My last girl friend would ask me if she did something would it bother me? Then would argue with me when I said it would. Example,this guy asked me to go hang out at his house. Would you mind if I had coffee with him. Was a fucking exhausting relationship.
Oh, I've had this in various ways too. It is extremely exhausting... I tell them (annoyed), "listen, next time don't ask me for my opinion, just tell me what you want me to say"
@@huMANs_channel My response ended up being" why ask me if it bothers me? Your going to do whatever you want to do anyway." This response gave me somewhat better response. Sad part with the last one is I don't think she was a bad person. I just don't think she was comfortable with a person like me. I'm extremely slow to anger and very patient. I will be eternally grateful to her for giving me closure. Thank you for your channel. The way you speak with such even and matter of fact tones really relays the knowledge well. I'm not a hateful person and some of the channels seem to be a lot of bitter people.
The answer was "yes it would bother me", the next thing I'd do is ask her, "Oh Tiffany down the road has asked me to go out with her to the nightclub, do you mind?"
Women want their cake and eat it too. They want the husband to provide and take care of her, but she wants to continue living like a single woman. The Married, yet Single Woman of today. Seriously, I wish I grew up in a different generation. I wouldn't miss the internet or the modern conveniences we have, just to have a relationship like my grandparents had.
Unfortunately thats what women respond to the best. You playing your role as the strong man, no matter your real feelings. In the past Ive seen women loose attraction for me right after ive been emotional (weak in her head) because of a certain situation in life. Women love liars and hate honesty. Ive experienced it personally. As long as I am acting in a certain way, she is happy, i know its fake happiness, but ive learned to do what i have to in order to get what I want.
Best advice I've seen: Simulate your downfall. In a heartbeat you will see who has the knives out for you: family, significant other, 'friends', etc. In my case I lost my job, and gained back my life.
Gerhard Symons Outwardly, most of my life has been other people’s version of downfall, and it works just like you said: living in a van for 6 years while I saved for my first house, liquidating my entire life, including my second house (an 8-bedroom monstrosity that ironically looked like success to THEM, but was trapped misery for me), divorcing, moving into a one-room apartment on the beach, driving a car with almost 400,000 miles on it, not “being able” to have relationships with women that last more than 6-9 months (“Wouldn’t you know it, she just wasn’t The One. I’ll keep looking.”) I think even THEY finally figured out that the “failed” relationship part was a huge win. All of these things looked so much like failure that they served very well to keep people away and to encourage them to show their true colors. It didn’t keep them from attempting to siphon off the benefits of a life lived like mine, in the rare circumstance that they could be served by me, but it DID make it very easy a I got older, to be unavailable to them. Unfortunately, as a young man I mistook their using me for help as them opening a door to a relationship of reciprocity, interest, and understanding. Live and learn.
@@Drizzly_Bear I hear you. My story is depressingly similar. My sisters and mother fawned on me when I had successes and didn't lift a finger to help me when I had inevitable setbacks. People can betray me once, and never again - and that includes 'family'. Vipers!
Gerhard Symons Family is not an exception for me either. I raised a daughter by myself, and I warned her once when she threatened to call the police if I tried to force her to stay in and clean her room: “If you ever involve the government in my life, it will be the end of our relationship forever.” Her mother got a similar, though slightly different statement from me once, which is how I ended up with full custody and no alimony.
@@threethrushes it's amazing how you learn who your true friends are in a time of need. For me I was lucky enough to have a great family and long lost but loyal group of friends.
Absolutely spot on and this is why I avoid hot women. The same argument goes for "never let your man see you without makeup". If we can't be human with each other, it's just too much work.
I had (might be 'have' but its been a few weeks) an associate that would often spend her time with me, as in she would come to me. We'd talk, sometimes get food, I think I was her sounding board. I am 17 years her senior. She was lamenting her life one night when I asked as part of the flow of conversation why she didn't take off her make-up? She is always heavily made up, even behind her ears, whether it is at work or casual. Honestly sometimes it reminds me of a paint-by-numbers. She flipped out as if I had asked her to do something immoral. Thought I'd share this because of your last sentence. I think society has really warped what it means to be human.
@Peter Milne You bring a female co-worker to your place? In my experience, this is the very recipy for betrayal and disaster. You piss her off with your patriarchal questions about her make-up? Well, too bad that in _her_ mind, it felt like a rape attempt...
@@Furzkampfbomber You've read too much into it. I did say 'associate', but that doesn't mean co-worker, but i can see how you thought that. I see her at her work, as she is a loans officer at the bank I hold my accounts at. I was actually once her tutor when she was going through school and then Uni. She is a family friend. Unfortunately she is also the by product of a divorced family so I make sure I'm protected. I actually have my small unit wired for camera and sound. I do my business from home and to cover any and all conversations, I make sure that they are recorded. I learnt the hard way many years ago that what the client asks for isn't always what they want. Following MeToo she asked me one day if the cameras were recording and was insulted when I told her yes. Even showed her the footage. When she got insulted, I challenged her with why it was any different to her work place and pointed to the notice on my door entry that advised of security recording. She eventually got over it when she need my assistance later . I call her an associate because she is not a 'friend'. As she has aged she has gotten more opinionated and entitled. She is also unable to keep a confidence to save herself. Still a 'nice' girl, but she will be a single cat-lady unless she changes her attitude. As for recording? I dont trust my own sisters, I certainly don't trust my female associates. Finally though, thanks for your concern in the behavior pattern you saw. You raised very good points and most people don't have their houses wired for surveillance, so I appreciate the feedback. BTW she called me 2 days before Christmas asking if she can come over. Seasonal Blues. And guess what, No makeup. SMH.
I was in a relationship with a woman who has two Masters degrees in Psychology and is a licensed counsellor. I thought it would be safe to show my vulnerable side to her; especially as I am still dealing with my father's death. Nope. The relationship took an immediate turn for the worse and that totally blindsided me. We went from a strong dynamic to her being distant, condescending and finding fault with everything I did. The relationship ended soon after and she blamed me for it. Women need to realize how much strength it takes for men to talk about deep emotional pain and exposing a side of us that is very vulnerable. Her solution was to go sleep with someone else that she found more 'alpha' at the moment. This is why I've given up on women and focus on my career.
... interesting twist is with the xx.s psych majors. one could think these were wisening her up on what to experience in life and how to cope - but xx.s are solipsist by nature and rather prone to mistake their (maybe narcissist) opportunistic projections on sbdy. for related empathy. that's also why men do need male counsels | therapists in related circumstances - lest other things get messed with as well, due to blank slt. eql.ism delusions | blindness of 'doers' above.
It's incredible, but it is so true. It's actually so true that you can use it to your advantage. If you want to loose a girl and have her break up, appear vulnerable and show weakness. She will bounce very quickly. Seriously, I've tried that once to get rid of a girl who promised me to always be there and support me, but she was all talk no substance. The way they run away from you after you start crying over something you pretend hurt you, it is like having a cheat code in a game. IDKFA, or 'I don't kare f...g a$$hole!' and off they go!
Absolutely fantastic video! It's unsustainable to "always be the alpha male" and "never show weakness". These coaches anticipate and respond to the fears of men; especially the fear of losing a woman. "If you don't do this" or "if you do that"... she will be in another castle. Why should men jump through 1001 hoops, simply because the other side is not willing to compromise their primal instincts with certain norms and values? It takes two to tango.
9:15 That right there is the reality shear between the Alpha act and the Beta reality because the road to becoming a true Alpha involves moments of perceived "weakness" including recovery, self-reflection, quitting work to reorient towards the best future path, dropping of social connections to have only the best people around, etc ....
Though I understand where you are coming from as well As Respect all my fellow men, I have to say We had been indoctrinated into being so sensible, conciencious AND politically correct thats disgusting. Being "human" has more a Lot to do with wearing a mask tan anyone Is willing to admit...food for thought. As everyone in the end dies alone, my personal life experience tells me to never show weakness not no women but to anyone. The only way to shovel this life trough your conciousness Is by being that Hero, by being that rock, only not to women or others but to yourself. As we all know by now there is no air support: rounded and cornered, make men great AGAIN and Shoot yourself in the head with a double barrelled self Love a and Respect to live AND die with the boots on.
@@Ace.0.0.0. True. In the same way you don't want to fall asleep in the subway in case you get pickpocketed, don't show weakness in an environment that will get you hurt.
What we are NOT: We are not incels; We are not PUAs; We are not MRAs. We are men sharing knowledge about gender dynamics; We are men who reject the societal expectations of servitude to women; We are men going our own way and trying to help our fellow men to do the same. - Surely it's not THAT difficult to understand! MGTOW FOR LIFE.
What you guys coming here are doing? huMAN is MGTOW(he doesn't use the label anymore for reason already explained by him), and for being one is the only reason he can be that insightful of the world.
Jeffrey KRUPA, you got it. Below are a few specifics that add to your comment. The question of "married or not?" mapped onto MGTOW: if already married and a man learns from, say, Straughan, the principle of starting a nest egg that wife does not know about, and this money is set aside specifically to bulwark against a divorce-rape, that married man is MGTOW. If not married, a man who's heard or read about actual MGTOW values will continue to stay unmarried. Some go monk mode; obviously no sex. Others choose a riskier lifestyle. MGTOW says go with the pros (escorts), or don't do it if she knows your real name, where you live, where you work, or your license plate number. Take your used condom with you to avoid being spermjacked.
