I have a masters in psychology. High school teacher. I believe the argument on morality is a valid one, and something I have been considering recently as I’ve seen teenagers almost completely lose their moral compass over the last few years. There is indeed an explosion in narcissistic psychopathy among my students, to quite a worrying degree. Morality does not seem to matter to many of them, on any front. And before anyone says teenagers have always been this way, I can assure that in my 23 years of teaching, what I’m seeing now is alarming. And it’s being made worse by adults who seek a reason for the behavior instead of working to stamp it out. Just as you said, the adults who should be protecting the good students, allow all sorts of immoral behavior from students who shouldn’t even be allowed in school anymore. It worries me that those of us in education who try to stand up for the good kids are labeled heartless and uncaring.
As a teacher of 30 years, primary qualified, secondary and qualified visual impairment teacher, I agree with you. I'm one of the teachers you probably hate, who asked to work with those pupils who have SOCIAL emotional and behavioural difficulties, violent, withdrawn, neurodiverse, trans, gay etc. I come from poor working class family, was a wild tomboy etc, drive a 600cc motorbike to school (wrongly judged by posh teachers). I have become equally aware of the narcissistic behaviours of teenagers and primary age too. I have watched the behaviour over the years snd now the quiet children, who go to school to try and do their best are expected to endure the behaviours of the pupils I work with and say nothing. They don't get the attention the others elicit and it's unfair. WORSE?...The senior management teams do nothing about it. I believe that we know the pupils with ACEs, provide support mechanisms for them to be flung in your face. They are wise, they play on you, are 'systemed up' and know what they're doing. I wouldnt be 2 minutes with them if the system allowed.
This dark behavior energy field was intentionally created and released like a fog of w a r upon humanity in 2015 as a type of spirit curse, if you will. I can't remember the details, but they explained that this frequently field is part -- a i -- and would induce psychopathic, sadistic and/or illicit behaviors including high levels of anger and violence. They had been testing the success of this frequency induction program on individuals (prefrontal cortex, amygdala...) for decades which played out in many random, violent or disturbing ways. These acts would make no sense to the observers unless they knew what had been done to trigger that person's agressive behavor. No one will ever see "them" pulling a trigger. No, they are stealthy and get others to do those acts for them. The studies were promising so they released this field upon us all, but only those that were prepped or weak-minded will be susceptible, but unfortunately most humans have become weak-minded and have received the prep/ im plan ting as well. There is much more to the story. I hope you understand what I'm saying. I'm working closely with a teacher in a CA Middle School and the experiences that she is witnessing in her classroom includes the children verbally and physically assaulting each other and the teachers. This happens on a daily basis and is considered acceptable and condoned. This will escalate, but I dare not expand on what I foresee for humanity. Thank you for validating what you are observing as well. The more we have contributing to this, the better we can formulate a plan to intercede.
I was trying to explain what I have learned and try to provide some more evidence that would be helpful but for some reason everything I've written is immediately deleted. I guess I'm hitting too close to home and that's a good thing because it just confirms that what I know is terrifying to those in control
This energy field was created and released upon humanity about 9 years ago as a type of curse, if you will. I can't remember the details, but they explained that this frequently field is part ____ and would induce psychopathic, sadistic and/or illicit behaviors including high levels of anger and violence. They had been testing the success of this frequency on individuals for decades which played out in many random, violent or disturbing ways. These acts would make no sense to the observers unless they knew what had been done to trigger that person's agressive behavor. The studies were promising so they released this upon us, but only those that were prepped or weak-minded will be susceptible, but unfortunately most humans are both! There is much more to the story. I hope you understand what I'm saying. I'm working closely with a teacher in a CA Middle School and the experiences that she is witnessing in her classroom includes the children verbally and physically assaulting each other and the teachers. This happens on a daily basis and is considered acceptable and condoned. This will escalate, but I dare not expand on what I foresee for us. Thank you for validating what you are observing as well. The more we share, the better we can formulate a solution.
I've had a horrific childhood, but I don't go around trying to destroy peoples lives. Unfortunately, I continue to be victimized by these people because of my empathy. No more!!
I am trying to not end up attracted to these people as well We have a broken sense of being in healthy relationships. We have to first understand what a healthy person looks like.
Straight forward and spot on advice. After spending years puzzled and consumed with "figuring them out", I finally realize that when I see the N pattern of behavior, the crazy, the mind boggling and bending, I no longer need to stay and figure them out. I need to cut and run; period. Not my circus, not my monkey. I also avoid the charasmatic and charming individuals. When you make me feel like I am the only fascinating person in the room, it is a Big Red Flag waving wildly in the wind.
