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@@AnnetteLoop a person's facial expression reflects what's going on in their minds (not all). So the real question is how to shift your mind and react in a situation in a more rational manner.
Is it a habit, if you feel it, it ain't worth worrying about, persuade someone if their wrong, your perspective could be wrong, do you accept reality, clarity is required, if your not patient you'll regret it✅
If you get overly angry at small things, 9/10 your boundaries were infringed upon as a child/teen and you didn’t or couldn’t defend yourself and you felt completely powerless and vowed to never let that happen again.
That's whats happening to me RIGHT NOW (the thing happening in teen years not the aftermath), I thought I was just possibly overreacting I guess Also I was wondering, is that always considered a trauma response? Im not sure how to categorise it, but would very much like to (Edit: nvm chatgpt comes in clutch as always, saying yes basically alr)
I have no idea why I’m here when I’m already emotionally mature even for my age and I get laughed at for it People think “she’s just a kid/teen she doesn’t know anything” it’s annoying 😕
@@Isabel-sr8ep trust me I'm 15 only and my maturity is like a 42 y/o lady. I'm not even kidding, I feel extremely difficult to face the fact that I'M JUST 15 PHYSICALLY... people treat me like a fetus lmao it hurts
@@valsayeshah6702 same! And they think I’m “trying to act grown” or “cool” I’m not it’s the way I am..I’v been like this since I was about 10 believe it or not People expect kids and teens to act crazy energetic and stupid all the time not all of us are like that it’s just a dumb stereotype and people actually believe it it’s kinda sad...I hate when people get all shook like Would you rather have me act like a complete idiot all the time? That would be very annoying there are literal adults that still act like they are 12 its shows that not all adults act super mature as soon as they turn like 20 Everyone and I mean EVERYONE thinks I’m trying to act cool or they say “well your brain isn’t even fully developed” as if I’m not aware of that 🤦🏼♀️ I can be smart and mature even tho my brain isnt fully developed...
@@Isabel-sr8ep Exactly. For example we can take the UA-cam commentary community, they say he/she actin' like a 14 y/o referring to whatever that person did. Age isn't something you NEED to brag about while criticizing people. It's literally so freaking dumb and full of passive aggression. Literally a 8 y/o can be more matured than a young adult too hun. Like Emily get your brain cells together before judging lmao. I feel you isa. Well, enough rambling SOOOOO have a nice day sweetie
1. identify your emotions 1:08 2. take responsibility 2:20 3. find a role model 2:58 4. keep a thought diary 3:44 5. learn to be open minded 5:05 6. embrace reality 6:09 7. pause and be patient 6:51 8. live in the present 7:27 I hope I could help! :)
I think just simply recognizing that you may not be as emotionally mature as you thought, and accepting that you may want to work on that, is a huge step and a sign of maturity as well
Maturity is a process, the willingness to mature or grow up is sown as a seed. It is nurtured with the waters of knowledge and acceptance of your current self ✊🏾❤️
Emotional maturity begins with little kinds of stuff like giving kinder words, admitting little wrongs, learning to say sorry, and please. They go a long way to help the situation.
1. Identity your emotions, When you feel strongly about something and start to act impulsively, take a step back and think about why you feel this way. Make a tally in a journal each time you feel each emotion and jot down the reason why. 2. Take responsibility and apologize whenever your impulses do take you too far 3. Find role model and put them in your situations: ask yourself what they would do 4. Practice cognitive reconstructering by keeping a thought diary. Write down your anxieties and try to think of alternative ways to think about your situation and whether it is worth worrying about 5. There is something about you or your situation that you don't like: if you can change it, work towards change if you can't, embrace and accept it 6. Learn to have patience 7. Live in the present
If you managed to get out of bed and out of the house in this world that we live in I'm proud of you. And if you went to work while dealing with mental health and a host of health issues you're even greater to me. I'm proud of you. Even if you weren't on time I'm just so happy you showed up and completed the assignment. If you did all this using public transportation, walking, biking, out in the heat all while gushing and loosing blood and energy and nasueated because of your monthly cycle, like I did yesterday, you truly deserve to be rewarded because that is not easy at all. If you still seek work opportunities in a world that is trying to become part of the problems instead of preventing the problems and fixing the ones unable to be prevented or controlled, my hat goes out to you and a bow of respect. You deserve to be here because you make this world a better place. Keep keeping on no matter how hard it is, we know this world just wants you to give up, but we rather you be here each day doing the best you can, and don't rush, take your time so that accidents don't happen while you are trying to be your best self despite your challenges. I'm proud of you!!!
I fucking love you! Finally, someone who damn understands! Your comment motivates me greatly and i just! shit’s been hard, i feel like a total damn failure and doubting all the productivity i’ve done made me wish to stay on my bed forever. Just, thank you❤️
Being aware, (We argued) Holding yourself accountable, (I hurt them) Recognising you were wrong, (I was wrong) Learning from your mistakes and (I will do better) Not repeating your mistakes when in the same situation (It won't happen again) shows that you are emotionally mature.
This video made me tear up. Seeking out emotional maturity is new to me. It has been the deepest and most powerful soothing force to my soul to be emotionally mature and loving. And yet I still forget somehow. It feels like I'm understood and unalone when I can see that others share the same internal difficulties. Thank you for sharing this video and being a graceful reminder to listen to my feelings.
The most frustrating thing, is when you're in an argument with your partner, and you're trying to pause and gather your thoughts ( to avoid be hurtful ) but they just don't let up and keep throwing emotional jabs. Keeping up your guard in that moment is so key
What do you do when you did something that hurt them, they told you how you hurt them, you ask how can you fix it, they tell you how and you fix it, now flip the switch, they are doing something that bothers you, you tell them that's it botheres you and how, you ask them to fix it and what you need, but they tell you they refuse, now how do you go about handling that, ?
Just went thru something like that on baby Yoda being in a millennium falcon while I had accepted my flaws for what I've mistaken myself on doing a lot of times. Over and over again thru repeating the same process til I find my tremendous new me along with my talents from what I learned in dancing 🕺🎶😌
@@Gifted.LIl.Thang884 if they refuse, then clearly they don't respect you. A relationship is always going to be a process of learning a growth. There will always be struggles. Differences in opinions, perspectives, feelings, needs and some times it will be hard to feel the same way about that person as you used to. But refusing to work on these things. Refusing to communicate or even admit your own flaws. That isn't love.
I think I am guilty of the emotional jabs... Thing is, I am willing to take whatever is thrown at me because that's the only time I really get to see the real person...
"Your feelings are valid, but you don't have to act on them" - I have such a hard time letting that resonate but it's SO true and many rash decisions I've made out of feeling, not logic, and regretted it. Thank you for sharing!
it's when you don't seek approvals, attentions or validations from people, especially from the internet. You allow yourself time and space to be better than you yesterday at your own pace.
