6 Signs You've Been Emotionally Abused

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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  Рік тому +653

    Who would you like us to interview on our ask an expert series?

  • @TheywolfKori
    @TheywolfKori Рік тому +1478

    This hits WAY to close to home. The worst part about being abused in any way, is you don't always know its abuse when it's happening. And it's so confusing.

    • @nanaman
      @nanaman Рік тому +26

      @Λ DΛY ΛƬ DЦƧK
      Are you feeling defensive, can't meet their standards and feel like you are not able to do anything right only in their opinions?
      You are the victim, it's okay to defend yourself, be yourself and not be obligated to anyone else. Especially when they have no morals and personal standards for themselves or their behavior and they could care less about you.

    • @entercreativename
      @entercreativename Рік тому +26

      Very much agreed! I remember as a kid learning about these different types of abuses but not recognizing at the moment that I was in the middle of any of them at that time. It took becoming an adult and seeing more normal families and how they function to realize how different my own home and upbringing were, and then even more time to come to accept that there was no easy way to change that without a lot of work on myself and without leaving that environment.

    • @33pandagamer
      @33pandagamer Рік тому +20

      I get what you mean. I lived with a mom who was sweet and nice most of the time, but would get mean and delusional when she wasn't on her depression medication. I only somewhat recently learned that what she did to me, was emotional abuse. And sometimes I wonder if I'm just overreacting, like maybe her actions weren't that bad. Then I remember how I felt, and I remember some of the long-term issues I have. Watching this video reconfirmed it in a way.

    • @KatarinaS.
      @KatarinaS. Рік тому +13

      Usually because you're young and naive and don't know any better, and the abuser and their enablers make you feel like it's your fault and that there's nothing that can be done about it.

    • @lilmissenigma
      @lilmissenigma Рік тому +4

      So true. Took me years to figure it out and now I’ve just sent this video to my mum.

  • @trinaq
    @trinaq Рік тому +3387

    "The wound is not my fault, but the healing is my responsibility." Marianne Williamson

    • @Yukiyusitzmeh
      @Yukiyusitzmeh Рік тому +42

      Man deep

    • @reddgambit2216
      @reddgambit2216 Рік тому +54

      Painfully true, good qoute

    • @Horizon429
      @Horizon429 Рік тому +52

      I was bullied by a guy in high school, it affected me emotionally & made me an introvèrt & my academic performance declined. I am in college, now & the effect is still there.😪

    • @Yukiyusitzmeh
      @Yukiyusitzmeh Рік тому +10

      @@Horizon429 Oh I'm so sorry :(

    • @StaticCollapse
      @StaticCollapse Рік тому +23

      Marianne Williamson 2024!! She's running for president in the US!

  • @LittleMissAesthetic.
    @LittleMissAesthetic. Рік тому +819

    As someone who has been & somehow still is being emotionally & mentally abused, I can relate to this.

    • @ficmatagaea7813
      @ficmatagaea7813 Рік тому +29

      *hugs*

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Рік тому +83

      Sorry that you're going through mental and emotional abuse. We'd like to ask, were you able to find help? Do you have the right resources such as mental health professionals to help you?

    • @LittleMissAesthetic.
      @LittleMissAesthetic. Рік тому +20

      @@ficmatagaea7813 Thx

    • @LittleMissAesthetic.
      @LittleMissAesthetic. Рік тому +22

      @hhyh bruh, try living MY LIFE then you can TALK

    • @LittleMissAesthetic.
      @LittleMissAesthetic. Рік тому +57

      @@Psych2go Yes I did find one way or another to cope with it & to go through the pain and agony, But also maintaining a somewhat stable mind set.
      Thx 4 asking & caring ❤
      Also ps.
      Your videos REALLY helped me find flaws in me that I never thought I had and that helps A LOT.

  • @ives3572
    @ives3572 Рік тому +317

    "There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds." - Laurell K. Hamilton

    • @the80sfanatic13
      @the80sfanatic13 Рік тому +1

      Damn. What book was that?

    • @andreimitrica77
      @andreimitrica77 26 днів тому

      Laurell K. Hamilton how much more straightforward can the person be bruh? Are you straight?

  • @Airkillmaster13
    @Airkillmaster13 Рік тому +547

    I actually started to tear up during this, and I just remembered a lot of my childhood that I blocked from my memory

    • @jantaljaard835
      @jantaljaard835 Рік тому

      Maybe you should go for therapy.

    • @elultimo102
      @elultimo102 Рік тому +7

      I saw an old Twilight Zone, where a man got his wish to relive his childhood, then realizing it was pure Hell. His GF said: "We remember the good." But my 10 y-o self resolved to remember every rotten thing that ever happened to me, so I would never make the same mistake, given the opportunity.

    • @barbaragraceful
      @barbaragraceful Рік тому +1

      ahh me too

    • @naonbvfcdshbhhnh
      @naonbvfcdshbhhnh Рік тому +1

      I’m sorry man I hope your happy and healing got any advice how to cope with emotional abuse ?

    • @SweetUniverse
      @SweetUniverse Рік тому +1

      same

  • @Luvstay
    @Luvstay Рік тому +1383

    0:00 Intro
    0:39 Kingdom of Isolation
    1:25 Reign of Worthlessness
    1:58 Fortness of Avoidance
    2:34 Blame Game
    3:12 Battle of Outburst
    3:57 Conceal don't Feel
    4:52 Outro

    • @spinacho9342
      @spinacho9342 Рік тому +6

      TYANK U😭

    • @shikaisme1505
      @shikaisme1505 Рік тому +9

      *fortress

    • @FrankeNamensKarim
      @FrankeNamensKarim Рік тому +5

      ​@@YtWuff same. I guess I should begin to have ONS and never ever again begin a new relationship

    • @FrankeNamensKarim
      @FrankeNamensKarim Рік тому +4

      @@YtWuff one night stand😅 I often had the possibility, but I always said no because I want a relationship, but yeah, love sucks so maybe I should change that

    • @onopitea
      @onopitea Рік тому +23

      A kingdom of isolation, and it looks like… IM THE QUEEN :0

  • @organism7002
    @organism7002 Рік тому +362

    Tbh as a dude, I used to struggle with accepting vulnerability because I’d get backlash whenever I did. My message to others struggling with trying to look ‘strong’ by avoiding feelings is that you’re much braver than you think you are for even accepting you’re struggling in the first place; you’re confronting something you’ve been taught to avoid, and that takes a lot of courage.

    • @Jasonslittlesister1
      @Jasonslittlesister1 Рік тому +9

      Thank you. Beautifully said.

    • @Peaches__Creme
      @Peaches__Creme Рік тому +8

      Im so glad you’re getting in tone with your feelings!’

    • @alienvomitsex
      @alienvomitsex Рік тому +13

      Men are also hurt by toxic masculinity and this is a good example of how

    • @tufits
      @tufits Рік тому +4

      Cry, yell, punch a wall, lean on a shoulder, just be vulnerable.
      I'm not a guy, but I'd rather anyone show their vulnerability since I get yelled at for it myself, just because it annoys my parent.
      So please, to anyone- feel a bit more confident and be vulnerable. You can't bottle up feelings after all! It's what makes you human. That's what my friend taught me :)

    • @DAEsaster
      @DAEsaster Рік тому +3

      Down with gender roles! Down with gendered expectations! The only men I actually enjoy hanging out with are ones who are emotionally open and willing to express themselves. What is the point of being alive if you're being forced into a box that isn't big enough?

  • @Luvstay
    @Luvstay Рік тому +262

    Sometimes words do hurt people more than any physical abuse-

    • @Selly_
      @Selly_ Рік тому +27

      As someone who experienced both, I fully agree. Hope everyone gets out of their toxic environment ❤

    • @arimarezaee7455
      @arimarezaee7455 Рік тому +9

      words are more harmful and damaging than bullets

    • @ProbablyHeavensDoor
      @ProbablyHeavensDoor Рік тому +1

      @@arimarezaee7455 man what have you been through 😭

    • @the80sfanatic13
      @the80sfanatic13 Рік тому +4

      You got that right. I was helping my mother. Taking care of her. But she was still criticizing and judging me like crazy.

