How to get your life back on track: The Reset Method
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- Опубліковано 29 чер 2024
- If you want to get back on track for June 2021, then try this journalling exercise.
For the workbook, go to www.struthless.com and scroll down and click the orange button.
Hope this helps!
2021: it's month number 6
Me: so it's been 6 months?
2021: Well technically it's only-
Me: *makes this video*
This is my new favourite mistake I've made... enjoy the month headstart on half #2 lol
we don't come to you for your impecable maths skills!
@@struthless I panicked but than I saw ...aaaaahh another month left...I'm not finally lost, yet. 🤣
LOL! It's fine :)
@@struthless We needed the extra time, in all honesty. :)
You give the people what they need. I am people.
I'm people too. 🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️
And I can't agree more.
can confirm. i am people too
i prefer 10 quality videos to 52 half done. These are so useful
Truth!!! ❤👍
Hahaahah sameeee
We're definitely only 5 months into the year. Don't give me anxiety like that, I still need to do my taxes 😅
The taxes part is too relatable 😂😆😩
🤣🤣🤣
Girl same!
Same 🥴🥴🥴
@@mesCheerios One step ahead of you! :p
I just got half a panic attack when you said the year is halfway done. It was january yesterday. 😭
same jesus christ what happened?
@@laurahigson8192 oh my no kidding
If it makes you feel any better, this video is basically like setting a due date a week before the actual one. This half of the year is only TECHNICALLY over at the end of June.
Frrrrr 😭
Really? I'm so happy it's already half this year. I was so stressed this past year up until May of this year. I work in public health and everything is finally *almost* getting back to normal and I can have more time to myself instead of working.
I never thought about the question "why do I deserve this change?" It's interesting. I saved this video because I don't have my journal with me. Also, my inner perfectionist (and procrastinator) thinks "oh, well, I need to find the perfect moment of the day to write."
I just subscribed we'll get you to a million! I also pre-ordered your book on Amazon, I can't wait!
1:29 *empty your head* brain dump. Your head is a computer and not a storage cabinet
2:19 *write down your goals from the start of the year*
3:11 *write down what you actually did in the fist half of the year*
4:11 *assess why you hit some goals and not others*
4:38 *write down your ideal second half of the year and WHY you want it*
5:22 *hierarchy of goals*
5:49 *who would you have to be to accomplish these goals*
6:40 *create a system where you can realistically hit these goals*
》(either create routines or break the goal into smaller chunks and turn them into habits)
》make the systems for when you're not at your best
7:55 *how do you stick to the plan when things get tough?*
8:48 *why do you deserve this improvement?*
9:17 *take the 1st step right now*
Thank you for time stamping these!!!
3:11 literally nothing lol
People like you must go to heaven.. thank youuuu 🙏🙏🙏🙏🌠🌠🌟🌟
@@Philipp-pz6yh I hear ya
Thank you soo much😭😭
Also, "the pain of NOT doing it > pain of doing it" hit me in the gut. From over a year I've been telling myself it's time to share my art with everyone, kept stalling it. I promised two days ago that I would do it starting 1st June but it's 22:00 and I chickened out. Then I see this video. 😂
Still some time left, go for it!
Hi, Devleena! Your comment struck gold with me, I guess at the end you just get tired of being afraid and just do it.
Go for it!
The world needs your art. Do it.❤️
I did! Thank you all, so much. I was very confused about my first post so I was late. (I'm literally sitting on mountains of art 😅)
If anyone would be interested it's @ccu2077 on Instagram. 🙏
What I appreciate so much about your videos is your acknowledgement that there is not just one way to do things, and that failure is normal. I have OCD and ADHD and I struggle a lot with fatigue and time management, so I often find that advice from neurotypical coaches etc. can be counter-productive or just end up making me feel discouraged. I love that you provide so many useful tips and strategies while reinforcing that life is unpredictable and that different people respond to different things. :)
"failure is normal" is the most comforting thing I have ever heard :)
OCD and ADHD here too! Life is... massively difficult, to say the least.