When we think of someone who's emotionally mature, we typically picture a person who has a good understanding of who they are. ... In other words, emotional maturity is when someone can manage their emotions no matter their circumstances. They know how to respond to tough situations and still keep their cool.
honestly true. When it comes to this, when we think of someone as emotionally mature, it can be similar at times to think of a role model with no flaws. I think emotionally mature people gone through things and they're pretty complex at times. They may understand a person and can help them, but maybe they can't understand themselves. Emotionally maturity truly comes with growing and going through things, they are not naturally gifted. Even if you may be born with a gift of reading a person, do you understand how to communicate with them about it?
The comments section is probably not the place to say this but I was crying aswell when this was recommended to me. I'm going through some shit and these videos help me little by little. Soooooo.... ye
Hahah yeah same I wasn’t getting the homework I was assigned and then my parents told me “If you don’t get this then don’t expect to move onto 10th grade next year” lolol and they kept telling me I wasn’t tying hard enough and that I am being ridiculous. It’s okay they said they will try to help me later tonight when I “calm down” so yeah hopefully that goes well :)
if youve been getting up and out to try to get your responsibilities and work done despite struggling mentally, you are a strong human being for still hanging on and not giving up. you watching this video just proves how much you are still willing to grow and improve yourself so whoever you are out there, i hope you get the life you have always wanted and deserved while being the best version of yourself
It's very important to process emotions. Did you know that crying and laughing both have the same effect? They both make you feel relieved and restful afterwards. It's alright to cry, but it's important to make your peace afterwards and move on.
Yup i used to keep going back to my ex bcoz i loved him dearly but he didn't once contact me i used to block him then go back ...now i am trying my best to move on
@@rujjulsaha2911 Feel you so much !! I hope you can do it. No. I KNOW you can do it. I'm trying with you although I am hurting so much at the thought of losing him for good and never finding anyone as good as him again... but we can do this.
@@rujjulsaha2911 How did you come back to him, when he didnt even contact you once? How could he contact you if you blocked him in the first place? Did he even know that he was in the relationship with you?! So many questions.
Love is an important emotion though. If you remove love from humans even giga Chad will crumble like a Greek statue. Love thyself is the same as self respect.
Everyone here has courage in their heart. It is not easy to be brave enough to admit that you still need to mature and grow. We are all here because we want to be the best versions of ourselves! ❤️
This video helped me greatly. I’m working on unlearning the emotionally immature habits I was raised with so that I may be a better version OF myself FOR myself. My emotional immaturity bleeds onto other parts of my life and that’s not okay. Keep up the great videos 👍🏽
I used to be very angry and unhappy with life and very emotionally unstable 😅 but I realized that there's no use in being mad all the time,that I can fix it and I can learn how to control my emotions in a more mature way, thank you for this video💕💕 and if anyone who sees this that Is struggling with emotions or feeling immaturely , I just want you to know that you are in control of your emotions so don't let anyone control you and how you feel, this is YOUR life not THEIRS💕💕🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this video! Emotional immaturity is what I feel what's keeping me from connecting with other people and making relationships with people and keeping my friends within my circle and a part of my life. I really do hope I can live my 20s experiencing new feelings, failing and learning to become a better person without regrets just because of my own emotional immaturity and personal fears. I appreciate all your efforts and content.
I've realized that maturity is accepting reality without complaining, but not only that, it's also a powerful tool called understanding, we understand situations and past events better than in the past, and it's also forgiving others (our parents, our friends, our enemies, etc...) When we are children, we have dreams, fantasies and what ifs for the world we have a vision for an ideal world and we find it hard to accept other people's realities, we are naive and innocent, but then everything bad happens and we just can't understand the reason, and we think wrongly and have a cognitive distortion But i've learned that emotional maturity is like a brush that cleans our eyes and our vision, giving us a better understanding, of course, you don't have to abandon your ideals, values and feelings, but you have to rethink your actions, reflect on them, and realize the truth, and by accepting the truth, we can become better versions of ourselves, but remember that life isn't perfect and no one is, and soon enough, we will live in a better world, a world without pain, horror, murder and wars, it'll be over soon
I hope every person behind this channel is just alright and fine themselves. I pray for peace for all of you. Thank you for allowing yourselves to be a vessel of compassion and love!
When I tell you that when I first started writing a thought diary a second ago, I felt a TON of feelings off my chest. I confronted myself maturely, I stopped my ego from getting too big, and I taught myself new things. This helped so much that I might as well cry from joy. Thank you.
1) identify your emotions - know why you feel certain way, when your angry think abt what and why excatly is it making u angry, u can feel whatever but its not about managing your emotion but your action. 2) take responsibility for your action, apologize if you did something wrong 3) take a role model 4) keep a thought diary. 5) open minded - u can listen to others and still have ur own opinion. Be open minded enough to hear others. 6) be patient and than answer when your in an argument. 7) live in present.
School should show these videos at school once in a while, I would've appreciate it watching these videos while I was in school to add some self reflection, discovery, and mindfulness
Very true...lord knows I wasn't getting this information at home. I got in big trouble for even thinking I could express myself at home that was considered disrespectful
“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now that I have become a man, I have put away childish things.” 1co 13.11 (Lewis being a good christian as always)
Thank you! This helped me so much. I’ve always been a very argumentative person and would get in a lot of arguments. When I did get in these arguments I would have to suffer the consequences, I never understood why I had to suffer the consequences when the others were arguing as well and I would always end up message one of the mods arguing with them in dms and never recognized that I’m the one in the wrong. I realized how much I was being so negative one day when one of those mods told me “I’m sorry but you’re a very negative person” I didn’t understand at first but I thought about it, read through all the messages and realized that all I’ve been doing was trying to defend myself and my opinions but never thought about the way others felt. sometimes ik its hard to realize something when someone says thing that you dont like to your face but its good to realize that its true and you need to fix those problems. this was super good and helpful, im very immature sometimes and am trying my best to mature
i’ve been going through a lot lately especially with my emotions this video actually helps it sucks on how i’m accepting that fact things are horrible rn but accepting it seems better then reacting in a negative way. Thanks for the video appreciate it
Well done you, great job excepting life exactly the way it is half the battle. Dont pay much attention to your thoughts/thinking most of it rubbish anyway its just the Ego🤗👍❤
this video, in a certain point of it, hit me so hard i actually cried, without realizing it, i never cry for videos and somehow this one managed to hit me deeply, even now typing i'm actually tearing and..it's making me understand and realize stuff i've..always thought that i had answer for but in reality..i didn't thank you..really..thank you so much..
The tricky thing with this is that, some people have the advice and are good at giving it to others, but struggle with acting on it themselves. I realize myself that I'm not even that emotionally mature, I'm working on it, but (not accussing it) my adhd, period hormones, anxiety, and depression makes it much harder. However I am trying to be better about managing my emotions in order to help me learn to become more mature.
