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  • @rarecombo
    @rarecombo 18 днів тому +86

    13 Clever Ways to Deal with Toxic People
    1. Identifying Toxic Behavior
    2. It's not about you
    3. Set Boundaries
    4. Master the art of non-reaction
    5. Use the gray rock method
    6. The Broken Record Technique
    7. Limit exposure to Toxic people
    8. Build your support system
    9. Prioritize Self-care
    10. Recognize you cannot fix everyone
    11. Use Cognitive Reframing
    12. Practice forgiveness for your own peace
    13. When to walk away

  • @beverlywingate8736
    @beverlywingate8736 26 днів тому +190

    I have walked away from family, it was hard but I did it. The world paints a picture that all people are kind. But this is not the case always. My faith helped me to regain my control of myself and gave me the courage to walk away finally. Cut all ties. My family used the phone to manipulate me. Keep in contact to see what I was doing. Once I stopped this contact, they showed the real them. They where highly insulted couldn't verbally attack. Lost their grip on me.

    • @KarenSears-iu5ne
      @KarenSears-iu5ne 25 днів тому +13

      I walked away from family to I said I am moving out it's time they started wanting to much from me told my older sis go do something we seem to get along better from a distance momi are fine my own health got in the way I did not want to live with two people no ties no grand kids I had the power to tell them I am leaving for my own life dad gone 24 years so far best move I made X friend to negative he lives here told him three years ago left him best move I made in my life I love quiet time I gave everyone boundaries glad I did in touch with good friend who really cares she talked about how she was disappointed with Pattie I said look if she's rude turn her off on the phone when ever she calls her Pattie always wants something it's never hi how are you?? I gave her advise block her on the phone don't deal with her anymore Hans he was dumped for being rude I blocked him he's a complainer he's negative it was to much to deal with he blew it not me❤❤❤❤

    • @bhumikasharma3164
      @bhumikasharma3164 25 днів тому +7

      Strong move

    • @mikaelmarts-hg9je
      @mikaelmarts-hg9je 18 днів тому +9

      Your not alone man I’m dealing with the exact same thing you can only hope you decision will make them realize they need to change don’t go crawling back unless they can be the people you need to support your success you did the right thing don’t think otherwise

    • @MystAbove
      @MystAbove 18 днів тому +7

      It isn't kind when we're forced to walk away from our own family. I discovered that I had much higher of a calling and purpose🕊️♥️

    • @lunatunaodin103
      @lunatunaodin103 17 днів тому +3

      Good for you...I respect your courage.

  • @MaregereMANGWEZA
    @MaregereMANGWEZA 22 дні тому +89

    Today is my starting point i have been emotionally physically and financially drained for 5 years but today I'm taking a decision to take care of my mental health and focus on my own healing

    • @deanwiseman
      @deanwiseman 20 днів тому +4

      Strength and wisdom to you!

    • @binkleyrules
      @binkleyrules 11 днів тому +5

      Great. Just keep on walking. Don't allow them to draw you back in. They'll try. I'm pulling for you! I had to do the same. Things had gotten so bad, walking away was much easier than staying.

    • @LVB56
      @LVB56 7 днів тому +1

      Stand strong❤. Take care of YOU

  • @lebohangmokhachane7309
    @lebohangmokhachane7309 12 днів тому +28

    Family can be very distructive.. because its supposed to be a safe place for an individual... sometimes family love and acceptance comes from people you don't share the DNA

  • @Anne-KarinThomsen
    @Anne-KarinThomsen 23 дні тому +57

    I find it nessesary to have constant reminders like this

    • @deanwiseman
      @deanwiseman 20 днів тому +4

      Remember someone else is going through same struggles and just make sure you're doing whatever is necessary for YOUR HEALTH AND WELL-BEING. Strength and wisdom to you!

    • @eboneebanks6131
      @eboneebanks6131 9 днів тому

      Me to!!

  • @eboneebanks6131
    @eboneebanks6131 9 днів тому +14

    I needed this 48 years ago!!!!!

