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Timestamps 1). Emotional dysregulation/ Mood fluctuations or mood swings 1:12 2). Flouncing 2:03 3). How does this affect us 4:12 4). Positive changes 4:40 5). Develop psychological flexibility 6:27 6). Mindfulness 6:50 7). S-stop and pause before reacting. T-take a deep breath. O-observe your thoughts, physical sensations and feelings. P-pull back and get perspective. P-practice what works, proceed method 7:31 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
S - stop and pause before reacting T Take a deep breath O - observe your emotions and feelings P - get a bigger perspective P - practice what works and proceed
As someone with intermittent explosive disorder, this video was very accurate. I can have unnecessary outbursts and react grossly to a situation even if it's something not that big of a deal.
What is passive agressive? If I do Not Talk about how I feel or what there was days before and the Stress Levels Up, than I Go passive agressive Sometimes, means: My tone of voice geht's pissy and my Gestures more wild, while Others recieve me as "unfriendly" even though I do Not Talk Bad Lol
Im a really impulsive person and my family always told me to change. It was very hard for me. I used tp research techniques to calm myself down but it never worked. Soon i realised that to calm myself down 1st i should be aware of what im feeling and to just observe and then take a needed action. It really helped me control my emotions.
Emotions are Just Friends WHO try to communicate what going on inside. Some people did wrong and tried to get rid of emotions or numb the self. But observing, Like good Friends WHO try to teach and Talk 2 U, is very Helpful. Happy to hear U befriended those. 🥰
As you keep going through tiny steps,day to day,you are rewiring your brain.purpose can reveal itself when you replace that judgemental voice in your head with a compassionate one
Unpredictable outbreaks defined my childhood. I have adhd and autism, and I was diagnosed in 2nd grade. I would constantly become angry and unpredictable. I wasn’t able to control myself, and after I would do things in the moment I would feel AWFUL. It led to self harm and even an attempt in second grade. My meds are a blessing and I definitely am way more regulated than before. Even so I need to be aware of that side of me so I can remove myself from situations and prevent impulsive actions! It is a part of who I am and I can’t erase that. But I’m still going to be my best.
As someone with BPD, this is something I struggle a lot with. Mostly impulsivity and emotional irregularity. I can't just tell people "Hey yeah please be patient with me I have BPD". They wouldn't get it. Not even my family does and it's hard to really talk to them about it. They think I don't have anything I need to be emotional or depressed about. I don't tell them everything that happens in my life. They just judge. I'd like to think if I found a better place to go, my mental health would improve greatly. I just feel like this prisoner in my own house. Edit: I finally moved out with a friend and I started going to college. I just got broken up with a few days ago so my mental health has been spiraling. But, I hope everyone's doing good! To anyone who has BPD like me, I hope you know that you're valid and loved. This disorder is hell but trust me, we will survive! ❤️ We may have BPD but it doesn't have us.
@@alfieshanks6555 I unfortunately have the habit of doing this with my fiance. I leave but I go back because he's honestly the only person I feel safe around. Abandonment issues is something I still struggle with as an adult and just know it's not you at all. She loves you so much to where she's worried about losing you. You are probably the only person in her world right now.
@@Kakmanmartinez666 well she already rebounded to fill the void of me and blocked and unblocked me. I haven’t heard from her in a month. Idk if she has split on me
I used to have ADHD as a kid, and then I was re-diagnosed later in life with just ADD. My emotions as a child didn't show themselves as much a problem except for maybe one or two tantrums, but now that I've seen this video, part of me wonders if my ADD still proves to be hyperactive when it comes to my emotions.... it would explain a lot of things.
The very same. I grew up having ADHD, then ADD. I've always been a quiet child, but felt like I wasn't allowed to have emotions, which may not have been true but that was how I internalized my situation. A few decades later and I finally get therapy and find out I have clinical depression and social anxiety. I hope that you do not have or develop these problems. No one deserves this demon.
I have adhd and yeah, I got the hyperactive side quite a lot and it sucks but I the fact that the internalized version is often overlooked is a shame. I would do things in the moment and then I’d hate myself for it. I would feel so bad and since I was still in second grade at the time this struggle peaked before I was diagnosed I would get mad at myself, which led to unhealthy self harm as a way to punish myself. Eventually I got diagnosed and got meds which were life savers- The aftermath of finally being more in control led to an insane bottling problem as I had internalized emotions=bad awful side of me to the point where I still struggle to communicate my emotions. I still fight that unhealthy mindset that I’m a monster that needs to control themselves to this day. Even if it isn’t as overt(like in my case) that mental thought process is extremely painful on its own and is just as much of a struggle as outwardly being impulsive! Edit(somehow I wrote I “had” adhd instead of have lmao)
I have adhd and autism and I can tell we need to draw attention to ourselves to get help we need sometimes and when are even sometimes told to do this and we just naturally are impulsive usually without influence
I get dysregulated when I specify a need and I am ignored. Frustration takes over after the about third time I repeat my very clear statement and wait…not sure how to regulate if my needs are suddenly met when I lose my shit. It’s like people assume I’m a pushover or will tolerate their crap because I’m quiet and nice? Nope.
It doesn't matter how much you study things, you have to implement them over and over. Practice them during the day when you're not dysregulated so you can actually remember they exist when you are dysregulated. It's like hacking a path through the jungle, you can read about the proper way to cut vines all day but that won't replace the necessary action of hewing a road. You also cannot go down a road you haven't carved out when you're running from a monster.
Activities you should follow to keep away from impulsivity. 1.Take a time gap before taking any wierd decision. 2.Write down the tentative consequences. 3.Talk to someone to hold you accountable. 4.Have a power nap. 5.Stroll in nature and have a sceneric view. 6.Jot down your goals. 7.Excercise and push your limits harder. 8.Organise your calendar. 9.Listen to soft music for soothing effect. 10.Do not hurt or injure your body or consume any pills which would prove lethal. All these have helped me lower my impulsivity and hope so will relieve you too.
Yes! The innate reaction of WHY DID I DO THAT, and resorting to self harm as a “punishment” is something I struggled with for years! Thanks for bringing more awareness to this!
I really needed this.. as someone with cPTSD (and possibly BPD + ADHD, not yet diagnosed) feeling like my emotions are within my control is one of my biggest life struggles. It's crippling, even if I excuse myself from others to keep from blowing up *at* them, I'm still regularly having meltdowns.
The music in this one set a rather... It set a mood. Like walking in the dark while angry. I always feel guilty walking away and slamming the door, but I also feel super empty walking away silently. I'm pretty impulsive tho, but it's a cycle I think. It gets better each time the good comes around, and less bad and severe every fall. It's management basically.
Yep, I think it's safe to say I have this. Mood swings, depression, anger, substance abuse.... I avoid confrontation until I explode on someone and I hate that I'm like this!!
Wow. The content and writing quality of this video is kinda amazing. You put a lot of effort into making this one, and it shows. You've managed to capture and present a level of insight that goes beyond just the research, beyond just the information. You've helped your audience make connections that are not obvious and see patterns that can change lives. Congratulations on some excellent work.
It's hard to control my emotions sometimes... Though I have my friends point it out and they know about it:) I want to get therapy anyway, and one of my friends will help me with it Though without you psych2go, I wouldn't have known there was something wrong, so thank you💜
This video reminds me of whenever I go through depressive episodes. I was born autistic and later on diagnosed with ADHD but also ODD, a.k.a., oppositional defiant disorder. I have looked up some things about ODD but I don't get a lot of videos on this disorder🙁
Yes! This was very helpful and I will share this with everyone I know because this is what happening all around us all and I believe this is the answer I know I’ve been searching for!! Thanks!!
Just had an emotional breakdown last night, noticing a lot of parallels between what I went through and what is discussed in this video. That’s when I started to recognize all the times I was having trouble regulating my emotions over the years. If anything, I’m realizing I need to seek professional help at this point. Been without a job and recently lost access to health insurance, so I frankly don’t know what to do at this point.
