The Hate I Receive as an Autistic Creator.
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I didn’t realise how many times I’d been called a b💛tch until I edited this 😂
If you missed Thursday’s video, I reacted to some autism-related Instagram reels (we had some relatable ones and then a mum with a weird justification for making content about her autistic kids): ua-cam.com/video/DuGcKCmIxyA/v-deo.html
And I also made one recently responding to a Harvard Psychiatrist with some interesting ideas about autism and obesity 👀: ua-cam.com/video/pR9bC9bHWRc/v-deo.html
Don’t worry - I get so many lovely comments that things like this just make me laugh. But I hopefully this was entertaining!
Thank you so much for all of your support. I really love doing this 💛
I'm so sorry you have to deal with such horrible people &/or comments.... I definitely appreciate your content, and I know others do, too.... Thank you for all you do 😃❤️🖖
They call you that because you're a strong beautiful woman making great points and they don't like it. Keep up the amazing work you fantastic autistic queen b!tch of the internet 💛
I’m glad that you’re able to find humour in the horrible comments. They sound like trolls that purposely set out to look for channels like yours. With an agenda to be hurtful. It just highlights their own bitterness.
They’re not changing the fact that you contribute great information, and present it in a way that is both informative and entertaining. 💖
I think you got called a "b💛tches" more times than a b💛tch
Bitch power!
"Social media made y'all way too comfortable with disrespecting people and not getting punched in the face for it." - Mike Tyson
seriously lmao. people online say shit that would get them assaulted IRL, it’s wild
I have a theory about why people do that. I think they do it because they have frustrations in their life, and they don't have healthy coping skills, so they go online and be mean to people as a way to take out their anger, like how some people beat up a punching bag or a pillow.
He would know something about media outbursts...
@@thetickedoffpianoplayer4193Not everyone is the same, ppl do it for various different reasons, that's one of them though. Some people would genuinely say stuff like that to people's faces too. It's just good to keep in mind the world is vast and complex.
Yep. But I get comfort to the fact that most of these haters would be shy to say even 1 word to my face
I hate how normalised hate is online, and it's somehow the creator's fault for being hurt by it. Imagine if that applied to real life.
"He murdered my sister!"
"Yeah but she went outside, you have to expect that to happen if you're gonna put yourself out there like that"
We don't have to imagine. That is pretty much the knee-jerk reaction to any woman getting assaulted.
People say that sorta thing about rape victims all the time. It's messed up.
Ikr @@saintsea-hat7891
Victim blaming is literally imbecilic
Oh that's already real. I'm sorry to make you find out but people literally say that exactly as you did in real life.
I'm artistic, autistic and I play acoustic guitar.
Lol, same
Take off the word 'guitar' and you have the opening line for a great poem! The rhythm is brilliant when you say it out loud.
@@letsrock1729 "and my guitar's acoustic"~
When I was a kid I had a joke about how the angel that relayed god’s instructions to build me had an accent, and god told him to make me artistic so it got misunderstood in transit
I play classical guitar so i cant make this joke😢.
Random fact since you showed a hyena: They are not pure scavengers, and are just opportunistic. They are capable of hunting and when they do, it can be BRUTAL.
See - I learn so much from my comments!! 💛😁
Also hyenas are matriarchal,which makes them even cooler.
Hyenas are metal.
Makin elephants real happy their nuts are on the inside
Another animal fact: Vultures are really vital to the health of the ecosystem. They can digest spoiled meat safely and thus they lower the spread of harmful diseases.
I was diagnosed at 8 years old and was told by someone (not a doctor) that I had "boys autism" because I wasn't big on masking at the time. To this day, i do not understand what they meant
I actually kinda understand what they mean (i spend a lot of time trying to decipher people who have no idea what they're talking about)
It's how autism in boys is noticeable while autism in girls is ignored.
Boys are "all" outgoing and social so "autistic boys are timid".
Meanwhile girls are all told to be timid and autistic girls are... also timid. Girls are expected to be quiet and shy so most just mask their autism. So if a girl isn't stereotypically girly she's boyish.
It's the same as if you cut your hair short and people say you have a "boy's haircut"
Just needlessly gendering things combined with not understanding autism.
From what i can gather, girls were typically socialized to mask way more (external pressure for girls to be more social usually ends up doing that). They dismissively called your autism "boy's autism" instead of acknowledging the way it presented in you- someone I'm assuming is not a boy, for the purpose of this reply. It's been a way of erasing and ignoring girls in the medical space. If the patient is not a boy, the characteristics of that presentation of autism do not only belong to boys. It was just easier for them to ignore it and treat you as an anomaly, rather than adjusting their verbiage to match the reality: how autism presents is not hinged on gender itself. They should have actually given the long description that "boy's autism" was supposed to be shorthand for.
That's my speculation, anyway
It's probably them saying you aren't as affected by the high standards for women in society when it comes to your autism. For the most part, that's why women mask more. Because they have to. So to say its "boy autism" is really ignorant lmao, boy autism is often just a healthier autism because they actually get diagnosed and get proper help in a timely manner, or at least with a childhood diagnosis they can more understand why they feel different and accept it.
The criteria for assessing autism were first based on autistic boys.
Initially it was thought that only boys could have it.
My guess is that’s why you were told you had “boy’s autism”.
You were fortunate it was picked up when you were eight years old. I was 56.
as a transmasc person I got told a similar thing but it makes sense now
I love the idea that cold mothers create Autistic children. Not that undiagnosed Autistic mothers struggle to connect emotionally to their equally Autistic children.