Jeffrey KRUPA,"They" get it, alright. that's why it terrifies them. The fear women and their governments have is based on the ability to control man in all aspects of life. And when we start smiling and shrugging and not reacting the way we are 'supposed' to, they mess the bed. The fear of their own inability to control their impulses must be universal, because everybody's the same, right? It is projection and we aren't reacting the same way they would and there is nothing more terrifying than the unknown to a small, closed mind.
That absolutely, even though I agree with some things on those channels, this one is the only one I really follow for the highly nuanced and intelligent approach.
I hear you. Most of red pill channels are "me alfa, female sluts, me have harem in control" and I watch them for comedy. Even if I tend to agree with them.
Most of these guys are as shallow as the women they pursue. They actually deserve each other. From The Art of War: If you're strong, show weakness, if you're weak, show strength.
War Horse A modern approach to that would be: Hard shell, soft inside. Hard inside, soft shell. Life has shown over and over that those who claim to be strong on the outside tend to be the biggest weasels on the inside.
Jesus, the fact you mention The art of war to talk about love interactions or interactions in general with women probably defines the fundamental problem in your love life.
You will not be weak but stronger when your distrust of women exceeds your lust for them. When you quit chasing them, then you experience peace. You will have escaped from the spider's web. Direct your focus on your job and hobbies. Keep your hard-earned money. Hang out with the guys and play sports, fish, jam with friends playing music, or do whatever you enjoy. You can still have fun with an occasional date but keep it in perspective.
Any time I showed any emotion, including _caring about her,_ women disappeared. Meanwhile, I have never found women to be very introspective about what they contribute.
Women expect men to desire them without any reason; ergo women want men who see them as objects. Seriously, women will always ask what you bring to a relationship, but they will be "offended" by any man who asks them to explain what they bring. They really do expect men to just like them based on externals.
Madeleine deleine A man has to be vigilant of a women's actions to see if she's consistent or not. Because Women have showed Men time and time their words are not to be trusted under most circumstances.
Well said. Ask me guys, I was in a relationship for 5 years. I the beginning I followed my dad advice and never showed her weaknesses. She was amazing. With time, she kept pushing me to be open and vulnerable. Unfortunately I felt in that trap, and I showed my weaknesses. Few months after opening up, I felt she start to distant and cold. Less than a year, she broke up with me in super cruel way. During the breakup she used every single weakness that I shared with her to justify breaking up with me. Could not believe she could do that! It was kind if a betrayal, the person you trust and shared your weaknesses with, is the same person who use it against you. As you said, she loved the hero, not you the human.
I'm at the point where I don't even care what women think of me or want anymore. That's their burden to carry. They do their thing and I do mine. There's no judgement, but also no participation.
I live in a 3rd world country with a previous working girl. I handle all the finances and give her an allowance at the end of the week. Perfect relationship.
When I was young...in another life it seems now...there were times when I had several women going at once. They all knew that if they were difficult or unpleasant that I had other options...I found them much better behaved under those conditions.
Nothing wrong with that. Why should there be ? Most women want men with money. What is the difference between paying them in cash vs restaurants and gifts ? Nothing as far as I'm concerned.
She saying she wants men to show emotion is just one of thousands of women's head games. Show weakness and she'll keep it stored as a weapon to use against you.
Thanks for another great vid. Always having to be 'on' and constantly game a woman is so exhausting and futile. You are basically hiding from your true self. Pua's say a woman won't respond to or respect you if you are normal. If a new female doesn't respond or your gf doesn't respect you anymore because you shared some vulnerable things, then she is not good for you. You're so right! She cannot be trusted. You must leave. I'm in my 50's and met this attractive, fit 46 yr old separated single mom with 3 kids still at home. She disclosed what she is looking for 'in a man' and I thought to myself... "I'm in, I am all those things." Instead of gaming I said, "Most healthy men would rather date a divorced, not separated woman who actually offers things in return instead of a one-sided list of 'must-have/be traits.' She said, 'I don't think this will work out." I smiled. I really felt strong there. "Never sleep, never rest." Well said.
A special lesson is being a man. We learn that life is unfair and that we are alone in our struggles. So we learn to rage against life, against society, against our death. Death usually wins though.
"it's like a man loving his woman when she's in sexy mode" YES!!! That's why I went MGTOW and don't engage in more than short term relationships; because I KNOW that she only wants me in hero mode, so if she cannot keep her SEXY MODE on, I AM OUT OF THERE!!!
Started at a new salt mine a year ago, and office gals being just a bit too friendly. Too exuberant. So I purposely mentioned how I'm needy. Believe it or not, it worked like a charm.
Once they got the Alfa Romeo sperm, big daddy govt and easier to control guys take your place. Hold your frame and laugh when the cops and courts are cucking you.
I noticed something in my late 20’s. Maybe other always have known or others yet to see it: Throughout my teens and 20’s, I always laughed to myself about guys that were clearly displaying false bravado and over the top confidence Etc. I could never take that seriously and their demeanor makes it seem like they are scared or compensating for lack some other quality or thing. Then I realized girls actually liked them for this behavior, that I could clear as day see was false. Somehow girls couldn’t, or choose not to see when it’s fake. So that was all apparent for many years. Then one day it dawned on me, that girls also put up a false display of being cute or nice etc. and we men fall for it, but to other women it’s probably clear as day that we are being manipulated. I think I’m a bit slow when it comes to interpersonal relationships. So maybe that always common sense. Lol but that’s my story.
that’s phenomenal because I know examples in my life where this is true. Especially when a girl who liked me at my job and displayed affection but my other co workers (all female) told me that she was trouble and a liar. I’m glad I listened to them and didn’t pursue dating her as when she got fired I realized how much of an act it all was.
Thats a very interesting theory and I think it has a lot of merit. Eg. my wife is very naive when dealing with men. I often warned her in advance about certain men who offered her jobs or pretended to know a friend of hers just to get closer to her. I could see right away the bullshit they talked and the fake confidence they tried to portray. Sometimes I didn't even need to be present to know it was an act. She could simply describe the interaction. And BTW some of these interactions were genuine and my alarm bells did not go off on those. I could automatically tell the difference. Now flip it: I've been to dinner parties, weddings etc where I would be talking to female and my wife would become very jealous, very quickly, but not because I was talking to a female but because she instantly recognised the women displaying signs of aggressive seduction. I did not see these signs right away but afterwards my wife described them and it started to jog my subconscious memory. I suddenly pictured every hair flick, shoulder strap adjustment, licking of lips etc.I was pretty amazed at how clear they were after the fact.
@@domlipski5226 I like how you describe your relationship with your wife. Both of you look out for one another and open to listen to the other one. Shows mutual respect.
They hate a man for being strong for HIS benefit. If he is being "strong" for her benefit they love it. For her, this typically means cash, prizes, security, gains in status, enablement and doing better than her peers. They are primarily driven by self-interest.
This advice is useful to both men and women. Never be utterly dependent on another person for validation, always simply appreciate them as a wonderful bonus in your life. This will make you much more attractive and also make you feel more relaxed in the relationship.
Yes. Always putting on the alpha front is 100% being controlled. Sometimes I get upset. Sometimes I like to eat pudding hugging a pillow. Sometimes I like to watch reruns of Different Strokes. Sometimes I like to not have to make every decision. Sometimes I like to not have provide non stop entertainment. Sometimes I'm lazy and do nothing on the weekend. I could go on. Let's all stop this facade of needing to be this lion rock of gibraltar. Shit is exhausting. Let em walk if you cant be you.
I love the ending statement. “Never show weakness? Don’t tell me what to do. There’s your strength” THAT SHIZ was a literal “Big Bang” in my brain. You sir, are a good, dangerous man! 👍🏽
Woman, that appreciates your strengths despite (and especially for) knowing your weaknesses, and in addition helps you in coping with the weak points (so you can truly be the Knight/Superman/King she wants), is the Queen you are looking for. If you have to maintain your facade no matter what in fear of loosing your Lady, then it's just a Game, not a partner for life. True intimacy comes from shared vulnerability. People are together to be stronger together, not to play ridiculous mind games because of boredom, shallowness or lack of values.
Wow huMan, thanks for posting. you’re sooooo right. I used to think that way: that I needed a woman’s attention to complete me. “She responds to me, then I respond to life”. I used to show them my “weakness “, my vulnerability. I thought a woman would COMPLETE me. I use to get rejected a lot in my 20s. The funny thing is: as I got older, MY LIFE began COMPLETING me! I realized that some of the women who rejected me weren’t “all that “. I was the prize all along. I was the one that would have brought more to the table.....
Yes, it's a weird realisation. Even when your doubting your own achievements, you eventually realise they are worth more than anything else given through a relationship.
@@xomox5316 yes, another Red Piller from England said: that women only instigate a relationship with a man if she’s that he has something that she can gain. A decent man just has to wonder: does what she has to offer WORTH what you’re giving up. By my reckoning, it often isn’t worth it. There ought to be lemon laws when it comes to women....