  • @mauricelittle101
    @mauricelittle101 11 годин тому

    This video is a validation of what I I've already been doing. Specifically for family. I will be watching this everyday.

  • @limitless14777
    @limitless14777 25 днів тому +59

    Walking away and dissappearing was the absolute most liberating thing I ever did. You must understand, however, that when you do, you will still be wrong for setting boundaries.

    • @KarenSears-iu5ne
      @KarenSears-iu5ne 25 днів тому +4

      I did it 11 years ago the best move I made I just don't want to live with anyone my own health got in the way asthma COPD I now have cist that needs attention my breathing is not great mom has really helped a lot my sis gave her boundaries 11 years ago glad I did I have doctors app so it's busy !!! The best move I made❤❤❤❤❤

    • @mindyann8903
      @mindyann8903 16 днів тому +1

      “Wrong”

    • @maevey3
      @maevey3 8 днів тому +1

      ​@@mindyann8903 Yep

  • @CaptainVelveeta
    @CaptainVelveeta 5 днів тому +9

    I knew my gf was toxic but never knew to what level until I heard this. She literally fits every single catagory...thanks for gving me the confidence to let it go for good.

  • @S.o.n.n.i.e_G.e.o.r.g.e
    @S.o.n.n.i.e_G.e.o.r.g.e 18 днів тому +12

    Amen Thank You Jesus 🙏🙏🙌

  • @victorystoic_channel
    @victorystoic_channel 7 днів тому +5

    03:17 This is so true. Toxic people often manipulate situations to make you feel guilty for simply standing up for yourself. Recognizing these behaviors as emotional abuse is the first step in breaking free.

  • @binkleyrules
    @binkleyrules 11 днів тому +10

    Tired of making excuses for them & me being in denial. I've walked away and have never felt better!

  • @lululuna8791
    @lululuna8791 19 днів тому +18

    Without coming across this feature about TOXIC PEOPLE : It's very enlightening that I applied STOICISM already, many times that now gives SMILE on my lips.🎉 😊 Humbly, I would say, perhaps watching and hearing this video now vindicates that I have done it right after all. Thus, PEACE is a gift. A treasure.

  • @chiewerekok9055
    @chiewerekok9055 11 днів тому +22

    If only I can recover my finances after all the damages done.

    • @LVB56
      @LVB56 7 днів тому +1

      Restoration will come. Stay on track and rebuild bit by bit. ❤

  • @margheritawhite7982
    @margheritawhite7982 21 день тому +33

    This has really helped me to decide how to react to a friend of 30 years who now makes me feel insulted and unable to voice my opinions. I have tried many times to place boundaries but each time it gets forgotten. I have listened to this and realise I do not owe this person anything and need to distance myself for my own peace and good. Thankyou.x

    • @butterfly2604
      @butterfly2604 10 днів тому +1

      Sounds like You've outgrown the Abuse 😂.. Congratulations 🎉👏🏻..There are so Many loving incredible people out there waiting to meet you ..

  • @MarielA.R-s1m
    @MarielA.R-s1m 11 днів тому +10

    Yes I experience this at work..Toxic really.

    • @binkleyrules
      @binkleyrules 11 днів тому

      Feel badly for you that you have to work with them. Stay strong & don't react. They'll find someone else to hound.

  • @historicalowl-n2m
    @historicalowl-n2m 3 дні тому +2

    Great job in recognizing the importance of setting boundaries to protect your peace!

  • @peperkoekfee
    @peperkoekfee 10 днів тому +4

    Yes I experienced it also with a colleague, with my sister-in-law and two acquaintances (I don't call them friends). Thanks for the lesson. It's not about you, it's about them.

  • @herschelcain5078
    @herschelcain5078 9 днів тому +2

    Amen thank you Jesus for this eye opening message 😇🙏🏿

  • @soniafrancis7605
    @soniafrancis7605 18 днів тому +9

    This happened to me and i reacted eventually how you explained latter,eventually the person looked for another prey,
    Truely on point,this video is par excellence❤!!!!!!!!!

