@@yolanda007 Some are cowards. Also, they want to keep the door open. Not for anything serious. Just BS. That's why it's best to shut them down. No contact.
@@shaunoffrange8122 That’s not true. Men exaggerate that “bad boy” narrative so they can justify treating women like sh*t and not take any accountability.
I don’t understand that. I’m typically a very guarded person so it takes a long time to trust. In the beginning I’m not even interested, they chase me DOWN then once my feelings are reciprocated they go ghost tf?!
Treat me like a option and I'll treat you like you're not in the picture. A lot of guys have tried to play with everything you've said and I just bounce. Not a big fan of wasting my time.
Glad I do not deal with this mess. Its easy for me to cut someone off. When you make a man your life and your world.....it will fail. Focus on God not man.
Beware of the "I'm just too depressed right now" excuse. Fell for that one recently. He wasnt too depressed, he was stringing me along while he was dating others and the depression was just an excuse to go MIA.
This statement will most likely make they lady loose guard and become softer towards him, making her an easy prey. I always tell myself not to make excuses for a man wheh says he's too depressed or messed up to have anything serious with me
The first one is interesting. The majority of men I attract are always fresh out of a relationship/situationship and are still dealing with the drama from it. Men seek out nice, stable “healing” women that they can obtain emotional security from while they entertain the exciting “crazy” chick that you’re so “different” from. I haven’t dated in so long and this is the most at peace I’ve ever been. Peace I could never experience with a man. How sad!
@@NOYBZ No I do not love fixing broken men because broken men never want to get their sh*t together. They go through life manipulating women who are kind and nurturing and instead of appreciating those characteristics they take all their insecurities, resentments and traumas out on her. At the end of the day, they will never treat her well because they don’t really like her. They like her attention, dependability and caregiving. The sad part is he won’t like or respect her until she ghosts/breaks up with him. Men seem to only understand chase and excitement!
@@cristinarivera5707 well ofc not "all women" and women do the exact thing you say men do. Matter of fact humans are like that. Yet we can't come to an agreement huh? It's a cycle no one willing to break. And btw the men who seem to like excitement etc are the same guys women are into, another cycle.
@@NOYBZ Again! Women are not in to broken men or men who are in to excitement. You completely contradicted yourself. You said not all women and then proceed to say women like men like this. Sir, look! Men are very nice, sweet, respectful, charming, etc. in the beginning. Why? Because women like that. That puts us at ease. As soon as we become comfortable with him because we believe this good guy presentation, he senses that and begins slowly dropping the act! Men constantly pretend women like getting mistreated so they can justify these actions and they can avoid accountability. In healthy happy relationships men treat their partner beautifully and respectfully. I’ve witnessed this a couple times in my life so I know it exists somewhere, so whenever a man swears women like problematic men he’s already communicated to me that he’s one of those men.
Holy shit, this video could not have come at a better time. I had finally reached a zen-like, "over it" stage of getting over a guy and then he suddenly texts. There's always some excuse. Always an unfortunate circumstance... Yet here I am, struggling with my own life problems too yet I'm also able to be consistent? He's just lying at this point. The saddest part is that, despite having gained a lot of self-wisdom the last few years, I still have a naive nature that leads me to overly give the benefit of the doubt. I assumed he was good with good intentions deep down. But honestly, this behaviour (plus some other signs) shows me that he's probably a narcissist or someone with heavily narcissistic traits. I've been in a relationship with a narc before and it nearly destroyed me... so I think I dodged a bullet. Thank you.
I read about that. When your life is put together, that's the zen paradox, or hoover effect..Right when you're happy bc THEY'RE gone, they show up! It's a trial of your strength, so don't give up.🌱🎋
NEVER give the benefit of the doubt. NEVER "fill in the blanks" for him or make excuses for him on his behalf. They will count on you doing so and take full advantage of it. Stay strong and protect your peace ✌ Good on you for seeing the red flags and trusting your gut early!!
I'm exactly the same, Ashley. Always assuming the best instead of looking at the facts and it is extremely frustrating. What I learned is that if you complain about someone else's inconsistency it's because you lack consistency yourself. Meaning: if you are consistent, you wouldn't let people like this rule your world and won't let them back in ever again. You decide what your boundaries are.
I take no man serious, until he takes himself serious 🤷🏽♀️ . I stopped changing things in my life to make myself available and now make them adjust. They get with it or get gone. I also date two + depending on my schedule. It’s too many men for me to choose from, to be focusing/or pressed on one. I’m no longer in question of my value. I date how men date, but without the sex. Options. May the best men win 🤗
LMAO!!! With the narcissistic arrogant attitude you have towards selecting a mate whatever man that doesn't end up with you is the real winner.........