    • @scooterbob1408
      @scooterbob1408 Рік тому

      Absolutely!

  • @fenderblue9485
    @fenderblue9485 Рік тому +435

    I was raised by narcissists who taught me to plow through my inner feelings to enable their behaviors to please them. Never was never educated about this personality disorder and enabled my personal relationships not knowing any better. I'm finally in a good place after a decade of healing myself.

    • @davidcatlett4052
      @davidcatlett4052 Рік тому +7

      Good for you and congratulations.

    • @ficmatagaea7813
      @ficmatagaea7813 Рік тому +5

      that's really nice. :)

    • @Horizon429
      @Horizon429 Рік тому +15

      I wss raised by overtly-controlling parents, since childhood. After I left my home during college, the effect started showing & I am unable to còpe with many situations.

    • @meridablack4402
      @meridablack4402 Рік тому +4

      please share how you healed this. I feel like I constantly bring out the worst in everyone around me

    • @Jasonslittlesister1
      @Jasonslittlesister1 Рік тому +4

      Same. Wishing you all the best!

  • @ives3572
    @ives3572 Рік тому +56

    "Trauma is personal, it does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated, the silent screams continue internally, heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams, healing can begin." - Danielle Bernock

  • @empress_katalina
    @empress_katalina Рік тому +525

    This video spoke to me and is me on all levels. Sadly, I'm always walking on eggshells and trying to please everyone before myself, I'm apologetic for everything, even when nothing is my fault. Ugh
    This video triggered a lot within.
    It just let's me know the work has began! And there's loads to do!
    I'm learning to set boundaries and trying to love myself for the first time.
    Totally easier said then done
    But I got this!!!!
    We got this!!!
    💜🙏🏼💜

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Рік тому +17

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. We wanted to ask, how are you doing now? How are you setting healthy boundaries and loving yourself? Do you have any strategies that you found helpful?

    • @gremlingabe
      @gremlingabe Рік тому +5

      I feel this comment very much and I'm happy to hear that you've been working hard to set boundaries and learn to self love.
      I believe that you can absolutely achieve those goals and be the best person that you already are!
      We all got this! 💙💙💙💙

    • @korekiyo_senzaiwife1official
      @korekiyo_senzaiwife1official Рік тому +2

      I hope you feel better 💖

    • @dm4life579
      @dm4life579 Рік тому +6

      You remind me of a friend of mine who is in a friendship with a covert narcissist. I feel like he is slipping back. I did everything I could and gave him all the tools, it's on him now.
      Set boundaries, love yourself and know that not everything is your fault. You can't control how people feel but you can be kind, genuine and respectful while you deal with people. If they get upset and you checked all those boxes... then
      ... it's not your fault.
      Wish you the best.

    • @julyol119
      @julyol119 Рік тому +4

      You definitely got this! Take your time, because years of damage need time to heal. I can very much recommend talking to a professional - it's much easier, than talking to friends or relatives. Because, it's the therapists job to listen to you, so it feels less like you're burdening someone.
      Don't give up! ❤

  • @shepherdthoenen8564
    @shepherdthoenen8564 Рік тому +67

    I’ve been trying to convince my father to change for years… I’m 26 and this video convinced me it’s time to never talk to my abuser again.

    • @glenw-xm5zf
      @glenw-xm5zf Рік тому +7

      and don't worry about hurting their feelings. they don't have any

    • @susandoig4192
      @susandoig4192 Рік тому +2

      Wee lamb stay strong ❤

    • @Luiz-zy6nn
      @Luiz-zy6nn Рік тому

      Same with my mother.

  • @ytgytgy
    @ytgytgy Рік тому +60

    as a literal former child-slave who wasn't aloud to do anything other kids did, and who was responsible for the comfort of narcissist parents who always reminded me that I was less than what they expected, I relate to this heavily. My mom died last year and although I miss her, I'm beginning to heal in a way I never could while she was alive.

    • @naonbvfcdshbhhnh
      @naonbvfcdshbhhnh Рік тому

      Dude that’s so amazing what advice to you have coping with the abuse ?

    • @amandanegrete1306
      @amandanegrete1306 Рік тому

      Your mom was your abuser?

    • @emmawilson2837
      @emmawilson2837 Рік тому +2

      @section_b, I fully appreciate what you are saying when you mentioned that you started to do some healing when your mom passed away. I only realized just how much of a damaged childhood I had when my mom passed away too. I loved her but I always had the feeling that life had been so difficult with her. The vast majority of those captions mentioned I had experienced at one time or another, some more than others. Now as an older adult I don't take the much $hit from anyone now. Live to my own tune and am happier for it. Take strength in that you can do this!!

  • @kenrickbautista6141
    @kenrickbautista6141 Рік тому +98

    I get hurt more emotionally than physically everyday of my life. EVERY DAY! Sometimes, I get treated like I was a punching bag, easy target or laughing stock of the entire world by everyone, even by my own family at times.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Рік тому +15

      We're so sorry that you feel this way. It can be frustrating when the people in our lives, especially our loved ones, seem to be causing hurt even if it's unintentionally. We wanted to ask, have you tried speaking to a mental health professional that can help you set healthy boundaries?

    • @kenrickbautista6141
      @kenrickbautista6141 Рік тому +9

      @@Psych2go yes, I have been seeing a mental health professional just recently, and I'm glad I found some help.

    • @ytgytgy
      @ytgytgy Рік тому +8

      I get the feel. gotta quit feeling like you're responsible for everyone else's comfort or whatever it is you feel responsible for that you aren't.

    • @ficticiousperson9893
      @ficticiousperson9893 Рік тому

      I know exactly how you feel. Why is it that good people have to deal with this. I dealt with those feelings through out my marriage and by my last employer. It would be nice not to feel like a pos every day.

    • @richardsilva-spokane3436
      @richardsilva-spokane3436 Рік тому +3

      I am truly so sorry that this is happening to you. I know the experience only too well (the way my wife has treated me in our 50 year marriage).
      Please stay strong, and know that those abusers are wrong, wrong, wrong ❤️‍🩹

  • @rikitikitavatiki
    @rikitikitavatiki Рік тому +101

    My parents did the best they could, with what they had -- they had their own emotional baggage. But getting yelled at all the time took its toll. They realized it years later and apologized, and I'm not angry with them, but I still struggle.
    1, 2, 3, and 6 are still major issues for me. *Especially* "conceal don't feel". I've been numb for long enough that I don't remember not being numb.

    • @inpurpleblanket142
      @inpurpleblanket142 10 місяців тому +4

      Mine never apologized, pray for me that i can always forgive them 😢

    • @georgiewatson8688
      @georgiewatson8688 10 місяців тому +3

      It's really good that they took responsibility and apologised to you love. Good luck

    • @KanoKingoftheworld
      @KanoKingoftheworld 5 місяців тому

      Even your parents is yelling,you should know if they struggled too

    • @NoahMDub
      @NoahMDub Місяць тому

      I was yelled at all the time too, especially as a teenager. Believe me, I love my family, but I can’t see myself ever living with them full time ever again. I’m successful enough to live on my own and make a living for myself, and I’m not planning on giving that up anytime soon.

  • @qthomas9166
    @qthomas9166 Рік тому +208

    I'm glad emotional Abuse is being talked about more often in these videos because physical abuse happens more often because your left with marks and stuff but the entire world always forgets about the emotional standpoint of it as well. As humans we come with feelings that are always ignored or misunderstood which is a problem in the world. We look at the marks that abusers leave but never look at how it makes us feel on the inside. We are suffering not just on the outside but inside as well. So I'm happy that they talk about emotional abuse more because the society we live in today is careless and no one really cares about your feelings. Thank you so much Psych2G0 for bringing this to your channel because it is definitely well needed❤

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Рік тому +15

      Thank you for taking the time to watch the video and for your thoughtful insight. We agree that mental abuse is less apparent than its physical counterpart, which does not mean that it's any less traumatizing. In your opinion, why do you think that the world tends to forget about the emotional effects of abuse?

