Yep. Just dumped a 54 year old emotionally unavailable man who was afraid to commit or express his intentions. He kept trying to tell me he didn't know me, while not trying to get to know me. He was giving me the stiff arm, always too busy to court like adults. Wanted to waste my time with calls daily to keep his options open. After 2 months I ended it. I was explicit with my intentions. He was explicit with his disrespect of my time. Cut them off quick. Stop wasting time with man boys, emotionally unavailable men, and cowards who can't communicate their feelings. It's okay to not like a person. It's not okay to drag folks along or use them as emotional tampons to soothe your brokenness fellas because you're a coward.
Whew this is deep I've been interacting with a guy 4 months. He's hot & cold, doesn't want to define the relationship, ect. I have to keep my distance.
@@MimiCoco-gt7zo Rejection is protection. Never make a man a priority that refuses to make you his. An interested man will make his intentions known pretty quickly.
Nope I’m not even giving you a year. Men tend to know what they want fairly quickly (that’s if they’re serious of finding that one) and a woman knows if she wants to continue dealing with someone she ain’t feeling like that fairly quickly too. You get a 90 day probation with me. That’s enough to time to figure out what your intentions are and if you’re wanting to be in a monogamous relationship or not. I’m not wasting a year on someone that’s unsure about me (a woman of value).
Exactly. This is 100 true. We shouldnt be the "girlfriend" for more that three months, if he is ready he will propose to you in weeks. I have lost years in a relantionship bc I thought that he will marry me in "the future" He did not and marry another chick in three weeks who he did not know much. He made me waste my time what a rat... never again
@@iaf4454 so Sorry to hear this they try to tell you to give them time and they turn around and run off with somebody else behind your back or they didn’t even know that person very well. That really bothers me too because I’m a wonderful person. My granddaughter even agrees she can’t believe the guy I liked went off with somebody who is 20 something years younger than him who has already cheated on him . My granddaughter says grandma she’s not even hot. You’re the one that’s hot. Not really hot but she knows how nice and kind and caring I am. I think that man’s got something wrong with him if he can’t see that after eight months.
Years? I usually decide much faster. I will switch to "acquaintance," and they won't necessarily notice. If they need a favor, I'll usually be there as a friend while I keep on with my life. I don't insert myself in nobody's life. It's obvious to me when they are doing the same.
I'm not in a relationship but I had hopes about someone. It's clear that the feeling's aren't mutual like I thought. It was insane for me to waste so much time and energy with no feedback.
I waited 9 yrs. He proposed at the 7yr mark. After studying red pill videos religously...it was like he never proposed. Marriage was being used as a weapon. Every argument was "I won't marry you if.."
Amen! At our age, if the man isn't proving himself to be a man of integrity and high value from the beginning, move on immediately. I was very clear & strict with my expectations. No wife benefits before marriage: that clears out the users real fast! 😊
I WENT NO CONTACT FOR 3 MONTHS, AND HOPED THAT WAS ENOUGH TIME FOR MY LADY TO CHOOSE IF SHE WANTED THE "ME" THAT I NEEDED HER TO WANT, OR JUST THE WAY I MADE HER FEEL, WHEN WE SHARED EACH OTHER'S LIFE STORIES. SURFICIENT TO SAY, I WASN'T THE ONE SHE CHOSE. I'VE MOVED ON!!
X amount of “years”? Honestly it should only take a man(or woman), X amount of “months” to decide if a particular relationship is worth investing in for something serious. The problem is people ignore the subtle signs to “run for the hills” because we desperately want things to work out and/or we are not exploring any other options(men).
I lost so many years with rats like that, the sooner u get out of "girlfriend" state (that can last more than a marriage) better for you ladies. Men marry with the chick who doesnt do anything for they, the woman who isnt his "girlfriend" for long time. So dont waste your time with men who say he will marry you but never take action
Thank you for that reminder as I am Guilty as charged of letting things drag out with inconsistent intentions from the other side! I am always getting mixed messages from my preferred male friends.
In my experience this is more common when things are not defined in the beginning. Am not encouraging rushing things but let the intentions be known. You are meeting to date and if it happens to not work, you don’t continue.
I’ve been exclusively with a man over 65 who is a widow of over 2 years. He will NOT introduce me to his family or his friends. We have our own friend group but he will not travel with me outside our state because then he would have to explain why, where and who he’s with. I’ve been in the shadows the entire time 😢
not years,,no way! I learned the hard way, if he does not know sooner than a year if he wants a relationship,,I am out, wasted alot of time with the wrong person, I could have been out there meeting the "one" but waited on a man,,,,,,never again!
