So, they've been 'together' 16 years and he won't allow OP to leave a trace of herself in their home (either financially or in decor), he bought a ring specifically to shut her up, and proposed just to shut his friends up. Honestly, he hit the jackpot with OP. She's treating the man like a god and he's actively trying to pretend she doesn't exist until she's necessary. Yikes.
He was using her financially while also abusing her emotionally... I hope she can see these signs going forward with any relationship in the future. Sad part is if she hadn't left he would have done this till the house is paid off or longer. I think he didn't just want to seem like he was single but he knew he would move in the mistress when he dumped her (maybe even at the alter...) and didn't want to do the work twice so he wanted to leave it a blank space for "them"...
Know the absolute worst thing? She helps hold up that stereotype that if you treat a woman poorly, she stays more interested and eager to please. I mean you hope to hell that this is an exception and not a rule but damn, girl. It's 16 years. I can see waiting until after any post secondary but if it isn't moving forward by then? Give it up.
I knew a woman whose motto was "treat them mean, keep them keen". She was living with a man who treated her very well but she treated him like dirt. I will never understand this. I wouldn't stay with a bf who treated me like OP's bf.
@@SailorMya But he wasn't using her financially. HE paid the mortgage, in his name, thinking that that would be enough for him to say the house was his. He played himself, because, as she said, she only bought groceries and paid some, not all, utilities for at least six years. So she gets half the value of the house for some food and utilities. Almost makes it worth the time she wasted with him after the house was purchased.
Story 1: He was cheating, what a surprise -_- this dude is just evil, he really did waste 16 years of this girl's life and he has the balls of calling her petty.
Actually she wasted 16 years of her life with someone clearly not in the relationship because...LOVE. 🙁 People just stop ignoring the the HUGE red flags in your relationships and face reality. Then move on.
@@BluDragon1964 Sometime, people don't want to see it. Exhibit A, my cousin-by-marriage. We (us "kids") have no fucking clue why she stayed with my cousin-once-removed. He's a tool to a highest degree. It's actually hilarious because my friend who had never heard me complained about him (not my style, we crap talk only within the family) met him once and flat out hated him. This dude who was kind to a fault actually used the word "hate" in regards to his intense dislike of my cousin. I might've laughed a little too long over that. It could also be because they're scared of being alone. Not everyone's good at being alone. Some even think that being alone is a bad thing. Either way...I hope OP will grow from this.
@@BluDragon1964 i get that OP ignored a lot of red flags and is not all inocent in this, but i don't want to victim-blame her. At the end of the day she doesn't deserve what this guy did to her.
@@BluDragon1964 commitment issues compared to COMMITMENT issues here. She had no idea he had a whole other woman on the side and then he blamed her. All he had to do was break up with her
OP’s mistake was staying so long in that relationship without a serious commitment if that’s what she truly wanted. And it’s exactly what LG said. He’s stringing OP along until he’s ready move on. After updates Wow! What a dishonest douche the ex is. Best wishes to OP in starting her new chapter in life
Definitely cheering for OP! The ex-bf/"fiance" deserves OP's response to his bitching. After having OP give the relationship countless chances, he gets to live with his sidepiece, who probably will soon realize that she didn't win any great prize and will likely wind up dumping him, too. That's just how it goes. OP is the champion here. Her time with him was not wasted at all--I doubt that OP would make that mistake again, and that is GOLD.
WOW! Rick couldn't have just broken up with OP? He had a girlfriend waiting in the wings for her to leave? What the hell? Sure it's mean and petty for OP to make this asshat pay and I'm all about it!
Monkey branching. You are in a serious relationship for a long time. You meet someone else and start thinking about them. However, you don't want to risk breaking up with your current SO just for someone who just met and how might not be a good partner. So you spend time with the other person, date, hookup, etc. After a year or two, then you are sure your new person is worth risking breaking up over. Except, now you have a problem of how to break up with you SO in a way that everyone doesn't find out you cheated, the breakup goes smoothly, you don't pay any financial price, etc. So, you stay together and try to torpedo your relationship so the other person ends it and leaves. Then you can claim that they left, were abusive, were cheating, etc. and then magically you have a new person. OP's BF almost got away with it. Stall out the wedding until OP leaves and, if OP haven't come home, she (and everyone else) would probably be oblivious of the other woman.
His abuse was so subtle that no one probably thought that it was abuse. He trained her from the very beginning. ‘He got jealous if I dated someone else’ He didn’t want anyone else to have her. Which is why he kept her for 16yrs. He felt entitled to cheat. This is not normal behavior. Which is it? Narcissism, Psychopathy, Sociopath? I wonder how often friends and family tried to get her to leave?
Narcissism definitely. My ex's mother had a term for it: "Why buy a cow when milk's so cheap?" We were together for 12 years, and I did the housework, worked full time, put up with his cheating (yes, I am a woman). He kept me around til he found a better deal. I'd feel sorry for the woman he left me for, except that she deserved exactly what she got - a narcissistic, lazy philanderer. And I ended up with a far better life, and a far better man.
She was stupid to stay. If a man just wants to share a flat and have sex with his roommate, then she is both stupid and vain to assume he loves her deeply.
1st story: Ex has the audacity to tell OP "you asked for this" to justify him moving his side piece into their house, and then throws a fit when she refuses to let him buy her out? Sounds like "you asked for this" bro. 😉
@@leorose6039 Are you kidding?! The REAL Justice that I'm sure is bound to happen to them someday is that they're gonna screw each other over one way or another and the "Happily Ever After" will crash and burn. Everyone knows that it's a matter of fact that if someone's willing to cheat WITH you, then they're inevitably going to cheat ON you as well. It's facts.
@@elizabethescalante7866 wtf are you talking about? I responded to wander85 who said ‘’ I hope he stubs his toe every Monday morning just to start his week off terribly.” In response to his comment I said that his idea was evil 😈 and that I love it. In others words I am agreeing with his idea no where in my comment did I condone cheating or defending the cheater. Maybe you should learn how to comprehend what you are reading before you come at me.
He set himself up for this. He thought OP was a doormat and would always be one. He pushed her too far and she proved she had a backbone. That's what he's mad at. That she's not rolling over like a dog and just accepting his behavior like she did for 16 years. Maybe don't treat people like garbage if you actually want your happy ending. He prob could have bought her out if he was honest and said "Listen, this isn't working out. We need to break up" instead of stringing her along for 16 years. 🙄
If he broke up with her it makes him look like the bad guy. Instead he decided to get her to leave. Once she left he had a sob story for the other woman. That might be how he got her to move in so quickly after OP left.
Exactly. He was too much of a pussy to break up with her after obviously cheating on her and hoped she was a problem that would just go away. He's a coward. I'm glad for OP screwing him and his affair partner out of their plans for the house.
She actually set herself up for this. Come on I mean for 16 years he was showing her who he was. He was waving huge and massive red flags. Flags she intentionally chose to ignore. Was he wrong for doing it all? Hell yeah he was. He didn't want to be in a relationship. He should have been a man and got out. But she isn't blameless, not after 16 years of all this.