This is really a learning lesson I really need. I think my struggle is No.6 Embrace Reality and No. 8 living in the present. The thing I struggle the most in all of this is what does make me genuinely happy. Eversince my first heartbreak relationship back from 2014 to 2015 of January, I was suuuuuuuuuper down and I wanted to cry a lone in my room. For the past 2015 till the coming years, I tried to understand why my EX left me and what was his reasons for doing so. Although, I tried to find ways to distract me like watching my fave animes over and over again, or even doing youtube content too for mostly gaming, it took me many years to try to live in the present time. But at the end of the day when 2020 when the pandemic happened, it felt like my time stops and I always feel stuck in the rutt that I cannot move forward. It is hard for me to live in the present and it just made me recall my past experience that has been holding me back. It is like I am punishing myself to make me happy. I enjoyed others seeing them making them happy more than my own happiness. "Peace begins with a smile" How I wish I can do that. But my family always portrays me as a very sad person for all my life. I only smile only in short bursts when it something that makes me happy, but in the end I cannot. And living in the present is also hard because I am holding myself back that I do not deserve to smile or be happy.
Buy a Correctbook and set a timer so you can write into oblivion😂 But then you’ll have to start and you’ll have to stop at some point. Oh no... *stares at blank pages*
You know, you are like a safe space and the person who guides, comforts and encourages me.. I feel so touched and consoled when I hear your voice... Thank you so much
I just wanna say that thank you for making this channel . You don't have any idea how calmful it was to me . Cause every time I feel nervous or anxious , I will just directly enjoy this channel . It brings positivity and calmness . I hope you'll never stop making great videos again . Thanks :)
ok I was feeling quite emotional before this because of some circumstances, but embracing my negativity and LIVING in the present made me think and calm down quite a bit, Thank you very much!
Self respect is definitely key to emotional maturity, and I'm willing to admit that I don't always have that.... My self-talk could also use some improvement... Just because certain situations in life cause negative reactions doesn't mean that I have to let my emotions control me.... Some of these signs are indeed tied to depression, and ignoring/not acknowledging my own mental health issues can indeed make things worse. I do feel like there's a difference in there somewhere, but not everything I feel needs an excuse.
Most people who successfully break out of the cycle don't shift their mentality until they experience emotional pain due to huge life losses, which now have a positive effect of stripping away their illusion of the nature of adulthood.
Being present was something my therapist told me and I did not UNDERSTAND what that meant until a year ago. I stopped seeing that therapist 4 years ago. I hope everyone who made it here understands you are already on a healthy path for a better future.
Mother Teresa did have a dark side, all people do. It is part of emotional maturity to accept the dark side of ourselves and acknowledge that the same is true of others. Then we work on the goodness of ourselves striving to be all the good that we can become. What others do is not our problem even if they are important to us. If they are toxic we set firm boundaries, if we love them we will be patient with them as they choose to become better and if they love you they will extend to you the same courtesy .
for some reason i had tears throughout the whole video , was thinking how my immaturity has affected my girl and thankfully she is still willing to continue our relationship eventhough she had breakdown few times because of my wrong decisions, but after this video one thing i realized is there must be something of good quality in me right that's why she is till willing to continue with me and now its time for me to become mature and treat her better than before , and be person she deserved....thanks alot dear :') ( and i apologize for my bad english hehe)
I have been practising many of these techniques for some time, and they are truly effective! I feel that I have become more mindful of my thoughts, my emotions, as well as my present. I can't wait to incorporate the other techniques into my life, thank you for all you do; you make this world a better place. ❤️
I really love this channel, it's helped me understand my feelings and how to control them, even through tough times (btw, the voice is so soothing and relaxing, I just love😊)
That's how I see it.wslk in their emotional shoes, in their feelings shoes, try to see and feel their hurt, only then will you understand how hurtful your actions and behavior was..
Happy to say ive been practicing these techniques and they have quite literally saved my relationship, as well as giving me some solid techniques to learn about myself. The value of this cannot be overstated.😊
Having a positive outlook in life can yield better results, whether you are young or old. And it is never too late to learn to be more emotionally mature.
I feel I already am doing all of these, not perfectly, but I am. The only one I struggle with recently is the last one about focusing on the present rather than the past and future. I focus too much on the past and future and how it impacts my life rather than on what I'm doing currently in my life. I'm trying to change that though and focus on my life currently and what decisions I need to make that are best for me. I'm not saying I'm perfect, I still have moments or days when I lose it and don't have a calm collected control over my emotions. It takes practice, but with it you learn to be a better person.
I can be very impulsive when I'm angry, often cutting someone off in mid sentence and talking over them, but I'm going to work on patience and try to communicate better.
@Cheryl Owen Try meditation guys. It will help you relax and control your mind. The most important thing is that you want to improve. I can also be very impulsive and meditation, stillness and being in the present moment has changed my life.
"If you can change it, work towards change. If you can't, embrace who you are, where you are, and work towards what will make you smile."..... My HEART 💓
Iʼm actually really grateful to have realised so much things at a young age. (Iʼm fourteen, yep. Cringe as it might seem but thatʼs the truth.) I realised them from my own experience and books, also from having deep conversations with my father. (Right, you guysʼ videos and the comments too!) I wonʼt say that I have went through so much, but life has taught me many. My realizations are almost all contained in this eight minutes video. And even though Iʼve learned a lot, I am still learning to embrace myself. Some people such as friends and my mother criticize my appearance, mostly my mother. I am actually very hurt but does not show it directly, because I know they are just concerned with how I display myself. (Or maybe Iʼm just reassuring myself, haha.) Like said in the video, donʼt dwell on the past too much, or worry about the future excessively too. Make your moments enjoyable, for your time are limited. No one can stay immortal, and it would be better if you start now if you want to do something. Thanks for the video, Psych2go! And for those that read this one long comment of mine. ☺️☺️
How to be more emotionally mature 1. Identify your emotions Find out the root cause to why you feel this way,try writing down ur emotions or when you feel sad or empty 2.Take responsibility Be responsible when you’re wrong and be accountable 3.Find a role model ( Jay or Brendon) Look how they handle situations 4.Find a work Dairy If you suffer from negative thoughts 5.Learn to be open minded You don’t have all the answers,take in other people perspectives and don’t be judgemental 6.Embrace Reality Accept and brace your life and struggles and work towards where you want to be 7.Pause and be Patient Don’t react on impulse in a argument 8.Live in present Duelling on the past or present can be negative - you can’t change the past or dwell on the future
For being someone who does everything for everyone and thinks they know it all, this video is perfect. I dont have anyone telling me these things, so it's nice to know im emotionally immature... It all makes sense of what I'm going through. Thank you for this video... it's very much appreciated.
i constantly find myself nowadays dwelling in the past and alwasy thinkking about the future becasue of something bad that recently happened to me. it cause me to become lost and confused for a few months now. Its also kinda affecting how my husband as well. the short video was really helpful simple steps i can follow to change mysefl and the way i think. the video was right. live in the present and make conscious decisions we are less likely to act negatively. thanks for your video.
