@@maggiemae9099 Don't I have a right to my own opinion like everyone else according to the American Constitution? Don't other people have a right to be intrigued by God's word if a mention of Him comes up? If so, I don't think you have any right to try and stop me from speaking my mind just because my beliefs as a Christian differ from you as an Atheist. I as a Christian think what the Parents and brother in this story did is unacceptable and not Christlike. Christ wouldn't have turned His followers away for making mistakes, He'd forgive and helped them if they asked Him. I'd do the same thing He would, but I wouldn't wait years later. As much as I like to see families reconcile with each other, I do believe that such parents can't be trusted if they have an evil spirit in them, which is clearly evidenced on what happened to OP. It all depends on the fruits people reveal in themselves and that's how you can tell if someone is a genuine Christian or not. Besides, I'm doing what I'm supposed to do as a Christian, and it is to witness to anyone who'd listen. If my words offend you so much, you have every right to ignore them. I'm not going to shove or force it down your throat but like me, you have free will. It's your choice whether or not you want Christ in your life.
haven't heard the whole thing yet BUT the fact that they showed up only when she's pregnant again gives me the vibe they are going to go out of their way to pretend her oldest doesn't exist and going to golden child the hell out of the new baby
That's what I was thinking. Makes me glad it didn't get that far when the parents blew up their plan in their faces by freaking out when OP (wisely) didn't just accept them 100% in her life.
I'm thinking OP may have been raised in one of those households that idolizes boys and treats girls as second class citizens. I was raised in a house like this. You have to sit there and let them scream at you or else they lash out in violence. When I was an adult living with my parents there was no such thing as "walking away". Nope you had to stand there and take it and if you tried to leave, the exact same thing that OPs brother did would happen
It blows me away just how VIOLENT narcissists become when they don’t get their way. Her own brother had no qualms over attempting to beat a pregnant woman. Her parents had no issue with it either. Good on her husband for stepping up since day one, and if the situation weren’t so awful, I bet there’d be satisfaction in bringing the beat down on them. King.
Hearing that the brother got his ass beat in front of his parents while they couldn't do a thing about it put such a smile on my face. May OP have a long happy marriage and my that loser of a brother have many long painful beatings.
Not happy things got violent but glad OP got a satisfactory resolution. No more doubts or questions about cutting them off and moving on with her husband and kids.
Brother's pretty quick to violence against his pregnant sister, but he sure can't handle a real man! LOL I hope his beating hurt. A lot. Richly deserved. Pity he also wasn't arrested.
The commenter that made OP think if she would do the same to her kids... nicely done. The reality is no sane, caring, normal person would do this to their child. OP's parents are monsters, simple as that, and those people would be forced to stay a court mandated amount of feet away from me at all times if I had my way. So glad OP's husband is a king and a gentleman and was there to protect her and their kids.
They’re also raging narcissists that only care when it benefits them. They want to play happy family because it would make them look good in front of everyone.
OP's parents are abusive & controlling. I'm fairly certain the reason they flipped out was that they were worried the now husband WOULDN'T leave her & she would have support to stand up to them & an out from under their control. They were hoping now she's pregnant again she's vulnerable enough for them to control. Of course they don't like the husband, he shows OP what love without abuse looks like.
Parents that do this do need to realise that not only are they rejecting their own child but their grandchild something that may come back and bite them in the future
@@catT5236 I sorta think it might be more sinister than that. Like, maybe the brother is married and his wife is having fertility issues so they're trying to get the OP to give her kid to the brother. I can't imagine someone snapping like the brother did over her saying she was gonna let them back into her life slowly. Unless he needed her for something. They might've been banking on her letting them have a relationship with the kids and helping them out so that they could stab her in the back later and call CPS with a lie so they can try and get custody of the kids because they would have an established relationship as grandparents.
First story: I think the first story is sad but reassuring story. Removing toxic people from your life is better than keeping them and stay miserable. The OP’s parents and brother are a big example of that.
I had a feeling when the parents decided to reach out randomly 8 years after they disowned OP that it was going to be a mess. Their explanations made no sense. Cutting off their daughter from their support because they were afraid she'd be a single parent, that doesn't even track. Glad they didn't expose their kids to this kind of toxic mess.
It tracks if you look at it from the perspective of them making it all about themselves. They were afraid she'd be a single parent and how that would reflect on them so they demanded she terminate, as quietly as possible no doubt, which would help maintain their image or they'd disown her and so remove her from the equation completely. To them it makes perfect sense and requires no explanation beyond what was given. Also you only need look at how the reunion went to see how much they think they're the center of the universe.
@@Vipre- Exactly. There's an old 'reform school' at the edge of the town I grew up in where early 20th century parents would send their wayward daughters when they got pregnant and they either couldn't find a bad alley abortionist or didn't want to take that risk. Not that the reformatory was without risks. A lot of girls and infants died there and the records kept on the deaths were *abysmal.* Many weren't even collected by their families, so they were left in poorly marked graves in a small field. When the reformatory closed, the field with the graves was forgotten, the markers rotted away, and the site was overgrown. About a decade ago, it was rediscovered and cleaned up, but no one knows who was buried where or even how many.
If they are willing to disown their own daughter, then why would the daughter want them back in her life??? I said it once and I will say it again.... Lousy parents = Lousy Grand Parents.
Not always, my parents would tell you that "Our parents were terrible parents but they were good grandparents". Even my own parents admit they weren't ready to be parents but they are ready to be grandparents. I think that is why people talk about grandbabies all the time. They want a second chance to make up for all they did and hopefully do better now they are likely in a better situation than when they had their kids.
It's not the same way in some cases. Parents that were horrible at first do change and become better grandparents. People can change, but only if they let God in control.
So OP's family was so sorry for abandoning her, they can't even last through an initial meeting without violence? Laying hands on a pregnant woman should never happen. This whole things is shocking to me in the extreme. I was raised with extreme physical and verbal abuse, but the level of control these people held over OP's life is terrifying to me.
If I was the husband, I'd put OP's brother in cast for a long ass time. Who the hell does he think he is, raising a hand on a pregnant woman? OP's parents are despicable people.
To OP, pro choice doesn’t mean your pro abortion, it means you have the right to do with your body what you want so keeping the baby is still pro choice.
@@packergeek10 exactly! I volunteer at one, and we are only there to support those that really want to keep their babies, but just don’t have the resources to do so yet. We also offer free pregnancy tests, sti test, and ultrasounds. Honestly it’s just there for anyone that needs it. I don’t get how people can find issues with that. Like do you hate women getting the support they want or something?
