@@October3074 not true. Must people respect a person that respect themselves. A man will try you at less once. If you don't check him he will try again. If for some reason you don't see the respect I have for myself. I'm quick to clear that up for you. No booboo the fool here!!!
@@sylviabaskin2933 my comment was in response 2 u saying "he may not like u but he will respect u" bc when some men come across a woman who will not allow a man 2 disrespect them they get "offended" and won't have anything else 2 do with u. I wasn't disagreeing with u.
Lmao 😂 sorry to say but once I was disrespected. The guy ask me how is sex was , I told him the sex is whack and he ain’t shit. 🤣🤣🤣🤣damn his feelings was hurt 😞. A man love disrespecting women but once you disrespect them they can’t take it. 😂🤣🤣🤣
Disrespect/contempt is probably the biggest relationship killer. It’s simply impossible to share a household or do a job constructively with disrespectful or contemptuous partner/s.
Cut those people off and NEVER look back. So excited for this decade . All the people that hurt and disrespected me will NEVER have access to me again .
InnerRise “Except who you were this year because it’s who you are already next year” lol speak for yourself not for everyone else, it’s called personal growth for a reason. People are allowed to start a clean slate if you weren’t aware.
She needs to stop worrying why he doesn’t respect her, the question is why she doesn’t feel she deserves better treatment. It’s her life she is in control.
Queenly - You don't know just how beautiful you are... I feel prettier at 56 than I did in my 20s (what a waste!!!). As younger women, we might think the competition is so fierce that we're always sub-par. As an objective person, I see a beautiful young woman that really doesn't know it yet. PS - My man is pretty exhausting too ;-) After 20-years, he takes me for granted...
@@QueenQueenly It took me a while to be able to answer, and all I came up with was trying to save younger women some of my failings (or yes, some projection?) Although I realize it may not even be applicable for you. I guess I really meant, "God I wasted so much time thinking I wasn't enough that I wasted too much time on clowns. I had such low self-esteem, and I had many more options than I realized." If that's not you - cool - but I wanted you to know what a complete stranger saw: a lovely young woman with so much ahead of her. I meant it well, although I realize it sucks women are reduced to such terms. Still, the hard reality is that I get hit on a whole lot more at 135-lbs (even at 56) than I did (in my mid-40s) at 230-lbs. I know EXACTLY how shallow the whole thing really is...
The longer you stay around someone that don't respect you, the more you will not love yourself. You will start believing the lies the abuser tell you, and believe you did something wrong to deserve that treatment. It's best to break up at the first sign of abuse. Don't give no chances run for your life. If you don't leave it's only going to get worse. Because the abuser will say no matter what they do, you are not going to leave.
Facts, I had to come to this realization this year, my Boyfriend took my kindness for weakness, he took me caring for him as an obligation m he didn’t think I would leave n when I broke up with him it hit him hard n I’m glad I did, when they don’t appreciate your presence make them notice your absence 🙏🏾👌🏾
Noelle Davenport girl yes, I swear I didn’t realize this til I broke up with this man, I was literally abandoning my own needs n wants for a grown ass me n all while he’s just so damn contend like wtf, I had to tell myself if I don’t have a child in this life then so b it, I’m bout to b 30 years old n there are things on my bucket list I want to do n places I want to go n I can’t have a man who can’t afford shit n expects me to pay n buy him shit like NO we NOT doing that shit anymore I’m Good alone 🙏🏾
I rather be alone than to deal with someone who treats me like I ain’t shit and not care about my feelings. You only have one time to cross me and I’m blocking you on everything and moving on with my life ✌🏽especially when I did everything right 💯
Exactly...that’s why I make sure I’m always polite, sweet and grateful to a man, I put my BEST self forward so if he starts acting like an ass I take my best self and leave knowing I did everything I could have done and he was not worthy!
Falcoda Industries same. Just finished my first semester. 8 years on and off I tried to make it work and he said he doesn’t think it will but he’ll think about it I said don’t think, I miss him so much but if I reach out nothing will change.
@@darrengordon-hill Lol You have to have no life. I see you under alot of these videos spewing hatred all over the place. Are you depressed? Are you looking for validation? It has to be something because there's no way a grown man is acting like that.
@@bre_s9164 YOU see "hatred"; that's your fault. No ma'am; you're. No ma'am; you're. "No way for a grown man to act" Are you saying... I'm acting like a... ... woman? 🤦🏿♂️
Been through this before years ago. And the number one way to get a man to respect you is by NOT bending over backwards everytime he says jump. Don't go out of your way to do things for him especially when he didn't ask. A few times is okay but constantly doing this will definitely have him not respect you and will get you used in the end. Men think differently as women do. You may think your being nice and helping him out but many men especially when your first dating can not take that much attention. Because they are not use to it. Another way to get a man to respect you is by having a backbone and speaking up for yourself. Many of us black women we feel that we can not speak up for fear of being labeled to bossy or hard to get along with. How can a person that you will be spending your future with not want you to speak up and say how you feel? That's says alot about him more than it does you.
