It's really simple...if you like what you see, make your move and be clear about your intentions. If it's not being reciprocated, just move on. People are playing, too many games.
@@lorinakers7934I don't understand the energy people have. I don't have time to keep people just because. Like I'm collecting dolls. I guess I got a life. 😂😂😂 if I'm not interested I'm moving on. I don't keep you hanging around. Thats too much. I get wanting sex but a lot aint even getting that! They talking and texting multiple people going nowhere. Wow, people really need a life😂
1. He wants you but he doesn’t think he’s the one for you 2. He wants you but he’s not ready to be the man you deserve 3. He wants you but he can’t have you (perceives he can’t have you)
Going thru this right now and for past year. I asked twice for more love and romance and connection and intimacy. I feel he knows he ain't taken care of business on any level. I broke it off today.
I was just told #2. I'm situated and have all my ducks in order, he's been divorced twice and wants to get to know himself...a year and a half, of awesome dates were had though. I'm actually still interested in dating him, so I will. I guess I'm also able to date other people.
Keep your independence and don’t lose yourself in him. Most guys aren’t worth the time. Don’t live with regrets. “You treat me like, an option and I’ll leave you like, a damn choice” Lol! Thank you, Stephan for your God given relationship coaching. God bless. 🙏🏻💖
Unless they're dismissive avoidant as far as attachment styles. It's not all black and white but at the same time if they have a Dismissive attachment style you don't need to deal with them anyway.
@@outsidethebox8406right! If you wanna play the field do that but be honest and just say I'm looking for something casual or I'm talking to multiple women. I'm dating around. Most mature are like ok cool.
Let Him be only 1 per cent of your world, not the whole one. Cause, when he decides to take it away from you and disappear from your life, that won't break your heart or take the ground under your feet. I always keep your quote in mind, Stephan, telling "Rejection is God's redirection to someone better and much worthier!"
...so, if he is only a 1 per cent of your life, for what reason he should decide to stay with you?? Hope he will run away soon if he loves himself enough!
Now that I am in my 30s I have a few rules for when I am dating . 1) Keep my options open 2) REMAIN CELEBATE 3) Be clear about what I want . Listen to what they want ( many men like to get laid or are time wasters because they like consistent sex. Refer to rule 2 )
Yessss! Liked this. Serious men will date and be serious in a relationship. Not laying with A-Z women. There’s a lot of std. please be careful. A serious guy will take you to an altar to get married.
He wants a good woman… he just doesn’t want it to be you. I learned the hard way. If you don’t appeal to a man physically or sexually, they may love what you do for them, but will not ever commit to you of introduce you to people in his life.
This is a kind of lesson I just recently had to learn. I've spent 11.5 years with the same man. Been married for 3 & we have 3 kids together. Went through his phone recently due to something shady that had me questioning him. I just found out that he's only attracted to white women and he regrets marrying me because I'm mixed 😩😩 He says I ✔️all the right boxes for him besides my skin tone. He just wishes I was all white 😢😢 I said if you knew this before you married me why didn't you say something or just leave me alone? He said because he was selfish, he knew what I could bring to the table and he knew the type of woman I was. He didn't want to lose me because he knew I'm the best woman he'll ever find. I said so hold me down and keep me tied to you all this time?? All while you've been cheating on me for years because you're not satisfied with my skin tone????? Something natural that you knew I was when you 1st pursued me?? 😢 All he said was that he thought he could look past it because I'm half white & "act white" 😭😭🖕 Like WTF so you spent almost 12 years with me for basically nothing, just to keep another man from having me because other than my skin I'm the perfect woman for you 💀💀😩
@@xoxo.shaunae you got that right if he's not interested he's not going to bring you around his family or his close friends that he hangs out with and tells his deepest darkest secrets cuz men talk a lot too just like women !!! That means he's not interested in you time time to move on!!
If he switches up, communicate- be clear in your expectations. If no changes or changes are temporary, take that as a que he's not into you like that. Changed behaviors are always the best apologies; if someone values you, they will change their ways for good.
I have given up on dating. I have given up on my childhood fantasy of the one and wanting to be chosen by someone. I believe wholeheartedly that some people don’t have a “one.” I no longer desire to be valuable to someone and being disappointed at this notion of not being his “one” and feeling not being good enough for someone. I choose God, myself and my family- people I know care about me being being in their lives and acknowledging them. I am now happily celibate and not looking for a “one.” It’s less stressful
You are not alone , i have only met very nasty men Who made my life hell . I am 53 and I expect i Will live tve rest of my Life alone . I have two teenagers my Cat , and my princesas fur baby . The last thing on my mind is a man . Take care big hug.
Same here ! I was happy single and unbothered for seven years and then met someone last may and fell for him after 6 weeks and soon after the red flags started and confusion set in to present day !! Poor communication and lack’s emotional intelligence.. also I discovered traits that I had to research about and discovered narcissism .. This message is right on time
You have made a wise choice to choose God and put Him first in your life! I hear many couples day that it's when they cease looking for the "one" it's then that special,God given person entered their life. God bless you dear as you continue to life of joy, contentment and feeling worthy because you are to Our Heavenly Father😊
This is why it's so important to strengthen our relationships with God because if we stay connected to the source, he will increase our intuition and discernment. God bless everyone on their journey to true love ❤
So true dear...thank you!! I have given my love life over to God my Father I prayed and told Him to lead and guide my partner into my life . Deep down I know there is someone special ordained to be my husband it's been my desire to be married from childhood and I wait patiently on God's timing . Trusting that my Father want and knows what's best for me.
@@runningwithscissors1564 my mother's ex-boyfriend he left her for the woman she was a crackhead, now he's back with my mother and he wants to pretend to be in love and affection from 20 years ago, my mother's like you'll never get that same affection and attention from me ever again 💯💯!!!
One solution for all these cases - move on, because either he is not into you or he is not the man you are looking for. The man you look for is actually going to pursue you and it will be clear.
I agree, but I've come to learn that life is spiritual and when that happens to us it's really witchcraft trying to work against us. Now I know better and I pray before every relationship whether it's a friendship or love interest! It will save us all from the beginning!❤️
Right?? Everyone’s true colors come out eventually, but I just went thru that with someone and it was sooo disappointing 😢. I spent months trying to get the beginning back, til I finally accepted that isn’t who she really is…
He's running hot n cold? Draw back. Don't take him seriously. When he asks u out, say, Maybe I'll see u at the venue. Then don't show up there if he's the only reason you're thinking of going. Move on. Dance with whoever u want to.
He is into you if he's CONSISTENT. No mixed signals. Keep your spirit of discernment sharp, ladies! Giving the same energy that you're getting is key and if you don't like that energy then move on. It can be hard but that's when you need to choose yourself (over the damn illusion/fantasy!) A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. Simple. Simple. Non-dramatic and uncomplicated. I don’t, under any circumstance: play these childish-abusive-controlling mind games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen, I AM. (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!) Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period. 1. Visualize. Pray. 2. Act as if: you already have that relationship that you desire! 3. Celebrate love whenever and wherever you can 4. Have fun, build trust within yourself 5. Have faith, they’re on their way!
The fact that I've just prayed and come to UA-cam and this is the first video I see is insane. I'm just going to let him go because my heart can't take it anymore. Thank you for explaining it, all Stephan.😊
Give it a few sleeps and time... many emotions will come up but it will be so much easier after a few days of no contact and you putting all that energy and love back into you❤ I'm right here doing the same
I was with a guy who would tell me after a day or weekend of being together, saying I love you but you deserve better. He introduced me to his parents, and his kids, and it was SOOO confusing because he was available. We were both divorced.
