The Dark Secret to Make Any Girl Fall in Love with You

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  • Опубліковано 10 лют 2025
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    Most men believe that if they buy a woman gifts, take her out for dinner, and show her love and affection, they will, according to logic, receive the same amount of love and affection in return. The attractive man, however, understands that his investment in a woman is nowhere near as important as her investment in him. If we consider all the various forms of investment that exist within a relationship, the main forms of investment are: (1) emotional: investing one’s emotions and feelings into someone; (2) time: spent thinking about someone, or time spent with them; (3) physical: sharing physical intimacy with another person; and (4) financial: buying gifts or spending money on someone. All of these forms of investment lead to higher levels of commitment and attraction on the part of the investor.
    The man who invests all his time, money, effort, and emotions into one woman values that woman a lot more than the man who makes no investment whatsoever. If you invest in someone, you are much more likely to value that person. Whether your investment is good or bad is beside the point, the feeling of value remains, making it increasingly difficult with each additional level of investment to withdraw your emotions and walk away if the investment turns out to be bad. This is the danger of the sunk cost fallacy, which states that the more you invest in someone or something, the harder it becomes to walk away, even if that investment turns out to be a bad decision. It’s for this reason alone that people find it so hard to exit a relationship, even when the relationship becomes toxic. The idea of leaving someone when so much has already been invested is often too much to bear. Understanding how investment works in relationships will not only protect you from future loss it will also help you build greater levels of attraction.
    In pure Machiavellian style, the man who’s selfish encourages women to invest in him for he understands one simple truth: the more a woman invests in him, the more committed she’ll be. If your goal is to ensnare a woman, you must be selfish, you must be ruthless, and you must be willing to take more than you give. Some dark research into attraction shows that women who invest in men by taking risks (as in having unprotected sex) are more likely to value the relationship than if they had taken no risks at all. The charming yet ever selfish rogue builds attraction by getting women to invest in him. He knows only too well that every additional act of devotion and investment brings the woman further under his spell.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 858

  • @Daku5522
    @Daku5522 6 років тому +2544

    the trick is to never attached to any woman ,then life becomes good

    • @saiyanyonko9138
      @saiyanyonko9138 6 років тому +35

      JIREN easy for Jiren to say

    • @Daku5522
      @Daku5522 6 років тому +13

      SaiyanYonko hahaha everybody can do it

    • @muskrat477
      @muskrat477 6 років тому +57

      Always, always, always have the quick release mechanism in your brain

    • @dreambeliever3652
      @dreambeliever3652 6 років тому +53

      You nailed it! Continue to remain emotionally unattached despite the woman’s luring deception.

    • @Daku5522
      @Daku5522 6 років тому +81

      @@dreambeliever3652 love is war ,the person who falls in love lose

  • @issho8885
    @issho8885 6 років тому +419

    This guy made me realise so many mistakes i made in my past relationships, i wish i had all these knowledge in 2016.

    • @1967briano
      @1967briano 4 роки тому +18

      You know now. That will suffice. You won’t make the mistakes of the past again.

    • @gregoryjgarcia3862
      @gregoryjgarcia3862 4 роки тому +12

      I wish this was taught to me in elementary school.

    • @paugarciabcn
      @paugarciabcn 4 роки тому +1

      Gregory J Garcia not in schools man, but by your father. Good father figures should teach that, just as shaving or fixing things.

    • @LJayyBeh
      @LJayyBeh 3 роки тому +5

      That's why I love this channel

    • @Kilgarrahh
      @Kilgarrahh 3 роки тому +4

      All of us have, my friend. You are certainly not alone.

  • @rich8047
    @rich8047 6 років тому +1589

    Invest in yourself and they will invest in you

  • @belliumm
    @belliumm 4 роки тому +100

    People make fun of "simps" and "nice guys" but it's hard to blame them for their behavior because it's what our feminized society teaches. If you're a man and begin to behave masculine as nature intended, amazing things begin to happen.

  • @alfecondiman7416
    @alfecondiman7416 5 років тому +356

    We men must focus for our own goals and take the focus out of women and relationships... FREEDOM is a musculine energy and let the woman take care of the relationships..

  • @jodit9932
    @jodit9932 6 років тому +1198

    The point is it's true. Nice guys always finish last. Period.

    • @lelouchlamperouge5910
      @lelouchlamperouge5910 6 років тому +2

      @@saucegg and what women want?

    • @mayadeeb8293
      @mayadeeb8293 6 років тому +6

      Jonathan Aditya d

    • @RioFl4
      @RioFl4 6 років тому +42

      lul it is actually not about nice guy.
      it is the misleading definition about 'nice guy'.
      nice guy does not mean that you are always available 24 hours for a girl.
      you are not her dresses in her cupboard who are available for her 24 hours but not chosen when she wants to hangout.
      you are human being who have activities and it is normal to be unavailable for her or anyone at certain time.
      being tough on your decision does not make you "not a nice guy".
      unfortunately, "being a yes man for her" is a misleading definition of a nice guy which spread everywhere.
      trust me, just focus on the list of things what you have to do, be brave to say no even for a girl that you love, give some small surprised about what she loved.
      it is not that complicated.

    • @mike90susanoo84
      @mike90susanoo84 6 років тому

      The video doesn't necessarily seem to just refer to nice guys only

    • @purewantfun
      @purewantfun 6 років тому +17

      This isn't a nice guy. It's a needy guy.