You are so right about this I was in a relationship with the guy that was disrespectful to me one thing I've learned and I really believe that this is true because I've heard this fall in love with someone that loves you more than you love them. Meaning as a woman have a man that goes after you don't ever been over backwards and do too much for a man.
@@MandyAliens Why can't you get over your obsession to be included in everything we do? Girl shut the h up😂. Racism/ws is still around because your kind still benefit from and maintain it. We call ourselves black women because that's our reality. And yes we are human, however we are not all the same and that's ok. Our differences make us who we are and our blackness is more just a color.
I finally get that a woman’s power is her ability to walk away and I have not let a man’s behavior affect me since then if it is not aligned with how I deserve to be treated and respected.
Shut it down and move on. Women we deserve better and have to set boundaries. It may hurt a little but it will save you a heartache. Change your mindset go in to 2020 with a new mind of Self Love, Self Care and Follow your Bliss!
I have been weak for too long. No longer will I tolerate this. Thank you for everything you have taught me about how a real man is supposed to talk, think and act. It has cleared up a lot of my confusion. It’s me not loving myself😔 and setting higher standards. He is who he is and always has been. I just wouldn’t accept that my love couldn’t help him be better. But I am changing for me. I can do bad all by myself. Moving forward and not looking or going back.
PREACH!!!!! When someone is blatantly and habitually disrespecting you or is continuously causing you harm... STOP ASKING “WHY?!” RUN FOR YOUR LIFE‼️ Save yourself!!! ✌🏾🚗💨 LEAVE THEM ALONE‼️
As a man , everything you’ve said made absolute perfect sense . Especially the part about the waiting period or how easy he had access after his inexcusable behavior. Continue to bless these people with jewels 💎 including myself. 💙❤️‼️
Let's not put it all on a female being the soft good hearted woman God made her to be to support the male and help him be all he should be and would not grow to be without her. He is just a poor person character. She is perfectly valuable and worthy of love honor and respect why she got to wk hard to earn his live? He knew he wasn't ready for love when he asked her to be his woman. He just knew she was respectable and he couldn't lay down with her and not be a couple. Her fault is having bad judgement by not being more selective. She was up to par when he met her he was jobless, transportationaless, failing school, had low self esteem she upgraded him as a wise woman with hopes to build a future. She motivated him to get a at,employed,enrolled I college and he jets from the relationship. He had bad character,an opportunist so he is currently a reflection of her. She made him but can he sustain now that it's over
What you doing up in this boy video expressing your feelings all up in his video you better go find yourself up a real man's Channel don't you see all these females up in this video you want to be called Sis boy ain't you a man son are you soft boy get up out that man channel tighten up
All y’all oh so “manly” men on this man video and under this comment acting a fool because they are both men who respect and value women enough that they give advice and put the women on to all the bs men do..I’m pretty sure y’all single. 🤣🤣🤣 If you don’t like what’s being said in the video don’t watch it.
This dating stuff too confusing. You call em out on everything - you’re nagging. Don’t check him for not calling back - now he won’t respect you enough to call you back like he promised. Then you gotta keep a score sheet to remember how many times he messed up so when he hits that number you can leave. That’s a full time job! I just want a loving happy healthy relationship not plan & strategize a nuclear war. These rules & games are exhausting.
The truth is... I have trauma (just like everyone else) that can show up as me being desperate for love. I’m human, I need love so it’s a primal instinct to do things to get it even if it’s kinda fycj
YASSSSS Thanks..When did men have the right to treat us as such..who the eff they think they are..Wtfff..are they serious like come on They needed us first.They need to fuck off with this Only they can tell us who our worth is.fuck outta here with dat bullshit..smh
It's not considered rules when you uphold yourself on a level where you know better not to tolerate or waste your time dealing with nonsense, it doesn't seem so difficult. Self love is high up there with the love of G-D (or The Higher Spirit).
There is no psychology in this... when a guy doesn’t respect himself he will not respect you... don’t take personally what he does, just laugh and walk away.
And a complete stranger can be someone you've "known" for years and still dont know them because you give them more of you than they will give you of themself.
This right here hit home really hard because I just walked away from someone who has done all of these things to me. And honestly I do blame myself because thought things would have changed an get better. Every single thing was to a T. I am sure I was not the only one that has gone through this as I read others stories. However I took my life back!!! 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
Respect is mandatory. Your wrestling with evil spirits tbh if a guy be doing these things his soul needs a serious purge. But you can't go through watcha don't tolerate.