Im glad I am not in this type of mess anymore. Been there, done that, now married and moved on. These situations are sad. This is not someone to take seriously at all. This was so me 15 years ago. Thank God for grace and mercy!!
Seems as if once you're over 35 this is every man you meet. I started dating again in my 40s after a long marriage. I haven't met one man who didn't fit into at least one of these categories. Needless to say I was burned a few times before figuring out what was going on. I still go on dates but have been single by choice for years because of what's out there and what men show me. All my single girlfriends report the same. I don't think most men actually want relationships.
I remember the days when only younger men pulled this nonsense and acted like mutts. Now it's older men too, who are only offering sex. If I am gonna go for only sex, I'll go for a younger guy who is more in shape and more attractive than his older counterpart. If men are gonna be superficial, so will I. Sauce for the goose and all that. If older guys want to offer something substantial and real emotionally (I don't need or want any man's cash), then great. But if it's just basic, give me a younger guy every time. Generally more energetic and open mentally too.
@@SKOLAH no im NOT blaming us for mens behaviors but we have the power to accept and deny invitations. ANDDDD im saying everybody can get help, all of us have been hurt in some form mentally, thats why i said once we fix ourselves we attract what we allow into our lives.
Here is the thing, men know when they are inconsistent. That’s why you don’t invest in someone who is not showing any effort or shows some effort, but not as much as you.
Went out with a guy who waited until after the date to tell me he didn’t have a place to live. On top of that the car he was driving wasn’t even his, it was his sister’s. He had struggle written all over him. I couldn’t stick around. I did say a prayer for him though 🤷🏾♀️
See this is why i am single and as cute ad i am i might ad will get used to being alone because dating takes too much work and trying to figure out a person intentions seems impossible, ugh 😩
Girl... I’m 23 and feeling the same. But at least single = peace and good health. No bs drama from bs men. I’m trying to look at single as a positive 😅
Nooo when those two signs are involved, you'll never need to tell them. Trust me, they ain't interested. Those two signs LIVE to pursue, especially the Leo. Leo is a fixed sign, they look for partnership and stability and if he's not chasing or pursuing that then RUN!! As for Aries, they love variety dunno about them guys especially if you're a scorpio. I'm a Scropio moon. Ghost them and see how they behave. Leo's crave attention as do Aries, cut that with no warning and they behave batty 🤣
@R.A. D Awesome! Just make sure the women you are taking out know that! as a matter of fact, don't take any women out. It will send the message you want a relationship or you just want sex. Be clear
Derrick, please do a video on relationships with someone struggling with addiction and mental health issues. I really want to know what your thoughts are. Thank you.
Yes...not resolve past issues, him not being consistent when I show him interest back, all the exceptions come.....AVOID AVOID AVOID. I have saw all of these before, I was too understanding and I should not have taken them seriously. That has stopped and so has my time being wasted. You are right on point Derrick!!!!
I know a guy that treats his girlfriend as if she’s his wife, but still won’t marry her. Even after four years and they ain’t no spring chickens! She even became friends with his ex-girlfriend, the one he was with BEFORE he was with her and he still talks to her. So, he’s consistent alright, but not in a good way.
This is a great point. Manipulators will keep adapting. They do whatever they need to to get their way. I’m noticing that the more info that comes out on narcissism and what red flags to look out for, the more they hide the behaviors they know you’re looking out for and keep looking for new more insidious ways to keep you hooked. Gotta keep adapting just as fast.
There was this one guy that I met on a dating app. He seemed nice he was consistent good morning and afternoon at night. So I was still like waiting for a date. He finally invited me to go to breakfast with him. He ordered all of the food that he wanted. He asked what I wanted - as an afterthought. Anyways we’re sitting there he’s got like three plates of food and when he sat down to eat he looked at me and he said, “I wish I had enough cash to get me a cup of coffee.” Really?! I had to get rid of him that was just too much for a grown man and me at my age of 53. Can you say next?!
Are you SERIOUS?? OMG! 53 YEARS OLD! Well, people don’t change bad behavior as they age. They just get better at it! One of my best friends is like this!
True I went through that, the first stuff Derrick was talking about. Glad I knew than he wasn’t ready for a relationship he kept saying he was confused between me a 2 year relationship and his kid mom of 8 years . I avoid them types now those who have baby mommas. Way too many guys out their with no kids and drama free.