  • @michaelh9251
    @michaelh9251 5 років тому +373

    This is the golden truth it’s because girls get turned off when you try hard and put in way to much effort into her! Invest in yourself first let her chase, it’s all emotion for women

    • @usercs_2682
      @usercs_2682 5 років тому +26

      Do not please women, let the women please you. A man can’t do a woman’s job

    • @Aldo7899
      @Aldo7899 5 років тому +25

      If you make it a habit to treat attention-seeking women like ass, you will notice a significant boost in your confidence levels.

    • @nicksoloroblox6865
      @nicksoloroblox6865 5 років тому

      The_Real_ Slender and be that male demon who dominates the female demon

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому

      😬😬😬

    • @MattGarcyaDC
      @MattGarcyaDC 4 роки тому +1

      Less is more

  • @shortsguru7504
    @shortsguru7504 5 років тому +177

    Being the nice guy don’t work no a days I learn it the hard way I’ve became cold.

    • @Pma686
      @Pma686 5 років тому +14

      You can be nice just cant over do it. Control the emotions, dont let them control you

    • @anthonycastillo365
      @anthonycastillo365 4 роки тому +6

      6String Pete below zero is my heart temperature now.

    • @isomericgamer6644
      @isomericgamer6644 4 роки тому +10

      Same.. I don't know why the world is like this. I was straight and true with her and I was a nice guy. Yet there we are I am seeing videos on how to move on.

    • @shortsguru7504
      @shortsguru7504 4 роки тому +4

      Isomeric Shift I’ve been there bro, I suggest you watch red pill content like @ stephiscold & alphamalestrategies

    • @isomericgamer6644
      @isomericgamer6644 4 роки тому +1

      @@shortsguru7504 thanks for the tips bro :)

  • @MasterPandaBearChannel
    @MasterPandaBearChannel 5 років тому +107

    This Girl really loved me and I really loved her, we had a lot of great times together and it was true love... then I woke up and realized I was living in different era

  • @abdullahaldowerim712
    @abdullahaldowerim712 6 років тому +2410

    What a sick society

    • @Jesus-ve4io
      @Jesus-ve4io 6 років тому +92

      Best comment

    • @nafisahmed4196
      @nafisahmed4196 6 років тому +32

      😂😂😂

    • @jasinbiggs7189
      @jasinbiggs7189 6 років тому +209

      Haha. Its just how human women have been for 1000s of years. But modern stuff such as movies is confusing most people

    • @itsyah
      @itsyah 6 років тому +74

      It's human nature.. this what happened when Eve unleashed evil on the world.

    • @atak_development6722
      @atak_development6722 6 років тому +64

      Disgusting society

  • @aryamonmukherjee5303
    @aryamonmukherjee5303 6 років тому +364

    The simps all around the world need to see this

    • @seekerx9574
      @seekerx9574 5 років тому +19

      I don't want to comment because no one will notice it so maybe u or other people may see it here... Dude try to improve your mental and physical endurance/tolerance , and i will tell u how.. Punch a wall a little hard and tolerate the pain and then punch it again with the same hand but the pain should be normal for u , don't get aroused or stressed when u do that u should be calm but not relaxed , when enduring the pain becomes normal to u then think what a normal girl can do to u? try to imagine and believe that they r weak and u can endure every physical damage that they can do to , try to not follow your desires like any ego desires , desire for emotions and satisfaction , itching , staying warm in winter etc.. Once you r able to tolerate greater pain than what a girl/woman can do to u just think of it u can endure all these greater pain then why r u still afraid of them? When u realize how weak their physical damage r to u and u also belief that u can endure everything that they can do to u then u will start to attract woman so terribly strong than even strangers will fall in love/desire to kiss/adore and admire u so much , and the good thing is the power is unlimited , the more u imagine and endure the more u will attract , and the bad thing is u wall also adore/want to kiss them bad too!

    • @seekerx9574
      @seekerx9574 5 років тому +1

      I wish someone will see it and understand it

    • @aryamonmukherjee5303
      @aryamonmukherjee5303 5 років тому +2

      @@seekerx9574 well said. Have seen many of your points in practice.

    • @ang47
      @ang47 5 років тому +10

      the simps are so pathetic, ass kissing and white knighting , that they will turn on you for showing them this

    • @lid4725
      @lid4725 4 роки тому

      -A Simp

  • @andysmith5997
    @andysmith5997 5 років тому +377

    Be careful guys ,you pick,not women. Take your time. You aren’t in a rush, they are. And universally women care more about getting and being married than who they are marrying ,and they care more about their children than you. They also know a million more ways to win someone than you do. Never give up, but never give in

    • @isss8120
      @isss8120 5 років тому +6

      Perfect

    • @damolaadeleke7282
      @damolaadeleke7282 4 роки тому +4

      Deep

    • @gohan3448
      @gohan3448 4 роки тому +3

      @Thanos you pressed 😂😂😂

    • @durancalligan4247
      @durancalligan4247 4 роки тому

      @Thanos lol where did that came from? 😂😂😂

    • @RichyArrowsmith
      @RichyArrowsmith Рік тому +2

      'you aren't in a rush they are' hilarious and true! Patience lads and good things will come.

