5 Ways To Get Over Your Ex & Stop Thinking About Them

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  • @mattcama6504
    @mattcama6504  2 роки тому +38

    Watch my heal from heartbreak workshop here: www.mattcama.com/heal-from-heartbreak-workshop

  • @DirtyBetaPsi70
    @DirtyBetaPsi70 4 роки тому +2234

    My heart wasn't broken, my expectations were. Thanks. That makes it seem less painful.

    • @VenomSP
      @VenomSP 3 роки тому +18

      Great words

    • @oldirtydasher
      @oldirtydasher 3 роки тому +29

      Yes. Changing it to expectations is a great shift!

    • @monicam.domingo2247
      @monicam.domingo2247 3 роки тому +14

      Yeah. I really love this advice. This changed my perspective of breakups. It makes me feel better now. Thank you!

    • @jneishagaming855
      @jneishagaming855 3 роки тому +3

      Same

    • @triggerwarning5911
      @triggerwarning5911 3 роки тому +10

      I always kind of felt that. If were loving and missing someone so much that it causes pain then our heart can't be broken. It's working just fine. What Ive been missing tho is that I need to change my expectations so I can give my love to someone who wants and deserves it.

  • @aisha1827
    @aisha1827 2 роки тому +506

    When you feel , you heal. Don't push your pain away. Feel it. ❤️ For anyone who is going through this, you got this. ✨

    • @christabelhaneul4939
      @christabelhaneul4939 2 роки тому

      I can introduce you to the same Relationship Restorer who was able to reunite me and my ex back together And it works very fast, he can help your to get back with your specific person

    • @christabelhaneul4939
      @christabelhaneul4939 2 роки тому

      Wh@t's@pp him

    • @KUNAL785
      @KUNAL785 2 роки тому

      Hmm... feeling

    • @theoneandonlyhere
      @theoneandonlyhere 2 роки тому

      Wat do you mean with "feel it". I'm already feeling it. What should I feel more?

    • @theoneandonlyhere
      @theoneandonlyhere 2 роки тому

      @@christabelhaneul4939 No

  • @rudrasah23
    @rudrasah23 2 місяці тому +13

    1. You heart wasn't broken, your expectations were.
    2. There is an all-you-can-eat buffet out there. So don't clinge onto that one person.
    3. Think every situation as neutral.
    4. Meditate - just sit in silence.
    Let your emotions flow.
    5. Heal yourself before diving into another relationship.

  • @leonalaman9772
    @leonalaman9772 3 місяці тому +10

    It hurts when people come to your life, make you special and when you got attached to them they leave.

  • @alexdigirolamo5062
    @alexdigirolamo5062 4 роки тому +829

    Can’t stop watching this man. Thought I was over someone until I saw them on social media hanging out with another person. My mind couldn’t function but I realized just how much I was trying to forget everything instead of heal everything.

    • @xXDopamineInbalanceXx
      @xXDopamineInbalanceXx 3 роки тому +56

      Same here, I was doing well, I was living independantly, I was happy, and then I found her Insta via UA-cam, then that went to watching stories, then that went to looking at pictures on fb of the guy she cheated on me with. Me doing that was incredibly stupid, but thanks to this, I can focus on her terrible attributes, and clear my mind, instead of focusing on replacent, replacement.

    • @terrilee734
      @terrilee734 3 роки тому +26

      Same thing happened to me during this corona. Not a good way to find out they seeing someone

    • @xXDopamineInbalanceXx
      @xXDopamineInbalanceXx 3 роки тому +16

      @@terrilee734 Exactly, we're all in a weird isolated space right now stuck at home, just makes shit like this even rougher.

    • @thehaynetrain1
      @thehaynetrain1 3 роки тому +19

      This just happened to me its been 4 months I feel like I’ve just gone back to the beginning I’m so hurt i saw a story of her hugging up to another guy i am so broken I’ve been trying to forget but I can’t i think about her every day someone help

    • @idontlikecops1
      @idontlikecops1 3 роки тому +24

      @@xXDopamineInbalanceXx shes not worth it man. Chances are she misses you. Send her to hell forever. Once a cheater always a cheater. I was cheated on by a girl when I was 21 I was broken i truly loved her. 2 years later she re entered my life as friends and then the feelings came back. We dated for 3 more years and last Thursday I found out shes been cheating AGAIN. Be easy brotha

  • @caelhafrost1775
    @caelhafrost1775 3 роки тому +184

    “ Your heart isn’t broken, your expectations were!” Wow that’s good

  • @terrellgrisom596
    @terrellgrisom596 2 роки тому +64

    "Your heart wasn't broken... your expectation was!" PREACH BROTHER!!!!

