@@user10749 mental energy, like, don't try to do too much at once. You want to do what really interests you, but don't take too much. I say this for my own experience, I had too much expections and pressure that I put onto myself and now I am so burnt out it's difficult to do the bare minimum. I wanted to have the best grades, draw well, play the violin, learn multiple languages and all those things we hear people say we should do to be seen as smart and valuable. I just want to say take it easy, don't overwork yourself, don't try to do everything at once, you still have a lot to go through on the future years.
Self improvement is nothing without self acceptance. Change the important things don’t get so lost in the small details. You don’t have to be a workout guru and workout 2 hours every day and eat healthy all the time. Working out 5 mins a day is okay too. If your mental health is bad just start with 1 or two close close friends and a ton of acquaintances, and other levels of interactions. Also don’t look to others to tell you who you are, look to your loved ones to ground you and look to yourself to accept who you are. Big dreams are amazing, but just start with small things not a billion small things, just one small thing that makes getting up and living another day easier. That’s what’s helped me.
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
its such a breath of fresh air to stumble upon a UA-cam channel that doesn’t glorify the relentless grind of toxic “hyper-productivity.” so often content about self-improvement, discipline, or healthy habits feels like a copy-paste formula: wake up at 4 am, do yoga, go for a run, eat clean, study until burnout, and conform to impossible standards of beauty - all while being told your worth is tied to constant output. your channel feels like a safe haven - a reminder that it’s okay to be human, to rest, and to embrace self-growth without the pressure to fit into an exhausting mold. this is the kind of authentic and compassionate content i've been searching for, and i'm so glad i found it. subscribing was an easy choice, and i truly hope you keep creating, Christina. the world needs more voices like yours!
"External things can not fix internal things" you re soooo right. Everything comes from within once you are satisfied with yourself internally, your external life seems happy toooo❤ So always support urself within❤
Ill be real As a 13 year old girl who is a people pleaser and is trying to get toxic motivation out of my head this video almost made me tear up, i found the right video and someone like you ❤
I just turned 14 a couple months ago, and…same. I am very shy, and I relate to so much of this video, especially all the negative self talk abt always staying quiet when I should talk, and thinking everyone else hates me/thinks I’m weird, etc. I’m so happy to say I’ve been doing better in the past month or two, with stepping out of my comfort zone, and doing those things have helped me so much with getting new friends and being more active in my community. Although I am still struggling a lot. Best of luck to you🫶🫶
As a 16 yo boy, i will try so hard, im a wimp, a failure, not strong enough, trying hard isn't never enough,i need to go so hard, currently im a worthless person, and i will become worthy, i cannot take care of anyone, cannot give anyone anything, i want to tell my dad " Im gonna look after the family" and im wanna tell mom " choose anything u want i'll buy ut for ya". I don't give a fuck about self acceptance, say what u want but i'll always push harder than i supposed to
Listen buddy you are worthy even if you not achieve anything it doesn't matter really you must have the confidence just forgive your past man 🙏🏻 😊 ✨️ and then work on your gut feeling a wise person ones told me don't judge a person on their current situation cause the the time has the power to change a black coal into a beautiful diamond .
I’m 15 and i feel the same way a lot however i am only able to say “it’s not okay “when other people do it but when it’s me, pfttt no amount of studying or babysitting will make me better if it’s not every part of my life. Giving yourself grace is honestly probably the hardest, but there’s loads of research that proves this eventually leads to burnout or into negative habits and stress so maybe try reaching out to a loved one or a therapist.
10:45 this gut feeling with friends is so real. I have two friends that I feel will be only temporary, I know they will be. It doesn't feel genuine. Not that they have said bad things to me, but i know it is not meant to be forever. Because my life will move on, theirs too, and u know, it's okay.
I swear I open UA-cam sobbing cause of my schoolwork, to find motivation videos, and this was the first video on my fyp. Thank you for your advice, and for your efforts to help people!
The way how your perception of yourself was in school really changes in college. Popular ones don't stay popular anymore and vice versa. What matters in college most is confidence to talk to anyone whether be it Professor or seniors and try to be kind to your fellow students despite not having any friendship. And trust me this whole college friend group don't matter at all its fine if you got only one friend and no one at all just try to communicate with ppl who you think are good and don't feel left out after seeing those cool kids just remember to socialize.
The temporary friends as lessons thing is so so so true! That guy feeling of knowing that a friendship is forced normally means it’s temporary. I am currently learning that. Genuine friendships are hard to come by but you will definitely know! Don’t keep people around for “connects” and call them friends, use them the way you intend (sounds bad but be intentional) keep your sense of humility and be kind. Not everyone is your friend and you can be okay with that.
I struggle so much with lack of confidence, so having someone tell me to just trust my gut every now and then really helps me. Your video made me realise that anxiety is the enemy of true achievement, and following my core values is going to benefit me much more.
