Narcissist Accountability 101: Never try and reason with a Narcissist
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2024
- Before you jump to conclusions, be sure and watch • Narcissist Accountabil... It is interesting to see how a situation as this can be "misconstrued" or have a false narrative created especially if you don't know much else pertaining to the situation or relationship. So, I provided more instances and other text/factual evidence. You think this is how I wanted to choose the last 2 years of my life? I don't think so. I would have rather went another 11 years without speaking to her, or better yet, the rest of my life. A Narcissist will come back in your life, even if 10-20 years later, love bomb you, psychological manipulate you, and then try and deceive and destroy you, while taking everything you have in the process.
If you try and help, or fix, one of these people, which you CANNOT do unfortunately and trust me I had tried, you will eventually end up broke, robbed, abused, jailed, homeless, or even dead. That is the just of it, and I know this is a routine cycle with them since they are not able to regulate their emotions, build no genuine authentic bond with people, and act impulsively to gain "attention" and admiration from others. Call it childhood trauma etc., I call it a grown adult who still acts like a child and does anything and everything to evade accountability, never admits they cheated or were dishonest, yet you can have the proof right in front of you and show them. Instead, she would get very aggressive, scream "Shut the F**k up" at me, which is honestly to me one of the biggest acts of Disrespect. This would happen because I would ask questions, and she would have problems remembering her stories and ultimately would tell on herself or speak "hints", as it made her feel like she had some kind of power or that she thinks shes superior... What is sad, you go from being their "everything" supposedly. Once I began giving her everything, including every dollar I made, giving her the benefit of the doubt anytime my close friends or family would call out some very sketchy behavior, ultimately pushing people away (It's all a part of their isolation tactics...) Eventually you go from being the greatest thing in the world to being weak, pathetic, and worthless. I didn't resort to the name calling but instead when I started seeing patterns in her behavior, and when I started researching ASPD (Sociopath/psychopath) after she had called me a narcissist one day. I had known what a narcissist was... When I looked it up and realized borderline personality disorder was also one of the types within that ASPD group, It all started coming back to me. 11 years of separation is quite a long time, especially when I hadn't spoken to her, and hadn't seen her in 11 years yet we were still married, and both resided in the same small town. She contacted me Aug 2021 claiming that she wasn't the same 19-year-old she once was, how she had changed, how she loved me the whole time, and basically filled my head with the "Soulmate" bs, how she would constantly dream about me and would scout my Facebook to see how I was. She had been in multiple relationships over the time we have been separated, and she even returned with a 10-year-old child which I was accepting of and moved her and her child in. I have to admit, it was probably the worst decision I have ever made in my entire life. I had been single for 8 years, we were still married, I figured that would be an awesome story to tell our children and grandchildren how we separated 11 years to come back to one another and live our lives out together. Never would have thought I would be hunted for F3 Abduction.
not letting her out of the car is illegal. heads up. she can report you for this. be safe
She's at self injury risk, letting her out like that would be a harmful thing to do
what if you're on the freeway
she was jumping out
@sandraonink79 so be silent not abusive while you drive her somewhere safe
Incredibly inappropriate to post this. It makes you look like you’re abusive whether or not you are and obviously she’s having a hard time in life and you’re posting a very private and upsetting and emotional moment for the world to see. Just because you can post everything on the internet doesn’t mean you should. Your lack of awareness by posting this is irritating. Leave her if you are the one being abused. Don’t try to humiliate her by posting incredibly PRIVATE moments . That makes you no better if not worse than she is. One day she may heal from her emotional issues but this video will remain forever…haunting not just her but you too.