Yes, the charismatic and charming ones are often the psychopaths putting it on to manipulate, unless of course, they are equally charming to everyone, and, all of the time: then and only then, are they truly the nice ones!
@@trinleywangmoThat's exactly right and I could be the canary in the coalmine in that area, so to speak, because they often drop their mask with me while keeping up the facade for others! Of course, it's not a good feeling, but at least I know to stay away. 😊
There's a book called People Of The Lie, by a psychologist named Scott Peck, written in the late 70s. His premise was that psychology needed to start talking about evil. He hypothesized that the way a person becomes evil is that they're committed to an overly pristine self image and will take drastic steps to protect that image - sound familiar? They harm people to protect their image, then feel a need to deny and cover up the harm they've done. After multiple repetitions of this cycle, Peck says, they destroy their consciences and operate in the world like psychopaths, even though they started life not psychopaths. It's an interesting read, complete with decade-suitable references to Watergate and Vietnam.
Yep. M Scott Peck opened up my eyes about 6 weeks after my malignant narcissist fiance dumped me for her next victim. That was 14 years ago, and apparently I didn't learn my lesson. Right now I am in the process of recovering from another one.
M Scott Peck wasn't Catholic but participated in an exorcism he wrote another book about. He said that unusually good souls get possessed in his experience but the people of the lie choose evil - they refuse growth & wish to blame others for that. Here in the US with Maga, I am reminded of what Peck wrote re: group evil.
Thank you Richard. Two of my therapists including the one I'm currently seeing have asked me why the boys who assaulted me, assaulted me. It was very hurtful. I don't give a f*** if those boys were also abused or not. The fact is, they turned it on me, someone who had never done them any harm. All I ever done was try to get away from them. I am not to blame and it's not my responsibility to find out why they were so goddamn evil.
Maybe you should ask your current therapist what this question was all about. Maybe they just wanted to find out whether YOU wrongly blame yourself for something that was not your fault, which would be something they would have to work on with you. IF they wanted to put the blame on you, look for a new therapist. A 'blamer' would be unprofessional, harmful not helpful, and therefore not worth your time. And only worth to be made your ex-therapist. 😉 All the best wishes on your healing journey to inner freedom and happiness! 🙏🏻💞
They assaulted someone because they wanted to. Must've been several steps that occurred leading up to it, where they could have made different decisions. Let the therapists ask them. 🤗xx
“Evil is evil. The end.” That part. I wasted years in a marriage only to learn day 1 wouldn’t have been too soon to get out. The things that were the worst are things no one with a moral compass could do to a spouse.
I am 100% over the glorification of serial killers, psychopaths, etc. I will no longer watch those shows, interviews, documentaries. I don’t want to hear anything those POS have to say. Yes, I have listened to the experts. And we study narcissism as a desperate attempt to learn enough so that we don’t repeat getting involved with these types.
Ignoring it certainly doesn't make it go away. Trying to understand it is not horrifying it. Horror movies like Nightmare on.... And slasher movies etc are what glorify it. like
Thankyou so much Richard. Sometime ago, I was invited on a hike to a waterfall with a man whom I would later come to realize was a narcissistic psychopath. While attempting to scale a cliff, I asked for hand to support me as there was a long drop to the bottom. Just before I reached the top of the cliff, he dropped my hand and I started to fall. Had there not been a root of a tree for me to grab and had my interaction time not been what it was, I would not be writing this today. As I scrambled over the face of the cliff onto the flat, I looked at him in horror, asking "What did you do?" "I don't know," he replied. He did not make any move to help me up. He did not apologize. He did not ask he how I was as we made our way back to village. Two days later, when I brought up the incident again, he denied that it ever happened. I began doubting myself, believing in the possibility that what I experienced never happened. Or, if it did happen, it was an accident. And, I made excuses for him believing that he was too embarrassed to acknowledge his mistake. However, the beautiful thing about life is that the truth always comes out in the end. Recently, two acquaintances approached me to tell me that this man had made a specific attempt to contact them to want them about his concerns about my mental health. He told them both that I was "making up stories that never happened." "The murderer's blow tells us nothing of his character; but in his remorse or exultation over his deed his secret is revealed to us," wrote Julian Hawthorne in his April 1886 Atlantic Review of his father's book, The Scarlet Letter. I believe that he tried to kill me that day, to cover up a wrongdoing that he feared would be disclosed. The narcissistic psychopath is willing and capable of killing to conceal their false identity.
What was your relationship up this man before you went on a hike, together ? From your writing, I gather that you just met this person - so, how could you know anything about them ?