@@abbyanderbard lm
I'm totally with you on that! I have a Sensory Processing Disorder, and fml if it isn't a real bugger on the brain! Fatigue and time management, yeah, completely relative! The majority of people who don't have issues like these, typically don't get it, and oftentimes it causes more anxiety, which only feeds the cycle. The struggle is real, but stay strong sister. You got this!
You guys are brave, any chronic illness/disability, particularly cognitively, is extremely difficult. As someone who is in the recovery from chronic fatigue, just getting on an even footing and finding a groove again is a herculean effort and you should be proud no matter what the outcome is
You are the humanliest human i have seen on internet. I don't know how to explain it but that is a really good thing.
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The point about making your systems for you-on-a-hard-day is such a good idea, it seems so obvious that that would have a better chance of sticking! I'm going to try that instead of creating systems for superhuman-me. Great video as always!
This is frequently where I fuck up! I get all motivated and PMA and set ABSURD tasks for myself, like 5am Club stuff which inevitably fails and my systems and habits go to shit after a week or so. Most ridiculous thing is I know I'm doing it...but somehow making the small changes don't seem like enough of an effort so I just wallow about until I'm motivated again. Daft.
@@SimpleSustainableLife haa I feel ya😁....
.....😑
You've only made 10 videos, but it's always quality content whenever you put something out
True.
I really appreciate how much you de-dramaticize failure or the anxiety that comes with not connecting to a particular method. Yeah, it's all good, it's not a big deal, this is all figureoutable, we're not doomed. Definitely helpful to hear that attitude and encouragement from someone else!
Yea, sometimes we should just chill and not take life too seriously.
'First step usually isn't more self-improvement content'- lol, called out. But it feels so good to binge your content!
'Make the systems for when you are at your weakest not at your strongest'
That is such realistic and understanding foresight.
Bruh your humility and kindness ♥️ So glad the algorithm introduced us.
I don't think my life has ever been "on track" with what I wanted it to be or thought it would be. I have a lot I'm still working on this year, and I'm happy where I am even though it's not the path I thought I'd be on when I used to think about the future.
Great video and lots of food for thought
I'm amazed by how timely your videos always are with my current life. But I think it goes to show how we're all more similar than we think; despite living in different countries, with different lifestyles...we all have stories we can relate with, stories we can empathize with, and I think it's through these stories that we feel less alone and more hopeful that we can overcome them.
So thank you Struthless for making me feel less alone, for making me feel empowered, and for giving me so much practical tips and wisdom through your videos (I've been super grateful how frequent they are too!)
We're all just strangers on the internet (and you often refer to yourself as "that bald guy on the internet"), but at this point, we're all more than that. I think we've built a community of awkward, brave, kind, and whole-hearted people (you can tell I'm a Brené Brown fan HAHA)! Congrats on being 6 months sober too
oh my gosh, same! most of his videos come just as I need them
Right? Just yesterday I bought a second desk for my apartment, this new one is for studying only. I wanted to start exactly today with learning phsyics.
I can concentrate so much better without all the other (gaming related) stuff lying on the other desk. And now I even get recommend this video.
Congratulations
That was such a lovely comment to read. I've felt it!
I just rediscovered my old journals from the past 20 years. It's amazing how I've been dealing with the same struggles for that long. But I could see there were times I was making progress and how journaling was a big part of it. I am inspired to keep journaling for the next 20 years.
“take the first step right now.”
me lying in bed at 1:37am: 😳
Same, except it's 1:55 am for me. 😂 I'm still going to take the first step now though!
same
Watching this at 00:09 😅🤣
That comment scared the shit out of me
It's literally 1:37
@@p4gyt710 🤭
Dude you're the coolest. Thanks for what you do. I followed your advice for the 70% rule months ago and it really helped me be happier with what i made This advice is what I recommend to others who want to get their goals completed, thanks for sharing
I do follow his 70% rules.. I feel happier and when the result ain't so lucky. I thank myself instead of blame
well
you: "think about what you've done in the past year"
me: ....*cricket sound intensifies*
him: "think about what you've done in the past year"
me: "But that wasn't my fault! They are out of hospital by now!"