  • @strong-dream-family-music
    @strong-dream-family-music 4 роки тому +52

    This is very true I lost my girlfriend because I was too committed to her

    • @AIRJAC33
      @AIRJAC33 5 місяців тому

      lol. Clown world.

  • @bman8824
    @bman8824 4 роки тому +240

    This isnt that accurate. Women are attracted to a man who is emotionally strong, isnt needy/clingy, is kind, but assertive. You do not have to be a jerk or an ahole. Or a self centered narcissist. Never buy her a gift unless you're in a relationship and even then make it rare so it actually means something. Text to set dates then get off the phone. Have a life outside of her. You'll be fine if you follow this

    • @mayorofthenonsense
      @mayorofthenonsense 4 роки тому +26

      Totally true. I have never been an asshole - but I still have plenty of options because I resist commitment and am honest about putting my own needs first. You don’t have to act or strategize to stimulate stimulate strong emotions within a woman - you can even be ‘nice’ to a degree, but not because you’re seeking approval, because you’re ok with it.

    • @lightworker28
      @lightworker28 4 роки тому +3

      Truth

    • @LakeShow-2481
      @LakeShow-2481 3 роки тому +5

      This is exactly wat this entire channel is about lol seems like the animated story shrunk ur perspective. Everything you said.. is the opposite of wat the “friend zone character” was in the story. We’re all on the same page even if it doesn’t seem like it in this instance

    • @LT0708
      @LT0708 2 роки тому

      True my friend

    • @rollzolo
      @rollzolo 6 місяців тому

      Mind chess is still require in a relationship

  • @perc3557
    @perc3557 6 років тому +98

    Lesson for this video: let the person of your interest, invest on you. Make them take risk with you

    • @ravirajyaguru5905
      @ravirajyaguru5905 5 років тому +4

      But how?

    • @mann8098
      @mann8098 4 роки тому +1

      Bare back it 😂😂 kidding don't do it. Make her cook for you, clip a gang nail off, wash a shirt for you, blow you for 60 minutes etc

    • @howmathematicianscreatemat9226
      @howmathematicianscreatemat9226 3 роки тому +4

      @@ravirajyaguru5905 good question man ! Indeed those things are presented easier than they are. Actually coolness is a social TALENT. We first need to show her we would be able to entertain AND protect her before she is willing to invest in us.

  • @respiratoryfailure3780
    @respiratoryfailure3780 5 років тому +72

    Just don't dedicate your life on getting girls, do what you love and then you'd eventually find one naturally.

  • @mindofasoulja9683
    @mindofasoulja9683 5 років тому +71

    Man this a crazy world we're living in right now

    • @yuutokasane3332
      @yuutokasane3332 4 роки тому +3

      It’s 2020. This is the year to realize that.

  • @11JohnBooker22
    @11JohnBooker22 4 роки тому +7

    Hello young men Uncle John here,
    remember the old saying "love them and leave them", well it still holds true.
    Take it from experienced men, don't waste your time caring about women.
    Drop the mic........

    • @mreverybody1150
      @mreverybody1150 4 роки тому +2

      A wise man once said, treat them like dirt, and they will stick like mud.

  • @kinglouenleoncoeurofbreton4112
    @kinglouenleoncoeurofbreton4112 5 років тому +10

    Wow so it is true. Let the women do the chasing, don't do the chasing yourself. I have found myself not chasing women as of late, that's why the ladies are starting to notice me and have started to act flirty around me.

  • @stockaid
    @stockaid 6 років тому +468

    massaging a women's ego is a bad idea to get love.

    • @joshua50101
      @joshua50101 5 років тому +3

      Dario Spirit really dude? wow dyou think you are cool after saying it? you are an idiot.

    • @spottercorp
      @spottercorp 4 роки тому +1

      @@joshua50101 lol he is right tho

    • @hyzcagulada3559
      @hyzcagulada3559 4 роки тому +1

      Ah ok simp

    • @stockaid
      @stockaid 4 роки тому +3

      @Dario Spirit mind fucking is more important than vagina fucking.

    • @hisato1998
      @hisato1998 4 роки тому

      @@joshua50101 Bro as an older friend 24 actually i will give you advice always when you are with girl:
      #1 tell her always truth
      #2 try to be independent
      #3 try to be funny
      #4 in the first date tell her you are a virgin even if you dont that 99.9% make her laugh and your points rises up
      #5 then tell her a truth you joking or not
      Skip #1 If you just wanna sex

  • @anonymouswhisperer
    @anonymouswhisperer 4 роки тому +43

    A woman should be a complement to your life,not the focus

  • @bitdevice
    @bitdevice 6 років тому +130

    I've read Atomic Attraction and I think it is really good! This subject however I find hard to implement in real life. Obviously you don't want to be needy, buying gifts and being too available. But you also don't want to be an asshole and not care completely like the guy in the video. It's hard to find the sweet spot in between with your actions.

    • @esmeeisen9919
      @esmeeisen9919 4 роки тому +40

      Marcus B These videos are pathetically made, and too simple. There are a lot of factors that come into attraction. And a lot of girls actually want a guy that gives them a fun time, and shows them love affection, and validation. Just dont overdo it. Be confident, have a high self worth, and be busy with things that arent her. This video shows two extremes, and neither one is what most girls want.