Psychopaths always tell on themselves : projection by inquiring about your mental health , after he almost let you drop down a cliff … their always protecting their shitty image 😵💫
MY SON DID A SIMILAR DEED LUCKY I WAS ABLE TO RUN FOR ASSISTANCE ....HAD GOOD WITNESSES WHO VERYFIED THE STATE I ARRIVED IN AT THEIR DOOR ....OR I WOULD HAVE HAD TO GO HOME AND LIVE WITH THE ASSAULT I STARTED TO SEE WHAT HE TRULY WAS AND THAT WAS MY PUNISHMENT HE WAS LUCKY TO ESCAPE JAIL .....
I love it when you mock. The tone is perfect and made me fall of my chair laughing because that is just how they sound. Humor makes all this tolerable. Thank you Richard.
It is IMPERATIVE to discern evil, and name it as evil, and morally condemn it in order to heal. Your real authentic feelings know the truth. You must take moral solidarity with your real pain and real experience of evil to process it through. If you deny their responsibility, if you deny the evil or bypass it or make compassionate excuses for it, you will short circuit the healing process. This (!!!) is where therapy gets it wrong. What they must do is take full moral solidarity with the victim's moral injury in cases of abuse.
Hah! This piece of information that 40% of BPD is misdiagnosed hits hard now. I was diagnosed with BPD. Previously I had ADHD, depression, anxiety and insomnia diagnosed. I asked the psychiatrist why they did not consider cPTSD, but she told me I was too old for this (39) and the trauma was too long time ago. I was raised by a covert narcissist with ADHD and something I can't even describe - probably a sort of narcissistic psychopath or a sadistic narcissist. Thus, I had the cPTSD theory. Initially, I accepted this "being too old for cPTSD" explanation, although it did not fit right, and I started researching BPD. To some degree, it matched my issues - weak anger management and fear of abandonment. As people with personality disorders do not understand they have it, I thought it must be the case for me, too. However, the further I went with the research, the more I started suspecting I couldn't have BPD, as I have no issues with unclear self-image, no erratic relationships, I have a stable and quiet lifestyle, 99% of the time I'm emotionally balanced with two feet on the ground etc. 1% is when I get triggered by something and freak out. I spent a year trying to persuade doctors that I do not have a personality disorder and we should go back to the drawing board and test for cPTSD. Eventually, I gave up and went to another place, where they immediately recognised cPTSD. I got the treatment that improved my life in a week so drastically that I could not even imagine it was possible to feel so normal and not to have this "all the disasters that have and might happen" broadcasting in my head 24/7. I'm even able to sleep 6 hours in a row now. However, those people who thought I had BPD told me the fact that I feel constantly exhausted is due to my "personality disorder." Although I also have insomnia, which is a common symptom of cPTSD.
If people were too old for any type of mental or emotional trauma, we wouldn't even be talking about this. One thing I know from experience, there are some exceptionally bad therapists, councilors, etc out there and they can do some serious damage.
Agreed but it is very difficult to diagnose many psychiatric conditions. People present in so many different ways & when there is more than one condition it can complicate diagnosis. It’s just such an inexact science. In my case I was diagnosed with depression for over 10 years but discovered with the help of an amazing psychiatrist that it was actually bipolar. Changed my life
It's important to call a dick a dick when you see one! We can't call out a superior or someone behind the desk for shafting us, even if they sit like fat cats. Some people suck/are dicks! Or are bums! I don't want to confuse my relationships with it too much but Richard is making a good point - if someone is not using a good enough sense of morality, It's a problem to you.
It's refreshing to hear you say this. It needs to be said. I never agreed with Vaknin on it all just being purely psychological. There's something spiritual going on. A darkness that permeates withing ones soul. Cheers everyone
🙄 there is nothing such. Science has basically done what nieches quote implies. "God is Dead" and we killed him. Spirits and spirituality is tied to religion and as this dies off globally, you see more decaying morality. The only solution is Philosophy. Spiritualityand religion Is an explanatory principle for all of everything, and there's comfort in that in an objectively cruel and cold world. But that's all it is. Nothing more. Projecting that onto people is where you go wrong. Build autonomy and a sense of self outside of those safe spaces.
Still in recovery from a brutal experience with a vicious grandiose somatic narcissistic colleague over 30 years ago but the horror lasted two years! Did me lasting damage but opened my eyes to the damage that had already been done to me in childhood making me the perfect scapegoat on which she could dump all her toxic material - I was not alone so did not think I was insane - I had a fellow sufferer so we could commiserate - watched everyone around me being seduced and deceived - truly horrifying but woke me up to the true nature of this world we are living in. Thank you Richard - thanks to your books and videos I do not feel I am in a minority of one.