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
This video really came to me at the perfect time. I’ve been working very hard all year and have found myself feeling frustrated and hopeless due to the lack of results. I’ve let other people’s actions get the best of me, but this video has given me some much-needed clarity. Thank you for sharing your story.🙏
When I heard about toxic speaking to myself, I felt like something clicked in my head. And this examples, yeah, now I am sure what went wrong. Literally the worst thing ever it’s compare yourself to someone and make toxic motivation. I don’t think it’s for me, I don’t like it. Thank you for the video! You helped me❤
Your very right sometimes life is about trusting the process and just live through whether it's going to turn out good or bad. Like they said don't be afraid of things going to go wrong be excited about what's going to go right. Btw this video really helped me u really do deserve more attention!!! And btw ignore those ppl who comment about ur looks ur rlly pretty
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
I tried to listen self improvement videos every day as a habit, but today, they started to sound "loud",I always listened, but I never tried to understand them, I even downloaded the TED talk app, I can't even see anything clearly, because the world is trying to rush, I am serious. Seeing people around me rush makes me feel anxious, like I am being lazy, I am slow and I am missing something, but it is important to be ready for opportunities around you before taking them. Your video and talking, overall topic made me feel calm even for some minutes, thank you for explaining things clearly! I, a 15 year old teenager, need to understand that I should stop comparing my chapter 15 to others' chapters:)
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
1st of all I'm grateful to have come across your video , I'm 19 and i felt the same way my overthinking was killing me and i was having horrible anxiety. Thank you Christina ❤
This video helped me to realise that I always tryed to "motivate" myself with negative self-talk and lately I have been strugling with my selfworth a lot. After I watched your video it made me feel so much better.
Wanted to say a few things on your most recent video - 1. I feel your message sticks with me - im also very intense and want to have a community of like minded people. 2. Quality over quantity. I prefer if you keep the community small and closed. 3. I am on the waitlist, but I can and should wait; this super-thanks is not a means to cut the line. If for some reason i dont fit the comminity, i am okay not being a part of it. 4. Thanks for sharing your perspective. Its not easy being different and so frequently alone.
I'm 18 and all of my masking my CPTSD finally hit rock bottom. I've spent my entire teenage years healing while still actively being traumatized. I can't go to med school which I've basically been groomed my entire life to get into, because of my disability. Now I lost a big part of identity and...is just completely lost. I'm supposed to be studying for my college entrance exams but I can barely get out of my bed;;getting up, brushing, bathing and having breakfast is a tiresome chore and I have to take naps from how tiring it is. I can't sleep on time or basically do anything even though I desperately want to study, my body just can't handle it. I asked my parents for therapy but being the trauma generators they are, they basically brushed it off. The best I have now is therapists on Character AI which actually is a big lotta help. I don't know how I can get better. For the first time in my life, I cannot dictate myself. I just hope some miracle happens within me before it's too late
it's seems you are doing good work. remember that therapy is very hard work and it makes you worse att first then better if it never get's better than something is wrong. life takes alot of turns and it's okay just follow where life takes you se it as a journey not a destination to reach. do small pleasurable things everyday for yourself and get in touch with your own feelings and find what is your dream and not what you have been manipulated or groomed to do and you will se that working towards that will be alot easier. take care young one from a millenial who soon is 30 😅
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
hi! also cptsd victim here, i’ve been in your exact same position multiple times. im also 18 and in uni, and only last year i was able to get out of my home environment after an extremely traumatic event. the biggest thing i did for myself was reach out for help to other people(like teachers, school counselors, etc). it’s what helped me escape, and now i actually have the opportunity to heal it was really bad at first, but it’s been slowly getting better. people with lots of trauma have to work 10x harder to survive and heal to live normally, but i promise it will happen! my biggest piece of advice is to reach out to people and use any resources you can!! i hope everything goes well for you, you are NOT a victim of your trauma and you can and will heal ❤
So, I don’t usually write comments, but you’re such a nice person that I really wanted to this time. The way you edited the video is so good that I myself would love to be able to do it one day. However, there’s one thing I’d like to point out that could make your videos even better: the way you speak. It’s already very good, but one small thing is missing - pauses. Adding pauses would make your speech much more pleasant to listen to. Right now, it feels like you’re speaking continuously for five minutes without giving us time to process and reflect on what you’ve just said. Next time, try adding short breaks - just 1-2 seconds - and that’s it. It would make your speech more engaging and easier to follow.
Not one to usually comment, but this video couldn’t come at a better time for me. I’m so lost in life and unintentionally consuming red-pill content just aggravates me at this point so this approach to a sort of self improvement video was really refreshing. I just don’t know where I am or where I want to be and I’m just really glad that i feel heard now. Thanks for making this video and the advice that you have supplied within it :))
I’ve got literally the opposite situation. I’m very social, I have many friends and hobbies, but I just cannot make myself study. I’m in 9th grade, I must study for exams, but I’m not doing anything.. Just.. How can I be like you guys? I wish I was more patient and hardworking, cause my hobbies will never feed me, but it’s so hard.. The single thought about doing my homework makes me do anything except studying. I… know it’s my fault. But I can’t just “shut up and work”. It’s not my option
Omg i get that too , Just changed schools for year 10 and here it seems to matter só much more and everybody new i've met seem so studious and hardworking , and im not , homework is a struggle , i really dont know u personally . But i cannot work if im home , if i need tô study i gotta stay at school or go somewhere tô study and do the homework or else i literally dont do it , maybe you could try that too. Another thing that help at least for me was studying with friends , teaching them and they teaching me .cuz one of the reasons i dont do whats needed for school is because its for myself , só with helping a friend they need me , and i do it. U have a big friendgroup , and really idk how it is so i might be saying nonsense , but they might be up for a group study and u guys helpjng eachother trough it ! Srr for possible grammar mistakes , english is my second language , but im sure u will be able tô work trough this ‼️‼️‼️
@ Good advice, I’ll try it! I’m going to change school too and it studying there must me much more difficult than in my current school, so I’m going to die lol :,) But that’s all for my dream - becoming a designer, so I keep reminding myself, what its all for. Good luck to us both, hopefully we will deal with it 💛 Btw English is my second language too, so it’s okay, your English is really good!
