️
I’m watching this a year latter and damn. So much has changed for you for the better. I’m so happy to see that this girl made it.
I've been through 2 divorces. The way you feel, you won't always feel. You have to worry about YOU. Don't worry about what other ppl think. You do what you have to do. Grieving is normal, you never expected to be on this page.
Bigger and better things are in your near future babe.
I’m so sorry to hear about this but honestly, happy at the same time. Life is too short to be unhappy and whether it’s one sided or two, this is the best thing for you in the end. Better now then after years of wasted time and pent up resentment. You are already a lot stronger then you think you are by sharing this with your community.
Oh my goodness, sending a big hug to you!! Please don’t pay attention to all the ignorant comments. You need to do what you need to do HOWEVER you need to do it ❤️❤️❤️ stay close to your support system.
I’m so sorry!! 😭😭😭😭😭💖💖💖 I will be praying for you!! 😭😭😭🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I just came across this video searching for someone in my shoes. I am going through a divorce as we speak… papers are being served to my husband tomorrow. I thank you for being so vulnerable and honest and sharing your story and feelings. I now don’t feel to alone and lost. I hope since this video your life has seen some sunshine. You deserve it. I am holding on to hope myself, one day I can find myself again… but the road is rough getting there. I just pray each day that God grants be the strength I need and will take it day by day. 💛
Oh sweet heart I was your age when I got divorced and with 2 babies and though I never thought I'd never get through it....
I DID AND YOU WILL THE BOTH OF YOU!!!!! Prayers sent.
You know you have every right to turn off comments, if you wish. Since you did not, you don’t have to read them now or ever. We (or hopefully most of us) can continue to love you both and support you both as you go your separate ways. I went through this in my mid twenties. As bad as it hurt, I later realized it was better to be apart than to stay in a relationship that was not working.
Sending both you and Brook comfort and strength in such a difficult time. The loss of what we thought our life would be is often the most difficult to process.
I am so very sorry, prayers for your strength mentally and physically.
I’m so sorry your hurting right now. Don’t worry about what people think. Everyone greaves in their own way, you are human, and that is ok♥️
Went through this when I was 20. Then moved on to find the love of my life. 16 years married and going strong!
20 is so young omg i will turn 23 and can barely find a crush let alone go through divorces and find love.. can you give me tips on how to find the man of my dreams?
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this, there is a new life waiting for you but you need to get through the grieving process to get to the other side. There is no right or wrong way to go through this. Just know that all of us who have walked this walk are with you in thought and spirit. Hugs from NC
This hurt my heart for you and Brooke; I'm not married, but I am in a very unstable relationship of 7.5 years with 3 children aged 3.5, 2.5, and 6.5 months. It's been more apparent lately that it is not going to get better, but is in fact becoming much worse. It is so hard to figure out how to even leave the relationship. Be very grateful for your independence and your very loving supportive family. They look like they are the best, and lean into them when you need to because that is exactly what family is supposed to be for. You are so loved by all of us, and I have felt all those emotions and then some. It will be a journey, and you will not only survive, but you will thrive once you have healed. Take care of YOURSELF. And do not think that you have to tell anyone why or how this very difficult decision was made. You do not owe "us" anything at all!!!
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Sending so much Love Light & Gratitude✨
I’m here for you Michel. I’ve watched you for a long time and you are wonderful. I’m sorry this has happened to you. I know it’s cheesy but when one door closes, one opens. And you are resilient.
My heart hurts for you and this season of grief you're enduring. I truly believe with all my heart that you will find peace and happiness again. You have absolutely 100% nothing to be ashamed of, and anyone that makes you feel that way should be ashamed themselves. I know this is your career, but take time if you need it. We'll be here when you're ready! Sending love and hugs from TN!
My thoughts are with you. Even though I am 39 now, I got divorced at 22 with a 1 year old. All I can offer is that you will come out the other side....and I truly believe that there is no right or wrong way to do this or feel. I was raised to not believe in divorce either, but after the first year....my family understood, and they came around as did my other super religious relatives/friends.
"Faith begins where understanding ends". Oh my goodness sweet Michel, I'm so sorry you're going through this. You are such a light, and deserve the world. I hope you can remember your future as much as you do your past. Your future needs you! You are the ultimate gem, and one day, I know, you'll meet a person that will make this terrible, terrible thing have meaning. I'm so sorry for the pain and grief you're going through. It's truly like having a funeral for someone who is still living, heartbreak is. But you are the kindest and loveliest, and your best days are ahead of you. This I am sure of. With a soul like yours, I am 1000% sure your person is on the way. Sending you so much love from Austin, TX. If you're ever in town, and need a friend (albeit this being so weird since its UA-cam and all I know I know) please (please) do reach out. I have so much respect for the human you are, and consider you a GF. Praying for you, and your fam! xoxo. -Neetika B
So sorry for what you and Brooke are going through. God Bless You Both!
Everyone comes into your life for a reason, if only for a season
You deserve all the joy and happiness in the world! You are such a joy on this platform and I’m so sorry this happened 😢 Sending you virtual hugs and prayers! Gods got you girl 🙏🏻❤️
Watching this video and then watching your current videos is soooo powerful. You have come so far. God is GOOD🙌🏼
Oh my gosh!! I’m soooo sorry sweetie. Hugs to you!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
All my love! It’s always a hard decision. I know how you feel. Thinking my christian marriage would last, it killed me when it was over. Things will get better. I promise. I’m happily married to a wonderful man that I’ve been with for 10 years.
Sending so much love and light your way ❤ You are a strong, confident, beautiful woman. You have so much support within your family friends and the community you have grown. You will be ok on the other side of this. Your strength and support will help you find your way ❤ So much love
I’m going through a divorce now too I really feel your pain you have to be careful wish I could give you a hug you’re amazing sweetie 😊
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I will be praying for you. I went through a divorce as a christian in my early 20s. It wasn't my choice, but I felt shame also. I am now 51 and have been married for 22 years. Cling to God and you will definitely make it through. I understand the pain but that too shall pass, love you girl.