Your not alone..im continuously running into cult like people where the narcissists mirror the leader and your hunted like an animal by the group of them..when you talk or get help you sound like your crazy They already play the victim against you and smear your rep first so itt never stops they all know each other but pretend to hate each other so you find out after the fact it's a plot 12 against one..so tiring Sleep deprivation and fear..targeted individuals are forming groups to discuss the abuse
Pleeeaaase... Don't ever call it 'lasting damage', as that will MAKE it last (self-fulfilling-prophecy). You could call it 'a temporary damage on my healing journey'. You WILL heal. If you put the firm intention and work into it. Just like any of us, you are unstoppable. Unless you stop yourself. Don't. Give yourself what you deserve. Because you can. 🙏🏻💞
It was hard for me to see the extent of narcissism in me, because the ones you and everyone else describe are such cartoon figures with no depth at all. No ability to think in terms of enlightened self interest or to seek win wins as a default. The truly accomplished narcissists have that as a default, but not rigidly so. Immoral and evil? That is an overly simplistic way to view the NPD construct. I had some humility. I make mistakes and am not perfect. I never thought I could do no wrong. I had a sense of humor about myself and my known foibles. I was very open to learning, but only from those more intelligent or more accomplished or knowledgeable than me. It was hard to see and straighten out my life. I do find the caricatures of narcissists a bit superficial and facile. However this youtuber is not bad at all. He has a pretty good knowledge base, but he isn't a psychologist or psychiatrist and has no lived experience with it.
I just have to add that I can see a point in the fact that evil is evil and we should be done with it, but as a victim I have to emphasize the importance of understanding what the f**k happened there and why. As a reasonably normal functioning person before this s**tshow entered my life, such type of behaviour was beyond my comprehension and understanding, and it really helped me to recognise the terms such as reactive a**se, projecting, triangulation, supply and stuff like that to be able to explain to myself what just happened. Once you're able to understand, once you heal, burn it inside and take the power away.
You’re right . For most of us it’s just so hard to understand how & why someone who claims to love you can treat you so badly. Ordinary people would simply leave. It’s far more complicated than those who haven’t experienced it understand. But the acknowledgment here of the spiritual element is very validating. I experienced some weird things after the person I dealt with left. It sure is a journey
This is spot on, the most psychopathic narcissist I’ve met was dumb, so unbelievably stupid, but he was so stubborn and single minded it was like he was a machine that just destroyed anything he wanted and couldn’t have, especially women, if a woman rejected he went out of his way to terrorize her and make her life a living hell, he’d do it for YEARS as well, he wouldn’t let go of it and was relentless, even women he didn’t know well like neighbours who rejected him, people had to move house to get away from him once he set his eyes open you
I tangled and was trapped in a "love" ( Parasitic ) relationship with a seriously personality disordered and sadistic person. There had been injured of course in life - some of those injuries were serious and many were of their own making. BUT they were laser focused on staying with me and absorbing as much of my good nature - care - concern etc as possible. They were creative and charming but outwardly acted like a bratty undeveloped boy - but in a MANLY WAY - - he used sex mostly to entice and control me. But there was no end to their trumping my needs by theirs - scaring me and then crumbling into tears like a toddler that I had to console - - and of course I did naturally rush to comfort him as I am empathetic and felt very concerned and badly for him. BUT BUT BUT - - after fully understanding ALL THAT FED INTO HIS BROKEN STATE - - and Trying To Get Him Mental Health Support / Medication / Medical Intervention - -I finally realized HE WAS DEVOURING ME - I WAS BEING EATEN ALIVE. I know that sounds gross - dramatic - and most psychologically oriented people don't relate to that - - But the ESSENTIAL TRUTH is that I WAS FOOD FOR HIM. And I was Suffering Greatly at His Will - His Projection - His Demands for SEX ATTENTION CONCERN - - He was in a state of continuous CHAOS while calling himself SELF ACTUALIZED ! He was the definition of Crazy Making and Bottomless Insatiable Predation. GROSS is ONE WORD TO DESCRIBE THIS - - I was PREDATOR BLIND UNTIL I WAS ALMOST COMPLETELY DEVOURED BY THIS MAN. He was IMMORAL DARK ATTRACTED TO EVIL - and HE BROUGHT THAT INTO MY LIFE - HOME - and BODY - - I DID GET AWAY and I DID FACE & ERADICATE THAT DARKNESS From Around Me. I will never sit with the hungry wolf again - feeling for them and trying to find something to feed them with - - I know what a Dangerous Wolf IS Now.