thank you so much for this video.. this morning, i had an argument with my father and then my younger brother, because they wouldn't listen to me and they tend to "know it all". that mother teresa part really resonated with me. hopefully, i am going to remember your advice: to ask myself, "what would mother teresa do?" 😇💗
This video has really help me realise that I can’t change my emotions but I can change the way I react to them I have really understood how the way I perceive myself is different from the way I am perceived by others Thank you for this video 🙏
I really needed this for this week! Thank you for helping motivate me to become a more emotionally mature person! It’s satisfying to know that I’ve been actively working on these things😊
The animation is awesome ❤️❤️. I am a kid when it comes to emotions this absolutely helps me....idk but you guys help me in every way possible....we love you ❤️❤️
Perfectly timing, glad i reached i for this. I did have some difficulty to grow relationships and deescalate arguments in the past, now i realize i need emotional maturity, be calm
After I start to watch these types of videos related to these subjects I've seen how I can control myself only To start to practice them as laozi said "Knowledge is a Treasure but PRACTICE" is the key to it" I love those quotoes it literally changed my life
Love this video. I am very emotionally mature already but getting a list of ways to be more emotionally mature is wonderful and inspiring more ideas/ways to inspire others to do the same! Thank you!😍
7:20 I always pick the optimal option in every situation. The only reflection I can do is that I could take even more time considering my options but that's not realistic. I should actually take less time thinking over things because it reduces my good options like people getting impatient
I still struggle with why are we not allowed to act on our feelings! Is not fair that people just hurt us and get away to go on and hurt someone else. Holding people accountable not only feels good for petty revenge but also is my form of contribution to a better world. Maybe if the people who hurt me had gotten hurt enough by others in the past they wouldn’t have hurt me in the first place because they would have known better.
It isn't fair because society deems it that way. When someone you love hurts you and you confront them only to have them completely deny,ignore or not even care will enrage you. Therefore acting out on your feelings makes you look week
The saying goes "Hurt people hurt people." Most of the time, those people don't hurt others because they've never been hurt themselves. But because, like you, they argue they SHOULD hurt others to make them stop hurting others. Instead, if others hurt you, and it's intentional, find better people. If they hurt you but it was unintentional, communicate how their actions hurt you, and see if they react in an emotionally mature way. If they can't, and they're important to you, see if they're willing and able to learn. If not, see if this type of situation is so rare that the relationship can remain positive overall. If not, find better people. Hurting people only increases the number of people who hurt people. Instead, we should turn our back on people who hurt people, and find the kind people who work on not hurting people.
This is so helpful… I have learned so much, thank you. I will try to think positively about myself, accept that I can feel angry and upset (I will take to heart that how we react to something is what we should control, not suppressing out emotions). I will try to be truly open minded - That our intent as we listen, not the act of listening itself is important. I will try keeping a diary for my feeling, and…. SMILE!!😊
I really needed this today. I have BPD but I really want to become better at handling my emotions better. I act on impulse way too often. I'll try to follow these tips. Thanks!
Hi everyone who's watching this video! We hear you and noticed a lot of people aren't happy with one of the examples used in this video. I've passed down this important feedback back to the writer who wrote this script. Thank you for sharing you concern! Other than that, script is overall well written with great advice on 8 Different Ways to Become More Emotionally Mature.
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Could you also post the script as well? It would be very helpful
What was the example?
Oh... It was Mother Terressa wasn't it
“It’s not about managing your emotions, it’s about managing your reaction to your emotions.” ✨
I wonder why most of your comments are not getting likes
I swear I’m seeing you everywhere man. I guess you’re the next Justin Y lol
@@more1494 come on man
But what can I do to not show my facial expression about a situation it’s hard I need tips or something plz help thanks
@@AnnetteLoop a person's facial expression reflects what's going on in their minds (not all). So the real question is how to shift your mind and react in a situation in a more rational manner.
Everyone who’s watching this is willing to grow and that’s pretty admirable - takes a lot of courage. Just wanted to put it out there
I need to find out if I'm overreacting emotionally or are the feelings I'm having about a situation validated by my emotions.
Is it a habit, if you feel it, it ain't worth worrying about, persuade someone if their wrong, your perspective could be wrong, do you accept reality, clarity is required, if your not patient you'll regret it✅
thanks beautiful, you to, making us know that we are doing something good is pretty admirable :3
Thank you. Same goes for you too. You're a great person for thinking this way!
Thank you so much 🤗
If you get overly angry at small things, 9/10 your boundaries were infringed upon as a child/teen and you didn’t or couldn’t defend yourself and you felt completely powerless and vowed to never let that happen again.
That's whats happening to me RIGHT NOW (the thing happening in teen years not the aftermath), I thought I was just possibly overreacting I guess
Also I was wondering, is that always considered a trauma response? Im not sure how to categorise it, but would very much like to
(Edit: nvm chatgpt comes in clutch as always, saying yes basically alr)
It ALL goes back to childhood 😢
Thank you for telling us!
Me 🥲but no more negativity its hurts but i wont look back
EXACTLY
Emotional maturity begins with little kinds of stuff like giving kinder words, admitting little wrongs, learning to say sorry, and please.
I have no idea why I’m here when I’m already emotionally mature even for my age and I get laughed at for it People think “she’s just a kid/teen she doesn’t know anything” it’s annoying 😕
@@Isabel-sr8ep trust me I'm 15 only and my maturity is like a 42 y/o lady. I'm not even kidding, I feel extremely difficult to face the fact that I'M JUST 15 PHYSICALLY... people treat me like a fetus lmao it hurts
@@valsayeshah6702 same! And they think I’m “trying to act grown” or “cool” I’m not it’s the way I am..I’v been like this since I was about 10 believe it or not People expect kids and teens to act crazy energetic and stupid all the time not all of us are like that it’s just a dumb stereotype and people actually believe it it’s kinda sad...I hate when people get all shook like Would you rather have me act like a complete idiot all the time? That would be very annoying there are literal adults that still act like they are 12 its shows that not all adults act super mature as soon as they turn like 20
Everyone and I mean EVERYONE thinks I’m trying to act cool or they say “well your brain isn’t even fully developed” as if I’m not aware of that 🤦🏼♀️ I can be smart and mature even tho my brain isnt fully developed...
you copied this
@@Isabel-sr8ep Exactly. For example we can take the UA-cam commentary community, they say he/she actin' like a 14 y/o referring to whatever that person did. Age isn't something you NEED to brag about while criticizing people. It's literally so freaking dumb and full of passive aggression. Literally a 8 y/o can be more matured than a young adult too hun. Like Emily get your brain cells together before judging lmao. I feel you isa. Well, enough rambling SOOOOO have a nice day sweetie
What do you think about this animation?
It's cool
It’s really cool in my opinion, it’s Lofi like!
Notification came 12 seconds late😥
I wana comment first😥
It was aMAZING! Thank you!
i love ur animation. i notice it changes every video which i enjoy too 😊
"All feelings are valid but you don't have to act on it." Best thing I've heard.
making that my motto
same!❤
Can u explain it further please!