Going through this now and I finally gave up! Yet he’s still tryn knowing he’s still playing around. Why not just let me go in peace !! I cut him off cold turkey and I know that did something to him because I been pressing him for months to show me I’m the only one and he didn’t. My gut and soul is not at peace around him I’m always very uncomfortable that’s why I know he is not the one. It’s sad because I did like him but I love myself more and my sanity ❤
Because he doesn't want to miss out on the lovely hours he has with a woman. A man who still has some conscience knows that it's a balancing act between getting what he wants without hurting her too much and treating her as respectfully as he can. In them, desire fights against reason /to know the right thing to do. At the end of the day they are plain and simple, nice, friendly .......... egoists
I’m learning more and more each day to appreciate being single. I’m learning how to go out alone, I’m focused on engaging in healthy and happy activities, spending time alone is not a bad thing is what I’ve eventually learned. But don’t get it twisted I do want a relationship but in this day and time it doesn’t seem like their are quality men who are looking to court
Would not want to be young and looking for a man, too many options, woman have ruined it for themselves by making themselves too available and men are taking full advantage of it. The more woman they have the less likely they are to settle for one. Woman turning themselves inside out to have a man.
It’s not ironic that your video discussing ‘ Mixed Signals’ came up on my feed as soon as I got onto YT - It was God giving clarity - have known him over 30 years ( met traveling) always stayed in contact and travelled - long distance friendship (compatible)- re-connected 2 years ago ( on trip to LV - no sex) since then he calls me almost every night to talk about all things except us 😒 he is so confused and misguided- I enjoy his conversations because it help me understand single men over 55 - I’m good being single (Christian ) and not over thinking he wants a relationship- thanks Stephen!
The lord did not bring you here to be confused my dear. Tell him you are confused about your dynamic and it causes you a lot of pain . And then BE SILENT and let the lord do his work. If he tries to clarify and reassure and you then maybe you can let him talk some more. If he comes back with something more confusing you have to dip my dear. “I think I get the picture “ or “okay. I don’t know what to say”. Do not give any more to this man without reassurance or commitment.
Maybe I am just too evolved, but I don't believe there is miscommunication or mixed signals when it comes to what males are putting out there. For the most part males are definitive. I think the missing link is in how the female is led to believe otherwise due to her own misinterpretation or desire and need in what she wants. This is why it is so important to have Gods discernment and listening ears and open eyes to know what the man is about. He may not speak it verbatim but he is always showing his intention. This was fabulous S~ I always appreciate your dialogue and insight. There is always a great take away for me! ❤😊👍💯✔
They should take relationships as music..... You are following the rhythm of music..... which means there s no logic, just the vibrations, energy and frequency. :) Sometimes a good vibes.
AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER: - I love myself - God is within, and all around - I am love, itself - I am freedom, itself - I am in love with my life - I am in love with myself - Joy fills me - I am joyful - My twin-flame and I are magnetized to each other; we belong together; we are destined to be with one another... - I am a money magnet - I am a miracle magnet - I am a love magnet - Every cell of my being vibrates at the frequency of perfect health
There is something called a placeholder, the item a toxic guy who will tell you things like youre the one for them, we fit together, I dont want anyone else, until you realize he is giving mixed signals, and seeing confusion, then he denies it until you it plays out, and your wisdom tells you to run for the hills - he is not a man,he is a boy.
Here's a way to systematically dismantle suffering: Notice Rest Ask Tap Breathe Feel We first need to allow our nervous systems to settle, and to start our inquiry from this place of gentle noticing... Once you've taken a few moments to rest, bring to mind the situation you want to inquire into... Step 1 (Notice): Once you've identified what you'd like to look at, notice how it shows up in your awareness: what words, pictures, and energies are there? Once you've taken note of how the triggering situation or person (i.e., whatever is "triggering" your suffering) shows up in your direct experience, start by turning towards the strongest words or pictures... Let them play out while witnessing them nonjudgmentally from awareness. Step 2 (Rest): Next, you'll want to rest with whatever words or pictures you are observing or hearing. To "rest" with words or a picture means to do nothing but see it and let it be there for a while. Don’t take your attention off of it. It can also help to notice the peripheral space around words or pictures. To notice the peripheral space, open your awareness to include seeing the space all around the words or picture while simultaneously continuing to look at the words or pictures. Step 3 (Ask): In Step 3, ask yourself, "Is there any emotion or sensation stuck to this thought?" Step 4 (Tap): The next step is to tap with two fingers, for several seconds, in the center of your forehead, right above the bridge of the nose. While tapping, pay attention only to the tapping, not to the words or pictures. Step 5 (Breathe): Step 5 is very simple- just take a long, slow deep breath. Step 6 (Feel): Once you have taken a deep breath, bring your attention directly into whatever emotion or sensation you experience in your body. Then, feel into the emotion or sensation without any words or images on it. Stay with that emotion or sensation, and notice the peripheral space around it. Then, see if you can make that energy stay exactly as it is just by feeling it. "Why make it stay?" you might ask. Well, emotions and sensations feel stuck because we resist them. Trying to make them stay by feeling them without thoughts reverses that resistance, often leading the emotion or sensation to dissolve. Please take your time when feeling bodily energies and making them stay, as they may take a while to dissolve this way. Keep feeling the emotion or sensation until it vanishes completely... Also, here are 13 gentle and urgent reminders from your soul: 1. You're ALWAYS exactly where you are supposed to be 2. Self-esteem is measured by you (nobody else gets to decide your worth) 3. Get rid of fear: FOREVER 4. When things are tough, change the way you see things 5. Don't dwell on/in the past (come back to this present moment) 6. It's only temporary (all of it!) 7. You have what it takes 8. You don't need to change 9. Release your need for control 10. Accept. Allow. Breathe. Deep. 11. Remember where you came from 12. Remember that you are not alone (not ever!) 13. Remember who you are
I’m in so much pain right now. He tells me he is so greatful to have me in his life but doesn’t know what he wants, he still want to keep in touch. Calls me darling but leaves out of state with work and leaves my message on read and no answer for 3 days then comes back as nothing happened . I told him I want to cut connection completely, I’m 44, he is 40.. I don’t have time for this. He is not clear with what he wants. It hurts so much I miss him like hell but I’m staying strong .. not sure how long I can last . His bday is next a month. I know that day I’ll think of him the whole day 😞😞 it hurts so much!
Block him...stay alone..love yourself more and read a book "the power of pussy" ..you deserve a partner who is sure about you..if he is not sure you're the one then he is also not the one for you...
How you feel now? I hope you feel better. Your story is similar with my story when I had relationship with my ex, he told me he doesn't know what he want. I believed when a man say this words we have to walk away and leave them. It's not easy but time will heal.
I was broken up with suddenly and he said he loves me and gets along with me well and that’s not the the problem the problem is that we both work so much that we can never find time to be together anymore. I’m single mom and he works at his business. It’s so sad to realize that we are good with each other but don’t have the time? I said if you love someone you can make time 😪 he also picks up a vibe that I am not ready. He wish me well and wants me happy. I sad I was sad and he says he’s sad to. It’s confusing but I respected a mirrored his actions, as he stopped himself from talking to me anymore.
