The Difference Between Chasing and Pursuing Women | Build Attraction
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At a basic level, the natural seduction process is easy to follow. All you have to do is meet a woman you like, create attraction, then consummate the relationship. It should be noted, however, that just because you get a woman’s number doesn’t mean the seduction will move forward without resistance; instead, getting a woman’s number simply allows you to test the waters and see if she’s open to being seduced. The moment you establish contact with a woman is the moment you get a sense of where she’s at and whether or not she finds you attractive. This is the point where you begin to feel a woman out and get a sense of her baseline rate of attraction. Keep in mind, not all women are going to feel the same way about you right from the start. As the saying goes: 30 percent will love you, 30 percent will like you, and 30 percent will be indifferent towards you.
The second stage of the seduction process, which is all about creating attraction and elevating a woman’s desire for you is the most crucial stage of the seduction process. This is the stage where most relationship problems arise and the point where most women pull away and go cold for no apparent reason. It’s at this stage that attraction either thrives or dies. At this stage of the seduction process, you’re attempting to seduce a woman, and she’s deciding whether or not she’s going to allow you to seduce her or not.
At the beginning of the relationship, the man usually pursues the woman. This is the natural way of things, and you must ensure you strike a delicate balance between pursuing too much and showing just the right amount of desire. You must be proactive and bold without appearing desperate. By this stage, if everything goes well the woman will start to warm up to you. Once you sense a change in her behavior and notice that the woman is becoming more responsive, you must back off and allow her to chase to you.
One of the biggest mistakes men make is to come across as overly desperate in the early stages of the relationship, bombarding women with messages and phone calls as they try to chase the woman into commitment. Men who do this are fearful that if they wait too long, another man will swoop in and steal the woman away. These men often roll out the same tired, old phrases: “I’ve never felt this way about a girl before” and “I think I might be falling in love with you” followed by the inevitable “When are you free? Anytime is good for me.” And while these emotional expressions might appear romantic on the surface, all they really do is communicate weakness and desperation. Building attraction is like building a house. If you want to build a house that’s strong and stable, you must first lay the right foundations.
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Men, if you want women to chase you -
1. Friend zone her.
2. Tease her without offending her.
3. Don't chase her. Don't give her any priority or importance.
4. Make eye contact and show confidence.
5. Keep yourself busy in chasing your dreams.
6. Be funny and intelligent.
7. Have good sense of humor.
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Perfect 😂🤣
That's the trait of a masculine man
Don’t friend zone her... instead do not let her know what’s the relationship between you both is... if she asks just change the topic or say let’s see or I do not know where is this going.
@@Shashankmk after a couple of months you will eventually have to answer to that... But at the start it's good
@@Shashankmk exactly my friend, girls like mystery it's what drives them wild and has them thinking about you.
Female Attention DOES NOT mean Female INTEREST. Thank you, Chris.
There are many attention w h o r e s. They also fake romantic interest in order to get your attention and validation. If you ask such a girl out she will likely reject you.
Volksinformant
That’s the ones you learn to avoid
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True but still I have never seen a man being awestruck about another man having a girlfriend. Everyone has sexual urges. Because women can sleep with dildos, it means they can also sleep with low value men. In Africa I have been to slums and seeing lots and lots of Omega males becoming fathers ALL THE TIME.
Real Men are pure luxury.
😂 with out interest no one give attention …
The process of a relationship
1. You meet the women you like ( you should be proactive here but not desperate)
2. The attraction fase ( when she begin to be more into you, let her chase you, be distant here)
3. The realtionship
Exactly
60% of the time it works.. every time 😏
The last process=the end 😂😂
Secure the bag first - focus on yourself more, and give just the right amount of attention
Secure my pocket first , use it to right places , not womens
JinBo Himself yep, stop wasting your money and your time guys, empty and forget!