:( I married a narcissist (3 yrs)got smart finally...divorced....dancing with God till he finds one worthy to cut in...though I'm working on getting a backbone and standing up for my boundaries..i know what type I am and why im preyed upon...it plain sucks.... :_(
Yes, but you had the courage to leave, so you ARE stronger than you think. You can take what you learned from your situation and make it work for you. You are gonna be OK!
Girl, I read ur comment, then found a downloadable version of "Men Don't Love Women Like You" online last night. Its goooood- I'm already halfway thru! Thanx for puttin us on!
Right. My baby father was telling me. He wanted his family to work and if we had communicate better we would of been to get her again in September. In October he told me he’s expecting another baby. He didn’t even tell me he had an relationship until august.
Hey young brother it is good to finally take part in a NEW commentary, NO PUN INTENDED. I have only viewed the ones from years prior which have been just AWESOME of course but now I get to experience you in the current time and guess what, you are STILL just as AWESOME!!😊 Direct and time efficient as well, I LOVE IT!!! I personally am of the seasoned generation and widowed, so a lot of the things you cover I have already covered in my life but it's so funny that I now run into the same foolishness now that I'm a single person again. The foolishness is just more blatant in this day and time. Again, thank you my young Brother for uncovering, so to speak, the "Man Code" which can also be viewed in a woman's perspective as well. God bless you!🙏🙌
Yes I do this all the time with guys . If I see or feel I’m not being pursued then I treat them like a option . I’m slow at txting back sometimes I don’t reply at all and it’s bc I don’t care or I get distracted . For some reason he still chases me . This the key treating him like he’s the female
I had one that recently got axed...We just met and he was already making up excuses as to why he could not take me on a date but was steady trying to come to my place 😒😒.......then try to make me pay for a dinner date I straight up called him on FaceTime eating tacos🌮 this was just this past Tuesday😂🤣🤣🤣 he is now BLOCKED
I just let a guy go. I read into everything you just said and all that was going on. I was like nope. Bye. You just confirmed I made the correct choice.
Thank you for putting into words something I couldn't quite define -- being chased and given special treatment right up until I start taking him seriously and returning the affection then, bam!, the games and foolishness begin. I'm so over it.
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I have 2 kids w a man that had all these red flags early on! Derrick you are soooo right ! Y’all better run!! I thought he could change but you know I was young and had a lot of hurt! So thankful for these videos as I now see the mistakes I made. Fixing my damages so that I can be ready when the right one comes!
I will friend zone myself until I'm sure beyond doubt that he's ready willing and able to enter into a relationship with me and give me the commitment it entails.
Yups hit it right on the nail Inconsistency has been what I’m dealing with and it’s very true. It’s a red flag when someone is simply going for instant gratification rather than maintaining a relationship. Ugh 😑 sometimes I get so tired of dating but I know my dream guy is out there somewhere Until then we gotta enjoy the other good things in life :)
As a general rule, a man should not be taken seriously unless he shows a reason to be. Ladies, don’t just automatically take a man seriously. Don’t take him seriously until he shows himself to be a serious person. Ladies, hop off of the A train. (Autopilot).
I think you have a gift for what you're doing. Don't stop. Although I've been through most of what you're talking about, there a re so many other women that need to hear this.
Very happy for your success. You are the true example of a person just doing what they believe in ✨ and being authentic & then rewards flourish. From Glory to Glory.
I had an ex like this. Listen to this man up above. Me and my ex dated at 18 and during the virus he messaged me saying hello. I responded to him because we didn’t end in bad terms and we were young. We’re both 21 now. I figured we had enough time to mature and move on and that it was okay for us to speak on friendly terms. He began using this push and push technique. I fell for it a little at first but then I told him he pushes and and pulls. We still spoke on friendly terms, we were good. I wasn’t thinking too much about it. Then one day he said “ I just didn’t want to disappear again” and something just twisted in me. When we first broke up I had feelings of abandonment, but now that we were broken up for 2 years I couldn’t believe he was saying that. Like how weak do you think I am? If someone is trying to manipulate you like that, it’s not love, he’s just using you for attention. I had to learn this.
How do date in this pandemic world? All the dating apps and dating websites are just full of crappy people. Advice on meeting people when we're all supposed to be social distancing
If you’re inconsistent, I become distant. Inconsistency shows a lack of effort. Your lack of effort, brings on my lack of interest. Boy Bye!!!!