  • @Louise.cr747
    @Louise.cr747 20 днів тому +7

    Thanks for sharing. I now understand myself more. And now ready to free myself from believing that I was the one toxic only to realize he "guilt-trip"me

  • @belizepassion2602
    @belizepassion2602 5 днів тому +2

    Good lord, this is nothing but the truth! Thank you for this. Had a very toxic, abusive ex.

  • @nanciekemtv
    @nanciekemtv 13 днів тому +7

    This was highly recommended and it’s definitely worth my time. Thank you for sharing

  • @bluediamond1343
    @bluediamond1343 16 днів тому +18

    Been abused by my Toxic partner ..
    Financially and emotionally abused,
    big time..
    😢

    • @butterfly2604
      @butterfly2604 10 днів тому

      Me too ..We need to escape and free ourselves to Heal 🙏🏻..

  • @donnacrozier2003
    @donnacrozier2003 22 дні тому +12

    WOW, awesome! Reminds me of narcissistic people! Excellent words of wisdom to live by. I wrote five pages of notes for myself to re-read! Thanks!

  • @morticatherine7567
    @morticatherine7567 11 днів тому +3

    Best teaching to deal with toxic people! Thank you for the sharing

  • @alimccreery755
    @alimccreery755 13 днів тому +7

    Every word is on point 👍

  • @H3nezz90
    @H3nezz90 12 днів тому +8

    Especially in work there are toxic people who act like good people to get the information to make you fail and feel bad. "Some people want you to fail and are not really intrested anything they ask " 🎉😮

  • @OWLHOLLYWOOD-USA
    @OWLHOLLYWOOD-USA 22 дні тому +19

    This is good advice with dealing with my toxic boss whos trying to destroy me. I'm feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted and overwhelmed.

    • @PhiloLutta
      @PhiloLutta 20 днів тому +1

      I have the same boss experience at work. It drains mentally and emotionally

    • @MystAbove
      @MystAbove 18 днів тому

      Start looking for a healthier work environment, seriously. You can't get back years or months of your life🕊️

  • @korytnacka2004
    @korytnacka2004 21 день тому +7

    This person would do mean things to me and come asking How are you with the sweetest voice over and over. They were told not to do this or that, yet they continued and created more variations. It took me almost a year to understand. Thank you for this very insightful video. It mentioned exactly what was happening and named many things I didn't understand. Very spot on. Thanks a bunch!

  • @sampsonbbono2330
    @sampsonbbono2330 26 днів тому +15

    I needed this video twelve years ago

  • @smidohu
    @smidohu 21 день тому +7

    The advise is valuable protective, proactive. Implementing over and over again can sometimes be exhausting.

  • @ghulamrahman1649
    @ghulamrahman1649 20 днів тому +7

    The best advice I ever heard so true to ignore it thanks to stoic folks :-)

  • @geovanny261
    @geovanny261 22 дні тому +9

    Danke, Bruder, für diese Weisheit, sie hilft mir wirklich sehr.

  • @darlinjacq1552
    @darlinjacq1552 18 днів тому +4

    8:37 The art of non-reaction is powerfully beautiful. It takes time, but after exhausting All'ah, other avenues, you just give up aNd let stuff come at you aNd you learn to brush it off aNd go oNN. Then, it will extinguish on it's own & you learn how crazy that All'ah 'long you weren't...

  • @rishikeshkale5226
    @rishikeshkale5226 День тому

    Totally worth and appreciate to one who uploaded this video. Game changer video for individuals dealing with slow poison personality.
    I have been part of it for the same, 1st personality I was unable to recognize so got in that trap.
    2nd personality, I knew and was getting same results which learned from 1st.But, later I was trying to win it but instead again got trapped
    3rd was the workplace, which which I tried to covert, but still failed.
    Now, this video is subject to powerful defence, which mainly aims to leave/stepover toxic personality/place. But, we also need to learn to overcome and win such personality/place. Is there a solution to win such personality/place, coz how long we will leave, workplace especially

  • @Joanna-d5z
    @Joanna-d5z 5 днів тому +1

    🤦Gee😭this happened to me! Every day! I got to break away from this night mare ! Unbelievable I let these people take over my life 🙏🏾

  • @sitwathabib6026
    @sitwathabib6026 День тому

    Excellent work.carry it on.good luck

  • @janetcommanda9723
    @janetcommanda9723 День тому

    Very helpful. Thank you!