When my son was born I made a pact with myself that one day another person would thank me for raising a kind, generous, considerate, loving man. I think I did a good job
Simply put...know when to LEAVE, forget the why, why, what get on with yourself, everybody doesn't have a conscience therefore nothing will ever ring that bell in their heads that they should "act right" LEAVE! even after you leave it won't matter because he never cared anyway.
Men will get too comfortable with being disrespectful as long as they subconsciously know they can run you over. He may feel a slight second of conviction, but the continuous passes develops that muscle memory to cause the same disrespect.
“Why is this mutha fucka still in my face” THE BEST AND MOST IMPORTANT POINT in any dating advice! Introspection is 🔑! If you allow someone’s to treat you badly your telling them it’s ok to do! Love yourself and take responsibility!
I'm am thankful for you giving women the man's perspective on relationship issues. It all boils down to is when you respect yourself you will attract a different type of man. And once he starts acting crazy you will let him go. We are in the era of desperation and afraid to be lonely.
True. It's natural to long for a real. Problem is, you become more and more desperate the more bad and abusive relationships you had. Until you hit rock bottom and face the loneliness because it's better to be alone than abused
If you can’t feel disrespect you can’t check disrespect point blank...stop asking why and start being responsible for what you allowed to happen to you..Tell The Truth Derrick..👍
Been there done that. Made him pack all his shit and drove him back to his uncle house. He wasted one good year of my life and I’ve been single ever since but I have peace and being single ain’t a bad thing ladies. Love on you!
Amen i should've left my ex in 2019 i devalued myself put up with shit no woman should put up with just for him to break up with me in October 2020. Never again will i put my self worth to the side again. He did me a favor my breaking up with me. Because I'm finally free of the bullshit.
It's crazy. Thank you for this message. I've been told I'm way to sensitive because don't allow disrespect.. a j.g en I did try to help a person understand they got upset...whose sensitive 🤔
I agree it's the first time they lie to you or betray you, they need to get out of your life. But the complication is some people can not manage their loneliness, fear they have no one else better to come along, are dependent financially, etc.
Amen to this video! Ladies, once they show you that disrespect, you show them the door! Do not give anyone the satisfaction of walking all over you and taking your kindness for granted! Onto Respectful, kind, compassionate and real relationships in 2020! 🙌🏻♥️🙏🏻
I absolutely love how he gives advice from a man perspective sometimes hearing this from your gf who’s been single for 5 years doesn’t resonate the same. Ladies we didn’t make him a f boy but it is our responsibility to set those boundaries. 👏🏾
He telling the truth- who better to tell you than someone that does it. Women need to take accountability for easily trusting and sleeping with these guys. Self love ladies- have respect for yourself and let these men prove they are worthy
This is 💯% accurate! My ex tried it 100x over! I realize that I tried to give him unconditional love when he never earned it nor did he earn the right to be in my life the way he was for as long as he was. Never again. As you suggested at the first sign of disrespect it's over!
Ive taken so much of your advice D so thanks for that. Ive decided that Im just not wanting to date any time soon as all I see are men, regardless of age, that are liars and narcissists. I deserve better. If there are good men out there, I guess they are all taken or gay as the pickins are slim to none.
A man who doesn't respect himself can not and never will respect you. If he can't show you that he values you show him the door. Lots of good men out there. Don't waste your time on the takers and the users.
Thank you so much. I usually drop men that don’t respect me for the very reasons you said and always thought I was being too Harsh. This video really reassured me that I am correct in requiring respect or nothing. Thank you
My ex mother allowed him to raise himself. Then she wanted control when he got older. When I met her she told me he was a jerk. I told her she raised him. And this is why he’s a ex.
I have been single 2 years now... that relationship needed to end because I realized God made me and I'm not worthless. The only people who have been trying to get my time are men who are looking for more than I am ready to give. So I let them go do their thing and don't give them time. If a good one comes along great but nope not playing that.
Thank you. You remind me of a good friend I used to have in my life. He always kept it real with me, even if it hurt. And it normally did. Thanks for reminding me of who TF I want to be.
RESPECT!!RESPECT!! THAT'S IT RESPECT YOURSELF THEN NO ONE AND I MEAN NO ONE CAN BREAK THROUGH THAT BUT RESPECT YOURSELF PUT LOVE ON THAT IS VERY POWERFUL NEVER LET ANYONE WALK INTO YOUR WORLD THAT DOESN'T HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS IN HEART!!! I KNOW BECAUSE IT TOOK ME YEARS TO SEE THAT BUT NOW I DO!!!
Check disrespect at the door. You let a person slide once and they start ice-skating.
LUV DIS!
Right!