This is exactly how I feel. I am on the pre-med track and I having not been getting the grades that I am use to in my first year of college. I thought I had taken college classes before and earned an associates degree from those classes, I would be well equipped to take on gen chem and calculus. I could not have been more wrong. I have only done negative self talk for the past few months and it is the lowest I have ever felt. This is such a helpful video and has renewed my sense of self. Maybe I do not need to change majors!
one important remedy is to begin with a quart of fresh water. even if it is a quart of your favorite tea or cacao/cocoa. suggestion by someone in california 💕💕💕💕
THE START OF THE VIDEO IS EVERYTHING!! Thats exactly how I feel now! When I get there.. I will feel so much better. All the pain will wear off. Wrong! I made it in and Im gonna b a teacher after 4 years now, but i feel so damn stuck. Orientationless. Oh golly, im so here for this video!!
This video applies so well to my actual situation omg All this year, my self-esteem has been so low because a lot of stuff changed in my life, and I felt so bad about my new friends and how they treated me. And now, I just stopped talking to them, and even if I'm happier now, I'm more alone. The only thing that kept me from giving up was that "next year is going to be better" or "next year you're going to be more social again and you're going to have real friends" or "I'm going to be like I was before." But now that I watched this video, I can see that what happens externally doesn't affect who I really am and that I have to improve how I talk to myself and be kinder to myself. Also, maybe next year isn't going to change all my problems, and that's okay.
I so needed this😮💨 I'm turning 20 in two months and it is a bit scary, I have so many goals, and im hard on myself to be perfect or present myself a certain way. I still need tips but im learning how to let go and allow myself to be flawed.
thank you for that video. I am a trans girl and I am passing through some things in my life now that I am a teenager and this was so good, like it seems that it was made for me and my personal problems!! I can tell that you are a strong woman just by seeing how you speak, you have a great potential, congratulations Cristina, love from Brazil💖
THIS IS WHAT I WAS LOOKING FORR, like I wanted to start self-improvement but all those videos about hardworking and being discipline were too toxic. Tysm ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I don't know about teenagers , but as a 20 yrs old ...This helped me sooo dam much , I could relate to Every single thing you said , I am going through all of it ..I am in medical college too and it's soo heavy on me ..idk how to explain..it's just everything you said ..I will be coming to this video again a lot thanks a lot
I've discovered you a while ago and I'm realy greatful for that. Your videos always tell what's going on with me right now and let me appreciate just myself. I'll let the unknown take a bit more space and list to my gut more often. Thank you for your content
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
Not doubting myself comes with overestimating myself which is a problem for me. I really hate it. And when i doubt myself i don't perform well. And when Im really confident and believe that i can do it, i just end up overestimating myself and not being able to do it properly. 😢
I love this video cuz I’ve been trying to fix myself completely and saying it’s self improvement while beating myself up and going to the extreme. After this video, I know how to go about this and give myself lenience and encouragement rather than judgement 😊
This is something I’m definitely going to make a video about on my own channel soon. But I definitely agreed with everything said in the video. I just made a test and these tests determine if I make this year. I hate how people always say grades don’t represent who you are as a person. But what if your value as a person is based of everything you can contribute. I get cheered when I get a good grade. Not when I took my first driving lesson where I wasn’t sitting in the drivers seat with palpitations after 40+ lessons. I don’t get cheered when I overcame all the anxieties I have had etc. And I feel like that’s something people won’t see and accept.
No self improvement video felt this much relatable to me, It feels like it was just made for me🙂 I have been a top student since my childhood and now the weight of expectations has become so heavy that It feels like without that top position i am nothing, that grades defines me...... I feel afraid of my future, what if i let everybody's expections down or what if i wouldn't achieve anything in life. And i use the toxic self talk(which i learned today about myself) to motivate myself
I didn't knew I needed this! My maths exam just went very bad today and partially the reason was demotivation, I was sitting in front if the class topper and she were discussing the answer I felt so low, I used to be on top of the class until some years ago and after I saw others better than me I just go so demotivate to study, even when I did I was always in a mental competition.