    • @mams1701
      @mams1701 4 роки тому +43

      Esme eisen - I have been married over a decade now and I can tell you first hand: this video is more accurate than you realize.
      Focusing on my wife she gets bored and becomes neutral in everything in out life. But the SECOND I become neutral and don't come check on her of ask about her she is compelled to show me love.. Because she is no longer takes me for granted.
      And that's the point.
      Wome do not employ logic in relationships. Just emotions. If they are confident they consider the case closed and stop working. But if they have doubts they work to fix them because they enjoy the reassurance of having a man checked on their to-do list.
      You cannot give them that.
      You have to CONSTANTLY make sure they know they are not 1st or even 4th on your list of things you like to do otherwise you are done.
      Don't ask her about her day so often. Cut back on compliments (even point out other women you saw or heard about like she's just an acquaintance) and she will never have that confidence.
      And that will make her work to keep you.
      This video is dead accurate..
      .... Unless you wish to be a simp..

    • @AshishKumar-nz1ri
      @AshishKumar-nz1ri 4 роки тому +7

      @@esmeeisen9919 lol you know nothing. Guys this video is correct if not you learn by doing the mistake like I did.

    • @Bleed_Blue625
      @Bleed_Blue625 4 роки тому +3

      mams1701 100% facts

    • @dereksmith5036
      @dereksmith5036 11 місяців тому

      Better to be the asshole

  • @Strength_Saint.
    @Strength_Saint. 4 роки тому +35

    I find it easy to do the right things with girls I'm not overly keen on, but when I'm seriously keen on a girl I start to make all the mistakes 🙈

  • @jmest3571
    @jmest3571 4 роки тому +10

    This is why you NEVER stay friends with an ex. Treat her for exactly what she is; an ex.

  • @darksideofthebright4284
    @darksideofthebright4284 9 місяців тому +1

    Love unconditionally. Love freely, so no one feels caged and forced.

  • @MatthewCoast
    @MatthewCoast 4 роки тому +97

    Yeah, exactly, it's the same with men falling in love with women. It works both ways. That's why you want a relationship that's as close to 50/50 as you can or one that is slightly in your favor. That way you're both attracted, in love, and committed to each other.

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому +1

      🔥🙏🏾🔥

    • @SL2797
      @SL2797 4 роки тому +7

      Women expect the men to do ALL the work. It's never 50/50.

    • @JT-gm4fk
      @JT-gm4fk 2 роки тому +2

      @@SL2797 wrong..married 25 years. It's always been 50 50

  • @MattGarcyaDC
    @MattGarcyaDC 4 роки тому +7

    the more attention you give to something. the more you value it. not just women but in life.

  • @Dad_of_War
    @Dad_of_War 5 років тому +33

    I don't care who you are, you can't make ANY woman fall in love with you.

    • @sevenstars4817
      @sevenstars4817 8 місяців тому

      Actually that is the hard truth. You cannot control someones feelings

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 3 роки тому +8

    This man who is always in charge reminds me of my sister's husband. They've been married 30 years. But that's his natural way. He's not an affectionate person and he doesn't worship my sister and never did and if she's wrong he'll tell her. Just think we're all pretty strong with our friends and co-workers and family. We don't fall to pieces if we don't get validation from them. Frankly we don't care. It's the same way with a girlfriend.

  • @Maarten8867
    @Maarten8867 6 років тому +6

    Why would anyone want a relationship that completely centers around a single person? If you want someone slaving off for you, then you have no empathy, and if you are the one slaving off, then you have no self respect. The only healthy relationship is reciprocal, so you should test for that. Just kick anyone out who does not reciprocate.

  • @mrnobody339
    @mrnobody339 4 роки тому +28

    Remember all of the asshole guys you ran into they are still that nice guy but one day got smart and realized that this is the only way to keep her. Inside he hates making her cry but knows he has to play this role to keep her.

    • @walidnoori5811
      @walidnoori5811 3 роки тому +1

      Thats me

    • @Harvey-te9fg
      @Harvey-te9fg 7 місяців тому

      Na some of us truly are self centered men. And it works in my favor.

  • @vladimirperez6468
    @vladimirperez6468 5 років тому +3

    The more I learn about women the more I love my parrot..Greetings from Colombia 🇨🇴 south America..

  • @DevelopAttraction
    @DevelopAttraction  6 років тому +179

    Happy Valentine's Day!

    • @gautamraj4208
      @gautamraj4208 6 років тому +1

      Thanks for this amazing video chris ❤

    • @gautamraj4208
      @gautamraj4208 6 років тому

      how do I contact you?

    • @DevelopAttraction
      @DevelopAttraction  6 років тому

      The Gautam Raj show Through my website

    • @showtime8968
      @showtime8968 6 років тому +7

      We get it, you're using the no contact on your subscibers.

    • @spirosg
      @spirosg 6 років тому +1

      We missed you and your videos.
      "talk soon" ;-)

  • @jaganibassarangi3254
    @jaganibassarangi3254 6 років тому +26

    Glad you're back Chris... Hearing from you after so long... Happy valentines day... Animation story was superb...👌

  • @GreatApolytos
    @GreatApolytos 4 роки тому +2

    dont hesitate to show a woman you want her!!! its ok to express that you want her but after you show it THEN let her chase you if she comes to you its ok if not no problem someother will want you.