@Nika UMMMM OK I like how you said that sis, I'm not dating but just wanted to compliment you on your swag 🙌🏾💯
@Nika Nicely...I like how you threw that down girl 👍
🙏 I move on slowly. I'll make you think you still got me...
Well said👏
@@charlottewenn1853 leave them confuse so they fall in the End hole it's over bumm ass loser
This is straight facts. When he's serious there won't be any confusion. Lack of consistency is a sign.
2611Lover So True 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Oh yeah so true! I’ve noticed that when his patterns change and he’s not consistent that’s when I noticed he’s changed.
Kwarm Rak Sea Dum I can’t stand a man that just can’t be honest if your not feeling me keep it 💯 so we can both give each other the deuces.
@@yolanda007 Some are cowards. Also, they want to keep the door open. Not for anything serious. Just BS. That's why it's best to shut them down. No contact.
Lene Brantley I completely agree I personally have given up on dating I don’t have time for the games man play.
That inconsistency is the BIGGEST RED FLAG! They just lose interest after they get you to care back.
Exactly. When a guy like you, you'll know.
The problem is most women complain about the man behaving the same way they found attractive in the first place.
Exactly! As soon as you return his interest, the thrill is gone!
@@shaunoffrange8122 That’s not true. Men exaggerate that “bad boy” narrative so they can justify treating women like sh*t and not take any accountability.
I don’t understand that. I’m typically a very guarded person so it takes a long time to trust. In the beginning I’m not even interested, they chase me DOWN then once my feelings are reciprocated they go ghost tf?!
Treat me like a option and I'll treat you like you're not in the picture. A lot of guys have tried to play with everything you've said and I just bounce. Not a big fan of wasting my time.
Facts!!!!
🗣️ *My sentiments, EXACTLY!!!* 💯
Facts 🗣preach
True 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 .
Correct...wouldn't waste your time if given an opportunity
Glad I do not deal with this mess. Its easy for me to cut someone off. When you make a man your life and your world.....it will fail. Focus on God not man.
Thats right!! Stay that way!!
You're absolutely spot on.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
True and it goes both ways. Its a 50/50 when it comes to dating. All about taking chances if you wish to deal with someone
Preach
Beware of the "I'm just too depressed right now" excuse. Fell for that one recently. He wasnt too depressed, he was stringing me along while he was dating others and the depression was just an excuse to go MIA.
Relate able 😧
Sounds like some mess I’m getting over. “I just have to let myself be vulnerable.” Ugh boy whatever.
They have the peter pan syndrome! They never grow up! Smh!
This statement will most likely make they lady loose guard and become softer towards him, making her an easy prey. I always tell myself not to make excuses for a man wheh says he's too depressed or messed up to have anything serious with me
Oh sorry sis
I detest inconsistency
Same 😑
Same
@@ratedr9672 🍀🏵️🍀
@@DrineThePoet 👍🏽🍀🏵️
Girl, detest!!! I just cut someone off because of it. 2020 has been hard enough, I will be damn if I accept any more of 2020s bullshit. Loooooool.
Inconsistent men should not be taken seriously.... Com'on yall! Touch somebody in agreement! ❤
The first one is interesting. The majority of men I attract are always fresh out of a relationship/situationship and are still dealing with the drama from it. Men seek out nice, stable “healing” women that they can obtain emotional security from while they entertain the exciting “crazy” chick that you’re so “different” from. I haven’t dated in so long and this is the most at peace I’ve ever been. Peace I could never experience with a man. How sad!
Time to attract better, sis. No matter what, stay in your peace and light.
Women love to fix broken men and then complain later on lol
This is one funny cycle
@@NOYBZ No I do not love fixing broken men because broken men never want to get their sh*t together. They go through life manipulating women who are kind and nurturing and instead of appreciating those characteristics they take all their insecurities, resentments and traumas out on her. At the end of the day, they will never treat her well because they don’t really like her. They like her attention, dependability and caregiving. The sad part is he won’t like or respect her until she ghosts/breaks up with him. Men seem to only understand chase and excitement!
@@cristinarivera5707 well ofc not "all women" and women do the exact thing you say men do. Matter of fact humans are like that. Yet we can't come to an agreement huh? It's a cycle no one willing to break.
And btw the men who seem to like excitement etc are the same guys women are into, another cycle.
