Russell Brand On Getting Over His Ex-Girlfriends
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- Опубліковано 20 сер 2019
- Do you find hard to stop thinking about your ex?
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You really only have yourself. Take care of that person.
i love you
@@Ben-pd2bx it is true to an extent. who else but you is responsible for the company you keep? that's a rhetorical question
Ben, My post wasn’t meant to be taken as literally as “be alone for the rest of your life”, or that we shouldn’t have good relationships with other people. Good relationships can enrich life. I have good family and friends, but I don’t expect that anything will last forever or that anyone else can be responsible for my happiness. I have to be content with myself and not rely on external people for that, because they can go away at any time really. You really only do have yourself and your own experiences for the rest of your life. You can only guess what others are experiencing but with you, you know. So have a good relationship with yourself first, that’s a great basis for everything else.
@@Ben-pd2bx once any given person has entered adulthood, at that point more than any other, they are the ultimate curators of who is in their life, and your comment doesn't say otherwise (it'd be foolish to say otherwise). If you're in a job with colleagues you hate, then it's your responsibility to yourself to spend all your recreational time looking for another job
@@Ben-pd2bx Changing jobs is not a privilege, it's the present day condition. No such thing as a job for life any more; we're not in the 50's. You seem very defeatist or fatalistic
This dude got over Katy Perry. My job now seems easier
Katy Perry on that turquoise dress! Yummy I still think about her on that day lol
That couldn’t have been hard because, apparently, he walked out on that relationship.
No shit lol
She's not hot
Is math related to science.. Yea that helps
When we break up with someone we mainly miss the companionship and routine we had with that person. Your world gets shaken up and feels unfamiliar. You gotta treat the breakup like you just had a best friend die cause that’s essentially what happened. Find comfort in being alone, there’s a lot of power in it.
Such an amazing comment.
@@HawaiianCrow Correct , your both spot on ! RIP Ex's everywhere :)
It's still hard trying hard right now to move on with mine
@@thesanders5822 you can and u will
I knew someone for 14 years, we were technically together for 12ish. I've been through heartbreak before, but this is the worst I've felt. I definitely owned up to everything I did or didn't do, apologized profusely. I had to move away. I exercised religiously, I journaled. I prayed. I did everything I could to deal with the immense pain. Considering I already deal with depression/anxiety/deep thoughts/fears all of my life, mostly having to do with mortality and the concept of time--facing it head on is/was scary. I surprisingly got a job back in the same city we lived in. I didn't move back there for her, it was for cost of living, being able to live on my own with a regular job to start out with, no state taxes, etc. But I have to admit, being back here, in my empty apartment, its all rushing back to me--big time. I'm letting it release when I feel the need to. I just feel alone. My depression and anxiety is flowing back. I'm thinking about her. Missing her. It's only been 4 months. So I have to give myself time. I have to do my best to use positive affirmations. One moment at a time. One day at a time. I'm just a very emotional human being and it flows deeply and strongly, it gets legitimately scary. Thank you for allowing myself to get this out. All the best.
In my life there has been a cycle.
1. I meet a pretty girl because of my art.
2. Girl breaks my heart.
3. I create art about it and feel better.
4. I meet a new girl because of my art..
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The curse of the artist lol
@@jocithaljane7344 stfu vulture bot
People are more in love with their pasts than they are in their futures.
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Depends. Its not my case.
This
@@tubbycarpenter9847 That
Deep, life’s always better with a bit for hindsight that’s for sure
“Your ex is an illusion.”
Facts...just...facts.
Till you bump into them
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@@viorelstanstan6421 What is the point of bringing an ex back? They are only trouble. They are exes for a reason
@@viorelstanstan6421 Parasite
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*As a man that was left truly heartbroken I have a strange bit of advice, embrace the heartbreak and don't be too quick to try and get over it*
I was so shattered that I cried every single day when I came home to an empty house, I would have to go to the sick bay at work several times a day just to cry. I got drunk almost every night, I sung to myself, I crawled on the floor, I was a mess. BUT IT PASSED. Every week it got a little less and after a few months it was fading. As a romantic and emotional person there was something about it that was special and although I did not enjoy it, I did not hate the way it felt either. Embrace your emotions, good or bad, they are fleeting, so just allow yourself to FEEL these moments while they last.
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Wow, my ex is an illusion, and my unwillingness to let go is not about her, but the things she came to represent in my self. I see now I was viewing her as the source of my stability and self-worth.
I don’t want her back - what I really need is to find that stability and self-worth within myself.
Profound, thank you.
No way i am letting someone live in my mind rent free
She wants revenge- red flags lyric?
This comment will give you some self confidence. but that's not true. I know that because I was looking my high school honey's Facebook other social media platforms after 25 years now .she du the same I don't know
Bro... that hit
Best comment! :D
the more you resist the more that thought persists. so just let the chips fall where they may.
Bro you saved my life, I was sick af, can't eat, can't sleep, she left me devastated brother. This helped me let go a little, please God guide me through this pain :(
@@K-Sober thanks dude, appreciate the support
4 months later hope u r a little better..