    • @qthomas9166
      @qthomas9166 Рік тому +13

      @@Psych2go Good question I think it has everything to do with how people view others. In other words people try to talk down on others and never think to understand how it could make that other person feel. It's an I don't care attitude many has especially if they are higher in status. They don't take in consideration that they aren't perfect but paint themselves out like they are perfect and better than others, even on social media which adds to the mental abuse because of cyberbullying, hate comments, and even backlash. That's my view which is why I'm thankful that your channel has so many amazing content to share on mental health. Love your content and keep up the good work👍

    • @also4406
      @also4406 Рік тому

      Man whatever 😂

  • @CallumDT
    @CallumDT Рік тому +365

    Came out at exactly the right time. This is my life in conclusion.
    My parents while very good parents overall. Just don't get that being unpleasant and always insulting your child can do real damage.
    It got to the point where while I love them and appreciate all the things they do for me. I don't want to be in the same room as them. They just aren't pleasant for me to be around. It's unfortunate that the parents who provide everything and give me every opportunity, I have always done my utmost to avoid in every step of my life. And I do resent them for it.
    I hope some of you relate. Surely I'm not alone?
    Edit:
    Things might improve probably not. after talking with them quite extensively I think they are beginning to understand that while arguments and insults/general uncalled for unpleasantness may be common, it's not good, just like smoking.

    • @JillofTrades
      @JillofTrades Рік тому +31

      I hear you. My parents have provided me everything they could. Christmas presents, taking me on vacations, provided financially, etc. However, they fought a lot and the noises and such became too much. I've been more open lately about the stuff I'm doing, but my dad always shoots it down and my mom is working fulltime now (my dad is retired and I live with my parents), so being in the constant state of negativity hurts.

    • @empress_katalina
      @empress_katalina Рік тому +10

      I'm so sorry that is happening to you🙏🏼😔
      YOU ARE IMPORTANT
      YOU ARE LOVED
      YOU MATTER
      and YOU ARE NOT WHAT OTHERS THINK OR SAY OF YOU
      Believe in yourself!
      I'm struggling all these years later cause I never knew this.
      I believed whatever my parents said or did to me was law. They're the top of the food chain, we answer to them. But that's not the case at all.
      Parents obligations are to make sure you are safe (from others and yourself), protected, healthy (mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically)guiding you in confidence, making sure you're happy, LIVING! Amongst many other things.
      Hands and objects hurt but words cut into us the worst. And because we are conditioned to look up to our parents and honour them, their words hold true meaning to us, even if they "didn't mean it" or if it was said out of anger or stress.
      I don't care what it is. No one has the right to hurt another person.
      I don't know your exact situation. Obviously, if it's abusive you can seek outside help or talk to someone you trust🙏🏼write down a list of things you love about yourself.
      If your parents aren't building up your self love and self confidence then you need to do the work.
      If you want help with this. You're welcome to dm me on Instagram.
      If you want or need, we can share affirmations and one thing you love about yourself each day. I do this with another friend and I just started it with another lastnight.
      It helps! To recognize your worth when no one seems to.
      I'm babbling on and on.
      My apologies.
      What you wrote here triggered me. Except my parents were toxic for me.
      Again, I'm sorry you're going through that and I'll keep you in my heart and prayers 🙏🏼🙏🏼💜🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • @ficmatagaea7813
      @ficmatagaea7813 Рік тому +4

      It's okay to struggle, but you're not alone in your struggle. I believe your situation WILL get better so...

    • @pheonixblaz3504
      @pheonixblaz3504 Рік тому +13

      same.. but for me, even when i make the smallest mistakes, the words they use... it stings so bad... and it's been going on for a while, adding the fact that I'm in a restrictive family which also stings me a lot more... i dont even dare tell them much about most of what's been happening because usually they'll just somehow find a way and turn it to me as if i am in the wrong... i wanna love them but at the same time im scared...

    • @kimy5035
      @kimy5035 Рік тому +2

      You re not alome

  • @moths.asleep
    @moths.asleep Рік тому +68

    As someone who’s been mentally and emotionally abused by a parent in the past and now possibly someone I used to call a friend, it’s nice to watch videos like these and have a bit of closure for some of the ways I act the way I do

    • @also4406
      @also4406 Рік тому

      Man You are the one who don't love your parents
      I don't Even know why would they have u

    • @NIGHTBLOODUSAGI
      @NIGHTBLOODUSAGI Рік тому

      ​@@also4406 what the hell is wrong with you?

    • @Anti-InternetTroll101
      @Anti-InternetTroll101 Рік тому +7

      @Also it’s not their fault that their parents emotionally and mentally abused them.

  • @shaynamccarthy3255
    @shaynamccarthy3255 Рік тому +37

    As someone who was emotionally neglected and abused for the majority of my childhood, this is fascinating to see. My sister exhibits more of the emotional numbing and shutting down to others. She doesn't open up to anyone, and if she does feel something, it causes her to have an inconsolable meltdown. But I have more of the anger issues, and blaming myself for everything (as the oldest sibling, I should have helped more, etc.). Thank you for brining these to light, it really helps to know that some of the things I experience aren't always just because I am a bad person.

  • @Alaskanraider2734
    @Alaskanraider2734 Рік тому +40

    I grew up with a very controlling mother. It's not until the past few years that I've learned of this, and I've grown more aware of it since.

  • @EcpliseCrow
    @EcpliseCrow Рік тому +297

    ✨ Timestamps and Major Points ✨
    1. 0:40 A kingdom of isolation
    2. 1:23 Reign of worthlessness
    3. 1:57 Fortress of avoidance
    4. 2:34 Blame game
    5. 3:12 Battle of outbursts
    6. 3:56 Conceal don't feel (DONT LET THEM KNOWWWWWW, WELL NOW THEY KNOWWWW LET IT GOO LET IT GOOO)
    I am truly sorry for the frozen reference.
    Anyway, if any of you have been emotionally abused, remember that you can heal! I turned into a prick after getting emotionally abused, but here I am now! You can and will get better! Believe me.

    • @stardust942
      @stardust942 Рік тому +5

      I am happy for you wes❤ I am slowly healing finally. I am learning to trust people after a decade and i am expressing myself little by little now. These are small steps. But i never thought I can do all these😊 I dont know know why but I feel like sharing it here

    • @EcpliseCrow
      @EcpliseCrow Рік тому +4

      @@stardust942 Small steps or not, they're still steps! Little by little, you will heal. I believe in you! One day, you're going to be fully healed, and you're going to be proud of how far you've come. Keep going! 🤍🤍🤍

    • @matchabubbletea4life
      @matchabubbletea4life Рік тому +5

      Comedy gold XD for the reference lmfao

    • @gr1nm
      @gr1nm Рік тому +5

      Jeez, you really need to let these references go

    • @stardust942
      @stardust942 Рік тому +3

      @@EcpliseCrow thank you. This means so much to me:)

  • @hardlee2432
    @hardlee2432 Рік тому +21

    I've had a lot of trauma in my childhood so it's no surprise to me that I can relate to these problems. What's crazy is you never know how badly even small things can mess you up in the future.