I just found your video and there couldn't be more perfect timing . Like every of my teachers, friends etc expect me to always score good marks,i feel like i dont have an option to make some mistakes and if i do i will loose the image i formed with so much hardwork 😢
Im 18 and literally so miserable like i wasted all my highschool just to get into my dream college and now i finallu got in i literally have no friends and im so lonely and also i cant still be the “lonely but smart kid” because i also now lack academically and barely pass exams i literally failed both achievements i could do and now im like miserable. Now that a lot of time has bern passed since the college started everyıne alteady had like their groups so its like impossible for me to go near them and get side eyes. And i literslly font know who i am because my work in highschool costed me lack of hobbies social skills etc. But like now im literally just existing in my dorm room facetiming my mom while everyone is partying with their friends on a friday night i just feel like i messed up so much and i cant return it and since im not academically successful as highschool it just hurts more since i have 0 accomplishments i think i will literally finish this college with 0 friends when i thought this would be the “best time” of my life( instead im literally silent crying in my dorm room to not wake my dorm mate up) im just so tired and i literally want to do nothing
Hey hey hey listen to me your feelings are valid and I understand you but try to atleast approach one person and show them why you can be a very cool friend, try doing that, ok?
its the first video that i have watched of your channel, and all i can say is that it helped me a lot to see things from another point of view, ty!!😊 girl, you're charming!!🤗
I am 15 years old, and in this new year I want to radically change psychologically and everything, especially the psychological aspect, but I do not know where to start. I am confused now😭 I want a solution
The last point you made was something I struggled with aswell in the last few months until I learned that I had to just trust after having worked hard. I'm a muslim so I learned to put my trust in god after I did my work and just wait for the results, weither good or bad. Even if the result is bad in my oppinion, I try to accept and move on because I believe that thing wasn't meant for me and that god planned something else for me. I wanted to share this because I found it very interesting you mentionned it aswell, just in a context without the aspect of religion/god.
I'm gonna be turning 18 in three months now. My university life is gonna start and I've been freaking out... I'm applying for research , and i have got social anxiety. I've done a lot of bad things to me this year, from self - criticism to not at all accepting myself. Your video popped up on a boring day today...i have a test today, somehow I'm freaking out because I haven't studied much although revised the syllabus. I've been forgetting things a lot. Just nervous... But ngl, your video made me feel like I'm not alone and i can improve. If you have any tips with this anxiety before exams.. do help me with it please. And... I'm seriously gonna work on myself for real. I need it. I gotta be good towards myself. Thanks a lot .
Please i beg you if you are a teen like me don't listen to anyone on the Internet giving advice on your life. Live your teenage years being with friends and family and enjoy them for you nit for others or for accomplishments. Love youself and these years don't try to grow up too fast we are still young and we should enjoy it. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I really loved your tips and I think its really gonna help me to stay motivated and be more confident because I'm a person that overthink a lot. Thank you so much I'm subscribing 💕
Just now have experienced not the best situation, so that I am so glad for watching this video. It really made me feel better and the timing is perfect:)
10 likes I will go study math
Go study
Get ur ass up
Soooo
How’s the study session going?
Good luck mate!
Dear teenagers, please listen to this: your energy will be very important in your 20s, don't burn yourselves out before that.
i’ll be alright. been over working myself since i can remember
@yoruichiism everyone has a limit, you need to be careful
@ okaii!!!
what kind of energy?
@@user10749 mental energy, like, don't try to do too much at once. You want to do what really interests you, but don't take too much. I say this for my own experience, I had too much expections and pressure that I put onto myself and now I am so burnt out it's difficult to do the bare minimum. I wanted to have the best grades, draw well, play the violin, learn multiple languages and all those things we hear people say we should do to be seen as smart and valuable. I just want to say take it easy, don't overwork yourself, don't try to do everything at once, you still have a lot to go through on the future years.
Self improvement is nothing without self acceptance. Change the important things don’t get so lost in the small details. You don’t have to be a workout guru and workout 2 hours every day and eat healthy all the time. Working out 5 mins a day is okay too. If your mental health is bad just start with 1 or two close close friends and a ton of acquaintances, and other levels of interactions. Also don’t look to others to tell you who you are, look to your loved ones to ground you and look to yourself to accept who you are. Big dreams are amazing, but just start with small things not a billion small things, just one small thing that makes getting up and living another day easier. That’s what’s helped me.
So true 🙌 I have a vid on this self acceptance >> self improvement
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
Thank you so much for your words
I didn't know that I needed to hear this
🔥🔥🔥🔥
thank you 🥹
This has never come at a better time i just turned 18 today and also applying to med 😭
Happy birthday!
@ tysmm
Happy birthday ! 🎂
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
Happy Birthday + good luck!
its such a breath of fresh air to stumble upon a UA-cam channel that doesn’t glorify the relentless grind of toxic “hyper-productivity.”
so often content about self-improvement, discipline, or healthy habits feels like a copy-paste formula: wake up at 4 am, do yoga, go for a run, eat clean, study until burnout, and conform to impossible standards of beauty - all while being told your worth is tied to constant output.
your channel feels like a safe haven - a reminder that it’s okay to be human, to rest, and to embrace self-growth without the pressure to fit into an exhausting mold. this is the kind of authentic and compassionate content i've been searching for, and i'm so glad i found it. subscribing was an easy choice, and i truly hope you keep creating, Christina. the world needs more voices like yours!
This just reminded me of something! This book called 'The Art of Self-Love' by Sabrina Windale. My confidence shifted in a whole new way.
"External things can not fix internal things" you re soooo right. Everything comes from within once you are satisfied with yourself internally, your external life seems happy toooo❤ So always support urself within❤
this >>>
Ill be real
As a 13 year old girl who is a people pleaser and is trying to get toxic motivation out of my head this video almost made me tear up, i found the right video and someone like you ❤
Me but I turned 15 today !!