@@rachelr9352 That's actually exactly how they feel. They think any person who isn't a white, Christian, heterosexual, married woman who gets pregnant deserves to be 'punished' for daring to reproduce and encroach on their perfect white society. Shouldn't this mean they support abortions for those people? Yes, but no one ever accused these people of being rational.
@@packergeek10 Because they mostly protest and attack places that perform abortions specifically, and that is because they are obviously not well mentally if they think it is perfectly fine to try and kill people because they help others terminate a fetus. Not surprised. Christians use to murder each other and others all the time. Religious ideologies allow for violence as long as it is against nonbelievers and what have you. Sucks to watch people spiral out ov control like that too. Lost a friend too that conspiratorial religious rubbish a year or so ago, qanon crap and all. Hope he doesn't end up burning a clinic down because ov that stuff.
Story 1 I knew things would shake out like that. That they would be furious that op didn't forgive and forget. Plus I hope they get at home security. I don't trust ops family. Especially the brother if he's willing to assault his pregnant sister.
Chances are they'd abuse her daughter if they got the chance, perhaps they should inform the kid's school just in case they show up there, I don't think They're done yet.
That update had me spinning. What are these people? Monsters, all three of them. OMG when your brother manhandled you..... hold breath.... dear hubby comes to the rescue with a well deserved beating... exhale. Then you kicked them all out for good. Bravo Glad to hear your little bean is doing fine
The last part about the bbq by the first OP made me tear up. So glad she got to see the true colors of her parents and brother before fully letting them back into her family's lives. Kudos to her husband for showing her brother whose boss!
Story 1: "We cut you off because we were scared and hurt" how do you think your CHILD felt when they told you they were pregnant and you abandoned them without even knowing if they had another support system or not??? For all you know, she could have ended up _by herself_ on the _streets_ with nobody to help her and you have the _NERVE_ to come back and say YOU were scared and hurt?!?! After seven (7) years?!?! Edit: "You should be grateful!" For what? You didn't do anything for Op other than abandon her and show her how disgustingly horrible you are.
They are gaslighting revisionist AHs. You hit it on the nose! “We cut you off from our support because we were afraid you would be a single mom”. Are they insane?!
I know right? The quotes "You owe me! I raised you." "I gave birth to you so you must do as I say." "You should be grateful to have me as your mother/father/parent." and "I'm your mother/father/parent. You will respect me." really annoy me. Just because you bring a child into the world doesn't mean you are entitled to your child's success or happiness. "Sigh" 😳 Entitled parents are the worst! Makes me glad my parents aren't like that. ❤💖❤
First story: the in-laws are the smart ones. Your parents kick you out and now that your second child isn't a "bastard" they want back in. Simply because they can parade the "pure" child around.
i would punch myself than hurt my sister. Even with my 1st sister who always acted like a spoiled brat and i was inches away from punching her once for mistreat my mom too. But i will never raise a hand to my 2nd sister who always been an awesome person, even when we argue too. I would turn to my parents instead of they do that to my sister and almost happen with my idiot of a mother. That brother is an a-hole and I'm glad OP's husband punch him, since i would do the same. I hate entitled aggressive people who makes me turn anger to them and want to wreck their face too.
OP should notify CPS in her region so it's down on paper what happened, because you never know how crazy people will get and they might try to do something stupid around the children. She needs a paper trail. Filing with the police would also be important. You don't have to press charges just to open a file.
First story: Yikes and more yikes! Her parents and brother are horrible! I can't believe what the brother did! 😱 Thank goodness OP's husband was there! Who knows what could have happened if he hadn't been there! Police should be involved.
Story 1: sooo, their brilliant idea to the possibility that their daughter would end up being a single mother was to make her a potential single mom _without_ a support system? Parents of the Year.
The only explanation that I can think of is that they were worried about what their peers would think when it came out that their daughter had a child out of wedlock. In other words, a stupid reason.
Did the OP and her husband in the first story not call the police and get a restraining order or press charges or anything? The brother committed assault with that little stunt.
My guess for the reason why OP's parents wanted to reconnect out of the blue is they likely told their side of the story a lot and got more questions about why their daughter and grandchild weren't spending time with them than sympathy from anybody willing to lend them an ear. No good grandparent doesn't spend time with their grandchildren and it probably ate at them so much they tried to show up invited and unannounced into OP's life again and had the gall to feel entitled to her going along with their desires to play "happy little family" as if nothing happened. They're a bunch of control freaks as evident in how they raised OP.
Havent finished the update but when kids are involved there is only one question any GOOD parent will have in their head no matter the emotions: is it good for my children? Also " we don't want you to get abandoned so we abandoned you " 🙄 Finished update: a tad disappointed with the family in the update. I've seen long estranged family want to reconnect for genuine reasons ( the teen that sold his PS5 reconnecting with his dad's family, the man who discovered that he was the only one not his dad's kids reconnecting with bio family ) so I know its possible for a pleasant reunion to happen. That just makes it all the more disappointing when shit like this happens.... do wonder what the wanted in the first place 🤔 Also raise a hand if you think that if op ran to her dad squealing " daddy a pink flower " when she was little she'd only be met with belittling comments. Seriously like op said, their loss.
Think OP should consider getting a restraining order on her "family", and a report should have been made (at the very least). I'd be surprised if they don't try to come back...
Story one: No. They showed up for your second kid, because they want something. Maybe just to pose for pictures to look like grandparents. But no, they don't get to decide to just be part of your life again. I'm expecting there to be a catch.
this is my favourite reddit channel as LG takes time and effort to find posts with updates AND searches through comments for extra info just shows how dedicated he is to his followers Well done and keep up the fab work
I really feel for the OP in the first story but it was lovely to hear how great her relationship with her MIL is. Plus that amazing support system and family she has around her, headed by her incredible husband. Screw those other people, you have a brilliant family and you don't need them and their toxic crazy!
So they didn’t think that your husband would be there for you so they left you to teach you a lesson. What the what? Somethings going on and they aren’t telling you the whole story.
They treated her as a "Unperson" when she got pregnant at 18 and 7 years later they suddenly want to see her again and expect her to welcome them with arms wide open? FOXTROT TANGO SIERRA! And her brother should consider himself lucky that her husband didn't turn him into a bloody smear on the ground because he would've been justified.
