She’s Not As Into You As Before | Avoid The Passion Trap | Tests, Power Plays, and Pull Aways
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If you want a girl to feel excited over you, then you need to increase space and anxiety. It's that simple you cannot get a woman excited over you if you are texting her all the time. It doesn't work that way. You must get comfortable with bringing space into the relationship and controlling the space. This is important, especially if she asks for space-you must give it to her! Also, don't let her control the space and pull away from you and upset you.
Instead, it's better to be in control and pull away from her so you control the space (this is psychologically easier and less stressful if you take control of the situation). If you want respect and adoration and high attraction, you must maintain distance and space to get her thinking about you. There are no exceptions to this rule.
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Chris Canwell
The less you invest in them, the more they invest in you. That line hits hards... That's the alpha mentality
doesn't works dude.
@mypapaya590the guy above you is probably new to the dating world and doesn't have much experience.
@@shaypatrick7497 Yes it does
Your advice is spot on. Letting the woman pull away and do your thing is the best move no matter how uncomfortable it is.
Guys this shit is real, but realize if she is hot guarantee there are many guys fighting for her attention. That's why don't be outcome dependent. Move on and think abundance. Oneitis is tough to overcome but if you could attract her you can do it again. Peace and blessings kings.
Yes, perhaps a better girl...
I'm currently reconciling with my ex gf. We broke up in December and I made all the mistakes as far as insecurities and etc leading to the break-up. I was acting needy and trying to fix things and my attempts were futile. I finally fell back and got my affairs in order as well as my self respect. She gradually started reaching out and expressing herself that she misses me and etc. One thing she said was that she didn't like how much we texted and spoke during the day. That was enlightening because Chris has stressed this in a few videos. She loves how I've changed to the point where my short delayed texts give her anxiety which creates attraction. Of course she didn't say that part. But it's obvious. I love the direction we're headed and the way the tables turned. I had no idea how much I was messing up for the last year until the distance gave me clarity. Between reading " Atomic attraction" , " no more Mr nice guy" and " Love unfucked" I'm gonna be alright. It's discipline or lack thereof caused so much damage. Good luck fellas. Take your time and focus on the betterment of self. The woman is merely a byproduct of growth and maturity. I can honestly say I do have a good woman so I don't mind being a loving man but still keeping her anxious and on her toes. She's a gorgeous Italian female and my 1st interracial relationship. Andddd as I typed this she called and said " I just wanted to say I appreciate you and the efforts you're making and I love you " So with that being said. Take your time but use it wisely. Good things happen when you remain calm and regain your masculinity.
I just asked a girl out, she said she was busy with work. I told her to take care and tell me when she's free. She didn't reply for 3 days, then suddenly messaged me saying she's sorry. I needed to practice my patience but YOU'RE THE MAN BRO!
Nice bro, it’s works everytime, if they come back, great!, if they don’t, nothing lost
My gf just comes back after 10 days and says she didn't get the mobile from her mother (she doesn't possess her own phone) .I am turning to an over thinker now.
How long did you take to reply if I might ask?
The exact situation I'm going through.. Everything was perfect & suddenly she pulled away because of work and there's no more passion during this phase. Your videos help me to not text, call or want her attention for the major part, She finds her way to come back and that's when I respond, to keep it going & believe things fall in place eventually.
When she comes back don't simp or she will pull away again, keep giving her space so that she gets desperate and chases you, keep your attention and valadation to her to a bare minimum so she will not pull away again, the key here is less is more with women the less you do for them the more you get from them
@@Hjsjshj in my most recent experience, I have informed what bothers me and if something could be changed from her end, she said she will change, now whether she would or not is not in my hands. I'll keep teaching myself to mind my shit and wait for her to come back without being needy. It's simple: you can't force feelings, they grow in space and every girl pulls away because of work/ school for any reason, the trick is not to lose shit in front of them, tell your friends, but have your ground in front of the girl..
@@sandeeppalla004
Nah, they probably are messing or talking with other guys during that time
Personally, I'd make a friend of mine follow them
@@justadreamerforgood69 an eye for an eye. Start talking with other girls
@@justadreamerforgood69dude, you're lowkey giving stalker vibes.
Chris - EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU'VE GIVEN... HAS COME TRUE. Thank you so much, man.
It just happened to me a day before. I didn't even ask her anything. I just moved on.
It’s best to focus on you 100% of the time.
