@UA-cam sucks think about it now. Everyone family is not broke or in debt. Her parents probably helped her. My father owned 33 houses and 2 car lots and a very nice restaurant before she passed away. I am his baby girl. So I was well taken care of. Not bragging just stating a few facts
Most of my ex’s pretended to be supportive or care about my success as it would directly effect their future but then became jealous and emotionally held me back because they wanted more of my Time and they had low self esteem.. I’ve realized they want it until It’s no longer convenient for them . Both people need to be working on their goals so no one feels left out or inferior. Time to level up .
Men want a woman to treat him like a traditional stay at home wife would, yet want the career woman too.....impossible. success takes up alot of yo time. Your not going to be able to 100% tend to yo man needs or ego. They would have to accept those trade offs
Lol y'all have no idea what y'all are talking about. My ex used to think I was jealous of her success. It wasn't that at all. I just realized that I was helping her with her success, but it wasn't being reciprocated, so it began to be a turnoff. I had noticed I was putting way more energy into her than I was putting into myself.
@Minding my own the funny thing about modern women, is it's always the man's fault. Modern women will never take accountability. I'm watching none of you guys say wow maybe if I would have did this it would have been different
Hell when you do make them feel useful, they will find someway to tear you down. Im tired of giving someone the superman or super hero cheerleader side of me but the only thing they give me is the side eye and the emotional abuse. Im so done.
Nope men need to feel useful but woman don't wanna feel worthless I don't know any woman who wants to be special rather just appreciated and respected as a human being
@@GottaloveDanni what makes you think he doesn't have tinted windows? Just because he's outside her building doesn't mean he's outside her window. I didn't even know that he had kids and this is the first time I've seen a car seat
My husband cares a whole lot about my success! He can more than afford our lifestyle, but still pours into me so I can achieve whatever I want. I wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone who doesn't care about my goals being reached.
The last man i dumped told me he was "jealous of me" while we were hanging out and I shared with him that I was working on a viable side project that would lead to financial freedom. The sad thing is I haven't made it just yet, but I'm close to accomplishing my goals. That omission was enough for me to cut him loose permanently
You will be successful! Well done for working on something that can lead to financial freedom! You did the right thing letting him go because we become the average of the 5 people we are close to. So by cutting him off, you saved yourself a life of negativity :D Best of luck in your project by the way! x
I want a successful woman, as in the more successful we can be as a couple, the better it will be family wise. However, I'm not Looking for a successful woman specifically to take advantage of her, because I don't care about that. Successful or not, she can still be my woman.
I want a man that I can built with because I want us to grow together. A person knows when they have someone who bringing something to the table on both sides of the spectrum...
@@UA-camTeasipper7856 Exactly, 2 contributions are better than 1. Like that, we can actually build businesses where no one will ever have to work again. 💪🏾💯🎯
This guy is leading yall astray and yall are paying him to do it smh. What that phrase means is that the traits YOU as a woman want in a partner aren't always the same traits a man wants in his partner. Therefore the amount of degrees you've attained or businesses you have started will not outweigh other negative traits or ones that are missing. That doesnt mean dim your light, it means, emphasize the traits your partner would want
While we're talkin bout hypocrisy, I wanna know why some men prefer a woman that takes care of herself (works out, etc.) when some of them clearly don't. Smh
They think that they're ohk and women are supposed to be competing for their attention. I had a 300lb ex that couldn't keep a solid workout schedule and he told me if any woman wanted more than one man it was unnatural.
Well for one women age faster than men. Secondly once a woman hits 35 her looks and beauty start to go downhill in addition to her not being able to safely have any more children. So it's to your benefit to have a man by your side after age 35
*sigh* this is all so exhausting. I'll stay single. I'm not transforming into anything after work. If I have to work, you get who I am after work. Pay all the bills so I can be refreshed and energetic when you get home. 😊
Facts! Ive been single and celibate 6 years now. Not trying to jump through any hoops. Walking with God, Building my brand, raising my children and loving my cats
Men use to be chivalrous and didn't mind providing....... now we are left with men with no leverage or negotiation skills but what u to slave at home and at work. It's too much!
I love me some Derrick in the most respectful way because he has helped me through my relationship from a narcissist! Since then I've learned how to love me and pour more into the Lord and my kids! I've started my own business..the pandemic helped with that a lil but the thought was pondering..Derek was my seed, I just needed someone to water it 🙏🏽🙌🏾
Where women get into trouble, I believe, is that they confuse personality with character. What you see on a first date is personality, but what you live with is his character. If he has a solid character, and not everyone does, then you have something to work with. Everyone has faults, but only you can decide what faults you can live with, and which ones you can't. Oftentimes, women get into trouble listening to their women friends who have low standards. Only you can establish what standards matter to you. If you don't know what matters to you, then you're not ready to be in a relationship.