Prediction: The only factor that’s different between the two pregnancies is that one child was conceived out of wedlock and the other wasn’t, so I’m worried about OP’s parents treating her daughter like a bastard and showering the new baby with their love… After update: it’s probably a good thing that nobody besides the parents will know what their intentions were. I wish nothing but the best for OP, her husband and her babies. Remember folks: family isn’t dictated by blood: it’s shown by the people who are there to help you back up when you’re at your lowest and who make the happy moments even more wonderful!
I’m glad the op recognizes how stupid it was to not use protection when she and her BF were having sex as teenagers. This could have turned out a lot worse but I love that this turned out so well for the OP (including being away from controlling and frankly abusive parents).
I'm glad OP & baby was not hurt. The silver lining for the scene at dinner (besides OP being ok) is that now OP has closure for herself regarding her parents. She no longer has to second guess her feelings about them and knows that keeping herself & her family away from them is a wise decision.
We were scared your partner would abandon you, and leave you to raise the child alone, so we threw you out so that you *would* be alone to raise the child. 🙄 these so-called parents are a joke.
This thing was wild! They disowned her then when she refused to let them back into her life w no guardrails they wanted to rip them out? I am sure $ has something to do w the reason they reached out
Story 1: What an awful family she had. I can't even begin to think how anyone can treat their child like this. Family are not the ones you are born in to but the ones you choose to have around you and in your life.
Personally, I’d remain cut off from them. They were scared she was going to struggle as a single mom so they cut her off entirely from their life? They are lying.
I don’t trust it. They probably just want the baby born in wedlock. Don’t put your daughter through the potential favoritism. Speaking from experience, it’s very damaging and doesn’t heal completely.
1st story: OP's parents are abusive and controlling. I'm fairly certain the reason they flipped out was that they were worried the now husband WOULDN'T leave her and then she would have support to stand up to them as well as an out from under their control.
I am pro-choice but I just couldn’t……. That is what pro-choice is all about. Nobody is forcing an abortion on you or, for that matter, forcing you to carry the child to term. You have a choice.
I have a slightly different opinion. Im pro life because it was a separate human being inside the woman. Once she has a baby, she can have a choice to give the baby up for adoption or keep it, but to me, abortion is murder.
@@savannahhague4989 Nobody ever said that pro-choice meant an easy choice and even pro-life has its challenging moments. Having to choose between the life of a foetus or that of the mother for instance. I can respect a principled pro-life stance if it is accompanied by a solid understanding and availability of birth control. Being pro-life only really makes sense when the underlying issue is unwanted pregnancy. You do not solve that by teaching abstinence, human nature being what it is, especially where hormone driven teens are involved.
@@savannahhague4989 Even if a fetus counted as a fully developed, sentient being, why should a woman be forced to carry it? Even the dead can't be forced to give their bodies up to save a life. You want living women to have fewer rights than the dead? Is that it?
Glad to see the husband is a keeper the way he defended you against your brother. He has more restraint than me, I would have put him on permanent disability.
The real reasons for the family wanting to reconnect with OP after abandoning her at her time of need remain a mystery, but I guess that's moot now. The brother should thank his lucky stars that OP isn't pressing charges for assaulting her.
Update tldr!:Father's got mad the brother of op literally got physical with her because she "disrespect" the father for not being open arms so the husband kick the brothers ass and Kick out the parents and know she is happy with her life
they must've been getting a lot of bad press in their extended family that they're forcing the relationship to keep up the appearance. I do hope OP's brother gets a chance to escape before their parents ruin his future relationships.
I got the impression that op's parents didn't like the fact that only op had a kid at 18 but that it was out of wedlock and now she not only older but married so this time it's okay
Seems like the trash took itself out for story number one.... only to try to come back and stink up the place only to be beat down.. kicked out and left to rot in their own self-despair for good! Honestly I bet mom and dad thought their daughter would be that scared girl they kicked out not realizing that she has a shiny spine and a titanium handed husband as backup!
I’d be telling the ex parents that they were 7 years too late, and while I had desperately needed their help and support 7 years ago, I sure as hell didn’t get it, and no longer need anything from them but their absence.
Story 1: don't let them back in. They'll treat the kids differently, and they don't respect OP. Also, Lost Genre's "no, no, no, no" reminded me othe original batman theme. 😭😅😂
Some managers are completely clueless to what some of their employee do and are sticklers for micromanaging. And when their incompetence and cluelessness collide, shit hits them in the face.
If the parents were scared of Op becoming a single mother then they should help her not kick her out. If any of my friends are in this position I will help them with anything that they need. This includes my siblings as well. Last year I met my niece and I promised that I would be there for her no matter what.
S1: "We were scared and hurt. We were scared for you 'cos we thought your boyfriend would leave you alone"... "So, we went no contact. Left YOU scared and hurt. And scared that you'd be a single mom... so WE abandoned you too!" Yeah. Somehow their explanation doesn't QUITE ring true, does it?
the only thing that matters is when you were down did they kick you or did they help lift you up? they had the chance when things were darkest at that point in your life and why would they not do it again if they feel you disappointed them again.
Story 1 OPs parents deserted their daughter because they decided the social stigma of having an unmarried mother as a daughter was worse than OPs wellbeing! I can see why she would want her children to know their maternal grandparents, but I think contact needs to be progressively re-established, under guidance of a professional mediator. To receive, but not even acknowledge, cards and photos at important family times shows callous disregard for their daughter, and grand daughter.
They were so scared they turned their back on their own child.......right 👎 Then she gets attacked and throws a party to make everyone feel better...wtf!?
Story 1 Opinion: I'm 100% with you on that thought process Lost Genre. I thought the exact same thing. Made no sense. "Afraid she be a single mom so we abandoned you." "Afraid he wouldn't step up so we abandoned you." Like what? What kind of insane logic is that?
Well, everything happened like I surmised it would in the first couple of paragraphs I read. Although I didn't expect that much violence and freaking out. The good thing that came of it, is that they laid all their cards out and OP can carry on through her life knowing she made the best decision.
Yeah. That toxic family especially the brother absolutely sucks! You don't get a say on whether you get to come back after you abandoned your own daughter for 7 years! The quotes "You owe me! I raised you." "I gave birth to you so you must do as I say." "You should be grateful to have me as your mother/father/parent." and "I'm your mother/father/parent. You will respect me." really annoy me. Just because you bring a child into the world doesn't mean you are entitled to your child's success or happiness. "Sigh" 😳 Entitled parents are the worst! Makes me glad my parents aren't like that. ❤💖❤
The BIL who assaults a pregnant woman? IDK how other men feel, but I'm a fairly peaceful guy but when I held my firstborn I looked in his strangely wise eyes and realized I could kill to protect him. Take that to someone assaulting my pregnant wife? BIL would be dead and I would gladly take my chances with a jury of my peers.