I have always wondered how other autistic people could choose to be parents, which is a silly thing to wonder cuz everyone's different, but in my head I'm baffled bc kids are sooooo... the opposite of everything I personally need as an autistic person (quiet or predictable noise, ample alone time, my own space, organization, etc). I mean, I get it kinda cuz I'm a teacher, but I get to go home and unmask and do what I want/need. As a parent, you don't get that luxury.
I dunno, I would love to hear what people think/experience
Yeah, this has always been my take
@@arc4705It was having children that made me realize I was Autistic. I could no longer meet my own needs and I felt I was unravelling at the seams. Knowing what I know now, I probably wouldn't have had a second child. The difference was exponential going from one to two (for me).
...struggle to connect *conventionally emotionally with their children, other parents, etc. (so that they appear cold to neurotypical onlookers).
I just wanted to add this given there's a study out there that showed neurodivergent to neurodivergent communication being as clear as neurotypical to neurotypical communication. Neurotypicals just don't know what they're seeing when watching ND to ND communication, so they don't think it's effective communication.
@@arc4705 I don't understand it either, even in restaurants when people bring their kids it immediately freaks me out. If their child then trips and starts crying I will have a panic attack and have to leave. I would never want to deal with that in my own home I would literally go crazy.
People oscillate between whether or not they see you as a "real" autistic person based on how they want to insult you. When they want it to be something to belittle you with, you're the real deal autistic person. When you're speaking on your experience or needs, suddenly you're faking for attention. I can share my experiences being Black and autistic but it's still "you're just making excuses for your problems" and my problem is wanting to not be unalived by police.
There's always this idea that autistic people are just lazy socially awkward losers who are faking to justify not trying enough socially.
"Autism is disability and "disability" isn't a dirty word" shouldn't be a hot take.
Omg (re the "lazy loser trope"), it's so true..😞
My now former therapist interpreted my being in burnout as 'i can, i just don't *want* to'.
Lady, I'm 45, not three. If i establish a healthy boundary ("i can keep pushing myself, but i don't want to sacrifice my mental health"), don't rephrase it to sound unreasonable and lazy.
I once got told by my government that autism isn't a disability and they told me they got the information from the national autism charity. I then phoned the national autism charity to check and they told me that's complete rubbish and they had nothing to do with any such reclassification. And that was the end of that, since ordinary citizens can't do anything to realistically combat governments. Lost some of my rights regardless. They just woke up and decided it one day, I guess.
What gov?
The one that said she's not autistic there's just something inherently wrong with her so she's bad at life is such an encapsulation of this attitude. Can be summed up as "there's no disorder, you're just disordered"
@@msmltvcktlUgh, that's atrocious! Sounds like your former (thank goodness) therapist was the actual lazy one 🙄
"The smartest man in the world"
I think someone might have some self esteem issues.
😂 It was obvious nothing good was going to come from someone who refers to themselves as the smartest man on earth.
Proof: elon "i think i know more about manufacturing than anyone currently alive on earth" musk keep having dumb stuff like rusty guillotine cybertruck and explody starship rocket with barely anything to launch on it
"Maybe he's compensating for something"
😂😂😂😂
He is not the smartest man in the world, he's the 2653th smartest man in the world... 😉
It's astounding the things people feel comfortable saying to another person just because they happen to be behind a screen. It's kind of embarrassing actually. That said, I would be honored if somebody called me "queen bitch of the Internet."
It would almost be cowardly to say these kinds of things behind a screen, but I think this is preferable to real life because I would just laugh too hard.
Ive been called crazy bish in real life 2 times. By different people...being an autistic woman is tricky to say the least
There are too many people on UA-cam who are far more deserving of that title, so I imagine this comment was spat out by some salty little preteen or some Maladjusted Manchild.
They are more likely showing their true colors behind the screen. So many people wear mask in public.
Right. Of the whole internet! Something that makes me laugh is that the algorithm doesn't know if you are hate watching, just that you've interacted with the channel.
Omg "are you an alpha male by any chance?" was such a good roast
90% of these comments were probably from alphamale wannabes, lets be real. hence the first guy. "thesmartestmanontheinternet" just SCREAMS that type of weirdo.
@@AiLoveAidoru Honestly, let's just call these people for what they really are: Incels.
Jup. "B's don't have feelings." Just screams andrew tate parrots. 🤢
I was born with clubfoot and other deformities with my feet and ankles, and I was once told that I wouldn't have clubfoot if I participated in team sports, which I actually did do in elementary school, disproving the idiot notion that doing so would "cure" my deformities. People can be so stupid.
Bruh. That would be like seeing somebody with a severely deformed hand from birth and saying "it's cause that damn phone".
@@jackpijjin4088 Agreed, but you know there's someone out there that would do exactly that...
I guess Tom Dempsey, an NFL kicker who set the record for longest field goal ever, a record he had to himself for 28 yards, shared for 15 years after, doesn't count. He had clubbed feet
@@kyle1910 Did he ever stop having clubbed feet?
I think the amount of people who think they know more than doctors/scientists in their area of expertise a little alarming. Like I dont even feel comfortable describing an emotion if I dont have an in depth professionally researched definition for it how do these people feel so confident sharing their head canons on reality?
Also, a lot of these comments are just, "look at me, I'm so intellectual and know more than professionals. You can tell because I can't say anything without being insulting or swearing."
They wouldn't say those things to a wheelchair user
@@skootergirl22 As an autistic wheelchair user - yes, they would. They absolutely would - especially if the wheelchair user in question is young and/or read as a girl or woman.
@@skootergirl22 and someone is lucky enough to not have seen that side of humanity yet...
