How Healthy People Regulate Their Emotions
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- Ever wonder how healthy people regulate their emotions? In this video, we’ll explore what emotional regulation can look like in everyday life. From handling negative emotions to developing emotional maturity, we’re sharing ideas on how people might approach healthy emotional expression and manage their emotional responses. This isn't a strict guide, just some thoughts, and research on emotion regulation strategies that can support mental health and overall well-being. If you're curious about emotional regulation, mental health care, or just exploring feelings and basic emotions, this video offers a few insights that might resonate with you.
#emotions #mentalhealth
Disclaimer: This video is for informational purposes only and is not intended as professional advice.
Writer: Sara Del Villar
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Marlon
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
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Take a min. Walk away, say you will get back with the person. Practice deep breathing or grounding techniques. Choose how you want to respond, not impulsively react. There is a big difference. Then, when you’re ready, continue the conversation. Great coping skills given here. Practice makes progress. ❤
That only works If the person you're arguing with respect's your feelings most times this isn't the case if you practice controlling your emotions during an argument then you'll be able to remain calm and change the outcome of most arguments now how do you do this by your goal meaning more than how you feel example imagine a loved one is drowning and you're terrified of water yet you still jump in why? Because the goal meaning saving your loved one is more important than how you feel see when it comes to emotions they are volatile and quick one must learn how to control that mind you you're human so not every time you'll be able to do this but it's worth practicing
Yes exactly @@eugenekrabs3837
Me too, bruh. Me too. And I'm just in my 30's right now.
Deep breathing saved my life!
Yes and thank you!
0:33 Recognize your emotions
1:15 Embrace Awareness
2:00 Flip the Script
2:44 Express Yourself
3:21 Lean on Others
4:14 Nourish your Body
4:54 Stress Less
5:37 Seek Help When Needed
Nice
Thank you very much!
This is very helpful, especially when I resort back to this video for help when I'm having a rough time.
Wow!
I think i'm pretty healthy! My therapist was wrong
❤🙏🏽 Thank you!!
The college I went to did a controversial thing and made all stem students take a class in interpersonal dynamics and despite being a chemist working at one of the biggest chemical research institutions in the world I'm pretty sure what I learned in that class has been better for my career and life in general than any courses I took on chemistry. Simply learning how to navigate disagreements and the fallout from them with grace is probably the best thing I learned in college.
Could you provide links or search keywords to search online or anything that could help me to learn this as well?
Do all chemist struggle with grammar or just you??
Yes please - seconding what Bug_Hunt asked!!
@@JB-pe2yn You might want to figure out what makes you such a nasty person.
I’m so glad to hear that. I think we should have those types of classes in primary and secondary schools.
Hello! Someone who catastrophizes a lot here and is trying to work on it. It’s hard to rewire your brain and in the moment it does feel like it won’t change. Listen to that little voice in you that you will get through it. You will be okay. Yes, in the moment, you will feel like you can’t, but reach out. Call a therapist or a help line or a friend. Let yourself cry and feel without shame. And trust me, I need to be reminded of this too. But I promise, you will be alright. It will pass and you will come out the other side. You’re brilliant, don’t forget it
Thank you ❤ I wish you all the Best right back! God Bless you for your kindness 😊
Sorry to hear that you catastrophize so much and I am glad you are working on it, you are correct it is hard to rewire our brain, but consistency is the key.
I had a deep fear of abandonment and sought out a therapist. After about half a year of therapy, she suddenly started commenting how much better I was doing and how I was improving, even though to me it didn't seem that way at all. On the last session we had she said cheerfully that I was doing so well, she didn't think I needed therapy anymore. I was stunned. I told her I thought she was wrong, and I felt far from better, let alone "ready to leave therapy". After some discussion it came out that really she had been offered a position on a psychology investigative team and she had to stop seeing her current clients, which is why she had been pushing me to believe that I was better. Like the beaten dog I am, I wished her good luck on the project and assured her I would be fine.
Now I am going through really hard times and my SO insists I try to find a professional to talk to, but I can't help but distrust them. How do I regain trust in therapy when literally someone I was paying not to abandon abandoned me too?
What she did was appalling and what a horrible therapist ….. you’re wonderful ❤ she’s not! I’m sorry this happened to you. Please take care and try again when you’re ready.