I think I'll stay single till God shows up the right gentleman for me I guess...so here's what there's this guy we've been cool since last year November he was giving me mixed signal he would do things for me and give me what I asked for so a week ago I asked him what he really wants cause I don't wanna end up being attached to him he said he wanted a fling I said ohh then I did actually share how I felt about him 😅but I think it's worth it cause in the morning he called me and told me about the lady who stood him up he thought she was one for him they had a connection 😮bruh just went straight to block list I didn't even want his explanation I blocked him,there's no way I'm starting my new year with such a bad energy nope
In this case, That's why men don't tell us their intentions because we will reject them. Better not tell your intentions after you find out his not wanting a true relationship. Then keep it moving. Play him off like a guy you just know.
Men in general, do sends mixed signals and it's very frustrating and irritating for women to make decisions. 😒 Therefore, I'm looking for maturity and to have a person who communicates, to let his woman know his true intention feelings. The lack of readiness, should be discussed, why play games with great people 🙄
Oooft at the 9 min mark… i was in a 12.5yr relationship. Helped him level up, once he leveled up his morals & attitude got grimey! With no ring still I left when he asked me why I said “ive explained it every year, you said all the right words to be me to stay but…” then he says “and no action I know. Ive had a ring in my truck for 3months, but dont feel good enough” i did everything to help that man feel good enough, its not up to us.
Mine said he couldn't be with me due to finances, that he couldn't be in a relationship at all right now, but that he didn't want to close the door on us Then he said I should date other people. As soon ss he said that I realized it was truly over because if he really wanted me he wouldn't be OK with other men having access to me. So I dated other people. I tried keep him in my life as a friend because we'd been friends for 4 years before we dated, but he pretty much just ghosted after that conversation It's a year later and I just found out that he's moving in with his girlfriend (that I didn't know he had). Guess he actually did have time and money to date, just not me. I don't understand why men lie. Just tell the truth! Him telling me he wanted to keep the door open and just wasn't ready at the moment caused me to be unable to release the attachment and that made me somewhat emotionally unavailable because I held on to hope that he would come back someday when he was ready... when really he had no intention of doing that and was just lying to me Tha games people play smh
Everything you say is very true, even for admonishing men. I think this is the problem with society today, the prescription to dating. Just seek God, follow Him and be a full being in yourself and the right one will show up when you are not searching and the Spirit of God will confirm it all, and material things or other things will not matter to you both. All the signs will be there and you both will in sync. Take out all the distractions, and rediscover yourself, become whole again and the rest will follow..... I very much agree with everything you teach but I think men will benefit a lot from these sessions also. Remain blessed.
It always seems being single is more of a blessing. Relationships are a complete curse following up by the desire to be married which i think its a curse since its a painful yet quite waste of time process. In the end, most ppl get hurt lol.
Is it possible for a guy to give all 3 mixed signals in a matter of weeks 😭 From, “you are amazing, beautiful, what I’m looking for, and I respect you so much.” To, “I’m not the man I want to be and God has planned. I’m a hot mess and need to heal.” To, “I didn’t think you were having any of what I was throwing down and I didn’t think you were interested (even after I clearly said multiple times that I was…almost arguing the point of my interest) - and him offering to cook and do work on my house, only to ‘disappear’ and pop up a day later. Like, WHAT just happened these last couple of months??? Plus, lots of intimate touching but no s&x. I had to get off that roller coaster! Thank you for your insight, Stephan. I’d love to hear more about why guys just don’t say something, ask something, or believe something when it’s said. It seems so simple. Why is ghosting the “preferred” method😒
Same thing happened to me. When I finally asked him what was going on, he told me he has avoidant attachment style and he thinks all relationships are eventually going to end. I had to let it go because I realized he wouldn't be able to be a good boyfriend anyway.
I know he's a broken man and needs healing and deliverance as well as God 1st,I just thought we can build something together,I know it sounds stupid ,I try to look past people hurts and pains,and try to be there and help them,but not at the expense of hurting me!
A broken person will more than likely just end up dragging you down with them. It’s easier to drag down than to lift up. Broken ness is a very dense frequency and unless you are doing constant energy cleansing and keeping your frequency high u will get sucked down. It’s best to stay away from these people. U can give direction (like to a therapists office lol) from a distance.
They definitely understand what they’re doing! I’m not giving a grown man an excuse! Stop infantilizing these men plz. They know when they’re giving less‼️🥴
He said he values me, I absolutely adore him but he said he can’t give me what I need and our connection made him realize that he is not ready for the kind of commitment I want. So we called quit. It hurts but I understand that this is best and I feel that has more respect than keeping me around.
You a true blessing Stephan!! thanks for your content , it always comes at the right time , and the way you explain things is amazing thank you so much for these videos such a blessing ❤
And I'm over here setting myself up for heartbreak 😂 because I am head over heels in love with this guy....however I know the feelings aren't mutual. 😏
My advice to.women is to lay it all out there from the jump! I tell men from the beginning im not sleeping with anyone unless im in a committed relationship. It helps weed out this kinda bs. We not gonna play this game and i refused to be used or lusted over like im a toy. If you not gonna take time to get to know me move on. And they do. Men want sex and companionship but no effort. No commitment. Nah bruh....not me.
Stephan, your explanations are amazing. You've helped me see men with more compassion, and to trust in god. Thank you for your advice, keep up your brilliant work & inspiring a better world.
I had to listen to this one particularly again, I think that’s what happened to my last situation. He finally got his own place and dating a women who like women and he knows I’m not like that. I carry myself with class. I had to sit back and realize that just now, thanks Stephan for giving me that information
I have seen this and tried to talk to my male friends about not engaging in confusing behavior and they never saw anything wrong with it. This is exactly what I wanted to say. Ladies if you have been on the receiving end of this know when the tables are turned and they get a taste of their own medicine-then they know❤
All of these explanations are fine but I will not tolerate a man, grown man at that, who cannot communicate! That’s what it all boils down too. Flirting with someone, to have them let their guard down, to then spit them back out is trash behaviour and why play with someone’s emotions in this way. That behaviour right there is enough to put me off entirely. And I’m in that place right now…Waste of time. SMH.
Some men aren't a real one if they just can't be confident about what he Does & Feels periodt........"Damn Just Be A Man About It"(In my Toni Braxton voice!)
Thank you so much for making this video. It was very eye opening, extremely helpful and easy to understand. Thank you for continuing to make these videos to help people with relationships. Go bless you 🙏🏾
my fiance said he misses his single life, stopped loving me and wants to focus on himself and he said when we have enough money he'll buy an apartment for me bc he doesn't want me here anymore. he said that 2 days ago. now he's still cuddling me in bed. he gave me a kiss on my forehead and said good morning (he never did that). we had a breakup one year ago and i noticed the more space i give him the more he loves me. but i want him obsessed. why men always need space, i don't feel like that's love
Why can't we become "the one" for someone else? Is everything so static in life? Many of us seek constant evolution. Doesn't that then imply being a different and improved person over time? Why do some men discard us so quickly without allowing us, and also allow themselves, the opportunity to evolve together?
Why can't they just say that!!! If they say what they want and how they feel then I would respect that much better than him being confusing. How could he not be considerate?
Unbelievable, this is my exact situation currently. He holds me to such a high standard, he doesn’t feel he is in the position to be the man I need. He’s going through a divorce, he’s not financially stable nor emotionally stable. He’s also 8 years my junior. I really care about him but I understand and respect how he feels and don’t want him to be put in a compromised position. Timing is so bad for us and we’re both confused as to why God brought us together during this time.