You'll get over her. She lost a gem. Remember that.
How are you doing now?
Went through the same thing brother. She cheated on me with a "friend" of mine. Had this feeling like I wanted to throw up all the time. I started working out regularly, reconnected with old friends that you lose track of when you're in a relationship, went skydiving by myself, got my bike license, just started crossing off things on my bucket list. Gradually over time you'll think about her a lot less and be back to yourself. Hope you're doing well now my friend.
I got my heart ripped out by an emotional manipulator, it was the darkest thing I ever experienced, I got depressed and lost weight. I'm glad it happened though, now I'm perfectly happy in myself and I never place any undue faith in another person. I ended up marrying a wonderful woman and I'm happy. If you're going through a breakup, remember time is truly a healer.
I keep watching this when I want to reach out to my ex. It helps massively especially the last statement Russell says.
@Anne SCAM SCAM SCAM
"Your Ex is an Illusion" 👌🏽
I'm thinking he's single again 😄
so true, and they become more of an illusion the more often you think of them and go over things in your own mind. Eventually what you remember is a complete fabrication from what really was.
I'm going through a really painful divorce right now and it was immensely beneficial to realize that I wasn't mourning my soon-to-be ex-wife. Instead, I was mourning a fantasy of what she was, and the reality is that she was never that person and was constantly miserable and unhappy. In essence, I was mourning a fantasy.
I find myself benefiting from the divorcing of her as an idea, and that mindset can be so, so great. I hope others can benefit from this as well! The sooner we do, the sooner we can heal.
Not when he comes back.
@DARPA TELEKINETIC lay of the drugs, This stopped being cool when you were 16.
The moment I stopped checking her social media profiles is the moment I took the first step towards moving on with my life.
That’s what I’m having the hardest time with, I checked it yesterday, and seeing her look happy, posting pics for some reason made me upset. I need to stop
Just remember nobody posts their bad pics or their bad days....
Sometimes people post more after a break up just to spite the ex.
Your 12
@@maul8384 you're heartbroken. hang in there it gets better trust me.
@Daniel Thomson Good! You do not need to see all that bs, trust me. The next step is to get on semen retention. It will change how you view life, and this girl. Semen retention will also change her perception of you as you will become a better version of yourself. Gotta be honest as someone who has gone through a bad breakup...it’s gonna be tough, but you got this! It’s time to take back the power you have given to her!
When you can't stop thinking about your ex, you're essentially letting someone, your ex, own and define you. There is a Batman without the Joker, but there is no Joker without Batman.
You essentially become the villain in your own story.
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I left my ex a year ago and still obsess over here reminiscing on our good times and what could have been had I stayed with her. I didn’t regret it until about 8 months later and only really started missing her then despite her trying to come back to me for the next 2 months after the break up I remember I still turned her down. Reading this you’d think, maybe I forgot how toxic it was while with her now I can only remember the good times?
You shouldn't have dumped her then idiot, don't get people like you, communicate and work things out rather than walking away, you didn't care about the pain you caused her
Comfort... we miss comfort. Most wont admit it but it's almost always comfort that prevents us from letting go and moving on.
And its opposite, the discomfort of the unknown . . . I'm not sure it's ALWAYS comfort, but it probably is a lot of the time.
Very much so. It's more difficult if it was a relationship where you both shared good times through most of the relationship, so when that all ends and even it's been a long time since you've communicated with eachother, you still have that desire to make contact. Unfortunately it's more than likely to make yourself feel better, and even if you have a good response at the beginning, soon enough it will be the same issues that ended the relationship in the first place that will resurface
amen!
Amen brother
BlimBlam Kaboom, I think it's fear that prevents some people from letting go. Fear of being without that person. Fear of starting over, alone. Fear of the unknown. Fear of having to let someone new into our lives somewhere down the line. Fear of what will everyone else think. Fear that they might never meet anyone better. Fear they might never again meet ANYONE. etc, etc.
It's called 'emotional attachment' my friend. When your mum dies do you 'get over it'? No. You carry them with you, always. Doesn't mean you don't accept they're gone but you can't remove them from your story, your memories, your self. The problems come when you don't accept they're not in your life anymore and there's nothing you can do to bring them back. It is actually better to think of a break up as like a death. Grieve. Accept. Move on. Remember with fondness.
Good job, you really thought outside the box
Truth!
Perfect
totally agree x as ive lost.my mum.and my relationship this year so totally get you , the feelings are almost the same 💔
Well said...I agree!
I wasn’t able to let go of the idea of love. I was holding onto that. This whole time I was just never accepting the fact that they just don’t love you the same way you loved them.
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ooh that's so beautiful to think about
After my wife and I separated and I came to the realization and acceptance that she no longer loved me I had several days of severe emotional distress and even a few hours a delusional vertigo and then a few weeks of sever depression and now I'm kind of in a state of emotional numbness but I look at all this as a part of the grieving process of the death of a relationship. But I look forward to becoming a person who is excited about life again and its potential.
@@jasonwitt2387 thanks brother, the kindness of strangers always has positive effect on others.