  • @kamielmach
    @kamielmach 2 роки тому +162

    I think it is also important to pay attention to which part of yourself is needing your attention in any given moment. While prossessing this break up I have got to the point where the adult logical part of me knows all the reasons why my former partner isn't right for me. I have come to the understanding of why we don't work. The part that is still greiving is my inner child who misses the comfort and warm feelings this person gave and the connection that I felt.

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 2 роки тому

      Hello....I know of a powerful Spiritualist who can restore your broken Relationship Back to its perfections, I am a testimony on how he restored back my broken relationship of 2 years by bringing back my ex ❤

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 2 роки тому

      What's@pp him

    • @joshallen7169
      @joshallen7169 Рік тому +2

      This 💯%

    • @kendramccoy230
      @kendramccoy230 Рік тому +5

      This is exactly what I’m going through.

    • @victorynwokejiobi1762
      @victorynwokejiobi1762 7 місяців тому +4

      Exactly what I'm going through

  • @allietovar3663
    @allietovar3663 4 роки тому +539

    I cried through most of the video. I’m still sad but I learned a lot

    • @hydratedgoodfella4191
      @hydratedgoodfella4191 3 роки тому +8

      Same fam 😭😭😢😢😢

    • @gisellemichellecenteno7482
      @gisellemichellecenteno7482 3 роки тому +23

      it hurts to know they are gone. we broke up yesterday. but what hurts me is that he became everything he said he wouldn’t become.

    • @juanchanelo8728
      @juanchanelo8728 3 роки тому +2

      I feel you💔

    • @patrickredmond4130
      @patrickredmond4130 3 роки тому +8

      @@gisellemichellecenteno7482 same happened me 2 days ago I can’t stop crying she was everything I lost my grandad last year my granny 2 years ago and now her 😭I’m in so much pain and I can’t stop crying I’ll never get over this 😭💔💔

    • @gisellemichellecenteno7482
      @gisellemichellecenteno7482 3 роки тому +3

      @@patrickredmond4130 you will, ofc the pain of losing a family member is different, but about the girl, you’ll know your worth and you WILL believe me you WILL get over it, it’s been 4 months, he got someone else, but all i can see if that everything he did with me, he is doing with her. i know my worth, and hey i’m over it, and i’m happy. you’ll be happy too.

  • @cuban188
    @cuban188 4 роки тому +318

    I needed this man, was my girlfriend of 5 years and we broke up 7 months ago. I always thought that I can chase her by hitting her up and constantly trying to be in her life. She finally gave me closure over the weekend and said that I should move on and she hates to see me hurt. Not gonna lie it felt we Re-broke up because I had hope throughout this whole time. It hurts still but this video is elevating my spirits thanks man

    • @SolaRxViisions
      @SolaRxViisions 4 роки тому +30

      My girlfriend broke up with me June 2019 and I’m still having a hard time getting through it. She never gave me closure she told me to give her space and she ultimately blocked my number and every social media account I own. I feel your pain man. You are not alone

    • @davidsanders8075
      @davidsanders8075 4 роки тому +12

      I'm going thru this right now I don't know what too do she came today to get the last of her things she called me baby by accident and it hurt so much too hear her say I apologise I meant David.... Why does this hurt so much

    • @cuban188
      @cuban188 4 роки тому +11

      patty beans *UPDATE the whole
      Space thing was a cover up she was seeing my
      College professor on the low behind my back and didnt know how to tell me. Shes a crappy person because i told her while we were together to cut off that little friendship with him and now look smh good riddance. But apparently he broke it off with her karma (im 25 and this guy is almost 60 smfh)

    • @waynelewis8259
      @waynelewis8259 4 роки тому +3

      All the best with your healing process... I have empathy

    • @dyra5621
      @dyra5621 3 роки тому +6

      You make so much sense about breaking expectations and a all you can eat buffet. Remembering that everything is neutral and it’s not controllable. I am so much stronger now spiritually! Thank God🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

  • @rosestewart1606
    @rosestewart1606 7 місяців тому +4

    you're right. it's the future life that I'm missing the most. the past was not wonderful....we could have done better, but we didn't.

  • @thejeff2469
    @thejeff2469 9 місяців тому +10

    This is great advise. One thing that's helping me is writing down the bad parts of the relationship. And everyone has them. Our mind plays tricks and shows only the good. Keep the bad parts in your pocket and check them when your mind is telling you they were the best thing ever.