@@lizcdy Yup. Also, from what OP wrote and how his family are asking when they'd settle down, sounds like she was well-liked by his family. He definitely didn't want to be "the bad guy" who ended the relationship. Too bad for him, ending a relationship instead of cheating would've made him a sensible person.
I hope they tell the house so fast and to a large family that they have to move out and cannot get an apartment as fast and live in a hotel for awhile while their stuff in in storage and that they fight everyday until she leave him.
I was together with someone like in the main story. But I only lasted 5years before I got tired of him not comitting or showing any interest/affection. Like come on, he showed more interest for movie characters than the relationship. Realized he only wanted a bangmaid so I left, and oh lord have it been the happiest time of my life! I can't imagine sticking it out for an entire 16years! I would be furious too, and I wish the OP of that story the best of luck with the future.
Well, the first 7 or 8 they were literal children. But past 25, he should either commit or leave. He's prob either cheating or wants to cheat. He's not sure he wants to only sleep with her for life. Wow! Called it! He was cheating! So predictable. 🙄
Short Summary: Girl get her back blown out by Chad, Gets angry when the Bad Boy doesn’t commit and ‘breaks up’ with him (goes back to have s€x with him whenever he wants.)
@@therealmr.incredible3179 yep, I bet this guy is attractive as hell or OP is ugly and this guy is way above her league. No way a woman do this to a guy that is average in looks.
@@VitorHugoOliveiraSousa nah. Getting together in your teens, you kinda skip important growing. You know nothing else so you hang on because you are afraid to jump to unknown and believe some magical shit that you got really lucky your teenage love is the only one. We all think so, but it.. really doesn't happen. Some just don't have balls to end it but push thru and make web of lies. Like in this case.
The guy with the bolt croppers and his addiction to cutting all the locks is a riot. The fact that he spent a month going to 3 different train stations to cut all the locks is hilarious.
I was in a relationship for 21 years without marrying - never wanted to. It only ended after he fell into drug addiction. But for that, we would have stayed together.
My significant other and I lived together for 12 years and he didn't want to get married. He wasn't cheating, just terrified of commitment...like owning a house together and living together for 12 years wasn't a commitment??? He finally reluctantly married me; 'reluctant' was the key word for our marriage. He didn't want to be there, but it was easier to go through the motions than get out.
I actually had to walk away after that first one for a minute. Cause when I tell you I was in a silent RAGE 😡. What an absolute waste of a human being that “man” is. Absolutely disgusting what he put her through. I get that OP was naive and in love and whatever else for the last 16 years (wtf!!!!??) but she did not deserve THAT. No one deserves that. What a tool.
Story 1: I am hoping we will get an update to see how it ended with the house. I also hope she blasts him so his family and everyone else knows what a slime he was, he was cheating on her and didn't have the balls to break up with her. He clearly was doing everything he can to get her to break up with him. This guy is a POS and I really want to see him be forced to sell their house. He is a POS. The best thing she can do is live her BEST life, that is always the best form of revenge.
Most likely OP wont be able to force the sale of the house. She can say that she wants her money, but if he can find the money, he has the first right to get the house.
@@r2547 I do believe she can force a sale. For Fair Market Value. Because she is a co-owner. She should sue for Palimony too and breach of promise. 16yrs. I’d wish for Scorched Earth. He’s probably been cheating for at least as long as they’ve owned the home. I really want to know what happens next.
the better show will be the first time he hears she is going out with someone else. She herself said when they were in high school they would break up and when she went out with someone else he got jealous and pushed her to get back together. That will happen again and new woman will be thrown over so he can win OP back. Hopefully OP has learned enough to turn him down and not take him back because he doesn't want her , he just doesn't want anyone else to be with her. Maybe she will be angry enough to play with him by getting him to think she will come back to him only to dash those hopes after he ruins himself with the new woman
I respect OP for that level of pettiness. It was deserved. He should've broken up with her *before* getting on with another girl. It looks like even the family didn't know he was cheating on her. The friends are likely left in the dark as well. I hope the whole friend group just drop his arse. He took way too much time from OP already and he doesn't get to keep good people around them. As for the woman? I'm curious as to how she didn't know he wasn't single. Did she never met his friends? If they kept pushing for the douche to propose, doesn't sound like they know because even those who helped others cheat have _some_ situational awareness.
@@despinasgarden.4100 Probably. I wonder what tall lies he told that woman. OP on the other hand would need a lot of therapy. It might be hard but she also needs to put some distance from the ex's family for a bit to put herself together. It looks like they do love her and even their friends saw them as a pair. Must've shocked them to a degree as well.
@@fytrndm either he is an AMAZING liar, or the new girl is one of those woman who enjoy sleeping with man that are in relationships. I want to believe she was lied too, but sadly, there are some woman who just like messing with man in relationships because it gives them an ego bust.
@@despinasgarden.4100 I've lived long enough to have met those kind of women (and men) that I won't write off that possibility either. Though, right now, without evidence as such, I think I want to believe in whatever goodness that's left in people...
I don’t ever want to get married but I make that very clear when I start out a relationship. I cannot imagine waiting *16 years* to figure out whether or not someone is actually going to commit that way to you. Nostalgia and the sunken cost fallacy can make people put up with a LOT. Wild
Yeah it's good when all cards are on table from the start. People like OPs now ex... They are just people (men and women do this) who keep their SO around for sex/bills/chores until they find someone better. They are cowards.
Before any updates: This sounds almost exactly like my ex-husband! She's not actually in a relationship. She's a glorified roommate with benefits, just like I was. She needs to ditch him before she wastes any more of her life on him. After update: I totally called it! I knew he was just like my ex-husband! Mine was cheating on me, too. He's also a narcissist, and ignored me all the time for his video games, etc. I'm hoping OP tells her lawyer about him cheating, changing the locks, and moving the side chick in. Definitely don't let them have the house, girl! Make them sell it and pay you for your half.
I would question the way he keeps the mortgage separate from her. He might try and claim it is his home because he paid for it fully with his money. I'd ditch him and force the sale of the home.
He could try, but it wouldn't work. Her name is on the deed and the mortgage. And he knew it was pointless to try because he conceded right away that he'd have to buy her out. He probably heard that from his attorney.
Mortgage and home title are handled by two different institutions. Though the mortgage from the bank is the contract in keeping the property, it's the state that doles out land to people. He could try but he'd fail miserably, doesn't matter who paid for what. If both names are on the deed, the house belongs to both of them.
SPOILER So literally the moment she moves out he; -Moves in someone he was probably seeing while they were dating -Decorates the house with her (girl who moved in), even when she (OP) spent years asking -Locked her out of her own house, while she still owned it And still calls HER a petty b* for not wanting him to live there with whom he cheated on.
Depending on where OP lives, she may be able to sue for palimony. It wouldn't be about the money, it would be about hurting that guy where he lives; his wallet. Also, he had help "Wasting" half of OP's life.
@@carolcarol9982 He'll be hurting enough when he realizes he doesn't own the house by himself. Lawyers aren't cheap. She'd have to pay a retainer for a lawyer and would still end up not getting anything. They never comingled finances nor did they financially support each other.