@@skootergirl22 They absolutely would. With a side of 'you should get right with Jesus so you don't need that chair anymore.'
thats 99.99% of fakeclaimers comments. they go on about how a literal known main symptom of a disorder is "rare" or proof someone is faking and include at least 1 slur and 4 uses of the F word and act like they have a right LOL
The "autism" vanished comment makes me remember that empathy is important. "My experience is your experience, as well" seems to be a common belief, and is a HUGE reason why people can't relate to mental differences. "You broke your arm? I am sooooo sorry!" "You are autistic? No, you're not."
It's kind of a sad irony
@@hayuseen6683 indeed
It's also relevant to note that 'I went outside and my 'autism' went away' is entirely possible....
If a kid who has some social hang-ups happens to also have had a slight language delay and some behaviours their parent considers unusual or repetitive (even if it's normal kid behaviour like the 'why?' phase) they might get a diagnosis of ASD and then later grow out of their social hang-ups and turn out to be neurotypical all along.
But that means circumstances flowed together so that that kid was accidentally misdiagnosed, it doesn't mean autism isn't real.
Lol I was outside so much as a kid. I grew up in Florida. I biked to school in elementary school. And was always outside during recess. And you know what? I'd still ditch my friends if they started playing a game I didn't like. And go play by myself at the sings or monkey bars 🤣🤣
Hell, I've been outside for nice walks these past few days. Still autistic 😂😂😂 shocker
People also believe way too much in free will. When someone acts a certain way, it is immediately assumed that they are choosing to do it, unless they have a very obvious disability.
I have noticed... an alarming trend lately (but 'lately' in the sense that I'm only now conscious of it) of it being 'acceptable' to harass autistic people online until they reach breaking point, then treat them like it was *their* fault for reacting and following suit with 'exposed!!' Content. It isn't just bigger popular figures either; three people in my friend group alone had this happen and the ensuing stress has literally had *physical* impact.
The same exact tactics were used against my younger brother and his friends in primary school- constantly teasing, bugging and bullying them, until they finally lashed out or started crying. Then they can make even more fun of them
The fash hate ND people.
This is a really old bullying tactic. This happened when I was a kid, and from looking at some older media, it was happening at least 100 years ago.
Autistic people are particularly vulnerable to this tactic due to the social issues and emotional dysregulation.
I never fell for that type of bullying growing up. Now people think I'm a literal sociopath bcuz I don't react to stuff emotionally. You can't win either way.
Yeah it's really just large scale gaslighting
Jacksepticeye just talked about this. At one point a bot was making repeated comments about his father burning in hell.... shortly after his father died. That was the worst of it, and he worked with UA-cam to affect new policy to stop this.
From my experience they've done a really bad job at fixing horrible bot comments
@@Madchris8828they’ve done a great job at making it impossible to have a frank discussion without being censored though
@@notNajimi absolutely and to advance as people and a society we need frank discussions. Surpressing any side of the spectrum is almost always a bad thing. When we stop talking we start fighting. In general most people are more alike than not too. It's not good all around
I'm sorry for Jack and this vile situation. Ironically, if anyone wrote to me - bot or not - that my father is burning in hell, I'd reply "Indeed he is". Who could've though that trauma can be useful...
That's an evil bot
1:44 a 'useful idiot' is a term for someone spreading propaganda for a cause that they dont fully understand, or dont comprehend the implications for.
I dont know the context for what the commenter is talking abt, but theyre not calling you useful. theyre saying youre talking out your ass in favor of something they dont agree with
Funny because he's probably p!ssed because she talked down on one of the celebrities he likes to worship. He seems very ignorant and pseudointelligent, which is functionally what he's accusing her of lmao.
Maybe it was a test to see if Meg would read it literally like a "real" autistic. 🤔
(Although I really doubt they put that much brain power into their trolling.) 😂
What a stupid term
She is useful
Yeh or someone supporting like Stalin or hitler against rheir own intetests
Thank you as I was very confused by this and thought maybe it was a typo😂
"are you autistic or just a woman?" was definitely meant to be misogynistic, I guess it would probably be offensive to allistic women, but otherwise not really
It's probably meant to be offensive to both, as implying that both autistic people and women are somehow "inherently stupid".
It's also quite the self-own, because the speaker is revealing that they haven't interacted with women enough to be able to tell allistic ones from autistic ones.
Well to be fair, why would mothers be making eye contact if it's behind their husband's back? The point of eye contact is looking at someone 😂
😂 true!
Also, notice the fact that they capitalise the word "father" but not "mother". Makes it even more obvious as to what kind of opinions they have. :/
@@MineCrapSteve You're probably right, although most NTs have very poor attention to detail (and don't focus properly or apply themselves wholeheartedly to anything they do). So it's equally possible that it was a total accident while the person was typing. I, on the other hand, will always edit my comments if I see that even a comma is in the wrong place (or missing) 😊
I read it as the mom supposedly only makes eye contact with her children when her husband is around.
@@sixoffcenter80 Haha yeah probably that was what he meant i just wanted to joke because it is so insane! What mother would think all that? Making eye contact with your children only if your husband is looking and that being the cause of autism 😂
💜 from a fellow autistic woman. I've been verbally assaulted so many times that most of the time I find that I'm more amused than hurt by the insults.😂
Some insults are pure gold!! 😂💛 But I'm still very sorry you've been verbally assaulted 😩
I'm so sorry! People are evil sometimes and I honestly think they should face charges because it's illegal to discriminate and abuse people.