That was a dark joke :-)
Me: Man, I'm feeling a little aimless and stuck. I could probably use a reset and reevaluation of where I'm at and where I want to go.
Struthless: I got you bro.
Pretty sure July means half the year is over….
He's giving us a month's head start to get our shit together. ;)
june
June is the 6th month...
@@Jaylink15 lmao when the 6th month is over, then half the year is over
@@Jaylink15 therefore the last of the first half?
at the end of june we will be half way through I believe
It took me a few days to to the whole thing, because I get emotionally drained when untangling myself, but I did it!! And I feel satisfied. Thank you for making this booklet and video
I did this exercise on Sept. 30th (2022) and today it's Nov. 3rd, so, almost five weeks in. The relief and sense of direction has been enormous. I feel satisfaction knowing I'm working toward the things I've decided are most important. I have patience for the life projects and goals that I've decided *aren't* on my 'most important' list for this stretch of time--I'm no longer worrying I'm 'not doing enough' for them because they're simply waiting their turn. Thanks to the habits I set up with this system, I actually finished a new piece of music for the first time in years, and I adapted these steps to reflect on that project and figure out what the next one will be.
Basically, this was one of the most effective and clarifying tools I've ever tried. Thank you.
I like how he says he would love a million subscribers and now he is at that milestone. I am now motivated to accomplish my dreams in life
Dude, you give therapist sessions for free to all of us. Bless you.
This year is being crazy for me, I wanted to be a doctor but then my childhood dog died, and I needed to spent so much time with him so he would not die alone and scared. Than I decided that I will be a nurse, keep helping people but with more time for the ones I love in my personal life. I changed my room a little bit, started to study more English and Spanish, decided that I wanna learn how to sing, and that yoga really helps my mental health!!!!
I did not do anything that I said I would in January, however I'm learning so much about who I am, and who I wanna be for myself, and for the world, and for the spiritual world. I think I'm happy, that's scares me a little bit but I'm fine
Sorry for your loss! Hope you’re feeling better
ur vids helped me get back into school to do a access course and now I'm going to a top uni for art and design
WOW I named off the titles of videos on this channel to my bf and yelled "THIS CHANNEL WAS MADE FOR ME RIGHT!?!" LOVE These, so helpful!!!
I remember when I watched this video a year ago when it first came out. And now, as I am currently in a rut, I’m rewatching this video and doing the exercise. I’ve been in a rut because I’ve felt like I haven’t been very productive, but when I take a step back, I realize I’ve accomplished so much
A list of a few things I’ve done since the first time watching:
- (Sorta) got over my fear of driving and got my license
- Got accepted to college after two gap years thinking I couldn’t go back (and got scholarships and grants, so I won’t have to pay anything!)
- Started selling journals on Amazon
- Opened an Etsy shop for digital prints
- Got my first freelance writing gigs
- Started going out way more with friends and even went on a little road trip out of state, etc.
I’m glad I stumbled across this video again. You are a wise guy indeed! Thank you 🙏🏾
I mean, the second half of the year actually starts July 1 so if I procrastinate the next 30 days mind your business 🙃😉😅
😄😁😂
I was having a real moment of self-doubt and self-hate because I felt like Iike I hadn't moved forward at all since the beginning of this year (in fact even before that) but now I'm more motivated than ever. Followed your advice right away and took the first step for a better life. Thank you for helping me🙏
Your life is so on track that you were a month early! Love these videos. Thank you!
Literally the best, most motiviating, and practical video I have seen in the self-improvement community
The timing of this couldn’t have been better for me. I’ve hit a point of realisation and am aware that what I want doesn’t line up to what I’m doing. I’ve still managed to achieve some big goals this year, but this put into perspective how my systems and the effort I put in could have been very different (dare I say, easier? Simpler? Less exhausting? A lot to think about). Great vid, thank you!
You always have a fresh take on this stuff, they're never 'just another self improvement video'. Always super actionable and sympathetic while kicking your butt to do something. Thank you :)
It's scary how much youtube knows me .I thought about getting my life together boom I get recommended this video .And I gotta say I really like this video👍 .May everyone reading this achieve their goals
Legitimately the only channel that everytime I see a new video posted, I know I’m actually about to get helpful advice.