I personally would never allow them back in. They left you on the street, a pregnant teen. You could have died out there and they could care less. Why now suddenly allow them to just say "oh sorry". What a joke.
Story 1) I honestly think they want something from OP. It could various from money, image of “happy birth of their official grand child,” or some type of health related issue. If you really want to let them I. Your life be careful because there is a very good chance they’ll play favourites with your second born.
"We cut you off and didn't give you suport because we were worried. Now that you don't need us, let us play happy family and play favorites with your children" Also, pro choice is not anti babies. She made her choice, it was to keep it. Good for her for not letting anyone take it from her
So before I continue and finish the video, if I was in her shoes I wouldn't take them back. I mean they said they were scared and hurt for her because they thought she was gonna be a single mom, yet their first reaction is to cut her off if she doesn't get an abortion. Make it make sense atleast. 🙄 And they had 7 years to make contact and reconcile especially since you have contact with family from their side. Oh wow, though their reason for trying to "reconcile" wasn't unveiled it probably has something to do with feeling good and kind and validated or something along that line. Whatever it is, they sure don't deserve you and your family. Best wishes for OP and her family.
"We abandoned you bc we thought he was going to leave you a single mother." I'm sorry...what?! If that is their thought, then why TF did they kick her out. They were clearly looking out for themselves, family gatherings or around their friends it would look bad. Now OP is married, has a good paying job, and is in their own house to raise said kids it won't look bad on the parents
Wow.. op1's family really dropped the ball here. The brother put his hands on his pregnant sister, despicable. Every future girlfriend of his should know that, but damn, no one will be able to tell them. I'm glad op made the right choice.
OP's parents: we were so scared for you that we disowned you and left you when you needed us most! ???? Listen, my parents would have given me an earful if I got pregnant at 18 BUT they are good parents so I know for a fact that no matter how disappointed and hurt they would have been, they would have also stepped up to support me and their grandchild. That's what good parents do.
Haven't even finished listening to this story yet all I can hear in my mind is the song Yo Mister by Patti LaBelle. They were so scared that they couldn't even help her????
I don't even know why OP thought this would be a good idea they waited until they found out about your second child and want to get back in contact with you, do you really think you would want to have these type of people around your children especially how they treat you after they found that you were pregnant at 18
S1: A lot of people seem to believe that blood makes you a family. Imho, behavior is what makes or breaks “a family”. Due to “golden children” issues (I am the 1st born son) I somehow managed to become the “black sheep” of the family. I always heard that family (blood) made it okay to abuse your child or sibling(s). When someone treats you like you are the spawn of Satan, why should they get a pass? Go out and make the world a better place, find and make your own family. One that loves and cherishes you. Honestly if blood made a family, how is it that a spouse can be family?
I would give them a cautious chance. Slowly introduce the children to them and if they treat the baby differently than the older one cut them off again. Don't let them be alone with the children either, because that is when their real colors will come out.
First story; NTA. Stay no contact. Those people are toxic monsters who wished your baby dead. Look at her. They wanted you to kill her. That precious perfect baby girl. They don't deserve to be in you and your children's lives.
op's strict parents wanted control back, so they abandoned her to get her to crawl back ... 4:00 "getting to know the maternal grandparents" crap, if they had died there would be nothing to know ... the children do not need them ...,
They were scared of OP being a single mom, so they kicked OP out? What logic is that?
Exactly. If she was a single mom wouldn't she need them more than ever?!
"I don't want you to be a single mom! Be a Homeless starving single mom instead 😌"
@@nikkiq5124 I agree that's not only not good logic but they're the type that care more about their reputation more than their daughter and God.
Because they were afraid baby responsibility will be dumped on them, most likely.
@@maggiemae9099 Don't I have a right to my own opinion like everyone else according to the American Constitution? Don't other people have a right to be intrigued by God's word if a mention of Him comes up? If so, I don't think you have any right to try and stop me from speaking my mind just because my beliefs as a Christian differ from you as an Atheist. I as a Christian think what the Parents and brother in this story did is unacceptable and not Christlike. Christ wouldn't have turned His followers away for making mistakes, He'd forgive and helped them if they asked Him. I'd do the same thing He would, but I wouldn't wait years later. As much as I like to see families reconcile with each other, I do believe that such parents can't be trusted if they have an evil spirit in them, which is clearly evidenced on what happened to OP. It all depends on the fruits people reveal in themselves and that's how you can tell if someone is a genuine Christian or not. Besides, I'm doing what I'm supposed to do as a Christian, and it is to witness to anyone who'd listen. If my words offend you so much, you have every right to ignore them. I'm not going to shove or force it down your throat but like me, you have free will. It's your choice whether or not you want Christ in your life.
haven't heard the whole thing yet BUT the fact that they showed up only when she's pregnant again gives me the vibe they are going to go out of their way to pretend her oldest doesn't exist and going to golden child the hell out of the new baby
Came to say this. They only show up when a “legitimate” grandchild is coming. I bet they’d continued to pretend the older child doesn’t exist.
I am wondering about her brother's angle in all this... was he violent to her before?
That's what I was thinking. Makes me glad it didn't get that far when the parents blew up their plan in their faces by freaking out when OP (wisely) didn't just accept them 100% in her life.
I'm thinking OP may have been raised in one of those households that idolizes boys and treats girls as second class citizens. I was raised in a house like this. You have to sit there and let them scream at you or else they lash out in violence. When I was an adult living with my parents there was no such thing as "walking away". Nope you had to stand there and take it and if you tried to leave, the exact same thing that OPs brother did would happen
@@lyndatuttle OP did mention he had anger issues
It blows me away just how VIOLENT narcissists become when they don’t get their way. Her own brother had no qualms over attempting to beat a pregnant woman. Her parents had no issue with it either. Good on her husband for stepping up since day one, and if the situation weren’t so awful, I bet there’d be satisfaction in bringing the beat down on them. King.
Dig that, good man.
Hearing that the brother got his ass beat in front of his parents while they couldn't do a thing about it put such a smile on my face. May OP have a long happy marriage and my that loser of a brother have many long painful beatings.
Not all narcissists are like that, and not all abusers are narcissists! Just adding this on to dispel the misinformation.