I would suggest occupational therapy. The team is composed of a nurse, a psychologist, psychyatrist, social worker, and an occupational therapist. Where I live, you can go to this whenever you want, no fixed timetable, and stay as long as you like. You will engage in various activities and talk to them on a daily basis, should you decide to go. I would say this is way better than going to a therapist because they are not focused on getting you ready to face life on your own, mostly. Here, the aim is to fully recover from whatever illness you are struggling with. It can also be just an unability to cope with stress, emotional regulation, and fear of abandonment. It's up to you, of course, but I think this is way better. Good luck! :)
@@anasavic6914may I ask where you live? Are you in the UK? I’m currently under this scheme but I haven’t had the occupational therapist out to see me though I did request it. What’s been your experience of this service? I find it next to impossible to disclose how I’m feeling other than angry and apathetic which doesn’t help my case when I see different people each time. I find it challenging seeing different people. Silly really
This is just my opinion for whatever it’s worth. I’ve had this experience that you described in my own way and it was very difficult. It sounds to me like you would like to continue the therapeutic process so you would just need to tell Potential therapist that this happened to you and agree with them as to how they would handle moving on from therapy. You need someone who understands what you’ve been through and you could agree with on how you would end therapy at the time that it’s appropriate. Just bring this up with any potential therapist and see how they respond to you and how you feel in their presence. Sorry that happened to you.
the tree wont leave your side (cause you roped to it)
3:57 “sharing your feelings with others can provide comfort” as a man. A lot of the time when I try to share with others. Especially online. Theres a new trend of being told “you’re trauma dumping” and people just ignore you
ya gotta find somebody who is truly open and willing to listen and have that conversation with u, which can definitely be challenging sometimes.
i’m sorry that happens, try to find someone who doesn’t think that way, everyone should feel able to feel their emotions and share ❤
So sorry, its sad as a society we don't like it when men are vulnerable, but there are ppl out there who will listen to you. I hope you find them
If you are online, don't say you are a man, or go to a better forum/thread. If you're suffering from this IRL, then you need better company
@@BassRemedy those kinds of friends are extremely rare saying "you just gotta find someone who is truly open" is like telling a homeless person to just go buy a house
Daily Cardio has definitely helped me on the emotional front.
My Doctor recently told me that he wishes he could prescribe fitness to patients.
I’m very bad at regulating my emotions, so this was very helpful. For most of my life, I’ve used skin picking and overeating to regulate my emotions which has definitely been harmful. It evolved to include some drinking and sex when I got older too. I need to stop using physical sensations to distract from the mental and emotional ones.
Wow! Same here! All of it! Glad to know you're getting through it. Feel free to come back here and talk to me if you need it. I'm here to listen. 🤗
How to change this coping ? I overeat n skinpick too...
For my life it has mostly been small moments of self harm. I just started the video but I'm hoping it can help
Ketamine therapy. Look it up in your area. See if it’s right for you health wise.
I went through it for other, deeper emotional traumas, but coincidentally stopped biting my nails without even trying. You’d be surprised how effective it can be.
No, you don't have to stop using physical sensations for distraction - just use the right one: Try "Self-Havening". It's an amazing method to deal with emotions.
Her voice instantly calms my emotions 🧘
I can absolutely agree with the first statement! A missed opportunity for years. We were just told to buck up and get on with life, which is clearly not working for today's generation. We need an informed and proven method to teach children about managing emotions in a healthy manner.
we do have that- look up DBT skills.
I rarely to never needed help from others to regulate my emotions, in fact spending more time alone away from dramatic people has made me an emotionally stronger person. No one should expect their relationships to meet all their needs that they're responsible to meet for themselves.
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There's some truth to that, but then if taken to an extreme and we aren't helping one another meet any needs, what's the point of the relationship, no matter what type?
Thanks!
This is the kind of stuff that should be required to be learned in middle/high school years to help people cope with new emotions and establish better emotional habits before they hit the wall of adulthood. We can easily give up one class for like a year or two to teach this stuff.
@@ReanimatedBlueJay I think it starts with parents when they are toddlers
There are curriculums available for elementary school aged children that can be used to teach this. Unfortunately, this usually takes a lower priority to other subjects and many students don't get this unless they qualify for special education. Even then it only happens if their behavior impacts their ability to demonstrate learning (test scores). At that point, the student is likely pulled from the general education class for separate instruction. The rest of the students are expected to pick this up as part of the "classroom management" the teacher implements in the classroom.
Despite the number of things listed in this video, I still struggle with emotional regulation because of having ADHD, autism, depression, and anxiety, and a brain injury before I was born. I also have alexithymia, which makes it hard for me to put my emotions into words for people to understand me.
Things get very complicated when your own brain doesn’t work the way it should when you’re dealing with emotional regulation issues, so I have to keep an even larger tool box of strategies to help me with regulating my emotions.