Wish u luck mate
Hey Mark, I have just been through the same thing at the start of the year and when I was describing the way I felt to my family/friends I used the exact same terminology that you have as grieving the death of my relationship and looking back I can also pin point the stages I was at during different times (shock, denial, anger etc etc). Its fair to say that what happened nearly 'ended' me and has taken me a while to get to 'acceptance'. I will say that if you are going through it still the journey isnt always a straight line (as im sure you know). Right now I have just come out of another very short 'relationship' which ended badly and while it sucks I am at least finding myself thinking about this person rather than my (ex) wife. Everyone deals with this stuff differently you just gotta keep moving. Find something new to focus on and try to surround yourself with good people. Just remember you are not alone.
@@unwisemonkey2945 thanks I hope things work out good for you to.
Wow, I'm sorry mate, that sounds rough. Sounds like you've got your mind to the future, wishing you the best buddy!
I’ve never once talked to my ex again after I moved out and I’ve never once tried to look at his insta after we broke up. It only will make you feel worse! Don’t be toxic to yourself. Move on, and work on yourself! We spent 6 years together and learned a lot. Use it to better yourself for yourself and be prepared to have an even better relationship after! ❤️❤️
Samantha Petersen thats amazing!
Easier said than done!
You're cute af. Well said btw.
why are you watching this video then😆
@@siggysou8832: Maybe because we can always be bettering ourselves? It doesn't matter if we fall. . . It's how we get up that matters.
I still can't get over the time, commitment and honesty invested (together nearly 8 years). I was ready for forever. He didn't like my truth and never told his. It's the hardest thing coming back from that "forever" decision. He filled up so much of my heart and I trusted him.
But you're right even so
The video is not giving advice to homosexuals who have different needs
Lol. You're obviously a troll. 🤣Funny though!
I noticed that a lot of what I miss about old relationships has sort of melded with a general nostalgia for a different time in my life. If I were with that person again would I be happy? Probably not. It's just nostalgia
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Yeah, for me a lot of the good feelings and nostalgia I experience I attribute more to the time in general ie my youth; lamenting being younger with less problems. The ex just happened to be around to share those times. Could have been anyone 😂
Yeah well said. You don't just miss your girlfriend. You miss the time and how things where in that time with your girlfriend.
Over 7 billion people on the earth and people always find "the one" in their city. LOL.
Lmao
Baaahahahah exactly exactly EXACTLY. There is no such thing as the one except you. I think I see the one every 15 mins in LA and finally get it. Now, I appreciate the visual beauty but can let them go in a flash. And sure enough, another “the one” pops up on the next block. Understand this and you will be free.
@Sam Ochin you must live in Vancouver
No offense, but finding a 'good match' is not so easy. Let's say you're a Christian. Cut down the 3.5 billion to way less. Then if you're fit, cut that number way down if you want a fit significant other. Then let's say you like tall men, or women with long dark hair. Cut that down again. When people say there is 7 billion people its fools gold. That being said. If someone wants to be in your life they will be. Move on.
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All relationships, in hindsight, have taught you something about yourself. Love your insight.
@DARPA TELEKINETIC You ok?
Connor kelly 333 I highly doubt it
Love, learn, explore, repeat!
That's very true.
Yes! This is the important stuff! What did I learn here, How can I do better?
Russell your use of language to convey a complex idea so fluidly is amazing. It's plain to see that you've poured over this yourself and gleaned wisdom from other sources, which is admirable, and this distillation opened my eyes to several aspects of my own self/experience. Thank you for your insight and sharing this with us.
This is so amazing. I absolutely love Russell Brand at the moment (and always) and all of the videos because it’s really helping me during this time understanding how to deal with life. Such an incredible inspiration and life coach
Russell you are the big brother I never knew I needed.
I feel this so much! 💛
Umfufu Adegoba Good luck to you sir!
he works for Big Brother. Russell Goldstein.
@Thomas Daley Russell the Bland Brand
He's the big brother you never needed to know..
My wife. of 40 years passed away 15 years ago, I wish I had seen. this then. Belated thanks.
God bless you Mr Schoenenberger. May he allow you to cherish the memories and to move on with gratitude for the gift you were given, and to be open to any further gifts which the Giver would give you.
I am sorry for your loss. She must've been really special and meaningful in your life. You sir are blessed.
I am sorry for your loss. She must've been really special and meaningful in your life. You sir are blessed.
Romain Schoenenberger My condolences on the loss of your wife. It is both challenging and daunting. I myself am a widow of eleven years after being married for thirty eight wonderful years. I honour the memory of my wonderful husband and value the life I was fortunate to have had. Special memories are to hold close to are hearts. Gratitude for having had a very special person in our lives. I wish you the very best.Greetings from England!!!Take care and my very good wishes to you.
God bless u man. Keep kickin
"Your Ex is an illusion"
That's a scary thought. It's been almost a year and it still feels like yesterday when she left...
Bro this video hit home exactly when I needed it to-the universe sent me to this video and I can only say a simple thank you but please know how perfectly worded this was and how helpful it is. Thank you!
You wouldn't re-read the same book expecting a different ending, why go back to an ex?