First I did Not understand some Things...after a few repeating situations, I realized, that I was triggered by old Childhood Wounds, that Had been imprinted in my flesh and Body system. Sounds crazy hm? Or can U relate?
its honestly quite shocking, that the simple reason for every mental health problem is either ignorance or having been hurt yourself, everything else is just a consequence of one of these, at least as far as I can see. But the ones who are ignorant wont change and the people who are hurt think it is normal, so there probaply will never be a solution for trauma, no matter where or when
It's all from childhood aka our parents, though of course it can also stem from other traumas... Not everyone handles it the same way, though. I've been through quite alot, and as for me, I've cared enough to realize that the people who've done me wrong have at least taught me how *not* to be, if nothing else. That's how *I* see it, and it makes me want to be a better person----to myself, and to those I care about. Others make excuses for how they project onto others, and refuse to understand how their behavior is hurting themselves and those around them.
I appreciate these tips I have realized for a bit of time now that I personalize internally often when confronted with uncomfortable realities with others,it's caused me to look at mole hills as ginormous mountains and only to get reeled back in by someone else or by my therapist which I'm grateful to have such a awesome therapist!
Honestly, even tho I'm not like diagnosed with this, I can tell I do this a lot now looking back. I'm going to try that STOPP method whenever I feel like that. Thank you for helping me understand this psi!
I create playlists here on UA-cam to help me regulate emotionally. I've been diagnosed with bipolar 1 & PTSD & have been learning how to live a healthy lifestyle. Part of that is also finding where I best fit in the world vocationally. I ended up as a CPS(certified peer support) a type of nurse. For mainly emotions. I'm using my life experience's, turned/turning(life on LIFES terms is an ongoing process) weaknesses to strengths to help others & get paid for it. Some of my playlists are public. It is on my to do list to edit them. Please enjoy. I've also heard others do similar on other musical platforms.
Omgooosh. Cps. 🥰😉🌟 ITS so sad that at my place there is Not much Jobs for this. I Love doing cps IT fills me with Joy. What do you think about Soul Cafes? Not only going to therapy If Forest is already burning, but Soul Cafes with cps Peers and People in Same boat. I felt that the Group Vibes Had been so soothing somehow, coz WE felt respected and understood. What do you think? 💕🥰
I can't say I have emotional dysregulation but whenever I am interacting with my parents I am so impulsive. I don't remember when I talked nicely with them. With other people I behave nicely... I really feel guilty for behaving with my parents like that. They are nice. But no matter how hard I try to control myself... I will behave rudely with them. The reasons could be that I hold grudges towards them... Or something like that or maybe it's just has become my habit? I really suffer intense guilt for doing this... I hope I could change.
that first part my friend put his hand around my neck, and I got surprised and bodied him to the ground and put him in a head lock instantly I didn't know why I did it but after this video I somewhat understood why I attack anyone that surprises me, it's happened a lot of times with a lot of people.
CHANGES DURING ADOLESCENCE Adolescence is the period when a child becomes an adult. In order to understand it and recognize it more easily, you need to know what changes it brings with it. The first important change is physical or better known as puberty. Adolescent age begins with puberty, which represents a period of turbulent biological changes and is the most visible sign of the beginning of adolescence. Puberty refers to all the physical changes that occur in a person who passes from childhood to adulthood. The average age at which it starts is 10 years for girls and 12 for boys, but it is very individual for each child. In girls, it lasts a little longer than 18 months to 6 years, while in boys it lasts from 2 to 5 years. The physical changes that are evident during this period are caused by sex hormones. In both boys and girls, the production of sex hormones causes rapid growth and weight gain in this period of life. Biologically speaking, puberty refers to the period when a person becomes capable of sexual reproduction. In boys, a sudden growth of the testicles occurs during puberty, as well as the appearance of pubic hair, and later there is the appearance of hair on the face and body, and the voice becomes deeper. This period is accompanied by internal changes related to the production and ejaculation of sperm. In girls, the first sign of sexual characteristics at puberty is the appearance of breasts as well as pubic laxity. Internal changes refer to the maturation of the entire reproductive system. The first menstruation usually occurs later, usually around the age of 12. The second change is cognitive. Thinking changes from concrete to abstract and this gives the adolescent completely new possibilities of mental operations. Their thinking becomes more advanced, effective and complex. Adolescents become more capable of thinking about what is possible and not just about what is real, which means they can think hypothetically. He can think more and more about abstract ideas, which means that he understands riddles, metaphors, analogies, etc. more easily. He has an increasing ability to think about interpersonal relations, politics, philosophy, religion, etc. In this period, the person is more and more occupied with the process of thinking - metacognition, where the result can be emphasized introspection (noticing one's own psychological processes). A potentially negative product of this phase can be egocentrism - self-absorption. Thinking itself is becoming more and more multidimensional, without staying in just one area. And what is a big difference in the way of thinking compared to childhood, adolescents understand things more often as relative and not as absolute, they question the intentions of others and do not accept the absolute truth. The third group of changes includes emotional changes. Adolescence is characterized by numerous emotional changes characterized by a changed way of experiencing oneself and an increasing ability to function independently. Only intellectual maturation and changes in the way of thinking lead to the fact that the adolescent begins to experience himself in a different and more complex way. When they were children, adolescents described themselves relatively simply, while now, in adolescence, they describe themselves much more complex and abstract. As their perception of themselves becomes more abstract, they become more interested in their own personality and behavior. During this period, the adolescent exhibits significant and rapid mood swings. Changes in body, way of thinking, relationships with others disturb the adolescent who often perceives them as frightening. Emotional instability (caused by all the aforementioned changes and additionally increased hormonal activity) is a part of growing up and adolescent events. Depression is very common among adolescents, often as a result of a loss, divorce, etc. The most important loss in the life of an adolescent is the change in relations with parents, but the cause of moodiness can also be relations with friends. You can read more about emotional changes in this age of life here Social changes are reflected in the importance of an increasing number of peers. During this period, the relationship with society changes in importance and structure. The time an adolescent spends with his peers is getting longer than before. Socializing is now in increasingly large peer groups, and school serves more to locate a friend within its social hierarchy. Peer influence is increasingly strong during this period and it can often be negative when the adolescent begins to do things that are not socially acceptable. During this period, the need for intimacy increases, where confiding in friends becomes very important. One of the significant social changes in adolescence is the emergence of romantic and sexual relationships. For most adolescents, the first sexual experience falls into the category of "autoerotic behavior" that they experience on their own, which includes erotic fantasies and masturbation. The last change that accompanies adolescence is a change in a person's behavior. Various challenges in this period of life lead the adolescent to experiment with new forms of behavior. This experimentation also results in the appearance of more risky ones forms of behavior that represent a normal part of adolescence. These behaviors are in the service of the adolescent to shape his identity, try out new decision-making abilities, develop a realistic assessment of himself, gain peer acceptance and respect. However, some risks pose a great danger to adolescents and therefore always require control, guidance and direction by parents. Certain negative forms of behavior often lead adolescents into problematic behavior such as alcohol abuse, unwanted pregnancy, communicable diseases, school failure or dropping out of school, crime, delinquency and similarly.
Jesus teached Peter at the Ocean of Emotion, that He can learned to Walk emotions easily. Storms will Pass. Learning to observe, Not judge, watch, let Go and calm down the Ocean of Emotion and thoughts. 🕊️
The shame can be fought but hang in there. Don’t do what I did and self harm or attack yourself for it, no matter how tempting it may seem. Stay strong!
I'm 42 and have always been embarrassed by my "tantrums" and "stroppy dramatic behaviour" that I've been labelled with. It's recently become apparent I have undiagnosed ADHD finally I have hope I can understand and manage this part of me without hating myself so much 🤞🏻
Thank you for next useful video.👍It is a human instinct to want to be noticed, taken seriously, and loved. So in a certain way, attention-seeking behaviors come from a place that most of us can understand. Sometimes the attention-seeking behaviors are motivated by a feeling of loneliness, and social media is a fake solution for that.