You are really brave 💪🏼
Stay strong, love of love & virtual hugs.❤🫂
same with me (except the brain injury) - what have you found useful in being *aware* that you are or have become dysregulated. All of these techniques on this video do not address this very basic concept that is at the core of dysregulation - being aware. I meditate, use alarms and notes and Im fine and then someone cuts me off in traffic and all that goes right out the window ... so any insights on that?
I strongly relate to this. It’s difficult with how society doesn’t see mental health as a priority, plus it’s not generally noticed how social media can add to distress through escapism and paying our emotional health any mind.
The problem is you're labeling all these things and you've identified with them. Know that your brain is highly elastic and can change with a change of perception and habits. Try doing yoga, journaling and exercise. Keep less time on the phone and more on long engaging tasks. Your brain would rewire itself
@@mrog2433 educate your ignorant self and never recommend yoga for disabled people again. You're wasting your time and our patience. Again, educate yourself.
This video has shown up after two weeks of back to back migraines, tension in my shoulder so severe that I couldn't turn my neck and when someone used a massage gun on it they were "hitting hard resistance" and "watching involuntary movement", and worsening hair loss. So perfect timing really.
Also it is important to remember that people will experience emotions differently- even family! For example, some people respond to rage by wanting to break something, while others respond to rage by fleeing. This can be affected by genetics, the environment one grew up in, and personal experiences.
I used to compare my emotional responses to others’ (a bad habit I still struggle with to be honest), but with some work I am better at treating myself with kindness
I came upto your channel cause I was so stressed out, I know your videos could help me out.
Great video. But sharing your bad thoughts with friends has it's limit. I almost lost someone, because they offered to be there for me and it was going round and roud in circles, I was never chill. Got called crazy. Now I'm kind of not allowed to express it anymore, because it makes them uncomfortable. I told them I must be draining and they kept taking it until it was too much. Like, if any of you have enough of somebody's complaining, maybe tell them. If I knew, I would find other ways to handle it. But I'm very grateful they were there for me. It's just not the same and I wouldn't feel relief expressing it anymore.
You have to be mindful of other people's emotional and mental capacity and time. Sharing too many negative thoughts with someone can bring them down, too. Free emotional labor from friends definitely is limited. Sometimes it's best to pay a professional therapist.
This kinda was the reason my ex broke up with me, i kept seeing everything on the negative side and it started bringing her down and down and she had to leave for her own sake. ive been a wreck since it happened i wish i had known the harm i was doing to her before it was too late
It is exactly what is going on with me ... but with my younger sister
Wired I just went threw this with my sister a few weeks ago. I said I'd be there for her. Everytime she called it was always so she could vent. I blew up at her and told I can't do this anymore. I can only hear the same thing so many times before I'm like then leave the asshole.
Im this Kind of friend which ppl go to and vent and share all their stuff with me. Dump everything and then leave. It's so draining. I myself never had a person in my life who I could talk to day and night, so I wanted to be that person. But to be honest it's to much. Everyone has its difficulty in life and I'm not a dumping ground. I'm a person with feelings and my own issues and problems. With some ppl even boundaries and honesty wont help. They constantly need to complain and won't stop and just focus on the bad stuff. I had to cut off friendships with a lot of ppl because they just used me for dumping their problems at me. I think it's nice that ppl trust me but as i said I'm a person with my own issues and feelings who wants to be respected and acknowledged.
I have a hard time regulating my emotions
You are Not alone with that! Do whatever you want and don't let society regulate you!❤
Makes sense...
Same
I do too
I have a hard time feeling any emotion that isn't anger & sadness.
A book that changed so much for me is a book on transactional analysis. ‘I am ok you’re ok’. I am putting this here in the hope that it will help someone as it helped me. God bless the therapist who shared this book with me.
2 year olds are allowed to express emotions. As adults in most circles, you aren’t supposed to have them.
Yeah, we get shunned then.
Absolutely. Imo it‘s legit to be violent at times.
I have a hard time regulating my emotions. I usually fight them off and try to ignore them or get rid of them. I often judge myself for feeling my emotions. I am working on freely expressing myself without judgment. Music is my way of expressing myself through improvisational music. Playing many different instruments or singing as a form of communication and regulation. Deep breathing and meditation are also beneficial. I also enjoy being outside, doing sensory activities that bring me joy, peace and comfort. I do use a lot of negative self talk when I’m feeling dysregulated, mainly punishing myself for feeling that way. But I feel like music is such a safe place for me to express those emotions without judgment. I’m also in music therapy, which I find to be very beneficial.