I don't get the meaning of this line,,
@@blahblahblah5051 You're allowed to fwel angry, sad, or any uncomfortable emotions
Just dont take it out on others
@@lun4ever got it, thank you
If you’re smiling at me it’s the power of positivity
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1. identify your emotions 1:08
2. take responsibility 2:20
3. find a role model 2:58
4. keep a thought diary 3:44
5. learn to be open minded 5:05
6. embrace reality 6:09
7. pause and be patient 6:51
8. live in the present 7:27
I hope I could help! :)
Holy shit earlyyy
Thank you!
How-
10 hours ago really
@@hehe_lemonade5114 Time Traveler~
I think just simply recognizing that you may not be as emotionally mature as you thought, and accepting that you may want to work on that, is a huge step and a sign of maturity as well
Thank you ❤
❤
Maturity is a process, the willingness to mature or grow up is sown as a seed.
It is nurtured with the waters of knowledge and acceptance of your current self ✊🏾❤️
That’s deep man
It’s also able to be taught. That’s why I’m here. I work with some tough kids. This stuff is gold.
Emotional maturity begins with little kinds of stuff like giving kinder words, admitting little wrongs, learning to say sorry, and please.
They go a long way to help the situation.
Amen
Amen 🙏
Amen
Is this a copypasta
@@birchtree5884 YOU RUINED THE CHAIN 😂
1. Identity your emotions,
When you feel strongly about something and start to act impulsively, take a step back and think about why you feel this way.
Make a tally in a journal each time you feel each emotion and jot down the reason why.
2. Take responsibility and apologize whenever your impulses do take you too far
3. Find role model and put them in your situations: ask yourself what they would do
4. Practice cognitive reconstructering by keeping a thought diary. Write down your anxieties and try to think of alternative ways to think about your situation and whether it is worth worrying about
5. There is something about you or your situation that you don't like:
if you can change it, work towards change
if you can't, embrace and accept it
6. Learn to have patience
7. Live in the present
these are notes I made for myself as I was watching but i'll leave them here in case anyone else finds them helpful :)
Thanks for that, it was so helpful. ✌
thank you
How does one learn patience? I have none of it and have improved but could be better at being patient.
love you bud
If you managed to get out of bed and out of the house in this world that we live in I'm proud of you. And if you went to work while dealing with mental health and a host of health issues you're even greater to me. I'm proud of you. Even if you weren't on time I'm just so happy you showed up and completed the assignment. If you did all this using public transportation, walking, biking, out in the heat all while gushing and loosing blood and energy and nasueated because of your monthly cycle, like I did yesterday, you truly deserve to be rewarded because that is not easy at all. If you still seek work opportunities in a world that is trying to become part of the problems instead of preventing the problems and fixing the ones unable to be prevented or controlled, my hat goes out to you and a bow of respect. You deserve to be here because you make this world a better place. Keep keeping on no matter how hard it is, we know this world just wants you to give up, but we rather you be here each day doing the best you can, and don't rush, take your time so that accidents don't happen while you are trying to be your best self despite your challenges. I'm proud of you!!!
Damn, finally, someone recognizes me on what I accomplish and not what I didn't accomplish.
Thx! 😄
Thanks for this dude🥺💙
Seriously💕❤️
I fucking love you! Finally, someone who damn understands! Your comment motivates me greatly and i just! shit’s been hard, i feel like a total damn failure and doubting all the productivity i’ve done made me wish to stay on my bed forever. Just, thank you❤️
Thank You. Today was especially hard. Your words helped me so much. It can be very hard now-a-days and I am learning to deal with it.
Being aware, (We argued)
Holding yourself accountable, (I hurt them)
Recognising you were wrong, (I was wrong)
Learning from your mistakes and (I will do better)
Not repeating your mistakes when in the same situation (It won't happen again)
shows that you are emotionally mature.
@dolivanto therapist, is plan B
The “not doing it again” part is maturity. I noticed that too. 😂
This video made me tear up. Seeking out emotional maturity is new to me. It has been the deepest and most powerful soothing force to my soul to be emotionally mature and loving. And yet I still forget somehow. It feels like I'm understood and unalone when I can see that others share the same internal difficulties. Thank you for sharing this video and being a graceful reminder to listen to my feelings.
She: write down the questions that come in your mind
Overthinkers: Uhh, I don't think I'll have enough pages for that-
how true it is!
Literally me
I don't have enough time for that I have to work, shower and eat somewhere in between! :D
Questions about wanda vision
My exact thought lmao
The most frustrating thing, is when you're in an argument with your partner, and you're trying to pause and gather your thoughts ( to avoid be hurtful ) but they just don't let up and keep throwing emotional jabs. Keeping up your guard in that moment is so key
You're so right, today I was facing this issue. But anyhow I took a break. And it's helping me
What do you do when you did something that hurt them, they told you how you hurt them, you ask how can you fix it, they tell you how and you fix it, now flip the switch, they are doing something that bothers you, you tell them that's it botheres you and how, you ask them to fix it and what you need, but they tell you they refuse, now how do you go about handling that, ?
Just went thru something like that on baby Yoda being in a millennium falcon while I had accepted my flaws for what I've mistaken myself on doing a lot of times. Over and over again thru repeating the same process til I find my tremendous new me along with my talents from what I learned in dancing 🕺🎶😌
@@Gifted.LIl.Thang884 if they refuse, then clearly they don't respect you. A relationship is always going to be a process of learning a growth. There will always be struggles. Differences in opinions, perspectives, feelings, needs and some times it will be hard to feel the same way about that person as you used to. But refusing to work on these things. Refusing to communicate or even admit your own flaws. That isn't love.
I think I am guilty of the emotional jabs... Thing is, I am willing to take whatever is thrown at me because that's the only time I really get to see the real person...
"Your feelings are valid, but you don't have to act on them" - I have such a hard time letting that resonate but it's SO true and many rash decisions I've made out of feeling, not logic, and regretted it. Thank you for sharing!
this is what being mature actually means..
immature doesn't mean being a child at heart..
you can be a child at heart and be mature too
They’ll never understand this!!
yes!
My teacher once said, 'childlike not childish'. And there's a big difference between the two.
@@Bel-gu7yg yes indeed
it's when you don't seek approvals, attentions or validations from people, especially from the internet. You allow yourself time and space to be better than you yesterday at your own pace.
This is not only a way to become emotionally mature but you can use this same method to avoid anxiety and depression. Great video!
When we think of someone who's emotionally mature, we typically picture a person who has a good understanding of who they are. ... In other words, emotional maturity is when someone can manage their emotions no matter their circumstances. They know how to respond to tough situations and still keep their cool.
But if they're the one causing the emotional hurt, what then?
honestly true. When it comes to this, when we think of someone as emotionally mature, it can be similar at times to think of a role model with no flaws. I think emotionally mature people gone through things and they're pretty complex at times. They may understand a person and can help them, but maybe they can't understand themselves. Emotionally maturity truly comes with growing and going through things, they are not naturally gifted. Even if you may be born with a gift of reading a person, do you understand how to communicate with them about it?