@@mrScififan2 Plenty of great nations where the women get nothing if the men chose to leave. Side note, the women are wonderful in those places, really no risk. Leave the west when you have the money
@@1Mutton1 I’m not a conspiracy theorist, but I think that society and particularly segments of society like women for example benefit from men NOT knowing their worth, not knowing what they bring to the table, not knowing that they are the prize. I live with an Indian chick, the Bollywood kind. She’s a feminist. Strong and independent. Thinks women are smarter than men. A typical modern nightmare. But “Miss Independent “ doesn’t work. She hasn’t worked in 5 years! I pay the mortgage and EVERYTHING else. I buy the groceries. I take the laundry to the cleaners. I mow the lawn. I shovel the snow. Her 600 dollar phone. 2,500 laptop. Her food, her clothes. everything. All paid by me working six days . All she does is cook the food that I pay for and occasionally cleans (both of which I do better than her! Which she admits Lol!) . She wants for nothing and yet is never happy! She’s essentially a delusional feminist nightmare common law housewife but since I ate the red pill, I’ve become a nightmare too. In that whenever she gets too “feministy “, I point out the imbalance of what we each bring: everything on one side and nothing from the other! It ANNOYS HER THAT I KNOW MY WORTH! Lol! I try to be a generative man. I TAKE PRIDE IN BEING A GOOD PROVIDER, but her crazy feminist mindset has ruined that....makes me sad a little.
Appreciate the perspective, brother, as always. By my sight, “don’t show weakness” is also one more “yes, dear” on the bonfire of a man’s dwindling self-respect, just another chip of your soul given up to someone who doesn’t care about you enough to value it, in the first place.
As a person married for 18+ years it doesn't change. It is exhausting being the constant alpha. However when I showed weakness and lack is when she friendzoned me and we become coexist-ers and not partners. Only when I regain that dominance by being threatening (not physically)is when she seems to desire me.
How did you just describe my life Human bro? Alpha widows are everywhere boys.. I cant compete with the alphas my flatmate was with...All Blacks, 6'5 dudes, cant compete and my life was together. Bodybuilder with a good paying job and a solid family with assets, but when I got zeroed out she was nowhere to be seen. I strongly believe now that all females in order to survive must be pass-agg. Mine was one of the worst, when I was blue pilled. There is no turning back boys.. One of your best Human brother....Cheers mate!
I'm currently dealing with a passive aggressive woman and I didn't realize it she's aggressive as a businesswoman and totally submissive as a sexual partner which one we're not in bed she seems to hate herself for being submissive and hates me also
There is a myth that woman are worth it at the end. Some surely are. But to keep on going against all odds, sacrificing your health/wealth/mental wellness for any woman... I don't think so. Woman are like jewelry. Nice to have but not essential for a life full of adventure & fun. Play your own game by your own rules. Some people may join you but do not expect a lot of company. #7: travel light :)
LOL, first thing I get is a banner advertisement for a dating website. They will always try and pull you back onto the plantation. Go your OWN way men.
Sometimes showing weakness to a woman is the best litmus test. Many can do you a favor and leave. PUA Coaches are the equivalent of Prosperity Pastors who sell money as your IDENTITY. Many times i have seen men who never show weakeness...are the biggest victims of their own emotional shit. A man is not a photocopy of denial and submission but enlightment, forgiveness and trascendance. Great video!
Having severe clinical depression, I had a discussion with a friend whose girlfriend has depression. We discussed how it is more acceptable to come out with depression in modern times. I'm like "Not in the slightest. Depression cases have exploded exponentially. The only thing to control it that has changed is funding. As a man, if you come out as weak, nevermind being met with pity, you are met with contempt and despised." Women love having the new age pseudo-equality. They get all of the nice little perks like voting and forced respect without any of those yucky yucky side effects like dying in wars, dying in jobs, dying as early as men, paying for the date, paying for dinner, being the breadwinners, pursuing potential dates, doing yardwork, inspecting the bumps in the night, paying the bills, planning literally anything, losing custody of their children, losing half of their stuff in divorce. Love how women traditionally complain about strangers they're going to ignore anyways, not sticking their necks out at first message and writing them a personalized poem and rather conserve as much life as they can with a "hey", and then they show just how faulty they are with worthless opening lines on apps like Bumble where they have to open conversation. It is the perfect example of women wanting all the perks of each era, while taking none of the detriments.
My Brother, I needed this sermon today! I separated four years ago, and divorced two years ago. Until three months ago I have been celibate, and refused to love a woman or contemplate a monogamous relationship. Now I'm on the cusp of starting a relationship with a fantastic woman. I'm torn inside because I've been 💯 Red Pill and now I'm succumbing to my feelings. I still don't know what I will do, but this lesson taught me that's it's ok for me to NOT have all the answers. Thanks again!
I nominate this video as the best Mgtow video of 2019!!! Powerful and hard-hitting with subtlety and straight to the point with specific points that are rarely dissected to such an extent in the mgtow and redpill community!
Nothing new or original here, and he lumps all PUA gurus into the same "basket of deplorables" the good with the bad, as if they were all the same. In reality, there have been MGTOW PUA gurus out there for a decade, saying the same thinga this guy says, long before he said them. It's possible to see women just enough to have fun but stay away from commitment. You only have to "play a role" for a few hours to get laid, then move on, especially if you travel for work.
Was ready to propose to one last year, went strong for 6 years. Then after one moment of showing weakness and breaking down into tears. She just laughed and tore me to shreds. Threw everything back in my face by calling me ''boy''.
....again huMAN, thank you. Instinctively we already know what you're telling us but it's like something that's been buried under all the crap that's been force-fed to us by media and society. Your commentary really helps me to understand, why I feel the way I do. Thank you.
Great video. I agree entirely. That said, I’ve had a pretty rough go of it over the past few years and have been particularly low, weak and vulnerable. I have struggled to contain my anger, my frustration, my sorrow and my fear. Despite being pretty good with pro activity and working hard to improve my situation, I have been guilty of sucking the energy out of a room, smothering people with my problems and generally bumming everyone out. It has caused some damage but I am determined not to beat myself up, learn from my mistakes, dig deep and make changes so I can sooth myself and communicate these issues in a manner that is less intrusive on others - BOUNDARIES! There’s a way to communicate vulnerability and weakness without doing what I did. I do forgive myself for how I’ve behaved and I am committed to change for me and my interpersonal relationships with. It’s a life-long process which never ends.
I agree completely, unfortunately part of having a real bond is being able to be real about vulnerable parts of ourselves. It’s exhausting to always have to be this stoic automaton.
The amount of introspection I did after watching this video cannot be out into words. So much error in my approach to so many things. I truly appreciate you and your work. Thanks and God bless ✌🏿😎💯
When the situation calls for tenderness, be gentle as a baby. When the situation calls for fierceness, be a brave and cunning warrior. When the situation calls for stoicism, be a rock. When the situation calls for deep grief or overwhelming joy, cry like a man. Context is king.
Funny thing is, I use it and it works. It's not the single ticket, but rather just a tool to use in your toolbox. I've actually had women tell me that the soap 'makes them horny'.
ThePlummer Speaks: I’ve had women say I made them horny just by me standing close to them or sending them a thoughtful text. You don’t always need to enhance your chances with soap, perfume or snake oil.
More important than posturing strength to women, it was impressed upon me recently that a quality men must have, particularly in this day and age, is being resolute against the things that life throws at you, be that through your fellow human being, fortune, or whatever. I was struck by this after watching the movie Joker recently (excellent movie and performance, btw). We all can claim at having been beaten down by life events, society, other people, etc, but, being resolute, being able to just "take it", or, even better, channeling that negativity into a more positive conduit, and NOT let it turn you into a horror, or make you give up on yourself, or make you lose sight of your OWN value or values that you possess, that may be the most important fundamental or foundational quality a man can have. Being able to maintain that definition of yourself, to yourself, through all trials a lifetime can and will throw at you, and realize all these things in the world outside me have only the power over me that I grant them. Whether you're rich and live in a mansion on a hill or broke and destitute on the street, walking tall within yourself and not being transformed into something you don't even recognize anymore by the horrors done unto you. Or even more, not allowing those misfortunes or evils to co-opt you in your OWN self destruction. Resolute.
JP was over when he said that western men alive today had no right to be proud of the countries their ancestors had built (to which every other culture wants to come). Actually he was over before that when he discouraged western men from collectivising as a defence against invasion. He didn't use such terminology but that's what he meant. Interesting that his wife has cancer; a disease aggravated by resentment.
You are sooooo correct!!! When you are down and out, only people who truly care for you step up and help carry you along the way. That doesn't mean that they shoulder your burden but as you said, they have your back. This not only applies to women, but men too. When you are at the bottom, you'll see who truly cares for you. I've been there, at the very bottom. That was 13 years ago and it became very evident who cared and who did not.
Being in control is to do what you think is right. It doesn't mean you need to buy a motorcycle and so on and so on. Just do what you want within your possibility, without the approval of anyone, woman and or man, still remembering not to be extreme.
Probably the best video I watched this whole year. After around 1 year of getting into the Red pill stuff, understanding how things work, trying things out; I felt this, you just put this feeling in perfect words.
The lion bit was a very powerful analogy, and it’s true for humans as well. Super macho men rarely live to see 70, and many of them start dropping off as early as their 50’s. I see it in my own father, but I think he figured it out before it was too late. Still, I think he probably cheated himself out of an extra decade, but that remains to be seen.
This helped me quite a bit... I have anxiety and depression. I have a lot of weakness I need to manage. I just wanted my partner to give me support as well. I was always there to take her to her psychiatrist when she had problems. but I get told I just have to buck up cuz I'm a man. I break down. I break down a lot. It takes my all to get back up and try again and not let it keep me down. but no that's never enough for them. I don't want to be defined by how much crap I can stomach.