    • @sexymary
      @sexymary Місяць тому

      Thinking about the person's bad side kinda' lessen the sting, the pain of breakup lol ❤

  • @RobertHatton
    @RobertHatton 4 роки тому +197

    "Your heart wasn't broken, your expectations were.", "The one thing you can control, is the meaning you give a situation." ... Excellent advice! I already had these concepts in my subconscious, but you brought them out and put it into words. Thank you!

  • @black-lilith
    @black-lilith 5 років тому +211

    I liked the image of the all you can eat buffet of people out there ready to love you better than the ex that left you: our minds tents to forget that we were never made to be loved just by one person,especially if that person doesn't want to be in a relationship with us no more. 😊

    • @mattcama6504
      @mattcama6504  5 років тому +4

      Yes so true!!

    • @nella10123
      @nella10123 3 роки тому

      how are you now?

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      @salehamina679 2 роки тому

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  • @gamerkingboss3702
    @gamerkingboss3702 Рік тому +5

    I always thought that people who said that they would never date again were dumb and kinda cringey but I definitely understand now I don't feel like being lied to again I swear everyone lies and I'm so sick of it

  • @Shinycraze
    @Shinycraze 2 роки тому +30

    Focus on giving yourself the love you're looking for! That just sent a wave crashing through my mind. Awesome tips!

  • @Jordan-op2jh
    @Jordan-op2jh 4 роки тому +219

    One of the best break up videos i have seen,deserves way more recognition.

    • @user-yb5fq3cl4j
      @user-yb5fq3cl4j 4 роки тому +4

      I agree

    • @mina8XO
      @mina8XO 2 роки тому +1

      100% agree!!!

    • @dominikmarkov7052
      @dominikmarkov7052 2 роки тому

      Yeah man for real, my break up was very very hard....and now after watching this I'm all good👍

  • @ricdez1867
    @ricdez1867 4 роки тому +188

    When you said "delete tinder and give the love to yourself not expect other people to give that to YOU. That was on point . We search for ourselves through the eyes of other people and try live up to other people's expectations when in reality we should feed ourselves comfort and love so that we are strong on OUR own two feet and.
    Like will smith said, his life is about HIS journey, not his wife's. His wife has to walk her own journey to find herself and love herself. They can just journey together side by side

    • @catherinewylie6959
      @catherinewylie6959 3 роки тому +3

      Very true! Going to take a break and really love and accept myself.

    • @loveispatientloveiskind2205
      @loveispatientloveiskind2205 3 роки тому

      That's all very well, but the touch of your beloved, imprints on us. Fortunately though, suddenly we can go cold on them, when they reveal they are abusive... we need more help from hypnosis or something, to heal us, make us forget the idiots

    • @nick310038
      @nick310038 2 роки тому

      @@catherinewylie6959 b
      H
      Mukk

    • @kiddomatt7311
      @kiddomatt7311 2 роки тому +9

      This didn’t age well lol

    • @leahmay1506
      @leahmay1506 2 роки тому

      @@kiddomatt7311 the message still stands

  • @mamtasaluja2229
    @mamtasaluja2229 5 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for this amazing video.
    I loved that "there's an all you can eat buffet of amazing people who will love you unconditionally!"
    Very comforting video
    Thanks a lot 😊

  • @julianamendez7311
    @julianamendez7311 2 роки тому +16

    That part where you said cry and scream at the top of your lungs❤️ I can’t tell you how much that really touched me. It’s been 8 months and I still can’t let anybody in. Im still healing. Thank you!! Keep doing what you’re doing!

    • @nancyanderson6287
      @nancyanderson6287 2 роки тому

      My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back

    • @nancyanderson6287
      @nancyanderson6287 2 роки тому

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  • @lateshadf
    @lateshadf 3 роки тому +89

    It isn’t the “time” that heals... it’s the meaning that we give the breakup. You could have dropped the mic 🎤 right then and there! Loved your video. Thank you Matt!

    • @dragbadekun2210
      @dragbadekun2210 3 роки тому

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      @dragbadekun2210 3 роки тому

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  • @jessicap5010
    @jessicap5010 5 років тому +366

    This video came EXACTLY when I needed it, thank you so much matt

    • @mattcama6504
      @mattcama6504  5 років тому +11

      Divine timing! You’re welcome :)

    • @nella10123
      @nella10123 3 роки тому +3

      how are you a year later?

    • @saharagorme5526
      @saharagorme5526 2 роки тому

      @@mattcama6504 my ex broke my heart but I still cant get over him 💔😪

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      @dustintyson1511 2 роки тому

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      @dustintyson1511 2 роки тому

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  • @crystalthompson6610
    @crystalthompson6610 3 роки тому +63

    My heart wasn't broken, my expectations were. Best one I've heard. This is the first break up that I have really felt the pain with. But hearing heartbroken put as an expectation, sounds true. Puts things in perspective for sure. Thank you!