@@robbieanderson227 yep , bro , use it wisely
JinBo Himself unless she’s loaded, no point! Most woman use men, but most men don’t know this unfortunately
@@robbieanderson227 I knew it completely now , so I know which women I should keep in my social circle and who I should not
I’m a simple man, I see a new develop attraction video and simply click like.
Treat her like a fan she will treat you like a celebrity😉
Very true in many cases.
Yes 😉😎
💀🤣💀🤣💀 never heard it flipped like that before..!
True
You do need enough status for that though. She needs to think you're better than her and have things going on. Also you need other girls orbiting
Hello Chris,
I just finished to read your book. I admit it got kind of painful to read at some parts due the relation with my own experiences; I realized that I made a lot of mistakes by always trying to be the "nice guy". The lecture was light with straight and useful information, I can happily say that I will apply your advices in my future relationships.
Keep it up with the good work.
One of the best channels on UA-cam
Meanwhile women have to do absolutely nothing
They do if you have boundaries and standards
You need to be the man and be willing to walk away, even from
The attractive ones... the more you do this the better you become and then you’ll end up with a high quality good looking woman.. then you’ll look back at all the flaky “think they’re something” losers.
@@robbieanderson227 lol shut up. You'll end up destroyed in the end. Don't get into relationships.
@@francisjsantana ya walk away to the next man.
Chi Fox I take it you’re a woman?
this man always speaking facts
Buy the book. Read the book. Study the book. Great information and well written!
This channel is like a summarization of José, Alpha, and Alex combined
As always Chris you are super awesome! You never disappoint! Love your content! Thank you from Central Asia, Kyrgyzstan! What do you think about translating your content into Russian?
Just follow your purpose and you will be able to attract women. Women value men who are on their purpose. Get a job,go back to school, advance your career, make new friends have hobbies invest in yourself. Women are good observers and the moment they see that you are making strides in your life they want to be associated with you. Chase success gentlemen not women
The truth is there's no such FORMULA to get women into u. IT IS VARIABLE ACCORDING TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER, TIME SINCE U KNOW EACH OTHER, SOME SPARK THAT ARE NATURAL, and most importantly HER AND YOUR CHARACTER as a person..
STILL ONE THING THAT IS CONSTANT,.... CHASE YOUR GOALS at the same time BE THE PERSON YOU'D LOVE TO BE WITH IF YOU WERE A GIRL.....
वाह bhai। सही बोल गए.
Well done for summarising what you heard on this channel and trying to pass it off as your own thoughts😆
"Character as a person" that is SOOOOO SPOT ON
What about the F-formula that is going around in ads 😂😂
@@chevalier_noir It's all atomic attraction...never said it's my thoughts... Yeah a bit of experience you can say
this is pure gold here.
waited for your video desperately
Never tell her you love her or you want to be her boyfriend. Wait till she first say it.
I just cant wait every day to see your videos. Keep it up
The way I see it
Pursuit is a two-way street
Chasing is one-way
this channel is the best
This is my experience with someone I like who is unsure about me. Remember they say men fall in love first so we have work to do to win her over. In the beginning you have to flirt with her and be bold but be sincere and mean what you are doing and saying. Once you win her heart it's unlikely she'll look for another man. Then you create some distance so she misses you. Don't come up with reasons to run into her. Allow it to happen naturally so you don't look desperate. Hopefully at some point she will be willing to date you or you'll have a breakthrough where she'll start chasing you and will want to be with you.
I'm having problems with my foundations, they seem to be a bit squishy! It' must be the cheap cement I'm using.
Love your videos Sir
I’ve always lost time and money chasing after women. I’ve never lost women chasing after personal excellence.
Best youtuber in that field!
Keep on enlightening us bro
Great job 👍
I wish I could subscribe again but I am sad that I can only do it once.
Be purpose driven on ur goals , don’t force ur self in chasing women
Sir, Does these techniques suits Indian girls
Realising I am weak and fearful... How do u have this in my by nature? Its not something I learnt from someone...