It's just really weird how some people use it as an insult
As long as you're happy being you and you're good looking then that's all that matters
I don't think it matters if you're autistic or not if you are it's no big deal
The whole " if you weren't so chronically online/got outside/talked to people all your 'problems' would go away and you'd realize you weren't autistic" argument is really annoying but also makes me laugh bc my autism symptoms (or"problems" as this guy would say) actually got WORSE when i did all those things bc the combo of depression, burnout, social and generalized anxiety, and untreated/undiagnosed ADHD was actually masking my autism symptoms.
Treating my depression (which included getting more sunlight and spending more time with friends and loved ones) gave me back the joy of indulging in (and info dumping about) my special interests. Treating the generalized anxiety disorder made the executive functioning issues more obvious and severe bc I no longer had the constant panic creating artificial motivation to brute force my way through. When i drastically decreased my social anxiety by working on self-acceptance and stopped hating/shaming myself, not only did i make enough friends to actually understand what my interpersonal interactions were actually like but I started masking less, infodumping more, and I naturally started stimmimg again (without the self-destructive stims like skin picking that started when i was forced to stop my natural stims) in public and private.
Things were just so bad across the board due to the ADHD, ASD, and anxiety going undiagnosed and untreated for so long that it was impossible to narrow down diagnoses until I'd started treating and accommodating my various "problems." It was kinda like a matryoska of diagnosis. Diagnosing and treating the anxiety let us diagnosis and treat the depression. Trading the depression revealed the underlying ADHD. treating the ADHD revealed the autism. Kinda wild to think about
Treating the anxiety
Ooh, new word! "Matrosky"
Also I feel like a lot of us probably get more sunlight and touch more grass than these types of people. Especially since its easier for us to get dysregulated and affects us more heavily. We're more likely to prioritize healthy lifestyle choices.
I for one know that not only do I touch more grass than these losers, but I feel more comfortable unmasking specifically because of how much time I spend outside. Heck, I ride my bike like 100 miles a month and I often ride with one hand on the handlebar and the other wiggling and flapping around in the air! 😂
@@LilChuunosukeI need to go outside more personally, but I would always try my best to treat others the way I would want to be treated. I do lose my temper a bit, especially with these low life trolls… that’s just because I can’t stand the bigotry and hatred in the world, especially after seeing it done to myself and my family for simply embracing in our culture and hobbies.
I had to delete Reddit off my phone for my own mental health because there’s just so much negativity and rage bait and I try to steer away from that shit as much as possible. I used to dwell on it in the past and it made life so miserable, to the point of contemplation at times too.
I’m not a mentally stable person and I need to work on it, but I will always try to be kind to others as much as possible and I’m not masking my “cringiness” or whatever to the world. I’m not hurting anyone by being me.
My goal is to be where you are in your journey someday 🥰
I grew up playing outside before the internet existed. I am still autistic.
people will be like "you're not autistic, just pull yourself together" and then you try and you're like "this is making it worse" and they're like "no it's not, it would only be making it worse if you were actually autistic"
I genuinely find it baffling that someone as sweet as you can still get hate comments, you're a lot nicer than I would be when talking about the likes of autism parents for example. Just goes to show it doesn't matter how reasonable you are when dealing with bigots I suppose.
This is exactly how I feel too. I have way less patience dealing with stupidity on the internet, especially stupidity from bigots. I commend Meg for being able to keep her cool while dealing with these idiots, while still doing her best to advocate for a better world for autistic people.
Bullies and Bigots always punch down. It's how they keep their delusion of superiority with the rest of the world.
That's why you shouldn't engage with trolls online. Ban them and move on. Not all speech is equal to merit for it to be "free".
There is no pleasing anyone. You could literally post something positive and people are still angry. Man people are miserable!
Bigots don't appreciate niceness. They just see it as a weakness that deserves scorn.
They can't understand it.
It's especially confusing when you get 50% of positive and 50% of negative comments, so they cancel each other out.
You: [making a silly wide-eyed face on a thumbnail]
Commenter: You're the reason for everything bad on Earth
I generally don't wear shirts with text on them, but I think I would buy something like a "queen bitch of the internet" mug.
I want a T-shirt which says: #End Ableism Now.
Being a guy with a "feminine" presentation of autism, it really went through without being seen for many years.
Same, I just did what I knew was expected of my, unintentionally Ive masked autism without being aware of it
That’s twice now I’ve heard someone show disdain for an autistic content creator by accusing them of editing their eyes to look bigger. Such a specific reason to hate on someone…
...is having big eyes as an autistic person bad? Do they think big tbh creature is telling us to look like them?...
I don’t even get it, are they confusing autistic women with anime girls??
It’s probably the same person commenting on both channels.
Really odd?!
They must really hate "Pitch Meeting".
I couldn’t resist that is a fire handle/username. There’s such a negative vitriolic, racist, misogynist attitude towards women and poc coming to terms with the fact they’re neurodivergent within the last few years even within so called neurodivergent spaces. I’m personally not looking for special treatment, I’m just glad ik why I’ve struggled for practically 28 years and now have ways to correct some of my shortcomings!
LONG LIVE THE QUEEN BITCH OF THE INTERNET 🗣‼️‼️‼️
OMG your name! Lool
I would personally say 'manage some of my challenges' rather than correcting shortcomings because I think we get gaslit for our autistic traits and that teaches us that something's wrong with us but it's false because it's a result of the gaslighting. I have shortcomings for sure, but if it's in reference to autism and why I've struggled for so long it's definitely not a shortcoming because it's not right to blame someone for not doing something they can't do.
There are always people that exist who feel the need to bring others down and the internet gives them a false sense of security to spread their hate, but it also gives them an echo chamber because they go into spaces and find the other hateful people. That echo chamber is why they end up getting so vitriolic because there's no moderating influence.