B/f was communicating loud and clear with his actions, he didn't want to get married. Glad OP took action. Aaaand he was cheating, wow what a turd! Aww poor Rick, he can twist in the wind this time! She has full license to be petty and vindictive! For a little while anyway, then it's just a waste of her time. I hope she moves on, lives her life to the fullest, hits the gym and gets in the best shape of her life.
I get a feeling that it won’t be long before he makes a one-sided post on AITA trying to get sympathy! Sometimes being a “petty bitch” is the best way forward!
That is a damn long time to string someone along! 16 years??! Wow! Bless her, I really feel for her. So happy she got a bit of revenge! He is a collosal d-bag and a bloody coward as well. Such a waste of time and of her life. Cheating a-hole! I hope she finds someone who is appreciative of her and wants to share a life with her. She can do so much better, the bar is pretty damn low at this point. Thanks for the brilliant stories to finish the work week LG! ❤️
First story: boyfriend was such a small person that he could not come stright out and say this is not what he wanted he was not happy, it was easier to cheat. That alone says so much about him. And he was so sure she was going to sell to him that was nasty. New girlfriend watch your back.if op could stay that long and receive that crap because she moved honey yours coming cause you was also being stringed allong.what would be the status if op did not move..op when you sign your papers to get your cash tell him grow a pair a big pair. Best of luck to you.
Why the hell didn't he just man up and tell OP that he wanted to break up years ago? Why be unhappy for so long? Did he want to avoid looking like the bad guy by forcing her to break it off first? That kind of goes out the window when he moved his side chick in immediately and had clear evidence of their affair.
OP sounds desperate. No surprise after 16 years. He is doing what she wants to shut her up. He is dangling a carrot in front of her all the time and she is falling for it. OP should dump him, it is better for her to be on her own than in limbo. In the UK he wouldn't be able to change the locks (legally) if OP's name is on the deed. The lawyer should deal with it. OP still have a right to live there.
You need to check with an attorney. After that long you may be common law & will have to get a divorce, (this happened to mom’s friend’s daughter). Have the police come as standby when you get your other things
I mean I guess I am happy that OP finally got out but the warning signs were there for years. It is amazing what people put up with because they don't want to be alone or just don't want to rock the boat.
When a man wants and respects you, you will never DOUBT his intentions! Whether he's 18 or 28, he will make his intentions known as soon as possible, to build a future with you. That 1st OP....wow...just wow🤯
I can see the people in the last story try and complain to the station/council! EP: "My lock was cut!!!" S/C: "Was anything stolen!?" EP: "Well, No, it was empty..." S/C: Stares at them unamused till they leave.
Story 1: He just wanted someone to be chef, housekeeper, laundry service, and occasional booty call. He has probably dated other girls all along. It would explain why she wasn't allowed to decorate the house. Moral of the story, if your not engaged by the 5th year of the relationship, it's time to move on.
Story 1 - Wonderful! Hope the great a**-biting karma OP's ex and his current are getting continues to a crushing finale. I don't know why but I feel like his current gf was fully aware of what he was doing. I just don't understand why ... Oh well! Story 2 - Simply delightful! Great job OP!👍
SIXTEEN years?! I finally broke off an old relationship just before we hit the six year mark. What some people will do to avoid reading the writing on the wall, holy crap. Not trying to victim blame but damn, what a colossal waste of OP's time. Guy sounds like a real peach too; emotionally controlling, non-committal, only proposed to her to shut her up, and stuck around because he was too comfortable with their relationship. And he's most certainly been cheating on her. What a douche tumor.
@@kimsvisualdiary normal people see the amount of time of the relationship and think surely no one would just lead them on like that for no reason, but the whole time he had another woman that he wanted to live with and "finally be happy" like op was holding him back or something when all he had to do was leave.
16 years and she is only 29 so this is what she has known as normal since she was 13 years old. And apparently he hid his true nature extremely well since her friends and family were asking about when they were getting engaged instead of "when are you leaving his controlling butt"
I feel bad for OP but I’m glad she finally moved on. Please ladies and gents don’t wait this long, she definitely saw the res flags, got advise from friends but ignored it . Do not make excuses for your partner nor ignore the red flags else it’s only you who will suffer the pain in the end. Be wise, get help and be vigilant
I was just sitting listening to this man lament to a random woman about how he just got out of a marriage where he “was always wrong” and he “lost” his house because she wouldn’t let him buy her out of it(and now has to live with his parents) and it’s stories like these that are why I was thinking and what did you do to deserve it?? What’s the other side of the story??
Op, as hard as this maybe it may be the end of the relationship. I feel like he's trying to make her end it so he doesn't have to. Hoping everything ends well for op
Dont stay in a chronically "on and off" relationship. Its a waste of time. I say this because I was in one for 5 years. 3 years into my current relationship not a single breakup, how it SHOULD BE.
That man is pure narcissism in human form… to waste that girl’s life for his pleasure is just evil. I’m glad she’s going scorched earth… it’s about time she stands her ground.
I moved in with my boyfriend and he wouldnt even allow me to bring in my coffee table, he had none. Said it would make the room cluttered. Now he's my ex.
For the first story as soon as I heard "He insists that only he can pay the morgage with his account" after learning he "disliked" anything she brought up immediately clue'd me in he was definitely cheating since he wouldnt let her help pay the morgage, or give her the time of day with the the wedding planning. What an absolute scumbag -- good on OP getting her "vindictive" payback. He was a manipulator from the start after learning about the jealousy, and trying to shut her up with a ring. What BS wasting 16 years with him, but I'm glad she was able to leave and be happy on her own.
Why am I not surprised? Idk why the ex kept the relationship going if he was this unhappy and cheated on her. Was this some sick thrill? He literally did waste half her life when she could've dated somebody else. But I'm glad she's out of that nonsense. Also I would've done the same thing with just selling the home.
She ain't too bright. Sounds like he made it clear he didn't want to make a life with her. She felt she couldn't even decorate her own home. BS. Why the hell would you be pushing for marriage?
Some people are like bottomless wells that you can never fill up or satisfy. It can be so hard to admit that it's hopeless. It can feel like a personal failure and you want to believe that you can fix it and salvage the situation. And that all that time was not wasted. It's hard to call it quits but it has to be done. You aren't a failure. You are strong for choosing yourself however long it takes to do so.
The first story, when she pointed out that he refused to allow her to decorate, my first thought was he wanted the house plain because he had a side piece. He didn't want the side chick to know he had a live-in girlfriend. OP's next order of business needs to be telling his family that the relationship is done because he was cheating - because they'll ask why and, well, you can't just say 'We didn't work out' after more than a decade together. People won't accept that kind of blanket answer. Especially family. Bonus points if one of his family members offers to rough him up for OP. Something like this, that's how my immediate family would be... and we're all women.
1st story....is your name on the deed of the house. If so you have nothing to worry about it. Get rid of this guy and sell the house. This guy has someone on the side. He isn't interested in marrying you.
