@@FPT84 imagine living the rest of your life this way as it gets worse. The person obviously isn’t the right person for you. Stress is the #1 killer today. Find your place/level of being at peace, then find someone who at the least will maintain it and at best will enhance it. That it the best person for you.
Agreed. If the partner does not bring you peace of mind most of the time, you are with the wrong person for you. How they treat you is how they feel about you.
@@aliciaj1727 Then have him prove that at a relationship counselor ~ because once fear enters, peace makes a quick exit...a counselor can ID & can help see how deep that wound really is. You have no idea, and he obviously has little knowledge of what happened somewhere/sometime, to cause him to be this way. (Accept his offer, and hold him to it, for the sake of his future And Yours.)
As a female in law enforcement, if something feels off ladies don’t hesitate or feel guilty about blocking these men. And thanks for the part about blocking the men who waste your time, I’ve got one of those in the early stage and it’s time to cut my losses.
@@christineribone9351 Professional intuition. They’re trained to spot subtle things that most people would be oblivious to, plus they’ve dealt and seen certain things many many times so they know what to look for
I totally agree. I have no problem with blocking someone. The signs are there. The younger me used to overlook issues, which caused me so much pain. Now, I have no tolerance for issues that causes me pain. I don't have a problem with being single if it brings me Peace.
Don't let you niceness be your downfall. Most women are natural nurturers... Don't nurture someone who wants to humble you, put you under his submission, and break your bubbly spirit🦋
I've been on silent treatment for 3mth out of 6. I told him I don't want him last wk. He's called..he's been angry cause I mailed his belongings. Careful they do rage. I answered the call ..he said, "you said you're the one to walk away but how far did u reach??😮 he's right block block block with spam so it doesn't show n tempt u! Be strong everyone male and female. Narcissicist ppl are REAL!!
I bounced to not only protect MY PEACE but to protect my PHYSICAL HEALTH from stress related illnesses caused by the stresses HE caused No! Thank! You!
That's me, if I had just walked away right in the beginning, I would not have wasted 10 good years of my life. Hard lesson learnt, thanks for your videos Derrick
I definitely admit I should have never dealt with my ex from day one……17 years later I’m out! Lessons learned along the way but damn that’s a lot of wasted time!! I raised him for real, I am just now realizing I can’t fix him! So now I work on myself and acknowledge my part, what I allowed and be better at my block game and really seeing the red flags and shutting it down asap!!!!
Nah. I don't block him. My lick back is completely ignoring him. Like, COMPLETELY. I leave his bullshit babbling on "read" He got pissed enough to block ME. A**hole will return and he'll find the same result. No access to my thoughts (good bad or indifferent)
Same here, I don't want him to have the satisfaction that he hurt me that bad to even block him. I think it would show that I checked his FB. I ain't blocking him but he will never hear from me again. 😊
He crossed the line where he has no regard for my time or my efforts towards him... But doesn't walk away... I had to block him alot sooner... Itbwas onky me that could put his treatment towards me to a stop because he was just going to continue
I can totally admit it. Been there done that TOO many times. Took me decades to let go of the negative curse of hanging on to dead weight and collateral damage.
My priority is God Almighty (Allah SWT) and Myself. I got NO time for anything or anyone else. I am growing so I refuse to have BS distraction. Lesson learned so thank you!!
It's so hard...but staying tells him you're OK with it...especially when you are friends first, but friends talk...ends the whole thing, but you will be so heartbroken when he takes it to someone else. Don't let yourself feel unworthy more than once...speaks of desperation to him no matter your intent. Been there. Someone will be a lucky woman. 😢
I like how this speaker gets attention for the right reasons and not the wrong ones. I listen to this for reminders on how I should be treated, even though I’m in a happy relationship.