  • @mercyaliviza9378
    @mercyaliviza9378 День тому

    Powerful ❤❤🎉

  • @stacyljonas
    @stacyljonas 5 днів тому

    Well I always have liked the challenges that Life gives me, easy and difficult. People like who he defined have been around since time began You can, with practical application and proper knowledge, learn to handle yourself in ANY situation. You can't realistically walk away from everyone you are uncomfortable with. Some of them are so defensive because they are broken and trying to protect their inner self. They are reacting because YOU are the threat.

  • @ratics29x
    @ratics29x 19 днів тому +4

    my lucky number was always 13. God Bless.

  • @hbh3299
    @hbh3299 23 дні тому +6

    ❤ thank you to give me this answer at what time thank you for this beautiful lettuce that you give me and that all the angels the help us to understand dirty people doing to each other sometimes it's too difficult because you want to help everybody yourself thank you for this beautiful answer that you give me I try back to myself and you Forgive People They Hurt Me and thank you you are very nice speaker I wish you The Best Thank You For This Beautiful Energy

  • @EvilFreestyleGod
    @EvilFreestyleGod 29 днів тому +13

    I needed this 5 years ago

    • @___gau_rav__
      @___gau_rav__ 26 днів тому +2

      For 4 year

    • @bigmalky.
      @bigmalky. 25 днів тому +2

      Don’t be hard on yourself, I too needed this a while too 12 months ago. Learn, be kind to yourself and move on. There are good partners out there.

  • @patlewkowicz6339
    @patlewkowicz6339 2 дні тому +1

    Amen

  • @Sidoine-s6n
    @Sidoine-s6n 17 днів тому +5

    Wow,,,wow,,,,I am 51 ,and you are talking to me,,,wow,wow....

  • @garywilliamleese2919
    @garywilliamleese2919 16 днів тому +1

    I have been in this situation where I have been made to feel like I am not worthy of being myself, but I have worked on my self esteem and I have been able to make myself feel better about myself and I have not allowed others to intimidate me.

  • @irmaseymour1410
    @irmaseymour1410 2 дні тому +1

    ❤ this channel...

  • @mercedesperalta3888
    @mercedesperalta3888 День тому

    Thank you, for your amazing infor

  • @philippagrimoire5968
    @philippagrimoire5968 25 днів тому +8

    He made me into this person who was always blaming him or blaming him for my problems which I never did! I held him accountable for something bad he did do which he wouldn’t admit to and after that he just constantly accused me of doing things I wasn’t doing to deflect from what he did do and turned my support network against me so the women told me to take responsibility and make me out to be the monster or telling me to stop harassing him when I was telling him to stay away from me and stopping sexually assaulting people as I wasn’t the first he’d done that to! Then he twisted the entire story around so people thought I was blowing things out of proportion and they all minimised it! I was able to not react but he’d just tell me I was raging anyway even when the texts were evidence that I stayed calm!! Absolute lunatic

  • @CelesteDeVonne7258
    @CelesteDeVonne7258 12 днів тому

    This has really opened up my spiritual eyes to "toxic ppl" I have one of these "snakes" now spewing their toxic behavior into my peaceful life. I'm keeping up my boundaries, unapologetically! ❤🙏🏼❤🙏🏼❤🧘

  • @nicolehayes6020
    @nicolehayes6020 11 днів тому +1

    That’s exactly the situation I’m moving away from 11/14/2014! Can’t wait!