A girl pulled away for several days a few times (each time for longer), then texted she was sorry. The last time she did this, I knew she wasn't really sorry, because in the beginning she had apologised for not responding for just an hour. So I said she shouldn't apologise because it wasn't important. I was trying to show indifference and not being affected (I was, of course). She hasn't got in touch since then...
Being indifferent isn’t meant to be a strategy, it’s supposed to be a lifestyle. It’s like they can sense either.
He’s not wrong…listen to him. Trust the process
Brilliant advice Sir! Absolutely spot on. Been there & done that ....they always come back. Patience is the key
The most brilliant dating coach ever give Chris a million subscribers
I just avoid tests and relationships all together. Much more peaceful life this way.
@Sami Joy break this down please
That's rather weak
I don’t like to add stress to my life so it works out. If I’m being tested all the time. they don’t respect me. So I guess i don’t mind relationships but I don’t have patience for the tests.
@@widowsson8192 It depends on how you look at it. But why throw myself in a fire when I can just avoid it. And I don’t mind relationships with people. Guess I meant to say romantic ones.
@@ojmsn true, if a girl want to test you, you just need to focus on your goal instead. No headache lol.
Ur the best coach Chris thank you so much i appreciate ur work keep it up
As Chris always says "women will always pull away from at some point in time"
that's why it's better to get intimate asap, all that long waiting lowers your chance.
That is neediness my friend
Abundance mindset.. try it
In women .. the less effort you put in .. the more you get out ...... 2:11 .... you have no idea how much this helps !!!
For me, this man is a genius in relationship coaching.
Guys listen, If you keep all day texting her, telling her compliments and the most of the time available, soon she is gonna get boried of you, thats why soon or later she starts acting with less interest. This is like if you eat your favorite dish everyday, 3 times per day, soon you will get boried of this. The secret is just to be no constant with the attention to her, just take it easy. Greetings
Thats because most guys are simps and they put their girlfriends on a pedestal and lavishing them with compliments and gifts thinking that they love it but in reality they are put off by it and get highly frustrated and feel smothered by these simps, thats why these chicks ghost them or pull away from them
Bro my girlfriend is not saying me babe nd either she is not taking my name from last 2 days on text but she was saying yesterday that I m so lucky to have u nd missing u a lot
What about this bro either she is testing me 🤔
@@alziyaandayanchannelforall6603
Just ignore what she says
Make sure you have, or are cultivating, "quality backup."
Happening right now hahaha
She left me on read for 7hrs while at work, so I assumed she was busy, then when she responded I offered to meet up for breakfast tomorrow. She says she might go to the gym, but she will decide in the morning..I said no worries we can do another time. She said she will let me know again.. I didn't respond. Going to bed now. She is in a mood
Any update?
Understand a woman’s cycle. There’s days where she doesn’t want you, other times she wants you around, other times she can’t keep her bands off you, and the remainder is a wild card. Understand her cycle. Saves you so much pain.
Happening to me right now. This is facts💯
I got a girl like this and when I start to give her my attention again she makes plans to meet and flakes. I guess I’ll go back to even lesser attention and more of ignoring her messages until she gets her act together.
Thanks so much sir, I have been following u for years now.u have really changed my life ,not only in relation ship but I have also applied ur teachings on business and it worked perfectly. Thanks 😊
What things did you apply in business?
@@oswald4183 Lol 🗿
Bro, I like how these videos pops up exactly when I’m having the exact same issue.
Cutting edge video as usual.
This is a really good video thank you.
I just moved back to my flat as this exact thing happened!!
Don't fall in that trap.
There's another guy around her that she's been texting .
Move on. Forget her.
Could it be, could it not. It depends the context... If she´s not your girl yet, it could be a possibility.
@@Luigi-xg7hx He's right. If this is not the beginning of the relationship and she's pulling away for extended periods of time, more than normal, there's likely another guy in the picture. Women can't help themselves if they really like you. The most they'll go quiet for if they're just testing you (if you have been dating for a while) is a day.
100% is another guy. If they didn't had sex already, they will have soon. If she like new guy she will dump the actual partner, if not she return to her actual guy like nothing happened. But 100% is cheating.
@@ic5994 Duda, can you confirm that always is another guy?? Or just your speculation? it could be,, but depending the context.