I literally just finished crying alone and this came up in my recommended
The comments section is probably not the place to say this but I was crying aswell when this was recommended to me. I'm going through some shit and these videos help me little by little. Soooooo.... ye
Hahah yeah same I wasn’t getting the homework I was assigned and then my parents told me “If you don’t get this then don’t expect to move onto 10th grade next year” lolol and they kept telling me I wasn’t tying hard enough and that I am being ridiculous. It’s okay they said they will try to help me later tonight when I “calm down” so yeah hopefully that goes well :)
@@orbit1er I really do hope that things get better for you ☺
Same
@Sage is E same....
if youve been getting up and out to try to get your responsibilities and work done despite struggling mentally, you are a strong human being for still hanging on and not giving up. you watching this video just proves how much you are still willing to grow and improve yourself so whoever you are out there, i hope you get the life you have always wanted and deserved while being the best version of yourself
It's very important to process emotions. Did you know that crying and laughing both have the same effect? They both make you feel relieved and restful afterwards. It's alright to cry, but it's important to make your peace afterwards and move on.
The thing is when I expressed my emotions people just Judge you or Bullied you Quickly And it hurts me so I just Hide all my emotions 😢
I read "have the same affect" as "at the same time". And i tried laugh and cry at the same time... Its kinda relieved and i smile instantly 😂
Yeah no time or space to express emotions, got shit to do and bills to pay so it's repressing and suppressing emotions for me lol
And what to do when you supress your emotions? How to get them?
Maturity is when you realise self respect is more important than love
Yup i used to keep going back to my ex bcoz i loved him dearly but he didn't once contact me i used to block him then go back ...now i am trying my best to move on
@@rujjulsaha2911 Feel you so much !! I hope you can do it. No. I KNOW you can do it. I'm trying with you although I am hurting so much at the thought of losing him for good and never finding anyone as good as him again... but we can do this.
So profound.
@@rujjulsaha2911 How did you come back to him, when he didnt even contact you once? How could he contact you if you blocked him in the first place? Did he even know that he was in the relationship with you?!
So many questions.
Love is an important emotion though. If you remove love from humans even giga Chad will crumble like a Greek statue. Love thyself is the same as self respect.
Everyone here has courage in their heart. It is not easy to be brave enough to admit that you still need to mature and grow. We are all here because we want to be the best versions of ourselves! ❤️
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.”
"Happiness is not a destination. It is a journey." - the Dalai Lama
This video helped me greatly. I’m working on unlearning the emotionally immature habits I was raised with so that I may be a better version OF myself FOR myself. My emotional immaturity bleeds onto other parts of my life and that’s not okay. Keep up the great videos 👍🏽
Great going bro. I wish you luck mate.
Amen
I hope it's going well!
Just being able to reflect on your actions, makes you more mature than lots of people!
Good luck on your journey
I used to be very angry and unhappy with life and very emotionally unstable 😅 but I realized that there's no use in being mad all the time,that I can fix it and I can learn how to control my emotions in a more mature way, thank you for this video💕💕 and if anyone who sees this that
Is struggling with emotions or feeling immaturely , I just want you to know that you are in control of your emotions so don't let anyone control you and how you feel, this is YOUR life not THEIRS💕💕🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thanks so much ♥️ hope you’re still doing great ♥️
"Your feelings are valid but you don't need to act on them"
Thank you so much for this video! Emotional immaturity is what I feel what's keeping me from connecting with other people and making relationships with people and keeping my friends within my circle and a part of my life. I really do hope I can live my 20s experiencing new feelings, failing and learning to become a better person without regrets just because of my own emotional immaturity and personal fears. I appreciate all your efforts and content.
I've realized that maturity is accepting reality without complaining, but not only that, it's also a powerful tool called understanding, we understand situations and past events better than in the past, and it's also forgiving others (our parents, our friends, our enemies, etc...)
When we are children, we have dreams, fantasies and what ifs for the world we have a vision for an ideal world and we find it hard to accept other people's realities, we are naive and innocent, but then everything bad happens and we just can't understand the reason, and we think wrongly and have a cognitive distortion
But i've learned that emotional maturity is like a brush that cleans our eyes and our vision, giving us a better understanding, of course, you don't have to abandon your ideals, values and feelings, but you have to rethink your actions, reflect on them, and realize the truth, and by accepting the truth, we can become better versions of ourselves, but remember that life isn't perfect and no one is, and soon enough, we will live in a better world, a world without pain, horror, murder and wars, it'll be over soon
I love how the auto generated subtitles say “welcome back psyched goers”
*I am deeply psyched for another psych2go video*
Lmao
Same my man 😀
I hope every person behind this channel is just alright and fine themselves. I pray for peace for all of you. Thank you for allowing yourselves to be a vessel of compassion and love!
When I tell you that when I first started writing a thought diary a second ago, I felt a TON of feelings off my chest. I confronted myself maturely, I stopped my ego from getting too big, and I taught myself new things. This helped so much that I might as well cry from joy. Thank you.
"if you want to love others..you should love yourself first"
-RM
A beautiful quote from a beautiful person
There is a song by 'the script' using same quote.
YES!
Armys are everywhere wtf ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ
Rm🥰
Always looking to improve myself ☺️
Me too. 🥺😊❤️
☺️
👍👍👍👏🏿👏🏿👐same
TURN AWAY FROM SIN AND HAVE TRUST IN THE RESURRECTED LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST!
Same🥰
1) identify your emotions - know why you feel certain way, when your angry think abt what and why excatly is it making u angry, u can feel whatever but its not about managing your emotion but your action.
2) take responsibility for your action, apologize if you did something wrong
3) take a role model
4) keep a thought diary.
5) open minded - u can listen to others and still have ur own opinion. Be open minded enough to hear others.
6) be patient and than answer when your in an argument.
7) live in present.
School should show these videos at school once in a while, I would've appreciate it watching these videos while I was in school to add some self reflection, discovery, and mindfulness
So true
Very true...lord knows I wasn't getting this information at home. I got in big trouble for even thinking I could express myself at home that was considered disrespectful
Let's be honest. Most kids wouldn't have paid attention.
“ When I became a man, I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be grown up”
-C.S Lewis
😊
“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now that I have become a man, I have put away childish things.” 1co 13.11
(Lewis being a good christian as always)
@@queenofgoldenhearts , I knew this was a quote from scripture by Apostle Paul. I can't remember the book though. 🤷🙍
👏🏻
@@youtubecommentergal4346 1 corinthians cap 13 (the one about love)
Thank you! This helped me so much. I’ve always been a very argumentative person and would get in a lot of arguments. When I did get in these arguments I would have to suffer the consequences, I never understood why I had to suffer the consequences when the others were arguing as well and I would always end up message one of the mods arguing with them in dms and never recognized that I’m the one in the wrong. I realized how much I was being so negative one day when one of those mods told me “I’m sorry but you’re a very negative person” I didn’t understand at first but I thought about it, read through all the messages and realized that all I’ve been doing was trying to defend myself and my opinions but never thought about the way others felt. sometimes ik its hard to realize something when someone says thing that you dont like to your face but its good to realize that its true and you need to fix those problems. this was super good and helpful, im very immature sometimes and am trying my best to mature
"Hands are difficult to draw"
Me as an artist: True
true
facts 🖐
i’ve been going through a lot lately especially with my emotions this video actually helps it sucks on how i’m accepting that fact things are horrible rn but accepting it seems better then reacting in a negative way. Thanks for the video appreciate it
Well done you, great job excepting life exactly the way it is half the battle. Dont pay much attention to your thoughts/thinking most of it rubbish anyway its just the Ego🤗👍❤
this video, in a certain point of it, hit me so hard i actually cried, without realizing it, i never cry for videos and somehow this one managed to hit me deeply, even now typing i'm actually tearing and..it's making me understand and realize stuff i've..always thought that i had answer for but in reality..i didn't
thank you..really..thank you so much..