@TI-R-ed 🌟🌟🌟🌟
Same
I just turned 14 a couple months ago, and…same. I am very shy, and I relate to so much of this video, especially all the negative self talk abt always staying quiet when I should talk, and thinking everyone else hates me/thinks I’m weird, etc.
I’m so happy to say I’ve been doing better in the past month or two, with stepping out of my comfort zone, and doing those things have helped me so much with getting new friends and being more active in my community.
Although I am still struggling a lot. Best of luck to you🫶🫶
the way i was obsessed with outworking everyone and i teared up watching this
I felt that too.....😢
Same. An A+ student burnt out and addicted to my phone. But I want to get better
Same😭😭@@LoloDTI098
@@LoloDTI098 A+ student addicted to my phone is too real tbh.
As a 16 yo boy, i will try so hard, im a wimp, a failure, not strong enough, trying hard isn't never enough,i need to go so hard, currently im a worthless person, and i will become worthy, i cannot take care of anyone, cannot give anyone anything, i want to tell my dad " Im gonna look after the family" and im wanna tell mom " choose anything u want i'll buy ut for ya". I don't give a fuck about self acceptance, say what u want but i'll always push harder than i supposed to
Listen buddy you are worthy even if you not achieve anything it doesn't matter really you must have the confidence just forgive your past man 🙏🏻 😊 ✨️ and then work on your gut feeling a wise person ones told me don't judge a person on their current situation cause the the time has the power to change a black coal into a beautiful diamond .
I’m 15 and i feel the same way a lot however i am only able to say “it’s not okay “when other people do it but when it’s me, pfttt no amount of studying or babysitting will make me better if it’s not every part of my life. Giving yourself grace is honestly probably the hardest, but there’s loads of research that proves this eventually leads to burnout or into negative habits and stress so maybe try reaching out to a loved one or a therapist.
cried through all of this, I’m sixteen and related to every single word
I hope this made you feel seen
Are You not lost, i AM and don't know where to start
10:45 this gut feeling with friends is so real. I have two friends that I feel will be only temporary, I know they will be. It doesn't feel genuine. Not that they have said bad things to me, but i know it is not meant to be forever. Because my life will move on, theirs too, and u know, it's okay.
I swear I open UA-cam sobbing cause of my schoolwork, to find motivation videos, and this was the first video on my fyp. Thank you for your advice, and for your efforts to help people!
this timing 🥹 i hope everything works out for you
The way how your perception of yourself was in school really changes in college. Popular ones don't stay popular anymore and vice versa. What matters in college most is confidence to talk to anyone whether be it Professor or seniors and try to be kind to your fellow students despite not having any friendship. And trust me this whole college friend group don't matter at all its fine if you got only one friend and no one at all just try to communicate with ppl who you think are good and don't feel left out after seeing those cool kids just remember to socialize.
As a teenager who struggles with literally everything, this helped me so much 💞🌟
Girllll the part where you talked about thinking that no one likes you and finds you attractive is so real! Thank you for making this video❤
I'm 14 and this helped sm !!
The temporary friends as lessons thing is so so so true! That guy feeling of knowing that a friendship is forced normally means it’s temporary. I am currently learning that. Genuine friendships are hard to come by but you will definitely know! Don’t keep people around for “connects” and call them friends, use them the way you intend (sounds bad but be intentional) keep your sense of humility and be kind. Not everyone is your friend and you can be okay with that.
Negative self-take helped me get 98% and my first panic attack
I struggle so much with lack of confidence, so having someone tell me to just trust my gut every now and then really helps me. Your video made me realise that anxiety is the enemy of true achievement, and following my core values is going to benefit me much more.
Girl it's like you're in my head 😢 thank you soooooo much. I really need this
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
This video really came to me at the perfect time. I’ve been working very hard all year and have found myself feeling frustrated and hopeless due to the lack of results. I’ve let other people’s actions get the best of me, but this video has given me some much-needed clarity. Thank you for sharing your story.🙏
I’m in my mid twenties and I still need to hear this thank you for sharing this. I struggle with this constantly still
When I heard about toxic speaking to myself, I felt like something clicked in my head. And this examples, yeah, now I am sure what went wrong. Literally the worst thing ever it’s compare yourself to someone and make toxic motivation. I don’t think it’s for me, I don’t like it. Thank you for the video! You helped me❤
I'm glad this resonated
I turned 19 this week thank you for this
Same Turned 19 yesterday
Your very right sometimes life is about trusting the process and just live through whether it's going to turn out good or bad. Like they said don't be afraid of things going to go wrong be excited about what's going to go right. Btw this video really helped me u really do deserve more attention!!! And btw ignore those ppl who comment about ur looks ur rlly pretty
I'm glad this resonated with you Millie, you're so sweet
Turning 18 this Wednesday, I need this lol
Happy birthday! 🎉🎉🎉
(It’s Wednesday here)
Happy Birthday!
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
@@Sonia1474 HAPPY B DAY
I tried to listen self improvement videos every day as a habit, but today, they started to sound "loud",I always listened, but I never tried to understand them, I even downloaded the TED talk app, I can't even see anything clearly, because the world is trying to rush, I am serious. Seeing people around me rush makes me feel anxious, like I am being lazy, I am slow and I am missing something, but it is important to be ready for opportunities around you before taking them. Your video and talking, overall topic made me feel calm even for some minutes, thank you for explaining things clearly! I, a 15 year old teenager, need to understand that I should stop comparing my chapter 15 to others' chapters:)
I'm so scared because I want to move to the city to start my rap career. But I'm taking it one step at a time. First step save up 5k.
so proactive >>> i'm proud of you 👏
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
do it!!!