I hope OP 1 is out there living her best life. I hope she has found the love of her life and he's an upgrade in every possible way. I hope they bought a beautiful home and he told her to go crazy decorating. I hope she has as many children as she wants, and she is deliriously happy. And I hope her ex gets what's coming
Why OP didn’t put her foot down at any point during that relationship is beyond me. I’d have just said, well it’s my house too and I’m having it painted. You either contribute to the decorating or shut up about it forever. What a scumbag.
Well depending on the state she's already his common-law wife and if she plans to leave can take a percentage of the assets. Depending on the amount of time they've been together etc, she's a wife without the paperwork. He's probably thinking he can leave her with all his stuff. She can leave now and take half the assets or however much she's owed.
Any relationship more than 5 years without marriage is a joke. In this case, I can factor in that they were kids when they got together but once they got to 25, some concrete decisions should have been made. OP should just break-up with him, he will never marry her and plus he already told his friends he won't marry her, she should believe him. Edit: He is an absolute vile human being. He will get his karma!
I don't agree. It's just a cultural thing where you live and people are obsessed with marriage. two of the happiest couples I know, married alter 10 years of being together. don't call relationships you don't know anything about, a joke. you're just being superficial
@@2Ten1Ryu I agree. My uncle married his girlfriend after 20 years. She went through a lot of soul searching over the years knowing she was passing up having children and such. They finally married in their 50’s and both passed a few years ago. He did not last long after she passed. Her dying devastated him.
My parents married after 32 years I believe? Like, literally just last year lol. They'e relationship was actually really rocky before that but they'e okay now :D went to marriage counseling and everything
How ignorant. I was in a relationship for 21 years. We never wanted to marry. Who are you to call other peoples relationships a joke, based only on that criteria. Golden Hawn and Kurt Russell never married and they have lasted 40 years.
So basically for 16 years she intentionally ignored the HUGE red flags he was waving for 16 years all because...LOVE! Now she is upset and shocked he did this? People need to stop doing this. The person you're with is showing who they really are. Believe them. Like my parents said. When you fall in love don't forget to take your brain along too. 😒
It's like my father told me years ago, "actions speak louder than words. If the action and the words don't match, always believe the actions because people will always tell you what you want to hear. But the actions will always tell you the truth". She knew what she had to do. She just needed Reddit people to give her the strength to do it.
If you've been together more than 5 years and marriage talk isn't on the table (if both or one party wants it) end it. This man wasted her time and strung her along instead of just breaking up. He didn't have to cheat when it could've just been over. OP was foolish after years of having her self esteem stepped on but this was a hard lesson. If someone proves they're a POS....believe them.
I was in a relationship for 21 years. We never married. That's how we both wanted it. There was no cheating or infidelity. For the most part, they were happy years. Not everyone wants marriage and not everyone who chooses not to marry is running a scam.
16 years? SIXTEEN years and she claims it's (only) his fault? Come on! I'm glad she finally moved out and and moved on (plus that well-deserved revenge) but 16 years is too long a period of time not to be partly to blame.
I reckon 2-3 years is the threshold to know if a relationship is ‘going somewhere’, especially if your both independent adults at the time of meeting. You can reasonably date for a year, maybe live together for a year, but beyond that, you’re essentially acting married without being so. So if marriage is important to you, my advice would be don’t feel like you have to settle for acting like you’re married with someone who doesn’t value the tradition, or isn’t interested in you as a spouse
First story = LG reads 1 paragraph...*paused*...for an off topic comment. I can already tell this is going to be a Duesenberg of a video when the OP has been in only one (1) relationship from ages 13 to the current 29. It is very difficult to test the reality of a situation when that situation is one's entire reality. Correctly judging the relationship of objects is helped, greatly helped, by having persepective. Okay, LG, hit us with it.
OP's big mistake was allowing herself to be strung along for so long and falling for the sunk cost fallacy. She had rose colored glasses on so she missed the obvious red flags that he just didn't really love her or want to marry her. When your SO clearly tells you they don't want to marry you by words and actions do yourself a favor and listen, don't stick around thinking they will change their minds. It's not that they don't know if you are the one, it's that they clearly know you aren't so move on.
So, they've been 'together' 16 years and he won't allow OP to leave a trace of herself in their home (either financially or in decor), he bought a ring specifically to shut her up, and proposed just to shut his friends up. Honestly, he hit the jackpot with OP. She's treating the man like a god and he's actively trying to pretend she doesn't exist until she's necessary. Yikes.
Yeah. OP is *painfully* naive. What did she ever see in this jerk?
He was using her financially while also abusing her emotionally... I hope she can see these signs going forward with any relationship in the future. Sad part is if she hadn't left he would have done this till the house is paid off or longer. I think he didn't just want to seem like he was single but he knew he would move in the mistress when he dumped her (maybe even at the alter...) and didn't want to do the work twice so he wanted to leave it a blank space for "them"...
Know the absolute worst thing? She helps hold up that stereotype that if you treat a woman poorly, she stays more interested and eager to please. I mean you hope to hell that this is an exception and not a rule but damn, girl. It's 16 years. I can see waiting until after any post secondary but if it isn't moving forward by then? Give it up.
I knew a woman whose motto was "treat them mean, keep them keen". She was living with a man who treated her very well but she treated him like dirt. I will never understand this. I wouldn't stay with a bf who treated me like OP's bf.
@@SailorMya But he wasn't using her financially. HE paid the mortgage, in his name, thinking that that would be enough for him to say the house was his. He played himself, because, as she said, she only bought groceries and paid some, not all, utilities for at least six years. So she gets half the value of the house for some food and utilities. Almost makes it worth the time she wasted with him after the house was purchased.
Story 1: He was cheating, what a surprise -_- this dude is just evil, he really did waste 16 years of this girl's life and he has the balls of calling her petty.
Actually she wasted 16 years of her life with someone clearly not in the relationship because...LOVE. 🙁 People just stop ignoring the the HUGE red flags in your relationships and face reality. Then move on.
@@BluDragon1964 Sometime, people don't want to see it. Exhibit A, my cousin-by-marriage. We (us "kids") have no fucking clue why she stayed with my cousin-once-removed. He's a tool to a highest degree. It's actually hilarious because my friend who had never heard me complained about him (not my style, we crap talk only within the family) met him once and flat out hated him. This dude who was kind to a fault actually used the word "hate" in regards to his intense dislike of my cousin. I might've laughed a little too long over that.
It could also be because they're scared of being alone. Not everyone's good at being alone. Some even think that being alone is a bad thing. Either way...I hope OP will grow from this.
@@BluDragon1964 i get that OP ignored a lot of red flags and is not all inocent in this, but i don't want to victim-blame her. At the end of the day she doesn't deserve what this guy did to her.
Well she’s 30 she’s got time still but fuck that guy
@@BluDragon1964 commitment issues compared to COMMITMENT issues here. She had no idea he had a whole other woman on the side and then he blamed her. All he had to do was break up with her
OP’s mistake was staying so long in that relationship without a serious commitment if that’s what she truly wanted. And it’s exactly what LG said. He’s stringing OP along until he’s ready move on.