💯💯 my friends have been trying to convince me to go back to an ex. Who dumped me, mind you, because he couldn't deal with me. I totally respect that he was honest. But what I don't understand is why would I go back to someone who 1 let me go in the first place and 2 still went out drinking with their friends until 2 or 3 in morning (at 40) and would wake me up on nights I needed rest to go to work? I'm like. You put up with him because I am not going back to that. Heck no.
Derrick I’m so glad you aren’t afraid to call these men out on their BS! One thing I’ve discovered is men will say whatever is convenient to influence women based on what they’re looking to attract at the moment whether it be sex, chasing him, etc. If you expect a woman to respect what you have to say at least be consistent. Don’t BS and change it up when you feel a need to manipulate women. Continue keeping it real! We appreciate it!
@@garcia26vega I believe it. But that’s when we women need to step it up & start using more common sense. Use his advice to spot the good vs bad ones. But when you spot a good one, have enough common sense, self respect, & standards to THINK your way out of getting played. Don’t just be swayed by men using his advice to manipulate you. Be smarter than that.
Women can’t win. We’re either gold diggers or if we’re financially secure, then it’s “irrelevant”. It’s all about making women feel inadequate so they can prey on you.
But why most men on Tinder right away ask me where I work??? The men I swipe have a good job. I’ve been asking myself this question, and it bothers me every time they ask.
I learned when it's not for you, do not ever try to get closure from someone who does not forgive or believe in forgiveness. My Ex Boyfriend, was one-sided, unforgiving and emotionally unavailable. (I'm not playing victim and I also take accountability). To say the least, I have not seen him in a year. I finally saw him at a street light and he noticed me and flipped me smooth off. I was like, Wow! I was curious (big mistake). I texted him and said What's up with that and I said, can we not have any beef, it's been a year, right? Nooooo, this young Man who I was in love with a while back, texted back with a "Flipped off emoji and called me out my name." Therefore, just because time seemed long, that does not mean, things are/were healed. It could be some other components way before my time that he was dealing with before me. He also was a drinker, too. Nevertheless, I know it's 2 sides to a story but honey, some people like him, who you try to heal with, leave them alone. Leave that Womb, alone! DO NOT PICK AT IT OR BECOME CURIOUS. I thank God for experience, it's the best teacher.
I respect the fact that you held yourself accountable. That is not a trade that a lot of women have. Well, I shouldn't say women. I'll just say humans in general
You can tell he’s growing with success with the cars and different neighborhoods (look at the house in the back)...or is it just me🙃. Proud of him🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🎯🎯🖤🖤
Haha for some reason I felt like the nice house in the back was intentional... I dunno...that makes me feel kinda negative and cynical but it was my first instinct
They want you to rely on them for their self gratification ego they are useful and woman are not,which is why so see so many memes about being saying men are better at being woman than women tHEmsElvEs while they can't even the traditional masculine mAn but yet expect a woman to be a traditional feminine woman
But what about the gold diggers? there are Men who care about her success so he can floss off the finances. I've seen Men brag about my Women is a Nurse a damn Nurse with a purse.
@Christopher Reynolds No not always ive seen a Man actually go so far as to Marry a Woman for prestige and financial gain. I mean by now she knows he's trifling after years of Marriage but hey 🤷♀️
Ok, he was there through school, helping me cram for test. To later being put on disability for lupus. But he didn't protect my heart from his cheating ways. I've since then left, for 2 years we didn't speak. We are on speaking terms again, I recently lost my sister and he's trying to be there emotionally and financially. I'm feeling he's just checking my temperature, because he is a narcissist.
I'll never pay the bills. I work very hard myself, but I know that a man that wants to and will is the guy who I want. This is because it means that when I have kids, I can be a great mother to my kids and do everything I could want to nurture and strengthen my family and my man at the drop of a pin.
Word DJ, My late husband of 30 years always allowed me to be my own person… I wasn’t just his wife or the mother of his children but I was me and was always supported in my endeavors… You can’t fake that kind of commitment, encouragement and trust. I’m telling you for certain; the man’s in love with you if he shows you that.
Thank you for continuously being a voice of reason. I can't tell you how many partners I have had that couldn't support both my career or my emotional state. And they felt entitled for me to just forgive them over and over and I had to just be like no. I'd rather be single and happy for the rest of my life than ever be with someone who isn't going to support me. Because I know I am not perfect I know I have flaws and at the same time I put my all in a relationship and if you can't match that. I'm out.