Today I punched my best friend in the face and he is heavily injured... I'm so ashamed of myself, my body moved before my mind worked and I ended up injuring him for a simple silly stupid reason... This video helped me so much, thank you
benefits of implusivty quick thinking creativity bravery/risk taking improvising spontaneous and adabtabilty it isn't always bad it just needs to be balanced out with thoughtful consideration
i have issues registering my emotions, and i don’t know why or what to do about it, though i’m trying to basically look at what i’m feeling at any moment and just allow myself to feel something that isn’t emotional pain
I cry a lot but I'm not trying to manipulate or control anyone... I tell them I know it seems like a lot and that I cannot control the physical side of it. It always happens when it's near my period and it comes without warning I don't know what to do I'm affecting the people around me and I really don't want to.
As usual, an amazing video expect I found this one a bit uncomfortable. To start with, the Will Smith example, I really don't think it is an appropriate example of such as it seems to me that he wasn't doing a wrong thing, at least at that moment. Secondly, what is a normal way to react with? The massage I get from the video is, "don't let your emotion out and when you let it out, you are the bad guy. " I can't help but getting a massage in this video is telling us to suppress our emotion which I myself don't find positive.
Thank you so much. I was extremely unregulated before I was medicated and my self image and self thinking constantly suppresses emotions and calls myself a horrible person if I lose control of myself. My brain constantly antagonizes myself in every situation thanks to this message being drilled into my skull by multiple therapists, my parents, and everyone practically And I’m still trying to work out of it to this day.
To be honest with you psych2go that’s happened to me twice in college I get the emotions to the best of me and storm out the classroom at any moment and it does attend to stress me out but I’m trying to learn myself to be positive which I learned from a teacher assistant which again I’m trying to be happy as I can and be nice to others to get myself a gold heart but I feel like I need to work harder for it
I have experienced this firsthand, I can't control my anger, and it ruins my social life for years by now It's very hard to deal with it because you can become an easy target to bullying and other stuff I lost all of my friends last year because I called people out on a very aggressive way for some reason and because of my reaction, they just didn't want to be my friend anymore Now I sit alone in the corner every day, because of this angry impulse
Interesting article the more I hang around this channel the more I am given food for thought, the thing that I seem to come to know is if someone is in a between space direct logic has to decide "what am I understanding here?" And there lays a strange concept that knowledge tends to make think in a more absolute way, yet absolute thinking is not bad but knowing how to apply it like a seasoning is the trick often sat in perception yet also perception can stick to what has been seen before hence knowledge and experience are two distinct yet interconnected concepts but methods in what is applied may not be flawed as much as knowing a that it must adjust to situation. Am I an overthinker? Yes, but it can be an asset.
as someone how have it, it's all my childhood my family never told me how for this some time then I talk I can cry for no reason or get hurt fast and my class mate try to talk with me but I don't want to even anger or other think
0:31 sorry that's an example of emotional abuse from his wife... 8:38 you know when you really get triggered you more or less become blinded by rage and well I don't think you are able to perform those actions in such state, if you are able to perform those actions can you say that you have been really triggered. So in other words it's more about how much trigger resistance you have rather than what techniques you use but yes if you manage to think calmly about the situation you will certainly come up with a better solution compared to an outburst... 9:04 "distance yourself from your emotions" sounds quite wrong because all you need to do that is self-awareness, and well some people hate it when their emotions make them self-aware and that is why we have hook-up culture...
I’m not really someone with ADHD, autism or anything like that and I also don’t like self diagnosing myself with anything at all. However I know most of my life I wasn’t able to regulate my emotions most times and as I grew older my parents would be sad how I didn’t react to when they did something nice for me. It’s not that I didn’t appreciate it but I didn’t know how I was supposed to react. Other times even at the tiniest things I would start throwing a tantrum and start screaming throwing pillows. I guess I’m not really good at acting for the least of it 😅 I really do want to be able to control my feelings and have normal reactions to things at the right times. I guess it’s better then the past since I would sometimes randomly start getting angry and start scratching myself. This is just me rambling since I know nobody will most likely read this, I did enjoy writing my true thoughts tho 😊
It's hard for me when people sound iratated then boom I vocally reacted (I'm thinking of getting a mental health evaluation) I'm kind of like that guy at the beginning of the video that is like hey what's up then they get upset then I question my self thinking it's my fault then they get more upset and they get frustrated then I vocally react and basically have a breakdown.
Helped me soooo much. And Awareness Channels Like Psych2go and some more and talking directly with my Friends and dears about my stuff, helped to be more Patient with myself and them too.
when i heard that not being able to control my emotions was ADHD, it relieved me a little. I have ADHD, I tend to have outburts of different emotions every once in a while. Most of time, i end up in troubke for it. I've always tried to explain to people that i try not to do it but it just happens sometimes, nobody believes me. ADHD is so hard.
Dw! I had constant outbursts in second grade before I was diagnosed and I would constantly be in trouble for it! Even now with my meds, I still sometimes have outbursts, (that time I put burrs in a kids hair cause they hurt my friends feeling for example) It’s so damn hard to stop sometimes, it almost feels like by the time you realize what’s going on it’s already happened.
I’ve seen a lot of roleplaying shenanigans in MMOs that I used to play where something doesn’t go someone’s way, so they just “die”, by “suicide” or whatever “ailment” is happening to them. To make matters worse, if I do give them the attention they seek, they’re too stubborn to accept my “healings” of any kind I know, magic or no magic. Sometimes I suspect that they may even want me to do “CPR” when they actually want to kiss my avatar, like a pervert or at least that one kid in The Sandlot. All that did was make it harder for me to roleplay nowadays, and make my own characters lost confidence and trust in helping other players… because they don’t play nice AT ALL
Could it be Emotional Dysregulation? Probably. But it’s so manipulative, that it ruined my passion for roleplaying. If you guys really “need” attention, there are plenty of better ways than to cry virtual crocodile tears or pretend to “die a horrible death”!
I watched this video because my current job is in jeopardy and my boss says it's because I have trouble with "emotional regulation." I'm autistic and I had a much harder time controlling my emotions as a kid, reacting very loudly to mean or unpredictable things when other people thought it wasn't called for. I'd like to think I'm better at handling these things now, but apparently it's not good enough for the office, so at this point I don't know what to do. All my life people have been telling me to think before I react, but that's way easier said than done. My thoughts and plans for the day are like a house, a safe place that I built, and the mean or unpredictable things other people do are like someone setting the house on fire or crashing a car through the window. That's not something you just react calmly to. Any advice?
And the last situation that happened with my friend, he noticed now is that when they were waiting to enter their class, she was with her friends, and suddenly the guy she liked appeared at her friend's place in the place where they were her friends Because he too had to come To wait with the rest to enter the class, as she was normal looking only like that because she did not see him because her friends were hiding from her and she could not see him, but only this way she looked from a certain direction until that boy she loved appeared and the place she was looking at was what as you think Because it is the same place where he appeare The boy she likes So he looked at her and did not move from his place And with that, the two looked at each other, and she was shocked, and she could not look away. This matter continued for a few seconds, and he looked away and continued his way, perhaps, but then she looked at her friend and said, perhaps he was looking at her friend because sheHe was close to her and she thought he was looking at her and she was also looking at him or she said maybe he wasn't looking at her either And he looked behind her, and there was something or his friend behind her, or he was looking for the class in which we would study, and he finished. You really what do you think of that please answer me Please answer me, I am very confused
I know there are people with mental illness, not dismissing that at all. But sometimes it is just bad behavior. Period, end of story. Some people in prison do suffer from mental illness. Do they get therapy and meds to treat it in there? Doubt it.
