This woman is insane. Imagine being engaged to a man who makes 500,000 a year, loves and takes care of your THREE CHILDREN from your previous marriage, was covering all of your bills, and then throwing a hissy fit over $1000 for a trip you took together. Then she shot herself in the foot by demanding that she pay for half of everything! Part of me feels like her moving out suddenly was just an adult temper tantrum she threw to get him to beg her to come back. Sadly for her, it didn't work out that way. Do you know how many women would love this dude? She needs a reality check. And some communication skills.
Some women/men can’t be happy with just getting 80% of what they want. They have to have the doormat sacrifice everything for them to be happy. And even when that happens, they get even angrier.
OP said kids' father(s) which means they weren't all from her previous marriage. She sounds like she was trying to have a hypergamous lifestyle at Doormat OP's expense!
I'll bet her "friend" group doesn't even say anything like that. They are probably telling her to hold onto him because their man doesn't pay for anything. He should have told her he doesn't negotiate with terrorists. And definitely sue in civil court. She works a regular legit job, so her paycheck will be garnished. I'd love for him to have that garnishment from her while he still makes ten times her salary.
@@shells500tutubo If they have less successful men than OP then they'd tell her that out of jealousy (their men may cover all expenses as a kind of flex even if they struggle).
Here's the reality check. There's a reason she's an ex multiple times. I'd bet part of it is she wants someone to take care of her and she's decided OP is the lucky victim Uhhh man for her to clamp onto Oh I mean love!
As soon as I heard "children's fathers", I understood where this is going. To this woman, OP was just a free meal ticket and a walking ATM. She was just a petty gold digger who tried to waltz her way through life. And OP wanted to marry this woman? Dear god.
So she wants Opie to pay for everything, even though they're finances are separate and she works, and has access to one to $2,000 of his money every month, while insisting that they quote unquote meaning he pay for her kids college and says that including the child support she gets that is explicitly meant to pay for the children's expenses is so sacrosanct that including it as part of the family budget is theft. This is the most blatant case of what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine I have ever seen. She is a gold digger through and through who sees Opie as some kind of weakling to be sucked dry by a pretty face and a bit of v before the marriage (and that vag is drying up the instant those vows stop echoing.)
@@MrBrachiatingApe to be fair, she sees him as what he is. He is that bad in his own estimation, or he wouldn't put up with this ridiculous crap. Sounds like he's buying someone better looking than him, so I got no sympathy for him.
A huge alarm bell should have started ringing when the ex was complaining about OPs daughter Recieving more money. Harlot, that’s none of your concern!
I hate to tell her, but child support is for your children's expenses. If you had enough to support your children and yourself without it, then, feel free to put it in a trust fund, but she isn't in the position to do that. She is just looking to be someone's trophy wife, so she can laze around and contribute nothing.
@@1tommyday Summers, School vacations, and one weekend a month during the school year. That's about as good as it gets for a father when the mother lives in a different state.
Biggest red flag for me: he makes 10x what she makes and suddenly she wants him to pay for everything while hiding her own finances? Gold digger right there. I don't have a problem fully supporting a stay at home wife/mom (assuming I have the finances for it), but they'll be 'contributing' to the relationship in terms of taking care of the house (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc) rather than me paying for services that I would if we are both working. Relationships aren't necessarily 'equal' on contribution, but all sides had better damn well be making active contributions or it's going to fall apart, fast.
Biggest red flag was that this simp saw no problem with his "best friend" that was leading him back to religion was openly shitting on HIS child. Everything she screamed at him about for HER kids, she said his daughter didn't deserve.
I see more and more women insisting that housework and chowder and duties need to be split 50/50 regardless of them being a stay-at-home parent while their husband works. Sorry, what's good does your partner do for the relationship as I stay at home parent while you're working 50 hours a week plus commuting and then you're expected to do half of the housework, not including guy house work cuz that never seems to be included, and half the child rearing. Some people are just crazy self-centered.
@@Paradise2003 The cognitive dissonance with the fiancee saying "i will never raise someone else kid" while OP is doing exactly that X 4 with her and her 3 kids. Plus she does not know how to clean and cook, i am perplex how she got a man with an income like OP.
@@chriskratzmeyer1207 true but 50% of all housework can often equal a little more then 2 days “off” that the working spouse would get if the other is a stay at home parent, considering the stress required for any job that can support a family of 3
And she doesn't want anything to do with his daughter because she's not her kid... Hypocrisy much? As a Catholic, she should know what Jesus thinks of hypocrites.
She says he has no right to know what she receives for child support, but is all in his business of what he sends for his daughter? What a gold digging hypocrite.
If that. The key is she is getting child support, but is not telling him how much or what it is going to, then brought up him helping with their future college expenses so they wouldn't have college debt.
If you plan to become a family, and one makes 10x what the other makes while keeping finances separate, it's fair to go with a 75/25 split when it comes to household bills. Families support each other and live in one household together, so it's not fair to expect the lower income one to pay a FAR larger portion of their income to pay for expenses. That being said 1: Her still having access to his account and spending 1~2k a month of his money on luxuries is bullshit. And 2: Him being expected to pay for those kids' colleges is also bullshit. That's what the fucking child support is supposed to be for. But I bet she's spending that on luxuries for herself instead. In other words, don't be so believing in the mgtow extremist mindset. They have good points, but when living together it's fair to expect a fair split for basic expenses. And this guy even has a hugely advantageous 50/50 split going for him. If you actually want a proper relationship that is, not just cohabitation with "benefits". It's the other stuff that is bullshit.
@@Sanquinity what you're talking about is equitability not equality, similar but different concepts. Yes it makes sense in cases like this but something tells me she wouldn't have been happy with that either. She thought her money was her money & his money was THEIR money. Not how it works anymore. Unfortunately women have spent the last 30-40 yrs talking about how they don't need men, that they make their own money, so men took this at face value so we don't want to spend our hard earned money on her expenses in addition to ours while she spends hers on herself. That's not our job anymore.