Well, I posted the other events (Experiences). Watch those and then feel free to express your opinion. Do you think I enjoy putting this up? It's embarrassing I ever even had to deal with it. However, I was maliciously prosecuted, wrongfully imprisoned, robbed, forced out of my home and on an Ankle monitor, had over 7000$ of my tools taken/sold and over 7000$ in firearms ammunition taken/sold (Which the Shelby PD 'released them to a prohibited person to begin with'. If they would have done their job, none of this ever would have happened. However, I feel it's important to expose the whole thing. I think once you actually have a more Indepth idea of what has taken place, you would change your view on the situation. I've been dealing with all the legal paperwork and lawsuit myself, as well as having to do all the knowledge seeking, caselaw study, compiling the legal documents, etc. I don't have the time right now to create videos, as well as edit them and to assure the people watching understand the situation fully. I wish I did have the time, but I don't at the moment. However, I still compiled a few of the videos and other evidence proving my stand on the matter. ua-cam.com/video/6HwgDK2StZQ/v-deo.html
this is disgusting to watch
RUN Danny RUN FAR AND RUN FAST!!! Pray for her to get “well” but keep yourself and your loved ones safe from her!!! All while keeping a log of the shite she says and does. If you have any marks on you from her take photos’s, make a report to LEOs immediately so you have a “paper trail” with the Cops.If that fails see if you can get in the witness protection program ASAP.Praying for you from Florida Danny 🙏🏻‼️
Y'all both crazy. 🙄
That's what I thought. Co-dependancy
THAT IS INSANE OH MY GOD
Please please leave!!
She might try to stab you or take your life right out & no one will believe you because she’s so manipulative.
Oh my god please get away safely.
My ex made a false police report & had me arrested after he hit me. It was insane how little I was believed by anyone.
She’s absolutely unhinged
She is borderline. No helping her.
Dude this honestly sounds like a woman ground down by guess what - a narcissist. Look in the mirror buddy while I report this for DV and Suicidal Intent. If you cared, you would drive her to someone safe and then leave her there instead of harranging her and kidnapping her. You've got problems dude.
Agree. At minimum this relationship is toxically abusive on both sides.
LOL,..Thought the same thing. Until reading the comments I thought it was the guy who was supposed to be the narcissist.
Agree totally.
funny how you think you're holier than thou. Probably have like 3 or 4 divorces under your belt.
Reported to police also.
Girl, RUN!
Mature, sane adults do not act like this. This is not normal at all. I would bet my life that drugs are involved.
It sounds like she’s not a narcissist just a massive cheat. It also sounds like she is totally ground down by everything and moved on to this new guy as a way out. Separate - you two have an awful relationship that can’t be saved.
Options.. gotta have options
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And I agree it can't be saved. But I did my part in trying, as I forgave her for her infidelity and cheating 11 years prior. Where I made the mistake is trusting someone when they say they have changed (it had been 11 years since we spoke or seen one another). You'd be surprised how some have not changed at all; they have just become more "covert".
This is emotional abuse being self recorded 101. You are entitled to feeling betrayed and angry, you are not entitled to blame anyone else for the responsibility of your own life choices 😉
Not once did you take accountability for what sounds like a parol violation, for probably drug charges.. then being "caught" using which is absolutely your free choice but also can and will get you arrested which is the consequence of your free choice and then antagonizing this woman with the responsibility of you getting "reported" which after she explains how your facts are wrong you recant your position agree with her.. and then shift blame to the Court...
Is it okay for your wife to sell your things? No. However, if you are incapable of providing for your family do to incarceration then she is OBLIGATED to provide, and your tools became your contribution. Sucks, but take it on the chin and move on.
I can go on... but you refuse to listen to your own wife so I know you will only be offended by this comment 😊
Man up princess, the person responsible for you, is you.
Oh, saw you respond to a comment about posting this to "help survivors of narcissists".. anyone that is a survivor and has done the work on themselves to heal.. will rip your behavior apart.. We don't care what she did, that's her journey she has to take responsibility for. Oh! Also for anyone wondering, the appropriate response to someone attempting self harm or making threats of suicide is to take them to the nearest hospital 😊 just f.y.i.
This wasn't a "parole" violation. But I could understand why you would think that not knowing of the situation. I'd been extremely busy trying to compile all the legal framework and paperwork for divorce and lawsuit. I have uploaded another video those that shows the extent of what I had been dealing with. I'd rather expose the situation for what it is, that way anyone experiencing this can identify it and remove themselves from it before they end up falling victim to it.
i dont interact with them at all any more 😊
Get rid of that one. If you have kids, get them away from her. Get her the help she needs (but I am pretty sure that she would be unwilling to do anything to improve herself... been there with a woman like this).
Get rid son, get rid.
This is going well. It proves much .