I think that despite all your challenges you are a Queen Bih. 👑👑👑
@@GeekGamer666Hard agree 👑
@@GeekGamer666 🥹 thank you for those kind words, srsly it means a lot 🥲❤️
Oh your comment about telling people in your life that you're autistic and them basically going "yeah that tracks" and not knowing what to do with that response reminded me of the first time i mentioned that I'd been diagnosed with ADHD and was considering i might be autistic to my cousin that lived next door growing up. She just immediately went "oh yeah you're definitely autistic" in an i-could-have-told-you-that tone and started listing off example after example of me demonstrating the diagnostic criteria throughout our childhood (she's a special education teacher so she's pretty familiar with the diagnostic criteria) and I'm was torn between feeling super validated and feeling like "ma'am where were you the last four years when i was agonizing over my imposter syndrome" 😂😭
I had a similar experience bringing up my suspicions to my mom, who's a retired GP. She was like "oh yeah I've suspected that for years, and also your aunt [a schoolteacher with experience with neurodiverse kids] also suggested it independently".
Like, could she not have told me a decade ago? I could have gotten diagnosed a lot sooner and started managing my life accordingly, instead of thinking I'm just weird and need to try harder and push myself beyond my comfort zone to grow.
I've been told that you shouldn't tell people, that it's kinder to let them work it out themselves, I'm not sure, especially as I don't understand fully the logic. As someone who likes clear concise honest information, loving the mantra "all the facts are freindly", I'm don't know either way. Since my ADD diagnosis and awaiting the ASD diagnosis, many close freinds and family have said oh yes, we knew or that makes sense. Maybe they didn't want to hurt my feelings. It's a shame I had to wait till my 50's to find out, and start to heal the wounds, forgive and accept myself. It's crazy, I know I'll be devastated if I don't get the ASD diagnosis as well, I still see ADD as a thing of shame! Even though my son and freinds are ADHD or ADD! I clearly have some work to do still.
All the comments really were just Either saying she's (R-slur) or saying autism isn't real
Then there's one guy (or gal) who's just swooning over her.
Tonal whiplash
I agree, I didn't see it as a hate comment?
(Still kinda confused if it is or not but lol pretty great addition to the sea of r-slurs and "aUtIsM IsN't rEal" comments)
So sorry about the horrible comments Meg. Your videos help more people than you could possibly imagine and we appreciate you ❤
Don't worry about it at all! I have so many lovely comments - it more than makes up for it 😁💛 You're so kind - thank you!
@@imautisticnowwhat Here's a lovely comment then, to be topical. You've helped me wrap my head around what it is to be autistic as a late diagnostic autist. And in a very positive and warm manner. You did much for me, a stranger on th interweb. Thanks
your videos absolutely helps alot of people, me being one.
The "stop making excuses" line really makes me see the person as a surface level thinker. That idea is based on the social level, not a rational level. Just -comply-, is what it's saying. Which is idiotic at the rational level, as a valid excuse does excuse, as it invalidates the accusation. The accusation being that someone isn't trying, or doesn't want to, or knowingly acts offensively. When the excuse is that none of that is intended and the issue is functional, not a choice, the accusation is bs. Saying someone is lazy, making excuses, or 'just that way' is not only ignorant, it acts to invalidate the other person's side entirely, declaring you can't change their mind. They do not want to know better and that statement is the definition of being lazy.
Why is it all misogyny and sexism that's paired with the ableism and denialism?
Because people who hate one group often hate other groups. Hate spreads.
I'm so glad you didn't censored user names. They lost anonimity privileges by being so vile in the comments 😌
Yeah, they said stupid shit in public. It's already there, public information.
Yeah good on her for doing that. Evil hates it when they are exposed
@@whitedragonzerureusu4480 Maybe, but it is not their real name.
I'm not even autistic myself although I do have ADHD and a friend who is autistic. She's one of the coolest students in the school, but for around 3 years, I've seen her relentlessly ostracized from anyone else. Very few people actually treat her as equal. She does something she's proud of, I hear people calling her special behind her back. She tries to participate in PE, she gets targeted and/or nobody wants to be her partner. There was even an instance where some of the other girls who normally didn't do anything in PE decided to make the activity miserable for her, until she cried. It was genuinely one of the most disgusting things I have ever seen. And to this day I still hear people use autistic as an insult. To no ones surprise I have become a strong advocate for people who are neurodivergent, because what the hell did we do to deserve this.
people will hate other people for the weirdest reasons i swear... i've never understood it
I've managed to be hated by simply existing in a room with other people. Didn't say anything, didn't interact with anyone. It got read as being 'stuck up', so I got the most vitriolic hate for the two years I was at that school.
Honestly I think it all comes down to primal fear. It’s the most basic survival instinct and we never evolved beyond our non-sapient days when it comes to fear.
Fear of the unknown to the point where it becomes anger and anger becomes hatred. People fear what they don’t understand because their animal brains are trying to protect them.
The fact that we can be so self aware and think about a world outside our own and still have the capacity to act hostile towards someone who even looks a little different just proves that we’re all just silly primates that have a superiority complex.
I wanna hear everyone’s else’s thoughts about this.
I can sometimes feel my silly ape brain judging people before I know them sometimes and I have to stop myself and think for moment what it has to do with me.
Unfortunately, disability seems to be the last taboo in society. Those in power talk a big talk about inclusion, but it is not seen in our schools, workplaces, parks, shops or on social media platforms. It's 2024. End Ableism now.
I won't lie, the "Are you an Alpha Male?" insult made me chuckle.