Best advise! I waited and wasted 5 years! He goes from putting work first then to his school then to something else- all excuses to keep me stuck while he wasn’t ready at all! Can we jsut be adults and quit playing mind games! Love is blind- I was stupid - I lost bc I loved the most!
Such a good video again. No one has talked about this topic so thoroughly and honestly. I recently asked a man what qualities he values most in a woman. He couldn't name one. Finally he said he's looking for a connection with a woman and wants her to be trustworthy. That was all.😎
What do men mean when they say, “I'm not the one for her”? I don't get it. How do you know who is for me? Why do you get to decide that? Shouldn't I be the one to determine that?
You may change a person only by non-verbal communication. For example, if you love music, and play some decent music the partner wants to join, because it is attractive or sunning in the beach is attractive for a while. It's called inspiration. or you love cooking and you look happy when cooking, full of good vibes and humor, so the partner wants to join you because its fun. Then you dot have to change the person just lead him a bit then, he leads himself in his way.
Stephen is wonderful just wish he had been around so I hadnt wasted 30 yr and yes I grew up on good clean happy ever after movies but also family that had values I miss being held close by someone who loves you my grandparents were the true happy ever after we all dream about
The best way to avoid breakup is to not become a controlling person saying "Why you do this, this way, why you dont do it my way. why dont you do it now, why tomorrow?" People dont like to be controlled. They try to avoid this kind of relationship as much as possible because they are not marrying their own mother, they are marrying a partner who enjoys activities as much as they do but in a friendly way. Or if you want someone doing some stuff your way, you should say it in a friendly manner and give the person space to add some ideas too. Or if conversations are only about responsibilities not about having fun with hobbies. If people talk about hobbies more, they dont feel controlled because talks about responsibilities seem less frequent, yet the person can fulfill responsibilities on their own terms. I think if the talk about responsibilities is equal as often as talks about hobbies. but in a healthy manner then the relationship seems harmonic.
@@Heyu7her3 I didnt mean specific gender. Because both want the same understanding and freedom of thought. Sometimes your own intuition gives you hints about what works for you. Try new ways of thinking to get to the goal, which creates new opportunities in jobs but also in personal relationships. If there was only one way of thinking, it looks like a "cult" mindset. A cult mindset doesn't allow you to have an open mind to try new things, and new ways, and find happiness and freedom. Nobody wants a marriage like that either, where the person can not have different opinion or doing things in different ways. But of course, if the person is rude and vulgar it should be corrected. Vulgar attitude is not the same as doing things differently.
A man in no way shape or form should date if he's not ready to meet a woman & get involved, it's selfish & all the behavior that's described is selfish & I wouldn't consider putting myself out there for any of them, I wouldn't be treated right...this is why people should wait in God for the right one
Its the like bombing bs for me. Oh they really like you and ALL that. Then calling or texting you heavy then it drops off after a few days or a week. If you barely know someone and aint even spent anytime with that person then how do you know if they the one or not?
He's been bread crumbling me and I know it now for sure but some of this is on me bc I asked early got a MAYBE and still allowed him to contact me when he felt like it
Excellent video, really makes it clear to me. I have met more players at 70 than any other type, unfortunately. I would say if he isn't ready don't jump into bed with every woman you meet. Its not fair to sleep with someone you have no interest in whatsoever. I mean grow up already how long are we supposed to wait for men to get it together???? A lifetime for some or never. I don't think men think about relationships at all, its get you to bed and figure it out later.
This is why people end up haveing issues in a relationships still today because your too busy trying too choose what u want rather than allowing god too show you the person who is the great fit for you …you know it but u run away from it to the person that u choose and wonder why u keep running into brick walls and having drama ….awfull
Met a brother, its clear from the first conversation had. ' There was chemistry. Yet he is one a security guard, im my apartment complex. I gave him my number, yet hes yet to have used it. I believe hes afraid, that he doesn't want to jeopardize his job. I can't stand it. Idk what to do. Every time we cross paths, you can feel the energy between us.
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Mix signals I move on! No time for bs and confusion!
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It's really simple...if you like what you see, make your move and be clear about your intentions. If it's not being reciprocated, just move on. People are playing, too many games.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Too much games played out here indeed, adults are now playing more games than kids smh🤷
Exactly! It really is that simple. May be a good person, but not for you. All Good!
@@lorinakers7934I don't understand the energy people have. I don't have time to keep people just because. Like I'm collecting dolls. I guess I got a life. 😂😂😂 if I'm not interested I'm moving on. I don't keep you hanging around. Thats too much. I get wanting sex but a lot aint even getting that! They talking and texting multiple people going nowhere. Wow, people really need a life😂
This!!
1. He wants you but he doesn’t think he’s the one for you
2. He wants you but he’s not ready to be the man you deserve
3. He wants you but he can’t have you (perceives he can’t have you)
Going thru this right now and for past year. I asked twice for more love and romance and connection and intimacy. I feel he knows he ain't taken care of business on any level. I broke it off today.
1000000. 10000000000 💯 facts. And I show just Left
I was just told #2. I'm situated and have all my ducks in order, he's been divorced twice and wants to get to know himself...a year and a half, of awesome dates were had though. I'm actually still interested in dating him, so I will. I guess I'm also able to date other people.
Maswerasei
All the above 🤦🏻♀️💔
Keep your independence and don’t lose yourself in him.
Most guys aren’t worth the time.
Don’t live with regrets.
“You treat me like, an option and I’ll leave you like, a damn choice” Lol! Thank you, Stephan for your God given relationship coaching.
God bless. 🙏🏻💖
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
SUPER FACTS
Agree not to lose yourself in anyone!!! It’s easy to do if you use too much emotion! Stay in healthy wise mind!
Yes and never let anyone treat you like an option! Know what you bring to the table!
I loved that, " I'll treat you like a choice."
When he shows mixed signals, he’s not interested, it’s as simple as that
Unless they're dismissive avoidant as far as attachment styles. It's not all black and white but at the same time if they have a Dismissive attachment style you don't need to deal with them anyway.
This is so frustrating. I don't think I'll ever understand why simple communication or voicing pure intention is so difficult.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
I don't understand why men have to lie so much. If they would just be honest dating & women's lives would be so much simpler/easier.
@@outsidethebox8406right! If you wanna play the field do that but be honest and just say I'm looking for something casual or I'm talking to multiple women. I'm dating around. Most mature are like ok cool.
@@Theinfamouskiki411because they know if they tell the truth the majority of women are out and don’t want to be bothered
Me either... it's so much easier, and cleaner
Let Him be only 1 per cent of your world, not the whole one.
Cause, when he decides to take it away from you and disappear from your life, that won't break your heart or take the ground under your feet.
I always keep your quote in mind, Stephan, telling "Rejection is God's redirection to someone better and much worthier!"
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
God should be the head of your life. God, spouse. Family, then everything else.
...so, if he is only a 1 per cent of your life, for what reason he should decide to stay with you?? Hope he will run away soon if he loves himself enough!
Amen!!
Best advice I ever received--never, ever wait for a man, ever.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I absolutely wholeheartedly agree with you! 💯💯💯💯👏🏿👍🏿
I couldn't agree more
Now that I am in my 30s I have a few rules for when I am dating .
1) Keep my options open
2) REMAIN CELEBATE
3) Be clear about what I want . Listen to what they want ( many men like to get laid or are time wasters because they like consistent sex. Refer to rule 2 )
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#Bravo! This avoids the 1 hitter quitters. Too many men want to use you for sex. Then move on to the next!