@John Grigg I'd suggest getting tested anyway. I'm Filipino as well. People here seem to have an aversion to spend for healthcare. especially mental healthcare. Ironically my sister is a doctor :))
@@huMANs_channel There is a lot going on including having videos hidden from the subscription feed only to appear a couple of days later buried under who knows how many other videos.
@@smokenmirrors8869 I can confirm videos being hidden from the subscription feed... I use that because I use notifications only for comment replies (and even that is too many sometimes). I'm trying to steer more and more people over to _bi tc hu te_ at least they don't hide videos.
It took me years to find the truth from my last marriage. I love my job, house. Had to re- locate. Wife left me with a step son I raised for16 years. Showing weakness, can be a sign sign of humanness and power from within. I agree with you my brother. You have to be yourself. If she truly loves you she will stay for the good times and the bad. I’m living in a much better place now.
There are real alphas that are smaller than those pretenders you can see all the pretenders when the shit hits the fan , they'll be the first one running , I've seen it too many times.
Your analogy around expecting a woman to be in sexy mode all the time is spot on. We would never expect that of them. Oh and there's that oft used quote women love to use, something like "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best". But as a man, you better be at your best at all times-we have no time for your worst...get over it an "man up". Gag. Great stuff today huMAN!
women like alphas when they have a beta and they like betas when they have an alpha. when i was in my teens and early 20s women seemed to like fashion conscious pretty boy betas and manly men were not the flavour of the month. the whole alpha beta thing is really just a phase, women are all over the place. it doesnt matter what you are alpha beta part time full time, the likelihood is she will pull the rug from under your feet at some point. as for the pua stuff, its a complete oxymoron. if a man becomes successful at picking up women then all he really is showing is the failure of long term relationships, and or commitment. notches are not as challenging as a meaningful relationship, and the fact a meaningful relationship is so difficult to come by proves how fickle women are, or how incompatible men and women are when it comes down to long term commitment, and the reality of what 'love' means.
Be a sigma.Smash escorts and either keep other women at a distance or treat them with indifference.That way your pocket is never empty and your sexual impulses satisfied.
9:31 This is really the point of almost ALL of the red pill, from Briffault’s Law to hypergamy, to divorce court, to monkeybranching, to the 80/20...SHE’S NEVER OPENLY CHOSEN YOU. And huMAN, it’s not just about alpha posturing with physical prowess/false bravado. You also need to signal your successful indoctrination into consumer culture by driving around in an Audi R8, preferably convertible, a BMW M5, or an Audi S5; sometimes a combination of all three!
Great post, Chris. I laughed and also have spotted this blatant contradiction of self-improvement, mental point of origin bullshit while subscribing to consumer culture. (mindless unjustifiable purchases of German intellectual property and engineering.)
Louie Malvessi Music Thanks. He nailed that feeling, though. I don’t know what the experience is like if you’re in that top 20%, but ALL of my relationships except for my two Borderlines, have felt like the women were reluctantly there, with one foot out the door. Fortunately, I’ve always picked up on it, and I don’t bother lying to myself, so I’ve always been appropriately (un)invested and uninjured when they pulled the ripcord. Except the Borderlines; they got me pretty good, because I didn’t know how uninvested they were until the surprise ending.
Spot on mate. It's always the same rhetoric. You must be the lion who's in a constant state of chasing excellence for approval less you be reduced to be that of a gazelle And the excellence is always a greater income bracket or german engineering that will increase social status and thus be more 'economically attractive' but it's never based on the mans wants or personal definition of excellence
Andy Rogers Exactly. Not once have I felt known by a woman I was involved with. My favorite moment was with one of the Borderlines. She spewed almost 4 hours of the most purposefully horrible crap, for absolutely zero cause, and I never lashed out. Just patiently waited for it to subside. That made her behavior worse and worse. Near the 4th hour mark I finally threw her on the ground and choked her- something I’ve never done in my life. She later said, “I had no idea you were like that.” And I said, “I know. You weren’t interested enough to bother getting to know me. I would have told you I was capable of much worse.”
"A face that toils so close to stones is already stone itself.There is a nobility in the Male . Many people will give up their most cherished beliefs in order to go on living: a man dedicated to a marriage, which is oppressive to him "mechanical life" . A great man would Say to the Life coaches : tell in to the Rocks .
Wow! This is amazing. I've been through hell this year. Divorce, then a new girlfriend, who said she loved me, leave me because I had that introspection and hardship through the divorce. I was staring down the barrel of losing my children and 20 years of assets. And she left because I didn't 'handle' it like she wanted.....
My last girl friend would ask me if she did something would it bother me? Then would argue with me when I said it would. Example,this guy asked me to go hang out at his house. Would you mind if I had coffee with him. Was a fucking exhausting relationship.
Oh, I've had this in various ways too. It is extremely exhausting... I tell them (annoyed), "listen, next time don't ask me for my opinion, just tell me what you want me to say"
@@huMANs_channel My response ended up being" why ask me if it bothers me? Your going to do whatever you want to do anyway." This response gave me somewhat better response. Sad part with the last one is I don't think she was a bad person. I just don't think she was comfortable with a person like me. I'm extremely slow to anger and very patient. I will be eternally grateful to her for giving me closure. Thank you for your channel. The way you speak with such even and matter of fact tones really relays the knowledge well. I'm not a hateful person and some of the channels seem to be a lot of bitter people.
Insecure whamen will continually $hit test ...
The answer was "yes it would bother me", the next thing I'd do is ask her, "Oh Tiffany down the road has asked me to go out with her to the nightclub, do you mind?"
Women want their cake and eat it too. They want the husband to provide and take care of her, but she wants to continue living like a single woman. The Married, yet Single Woman of today. Seriously, I wish I grew up in a different generation. I wouldn't miss the internet or the modern conveniences we have, just to have a relationship like my grandparents had.
Women will ALWAYS weaponise your weaknesses.
Any vulnerability.
I have to say in all the women I have dated this statement is very accurate.
Yup without fail.
exactly
Always..no matter what. Give them nothing
“How alpha and in control are you if you’re only acting how she wants you to”
Spot on!
Atomic Truth Bomb....
You were doing it in order to manipulate her wanting you.
Good point
Unfortunately thats what women respond to the best. You playing your role as the strong man, no matter your real feelings. In the past Ive seen women loose attraction for me right after ive been emotional (weak in her head) because of a certain situation in life. Women love liars and hate honesty. Ive experienced it personally. As long as I am acting in a certain way, she is happy, i know its fake happiness, but ive learned to do what i have to in order to get what I want.
Best advice I've seen:
Simulate your downfall.
In a heartbeat you will see who has the knives out for you: family, significant other, 'friends', etc.
In my case I lost my job, and gained back my life.
Gerhard Symons
Outwardly, most of my life has been other people’s version of downfall, and it works just like you said: living in a van for 6 years while I saved for my first house, liquidating my entire life, including my second house (an 8-bedroom monstrosity that ironically looked like success to THEM, but was trapped misery for me), divorcing, moving into a one-room apartment on the beach, driving a car with almost 400,000 miles on it, not “being able” to have relationships with women that last more than 6-9 months (“Wouldn’t you know it, she just wasn’t The One. I’ll keep looking.”) I think even THEY finally figured out that the “failed” relationship part was a huge win.
All of these things looked so much like failure that they served very well to keep people away and to encourage them to show their true colors.
It didn’t keep them from attempting to siphon off the benefits of a life lived like mine, in the rare circumstance that they could be served by me, but it DID make it very easy a I got older, to be unavailable to them. Unfortunately, as a young man I mistook their using me for help as them opening a door to a relationship of reciprocity, interest, and understanding.
Live and learn.
@@Drizzly_Bear I hear you.
My story is depressingly similar. My sisters and mother fawned on me when I had successes and didn't lift a finger to help me when I had inevitable setbacks.
People can betray me once, and never again - and that includes 'family'.
Vipers!
Gerhard Symons
Family is not an exception for me either.
I raised a daughter by myself, and I warned her once when she threatened to call the police if I tried to force her to stay in and clean her room:
“If you ever involve the government in my life, it will be the end of our relationship forever.”
Her mother got a similar, though slightly different statement from me once, which is how I ended up with full custody and no alimony.
@@Drizzly_Bear A man has to keep the pimp hand strong, always.
AWALT
@@threethrushes it's amazing how you learn who your true friends are in a time of need. For me I was lucky enough to have a great family and long lost but loyal group of friends.
Absolutely spot on and this is why I avoid hot women. The same argument goes for "never let your man see you without makeup". If we can't be human with each other, it's just too much work.
I had (might be 'have' but its been a few weeks) an associate that would often spend her time with me, as in she would come to me. We'd talk, sometimes get food, I think I was her sounding board. I am 17 years her senior. She was lamenting her life one night when I asked as part of the flow of conversation why she didn't take off her make-up? She is always heavily made up, even behind her ears, whether it is at work or casual. Honestly sometimes it reminds me of a paint-by-numbers. She flipped out as if I had asked her to do something immoral. Thought I'd share this because of your last sentence. I think society has really warped what it means to be human.