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Exactly
2020 Rule: You abuse you lose! You disrespect I must reject!
Words to live by...🙄
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Ditto
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The first time a person shows you who they are believe them...
Amrn!!!!
Why are there so many poorly raised men?! Ugh it's exhausting...
Its epidemic. I don't get it. Its overwhelming!
absent fathers breeds Immature masculines... the book King Warrior Magician lover explains it in details.
Raised by single moms with no self worth..
Exactly! Woman are to blame for this to a degree.
Because they were raised by woman!
If a guy doesn't respect himself he is not going to respect you don't take it personal. Hurt people hurt others
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You're not a guy so you wouldn't understand
That’s right
My dad always say to me you can't control other people but you CAN control yourself...
My dad taught that as well
My dad too!
Yes, leave, leave, leave
Men ONLY recognize strength. You cant cry enough tears or shame him into respecting you. Its 7 billion ppl on this planet. YOU ALONE ARE ENOUGH!!!
I felt this comment. This is so very very true...
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No... A fool only recognize strength a MAN recognize femininity..
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True Femininity encompasses soft but resolute strength.
This is exactly why I left my last relationship. I refused to be disrespected any longer!
Sierra M. Just left him 2 days ago. He tired me for the last time. Never again
kammeron newton yes, because enough is enough. You’re free❤️
Sierra M. Same here
Amy-Lee Scott good! You’re worthy of respect, always.
@M Lane Did you tell him beforehand you have alot of buttons that can be pushed easily?
I have told many women, when a man doesn't respect you, he will do and say anything to you. A man may not like me but be will respect me. Period!!!
They will either respect u or leave u t.f alone. 💯
@@October3074 not true. Must people respect a person that respect themselves. A man will try you at less once. If you don't check him he will try again. If for some reason you don't see the respect I have for myself. I'm quick to clear that up for you. No booboo the fool here!!!
@@sylviabaskin2933 my comment was in response 2 u saying "he may not like u but he will respect u" bc when some men come across a woman who will not allow a man 2 disrespect them they get "offended" and won't have anything else 2 do with u. I wasn't disagreeing with u.
@@October3074 okay, your right. I have experienced that, but it was a blessing. 🤣😂😄
Lmao 😂 sorry to say but once I was disrespected. The guy ask me how is sex was , I told him the sex is whack and he ain’t shit. 🤣🤣🤣🤣damn his feelings was hurt 😞. A man love disrespecting women but once you disrespect them they can’t take it. 😂🤣🤣🤣
Disrespect is definitely a deal breaker.
FACTS
Yup no going back after being disrespected
Disrespect/contempt is probably the biggest relationship killer. It’s simply impossible to share a household or do a job constructively with disrespectful or contemptuous partner/s.
Definitely, 1000%! This is the energy! Lauren Hill said it best: 'Respect is just the minimum', never be acquiescent to disrespect.
Cut those people off and NEVER look back. So excited for this decade . All the people that hurt and disrespected me will NEVER have access to me again .
Me too. This is my year for that.
Exactly. In 2020 we are not allowing anyone back into our lives that doesn't make us feel good!!!
Yess I am not reconnecting with anyone who I disconnected with. There is no toxic person that has access to me.
Yes indeed yes indeed
Aren’t you afraid of being lonely? I’ve blocked all those ppl but I’m afraid to live in the world alone.
Leaving everyone that disrespected me in 2019. Only growth and good vibes from respectful people in 2020. 👏
Amen
Ester Graham P E R I O D
MsHaleyPaige yesss!
I did that yesterday
InnerRise “Except who you were this year because it’s who you are already next year” lol speak for yourself not for everyone else, it’s called personal growth for a reason. People are allowed to start a clean slate if you weren’t aware.
She needs to stop worrying why he doesn’t respect her, the question is why she doesn’t feel she deserves better treatment. It’s her life she is in control.
Marie love is love . Emotional damage is real . Everyone is different girl .👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Had a therapist ask me this and I wasn't ready to answer. So glad I am ready to and get out. 2020 I will be free.
Most likely she wasn’t love right by her parents growing up… something people have no control of … it makes them vulnerable
I feel so exhausted. It’s so draining to be so kind and good to a man and he just crosses the line and has no respect for a woman. It’s heartbreaking
Queenly - You don't know just how beautiful you are... I feel prettier at 56 than I did in my 20s (what a waste!!!). As younger women, we might think the competition is so fierce that we're always sub-par. As an objective person, I see a beautiful young woman that really doesn't know it yet.
PS - My man is pretty exhausting too ;-) After 20-years, he takes me for granted...