Excellent !!! Especially number 2!!
Yessss! Liked this. Serious men will date and be serious in a relationship. Not laying with A-Z women. There’s a lot of std. please be careful. A serious guy will take you to an altar to get married.
That’s what I’ve been saying!
He wants a good woman… he just doesn’t want it to be you. I learned the hard way. If you don’t appeal to a man physically or sexually, they may love what you do for them, but will not ever commit to you of introduce you to people in his life.
This is a kind of lesson I just recently had to learn. I've spent 11.5 years with the same man. Been married for 3 & we have 3 kids together. Went through his phone recently due to something shady that had me questioning him. I just found out that he's only attracted to white women and he regrets marrying me because I'm mixed 😩😩 He says I ✔️all the right boxes for him besides my skin tone. He just wishes I was all white 😢😢 I said if you knew this before you married me why didn't you say something or just leave me alone? He said because he was selfish, he knew what I could bring to the table and he knew the type of woman I was. He didn't want to lose me because he knew I'm the best woman he'll ever find. I said so hold me down and keep me tied to you all this time?? All while you've been cheating on me for years because you're not satisfied with my skin tone????? Something natural that you knew I was when you 1st pursued me?? 😢 All he said was that he thought he could look past it because I'm half white & "act white" 😭😭🖕 Like WTF so you spent almost 12 years with me for basically nothing, just to keep another man from having me because other than my skin I'm the perfect woman for you 💀💀😩
@@xoxo.shaunae you got that right if he's not interested he's not going to bring you around his family or his close friends that he hangs out with and tells his deepest darkest secrets cuz men talk a lot too just like women !!! That means he's not interested in you time time to move on!!
What are they doing for them besides sex? I don't get past the 1st 24 hours with men before they start talking about sex and I block them.
If he switches up, communicate- be clear in your expectations. If no changes or changes are temporary, take that as a que he's not into you like that. Changed behaviors are always the best apologies; if someone values you, they will change their ways for good.
AMEN
I have given up on dating. I have given up on my childhood fantasy of the one and wanting to be chosen by someone. I believe wholeheartedly that some people don’t have a “one.” I no longer desire to be valuable to someone and being disappointed at this notion of not being his “one” and feeling not being good enough for someone. I choose God, myself and my family- people I know care about me being being in their lives and acknowledging them. I am now happily celibate and not looking for a “one.” It’s less stressful
You are not alone , i have only met very nasty men Who made my life hell . I am 53 and I expect i Will live tve rest of my Life alone . I have two teenagers my Cat , and my princesas fur baby . The last thing on my mind is a man . Take care big hug.
Same here ! I was happy single and unbothered for seven years and then met someone last may and fell for him after 6 weeks and soon after the red flags started and confusion set in to present day !! Poor communication and lack’s emotional intelligence.. also I discovered traits that I had to research about and discovered narcissism .. This message is right on time
Same honey you are not alone my mind made up..smh 🤦🏾♀️
The bible says, you don't have to get married. It's not for everyone.
You have made a wise choice to choose God and put Him first in your life! I hear many couples day that it's when they cease looking for the "one" it's then that special,God given person entered their life. God bless you dear as you continue to life of joy, contentment and feeling worthy because you are to Our Heavenly Father😊
Confusion=Red Flag keep it moving I say😊
I absolutely wholeheartedly agree with you! 💯💯💯👍🏿👏🏿
God is not the author of confusion.
This is why it's so important to strengthen our relationships with God because if we stay connected to the source, he will increase our intuition and discernment. God bless everyone on their journey to true love ❤
Precioso comentario , totalmente de acuerdo .
Gracias Reina ❤👑
So true dear...thank you!! I have given my love life over to God my Father I prayed and told Him to lead and guide my partner into my life . Deep down I know there is someone special ordained to be my husband it's been my desire to be married from childhood and I wait patiently on God's timing . Trusting that my Father want and knows what's best for me.
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Men think there are so many options when they fail to realize they’re looking at the quantity & not the quality of these so called options.
Say it again!!
They tend to find this out when they are older and have more to lose. All these years of game playing come back to haunt them.
@@ari_mas_cas3484 Big Facts gurl 💥💥💥💯💯💯💯!!!
@@runningwithscissors1564 my mother's ex-boyfriend he left her for the woman she was a crackhead, now he's back with my mother and he wants to pretend to be in love and affection from 20 years ago, my mother's like you'll never get that same affection and attention from me ever again 💯💯!!!
Well said
This confusion is exhausting! 🤯
One solution for all these cases - move on, because either he is not into you or he is not the man you are looking for. The man you look for is actually going to pursue you and it will be clear.
*When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.*
It just sucks when you have someone back peddles on how they treated you in the beginning and made you feel special
Yes yes ❤❤❤ thank you yes
I agree, but I've come to learn that life is spiritual and when that happens to us it's really witchcraft trying to work against us. Now I know better and I pray before every relationship whether it's a friendship or love interest! It will save us all from the beginning!❤️
Right?? Everyone’s true colors come out eventually, but I just went thru that with someone and it was sooo disappointing 😢. I spent months trying to get the beginning back, til I finally accepted that isn’t who she really is…
So true
He's running hot n cold? Draw back. Don't take him seriously. When he asks u out, say, Maybe I'll see u at the venue. Then don't show up there if he's the only reason you're thinking of going. Move on. Dance with whoever u want to.
He is into you if he's CONSISTENT.
No mixed signals.
Keep your spirit of discernment sharp, ladies!
Giving the same energy that you're getting
is key
and if you don't like that energy
then move on.
It can be hard
but that's when you need to choose yourself
(over the damn illusion/fantasy!)
A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period.
So...
If he ignores me
I will step back
and he will lose me.
Simple. Simple.
Non-dramatic
and uncomplicated.
I don’t, under any circumstance:
play these childish-abusive-controlling
mind games.
I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
and treats me as the Queen, I AM.
(Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!)
Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine
and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman:
who knows my worth.
Period.
1. Visualize. Pray.
2. Act as if: you already have that relationship that you desire!
3. Celebrate love whenever and wherever you can
4. Have fun, build trust within yourself
5. Have faith, they’re on their way!
I’m saving this comment forever 😭❤️ such good affirmations and reminders ❤️🩹
The fact that I've just prayed and come to UA-cam and this is the first video I see is insane. I'm just going to let him go because my heart can't take it anymore.
Thank you for explaining it, all Stephan.😊
Glad I could help 🙏
I feel you. I'm in the same position. Going to take me some months to get on my feet first but it's time to move on. Praying for you.
Give it a few sleeps and time... many emotions will come up but it will be so much easier after a few days of no contact and you putting all that energy and love back into you❤ I'm right here doing the same
Prayers
So hard - prayers may be best route to this predicament.
If he wanted to, he would
I think l will stay single!
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
I was with a guy who would tell me after a day or weekend of being together, saying I love you but you deserve better. He introduced me to his parents, and his kids, and it was SOOO confusing because he was available. We were both divorced.
Lol felt
Girl me too. I refuse to deal with this nonsense.
Starting to feel this way & I'm married...
Going through this now and I finally gave up! Yet he’s still tryn knowing he’s still playing around. Why not just let me go in peace !! I cut him off cold turkey and I know that did something to him because I been pressing him for months to show me I’m the only one and he didn’t. My gut and soul is not at peace around him I’m always very uncomfortable that’s why I know he is not the one. It’s sad because I did like him but I love myself more and my sanity ❤
I know how that feels. You must move on. Because he will not end it and emotionally drain you
Bravo
Good for you, Sista.