@Peter Milne
You bring a female co-worker to your place? In my experience, this is the very recipy for betrayal and disaster. You piss her off with your patriarchal questions about her make-up? Well, too bad that in _her_ mind, it felt like a rape attempt...
Well said
@@Furzkampfbomber You've read too much into it. I did say 'associate', but that doesn't mean co-worker, but i can see how you thought that. I see her at her work, as she is a loans officer at the bank I hold my accounts at. I was actually once her tutor when she was going through school and then Uni. She is a family friend. Unfortunately she is also the by product of a divorced family so I make sure I'm protected. I actually have my small unit wired for camera and sound. I do my business from home and to cover any and all conversations, I make sure that they are recorded. I learnt the hard way many years ago that what the client asks for isn't always what they want.
Following MeToo she asked me one day if the cameras were recording and was insulted when I told her yes. Even showed her the footage. When she got insulted, I challenged her with why it was any different to her work place and pointed to the notice on my door entry that advised of security recording. She eventually got over it when she need my assistance later .
I call her an associate because she is not a 'friend'. As she has aged she has gotten more opinionated and entitled. She is also unable to keep a confidence to save herself. Still a 'nice' girl, but she will be a single cat-lady unless she changes her attitude. As for recording? I dont trust my own sisters, I certainly don't trust my female associates.
Finally though, thanks for your concern in the behavior pattern you saw. You raised very good points and most people don't have their houses wired for surveillance, so I appreciate the feedback. BTW she called me 2 days before Christmas asking if she can come over. Seasonal Blues. And guess what, No makeup. SMH.
Peter Milne You triggered the chameleon. The absence of make up is makeup itself. Stay safe brother.
I was in a relationship with a woman who has two Masters degrees in Psychology and is a licensed counsellor. I thought it would be safe to show my vulnerable side to her; especially as I am still dealing with my father's death. Nope.
The relationship took an immediate turn for the worse and that totally blindsided me.
We went from a strong dynamic to her being distant, condescending and finding fault with everything I did. The relationship ended soon after and she blamed me for it.
Women need to realize how much strength it takes for men to talk about deep emotional pain and exposing a side of us that is very vulnerable.
Her solution was to go sleep with someone else that she found more 'alpha' at the moment.
This is why I've given up on women and focus on my career.
... interesting twist is with the xx.s psych majors. one could think these were wisening her up on what to experience in life and how to cope - but xx.s are solipsist by nature and rather prone to mistake their (maybe narcissist) opportunistic projections on sbdy. for related empathy. that's also why men do need male counsels | therapists in related circumstances - lest other things get messed with as well, due to blank slt. eql.ism delusions | blindness of 'doers' above.
It's incredible, but it is so true. It's actually so true that you can use it to your advantage. If you want to loose a girl and have her break up, appear vulnerable and show weakness. She will bounce very quickly.
Seriously, I've tried that once to get rid of a girl who promised me to always be there and support me, but she was all talk no substance.
The way they run away from you after you start crying over something you pretend hurt you, it is like having a cheat code in a game. IDKFA, or 'I don't kare f...g a$$hole!' and off they go!
I really enjoyed her solution to the problem sleeping with someone else more Alpha a real cunt
Get a dog
@@scottstolper4218 I did!!!
Absolutely fantastic video! It's unsustainable to "always be the alpha male" and "never show weakness". These coaches anticipate and respond to the fears of men; especially the fear of losing a woman. "If you don't do this" or "if you do that"... she will be in another castle. Why should men jump through 1001 hoops, simply because the other side is not willing to compromise their primal instincts with certain norms and values? It takes two to tango.
Agree 1000%
Exactly, no man should jump through hoops
9:15 That right there is the reality shear between the Alpha act and the Beta reality because the road to becoming a true Alpha involves moments of perceived "weakness" including recovery, self-reflection, quitting work to reorient towards the best future path, dropping of social connections to have only the best people around, etc ....
@@dowskivisionmagicaloracle8593 good point
I think i stumbled upon betatube.
"Never show weakness" is like asking a person to stop sleeping.
Though I understand where you are coming from as well As Respect all my fellow men, I have to say We had been indoctrinated into being so sensible, conciencious AND politically correct thats disgusting. Being "human" has more a Lot to do with wearing a mask tan anyone Is willing to admit...food for thought. As everyone in the end dies alone, my personal life experience tells me to never show weakness not no women but to anyone. The only way to shovel this life trough your conciousness Is by being that Hero, by being that rock, only not to women or others but to yourself. As we all know by now there is no air support: rounded and cornered, make men great AGAIN and Shoot yourself in the head with a double barrelled self Love a and Respect to live AND die with the boots on.
You can sleep. Just don't do it around women.
@@Ace.0.0.0. True. In the same way you don't want to fall asleep in the subway in case you get pickpocketed, don't show weakness in an environment that will get you hurt.
What we are NOT:
We are not incels;
We are not PUAs;
We are not MRAs.
We are men sharing knowledge about gender dynamics;
We are men who reject the societal expectations of servitude to women;
We are men going our own way and trying to help our fellow men to do the same.
- Surely it's not THAT difficult to understand!
MGTOW FOR LIFE.
What you guys coming here are doing? huMAN is MGTOW(he doesn't use the label anymore for reason already explained by him), and for being one is the only reason he can be that insightful of the world.
Jeffrey KRUPA well said! 🙏
Jeffrey KRUPA, you got it. Below are a few specifics that add to your comment.
The question of "married or not?" mapped onto MGTOW: if already married and a man learns from, say, Straughan, the principle of starting a nest egg that wife does not know about, and this money is set aside specifically to bulwark against a divorce-rape, that married man is MGTOW. If not married, a man who's heard or read about actual MGTOW values will continue to stay unmarried.
Some go monk mode; obviously no sex.
Others choose a riskier lifestyle. MGTOW says go with the pros (escorts), or don't do it if she knows your real name, where you live, where you work, or your license plate number. Take your used condom with you to avoid being spermjacked.
@Army of Gog I was married so I'm not an incel.
Jeffrey KRUPA,"They" get it, alright. that's why it terrifies them. The fear women and their governments have is based on the ability to control man in all aspects of life. And when we start smiling and shrugging and not reacting the way we are 'supposed' to, they mess the bed. The fear of their own inability to control their impulses must be universal, because everybody's the same, right? It is projection and we aren't reacting the same way they would and there is nothing more terrifying than the unknown to a small, closed mind.
Your channel is a pleasant break from the unnuanced red pill channels.
thanks for watching.
That absolutely, even though I agree with some things on those channels, this one is the only one I really follow for the highly nuanced and intelligent approach.
absolutely
I hear you. Most of red pill channels are "me alfa, female sluts, me have harem in control" and I watch them for comedy. Even if I tend to agree with them.
Most of these guys are as shallow as the women they pursue. They actually deserve each other. From The Art of War: If you're strong, show weakness, if you're weak, show strength.
War Horse A modern approach to that would be: Hard shell, soft inside. Hard inside, soft shell. Life has shown over and over that those who claim to be strong on the outside tend to be the biggest weasels on the inside.
@@drsparwaga David Goggins talks about this
Yes, The Art of War does state this but that is a strategy. What pua's are speaking of is strategy as well.
Jesus, the fact you mention The art of war to talk about love interactions or interactions in general with women probably defines the fundamental problem in your love life.
@@ElKarlito13 , don't assume. You don't know me or anything about my past or present. You might however be projecting your ignorance.
You will not be weak but stronger when your distrust of women exceeds your lust for them. When you quit chasing them, then you experience peace. You will have escaped from the spider's web. Direct your focus on your job and hobbies. Keep your hard-earned money. Hang out with the guys and play sports, fish, jam with friends playing music, or do whatever you enjoy. You can still have fun with an occasional date but keep it in perspective.
I truly enjoyed your comment...plus,i love fishing...
What its all about!
This world of today lacks REAL men and women. This change is seen more in the western society since they rejected God.
@@cyberpunk11x Lack of belief in god etc etc shouldn't be a scapegoat of why people acting are in the way they are.
@@cyberpunk11x Real... Don't make me laugh too hard at this hour.
Any time I showed any emotion, including _caring about her,_ women disappeared. Meanwhile, I have never found women to be very introspective about what they contribute.
AnAmericanMan this
Women expect men to desire them without any reason; ergo women want men who see them as objects.
Seriously, women will always ask what you bring to a relationship, but they will be "offended" by any man who asks them to explain what they bring. They really do expect men to just like them based on externals.
wow well said
@Madeleine deleine - I have lived long enough to know to watch women's actions, not listen to their words.
Madeleine deleine A man has to be vigilant of a women's actions to see if she's consistent or not. Because Women have showed Men time and time their words are not to be trusted under most circumstances.
Well said. Ask me guys, I was in a relationship for 5 years. I the beginning I followed my dad advice and never showed her weaknesses. She was amazing. With time, she kept pushing me to be open and vulnerable. Unfortunately I felt in that trap, and I showed my weaknesses. Few months after opening up, I felt she start to distant and cold. Less than a year, she broke up with me in super cruel way. During the breakup she used every single weakness that I shared with her to justify breaking up with me. Could not believe she could do that! It was kind if a betrayal, the person you trust and shared your weaknesses with, is the same person who use it against you. As you said, she loved the hero, not you the human.
I had a similar experience...seems to be a common thread :O
That’s natural and normal. Just knife in back like nothing happened.
You're bad experience does mean all women will react this way, I know because I've seen it.