CPTSD?
@ yes
As hard is it is, I try to find the little things in life to make me happy, acknowledge the good and acknowledge the bad, feel when you need to.
Kakyoin! :D
I do that too when I’m at a low point in my life and it really does help
Another Kakyoin :DDD
I’ve had this pfp for years and never changed it 😭
I don't actually have any emotions any more. My depression has pretty much amputated them and cauterized the stumps. I fluctuate between anger and apathy.
Same. For almost 2 decades now...
Sometimes being aware of my body can show me just how little I am able to feel at the moment. Even that information is helpful for me to begin finding solutions or making positive change
I do all of these when im going through high stress times or one of my over-stimulated breakdowns. The one that helped the most with getting me out of those tailspins was acting as two people having a conversation. One being the teacher (in a zen sense) who would outloud ask "what are you feeling?" And thus responding outloud with the honesty answer and going back and forth until i had better perspective of how i was feeling and more importantly why i was feeling that way. Once i am able to understand and recognize this, it gave me the control and power to accept and reassess.
I'm not really any good at finding good outlets/friends to communicate my feelings with...but somehow I live with it and can work through it. I'm much happier and better off than I was. I just wish I could find at least one actual friend
I relate so much 🥲🥲 ive worked on myself and im much better now but i dont have anyone who i share everything with iykwim
Emotions are like Wi-Fi signals-sometimes strong, sometimes dropping out! Loved how you explained. Now if only there was a way to boost my 'emotional signal' when I'm feeling down!
thx for explaining this makes sense
Sometimes I just don’t know if I’m feeling 'good' or 'bad,' let alone why.
I’m also looking for ways to manage stress better and find healthy outlets for my feelings. It’s a bit overwhelming trying to do it all on my own.
I found that talking with friends and journaling helps, but I’m curious if anyone has found a solid tool for daily emotional check-ins
Not to be negative, but i personally hate when people say lean on others or talk to a trusted friend or family member. I'm not speaking for everyone, but I personally dont have any trusted people I can talk to. That's why I'm here. Obviously, if i had someone to talk to and connect with, that would be my first option. These types of suggestions really trigger tf out of me.
I understand. Some people said this way bcs family is growing up alongside you or since you are born. They know you in deeper level. Many of us the outsiders avoid to judge bcs not want to hurt you. It's more than what people can see with their eyes. Beneath the surface, there should be more than that. I would say if you not have any support from family to seek help from profesional. It's a challenge to find a good doctor that has some traits like good listener, not judging and keep open minded, loving and supportive individual. But they are study human psychology and probably the best to talk with.
@@Enifspe55756I don't have the money to seek a "professional"
@Enifspe55756 I don't have money to seek a "professional". These are all the most unhelpful generic answers ever
Hi. I think suggestions like those are for people like me. I'm a very closed off person and until very recently, didn't feel comfortable sharing my feelings with anyone because I'd believed it was a sign of weakness. I'm surrounded by supportive people that I'm grateful for but I never could open up to them because I thought listening to my feelings will burden them.
@@MultiGirl144 that's nice. I have no idea what that feels like
I really needed this thank you! :c
Clicked as soon as i saw the notification cause i desperately need this
Also 27 emotions?! Bro i only know 4 😭
I'm thankful for this channel for helping me become more emotionally mature
This channel opened my eyes in the darkest point of my life. When I thought I was the problem, everything was my fault and I was depressed because I wanted to. I’m glad the knowledge you guys share helped me take that blindfold off. And helped me overcome the things I struggled with so much. I’m glad this channel still releases videos.❤
3:00 Me like a child: If I am sad, than I simply express it via crying. If I am angry, I got a geumpy voice and not turn out of door and if I feel happy I smile and so on...
There should be classes for psychological and emotional issues and challenges! It would probably make a major difference for the whole human population! One can only wish and hope, but maybe one day it will manifest into reality! Bye and have a good one!
Back in the day, that was called PE class. At least it was in my school. Every other week we would switch between sitting in a classroom and learning about our bodies ( physical and mental/emotional) and physical exercise.
I have a channel that's about educating people on Psychology and life issues, I call it school of life
Yes, I'm so tired listening on my neighbor who keeps complaining on how she failed on cooking the food she sells... literally everyday...
As an adult, i can admit that i'm still learning how to regulate my emotion. Plus, i have social anxiety and depression. I will isolate myself and cut off everyone when i feel overwhelmed and my energy is off
The one thing that I really wish is also taught is how to be open-minded to our emotions. I have seen what happens to those who have been raised not having that is disheartening. It makes them emotionally stunted and almost unable to adapt easily.