  • @farooquecm
    @farooquecm 25 днів тому +6

    If this is toxic. Then I am toxic. I never knew 😕.. but my intention was never harm. It was always peace for relationship.. i ask such questions as reaction of the action that crosses the boundaries of relationship.. to have a clear thoughts... Better to ask than assuming

  • @ernestcarter7073
    @ernestcarter7073 15 днів тому +2

    #13 is important for me..I need to work on this soon 🙏🏾

  • @Vincent-n1c
    @Vincent-n1c 17 днів тому +2

    Thank you for the clever ways of toxic relationship

  • @valeriebecker5108
    @valeriebecker5108 20 днів тому +2

    Powerful and very good information to keep in mind every day.....thank you so much

  • @stevenhulett7315
    @stevenhulett7315 19 днів тому +2

    💯 thank you Beverlywingate for sharing your story.

  • @Mystic_Paths
    @Mystic_Paths День тому

    You don’t need to tolerate harmful behavior out of obligation. Remember, you can be compassionate without sacrificing your own peace.

  • @catlady6938
    @catlady6938 9 днів тому

    I walked away from a narcissistic friend, this video has helped should I ever run into her again. Thank you

  • @SukiKaur-r1i
    @SukiKaur-r1i 10 днів тому

    Very true, & Deep insight to the minds of Toxic people. . I have gained strength from this. .❤

  • @ThierryKinyuy
    @ThierryKinyuy 16 днів тому +2

    Thank you so much for this great teaching I do appreciate❤

  • @vaidehigawde8495
    @vaidehigawde8495 19 днів тому +1

    Thank you soo much , need from so long 18 years.... Helped alot.... ❤

  • @Urbangardener1
    @Urbangardener1 15 днів тому +1

    I've been practicing these principles for about six years now. Over the last two years it's gotten kind of fun. Getting into psychology and understanding human behav.You along with philosophy and ethics also helped quite a bit. As an empathic individual, Perhaps to my own detriment, These basic principles changed my life and has now given me the power to overcome any forms of narcissistic abuse. It also taught me how to be alone and it will lose the codependency issues that I was dealing with for almost all of my adult life. But where did you get the voice over?
    It's a little distracting

  • @debrabrown7334
    @debrabrown7334 7 днів тому

    Give him strong. Help my son to understanding that he need to be more

  • @PhillyJones-gk8tm
    @PhillyJones-gk8tm 23 дні тому +5

    ❤❤❤ true

  • @laylomaazimi7560
    @laylomaazimi7560 2 дні тому +1

    What happened when you don't have 🌎🙌✌️🧩🧚💯🌼🤸🙈🕊️👍saport system no one else cares even your own family or your friends 😮 love peace stoic thank you for your advice 💯❤🌼🤍

  • @marianneheimgartner5264
    @marianneheimgartner5264 13 днів тому +1

    Danke!

  • @TriciaGrey-rl3xs
    @TriciaGrey-rl3xs День тому

    true that

  • @derityanilhastiningsih5513
    @derityanilhastiningsih5513 19 днів тому +2

    Educated vedeo 👍😊❤🙏

  • @shannsalves621
    @shannsalves621 11 днів тому +2

    Got it !!!

  • @TLotus_369_Amethyst
    @TLotus_369_Amethyst 20 днів тому +1

    This is what I needed to know for a long time. Thank you.

  • @Maulidhashim-m6e
    @Maulidhashim-m6e 8 днів тому

    I'm committed to helping p"ple distance themselves from toxic p"ple

  • @nadiagrace3596
    @nadiagrace3596 21 день тому +2

    Great advice’s learn true life

  • @Happinessjenn-1578j
    @Happinessjenn-1578j 16 днів тому +4

    Omg fight never budge ialmost did❤😊

  • @goodmoney7861
    @goodmoney7861 16 днів тому +1

    Thank you!!!