God bless you more and more my brother, Mr. Jaxn. May you continue to go from glory to glory and have a good life. May suffering and pain be far far far away from you in Jesus name. Amen
We need more men out there with your knowledge (and women ) If my ex thought I did wrong, He would wait and ignore me all day till the next day. And then act like nothing was wrong. And I wasnt supposed to be mad, when in reality what he was doing, was trying to punish me because I did something or said something that he didn't like. which honestly was pretty much, everything. Lord, what a mistake he was!
Unfortunately a lot of women are raising someone's child. Which isn't our burden to deal with especially when God has called them to lead, protect, & cultivate.
You hit “the nail on the head”! It does not matter the age, nor the occupational endeavor, as an older professional women, the five issues mentioned regarding men applies to young and very old too!
BIG UP! YESSSS… I love ur passion and REAL TALK. I shoulda blocked from day 1!!! …I was put thru hell while I allowed him access to my heart. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom and helping to protect us from the BS and massive potential pain. ❤ sending love to everyone here…. We deserve to love someone that we’d never need to block 🙏 ☮️ CHOOSE PEACE
I have blocked my partner and unblocked him . I just thought I was so done … he would be outside my home sitting in the cold waiting for me for hours . I felt so bad and I’d let him talk me into working on our relationship and I’d give him another try.
10:21 worse… if he gets an attitude (which men like that are more likely to do) after you’ve set a boundary, then you need to go to the bathroom and never return OR decline another date.
I have left so many first date’s behind. I have yet allowed a second date in years 🤪 my last date he talked crap about his ex’s so I was like NOPE 👎 he’s toxic. I have my own stories of horrible ex’s however I would not bring that up, like hello that’s insane to me
The downshift happened to me recently and I did cut him off quick but it still was disappointing. Your reaction and explanation is just giving me life right now haha
I'm not here to waist my time with anykind of relationship , if it ain't helping me evolve going go to the next as focusing on myself and want and do better for me
I told him today that I am looking forward to seeing him again. ( Long distance) and he doesn't say anything back. To which I tell him that I would like to know if he is looking forward to seeing me again also, not being clingy or demanding as I am not staying where I am not wanted. I didn't receive a response. Oh no he didn't! Total disrespect!!
I blocked to protect my peace as he was not accountable and blamed me when all I did was react to his poor behaviour a disgusting human no space for that in my Life now he surely knows it’s not a joke.
4 years later he didn't call or text fro 3 days before Christmas. He didn't need to have access to me after that. I Blocked him in the 27th of Dec. I am done allowing him back in.
I get your question, but the flip would be this: How far away do you want to be from Your Peace? Standing back, while your space becomes alarmingly loud, frenetic, and threatening (through no fault of your own) ?
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When you realize you are stressing instead of at peace, DONE!
I'm at this stage today!
@@FPT84 imagine living the rest of your life this way as it gets worse. The person obviously isn’t the right person for you. Stress is the #1 killer today.
Find your place/level of being at peace, then find someone who at the least will maintain it and at best will enhance it.
That it the best person for you.
@@lindagiles9883 PEACE totally comes on top!
Agreed. If the partner does not bring you peace of mind most of the time, you are with the wrong person for you. How they treat you is how they feel about you.
Whenever your in a abusive relationship an they refuse to take accountability it's time to block 🚫 him 💯 💯
I going though that now
Well what if he is accepting accountability and has apologized profusely and said he is willing to do anything? What do you do then?
@@aliciaj1727 Then have him prove that at a relationship counselor ~ because once fear enters, peace makes a quick exit...a counselor can ID & can help see how deep that wound really is. You have no idea, and he obviously has little knowledge of what happened somewhere/sometime, to cause him to be this way. (Accept his offer, and hold him to it, for the sake of his future And Yours.)
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As a female in law enforcement, if something feels off ladies don’t hesitate or feel guilty about blocking these men. And thanks for the part about blocking the men who waste your time, I’ve got one of those in the early stage and it’s time to cut my losses.
Amen!! Definitely listening to my gut this time it's never been wrong
what does that have to do about law enforcement?