    • @ivykane610
      @ivykane610 3 роки тому

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      @ivykane610 3 роки тому

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    • @ivykane610
      @ivykane610 3 роки тому

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      @ivykane610 3 роки тому

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    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 роки тому

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  • @localboyn2deep146
    @localboyn2deep146 2 роки тому +8

    Thanks brother!!! I was in a 6 year relationship and it ended with that bee 🐝 💔 breaking my heart! It took me almost 3 years to let it go... but! You're rite, there's a whole lot of other women out there to love me better! Thanks bro. 👌

  • @nessawallace6726
    @nessawallace6726 3 роки тому +30

    My heart wasn't broken my expectations were . I feel this . so true ..

    • @hauserstjepan6766
      @hauserstjepan6766 3 роки тому

      𝑴𝒚 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒘 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒉𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐😢, 𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝑰 𝒎𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒎𝒚 𝒆𝒙 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕😊😊.

    • @hauserstjepan6766
      @hauserstjepan6766 3 роки тому

      𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 6𝘺𝘳𝘴,𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘶𝘱 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯,𝘪 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 .𝘪 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘦𝘳. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵,,𝘢𝘱𝘱 𝘩𝘪𝘮.

    • @hauserstjepan6766
      @hauserstjepan6766 3 роки тому

      ➕1,,929,,473,,1956.

  • @nantabamonicakiyita6890
    @nantabamonicakiyita6890 3 роки тому +42

    I've been depressed for long, this was a big step in healing

    • @yandelmorales2018
      @yandelmorales2018 3 роки тому +2

      heyy i have a question please answer are u ok now i just need someone to talk to please add me on snapchat i just need a bsf to talk to please help

    • @josiahkamara5912
      @josiahkamara5912 3 роки тому

      @@yandelmorales2018 what’s your Snapchat

    • @yandelmorales2018
      @yandelmorales2018 3 роки тому

      @@josiahkamara5912 wisinyandel_12

  • @redih6247
    @redih6247 День тому

    Meditation got to be my best point. I love the fact that healing comes feeling

  • @Batmanofjustice
    @Batmanofjustice 7 місяців тому +3

    Very well said! My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 4 or five months ago and I haven't been healing for a while and still haven't till I see this. Thank You!

  • @Lex12102007
    @Lex12102007 3 роки тому +99

    This video has really helped me. Thank you. I am really struggling to get over and stop thinking about my ex. I find rejection so hard. He treated me awful and was quite emotionally abusive, so why do i keep remembering the few happy times. I loved when you said "all you can eat buffet" hehe

    • @j.jeanie
      @j.jeanie 3 роки тому +16

      felt that ! and i keep wanting to text him but i just hurt myself every time i do :/

    • @dominikmarkov7052
      @dominikmarkov7052 2 роки тому +3

      Let your ex go it gets better after a few weeks sometimes months, but you will definitely get over them

    • @user-bg8oo6wj9n
      @user-bg8oo6wj9n 3 місяці тому

      @@j.jeaniei did the same thing 😢

  • @thewhitetwins299
    @thewhitetwins299 5 років тому +112

    This video is sooo eye opening

  • @NicoleJauregui
    @NicoleJauregui 2 роки тому +50

    I loved this! I broke up a week ago and although I’m not in so much pain (i’ve been through several breakups) there is always something new you can learn from each breakup 🙂 thank you for this message 🙏🏾

  • @ashleyjones3652
    @ashleyjones3652 Рік тому +16

    This entire video made a huge impact on me. Every step resonated with me. I am so glad I watched this. I will definitely be adhering to this. The most impactful thing you said is " the only thing you can control is the meaning you give a situation."
    Thank you!

  • @MyMARI3
    @MyMARI3 3 роки тому +4

    i have been playing the video over and over again to let that "buffet" mindset sink in. I believe I need to see that there is an abundance of people that can love me better then he ever did. Thank you for breaking that point down. It really helps me to shift my mentality.

  • @thehippiesmells
    @thehippiesmells 4 роки тому +16

    My heart isn't broken, my expectations were! so right!