  • @gremlingabe
    @gremlingabe Рік тому +44

    This video has made me feel more relieved and gave some courage to break away from a friend I used to love/care for.
    My friend, while having been one of the few that I've had a lot of fun being with, has been the biggest cause of my emotional breakdowns and trauma. Throughout the beginning of our friendship, he would always try to isolate me from my friends because if I had more friends, he would think I plan on leaving him or forgetting about him. Since I was so naive at the time, I fell for the tactics and became a very dependent person, always relying on his company to fill the void of loneliness after losing touch with my friend group.
    Now that I've gotten more mature and older, I found the courage to make the move and break it off from him. It hurts a little to do so, but I know that it is for the better and can benefit myself to be more happy and have more freedom.
    Thank you Psych2Go for making this video! It really helped me and it makes me feel less alone

    • @Meilo33
      @Meilo33 Рік тому +2

      Hey, I usually don't write comments but this one got my attention because i had to go through a similar phase than you did. Usually people say they were emotionally abused by their parents/family or their partner but rarely seen people say from a simple freind.
      So I had a similar "friend" than you did. Always tried to manipulate me so I spent time with him and not others and made me feel bad for it.Also insult me stuff like that. I could go on with things he did but that would take way to long. I mean it was never that one thing but rather always small things but those add up. But back then I was very naive and felt like I had to be friends with him. Also because I feared that he would talk shit in school about me and annoy me all the time or something like that. This would go a couple of years. But tbf in the beginning he wasn't like that I don't know why he tourned like this. Anyways. Luckily at some point he found a girlfriend and slowly I distanced myself from him.
      To this day I have trust issues and I'm very cautious with who I be friends with and even then I don't want a very close friendship.
      To this day I ask myself why he was like that and how he could do certain things because I can't believe that a kid or lets say young boy (we were like 13/14) manipulates others on purpose or doesn't have any sympathy at all. Like he told himself "oh today I'm going to manipulate him". I can't really believe that tbh so i think this question remains unexplained.
      I don't know why I'm telling you all this but I somehow found myself in your text so I wanted to share my experience as well and letting you know your not alone😅

    • @gremlingabe
      @gremlingabe Рік тому +2

      @@Meilo33 I'm so sorry that you've had to go through a similar experience like mine. It can be a bit sad to see friends change or become different as we get older. It tends to happen to anyone and everyone, and it's a bit upsetting. However, you sharing your experience with me, makes me feel like there are people just like me out there and that's something to feel a bit good about.
      I am in the recovery process of my trauma and while I may not feel 100% myself most of the time, I can definitely see the difference in how I see things and I feel a lot better. I really hope that you have better friends today that treat you with the respect that you should always deserve and receive in return.
      Thank you again for sharing! It means a lot to me

    • @Meilo33
      @Meilo33 Рік тому +1

      @@gremlingabe thank you very much for this comment.
      Yeah today i have better friends and I'm glad that you also are feeling better now and i hope that you continue to get better and have already found friends that treat you with respect.
      Don't give up no matter in which situation you are. There will always be people that actually care about you and love you.
      Life can be hard sometimes but it makes me feel better that I'm not alone. I wish you all the best✌️

    • @gremlingabe
      @gremlingabe Рік тому +1

      @@Meilo33 You're too sweet! Thank you very much for the support! I do now have better friends and I adore all of them with all my heart.
      I'm very happy you've found better people and I hope you continue to do better and be the best that you already are! Again, thank you for the sweet comment and support!
      I wish you the best as well! 💕

    • @daggienammie3626
      @daggienammie3626 Рік тому

      Same..

  • @yeddareacts2.0
    @yeddareacts2.0 Рік тому +45

    Wounds cannot heal but you can heal them once you face the things that causes you pain ❤

  • @williambennett5862
    @williambennett5862 Рік тому +14

    This used to be so relatable for me until I got help and went on a healing journey. I suggest that for anyone who has gone through this.

  • @nevaehhamilton3493
    @nevaehhamilton3493 Рік тому +108

    Someone complained about the lack of timestamps. Well fear not, my good friend!
    0:00 Intro
    0:38 A Kingdom Of Isolation
    1:24 A Reign Of Worthlessness
    1:57 A Fortress Of Avoidance
    2:33 The Blame Game
    3:10 The Battle Of Outbursts
    3:56 Conceal, Don't Feel
    4:52 Outro
    Hope this helps! Love y'all!

    • @donttakemyeyebrow
      @donttakemyeyebrow Рік тому +2

      sure they did

    • @Anubonek
      @Anubonek Рік тому +2

      Someone wrote the timestamps an hour before you though

    • @nevaehhamilton3493
      @nevaehhamilton3493 Рік тому +2

      @@Anubonek that's okay. I've seen two comments with timestamps on this channel before.

  • @Au79Bricks
    @Au79Bricks Рік тому +13

    It’s easier to stop feeling than it is to feel, sometimes I even scare myself with the fact that the thought of putting a bullet through my head is… comforting.

    • @KingdomKeys4U
      @KingdomKeys4U 8 місяців тому

      So sorry, but PLEASE Don't let those thoughts and feelings have rule over you. There is Hope and healing. Focus on what you can do and what is pleasant in your life. : your favorite hobby, favorite food, fav music, fav animal. I'm noticing that being around dogs have been so healing for me. Write some affirmations down.: I will get through this, I matter, There's more to life, I Am a survivor, One step at a time, I'm getting stronger. Say them everyday.
      I'm praying for you, Philippines 4:13🙏🏽🩵😇

  • @look-at-this-goofy-ahh-rat
    @look-at-this-goofy-ahh-rat Рік тому +102

    “It’s important to reach out for help.”
    Last time I tried to reach out for help from my parents, they sat me down and forced me to talk about my problems, then proceeded to undermine my problems and say I was being overdramatic. They refused to let me leave even when I told them I felt like I was going to pass out. I can’t tell if this is emotional abuse or not, but they make me feel like I’m worthless because they don’t even help me through my problems, it the point that I know for a fact they’ll be mad at me for it, so I bottle it up.

    • @jirachido3997
      @jirachido3997 Рік тому +4

      Same

    • @strudelh
      @strudelh Рік тому +44

      It's so interesting how _these_ parents are the same ones telling you, "you can come to me for anything", but then gaslight you about how you feel or about your experiences.
      I remember almost wanting to throw up bcs of having to do a "sit down talk". :/

    • @cassandrajoiner9933
      @cassandrajoiner9933 Рік тому +22

      I'm so glad I'm older, I won't stand for 'sit down talks' anymore. I won't tolerate being looked down the nose at. I would rather fight than be talked down to.

    • @also4406
      @also4406 Рік тому

      Man ofc You are overdramatic
      What a waste of air

    • @lundylove9033
      @lundylove9033 Рік тому +20

      Yes it’s gaslighting. Usually people like this will never take responsibility for what they’ve done. They say they love you, but when you ask them to stop something that hurts you, they blame you instead and say you’re too sensitive. Yes this is so common, unfortunately.

  • @korekiyo_senzaiwife1official
    @korekiyo_senzaiwife1official Рік тому +11

    To whoever is dealing with these things, I hope you feel better and have a brighter future ahead of you. Just having all of these horrible things happening to you is depressing and frustrating. I hope you find help and love for yourself so the healing process will start. ❤

  • @trusfrated4645
    @trusfrated4645 Рік тому +73

    That's so relatable but now, I've started to stand up for myself. If I get manipulated, I give them the taste of their medicine at the same time so they feel what I feel. It definitely doesn't stop here but it lets them know that you don't care

    • @_Maryxmkhan09
      @_Maryxmkhan09 Рік тому +5

      im so proud of you,keep going

    • @trusfrated4645
      @trusfrated4645 Рік тому +1

      @@_Maryxmkhan09 Ty 💗 I'm proud of you too let's keep pushing 💪

    • @nicholasleipzig5448
      @nicholasleipzig5448 Рік тому +8

      I'm trying to work out the problems with my dysfunctional family. No one's bothered about anyone in my family. I tried to make things right but now I understand that this would take a very long time to recover.

    • @trusfrated4645
      @trusfrated4645 Рік тому +2

      @@nicholasleipzig5448 keep going I'm proud of you. Healing takes some time but it's not impossible :).