@@NOYBZ Again! Women are not in to broken men or men who are in to excitement. You completely contradicted yourself. You said not all women and then proceed to say women like men like this. Sir, look! Men are very nice, sweet, respectful, charming, etc. in the beginning. Why? Because women like that. That puts us at ease. As soon as we become comfortable with him because we believe this good guy presentation, he senses that and begins slowly dropping the act! Men constantly pretend women like getting mistreated so they can justify these actions and they can avoid accountability. In healthy happy relationships men treat their partner beautifully and respectfully. I’ve witnessed this a couple times in my life so I know it exists somewhere, so whenever a man swears women like problematic men he’s already communicated to me that he’s one of those men.
Do yourself a favor and take mixed signals as a NO. Keep moving forward, beautiful lady 💜
Agreed...like a broken street light that needs to be fixed, lots of crashes.
thank you for this.💖
Yes!... Once he show you the first time , believe it ! When a man wants you he'll show you.
Holy shit, this video could not have come at a better time. I had finally reached a zen-like, "over it" stage of getting over a guy and then he suddenly texts. There's always some excuse. Always an unfortunate circumstance... Yet here I am, struggling with my own life problems too yet I'm also able to be consistent? He's just lying at this point.
The saddest part is that, despite having gained a lot of self-wisdom the last few years, I still have a naive nature that leads me to overly give the benefit of the doubt. I assumed he was good with good intentions deep down. But honestly, this behaviour (plus some other signs) shows me that he's probably a narcissist or someone with heavily narcissistic traits. I've been in a relationship with a narc before and it nearly destroyed me... so I think I dodged a bullet. Thank you.
*GBU, +Ashley!!!* 🙏🏾
I read about that. When your life is put together, that's the zen paradox, or hoover effect..Right when you're happy bc THEY'RE gone, they show up! It's a trial of your strength, so don't give up.🌱🎋
Stay away. It doesn’t get better.
NEVER give the benefit of the doubt. NEVER "fill in the blanks" for him or make excuses for him on his behalf. They will count on you doing so and take full advantage of it. Stay strong and protect your peace ✌ Good on you for seeing the red flags and trusting your gut early!!
I'm exactly the same, Ashley. Always assuming the best instead of looking at the facts and it is extremely frustrating. What I learned is that if you complain about someone else's inconsistency it's because you lack consistency yourself. Meaning: if you are consistent, you wouldn't let people like this rule your world and won't let them back in ever again. You decide what your boundaries are.
I take no man serious, until he takes himself serious 🤷🏽♀️ . I stopped changing things in my life to make myself available and now make them adjust. They get with it or get gone. I also date two + depending on my schedule. It’s too many men for me to choose from, to be focusing/or pressed on one. I’m no longer in question of my value. I date how men date, but without the sex. Options. May the best men win 🤗
Okay! 👏🏾👏🏾Taking notes! 📝
LMAO!!! With the narcissistic arrogant attitude you have towards selecting a mate whatever man that doesn't end up with you is the real winner.........
Love this!
Boss up💪🏽😁!
I totally agree with you.
I should have listened to your videos earlier, I would have escaped some bad situationships
Took the words right outta my mouth.
Same
Yep same...but we have the knowledge now 👊
Saaame!!
Im glad I am not in this type of mess anymore. Been there, done that, now married and moved on. These situations are sad. This is not someone to take seriously at all. This was so me 15 years ago. Thank God for grace and mercy!!
Seems as if once you're over 35 this is every man you meet. I started dating again in my 40s after a long marriage. I haven't met one man who didn't fit into at least one of these categories. Needless to say I was burned a few times before figuring out what was going on. I still go on dates but have been single by choice for years because of what's out there and what men show me. All my single girlfriends report the same. I don't think most men actually want relationships.
When we fix ourselves we will attract our worth. Sometimes we need to stop looking.
They don’t....especially over 40
@@miasministry07 That is not always the case and you're blaming women for men's behaviour by saying women attract it.
I remember the days when only younger men pulled this nonsense and acted like mutts. Now it's older men too, who are only offering sex.
If I am gonna go for only sex, I'll go for a younger guy who is more in shape and more attractive than his older counterpart.
If men are gonna be superficial, so will I. Sauce for the goose and all that.
If older guys want to offer something substantial and real emotionally (I don't need or want any man's cash), then great. But if it's just basic, give me a younger guy every time. Generally more energetic and open mentally too.
@@SKOLAH no im NOT blaming us for mens behaviors but we have the power to accept and deny invitations. ANDDDD im saying everybody can get help, all of us have been hurt in some form mentally, thats why i said once we fix ourselves we attract what we allow into our lives.
Here is the thing, men know when they are inconsistent. That’s why you don’t invest in someone who is not showing any effort or shows some effort, but not as much as you.