Not happy things got violent but glad OP got a satisfactory resolution. No more doubts or questions about cutting them off and moving on with her husband and kids.
Brother's pretty quick to violence against his pregnant sister, but he sure can't handle a real man! LOL I hope his beating hurt. A lot. Richly deserved. Pity he also wasn't arrested.
The commenter that made OP think if she would do the same to her kids... nicely done. The reality is no sane, caring, normal person would do this to their child. OP's parents are monsters, simple as that, and those people would be forced to stay a court mandated amount of feet away from me at all times if I had my way. So glad OP's husband is a king and a gentleman and was there to protect her and their kids.
They’re also raging narcissists that only care when it benefits them. They want to play happy family because it would make them look good in front of everyone.
OP's parents are abusive & controlling. I'm fairly certain the reason they flipped out was that they were worried the now husband WOULDN'T leave her & she would have support to stand up to them & an out from under their control. They were hoping now she's pregnant again she's vulnerable enough for them to control. Of course they don't like the husband, he shows OP what love without abuse looks like.
Parents that do this do need to realise that not only are they rejecting their own child but their grandchild something that may come back and bite them in the future
@@catT5236 I sorta think it might be more sinister than that. Like, maybe the brother is married and his wife is having fertility issues so they're trying to get the OP to give her kid to the brother. I can't imagine someone snapping like the brother did over her saying she was gonna let them back into her life slowly. Unless he needed her for something.
They might've been banking on her letting them have a relationship with the kids and helping them out so that they could stab her in the back later and call CPS with a lie so they can try and get custody of the kids because they would have an established relationship as grandparents.
@@untitled-gv3qp OP did said he have anger issues, he may be just unhinged or is the Golden child
First story: I think the first story is sad but reassuring story. Removing toxic people from your life is better than keeping them and stay miserable. The OP’s parents and brother are a big example of that.
I had a feeling when the parents decided to reach out randomly 8 years after they disowned OP that it was going to be a mess. Their explanations made no sense. Cutting off their daughter from their support because they were afraid she'd be a single parent, that doesn't even track. Glad they didn't expose their kids to this kind of toxic mess.
Oh no you might be a single parent! Let's make sure you have zero support!
Zero sense there
It tracks if you look at it from the perspective of them making it all about themselves. They were afraid she'd be a single parent and how that would reflect on them so they demanded she terminate, as quietly as possible no doubt, which would help maintain their image or they'd disown her and so remove her from the equation completely. To them it makes perfect sense and requires no explanation beyond what was given. Also you only need look at how the reunion went to see how much they think they're the center of the universe.
@@Vipre- Exactly. There's an old 'reform school' at the edge of the town I grew up in where early 20th century parents would send their wayward daughters when they got pregnant and they either couldn't find a bad alley abortionist or didn't want to take that risk. Not that the reformatory was without risks. A lot of girls and infants died there and the records kept on the deaths were *abysmal.* Many weren't even collected by their families, so they were left in poorly marked graves in a small field. When the reformatory closed, the field with the graves was forgotten, the markers rotted away, and the site was overgrown. About a decade ago, it was rediscovered and cleaned up, but no one knows who was buried where or even how many.
If they are willing to disown their own daughter, then why would the daughter want them back in her life???
I said it once and I will say it again.... Lousy parents = Lousy Grand Parents.
They never officially disowned her, just ghosted her. I get what you are saying, but there is a difference even if semantics
Not always, my parents would tell you that "Our parents were terrible parents but they were good grandparents".
Even my own parents admit they weren't ready to be parents but they are ready to be grandparents.
I think that is why people talk about grandbabies all the time. They want a second chance to make up for all they did and hopefully do better now they are likely in a better situation than when they had their kids.
It's not the same way in some cases. Parents that were horrible at first do change and become better grandparents. People can change, but only if they let God in control.
@@scook449 I agree. But it's only if they let God take control.
@@savannahhague4989 bulls**t.
Sh*tty eople dont change, they just get better at hiding it.
So OP's family was so sorry for abandoning her, they can't even last through an initial meeting without violence? Laying hands on a pregnant woman should never happen. This whole things is shocking to me in the extreme. I was raised with extreme physical and verbal abuse, but the level of control these people held over OP's life is terrifying to me.
Sounds to me like they missed having their scapegoat around
If I was the husband, I'd put OP's brother in cast for a long ass time. Who the hell does he think he is, raising a hand on a pregnant woman? OP's parents are despicable people.
I think ops parents and brother are part of a religious cult, its what i can guess
@@f687sNFM Yeah, I thought about it.
I def would have broken his jaw and put the fear of God in him. And if the parents stepped to me for it I’d give them the same business
Brother would be eating out of a *straw.*
"You ever come near my wife again? While someday your body might be found. But they would never find enough to identify you. Understood?"
To OP, pro choice doesn’t mean your pro abortion, it means you have the right to do with your body what you want so keeping the baby is still pro choice.
That's why I don't understand why they attack pregnancy centers. Are you only supposed to be able to get help if you want to terminate the pregnancy?
@@packergeek10 exactly! I volunteer at one, and we are only there to support those that really want to keep their babies, but just don’t have the resources to do so yet. We also offer free pregnancy tests, sti test, and ultrasounds. Honestly it’s just there for anyone that needs it. I don’t get how people can find issues with that. Like do you hate women getting the support they want or something?
@@rachelr9352 That's actually exactly how they feel. They think any person who isn't a white, Christian, heterosexual, married woman who gets pregnant deserves to be 'punished' for daring to reproduce and encroach on their perfect white society. Shouldn't this mean they support abortions for those people? Yes, but no one ever accused these people of being rational.
@@packergeek10 Because they mostly protest and attack places that perform abortions specifically, and that is because they are obviously not well mentally if they think it is perfectly fine to try and kill people because they help others terminate a fetus.
Not surprised. Christians use to murder each other and others all the time.
Religious ideologies allow for violence as long as it is against nonbelievers and what have you. Sucks to watch people spiral out ov control like that too.
Lost a friend too that conspiratorial religious rubbish a year or so ago, qanon crap and all.
Hope he doesn't end up burning a clinic down because ov that stuff.
Never thought of it that way before but your right
Story 1 I knew things would shake out like that. That they would be furious that op didn't forgive and forget. Plus I hope they get at home security. I don't trust ops family. Especially the brother if he's willing to assault his pregnant sister.
Chances are they'd abuse her daughter if they got the chance, perhaps they should inform the kid's school just in case they show up there, I don't think They're done yet.