    • @joshsaundh4851
      @joshsaundh4851 Рік тому +2

      @@nicholasleipzig5448 hey what should I do because I have not seen my girlfriend in 8 months so should I go to my girlfriend graduation 👨‍🎓

  • @Lyda009
    @Lyda009 Рік тому +14

    As a victim of being mentally abused by her own parents, it's a tiring situation, sometimes I can't stand by my own and I feel like existing it's just... Difficult. I know they can't understand because they don't believe mental issues are a real problem to take care, but I really try to keep going afterwards.

  • @ReignBeauofTerror
    @ReignBeauofTerror Рік тому +9

    I've been aware of the emotional abuse I've experienced (it's the driving force behind my therapy), but I appreciate the reminders of its effects on us. I've gotten so used to feeling like this, it's hard to remember that there's a light at the end of the tunnel.
    Thank you!

  • @-kyrahhh
    @-kyrahhh 4 місяці тому +4

    i’ve been feeling depressed and suicidal for a while now, i always thought it was just because i was overthinking everything, but i realized that my mom, who yells at me for every mistake and plays the victim to guilt trip me into feeling terrible, is the reason. i can’t make a mistake without hating myself, no matter what it is. whenever i confront her she yells and tells me im being a brat and that she “does everything for me” and yes i love her very much but, i wish she would listen. and she wonders why i don’t tell her anything anymore 🤷‍♀️

  • @fallenweeble7453
    @fallenweeble7453 Рік тому +46

    I check pretty much all these boxes, but looking back I don't see things in my childhood as abusive. I've struggled with depression for 15+ years and 3 years into therapy have made pretty much zero progress. My therapist even gave me a potential diagnosis of cptsd. He said it's likely due to affection being gated behind qualifiers (doing well in school, participating in church, etc...). So while I didn't have parents that exploded and yelled at me, it was a lot of "you're smarter than this, how can you do so poorly" when I got an A-.
    I don't know where I'm going with this, but it is interesting to see another source validate my therapist since I've kind of been doing the "maybe I'm overreacting and misrepresenting stuff" thoughts.

    • @assassinsbleedacwalkthroug9947
      @assassinsbleedacwalkthroug9947 Рік тому

      i was a suma cum laude and my parents told me they could have done better than me and got mad at me. broke my world

    • @fyren91
      @fyren91 Рік тому +2

      I had pretty much the same. It was overall good, but then whenever I had a problem, my mom acted like she was the one hurt and I made her feel bad, instead of being the one to support me. As well as me being her confidant in the time of need. And this is when I was an early teenager. She also acted terribly displeased and hurt when I did small things like every kid, secretly eating junk food for example. But in day to day life, as long as I had good grades, all was good. She wasn't really interested in my life or hobbies, except for superficial questions like: how was school, who are you meeting with, etc.

  • @Yormsane
    @Yormsane Рік тому +52

    Damn, this hit so hard... described my experiences almost to the letter. Thank you.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Рік тому

      Thank you for sharing your insight. If possible, could you let us know which part of the video resonated to you?

    • @salchst
      @salchst Рік тому

      @@Psych2go This is not Rich, but my sentiments exactly. Every part of the video fit me. I would say the most obvious part is that I used to blame myself for everything and everyone. ___Steve

  • @maytherasmouse6470
    @maytherasmouse6470 Рік тому +3

    That moment where you need to watch a video on emotional abuse to verify that you were, in fact, abused, and that you aren't a monster.
    On a different note, excellent work as always Psych2Go! Love your animations and your voice lines are so soothing and the info is super clear and concise.

  • @Nomad-vaulter-HP2
    @Nomad-vaulter-HP2 Рік тому +85

    I was mentally and emotionally abused by a coach and it took me so long to realize what had happened to me was abuse. I miss heard a different coach and messed up and I started apologizing like mad and she stopped me and said “why are you apologizing? It’s not your fault” and let me tell you that simple question turned my life around

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Рік тому +9

      Thank you so much for sharing something so personal to you. Being abused by an authority/mentor figure can have lasting effects. We wanted to ask, how are you doing now? Are you finding your other coach much more supportive? If so, how does that help you with the effects that your previous coach had left?

    • @Nomad-vaulter-HP2
      @Nomad-vaulter-HP2 Рік тому

      @@Psych2go well I left that club and got away from her, I think the worst part about it all was that before all this I was very close to her. But once I came back from my Injury [a horribly fractured humerus and two surgeries] she was extremely toxic but I still trusted her. I’m doing better now but if a coach shouts or yells at me I am prone to shutdowns and PTSD attacks two years later. I have found a very supportive group of friends who look out for me or help me if a coach unknowingly sets off an attack. I still struggle with a lot of the stuff from her but I’m talking to a councilor now to and stuffs getting a bit better, it’s slow but it’s progress! Sadly I don’t get to work with the other coach now, she lives in a different state but I’ve found new ones who are extremely supportive and believe in me even though I don’t, [maybe someday I’ll be able to believe in myself.]

  • @tukkobil
    @tukkobil Рік тому +21

    I relate to this in all levels.
    My mom is like a switch, she changes her mood in an instant, once she was joking with me and the other she was yelling at me.
    I'm struggling to ask my mom for therapy for this sole reason, her mood changes in seconds and that scares me.

  • @CivilEngineerWroxton
    @CivilEngineerWroxton Рік тому +2

    I’m 55 years old and was definitely emotionally abused by my stepdad back in the very late 60’s and through the 70’s. He was extremely violent and expected absolute perfection from my siblings, myself, and my mother. I watched this man beat my mother mercilessly for years and it STILL has a hugely profound effect on me even 45 to 50 years later.
    He caused all of the aftermath that is outlined in this video. I’ve spent a LOT of money on therapy and psychiatric treatment to try desperately to get past all the damage that he caused for me and my family.
    My mother kept him around WAY past his welcome and so I have deeply ingrained issues with my mother, too. I’m a person who HATES violence and I do all that I can to avoid any kind of conflict, which falls into the Conceal category, as well as the Isolation category. This has caused me no end of missed opportunities to have much more engaged relationships with different people around me and at least one woman whom I definitely know I could have had a relationship that brought me out of my shell. But it didn’t happen because I was too afraid to do my part to be outgoing and cause her to know how I felt about her. This falls into the Worthlessness category because I just didn’t feel worthy of her time, attention, affection, and beauty. I have always felt ugly, stupid, worthless, unable to do anything good or that contributed to the good of those around me, and have always felt like nothing I needed or felt mattered at all.
    So I look back at my life and see countless missed opportunities and moments that could have developed into something that redeemed me.
    I am a Senior Civil Engineer and have a BS in Aerospace Engineering and Botany. So I accomplished a good education and have always been very good at my profession, but social life and personal relationships have always been my downfall and caused horrendous difficulties in my life. I’ve done my best to overcome the effects of emotional abuse, but it cut me so deep and broke my spirit so abysmally that I am numb to the core, just as this video outlines.

  • @Ghostly_scarf
    @Ghostly_scarf Рік тому +6

    Battle of outburst just hit the bullseye for me a bit too well, Having a ton of pressure on yourself is a habit that is so self destructive, being scared of failure, wanting to make sure things don’t get out of control is just relatable for me.

  • @cosmolosys
    @cosmolosys Рік тому +4

    This is so relatable! Especially after my last attempt at a relationship, all of the signs got amplified and became even more apparent, even though they were already present throughout my entire life. I believe going through a toxic relationship pointed out to me what I needed to work on, and without it it might have taken much longer for me to work on healing, if ever at all.

  • @3septe
    @3septe Рік тому +11

    Im happy this channel exists , it motivates me alot through my toxic parents , im healing finally , im starting to love myself from you! I can never thank you enough♥️

  • @kaizen_5091
    @kaizen_5091 Рік тому +2

    Oh my goodness. The artwork in this video so accurately depicts the emotions and experiences that are described in the voice over. The two together are so impactful in the story telling and message throughout.