While this does explain the massive decline in emotional health compared to previous decades, there are definitely some things that I do not agree with here. 1. People are not all either conflict-avoidant or conflict-seeking. Nothing about the human mind is black-and-white like that. In fact, I find that most people are somewhere in between. A truly conflict avoidant person despises conflict to the point that even things like competing in a board game does not appeal to them. They will engage in conflict only when absolutely necessary. My mother is this way. On the opposite side of the coin, people who truly seek conflict, like my dad, will instinctively contradict others and switch sides in an argument, just to keep the argument going. My sister, a special education teacher, says that this is very common among people with Asperger’s Syndrome. More toward the middle of the spectrum on conflict seeking/avoidance are two types: the “go-getters” and the “go-with-the-flow” types. The first group consists of people who are highly competitive. They don’t shy away from conflict, but they don’t necessarily enjoy it either. The second group is able to compete for fun, but tends to shy away away from other types of conflict when they can. I am more of the first type, but my best friend is the second. 2. Being “dramatic” does not mean you are attention-seeking, nor does it mean that you lack the ability to regulate your emotions. SOME of us just have very lively personalities and cannot help but be a bit dramatic at times. If emotions are a form of energy, then ours cannot help but burst out. That’s not to say we can’t control our outbursts-we learn how to clamp down on our more negative emotions to prevent them from running amok-but it does mean that ALL of our emotions are very big. So when we’re happy, EVERYONE knows it. It’s not that we have ADHD (for many of us, our attention spans are perfectly fine), but we do have a lot of energy, and we don’t often bother to contain that which doesn’t cause any harm. Incidentally, for people like myself whose lively nature means that our emotions are very big, being able to clamp down and contain our reactions temporarily doesn’t mean we can get away with not releasing them later on. We have to take time to unleash that energy in a safe environment-whether it’s crying and screaming into a pillow or beating the mattress with our fists, that’s part of how we process and work through our feelings. Just because it doesn’t LOOK like emotional regulation from the more mellow person’s perspective doesn’t mean that isn’t what it is.
With regards to my second point, I will point out that while I am dramatic IRL, I am actually very private about my emotions online. Likewise, being dramatic by nature does not make you a gossip, nor does it mean that you enjoy gossip. I actually abhor gossip and generally avoid people that I know are prone to gossiping about others, spreading unfounded rumors, or simply failing to check the facts. Yes, I am dramatic by nature, and yes, I do have trouble regulating my emotions as a result of trauma-though this is partially because people often confuse *regulating* emotions with *suppressing* them. But I’m also private about my personal disagreements and I despise gossip.
This is the ego. The ego is always looking for problems to solve. When it doesn't have enough problems it looks or even starts drama. I project my frustrations about the injustice in the world when I am not focused on my own problems I look at the worlds problems like I have some savior complex. My anger outbursts is usually impulsive from overwhelming frustration. Or I will have some sort of unresolved conflict that I am dealing with and projecting.
Honestly the “will smith” approach to life is polygonal and accepted in most bars, as far as wether her feelings are to be defended as to the context of their relationship is their personal business. the roast of ….
this was a kind of weird, unempathetic view of emotional dysregulation. I sent it to a friend so he could understand my bipolar and then i was watching it and had to message him and tell him not to watch it. What is up with calling people drama queens or implying they are manipulative for having these issues? really tacky.
okay Will Smith didn't punch Chris Rock in the face, it was a slap and also its just as likely he did it on prepose for similar reasons such as his respect woman mentality, though I don't have enough evidence to firmly state my own case on the subject, as most of what I just said was based on what was already said by another youtuber by the name of Gentlemen's Game ether way, I think that claiming we have the answers to what happens inside the head of celebrities is futile
@@SeelenTaucher The situations are different. And what they're doing was disrespectful, with no morality, gossiping, mockery, interfering in other lives with no good intention at all, obstructing success, business matters, and the privacy of other people without learning their limits to respect other people's boundaries. I fully know that I never had childhood traumas that are Not healed at all. Perhaps, it was their family dynamics and I can see it dragging other people's lives of their scars, and insecurities, trying to manipulate others to feel better about themselves that that is something can feel they can have to rule over someone whether it is not for the betterment of the other person and just simply being narcissistic in a subtle way. I know.
@@pinktequilla Ah I See. So they simply Had different prios and behaved Not healthy, which Made U feel worse Overtime. Hope U will find people WHO Take Care of Ur Feelings more. Are you infj or infp?
@@SeelenTaucher Appreciate it, dear. Well, the majority of their priorities are like crab 🦀 mentality... And kind of selfish ways. so, I do not think it is too worth it. So, just fully ignore and I have my own high priorities too that they must learn to respect and this is my life, not theirs. They think highly of themselves yet throw that garbage on me. What complicated people? Hmmm, dang good reading personalities. What's your name?
@@pinktequilla You are right. 💪🏻☺️ Arent WE all a Bit complex? Enfps Like me have many names, coz my Name ist Not relevant, but the Vibes and Soul Matters Most. Mostly my Name is "Hey You" 😆😉🌈
Let's start with what culture you are from? Your family life and upbringing? Do you generally have good health, or are you not feeling good at the moment?
Why does that music sound like people who are emotionally dysregulated sound evil. Thats not true. And what do you mean people who avoid confrontation and people who thrive off of confrontation. I am a very outspoken person. I do have BPD, but im only confrontational if someone hurt my feelings its not an malicious intent or to stir up the the pot, and even if im in the wrong its coming from a place of trauma or fear. This video really rubbed me the wrong way. And the people who avoid confrontation are usually the people who are fake and cant deal with problems in a healthy manner. So they either talk crap behind your back or completely ghost you with out taking accountability or explaining themselves.
As someone whose struggled with outbursts, it’s best to be patient and understanding while also making sure that they still are held accountable if they hurt your feelings or you. If they are very angry, It may be best to give them some space to work through it.
@@ibcheel9021 of course, you need to set boundaries! Friendships are meant to bring you up, not tear you down! It doesn’t matter if the other person is struggling, that doesn’t mean they can get away with hurting your feelings. The fact you’re there for them is wonderful and I wish I had more people in my life like you when I was struggling.
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I love your videos. Informs me and makes me think about why I do things. If you could make a video of effects of growing up parentless not an orphan but just (parentless.) My mom died before I was out of diapers. My pops lived down the street and I seen him like once every year and a half.
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it have Tamil language?
Timestamps
1). Emotional dysregulation/ Mood fluctuations or mood swings 1:12
2). Flouncing 2:03
3). How does this affect us 4:12
4). Positive changes 4:40
5). Develop psychological flexibility 6:27
6). Mindfulness 6:50
7). S-stop and pause before reacting.
T-take a deep breath.
O-observe your thoughts, physical sensations and feelings.
P-pull back and get perspective.
P-practice what works, proceed method 7:31
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
S - stop and pause before reacting
T Take a deep breath
O - observe your emotions and feelings
P - get a bigger perspective
P - practice what works and proceed
As someone with intermittent explosive disorder, this video was very accurate. I can have unnecessary outbursts and react grossly to a situation even if it's something not that big of a deal.
What is passive agressive? If I do Not Talk about how I feel or what there was days before and the Stress Levels Up, than I Go passive agressive Sometimes, means: My tone of voice geht's pissy and my Gestures more wild, while Others recieve me as "unfriendly" even though I do Not Talk Bad Lol
I have adhd and I also end up doing similar things, and yeah. This video hit me hard. Stay strong!
Im a really impulsive person and my family always told me to change. It was very hard for me. I used tp research techniques to calm myself down but it never worked. Soon i realised that to calm myself down 1st i should be aware of what im feeling and to just observe and then take a needed action. It really helped me control my emotions.
Emotions are Just Friends WHO try to communicate what going on inside. Some people did wrong and tried to get rid of emotions or numb the self. But observing, Like good Friends WHO try to teach and Talk 2 U, is very Helpful. Happy to hear U befriended those. 🥰
@@SeelenTaucher i love the way you put it :))
@@gantitejaswini7927 🥴☺️💕
As you keep going through tiny steps,day to day,you are rewiring your brain.purpose can reveal itself when you replace that judgemental voice in your head with a compassionate one
That's a really nice lesson, thankyou ☺️
That Leeds to selfishness and ego, rather find a balance 🤦🏻♂️
Yeah, been told this quite a handful of times, and it didn't work out. I cannot seem to start making steps. I just gave up
Unpredictable outbreaks defined my childhood. I have adhd and autism, and I was diagnosed in 2nd grade.
I would constantly become angry and unpredictable. I wasn’t able to control myself, and after I would do things in the moment I would feel AWFUL. It led to self harm and even an attempt in second grade. My meds are a blessing and I definitely am way more regulated than before. Even so I need to be aware of that side of me so I can remove myself from situations and prevent impulsive actions! It is a part of who I am and I can’t erase that. But I’m still going to be my best.