The tricky thing with this is that, some people have the advice and are good at giving it to others, but struggle with acting on it themselves. I realize myself that I'm not even that emotionally mature, I'm working on it, but (not accussing it) my adhd, period hormones, anxiety, and depression makes it much harder. However I am trying to be better about managing my emotions in order to help me learn to become more mature.
If you are trying to be better there is nothing that can stop you
“You can only make choices for the future” Powerful. I like this 👍🏻
This is really a learning lesson I really need. I think my struggle is No.6 Embrace Reality and No. 8 living in the present.
The thing I struggle the most in all of this is what does make me genuinely happy.
Eversince my first heartbreak relationship back from 2014 to 2015 of January, I was suuuuuuuuuper down and I wanted to cry a lone in my room. For the past 2015 till the coming years, I tried to understand why my EX left me and what was his reasons for doing so. Although, I tried to find ways to distract me like watching my fave animes over and over again, or even doing youtube content too for mostly gaming, it took me many years to try to live in the present time. But at the end of the day when 2020 when the pandemic happened, it felt like my time stops and I always feel stuck in the rutt that I cannot move forward. It is hard for me to live in the present and it just made me recall my past experience that has been holding me back.
It is like I am punishing myself to make me happy. I enjoyed others seeing them making them happy more than my own happiness. "Peace begins with a smile" How I wish I can do that.
But my family always portrays me as a very sad person for all my life. I only smile only in short bursts when it something that makes me happy, but in the end I cannot.
And living in the present is also hard because I am holding myself back that I do not deserve to smile or be happy.
“Find a role model”
Me: *sees channel name*
Me: I all ready found mine
Facts
I didin't find my one I am already matchure (not really) ;-;
Awww. You are amazing.
Same to same
Buy a Correctbook and set a timer so you can write into oblivion😂 But then you’ll have to start and you’ll have to stop at some point. Oh no... *stares at blank pages*
Emotional maturity is not measured by our advancement in age but by the strength of our mind 💫✊🏾
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿100%%%
You know, you are like a safe space and the person who guides, comforts and encourages me..
I feel so touched and consoled when I hear your voice... Thank you so much
I just wanna say that thank you for making this channel . You don't have any idea how calmful it was to me . Cause every time I feel nervous or anxious , I will just directly enjoy this channel . It brings positivity and calmness . I hope you'll never stop making great videos again . Thanks :)
ok I was feeling quite emotional before this because of some circumstances, but embracing my negativity and LIVING in the present made me think and calm down quite a bit, Thank you very much!
I think being open minded is one of the best ways to be emotionally mature :)
1. oml why are your animations so CUTE! eeeeeeeee
2. I love your voice, its so calm and soothing!
3. I am so glad I found your channel
Self respect is definitely key to emotional maturity, and I'm willing to admit that I don't always have that.... My self-talk could also use some improvement... Just because certain situations in life cause negative reactions doesn't mean that I have to let my emotions control me.... Some of these signs are indeed tied to depression, and ignoring/not acknowledging my own mental health issues can indeed make things worse. I do feel like there's a difference in there somewhere, but not everything I feel needs an excuse.
Most people who successfully break out of the cycle don't shift their mentality until they experience emotional pain due to huge life losses, which now have a positive effect of stripping away their illusion of the nature of adulthood.
Being present was something my therapist told me and I did not UNDERSTAND what that meant until a year ago. I stopped seeing that therapist 4 years ago. I hope everyone who made it here understands you are already on a healthy path for a better future.
P2G: Think to yourself “what would mother teresa do?”
Buzzfeed, literally 6 days ago: “The Dark Side of Mother Teresa”
I don't look for role models because they will eventually just let you down.
Mother Teresa did have a dark side, all people do. It is part of emotional maturity to accept the dark side of ourselves and acknowledge that the same is true of others. Then we work on the goodness of ourselves striving to be all the good that we can become. What others do is not our problem even if they are important to us. If they are toxic we set firm boundaries, if we love them we will be patient with them as they choose to become better and if they love you they will extend to you the same courtesy .
That's why I prefer a fictional character as a role model. Hahahah
Like a nice character from a serie or movie that I already have seen
@@12012channel that seems like a sad waste... pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Which one do you think you chose?
@@12012channel Then who are you supposed to look up to? We all need a role model. The trick is finding the right one. Don't give up
for some reason i had tears throughout the whole video , was thinking how my immaturity has affected my girl and thankfully she is still willing to continue our relationship eventhough she had breakdown few times because of my wrong decisions, but after this video one thing i realized is there must be something of good quality in me right that's why she is till willing to continue with me and now its time for me to become mature and treat her better than before , and be person she deserved....thanks alot dear :') ( and i apologize for my bad english hehe)
I have been practising many of these techniques for some time, and they are truly effective! I feel that I have become more mindful of my thoughts, my emotions, as well as my present. I can't wait to incorporate the other techniques into my life, thank you for all you do; you make this world a better place. ❤️
The animations are lovely & I appreciate this channel so much. You all really care about people & growth
Thank you so much 😀 Our mission on spreading awareness on mental health and Psychology topics. So happy to hear that you see it. - Cindy
0:37 That was oddly specific in my case.
I really love this channel, it's helped me understand my feelings and how to control them, even through tough times
(btw, the voice is so soothing and relaxing, I just love😊)
You will never really understand a person until you consider things from thier point of view. 💛
✍ irritated at a doughnut ...
That's how I see it.wslk in their emotional shoes, in their feelings shoes, try to see and feel their hurt, only then will you understand how hurtful your actions and behavior was..
Happy to say ive been practicing these techniques and they have quite literally saved my relationship, as well as giving me some solid techniques to learn about myself. The value of this cannot be overstated.😊
Having a positive outlook in life can yield better results, whether you are young or old. And it is never too late to learn to be more emotionally mature.
I feel I already am doing all of these, not perfectly, but I am. The only one I struggle with recently is the last one about focusing on the present rather than the past and future. I focus too much on the past and future and how it impacts my life rather than on what I'm doing currently in my life. I'm trying to change that though and focus on my life currently and what decisions I need to make that are best for me. I'm not saying I'm perfect, I still have moments or days when I lose it and don't have a calm collected control over my emotions. It takes practice, but with it you learn to be a better person.
i love how calming and relaxing it is to hear her voice.