Derrick thank you for everything that you do. You've actually saved me from a lot of bad things that could have come my way. Thank you and please don't ever think to stop what you do ok? *claps*
Man here. When Kevin Samuels says that we don’t care about your success, what he is saying is that you need to pass the looks & character test FIRST before we take your success into account. I have actually heard Kevin say that he prefers professional and educated women who enjoy the finer things in life so he does respect success and intelligence. But 80% of African American women are overweight or obese & most people don’t want overweight partners. Too many women think that they can compensate their unattractiveness & bad behaviour with success.
Powerful message! A person's character speaks volumes as to who they really are internally. High value doesn't always translate into someone with good character, emotional maturity and being able to meet the emotional needs of your partner. Thanks again💓Derrick for your honest observations and truth.😙
I would have to say I disagree with his analysis on this subject. I think financial stability is not a major factor for men in terms of finding a woman because most men are natural providers by nature. However nobody wants a totally broke woman with no education no job and no prospects or skills coz this type of uselessness is very unattractive! Most men don't mind if you have a average education and a average job but choose a partner based on attractiveness, and the ability to be caring. Affectionate, loyal and feminine and that's really it! Women rate a man's financial prospects higher not because they are gold diggers but coz it's how it's meant to be in nature. Men are meant to be providers, protectors the head of the home the one who takes the ultimate responsibility so you can't do this if you have zero resources.
"I'm the diamond in the dirt, that ain't been found I'm the underground Queen and I ain't been crowned When I work, something special happen every time I'm the greatest, something like Ali in his prime.... Many men, wish death upon me Blood in my eye dawg and I can't see I'm trying to be what I'm destined to be" -50 Cent
Thank you for bringing up the point that we need to be having these conversations at higher levels! I always say I don’t care what “most men” think because I’m not compatible with “most men.” Same reason why your circle gets smaller as you get older- you realize “most” people don’t possess the qualities you’re looking for in a friend. I knew what I was looking for in a man and if I’d listened to the dudes who swore men like him didn’t exist, I’d have ended up settling for one of their miserable asses by now 😂😂😂
No “I’ve been learning wisdom & understanding from D.Jaxn since late 2018” He’s brought me more success than K.S. although his content is insightful as well!
No two men are the same. So saying what all men want is going to be inaccurate 50% of the time. True, there are some men who don't care about their woman's career, while there are other men who depends on it. I would like to see a poll asking men what exactly do they want?
This is sooooo true! People always say men need respect and support and women need love and I’m like BS! To respect and support me is to love me! Love, respect and support are things men and women need to give each other for a relationship to thrive (and obviously this applies to same sex couples as well)
This guy is leading yall astray and yall are paying him to do it smh. What that phrase means is that the traits YOU as a woman want in a partner aren't always the same traits a man wants in his partner. Therefore the amount of degrees you've attained or businesses you have started will not outweigh other negative traits or ones that are missing. That doesnt mean dim your light, it means, emphasize the traits your partner would want
So much great advice. Been there with my ex. Gone through it. Support is a core need. Thank you for another great video, Derrick. Best regards from Germany. Michael
I'm team Jaxn even though you spit at the camera at 2:52. Just teasing. Thank you for helping us. I love seeing a brotha succeed in life and I love you trying to heal others emotionally.
The right man will care about your success because he loves and cares for u!!! So I can't agree with this one!!! The men that don't care is the man that cares nothing about u!!! And I would keep it moving!!! Period!!! 💨💨💨💨 ladies let a mans actions speak!!!..period!!..
Thank You for always helping people realize that we all have issues, but it’s about how we heal from them. I really appreciate your logic. I take a lot of what you say and put it to application. That has helped me be more confident and critical about who I spend time with. I appreciate you brother.
I came to check the house out lol...she sure is successful
Bruhhhh
@UA-cam sucks not you calculating a woman’s finances as if you know her lol.......Ok
Derrick is that you!?
@UA-cam sucks stfu this has nothing to do with race!
@UA-cam sucks think about it now. Everyone family is not broke or in debt. Her parents probably helped her. My father owned 33 houses and 2 car lots and a very nice restaurant before she passed away. I am his baby girl. So I was well taken care of. Not bragging just stating a few facts
He really is outside of that doctors house .... wow he is really a narcissistic and sick individual. Unsubscribed!!
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I wonder is hes talking about her success
Right got me going thru his videos looking for the doctors house in the background 😂😂😂😂
@@mscaine2291 me too!