As someone with BPD, this is something I struggle a lot with. Mostly impulsivity and emotional irregularity. I can't just tell people "Hey yeah please be patient with me I have BPD". They wouldn't get it. Not even my family does and it's hard to really talk to them about it. They think I don't have anything I need to be emotional or depressed about. I don't tell them everything that happens in my life. They just judge. I'd like to think if I found a better place to go, my mental health would improve greatly. I just feel like this prisoner in my own house.
Edit: I finally moved out with a friend and I started going to college. I just got broken up with a few days ago so my mental health has been spiraling. But, I hope everyone's doing good! To anyone who has BPD like me, I hope you know that you're valid and loved. This disorder is hell but trust me, we will survive! ❤️ We may have BPD but it doesn't have us.
i have bpd and adhd, and i can relate lol
My girl with BPD and bipolar left me out of fear of abandonment and already rebounded. I miss her so much
@@alfieshanks6555 I unfortunately have the habit of doing this with my fiance. I leave but I go back because he's honestly the only person I feel safe around. Abandonment issues is something I still struggle with as an adult and just know it's not you at all. She loves you so much to where she's worried about losing you. You are probably the only person in her world right now.
@@Kakmanmartinez666 well she already rebounded to fill the void of me and blocked and unblocked me. I haven’t heard from her in a month. Idk if she has split on me
Basically bring a .224 that always works
I used to have ADHD as a kid, and then I was re-diagnosed later in life with just ADD. My emotions as a child didn't show themselves as much a problem except for maybe one or two tantrums, but now that I've seen this video, part of me wonders if my ADD still proves to be hyperactive when it comes to my emotions.... it would explain a lot of things.
The very same. I grew up having ADHD, then ADD. I've always been a quiet child, but felt like I wasn't allowed to have emotions, which may not have been true but that was how I internalized my situation. A few decades later and I finally get therapy and find out I have clinical depression and social anxiety. I hope that you do not have or develop these problems. No one deserves this demon.
I have adhd and yeah, I got the hyperactive side quite a lot and it sucks but I the fact that the internalized version is often overlooked is a shame.
I would do things in the moment and then I’d hate myself for it. I would feel so bad and since I was still in second grade at the time this struggle peaked before I was diagnosed I would get mad at myself, which led to unhealthy self harm as a way to punish myself.
Eventually I got diagnosed and got meds which were life savers- The aftermath of finally being more in control led to an insane bottling problem as I had internalized emotions=bad awful side of me to the point where I still struggle to communicate my emotions. I still fight that unhealthy mindset that I’m a monster that needs to control themselves to this day.
Even if it isn’t as overt(like in my case) that mental thought process is extremely painful on its own and is just as much of a struggle as outwardly being impulsive!
Edit(somehow I wrote I “had” adhd instead of have lmao)
Now ADHD and add are all under ADHD as the attentive and inattentive type
Me still watching this knowing I have ADHD and has studied everything I can do to regulate my emotions just to end up not being able to do them: 👁👄👁
I have adhd and autism and I can tell we need to draw attention to ourselves to get help we need sometimes and when are even sometimes told to do this and we just naturally are impulsive usually without influence
It takes time, focus, and planning. You will get there if you keep doing the work. Trust.
I get dysregulated when I specify a need and I am ignored. Frustration takes over after the about third time I repeat my very clear statement and wait…not sure how to regulate if my needs are suddenly met when I lose my shit. It’s like people assume I’m a pushover or will tolerate their crap because I’m quiet and nice? Nope.
Try the DBT Skills workbook. Get hyperfixated on it. Otherwise it's another thing that collects dust
It doesn't matter how much you study things, you have to implement them over and over. Practice them during the day when you're not dysregulated so you can actually remember they exist when you are dysregulated. It's like hacking a path through the jungle, you can read about the proper way to cut vines all day but that won't replace the necessary action of hewing a road. You also cannot go down a road you haven't carved out when you're running from a monster.
Activities you should follow to keep away from impulsivity.
1.Take a time gap before taking any wierd decision.
2.Write down the tentative consequences.
3.Talk to someone to hold you accountable.
4.Have a power nap.
5.Stroll in nature and have a sceneric view.
6.Jot down your goals.
7.Excercise and push your limits harder.
8.Organise your calendar.
9.Listen to soft music for soothing effect.
10.Do not hurt or injure your body or consume any pills which would prove lethal.
All these have helped me lower my impulsivity and hope so will relieve you too.
Yes! The innate reaction of WHY DID I DO THAT, and resorting to self harm as a “punishment” is something I struggled with for years! Thanks for bringing more awareness to this!
I really needed this.. as someone with cPTSD (and possibly BPD + ADHD, not yet diagnosed) feeling like my emotions are within my control is one of my biggest life struggles. It's crippling, even if I excuse myself from others to keep from blowing up *at* them, I'm still regularly having meltdowns.
The music in this one set a rather... It set a mood. Like walking in the dark while angry. I always feel guilty walking away and slamming the door, but I also feel super empty walking away silently. I'm pretty impulsive tho, but it's a cycle I think. It gets better each time the good comes around, and less bad and severe every fall. It's management basically.
Yep, I think it's safe to say I have this. Mood swings, depression, anger, substance abuse.... I avoid confrontation until I explode on someone and I hate that I'm like this!!
Wow. The content and writing quality of this video is kinda amazing. You put a lot of effort into making this one, and it shows. You've managed to capture and present a level of insight that goes beyond just the research, beyond just the information. You've helped your audience make connections that are not obvious and see patterns that can change lives. Congratulations on some excellent work.
They are amazing. 😭💕 If there is Awareness, there is a better Chance of healing. 🌟
As someone with ADHD, BPD, Bipolar and very likely Autism, this hits very close to home.
It's hard to control my emotions sometimes... Though I have my friends point it out and they know about it:)
I want to get therapy anyway, and one of my friends will help me with it
Though without you psych2go, I wouldn't have known there was something wrong, so thank you💜
This video reminds me of whenever I go through depressive episodes. I was born autistic and later on diagnosed with ADHD but also ODD, a.k.a., oppositional defiant disorder. I have looked up some things about ODD but I don't get a lot of videos on this disorder🙁
Yes! This was very helpful and I will share this with everyone I know because this is what happening all around us all and I believe this is the answer I know I’ve been searching for!!
Thanks!!
Just had an emotional breakdown last night, noticing a lot of parallels between what I went through and what is discussed in this video. That’s when I started to recognize all the times I was having trouble regulating my emotions over the years.
If anything, I’m realizing I need to seek professional help at this point. Been without a job and recently lost access to health insurance, so I frankly don’t know what to do at this point.
Ask a sociopath to get an advice about emotions they know the best
First I did Not understand some Things...after a few repeating situations, I realized, that I was triggered by old Childhood Wounds, that Had been imprinted in my flesh and Body system. Sounds crazy hm? Or can U relate?
@@SeelenTaucher Just forget goofy past childhood times, now you are the real you
@@wardonx887 I Like 2 be Goofy. 😁🥴
I legit needed this yesterday for a friend thank y'all
Please keep doing what you do, your mission is really helping people and thank you
its honestly quite shocking, that the simple reason for every mental health problem is either ignorance or having been hurt yourself, everything else is just a consequence of one of these, at least as far as I can see. But the ones who are ignorant wont change and the people who are hurt think it is normal, so there probaply will never be a solution for trauma, no matter where or when
It's all from childhood aka our parents, though of course it can also stem from other traumas... Not everyone handles it the same way, though. I've been through quite alot, and as for me, I've cared enough to realize that the people who've done me wrong have at least taught me how *not* to be, if nothing else. That's how *I* see it, and it makes me want to be a better person----to myself, and to those I care about. Others make excuses for how they project onto others, and refuse to understand how their behavior is hurting themselves and those around them.
I can’t control my emotions for some reasons but I think that those videos were meant for me so thank you 🙏
I appreciate these tips
I have realized for a bit of time now that I personalize internally often when confronted with uncomfortable realities with others,it's caused me to look at mole hills as ginormous mountains and only to get reeled back in by someone else or by my therapist which I'm grateful to have such a awesome therapist!