@@christineribone9351 Professional intuition. They’re trained to spot subtle things that most people would be oblivious to, plus they’ve dealt and seen certain things many many times so they know what to look for
@@Of_the_sea
What a crock of 💩.
I had that same training.
That myth is a bunch of nonsense.
Winnie is right.
Intuition is 💯.
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Safe People by Henry Cloud
Blocked 🚫 Permanently
Instantly ❤
I totally agree. I have no problem with blocking someone. The signs are there. The younger me used to overlook issues, which caused me so much pain. Now, I have no tolerance for issues that causes me pain. I don't have a problem with being single if it brings me Peace.
100%
How is it since you blocked him? As I’m in the same
You just spoke to me. Guilty of having a Big heart, Graceful by nature. I have to stop giving it to the wrong individuals
People always take us for fools when we have a good heart! Keep on keeping on God bless you 🙏🏾
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So do I my sister
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@@julietcampbell681 thank you for that confirmation my sister.
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Same. It’s like I’m a magnet smh. Finally stepped into my power and turned off by it all.
Don't let you niceness be your downfall. Most women are natural nurturers... Don't nurture someone who wants to humble you, put you under his submission, and break your bubbly spirit🦋
I've been on silent treatment for 3mth out of 6. I told him I don't want him last wk. He's called..he's been angry cause I mailed his belongings. Careful they do rage. I answered the call ..he said, "you said you're the one to walk away but how far did u reach??😮 he's right block block block with spam so it doesn't show n tempt u! Be strong everyone male and female. Narcissicist ppl are REAL!!
I bounced to not only protect MY PEACE but to protect my PHYSICAL HEALTH from stress related illnesses caused by the stresses HE caused No! Thank! You!
@@donuts5710block him
People who don’t have healthy relationships growing up will not understand your morals ..they can’t
You are absolutely right, block him and cut off all access.
If its not peace it's not worth it praying 🙏 to be better and do better in Jesus name ❤❤❤❤
Amen 🙏
I don’t care what anyone says about u, u always makes sense to me and I will forever listen to your content
That's me, if I had just walked away right in the beginning, I would not have wasted 10 good years of my life. Hard lesson learnt, thanks for your videos Derrick
Yeah I wasted 9 and he needs to go to therapy ......he has so much childhood trauma. I really thought I could help him.
Not being mean but didn't your family and friends tell you to leave.
It's been 2wks since I blocked him, Im in the process of trying to heal it's not easy.
Stay strong! I’m just starting my journey too, we deserve nothing less than peace in our life. ❤
Stay the course, my dear. You. Are. Worth. It.
I just done my blocking and it hurts 😔 💔
I don't even block, I just ignore 🤷♀️
It gets greater later my love
Thank you for such great info. I wish men would realize how much women need emotional safety and support no matter how strong we are.
yes 😮
We aren't strong all the time. Total nonsense.
Gaslighting was a deal breaker for me..then disrespect followed..block
The downshifting is why I left. And I realized after the fact, that he is actually avoidant. Do not engage with these men ladies. It's heartbreaking.
No children. Blocked done already.
Awesome me to
I definitely admit I should have never dealt with my ex from day one……17 years later I’m out! Lessons learned along the way but damn that’s a lot of wasted time!! I raised him for real, I am just now realizing I can’t fix him! So now I work on myself and acknowledge my part, what I allowed and be better at my block game and really seeing the red flags and shutting it down asap!!!!
I remove his negativity from my life and being!
I have been there..BLOCK him and you will not REGRET him!
"How far away do you want to be from a person that's poisoning you." That part
Nah.
I don't block him.
My lick back is completely ignoring him.
Like, COMPLETELY.
I leave his bullshit babbling on "read"
He got pissed enough to block ME.
A**hole will return and he'll find the same result.