After updates
Wow! What a dishonest douche the ex is. Best wishes to OP in starting her new chapter in life
Definitely cheering for OP!
The ex-bf/"fiance" deserves OP's response to his bitching. After having OP give the relationship countless chances, he gets to live with his sidepiece, who probably will soon realize that she didn't win any great prize and will likely wind up dumping him, too. That's just how it goes. OP is the champion here. Her time with him was not wasted at all--I doubt that OP would make that mistake again, and that is GOLD.
WOW! Rick couldn't have just broken up with OP? He had a girlfriend waiting in the wings for her to leave? What the hell? Sure it's mean and petty for OP to make this asshat pay and I'm all about it!
Monkey branching. You are in a serious relationship for a long time. You meet someone else and start thinking about them. However, you don't want to risk breaking up with your current SO just for someone who just met and how might not be a good partner. So you spend time with the other person, date, hookup, etc. After a year or two, then you are sure your new person is worth risking breaking up over. Except, now you have a problem of how to break up with you SO in a way that everyone doesn't find out you cheated, the breakup goes smoothly, you don't pay any financial price, etc. So, you stay together and try to torpedo your relationship so the other person ends it and leaves. Then you can claim that they left, were abusive, were cheating, etc. and then magically you have a new person.
OP's BF almost got away with it. Stall out the wedding until OP leaves and, if OP haven't come home, she (and everyone else) would probably be oblivious of the other woman.
His abuse was so subtle that no one probably thought that it was abuse.
He trained her from the very beginning.
‘He got jealous if I dated someone else’
He didn’t want anyone else to have her. Which is why he kept her for 16yrs. He felt entitled to cheat.
This is not normal behavior.
Which is it?
Narcissism, Psychopathy, Sociopath?
I wonder how often friends and family tried to get her to leave?
maybe more than one Narcopaths Narciccistic-Sociopaths are a thing
Narcissism definitely. My ex's mother had a term for it: "Why buy a cow when milk's so cheap?" We were together for 12 years, and I did the housework, worked full time, put up with his cheating (yes, I am a woman). He kept me around til he found a better deal. I'd feel sorry for the woman he left me for, except that she deserved exactly what she got - a narcissistic, lazy philanderer. And I ended up with a far better life, and a far better man.
She was stupid to stay. If a man just wants to share a flat and have sex with his roommate, then she is both stupid and vain to assume he loves her deeply.
Nah. His jealously made her feel special, so she went back for more. Don't get that type.
1st story: Ex has the audacity to tell OP "you asked for this" to justify him moving his side piece into their house, and then throws a fit when she refuses to let him buy her out? Sounds like "you asked for this" bro. 😉
Lol I wouldn't call him a bro piece of shit sounds better
I hope he stubs his toe every Monday just to start off his week terribly.
@@Wander85942 that’s evil!! I love it 😈😈
@@leorose6039 Are you kidding?! The REAL Justice that I'm sure is bound to happen to them someday is that they're gonna screw each other over one way or another and the "Happily Ever After" will crash and burn. Everyone knows that it's a matter of fact that if someone's willing to cheat WITH you, then they're inevitably going to cheat ON you as well. It's facts.
@@elizabethescalante7866 wtf are you talking about? I responded to wander85 who said ‘’ I hope he stubs his toe every Monday morning just to start his week off terribly.” In response to his comment I said that his idea was evil 😈 and that I love it. In others words I am agreeing with his idea no where in my comment did I condone cheating or defending the cheater. Maybe you should learn how to comprehend what you are reading before you come at me.
He set himself up for this. He thought OP was a doormat and would always be one. He pushed her too far and she proved she had a backbone. That's what he's mad at. That she's not rolling over like a dog and just accepting his behavior like she did for 16 years. Maybe don't treat people like garbage if you actually want your happy ending. He prob could have bought her out if he was honest and said "Listen, this isn't working out. We need to break up" instead of stringing her along for 16 years. 🙄
I have no idea why he didn't just break up with her. Makes no sense.
If he broke up with her it makes him look like the bad guy. Instead he decided to get her to leave. Once she left he had a sob story for the other woman. That might be how he got her to move in so quickly after OP left.
Exactly. He was too much of a pussy to break up with her after obviously cheating on her and hoped she was a problem that would just go away. He's a coward. I'm glad for OP screwing him and his affair partner out of their plans for the house.
She actually set herself up for this. Come on I mean for 16 years he was showing her who he was. He was waving huge and massive red flags. Flags she intentionally chose to ignore. Was he wrong for doing it all? Hell yeah he was. He didn't want to be in a relationship. He should have been a man and got out. But she isn't blameless, not after 16 years of all this.
@@lizcdy Yup. Also, from what OP wrote and how his family are asking when they'd settle down, sounds like she was well-liked by his family. He definitely didn't want to be "the bad guy" who ended the relationship. Too bad for him, ending a relationship instead of cheating would've made him a sensible person.
I would've ditched him after the ring part. Op should get a STD test.
The one thing left she can do is go on social media with the story and spread it through friends and family. Salt the earth.
OP's not being vindictive, she's getting part of what she deserves. And I hope her ex gets exactly what HE deserves. He won't like it.
I hope they tell the house so fast and to a large family that they have to move out and cannot get an apartment as fast and live in a hotel for awhile while their stuff in in storage and that they fight everyday until she leave him.
I was together with someone like in the main story. But I only lasted 5years before I got tired of him not comitting or showing any interest/affection. Like come on, he showed more interest for movie characters than the relationship. Realized he only wanted a bangmaid so I left, and oh lord have it been the happiest time of my life! I can't imagine sticking it out for an entire 16years! I would be furious too, and I wish the OP of that story the best of luck with the future.
Well, the first 7 or 8 they were literal children. But past 25, he should either commit or leave. He's prob either cheating or wants to cheat. He's not sure he wants to only sleep with her for life.
Wow! Called it! He was cheating! So predictable. 🙄
"Only lasted 5 years" Really?! Only ?!!!! Wow
Short Summary: Girl get her back blown out by Chad, Gets angry when the Bad Boy doesn’t commit and ‘breaks up’ with him (goes back to have s€x with him whenever he wants.)
@@therealmr.incredible3179 yep, I bet this guy is attractive as hell or OP is ugly and this guy is way above her league. No way a woman do this to a guy that is average in looks.
@@VitorHugoOliveiraSousa nah. Getting together in your teens, you kinda skip important growing. You know nothing else so you hang on because you are afraid to jump to unknown and believe some magical shit that you got really lucky your teenage love is the only one. We all think so, but it.. really doesn't happen. Some just don't have balls to end it but push thru and make web of lies. Like in this case.
The guy with the bolt croppers and his addiction to cutting all the locks is a riot. The fact that he spent a month going to 3 different train stations to cut all the locks is hilarious.
"The superhero we deserved"
I want to meet the guy, take a photo with him and put it on my t-shirt.
People who don't commit in long-term relationships have reasons and they're rarely good. I guessed cheating and it was spot-on.