It was such a good clap back 😭
I'm not autistic, I watch your videos because I like learning about other people's experiences and I think you make very entertaining as well as educational videos. never let the haters get you down
vultures are cool as hell, i would not mind being compared to one personally
I agree👍
Actually many scavengers in general are super useful to the planet. Unlike the selfish hateful people who choose to just be nasty all the time.
Scavengers r the best
“Holy shit a corpse” *tearing of flesh*
reminds me of how my boyfriend calls me , buzzard as one of my pet names 😅
I'm so sorry you get these comments, they're really triggering for me and they weren't even FOR ME. I'm leaving a few minutes in but I'm sending a big hug cause these commenters SUCK
Take care of your mental health. Sending good vibes❤
Oh nah I get that so much! You’ve got empathy, my friend. You feel deeply and you understand the pain of being attacked like that. You know how awful it would feel to be attacked like that and talked down like that. That’s why it hurts and it makes you angry.
I can’t even watch the video until I’ve gotten something to eat or drink or put myself in a better mood or I’d get super stressed. So I’m holding off on the whole thing for now.
Sending hugs to you and her and everyone else who knows what it feels like. We don’t deserve this treatment just for being us.
At least we can be kind and courageous and not flaunt our insecurities like these people in such a negative light.
Take care of yourself.
If some of those people commenting live in Scotland, they could be charged under the new hate crime act.
Might be unlikely. They didn’t do anything about JK Rowling being transphobic lately.
@@1981jasonkwan shes rich, rich people don't get arrested. they can murder and get away with it.
Now that would be fun to see
It concerns me how hate comments nowadays might not even written by real people, but bots.
Imagine getting into a heated debate with an algorithm who's sole purpose is to be as mean and quick-witted as possible.
I have the greatest mom in the world and have autism so no, it’s not bad parenting
People will blame anything on bad parenting. It's ridiculous how quick people start playing the blame game when they don't even know the person they're talking about. I'm almost 100% certain at some point in history left-handedness was probably blamed on bad parenting.
@@CactusMuffinoh, UNQUESTIONABLY. Considering left-handedness was considered a sign of the devil, parents were probably accused of not forcing Catholicism deep enough down their child's throat. "This wouldn't happen if your kid was in Sunday school with the rest of the neighborhood kids!" and bs like that.
Autism is literally genetic, there's no way to control who gets and who doesn't. It's literally out of the parent's control if their child is autistic.
@@CactusMuffin and its always kids who are doing it too, watching clips on youtube of like young sheldon, a show which ampifies family life for comady you can truly see the kids to the adults comment since the kids comments have no idea about life.
As someone who was abused by my parents people also try to excuse your abusive parents. Maybe you were just born messed up. Maybe you were a bad kid. You're just using your parents as an excuse. I think that some people just want to invalidate people.
Scavenger of Society merch please. LOL 🤣
YESS 😂
This would be so awesome 🌹
Seconded. I love vultures, and they are tragically underrepresented.
Not something i would really buy but for this case in particular hell yes sign me up
The one at 8 minutes sounds like THEY were drinking lol
Right?!
*insert Demoman voice clips*
LMAO
I appreciate you dismantling these, sometimes it’s hard for me to disregard mean comments even though I know they’re just being assholes to strangers
you're amazing don't listen to the haters
Thank you - you're very kind 💛
Some of these are iconically bad, others are generic ableist rhetoric... some are genuinely twisted and horrific though and I'm genuinely sorry you have to see them...
it's something I've noticed a lot in society that whenever someone makes videos to educate others on topics they may not be as aware of, there are always going to be some ignorant people who will just refuse to learn anything. it sucks but based on what I've seen your videos are reaching the audience that actually matters well
me for instance, an autistic teenager fortunate to have been diagnosed early, I find them extremely cathartic, enjoyable and informative, so thank you for making them!
also happy autism awareness month everyoneee
I think the person who said that they "grew out of their 'autism'" doesnt actually have it. I think they think that everyone can have it (like an emotion or something?) Which honestly makes that hate comment 10x funnier
The only logical thing i can see from it is that maybe they got really good at just masking their autism and for some reason got the idea in their head that they grew out of it and that could be thanks to the kinds of people they hang out with. Other than that though that question is mind boggling to say the least and makes no sense since there's more than enough proof that shows that doesn't happen if people just off their lazy ass and did some research
Or, they're still autistic, and just have terrible self-awareness about how they come across to others.
One of the most obviously autistic people I know recently expressed doubt about their autism diagnosis, opining that they aren't *that* eccentric as a person, and that their real problem is their anxiety. They then proceeded to info-dump for a straight hour on an extremely niche topic while missing my assorted cues that I had to leave, lol.
To be sure, I think it's very important to get out into the world to build skills and forge relationships with people, because this can help to relieve depression, anxiety, and impostor syndrome. Even then, the most competent, confident, and skilled autistic people I know are still autistic at the end of the day, and even they have their breaking points and absolute limits.
Ah yes, "retarted". Whenever people misspell that word it reminds me of this one attempt at an insult where they said "u r rarted" and it makes it easier to laugh at haters
I’m so sorry to hear that, I always considered your comments section, your community, to be supportive and wholesome, but of course some people are really stupid sometimes. A lot. /gen
Also please make all of those shirts !! I want to wear a “queen b*tch of the internet” shirt with a cute buttercup design under it now thank you
My favourite thing is this one tiktok I saw (I forget who made it) where one guy goes “are you acoustic?” and the other guy just makes guitar sounds. Idk if you saw that or not but it gives me life honestly.
yeah using acoustic as an insult only makes me think people have bad taste in music... who doesn't like an acoustic guitar or acoustic show of your favorite band? acoustic should be a nice thing
Its an insult... its just they want to use the R word, but most bots and filters will block them from doing it, so they try to find other words to get around the filters.