No access to my thoughts (good bad or indifferent)
Same here, I don't want him to have the satisfaction that he hurt me that bad to even block him. I think it would show that I checked his FB. I ain't blocking him but he will never hear from me again. 😊
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15 yearsin a marriage,only to end up wishing I BLOCKED HIM!!!!
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥Like Whoa🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Sssooooo, he MUST HAVE 13"👌👌👌👌👌👌👌
Instead of him adding to me he kept taking from me. I'm no Sugar Momma. I had to get out of that immediately and did. 💯
You right Derrick! Not everyone is ready to be healthy. Your just encouraging self love, thank you my internet bro!
He crossed the line where he has no regard for my time or my efforts towards him... But doesn't walk away... I had to block him alot sooner... Itbwas onky me that could put his treatment towards me to a stop because he was just going to continue
And they won't walk away! They make us do the hard work when THEY are the ones acting like they didn't want US!
I can totally admit it. Been there done that TOO many times. Took me decades to let go of the negative curse of hanging on to dead weight and collateral damage.
My priority is God Almighty (Allah SWT) and Myself. I got NO time for anything or anyone else. I am growing so I refuse to have BS distraction. Lesson learned so thank you!!
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I’m done, done I choose my peace from Most High God, God Bless you my dear brother 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Disrespect = Goodbye
This should be a mandatory course for all our young women
You are 1000 percent correct!! Keep telling the truth❤
You’re speaking to my spirit right now
It's so hard...but staying tells him you're OK with it...especially when you are friends first, but friends talk...ends the whole thing, but you will be so heartbroken when he takes it to someone else. Don't let yourself feel unworthy more than once...speaks of desperation to him no matter your intent. Been there. Someone will be a lucky woman. 😢
I like how this speaker gets attention for the right reasons and not the wrong ones. I listen to this for reminders on how I should be treated, even though I’m in a happy relationship.
Please BLOCK HIM.
God bless you more and more my brother, Mr. Jaxn. May you continue to go from glory to glory and have a good life. May suffering and pain be far far far away from you in Jesus name. Amen
amen
We need more men out there with your knowledge (and women ) If my ex thought I did wrong, He would wait and ignore me all day till the next day. And then act like nothing was wrong. And I wasnt supposed to be mad, when in reality what he was doing, was trying to punish me because I did something or said something that he didn't like. which honestly was pretty much, everything. Lord, what a mistake he was!
He just dont care about you
He speaks truth ❤❤❤❤❤❤
This one was very necessary! 💯 percent facts! I’ve been here and I’m so grateful to be done!!
True.. I... He took my number and started msging me... I wish I didn't cross his path because it was all for nothing... Just pain... For what...
Exactly what happened I was raising him
So tiring 😫
Unfortunately a lot of women are raising someone's child. Which isn't our burden to deal with especially when God has called them to lead, protect, & cultivate.
So true. Thank you for this video. I learned a lot the hard way.
You hit “the nail on the head”! It does not matter the age, nor the occupational endeavor, as an older professional women, the five issues mentioned regarding men applies to young and very old too!
BIG UP! YESSSS… I love ur passion and REAL TALK. I shoulda blocked from day 1!!! …I was put thru hell while I allowed him access to my heart. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom and helping to protect us from the BS and massive potential pain. ❤ sending love to everyone here…. We deserve to love someone that we’d never need to block 🙏 ☮️ CHOOSE PEACE
Yes indeed my peace matters to me
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UNDERSTOOD MY BROTHER!! 💯💯💯. THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONFIRMATION!!!
YASSSSS!! 🙏🙏🙏❤🙏🙏🙏
I have blocked my partner and unblocked him . I just thought I was so done … he would be outside my home sitting in the cold waiting for me for hours . I felt so bad and I’d let him talk me into working on our relationship and I’d give him another try.
22 years of marriage only wish I should of blocked him, yes I’m keeping it real with myself💯❗️
You're not trippin~Peace is everything. Protect it at all costs❤😊
Agree.