@@mscaine2291 seems like she’s the one he really wanted.
When I saw this video I immediately went to the comment section just to see how many ppl are investigating the back ground of this video lol.
everybody
Bro...you filmed it right in front of HER (yea, WE KNOW, small world) house..WOW!! Tacky, tacky, tacky...ethics and morals? HA!...smh, just stop it!
Most of my ex’s pretended to be supportive or care about my success as it would directly effect their future but then became jealous and emotionally held me back because they wanted more of my Time and they had low self esteem.. I’ve realized they want it until
It’s no longer convenient for them . Both people need to be working on their goals so no one feels left out or inferior. Time to level up .
This is the one! I’ve definitely experienced and the men didn’t handle it well at all
The issue is everything comes with trade offs that's just life
Men want a woman to treat him like a traditional stay at home wife would, yet want the career woman too.....impossible. success takes up alot of yo time. Your not going to be able to 100% tend to yo man needs or ego. They would have to accept those trade offs
Lol y'all have no idea what y'all are talking about. My ex used to think I was jealous of her success. It wasn't that at all. I just realized that I was helping her with her success, but it wasn't being reciprocated, so it began to be a turnoff. I had noticed I was putting way more energy into her than I was putting into myself.
@Minding my own the funny thing about modern women, is it's always the man's fault. Modern women will never take accountability. I'm watching none of you guys say wow maybe if I would have did this it would have been different
It's really quite simple actually, men need to feel useful and women need to feel special.
Real talk
Hell when you do make them feel useful, they will find someway to tear you down. Im tired of giving someone the superman or super hero cheerleader side of me but the only thing they give me is the side eye and the emotional abuse. Im so done.
Just that simple
Talk truth
Nope men need to feel useful but woman don't wanna feel worthless I don't know any woman who wants to be special rather just appreciated and respected as a human being
His entire UA-cam channel aged like milk
Your profile picture. Got em Lmaooooo ha Got em. Lmaooooo
Your profile pic goes well with your comment 😂😂
@@jfyne03 that’s what I said Lmaooooo
@@ThePurplePillPerspective Loving all the clapbacks at Jaxn 😂🤌🏾
@@jfyne03 . Lmaooooo
I'm here to look in the background I got time 🤣🤣
Surgical
At 4:55, he starts describing his own life perfectly.
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say that!!!!
The longer I'm single and try to date and interact with men. The longer I'm going to be single.
@kd it's not just you. I promise. The basicssssss, can't even get through the basics to even have these type convos...sheesh
Smdh me too...
Lmaooooooo
Same sis. 6 years for me
lmaooo damn
Damn that is her house in the background. 👀🍿
@pinkandlavender same thing I said.
So how didn't she see the car seat in the back👀🤷♀️. You don't even have to come outside to spot it.. A quick look out the balcony window.. 🤔
Yes, can you believe it? Still in shock. Hes brazen
@@GottaloveDanni what makes you think he doesn't have tinted windows? Just because he's outside her building doesn't mean he's outside her window. I didn't even know that he had kids and this is the first time I've seen a car seat
That’s why he’s always in his car, he’s leaving the woman’s house!!!! Peep all the backgrounds
Rightttttt 😂😂😂
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Right and he got the nerve to be doing a success topic outside the “doctor/surgeons” house. Lol she confirmed the house with the arches is hers 😂😂😂
So sad....he hating on the Dr ...lol sitting out in front of her Shit!!
@@mariewilliams662 Took the words right outta my mouth! Sounds like he pillow talk and uses that conversation for a topic after
Ayee bro aint that ole girl house in the back .😂😂
Yup lol
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No wonder why he wanted the doctor pregnant.
It’s so ironic how this guy is literally the epitome of what all the ladies in his comment sections are complaining about 😂😂
Which makes it worse. He knows EXACTLY what NOT to do and chooses to do it anyway🤦♀️
Which tells you what they actually like
@@meaghanellis7953 because it works
Infront of his sidechick house.
This is the white arches right? You came from another woman house to record 👀 those memes wer real 🙊
Every day I don't allow any man to use or abuse me I'm succeeding and I'm definitely successful
Amen!
🙌🏽Yes mam!🙌🏽
I needed to see the arches👀
My husband cares a whole lot about my success! He can more than afford our lifestyle, but still pours into me so I can achieve whatever I want. I wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone who doesn't care about my goals being reached.
Yes thisssss! I'm looking for that because I am a smart ambitious woman
Consider yourself bless. My ex didn't think I deserved nothing good that happened to me..
Crazy how you do your videos in front of Nickys house!!! You are straight up crazy
THE WHITE ARCHES??