  • @twdrskss
    @twdrskss 20 днів тому +1

    Thank you❤❤❤

  • @dinahguy272
    @dinahguy272 10 днів тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for the words 🎉🎉🎉

  • @aganethashroeder
    @aganethashroeder 11 днів тому +1

    Thanks alot it's so helpful

  • @dinahkariuki303
    @dinahkariuki303 9 днів тому

    November 2024.Grest lessons. May God bless you 🙏

  • @kuntalisingh3883
    @kuntalisingh3883 12 днів тому +1

    Thanks 👌

  • @LeeSpring-yt2gx
    @LeeSpring-yt2gx 7 днів тому

    Me to,and i feel better 🙏👍🥰💜

  • @debrasutton6998
    @debrasutton6998 10 днів тому

    thanks for sharing

  • @jessypaul8519
    @jessypaul8519 13 днів тому

    Lord will help me to walk away from my partner who is toxic for years.

  • @brukktyles-entertainmentan5955
    @brukktyles-entertainmentan5955 13 днів тому

    Thank. You

  • @ramkiramki2707
    @ramkiramki2707 6 днів тому

    Nice vedio with nice content

  • @EvansKasoloka
    @EvansKasoloka 18 днів тому +1

    Great advice

  • @binkleyrules
    @binkleyrules 11 днів тому

    Great message! Thanks for the validation

  • @lesliekupchanko5001
    @lesliekupchanko5001 18 днів тому +2

    This video is excellent
    I liked and subscribed.

  • @sofiasaviranta5640
    @sofiasaviranta5640 6 днів тому

    I respond "badly " but honestly.. regret nothing. It's hard for sure and don't recommend it if your core self isn't intact and you're happy with solitude

  • @beautifulangel89
    @beautifulangel89 22 дні тому +17

    My colleague blamed me for her mistake. She went on and on explaining to me what I should have done, I asked her to stop talking, I had enough then I said I don’t understand your English coz your accent is too strong then I walked away. 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @jemimamentoor
    @jemimamentoor 10 днів тому

    This video is interesting alerting ur suround sounds

  • @chantalvloo8207
    @chantalvloo8207 4 дні тому

    Walking away without any explanation or simply ending a "relationship" which wasn’t one in the first place, after abusing someones time, emotions, feelings, no empathy for losing loved ones, or what so ever.. who is toxic than? I call it cowardness. This is what is wrong with this society.. me, me and me.. fuck everyone else.. I just do what I want, not respecting other bounderies, making believe, running away in case of health problems and can go on .. That’s why I love animals so much and lost faith in "humanity"..
    My mum is in bad condition now..I am exhausted.. so now I should think of myself first and leave her fighting or dying alone? Without even feeling guilt whenever I can’t anymore?

  • @lissetteperez4935
    @lissetteperez4935 20 днів тому +1

    Amazing video ❤

  • @bradhunt9518
    @bradhunt9518 18 днів тому +1

    We all have different levels of ignorance. Dont ignore things. Its a slippery slope.

  • @deniseanderson367
    @deniseanderson367 18 днів тому +4

    You can’t fix them save yourself

  • @TheDYNAMITE001
    @TheDYNAMITE001 17 днів тому +1

    Remember, careful not to turn into a Narcissist.. in general, you can be just as toxic as the person you're thinking about (perhaps this one time, you were the victim).

  • @ginosalihbegovic7137
    @ginosalihbegovic7137 18 днів тому +1

    Like you treat life itself respectfully otherwise you will dragged down to someone else’s niveau

  • @vozao3248
    @vozao3248 17 днів тому +7

    First you have be sure that the toxic people is not you

  • @junedanaher3861
    @junedanaher3861 12 днів тому +1

    Know the feeling

  • @PhilosophicStoic
    @PhilosophicStoic 6 днів тому

    Your strength lies in controlling yourself, not in changing others. Toxic people may do everything to disrupt your emotions, but your reaction determines their influence. Stoic philosophy reminds us that refusing to react to provocation is the most powerful way to protect your inner peace.
    Setting boundaries is not selfish; it’s an act of self-protection. Establishing clear limits with harmful individuals not only preserves your energy but also teaches them to respect you. Remember, you owe no one an explanation for prioritizing your mental health and happiness.