I agree. It's like shameful to express emotion. That's why many people don't want to talk about it or not want to seek therapy (even for once). It makes them feel guilty, even more stressed or appear weak. That's why if someone coming to me and suddenly express their emotion, I will try hard not to judge them. Maybe they just want me to listen and not say a word. 🤔
@@Enifspe55756 Religious cults make it even worse.
At this point, I'm sure I need all the help I can get for learning to regulate my emotions! But I was also half-afraid that this video wouldn't be much help for me ... and I was right!
I am not surprised by this outcome, though. I was formally diagnosed with autism and ADHD this last November, but I've known about the autism since February, and the ADHD since April; since then, I've been learning a lot about these, and one of the big things to watch out for is "alexithymia", an inability to recognize emotions unless they're really "big" (and by then it might be too late, and cause meltdowns and shutdowns). There are strategies for recognizing when you're feeling certain emotions, and it's possible to look back on what you've gone through in a day or a week and make connections between your feelings and what happened to you ... but it takes conscious effort to do these things! And I'm naturally in the beginning stages of doing so ....
If you wanna cry or laugh just do it don't stop yourself bcz it release our mentality or physically stress and anxiety don't try to control your emotions just try to calm yourself and seek help from others as the video show ♡
@@juni629 I can control my emotions without help from others very easily
But asking for help is not a weak thing
I love to cry whenever feeling sad, no matter if its in front of People or by myself. I am an open book anyway.
Using mindfulness and allowing myself to acknowledge my feelings has been a game changer for me since my husband passed away.
As a CPTSD sufferer, the most surprising symptom I've encountered is that I've always had deregulated emotions, but I wasn't aware of it for decades because I was suppressing my own emotions and mirroring the emotions of others around me my whole life. I'm in therapy now, and that is where I started learning all about this. The coping strategies in this video are very similar to the strategies that I've been recently learning about. I'm still working on implementing them, as it is a lot harder than a healthy brain can imagine.
Omg, thank you so much for this. Just now I was feeling terrible and this video showed up. I have been feeling physically sick due to my mental stress. Ever since my college finished, and am now waiting for my University reply, I am the one doing all the house chores. And the thing is that my family does not appreciate me at all, except for my sister. I would work till I am sick and they would tell me to do more. Don't get me wrong, I love cleaning and keeping my body active, but sometimes... I just feel like a servant.
This is very informative video about how we regulate our emotions.
I LOVE your channel/team!!! You are helping so many people!! You all ROCK!!! Sometimes, a rootbeer floats helps with emotional moments, too!! 🥤 💕🙂
I feel like this is spotlighting "healthy" people.
Obviously if you've been traumatized or something negative, you exactly aren't healthy or pure anymore but they can be regulated to be healthier but not perfect.
It's a "how to," paradigm.
I can understand that it sounds really hard to do in that state of mind. I've been there too and still am struggling with it. It even feels like all your efforts are in vain and not worth the time. Even stepping back sounds ridiculous. I personally need a therapist to help me step back mentally and emotionally. I'm 31 and still struggle with my emotional regulation. Because some of my worst impulsive moments is when my emotional regulation is at its lowest. I can say that I'm in a better place than I was last year and two years ago.
That's true. So does everyone. You can't walk without gets fall off and try again. Think of it like when you look at a baby grow up to be a toddler. That's part of life. Some people gets a different way to learn and may progress slower than others. Some people gets harder from the start only to enjoy life later. Some people gets everything handing to them on silver plate, only to be easily taken from them and get crushed. You start over again. You see. It's what you will get. After overcome obstacles or challenge, you will get even more challenge. I would say higher level. If you can't survive, ask for help. If you have no idea what to do and no one help, you will reset back to lesser level. That's okay. It's fine. Everyone has it. Try to relax and see the bright side.
Plants gets it. They get pests. Some needs help from human. Some doesn't need to get it bcs they are supposed to be outside plants and dislike too much human touches. Some plants can easily thrive without watering every day. Some require watering 1-2x a day. That's part of life.
Other methaphor. Human who gets diabetes can still alive. But it doesn't mean they supposed to be sad all the time. It doesn't mean change lifestyle can be cured. There is no such a thing as quick fixed. You may think injection are helpful. But it will come back when you gets unhealthy diet again. Everyone is different. Some gets worse after injection, some doesn't get it. The system in your body already damage. But it doesn't mean you are dead just yet.