I used to say that my ex-husband was a bottomless pit; I would keep pouring things in--effort, love, cooperation, you-name-it--but the pit never even began to fill.
Now that I think about it BPD was brought up by my mom and then every provider I had just accepted it. Turns out I’m actually autistic and traumatized by being told I was willfully difficult and a horrible person because of my autistic traits
Similar sit. For many years was undiagnosed ACC, ASD until 2017. Almost 40. My abusive narc mom was trying to get me on all sorts of meds. As a child, growing up. Making up all these diagnosis like she was a expert...just projecting her mental illness onto a me, a kid. Had providers dope me up. So I would be easier to control, abuse, steal from. And every time I complain, speak out, rebell, try and get help. Oh he's off his meds again. Was a nightmare that I overcame. As a grounded, responsible adult. I try my hardest to make my recovery my own. Those that get in the way or don't understand. I just avoid and keep on. Blessings. Self diagnosing me. Projecting onto a kid 12-16 like I'm the one with all the issues. Providers didn't care, clueless and shoved pills at me for 20+ years. Now current. Have own place. Own finances. Living my own life. No contact strict boundaries. Processing and working a lot on my cptsd. It's a difficult process but worth it. I can see and feel my progress working. So many in need. Where the medical, mental health community is clueless, won't listen, or is drug pushing. Been thru such 25+ years going. I found knowledge and understanding and what worked for me. Mind, body, spirit. Those that think they are "helping" me. Are just trying to exploit my progress and getting in way. Keep up what works for you. Regardless of the world's take.
You are a genius! It took me the longest time to be able to not react, at all, ever. But I never considered, until you just said it, that he wasn't after MY reaction; he was setting up HIS next reaction. Now I see this scattered throughout all our history. Happy to say I'm No Contact and forevermore will be. Sanity is beginning to come back to me. Thank you for all you do for us!
My friend's bicycle was stolen out of the foyer in her apt. unit and she was told to go to a "Kumbaya" hand-holding group therapy together, so they could "work it out", She refused obviously. The law didn't do anything to him. We couldn't believe it. Yay, Canada. On the Ted Bundy section, I also fell into "WHY did he do it " thinking as well, wanting to understand why a person becomes this way. But your description of him being a boring, moronic, machine, is very interesting and accurate. Our entertainment is certainly influencing our thinking by romanticizing such people. -- While I do think it's important to study them on a clinical level, it is the glamourizing them as interesting, unusual and geniuses -it's insidious and dangerous.
Saw that Canada is telling its citizens to leave cars unlocked ( are they talking houses now too?)and let criminals steal. US is letting people steal up to about 900$ worth from stores unstopped. US allowing squatters to confiscate homes while putting owners in jail. Netherlands farmers being destroyed by crazy thinking. Its everywhere and must be called out
I really needed to hear this. Thank you. I have ptsd cptsd. I was trauma bonded to a narc Psychopathic man for 8 years. In searching for a therapist to help me with my ptsd she kissdiangnosed me as bpd without a test and based on what... I am not bpd. I am suffering from cptsd and Stockholm syndrome.
I’m so glad so haven’t wasted money on psych doctors. I’ve been through the lifetime family and ex spouse gaslighting/ psychological murder, and my resultant reactive abuse, which did look like BPD episodes, and still struggle every day, waking up in a catatonic-like state still in disbelief stuck for hours in a CTPSD freeze response. Every time I think about getting mental health help outside of watching videos and reading books, I see or read comments like this that reaffirm I will likely only be further invalidated and gaslit if I go to a psychologist. Thank you for the additional validation. I’ll stick with the free videos.
I agree with you about idolizing psychopaths. Completely! I don't want to hear their name EVER! Instead of obsessing on these people, let's talk about the victims. I don't want to know the name of --- when we discuss Columbine or any other events. It's perpetrator A and B. They want notoriety. They want to live forever through their misdeeds. I say we remember the victims, for they are worth remembering. But psychopaths...they are nothing. Less than nothing.
Narcissism is rarely disagnosed because they do not believe they need help, or that anything is wrong with them. Or they flat out refuse, just because introspection alarms them like nothing else.
Richard, thank you for reiterating what I inherently know to be the truth, and has taken so much courage to face. Evil is evil and cut it out if needed. We don’t need a psychology degree to know that evil does not change, but seeks to destroy again and again and doesn’t deserve attention.