  • @golfkidvedant721
    @golfkidvedant721 4 місяці тому +1

    THIS ONE IS THE BEST VIDEO ON THIS TOPIC ON WHOLE OF FUCKIN UA-cam EVEN IN 2024 THANKS MATT REALLY HELPED ME A LOT MY BOY

  • @rainbowstar4360
    @rainbowstar4360 5 місяців тому +2

    My Brother thank you. I have watched so much videos perhaps hundreds of healing from breakups on UA-cam and I finally have come across your video. I need to watch this 1000x times more to let it sink in. But I have to tell you that your video is the most transformative and makes total sense.

  • @chocholatecutie
    @chocholatecutie 4 роки тому +47

    When you said when we heal we feel. The tears starting falling. Thank you so much for this.

  • @SUBSNOVIDEOS-ht5gq
    @SUBSNOVIDEOS-ht5gq 4 роки тому +24

    Was with my ex for over a year and then we agreed to end it. I wanted her back and I haven’t contacted her for about a week. Found out today she’s been going out with other people already while I’m still crying. I’m trying to forget her rn but it’s hard cos it’s my first relationship

    • @S1TDOWNK1D
      @S1TDOWNK1D 4 роки тому +6

      same exact thing with me bro, i feel you

    • @markgrant3629
      @markgrant3629 3 роки тому +2

      Feel your pain.

    • @djcantskate3883
      @djcantskate3883 3 роки тому +1

      Me fuckin too 😪
      Anyone got advise? How are you doing 7 months later?

    • @fluidintelligence1
      @fluidintelligence1 2 роки тому +4

      Your ex is struggling too man. They’re just going at it a different way. They’re probably crying at home too. Don’t think about that too much just focus on you ❤️

    • @chingalingchingching
      @chingalingchingching 2 роки тому

      I definitely know how you feel bro. I just got out of a year and a half relationship 2 weeks ago. My partner had 2 relos before this so hes pretty experienced. This is my first but sadly he’s moved on but damn I’m still hurting. 😔

  • @Deathmetaldaddy79
    @Deathmetaldaddy79 Рік тому

    Thank you man. You and those like you make this time in anyone who has experienced heartbreak life a little easier.

  • @ouidamyers1600
    @ouidamyers1600 Рік тому +2

    My favourite quote from this video. Its not your heart that's broken. It's your expectations. Also to love yourself. 🤗

  • @veroniqueh1508
    @veroniqueh1508 3 роки тому +7

    "WHAT IF, this thing you're going thru is designed to help you love yourself unconditionally so you're not reliant on someone else, another person outside of you to give you that love..." ... made me cry, because that's the truest statement that touched me the most. I've thought about "making room for a better person" to come into my life, except that i attracted another husband who ended up being the same type as my first husband (narcissist), and i've always struggled with self esteem and self confidence, so your "what if" comment hit me straight on! Thank you.

  • @michaelrussomanno7950
    @michaelrussomanno7950 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this amazing video. It’s exactly everything I’m going through at the current time. I’ve been single about 5 weeks now. I will take the steps that you showed me and apply them in my life. I appreciate you. Mike

  • @lietome783
    @lietome783 2 роки тому

    Matthew My Man, It all makes sense to me, it all helps, just every bit of it. I truly believe that your video was sent from the divine for me to watch and listen to. Your message is sent in a way that finally connects with my way of learning and seeing things. Please never stop doing what you are doing my brother, you are an angel from the heavens here to help others who are, or were in pain like I have been for the last year or so, wake up feeling like a ton of bricks have been lifted off their backs. You are a master at your profession! Thank You, Matty ( you have a great name as well) 😎

  • @user-er8gv1nx6w
    @user-er8gv1nx6w 3 місяці тому

    Great video. It's more interesting than other break up videos. So interesting that I had to listen to it again a few hours later.

  • @Constant-
    @Constant- 4 роки тому +11

    Bro everything you said is spot on, that type of mindset is exactly what I need rn, thanks so much man I appreciate it a lot

  • @janeeeeee593
    @janeeeeee593 3 роки тому +5

    oh my goodness. this really helped me realize and come to terms with so many things, i want to thank you for making this. such an amazing video

  • @ipenee
    @ipenee 4 місяці тому +1

    man this was genuinely SO insightful and helpful, truly THANK YOU

  • @duke11746
    @duke11746 Рік тому

    Excellent advice. Out of all the videos I viewed yours was the best. TY

  • @brianbishop6462
    @brianbishop6462 3 роки тому +27

    Letting go of the expectation... that hit home right there and instantly pulled me out of this sadness while im at work. I never thought of it like that but thank you that helped

  • @thehobbyshop887
    @thehobbyshop887 4 роки тому +6

    Think you hit the nail right on the head with this one. While some of the tips you gave for the early stages of healing didn't apply to my specific situation the rest of it was spot on. Ive been trying to get over my first break up for 3 months now and have made minimal progress, but its getting better. Just wish I could have found this weeks ago, thank you

  • @zephyrzametz
    @zephyrzametz Рік тому +1

    bro i litterily just had my gf break up with me i had a gift for her when i was going to go to school monday and every thing, i broke the gift and siad thers an all you can eat buffet after watching this. Thanks man helped alot, keep making the content

  • @kleber28100
    @kleber28100 Рік тому

    Thank you my friend with your tips. Im currently going through these but those tips for the mind are currently helping me. My heart wasn't broken but my expectations were.