@@shoshanna8475 Oh thank you so much but i dont know what outer physical beauty has to do with this all
@@QueenQueenly It took me a while to be able to answer, and all I came up with was trying to save younger women some of my failings (or yes, some projection?) Although I realize it may not even be applicable for you. I guess I really meant, "God I wasted so much time thinking I wasn't enough that I wasted too much time on clowns. I had such low self-esteem, and I had many more options than I realized." If that's not you - cool - but I wanted you to know what a complete stranger saw: a lovely young woman with so much ahead of her. I meant it well, although I realize it sucks women are reduced to such terms. Still, the hard reality is that I get hit on a whole lot more at 135-lbs (even at 56) than I did (in my mid-40s) at 230-lbs. I know EXACTLY how shallow the whole thing really is...
You r so right!
Honestly it has nothing to do with being nice but everything to do with boundaries. Much luv!!
I needed this reality check. It's not "why is he treating me this way," but instead "why the f*** is he still here"
Sometimes it’s just as simple as that and it’s hard for us to swallow that pill
I needed to hear this. We allow ourselves to go though so much
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I myself needed to hear that,
Right and what’s crazy is that we no better but hearing it from someone else make sense
Yeah right women don't go through half of the shit
Exactly! A man will respect you to the degree that you respect yoursefl!
The longer you stay around someone that don't respect you, the more you will not love yourself. You will start believing the lies the abuser tell you, and believe you did something wrong to deserve that treatment. It's best to break up at the first sign of abuse. Don't give no chances run for your life. If you don't leave it's only going to get worse. Because the abuser will say no matter what they do, you are not going to leave.
So true
I need a friend like you around to remind me
Facts, I had to come to this realization this year, my Boyfriend took my kindness for weakness, he took me caring for him as an obligation m he didn’t think I would leave n when I broke up with him it hit him hard n I’m glad I did, when they don’t appreciate your presence make them notice your absence 🙏🏾👌🏾
And when you leave its like a burden has been lifted off of your shoulders.
Noelle Davenport girl yes, I swear I didn’t realize this til I broke up with this man, I was literally abandoning my own needs n wants for a grown ass me n all while he’s just so damn contend like wtf, I had to tell myself if I don’t have a child in this life then so b it, I’m bout to b 30 years old n there are things on my bucket list I want to do n places I want to go n I can’t have a man who can’t afford shit n expects me to pay n buy him shit like NO we NOT doing that shit anymore I’m Good alone 🙏🏾
lady Lorp That’s right!! Can u tell me how do I send questions to Derrick Jaxn Dm? Sorry I’m old school idk much about how to do this new stuff
Angelique Knox if you follow him on Instagram u can easily do that, on here I don’t really know
😂😂🤣🤣yes the savageness.
God bless the men who respect women and the women who recognize a respectful man with appreciation.
I rather be alone than to deal with someone who treats me like I ain’t shit and not care about my feelings. You only have one time to cross me and I’m blocking you on everything and moving on with my life ✌🏽especially when I did everything right 💯
Facts ‼️‼️
Good. I wish I would of done that with that man I was with right away.
Exactly...that’s why I make sure I’m always polite, sweet and grateful to a man, I put my BEST self forward so if he starts acting like an ass I take my best self and leave knowing I did everything I could have done and he was not worthy!
You do everything right?
What do you mean?
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I’m focusing on myself and getting this degree 🤷🏾♀️
Ashanti Rashad amen sister! Nursing school for me!
Falcoda Industries good luck 🙌🏾
Falcoda Industries same. Just finished my first semester. 8 years on and off I tried to make it work and he said he doesn’t think it will but he’ll think about it I said don’t think, I miss him so much but if I reach out nothing will change.
Heather you go girl. He shouldn’t have to think about it . You will meet a man who won’t even hesitate.
ypm 123 I needed to hear that thank you ♥️🙏
Disrespect is Abusive and mistreatment.
I just learned that the hard way.
Men do that when there’s other women in their rotation and they are adding you to their undisclosed team.
yeppp!!
Facts ALL day long!!!!
Facts ALL day long!!!!
And this is how city/hot girls are born 🙃
Whispering Acts THIS
What u respect u will protect !!!! Respect yourself
"the only question you should be asking is --why is this man still in my face?" !!!
Us women need to know our worth and what we deserve!!! Stop settling, and tolerating BS! It took me a while but thanks to you D....I got there 💪🏾😘💯
It took me a while too but hey, we made it!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
You're worthless.
Congrats.
@@darrengordon-hill Lol You have to have no life. I see you under alot of these videos spewing hatred all over the place. Are you depressed? Are you looking for validation? It has to be something because there's no way a grown man is acting like that.
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YOU see "hatred"; that's your fault.
No ma'am; you're.
No ma'am; you're.
"No way for a grown man to act"
Are you saying... I'm acting like a... ... woman?
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Essentially WEAK Boundaries and wishy washy expectations = lack of respect
Word. He tried. He got cut off. Done.