  • @cloroxbleach8849
    @cloroxbleach8849 6 років тому +294

    Step 1: be attractive
    Step 2: look at step 1

    • @alexanderstevens145
      @alexanderstevens145 5 років тому +4

      Your comments always funny dude. Did you ever get your money back from that scammer kaliforniakid ?

    • @aennunez3182
      @aennunez3182 5 років тому +1

      Clorox Bleach sounds like a jerk .

    • @yato5794
      @yato5794 5 років тому +5

      I have to admit i have very ugly faces, but trust me i can get any woman that i like.

    • @sarnendusarkar1872
      @sarnendusarkar1872 5 років тому +1

      Even that does not help

    • @akshat3609
      @akshat3609 5 років тому

      @@yato5794 teach me how pleaseeee

  • @gentlemanlows2928
    @gentlemanlows2928 5 років тому +52

    Chasing a girl that will be yours for only the moment is suicide.

  • @joelhenderson3723
    @joelhenderson3723 6 років тому +30

    While it might be helpful to some hearing this applied to relationships, it's hardly groundbreaking to say that human beings care more about things they've applied themselves to. It's not just women, and it's not just relationships; it's why people frequently don't give a shit about breaking or forgetting to return others' things, and why we're protective of the things we've put money, time, or effort into, including our beliefs and our possessions.

  • @SL2797
    @SL2797 4 роки тому +17

    Just a friendly reminder that you DON'T need any woman's fleeting "love" (better known as Approval) to have a happy and fulfilled life as a man ☺️👍

  • @gaijincoordinator2922
    @gaijincoordinator2922 4 роки тому +4

    I don't get it.. You'd think it'd be the other way around: attraction leads to investment, not investment leads to attraction

  • @Zain.Basi1
    @Zain.Basi1 5 років тому +56

    To all reading this comment
    Read a book called
    "How to be a 3% man"
    Women are starting to make sense to me now which is crazy

    • @takumereny2841
      @takumereny2841 5 років тому

      Thanks

    • @dishanttank5419
      @dishanttank5419 5 років тому

      Summarize in short... If possible plzzz. It will be really helpful 😭😭😭

    • @AlexGNR
      @AlexGNR 5 років тому

      Ye i agree

    • @chrisaubrey1950
      @chrisaubrey1950 5 років тому

      I've just bought it and I'm half way through, apparently you have to read it 15 times so everything sinks in

    • @TravelWithBradley
      @TravelWithBradley 4 роки тому +1

      @@chrisaubrey1950 lol

  • @damariuswingfield2144
    @damariuswingfield2144 5 років тому +11

    You have to mix pain with a little pleasure. Ever heard of tough love?

  • @himjyotisarma8690
    @himjyotisarma8690 5 років тому +58

    First...Make your Heartbroken then you will automatically will become the magnet of girls.Believe me it true

    • @jonasqt758
      @jonasqt758 5 років тому +23

      been there brotha 100% works lol, also try Cold showers, lifting weights, interminent fasting, no fap and prayers, see it for your self and your going to transform into jesus 2.0

    • @saspy493
      @saspy493 5 років тому +2

      Damn on point! But some guys get broken but didn't learn anything. Hahahah poor guys

    • @Spider-Man23737
      @Spider-Man23737 4 роки тому +23

      I swear bro, getting heartbroken is a blessing in disguise. You can learn a lot from this experience.

    • @Fernando-oj6wx
      @Fernando-oj6wx 4 роки тому +1

      @@Spider-Man23737 agreed

    • @nvesk
      @nvesk 4 роки тому +6

      @@Spider-Man23737 my heart was broken after 12 years relationship. im cold and emotionless. i hate myself for being like that. i wanna be the old blue pilled guy in a healthy relationship but these days are over. society changed

  • @lancelot5125
    @lancelot5125 6 років тому +4

    You are the Big brother most guys need these days, I have watched many videos on how to attract a girl, how to make a girl fall in love with you and blah blah blah........ But this video shows the reality, this video showed me the light
    Thanks for opening my eyes brother!!

  • @juniorjr5328
    @juniorjr5328 2 роки тому +2

    Time and validation is men only currency

  • @idle5992
    @idle5992 4 роки тому +1

    I got your point but the other guy was way too off! Just keep the balance and everything will be fine

  • @muckyguru
    @muckyguru 5 років тому +1

    Who wants that?? Better two souls that love eachother!!

  • @vme1111
    @vme1111 6 років тому +31

    Just wanna say thank you! Since I discovered your videos back in April, it’s been an avalanche of info from not just you, but other videos from others that came up in recommended . I wasn’t even looking for such videos, nor did I know dating and life coaches existed. You guys just randomly popped up in my recommended, and just in time for when I needed all the advice. I bought your book back then and been watching your videos since. Keep up the good work!

  • @DynamiteKid1224
    @DynamiteKid1224 5 років тому +15

    My first girlfriend now my wife is Jocelyn! 💕 I'm happily married & madly in love with her alright! Thanks for sharing! Peace out! God bless you!

    • @whywhy8698
      @whywhy8698 5 років тому

      Do you have any childern? If yes. Are you sure ?