He made this video while he was otw to see that girl 💁🏽♀️😂😂😂😩😩
Being young and dating I swear every man tried to take advantage of me it’s sickening
Take off those rose colored glasses and see them for who they are. When a person shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM!
If you're not committed - a woman should never text first.
When a girl really likes you she texts first, happened to me plenty of times
A male friend of mine wishes women would make the first move. Sometimes think women just can't win whatever they do.
Why what the heck does that have to do with consistency lol
FACT
God never said anywhere that a woman shall not text a man first. Sounds insecure
Gaslighting and emotional abuse is the worst thing ever. It’s going to take me years to recover
Went out with a guy who waited until after the date to tell me he didn’t have a place to live. On top of that the car he was driving wasn’t even his, it was his sister’s. He had struggle written all over him. I couldn’t stick around. I did say a prayer for him though 🤷🏾♀️
Yes...you want a man who is a marathon runner, not a sprinter.
Most men want Mute Submissive Barbie Dolls !
Yes thats why im single
😩
Women are supposed to submit to their husbands this is literally in the Bible modern feminism has brainwashed this whole generation
Useless
Facts
See this is why i am single and as cute ad i am i might ad will get used to being alone because dating takes too much work and trying to figure out a person intentions seems impossible, ugh 😩
Excuse the spelling errors
Girl... I’m 23 and feeling the same. But at least single = peace and good health. No bs drama from bs men. I’m trying to look at single as a positive 😅
Same
@@divinetiming4092 Better to be single than to be sorry.
EVERYBODY GOT MOTIVES AND ISSUEZ.
A lot of men In particular don’t like this guy and I always wondered why...makes sense to me🤷🏽♀️
Told a Leo ♌️ & Aries ♈️ man, You either step to the plate ready like in baseball ⚾️ or step off so the next Man can pitch correctly! Period ♏️❤️
Nooo when those two signs are involved, you'll never need to tell them. Trust me, they ain't interested. Those two signs LIVE to pursue, especially the Leo. Leo is a fixed sign, they look for partnership and stability and if he's not chasing or pursuing that then RUN!! As for Aries, they love variety dunno about them guys especially if you're a scorpio. I'm a Scropio moon.
Ghost them and see how they behave. Leo's crave attention as do Aries, cut that with no warning and they behave batty 🤣
I like that - yep 👍- right on !
Scorpio too! 3 bum Leo men..over the years...no more
Capricorn= my way or the highway with big ego and they can never do wrong. Bad news!!!!
There are bad men in every sign.
Do men really want to be in a relationship?
😂😆
I don’t think so
YES, AS LONG AS IT'S AT THEIR CONVENIENCE.
who effed up these men?
@R.A. D Awesome! Just make sure the women you are taking out know that! as a matter of fact, don't take any women out. It will send the message you want a relationship or you just want sex.
Be clear
These are OBVIOUS signs not to take him seriously lol! (Reminds me of men when in my 20's!!) NOW I'm very aware....thanks love your input!😏💯
Derrick, please do a video on relationships with someone struggling with addiction and mental health issues. I really want to know what your thoughts are. Thank you.
Action "speaks" louder than words . .
You have described the way I experienced narcissism perfectly.
& Look at him now Lol 😂
All Facts!!!! And it doesn't get any better with time! Just leave!
FINALLY someone who is not trying to teach women how to act and putting all the responsibility on the woman to change his mind ! Thank u.
He has to take him self seriously b4 he dishes it out to others.
Yes...not resolve past issues, him not being consistent when I show him interest back, all the exceptions come.....AVOID AVOID AVOID. I have saw all of these before, I was too understanding and I should not have taken them seriously. That has stopped and so has my time being wasted. You are right on point Derrick!!!!
My silly ass was circling the drain for 8 years with someone who did all these things.
Black men don't cheat 🤣
I know a guy that treats his girlfriend as if she’s his wife, but still won’t marry her. Even after four years and they ain’t no spring chickens! She even became friends with his ex-girlfriend, the one he was with BEFORE he was with her and he still talks to her. So, he’s consistent alright, but not in a good way.
This is a great point. Manipulators will keep adapting. They do whatever they need to to get their way. I’m noticing that the more info that comes out on narcissism and what red flags to look out for, the more they hide the behaviors they know you’re looking out for and keep looking for new more insidious ways to keep you hooked. Gotta keep adapting just as fast.
He'll do everything for you or else he's just not that into you.