1 run
2 block
3 delete
Exactly!
When he's showing mixed signals, ignore them until the signals are no longer mixed. Complex and simple at the same time😂
Because he doesn't want to miss out on the lovely hours he has with a woman. A man who still has some conscience knows that it's a balancing act between getting what he wants without hurting her too much and treating her as respectfully as he can. In them, desire fights against reason /to know the right thing to do. At the end of the day they are plain and simple, nice, friendly .......... egoists
THIS!!
I’m learning more and more each day to appreciate being single. I’m learning how to go out alone, I’m focused on engaging in healthy and happy activities, spending time alone is not a bad thing is what I’ve eventually learned. But don’t get it twisted I do want a relationship but in this day and time it doesn’t seem like their are quality men who are looking to court
Yep. Theyre just not ready
I agree
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It's so simple but it's hard. Men don't put in effort even if they do like you. It's crazy!
Would not want to be young and looking for a man, too many options, woman have ruined it for themselves by making themselves too available and men are taking full advantage of it. The more woman they have the less likely they are to settle for one. Woman turning themselves inside out to have a man.
If he doesnt know what he wants, i walk away until he is sure and acts certain
Yes
It’s not ironic that your video discussing ‘ Mixed Signals’ came up on my feed as soon as I got onto YT - It was God giving clarity - have known him over 30 years ( met traveling) always stayed in contact and travelled - long distance friendship (compatible)- re-connected 2 years ago ( on trip to LV - no sex) since then he calls me almost every night to talk about all things except us 😒 he is so confused and misguided- I enjoy his conversations because it help me understand single men over 55 - I’m good being single (Christian ) and not over thinking he wants a relationship- thanks Stephen!
The lord did not bring you here to be confused my dear. Tell him you are confused about your dynamic and it causes you a lot of pain . And then BE SILENT and let the lord do his work. If he tries to clarify and reassure and you then maybe you can let him talk some more. If he comes back with something more confusing you have to dip my dear. “I think I get the picture “ or “okay. I don’t know what to say”. Do not give any more to this man without reassurance or commitment.
The world is a cycle
What goes around
Comes around
Am hoping that men see this video
Stephan this was clarity
No one does it BETTER
Thank you
My pleasure ❤️
This is deep! God ONLY send the REAL ONE ! Period!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Wroooong
Yes
Very true!!!
Maybe I am just too evolved, but I don't believe there is miscommunication or mixed signals when it comes to what males are putting out there. For the most part males are definitive. I think the missing link is in how the female is led to believe otherwise due to her own misinterpretation or desire and need in what she wants. This is why it is so important to have Gods discernment and listening ears and open eyes to know what the man is about. He may not speak it verbatim but he is always showing his intention.
This was fabulous S~ I always appreciate your dialogue and insight. There is always a great take away for me! ❤😊👍💯✔
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
They should take relationships as music.....
You are following the rhythm of music..... which means there s no logic, just the vibrations, energy and frequency. :)
Sometimes a good vibes.
AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER:
- I love myself
- God is within,
and all around
- I am love, itself
- I am freedom, itself
- I am in love with my life
- I am in love with myself
- Joy fills me
- I am joyful
- My twin-flame and I are magnetized to each other;
we belong together; we are destined to be with one another...
- I am a money magnet
- I am a miracle magnet
- I am a love magnet
- Every cell of my being vibrates
at the frequency of perfect health
Thank you 🙏
There is something called a placeholder, the item a toxic guy who will tell you things like youre the one for them, we fit together, I dont want anyone else, until you realize he is giving mixed signals, and seeing confusion, then he denies it until you it plays out, and your wisdom tells you to run for the hills - he is not a man,he is a boy.
Exactly! They expect us to know what we want! We grew up along the way, why haven't they????
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Here's a way to systematically dismantle suffering:
Notice
Rest
Ask
Tap
Breathe
Feel
We first need to allow our nervous systems to settle,
and to start our inquiry from this place of gentle noticing...
Once you've taken a few moments to rest,
bring to mind the situation you want to inquire into...
Step 1 (Notice):
Once you've identified what you'd like to look at,
notice how it shows up in your awareness:
what words, pictures, and energies are there?
Once you've taken note of how the triggering situation or person
(i.e., whatever is "triggering" your suffering) shows up in your direct experience,
start by turning towards the strongest words or pictures...
Let them play out
while witnessing them nonjudgmentally
from awareness.
Step 2 (Rest):
Next, you'll want to rest with whatever words or pictures you are observing or hearing.
To "rest" with words or a picture
means to do nothing
but see it
and let it be there for a while.
Don’t take your attention off of it.
It can also help to notice the peripheral space around words or pictures.
To notice the peripheral space, open your awareness to include seeing the space
all around the words or picture
while simultaneously continuing to look at the words or pictures.
Step 3 (Ask):
In Step 3, ask yourself,
"Is there any emotion or sensation stuck to this thought?"
Step 4 (Tap):
The next step is to tap with two fingers,
for several seconds, in the center of your forehead,
right above the bridge of the nose.
While tapping,
pay attention only to the tapping,
not to the words or pictures.
Step 5 (Breathe):
Step 5 is very simple-
just take a long, slow deep breath.
Step 6 (Feel):
Once you have taken a deep breath,
bring your attention directly into whatever emotion or sensation you experience in your body.
Then, feel into the emotion or sensation without any words or images on it.
Stay with that emotion or sensation, and notice the peripheral space around it.
Then, see if you can make that energy stay exactly as it is just by feeling it.
"Why make it stay?" you might ask. Well, emotions and sensations feel stuck
because we resist them. Trying to make them stay by feeling them without thoughts
reverses that resistance, often leading the emotion or sensation to dissolve.
Please take your time when feeling bodily energies and making them stay,
as they may take a while to dissolve this way.
Keep feeling the emotion or sensation until it vanishes completely...
Also, here are 13 gentle and urgent reminders from your soul:
1. You're ALWAYS exactly where you are supposed to be
2. Self-esteem is measured by you (nobody else gets to decide your worth)
3. Get rid of fear: FOREVER
4. When things are tough, change the way you see things
5. Don't dwell on/in the past (come back to this present moment)
6. It's only temporary (all of it!)
7. You have what it takes
8. You don't need to change
9. Release your need for control
10. Accept. Allow. Breathe. Deep.
11. Remember where you came from
12. Remember that you are not alone (not ever!)
13. Remember who you are
I’m in so much pain right now. He tells me he is so greatful to have me in his life but doesn’t know what he wants, he still want to keep in touch. Calls me darling but leaves out of state with work and leaves my message on read and no answer for 3 days then comes back as nothing happened . I told him I want to cut connection completely, I’m 44, he is 40.. I don’t have time for this. He is not clear with what he wants. It hurts so much I miss him like hell but I’m staying strong .. not sure how long I can last . His bday is next a month. I know that day I’ll think of him the whole day 😞😞 it hurts so much!
Block him...stay alone..love yourself more and read a book "the power of pussy" ..you deserve a partner who is sure about you..if he is not sure you're the one then he is also not the one for you...
How you feel now? I hope you feel better. Your story is similar with my story when I had relationship with my ex, he told me he doesn't know what he want. I believed when a man say this words we have to walk away and leave them. It's not easy but time will heal.