Kindly cover depression, self-loathing/hatred, low self-esteem, fear of the future(catastrophizing) and self-blame. Suffering from these and I am definitely doing what you have said in this video
I watched this a week ago and said I’d come back to it. I just spent 3 hours watching you talk about each step and then really going deep and doing it. I wrote so much, learned so much. I think the bit where you evaluate the reasons why some goals were achieved and some were not is so interesting. And the parts about the kind of person I want to be and why I deserve to meet my goals were so empowering. I feel completely different about my goals now, super clarified on my purpose and priorities. This video and channel is such a gem I will be reccomending it to anyone who could use it ❤️❤️
Thank you for calling me out! I’ve been watching self improvement vids all week and no action. Journalling right now!
Thank you for the content and the constant push to actually take the steps. This is definitely the hardest part for me, so I really appreciate you taking the time to call that out. Your videos are extremely helpful because they bring a sense of realness to self help and you always leave room for people to feel out what is best for them. Thanks again
Your timing is impeccable as usual!!! I was just thinking the other day that I should start giving myself half-year progress reports and here you are... Thanks dude!
Lately I've felt absolutely bulldozed by the overwhelming weight of everything going on right now, but just watching this video and doing these exercises in my mind eased it a bit. The first step for my mid-year reset will be buying a journal 😎
Every video and self improvement article I read just makes me believe that I can NEVER ever improve. For the past decade my life's been totally aimless with no motivation to the point that I don't know how people even have the energy to do the little things. ANYWAYS great video I hope it helps some people!
Every couple of months I kind of spiral and your videos always help me get my head above water again. Spent about an hour and half doing these steps after a very anxious weekend and I feel a lot better and more centered and focused again. Crazy how just writing down what you're thinking/how you're feeling goes so far and making stressors external instead of internal. Thanks again for another quality video.
You have really good taste in making graphics, colors, layouts ! Thanks for the video. I started with goal setting but my life flipped around, but still it's always fun when You can continue !
This is honestly life changing, gonna do this today to get a head start on the next half of the year ;)
I’ve always done a quarterly reset and I always start by cleaning my room and folding my clothes. A clean room and organized wardrobe always helps me to actually think about what I want to accomplish because I have the space and can see all the materials I have to work with to accomplish those things when it’s clean.
I never realized that I needed to rollerskate around Australia... but now that you've put that idea out into the world I can't stop thinking about doing it...
This one hits harder now( Because it's like seven months already. And I'm really struggling on the 'why I deserve it' section. I came up only with the idea that I've been saving money for several years for this endeavour, and it means I had to self-discipline financially at least. Nothing else seems to indicate I'm entitled to success because I guess I haven't grown professionally.
Me too haha ! But don't give up. It's better to start now than later! Best of luck mate 🍀
2:10 mark "i recommend to start with at least 3 pages"
me: my mom issues alone was 7 pages long and i haven't stopped, i still add paragraphs now and then
"I do not play with fire like that and I will not be doing that in my life."
Fast forward to making yourself run a marathon.
We always become so different to what we expect we'll be.
Props for running the marathon distance. Whatever it took to get you there.
I like how you are able to find and ask out loud all these hard questions. It's like a superpower.
The start of your vid resonates with me so much: Couple of minutes past midnight last night I was actually panicking a bit when I saw the date changing into June and actually talked to a friend how we´re basically at the half the year mark now and how we didn´t accomplished any bigger plans or dreams yet haha
Thank you for the vid and for the really realistic and practical tips , it actually helped me to calm down. Gonna go and take some action now. :D
Journaling just your thoughts helps you understand yourself. Have fun with it get a nice journal and a nice pen. Write what you want to say to someone. Write about a bird you saw. Write about anything. Just don't forget to date it.
This is by far the most useful and enjoyable content on UA-cam for me right now. Thank you for being so crazy relatable and kind to this world.