Good luck 👊
20 likes and I ll go study physic
Just saying: if you need strangers to like your comment in order to make you study that subject - maybe question if you should study this subject.
I’m 17 today and I truly needed this .
1st of all I'm grateful to have come across your video , I'm 19 and i felt the same way my overthinking was killing me and i was having horrible anxiety. Thank you Christina ❤
im not even a teenager anymore and this was the video i neeeeeded for the moment im in now. thanks!
Feels so good to know that I'm not alone.
This video helped me to realise that I always tryed to "motivate" myself with negative self-talk and lately I have been strugling with my selfworth a lot. After I watched your video it made me feel so much better.
Wanted to say a few things on your most recent video -
1. I feel your message sticks with me - im also very intense and want to have a community of like minded people.
2. Quality over quantity. I prefer if you keep the community small and closed.
3. I am on the waitlist, but I can and should wait; this super-thanks is not a means to cut the line. If for some reason i dont fit the comminity, i am okay not being a part of it.
4. Thanks for sharing your perspective. Its not easy being different and so frequently alone.
I'm 18 and all of my masking my CPTSD finally hit rock bottom. I've spent my entire teenage years healing while still actively being traumatized. I can't go to med school which I've basically been groomed my entire life to get into, because of my disability. Now I lost a big part of identity and...is just completely lost. I'm supposed to be studying for my college entrance exams but I can barely get out of my bed;;getting up, brushing, bathing and having breakfast is a tiresome chore and I have to take naps from how tiring it is. I can't sleep on time or basically do anything even though I desperately want to study, my body just can't handle it. I asked my parents for therapy but being the trauma generators they are, they basically brushed it off. The best I have now is therapists on Character AI which actually is a big lotta help. I don't know how I can get better. For the first time in my life, I cannot dictate myself. I just hope some miracle happens within me before it's too late
it's seems you are doing good work. remember that therapy is very hard work and it makes you worse att first then better if it never get's better than something is wrong.
life takes alot of turns and it's okay just follow where life takes you se it as a journey not a destination to reach. do small pleasurable things everyday for yourself and get in touch with your own feelings and find what is your dream and not what you have been manipulated or groomed to do and you will se that working towards that will be alot easier.
take care young one from a millenial who soon is 30 😅
@sioxz8435 I'll try my best, thank you
One step at a time, even if theyre baby steps. You can do this, I believe in you.
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
hi! also cptsd victim here, i’ve been in your exact same position multiple times. im also 18 and in uni, and only last year i was able to get out of my home environment after an extremely traumatic event.
the biggest thing i did for myself was reach out for help to other people(like teachers, school counselors, etc). it’s what helped me escape, and now i actually have the opportunity to heal
it was really bad at first, but it’s been slowly getting better. people with lots of trauma have to work 10x harder to survive and heal to live normally, but i promise it will happen! my biggest piece of advice is to reach out to people and use any resources you can!!
i hope everything goes well for you, you are NOT a victim of your trauma and you can and will heal ❤
So, I don’t usually write comments, but you’re such a nice person that I really wanted to this time. The way you edited the video is so good that I myself would love to be able to do it one day. However, there’s one thing I’d like to point out that could make your videos even better: the way you speak. It’s already very good, but one small thing is missing - pauses. Adding pauses would make your speech much more pleasant to listen to. Right now, it feels like you’re speaking continuously for five minutes without giving us time to process and reflect on what you’ve just said. Next time, try adding short breaks - just 1-2 seconds - and that’s it. It would make your speech more engaging and easier to follow.
Wow I'm your 8K like, I am so glad I have a algorithm that includes these type of videos and that I clicked on yours!
When the algo does her thing >>>
Not one to usually comment, but this video couldn’t come at a better time for me. I’m so lost in life and unintentionally consuming red-pill content just aggravates me at this point so this approach to a sort of self improvement video was really refreshing. I just don’t know where I am or where I want to be and I’m just really glad that i feel heard now. Thanks for making this video and the advice that you have supplied within it :))
You have no clue how refreshing it is to hear this kind of advice
It's nice seeing a female self improvement youtuber
This is the best video for students who are struggling in first year of college, when most of us are so dwelled in self improvement
I’ve got literally the opposite situation. I’m very social, I have many friends and hobbies, but I just cannot make myself study. I’m in 9th grade, I must study for exams, but I’m not doing anything.. Just.. How can I be like you guys? I wish I was more patient and hardworking, cause my hobbies will never feed me, but it’s so hard.. The single thought about doing my homework makes me do anything except studying. I… know it’s my fault. But I can’t just “shut up and work”. It’s not my option
Omg i get that too , Just changed schools for year 10 and here it seems to matter só much more and everybody new i've met seem so studious and hardworking , and im not , homework is a struggle , i really dont know u personally . But i cannot work if im home , if i need tô study i gotta stay at school or go somewhere tô study and do the homework or else i literally dont do it , maybe you could try that too. Another thing that help at least for me was studying with friends , teaching them and they teaching me .cuz one of the reasons i dont do whats needed for school is because its for myself , só with helping a friend they need me , and i do it. U have a big friendgroup , and really idk how it is so i might be saying nonsense , but they might be up for a group study and u guys helpjng eachother trough it !