Loneliness and desperation.
to reconcile and start a new chapter. your old relationship is dead. a break up is always in one or two ways: 1) to let go and move on and redefine yourself. or 2) reconcile and start anew.
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@@brandenlucerovlogs - Sometimes two people miss each other and get back together and it's better. That doesn't usually happen but a lot of doom and gloom people go with this "never talk to your ex" and I disagree. They were probably one of the best matches you ever met, hence you were with them the longest. Only if both people miss the other can it work again. However, when it ends AGAIN, then you know it's really over.
@@bigneiltoo Until you start learning about narcissism. Then holy shit, your entire view on relationships, the no contact rule, everything else these coaches tell you? it turns you into a psychiatrist. Makes those red flags shine up even more.
"holding on is suffocation, letting go is freedom"
-Deepak Chorpa
Thats easier said than done
@@idrather.goblind don't I know it. 🙏💕
@@idrather.goblind Exactly.. I can't do it.. Yet.. It's been 3 years :(
well im not giving up my 2nd a
Easy to let go of Chorpra.
Solid advice - I am going thru a pretty tough break up, one that I have tried to end countless times before and always remade the mistakes Russell was pointing out in the past. This time it is cleaner, less pain, less second guessing and there is no way for her to hurt me or mess my head up. I am accepting what it was, and what it was not, and I what I thought I needed in her.
Russell you are the best! You are so charismatic, smart, true, funny and spiritual. This is exactly how i felt about my ex. Thank you
My husband passed away from a tragic car wreck last year and he was my soulmate. He was only 35. Now I feel I'll never find another...so I'm accepting it and single. But I'm heartbroken 💔
Nurse Terra I’m so sorry for your loss, sending prayers and love
Sorry for your loss
I hope you're feeling strong again after some times has passed.
Sorry
I wish you the best. Really sorry for your loss.
"what are you allowing your ex to be symbolic of?" - (then work on being that for yourself.)
So much of this.
My hand
That quote can serve a person their whole life time
Crom I just finished a dragged out two month long breakup process with my girlfriend of 4 years, and it was a relationship that really took a toll on my self esteem and sense of self worth. When I read “It’s ok to love yourself and to treat yourself like you treat a best friend” I burst into tears as I’m so far from that, but know it’s exactly what I need to do. Your words made me hurt but they also helped hit home what I need to be focusing on.
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You are so kind in sharing these insights. Thank you so much. I hope you and your family, friends, and loved ones are well. 😊🙏🏻💜
This video has literally helped me so much. I had a break up over a month ago, and it was hard at first but now I’m starting to realize moving forward is necessary and that the past with her is an illusion, it was non sense and unnecessary. I was use to a pattern in that relationship. A pattern that was the same each day. Watching the movies and shows together at night, listening to the same music, etc...but now that pattern has been broken, if you are feeling the same way, you aren’t alone and you are normal. Engage in conversations with friends that will lift up your spirits or even find a place to volunteer and with those like minded individuals you will get a sense of confidence and I promise it will all work out. Do not try and get over your ex by immediately trying to go out with someone, you’ll only repeat the same actions and you aren’t quite healed. You must be emotionally independent first before attempting to date anyone.
I feel better! Especially watching a couple of brands videos. Well done sir.
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Once someone walks away from you, they are literally dead to you! Never look back, you will always be 2nd best and who wants that?
vambo13257 literally dead would mean they actually passed away
@@crystalbethseizetheday8669 I said literally dead to YOU, do you understand?
@Crom You will learn
vambo13257 Yes. That doesn’t change the meaning of the word literally. That person is not literally dead to them, as it would involve them actually being dead. Not sure why you’re mad at me, take it up with the dictionary I guess!
Crom Aren’t we so lucky to learn from this superior being 😂 so much for healthy discussion eh!
The problem is being in love with a future you'd imagined you were going to have with that person... Especially especially if that person was extremely attractive (to you)... If they checked every single box. You were happy to have found that person and felt very lucky to have found them. It feels like you'll never find another person like that again.. especially when you get older. Biggest trigger, the only trigger actually, for me to crave opiates again. It feels like withdrawal when a relationship ends unexpectedly.
yes. it wasn't actually what he offered me in the real world that i craved. it was what i thought, what i hoped, what i pictured he could offer me if he let himself be vulnerable to me. and who knows. maybe that's true. but maybe he wasn't vulnerable to me because i wasn't the right person for him to be vulnerable to. maybe if he was vulnerable to me then we would have had a whole new batch of issues crop up. i know the traits i saw in the "dream version" of the relationship.. those are what i want in a true partnership. those are what excited me. the real person just offered me pain. i'm not sure how to find those things "within myself" because they're ultimately a reflection of a true and exciting connection to another person- finding someone outside of myself who shares these interests. i can already share them with me. it's that additional connection i want. perhaps i need to find people who share those interests and befriend them, instead of hoping to find them within a partnership. maybe that's how to do it.
stay strong friend, those opiates don't hold anything you need. honestly, i've been smoking weed again the last few nights to handle some pain and it's already starting to make me a bit automatic like it always does.. i think it's time to put it away and handle the pain the right way. the weed is just going to keep numbing me and set me back in all the other areas i've been growing stronger in. and like a bad ex, i don't need that in my life.
i hope saying this doesn't trigger anyone who is in a recovery situation that might come across my comment.