@@bhart3321 I fully agree with you. Was just replying to the OP saying paying 50% was dirt cheap. If you take this part alone, considering she makes 1/10 of what he does, that's not dirt cheap but a very good deal for the husband. But yes, of course she wouldn't have accepted 75/25 either, since she insisted on him paying for everything. As you said, her mentality is "her money is her money and his money is their money." Or even "HER money" since she didn't even want him sending child support to his own daughter. (yet expected him to support hers)
Story one: Is it me? Or she wanted split finances so SHE can do whatever SHE wanted with HER money (expect paying the bills) and expect for HIM to use HIS money ALL OF THEIR bills? No. That's not how it goes. It sounds exploitative and unfair. They agreed to do a 50/50 split on paying the bills. :/ Story one after extra info and update: Would you look at that? He wins more than her. And disregards him using money for his daughter, while accusing him of wanting to steal the child support she's receiving. She sucks. Aaaaand she's a thief. Ew. :/
How sad that OP didn't see that until he cut off funds and she left. He's got the money to get a shark lawyer and go scorched earth to get his stuff back from her.
Loved the last story! One of my best friend's was a retired Marine. He, too, kept every paper on ALL purchases, his bills, etc. all organized. OP's response was priceless!
That stupid clerk was working so hard at being lazy that she worked 30 minutes past closing for what was a slam dunk encounter. His original request would have taken all of 20 minutes, if that.
That clerk didn’t realize that discharged / retired military save every piece of paper they received. I know this because, I am married for 50 years to a retired LTC who served for 30 years!
Your video has perfect timing. I have Corona atm and I am suffering quite a lot. Thank you for giving me an opportunity to distract myself of my pain ❤️
He didn't though? The evil parasite is the one who dumped him, not the other way around. He didn't grow anything. If he did, he would have set up countermeasures against letting his home get raided by said parasite. And don't tell me he couldn't have expected that, it should have been something fully expected. He also put his daughter into a situation where she feels miserable despite knowing all the issues this woman has.
Op needs to raise his standards for dating. That's his primary issue. Stop dating entitled 304's and expecting them to all of a sudden become respectable ladies out of nowhere. Dating should be an interview process where you discover the character of the person you're seeing.
just stop dating, at least with the intention to settle down. given his position and the sheer amount of money he makes, all he will attract are gold digging whores. So unless he moves to like a small 2 bedroom apartment with his kid and starts buying all his shit at walmart hes not getting anything worth having. if he gets a girl that sticks around knowing hes making 50k instead of 500k, then hes found a keeper. otherwise pump n dump. its all gold diggers are good for
@@thunderbutt357XD It's not even that. The type of women he should be dating are, sadly, most likely won't even acknowledge him because they'd think him for one of those sugar daddies that will abuse them. Two way street.
@@BrokensoulRider sadly true. as a romantic (i no longer use the term hopeless) it sucks to see the relationship between the sexes deteriorate to this state, but given the political state of the world for the past 50 years i cant say im surprised. Still, it sucks cuz loving and being loved is the best part of being alive imo. and now, were staring down the barrel of ww3 so i say the sooner it happens the better. hopefully whoever is left can build a better world in future. but as is, this world needs to burn
@@thunderbutt357XD It's not only the political climate. People are willing to let the world burn because they don't get enough of x y or z. And then you really can blame it on the shows 'Lifestyle of the Rich and Famous' and its counterparts.
@@BrokensoulRider whose fault is that tho? economic inequality is rampant in this world and no one has even attempted to put a stop to it. why? because 'muh freedoms and muh cheap goods". Now we have one country that has the rest of the world by the financial balls, and a handful of people who can literally bail out every problem the world has if they chose to do so. people dont care about one another and its all about me me me. i think the world should burn not because of a lack of material things but because we human beings have fucked things up so badly that theres no fixing it. only thing left to do is blow it all up and rebuild from scratch
🤣🤣🤣 LOVING the last story. Yeah, go ahead, play stupid paperwork games with a U.S. military veteran! Honey, you haven't seen ppwk like the military & Uncle Sam can come up with. It starts with just trying to enlist, everything during service, & ends with a huge stack just to leave the service. OP has you six ways from Sunday when it comes to THAT stupid little game. So proud of OP! ❤😂
Once again the police are misinformed of the law. Not even in Texas is 1 year of cohabitation considered common law, where items are shared assets. The police might be thinking of gifts, which common subjects in break ups, even an engagement ring may not be subject to return, as it it sometimes considered a gift, not a condition. This guy is really lucky she left and didn't try to get him kicked out of his own home, which o have seen. What does me in is that she was making 40k while collecting child support. I hope she isn't a social worker.
I think Texas does recognize common law marriages, but that's not what op had and living with someone for a year doesn't mean they get half of your stuff. Otherwise roommates and the like would be allowed to just take your stuff. As for the ring, it's a conditional gift and has to be returned or she pays the depreciated value at the very least. If she sold anything of his and it's worth above a certain amount (I think k it varies from state to state, but I could be mistaken) she could get charged with a felony and get prison time. Then she'll lose her kids and all that child support....
You can't have it both ways you can't tell someone you want separate fiances and then keep spending their money. This woman has so many red flags it's insane. The second she said OP was paying too much child support she should of been gone.
Dude the second story, if she would have just done it, it would have taken like 10 min. Its always so much easier to do what your supposed to do the first time the right way and then you dont have to deal with it anymore.
Car registration lady: You must do a bunch of bullshit work to accomplish this task Lady, we're military. We're masters of bullshiting to accomplish the mission.
It always amuses me when the gold digger shows their hand before they get the paperwork signed. OP learned an expensive lesson, but one he could afford. He can take her to court for theft and she'll end up paying for years with her wages garnished.
Story #1: Run, run away from her as fast as you can. Time to break things off ASAP. Find someone who doesn't need you for a bank account who actually is financially viable on her own. Someone like that will marry for love not money.
I'm glad that the first OP came to his senses. That woman wanted someone to support her and her kids and used her beauty and sex to achieve it. OP needs a woman who wants him and does not need or want his money. He also needs to stop falling for the exterior packaging instead of its contents.
Unfortunately there are many, many men like this. They think beauty or being good in bed are personality traits. You ask them what they like about their gf and they don't say, "she's kind, funny, smart...". The first two things out of their mouths are that "she's so pretty, so good in bed". I can't have sympathy for men like that.