@@haselbasil2488 most of them will do. But definitely not all of them.
@@mishkadreamrunner673 I don't believe most will, to think that you have to believe women are evil by nature, so half the population is evil ?
I'm at the point where I don't even care what women think of me or want anymore. That's their burden to carry. They do their thing and I do mine. There's no judgement, but also no participation.
I find women to be at their most agreeable when I hire them by the hour.
I live in a 3rd world country with a previous working girl. I handle all the finances and give her an allowance at the end of the week. Perfect relationship.
@@JaimeWarlock a pimp?
When I was young...in another life it seems now...there were times when I had several women going at once. They all knew that if they were difficult or unpleasant that I had other options...I found them much better behaved under those conditions.
Nothing wrong with that. Why should there be ? Most women want men with money. What is the difference between paying them in cash vs restaurants and gifts ? Nothing as far as I'm concerned.
@@keithstewart934 I can vouch for such.. I personally sacked my bitches one by one when I realised I really couldn't be bothered with them any longer.
She saying she wants men to show emotion is just one of thousands of women's head games. Show weakness and she'll keep it stored as a weapon to use against you.
Thanks for another great vid. Always having to be 'on' and constantly game a woman is so exhausting and futile. You are basically hiding from your true self. Pua's say a woman won't respond to or respect you if you are normal. If a new female doesn't respond or your gf doesn't respect you anymore because you shared some vulnerable things, then she is not good for you. You're so right! She cannot be trusted. You must leave.
I'm in my 50's and met this attractive, fit 46 yr old separated single mom with 3 kids still at home. She disclosed what she is looking for 'in a man' and I thought to myself... "I'm in, I am all those things." Instead of gaming I said, "Most healthy men would rather date a divorced, not separated woman who actually offers things in return instead of a one-sided list of 'must-have/be traits.'
She said, 'I don't think this will work out." I smiled. I really felt strong there.
"Never sleep, never rest." Well said.
A special lesson is being a man. We learn that life is unfair and that we are alone in our struggles. So we learn to rage against life, against society, against our death. Death usually wins though.
@Jai Rock some raging now and then is warranted. But I agree that one should strive to accept reality and make your peace with it.
"it's like a man loving his woman when she's in sexy mode"
YES!!!
That's why I went MGTOW and don't engage in more than short term relationships; because I KNOW that she only wants me in hero mode, so if she cannot keep her SEXY MODE on, I AM OUT OF THERE!!!
Started at a new salt mine a year ago, and office gals being just a bit too friendly. Too exuberant. So I purposely mentioned how I'm needy. Believe it or not, it worked like a charm.
I do things like that too. it's amazing how primal we all are.
Good strategy, but be careful - that will draw narcissists.
Certainly the habit of declining all offers of assistance is central to this approach.
Careful of "set ups" from money hungry fake sexual harassment lawsuit seeking feminists.
Why? Siberian women are hot !!
“Just be alpha bro and maintain frame. Don’t worry about any of that feminism stuff. Be a real man.” It gets old doesn’t it?
Don't forget the soap.
@@mgtowgoose8862 and lube
Really gets old...
Once they got the Alfa Romeo sperm, big daddy govt and easier to control guys take your place. Hold your frame and laugh when the cops and courts are cucking you.
Actually it doesn't
I noticed something in my late 20’s. Maybe other always have known or others yet to see it:
Throughout my teens and 20’s, I always laughed to myself about guys that were clearly displaying false bravado and over the top confidence Etc. I could never take that seriously and their demeanor makes it seem like they are scared or compensating for lack some other quality or thing.
Then I realized girls actually liked them for this behavior, that I could clear as day see was false. Somehow girls couldn’t, or choose not to see when it’s fake.
So that was all apparent for many years.
Then one day it dawned on me, that girls also put up a false display of being cute or nice etc. and we men fall for it, but to other women it’s probably clear as day that we are being manipulated.
I think I’m a bit slow when it comes to interpersonal relationships. So maybe that always common sense. Lol but that’s my story.
Interesting perspective
that’s phenomenal because I know examples in my life where this is true. Especially when a girl who liked me at my job and displayed affection but my other co workers (all female) told me that she was trouble and a liar. I’m glad I listened to them and didn’t pursue dating her as when she got fired I realized how much of an act it all was.
Thats a very interesting theory and I think it has a lot of merit. Eg. my wife is very naive when dealing with men. I often warned her in advance about certain men who offered her jobs or pretended to know a friend of hers just to get closer to her. I could see right away the bullshit they talked and the fake confidence they tried to portray. Sometimes I didn't even need to be present to know it was an act. She could simply describe the interaction. And BTW some of these interactions were genuine and my alarm bells did not go off on those. I could automatically tell the difference. Now flip it: I've been to dinner parties, weddings etc where I would be talking to female and my wife would become very jealous, very quickly, but not because I was talking to a female but because she instantly recognised the women displaying signs of aggressive seduction. I did not see these signs right away but afterwards my wife described them and it started to jog my subconscious memory. I suddenly pictured every hair flick, shoulder strap adjustment, licking of lips etc.I was pretty amazed at how clear they were after the fact.
@@domlipski5226 thanks for sharing that. Real eye opener
@@domlipski5226 I like how you describe your relationship with your wife. Both of you look out for one another and open to listen to the other one. Shows mutual respect.
women hate men for being strong while at the same time they lose interest the second you show an inkling of weakness.
They hate a man for being strong for HIS benefit.
If he is being "strong" for her benefit they love it. For her, this typically means cash, prizes, security, gains in status, enablement and doing better than her peers. They are primarily driven by self-interest.
@@JJ-wi2uw absolutely, i have heard someone say "toxic masculinity is just any masculinity that isn't under a woman's rule"
@@JJ-wi2uw opportunists. And it's necessary because they ARE the weaker/ needier of the sexes.
100
This advice is useful to both men and women. Never be utterly dependent on another person for validation, always simply appreciate them as a wonderful bonus in your life. This will make you much more attractive and also make you feel more relaxed in the relationship.
Yes. Always putting on the alpha front is 100% being controlled. Sometimes I get upset. Sometimes I like to eat pudding hugging a pillow. Sometimes I like to watch reruns of Different Strokes. Sometimes I like to not have to make every decision. Sometimes I like to not have provide non stop entertainment. Sometimes I'm lazy and do nothing on the weekend. I could go on. Let's all stop this facade of needing to be this lion rock of gibraltar. Shit is exhausting. Let em walk if you cant be you.
Yeah, being an alpha bro is a huge burden. Any woman that insists you carry this burden isn't worthy of you.
I love the ending statement. “Never show weakness? Don’t tell me what to do. There’s your strength” THAT SHIZ was a literal “Big Bang” in my brain. You sir, are a good, dangerous man! 👍🏽
crazy that he left the best part for the last three seconds, I risked missing that!
Woman, that appreciates your strengths despite (and especially for) knowing your weaknesses, and in addition helps you in coping with the weak points (so you can truly be the Knight/Superman/King she wants), is the Queen you are looking for.
If you have to maintain your facade no matter what in fear of loosing your Lady, then it's just a Game, not a partner for life.
True intimacy comes from shared vulnerability. People are together to be stronger together, not to play ridiculous mind games because of boredom, shallowness or lack of values.
no, that Queen you mention is just an illusion, nowhere to be found in the real world. Sorry, dont find it, just Go your own way.
10:00 this is exactly why I prefer being single. I'm no one's clown or jester. I have tears and get tired, too. I am not an organic robot.
Did u adopt a monk-like existence? What do you do to scratch the itch?
Wow huMan, thanks for posting.
you’re sooooo right. I used to think that way: that I needed a woman’s attention to complete me. “She responds to me, then I respond to life”.
I used to show them my “weakness “, my vulnerability. I thought a woman would COMPLETE me. I use to get rejected a lot in my 20s. The funny thing is: as I got older, MY LIFE began COMPLETING me!
I realized that some of the women who rejected me weren’t “all that “. I was the prize all along. I was the one that would have brought more to the table.....
Yes, it's a weird realisation. Even when your doubting your own achievements, you eventually realise they are worth more than anything else given through a relationship.
A woman will never complete you they will take resources, you decide if its worth the trade/money. Sometimes it is most time its not.
@@xomox5316 yes, another Red Piller from England said: that women only instigate a relationship with a man if she’s that he has something that she can gain. A decent man just has to wonder: does what she has to offer WORTH what you’re giving up. By my reckoning, it often isn’t worth it. There ought to be lemon laws when it comes to women....
@@mrScififan2 Plenty of great nations where the women get nothing if the men chose to leave. Side note, the women are wonderful in those places, really no risk. Leave the west when you have the money
@@1Mutton1 I’m not a conspiracy theorist, but I think that society and particularly segments of society like women for example benefit from men NOT knowing their worth, not knowing what they bring to the table, not knowing that they are the prize.
I live with an Indian chick, the Bollywood kind. She’s a feminist. Strong and independent. Thinks women are smarter than men. A typical modern nightmare.
But “Miss Independent “ doesn’t work. She hasn’t worked in 5 years! I pay the mortgage and EVERYTHING else. I buy the groceries. I take the laundry to the cleaners. I mow the lawn. I shovel the snow. Her 600 dollar phone. 2,500 laptop. Her food, her clothes. everything. All paid by me working six days . All she does is cook the food that I pay for and occasionally cleans (both of which I do better than her! Which she admits Lol!) .