  • @TFitz1
    @TFitz1 Рік тому +4

    This video made me tear up because it described me to a tee. It's almost scary how accurate it is. And also reminded me that there are people out there who understand. Who care enough to understand.

  • @vortexnebula0
    @vortexnebula0 Рік тому +3

    I relate to this so much. I remember crying so much as a kid and I didn't realize it was because of all the experiences I've had with other people. I have a speech impediment. People where not so kind to me as a child. Shit, even my family treated me differently from my siblings and peers. As an adult, I don't cry anymore, even when experiencing extreme emotion, not a single tear. It saddens me even more that I can't have that experience anymore. All of the things that I've been through, I now have to sort out as an adult. I realized this after some serious self reflection. It's a long journey y'all, but I believe we all can do it. You're gonna have to sort out some very repressed memories to truly clear out the closet. It's ok, we're all going through this together ❤

  • @s7449
    @s7449 Рік тому +7

    I tried to explain to someone that this is how I feel the other day. Thank you for this video! I have been struggling and going through with this my whole life, and I'm scared I passed these traits to my children. We are trying to work through these chains now.

    • @acutelilmint8035
      @acutelilmint8035 Рік тому

      I think the best thing u can do to not repeat history is, don’t push your assumptions on them. If they are feeling uncomfortable sad, don’t always try to solve it.. listen., I think this was the main problem for most of us.. our parents didn’t try listening nor understanding, instead blaming.. saying it’s out fault we can’t figure 💩 out.
      At least for me.. i feel like im in a prison.. anxiety is crippling..but that’s what I would try not to do.. I won’t offer solutions unless my kid asks for it. But I will listen to them. And take into consideration what they say instead of blaming them for being broken.. maybe it’s my fault for breaking my kid? I dunno..
      Also don’t hit them.. that 💩 destroys the kind..

  • @alexistourand8058
    @alexistourand8058 Рік тому +2

    I was emotionally abused by two narcissists as a child. I live with my mom, now, and I could relate to all of these points to a tee. My mom and her side of the family do see that my father emotionally and verbally abused me, but they ignore the fact that I'm still stuck in it. Something that happened to me once my father and I became estranged, and this happened non-stop when I was 13, was dissociation. I didn't think that where I was was real, and that I was really just in a dream stuck with my father. I would also think, "That never happened to me. That happened to someone else," as well. I still struggle with dissociation and emotional numbness to this day, as well as what's mentioned in this video... I appreciate how you amazing people make these videos, shedding light on these subjects and their harmful effects on people. Keep up the amazing work!

  • @TheSkyIsABlessingInDisguise
    @TheSkyIsABlessingInDisguise Рік тому +11

    It's crazy how much I relate to this, it felt like you were describing me throughout the video in ways I never thought about before. Thank you for talking about this and for spreading awareness. Everyone, please remember that you're loved, important, & worth so much

  • @nova_chr0n0
    @nova_chr0n0 Рік тому +2

    All of these apply to me. The issue is, getting help for this kind of abuse is almost impossible, especially for a kid who is being told their overreacting. I lived in constant and LEGITIMATE FEAR of my parents bug when I tried to tell people they would always look at how my parents acted around others and told me I was overreacting. This type of abuse is not only hard to spot, but also hard to find support for, especially for young kids. As a child I KNEW something was wrong, but when I tried to tell people they told me I was making it up or that it was "normal". Nothing about my situation was or should have been "normal" and now I have to live the rest of my life with the consequences of THEIR actions. I just wished someone HAD listened when I asked for help.

  • @Leyon_Gaming
    @Leyon_Gaming Рік тому +13

    As someone who is currently watching this at 3 am when my parents think I'm asleep, I can relate to this, especially the point about avoidance.

    • @fredzzkid
      @fredzzkid Рік тому +1

      Don't give up, no matter what. You are stronger than you know. At 67, I am looking back on having survived and abusive childhood and I wish that I could somehow mind-meld with others currently in the situation and let them know not to lose self respect. Their opinions of you are not YOU. Do not allow them to kill your self-esteem, causing you to engage in behaviors that are an offshoot of that feeling - risk-taking and poor "coping" mechanisms that you engage in because you know something is missing but you don't know what. And by the Gods, don't think that harming yourself in any way will make them feel badly. Nope. They'll just use that as a bit of "I told you so" so they can play the long-suffering victim to the group of fawning sycophants the loosely refer to as "friends." Save yourself a LOT of misery and just realize you will never be perfect - or as in my case, even acceptable - to them but that the fault isn't in you, it's in THEM. Bide your time until you are able to leave and set out on your own. When you are able, you may want to search out a therapist who specializes in trauma-based disorders - I have one and he's awesome. I am so sorry that you have to be in such a situation. Just know that you aren't alone (I know that doesn't always help much, but still) - I mean there ARE others who DO understand. I always was partial to the quote by Friedrich Nietzsche that was used at the beginning of "Conan" - (no, not the new one, the REAL one with Arnold - "What does not destroy me, makes me strong." I have found it to be true. Be well and safe. (And I gather from your name that you're a gamer - me too, my husband and I - it's a great catharsis - (I had a therapist once who played GTA because she said she needed it after talking to some of the people she had to deal with all day - she did assessments for the prison system on pedophiles, to give her op[inion whether or not they should be released). Anyway, gaming is great for totally catching your mind when you start to feel yourself slipping down the rabbit hole to self-defeating and unhealthy thinking.
      Anyway sorry lol didn't mean to go one so! Geez it's about time for me to log in to ESO 😆😆Be well, friend.

    • @SuperStella1111
      @SuperStella1111 Рік тому +1

      You’re going to look back with such love and pride in the future, when you remember yourself now. Big hugs. ❤

    • @richardsilva-spokane3436
      @richardsilva-spokane3436 Рік тому +1

      ❤️‍🩹

  • @StarBurned
    @StarBurned Рік тому +5

    My mother is emotionally abusive to me and maybe my brother. I don't know, since she set us against each other slowly but surely, and I only noticed now that it's too late. I still live with her, and it's a pain, but I noticed the signs after... an event. I was hurt, and she made it about herself. I started questioning everything. Now, I know better, and I refuse to let her hurt me anymore. My life is my life, I'm not letting her ruin it before I ever truly lived.

  • @aishwaryanair1042
    @aishwaryanair1042 Рік тому +5

    This video really resonated with me and reminded me of some really tough times from the past. I have been working on my trauma from all the emotional abuse I went through and it's been helping me quite a lot, I am really happy with the progress I have made in overcoming the trauma 😊

  • @RunnyBabbitMom
    @RunnyBabbitMom Рік тому +2

    My entire family was highly emotionally abuse and I have been diagnosed with C-PTSD so I was looking into it now it makes perfect sense. Thank you for these videos.

  • @musicmamma
    @musicmamma Рік тому +5

    I could relate to everything in this video. My lightbulb went off. Years of dysfunction in my family, being constantly scapegoated by my oldest sisters, ignored by others, and gaslit by my oldest son. At 57, I'm an emotional wreck, burnt-out, sad, depressed, and tired. I just want relief.

    • @margaretteschmidt4423
      @margaretteschmidt4423 Рік тому

      I hope you the best sir,I might not know who you are but I hope you recover from all your wounds.

    • @musicmamma
      @musicmamma Рік тому

      @@margaretteschmidt4423 thanks 😊

  • @Hope.in_JHope
    @Hope.in_JHope Рік тому +4

    This channel has a gentle way of telling me that 90% of what I think is my personality or me being an Aquarius ?! Is simply pure PTSD, and I am not mad at it.

  • @taniagreiersen
    @taniagreiersen Рік тому +4

    4, 5 and 6 hit me. I never figured there was a concrete explanation to this behavior, and I’ve been like this since my childhood 😓

  • @radaka
    @radaka Рік тому +1

    Along with all the tons of comments, I can totally relate to this. So even though you may feel all alone in the world and/or like nobody cares, everyone is here that is or has felt the same way. Just know youre not alone. We all just haven't crossed paths yet but we're everywhere feeling that way too.