I had a very similar thing happen when I changed from my married name back to my maiden name. "Um you need X, Y, Z ....." Got it! Here they are "But you also need A, B, C...." Got those too, anything else? "You should have...." Didn't even finish, I gave the paper to her while finishing her sentence! She was not amused! Her colleague on the neighbouring desk was giggling though! Wonderful story time again LG! Thanks! ❤️
And she’s trying to stop you from helping your child’s mother and child dude come on now she wants you to pay for all three of her kids but cut down what you pay for your own you should double up your child’s payments and anything you put toward her three kids you should match it with your child if you put 150 for all three of her kids in savings you put 150 for yours
I was a single mom who didn't get child support and I would never "expect" another man to support my son and I. For her to say that money is for the childs future...no honey it's called "support" not "investment" for a reason. GEESE!
In 1984, As a military member I arrived in the great State of Texas. Like O.P. I was 36, divorced, had a daughter in another state. Four days later, after work a buddy took me to a local establishment where he was known. I met a lady that night, who I thought was in her 20's but turned out to be one year younger than me. 38 years later we are still going, her 2 kids are grown and doing well (I adopted both). Moral of the story, sometimes you get it right😁
Wait a second, OPs partner is okay with receiving child support, having him take care of her kids from another relationship and pay for their future but is mad that hes doing the same exact thing her ex's are doing for her? Does she really think her children are more important than his? OP, LEAVE THIS RELATIONSHIP. I have a sneaking suspicion that she'll do anything to destroy any form of relationship he has with his kid.
Selfish people hate if the money goes to someone else than themselves. Thankfully for OP it ended. No surprise she's divorced and has different father for kids.
She doesn't want to raise another woman's child, doesn't think his daughter needs that much money for child support. He needed to drop her for that alone. She will NOT be a good stepmother.
Mi abuela dice que los hombres al separarse terminan enamorándose más de los hijos de otros que los suyos. Al cuidar y pagar sus gastos y escuela, y a los suyos solo enviarles migajas. Que bueno que OP ve por su hija.
There is nothing wrong with being a "kept woman" or a "kept man" as long as you're upfront about it to your partner before the relationship begins. The actions of OP's fiance shows that she was being deliberately manipulative & deceitful in order to drain OP's bank account. She wasn't trying to be a "kept woman", she was trying to steal from him. Which was made clear when she took half his stuff
Wow the ex is a massive user. If OP had folded and let her get away with her BS, she would have used him for everything he had until he was broke, and she'd move on to the next sucker. He's lucky that she can't get pregnant or he'd be on the hook for child support. What fucking nerve for her to demand he stop paying child support for his daughter while expecting him to provide for her brats and for their future colleges as well. I hope OP can get back the things she stole and the ring before she sells it all.
Last story: The DMV staffer was definitely trying to send you packing because it was a little before closing time, and she didn't want to do anymore work. Good on you for making her a half hour late getting out. If she had been polite and just done her job the right way, she would have been done by closing time or just a few minutes after. It's her own fault she was so late getting out. You had to take longer going through the paperwork with her because she was deliberately playing dumb about it. Well, play stupid jerk games, win stupid jerk prizes.
3 kids. Multiple Baby Fathers, and is a Divorcee. Wants you to pay for everything & take care of her 3 kids YET doesn’t care for your 1 child , nor respect you send money to the mother of your child while she collects 3 child support checks ? Her money is hers & your money is hers too ? honestly I wouldn’t marry a self person like this.
Ok, I just saw a Febreeze ad before the video started. Fun fact: the original Febreeze was scentless, but they added scent because customers didn't believe it worked...because it was scentless...
I've got 1 for ya!! My hubby used to work for Coke, on the bottling line. He was allowed to drink any drink right off the line. Except for the water. They bottle Dasani. In the beginning, it was just plain old clean water. People didn't trust it because there was no sound. So they added the pfft when you opened the water. People say that is the sound of clean water.
No thank you to “what’s yours is mine, and what’s mine is mine”. Op’s fiancé gets all the benefits and he’s her sugar daddy. Her friends are also unhealthy and wrong for your relationship. Also, who else thinks she spends her kids’ child support on herself, and is expecting him to bankroll her kids education and lifestyle.
She has a lot of nerve acting like that when she should've been grateful since being a single mother of three is enough to make most men say "Oh hell no" and run for the hills. Entitled people like her disgust me. At least the trash took itself out, she did him a favor.
Maybe men you know. Almost every single mother I know is now married, so somebody is lying. They're getting locked down more than my single girlfriends. lol
Oh gawd don’t marry her or get her pregnant. This is pretty much a wrap. Oh good. She left. Op can do much better, too bad he spent more than a year dealing with it. Maybe will be easier to see the red flags next time, hopefully there won’t be.
She has 3 kids that OP has to taking care of, but all of her money is hers ? She has a problem with OP paying child support for his child? She doesn’t want a partner, she wants a sponsor
The dude needs to run and run far and fast as she is just after him for his money. And she's told him that in multiple ways and he's not getting that message
In my state, tags are renewed at what is called the Revenue Office. Those employees are notoriously rude, jaded, apathetic and try to get out of as much work as possible. That sounds like a horrible generalization, but if you ask ANYONE in my state - they will ALL complain about their experiences getting tags or licenses renewed or changed at their local Revenue office. That being said, those employees are amateurs compared to dealing with military red tape. When a retired veteran has an expanded folder full of paper, you can bet your life that the veteran has not only researched thoroughly what paperwork is necessary to complete the task at hand, but has also made sure to have 150% more than what the regulations require. I had to chuckle to myself listening to that story.
She definitely wanted him to pay for her and her kids lifestyle, but not for his kid. OP is better off without her and shouldn’t take it to heart. This was a individual that wanted someone to find her lifestyle.
I honestly thought that the wife would need intense therapy as well as OP hanging out with her family members to get an glimpse of WHY she has that mindset. And if you break up with someone like this, I think you should stress that this is an issue that will keep them from long-term relationships/marriage IN GENERAL if not fixed.
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Why do you have to pay for her kids. Doesn’t she get child support?