I'm a musician. I really want somebody to call me acoustic so I can make a music joke.
We communicate through noises. Aren’t we all acoustic?
@@iantaakalla8180no, the brain processes all information by electrical signals between neurons... We're electric! 😉
@@iantaakalla8180 Unless you plug yourself in.
It's my birthday month too! HBD to you, Meg!
Thank you!! Mine's on the 12th 🥰 HBD to you too!!
@@imautisticnowwhat mine is the 13th! Thank you! Have a wonderful day!
Here to leave you a positive comment 😊. I love your channel. I am also a late diagnosed autistic (just diagnosed last year at age 31) and its very refreshing to see someone I can relate to you. It is very therapeutic for you to talk about and process things happening in and surrounding our community. I feel much less frustration knowing, not only that someone else feels the same way, but that someone is also speaking out against these injustices.
I want to add that I appreciate your lighter content as well. It is a nice palate cleanser for the heavier topics.
I know that you take the negative comments in stride but they still hurt even if it is just the pain of being reminded that large parts of society still condemn us. But please know you're helping so many people by adding more diversity into a space that has been larger comprised of stereotypes.
Keep shining 🌟 and let the negativity fester in the hearts of those who feel compelled to condemn and criticize you.
At the end of the day haters are cowards who wouldn't dare say these things to your face. Saying you don't or do look autistic is ridiculous. So many times my worth has been decided solely on my appearance. Hearing that you were miserable growing up is heart breaking though it helps me feel less alone as I remember thinking that it wasn't right to feel that way 24/7 and wondered what was wrong with me. Hope you had a fun easter, it's always a relief when spring arrives.
I definitely slipped through the cracks for a very long time. After I transitioned and got tested for "female autism", I got diagnosed. So yea, no matter your gender or what you were assigned as at birth, they should create better diagnostic tools, to have less people who are autistic, slip through the cracks.
I haven't listened to your video yet but I love your channel. I'm a late diagnosed autistic guy and you help me navigate my world, make me laugh and you do a great job. F!@# em and feedem fish heads to your haters
Your videos gave me the courage to go get an assessment. Turns out I'm autistic and wouldn't have found out had I not stumbled upon your videos. I hope at some point you make a video on selective mutism and other speech problems.
Omg same here!
I was officialy Dx'd before the internet. AFTER I got that Dx, some of the first people I told, said to me "You just think you have it because you read it in a book"... Those kinda deniers have existed before the internet.
Got to the love the old “get outside and it will cure whatever ails you”. I grew up in the country and spent a good chunk of my childhood outdoors. My parents would always send me and my siblings outside the second we got loud or started fighting. While I loved to walk around in the woods by myself and found it very relaxing it never did a thing to “cure” the autism! 😂
Hater “Prove your autistic!”
Me “you’re”
8:15 that reminds me of the "who is not autistic?" show where the person who wasn't autistic had fetal alcohol syndrome. They have similarities but are not the same thing.
My first thought is why wasn’t smartestmanintheworld2563 smart enough to not be beaten out for a username by 2,562 other guys?
LOL
“a scavenger of society and humankind” that sounds BALLER as hell but also sorry you get so much hate D: personally i appreciate your content very much and it helped me figure out i’m autistic, and the meme videos are very fun.
It does sound a bit Mad Max doesn't it?
People could hate someone for making a bread 😂its sad in a way to see so much hatred for no reasons.
If I had a penny for every time someone told me to just “get out of my head and go outside” I could afford college now.
Every time there;s a group that people don't want to help, they just say they need to 'take responsibility'.
Spotted hyenas arent scavengers they hunt in groups and they’re quite competent at it, they even use verbal communication
The Autistic rage in me is intense from watching this because people are so mean to you! I try to think that people who write those disrespectful things have huge problems and they don't know how to feel better. I believe in Karma and if you hurt people you are gonna live a miserable life! I've had some haters being really hurtful to me but I try to keep calm though it's very hard. I get sad when I read those horrible comments. Thank you for this video, it's very important to talk about this!
They are going to reap what they sow.
@@sonicfan82 When the world ends they are on the bottom of my save life priority list
"you are not autistic because xyz" probably the sentence that always hurts the most because you question your very being while being gaslight by some gatekeeping elitist troll on the internets. this just needs to stop imho 🥺
yes! it’s absolutely gaslighting! “That’s not a real thing, you’re imagining it because you’re crazy” is the definition of gaslighting
I’m actually shocked. I know I don’t understand people, but this still shocks me. How can anyone hate you? You are so kind and gentle. You are an anti-bitch. Is it just impossible for me as an autistic to understand such people?
In their mind, disabled = tragedy and constant misery and failure, so seeing a disabled person who isn't that is interpreted as a faker.
Well, it can be near impossible to understand hate if you're the sort to lack hate. Autism just adds to the odds of being confused, if anything.
I was never tarted in the first place. Other people got tarts? And now they’re getting re-tarted?
What are these people thinking???😭
That's the problem, they aren't. They're hurting and taking it out on people who are happy because misery loves company.
Bold of you to assume these people are capable of thinking.
@@skachorI agree completely. Basic bully behavior. Hurt people hurt people.
C O N G L E
@@SwankemasterSupreme C O N G L E
Acoustic? Lol all I ever wanted was to be electric!!
I'm usually silent but considering the context, I think that I should say that you've helped me in my understanding and I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow to be referred for adhd and, hopefully, autism screening. 👍
Good luck👍 Hope it goes well for you🌹
I'm envious how secure in yourself you are,I don't know if I could do it without being bothered and self-consciousness. To see how much of it is rooted in misogyny is really quite frightening. The way you try to understand the haters and how people try to understand the motivation behind those types of comments speaks about how nice most people in the community are.