Thank you so much for your videos I think they’re are invaluable and I wish that everyone knew about them
Honestly, even tho I'm not like diagnosed with this, I can tell I do this a lot now looking back. I'm going to try that STOPP method whenever I feel like that. Thank you for helping me understand this psi!
Great video.
Now dealing with a narcissist.
That very difficult to deal with.
I create playlists here on UA-cam to help me regulate emotionally. I've been diagnosed with bipolar 1 & PTSD & have been learning how to live a healthy lifestyle. Part of that is also finding where I best fit in the world vocationally. I ended up as a CPS(certified peer support) a type of nurse. For mainly emotions. I'm using my life experience's, turned/turning(life on LIFES terms is an ongoing process) weaknesses to strengths to help others & get paid for it.
Some of my playlists are public. It is on my to do list to edit them. Please enjoy. I've also heard others do similar on other musical platforms.
Omgooosh. Cps. 🥰😉🌟 ITS so sad that at my place there is Not much Jobs for this. I Love doing cps IT fills me with Joy. What do you think about Soul Cafes? Not only going to therapy If Forest is already burning, but Soul Cafes with cps Peers and People in Same boat. I felt that the Group Vibes Had been so soothing somehow, coz WE felt respected and understood. What do you think? 💕🥰
I can't say I have emotional dysregulation but whenever I am interacting with my parents I am so impulsive. I don't remember when I talked nicely with them. With other people I behave nicely... I really feel guilty for behaving with my parents like that. They are nice. But no matter how hard I try to control myself... I will behave rudely with them. The reasons could be that I hold grudges towards them... Or something like that or maybe it's just has become my habit? I really suffer intense guilt for doing this... I hope I could change.
that first part my friend put his hand around my neck, and I got surprised and bodied him to the ground and put him in a head lock instantly I didn't know why I did it but after this video I somewhat understood why I attack anyone that surprises me, it's happened a lot of times with a lot of people.
CHANGES DURING ADOLESCENCE
Adolescence is the period when a child becomes an adult. In order to understand it and recognize it more easily, you need to know what changes it brings with it.
The first important change is physical or better known as puberty. Adolescent age begins with puberty, which represents a period of turbulent biological changes and is the most visible sign of the beginning of adolescence. Puberty refers to all the physical changes that occur in a person who passes from childhood to adulthood. The average age at which it starts is 10 years for girls and 12 for boys, but it is very individual for each child. In girls, it lasts a little longer than 18 months to 6 years, while in boys it lasts from 2 to 5 years. The physical changes that are evident during this period are caused by sex hormones. In both boys and girls, the production of sex hormones causes rapid growth and weight gain in this period of life. Biologically speaking, puberty refers to the period when a person becomes capable of sexual reproduction. In boys, a sudden growth of the testicles occurs during puberty, as well as the appearance of pubic hair, and later there is the appearance of hair on the face and body, and the voice becomes deeper. This period is accompanied by internal changes related to the production and ejaculation of sperm. In girls, the first sign of sexual characteristics at puberty is the appearance of breasts as well as pubic laxity. Internal changes refer to the maturation of the entire reproductive system. The first menstruation usually occurs later, usually around the age of 12.
The second change is cognitive. Thinking changes from concrete to abstract and this gives the adolescent completely new possibilities of mental operations. Their thinking becomes more advanced, effective and complex. Adolescents become more capable of thinking about what is possible and not just about what is real, which means they can think hypothetically. He can think more and more about abstract ideas, which means that he understands riddles, metaphors, analogies, etc. more easily. He has an increasing ability to think about interpersonal relations, politics, philosophy, religion, etc. In this period, the person is more and more occupied with the process of thinking - metacognition, where the result can be emphasized introspection (noticing one's own psychological processes). A potentially negative product of this phase can be egocentrism - self-absorption. Thinking itself is becoming more and more multidimensional, without staying in just one area. And what is a big difference in the way of thinking compared to childhood, adolescents understand things more often as relative and not as absolute, they question the intentions of others and do not accept the absolute truth.
The third group of changes includes emotional changes. Adolescence is characterized by numerous emotional changes characterized by a changed way of experiencing oneself and an increasing ability to function independently. Only intellectual maturation and changes in the way of thinking lead to the fact that the adolescent begins to experience himself in a different and more complex way. When they were children, adolescents described themselves relatively simply, while now, in adolescence, they describe themselves much more complex and abstract. As their perception of themselves becomes more abstract, they become more interested in their own personality and behavior. During this period, the adolescent exhibits significant and rapid mood swings. Changes in body, way of thinking, relationships with others disturb the adolescent who often perceives them as frightening. Emotional instability (caused by all the aforementioned changes and additionally increased hormonal activity) is a part of growing up and adolescent events. Depression is very common among adolescents, often as a result of a loss, divorce, etc. The most important loss in the life of an adolescent is the change in relations with parents, but the cause of moodiness can also be relations with friends. You can read more about emotional changes in this age of life here
Social changes are reflected in the importance of an increasing number of peers. During this period, the relationship with society changes in importance and structure. The time an adolescent spends with his peers is getting longer than before. Socializing is now in increasingly large peer groups, and school serves more to locate a friend within its social hierarchy. Peer influence is increasingly strong during this period and it can often be negative when the adolescent begins to do things that are not socially acceptable. During this period, the need for intimacy increases, where confiding in friends becomes very important. One of the significant social changes in adolescence is the emergence of romantic and sexual relationships. For most adolescents, the first sexual experience falls into the category of "autoerotic behavior" that they experience on their own, which includes erotic fantasies and masturbation.
The last change that accompanies adolescence is a change in a person's behavior. Various challenges in this period of life lead the adolescent to experiment with new forms of behavior. This experimentation also results in the appearance of more risky ones forms of behavior that represent a normal part of adolescence. These behaviors are in the service of the adolescent to shape his identity, try out new decision-making abilities, develop a realistic assessment of himself, gain peer acceptance and respect. However, some risks pose a great danger to adolescents and therefore always require control, guidance and direction by parents. Certain negative forms of behavior often lead adolescents into problematic behavior such as alcohol abuse, unwanted pregnancy, communicable diseases, school failure or dropping out of school, crime, delinquency and similarly.
This might be my favorite video yet
Oh jesus I had this yesterday, its so hard to walk back with all the shame I feel aftereards
Jesus teached Peter at the Ocean of Emotion, that He can learned to Walk emotions easily. Storms will Pass. Learning to observe, Not judge, watch, let Go and calm down the Ocean of Emotion and thoughts. 🕊️
The shame can be fought but hang in there. Don’t do what I did and self harm or attack yourself for it, no matter how tempting it may seem. Stay strong!
This was really accurate and helpful, thanks.
I'm 42 and have always been embarrassed by my "tantrums" and "stroppy dramatic behaviour" that I've been labelled with. It's recently become apparent I have undiagnosed ADHD finally I have hope I can understand and manage this part of me without hating myself so much 🤞🏻
as someone with it, it affects my school life by a lot
Do you also have Probs with: Quick moving objects, crowds, loud Places, smells, much light...and stuff? Some have traits If Hsp too
Yup it’s especially intrusive on school as it can ruin friendships and get you in trouble- I know that well.
Love when you upload 😘
Thank you for next useful video.👍It is a human instinct to want to be noticed, taken seriously, and loved. So in a certain way, attention-seeking behaviors come from a place that most of us can understand. Sometimes the attention-seeking behaviors are motivated by a feeling of loneliness, and social media is a fake solution for that.
Finally a video for my boyfriend because I'm tired of explaining because he always blames me for judging him...
Today I punched my best friend in the face and he is heavily injured... I'm so ashamed of myself, my body moved before my mind worked and I ended up injuring him for a simple silly stupid reason... This video helped me so much, thank you
Very useful. Thanks
That was extremely helpful, thank you so much much !
I am in full control of emotions amd approach everything in a cognative manner. Emotions do not control me.
benefits of implusivty quick thinking creativity bravery/risk taking improvising spontaneous and adabtabilty it isn't always bad it just needs to be balanced out with thoughtful consideration
I was gaslight into suppressing my emotions before. Never again.
Exactly, led to self harm and a unhealthy mindset I’m still fighting today.