Been through this before years ago. And the number one way to get a man to respect you is by NOT bending over backwards everytime he says jump. Don't go out of your way to do things for him especially when he didn't ask. A few times is okay but constantly doing this will definitely have him not respect you and will get you used in the end. Men think differently as women do. You may think your being nice and helping him out but many men especially when your first dating can not take that much attention. Because they are not use to it. Another way to get a man to respect you is by having a backbone and speaking up for yourself. Many of us black women we feel that we can not speak up for fear of being labeled to bossy or hard to get along with. How can a person that you will be spending your future with not want you to speak up and say how you feel? That's says alot about him more than it does you.
You are so right about this I was in a relationship with the guy that was disrespectful to me one thing I've learned and I really believe that this is true because I've heard this fall in love with someone that loves you more than you love them. Meaning as a woman have a man that goes after you don't ever been over backwards and do too much for a man.
Well said! 👍🏾👏🏾🙏🏾👊🏾💯🔥
This is wisdom, Sis. Thanks for sharing.🙂
One of the realist comments on here
@@MandyAliens Why can't you get over your obsession to be included in everything we do? Girl shut the h up😂. Racism/ws is still around because your kind still benefit from and maintain it. We call ourselves black women because that's our reality. And yes we are human, however we are not all the same and that's ok. Our differences make us who we are and our blackness is more just a color.
I finally get that a woman’s power is her ability to walk away and I have not let a man’s behavior affect me since then if it is not aligned with how I deserve to be treated and respected.
Yes girl!
Shut it down and move on. Women we deserve better and have to set boundaries. It may hurt a little but it will save you a heartache. Change your mindset go in to 2020 with a new mind of Self Love, Self Care and Follow your Bliss!
Thank you. The bully at work is being reported to HR tomorrow and I needed to hear this.
I have been weak for too long. No longer will I tolerate this. Thank you for everything you have taught me about how a real man is supposed to talk, think and act. It has cleared up a lot of my confusion. It’s me not loving myself😔 and setting higher standards. He is who he is and always has been. I just wouldn’t accept that my love couldn’t help him be better. But I am changing for me. I can do bad all by myself. Moving forward and not looking or going back.
PREACH!!!!! When someone is blatantly and habitually disrespecting you or is continuously causing you harm... STOP ASKING “WHY?!” RUN FOR YOUR LIFE‼️ Save yourself!!! ✌🏾🚗💨 LEAVE THEM ALONE‼️
You shouldn’t have to trade anyone’s love and company with your dignity. Not from lover, family or friends.
The question you should be asking is "Why is he still in you MF'ing face?" Derrick Jaxn, 2019 .... I'm dead!!! Keepin it 💯
Best part!👍
He he something else, he keep it real!
they dont want you but they can't do without you either..they don't want someone else to get you
If walks and quacks like a duck it ain’t a moose. So true 😊
“Leave the table when respect is no longer being served”!
As a man , everything you’ve said made absolute perfect sense . Especially the part about the waiting period or how easy he had access after his inexcusable behavior. Continue to bless these people with jewels 💎 including myself. 💙❤️‼️
Let's not put it all on a female being the soft good hearted woman God made her to be to support the male and help him be all he should be and would not grow to be without her. He is just a poor person character. She is perfectly valuable and worthy of love honor and respect why she got to wk hard to earn his live? He knew he wasn't ready for love when he asked her to be his woman. He just knew she was respectable and he couldn't lay down with her and not be a couple. Her fault is having bad judgement by not being more selective. She was up to par when he met her he was jobless, transportationaless, failing school, had low self esteem she upgraded him as a wise woman with hopes to build a future. She motivated him to get a at,employed,enrolled I college and he jets from the relationship. He had bad character,an opportunist so he is currently a reflection of her. She made him but can he sustain now that it's over
What you doing up in this boy video expressing your feelings all up in his video you better go find yourself up a real man's Channel don't you see all these females up in this video you want to be called Sis boy ain't you a man son are you soft boy get up out that man channel tighten up
Blue bill much
All y’all oh so “manly” men on this man video and under this comment acting a fool because they are both men who respect and value women enough that they give advice and put the women on to all the bs men do..I’m pretty sure y’all single. 🤣🤣🤣 If you don’t like what’s being said in the video don’t watch it.
Been there, done that! I'm glowing up and elevating!!!! ❤
Thx. Derrick!!
That's right...shine girl 💝
@@serigabe6452 yes!! 🤗
This dating stuff too confusing. You call em out on everything - you’re nagging. Don’t check him for not calling back - now he won’t respect you enough to call you back like he promised. Then you gotta keep a score sheet to remember how many times he messed up so when he hits that number you can leave. That’s a full time job! I just want a loving happy healthy relationship not plan & strategize a nuclear war. These rules & games are exhausting.