Is he in front of that House again?!? Smh
That lady has a nice house😂😂😂
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I came here for the same reason lmao
House looks big af just from the little bit that's shown!!!
Were you done with the Dr here or you were getting ready to go satisfy your sexual addiction. Stop. You need to take care of you .
The last man i dumped told me he was "jealous of me" while we were hanging out and I shared with him that I was working on a viable side project that would lead to financial freedom. The sad thing is I haven't made it just yet, but I'm close to accomplishing my goals. That omission was enough for me to cut him loose permanently
You will be successful! Well done for working on something that can lead to financial freedom! You did the right thing letting him go because we become the average of the 5 people we are close to. So by cutting him off, you saved yourself a life of negativity :D Best of luck in your project by the way! x
@@vikki8699 Thank you. ☺️
Keep going!
Sending positivity and encouragement your way! 💫💫💫🙌🏾
@@uniformal1 Derek, is that you? 🤣
Mm... I wonder who house he in front of! 👩🏾⚕️👩🏾⚕️👀👀👀👀
You already know doctor bae
@@sirbigguccichat2491 lol I know I was being sarcastic
Here her house is again..... you are so obvious sheesh you don’t give a puck
Wow! Heal Together Without Hurting Each Other...what a juicy title...It sounds like exactly what's need in the world!
I want a successful woman, as in the more successful we can be as a couple, the better it will be family wise. However, I'm not Looking for a successful woman specifically to take advantage of her, because I don't care about that. Successful or not, she can still be my woman.
Brother, brother, brother!!! Very well said. 👏
I want a man that I can built with because I want us to grow together. A person knows when they have someone who bringing something to the table on both sides of the spectrum...
You are 1 in a million. 👍
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@@UA-camTeasipper7856 Exactly, 2 contributions are better than 1. Like that, we can actually build businesses where no one will ever have to work again. 💪🏾💯🎯
Look at them white arches... Hmmm
My ex wanted me to pay all the bills but he was a bum so yes there are a lot of hypocritical men and women too
Glad you said My ex.
same with mine but what made matters worse, he wasn't supportive at all.
True
@@moxnix74 FR
@@lexielovingu206 Damn!
Is that Nikki’s house in the back??
Yes it is
Yep
Sooo this is the dr house 🧐
Righttt 🤔🤔🤔
He is wrong as hell. Smh!!!
@@One_Andonly-Zulu.1 lol 🙃
But I CARE ABOUT MY SUCCESS. and i don't care what a man thinks really
This guy is leading yall astray and yall are paying him to do it smh. What that phrase means is that the traits YOU as a woman want in a partner aren't always the same traits a man wants in his partner. Therefore the amount of degrees you've attained or businesses you have started will not outweigh other negative traits or ones that are missing. That doesnt mean dim your light, it means, emphasize the traits your partner would want
This the doctors house he leaving.. smh
This man got his wedding band on outside his sideshoe house
And talking to us about relationships
This hits different now
The hypocrisy is astounding.
Lol! When he said manipulative and narcissist I thought of Derrick lol 😂
While we're talkin bout hypocrisy, I wanna know why some men prefer a woman that takes care of herself (works out, etc.) when some of them clearly don't. Smh
@@j-tenn226 these beer belly toting men are the worst ugh 🤦🏾♀️
They think that they're ohk and women are supposed to be competing for their attention. I had a 300lb ex that couldn't keep a solid workout schedule and he told me if any woman wanted more than one man it was unnatural.
Don't get me wrong either, Im not perfect, & I've no prob dating "dad bods" but there are some that neglect every aspect of their upkeep.
Well for one women age faster than men. Secondly once a woman hits 35 her looks and beauty start to go downhill in addition to her not being able to safely have any more children. So it's to your benefit to have a man by your side after age 35
@@shaunws the lies
His girlfriend's house is in the back ground. 😹😹😹😹
I’m so dead
CHARACTER IS EVERYTHING!!!
And standards they both guard the home called your heart... And God fearing should let him in...lol
True!!!!!!!!! It is everything **
Very interesting 🙃
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This didn't age well. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It’s crazy how much this doesn’t make sense...
Damn straight, character is EVERYTHING!!!!!
These ppl dont know what they want, they just talking out the side of their neck. Don't nobody got time for that.
*sigh* this is all so exhausting. I'll stay single. I'm not transforming into anything after work. If I have to work, you get who I am after work. Pay all the bills so I can be refreshed and energetic when you get home. 😊
Facts! Ive been single and celibate 6 years now. Not trying to jump through any hoops. Walking with God, Building my brand, raising my children and loving my cats
EXACTLY!!!! they think they can have it all while they do the bare minimum. Idk what happened but who ruined dating and relationship culture
Men use to be chivalrous and didn't mind providing....... now we are left with men with no leverage or negotiation skills but what u to slave at home and at work. It's too much!