Great video thank you 🙏🏻
i have issues registering my emotions, and i don’t know why or what to do about it, though i’m trying to basically look at what i’m feeling at any moment and just allow myself to feel something that isn’t emotional pain
You should keep a journal and write how you feel each day
I cry a lot but I'm not trying to manipulate or control anyone... I tell them I know it seems like a lot and that I cannot control the physical side of it. It always happens when it's near my period and it comes without warning I don't know what to do I'm affecting the people around me and I really don't want to.
As usual, an amazing video expect I found this one a bit uncomfortable.
To start with, the Will Smith example, I really don't think it is an appropriate example of such as it seems to me that he wasn't doing a wrong thing, at least at that moment.
Secondly, what is a normal way to react with? The massage I get from the video is, "don't let your emotion out and when you let it out, you are the bad guy. "
I can't help but getting a massage in this video is telling us to suppress our emotion which I myself don't find positive.
Thank you so much. I was extremely unregulated before I was medicated and my self image and self thinking constantly suppresses emotions and calls myself a horrible person if I lose control of myself. My brain constantly antagonizes myself in every situation thanks to this message being drilled into my skull by multiple therapists, my parents, and everyone practically
And I’m still trying to work out of it to this day.
To be honest with you psych2go that’s happened to me twice in college I get the emotions to the best of me and storm out the classroom at any moment and it does attend to stress me out but I’m trying to learn myself to be positive which I learned from a teacher assistant which again I’m trying to be happy as I can and be nice to others to get myself a gold heart but I feel like I need to work harder for it
I relate to this as someone whose autistic and have ADHD…
Its cool how you change your style every video
I have experienced this firsthand, I can't control my anger, and it ruins my social life for years by now
It's very hard to deal with it because you can become an easy target to bullying and other stuff
I lost all of my friends last year because I called people out on a very aggressive way for some reason and because of my reaction, they just didn't want to be my friend anymore
Now I sit alone in the corner every day, because of this angry impulse
Amazing content, sums it up.
Interesting article the more I hang around this channel the more I am given food for thought, the thing that I seem to come to know is if someone is in a between space direct logic has to decide "what am I understanding here?" And there lays a strange concept that knowledge tends to make think in a more absolute way, yet absolute thinking is not bad but knowing how to apply it like a seasoning is the trick often sat in perception yet also perception can stick to what has been seen before hence knowledge and experience are two distinct yet interconnected concepts but methods in what is applied may not be flawed as much as knowing a that it must adjust to situation.
Am I an overthinker? Yes, but it can be an asset.
as someone how have it, it's all my childhood my family never told me how for this some time then I talk I can cry for no reason or get hurt fast and my class mate try to talk with me but I don't want to even anger or other think
I never knew that emotional dysregulation could turn you into a toxic person.
0:31 sorry that's an example of emotional abuse from his wife...
8:38 you know when you really get triggered you more or less become blinded by rage and well I don't think you are able to perform those actions in such state, if you are able to perform those actions can you say that you have been really triggered. So in other words it's more about how much trigger resistance you have rather than what techniques you use but yes if you manage to think calmly about the situation you will certainly come up with a better solution compared to an outburst...
9:04 "distance yourself from your emotions" sounds quite wrong because all you need to do that is self-awareness, and well some people hate it when their emotions make them self-aware and that is why we have hook-up culture...
How does self aware emotions relate to hook up culture
Great topic
I’m not really someone with ADHD, autism or anything like that and I also don’t like self diagnosing myself
with anything at all. However I know most of my life I wasn’t able to regulate my emotions most times and as I grew older my parents would be sad how I didn’t react to when they did something nice for me. It’s not that I didn’t appreciate it but I didn’t know how I was supposed to react. Other times even at the tiniest things I would start throwing a tantrum and start screaming throwing pillows. I guess I’m not really good at acting for the least of it 😅 I really do want to be able to control my feelings and have normal reactions to things at the right times. I guess it’s better then the past since I would sometimes randomly start getting angry and start scratching myself. This is just me rambling since I know nobody will most likely read this, I did enjoy writing my true thoughts tho 😊
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It's hard for me when people sound iratated then boom I vocally reacted (I'm thinking of getting a mental health evaluation) I'm kind of like that guy at the beginning of the video that is like hey what's up then they get upset then I question my self thinking it's my fault then they get more upset and they get frustrated then I vocally react and basically have a breakdown.
1:05 broooo cbt is my favourite thing
Helped me soooo much. And Awareness Channels Like Psych2go and some more and talking directly with my Friends and dears about my stuff, helped to be more Patient with myself and them too.
@@SeelenTaucher I hope you know that cbt has two meanings
@@eeveelutiongaming69 No Tell me? Cognitive behavior Training, that is what I Talk about. What Else do U mean?
@@SeelenTaucher I am sorry little one
Thank you
CPTSD and TBI. I'm learning.
when i heard that not being able to control my emotions was ADHD, it relieved me a little. I have ADHD, I tend to have outburts of different emotions every once in a while. Most of time, i end up in troubke for it. I've always tried to explain to people that i try not to do it but it just happens sometimes, nobody believes me. ADHD is so hard.
Dw! I had constant outbursts in second grade before I was diagnosed and I would constantly be in trouble for it! Even now with my meds, I still sometimes have outbursts, (that time I put burrs in a kids hair cause they hurt my friends feeling for example) It’s so damn hard to stop sometimes, it almost feels like by the time you realize what’s going on it’s already happened.
4:10 OMG its a mean girls reference I watched the movie
How else are you supposed to get people's attention. Being nice doesn't seem to their attention. But angry out bursts do
I’ve seen a lot of roleplaying shenanigans in MMOs that I used to play where something doesn’t go someone’s way, so they just “die”, by “suicide” or whatever “ailment” is happening to them. To make matters worse, if I do give them the attention they seek, they’re too stubborn to accept my “healings” of any kind I know, magic or no magic. Sometimes I suspect that they may even want me to do “CPR” when they actually want to kiss my avatar, like a pervert or at least that one kid in The Sandlot.
All that did was make it harder for me to roleplay nowadays, and make my own characters lost confidence and trust in helping other players… because they don’t play nice AT ALL
Could it be Emotional Dysregulation? Probably. But it’s so manipulative, that it ruined my passion for roleplaying. If you guys really “need” attention, there are plenty of better ways than to cry virtual crocodile tears or pretend to “die a horrible death”!
Everyone keeps saying something is wrong with me 😢😢😢😢
I go to therapy but nothing happens 😢
Being impulsive makes me sick of my stomach
Dear Psych2Go, what would you suggest to someone who is easy to anger and thus make them lose sense and easy to make laugh and then pushed around
What if you can't remove your self and stress and anxiety really build up while someone is iratated and said no, get used to it?
I watched this video because my current job is in jeopardy and my boss says it's because I have trouble with "emotional regulation." I'm autistic and I had a much harder time controlling my emotions as a kid, reacting very loudly to mean or unpredictable things when other people thought it wasn't called for. I'd like to think I'm better at handling these things now, but apparently it's not good enough for the office, so at this point I don't know what to do. All my life people have been telling me to think before I react, but that's way easier said than done. My thoughts and plans for the day are like a house, a safe place that I built, and the mean or unpredictable things other people do are like someone setting the house on fire or crashing a car through the window. That's not something you just react calmly to. Any advice?
Consider an ADHD assessment..most Autistics have both.
I used to be like this in middle school straight to anger
This is what cost me many relationships
And the last situation that happened with my friend, he noticed now is that when they were waiting to enter their class, she was with her friends, and suddenly the guy she liked appeared at her friend's place in the place where they were her friends Because he too had to come To wait with the rest to enter the class, as she was normal looking only like that because she did not see him because her friends were hiding from her and she could not see him, but only this way she looked from a certain direction until that boy she loved appeared and the place she was looking at was what as you think Because it is the same place where he appeare The boy she likes So he looked at her and did not move from his place And with that, the two looked at each other, and she was shocked, and she could not look away. This matter continued for a few seconds, and he looked away and continued his way, perhaps, but then she looked at her friend and said, perhaps he was looking at her friend because sheHe was close to her and she thought he was looking at her and she was also looking at him or she said maybe he wasn't looking at her either And he looked behind her, and there was something or his friend behind her, or he was looking for the class in which we would study, and he finished. You really what do you think of that please answer me
Please answer me, I am very confused
Barely even 20 seconds in and I’m thinking, “all of the above?”
the sound the text made scared me at 1st😶😶😶
I know there are people with mental illness, not dismissing that at all. But sometimes it is just bad behavior. Period, end of story. Some people in prison do suffer from mental illness. Do they get therapy and meds to treat it in there? Doubt it.