She wants for nothing and yet is never happy!
She’s essentially a delusional feminist nightmare common law housewife but since I ate the red pill, I’ve become a nightmare too. In that whenever she gets too “feministy “, I point out the imbalance of what we each bring: everything on one side and nothing from the other!
It ANNOYS HER THAT I KNOW MY WORTH! Lol!
I try to be a generative man.
I TAKE PRIDE IN BEING A GOOD PROVIDER, but her crazy feminist mindset has ruined that....makes me sad a little.
Appreciate the perspective, brother, as always.
By my sight, “don’t show weakness” is also one more “yes, dear” on the bonfire of a man’s dwindling self-respect, just another chip of your soul given up to someone who doesn’t care about you enough to value it, in the first place.
As a person married for 18+ years it doesn't change. It is exhausting being the constant alpha. However when I showed weakness and lack is when she friendzoned me and we become coexist-ers and not partners. Only when I regain that dominance by being threatening (not physically)is when she seems to desire me.
How did you just describe my life Human bro?
Alpha widows are everywhere boys..
I cant compete with the alphas my flatmate was with...All Blacks, 6'5 dudes, cant compete and my life was together. Bodybuilder with a good paying job and a solid family with assets, but when I got zeroed out she was nowhere to be seen.
I strongly believe now that all females in order to survive must be pass-agg. Mine was one of the worst, when I was blue pilled.
There is no turning back boys..
One of your best Human brother....Cheers mate!
I'm currently dealing with a passive aggressive woman and I didn't realize it she's aggressive as a businesswoman and totally submissive as a sexual partner which one we're not in bed she seems to hate herself for being submissive and hates me also
@@scottstolper4218 Leave ASAP bro.
There is a myth that woman are worth it at the end. Some surely are.
But to keep on going against all odds, sacrificing your health/wealth/mental wellness for any woman... I don't think so.
Woman are like jewelry. Nice to have but not essential for a life full of adventure & fun. Play your own game by your own rules.
Some people may join you but do not expect a lot of company. #7: travel light :)
well said
Thats nice, but a lot easier to accept at 45, then when you are 19, full of raging hormones. Big distinction.
"Tune up a man and point him at a female", Yep thats PUA thinking alright LOL :)
Remember as a teenager when your first girlfriend broke your heart, well it didn't bother her did it. Nothing has
changed. Get a dog.
This is seriously one of your best videos and should be logged as one of the more important videos in the red pill community.
cheers...
funny thing is, i almost didn't record it :)
Thank you for so openly bearing your soul in such an honest, and articulate fashion. I think that's about as alpha as it gets.
Never let your woman know when you’re insecure
Thomas A Kempes: "The more I go out into the world, the less of a man I become." - Awesome video, Thanks.
LOL, first thing I get is a banner advertisement for a dating website. They will always try and pull you back onto the plantation. Go your OWN way men.
lol
Sometimes showing weakness to a woman is the best litmus test. Many can do you a favor and leave. PUA Coaches are the equivalent of Prosperity Pastors who sell money as your IDENTITY. Many times i have seen men who never show weakeness...are the biggest victims of their own emotional shit.
A man is not a photocopy of denial and submission but enlightment, forgiveness and trascendance. Great video!
I hope your audience will watch this video several times, then spend a few days contemplating what was said. Well done.
Having severe clinical depression, I had a discussion with a friend whose girlfriend has depression. We discussed how it is more acceptable to come out with depression in modern times. I'm like "Not in the slightest. Depression cases have exploded exponentially. The only thing to control it that has changed is funding. As a man, if you come out as weak, nevermind being met with pity, you are met with contempt and despised."
Women love having the new age pseudo-equality. They get all of the nice little perks like voting and forced respect without any of those yucky yucky side effects like dying in wars, dying in jobs, dying as early as men, paying for the date, paying for dinner, being the breadwinners, pursuing potential dates, doing yardwork, inspecting the bumps in the night, paying the bills, planning literally anything, losing custody of their children, losing half of their stuff in divorce.
Love how women traditionally complain about strangers they're going to ignore anyways, not sticking their necks out at first message and writing them a personalized poem and rather conserve as much life as they can with a "hey", and then they show just how faulty they are with worthless opening lines on apps like Bumble where they have to open conversation. It is the perfect example of women wanting all the perks of each era, while taking none of the detriments.
My Brother, I needed this sermon today! I separated four years ago, and divorced two years ago. Until three months ago I have been celibate, and refused to love a woman or contemplate a monogamous relationship. Now I'm on the cusp of starting a relationship with a fantastic woman. I'm torn inside because I've been 💯 Red Pill and now I'm succumbing to my feelings. I still don't know what I will do, but this lesson taught me that's it's ok for me to NOT have all the answers. Thanks again!
Follow your heart and keep your self interest in front. You will be good
Knowledge is power - use it to navigate around the pitfalls...
It's been 2 years. How is your relationship going ? Is she still fantastic ?
I nominate this video as the best Mgtow video of 2019!!! Powerful and hard-hitting with subtlety and straight to the point with specific points that are rarely dissected to such an extent in the mgtow and redpill community!
Agreed 👍🏾
Nothing new or original here, and he lumps all PUA gurus into the same "basket of deplorables" the good with the bad, as if they were all the same. In reality, there have been MGTOW PUA gurus out there for a decade, saying the same thinga this guy says, long before he said them. It's possible to see women just enough to have fun but stay away from commitment. You only have to "play a role" for a few hours to get laid, then move on, especially if you travel for work.
@@illarionbykov7401 I disagree but it's okay.
Soul On Ice - yes I agree, It’s MGTOW video of the Year 2019. Thanks to huMan for men’s education.
Women want to be cheerleaders, from the sideline, looking pretty, safe, and collecting a check
They want equal amounts of earnings, fame and respect for it because they have vaginas.
Was ready to propose to one last year, went strong for 6 years. Then after one moment of showing weakness and breaking down into tears. She just laughed and tore me to shreds. Threw everything back in my face by calling me ''boy''.
At the very end, "Don't tell me what to do, there's your strength." Incredibly true and incredibly powerful. Love it.
Whole time this is running Bob Dylan’s “It Ain’t Me Babe” pops up.
....again huMAN, thank you.
Instinctively we already know what you're telling us but it's like something that's been buried under all the crap that's been force-fed to us by media and society.
Your commentary really helps me to understand, why I feel the way I do.
Thank you.
"Love is more than a pat on the head for being a tough guy." Nailed it.
Never show weakness to ANYONE.
ESPECIALLY not to women.
Great video. I agree entirely.
That said, I’ve had a pretty rough go of it over the past few years and have been particularly low, weak and vulnerable. I have struggled to contain my anger, my frustration, my sorrow and my fear.
Despite being pretty good with pro activity and working hard to improve my situation, I have been guilty of sucking the energy out of a room, smothering people with my problems and generally bumming everyone out. It has caused some damage but I am determined not to beat myself up, learn from my mistakes, dig deep and make changes so I can sooth myself and communicate these issues in a manner that is less intrusive on others - BOUNDARIES!
There’s a way to communicate vulnerability and weakness without doing what I did. I do forgive myself for how I’ve behaved and I am committed to change for me and my interpersonal relationships with. It’s a life-long process which never ends.
"I gave her my heart, but she wanted my soul. Don't think twice, it's alright." Bob Dylan
Just say no to meat-puppetry.
Respect, Sir for reaching out to the world on such a calm, constructive manner. So much gems in these lines.
I agree completely, unfortunately part of having a real bond is being able to be real about vulnerable parts of ourselves. It’s exhausting to always have to be this stoic automaton.
True... i personally don't care much if a woman thinks I'm weak. I'd rather see her values and sympathy (or lack of) so i know who I'm dealing with.
The amount of introspection I did after watching this video cannot be out into words. So much error in my approach to so many things. I truly appreciate you and your work.
Thanks and God bless ✌🏿😎💯
When the situation calls for tenderness, be gentle as a baby. When the situation calls for fierceness, be a brave and cunning warrior. When the situation calls for stoicism, be a rock. When the situation calls for deep grief or overwhelming joy, cry like a man. Context is king.
The "Put on a Lion Suit and go out there and roar and you'll win the lottery" line gets a laugh out of me every time.
They gotta sell that pheromone soap.
Funny thing is, I use it and it works. It's not the single ticket, but rather just a tool to use in your toolbox. I've actually had women tell me that the soap 'makes them horny'.
"Buy my soap. You're gonna shower anyways."
Worst part is the $1000 consultation fee! Jesus H. Christ!😵😧
ThePlummer Speaks: I’ve had women say I made them horny just by me standing close to them or sending them a thoughtful text. You don’t always need to enhance your chances with soap, perfume or snake oil.
@@robt3407 Cause you smell like pipe bro, its what they crave.