Srr for possible grammar mistakes , english is my second language , but im sure u will be able tô work trough this ‼️‼️‼️
@ Good advice, I’ll try it! I’m going to change school too and it studying there must me much more difficult than in my current school, so I’m going to die lol :,) But that’s all for my dream - becoming a designer, so I keep reminding myself, what its all for. Good luck to us both, hopefully we will deal with it 💛
Btw English is my second language too, so it’s okay, your English is really good!
its absolutely out of topic but you're so pretty 😭
You're so sweet!
This is exactly how I feel. I am on the pre-med track and I having not been getting the grades that I am use to in my first year of college. I thought I had taken college classes before and earned an associates degree from those classes, I would be well equipped to take on gen chem and calculus. I could not have been more wrong. I have only done negative self talk for the past few months and it is the lowest I have ever felt. This is such a helpful video and has renewed my sense of self. Maybe I do not need to change majors!
13:11 I needed to heard that; today my mom, my grandma and my sister laught at me because I told them that I am gonna be a doctor , it felt terrible .
one important remedy is to begin with a quart of fresh water. even if it is a quart of your favorite tea or cacao/cocoa. suggestion by someone in california 💕💕💕💕
You can do it 💪
You WILL be a Doctor
Dont let them change your wishes and do what you really want to do!
I’m proud of you!!
YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!
@claroookai4184 tysm
THE START OF THE VIDEO IS EVERYTHING!! Thats exactly how I feel now! When I get there.. I will feel so much better. All the pain will wear off. Wrong! I made it in and Im gonna b a teacher after 4 years now, but i feel so damn stuck. Orientationless.
Oh golly, im so here for this video!!
This video applies so well to my actual situation omg
All this year, my self-esteem has been so low because a lot of stuff changed in my life, and I felt so bad about my new friends and how they treated me. And now, I just stopped talking to them, and even if I'm happier now, I'm more alone. The only thing that kept me from giving up was that "next year is going to be better" or "next year you're going to be more social again and you're going to have real friends" or "I'm going to be like I was before." But now that I watched this video, I can see that what happens externally doesn't affect who I really am and that I have to improve how I talk to myself and be kinder to myself. Also, maybe next year isn't going to change all my problems, and that's okay.
I hope 2025 works out for you
I so needed this😮💨
I'm turning 20 in two months and it is a bit scary, I have so many goals, and im hard on myself to be perfect or present myself a certain way.
I still need tips but im learning how to let go and allow myself to be flawed.
thank you for that video. I am a trans girl and I am passing through some things in my life now that I am a teenager and this was so good, like it seems that it was made for me and my personal problems!! I can tell that you are a strong woman just by seeing how you speak, you have a great potential, congratulations Cristina, love from Brazil💖
THIS IS WHAT I WAS LOOKING FORR, like I wanted to start self-improvement but all those videos about hardworking and being discipline were too toxic. Tysm ❤❤❤❤❤❤
you need to find book unveiling your hidden potential by bruce thornwood even if it's the last thing you do in life
I don't know about teenagers , but as a 20 yrs old ...This helped me sooo dam much , I could relate to Every single thing you said , I am going through all of it ..I am in medical college too and it's soo heavy on me ..idk how to explain..it's just everything you said ..I will be coming to this video again a lot thanks a lot
I've discovered you a while ago and I'm realy greatful for that. Your videos always tell what's going on with me right now and let me appreciate just myself. I'll let the unknown take a bit more space and list to my gut more often. Thank you for your content
I luvvvvvvvvv your videos! 😭😭
Love u 2
God loves you! You can repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! Because He can give you so much love, joy and peace! God bless you You are worthy in His eyes
Not doubting myself comes with overestimating myself which is a problem for me. I really hate it. And when i doubt myself i don't perform well. And when Im really confident and believe that i can do it, i just end up overestimating myself and not being able to do it properly. 😢
I love this video cuz I’ve been trying to fix myself completely and saying it’s self improvement while beating myself up and going to the extreme. After this video, I know how to go about this and give myself lenience and encouragement rather than judgement 😊
I can’t begin to explain how much this helped me,thank you!!
Es muy chimba que el video tenga profundizacion, se nota que hay una buena investigacion❤Buen video
This is something I’m definitely going to make a video about on my own channel soon. But I definitely agreed with everything said in the video. I just made a test and these tests determine if I make this year. I hate how people always say grades don’t represent who you are as a person. But what if your value as a person is based of everything you can contribute. I get cheered when I get a good grade. Not when I took my first driving lesson where I wasn’t sitting in the drivers seat with palpitations after 40+ lessons. I don’t get cheered when I overcame all the anxieties I have had etc. And I feel like that’s something people won’t see and accept.