If that happens because it triggers the trauma of bullying and humiliation of self-esteem, then there should be no expression of action?
While this does explain the massive decline in emotional health compared to previous decades, there are definitely some things that I do not agree with here.
1. People are not all either conflict-avoidant or conflict-seeking. Nothing about the human mind is black-and-white like that. In fact, I find that most people are somewhere in between. A truly conflict avoidant person despises conflict to the point that even things like competing in a board game does not appeal to them. They will engage in conflict only when absolutely necessary. My mother is this way. On the opposite side of the coin, people who truly seek conflict, like my dad, will instinctively contradict others and switch sides in an argument, just to keep the argument going. My sister, a special education teacher, says that this is very common among people with Asperger’s Syndrome. More toward the middle of the spectrum on conflict seeking/avoidance are two types: the “go-getters” and the “go-with-the-flow” types. The first group consists of people who are highly competitive. They don’t shy away from conflict, but they don’t necessarily enjoy it either. The second group is able to compete for fun, but tends to shy away away from other types of conflict when they can. I am more of the first type, but my best friend is the second.
2. Being “dramatic” does not mean you are attention-seeking, nor does it mean that you lack the ability to regulate your emotions. SOME of us just have very lively personalities and cannot help but be a bit dramatic at times. If emotions are a form of energy, then ours cannot help but burst out. That’s not to say we can’t control our outbursts-we learn how to clamp down on our more negative emotions to prevent them from running amok-but it does mean that ALL of our emotions are very big. So when we’re happy, EVERYONE knows it. It’s not that we have ADHD (for many of us, our attention spans are perfectly fine), but we do have a lot of energy, and we don’t often bother to contain that which doesn’t cause any harm. Incidentally, for people like myself whose lively nature means that our emotions are very big, being able to clamp down and contain our reactions temporarily doesn’t mean we can get away with not releasing them later on. We have to take time to unleash that energy in a safe environment-whether it’s crying and screaming into a pillow or beating the mattress with our fists, that’s part of how we process and work through our feelings. Just because it doesn’t LOOK like emotional regulation from the more mellow person’s perspective doesn’t mean that isn’t what it is.
With regards to my second point, I will point out that while I am dramatic IRL, I am actually very private about my emotions online. Likewise, being dramatic by nature does not make you a gossip, nor does it mean that you enjoy gossip. I actually abhor gossip and generally avoid people that I know are prone to gossiping about others, spreading unfounded rumors, or simply failing to check the facts.
Yes, I am dramatic by nature, and yes, I do have trouble regulating my emotions as a result of trauma-though this is partially because people often confuse *regulating* emotions with *suppressing* them.
But I’m also private about my personal disagreements and I despise gossip.
Wait he didn't punch him, he slapped him... hard! 😬
Hi Sun Biscuit how you doin' 😎
This is the ego. The ego is always looking for problems to solve. When it doesn't have enough problems it looks or even starts drama. I project my frustrations about the injustice in the world when I am not focused on my own problems I look at the worlds problems like I have some savior complex. My anger outbursts is usually impulsive from overwhelming frustration. Or I will have some sort of unresolved conflict that I am dealing with and projecting.
I would a never thought to hear the Will Smith slap being talked about on Psych2Go 😂
I never heard of flouncing and thought this was normal and everyone did it.. Appears I am a big flouncer. Well in real life then not on SM 😳
im a INPT
Honestly the “will smith” approach to life is polygonal and accepted in most bars, as far as wether her feelings are to be defended as to the context of their relationship is their personal business. the roast of ….
Will Smith...heavy pain Enfp. Uh...
this was a kind of weird, unempathetic view of emotional dysregulation. I sent it to a friend so he could understand my bipolar and then i was watching it and had to message him and tell him not to watch it. What is up with calling people drama queens or implying they are manipulative for having these issues? really tacky.
okay Will Smith didn't punch Chris Rock in the face, it was a slap and also its just as likely he did it on prepose for similar reasons such as his respect woman mentality, though I don't have enough evidence to firmly state my own case on the subject, as most of what I just said was based on what was already said by another youtuber by the name of Gentlemen's Game ether way, I think that claiming we have the answers to what happens inside the head of celebrities is futile
Thank you
This! ^
Well, if more than many times. We have the right to slap it up to people's faces on what they are doing too. Who triggers to annoy and provoke?
I did that too, but was Not OK, since IT Had nothing to do with them, but Had been triggers from Childhood Wounds, unseen, unhealed.
@@SeelenTaucher The situations are different. And what they're doing was disrespectful, with no morality, gossiping, mockery, interfering in other lives with no good intention at all, obstructing success, business matters, and the privacy of other people without learning their limits to respect other people's boundaries. I fully know that I never had childhood traumas that are Not healed at all. Perhaps, it was their family dynamics and I can see it dragging other people's lives of their scars, and insecurities, trying to manipulate others to feel better about themselves that that is something can feel they can have to rule over someone whether it is not for the betterment of the other person and just simply being narcissistic in a subtle way. I know.
@@pinktequilla Ah I See. So they simply Had different prios and behaved Not healthy, which Made U feel worse Overtime. Hope U will find people WHO Take Care of Ur Feelings more. Are you infj or infp?
@@SeelenTaucher Appreciate it, dear. Well, the majority of their priorities are like crab 🦀 mentality... And kind of selfish ways. so, I do not think it is too worth it. So, just fully ignore and I have my own high priorities too that they must learn to respect and this is my life, not theirs. They think highly of themselves yet throw that garbage on me. What complicated people? Hmmm, dang good reading personalities. What's your name?
@@pinktequilla You are right. 💪🏻☺️ Arent WE all a Bit complex? Enfps Like me have many names, coz my Name ist Not relevant, but the Vibes and Soul Matters Most. Mostly my Name is "Hey You" 😆😉🌈
im at cams for ADHD but have got some trauma form the passed is it ok if you don't want anyone to tuch you
I don't know if I'm remember their skin color white 🤣 I'm joking. Thank you for this video it open a new view I never knew it existed.
Going through it
Let's talk about it?
@@DoubtingThomas333 how do I control it
@@Iamacat510take some sit down and think about what you have been doing and how you can handle it more appropriately.
when taking some big decisions always remember that you are not angry, sad, hungry or anything else.
Think calmly then decide
Let's start with what culture you are from? Your family life and upbringing? Do you generally have good health, or are you not feeling good at the moment?
Why does that music sound like people who are emotionally dysregulated sound evil. Thats not true. And what do you mean people who avoid confrontation and people who thrive off of confrontation. I am a very outspoken person. I do have BPD, but im only confrontational if someone hurt my feelings its not an malicious intent or to stir up the the pot, and even if im in the wrong its coming from a place of trauma or fear. This video really rubbed me the wrong way. And the people who avoid confrontation are usually the people who are fake and cant deal with problems in a healthy manner. So they either talk crap behind your back or completely ghost you with out taking accountability or explaining themselves.
the background music in the beginning....
nothing like explaining psychology with that kind of deep thinking conspiracy music
What if you were told (everything you do expected to get fuse at)?
This is my girl with BPD and bipolar
I have a friend who does this constantly. I'm trying to figure out how to work with them.
As someone whose struggled with outbursts, it’s best to be patient and understanding while also making sure that they still are held accountable if they hurt your feelings or you. If they are very angry, It may be best to give them some space to work through it.
@@novinovi- thank you. I am still here for them always will be unless they hurt me too deeply again.
@@ibcheel9021 of course, you need to set boundaries! Friendships are meant to bring you up, not tear you down! It doesn’t matter if the other person is struggling, that doesn’t mean they can get away with hurting your feelings. The fact you’re there for them is wonderful and I wish I had more people in my life like you when I was struggling.