    • @DynamiteKid1224
      @DynamiteKid1224 5 років тому +3

      @Alex Llg thanks for the heads up, she can't cheat. Why you ask because she always takes me every single day where ever she goes. Plus I'm the one holding her phone since her pants doesn't have any pockets. She always lets me answer her phone calls or text.. And the money is in my atm as well as the passbook. Thanks for the concern, I truly appreciate it. Take care & have a nice day!

    • @TravelWithBradley
      @TravelWithBradley 4 роки тому +2

      @@DynamiteKid1224 Yikes, that came across as really insecure.

    • @HandsOfSweed
      @HandsOfSweed 4 роки тому

      You married your FIRST girlfriend?? Lol.

    • @DynamiteKid1224
      @DynamiteKid1224 4 роки тому +1

      @@TravelWithBradley nope she always lets me hold her phone because she doesn't have a pocket on her pants plus I always carry her bag for her since she finds it heavy. Don't jump to conclusions Bro. Thanks.

  • @domjervis
    @domjervis 6 років тому +13

    And the Moral of the Story is:
    Life is a Gift. But Living is a Series of Cost/Benefit Analyses. And the Near Certainty of the Headache and Heartache that a female will give you will NEVER be worth the Value that you give to her.
    I never married. No kids (at least none that I know of). Stayed focused on my career. Saved and invested my money wisely instead of wasting it on the Money Pit euphemistically known as "dating." And as a result...retired comfortably at age 55 with more money than I can even think about spending the rest of my Life. So much so in fact, that I'm kicking myself for not retiring 13 months earlier. Doing so would have probably made my Jerk Boss have a second heart attack...who knows...maybe even The Big One. Had that occurred, I would have had my very own Special Ceremony at his grave. Just me and a 12 pack of beer ROFLMBO
    If I were not living as a Happy Recluse and actually "put myself out there," I'm afraid to think of the Gold Diggers who would be after me for one...and only one...Reason.
    MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) Forever!

    • @daebak7370
      @daebak7370 5 років тому

      Did you have any female companionship during that time?

    • @domjervis
      @domjervis 5 років тому +3

      @@daebak7370 Yes, I was in a Relationship. It ended in 2013. Now that I'm retired, I have all the time in the World to kick myself for not ending it before I did. And yes, I was the one who ended it. Every man has his breaking point.
      Just one example: I had ten jobs in my Career, five I loved and five I hated. She made me quit two of the jobs I loved, said she would end our Relationship if I didn't. I caved both times, and in retrospect I hate myself for having done so.

    • @vernreederjr6264
      @vernreederjr6264 5 років тому +1

      Dom Jervis Boss shit mayne!

    • @michaeladdd
      @michaeladdd 5 років тому +2

      Many people said that u need to find a companion when ur life is unstable. When u already get a good life, u feel u dont need companionship.

    • @georgeelder8415
      @georgeelder8415 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@@domjervisYes! When you do what they want, you're screwed! Ask me how I know...

  • @harrasingh998
    @harrasingh998 4 роки тому +14

    Long story short, don't consider them as important or think too hard on how to keep them attracted. See whether they are capable of proving to you they are keepers and then invest your time.
    You only know what you truly want when you know yourself well and enjoy your life without needing a partner to enjoy it with.
    It's the lesson I've learnt and trust me this is the harsh truth.

  • @KJVII
    @KJVII 5 років тому +6

    I agree with everything except the not making her kum part, you don't make her kum she'll find someone who will.

  • @victoriannecastle
    @victoriannecastle 5 років тому +28

    I can relate.
    Got a woman who cry in my shoulders over her cheating bf.
    I was sincere to her and help her find internship then job. After all I've done, she goes back to her bf who is proud of her three gfs. Right on front of me, leaving me alone.
    Never again.
    I learn my lesson:
    Be an asshole
    Be a cheater
    It's what women want.

  • @jasonl.6652
    @jasonl.6652 4 роки тому

    It’s a good win win situation. If she’s with you, you win. If she doesn’t want to be with you but you have things to do in life, you’d also win. It’s really not hard to understand.

  • @champinatorr
    @champinatorr 6 років тому +217

    The animated stories are so cool

    • @drewj3354
      @drewj3354 6 років тому +6

      ur thing scared the shit out of me

    • @Aldo7899
      @Aldo7899 5 років тому

      drew j what the fly

  • @dreambeliever3652
    @dreambeliever3652 6 років тому +71

    To sum it up:
    MARRY YOUNG
    TREAT THEM BAD
    TELL THEM NOTHING

  • @agniwebdev774
    @agniwebdev774 3 роки тому +1

    This comment section is awesome!

  • @urbantraxx3756
    @urbantraxx3756 5 років тому +10

    In other words don't simp

  • @ajaygautam832
    @ajaygautam832 4 роки тому +2

    I found comment section is more knowledgeable than video..

  • @oliverallen5324
    @oliverallen5324 6 років тому +16

    "Whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them."
    Matthew 13:12

    • @MP-ct8em
      @MP-ct8em 6 років тому +1

      I dont get it

    • @oliverallen5324
      @oliverallen5324 6 років тому +2

      @@MP-ct8em it means the rich get richer, and the poor get poorer.

    • @infowolf1
      @infowolf1 6 років тому

      @Oliver Allan the context was the last judgement and virtue resulting in better situation, lack of virtue = lack of rewards and fake virtue no good.