The bit with the daughter the PINK flower was so heartwarming
That update had me spinning. What are these people? Monsters, all three of them. OMG when your brother manhandled you..... hold breath.... dear hubby comes to the rescue with a well deserved beating... exhale. Then you kicked them all out for good. Bravo
Glad to hear your little bean is doing fine
Brother: *attacks pregnant OP in her own home, IN FRONT OF HER HUSBAND*
Husband: *defends his family*
Brother: *surprised pikachu face*
The last part about the bbq by the first OP made me tear up. So glad she got to see the true colors of her parents and brother before fully letting them back into her family's lives. Kudos to her husband for showing her brother whose boss!
@@maggiemae9099 Absolutely! Having it just be her and her husband first was definitely the right move, even more so with how things happened
Came to the comments specifically to see who else cried 😅
Story 1: "We cut you off because we were scared and hurt" how do you think your CHILD felt when they told you they were pregnant and you abandoned them without even knowing if they had another support system or not??? For all you know, she could have ended up _by herself_ on the _streets_ with nobody to help her and you have the _NERVE_ to come back and say YOU were scared and hurt?!?! After seven (7) years?!?!
Edit: "You should be grateful!" For what? You didn't do anything for Op other than abandon her and show her how disgustingly horrible you are.
They are gaslighting revisionist AHs. You hit it on the nose! “We cut you off from our support because we were afraid you would be a single mom”. Are they insane?!
I know right? The quotes "You owe me! I raised you." "I gave birth to you so you must do as I say." "You should be grateful to have me as your mother/father/parent." and "I'm your mother/father/parent. You will respect me." really annoy me. Just because you bring a child into the world doesn't mean you are entitled to your child's success or happiness. "Sigh" 😳 Entitled parents are the worst! Makes me glad my parents aren't like that. ❤💖❤
This is good update, OP should get a restraining order. I wish i was there when OP husband beat the shit out of OP brother
Arrest the brother
Exactly!!
First story: the in-laws are the smart ones.
Your parents kick you out and now that your second child isn't a "bastard" they want back in. Simply because they can parade the "pure" child around.
They were scared that op would become a single mother.
Lol not scared enough if they figured waiting seven years was a good call.
wow, the parents were disgusting but the "brother" was the worst of the bunch for getting physical on a _pregnant_ woman.
He's obviously no good against a real man, which he clearly isn't! I hope that beating hurt a lot!
@@DrownedInExile brother clearly takes after the parents in being a disgusting human being.
i would punch myself than hurt my sister. Even with my 1st sister who always acted like a spoiled brat and i was inches away from punching her once for mistreat my mom too. But i will never raise a hand to my 2nd sister who always been an awesome person, even when we argue too. I would turn to my parents instead of they do that to my sister and almost happen with my idiot of a mother.
That brother is an a-hole and I'm glad OP's husband punch him, since i would do the same. I hate entitled aggressive people who makes me turn anger to them and want to wreck their face too.
Cheers to the in-laws! Its wonderful that OP has such lovely ppl around 💛
OP should notify CPS in her region so it's down on paper what happened, because you never know how crazy people will get and they might try to do something stupid around the children. She needs a paper trail. Filing with the police would also be important. You don't have to press charges just to open a file.
First story: Yikes and more yikes! Her parents and brother are horrible! I can't believe what the brother did! 😱 Thank goodness OP's husband was there! Who knows what could have happened if he hadn't been there! Police should be involved.
Maybe they will be in a new update because it may not be the last they'd hear of them.
Agree. Call. The. Police. Brother attacked a pregnant woman!
Story 1: sooo, their brilliant idea to the possibility that their daughter would end up being a single mother was to make her a potential single mom _without_ a support system? Parents of the Year.
i bet it everyone will hated on them from what they did
The only explanation that I can think of is that they were worried about what their peers would think when it came out that their daughter had a child out of wedlock. In other words, a stupid reason.
Did the OP and her husband in the first story not call the police and get a restraining order or press charges or anything? The brother committed assault with that little stunt.
My guess for the reason why OP's parents wanted to reconnect out of the blue is they likely told their side of the story a lot and got more questions about why their daughter and grandchild weren't spending time with them than sympathy from anybody willing to lend them an ear. No good grandparent doesn't spend time with their grandchildren and it probably ate at them so much they tried to show up invited and unannounced into OP's life again and had the gall to feel entitled to her going along with their desires to play "happy little family" as if nothing happened. They're a bunch of control freaks as evident in how they raised OP.
That brother was real tough when it came to pregnant women.
Havent finished the update but when kids are involved there is only one question any GOOD parent will have in their head no matter the emotions: is it good for my children?
Also " we don't want you to get abandoned so we abandoned you " 🙄
Finished update: a tad disappointed with the family in the update. I've seen long estranged family want to reconnect for genuine reasons ( the teen that sold his PS5 reconnecting with his dad's family, the man who discovered that he was the only one not his dad's kids reconnecting with bio family ) so I know its possible for a pleasant reunion to happen. That just makes it all the more disappointing when shit like this happens.... do wonder what the wanted in the first place 🤔
Also raise a hand if you think that if op ran to her dad squealing " daddy a pink flower " when she was little she'd only be met with belittling comments. Seriously like op said, their loss.
Perfect timing yet again lol I just finished watching one video and was about to look for another
Think OP should consider getting a restraining order on her "family", and a report should have been made (at the very least). I'd be surprised if they don't try to come back...
Story one: No. They showed up for your second kid, because they want something. Maybe just to pose for pictures to look like grandparents. But no, they don't get to decide to just be part of your life again. I'm expecting there to be a catch.
this is my favourite reddit channel as LG takes time and effort to find posts with updates AND searches through comments for extra info just shows how dedicated he is to his followers Well done and keep up the fab work
Thank you Diamond! Happy to know my work is appreciated :)
I really feel for the OP in the first story but it was lovely to hear how great her relationship with her MIL is. Plus that amazing support system and family she has around her, headed by her incredible husband. Screw those other people, you have a brilliant family and you don't need them and their toxic crazy!
So they didn’t think that your husband would be there for you so they left you to teach you a lesson. What the what? Somethings going on and they aren’t telling you the whole story.
Dodgy was exactly the word for this situation LG and you were proven right! I'm glad OP is free of them and her guilt and has her in-laws.
Wow. I did NOT expect that update. Good for them! OP had the guts I've never had.