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I was broken up with suddenly and he said he loves me and gets along with me well and that’s not the the problem the problem is that we both work so much that we can never find time to be together anymore. I’m single mom and he works at his business. It’s so sad to realize that we are good with each other but don’t have the time? I said if you love someone you can make time 😪 he also picks up a vibe that I am not ready.
He wish me well
and wants me happy. I sad I was sad and he says he’s sad to. It’s confusing but I respected a mirrored his actions, as he stopped himself from talking to me anymore.
I think I'll stay single till God shows up the right gentleman for me I guess...so here's what there's this guy we've been cool since last year November he was giving me mixed signal he would do things for me and give me what I asked for so a week ago I asked him what he really wants cause I don't wanna end up being attached to him he said he wanted a fling I said ohh then I did actually share how I felt about him 😅but I think it's worth it cause in the morning he called me and told me about the lady who stood him up he thought she was one for him they had a connection 😮bruh just went straight to block list I didn't even want his explanation I blocked him,there's no way I'm starting my new year with such a bad energy nope
In this case, That's why men don't tell us their intentions because we will reject them. Better not tell your intentions after you find out his not wanting a true relationship. Then keep it moving. Play him off like a guy you just know.
I enjoy the insights from these videos but I didn’t get the 3 things that a woman should do when she’s being given mixed signals from a man
Its simple. Move on
Men in general, do sends mixed signals and it's very frustrating and irritating for women to make decisions. 😒 Therefore, I'm looking for maturity and to have a person who communicates, to let his woman know his true intention feelings. The lack of readiness, should be discussed, why play games with great people 🙄
Oooft at the 9 min mark… i was in a 12.5yr relationship. Helped him level up, once he leveled up his morals & attitude got grimey! With no ring still I left when he asked me why I said “ive explained it every year, you said all the right words to be me to stay but…” then he says “and no action I know. Ive had a ring in my truck for 3months, but dont feel good enough” i did everything to help that man feel good enough, its not up to us.
Mine said he couldn't be with me due to finances, that he couldn't be in a relationship at all right now, but that he didn't want to close the door on us
Then he said I should date other people. As soon ss he said that I realized it was truly over because if he really wanted me he wouldn't be OK with other men having access to me. So I dated other people. I tried keep him in my life as a friend because we'd been friends for 4 years before we dated, but he pretty much just ghosted after that conversation
It's a year later and I just found out that he's moving in with his girlfriend (that I didn't know he had). Guess he actually did have time and money to date, just not me. I don't understand why men lie. Just tell the truth!
Him telling me he wanted to keep the door open and just wasn't ready at the moment caused me to be unable to release the attachment and that made me somewhat emotionally unavailable because I held on to hope that he would come back someday when he was ready... when really he had no intention of doing that and was just lying to me
Tha games people play smh
Everything you say is very true, even for admonishing men. I think this is the problem with society today, the prescription to dating. Just seek God, follow Him and be a full being in yourself and the right one will show up when you are not searching and the Spirit of God will confirm it all, and material things or other things will not matter to you both. All the signs will be there and you both will in sync. Take out all the distractions, and rediscover yourself, become whole again and the rest will follow..... I very much agree with everything you teach but I think men will benefit a lot from these sessions also. Remain blessed.
It always seems being single is more of a blessing. Relationships are a complete curse following up by the desire to be married which i think its a curse since its a painful yet quite waste of time process. In the end, most ppl get hurt lol.
Where are men like you hiding? I have never heard a male make so much sense. . . Ever!! ❤
Love is painful and hard 💔.
🙏 ❤️
Those people can hurt you too.
Take your dignity and GO!
🙏 ❤️
Is it possible for a guy to give all 3 mixed signals in a matter of weeks 😭 From, “you are amazing, beautiful, what I’m looking for, and I respect you so much.” To, “I’m not the man I want to be and God has planned. I’m a hot mess and need to heal.” To, “I didn’t think you were having any of what I was throwing down and I didn’t think you were interested (even after I clearly said multiple times that I was…almost arguing the point of my interest) - and him offering to cook and do work on my house, only to ‘disappear’ and pop up a day later. Like, WHAT just happened these last couple of months??? Plus, lots of intimate touching but no s&x. I had to get off that roller coaster! Thank you for your insight, Stephan. I’d love to hear more about why guys just don’t say something, ask something, or believe something when it’s said. It seems so simple. Why is ghosting the “preferred” method😒
Same thing happened to me. When I finally asked him what was going on, he told me he has avoidant attachment style and he thinks all relationships are eventually going to end. I had to let it go because I realized he wouldn't be able to be a good boyfriend anyway.
I know he's a broken man and needs healing and deliverance as well as God 1st,I just thought we can build something together,I know it sounds stupid ,I try to look past people hurts and pains,and try to be there and help them,but not at the expense of hurting me!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
A broken person will more than likely just end up dragging you down with them. It’s easier to drag down than to lift up. Broken ness is a very dense frequency and unless you are doing constant energy cleansing and keeping your frequency high u will get sucked down. It’s best to stay away from these people. U can give direction (like to a therapists office lol) from a distance.
They definitely understand what they’re doing! I’m not giving a grown man an excuse! Stop infantilizing these men plz. They know when they’re giving less‼️🥴
He said he values me, I absolutely adore him but he said he can’t give me what I need and our connection made him realize that he is not ready for the kind of commitment I want. So we called quit. It hurts but I understand that this is best and I feel that has more respect than keeping me around.
Excellent breakdown of all the possible scenarios here. It was very helpful, as always. Thank you, Stephan, for all your insight and clarity. ❤
Yes, that’s why when a man commits all his resources, when he’s ready, he rarely leaves-it’s women who initiate most divorces
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
You a true blessing Stephan!! thanks for your content , it always comes at the right time , and the way you explain things is amazing thank you so much for these videos such a blessing ❤
Glad I could help 🙏
And I'm over here setting myself up for heartbreak 😂 because I am head over heels in love with this guy....however I know the feelings aren't mutual. 😏
So, the title says that we should do 3 things. What are those 3 things that we should do? I'm confused!
Kindly watch the entire video to get more clarity ❤ 🙏
Me too, I don't see clarity on what to do 😔, what are the 3 things to do?? 💁.
I love listening to his words of wisdom but this one ain't clear to me.
After 4:30 don’t listen to anymore - mixed signals equals leave
When you know you know.❤
Absolutely!
I heard this so many times
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Cheshire Cat grin
Sometimes youre blinded, you thought you know what you know, till you knew you dont know😂
Bye all together!!! don’t nobody got time to guess what he wants and don’t want… men need to communicate…
My advice to.women is to lay it all out there from the jump! I tell men from the beginning im not sleeping with anyone unless im in a committed relationship. It helps weed out this kinda bs. We not gonna play this game and i refused to be used or lusted over like im a toy. If you not gonna take time to get to know me move on. And they do. Men want sex and companionship but no effort. No commitment. Nah bruh....not me.
Stephan, your explanations are amazing. You've helped me see men with more compassion, and to trust in god. Thank you for your advice, keep up your brilliant work & inspiring a better world.