  • @sammie5619
    @sammie5619 5 років тому +5

    This feels like i just replayed my last 5 years

  • @SL2797
    @SL2797 4 роки тому +13

    Clarification: Not giving a woman attention to win her over will only work if: 1) She feels a lot of attraction towards you. 2) Has issues with self-esteem and confidence.
    So, if she actually has her ego in the stratosphere, when you don't give her attention she will dump you, tell you that she will look for a "REAL MAN", and then find herself a simp who will follow her every demand.

    • @MH-jx1dv
      @MH-jx1dv 2 роки тому +5

      then you win anyway, you want to be in a relationship as 2 adults, not someone who's looking for a dog

  • @georgerodriguez2987
    @georgerodriguez2987 7 місяців тому +1

    I love your book taught me some valuable lessons

  • @josephbailey7408
    @josephbailey7408 2 роки тому

    Hands down, u have the best channel on these topics.

  • @isaakilloayala4097
    @isaakilloayala4097 8 місяців тому +1

    never beg for love

  • @kyletucker6508
    @kyletucker6508 5 років тому +5

    What if the mere thought of getting into a relationship with anyone is so much of a risk that they dont

  • @elpadrinomagico
    @elpadrinomagico 4 роки тому +1

    In Mexico we have this phrase “never give to a woman all of your money nor all your love” extremes are always bad.

  • @akshaysharma1145
    @akshaysharma1145 4 роки тому

    I usually don't comment but this video is 100 percent right..

  • @finalftl732
    @finalftl732 6 років тому +23

    Well, guess that means I’m gonna be single for a long while. I don’t care if I die a virgin, if someone needs my help, they get my help, if I want to be as kind as possible, I’ll do it with fervor. The *last* thing I will ever do is bend my ideals to get laid.

  • @tomdane
    @tomdane 3 місяці тому

    But when does it tip over where she decides you just hurt her? And where does this investment start?

  • @mupicap7927
    @mupicap7927 5 років тому +2

    Just found your video. From now on, im trying to practice this, pray for me to get her heart in your way

    • @jakemf1
      @jakemf1 4 роки тому

      You are not getting this if “your still trying to get her heart” she should be trying to get yours

    • @mupicap7927
      @mupicap7927 4 роки тому +1

      @@jakemf1 youre right man. its been day 3 and got nothin. LoL

    • @jakemf1
      @jakemf1 4 роки тому +1

      @@mupicap7927 Hold strong 3 days is nothing look at your life and find things to do

    • @Edmeree
      @Edmeree Рік тому

      @@mupicap7927 3yrs now, how did it go?

  • @worldpeace2073
    @worldpeace2073 6 років тому +3

    We Indians got all the girls because we are romantic and dramatic like in the Bollywood movies. We are so talented.we can dance, we can sing, we can act , we can cry anytime we want. We are kings of acting.

  • @fitnessymas9605
    @fitnessymas9605 4 роки тому

    It is so true! When I invest in a girl I don’t get her, when I don’t invest and I’m cheap I get some. I know is weird.

  • @dariellamberto4454
    @dariellamberto4454 4 роки тому +31

    Im 22 never been in relationship i wish my 13yo self knew this

    • @DDoonniiXX
      @DDoonniiXX 4 роки тому +3

      Don't go into a relationship in your 20's (unless you find a high value, unused woman). Build something up for yourself instead. You'll never have more time and carelessness in your life than in your 20's.

    • @ericonelavancena9492
      @ericonelavancena9492 4 роки тому +2

      @@DDoonniiXX im 24 virgin never have a girlfriend. Thanks for this. I was about to harm myself

    • @ryanandrews321
      @ryanandrews321 4 роки тому +3

      Spend your 20s focusing on your career, goals, hobbies, fitness and a property. Don’t worry about all the couples around you, by the time you are 30 they will all highly likely be separated anyway. Then when you’re 30 you’ll have found that your self investment will pay off so much. Besides, people chase you when you are focused on yourself anyway. Especially women 🤷‍♂️

    • @catablet2213
      @catablet2213 3 роки тому

      @@ericonelavancena9492 being a virgin isnt bad

  • @henrikljungstrand2036
    @henrikljungstrand2036 4 роки тому +17

    That's why you should always encourage your loved one to do things for you, building up attraction but not giving her everything she wants unless she is willing to do as much for you. Never settle for less and always be ready to leave for someone else if she doesn't put in enough effort. And if you do, let her know it so she understands what she lost. Make her suffer your absence. That way, if it ends with your other love later (don't sabotage it!!!) and you are still kind of interested, you can come back, check if she's single and see if she's interested in hanging out with you. Make her work for you and then, if you think she has earned you, treat her with proper love and respect, and don't be a jerk!
    Because if you are this kind of jerk i will hunt you down and kill you. Maybe not literally, but by collecting and exposing your dark secrets to everyone. I don't care what you do to me in return. I AM Justice and I AM Love. And very Alpha. Have a nice day! ☺️❤️

  • @BekirO
    @BekirO 4 роки тому +1

    my life is already between work and home. I don't chase any women and no women chase me in return. how can I find anyone then without making a move?

  • @TacticalxRecon
    @TacticalxRecon 6 років тому +4

    I miss you Chris Canwell! You are the cool uncle who knows all the tricks. Such an inspiration!