As a final dig, after getting his new plates (tags), OP could have said: "Next time you want to get out early, try doing your job in an efficient manner instead. Have a nice day." That might have caused the clerk to detonate, though.
Lol, 3 kids from 2 other dads and is still expecting the OP to pay for everything even before marriage? She's for the streets. No surprise she later cleaned him out and left.
I'm trying to picture her circle of friends and for some reason my mind immediately goes to all the different clips I've seen from those Real Housewives shows. Everybody's a decade or more past their prime and trying (unsuccessfully) to hide it under designer clothes and a pound of make-up/Botox.
The child support should cover her kids portion of the phone bill, groceries & their clothing & school needs. She also needs to pay things like the gas, electric & groceries and contribute to family vacations. She also needs to stop spending money on cleaning services, do the cleaning & cooking
The best way to share finances as a relationship, is to give a certain percentage of each pay check into a joint account. And yes, the person who makes less money puts in less to the joint account so that person's left over fun money is somewhere near to fair. And that would be a married couple. Just a fiance who you have only known for 2 years who has children? Hmmm, no. If you were really generous, you could take the excesses of your fun money in a situation such as I described above and put it away for retirement and maybe a family holiday, but again, for a MARRIED couple. If you are not married? You shouldn't be paying for anything for her or her kids unless its treating them to dinner or a gift.
A women at the SSA did that paperwork crap to me...I keep paperwork...I took her a 55 gallon size tub into her office desk in front of everyone... my paperwork was in folders color coded by name/ year/subject/ and I started putting those out in piles on her desk...she started objecting and I stopped her very firmly very clearly very loudly...NO MA'MAM..YOU MADE ME COME BACK BECAUSE I DID NOT HAVE ENOUGH DOCTOR NOTES RECEIPTS ETC TO SHOW I HAD INSURANCE DURING THE LAST 13 YEARS. YOU MADE US DRIVE 40 MILES BACK UP HERE AND WAIT 2 HOURS TO SEE YOU. YOU ARE GOING TO LOOK AT ALL THE STUFF YOU REQUESTED I HAD TO HAVE. ....dead silence in that very busy office..it took her 1 1/2 hour to look at all that paperwork lol and her supervisor was pissed off at her. And said she was sorry to us.
I’ll never understand why people stay in these types of relationships. She clearly doesn’t respect or appreciate OP and all he does for her. She sounds *_INSANELY_* selfish, immature, and petty. It’s getting to the point where her behavior is bordering on despicable.
Dude. She's getting Child Support. That's not her money. If she isn't using it to support the children because you pay all of the bills, regardless of what anybody thinks, that money belongs in a trust for the kids, or back with the fathers.
This woman is insane. Imagine being engaged to a man who makes 500,000 a year, loves and takes care of your THREE CHILDREN from your previous marriage, was covering all of your bills, and then throwing a hissy fit over $1000 for a trip you took together. Then she shot herself in the foot by demanding that she pay for half of everything!
Part of me feels like her moving out suddenly was just an adult temper tantrum she threw to get him to beg her to come back. Sadly for her, it didn't work out that way. Do you know how many women would love this dude? She needs a reality check. And some communication skills.
People like her never learn.
Plus a basic math call or two.
Some women/men can’t be happy with just getting 80% of what they want. They have to have the doormat sacrifice everything for them to be happy. And even when that happens, they get even angrier.
The woman is insane but OP is a super doormat.
OP said kids' father(s) which means they weren't all from her previous marriage. She sounds like she was trying to have a hypergamous lifestyle at Doormat OP's expense!
Those kids are not yours. Don’t pay for them. Her group is toxic. Keep the finances separate. Lock her out of your accounts.
I'll bet her "friend" group doesn't even say anything like that. They are probably telling her to hold onto him because their man doesn't pay for anything. He should have told her he doesn't negotiate with terrorists.
And definitely sue in civil court. She works a regular legit job, so her paycheck will be garnished. I'd love for him to have that garnishment from her while he still makes ten times her salary.
Not your seed, not your problem
@@shells500tutubo Never underestimate the toxic potential of a womans friend group.
@@shells500tutubo If they have less successful men than OP then they'd tell her that out of jealousy (their men may cover all expenses as a kind of flex even if they struggle).
Glad to hear OP talked with a lawyer and filed a police report for the things she took.
Here's the reality check. There's a reason she's an ex multiple times. I'd bet part of it is she wants someone to take care of her and she's decided OP is the lucky victim Uhhh man for her to clamp onto Oh I mean love!
Second story...love it op rocks...the spanish authorities are exactly the same! Petty!
Expensive hooker?
She is a mooch! He is stupid to be with this useless woman for a second.
I would have been done when she wanted her kids paid for, but not mine.
I agree 100%. Also their not married, finances should be split anyway. OPs girlfriend just wants a sugardaddy.
"What do you bring to the table?"
"Another man's kids"
2 other men's kids. The 3 kids had 2 different fathers.
As soon as I heard "children's fathers", I understood where this is going.
To this woman, OP was just a free meal ticket and a walking ATM. She was just a petty gold digger who tried to waltz her way through life. And OP wanted to marry this woman? Dear god.
Apparently, she is beautiful and have sex alot. Equals to her half of everything.🤣
But I'm in love because she's pretty, and good in bed./s
So she wants Opie to pay for everything, even though they're finances are separate and she works, and has access to one to $2,000 of his money every month, while insisting that they quote unquote meaning he pay for her kids college and says that including the child support she gets that is explicitly meant to pay for the children's expenses is so sacrosanct that including it as part of the family budget is theft.
This is the most blatant case of what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine I have ever seen. She is a gold digger through and through who sees Opie as some kind of weakling to be sucked dry by a pretty face and a bit of v before the marriage (and that vag is drying up the instant those vows stop echoing.)
I felt bad for being judgy, but I thought the same. 😂😅
@@MrBrachiatingApe to be fair, she sees him as what he is. He is that bad in his own estimation, or he wouldn't put up with this ridiculous crap. Sounds like he's buying someone better looking than him, so I got no sympathy for him.
A huge alarm bell should have started ringing when the ex was complaining about OPs daughter Recieving more money.
Harlot, that’s none of your concern!