I feel for you Danny, mens mental health matters
It's unfortunate. Bringing attention, whether "good" or "bad" is necessary in this situation... There is multiple things that should be addressed, by the laws, the police who enforce those laws (and discriminate, are bias, fail to follow policies and procedures, and committing felony offenses themselves ( as you can see in my videos as they are releasing all my firearms to her (the prohibited person with a Domestic Violence which is in violation of the Federal Gun Control Act of 1968 (Lautenberg amendment 1996) If it takes a lot of "bad publicity" because of peoples lack of understanding and not knowing the details, (which I have made sure to put all the details up whether it be my Facebook, or this video ua-cam.com/video/6HwgDK2StZQ/v-deo.html ) At least eventually it will have to be addressed rather than it just be brushed under the rug. As this girl, her X boyfriend, her mother, her sister, and her brother had come and forced in my father's residence, started stealing things, her sister pointed a 9mm at my 65 year old mothers face and said "ill sh**t you b*tch" and they had ripped my camera down on their way up the steps before pushing in my door. Once the gun was involved, I said I was calling the police and that's when they went to flee the scene. While doing so, they shattered my front door exterior window. They were not even put on Pre Trial-Services like I was... They didn't have their liberties restricted besides the 3 days or so they were held in jail before being bound out. Hell, I've still yet to find a Mugshot. This shows the "selective" prosecution, the bias in the system. It shows how those use and abuse the Legal system for their own selfish purpose. It also exposes these Tyrannical Police officers who fail to do their job and investigate, and how they formulate their false narratives, trump charges on people, and ultimately ruin and systematically destroy people's lives. They were charged for F1 Aggravated burglary (Her, her mother, her sister) but had their charges reduced to F4 B-E trespassing by backroom dealings with the Prosecutor at the Shelby Municipal Court "preliminary" hearing. Shelby Municipal court I found have no jurisdiction over felonies, they only do so because of people's ignorance. Municipal Courts only have jurisdiction over Low level misdemeanors and driving infractions. I've pretty much unveiled some deeply concerning legal matters that needs to be addressed and corrected. Also, whoever is responsible for allowing these Ultra Vires acts (For instance, allowing a Clerk of Courts to "hold probable cause hearing, determine probable cause, and issued a warrant on complaint" as Nolen had written in his "Police Report" that is "not for public use subject to RC 149" that apparently, I was not ever supposed to receive. My wife and I had been going through enough at the time, what was a mental health issue which should have been addressed as such, managed to turn into a malicious prosecution, where my wife (who lacks the ability to communicate, control herself, and who is easily manipulated by other narcissistic forces. She has the ability to charm those when speaking, but also stabs people in the back. People these days lack Morales, and Values. People are raised, or should I say, "NOT RAISED" and have been forced to raise themselves, watching the behavior of the adult parent using one person, then to another person. Is there no loyalty or commitment left in the world? I spent 8 years of my life abstinent and single, all to be asked if I was willing to "fix" our marriage. The only place I can see I went wrong was because I trusted her. Other than that, the only other thing I had done wrong was tried to continue to make it work when the boundaries I had asked of her, " Not putting her hands on me, not screaming at the top of her lungs, and not wishing me dead, or shouting for me to Sh*t the F*ck up" was all I really asked of her. Other than that, I had isolated myself, I stopped associating with 95 percent of people, even my family. I also gave her every single dollar I was making, yet she robbed me of my livelihood after having me wrongfully imprisoned. You can see that she has a history of that type of behavior, she states it in the Preliminary hearing when the prosecutor asks her why she lied, she states she was attending counseling for the behavior in the past and doesn't know why she does it. You'll see on ua-cam.com/video/6HwgDK2StZQ/v-deo.html the police report from 1 1 2017 where she went to Willard PD and reported her BF had just beat her up, yet you'll read further that it wasn't the case. What I've come to believe is that when she feels threatened of being Abandoned, she reaches to abuse the legal system as a last-ditch effort to "gain control" or to try and be a "winner" of what wasn't supposed to be a competition. It was supposed to be a Partnership. Now I have to deal with the PTSD , the malicious prosecution, being thrown in jail for 26 days because I had to take a firearm from her when she threatened to sh**t herself and went for her 9mm case and began opening it with her keys. This was all because I told her I was leaving, that I wasn't going to argue with her anymore. I told her she could use my residence and truck long enough to obtain the money to purchase her own car and get an apartment for her and her daughter. So how everything turned into me being thrown in jail and robbed of my livelihood and assets is beyond me. I acted as anyone would have acted in said situation. And I'm sure I'm not the only person who has been placed in a position like this before. Therefore, something needs to be done about these types of situations to prevent the reoccurrence of similar things happening to others in the future. This ruins people.