  • @NomadUrpagi
    @NomadUrpagi 4 роки тому +3

    So many guys readily believing this. What is shown here also works for men. We people don't value things that come too easily. That is why the jerk gets more attention. Irl being a jerk or a too nice guy both has bad results. Nice guys watching this don't jump from one extreme to another i've tried this. You can't build long lasting relationships with either of them. Most important thing is while sexual attraction has some few mindgames going on, don't let your whole relationship become all about mindgames and "establishing dominance"- it ruins the genuinity of the relationship. The most important rule to me is balance in all things. If you keep it, you will be eligible for practically everything. Cheers.

  • @Claus1234
    @Claus1234 4 роки тому +1

    You have the greatest voice for storytelling... Love it!

  • @richardcarlson343
    @richardcarlson343 2 роки тому +3

    I once wondered how the mind of a woman works. Then I threw 3 cats in a bag and shook it up really well. I have complete knowledge now of their minds.

  • @sleipikswarava3435
    @sleipikswarava3435 3 роки тому +2

    So funny, when you don't care it starts working

  • @aberatioictus6930
    @aberatioictus6930 4 роки тому +5

    This channel should be in cartoon network so that kids grow the right way and be happy 🔥

  • @MartyParty2809
    @MartyParty2809 6 років тому +7

    Happy Valentine’s Day Chris

  • @AlienHavok_1211
    @AlienHavok_1211 6 років тому +2

    The true dark secret of women right here.. The truth hurts, but will always, guaranteed - set you free.

  • @tspizemediaservices6254
    @tspizemediaservices6254 4 роки тому +2

    This is really important advice. ..man must empress it if the want to endure good long lasting relationships

  •  4 роки тому

    I’m currently living this, I’m nice to this woman friend all the time, she texts me every day all day but when I ask to see her at night she always declines me, we have slept together before but she says she rather keep it as just friends

  • @abdirizakmohamud6591
    @abdirizakmohamud6591 4 роки тому +2

    Never chase a relationship

  • @Slashco
    @Slashco 5 років тому +6

    This is good advice, as long as you've got that combination of looks, personality, money and social status that women find attractive; otherwise they won't care. Basically be the best version of yourself that you can be, then make them chase you and never act like a supplicant.

  • @t.o.p.6483
    @t.o.p.6483 2 роки тому +1

    OMG! This was crazy! But true.

  • @tyty2tiethr335
    @tyty2tiethr335 6 років тому +8

    Ok, but how do you get women begin and continue investing into you in the first place?

    • @stevechristie2569
      @stevechristie2569 5 років тому +11

      By being wealthy, or handsome, or having an amazing personality. (And before any of these, dress smartly, be polite, shower every day.)

    • @adrianshaw4639
      @adrianshaw4639 5 років тому +4

      Easy don't give her all the validation that these weak men give her. Looks and money has nothing to do with it. Make her feel insecure and play with her emotions. Make her think she got you then pull back on her. When she thinks you're going left you go right. Give her uncertainty.

    • @israelgarcia6615
      @israelgarcia6615 2 роки тому +1

      @@stevechristie2569 I gotta work on the showering everyday part lol. 🧟‍♂️

  • @gazza2933
    @gazza2933 5 років тому +7

    Okay but what the hell happened to courtship!!?

  • @lightworkerlighthouse5299
    @lightworkerlighthouse5299 6 років тому +11

    If only I knew that 20 years ago 😜😂😂😂🤣👍

  • @aldersonsanku34
    @aldersonsanku34 4 роки тому +4

    Even sugar, when taken too much, tastes bitter.

  • @weesebowski8651
    @weesebowski8651 5 років тому +5

    Stay woke Gents!

  • @kristanbenson803
    @kristanbenson803 5 років тому +3

    Treat‘ Em mean keep’em keen...

  • @neotek303
    @neotek303 2 місяці тому

    I hope you explain that there are women with healthy attachment styles who are worthy of attention and those with unhealthy attachment styles, who are in effect psychologically broken, and not suitable for relationship?

    • @DevelopAttraction
      @DevelopAttraction  2 місяці тому +1

      @@neotek303 this video isn’t about that

    • @timothygibney159
      @timothygibney159 Місяць тому

      Women are attracted to strong dominate men and repulsed by weak nice guys who are accomodating. She wants to accomodate the man so he can provide and she can be the shorter weaker one and be pretty and supportive so she can act and be femine. It has nothing to do with attachment style as women vote with their feelings. In this video Cole was the bad ass who engages her emotions even if he is a jerk because it means provider for her babies.

  • @siddharthasekhar9434
    @siddharthasekhar9434 5 років тому +4

    The moment you realize that this video is talking about a specific kind of woman ( the one who is attracted to whom she cannot have and has deep emotional issues) , you realize that you dont want that girl . See these days more and more people are depressed and have emotional issues and hence it might work out for a lot of them girls ;) But you know better than that dear reader , dont you ?

  • @petotis1
    @petotis1 5 років тому +4

    This is so awesome! You always nail it! Period.

  • @ryancoker1611
    @ryancoker1611 4 роки тому +3

    I would've ended the friendship then and there.

  • @itsyah
    @itsyah 6 років тому +28

    She will put a guy on Xbox or Playstation over you in real life, believe that. Chicks can be sick guys