I had the good fortune of finding your channel and content six or seven years ago, Richard, and you had a profound impact on my recovery, mate. I was stuck in a trauma bond. and really suffering. I was struck by how matter-of-fact and factual you were….. and it gave me hope that you had regained your God-given, agency and sovereignty. Lord only knows how many people you have helped, mate, but I suspect there’s lots more good work to be done :-) XOXO
I found Richard’s channel five years ago and his teaching on narcissistic abuse and CPTSD was the missing link to my healing. His content, courses and teaching style are life changing and life saving for many of us. God bless Richard.
The father of my 3 children is evil...psychopathic. 8yrs seperated and still hell due to kids being unsafe. Recently he left the state without saying goodbye to our kids or letting us know he was leaving. Hope he never returns. 15yrs of hell is finally over. My famiy are also evil particularly my narc mother, just removed my sisters out of my life too as they are flying monkeys and they used my kids as pawns. The shit I've been through has horrified psychologists I've been to see. Really can't believe the family I was born into.
You're spot on. Married 30 yrs to malignant psycho. That's why Lucifer was kicked out of heaven for his morals. He's the very first psycho the unmoral angels came with him. Grandma andi
So so true. I immediately recognize evil people. The red flags are everywhere🚩🚩🚩. Now 12 years after a narcissistic relationship ended... 👏 Thank you for your work❤️🙏✨🤗
Life is...a feeling. Mind, body & spirit/psychological/physical & emotional are the holy trinity, for a whole human being. Mental health is dependent on the physical & emotional well being of an individual. Emotional dysregulation is cause for mental & physical dysfunction. D.S.M & psychiatry is quackery, at best. Empathy, apathy & psychopathy exist on a spectrum within each human being. "Each human being is the owner of 2 wolves, good & bad, who fight for dominion over their host. Which wolf wins? The one you feed the most." Wise old chief. We are what we practice & reap what we sow. As above, so below.
Gosh, I hope you read this. You’re brilliant. You’re absolutely right. I just got out of a narcissistic relationship and you are absolutely right and the reason why people don’t want to call it evil is cause it’s not popular. If people don’t believe there’s evil but there is evil thank you so much your brilliant. I love your videos.
Bringing up a moral issue is extremely important and I’m happy that you’re standing up for it. I see too much of this PC correct language anymore and it’s just a way that people have to hide away from having the courage to stand up and do the right thing. thank you for this video. It’s very important.
It's so good to hear that articulated. I have often, so honestly said to narcisists during 'discussions', in which they are always right - that I love being 'wrong' about things. It means I have a chance to grow and learn something that I was not aware of. I'm so happy for that ! Unfortunately, I have yet to see this revelation reciprocated. Even in situations where I'm proven to be correct, they can never admit it or even joke about it if I bring it up, perhaps, in a later conversation. "Hey - remember those two times when I was right ?" - I've occaisionally quipped with a slight, teasing smile and a gentle lilt to my voice. Their reaction, always the same: 'crickets'. Stone cold faces with absolutely no acknowledgement, whatsoever. Even if in a small social situation.
40:28 through end of video - gold star ⭐️ Richard! Incredible! NPD can’t change - they fear change. They are jealous of those who have spirit, create, change, vulnerable, grow - they fear us gaining knowledge to escape the power dynamic.
This vid really hit home. I escaped my abusive(physical and mental) ex-wife. And looking back maybe I would have escaped sooner if so many of the "experts" would have condemned her evil and advised me to get out. They excused her love of things over people. Her lack or morality on so many levels. Her psychiatrists, ministers, doctors all seeked reasons/excuses why she was the way she was. The doctors thought they could change her with drugs and therapy. The ministers thought they could change her with God/compassion. In the end it's like you said Richard; "evil is evil, the end."
thank you for reminding me that' evil is 'evil''--so many are afraid to call it what it is. I have the misfortune of having two narcopathic (psychopathic ,sadistic, torturing,-- while appearing normal on the outside ) parents, I've been no contact for ten years and living in hiding from them..that's how bad they are... the only difference between psychopaths that attack strangers and psychopaths that attack inside their own homes is their target. that is the only difference..they all have the same drive to dominate to feel powerful and to make someone suffer to bring them sadistic pleasure. in the legal system unfortunately domestic scapegoated persons are often slandered put into a box projected on and are blamed for things that they didn't even do...they are the most abused and tormented persons around and its a pervasive crime that is not even discussed. the grape victims and domestic victims are labeled as "bad " victims..whereas stranger crimes where there is no connection to the criminal are viewed as "good ' victims...home invasion, car accidents,. shootings etc etc.. ----this is the pervasive "system" which supports domestic criminals..and especially the scapegoating form of family abuse that is something that can go on for decades,... ----.this happened in the Timothy furgeson crime.... and the mother isn't properly described as her cluster b self,.... and it should be shown to the public...the child was scapegoated..that should be shown to the public... this abuse is real..not all kids are starved to death,... sometimes you survive and they do horrible things to you in adulthood .it never stops .. this isn't spoken about when the sadistic psychopath is your own parent.. the secondary abuse that society should wake up to is continuing to allow bringing cluster b's onto a police force or having access to survivors as doctors in icu rooms, or being social workers of traumatized people..this is a no brainer..evil is evil they don't respect the job title..