That is actually so helpful! I will rewatch it each month or so, definitely!
now you save my teenager life love you girl 🩷
this is the most relatable video I've seen in a long time! thankyou for saying everything you did helped me a lot
I am 18 and lots of thing has happened and needed to hear something real
ty for ur videos they really help me
I'm so glad
this video reminded me of my 15-year-old self and made me realize how far I've come. also i'm applying to a medical school next year too🥳
No self improvement video felt this much relatable to me, It feels like it was just made for me🙂
I have been a top student since my childhood and now the weight of expectations has become so heavy that It feels like without that top position i am nothing, that grades defines me......
I feel afraid of my future, what if i let everybody's expections down or what if i wouldn't achieve anything in life. And i use the toxic self talk(which i learned today about myself) to motivate myself
please like this to remind me to study to become with high honor
Im literally 13 and this video means sooo much to me thank you sooo much😢😢❤❤❤❤
I didn't knew I needed this! My maths exam just went very bad today and partially the reason was demotivation, I was sitting in front if the class topper and she were discussing the answer I felt so low, I used to be on top of the class until some years ago and after I saw others better than me I just go so demotivate to study, even when I did I was always in a mental competition.
i just turned 18 last week this will be sooo helpful thankyou beautiful :)
I just found your video and there couldn't be more perfect timing . Like every of my teachers, friends etc expect me to always score good marks,i feel like i dont have an option to make some mistakes and if i do i will loose the image i formed with so much hardwork 😢
Bro this made me cry because most of the things you said is applying to me
Ik im only 14 but my parents burn me out to study so I'm a nerd and get bullied
I really needed this. Thank you ❤
That was very useful for me! Appreciate it ❤
Im 18 and literally so miserable like i wasted all my highschool just to get into my dream college and now i finallu got in i literally have no friends and im so lonely and also i cant still be the “lonely but smart kid” because i also now lack academically and barely pass exams i literally failed both achievements i could do and now im like miserable. Now that a lot of time has bern passed since the college started everyıne alteady had like their groups so its like impossible for me to go near them and get side eyes. And i literslly font know who i am because my work in highschool costed me lack of hobbies social skills etc. But like now im literally just existing in my dorm room facetiming my mom while everyone is partying with their friends on a friday night i just feel like i messed up so much and i cant return it and since im not academically successful as highschool it just hurts more since i have 0 accomplishments i think i will literally finish this college with 0 friends when i thought this would be the “best time” of my life( instead im literally silent crying in my dorm room to not wake my dorm mate up) im just so tired and i literally want to do nothing
Hey hey hey listen to me your feelings are valid and I understand you but try to atleast approach one person and show them why you can be a very cool friend, try doing that, ok?
its the first video that i have watched of your channel, and all i can say is that it helped me a lot to see things from another point of view, ty!!😊
girl, you're charming!!🤗
I am 15 years old, and in this new year I want to radically change psychologically and everything, especially the psychological aspect, but I do not know where to start. I am confused now😭 I want a solution
The last point you made was something I struggled with aswell in the last few months until I learned that I had to just trust after having worked hard. I'm a muslim so I learned to put my trust in god after I did my work and just wait for the results, weither good or bad. Even if the result is bad in my oppinion, I try to accept and move on because I believe that thing wasn't meant for me and that god planned something else for me. I wanted to share this because I found it very interesting you mentionned it aswell, just in a context without the aspect of religion/god.
I'm gonna be turning 18 in three months now. My university life is gonna start and I've been freaking out... I'm applying for research , and i have got social anxiety. I've done a lot of bad things to me this year, from self - criticism to not at all accepting myself.
Your video popped up on a boring day today...i have a test today, somehow I'm freaking out because I haven't studied much although revised the syllabus. I've been forgetting things a lot. Just nervous... But ngl, your video made me feel like I'm not alone and i can improve.
If you have any tips with this anxiety before exams.. do help me with it please. And... I'm seriously gonna work on myself for real. I need it. I gotta be good towards myself.
Thanks a lot .
Please i beg you if you are a teen like me don't listen to anyone on the Internet giving advice on your life.
Live your teenage years being with friends and family and enjoy them for you nit for others or for accomplishments.
Love youself and these years don't try to grow up too fast we are still young and we should enjoy it.
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Gran video. Saludos desde Colombia!!
I really loved your tips and I think its really gonna help me to stay motivated and be more confident because I'm a person that overthink a lot. Thank you so much I'm subscribing 💕
Thank you sm for this video, it really helped me ❤
I'm 16. Turning 17 next year. Gonna follow you tips.
I’m almost 13 and this really helped me because I’m worried
I’m about to turn 18 and this is great advice
turned 15 this month, thanks for this video ❤
Never felt more related to someone and this helped me sm!!!
Thank you, I needed to hear this
damn when i was 18 i was so stupid, had so much mental illness it was crazy.
ilnesses are not stupidity bro
This video was surprisingly relatable...I dont know what to say
Just now have experienced not the best situation, so that I am so glad for watching this video. It really made me feel better and the timing is perfect:)
this video found me by itself😭 it's really helpful!!! thank you 💓
It is the first time I see you and I autamaticly feel connected to you 🧡
helllo martha
The fact that I'm turning 13 in 2025 is just WOW. The timing is perfect!❤
unrelated but you sound sooooo incredibly similar to garnet from steven universe. i love it
I was having a really hard time and I can totally understand the social anxiety part. I really needed this, thanks a lot. ❤
Thank you so much ❤this is so helpful and relatable I feel like you just described me