I was in a relationship for 21 years without marrying - never wanted to. It only ended after he fell into drug addiction. But for that, we would have stayed together.
My significant other and I lived together for 12 years and he didn't want to get married. He wasn't cheating, just terrified of commitment...like owning a house together and living together for 12 years wasn't a commitment??? He finally reluctantly married me; 'reluctant' was the key word for our marriage. He didn't want to be there, but it was easier to go through the motions than get out.
I actually had to walk away after that first one for a minute. Cause when I tell you I was in a silent RAGE 😡. What an absolute waste of a human being that “man” is. Absolutely disgusting what he put her through. I get that OP was naive and in love and whatever else for the last 16 years (wtf!!!!??) but she did not deserve THAT. No one deserves that. What a tool.
Story 1: I am hoping we will get an update to see how it ended with the house. I also hope she blasts him so his family and everyone else knows what a slime he was, he was cheating on her and didn't have the balls to break up with her. He clearly was doing everything he can to get her to break up with him. This guy is a POS and I really want to see him be forced to sell their house. He is a POS. The best thing she can do is live her BEST life, that is always the best form of revenge.
Most likely OP wont be able to force the sale of the house. She can say that she wants her money, but if he can find the money, he has the first right to get the house.
@@r2547 I do believe she can force a sale. For Fair Market Value. Because she is a co-owner.
She should sue for Palimony too and breach of promise.
16yrs. I’d wish for Scorched Earth.
He’s probably been cheating for at least as long as they’ve owned the home.
I really want to know what happens next.
the better show will be the first time he hears she is going out with someone else. She herself said when they were in high school they would break up and when she went out with someone else he got jealous and pushed her to get back together. That will happen again and new woman will be thrown over so he can win OP back. Hopefully OP has learned enough to turn him down and not take him back because he doesn't want her , he just doesn't want anyone else to be with her. Maybe she will be angry enough to play with him by getting him to think she will come back to him only to dash those hopes after he ruins himself with the new woman
I was hoping for an update too. But it's been 6 years since the post :(
@@camb1821 wonder if his or their mutual friends knew. Did she say?
That's far too much time to waste on someone who doesn't even want to commit.
I respect OP for that level of pettiness. It was deserved. He should've broken up with her *before* getting on with another girl. It looks like even the family didn't know he was cheating on her. The friends are likely left in the dark as well. I hope the whole friend group just drop his arse. He took way too much time from OP already and he doesn't get to keep good people around them.
As for the woman? I'm curious as to how she didn't know he wasn't single. Did she never met his friends? If they kept pushing for the douche to propose, doesn't sound like they know because even those who helped others cheat have _some_ situational awareness.
@@fytrndm the new girl is in for a ride for sure, of he did all of this to OP, he'll do it to the other woman.
@@despinasgarden.4100 Probably. I wonder what tall lies he told that woman.
OP on the other hand would need a lot of therapy. It might be hard but she also needs to put some distance from the ex's family for a bit to put herself together. It looks like they do love her and even their friends saw them as a pair. Must've shocked them to a degree as well.
@@fytrndm either he is an AMAZING liar, or the new girl is one of those woman who enjoy sleeping with man that are in relationships. I want to believe she was lied too, but sadly, there are some woman who just like messing with man in relationships because it gives them an ego bust.
@@despinasgarden.4100 I've lived long enough to have met those kind of women (and men) that I won't write off that possibility either. Though, right now, without evidence as such, I think I want to believe in whatever goodness that's left in people...
I don’t ever want to get married but I make that very clear when I start out a relationship. I cannot imagine waiting *16 years* to figure out whether or not someone is actually going to commit that way to you. Nostalgia and the sunken cost fallacy can make people put up with a LOT. Wild
Yeah it's good when all cards are on table from the start.
People like OPs now ex... They are just people (men and women do this) who keep their SO around for sex/bills/chores until they find someone better.
They are cowards.
And why stick around waiting to get married if the relationship is already disappointing on a daily basis?
Before any updates: This sounds almost exactly like my ex-husband! She's not actually in a relationship. She's a glorified roommate with benefits, just like I was. She needs to ditch him before she wastes any more of her life on him.
After update: I totally called it! I knew he was just like my ex-husband! Mine was cheating on me, too. He's also a narcissist, and ignored me all the time for his video games, etc. I'm hoping OP tells her lawyer about him cheating, changing the locks, and moving the side chick in. Definitely don't let them have the house, girl! Make them sell it and pay you for your half.
I would question the way he keeps the mortgage separate from her. He might try and claim it is his home because he paid for it fully with his money. I'd ditch him and force the sale of the home.
He could try, but it wouldn't work. Her name is on the deed and the mortgage. And he knew it was pointless to try because he conceded right away that he'd have to buy her out. He probably heard that from his attorney.
That's exactly what his thinking was
Mortgage and home title are handled by two different institutions. Though the mortgage from the bank is the contract in keeping the property, it's the state that doles out land to people. He could try but he'd fail miserably, doesn't matter who paid for what. If both names are on the deed, the house belongs to both of them.
16:06 Someone buy that Bolt Cropper guy a beer! He definitely did a great community service.
SPOILER
So literally the moment she moves out he;
-Moves in someone he was probably seeing while they were dating
-Decorates the house with her (girl who moved in), even when she (OP) spent years asking
-Locked her out of her own house, while she still owned it
And still calls HER a petty b* for not wanting him to live there with whom he cheated on.
If she is 29 years old, and have been together for 13 years, then she was 16 when they started. He was older. Hmmmm.
@@lyndatuttle By one year. He's 30. She's 29.
Lol spoiler
@@holographicwing it’s a form of abuse. Withhold what things they want or would make them happy. Make them feel bad for even asking...
This guy is a First-Class cad.
They've been together since *14 and 13*, but he won't fucking commit? What the hell!
Depending on where OP lives, she may be able to sue for palimony. It wouldn't be about the money, it would be about hurting that guy where he lives; his wallet.
Also, he had help "Wasting" half of OP's life.
She doesn't need palimony. She just needs to sell the house and get her half of the equity that HE paid for.
@@shells500tutubo Like I said, it's not about the money, it's about hurting him back.
@@carolcarol9982 He'll be hurting enough when he realizes he doesn't own the house by himself. Lawyers aren't cheap. She'd have to pay a retainer for a lawyer and would still end up not getting anything. They never comingled finances nor did they financially support each other.
B/f was communicating loud and clear with his actions, he didn't want to get married. Glad OP took action. Aaaand he was cheating, wow what a turd! Aww poor Rick, he can twist in the wind this time! She has full license to be petty and vindictive! For a little while anyway, then it's just a waste of her time. I hope she moves on, lives her life to the fullest, hits the gym and gets in the best shape of her life.
I get a feeling that it won’t be long before he makes a one-sided post on AITA trying to get sympathy!
Sometimes being a “petty bitch” is the best way forward!