@@MiauxCatterie oh my god you just explained my entire life
Ow you are so wright opiate's are a good treatment if your suicidal but just got a realize thay are human and are never as perfect as you thought thay were
exaaaaact same position here. how are you now?
You hit it on the nail and that's exactly how I feel.
I've been following you for 8 years and you've helped me to learn English, Life and so much more thanks for everything you have done for me love you Russell
Thank you for not having commercials. You're like the only one.
It took me 2 years to completely get over one of my exes. It was one of the most painful experiences, but I'm glad I went through it, because I learned a lot about myself and how I needed to change.
100 hundred percent it’s been a year for me and the tough thing is knowing you were wrong
@Jamie Morgan
You would think. She got pregnant with someone else in that time. Fuck.
It taken me nearly three years still think about her now and then . I don't know why. But watching this video understand more now it just because I unhappy with who I am. I am my mind I thinking if I was back with my ex my life would be perfect and my issues would been gone. That just a fansty. You need to be happy with who you are inside that when you can move on. Like he says no one wants to be with a person who dose not like themselves. People want to be around positive people
@@derekthompson9317 hi
That's pathetic.
@@Un1234l my ex moved in with a guy one month after married him a year later apparently to her she did not cheat lol
I always find myself in a sort of hypnotic state when I listen to Russell. Such a well spoken bloke
He's kind of like a human spliff😂
I almost fell asleep ☺️
I recon had he lived over 2000 years ago he would have been a druid.
Yes, me too! I consider it a form of meditation 😃
and dreamy
Russel Brand is the only person on this platform I can take seriously when he’s talking about breakups, man must’ve been through it real well
I really liked this, with the past reparation to developing I feel you're one of the best person to give advice
Unfortunately, if they hurt you, the pain keeps you attached, even if you don’t want them ever again....🤦🏾♀️
So you can't let them go, because they hurt you? That doesn't seem quite logical, i would find it easier.
Søren women are emotional beings. Men are logical.
@@StoleBearer nah it depends on the person.
I think a lot of people like the feeling of emotional pain. They're addicted to the feeling that they have had their whole life and they are not willing to change.
they identify w/ the pain, it becomes them and they dont know who they would be w/out it if it disappeared
You are exactly correct!! So many of us become addicted to that feeling of want, of loss. You nailed it.
So, wouldnt that be the feeling of self loathing?
Mike Tyson said something like that
People are content in their own misery
Therapy calls 🙄
Brilliantly said brother. It’s having that spiritual dimension, recognising the reality vs the fantasy of people, that really sets us free. 🙏🏽
I'm so grateful for you videos you have been so healing
The primary relationship we have to have with someone is ourselves...are we listening people??
Years ago before internet 1990s! you went your seperate ways and that was that! but now you can check on facebook etc its not good.
Not true, I used to get midnight phone calls and silent phone calls on the landline and basically calling it all the time lol! don't get me started on the answerphone!
@@mrswolf3084 Yes i had to change my no twice with my ex husband hounding me! what i meant was if you could not check on an ex see what they were doing, who they were seeing etc like facebook.
that's why i'm glad i never made a facebook profile...i have problems with rumination as it is thanks to my depression
@@pam164 out of sight, out of mind even on fakebook etc. No looking back, at least for me. Thanks.
I agree. There's too many ways to keep attached now. Even if you don't want to. 🤦♂️
Amazing insightful video’s Russell- keep effing going 💪🏼
I watched a lot of people talk on this subject...but this made the most sense. Thanks Russel. Thank you
“If you have difficulty letting go of somebody you previously had a relationship with, you’ve allowed them to become an emblem of something you should be taking responsibility for yourself. Either your sense of fun, your sense of romance, your sense of pragmatism and responsibility…” WOW. So seen by this one statement. 😩This video was incredibly eye-opening, thank you!
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This is possibly the hardest thing i've been working on and try to get over it... when it literally feels like the person you used to love has acrtually "died" with a part of you - never thought breakup could be such a mission to sort out in life and after 10 months it still a right struggle
I know exactly how you feel. I am finally free after 10 months. He is back in my life, but only because I have realized I can not be with him as his girlfriend if he stays the way he is. I had to let go of the illusion of us in order to be able to truly move on.
St Franck it’s called grief. In my opinion, it takes just as long to get over an ex you truly loved and is still living as a loved one who has died. Heartbreak is a sickness like any other. I wish you happiness. Be kind to yourself.
The hardest things we work on end up being the moments in our life when we can choose to learn more about ourselves and how we respond and why we respond in the way we do. Where did we learn to love someone else more than ourselves? I should know I always stayed way to long and then would collapse into grief when it was over. I've since realised that a certain amount of grief is of course healthy we have hopes and dreams, expectations but then I've learnt to value life, value each day and every day I get an opportunity to be a better version of me whether I'm with someone or not, best wishes you can do this because your life IS worth it🙏
... 15 years... sometimes you don't "get over it"... and I haven't been on social media at all for 3 years, so it's not that...they still haunt many of my dreams...