I had to listen to this one particularly again, I think that’s what happened to my last situation. He finally got his own place and dating a women who like women and he knows I’m not like that. I carry myself with class. I had to sit back and realize that just now, thanks Stephan for giving me that information
I have seen this and tried to talk to my male friends about not engaging in confusing behavior and they never saw anything wrong with it. This is exactly what I
wanted to say. Ladies if you have been on the receiving end of this know when the tables are turned and they get a taste of their own medicine-then they know❤
All of these explanations are fine but I will not tolerate a man, grown man at that, who cannot communicate! That’s what it all boils down too. Flirting with someone, to have them let their guard down, to then spit them back out is trash behaviour and why play with someone’s emotions in this way. That behaviour right there is enough to put me off entirely. And I’m in that place right now…Waste of time. SMH.
Current situation.. Thank youuuuu for the clarity..
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Some men aren't a real one if they just can't be confident about what he Does & Feels periodt........"Damn Just Be A Man About It"(In my Toni Braxton voice!)
Thank you so much for making this video. It was very eye opening, extremely helpful and easy to understand. Thank you for continuing to make these videos to help people with relationships. Go bless you 🙏🏾
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
Nice job explaining this, thank you! ❤
my fiance said he misses his single life, stopped loving me and wants to focus on himself and he said when we have enough money he'll buy an apartment for me bc he doesn't want me here anymore. he said that 2 days ago. now he's still cuddling me in bed. he gave me a kiss on my forehead and said good morning (he never did that). we had a breakup one year ago and i noticed the more space i give him the more he loves me. but i want him obsessed. why men always need space, i don't feel like that's love
Why can't we become "the one" for someone else? Is everything so static in life? Many of us seek constant evolution. Doesn't that then imply being a different and improved person over time? Why do some men discard us so quickly without allowing us, and also allow themselves, the opportunity to evolve together?
My point exactly! After 1 date you know if they the one or not? Come on now thats nuts! You have to give it time. Get to know a person
Players use mixed signal
Why can't they just say that!!! If they say what they want and how they feel then I would respect that much better than him being confusing. How could he not be considerate?
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Unbelievable, this is my exact situation currently. He holds me to such a high standard, he doesn’t feel he is in the position to be the man I need. He’s going through a divorce, he’s not financially stable nor emotionally stable. He’s also 8 years my junior. I really care about him but I understand and respect how he feels and don’t want him to be put in a compromised position. Timing is so bad for us and we’re both confused as to why God brought us together during this time.
ur honesty reminds me of when my mom use to pop me in my head when I did something stupid. It hurts, but how else will i learn?!😂 thank you!
My pleasure ❤️
Dude my brain is hurting
Then people say that women are complicated. Also no wonder why so many men end up alone. Their emotional intelligence is on the level of a stone.
God is going to use ME, AMEN almighty father 🙏🏽
Best advise! I waited and wasted 5 years! He goes from putting work first then to his school then to something else- all excuses to keep me stuck while he wasn’t ready at all!
Can we jsut be adults and quit playing mind games!
Love is blind- I was stupid - I lost bc I loved the most!
Is it me or did I miss it? What are the three things we’re suppose to do?
You know what, he definitely got us for click bait 😂🤷🏾♀️
Such a good video again. No one has talked about this topic so thoroughly and honestly.
I recently asked a man what qualities he values most in a woman. He couldn't name one. Finally he said he's looking for a connection with a woman and wants her to be trustworthy. That was all.😎
I've asked many men they don't know
@@Theinfamouskiki411 That's sad. But that means they don't know what they want, and that's why the relationship with them is doomed anyway.
What do men mean when they say, “I'm not the one for her”? I don't get it. How do you know who is for me? Why do you get to decide that? Shouldn't I be the one to determine that?
Hey Stephan, is there any possibility that you do zoom calls with people who want relationship advice?
You may change a person only by non-verbal communication.
For example, if you love music, and play some decent music the partner wants to join, because it is attractive
or sunning in the beach is attractive for a while.
It's called inspiration.
or you love cooking and you look happy when cooking, full of good vibes and humor, so the partner wants to join you because its fun.
Then you dot have to change the person just lead him a bit then, he leads himself in his way.
Stephen is wonderful just wish he had been around so I hadnt wasted 30 yr and yes I grew up on good clean happy ever after movies but also family that had values I miss being held close by someone who loves you my grandparents were the true happy ever after we all dream about
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks so appreciate you also you have such wonderful healing for the younger humans keep healing and doing what you do best!!
Thank you the last point was perfectly explained!!!!
The best way to avoid breakup is to not become a controlling person
saying "Why you do this, this way, why you dont do it my way.
why dont you do it now, why tomorrow?"
People dont like to be controlled. They try to avoid this kind of relationship as much as possible because they are not marrying their own mother,
they are marrying a partner who enjoys activities as much as they do but in a friendly way.
Or if you want someone doing some stuff your way, you should say it in a friendly manner and give the person space to add some ideas too.
Or if conversations are only about responsibilities not about having fun with hobbies.
If people talk about hobbies more, they dont feel controlled because talks about responsibilities seem less frequent,
yet the person can fulfill responsibilities on their own terms.
I think if the talk about responsibilities is equal as often as talks about hobbies.
but in a healthy manner
then the relationship seems harmonic.
But they ARE marrying their moms, specifically a mom they sleep with. AKA "Madonna-Whore Complex".
@@Heyu7her3 I didnt mean specific gender. Because both want the same understanding and freedom of thought.
Sometimes your own intuition gives you hints about what works for you.
Try new ways of thinking to get to the goal, which creates new opportunities in jobs but also in personal relationships.
If there was only one way of thinking, it looks like a "cult" mindset. A cult mindset doesn't allow you to have an open mind to try new things, and new ways, and find happiness and freedom. Nobody wants a marriage like that either, where the person can not have different opinion or doing things in different ways.
But of course, if the person is rude and vulgar it should be corrected.
Vulgar attitude is not the same as doing things differently.
A man in no way shape or form should date if he's not ready to meet a woman & get involved, it's selfish & all the behavior that's described is selfish & I wouldn't consider putting myself out there for any of them, I wouldn't be treated right...this is why people should wait in God for the right one
Its the like bombing bs for me. Oh they really like you and ALL that. Then calling or texting you heavy then it drops off after a few days or a week. If you barely know someone and aint even spent anytime with that person then how do you know if they the one or not?
He's been bread crumbling me and I know it now for sure but some of this is on me bc I asked early got a MAYBE and still allowed him to contact me when he felt like it
Excellent video, really makes it clear to me. I have met more players at 70 than any other type, unfortunately. I would say if he isn't ready don't jump into bed with every woman you meet. Its not fair to sleep with someone you have no interest in whatsoever. I mean grow up already how long are we supposed to wait for men to get it together???? A lifetime for some or never. I don't think men think about relationships at all, its get you to bed and figure it out later.
This is why people end up haveing issues in a relationships still today because your too busy trying too choose what u want rather than allowing god too show you the person who is the great fit for you …you know it but u run away from it to the person that u choose and wonder why u keep running into brick walls and having drama ….awfull
This is deep, I'm all confused with how these men think lol 😂 thanks for breaking this down
My pleasure ❤️
Thank you for such a clear, excellent explanation of what is (usually) a confusing situation for us...
Men at 68 want too play the field.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Met a brother, its clear from the first conversation had. ' There was chemistry. Yet he is one a security guard, im my apartment complex. I gave him my number, yet hes yet to have used it. I believe hes afraid, that he doesn't want to jeopardize his job.
I can't stand it. Idk what to do.
Every time we cross paths, you can feel the energy between us.
This video was really helpful.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
he said "Maybe we'll cross paths in the future", then went on and blocked me. leaving me his false hope
I hear you ! Your perspective is invaluable.