I noticed this from fellow diabetic. They can be happy and stay productive even as diabetic. That helps me to see the bright side on my problems. Always look at others who may not be so lucky (have a home, foods, etc) and be grateful. That's it.
Respectfully, that's not how emotion works (purely in regard to the being perfect or 100% okay). Trauma causes dysregulation and cognitive overload through cluttered emotions and primed responses in your mind space.
Never fall to the Nirvana fallacy of assuming anyone is "perfect" and individuals with anxiety, depression or trauma are broken or damaged. They are people with more on their plate, not a broken plate. The distinction is very important. They can always readjust said plate and reduce the load one step at a time. Techniques such as cognitive restructuring help de prime emotioally negative stimuli which would have normally only further lead to trauma responses being elicited. No one is 100% okay, some have healthy coping mechanisms and still have a lower breaking threshold, some don't realise they already passed it and others may exclusively rely on unhealthy coping strategies and never develop depression. We are neuroanatomically roughly the same, barring placement. But neurochemically, the levels vary between us, even something as simple as perception differs between individuals. Personality has a wide spectrum, as well as your own individual constitutional valences such as locus of control, but at the end of the day your mindset is the pointing step of your mental direction. Assuming you're already lost before you even took a step will only stop you moving forward.
Right. Which is why this video is helpful.
One bit of advice id personally would put put and te other people is to NEVER bottle up emotions. Let it out at any and every helthy chance you get.
27?! THAT much? ... wow! 0:52
thats a lot of feelings
besides this, i feel so much better after watching this. feeling of not being alone.
Thank you for creating meaningful, mindful content. Knowing that younger generations have free resources like this available to find & learn from gives me hope for the future ❤
Sometimes when its hard finding out how to Identify what im feeling, I use funny enough, Emojis! Theres so many of them that involve facial expressions. Turns out most of my days I am this emoji (😐) just emotionally still or neutral, there are no emotional responses occuring within my brain and/or me, like a calm see, no disturbances or ripples, just flat, smooth and silent.
It's a shame most parents don't teach their kids emotional regulation.
Most parents don’t know how to regulate emotions themselves, never mind teaching it.
It’s hard because, in the past, everyone would just criticize people for even showing any emotion. Hell, women were lobotomized for “hysteria” if they were too emotional. That, coupled with the fact that people had children so young… they never learned how to truly deal with these things, and then they passed it on to their children.
27 emotions wow the movie inside out would be very crowded
Thank you for this. I'm loving the new "how to be better" trend in this channel instead of the "signs that you're xyz". Not that your previous content was bad- quite the contrary. But a little bit of extra guidance, other than acknowledgement, goes a really long way.
That part with the bubble in the head 🗣️"you're not worthy!" Ive done that to myself 😢 but im getting better 😊 I'm learning to not be so hard on myself i used to think everyone else deserved nice things and deserve to be happy but i don't. Now at 32 years old I'm barley realizing I AM ENOUGH! and i deserve good things in my life too 🥰..
I had a brain tumor mess up my emotional regulation and other part of executive functioning. I get very overwhelmed with little things. So this was interesti g to listen to.
Why DON'T they teach this in schools? They act like being good at academics is all you need, but it isn't true. I was considered really bright, but once I got mentally ill, I kept attempting suicide and experienced trauma and by the end of it all, I had lost a lot of memory (I once had brilliant memory) because of brain damage from trauma and the failed suicide attempts (mainly ODs) and cognition and wasn't able to work or go to college. All this happened because not only do they not tell you how to handle it, but they don't care when you struggle either.
In Sri Lanka it's so damned that's what I experienced. Even doctors shame the patients for their illnesses if you're going to have free medicine from a government hospital.
Thankyou so much for another amazing video and information ❤
I needed that video
I feel really stressed lately and let’s just say I did the wrong things to me to treat it
Honestly I probably needed this lol
I have super unhealthy ways of dealing with my emotions 😅
Honestly my friends would be worried as heck if they knew about the stuff I do to myself to make myself feel okay 😅
I'm an emotionless person and when someone just pushes my buttons I keep quiet, look at them, stand up and walk away
Me too but I live most of the time in negativity.
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 it's not like you even doing this on purpose, it's just somethings don't need attention or reactions
@@sandiletwala3001 I'm really pressed with the but it's too complicated. Most of the time it's even hard for me to cry or make an angry face even though I'm dying from the inside.
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 I get that. I'm like that too. Maybe do something that you're really passionate about to ease things a little bit
@@sandiletwala3001 Sure. Thank you!
It’s a shame PARENTS don’t teach us how to regulate emotions.