@@trustfund82 Man, the only thing I hate of redpill community is that many men take things to extreme. "If she texting me I like it, if not, its because another man". Yes, I agree that sometimes there is a high probability or is a fact but you have to analize the context of the relationship or dating process and all the possible scenarios. If you are dating a girl and she suddenly dissappear it could be the is texting with another guy, you didn´t past the test, in a medium probability she is testing you or even she really had a problem (not often option). Even if she is beautiful and had a lot of messages these could it be from many simps so, that don´t count as pretenders. If its in a relationship, may you are too into her and she needs to breath from you. Use the Chris Candwell information as a foundation and adapt it to your situation. But, don´t block yourself like many redpillers who just complain but don´t want to analize their behaviour. Greetings.
Love your videos, bro
You are correct teacher,👍👍👍 right dehso
If you've been dating and a woman doesn't text you for days that is complete nonsense, she's not in her right mind. Move on, find a stable and mature woman.
She's just not into you thats why
Then why stay around ? I dated for like 6 months and she was perfectly fine with just not texting, and she could be having a normal boring week
Thanks Chris for the great content! Get well soon buddy
What if she pulled away for 2 months?
Outcome indifferent! That’s it, that’s what we all need men.
She must continue to chase your validation
It might take a year, fuck it
What if a girl has more masculine energy? Is very career focused?
The bloom has fallen off...
Does this mean I'm never supposed to message her first or only while she is testing me?
Don’t cave in. Be a man. When she does come back don’t be rude but be critical of her disrespect and hold her accountable.
But i wanna ask you so even if you don't want to text them but they text you what can you or if you don't reply to them and they asked why you didn't reply to them
She blocked me, then unblocked me. All for no reason. Like seriously, what's wrong with women. 😂
Then you should block her,
What are you even doing on insta, it's for girls, and she thinks you are a girl
Don't acknowledge it, she knows your not chasing so she's tossing bread crumbs hoping you'll react. What's wrong with women, in the past they were mothers by their early 20s and forced to grow up, after the late 60s that got bumped, now they are often in their 40s no long term relationships and no kids, parting and having fun riding dick, they are still teenagers
They are erratic emotional beings. Forget about logic when it comes to them. We must be cool, non-reactive, strong. They are attracted to this. We are the mountain, they are the weather. Have peace bro.
if she comes back what to do? should you say your busy or call her ?
Simple words=Move on😁
Move on cause you’ll grow resentment if you hide your pain from her “ pull back “ MOVE ON and if you’re feeling Pain from her pull back it’s already TOXIC
On point
That just doesn't make any sense. Chances are you are probably more interested in her than she is in you, that's like 90% of relationships by default. So if you decide to pull away, she's just going to move on herself. It's a lose-lose situation.
What if you had fun like ( cuddling ,making out ) and later she say's like nothing happend (never started anything )
Soild stuff, as always. You're the fucking man Chris
There is a new phone!
the only part i cant figure out is if a man is truly 100% outcome independent, not faking it or bluffing, truly to his core outcome independent, then why even deal with women? wouldn't life be easier without 1?
I have this situation right now. Should I keep quiet or keep posting mydays about my animation (things I do)
Absolutely keep posting your stories and ignore her, as soon as she see's your stories she'll remember you and contact you
Me personally I am dating guys. And holy crap men are so much more easier to handle. Women have caused me so much unessary stress. Cuz of their constant changing emotions.
Either she lost interest or theres Another guy around
There always another guy, if she semi cute like a 6, there's other guys, just don't care, the other guys will fuck up to. It sucks but thanks to social media and dating app, girls are inundated with DM from thirsty betas, and they will offer her al sorts of shit being a simp
Spot on
fucking truth. just today i was thinking about this.
If it's 5 days be indifferent and start looking around for another woman.
Hi Chris, any advice for someone in a relationship for nearly 2 years with a few problems that have been brought up recently? We going to work on them but how do I act now? Do I pull back or do I act more invested? does pulling away still apply to me?
Being too invested is never a good option. Maybe be invested in ur kids coz thats completely different
@@1nsaneme973 she broke up with me last week, I knew it was coming but thought I could maybe salvage it
@@AnonymousJ99 it's alright man. Head up, she didnt deserve u.
@@1nsaneme973 cheers mate, I’ll get through it
@@AnonymousJ99 dump that shit
Herrr that's why I love RED PILL 💊 , DETACH EMOTIONLESS CARELESS
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Tests are easy to pass. They are disqualified from any “wants”. Would you allow yourself who wears the captains hat to have someone barge in the helm and be acting crazy to allow them the wheel of the ship. H NO. So why do you bend when it’s women.
Criss ….can you talk of something else and NOT sex , please ?
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