I hate to tell her, but child support is for your children's expenses. If you had enough to support your children and yourself without it, then, feel free to put it in a trust fund, but she isn't in the position to do that. She is just looking to be someone's trophy wife, so she can laze around and contribute nothing.
Not even just laze around. She wants to spend his money as well. So less a trophy wife, and more a gold digger. Someone wanting a walking ATM.
I agree with you 1000%
@@Sanquinity great point
In Germany some families life like that...
@@1tommyday Summers, School vacations, and one weekend a month during the school year. That's about as good as it gets for a father when the mother lives in a different state.
3 children. So much baggage and she wants him to pay for everything. No wonder she is a divorcee with multiple baby daddies.
Yeeeah as the story went along, I realized that maybe her baby daddies weren't the problem here lol
Well this is why you should stay away from single moms with different baby daddies. That is one huge red flag.
She is the type of woman who would not sign a prenup.
No she's the type of women to argue and gaslight about a prenup then not sign it.
@@orchidoxs126 No, she's the type to know full well a prenup is no longer worth the paper it's printed on.
Dude.
She’s a gold digger.
Come on.
Edit: and a thief, what a surprise…
... and she ain't messing with no broke broke...
I really don't understand how someone can be used so blatantly and not realise it.
@@bjsaust they say “love is blind” but trust me, it’s also deaf and dumb. And often mentally challenged…
And a total waahmen
Biggest red flag for me: he makes 10x what she makes and suddenly she wants him to pay for everything while hiding her own finances? Gold digger right there. I don't have a problem fully supporting a stay at home wife/mom (assuming I have the finances for it), but they'll be 'contributing' to the relationship in terms of taking care of the house (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc) rather than me paying for services that I would if we are both working. Relationships aren't necessarily 'equal' on contribution, but all sides had better damn well be making active contributions or it's going to fall apart, fast.
Biggest red flag was that this simp saw no problem with his "best friend" that was leading him back to religion was openly shitting on HIS child. Everything she screamed at him about for HER kids, she said his daughter didn't deserve.
I see more and more women insisting that housework and chowder and duties need to be split 50/50 regardless of them being a stay-at-home parent while their husband works.
Sorry, what's good does your partner do for the relationship as I stay at home parent while you're working 50 hours a week plus commuting and then you're expected to do half of the housework, not including guy house work cuz that never seems to be included, and half the child rearing. Some people are just crazy self-centered.
@@Paradise2003 The cognitive dissonance with the fiancee saying "i will never raise someone else kid" while OP is doing exactly that X 4 with her and her 3 kids. Plus she does not know how to clean and cook, i am perplex how she got a man with an income like OP.
@@MrBrachiatingApe sometimes stay home moms/ dads need a break .so if u get two days off a so should the person staying home just my opinion
@@chriskratzmeyer1207 true but 50% of all housework can often equal a little more then 2 days “off” that the working spouse would get if the other is a stay at home parent, considering the stress required for any job that can support a family of 3
Says to not get involved with her child support payments, but wants him to pay for college for her kids. Yeah no to that.
And she doesn't want anything to do with his daughter because she's not her kid... Hypocrisy much? As a Catholic, she should know what Jesus thinks of hypocrites.
She says he has no right to know what she receives for child support, but is all in his business of what he sends for his daughter? What a gold digging hypocrite.
Why are HER CHILDREN HIS RESPONSIBILITIES?!! She's already getting off dirt cheap by having him contribute 50%! He should only have to pay 20%.🙄🤷🏿♀️🤬
If that. The key is she is getting child support, but is not telling him how much or what it is going to, then brought up him helping with their future college expenses so they wouldn't have college debt.
Man's a damn fool. Glad he finally grew a spine. If he had done that sooner, this human cancer would have been gone much sooner.
If you plan to become a family, and one makes 10x what the other makes while keeping finances separate, it's fair to go with a 75/25 split when it comes to household bills. Families support each other and live in one household together, so it's not fair to expect the lower income one to pay a FAR larger portion of their income to pay for expenses. That being said 1: Her still having access to his account and spending 1~2k a month of his money on luxuries is bullshit. And 2: Him being expected to pay for those kids' colleges is also bullshit. That's what the fucking child support is supposed to be for. But I bet she's spending that on luxuries for herself instead.
In other words, don't be so believing in the mgtow extremist mindset. They have good points, but when living together it's fair to expect a fair split for basic expenses. And this guy even has a hugely advantageous 50/50 split going for him. If you actually want a proper relationship that is, not just cohabitation with "benefits". It's the other stuff that is bullshit.
@@Sanquinity what you're talking about is equitability not equality, similar but different concepts. Yes it makes sense in cases like this but something tells me she wouldn't have been happy with that either. She thought her money was her money & his money was THEIR money. Not how it works anymore. Unfortunately women have spent the last 30-40 yrs talking about how they don't need men, that they make their own money, so men took this at face value so we don't want to spend our hard earned money on her expenses in addition to ours while she spends hers on herself. That's not our job anymore.
@@bhart3321 I fully agree with you. Was just replying to the OP saying paying 50% was dirt cheap. If you take this part alone, considering she makes 1/10 of what he does, that's not dirt cheap but a very good deal for the husband.
But yes, of course she wouldn't have accepted 75/25 either, since she insisted on him paying for everything. As you said, her mentality is "her money is her money and his money is their money." Or even "HER money" since she didn't even want him sending child support to his own daughter. (yet expected him to support hers)
Story one: Is it me? Or she wanted split finances so SHE can do whatever SHE wanted with HER money (expect paying the bills) and expect for HIM to use HIS money ALL OF THEIR bills? No. That's not how it goes. It sounds exploitative and unfair. They agreed to do a 50/50 split on paying the bills. :/
Story one after extra info and update: Would you look at that? He wins more than her. And disregards him using money for his daughter, while accusing him of wanting to steal the child support she's receiving. She sucks. Aaaaand she's a thief. Ew. :/
Shes a gold digger, nothing more
Oh yeah. Every other sentence, I thought, "Gee, wonder why her marriage(s) failed."
First story: You aren’t a “family”….you’re a doormat being used as an ATM.