They treated her as a "Unperson" when she got pregnant at 18 and 7 years later they suddenly want to see her again and expect her to welcome them with arms wide open? FOXTROT TANGO SIERRA! And her brother should consider himself lucky that her husband didn't turn him into a bloody smear on the ground because he would've been justified.
Here while looking over my essay about Dracula and vampires in general. Just on time.
Prediction: The only factor that’s different between the two pregnancies is that one child was conceived out of wedlock and the other wasn’t, so I’m worried about OP’s parents treating her daughter like a bastard and showering the new baby with their love…
After update: it’s probably a good thing that nobody besides the parents will know what their intentions were. I wish nothing but the best for OP, her husband and her babies.
Remember folks: family isn’t dictated by blood: it’s shown by the people who are there to help you back up when you’re at your lowest and who make the happy moments even more wonderful!
I’m glad the op recognizes how stupid it was to not use protection when she and her BF were having sex as teenagers. This could have turned out a lot worse but I love that this turned out so well for the OP (including being away from controlling and frankly abusive parents).
I wonder how OP's parents and brother would have behaved if that meal had occurred in a public place/restaurant.
I'm glad OP & baby was not hurt. The silver lining for the scene at dinner (besides OP being ok) is that now OP has closure for herself regarding her parents. She no longer has to second guess her feelings about them and knows that keeping herself & her family away from them is a wise decision.
"we thought your husband would leave you and make you a single mom that why we disowned you"........where the fucking logic
Story one: That 'family' (OP's father, mother and brother) is a whole lot of NOPE!!!! CUT THEM OFF!!! STAY WITH THE FAMILY YOU ALREADY HAVE, OP. 😱
We were scared your partner would abandon you, and leave you to raise the child alone, so we threw you out so that you *would* be alone to raise the child. 🙄 these so-called parents are a joke.
This thing was wild! They disowned her then when she refused to let them back into her life w no guardrails they wanted to rip them out?
I am sure $ has something to do w the reason they reached out
Story 1: What an awful family she had. I can't even begin to think how anyone can treat their child like this. Family are not the ones you are born in to but the ones you choose to have around you and in your life.
It makes no sense that her parents were "scared for her" so they went no contact.
Personally, I’d remain cut off from them. They were scared she was going to struggle as a single mom so they cut her off entirely from their life? They are lying.
I don’t trust it. They probably just want the baby born in wedlock. Don’t put your daughter through the potential favoritism. Speaking from experience, it’s very damaging and doesn’t heal completely.
Exactly. They didn't want her when she was pregnant the first time, so they don't get to change the rules now.
1st story: OP's parents are abusive and controlling. I'm fairly certain the reason they flipped out was that they were worried the now husband WOULDN'T leave her and then she would have support to stand up to them as well as an out from under their control.
I am pro-choice but I just couldn’t……. That is what pro-choice is all about. Nobody is forcing an abortion on you or, for that matter, forcing you to carry the child to term. You have a choice.
I have a slightly different opinion. Im pro life because it was a separate human being inside the woman. Once she has a baby, she can have a choice to give the baby up for adoption or keep it, but to me, abortion is murder.
@@savannahhague4989
Nobody ever said that pro-choice meant an easy choice and even pro-life has its challenging moments. Having to choose between the life of a foetus or that of the mother for instance. I can respect a principled pro-life stance if it is accompanied by a solid understanding and availability of birth control. Being pro-life only really makes sense when the underlying issue is unwanted pregnancy. You do not solve that by teaching abstinence, human nature being what it is, especially where hormone driven teens are involved.
@@savannahhague4989 A fetus is not a baby, any more than a pine-cone is a tree.
@@savannahhague4989 Even if a fetus counted as a fully developed, sentient being, why should a woman be forced to carry it? Even the dead can't be forced to give their bodies up to save a life. You want living women to have fewer rights than the dead? Is that it?
Yeah, many people (ironically, some of whom are claiming to be pro-choice) forget, that there are at least two choices available.
Glad to see the husband is a keeper the way he defended you against your brother. He has more restraint than me, I would have put him on permanent disability.
Hahaha in the last story the higher ups knew exactly what they were oing when they instructed OP. They wanted that dude OUT!
The real reasons for the family wanting to reconnect with OP after abandoning her at her time of need remain a mystery, but I guess that's moot now. The brother should thank his lucky stars that OP isn't pressing charges for assaulting her.
Update tldr!:Father's got mad the brother of op literally got physical with her because she "disrespect" the father for not being open arms so the husband kick the brothers ass and Kick out the parents and know she is happy with her life
"I'm afraid for you. Now, get out of my house!"
They were worried about their daughter being a single mother so they abandoned her instead of being there for her. That's some bs.
they must've been getting a lot of bad press in their extended family that they're forcing the relationship to keep up the appearance. I do hope OP's brother gets a chance to escape before their parents ruin his future relationships.
I got the impression that op's parents didn't like the fact that only op had a kid at 18 but that it was out of wedlock and now she not only older but married so this time it's okay
Seems like the trash took itself out for story number one.... only to try to come back and stink up the place only to be beat down.. kicked out and left to rot in their own self-despair for good!
Honestly I bet mom and dad thought their daughter would be that scared girl they kicked out not realizing that she has a shiny spine and a titanium handed husband as backup!
I love it when you end your videos with malicious compliance. It's a great way to end a video
Glad you enjoy it C Wright! :)
@@LostGenre yessssssss!!!! thank you for responding to me...ima huge fan!
Good afternoon LG. It feels like parents believe second grandchild is "legitimate". I'd say good bye. Thanks for the video.
We're scared for you so we're going to abandon you. Yeah that makes no sense.
I’d be telling the ex parents that they were 7 years too late, and while I had desperately needed their help and support 7 years ago, I sure as hell didn’t get it, and no longer need anything from them but their absence.
I would press charges against the brother and get a RO against all three of them, because WOW
Story 1: don't let them back in. They'll treat the kids differently, and they don't respect OP.
Also, Lost Genre's "no, no, no, no" reminded me othe original batman theme. 😭😅😂
😁😅😂
First story: What happens when OP, OP’s hubby, or a grandchild “disappoints” those two loser parents again?
Damn, your husband did the manly thing and your brother should never had laid his hands on you. Props to your hubby, you got a gem of a spouse.
Some managers are completely clueless to what some of their employee do and are sticklers for micromanaging. And when their incompetence and cluelessness collide, shit hits them in the face.
Isn't it a crime to assault a pregnant woman? They should have had the brother arrested.