Hi Mom ☠
Does she want to leave at all ?
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You filming this, is abusive.
@@victoriagiardinieri1904 Apparently you've never been with a narcissist. You're free to your opinion however I've never laid a hand on her, nor did I ever cheat on her, nor have I ever made false complaints on her, as a matter of fact I always tried to communicate or compromise. Even in offering dissolution and "chalking it up" to being incompatible. Once I have compiled all the other portions of this, I think you'll see things from a different perspective. One thing about putting it out there, it may help those who find themselves in a relationship with a Narc/BPD/Sociopath. Which is always why I've put the legal side of things such as the preliminary hearing, Bodycam Footage, And I have editing to do amongst the other 20-30 videos and to add all the documentation to them showing the lies, deception, etc. She had come back into my life not with intentions of restoring our marriage, but with intentions of robbing me. By putting this out, i feel it will atleast clear my name so she can't go around trying to defame me. I know I did everything I could.. Abuse is trying to have a kid with your husband, putting his hand on your stomach on fathers day saying "happy Fathers day" all to find she still wasn't pregnant. Then to receive a photo from My sponsor (when I was forced out of my residence and told that if I stepped foot in Shelby id be immediately arrested and all along she was selling through everything I worked for and blowing the money on weed, getting drunk at Olive Garden with her friend and a guy who was suppose to be my friend that she was indulging in sexual acts with (this was after I got arrested). Triangulating and trying to make me look like some bad guy when I Overly Extended my kindness, took her in and her kid she made from her adulterous acts back in 2010 just months after we had gotten married. No disrespect towards the kid as I did everything I did because of the kid, not because of her mother. I was the only one supporting them, she put me in a predicament of paying her 500$ car payment for 5 months while she sat at the house stoned calling her X boyfriends while I'm out everyday working to bring the money to her! Even after my case was dismissed and I was able to go back home (almost 6 months later) and after I had been assaulted by her (choked and hiptossed on the pavement while my hands were in my pockets.) my bond was revoked and I was taken to jail, where I sat from July 17 2022, to August 12th I believe. She went home like nothing happened and was never charged for assault or Domestic (seeing as she has a previous one, for threatening to sh00t me in the face which she said was a threat and a promise SPD OFFICER Bushey charged her with DV. I did not go to the station to have her charged, I went to try and get assistance in acquiring my 3200$ silkscreen equipment that I had just bought recently (this was December 2010). and that all of this stemmed from her threatening suicide after i told her I wasn't going to argue with her anymore that I was leaving. She went for her gun and I had to struggle with her to disarm her. I would pummel that girl if I would have ever hit her. Try dealing with a Sociopath who gets aggressive and straight close fist punches you in your face because you took 30 minutes cleaning up the yard you have been stressing over for 2-3 weeks, which was a mess because you built a building to store all your your tools and remodeled the room in the house to accompany the child, including building her s loft bed. So because I took 30 minutes to clean something up that had been stressing me out, (,yet she could have offered to help??? Yeah right...) I went outside and started helping a friend who actually cared enough to try and help me cause he heard me stressing. I'm not about to sit and watch someone clean up my mess and not at least assist them? .)
@@victoriagiardinieri1904 we live in a digital age, deceiving people and doing people dirty should be exposed because these people are ruining good people's lives.. and they're subjecting their kids to their chaos they create.
Her screaming and threatening suicide is abusive.
@EndeverInc you are free yo leave, so leave, but no you prefer to be abusive yourself instead
@EndeverInc @EndeverInc you are free yo leave, so leave, but no you prefer to be abusive yourself instead
u r the narcist u just wont stop ur torturing this girl leave her b for goddess sake
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