How sad that OP didn't see that until he cut off funds and she left. He's got the money to get a shark lawyer and go scorched earth to get his stuff back from her.
Loved the last story! One of my best friend's was a retired Marine. He, too, kept every paper on ALL purchases, his bills, etc. all organized. OP's response was priceless!
That stupid clerk was working so hard at being lazy that she worked 30 minutes past closing for what was a slam dunk encounter. His original request would have taken all of 20 minutes, if that.
That clerk didn’t realize that discharged / retired military save every piece of paper they received. I know this because, I am married for 50 years to a retired LTC who served for 30 years!
Story 1 after the update:
Wow she finally did something nice for you and left.
Just don't be a simp by running after her.
Story one: so wait…..they have separate finances but she has access to OP’s bank account? Wtf
Yeah, that was a "wait...what???" moment. Puts a couple grand of mani-pedi's and such per month on his dime but they have separate finances.
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You got this, stay positive, it’ll pass.
@Auri
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Second Story: "You're gonna waste my time, I'm gonna waste yours!" Perfect.
1. Story:
a evil parasite latched onto op, he should get rid of it
Update:
good, OP finally grew a brain
He didn't though? The evil parasite is the one who dumped him, not the other way around. He didn't grow anything. If he did, he would have set up countermeasures against letting his home get raided by said parasite. And don't tell me he couldn't have expected that, it should have been something fully expected. He also put his daughter into a situation where she feels miserable despite knowing all the issues this woman has.
@@WhiteTorn I meant with calling the police etc
well the brain just started growing, so ofc he is still really stupid^^
Op needs to raise his standards for dating. That's his primary issue. Stop dating entitled 304's and expecting them to all of a sudden become respectable ladies out of nowhere. Dating should be an interview process where you discover the character of the person you're seeing.
just stop dating, at least with the intention to settle down. given his position and the sheer amount of money he makes, all he will attract are gold digging whores. So unless he moves to like a small 2 bedroom apartment with his kid and starts buying all his shit at walmart hes not getting anything worth having. if he gets a girl that sticks around knowing hes making 50k instead of 500k, then hes found a keeper. otherwise pump n dump. its all gold diggers are good for
@@thunderbutt357XD It's not even that. The type of women he should be dating are, sadly, most likely won't even acknowledge him because they'd think him for one of those sugar daddies that will abuse them. Two way street.
@@BrokensoulRider sadly true. as a romantic (i no longer use the term hopeless) it sucks to see the relationship between the sexes deteriorate to this state, but given the political state of the world for the past 50 years i cant say im surprised. Still, it sucks cuz loving and being loved is the best part of being alive imo. and now, were staring down the barrel of ww3 so i say the sooner it happens the better. hopefully whoever is left can build a better world in future. but as is, this world needs to burn
@@thunderbutt357XD It's not only the political climate. People are willing to let the world burn because they don't get enough of x y or z. And then you really can blame it on the shows 'Lifestyle of the Rich and Famous' and its counterparts.
@@BrokensoulRider whose fault is that tho? economic inequality is rampant in this world and no one has even attempted to put a stop to it. why? because 'muh freedoms and muh cheap goods". Now we have one country that has the rest of the world by the financial balls, and a handful of people who can literally bail out every problem the world has if they chose to do so. people dont care about one another and its all about me me me. i think the world should burn not because of a lack of material things but because we human beings have fucked things up so badly that theres no fixing it. only thing left to do is blow it all up and rebuild from scratch
🤣🤣🤣 LOVING the last story. Yeah, go ahead, play stupid paperwork games with a U.S. military veteran! Honey, you haven't seen ppwk like the military & Uncle Sam can come up with. It starts with just trying to enlist, everything during service, & ends with a huge stack just to leave the service. OP has you six ways from Sunday when it comes to THAT stupid little game. So proud of OP! ❤😂
I think the attendant was going to pocket the money.
Once again the police are misinformed of the law. Not even in Texas is 1 year of cohabitation considered common law, where items are shared assets. The police might be thinking of gifts, which common subjects in break ups, even an engagement ring may not be subject to return, as it it sometimes considered a gift, not a condition.
This guy is really lucky she left and didn't try to get him kicked out of his own home, which o have seen.
What does me in is that she was making 40k while collecting child support. I hope she isn't a social worker.
At least he is going to fight with his lawyer.
The police aren't misinformed, they are just lazy and don't want to be bothered.
I think Texas does recognize common law marriages, but that's not what op had and living with someone for a year doesn't mean they get half of your stuff. Otherwise roommates and the like would be allowed to just take your stuff. As for the ring, it's a conditional gift and has to be returned or she pays the depreciated value at the very least. If she sold anything of his and it's worth above a certain amount (I think k it varies from state to state, but I could be mistaken) she could get charged with a felony and get prison time. Then she'll lose her kids and all that child support....
Not all states honor Commonlaw marriage. South Carolina is 7 years cohabiting.
@@shells500tutubo Yep, they knew the law. They just didn't want to get in the middle of it.
You can't have it both ways you can't tell someone you want separate fiances and then keep spending their money. This woman has so many red flags it's insane. The second she said OP was paying too much child support she should of been gone.
And she was on his debit card!
Dude the second story, if she would have just done it, it would have taken like 10 min. Its always so much easier to do what your supposed to do the first time the right way and then you dont have to deal with it anymore.
2nd story? The woman was being a crabby jerk! And Karma got Her GOOD!
I think that DMV agent wanted to pocket the money, which is why she tried to strong arm him! All he had to do was ask to speak to the manager!
Oh, first poor OP. She was totally using him. Glad he's free.
I blinked at 0:45 at the phrase "Her children's fathers" PLURAL.
Why on earth op bought 30k engagement ring is he insane? Overall, its on him and his lawyer to get engagement ring back or she has to pay for it.
Lol I love it when the trash takes itself out! 😂
The utter greed of OP's ex (from the first post) because asking your partner to stop paying child support is evil and Mr Krabs kind of greed
Car registration lady: You must do a bunch of bullshit work to accomplish this task
Lady, we're military. We're masters of bullshiting to accomplish the mission.
It always amuses me when the gold digger shows their hand before they get the paperwork signed. OP learned an expensive lesson, but one he could afford. He can take her to court for theft and she'll end up paying for years with her wages garnished.