I can be very impulsive when I'm angry, often cutting someone off in mid sentence and talking over them, but I'm going to work on patience and try to communicate better.
I am impulsive too. :( I don't know where to start.
@Cheryl Owen Try meditation guys. It will help you relax and control your mind. The most important thing is that you want to improve. I can also be very impulsive and meditation, stillness and being in the present moment has changed my life.
When your angry it's hard to see anything but your hurt..patience is difficult when hurt and angry..
i love this so much, this put me in a better mood honestly... made me realize all my mistakes and how much i want to improve myself too
"If you can change it, work towards change. If you can't, embrace who you are, where you are, and work towards what will make you smile."..... My HEART 💓
Iʼm actually really grateful to have realised so much things at a young age. (Iʼm fourteen, yep. Cringe as it might seem but thatʼs the truth.) I realised them from my own experience and books, also from having deep conversations with my father. (Right, you guysʼ videos and the comments too!) I wonʼt say that I have went through so much, but life has taught me many. My realizations are almost all contained in this eight minutes video. And even though Iʼve learned a lot, I am still learning to embrace myself. Some people such as friends and my mother criticize my appearance, mostly my mother. I am actually very hurt but does not show it directly, because I know they are just concerned with how I display myself. (Or maybe Iʼm just reassuring myself, haha.) Like said in the video, donʼt dwell on the past too much, or worry about the future excessively too. Make your moments enjoyable, for your time are limited. No one can stay immortal, and it would be better if you start now if you want to do something. Thanks for the video, Psych2go! And for those that read this one long comment of mine. ☺️☺️
How to be more emotionally mature
1. Identify your emotions
Find out the root cause to why you feel this way,try writing down ur emotions or when you feel sad or empty
2.Take responsibility
Be responsible when you’re wrong and be
accountable
3.Find a role model ( Jay or Brendon)
Look how they handle situations
4.Find a work Dairy
If you suffer from negative thoughts
5.Learn to be open minded
You don’t have all the answers,take in other people perspectives and don’t be judgemental
6.Embrace Reality
Accept and brace your life and struggles and work towards where you want to be
7.Pause and be Patient
Don’t react on impulse in a argument
8.Live in present
Duelling on the past or present can be negative - you can’t change the past or dwell on the future
For being someone who does everything for everyone and thinks they know it all, this video is perfect. I dont have anyone telling me these things, so it's nice to know im emotionally immature... It all makes sense of what I'm going through. Thank you for this video... it's very much appreciated.
''learn to be open minded''
''live in the present''
*mission failed, we'll get them next time*
Yes, next time you got this!
This eppisode is so wholesome, thank you for putting this video together 😍
Backstory on mother Theresa would make you quickly lose her as a role model
You´re not perfect
No one is perfect..Learn the good part and move on
i constantly find myself nowadays dwelling in the past and alwasy thinkking about the future becasue of something bad that recently happened to me. it cause me to become lost and confused for a few months now. Its also kinda affecting how my husband as well. the short video was really helpful simple steps i can follow to change mysefl and the way i think. the video was right. live in the present and make conscious decisions we are less likely to act negatively. thanks for your video.
Thanks!
thank you so much for this video.. this morning, i had an argument with my father and then my younger brother, because they wouldn't listen to me and they tend to "know it all". that mother teresa part really resonated with me. hopefully, i am going to remember your advice: to ask myself, "what would mother teresa do?" 😇💗
I would say I’m pretty emotionally mature.
that’s great!
Yeah same here: I learnt a lot in the past several years and it’s so amazing to be this emotionally mature
This video has really help me realise that I can’t change my emotions but I can change the way I react to them
I have really understood how the way I perceive myself is different from the way I am perceived by others
Thank you for this video 🙏
I am having chronic health issues and my mental health is slipping, I came across this video at the right time Thankyou
I really needed this for this week! Thank you for helping motivate me to become a more emotionally mature person! It’s satisfying to know that I’ve been actively working on these things😊
I don't why I watch these videos. I do find them useful, but there's just a vibe here that I love. Thanks for that.
Why is nobody talking about the outro? It's so cute.
The animation is awesome ❤️❤️. I am a kid when it comes to emotions this absolutely helps me....idk but you guys help me in every way possible....we love you ❤️❤️
Thank you! You got this :) - Cindy
Perfectly timing, glad i reached i for this. I did have some difficulty to grow relationships and deescalate arguments in the past, now i realize i need emotional maturity, be calm
After I start to watch these types of videos related to these subjects I've seen how I can control myself only To start to practice them as laozi said "Knowledge is a Treasure but PRACTICE" is the key to it" I love those quotoes it literally changed my life
Your voice is so soothing- thanks for the video, it really rejuvenated me when I really needed it
Thank you for doing these kinds of content. You have no idea how your videos can shed light to someone.
Love this video. I am very emotionally mature already but getting a list of ways to be more emotionally mature is wonderful and inspiring more ideas/ways to inspire others to do the same! Thank you!😍
I honestly struggle with this in my day to day life. You have given me good tips for me
You got this!
7:20 I always pick the optimal option in every situation. The only reflection I can do is that I could take even more time considering my options but that's not realistic. I should actually take less time thinking over things because it reduces my good options like people getting impatient
thank you, Psych2Go! you're information is helping me a lot!
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I still struggle with why are we not allowed to act on our feelings!
Is not fair that people just hurt us and get away to go on and hurt someone else. Holding people accountable not only feels good for petty revenge but also is my form of contribution to a better world.
Maybe if the people who hurt me had gotten hurt enough by others in the past they wouldn’t have hurt me in the first place because they would have known better.
It isn't fair because society deems it that way. When someone you love hurts you and you confront them only to have them completely deny,ignore or not even care will enrage you. Therefore acting out on your feelings makes you look week
@@adambrown9105 not defending myself is what makes me look weak. I stand up for myself, now that I can.
The saying goes "Hurt people hurt people." Most of the time, those people don't hurt others because they've never been hurt themselves. But because, like you, they argue they SHOULD hurt others to make them stop hurting others.
Instead, if others hurt you, and it's intentional, find better people. If they hurt you but it was unintentional, communicate how their actions hurt you, and see if they react in an emotionally mature way. If they can't, and they're important to you, see if they're willing and able to learn. If not, see if this type of situation is so rare that the relationship can remain positive overall. If not, find better people.
Hurting people only increases the number of people who hurt people. Instead, we should turn our back on people who hurt people, and find the kind people who work on not hurting people.
This is so helpful…
I have learned so much, thank you.
I will try to think positively about myself, accept that I can feel angry and upset (I will take to heart that how we react to something is what we should control, not suppressing out emotions).
I will try to be truly open minded - That our intent as we listen, not the act of listening itself is important.
I will try keeping a diary for my feeling, and….
SMILE!!😊
Bruh I needed this so bad- Anxiety has kind taken over me and it make me nuts :
I really needed this today. I have BPD but I really want to become better at handling my emotions better. I act on impulse way too often. I'll try to follow these tips. Thanks!