Autistic females are often diagnosed or given a suggested diagnosis of bpd before eventually being diagnosed with autism.This diagnosis was suggested to me along with bipolar and generalised anxiety disorder. Took 20 or more years to get the correct diagnosis.
Boom! Thanks for this awesome, authentic and straight talking breakdown of the issue. Needed to be said and definitely understood. Absolutely agree with all you said here. You cut through the BS sharply.
Your videos are so succinct, insightful, & helpful. Thank-you for all you do! You broke down what I experienced in the first 5 minutes. They were Highly Disagreeable. Ugggh! Glad I am out of that situation!
Lately I have realised traumatic experiences might actually cause brain damage. This is not just emotional this is a physical change. Lke being hot or cold.
I have the same idea recently! I am 53 now and endured so much traumas and the damage of being treated so bad all my life. So much people are involved. Yes, your brain gets damaged and your physique as a biologic system. You absolutely NEED to keep out every human, situation that makes you suffer. In my case, i can not reset the damage done to my body/mind. I tried and tried, but it seems permanent. The symptoms of my decline are endless. This guy is right. Bad is bad and you have to behave accordingly with everyone and everything that damages you and avoid people who harm you with no morality.
I encountered a psychopath recently at my local gaming shop. In tabletop games, you generally paint your miniatures. I brought out my team, and most people complimented me on the paint job, but one guy - the owner - held one of the miniatures in his hand for a long time, agonising over it. Finally he grunted dismissively and said, "You've chosen a good colour scheme." I knew in that moment what I was dealing with.
@@siedmyNo. He then proceeded to exclude me from his group. When I challenged him about it, he proceeded to gas-light and go round and round in circles in such a way that only narcissists are capable of. It really is maddening to deal with someone like that. He was able to go round in circles without actually ever answering my original question then somehow managed to flip the conversation to make it appear that I was somehow being unreasonable for even questioning him in the first place. However, he let the veil slip when I said, "Do you not like being challenged or something?" He then flew off the handle and said, "You couldn't even BEGIN to challenge me!" before completely banning me because he can. But his jealous reaction to my mini was the first clue.
@@nicholasgordon4999lol, what a clown. If you’re still in the group, you should go out of your way to compliment other players and watch him lose his mind. lol
@@KenDavis-uo8kq He's the owner, so he shut me out from everything - including social media groups. He flew into a narcissistic rage after a few questions.
I had a fabulous team lead a group of sexually abused adult children. She said when women are traumatized or triggered in a sexual abuse or repressed memory they displayed strong Borderline behavior, for a short peroid of time ( 6 months or less) usually in group therapy most symptoms subsided as patients got through issues in group setting" then one on one therapy for the issues that came up in group. She made her own model by ta she got from client feedback, successes, wrong turns, her professional observations, research and sharing others who specialize. She said then it was a trauma response and ignore that BPD diagnosis. Are you in? All in. The crap that psychologists and especially psychiatrists power trip level gaslighting and waving drugs. Yup, I was in. Had it only included narcissists, for my future self to avoid. But whats the fun in that. It should be in high schools as common knowledge.
LOL! Thank you Richard! We have been dealing with a combative covert narcissist that has been causing issues and the health care system is soooo broken....
Just want to say you're looking so well. I can see you have healed and that you are in a good place. Thank you for all the information and great personality
Mine got so close. Was truly trying to get diagnosed. 34 years trauma bonded. Final discard 4 weeks ago, now a nasty stranger. Don’t you think it’s worse, the closer they are to getting ‘healed’? Think self aware, ashamed, looked into NPD and decided BPD, became a trauma expert, took me to psychiatrist trying to get me to explain. He rang psyche as he was starting to split, said its an emergency, but not in time. Serious vulnerable, but looking psychopathic now. Serious toxic twilight zone projection.