Its been around a month since I've found your channel and, man, you inspire me so much and help me so much. I had been trying to quit smoking for a while and some weeks ago I changed to "I actually don't like the taste of these", just as I did when I became a vegetarian. I haven’t smoken since and, boy, did I had people offering me those, but I simply did not feel like smoking. I have been walking too, long distances, and I decided I want to run a São Silvestre by the end of the year and for the first time I feel like I'll be able. I've been journaling a lot more since I found you and I love your prompts and how much I've been rethinking my life.
I was in a really dark place, pretty much that paralyzing anxiety from the beginning of this video, but I've been feeling like things will work out. Thank you.
I wish you all the best ❤
thank you, genuinely, right now i am not in a good state, mentally and for the first time, it's been shown in my works/ job and it scares me that i won't be able to pull it back and I will ruin all the achievements i have made so far with the actions i am making, i want to get better but it's hard
Me: Could use some encouragement today.
Universe: Say no more. (Ding goes the notification alert) *New Struthless video available*
That James Clear quote was loaded. Going to need a bit to unpack that one. Thanks!
Dude your channel is amazing, I have watched a few of your videos, but they help me a lot already. Thank you for doing what you do and please keep up the good work.
Mate, you are such a blessing because you are so easy to relate to. Thanks again for this & all the others you've done. You help hundreds of folk every day, so keep feeling good & stay strong 💜
instead of setting a career-ruining tweet, you should just set a sudoku puzzle to disarm your alarm. pro advices: also save money for a new phone
Shieeeet.... i gotta watch it again... I didn't have me journal...
Oh boy I shure dont hope the algorythm does not see me watching struthless 2x 🙃
You are literally my mentor at this point. Thank you SO much for this type of content. I can’t wait for the new book.
Dude, thanks a ton! For the past 3 days I've been literally freaking out about how it's already the June and I haven't done anything to reach about half of my this years goals. You give real and down to Earth advice and I'll give this a try - it really does sound good and actionable. :)
🍌 banana sticker for everyone who journaled today.
Hey struthless, you got anymore of your 2021 calendars hanging about for sale still?
Maybe you could do a reprint with only the last 6 months in it and call it The Arse End of 2021 calendar?
It's honestly kind of incredible how I always find your videos at the absolute perfect time. I have never encountered another creator who makes me feel so seen, understood, and personally challenged in the most positive and uplifting way. Whenever I'm struggling with something, I always run across one of your videos relating EXACTLY to my situation, and the way you break the problem down to make it seem less scary, more normal, more manageable, not to mention giving us PRACTICAL methods of overcoming those challenges.... I can't fully express how helpful it truly is.
THANK YOU for making the content that you do, for being vulnerable, and helping others like myself feel less alone.
Spent the last month in hospital. Thanks for the motivation to get back on the horse
Not sure when this channel pivoted from fucked up drawing of the Simpsons to insightful practical self-help but nice work 😎
"write down what you actually did in the first half of the year" - does "surviving" count?
Yes and yes and yes
Someone like you on the other side of the globe was trying to survive while managing life and dreams. That other person is me. And so many others.
You ve got this
Survival, rest, recovery. Relearning to be human, learning what human means to you. All counts.
@@kaoutardaoudi2338 thank you, I pray that you and the many others find your peace ☮️
@@Onthe9thlife3730 true, I've never asked myself what being human means... To me! Thank you for the insight 🐱
Brain dump journaling has been so helpful for me, I realize things make way more sense once I’ve formalized them in to sentences
I love you man, thanks for being a positive voice in a lot of people's life. most of us think we don't need it, but all of us do. Keep doing watcha doin cuz it's workin :)
i am 0% done w my goals:)
Thank you for being you. This video has truly given me so much to think about and it really solidified my inner calling to the blank page. In terms of filling it with art or even just words and this is just the beginning of a long exciting scenic road to somewhere I can't wait to arrive to. I hope that you are having a wonderful day filled with happiness and love.