Because they don't know how to regulate theirs as well.. there's a lot of things we've uncovered about emotions in the past 10 years than in the last 200
Or they just say that you’re too sensitive They think saying that helps, but it really doesn’t
@@mrog2433that’s right because those of us that are older grew up not being allowed to to show any emotions
Stop your judgment if u don't know wht its feel to be a parent
@@ciii1237 I raise my younger brother to be a strong respectable man. Don’t tell me what I don’t know. Also I’m not gonna listen to someone who can’t even produce proper grammar. The parent is made to be the role model for the kids, if they aren’t a good role model then that’s on them. The teachers are meant to teach literacy, mathematics, science, history. Not social skills.
One self regulation technique that works good for me is looking away from the direction I was looking when I got distressed.
It is a part of situation selection, which is the earliest stage of emotional self regulation. If you ever have covered your ears or closed your eyes to avoid sensing something annoying then you acknowledged that you couldn't merely willpower yourself through the experience.
Somethings we just can't deal with at times and have to shut it out in some way until we are calmer.
Hey, used to watch your vids years ago.
Great to see you're still here :)
You're doing a great job, thanks for being caring!
I have intense emotional dysregulation at times, and I finally did decide to get help at the beginning of this year. Learning to regulate your emotions can be difficult, but it's well worth it. Different things works for different people though. When I get dysregulated, I forget to breathe and I have had to learn to pause and tell myself to breathe. Progressive muscle relaxation is a good technique too, I think. It helps if you get really tensed up.
Been listening to all of Amanda's VOs with Psych2Go since 2020, and while I miss her teeny voice , I like this voice of her better 😍 . Very mature .
I have been able to regulate my emotions for the past 2 years now but wouldnt call myself a healthy person, but more a healing person....everyone should always be a work in progress. Therapy is a huge contributor and i wouldnt be where i am without it.
You can only control what you understand. Therefore the best way to regulate emotions is to first understand the evolutionary reason for each emotion, so you can effectively disregard the emotions that don’t help you in your life goals.
If it’s something small take a break. If it’s big communicate with a partner or cry about it (seriously). Much better than bottling it up.
Her voice is so therapeutic
At times I come across papers/journals from my teenage years. I wrote about soooooo much but find it hard to pick up a pen and paper now. I’d like to get back to doing that but in the meantime I’m enjoying making voice memos about things on my mind.
It was needed. Thanks❤
*Recognizing Emotions* is a crucial part for me, especially when you grew up in an environment where showing "real" emotions is considered as weakness. If you can't pass through it then everything falls apart😞 Thankfully, I overcame it with the help of our heavenly guidance and taking good care of myself without the expense of others☺️
Awesome vid, needed this one!
Timestamps
1). Recognise your emotions 0:33
2). Embrace awareness 1:15
3). Flip the script 1:59
4). Express yourself 2:44
5). Lean on others 3:21
6). Nourish your body 4:14
7). Stress less 4:53
8). Seek help when needed 5:37
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thank you. ❤❤❤❤
How we feel is an amazing app for this, it’s free and very informative 💕
I dont have people to lean on.. i am left by myself because i am sad.. People only want me when i am happy.
This video is very timely.
Writing lyrics really helps me put energy into something creative to help me deal with intense sad or even more positive emotions bottle necks on thought highway 105 helps get unclogged with some good writing and mindful awareness of how im feeling presently and knowing it won't be like this forever this storm will pass and everything is temporary
Expressing myself is one of the things I need to improve. Most of the time when I’m hanging out with friends or at social events, I hide my feelings even though when I'm sad I act like everything is okay and I try to smile, I have been doing that for a while and that kills me inside and stress me out But I do that because I feel more comfortable tbh…😔
+Psych2GoTv #ActuallyAutistic *Being born Dismissive Avoidant in the 1960's, I'm not familiar wi' the strategies listed this vid:*
1:33 *1. Recognize Your Emotions*
1:16 *2. Embrace Awareness*
2:00 *3. Flip the Script*
2:45 *4. Express Yourself*
3:22 *5. Lean On Others*
4:15 *6. Nourish Your Body*
4:55 *7. Stress Less*
5:38 *8. Seek Help When Needed*
I appreciate tips videos like this, thank you.
Maybe "how to express yourself properly" or such can be an idea for the next video.
Because there are some people who seems like can't tell the different between being expressive and being....an exhibitionist.
This is amazing. I'm going through this right now.❤
Through this video I realize I was confused because I didn't know exactly what was my problem and where I was with it. I am currently in a mobile+UA-cam adiction, and suffering nowadays with the 4th step... This video deserved a like
How do I know the way I feel and regulate my emotions is not working when it’s been like that as long as I can remember? I wish I knew how regular working people feel like.