Pretty sure it’s a crime to assault *anyone*, pregnant or not. Right?
If the parents were scared of Op becoming a single mother then they should help her not kick her out. If any of my friends are in this position I will help them with anything that they need. This includes my siblings as well. Last year I met my niece and I promised that I would be there for her no matter what.
S1: "We were scared and hurt. We were scared for you 'cos we thought your boyfriend would leave you alone"...
"So, we went no contact. Left YOU scared and hurt. And scared that you'd be a single mom... so WE abandoned you too!"
Yeah. Somehow their explanation doesn't QUITE ring true, does it?
the only thing that matters is when you were down did they kick you or did they help lift you up? they had the chance when things were darkest at that point in your life and why would they not do it again if they feel you disappointed them again.
Story 1 OPs parents deserted their daughter because they decided the social stigma of having an unmarried mother as a daughter was worse than OPs wellbeing! I can see why she would want her children to know their maternal grandparents, but I think contact needs to be progressively re-established, under guidance of a professional mediator. To receive, but not even acknowledge, cards and photos at important family times shows callous disregard for their daughter, and grand daughter.
They were so scared they turned their back on their own child.......right 👎 Then she gets attacked and throws a party to make everyone feel better...wtf!?
And why not? That's the best way to lift everyone spirits IMO
Story 1 Opinion: I'm 100% with you on that thought process Lost Genre. I thought the exact same thing. Made no sense. "Afraid she be a single mom so we abandoned you." "Afraid he wouldn't step up so we abandoned you." Like what? What kind of insane logic is that?
It's great when toxic people kick themselves out of your life for you. Thaaaaaaanks!
Well, everything happened like I surmised it would in the first couple of paragraphs I read. Although I didn't expect that much violence and freaking out. The good thing that came of it, is that they laid all their cards out and OP can carry on through her life knowing she made the best decision.
2:24 so wait, they were scared for OP, afraid she would end up being a single mom, so they cut her off? Make it make sense.
Yeah. That toxic family especially the brother absolutely sucks! You don't get a say on whether you get to come back after you abandoned your own daughter for 7 years! The quotes "You owe me! I raised you." "I gave birth to you so you must do as I say." "You should be grateful to have me as your mother/father/parent." and "I'm your mother/father/parent. You will respect me." really annoy me. Just because you bring a child into the world doesn't mean you are entitled to your child's success or happiness. "Sigh" 😳 Entitled parents are the worst! Makes me glad my parents aren't like that. ❤💖❤
Having a good MIL when you already have a good spouse is like someone giving you a Mercedes and finding a treasure chest in the back seat.
The BIL who assaults a pregnant woman? IDK how other men feel, but I'm a fairly peaceful guy but when I held my firstborn I looked in his strangely wise eyes and realized I could kill to protect him. Take that to someone assaulting my pregnant wife? BIL would be dead and I would gladly take my chances with a jury of my peers.
I personally would never allow them back in. They left you on the street, a pregnant teen. You could have died out there and they could care less. Why now suddenly allow them to just say "oh sorry". What a joke.
Story 1) I honestly think they want something from OP. It could various from money, image of “happy birth of their official grand child,” or some type of health related issue.
If you really want to let them I. Your life be careful because there is a very good chance they’ll play favourites with your second born.
Thanks for the brilliant stories to accompanying my cooking again LG! X
"We cut you off and didn't give you suport because we were worried. Now that you don't need us, let us play happy family and play favorites with your children"
Also, pro choice is not anti babies. She made her choice, it was to keep it. Good for her for not letting anyone take it from her
So before I continue and finish the video, if I was in her shoes I wouldn't take them back. I mean they said they were scared and hurt for her because they thought she was gonna be a single mom, yet their first reaction is to cut her off if she doesn't get an abortion. Make it make sense atleast. 🙄 And they had 7 years to make contact and reconcile especially since you have contact with family from their side.
Oh wow, though their reason for trying to "reconcile" wasn't unveiled it probably has something to do with feeling good and kind and validated or something along that line. Whatever it is, they sure don't deserve you and your family. Best wishes for OP and her family.
"We abandoned you bc we thought he was going to leave you a single mother." I'm sorry...what?! If that is their thought, then why TF did they kick her out. They were clearly looking out for themselves, family gatherings or around their friends it would look bad. Now OP is married, has a good paying job, and is in their own house to raise said kids it won't look bad on the parents
Wow.. op1's family really dropped the ball here. The brother put his hands on his pregnant sister, despicable. Every future girlfriend of his should know that, but damn, no one will be able to tell them. I'm glad op made the right choice.
OP's parents: we were so scared for you that we disowned you and left you when you needed us most!
????
Listen, my parents would have given me an earful if I got pregnant at 18 BUT they are good parents so I know for a fact that no matter how disappointed and hurt they would have been, they would have also stepped up to support me and their grandchild. That's what good parents do.
I don't know what the law says in op's County but, I'd recommend pressing charges against the brother for hurting a pregnant woman
Looks like I came home at the right time today. My feet are killing me so time to relax to some LG while waiting for my food
Haven't even finished listening to this story yet all I can hear in my mind is the song Yo Mister by Patti LaBelle. They were so scared that they couldn't even help her????
Listening to first story tells me shity brother is probably shooting blank, which is why the parents wanted access to grandkids
I don't even know why OP thought this would be a good idea they waited until they found out about your second child and want to get back in contact with you, do you really think you would want to have these type of people around your children especially how they treat you after they found that you were pregnant at 18
S1: A lot of people seem to believe that blood makes you a family.
Imho, behavior is what makes or breaks “a family”.
Due to “golden children” issues (I am the 1st born son) I somehow managed to become the “black sheep” of the family.
I always heard that family (blood) made it okay to abuse your child or sibling(s).
When someone treats you like you are the spawn of Satan, why should they get a pass?
Go out and make the world a better place, find and make your own family.
One that loves and cherishes you. Honestly if blood made a family, how is it that a spouse can be family?
I would give them a cautious chance. Slowly introduce the children to them and if they treat the baby differently than the older one cut them off again. Don't let them be alone with the children either, because that is when their real colors will come out.
First story; NTA. Stay no contact. Those people are toxic monsters who wished your baby dead. Look at her. They wanted you to kill her. That precious perfect baby girl. They don't deserve to be in you and your children's lives.
op's strict parents wanted control back, so they abandoned her to get her to crawl back ...
4:00 "getting to know the maternal grandparents" crap, if they had died there would be nothing to know ...
the children do not need them ...,