Op said their finances are split but her finances are split from him but she has access to his money. What a weirdo
You just know it's going downhill when "friends" get involved
Lol, never mess with someone in the military-they are experts in compliance!
Story #1: Run, run away from her as fast as you can. Time to break things off ASAP. Find someone who doesn't need you for a bank account who actually is financially viable on her own. Someone like that will marry for love not money.
I'm glad that the first OP came to his senses. That woman wanted someone to support her and her kids and used her beauty and sex to achieve it. OP needs a woman who wants him and does not need or want his money. He also needs to stop falling for the exterior packaging instead of its contents.
Unfortunately there are many, many men like this. They think beauty or being good in bed are personality traits. You ask them what they like about their gf and they don't say, "she's kind, funny, smart...". The first two things out of their mouths are that "she's so pretty, so good in bed". I can't have sympathy for men like that.
Unfortunately, it only kicked in after she abandoned him!
As if only beautiful people act like that
Any DMV building is loaded with Karens. Glad you made them miserable.
I would love to see an update on the first story that fully details her comeuppance.
THAT would be WONDERFUL to see the out-come of what happened!
She will get away with it and move on to a new simp. Probably had another ready before she left.
I had a very similar thing happen when I changed from my married name back to my maiden name.
"Um you need X, Y, Z ....."
Got it! Here they are
"But you also need A, B, C...."
Got those too, anything else?
"You should have...."
Didn't even finish, I gave the paper to her while finishing her sentence!
She was not amused! Her colleague on the neighbouring desk was giggling though!
Wonderful story time again LG! Thanks! ❤️
"1 to 2,000 a month" Excuse me!? From YOUR CARD!? Ohhhh hell nah.
Story 2: I really enjoyed your story. I am still chuckling. Thank you for your service.
First story. The only red flag that was missing was that she didn’t verbally refer to him as ATM.
And she’s trying to stop you from helping your child’s mother and child dude come on now she wants you to pay for all three of her kids but cut down what you pay for your own you should double up your child’s payments and anything you put toward her three kids you should match it with your child if you put 150 for all three of her kids in savings you put 150 for yours
Sorry you're suffering OP I hope you find someone that loves you for you!
She would have been a horrible mother for OPs little daughter. I'm so glad they split.
Literally "whats yours is mine and whats mine is mine" ... she has a Card linked to his Bank account while he has never even seen her finances smh
I was a single mom who didn't get child support and I would never "expect" another man to support my son and I. For her to say that money is for the childs future...no honey it's called "support" not "investment" for a reason. GEESE!
omg hes got a fiance whos is friends with a group of gold diggers !!! OP needs to runnnnnnnn
I wonder if those "freinds" even existed.
You need to break up. She has 3 kids, not yours, and wants to pay everything? That is not a partnership. It's her mooching off you
Loved the dmv story, any opportunity to stick it to them is a win.
I hope you are matching every time you spend toward those kids matching it with every time you gave your daughter
In 1984, As a military member I arrived in the great State of Texas. Like O.P. I was 36, divorced, had a daughter in another state. Four days later, after work a buddy took me to a local establishment where he was known. I met a lady that night, who I thought was in her 20's but turned out to be one year younger than me. 38 years later we are still going, her 2 kids are grown and doing well (I adopted both). Moral of the story, sometimes you get it right😁
Always good to see a new Lost Genre story! Great job as always
Change your debit card and she doesn't get access to your account. No is a word you are under using.
Wait a second, OPs partner is okay with receiving child support, having him take care of her kids from another relationship and pay for their future but is mad that hes doing the same exact thing her ex's are doing for her? Does she really think her children are more important than his? OP, LEAVE THIS RELATIONSHIP. I have a sneaking suspicion that she'll do anything to destroy any form of relationship he has with his kid.
Selfish people hate if the money goes to someone else than themselves.
Thankfully for OP it ended.
No surprise she's divorced and has different father for kids.
@@duckeh1952 no lie in that one. I'm glad he did, it gives him a chance to be truly happy and keep that bond going with his kid.
She doesn't want to raise another woman's child, doesn't think his daughter needs that much money for child support. He needed to drop her for that alone. She will NOT be a good stepmother.
OMG! Run away fast. She's crazy and what she wants is completely unfair.
He’s paying for tarnished, well patina’d trophy wife
Mi abuela dice que los hombres al separarse terminan enamorándose más de los hijos de otros que los suyos. Al cuidar y pagar sus gastos y escuela, y a los suyos solo enviarles migajas. Que bueno que OP ve por su hija.
There is nothing wrong with being a "kept woman" or a "kept man" as long as you're upfront about it to your partner before the relationship begins. The actions of OP's fiance shows that she was being deliberately manipulative & deceitful in order to drain OP's bank account. She wasn't trying to be a "kept woman", she was trying to steal from him. Which was made clear when she took half his stuff
Wow the ex is a massive user. If OP had folded and let her get away with her BS, she would have used him for everything he had until he was broke, and she'd move on to the next sucker. He's lucky that she can't get pregnant or he'd be on the hook for child support. What fucking nerve for her to demand he stop paying child support for his daughter while expecting him to provide for her brats and for their future colleges as well. I hope OP can get back the things she stole and the ring before she sells it all.
LOL! She's a your money is my money and my money is my money type of girl! Wow! No wonder she is an ex!
OP is a walking ATM....run OP, don't look back.
Last story: The DMV staffer was definitely trying to send you packing because it was a little before closing time, and she didn't want to do anymore work.
Good on you for making her a half hour late getting out. If she had been polite and just done her job the right way, she would have been done by closing time or just a few minutes after. It's her own fault she was so late getting out. You had to take longer going through the paperwork with her because she was deliberately playing dumb about it.
Well, play stupid jerk games, win stupid jerk prizes.
My dude you deserve so much better. She's a crazy witch because she's comfortable.
The second I heard she had 2 baby daddy's I immediately thought run.
"I want seperate finances"
"I don't want to pay anything"
pick a lane, lady.