If you're questioning this in any way, you're probably seeking a change... which likely means "whatever" is not working for you.
I am not gonna say that I am nice, humble, kind, genuine, authentic, healthy, etc. I am still human. I can feel sad and then happy again. It's natural. For example. Seeing my sister get fall down, ofc I feel sad. But that doesn't mean I can do something about it. Try to help as best as I can and be happy again. Just like that.
I don't understand why people don't like to see someone crying and not want to cry. 🤔 I think it's what human do. Just like when you have acne on your facial skin. It is not entirely bad. It's a sign of bad lifestyle (drink alcohol, smoking, etc) that you should stop or minimize to do it until permanently quit, maybe lack of sleep, lack of water, lack of hygiene, lack of education and self awareness (ex. not educated yourself for choosing the right products. Like makeup, skin care, body care, etc.). It's okay to have acne. It is okay to have wrinkles. I don't think it's bad. I cherish it like a honor badge and make me feel human. Learn how to get better. Avoid toxic people as much as you can. It's not that you hold grudges or whatever. But you have a right not to react and get influenced by them. Haters will stay as haters. Instead of trying to please them. You need to just do what you can and want to do. That's it. Self meditation like yoga helps me a lot to stay alive. Write down what you feel and think on journal. Drink herbal tea. Use healing bowl or listen to calming music. Change your mindset and lifestyle can't be done easily overnight. Just take a baby steps are better. Don't share your writing to others who will judge and laughing at you. Just think of it like photo albums. You can come back and read it again.
Lean on Others
My friend is badly in need and used to be really open about it but has since shut off almost completely and it's really upsetting
I JUST learned how to identify my emotions so regulating them is an uphill battle.
I remember when I laughed at sad things, i don't know what is going on with me
I have a hard time now finding the solution to feel okay this video provide a way to heal myself
Since 2 years been depressed there is nobody whom i am feeling to talk i can't focus on anything because of stress i have lost my healthy body everything
I am still in a hope i would be good
♡ one day and can resolve all my problems :-)
I was never taught any of this. I had to self teach, starting from about the age of 23 onwards. Hard work. Damaged family, with a very transactional parenting style. Can’t change them, but I can change myself.
Some days I still feel like a fxxcking lead balloon though.
I’ve won competitions, came top of my class, gotten awards. All out of compulsive workaholism arising from my upbringing and various enabling factors and people rewarding me for it. Occasionally interspaced with burnout when I would grind to a complete halt, and usually adopt an entirely new field or job as a result, and then repeat the pattern. Feels like most of my life has been wasted running on a fxxking hamster wheel.
Sorting out my emotions has been by far the hardest thing I’ve done, requiring the longest sustained commitment. Punching concrete feels less painful. It’s not something you can think or study or work your way out of (I tried - made little difference and might have even been counterproductive). People with simpler lives and far less than I have are often 10x happier.
Hey look it's the lovely voice again
Great video! Perfect timing
Imagine if we learned Nutrition in elementary, middle, and high* school and the effect it has on mental health .
i thank this channel for helping me become better.
0:34, 0:49, 1:17, 1:41, 2:14, 3:17, 3:43, 4:14, 4:56, 5:29
Good to know im healthy💗‼️.
I got this idea from reddit, but I've been recording how I feel for the past two years via a spreadsheet. I've expanded it to 3 emotions per day for each part of my day and how I felt during those time periods. A majority of the time I have no real emotional feedback, so when you ask your kid, "how was your day?" and they respond with, "eh, nothing interesting," there's a high likelihood that they are telling the truth.
That's such a neat idea! What 3 emotions do you select from?
@@Psych2go oh I have like 10+ emotions I choose from and add more as I come across them (kinda running out of colors). I just record how I felt during the morning, afternoon, and evening. And then I do that every day.
The teachers can’t teach what half of them don’t know anyway.. lol
I agree with most of these points, they can be a valuable exercice to regulate one's emotions. But I get an allergic reaction when I hear to see a setback as a growth opportunity. No but how about we see the setback for exactly what it is, that's a tough exercice but so necessary. It's important to let the emotions be, for what they are: sadness, fear, fright, anger etc. Consume them, not push them away and cover them with a "nicer" appearance. What you don't let out, you store.
My Dysregulation got the best of me today.
I was hoping to swim today but could not find a place to park my car...I then had an outburst and drove recklessly... thank god I didn't hurt myself or someone else... UGH!! PTSD SUCKS!!