@@QueenofBluntTruth absolutely on point! They want you to not complain about bills all the while sexing, stroking egos, cooking and rearing children
@@glowuplife Amen!
I love me some Derrick in the most respectful way because he has helped me through my relationship from a narcissist! Since then I've learned how to love me and pour more into the Lord and my kids! I've started my own business..the pandemic helped with that a lil but the thought was pondering..Derek was my seed, I just needed someone to water it 🙏🏽🙌🏾
Same! his content really helped me years ago muster the courage to leave my abusive ex.
Sometimes a true friend can be a huge catalyst. Because they show you your potential. Well done you!
@@MaryamAtcha Praise God love I'm glad u were able to find that courage to move on because that can be scary sometimes 💕
@@AuthenticallyFonze Amen! I am also glad you were able to heal from narcissistic abuse. It's insidious and takes a toll on the spirit.
@@MaryamAtcha Yes that's so true..praise God 🙌🏾🙏🏽
did you record this before or after nikki’s house?
Where women get into trouble, I believe, is that they confuse personality with character. What you see on a first date is personality, but what you live with is his character. If he has a solid character, and not everyone does, then you have something to work with. Everyone has faults, but only you can decide what faults you can live with, and which ones you can't. Oftentimes, women get into trouble listening to their women friends who have low standards. Only you can establish what standards matter to you. If you don't know what matters to you, then you're not ready to be in a relationship.
💯💯 my friends have been trying to convince me to go back to an ex. Who dumped me, mind you, because he couldn't deal with me. I totally respect that he was honest. But what I don't understand is why would I go back to someone who 1 let me go in the first place and 2 still went out drinking with their friends until 2 or 3 in morning (at 40) and would wake me up on nights I needed rest to go to work? I'm like. You put up with him because I am not going back to that. Heck no.
@@estherdubois1586 That's right! Don't look back!!
So you mean he would smash ol girl just so he can secure a lavish background for his videos! Like he was deadass right now
I thought the same thing too. Idk. I really think he is love with the doctor.
She needs to move asap!
Derrick I’m so glad you aren’t afraid to call these men out on their BS! One thing I’ve discovered is men will say whatever is convenient to influence women based on what they’re looking to attract at the moment whether it be sex, chasing him, etc. If you expect a woman to respect what you have to say at least be consistent. Don’t BS and change it up when you feel a need to manipulate women. Continue keeping it real! We appreciate it!
I wish I could tell you how many men use his content to manipulate women into thinking they’re good people’
@@garcia26vega I believe it. But that’s when we women need to step it up & start using more common sense. Use his advice to spot the good vs bad ones. But when you spot a good one, have enough common sense, self respect, & standards to THINK your way out of getting played. Don’t just be swayed by men using his advice to manipulate you. Be smarter than that.
Women can’t win. We’re either gold diggers or if we’re financially secure, then it’s “irrelevant”. It’s all about making women feel inadequate so they can prey on you.
But why most men on Tinder right away ask me where I work???
The men I swipe have a good job.
I’ve been asking myself this question, and it bothers me every time they ask.
Lol wow this is you 🤣🤣🤣 this man here
I learned when it's not for you, do not ever try to get closure from someone who does not forgive or believe in forgiveness. My Ex Boyfriend, was one-sided, unforgiving and emotionally unavailable. (I'm not playing victim and I also take accountability). To say the least, I have not seen him in a year. I finally saw him at a street light and he noticed me and flipped me smooth off. I was like, Wow! I was curious (big mistake). I texted him and said What's up with that and I said, can we not have any beef, it's been a year, right? Nooooo, this young Man who I was in love with a while back, texted back with a "Flipped off emoji and called me out my name." Therefore, just because time seemed long, that does not mean, things are/were healed. It could be some other components way before my time that he was dealing with before me. He also was a drinker, too. Nevertheless, I know it's 2 sides to a story but honey, some people like him, who you try to heal with, leave them alone. Leave that Womb, alone! DO NOT PICK AT IT OR BECOME CURIOUS. I thank God for experience, it's the best teacher.
AMEN
I respect the fact that you held yourself accountable. That is not a trade that a lot of women have. Well, I shouldn't say women. I'll just say humans in general
@@Coolness18304 Thanks 🙏🏾
Ahhh... That's the doctors house in the background.