  • @ren3-oz5bj
    @ren3-oz5bj Рік тому +16

    As someone who’s mentally, physically & emotionally abused I can relate.

  • @Coldy_Zyrix
    @Coldy_Zyrix Рік тому +13

    This just completely describes me. Every single point.

  • @A55a551n
    @A55a551n Рік тому +4

    Timestamps
    1). Kingdom of isolation 0:38
    2). Reign of worthlessness 1:24
    3). Fortress of avoidance 1:57
    4). Blame game 2:33
    5). Battle of outbursts 3:10
    6). Conceal don't feel 3:56
    Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

  • @futurelegacyproductions1298
    @futurelegacyproductions1298 Рік тому +5

    One of my favorite originally made sayings, A fortress with no windows, a single door locked by chains of sadness and a throne upon which I sit guarded by unrelenting fear.

  • @krone1503
    @krone1503 Рік тому +4

    Recently realized i have been emotionally abused pretty much half of my life, and because of that i have no confidence and self esteem growing up. I'm still in denial sometimes, but i guess realizing it is a good step to start healing

  • @CoyoteMorningstar
    @CoyoteMorningstar Рік тому +1

    It's so weird how I can tell anyone else that is going through this that they are being emotionally abused... no problem... but when it happens to me I could not see it at all. I appreciate this so very much.

  • @Higesgirl
    @Higesgirl Рік тому +30

    This is... painfully relatable especially the apologizing to everything. I was never emotionally abused by my parents (in fact they raised me very well) It's due to years of school bullying along being in a rather toxic long-term current relationship.

    • @also4406
      @also4406 Рік тому

      End your own misery then if You know what i mean 😂

    • @lundylove9033
      @lundylove9033 Рік тому +2

      Double check family of origin issues, because you don’t normally move into abusive relationships without having something controlling you in your childhood, no matter how small it is, demand for good grades, etc. if you can pinpoint where it started it might give you a heads up on why you continue to go there in relationships. I could be so wrong though in this situation. I just figured out what my issues with my parents where when I was around 40 yrs old. And they raised me well, too. 🤷🏻‍♀️💔

  • @susanlisson7066
    @susanlisson7066 8 місяців тому +1

    It took me so long to figure out one of my parents was an abusive narcissist. I was in my late 40’s when it began to dawn on me. They would toy with my emotions all the time when I was a child which led to the walking on eggshells analogy & made me non reactive as a way of stopping any further emotional teasing. I was exhausted growing up in my family home and finally broke free once I turned 18 but the scars are still there in my mind.

  • @miriamh.503
    @miriamh.503 Рік тому +3

    1:46 I love that you added kobeni.

  • @lauravenus9547
    @lauravenus9547 Рік тому +2

    People think that they hate you, but the person doing the emotional abuse, actually hates themself!!! I just realized, after watching this video, that the abuser/hater is jealous of us for some reason lol That makes me feel great, because I know I didn't do anything wrong. That means I'm doing something right, and the abuser doesn't like it. It's time to turn this into something positive, instead of letting their unworthiness be projected on to us, to try and make us feel as bad as they feel inside. Nobody deserves to be abused, and it's time to take back our power!!! YOU deserve better, and if someone is emotionally abusive to you, please reach out to get some help. Be kind to yourself 😇💗

  • @elaisalaisaag4344
    @elaisalaisaag4344 Рік тому +10

    It's terrible that I actually have most of these so far and I don't even remember if I was emotionally abused that bad 😦

    • @suitov
      @suitov Рік тому +1

      That can happen. I've lost most of my childhood memories thanks to my cPTSD. Sometimes you're left guessing because the symptoms match but you just have a blank for most of those years. Best of luck to you and I hope you can get someone qualified to talk to and figure it out.

    • @elaisalaisaag4344
      @elaisalaisaag4344 Рік тому +1

      @@suitov So sorry to hear that! My best regards to you as well.
      Luckily, I've managed to talk to a therapist, and we've been working on this matter now!

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Рік тому

    Everything you said is so true. Emotional abuse which is also verbal abuse is so real and it is isolating and depriving of life so many people. Thank you.

  • @empress_katalina
    @empress_katalina Рік тому +2

    YOU ARE IMPORTANT
    YOU ARE LOVED
    YOU MATTER!!!
    please remember this always
    💜🙏🏼💜
    I pray you take time each day to recognize your worth, to tell yourself at least one thing you love about yourself each day, and to be that light for yourself within all this darkness
    Sending you so much love, prayers and blessings along your journeys in life🙏🏼🙏🏼💜🙏🏼🙏🏼
    Stay blessed and stay safe🙏🏼

  • @lillithcollins5192
    @lillithcollins5192 Рік тому +1

    6/6 for me but not surprised. Literally spent the first 16 years of my adult life in an abusive marriage. Videos like these have been super helpful for understanding myself/the abuser/the relationship as a whole. Its good to know that it's not all in my head after decades of gaslighting. Now if I could just figure out why it's so hard to talk about the good parts of the relationship and so easy to talk about the bad.

  • @QueenEspeon96
    @QueenEspeon96 Рік тому +3

    When life emotionally abuses you until you cry; giving you a glimmer of hope until the cycle returns to emotional abuse.

  • @miacalibr
    @miacalibr Рік тому +2

    im forcing myself to face my emotions at this point, im sick of the lack of feeling and the inability to resist these situations due to my personality. addressing them and allowing myself to feel my emotions has helped massively
    oversharing a lil :p

  • @eottoe2001
    @eottoe2001 Рік тому +4

    2:05 You develop secretive behavior because you do not want to provide abuser information that they will use against you in the future, OR trigger them.

  • @THEBGCOLLECTIVE
    @THEBGCOLLECTIVE Рік тому +1

    I’m literally crying so deeply inside my heart. I can no longer truly cry even though I really want to: my mother and my sons father both emotionally abused me. I can’t believe that this is was my life. I’m doing my best to seperate myself from both but with a child / grandchild in common there is only but so much room. I am setting boundaries and it’s been working very well for me. It anyone is in the middle, please know you are sup and important fr fr

  • @Absolhunter251
    @Absolhunter251 Рік тому +3

    This is me and all these points. 😢
    I don’t know how to heal from it, as it’s difficult.
    This video, where has it been all those years.
    Still…this video is just a right moment, now that I’m healing and see the signs.

  • @ssxphiee
    @ssxphiee Рік тому +1

    4:21 i cried when i listened to this part because i can relate to this🥲

  • @imabarbiegirl2375
    @imabarbiegirl2375 Рік тому +8

    I came on to the channel to rewatch some videos and another new video I love these and they make me calm and make me actually relate to something for once so feel better everyone

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Рік тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words. We'd like to ask, which part of the video did you relate to?

    • @imabarbiegirl2375
      @imabarbiegirl2375 Рік тому

      @@Psych2go I really relayed to socially withdrawing which I’ve been doing recently not even realising but this really brought my attention to it thank you and keep making such great content ❤❤

  • @av_yuu
    @av_yuu Рік тому +1

    Recently I've come to realize that I lived with abusive parents, because of this channel's information and my psychologist. Once I left home and went to school, I felt nice because I was with my friends or just finding some peace with my headphones on. Some classes pissed me out, some people pissed me out, but at least I had someone to call out for help if I needed.
    However once school's over, tired and just wishing to sleep, I get yelled at in all of ways possible. If I answer I may be beaten up for that or even if I don't answer. I feel like a prison in there. But in the end, once I finally asked for help no one Listened..
    I've come to finally discover and accept my fate.

  • @venushimatcha
    @venushimatcha Рік тому +4

    All of these are checked on my box.. I'm well aware that I'm going through it but I just can't admit it because it makes me feel a certain way.