To the left to the left👈🏽✌🏼
You mean you...okkkkkk😙
There was this one guy that I met on a dating app. He seemed nice he was consistent good morning and afternoon at night. So I was still like waiting for a date. He finally invited me to go to breakfast with him. He ordered all of the food that he wanted. He asked what I wanted - as an afterthought. Anyways we’re sitting there he’s got like three plates of food and when he sat down to eat he looked at me and he said, “I wish I had enough cash to get me a cup of coffee.” Really?! I had to get rid of him that was just too much for a grown man and me at my age of 53. Can you say next?!
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Are you SERIOUS?? OMG! 53 YEARS OLD! Well, people don’t change bad behavior as they age. They just get better at it! One of my best friends is like this!
Talkin bout yourself but I got the message
ON POINT AS ALWAYS... I’m reading the book “Don’t forget your crown” and it’s soooooo good
Some guys start off strong and stop deliberately so that you will work hard to get him back to where you guys were
🤣🤣🤣🤣 RIP everyone needed their relationship because of this guy
I know this is about men but I be internalizing his talks for myself for healing
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Absolutely narcissistic toxic behavior! 🔥
Wow I had to put my joint down for this.
Thanks for the message!! Needed this 🙏🏻✨
Hehe Right!
Consistency is Key👌
Take off that blindfold 🎯
You've been missed! This post is so very true!
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True I went through that, the first stuff Derrick was talking about. Glad I knew than he wasn’t ready for a relationship he kept saying he was confused between me a 2 year relationship and his kid mom of 8 years . I avoid them types now those who have baby mommas. Way too many guys out their with no kids and drama free.
*GOOD FOR YOU, SIS!!! AND GBU!*
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I went through that for a year..I kinda felt they were still dealing for a while but I ignored the signs a bit...
Hey Derrick. So glad you are posting again 👌
I vote Derrick for president!
No the family court is already in favor of women he would cause many men to burn with anger.
I just said this last night ...about the overlapping relationships.
:( I married a narcissist (3 yrs)got smart finally...divorced....dancing with God till he finds one worthy to cut in...though I'm working on getting a backbone and standing up for my boundaries..i know what type I am and why im preyed upon...it plain sucks.... :_(
Yes, but you had the courage to leave, so you ARE stronger than you think. You can take what you learned from your situation and make it work for you. You are gonna be OK!
How can ya take this guy seriously anymore
Ways to not take him seriously: If he name is Derrick Jaxn
Always dropping knowledge but ladies read any book from G. L Lambert, and it will unplug you from the matrix.
What? How so?
Do tell???
Girl, I read ur comment, then found a downloadable version of "Men Don't Love Women Like You" online last night. Its goooood- I'm already halfway thru! Thanx for puttin us on!
Tell the truth. I know some men don't won't to hear this, which is the truth.
I pray for a man like you someday.
Yeah right 👍 i wish he could be cloned. 😁
What's up baby
Hmm. How bout now???💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
@@GratefulDaughter1 girl I know 😂😂😂😂😂
@@12Messenger lol 🥸 ew
Well my kids'father fit ALL of those boxes... I needed this perspective 6 years ago 😭
Girl😫
Right. My baby father was telling me. He wanted his family to work and if we had communicate better we would of been to get her again in September. In October he told me he’s expecting another baby. He didn’t even tell me he had an relationship until august.
Hey young brother it is good to finally take part in a NEW commentary, NO PUN INTENDED. I have only viewed the ones from years prior which have been just AWESOME of course but now I get to experience you in the current time and guess what, you are STILL just as AWESOME!!😊 Direct and time efficient as well, I LOVE IT!!! I personally am of the seasoned generation and widowed, so a lot of the things you cover I have already covered in my life but it's so funny that I now run into the same foolishness now that I'm a single person again. The foolishness is just more blatant in this day and time. Again, thank you my young Brother for uncovering, so to speak, the "Man Code" which can also be viewed in a woman's perspective as well. God bless you!🙏🙌
Yes I do this all the time with guys . If I see or feel I’m not being pursued then I treat them like a option . I’m slow at txting back sometimes I don’t reply at all and it’s bc I don’t care or I get distracted . For some reason he still chases me . This the key treating him like he’s the female
He’s telling the truth! It’s been 10 years and I still got issues with this spouse’s ex wife and baby mamas.
God, consistency, and transparency. If you dont have that then you wont have me. Thanks Derrick. Facts as usual.
lmfao. this did not age well.
Derek I like your straightforward advice. You don't flower things up and make them complicated that is awesome!