I completely understand. Frustrating as hell. Almost makes me want to give it up completely.
Trust and believe.... I'm so confused. I just cant... it shouldn't be this difficult
Wow its sad that so may of us feel like this! Smh
Everything is about your boundaries that you don’t let people cross. We make soo many allowances.
The truth is... I have trauma (just like everyone else) that can show up as me being desperate for love. I’m human, I need love so it’s a primal instinct to do things to get it even if it’s kinda fycj
I was in my head about a decision I made about someone, this is confirmation I did right
Me too girl
Too many hidden rules and agendas I just will be single. No one should have to go through all this mess just to have a relationship.
Facts and Amen we human we make mistake and do some stuff on purpose we all get lonely so going though all that is bs facts I agree with u totally
YASSSSS Thanks..When did men have the right to treat us as such..who the eff they think they are..Wtfff..are they serious like come on They needed us first.They need to fuck off with this Only they can tell us who our worth is.fuck outta here with dat bullshit..smh
It's not considered rules when you uphold yourself on a level where you know better not to tolerate or waste your time dealing with nonsense, it doesn't seem so difficult.
Self love is high up there with the love of G-D (or The Higher Spirit).
Point. Blank. Period. Single is not a curse.
Disrespect is something I won't tolerate regardless of whom u are! FULL STOP.
There is no psychology in this... when a guy doesn’t respect himself he will not respect you... don’t take personally what he does, just laugh and walk away.
Been saying this for years, stop giving everything away to complete strangers.
And a complete stranger can be someone you've "known" for years and still dont know them because you give them more of you than they will give you of themself.
I love your insight it’s beautiful and Blatantly honest
bigjayking24 I love Kev Hicks! Both him and Derrick are my go to’s!
bigjayking24 I’ll have to check him out
This right here hit home really hard because I just walked away from someone who has done all of these things to me. And honestly I do blame myself because thought things would have changed an get better. Every single thing was to a T.
I am sure I was not the only one that has gone through this as I read others stories. However I took my life back!!! 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
in the process of taking it back too :)
Respect is mandatory. Your wrestling with evil spirits tbh if a guy be doing these things his soul needs a serious purge. But you can't go through watcha don't tolerate.
When my son was born I made a pact with myself that one day another person would thank me for raising a kind, generous, considerate, loving man. I think I did a good job
Simply put...know when to LEAVE, forget the why, why, what get on with yourself, everybody doesn't have a conscience therefore nothing will ever ring that bell in their heads that they should "act right" LEAVE! even after you leave it won't matter because he never cared anyway.
This is it. Forget the why, just know when.
maya Angelou said it best: when someone shows you who they are believe them the first time."
ladies please "know your worth and put tax on it."
Men will get too comfortable with being disrespectful as long as they subconsciously know they can run you over. He may feel a slight second of conviction, but the continuous passes develops that muscle memory to cause the same disrespect.
“Why is this mutha fucka still in my face” THE BEST AND MOST IMPORTANT POINT in any dating advice! Introspection is 🔑! If you allow someone’s to treat you badly your telling them it’s ok to do! Love yourself and take responsibility!
So true. Move along. It’s about him and not her. He ain’t raised that’s a fact and probably does respect his own Mama. Fact.
It's true for anyone. If someone is disrespectful, just lose them.
I'm am thankful for you giving women the man's perspective on relationship issues. It all boils down to is when you respect yourself you will attract a different type of man. And once he starts acting crazy you will let him go. We are in the era of desperation and afraid to be lonely.
True. It's natural to long for a real. Problem is, you become more and more desperate the more bad and abusive relationships you had. Until you hit rock bottom and face the loneliness because it's better to be alone than abused
If you can’t feel disrespect you can’t check disrespect point blank...stop asking why and start being responsible for what you allowed to happen to you..Tell The Truth Derrick..👍
I'm just here due to the recent scandal 🤣🤣🤣
You are right. I've accepted a large part of the reason I was so disrespected is I let it happen. Learned my lesson the hard way unfortunately...
Been there done that. Made him pack all his shit and drove him back to his uncle house. He wasted one good year of my life and I’ve been single ever since but I have peace and being single ain’t a bad thing ladies. Love on you!
Amen i should've left my ex in 2019 i devalued myself put up with shit no woman should put up with just for him to break up with me in October 2020. Never again will i put my self worth to the side again. He did me a favor my breaking up with me. Because I'm finally free of the bullshit.
How embarrassing to allow the disrespect : I walked after a year: how pathetic I allowed that for a whole year . 🤦🏼♀️ lesson learned.