I'm queen blocker!!!! And queen unsubscribe!!!!!!
No peace! No connection! period!
Wish I was like that 🥲
I wish I had blocked three years ago!
The whole truth and nothing but the truth 💯
Yes I had to block go days without checking on me and he didn't care
10:21 worse… if he gets an attitude (which men like that are more likely to do) after you’ve set a boundary, then you need to go to the bathroom and never return OR decline another date.
Was just down-shifted and completely blocked him. Best thing I ever did.
My husband of 37 years finally left!😢
EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED TO ME. Never again 🙏
100 percent agree on the shifting down in effort and no reaching out for 24 hours - smile and wave and block
Keep preaching and teaching,I love this.I have been listening to you,for a few years now. AND I use what you have been teaching us.
I have left so many first date’s behind. I have yet allowed a second date in years 🤪 my last date he talked crap about his ex’s so I was like NOPE 👎 he’s toxic. I have my own stories of horrible ex’s however I would not bring that up, like hello that’s insane to me
You are funny, but so accurate. WOW!!
Amen brother!
Real talk 💯 I appreciate you I don't have men in my life to give me truth thanks bro 🙏❤️❤️
I 👋. I wish we had never crossed paths, i wish i had never said yes and my life would have had peace
I’ve been watchin your videos for a few days now and u honestly helped give me the strength I needed to leave. Everything u say makes 110% sense!
Amen. Don't play about me. Be upfront.
Totally agree with all you’ve said.. and that I’m not being harsh blocking when I see the red flags 😅..
The downshift happened to me recently and I did cut him off quick but it still was disappointing. Your reaction and explanation is just giving me life right now haha
youree right, taking away my peace is the best reason to block him..
Love this thank you 💕👍💯😇
🙋🏾♀️I….now have him blocked. I been sleeping well too.💅🏾💯
I'm not here to waist my time with anykind of relationship , if it ain't helping me evolve going go to the next as focusing on myself and want and do better for me
This video helped me get my life back on track. It was really hard to block him, i accept, but now I feel so light. Thank you ❤️😊
I blocked him because i found out he still active on dating apps
God has blessed you with such wisdom Sir
Act like nothing Happened don’t wanna apologize or give explanation
Already done, I communicate in a state of energy, vibration, frequency, sound and flow
I agree 💯 my life would have most certainly been different I had not given them the chance.
Block 'm block'm block'm on ma mind 🔥
I told him today that I am looking forward to seeing him again. ( Long distance) and he doesn't say anything back. To which I tell him that I would like to know if he is looking forward to seeing me again also, not being clingy or demanding as I am not staying where I am not wanted. I didn't receive a response. Oh no he didn't!
Total disrespect!!
I blocked to protect my peace as he was not accountable and blamed me when all I did was react to his poor behaviour a disgusting human no space for that in my
Life now he surely knows it’s not a joke.
Thank you Derrick jaxn
Powerful.Big Bro
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4 years later he didn't call or text fro 3 days before Christmas. He didn't need to have access to me after that. I Blocked him in the 27th of Dec. I am done allowing him back in.
PERIOD!!!!
All the points were spot on👌 , and non negotiable for me. I don't hesitate to block.
This video was right on time
You are absolutely right, block him 👍🏾🙏🏽
Damn I wished I did that from the beginning. Actually I wished I never reply! 😊. Working on moving on and never looking back.
You're absolutely 💯 right
I get your question, but the flip would be this: How far away do you want to be from Your Peace? Standing back, while your space becomes alarmingly loud, frenetic, and threatening (through no fault of your own) ?
omg🎉 no5 really got me! thk u love ur videos🌈🌞💕
When he or she is doing more subtracting...🚫
God Bless You and Yours Derrick 🙏
Yes!! In Jesus name!
No, you are not. And some folks have issues with themselves.
Keep Speaking brotha🔥