I had one that recently got axed...We just met and he was already making up excuses as to why he could not take me on a date but was steady trying to come to my place 😒😒.......then try to make me pay for a dinner date I straight up called him on FaceTime eating tacos🌮 this was just this past Tuesday😂🤣🤣🤣 he is now BLOCKED
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😂🤣 PERIOD ‼️
Good for you, girl!!! 👍🏾👍🏾😊
*I 'WILL' BLOCK F BOIZ IN A NEW*
*YORK MINUTE!!!*
*OKAAAAY?!* 👉🏾💯
I know that's right girl
Derrick is as serious as the beard on his face!!! On point!! 👌🏾
These videos are so helpful ❤️
I just let a guy go. I read into everything you just said and all that was going on. I was like nope. Bye. You just confirmed I made the correct choice.
Thank You 🙏🏽 4 All of the
Wisdom & Knowledge‼️🙏🏽
STAY BLESSED ALWAYS ‼️
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You're backkkk!!! And didn't miss a beat jumping into the pool. Good vid, thanks for speaking up on gaslighting.
Mental health is crazy 🤣🤣🤣😂😂I’m dead
It’s so great to see you again I was just saying to myself “self, where is Derrick”? So glad and happy to see you back with more great insights 😊
😂🤣 "self, where is Derrick?" I love it
Omg this is a sign from God! I swear he spoke my exact situation right now.
Thank you for putting into words something I couldn't quite define -- being chased and given special treatment right up until I start taking him seriously and returning the affection then, bam!, the games and foolishness begin. I'm so over it.
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it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger
I have 2 kids w a man that had all these red flags early on! Derrick you are soooo right ! Y’all better run!! I thought he could change but you know I was young and had a lot of hurt! So thankful for these videos as I now see the mistakes I made. Fixing my damages so that I can be ready when the right one comes!
I will friend zone myself until I'm sure beyond doubt that he's ready willing and able to enter into a relationship with me and give me the commitment it entails.
Yups hit it right on the nail
Inconsistency has been what I’m dealing with and it’s very true. It’s a red flag when someone is simply going for instant gratification rather than maintaining a relationship.
Ugh 😑 sometimes I get so tired of dating but I know my dream guy is out there somewhere
Until then we gotta enjoy the other good things in life :)
Can you do a topic on divorced men and when would it be appropriate to date them and have a healthy relationship? Thanks.
Great topic
He did that already if you look through his videos
Great topic
That's a good topic..Yeah I hope he does that one in divorced men...🤔
YES GOOD TOPIC!
I think you brought up some good points and I agree with you.
This didn't age well 🤐🤐
He in the zone with this one!
Bulleted lists are the best. You rock🤩
Run to the hills
Men rather be on me own
Simpius Maximus
Nike needs to sponsor this man already! LOL!
As a general rule, a man should not be taken seriously unless he shows a reason to be. Ladies, don’t just automatically take a man seriously. Don’t take him seriously until he shows himself to be a serious person. Ladies, hop off of the A train. (Autopilot).
Thank you for being unapologetically bold with these truths. Took me sm years to learn that one!!!!
I'm glad you back making videos you helped me in a tremendous way all 2019. Keep
I think you have a gift for what you're doing. Don't stop. Although I've been through most of what you're talking about, there a re so many other women that need to hear this.
He’s so brilliant!! So thankful for his advice.
Very happy for your success. You are the true example of a person just doing what they believe in ✨ and being authentic & then rewards flourish. From Glory to Glory.
I’m turned off when a man doesn’t pursue me because I’m a Lioness I can’t love nothing but a Lion 💪🏾💋
LadyK ENERGY 🦁🦁🦁!!
I had an ex like this. Listen to this man up above. Me and my ex dated at 18 and during the virus he messaged me saying hello. I responded to him because we didn’t end in bad terms and we were young. We’re both 21 now. I figured we had enough time to mature and move on and that it was okay for us to speak on friendly terms. He began using this push and push technique. I fell for it a little at first but then I told him he pushes and and pulls. We still spoke on friendly terms, we were good. I wasn’t thinking too much about it. Then one day he said “ I just didn’t want to disappear again” and something just twisted in me. When we first broke up I had feelings of abandonment, but now that we were broken up for 2 years I couldn’t believe he was saying that. Like how weak do you think I am? If someone is trying to manipulate you like that, it’s not love, he’s just using you for attention. I had to learn this.
hello dear do you need any help I can help you out it worked for me WhatsApp me let's chat better.
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How do date in this pandemic world? All the dating apps and dating websites are just full of crappy people. Advice on meeting people when we're all supposed to be social distancing
Facts 💯