I'm thinking that Derrick has multiple personality disorder.
You can tell he’s growing with success with the cars and different neighborhoods (look at the house in the back)...or is it just me🙃. Proud of him🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🎯🎯🖤🖤
Haha for some reason I felt like the nice house in the back was intentional... I dunno...that makes me feel kinda negative and cynical but it was my first instinct
I was thinking the same thing!!! I saw the house too lol
Haven’t you heard 👀👀
which female house he leaving?
The doctor 🤦♀️
Men don’t care about your success! The truth! He don’t want you to be independent they want u to rely on them 🙄
Most men arent reliable though
Most men want you to rely on them so they can control you no thanks 🤦🏾♀️
They want you to rely on them and some tend to be stingy
A lot of men aren’t dependable.
They want you to rely on them for their self gratification ego they are useful and woman are not,which is why so see so many memes about being saying men are better at being woman than women tHEmsElvEs while they can't even the traditional masculine mAn but yet expect a woman to be a traditional feminine woman
A MAN who can meet your emotional needs DOES. So glad you said that!!! Some men don't think your emotional needs are important.
But what about the gold diggers? there are Men who care about her success so he can floss off the finances. I've seen Men brag about my Women is a Nurse a damn Nurse with a purse.
@Christopher Reynolds No not always ive seen a Man actually go so far as to Marry a Woman for prestige and financial gain. I mean by now she knows he's trifling after years of Marriage but hey 🤷♀️
Right!
We nurses broke, barely making it🤣🤣...But, yeah I've seen many bragging about my wife/gf is a nurse!
@@shanny5890 The Nurses I know are making 45 per hour 90.000 a year hey thats not a struggle i guess not to me.
@@shanny5890 Girl its sad.
😂😂😂😂 lemme leave
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Ok, he was there through school, helping me cram for test. To later being put on disability for lupus. But he didn't protect my heart from his cheating ways. I've since then left, for 2 years we didn't speak. We are on speaking terms again, I recently lost my sister and he's trying to be there emotionally and financially. I'm feeling he's just checking my temperature, because he is a narcissist.
I am very sorry to hear that. I hope you are getting the support you need from your loved ones.
Just PRAY for a strong heart and most importantly, a STRONG MIND so you can think clearly.
When a person show you the real colors the first time. BELIEVE HIM
Look at yourself Derrick, you are mess !!!
I'll never pay the bills. I work very hard myself, but I know that a man that wants to and will is the guy who I want. This is because it means that when I have kids, I can be a great mother to my kids and do everything I could want to nurture and strengthen my family and my man at the drop of a pin.
Word DJ, My late husband of 30 years always allowed me to be my own person… I wasn’t just his wife or the mother of his children but I was me and was always supported in my endeavors… You can’t fake that kind of commitment, encouragement and trust. I’m telling you for certain; the man’s in love with you if he shows you that.
I was considering ordering the book 📚 sorry 😢
Hey Derrick great video!!
Thank you for continuously being a voice of reason. I can't tell you how many partners I have had that couldn't support both my career or my emotional state. And they felt entitled for me to just forgive them over and over and I had to just be like no. I'd rather be single and happy for the rest of my life than ever be with someone who isn't going to support me. Because I know I am not perfect I know I have flaws and at the same time I put my all in a relationship and if you can't match that. I'm out.
Derrick thank you for everything that you do. You've actually saved me from a lot of bad things that could have come my way. Thank you and please don't ever think to stop what you do ok? *claps*
Praying for your healing D. I have watched you for years and truly sadden by your actions.
But the men he scold don’t get those prayer huh? No sympathy for men who cheat remember?
He didn’t curse not one time to emphasize his point! Cool 👌🏾
I noticed that also. DJ definitely stepping up his game. Love a person that continues to grow.
Glory to God. I don’t talk like that anymore
@@JaxnVideos amen! It’s so nice to see your growth over the years! Only God can change a man’s heart
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He curses in his other videos
There's the house in the background again ......
Man here. When Kevin Samuels says that we don’t care about your success, what he is saying is that you need to pass the looks & character test FIRST before we take your success into account. I have actually heard Kevin say that he prefers professional and educated women who enjoy the finer things in life so he does respect success and intelligence. But 80% of African American women are overweight or obese & most people don’t want overweight partners. Too many women think that they can compensate their unattractiveness & bad behaviour with success.