What about testing her?
*Chris Canwell for President!*
So what’s difference pursuing and chasing ?
Major difference. When you pursue you make the first move and ask her out first. Only set up a date no more than once per week. Only use the phone for setting dates. Any more than this and you'll end up chasing her. As woman open up and feel safe with you, they'll naturally chase you.
Ohwhale which one smarty pants ...🤷🏾♂️🧐
Unknown C
Honestly, try watching them all lol seriously but his older ones are better and go into detail. Basically, if you’ve already shown interest and made the attempt to hang out with a girl and she bull shits and is showing low interest, then don’t bother even texting them again. Don’t act butt hurt or passive aggressive, just stop reaching out. If they reach out, cool. If not, that’s fine too. You should be talking to more than one girl anyway if you’re single.
Ohwhale 🙏🏾thanx bro🙏🏾
You are the best sir thank you
Whats wrong with "When are you free?" ?
I follow all videos and I have question:)
I go into no contact for 2 weeks and then i back to my gf she was missing me a lot . But after two days she become cold . I can not go into no contact again because I just did it . And her mother is sick too. I message her one time in a day . Is it good like this ? Or should I cut her totally ? Or just check on her mum
Cut her off and go back to no contact.
Pursuing chasing is the same that’s why I only do that with money not women
Chris, 1 message per day is accepted, right?
I met with a woman yesterday for the second time it went well. Would you send a text the next day saying you have a good time? Or reach out a few days later? How do you strike the balance..
More the latter than the former.
Set a date once per week. After a few weeks if she is digging you she contact you to see you more than once a week. Then she chases you.
Great.
Gems 💎
I got rejected and it stings!!!
It do stings, but the pain of rejection will make you 10x as a new born man, as long you know how to benefit your experience ;).
Rejection is a part of life. Don't worry. It will make you 10x more valuable man and woman will chase you if you have learnt from the mistakes which caused rejection.
It sucks man I know! But no pain stays forever. Use that energy to be a better version of yourself. Peace!
@@badassmohit1618 thx a ton
@@ayushroy2858 yep , lets grow up bros
Ur great bro
why does it have to be like disarming a bomo
If a woman and a man get into a relationship then can the man express his feelings and be a little bit vulnerable to her? Afterall, if anyone is completely emotionally neutral all time then the other person may feel like the former is emotionally unavailable and may even attempt to walk away.
A true man never shares his feelings with a woman! If you're emotional her interest level will drop in an instant! Be a true man, not a pussy!
@@Volksinformant is mostly correct. Loving her and showing it is fine once you're in a relationship. However, never become a doormat or vent to her. Your woman doesn't want to be your mommy. You have to be the rock.
Volksinformant facts and also women will friend zone you if you tell a women about your feelings
Andre Baxter yep and never fall in love
@@bennir3297 exactly
It's going to be 3 months I have backed off. And she still not coming to me 😭
mar one I'm still in pain because I creeped at her social media and got obsessed more. And now her face is in my mind every day it's torture! I tried to move on by talking to other girls but they won't reply or at least see my message and it made miss my real crush even more! I think I love her 💔
She's not "The One," if she doesn't want to be with you. Invest in yourself, stay positive and then the rest will work out
@@final58fant58 be man enough
Bro, us men are meant to walk a single path.
more videos plsssssss
What i can see from your vid is we men should try to "back off" from women so we can make them like us i did that
thnx i have never been in love or relationship
Maybe it s better to stay single
ah yes my friend. peace of mind is what we must seek.
Yeah but then you need to choose your girls wisely, study and observe them and then decide whether that's the woman you want to live your life with
Tnks bro
@0:48.. and the other 10% ?
Those hate you
No wonder I am 44 and still single. Some men have a gift at seducing women while most guys will be romantically disenfranchised. I need to read Atomic Attraction more and more.