This must be a sign!!! Im in a midlife crisis right now and your video came just at the right time, i dont know how God works but Im really greatful that you made this video 😁 pls keep up the great work a lot of people need the help!! 💕
this video includes basically every tip I know about the psychology behind trying to change behavior it just isn't stated outright
Struthless saving the day/week/month/year again- thank you and congratulations on 6months sober am so proud of you xx
I'm so happy that the UA-cam algorithm recommend your channel to me, it's exactly what I need! Thank you
Watched this 2 years in the future lol. Trying my best to become better every day. I recently moved and the thought of calling this place home gives me real bad anxiety. I need to find my groove again...
Thanks for the videos, you're always an inspiration 😊
This is exactly the pragmatic, humble, and realistic pep talk I needed. Thanks. 🙏
It took me 2 hours to sit and fill this whole thing out but I'm so glad I did. Having the "why do you deserve this?" At the very end was incredibly useful for me. I've made these kind of journals constantly for many years and it's been hard to actually stick with it but I feel like this one has actually left me with a simple system I can work with and adjust, despite being a massive perfectionist.
Dude...I love your videos, thank you for putting in the time, effort and sincerity to make these for all of us! They help a lot!
So inspiring! I I've been watching this video over and over again since yesterday, and I've started my Reset straight away. Thanks for having such a contagiously fun mood and for making our days better with your wisdom. Love your channel, you're doing great! 💫
Now, I'm SO HAPPY I could watch a youtube video that I actually got something out of and, get this, ***with no intrusive ads in the middle*** I'm crying tears of joy
You may not have posted many videos but these last couple are amazing. Spot on. Sometimes taking that extra time is way worth it. Thank you 🙏🏼
I love how realistic you are with goal setting because other videos I’ve seen only go as far as to say “make little goals and work your way up” but I love that you added the idea of setting a system for your harder days. You break it down so well, thank you!!
The first time I found this channel it was mostly art and now I’ve rediscovered it and all these videos are so helpful & inspiring! Thank you!
Your videos are always helpful! It comes across that you genuinely care about helping people and not just fluffing your own ego. Thank you for being you. ✌️
Your timing is impeccable. Even though it’s 10, your 10 videos this year happen to be so perfectly-worded and come at just the right time for me. Thank you ☺️ x
hey man, i love your videos, I've been going through a slow period with my music and videography and although the first half of my year was fairly positive and exciting, when I don't have immediate work and encouragement or reward, often I feel lost and directionless, this really helped me get back on track, I journaled and followed all the steps right along with you in the video. Thanks for this.
dude youre gonna be the best dad ever.
I just found your channel and believe me that your videos have helped me a lot, I am glad to have the perspective of an illustrator because the way you describe how you feel, I feel, it’s much better to know that you are not alone in the world. keep it up you're doing an excellent job
I was going to post about the whole 5-6 month thing. Saw that you'd already joked about it and other people joked about it, and you took it really well and rolled with it. I'm a wicked self-critical person, and seeing that in tangent with having watched a lot of your content spoke a lot to me. You seem like an awesome human. Keep doing your thing ma dude. Much love.
I love how you put yourself out on your channel sharing all the weaknesses and insecurities openly in an amusing way ..... 😊
This year has stripped me of identity and ambition and it’s been very freeing, scary at first but I had to heal and stop throwing myself at walls.
I was diagnosed with autism and ptsd
I feel like I understand my limits so much better now. I’m no longer measuring my achievements against nuerotypical people. And I no longer feel like I have to hide. I was terrified of letting people down. Terrified of letting them see me.
I almost didn’t click on this video, because I didn’t want to wake up the beast that is my ambition.
There is a certain heartbreak in realizing your nervous system will never let you do the things you thought you would do.
But a bit of relief.
I am never going to sing and dance in my favorite shows, but I can write my own comedy Caberet.
I’m not going to tour with a band and see the world, I need familiarity in my environment to function, but I can get a regular gig at the same bar every Thursday and connect with people.
I may not ever have children, but I can volunteer and work at preschools, and be part of the community.
🥰
I appreciate you so very much for this video. I definitely needed it because typical journaling or task writing is not effective but you broke down every step and I needed that. You are doing a great job as a person and we need more people like you