That is a damn long time to string someone along! 16 years??! Wow! Bless her, I really feel for her. So happy she got a bit of revenge! He is a collosal d-bag and a bloody coward as well. Such a waste of time and of her life. Cheating a-hole! I hope she finds someone who is appreciative of her and wants to share a life with her. She can do so much better, the bar is pretty damn low at this point.
Thanks for the brilliant stories to finish the work week LG! ❤️
My pleasure Samantha :) great to know you enjoyed today's video!
First story: boyfriend was such a small person that he could not come stright out and say this is not what he wanted he was not happy, it was easier to cheat. That alone says so much about him. And he was so sure she was going to sell to him that was nasty. New girlfriend watch your back.if op could stay that long and receive that crap because she moved honey yours coming cause you was also being stringed allong.what would be the status if op did not move..op when you sign your papers to get your cash tell him grow a pair a big pair. Best of luck to you.
Why the hell didn't he just man up and tell OP that he wanted to break up years ago? Why be unhappy for so long? Did he want to avoid looking like the bad guy by forcing her to break it off first? That kind of goes out the window when he moved his side chick in immediately and had clear evidence of their affair.
He wanted the benefits of having two girlfriends
He wanted it to be all on her. At least in his mind.
1. Story:
sooo ... op only saw him cheating as a reason for revenge? not everything else? op is waaaaaaaaaay too nice
OP sounds desperate. No surprise after 16 years. He is doing what she wants to shut her up. He is dangling a carrot in front of her all the time and she is falling for it. OP should dump him, it is better for her to be on her own than in limbo.
In the UK he wouldn't be able to change the locks (legally) if OP's name is on the deed. The lawyer should deal with it. OP still have a right to live there.
16 years really desperate so much
You need to check with an attorney. After that long you may be common law & will have to get a divorce, (this happened to mom’s friend’s daughter).
Have the police come as standby when you get your other things
I mean I guess I am happy that OP finally got out but the warning signs were there for years. It is amazing what people put up with because they don't want to be alone or just don't want to rock the boat.
They're roommates, not a couple
When a man wants and respects you, you will never DOUBT his intentions! Whether he's 18 or 28, he will make his intentions known as soon as possible, to build a future with you. That 1st OP....wow...just wow🤯
I would put money on at least some of his friends and family knowing about the Cheating.
I can see the people in the last story try and complain to the station/council!
EP: "My lock was cut!!!"
S/C: "Was anything stolen!?"
EP: "Well, No, it was empty..."
S/C: Stares at them unamused till they leave.
Loved both stories, but I have to admit the second one made me laugh out loud. Good on OP for being so responsible. 😆
Ok when he got you that not an engagement ring I would have bailed then.
Ok story 2 was too awesome - "I decided to make it MY responsibility"? I wish I can be that chaotic good someday
Story 1: He just wanted someone to be chef, housekeeper, laundry service, and occasional booty call. He has probably dated other girls all along. It would explain why she wasn't allowed to decorate the house. Moral of the story, if your not engaged by the 5th year of the relationship, it's time to move on.
Story 1 - Wonderful! Hope the great a**-biting karma OP's ex and his current are getting continues to a crushing finale. I don't know why but I feel like his current gf was fully aware of what he was doing. I just don't understand why ...
Oh well!
Story 2 - Simply delightful! Great job OP!👍
SIXTEEN years?! I finally broke off an old relationship just before we hit the six year mark. What some people will do to avoid reading the writing on the wall, holy crap. Not trying to victim blame but damn, what a colossal waste of OP's time. Guy sounds like a real peach too; emotionally controlling, non-committal, only proposed to her to shut her up, and stuck around because he was too comfortable with their relationship. And he's most certainly been cheating on her. What a douche tumor.
Some women are just desperate to have that title of WIFE. Plus, she clearly had rose colored glasses on with this guy.
@@kimsvisualdiary normal people see the amount of time of the relationship and think surely no one would just lead them on like that for no reason, but the whole time he had another woman that he wanted to live with and "finally be happy" like op was holding him back or something when all he had to do was leave.
Also sounds like he avoided actually spending time with her or showing affection. What the hell, girl?
@@squirrel670 exactly no one is thinking this person is just using me as a placeholder he/she is just a cold person
16 years and she is only 29 so this is what she has known as normal since she was 13 years old. And apparently he hid his true nature extremely well since her friends and family were asking about when they were getting engaged instead of "when are you leaving his controlling butt"
I feel bad for OP but I’m glad she finally moved on. Please ladies and gents don’t wait this long, she definitely saw the res flags, got advise from friends but ignored it . Do not make excuses for your partner nor ignore the red flags else it’s only you who will suffer the pain in the end.
Be wise, get help and be vigilant
I was just sitting listening to this man lament to a random woman about how he just got out of a marriage where he “was always wrong” and he “lost” his house because she wouldn’t let him buy her out of it(and now has to live with his parents) and it’s stories like these that are why I was thinking and what did you do to deserve it?? What’s the other side of the story??
I'd never heard the expression "what do you want me to say" pero sí "que querís que te diga" jsjsj
Op, as hard as this maybe it may be the end of the relationship. I feel like he's trying to make her end it so he doesn't have to. Hoping everything ends well for op
I'm still a little confused on the not allowed to decorate part. Lol "ALLOW?!!" how were you going to stop me?!!
Dont stay in a chronically "on and off" relationship. Its a waste of time. I say this because I was in one for 5 years. 3 years into my current relationship not a single breakup, how it SHOULD BE.
The irony of he just bought me a ring to shut me up followed by, getting engaged just to shut her up was entertaining
Yessss get him back and her by association!!!
Sunken cost fallacy. Long gone time to run!
That man is pure narcissism in human form… to waste that girl’s life for his pleasure is just evil. I’m glad she’s going scorched earth… it’s about time she stands her ground.
I moved in with my boyfriend and he wouldnt even allow me to bring in my coffee table, he had none. Said it would make the room cluttered. Now he's my ex.
Already annoyed 16 years and he never put a ring on it reeks of desperation
One of my favorite things about your narrations is the way you say "smiley face". Thanks for that :)
Story 1 - I want to know the reaction from the friends.
Probably not a bit surprised.
Hahahaha, love the petty revenge at the end.
For the first story as soon as I heard "He insists that only he can pay the morgage with his account" after learning he "disliked" anything she brought up immediately clue'd me in he was definitely cheating since he wouldnt let her help pay the morgage, or give her the time of day with the the wedding planning. What an absolute scumbag -- good on OP getting her "vindictive" payback. He was a manipulator from the start after learning about the jealousy, and trying to shut her up with a ring. What BS wasting 16 years with him, but I'm glad she was able to leave and be happy on her own.
Why am I not surprised? Idk why the ex kept the relationship going if he was this unhappy and cheated on her. Was this some sick thrill? He literally did waste half her life when she could've dated somebody else. But I'm glad she's out of that nonsense. Also I would've done the same thing with just selling the home.
She ain't too bright. Sounds like he made it clear he didn't want to make a life with her. She felt she couldn't even decorate her own home. BS. Why the hell would you be pushing for marriage?