You dont need to read anything im same age just get saved by Jesus and then be yourself and be good to others we cant control every little factor in life
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It’s a radio show explaining female psychology
It’s available on UA-cam
Just give it a try I bet you won’t regret it
Link please
Great
Those words mean the same thing LOOOL.
Just don’t
Should be the other way around
This video was more useful than 2 years of online coatching jack shit
I need help. I met this awesome girl about a month ago, we had a date and hit it off super well, to the point of making out a bit. Few weeks after that, I psyched myself out because the texting between me and her started dying so I basically stated to her, “hey if you’re not about it anymore I get it, but I did have a really good time with you” she texted back the next day trying to reassure me that wasn’t the case and that she’s been overly worked with her new job that she started and with her 8 month old son. So I texted her 4 days ago saying we should set a date for this week and she said “yeah I’ll have to see what’s going on”. Now it’s been 4 days and that’s the longest we’ve gone without talking since we met. Idk what to do. I watch all these videos that say to do multiple things, but idk. Someone help lol
She has a baby, you will never be her focus. It will be hard, but move on and get another one. The difference between and alpha male and a beta male is the alpha can handle rejection and get over a women easily. Picture this: if you were a superstar she would be over you and be desperate to call you each minute, and thats how it really has to be. Work to be that superstar and don't care about that tainted vagina. You dont need to take care of the other dude mistake. Let some other dude have to pay for her baby.
Alex co That’s my problem. I think I get too attached to a hot woman too quick because in my mind how you going to invest a month of your time keeping in contact with someone if you’re just going to bounce. When that happens more often than not you start to think something is wrong with you. It always seems to be the ones I’m really into, too.
@@Metalwhore89 A women should respect her men, and vice versa. Right now shes shit testing you and maybe a couple of other dudes. If you let her disrespect you, you did the same to yourself. Also, the best investment in time is never in someone else, not even your wife. The best investment of time is in yourself. Get bulky, work hard to get that dream job/car/land.
Alex co Oh it’s happening. I’ve been trying to stay focused on my business and my 2 music projects, but this shit always hits the self esteem which in turn clouds the focus. I was going to give it a week before hitting her up, but at this point idk
I wouldn’t doubt she’s testing other dudes, too. It’s just a matter of how I set myself apart from the competition so I’m the top choice. That’s the struggle. I hate losing at anything, so when I’m faced with a competitor I can’t do anything about, it gets irritating lol
You came across as being extremely weak by saying, “if you’re not about it anymore”. Saying something like that just reeks of insecurity.
Let her chase you this, do not come across as too desperate that. FFS. Asking as a guy who have never been in a relationship, how has the dating process become so complicated?
I might be falling in love with you 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 who says that?
lol you see that animated demonstration cut tf out on his ass
Remember boys, never ever & I mean ever get married
Hey Guys maybe somebody can help me out i had this great connection with this girl and then she pulled away so i pulled away aswell (so i am doing the right thing) 9 days today no contact. I can see that she always views my IG and Snapchat stories but now i have noticed today that she unfollowed me on IG so now i am like whata going on?
She pulled away i pulled away but now she unfollowed me in IG is this like 'part of the test' because she noticed her pulling away didnt trigger me so now she makes it 'harder' by unfollowing? Even tho she unfollowed me on IG she still watches my Snapchat Stories. So is this all a test?!
Thanks in advance
It's ok friend. I suffered the same loss some months ago but everything is fine with my girlfriend and I know a man that can help you get her attention back and she'll love you like never before.
All you have to do is to contact him on his personal wazzap
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Bro how did it go?
why men should chase women?
this is a social construct
This shit is way too stressful
I want a girlfriend!!!!!
I got an ad about pornhub
1-800-80085.... I see what you did there
All these commenters rattling off a whole bunch of regurgitated points..when all you have to do with regards a relationship is go about your life with the premise that you couldn’t care less if you were in one or not. That takes care of any approval seeking behaviour!