3 kids. Multiple Baby Fathers, and is a Divorcee. Wants you to pay for everything & take care of her 3 kids YET doesn’t care for your 1 child , nor respect you send money to the mother of your child while she collects 3 child support checks ? Her money is hers & your money is hers too ? honestly I wouldn’t marry a self person like this.
Her inconsistency and hypocrisy is amazing.
She took the furniture and personal items? Yeah no, op should run far away.
Tyvm LG.. Great stories. Stay safe please. PEACE
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Ok, I just saw a Febreeze ad before the video started.
Fun fact: the original Febreeze was scentless, but they added scent because customers didn't believe it worked...because it was scentless...
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No thank you to “what’s yours is mine, and what’s mine is mine”. Op’s fiancé gets all the benefits and he’s her sugar daddy. Her friends are also unhealthy and wrong for your relationship. Also, who else thinks she spends her kids’ child support on herself, and is expecting him to bankroll her kids education and lifestyle.
BINGO!
She has too many kids and baggage, to have so many expectations.
She has a lot of nerve acting like that when she should've been grateful since being a single mother of three is enough to make most men say "Oh hell no" and run for the hills. Entitled people like her disgust me. At least the trash took itself out, she did him a favor.
It's very true!
Maybe men you know. Almost every single mother I know is now married, so somebody is lying. They're getting locked down more than my single girlfriends. lol
Yeah. She's very selfish and entitled. OP dodged a bullet, though he had to take another, in the form of having his stuff taken away.
Oh gawd don’t marry her or get her pregnant. This is pretty much a wrap.
Oh good. She left. Op can do much better, too bad he spent more than a year dealing with it. Maybe will be easier to see the red flags next time, hopefully there won’t be.
Oh that last one was EPIC!
Malicious compliance story: 🤣 That will teach her not to mess with a veteran!
Would’ve loved to see her reaction when she came back to the house to get op back , and there was a for sale sign lol
She has 3 kids that OP has to taking care of, but all of her money is hers ? She has a problem with OP paying child support for his child? She doesn’t want a partner, she wants a sponsor
The dude needs to run and run far and fast as she is just after him for his money. And she's told him that in multiple ways and he's not getting that message
In my state, tags are renewed at what is called the Revenue Office. Those employees are notoriously rude, jaded, apathetic and try to get out of as much work as possible. That sounds like a horrible generalization, but if you ask ANYONE in my state - they will ALL complain about their experiences getting tags or licenses renewed or changed at their local Revenue office. That being said, those employees are amateurs compared to dealing with military red tape. When a retired veteran has an expanded folder full of paper, you can bet your life that the veteran has not only researched thoroughly what paperwork is necessary to complete the task at hand, but has also made sure to have 150% more than what the regulations require. I had to chuckle to myself listening to that story.
She definitely wanted him to pay for her and her kids lifestyle, but not for his kid. OP is better off without her and shouldn’t take it to heart. This was a individual that wanted someone to find her lifestyle.
I honestly thought that the wife would need intense therapy as well as OP hanging out with her family members to get an glimpse of WHY she has that mindset.
And if you break up with someone like this, I think you should stress that this is an issue that will keep them from long-term relationships/marriage IN GENERAL if not fixed.
Why do you have to pay for her kids. Doesn’t she get child support?
01:57 He thinks 20% of the people paying for 50% of the expenses is fair.
I want him to be my business partner.
As a final dig, after getting his new plates (tags), OP could have said: "Next time you want to get out early, try doing your job in an efficient manner instead. Have a nice day."
That might have caused the clerk to detonate, though.
Lol, 3 kids from 2 other dads and is still expecting the OP to pay for everything even before marriage? She's for the streets. No surprise she later cleaned him out and left.
I'm trying to picture her circle of friends and for some reason my mind immediately goes to all the different clips I've seen from those Real Housewives shows. Everybody's a decade or more past their prime and trying (unsuccessfully) to hide it under designer clothes and a pound of make-up/Botox.
The child support should cover her kids portion of the phone bill, groceries & their clothing & school needs. She also needs to pay things like the gas, electric & groceries and contribute to family vacations. She also needs to stop spending money on cleaning services, do the cleaning & cooking
The best way to share finances as a relationship, is to give a certain percentage of each pay check into a joint account. And yes, the person who makes less money puts in less to the joint account so that person's left over fun money is somewhere near to fair. And that would be a married couple. Just a fiance who you have only known for 2 years who has children? Hmmm, no. If you were really generous, you could take the excesses of your fun money in a situation such as I described above and put it away for retirement and maybe a family holiday, but again, for a MARRIED couple. If you are not married? You shouldn't be paying for anything for her or her kids unless its treating them to dinner or a gift.
My partner makes more. So pays more towards our expenses. But i contribute too.
OP 1 had a narrow escape! And that was a great malicious compliance story too!
I hope OP cancel those debit cards link to his account.
A women at the SSA did that paperwork crap to me...I keep paperwork...I took her a 55 gallon size tub into her office desk in front of everyone... my paperwork was in folders color coded by name/ year/subject/ and I started putting those out in piles on her desk...she started objecting and I stopped her very firmly very clearly very loudly...NO MA'MAM..YOU MADE ME COME BACK BECAUSE I DID NOT HAVE ENOUGH DOCTOR NOTES RECEIPTS ETC TO SHOW I HAD INSURANCE DURING THE LAST 13 YEARS. YOU MADE US DRIVE 40 MILES BACK UP HERE AND WAIT 2 HOURS TO SEE YOU. YOU ARE GOING TO LOOK AT ALL THE STUFF YOU REQUESTED I HAD TO HAVE. ....dead silence in that very busy office..it took her 1 1/2 hour to look at all that paperwork lol and her supervisor was pissed off at her. And said she was sorry to us.
To once again paraphrase the Merovingian: "It is remarkable how similar the patterns of Love are to the patterns of insanity."
I’ll never understand why people stay in these types of relationships. She clearly doesn’t respect or appreciate OP and all he does for her. She sounds *_INSANELY_* selfish, immature, and petty. It’s getting to the point where her behavior is bordering on despicable.
Dude. She's getting Child Support. That's not her money. If she isn't using it to support the children because you pay all of the bills, regardless of what anybody thinks, that money belongs in a trust for the kids, or back with the fathers.