  • @notthefia9154
    @notthefia9154 3 роки тому +14

    I needed this man, thank you so much. “it wasn’t your heart it was your expectations”, and to put that love you’re longing to give that other person into yourself.

  • @jonvlachos9659
    @jonvlachos9659 4 роки тому +8

    Thank you Matt that was exactly what I needed to hear..now I can make these changes and be able to heal so I can move on with my life and not be stuck in this emotional rut that I feel I put myself in and couldn’t get out of.

  • @btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892
    @btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892 2 роки тому +1

    I wish we had bad memories, things could be easier. It was too good to be true.
    The only thing this break up tought me is: Never, EVER trust anybody no matter how genuine and vulnerable they act.

  • @jmastro304
    @jmastro304 3 роки тому +19

    The last thing u mentioned about the love that we want to give someone else, give that to ourselves is great. Thanks for this video

  • @MrSuave-bo4hv
    @MrSuave-bo4hv 4 роки тому +6

    Woah! This is amazing! All tips were so great! didn't see it that way until after watching this video. Thank you for the eye-opener

  • @angelarhodes4525
    @angelarhodes4525 Рік тому

    This is such a great video. Thank you for sharing. Meditate. Watch. Observe. Feel. Doin it!!

  • @IkaikaEmmsley-mk3ee
    @IkaikaEmmsley-mk3ee 2 місяці тому

    Changing the meaning of something will create the healing. Thank you bro.

  • @sixt3denied
    @sixt3denied 3 роки тому +4

    Wow great video! My heart has been crushed. Feel like I lost the girl I am supposed to be with. Your words hit home. There are other women out there that will love me deeper than she ever did. Thanks for the great video brother...

  • @elxion1
    @elxion1 4 роки тому +4

    I love this video, real down to earth healing and doesn't give a gimmicky spin to it. I love the advice of deleting dating apps and don't look for validation from social media but to give it to myself. Very good video bro.

  • @aureliocorona1470
    @aureliocorona1470 Рік тому +2

    The difference between heartbreak and expectations is what help me the most. Thank you

  • @bigboxluis2420
    @bigboxluis2420 8 місяців тому +3

    Advice I wish I heard sooner. Thank you so much for your wise words brother ❤

  • @kristenmedina9304
    @kristenmedina9304 4 роки тому +10

    Wow, watching this video has greatly brought a different perspective to my mind as opposed to how I've been thinking/feeling. I was with someone for almost 6 years and it's taken me a few years to "heal". I definitely went through that crying/emotional breakup stages the first year and since than I thought I've been "healing. I haven't been in a relationship since my last but I have gone on dates here and there. As of recently I have realized that I haven't truly allowed myself to move forward. My ex certainly moved on from me within months of our breakup which for so long I was so pissed/hurt. All in all, what really stood out to me in this video discussion was when he said "your heart is not broken but your expectations were". It was then that I've been telling myself all this time that I need my heart to heal but I'm tired of wanting to happen and I need to really fix the root of the problem which is my mind. It's crazy how years later I'm barely realizing this but better late than never right? I'm going to start practicing some self meditation and heal what's going on in my mind. Thank you I greatly appreciate your video and am more than happy to start subscribing.

  • @tanyajohnson1161
    @tanyajohnson1161 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you so much for these extremely helpful tips. It has been a month since my break up and I have found myself stuck in a rut still. I’m going to apply all of these and I know that it’s going to help because I have definitely been stuck on the expectations of what I had in the relationship.

  • @jimohrukayatuolayemi8054
    @jimohrukayatuolayemi8054 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much . I’m going through the worst heart break right now . I felt abused and unhappy most times . He was very controlling too but he was the sweetest person too . I love his so much till this moment but it’s time to let go and it’s hard . We have been together for almost 6 years . And this is really difficult. But this helped me a whole lot . The part where you said it was my expectations that was broken is so true because he planted so many good thoughts for our future in my head that I can’t seem to let go for now . But I’ll be fine . Thanks so much. And if you are reading this . Please know that some days are worse than others . ❤ and 💡

  • @user-yp1tm1sp6j
    @user-yp1tm1sp6j Рік тому

    Tremendous help, my brother in the center of the nail on the pinpoint head …

  • @andrearidgeway939
    @andrearidgeway939 2 роки тому +2

    This is the best video about break ups I have watched. It's difficult to deal with a relationship ending and have people act like you can get over it immediately.