That being said, remember that some people just are bad and mean- good people don't use their trauma and pain as motivation and excuse to hurt others. You don't owe them understanding, you don't owe anyone compassion or kindness they aren't showing you. It doesn't make you a bad human to reject and discard people like these from your life and consciousness, in fact - you owe it to yourself to do so. Kindness will always make you a target for abuse, I've found. There's a saying in my country that to have a soft heart, you need a hard ass - knowing autistic people usually are of the softest, most tender hearted kind - I wish you all, a tough behind.
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I don't normally comment a lot on youtube but I gotta say that I have so much respect for you as a creator and what you do here. It can't be easy to constantly have your entire being be scrutinized by thousands upon thousands of people and I genuinely think you're really brave for putting yourself out there for the benefit of other autistic or otherwise neurodivergent people- your channel is a great resource and you're so wholesome that someone calling you "queen bitch of the internet" is genuinely more hilarious than anything.
Also people not realizing the irony of "diagnosing" you as not autistic based on one video while telling you that you can't diagnose yourself via tiktok or youtube is astounding.
I just imagine every hate comment out there is a 12 year old thinking they’re being “edgy” just to gain some sort of social currency. I despise how hate is normalized online. Get some therapy people. 😅
I love that you made a video about the hate comments. I cannot understand why people think they can just post junk with impunity simply because they are anonymous. What kind of awful life must they have that makes them think this way? I really enjoyed your reactions--thanks for the video! (And bonus points for the pink brain stock footage!! 😂)
Your videos helped me find out I'm autistic - I really appreciate them all; thank you!
5:00 I tried the "get out of your head and talk to people" thing and after a year I had a mental breakdown and ended up in an emergency psychiatric hospital lol
It still blows me away that people think it's ok to post things anonymously that they would never actually say to someone. It's on them, not you. Thanks again for your content!
Omg that fly trap plant on your "shirt + top tank" thingy is amazing! I love it
It is true that I don't make eye contact behind people's backs. That's something I need to work on. Start carrying a mirror, I suppose. Or, y'know, a periscope.
Even though I have been officially diagnosed with autism at 8 years old, but I'm scared to express myself even on most internet spaces because I be told I'm faking it for "attention".
I don't think I could ever deal with this nonsense, I'd probably just lazily ban people from my channel.
Well I have nothing but respect for you for bringing content that helps me feel validated. Thank you very much for your endeavours and hard work, I appreciate it ⭐️
My birthday month too! I just turned 29.
Happy Birthday! ❤️ 🎂🎉🎈🎊🎁🥳
"Smartest person in the world" had a number after it - clearly not the first smartest person
😂
people thinking you have to have gotten diagnosed through tiktok tilt me. ma'am, tiktok didnt even exist yet when i got diagnosed
My mother didn't drink during pregnancy, and tried to force eye contact and other things. My father was diagnosed as mentally retarded, because autism wasn't as widely known when he was a child.
I only like the word acoustic in reference to guitars.
My special interest was writing until I realized that it was easy and fun to work on computers when I was a teenager.
I think this video is feeding the haters and they’ll probably leave more mean comments BUT if you enjoyed making it, you should make more. You’re great, should be the queen of the internet
If they post more hate comments it just further highlights how stupid they are. All the algorithm cares about is engagement, it doesn't analyze the words to piecemeal if it's positive or negative, it'll just see "More people are commenting -bzzt- people like this content -beep boop- promoting this content -brrrrrrrr-"
Their stupidity is endless to expose their immaturity like that
6:40 lmao i sent an emotional text to my siblings one time like “guys i think im probably autistic. i know i went for an autism assessment once and didn’t get diagnosed. and not to suggest i’m smarter than the doctors but the guy i went to really seemed misinformed on the topic. maybe school would have been better for me if i’d been diagnosed” and stuff like that and i was crying while i was typing it
and my sister just sent back like “ya i’ve just been telling people ur autistic” and it was actually so validating
Meg, I’m only two minutes in to this particular video and I just had to pause to comment and let you know how thankful I am for the content you post. It has helped me so much in understanding myself and not only that but I send your videos very often to my mum who try’s her best to understand why I am the way I am and am thankful she’s on this journey with me, I don’t think I would feel like I had a community without your videos and the lovely people in the comments! The ones that make the nice relatable comments of course, the rest are close minded and clearly aren’t willing to learning a thing from your videos! Even if they can take atleast one thing away and disagree with the rest of the video because obv autism is a spectrum and not every person is going to relate to everything you have experienced im ur autistic journey. I just more people thought like that about the spectrum. It’s not linear it’s all over the place! Keep being exactly you and the right people will gravitate! Keep up the amazing work!
Love an autistic adult who is a parent of an autistic child! My son was being assessed and his doctor said “have you ever thought to be tested?l” that was the first time someone noticed me ❤❤❤
Lmao the giant eyes got me. Reminded me of my jumping spiders! 😂
You've created a great community. You're doing amazing.
unrelated to your video - i absolutely ADORE your shirt!! the colors of it are so appealing and the venus fly traps and sundew design is amazingly well done! love it
I learned from you that I've been masking. I learned that all the things that made people call me 'weird' was me stimming. Thank you for helping me self identify my autism since my therapist as a kid misdiagnosed me as "mentally delayed" which isn't even a diagnosis!
Edit: My special interest is writing! I started when I was 5!
I am so sorry that people have still not learned to keeo their.. uneducated and rude comments to themselves.