Love this, respect is mandatory!💜 💜 💜
It's crazy. Thank you for this message. I've been told I'm way to sensitive because don't allow disrespect.. a j.g en I did try to help a person understand they got upset...whose sensitive 🤔
I'm so glad I'm single in these times. Men Smh! And the Women who go through the mess. I oray for you
Absolutely 100% accurate! Respect yourself first! Set boundaries and stick to them. If he doesn’t stick to those, he isn’t your person!
Be absolute. No wavering... Communicate 100% No. Patience until learned.
"He tried me" but now he's history!
“It’s time to leave the table when respect is no longer being served”!
I agree it's the first time they lie to you or betray you, they need to get out of your life. But the complication is some people can not manage their loneliness, fear they have no one else better to come along, are dependent financially, etc.
Amen to this video! Ladies, once they show you that disrespect, you show them the door! Do not give anyone the satisfaction of walking all over you and taking your kindness for granted! Onto Respectful, kind, compassionate and real relationships in 2020! 🙌🏻♥️🙏🏻
I absolutely love how he gives advice from a man perspective sometimes hearing this from your gf who’s been single for 5 years doesn’t resonate the same. Ladies we didn’t make him a f boy but it is our responsibility to set those boundaries. 👏🏾
Right I just learned this the hard way
This honestly resonated with me.
Me too Sis!
Same
So Watchu gonna do? Derick gave you the medicine it’s up to you to take it to increase your wellbeing
@@catrinaandrade9814 I've been there and done that
God Bless you Derrick. God Bless you. I'm DONE being tried.
He telling the truth- who better to tell you than someone that does it. Women need to take accountability for easily trusting and sleeping with these guys. Self love ladies- have respect for yourself and let these men prove they are worthy
If you have to ask why ...then it's a walk away situation.
Men also lose respect for women when they cry make a big scene threaten to leave/break up and then DONT!!!!! Ridiculous
Fuck those type of Men
Who cares about if he respects you?? Who is he anyways. Ladies keep your head up and know your worth.
This is 💯% accurate! My ex tried it 100x over! I realize that I tried to give him unconditional love when he never earned it nor did he earn the right to be in my life the way he was for as long as he was. Never again. As you suggested at the first sign of disrespect it's over!
If I was never born, he'd still be the way he is. Great to hear it that way.
Ive taken so much of your advice D so thanks for that. Ive decided that Im just not wanting to date any time soon as all I see are men, regardless of age, that are liars and narcissists. I deserve better. If there are good men out there, I guess they are all taken or gay as the pickins are slim to none.
A man who doesn't respect himself can not and never will respect you. If he can't show you that he values you show him the door. Lots of good men out there. Don't waste your time on the takers and the users.
Wish I would have heard this 30 years ago.
Prefect timing for this video thanks for giving me the extra boost.( Yea that bitch tried me)
@Mommy coupon He sure DID!
Thank you so much. I usually drop men that don’t respect me for the very reasons you said and always thought I was being too
Harsh. This video really reassured me that I am correct in requiring respect or nothing. Thank you
My ex mother allowed him to raise himself. Then she wanted control when he got older. When I met her she told me he was a jerk. I told her she raised him. And this is why he’s a ex.
2020 I'm not dealing with it, I need a ring & commitment
Thank you for this video Derrick you always keep us women woke. 🙏🏼
If being too nice make a person disrespect you then that is a person you will be MUCH HAPPIER OUT OF YOUR LIFE I know from personal experience
Love it!! It is our lady’s responsibility for how we are treated moving forward.
Love you Derrick your so full of knowledge and greatness
I have been single 2 years now... that relationship needed to end because I realized God made me and I'm not worthless. The only people who have been trying to get my time are men who are looking for more than I am ready to give. So I let them go do their thing and don't give them time. If a good one comes along great but nope not playing that.
Miriam Cooper go girl
Thank you.
You remind me of a good friend I used to have in my life. He always kept it real with me, even if it hurt. And it normally did.
Thanks for reminding me of who TF I want to be.
Damn your right, I went thru hell with my husband, no respect at all. Not with him no more. Thank u
Well said..ladies don't make urself a victim to a b.s. man.
RESPECT!!RESPECT!! THAT'S IT RESPECT YOURSELF THEN NO ONE AND I MEAN NO ONE CAN BREAK THROUGH THAT BUT RESPECT YOURSELF PUT LOVE ON THAT IS VERY POWERFUL NEVER LET ANYONE WALK INTO YOUR WORLD THAT DOESN'T HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS IN HEART!!! I KNOW BECAUSE IT TOOK ME YEARS TO SEE THAT BUT NOW I DO!!!
ABSOLUTELY!!! You have to nip it immediately! Women have to learn to call a thing a thing! They treat you the way you treat yourself
Thanks Derrick. I always enjoy how real you are. It's like having a big brother in your corner.