I'm 3.5 years feel like I'm Getting there annoyed at myself sometimes for taking so long to get over someone who was not respectful to me towards the end, but it's true now its a mirage and a comfort I've held on to to stop myself from meeting someone new and being hurt the same way. Needing to face my insecurities I see it brought up alot of where I had 'holes' in my old way of dealing with things, I guess he helped to point them out it's up to be to take care of them now. As the other person said.. But yeah it's mad how you grieve over someone that's still alive that shit is hard.
It's scary how over the course of a relationship you can almost sort of... lose yourself. But you don't realise until it's over. You can completely forget how to love yourself, enjoy life, and lose the meaning and purpose in other aspects of your life whilst you think your life is "complete" with the other person in it. Leaving you completely empty now they're not there. Be mindful not to lose touch with yourself and your own reality.
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Well said! 🙌
It's true , it comes down to love yourself first.. a breakup is hard and cold.. it makes u stronger in the end.
The lens of nostalgia is colored with beauty.
That’s fucking real
Beautiful.
rose coloured
Very true. Heartbreak is awful. It's crippling.
The emotion and thoughts are overwhelming.
your heart is your strength, your confidence, your spirit, your happiness. It's everything that makes you strong and complete.
When you start to fall in love, you give that person your heart,
When they leave, your heart leaves with them.
You become lost, confused, empty and broken.
The only way to truly heal from a break up is to become whole again.
You can take all those things back from your ex, your strength, your confidence, your spirit and your happiness.
Your heart doesn't belong to them, it never did.
It never will.
I need more of that kinda talk. You're my boy, Blue!
how do i take it back exactly?
I really appreciate your perspective
Superbly helpful and wise, thank you for your deep and succinct sharing
I think for me personally I relied on my ex for so much emotional gratification that I felt lost without her. Exactly what he said to cultivate within really helps validate what I was missing in myself even prior to this relationship. Being happy alone only allows you to bring in more happiness as long as your judgment is there and you dont get lost on the way. Great stuff Russell thanks.
I completely agree. I think it’s the same for a lot of people, they just aren’t aware of it mostly because they’re not bothered to introspect. Good luck!
You have to work on being the best you...You wont find true happiness in other people/women. Remember this... women dont care about our struggles.. they wait at the finish line and fuck the winners. once you realize that, you can work on being the best winner you can possibly be.
But getting lost on the way (or during) is what makes being madly in love so delicious, exhilarating.
All relationships are a learning experience. You have to examine yourself.
Agreed. I heard this line from a show that "people don't really belong to each other. We choose to be with a particular person every day."
Incredibly helpful right now. Thank you x
Every video, my heart grows stronger. Thank you. Keep it real man. Do not rush the introspective please and thank you 🙏😷🤗🤗🤗
So many times in my 3 year relationship I acknowledged that I was miserable and did not envision a happy future with my ex. The thing is I was obsessed with her and she turned my entire life around for the best. It’s hard letting go of someone like that so I stayed until eventually she pulled the trigger on it. Don’t ever let go of your independent life for someone else because now this is extremely hard. Even though I logically knew we weren’t meant for each other I still wanted to stay
shav12 same here
focus on that bread first. better relationships will eventually come
same here bro
S S it gets so much better fortunately
shav12 i hope so man.. funny thing is i know i wasnt gonna marry her & we werent gonna last but stayed anyways cause she was there and she did make me happy on some days.. and maybe a part of me wanted to see where it went until she left me twice, her reason? Because she felt she was more invested in the relationship than me ..its been 10 days now with NO contact..i dont get why i miss her terribly though..
My ex-partner has become a symbol of narcissistic, financial and physical abuse.
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@@Nessa___ I have. Don't worship me or my book for I know not what I do. Am I the Lord thy God or has another God come before me?
That’s really well put and said! Thank you!
This is such gold. Thank you brother
Stumbled upon this and because of this video, i went and deleted my ex's number and messages and stopped following his insta. Id been holding onto the thought of us being together in the future for years. 🤦♀️😳 I have decided to stop living in the past. Finally.
Kate U same! I just deleted my ex’s number 😊
@@elainesmith7416 we are now living in the present! Feels so much better! I have felt such a weight lifted! 🥰
Good luck
If someone has an Instagram, ESPECIALLY a bloke, what more evidence do you need that you should avoid them like the plague to start with?
I'm actually really good friends with one of my exes, she cheated on me and broke my heart. Why we became friends is, she truly wanted forgiveness, I forgave her. I learned something very valuable in doing this. One is I lost all attraction for her, and two you can't make people want to be with you, they either do or they don't. Our relationship has been platonic for about 10 years now.