Powerful message! A person's character speaks volumes as to who they really are internally. High value doesn't always translate into someone with good character, emotional maturity and being able to meet the emotional needs of your partner. Thanks again💓Derrick for your honest observations and truth.😙
I would have to say I disagree with his analysis on this subject. I think financial stability is not a major factor for men in terms of finding a woman because most men are natural providers by nature. However nobody wants a totally broke woman with no education no job and no prospects or skills coz this type of uselessness is very unattractive! Most men don't mind if you have a average education and a average job but choose a partner based on attractiveness, and the ability to be caring. Affectionate, loyal and feminine and that's really it! Women rate a man's financial prospects higher not because they are gold diggers but coz it's how it's meant to be in nature. Men are meant to be providers, protectors the head of the home the one who takes the ultimate responsibility so you can't do this if you have zero resources.
"I'm the diamond in the dirt, that ain't been found
I'm the underground Queen and I ain't been crowned
When I work, something special happen every time
I'm the greatest, something like Ali in his prime....
Many men, wish death upon me
Blood in my eye dawg and I can't see
I'm trying to be what I'm destined to be"
-50 Cent
Thank you for bringing up the point that we need to be having these conversations at higher levels! I always say I don’t care what “most men” think because I’m not compatible with “most men.” Same reason why your circle gets smaller as you get older- you realize “most” people don’t possess the qualities you’re looking for in a friend.
I knew what I was looking for in a man and if I’d listened to the dudes who swore men like him didn’t exist, I’d have ended up settling for one of their miserable asses by now 😂😂😂
I'm the only guy who is learning with Derrick?
I have respect for you for this Jesus. Continue learning. It will make you so much more marketable to women. You’re a smart man!
No “I’ve been learning wisdom & understanding from D.Jaxn since late 2018”
He’s brought me more success than K.S. although his content is insightful as well!
No u ain't. Trust me
I hope not
Stay focused as 34 years old a man he speaks of is what we need
Oh derrick. Ur too comfortable to the point tht you didnt cover ur tracks.
Just ended things with another narcotics and I have to say it it feels great...universe my prayer is that you keep me strong and moving forward 🙏🏾
No two men are the same. So saying what all men want is going to be inaccurate 50% of the time. True, there are some men who don't care about their woman's career, while there are other men who depends on it. I would like to see a poll asking men what exactly do they want?
Trust me we don’t give a damn and the more successful we are the less we care. We want somebody that’s agreeable Feminine and supportive.
I don't even think the poll is necessary. Ask the man you're dealing with what he wants. That's the only way you're going to know.
This is sooooo true! People always say men need respect and support and women need love and I’m like BS! To respect and support me is to love me! Love, respect and support are things men and women need to give each other for a relationship to thrive (and obviously this applies to same sex couples as well)
This guy is leading yall astray and yall are paying him to do it smh. What that phrase means is that the traits YOU as a woman want in a partner aren't always the same traits a man wants in his partner. Therefore the amount of degrees you've attained or businesses you have started will not outweigh other negative traits or ones that are missing. That doesnt mean dim your light, it means, emphasize the traits your partner would want
So much great advice. Been there with my ex. Gone through it. Support is a core need. Thank you for another great video, Derrick. Best regards from Germany. Michael
I'm team Jaxn even though you spit at the camera at 2:52. Just teasing. Thank you for helping us. I love seeing a brotha succeed in life and I love you trying to heal others emotionally.
Great video. I tend to have a lot of masculine energy on relationships so I overlook the emotional support. It is important. Thank you
Shots with accuracy, Derrick doesn’t miss
I am checking the house too. Her house is beautiful.
The right man will care about your success because he loves and cares for u!!! So I can't agree with this one!!! The men that don't care is the man that cares nothing about u!!! And I would keep it moving!!! Period!!! 💨💨💨💨 ladies let a mans actions speak!!!..period!!..
🤣🤣🤣🤣 this clown lol
Why this man always posted up in the car😂
Because he can't talk this weak dhit in his house. His wife would slap the shit outta him and tell him to man up 😆
Peep the house in the background 😂
Chee, I just want someone I'm attracted to on most levels, however the little things are a big part of it.
@@kidkid985 ammmmm. I do have myself so I think I would know when I'm ready to share myself with some one.....you think???
I agree with everything you said 💚
Love the videos
Amen 🙏🏻 Character is everything! 🙏🏻 God bless you! God bless you everyone🙏🏻
Thank you for your positive and honest words daily!
Thank You for always helping people realize that we all have issues, but it’s about how we heal from them. I really appreciate your logic. I take a lot of what you say and put it to application. That has helped me be more confident and critical about who I spend time with. I appreciate you brother.
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7:40 Whooa I felt that🙌🏾🙏🏽🙌🏾🙏🏽🙌🏾🙏🏽🙌🏾🙏🏽