  • @scottselectronics9496
    @scottselectronics9496 3 роки тому +17

    I just got broken up with. The thing about expectations makes complete sense. I thought I was gonna do certain things with my ex but I couldn’t control the fact that she didn’t want those. I just wanna day thank you for opening up my mind to this

  • @earlmercado3201
    @earlmercado3201 Рік тому +1

    Months later and I’m still feeling the pain of broken expectations. I’m so glad your message made it to me today because I really need to start healing. I’m so sick of the pain.

  • @clinthutchcroft2342
    @clinthutchcroft2342 Рік тому

    The heart v. expectation dynamic is such a valid point.

  • @keylimepie8426
    @keylimepie8426 4 роки тому +9

    Thank you so much for this content✨ I'm currently going through a breakup and I always call him back but not anymore I'm focusing on self improvement🌙

  • @greenfieldzbeats9331
    @greenfieldzbeats9331 4 роки тому +3

    Matt, I dont know you. You owe anybody this video and you made it still. I am genuinely so grateful for this video

  • @samuelchrapek9868
    @samuelchrapek9868 2 роки тому

    I cant even describe how thankful i am for this video and for you, all love man ✌🏽

  • @reagalbeagle1
    @reagalbeagle1 Рік тому

    I wish I had come across this 2 years ago. You are so spot on with everything. Thank you for your insight. I will share it with people that I know are recently out of a relationship.

  • @StudzMuffinzbro
    @StudzMuffinzbro 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you, I really appreciate the guidance! My problem is when i see all the memories i want to seek alcohol to numb the pain. Tonight I decided to not go out but instead to look at the memories, feel them and just accept them. Mt heart was never broken, just my expectations, that goes long ways. Thank you.

  • @CaptainMorgan482
    @CaptainMorgan482 2 роки тому +5

    This was posted two years ago but it still rings true today. All of it. Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.

    • @blueberryPR
      @blueberryPR 2 роки тому

      You’ll be ok just feel the emotions and don’t let your thoughts keep you in the past, don’t let your mind wonder back and forth about this person. What you had with that person was. Is not about forgetting that it happened. Is about knowing that you will continue living life without being a prisoner of your memories that can triggered your emotions into re living a painful experience. Stop the recycling of thoughts and the pain will subside

  • @stellamwangib3506
    @stellamwangib3506 2 роки тому

    The best advice I have ever heard.
    Very helpful 👍🏾🙏🏽❤️

  • @parashar.s
    @parashar.s 3 місяці тому

    This video gave me a different and better perspective. Thanks for the great help.

  • @godovereverything2460
    @godovereverything2460 3 роки тому +3

    This has made everything so clear to me thank you !

  • @tellysantos2392
    @tellysantos2392 4 роки тому +3

    this tips was great thank u so much,I'll be watching this everytime I'm feeling some sorta way

  • @GoodGuy1988
    @GoodGuy1988 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much , my heart isn’t broken, it’s my expectations. I never thought I’d be watching this kind of video in my life but here I am and I appreciate the hell out of it.

  • @fialdycamilo4023
    @fialdycamilo4023 Рік тому

    Beautiful and wise words. Thank you so much for helping others to heal.🙏

  • @83CardiacPack
    @83CardiacPack 4 роки тому +5

    Bro, this was magical. I needed this. 💙

  • @danielvanderlinde4051
    @danielvanderlinde4051 4 роки тому +4

    I met a girl we met 4 times, first 3 times were amazing I indeed made too many expectations and got needy, .. and well here I am watching this video. I Feel bad for needing this after only knowing her for a week and so much emotions comes in.

  • @j1bone
    @j1bone Рік тому

    I enjoyed not only listening to your words of wisdom but also the way you speak felt very soothing. Ive been really really struggling to come to terms with her leaving. I know its finished but my mind just won't let her completely go. I never saw it comming, was completely oblivious and felt blindsided. Just lost after spending years with someone who was my best friend. I'm still very much broken. Listening to what you had to say did make me feel immensely better. Its still a work in progress but I will get there eventually. I find hardest part is that I am constantly thinking about her all the time. Anyways ill keep working at it. Thanks brother.