"To live in a world where nothing is forgiven or irredeemable, is to truly live in hell." ~ Milan Kundera
Sounds like you're her backburner or she is yours. One thing a cheater desires more than the instant gratification of attention is security, you give her that security. Ask yourself if you have a fruitful relationship with someone else or yourself without her. If she is interfering with this then there is something there deep seated and you need to let go, it is just my opinion after I became friends with my ex who cheated and it I happen to be her back up plan, moved on and now I see everything clear
BETA ASF
How the hell can you be friends with a person who didn't respect you?
computerbiscuit That’s rare. Usually one partner still wants the other. I wouldn’t-want a friend that would be a cheater as well. Glad it works for you.
I am good friends with almost all my exes, because we didn't let it go sour before we broke up. But it isn't the same just being great friends than dwelling in the past and what could have been.
you are helping me on a profound level. I could cry at the fact
I adore you Russell Brand. Love you sharing your experiences, wisdom and in sight .. so helpful for me and my journey as of late .❤️
Holy crap Russell. Deep truth that hit home hard, but boy did I need to hear this.
Christopher Peterson Agree! If I spent half as much time cultivating myself as I spend hating my ex, I may actually have a life I’m proud of and comfortable living. This is exactly the message I need to hear.
@@TheRadiostar72 It definitely is hard when we open up emotionally to other people and end up getting hurt. I haven't necessarily hated my exes, I've just become a hermit, but I'm equally struggling with what I need to be spiritually healthy
Me and my ex of 3+ years broke up and we both missed the times of reconciliation after the breakup. She came to pick up her stuff from my apartment and we discussed why it has to be like this. Why we have to close this chapter in our lives to move on to the next one with a possibility of us creating a new chapter in the future but for right now a clean breakup has to be done. She was crying so much and I told her that both of our pain will end and we will be happy and better individuals for ourselves in the future.
Some days are easier than others. Yesterday I had no feeling to want to talk to her or stalk her on social media but today I felt the feeling to do so. Whenever I feel the need to do this I come back and watch this video. It helps me focus my thoughts on me and my own spirituality and individuality. I wish I could talk to her everyday but I know it's best if we focus on our true selves and grow into something better.
You guys can break no contact when all the emotions have settled and you guys have truly moved on.
No I would never break no contact my friend. Especially if she was the one to end the relationship. It’s on her to reach out, but don’t hope for it and if she does I would expect it to end again unless there has been a lot of time between you two (like a year+ at least) and a lot of work on yourselves. You’ll be alright man. I went thru a 7 year relationship ending a couple years ago. Tried it again after two months and ended again with even more pain. It’s been quite a journey, and I’ve only in the last few months realized it was one of the most profound positives to ever happen to me, it forced me to learn a lot about myself and grow up as a mid 30s man, like living alone, growing self confident / not co dependent, developing new hobbies, getting rid of bad habits / lifestyles, etc. I had another relationship since and it lasted about 14 months, just ended a few weeks ago. It’s been rough and it sucks, but not near as bad as that other one as I know everything will be ok with time and that I will emerge and even better version of myself if I work on myself, learn from mistakes, etc. also this recent relationship wasn’t toxic and was so much healthier than the last, so it feels a little better coming out of it. Focus on you, develop passions, and when ready go out and date to re gain confidence. Hopefully 4 months in your a little better. It’ll take time, especially a long one like yours. Accept that and just tell yourself I WILL GET THRU THIS! ❤️
How u doing now brother?
Thank you
@@johnnyflow9731 sorry I missed this - a couple months after the breakup I completely got over it, I didn't feel the need to contact her at all. After those couple months I found out she was dating my ex best friend at the time, which happened pretty much immediately after our breakup so that made it a lot easier to completely move on. Lost some life long friends during that time due to them knowing about it but hiding it from me but it's honestly for the best. My circle of friends has gotten smaller but they're friends that actually care about me and would never do something like that to hurt me.
I think in retrospective anyone would be surprised as to how much someone will hurt you even though you thought they never would. Since then I've been so much happier removing my ex completely out of my life and some of those toxic friends. I've seen her a few times since we broke up but she's said nothing to me. Her boyfriend actually tried to fight me when he got really drunk one night at a bar I go to because I literally told him "I don't really have anything to say to you" after he wanted to talk. He got in my face and tried to punch me outside the bar but I literally just left and luckily I had friends there that pushed him and some of my old friends away. I know the guy personally and he's a huge overly-masculine type of guy that resorts to physical confrontation whenever someone threatens his ego or makes him feel insecure. I really just wanted them to leave me alone and stop trying to bring it up and after that night they all have completely.
I dated a girl for a month or so shortly after the whole debacle but it didn't work out. The past two months I've been dating this girl and last month we recently became official and I couldn't be happier. Life has been great, I love the girl I'm with and the friends I have in my life have been amazing. I haven't felt the urge to check on her/any of those old friends at all and I don't really plan to. Life moves on and so did I and it was all for the best.
I really did not expect you to be on youtube coaching people, but im glad i found you
Cheers Russell, very helpful and insightful👍🏻
Of all the break-up videos I've watched, I didn't expect the most touching one to be from Russel Brand. This legit made me cry
What a caring, considerate message. And spot-on.