NOT 'X' number of YEARS! NO! Men ALWAYS know who they DON'T want to marry. And they have a very good idea even within the first month if they want to marry you! So...if he's not showing you more and more commitment within 6 months-1 year, well, 'See ya later, Alligator'!😅😊🏃🏽♀️
After 2 years of talking (we were not in a relationship) he decided to date someone else. He still wanted to deal with me behind her back. I said no . I took s3x off the table. He said he agreed im worth more than that. We agreed to be platonic friends.
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@@LindaDavis-ik4ym I got thst same story after 7 or 8 months. We had what appeared to be a good relationship. It turns out he started connecting back up with an recently past girlfriend who had cheated on him and kind of ghosted him , but they ended up working together again on a ferry boat which is his job and they decided to reconnect, so he started treating me bad trying to get me to give up on him so he could go back to her. It took me a while to figure that all out, but it’s coming together now! It hurts because I don’t sleep around Infact that was his complaint I want to save sex for marriage.Now I know even if I had had sex with him he probably would have just disrespected me anyway as he got a chance back with that girl who did him wrong.Now I realize he used that for an excuse that he said we had no relationship. Sad thing is we had a nice relationship but he is a player!
If he can’t make up his mind, make it up for him and walk. It doesn’t make you or him a bad person. It just means he’s not the one.
That could be argued
My block list is full. If you keep allowing him to play you, he won't change.
😂😂😂😂 your comment really speaks to me - weed out the BOYS : only men allowed!!!!
& DIDN’T‼️ Now he’s calling from diff #’s bc he’s blocked!
@@Love2Love927 RIGHT...... he can find someone else to play with - these men are sad out here
FULL ???? my kinda chick, AMAZING 🧏🏽♀️
@@JessicaWhiteheadAKA Woman not chick.
Yep. Just dumped a 54 year old emotionally unavailable man who was afraid to commit or express his intentions. He kept trying to tell me he didn't know me, while not trying to get to know me. He was giving me the stiff arm, always too busy to court like adults. Wanted to waste my time with calls daily to keep his options open. After 2 months I ended it. I was explicit with my intentions. He was explicit with his disrespect of my time.
Cut them off quick. Stop wasting time with man boys, emotionally unavailable men, and cowards who can't communicate their feelings. It's okay to not like a person. It's not okay to drag folks along or use them as emotional tampons to soothe your brokenness fellas because you're a coward.
Whew this is deep I've been interacting with a guy 4 months. He's hot & cold, doesn't want to define the relationship, ect. I have to keep my distance.
@@MimiCoco-gt7zo Rejection is protection. Never make a man a priority that refuses to make you his. An interested man will make his intentions known pretty quickly.
@@marleyisms
Exactly
@@marleyismsso true, love that. Good advice.🌟👍
Your words bring such clarity. Just did this today. Two months also and nothing but disrespect
I got rid of 2, because it was A One Way Street !! I felt I was doing everything for Him !!
Staying too Long, giving too much only gets you stuck and Angry. MOVE ON , PERIOD. Time is so precious!!!
Totally agree. I wish I knew this before but, I got it now
YES !❤
Better late than never!❤
Nope I’m not even giving you a year. Men tend to know what they want fairly quickly (that’s if they’re serious of finding that one) and a woman knows if she wants to continue dealing with someone she ain’t feeling like that fairly quickly too. You get a 90 day probation with me. That’s enough to time to figure out what your intentions are and if you’re wanting to be in a monogamous relationship or not. I’m not wasting a year on someone that’s unsure about me (a woman of value).
Exactly. This is 100 true. We shouldnt be the "girlfriend" for more that three months, if he is ready he will propose to you in weeks. I have lost years in a relantionship bc I thought that he will marry me in "the future" He did not and marry another chick in three weeks who he did not know much. He made me waste my time what a rat... never again
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@@iaf4454 so Sorry to hear this they try to tell you to give them time and they turn around and run off with somebody else behind your back or they didn’t even know that person very well. That really bothers me too because I’m a wonderful person. My granddaughter even agrees she can’t believe the guy I liked went off with somebody who is 20 something years younger than him who has already cheated on him . My granddaughter says grandma she’s not even hot. You’re the one that’s hot. Not really hot but she knows how nice and kind and caring I am. I think that man’s got something wrong with him if he can’t see that after eight months.
Absolutely. I've heard ppl sneeze on Stephen's advice, but he's mostly spot on.
Years? I usually decide much faster. I will switch to "acquaintance," and they won't necessarily notice. If they need a favor, I'll usually be there as a friend while I keep on with my life. I don't insert myself in nobody's life. It's obvious to me when they are doing the same.
yuppp. can’t waste time
So True
Toxic Relationship Move on
🙏 PRAY Keep Your eyes on Jesus
Well said Stephan.. well said.