  • @krayroots2807
    @krayroots2807 Рік тому

    The mindset hits me differently.. so true. And the mind deleting all the bad things that lead to the separation and focusing on all the good

  • @michaelsjourney777
    @michaelsjourney777 3 роки тому +44

    Thank you brother for this wholesome video, this was exactly the kind of advice I needed right now. Currently going through a hard time of dealing with the strong emotions that I'm still feeling for my ex. I will definitely try your approach of dealing with this. Thanks again 🙏🏼

  • @sleeplxss2123
    @sleeplxss2123 4 роки тому +10

    This actually helps so much bc it like helped me see things clearly

  • @MizMundoAdventures
    @MizMundoAdventures Рік тому

    This is by far the best advice I've ever come across! 🙌

  • @AlbertVPop
    @AlbertVPop 2 роки тому

    I really, really appreciate you sharing this vídeo.
    I'm in the middle of a breakdown,, I feel that there is no more reason for me to live , that there's nothing out there for me to look forward.
    Your " All you can eat buffet" example is giving me a slight hope.
    Thank you immensely

  • @filozica867
    @filozica867 4 роки тому +8

    This is one of the best videos ever.. I'm currently in a break up, my gf broke up 3 weeks ago.. I want to move on. I have seen so many videos, but nothing like this one. I'm going to Listen to this every day now for a while, because it feels like it will help me through the process

  • @leandaprice8271
    @leandaprice8271 3 роки тому +3

    This made complete simple sense. You're right it is my expectations that are broke and I'll be giving it a shot to just sit and replay my story whilst meditating later, this was a great bit of advice ... nice simple advice given all round. I'll be watching what else you have recorded 🤘💯

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      @helmutjorg9073 3 роки тому

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  • @Americanpatriot-zo2tk
    @Americanpatriot-zo2tk 2 місяці тому

    Dude, it’s very kind to trick your personal time to make this video thank you.

  • @monkeymind3917
    @monkeymind3917 Рік тому

    Thank you so much Matt- wow!!! 😭 I needed to hear that. I just subscribed to you- you align with my values as you just listed them one by one. I had fallen off track and was in an unhealthy relationship that I just got out of. I just deleted my dating apps after watching this. I’m gonna get back on track with meditation and following the words of Viktor Frankel which you stated about the meaning we choose to assign to life. Thank you for making this video. It feels like it was made just for me and I’m so happy that you’re sharing it with everyone ♥️

  • @johnpaternoiiiveloso6394
    @johnpaternoiiiveloso6394 5 років тому +85

    Im brokenhearted still. Been 9 months already😭

    • @soneil1397
      @soneil1397 4 роки тому +6

      John Paterno III Veloso I’m in the same boat but lastnight I made the conscious decision to move on..and honestly it’s a sad thing but..I feel like a massive weight is of my shoulders..I feel free mentally and I’m grateful...on my leg stages of getting over it fully and that’s is what is comforting now. I’ve met several women that treat me really well , absolutely beautiful women that treat me how I expect to be treated..just get out there..millions of people for you out there just pick one

    • @ajax542
      @ajax542 4 роки тому +4

      So how are you feeling today?

    • @Constant-
      @Constant- 4 роки тому +2

      You'll get over it man believe me there is so much more out there waiting for you

    • @bruhasaurus2916
      @bruhasaurus2916 3 роки тому

      Vladimir Makarov your watching this vid how you feeling ?

    • @nella10123
      @nella10123 3 роки тому +2

      how are you now a year later?

  • @jarayshaw9928
    @jarayshaw9928 4 роки тому +12

    This is one of the best videos I've seen this far to help me through this hard time. Just ended.not by my choice..a 4 1/2 relationship with a person I expected to marry. That part about not having a broken heart but broken expectations really spoke to me. I am a permanent subscriber. Thank you

  • @crc528
    @crc528 2 роки тому

    WOW!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!! MY HEART FEELS HOPE NOW....ALSO I CAME TO SEE THAT PEOPLE ARE NOT MEANT TO STAY IN MY LIFE FOREVER ..THEY ARE THERE FOR A TIME...A LESSON OR A BLESSING...JUST FOR A MOMENT IN MY JOURNEY...IVE LEARNED ALSO the importance of respecting and loving myself not again losing myself in another relationship....
    GROWTH AND CHANGE ARE PAINFUL AND UNCOMFORTABLE.... BUT THAT'S THE ONLY WAY WE RISE TO THE NEXT LEVEL...PEACE ...xo&light

  • @komodokisaragi9398
    @komodokisaragi9398 2 роки тому

    thanks man, I really needed this one on one with you homie, bro's for life.