What an eloquent rant!!! Mad respect, subscribed with bell icon. FYI I follow said Red Pill dating coaches, but I loved your take on this
More important than posturing strength to women, it was impressed upon me recently that a quality men must have, particularly in this day and age, is being resolute against the things that life throws at you, be that through your fellow human being, fortune, or whatever. I was struck by this after watching the movie Joker recently (excellent movie and performance, btw). We all can claim at having been beaten down by life events, society, other people, etc, but, being resolute, being able to just "take it", or, even better, channeling that negativity into a more positive conduit, and NOT let it turn you into a horror, or make you give up on yourself, or make you lose sight of your OWN value or values that you possess, that may be the most important fundamental or foundational quality a man can have. Being able to maintain that definition of yourself, to yourself, through all trials a lifetime can and will throw at you, and realize all these things in the world outside me have only the power over me that I grant them. Whether you're rich and live in a mansion on a hill or broke and destitute on the street, walking tall within yourself and not being transformed into something you don't even recognize anymore by the horrors done unto you. Or even more, not allowing those misfortunes or evils to co-opt you in your OWN self destruction. Resolute.
"Never show weakness" thats advice for dealing with enemies not lovers
That's how it is now such a f up world
even lovers can turn enemies
Enemies are former friends
Jordan "MGTOW are a bunch of pathetic weasels" Peterson learned this the hard way.
Not sure if he learned a lesson or not. I know he backed off of it but he did not fully apologize.
@@Kmangod it was a nonpology. As of learning his lesson, have you heard of his recent nervous breakdowns?
@@csehszlovakze a man who minces so much words was not to be trusted from the start.
JP was over when he said that western men alive today had no right to be proud of the countries their ancestors had built (to which every other culture wants to come). Actually he was over before that when he discouraged western men from collectivising as a defence against invasion. He didn't use such terminology but that's what he meant. Interesting that his wife has cancer; a disease aggravated by resentment.
Nah, I disagree. JP is not perfect but he has a lot of right to say in a world of complete insanity
You are sooooo correct!!! When you are down and out, only people who truly care for you step up and help carry you along the way. That doesn't mean that they shoulder your burden but as you said, they have your back. This not only applies to women, but men too. When you are at the bottom, you'll see who truly cares for you. I've been there, at the very bottom. That was 13 years ago and it became very evident who cared and who did not.
Being in control is to do what you think is right.
It doesn't mean you need to buy a motorcycle and so on and so on.
Just do what you want within your possibility, without the approval of anyone, woman and or man, still remembering not to be extreme.
Words of wisdom boys. Beautifully and poetically spoken. One of the best videos yet from huMan.
You've talked me off a ledge or time or two...thanks for your message.
Probably the best video I watched this whole year. After around 1 year of getting into the Red pill stuff, understanding how things work, trying things out; I felt this, you just put this feeling in perfect words.
The lion bit was a very powerful analogy, and it’s true for humans as well. Super macho men rarely live to see 70, and many of them start dropping off as early as their 50’s.
I see it in my own father, but I think he figured it out before it was too late. Still, I think he probably cheated himself out of an extra decade, but that remains to be seen.
That's what emotional maturity looks like. Thanks for posting.
This helped me quite a bit... I have anxiety and depression. I have a lot of weakness I need to manage. I just wanted my partner to give me support as well. I was always there to take her to her psychiatrist when she had problems. but I get told I just have to buck up cuz I'm a man. I break down. I break down a lot. It takes my all to get back up and try again and not let it keep me down. but no that's never enough for them. I don't want to be defined by how much crap I can stomach.
@John Grigg I'd suggest getting tested anyway. I'm Filipino as well. People here seem to have an aversion to spend for healthcare. especially mental healthcare. Ironically my sister is a doctor :))
Out of everyone I listened to. You are the most accurate. And true
This is the first time I've seen a notification being hidden, I got it and it vanished in seconds, wow
Really?... but, they say they don't do that :)
@@huMANs_channel There is a lot going on including having videos hidden from the subscription feed only to appear a couple of days later buried under who knows how many other videos.
@@smokenmirrors8869 I can confirm videos being hidden from the subscription feed... I use that because I use notifications only for comment replies (and even that is too many sometimes). I'm trying to steer more and more people over to _bi tc hu te_ at least they don't hide videos.
Shhhhh, we aren't allowed to talk about that! :^)
this man's words heal my frustrations !!
Never allow yourself to be lost in the shadow of someone else.
The moment you show vulnerability of emotion; it's just a matter of time until it's used against you.
I wish I had a father much like yourself Sir.
I deeply thank you for the TRUTH that you are sharing!
If a woman truly loves you she will not look at you in terms of strength and weakness, she will simply love you for being yourself.
Fairytale... which is this? Even Unicorns will leave if you fall.sorry mate. I have to be the bearer
It took me years to find the truth from my last marriage. I love my job, house. Had to re- locate. Wife left me with a step son I raised for16 years. Showing weakness, can be a sign sign of humanness and power from within. I agree with you my brother. You have to be yourself. If she truly loves you she will stay for the good times and the bad. I’m living in a much better place now.
" Never show weakness to the Enemy "
Thank you. One of your best videos.
this is brilliantly honest stuff!! subscribed!!!!!!
Thanks for the sub, Robert :)
Thank you very much for sharing this with us🤝.
I've never seen an Alpha male make a "How to be an Alpha male" video.
There are real alphas that are smaller than those pretenders you can see all the pretenders when the shit hits the fan , they'll be the first one running , I've seen it too many times.
@@vidalskyociosen3326 you live in a fantasy
You never have and you never will, alphas are just being themselfs, they are not trying to be alphas
Your analogy around expecting a woman to be in sexy mode all the time is spot on. We would never expect that of them. Oh and there's that oft used quote women love to use, something like "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best". But as a man, you better be at your best at all times-we have no time for your worst...get over it an "man up". Gag. Great stuff today huMAN!
women like alphas when they have a beta and they like betas when they have an alpha. when i was in my teens and early 20s women seemed to like fashion conscious pretty boy betas and manly men were not the flavour of the month. the whole alpha beta thing is really just a phase, women are all over the place. it doesnt matter what you are alpha beta part time full time, the likelihood is she will pull the rug from under your feet at some point. as for the pua stuff, its a complete oxymoron. if a man becomes successful at picking up women then all he really is showing is the failure of long term relationships, and or commitment. notches are not as challenging as a meaningful relationship, and the fact a meaningful relationship is so difficult to come by proves how fickle women are, or how incompatible men and women are when it comes down to long term commitment, and the reality of what 'love' means.
Good point. The alpha/beta preference even changes depending on what phase of their menstrual cycle they are on....
Incredibly well said my friend
Be a sigma.Smash escorts and either keep other women at a distance or treat them with indifference.That way your pocket is never empty and your sexual impulses satisfied.
What does being well dressed and sharp have to do with being beta? If anything it’s alpha because you’re showing you value your image
Thank you for your mature and more intellectualised approach to the man/woman relationship. I like your insights and thoughts.
That ending was powerful! I don’t need to do a god damn thing i don’t want to do .
This guy is the knife in your heart that HEALS.
9:31 This is really the point of almost ALL of the red pill, from Briffault’s Law to hypergamy, to divorce court, to monkeybranching, to the 80/20...SHE’S NEVER OPENLY CHOSEN YOU.
And huMAN, it’s not just about alpha posturing with physical prowess/false bravado.
You also need to signal your successful indoctrination into consumer culture by driving around in an Audi R8, preferably convertible, a BMW M5, or an Audi S5; sometimes a combination of all three!
Great post, Chris. I laughed and also have spotted this blatant contradiction of self-improvement, mental point of origin bullshit while subscribing to consumer culture. (mindless unjustifiable purchases of German intellectual property and engineering.)
Louie Malvessi Music
Thanks.
He nailed that feeling, though.
I don’t know what the experience is like if you’re in that top 20%, but ALL of my relationships except for my two Borderlines, have felt like the women were reluctantly there, with one foot out the door.
Fortunately, I’ve always picked up on it, and I don’t bother lying to myself, so I’ve always been appropriately (un)invested and uninjured when they pulled the ripcord.
Except the Borderlines; they got me pretty good, because I didn’t know how uninvested they were until the surprise ending.
Spot on mate. It's always the same rhetoric. You must be the lion who's in a constant state of chasing excellence for approval less you be reduced to be that of a gazelle
And the excellence is always a greater income bracket or german engineering that will increase social status and thus be more 'economically attractive' but it's never based on the mans wants or personal definition of excellence
Andy Rogers
Exactly. Not once have I felt known by a woman I was involved with.
My favorite moment was with one of the Borderlines. She spewed almost 4 hours of the most purposefully horrible crap, for absolutely zero cause, and I never lashed out. Just patiently waited for it to subside. That made her behavior worse and worse.
Near the 4th hour mark I finally threw her on the ground and choked her- something I’ve never done in my life.
She later said, “I had no idea you were like that.”
And I said, “I know. You weren’t interested enough to bother getting to know me. I would have told you I was capable of much worse.”
Good points. Clear and thoughtful
Spot on ...this video could also have been titled, "Welcome to women's 100,000 year-old operating system."
Amazing video Human. Thank you🙏
"A face that toils so close to stones is already stone itself.There is a nobility in the Male . Many people will give up their most cherished beliefs in order to go on living: a man dedicated to a marriage, which is oppressive to him "mechanical life" . A great man would Say to the Life coaches : tell in to the Rocks .
You absolutely nailed it here. I listened to this 4 video times in a row..
Wow! This is amazing. I've been through hell this year. Divorce, then a new girlfriend, who said she loved me, leave me because I had that introspection and hardship through the divorce. I was staring down the barrel of losing my children and 20 years of assets. And she left because I didn't 'handle' it like she wanted.....
Spot on. Love the "hero mode" analogy as well as the makeup equivalent.