Well said. So simply said but not thought of this way. Thx😊
That is my personal philosophy Stephan...SPEAK STEPHAN!!!🎉
How did I take too long too see this. Thank u Steph. My current situations
Thank you.
I'm not in a relationship but I had hopes about someone. It's clear that the feeling's aren't mutual like I thought. It was insane for me to waste so much time and energy with no feedback.
Wow wow wow so true I believe this hold heart
Years?! Oh no I can’t do a full four seasons with indecision. Just Block and move on. People are aware of what they’re doing.
🔥Whew, this message hit the spirit. Thank u, sir, for confirmation.
🙏God bless
My point. Wasting ur good years with a person who might not be there for the long-term
Amen!
I waited 9 yrs. He proposed at the 7yr mark. After studying red pill videos religously...it was like he never proposed. Marriage was being used as a weapon. Every argument was "I won't marry you if.."
What’s red pill videos?
X amount of months! I’m 59 😅
Amen! At our age, if the man isn't proving himself to be a man of integrity and high value from the beginning, move on immediately. I was very clear & strict with my expectations. No wife benefits before marriage: that clears out the users real fast! 😊
Yes i walked away for those reasons
Yes and Amen!!! 💥💯‼️💥
So true!
I WENT NO CONTACT FOR 3 MONTHS, AND HOPED THAT WAS ENOUGH TIME FOR MY LADY TO CHOOSE IF SHE WANTED THE "ME" THAT I NEEDED HER TO WANT, OR JUST THE WAY I MADE HER FEEL, WHEN WE SHARED EACH OTHER'S LIFE STORIES. SURFICIENT TO SAY, I WASN'T THE ONE SHE CHOSE. I'VE MOVED ON!!
Agreed!
If it's not God's will drop it ,by
Our life on this earth is too short and I agree with this!
X amount of “years”? Honestly it should only take a man(or woman), X amount of “months” to decide if a particular relationship is worth investing in for something serious.
The problem is people ignore the subtle signs to “run for the hills” because we desperately want things to work out and/or we are not exploring any other options(men).
My current situation🤦🏾♀️
Amen 🙏🙏 das facts
I lost so many years with rats like that, the sooner u get out of "girlfriend" state (that can last more than a marriage) better for you ladies. Men marry with the chick who doesnt do anything for they, the woman who isnt his "girlfriend" for long time. So dont waste your time with men who say he will marry you but never take action
This the honest truth because I definitely feel that been treated been forwarded if he would made effect to an make work.
On point …
How right you are.
Thank you for that reminder as I am Guilty as charged of letting things drag out with inconsistent intentions from the other side! I am always getting mixed messages from my preferred male friends.
In my experience this is more common when things are not defined in the beginning. Am not encouraging rushing things but let the intentions be known. You are meeting to date and if it happens to not work, you don’t continue.
Amen
I’ve been exclusively with a man over 65 who is a widow of over 2 years. He will NOT introduce me to his family or his friends. We have our own friend group but he will not travel with me outside our state because then he would have to explain why, where and who he’s with. I’ve been in the shadows the entire time 😢
When you go the other way an act like they don't know me an Can give me no time .... Bye ....I love my single life ..
Amen ❤🎉😊🙏❤️🙌🙌✝️✝️
90 days , and a half if he’s slow. Then we out.
not years,,no way! I learned the hard way, if he does not know sooner than a year if he wants a relationship,,I am out, wasted alot of time with the wrong person, I could have been out there meeting the "one" but waited on a man,,,,,,never again!
Amen 🙏🙌
A Amen God father justice divine Amen 🙏
NOT 'X' number of YEARS! NO! Men ALWAYS know who they DON'T want to marry. And they have a very good idea even within the first month if they want to marry you! So...if he's not showing you more and more commitment within 6 months-1 year, well, 'See ya later, Alligator'!😅😊🏃🏽♀️
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After 2 years of talking (we were not in a relationship) he decided to date someone else. He still wanted to deal with me behind her back. I said no . I took s3x off the table. He said he agreed im worth more than that. We agreed to be platonic friends.
move on.lifes too short
I totally agrew
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I am in no relationship
We are not in a relationship
@@LindaDavis-ik4ym I got thst same story after 7 or 8 months. We had what appeared to be a good relationship. It turns out he started connecting back up with an recently past girlfriend who had cheated on him and kind of ghosted him , but they ended up working together again on a ferry boat which is his job and they decided to reconnect, so he started treating me bad trying to get me to give up on him so he could go back to her. It took me a while to figure that all out, but it’s coming together now! It hurts because I don’t sleep around Infact that was his complaint I want to save sex for marriage.Now I know even if I had had sex with him he probably would have just disrespected me anyway as he got a chance back with that girl who did him wrong.Now I realize he used that for an excuse that he said we had no relationship. Sad thing is we had a nice relationship but he is a player!