OP getting the final say brought me peace with my exs, thank you so much,
Some people are like bottomless wells that you can never fill up or satisfy. It can be so hard to admit that it's hopeless. It can feel like a personal failure and you want to believe that you can fix it and salvage the situation. And that all that time was not wasted. It's hard to call it quits but it has to be done. You aren't a failure. You are strong for choosing yourself however long it takes to do so.
The first story, when she pointed out that he refused to allow her to decorate, my first thought was he wanted the house plain because he had a side piece. He didn't want the side chick to know he had a live-in girlfriend. OP's next order of business needs to be telling his family that the relationship is done because he was cheating - because they'll ask why and, well, you can't just say 'We didn't work out' after more than a decade together. People won't accept that kind of blanket answer. Especially family. Bonus points if one of his family members offers to rough him up for OP. Something like this, that's how my immediate family would be... and we're all women.
He'll badmouth Op to his family and tell them SHE was cheating, not that "it just didn't work out".
1st story....is your name on the deed of the house. If so you have nothing to worry about it.
Get rid of this guy and sell the house. This guy has someone on the side. He isn't interested in marrying you.
I hope OP 1 is out there living her best life. I hope she has found the love of her life and he's an upgrade in every possible way. I hope they bought a beautiful home and he told her to go crazy decorating. I hope she has as many children as she wants, and she is deliriously happy.
And I hope her ex gets what's coming
The last Op is the definition of chaotic good
For the first story I wonder what Opie's ex's family and friends thinks about what he put her through?
in the last story cutting locks with Bolt cutters brilliant.
The first story, if she thinks that getting married will change things, think again.
She needs to leave. He's in control and he makes the rules.
Why OP didn’t put her foot down at any point during that relationship is beyond me. I’d have just said, well it’s my house too and I’m having it painted. You either contribute to the decorating or shut up about it forever. What a scumbag.
I love the way you read "smiley face", "sad face"
Story one- 10 seconds in- Ditch the Rick and get a property lawyer to obtain your half of the equity in the house.
🤗❤️🇺🇸
Well depending on the state she's already his common-law wife and if she plans to leave can take a percentage of the assets. Depending on the amount of time they've been together etc, she's a wife without the paperwork. He's probably thinking he can leave her with all his stuff. She can leave now and take half the assets or however much she's owed.
16 years? 16 YEARS!?! Fuck Rick.
Any relationship more than 5 years without marriage is a joke. In this case, I can factor in that they were kids when they got together but once they got to 25, some concrete decisions should have been made. OP should just break-up with him, he will never marry her and plus he already told his friends he won't marry her, she should believe him.
Edit: He is an absolute vile human being. He will get his karma!
I don't agree. It's just a cultural thing where you live and people are obsessed with marriage.
two of the happiest couples I know, married alter 10 years of being together. don't call relationships you don't know anything about, a joke. you're just being superficial
@@2Ten1Ryu I agree. My uncle married his girlfriend after 20 years. She went through a lot of soul searching over the years knowing she was passing up having children and such. They finally married in their 50’s and both passed a few years ago. He did not last long after she passed. Her dying devastated him.
My parents married after 32 years I believe? Like, literally just last year lol. They'e relationship was actually really rocky before that but they'e okay now :D went to marriage counseling and everything
@@kirielbranson4843 This story is the poster child for NOT staying with someone who doesn’t marry you
How ignorant. I was in a relationship for 21 years. We never wanted to marry.
Who are you to call other peoples relationships a joke, based only on that criteria.
Golden Hawn and Kurt Russell never married and they have lasted 40 years.
Rick is a slime bag, The minute OP leaves he decorates the house🤦♀️
So basically for 16 years she intentionally ignored the HUGE red flags he was waving for 16 years all because...LOVE! Now she is upset and shocked he did this? People need to stop doing this. The person you're with is showing who they really are. Believe them. Like my parents said. When you fall in love don't forget to take your brain along too. 😒
What a stunning lack of understanding and empathy this post shows.
This was utterly heartbreaking....
Story 1: a monkey knows which tree to climb is all I have to say
should sue him and the girlfriend for alienation of affection, attempted marriage fraud, and monetary fraud( he was leading her on the whole time.)
Story two was a hoot! That was a brilliant idea! Story one: what a jerk! She worshipped him and he threw her love away!
Wonder if any of the friends knew about the other woman!!
@LostGenre Transitive property??? LMFAO!!! I haven't thought about that in years. HILARIOUS! I legit LOL'd. :)
It's like my father told me years ago, "actions speak louder than words. If the action and the words don't match, always believe the actions because people will always tell you what you want to hear. But the actions will always tell you the truth". She knew what she had to do. She just needed Reddit people to give her the strength to do it.
If you've been together more than 5 years and marriage talk isn't on the table (if both or one party wants it) end it. This man wasted her time and strung her along instead of just breaking up. He didn't have to cheat when it could've just been over. OP was foolish after years of having her self esteem stepped on but this was a hard lesson. If someone proves they're a POS....believe them.
I was in a relationship for 21 years. We never married. That's how we both wanted it. There was no cheating or infidelity. For the most part, they were happy years.
Not everyone wants marriage and not everyone who chooses not to marry is running a scam.
16 years? Without any saying in the relationship? How dumb can one person be?
Great video, I'm glad OP got out of that situation.
You are so awesome first OP! I wish we had seen EX selling the house and being homeless but this is okay too.
I PRAY OP just repeatedly walks in the house at random times
16 years? SIXTEEN years and she claims it's (only) his fault? Come on! I'm glad she finally moved out and and moved on (plus that well-deserved revenge) but 16 years is too long a period of time not to be partly to blame.
I reckon 2-3 years is the threshold to know if a relationship is ‘going somewhere’, especially if your both independent adults at the time of meeting. You can reasonably date for a year, maybe live together for a year, but beyond that, you’re essentially acting married without being so. So if marriage is important to you, my advice would be don’t feel like you have to settle for acting like you’re married with someone who doesn’t value the tradition, or isn’t interested in you as a spouse
Story1: I love when OPs are petty! 🎉 good for her!!
First story = LG reads 1 paragraph...*paused*...for an off topic comment. I can already tell this is going to be a Duesenberg of a video when the OP has been in only one (1) relationship from ages 13 to the current 29.
It is very difficult to test the reality of a situation when that situation is one's entire reality. Correctly judging the relationship of objects is helped, greatly helped, by having persepective.
Okay, LG, hit us with it.
Red flag for Op when she wrote her idea to decorate was "dumb".
OP's big mistake was allowing herself to be strung along for so long and falling for the sunk cost fallacy. She had rose colored glasses on so she missed the obvious red flags that he just didn't really love her or want to marry her. When your SO clearly tells you they don't want to marry you by words and actions do yourself a favor and listen, don't stick around thinking they will change their minds. It's not that they don't know if you are the one, it's that they clearly know you aren't so move on.
Great stories! Thanks LG 😀
That 1st commenter was spot on and I feel so sorry for her.
Sometimes I think the OPs don't read their stuff before they hid send... How can you not see anything wrong with this?
You have fun decorating OP
16yrs?! And here I am mad I wasted 6 months