For me, after the relationship ended with the person I felt was 'the One', it was much like as if he had died. The sense of inexorable loss and subsequent mourning process was the same. Out of that, I came to see how potently he changed my life for the better. Even letting go, those tremendous things he contributed carried with me as I moved forward, a better person. But, my gosh, getting to this place was a long process, which principally involved delving into that "primary relationship with oneself". Thank you, Russell, for sharing such deep and responsible musings.
Lyndsey MacPherson readin your comment was like reading about myself...every word.
Thank you bro, I needed this 🏴
This is brilliant advise. I’m still sad but now I’m sad and driven by logic. Thank you so much Russell!
I like how Russell tells us his problems when he gives us advise. Makes it feel more personable. Not like a Guru trying to tell you what to do. More like a friend/uncle talking you through it. Good job Russell!
Never thought I’d find myself watching Russel brand videos to help with a break up!! Mad times!!
Lol agree
A lot of a broken heart is a broken ego.
This is bang on! So appreciate this reminder and perspective❤️. Acceptance is a glorious stage. You articulate our resistence elequently.
'Discover what it is that you have allowed your partner to become a symbol of'... blummin eck, thats one of the smartest and most astute things on relationships I've ever heard. Going to chew on that for a while.
Yeah, I keep letting that one soak in.
Gonna sleep on that one.💜😊
can you please explain to me what does it mean?
Mem AR
It means that you need to find what they gave you that made you feel so complete and worthwhile, and start giving it to yourself.
I.e a handjob
S. Liew
Totally agree with you ...one of the most profound statements I’ve ever heard on relationships . We are told we are already complete and yet spend our entire time trying to find the One that makes us feel that . Guess we get in touch with the Love we somehow deny ourselves and think it only possible via a significant other ...as Russell himself sort of acknowledges x
Damn... this was so helpful. Thank you
Love this channel
U nail it Russell...I love how real u keep it..rock on..x
"You don't know what you have until it's gone" have never been clearer after a break-up. If you had true feelings for the other person. It really really hurts. But it will get better, whoever reads this.
Girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me in may. Have kid together, 1.9 years old.
ExGirlfriend started fkn another dude straight away.
Hurts. Never been more hurt. But it will get better.
Thanks
Russell
You better get out there and start fukin too, have fun and remember there'll always be more fish than fishermen!
@@lobsterstrange I often hear quotes from Bukowski, Orwell, or Buddha that resonate with me powerfully. Today I read one from Doctor Piss Mule! "Get out there and start fucking too! Remember there will always be more fish than fisherman". I love it!! Whoever you are doc, I'd like to generally thank you so much for putting a big silly grin on my face, during a tough, challenging time in my life. It's a quote I won't ever forget
Im sorry. I am so sorry for one man to another. It will be hard but you will find love bro
"Girlfriend of 5 years broke up"
You lived with her for over 5 yrs, have one child and you still call her your "girlfriend"! That's modern society; everything is temporary and then you complain when it becomes temporary!
Couber I feel your pain. I'm going through something similar. Stay strong your not alone and thanks for writing what you did.
He's got a new kindness in his eyes.
So do you Callie..sooo dooo you! 😍👌👍
I used to not like him, hes a different guy.
It is called an awakening.
@@miket.6293 me too.. Happy for him and his new life..family..
Makes alot of sense Mike...
Three years later and I’m just now seeing this. I’m still so in love with her and she deserves none of my thoughts or time. Hurts to hear, but thank you
I needed this today 🙏💗💗thank you
Youre timing never failed me. Highly valued messages from a genuine prophet.
He's just a man, lucky enough to be intelligent and well spoken.
There are many people in your life just as capable of being this way, they've just missed the opportunities that Brand has had, such as heroin and drug and alcohol addiction and absolute squalid living conditions.
Some folks like myself say, that, "Religion is for people who believe in hell and
Spirituality is for people who have been there".
When you've experienced reality and there are many who never have, one can become aware of what is available to us, then once that person has been fortunate enough to be made aware of what is there in the firmament, they have to make the decision of whether or not they jump in and take the Universe for a spin, then if fortunate enough to have made a decision to take it for a spin, will you be fortunate enough to let go of the controls and receive the ultimate reward, life will actually begin to live you.
Dr Why just like sadhguru said everyone is capable of this knowledge if make your body to receive it knowledge is everywhere
There are many people like that or better. Nobody pays attention to them.
Liberal use of the word prophet there...
Andy Roo Though such critical energy is always more valued in the internalized form rather than the expressed. Talking vs criticizing vs doing..hmmm this may just be a reflection of your own insecurity that you feel you need to defend against me bc I or Russ said something that threatened you.
Being present in the moment and embodying that in your everyday life is key to overcoming any situation in the past, including exes. An ex by definition belongs to the past. Also practicing non- attachment and equanimity, standing in your truth and unblocking your self-worth as a free, sovereign divine being. Much love to all 🙏🏻
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Exes teach you valuable lessons on how unpredictable and despicable people can be. Never forget those lessons.
You talk some hardcore A grade bullshit
Banger this got me pumped up
I’m so glad I clicked this video I really needed this