  • @TDG361
    @TDG361 Рік тому

    This was a hard video to watch. I've been there, I was emotionally abused and neglected as a child. I spent most of my 20s depressed and avoiding social interactions. A few years back I started psychotherapy, and my psychologist has helped a lot. I'm mostly on the other side, being secure, knowing my worth, and allowing others to come close to me. Many of my repressed talents and capacities are beginning to emerge. It's tough, but it's totally worth it.

  • @kickingleaves5122
    @kickingleaves5122 Рік тому +10

    Our trauma does not define us but it is our responsibility to stop the negative cycles that have been propagated to us. We can overcome our emotional strife and be masters of our lives, just keep going!

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 Рік тому +3

      This comment couldn't anoy me more try living with it then tell me it's our responsibility you have no idea

  • @TarbyRocks
    @TarbyRocks Рік тому

    Had to pause this twice while watching. Didn't realize some of these were symptoms of this. Eye opening in a frustrating way.

  • @shinchannohara6478
    @shinchannohara6478 Рік тому +7

    0:40 : Kingdom of Isolation
    1:25 : Reign of Worthless ness
    1:58 : Fortress of Avoidance
    2:35 : Blame Game
    3:13 : Battle of Outbursts
    3:58 : Conceal Don't Feel
    I tried to help you 😊 no need to like my comment.

  • @Cgruiz8690
    @Cgruiz8690 Рік тому

    I have cptsd from the emotional abuse from my parents,
    Since I was a little girl.
    It’s hard but noticing and being aware what is happening within you is great.
    Knowledge is power ❤

  • @Lightofthatstar
    @Lightofthatstar Рік тому +140

    Im too early to see the comments that wrote the timestamp😭

  • @chino3796
    @chino3796 Рік тому

    Thank you. I can relate to every single symptom. I don't think I've ever heard put so simply.

  • @ficmatagaea7813
    @ficmatagaea7813 Рік тому +3

    Hey erm
    I don't know how many people need to hear this but...
    The journey to healing is never easy. I know I struggle so hard with all of these and more. Not just from family but others around me. I thought I couldn't heal until I finally did somehow.
    Everyone who hurts has a good core. If you feel guilty, even if the thoughts say you're guilty, you're not. We're our own self critics and acknowledging that is important.
    What I'm trying to get to, though, is that this hurt won't last. You CAN recover, but only if you let yourself heal. Not easy, but... I know that we all can heal. So...
    I don't know if this will reach many people, be they old or new commenters, but... Keep fighting. You're not alone and you're stronger than you think. Have a great day okay?

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Рік тому

      Thank you for the words of encouragement for the people in the comment section. We hope that you have a great day as well.

    • @ficmatagaea7813
      @ficmatagaea7813 Рік тому

      @@Psych2go thanks :)

    • @rikitikitavatiki
      @rikitikitavatiki Рік тому

      Anything good always bounces right off while the bad stuff sticks like glue, so I had to read that a few times. Thanks. 🙂

    • @ficmatagaea7813
      @ficmatagaea7813 Рік тому +1

      @@rikitikitavatiki no worries. I know I sometimes do that too. I hope it helped!

  • @sin7070
    @sin7070 Рік тому +2

    Boy am I glad I have my whole life to get this shit under control. thanks psy!

  • @Steven-ep7ed
    @Steven-ep7ed Рік тому +3

    This is me lol. Very informative video, thank you for making it. A good book I've read recently about the cptsd life is "what my bones know" by Stephanie Foo. That book along with this video has helped me in understanding myself and will hopefully help more and more people in understanding their situations and their own behaviors.

  • @demwhalesburritos2155
    @demwhalesburritos2155 Рік тому

    I love all the quiet kinder things in this video to help soften the blow of the message. it helped keep me grounded when watching it. thank you for the care you all put into these videos

  • @mistapeper1283
    @mistapeper1283 Рік тому +4

    1:41 i love the Kobeni reference

  • @addylyse9223
    @addylyse9223 Рік тому +1

    This spoke to me on so many levels. While my parents are overall great parents and I love them, I don't want to be around them much for these reasons. It takes a toll on people mentally and whenever I did try to talk about it with them they would either 1. Hear me out but not listen and forget everything I just said, 2. Undermine everything I said and say I'm being overdramatic, 3. Compare my life to others saying I don't actually have any problems compares to other people I know so I should just stop complaining, 4. Gaslight me by accusing me of saying they are awful parents while having a breakdown making them the 'victims', 5. Just straight up yell at me and don't do anything to help regardless. It's also worse when even after that, you decide to fix things on your own and you've gotten a lot better and more stable that they criticize your ways of doing so, even though nothing your doing is wrong and they've never offered any advice or help from the get go. If you don't want to help me then don't feel free to criticize my methods of healing. Again, they're great overall, but the emotional abuse was definitely there and it messed me up for most of my life. I'm still finding it difficult to connect with people on an emotional level, especially when it comes to friendships, but I've come a long way from where I used to be and I'm proud of myself so far:)

    • @_Cet_Cet
      @_Cet_Cet Рік тому +1

      My situation is very similar, whenever I try to heal my family Criticizes me and makes fun of some of the stuff I do at times, even my brother, I even asked him the other day to stop that and my mom defended him saying "Hes just your brother thats what he does" and it made me so angry. I live in a small town of old mentally ill people and im hoping to move away someday when I get the confidence and mental stability 🌻

    • @addylyse9223
      @addylyse9223 Рік тому +1

      @@_Cet_Cet I hope you find a wonderful place to stay in the future and continue healing. Hoping everything will get better in the long run for you, have a wonderful day/night!❤️

  • @galaxy_mooncat779
    @galaxy_mooncat779 Рік тому +6

    1:07 love the animal crossing squeaks

  • @Mylo_tales
    @Mylo_tales Рік тому +1

    I hope whoever is suffering from this gets lots of love

  • @venisham8228
    @venisham8228 Рік тому +3

    So here's my story....I don't know if it can be called emotional abuse...but this incident made a strong wound in me...
    It all started when I got a friend from a community that my mom and my maternal grandmother( who lives with us) hated...I initially didn't know that they had such a strong hatred for her...I was the most studious one of my class and I never had true friends....I was happy to find a true friend in her....
    And then during my second year of high-school she joined the tuition in which I studied....the tuition is in the ground floor of my home and my mom and grandma hated her coming to tuition everyday...they thought I had deliberately made her join in the tuition and me and her are upto doing some bad things..they thought she is spoiling me and making me drift away from studies while she was clearly not doing anything like that...
    My mom and grandma started arguing every day regarding this with me..they stopped talking with me directly....they called me disobedient, spoilt, arrogant..they didn't talk with me for weeks...and my tuition teacher also had face the consequences of teaching my friend...
    They started assuming things that I didn't do, they spoke all sorts of things that a teen would never want to hear from her parents....moreover I have PCOD which makes my periods too long( like for weeks )
    It's only my dad who stood with me in all this and solved the problem..
    Now we have passed from school...
    She has taken engineering and I am preparing for my med-school entrance...
    But still they would never leave a chance of belittling me with that incident...
    They want me to accept all their opinions, their choices etc.....but still I know that they love me, but they won't care how hurt I will feel by their words...
    That incident made me emotionally very weak..I cry for very insignificant things and then laugh or behave like kid for unnecessary reasons....
    Everyone facing such kind of issues...hang in there.. we got this....❤😊

  • @charlie-hazard
    @charlie-hazard Рік тому

    thank you so much. this helped me realize why im so scared of venting to others, and why i tend to keep negative thoughts to myself.

  • @MarcusbakerFan
    @MarcusbakerFan Рік тому +9

    I LOVE THE OMORI REFERENCES!!! (4:22)

  • @dravendfr
    @dravendfr Рік тому +2

    Why is it that on my lowest days your videos pop up? It’s impressive really. I’d say this is all accurate, but absolutely nothing I’ve experienced has been diagnosed.