I believe he has messed up the identities of our 4 kids. He won’t read his own messages from the day before. Has to idealise me or hate me which hurts the poor kids more. Mother wound I believe you hurt my mother, you hurt me. After giving us all lectures, promises at least 80 times in 4 years. The injustice is the worst! He looks evil to me now. Can’t decide if he has amnesia or if he was an evil manipulative lying bastard Omg you are describing him. Looks Dumb. Nobody home. Zero empathy, like a robot
How do you last 34 years in a bad environment with a narcissist or psychopath. I lasted 2 yrs not knowing wtf was going on and once I figured he was “off” I stayed 3 yrs more trying to be of support thinking I could help him heal from his bs until I couldn’t handle it anymore. I left after a big fight during one of his discards. Either way good for you that you were a let to breakaway from that abuse.
LOVE this!!! yes!! I also cant stand the mystification of evil people..loved the Ted Bundy analogy, it's NOT the victims task to analyze & legendize evil people & their deeds..evil is evil..end of story..thank you ..R.Grannon 🙌🏾👍🏽💥❤️🖤🔥💥💯
Yes! I often wondered about the diagnosis of BPD vs vulnerable narc. Makes sense from my experience. Your humor on the topic is much appreciated! 😂Please keep up your work. 🙏 It’s so helpful!
Wow. Your content is so unique and totally stands out from everyone else. I wasn’t expecting this. Your voice is so important thank you. I got so much out of this. You made it so easy to understand.
Thank you so much for the video ! Finally I have clear answers ! Doesn't matter what happened to them in the past, everyone always have a choice to the path they take.
Awsome talk, straight to the point.... And yes, narcissistic psychopathic ..doesn't really matter... get them out of your home mind view and work on yourself, where does the pain in your heart right now truly belong... take care of yourself, love yourself ❤
Richard😂 i listened to some of ur podcasts/youtube videos today and the swearing helps me blow off so much steam laughing during ur videos. I didnt expect your sense of humour man ❤❤❤❤
You’re refreshing and made me smile … my ex husband is a psychopath and my daughter has been diagnosed with BPD. I became the family scapegoat for everything they needed to blame on somebody else. Every psychologist ended up charmed by him, perhaps because he was paying the bill 🤷🏼♀️ He enables my daughter because it serves him. He has committed so much fraud, bribed officers of the court and the smear campaigns are tantamount to academy award performance. Neither my daughter nor my ex husband have a functioning moral core.
Duuuy. Haha yes the perpetual wringing of the hands 😂 I’ve come around. ‘Does that person have a functioning moral code?’ Morality makes things very simple yes.
Thank you so much Richard. You have a gift for explaining the cluster B's. You are helping me come out of the fog in wich lurks way more danger than I ever knew existed. I've been blinded by my own narcissistic character.
As well as informing us to improve our lives, you entertain us while we get to witness you stutter (like a human being) as your intelligence is piqued, and your american accent is spot on and hilarious, Richard.
I was diagnosed with BPD without having been tested (asked tons of questions) from a guy who met me once. I took it seriously because he had the biggest office of all the other clinicians. Omg. It has been part of my identity ever since. Damn it. Damn it.
@nataliesuper5836 Yes, but Autistic people are almost guaranteed to have trauma because everything is amplified, good or bad. Something that is annoying to a neuro-typical person could be traumatic for an Autistic person. It is not an either/or situation. Definitely worth exploring. :))
I see the morality from a different angle. I think the only moral thing that can be attached to psychopaths is to figure out how the rest of mankind can be kept safe. To call a psychopath a moral degenerate is someimes too optimistic but on the other hand there are too many psychopaths for us to incarcerate. They are on a sort of spectrum .Your work has helped me and sometimes I giggle when you describe interaction between the narcissist and it's source of fuel. I have been there and done that. Blessings to you!
Real good production Richard! So informative, revealing and alarming. I’ve been terribly naive and you’re so right in recognizing “evil is evil” and seeing what you’re dealing with. I also see your goal oriented behavior to elicit a reaction to enforce the power dynamic which I feel was the seed to my former partner engineering the demise of our relationship. I also knew a woman in the nineties that I wrongly accepted a hoover call during the pandemic. I was n/c for fifteen years. I’m back to n/c with her now as she’s a psychopath and no respect for boundaries. She’s trying to hoover me again and I’m not biting. She devalued me and has dead eyes and truly believe she’s evil. She “milkshaked” my dinner one time with her fingers and it infuriated me. One of these “I’m not hungry” types but feeds herself ramoras herself through life. Very good segment to rewatch! Thank you and best Sir.
Evil exists. People are evil. History teaches us that. You are so right. Yes, you are 100% right. Only one issue needs to be determined. End of story. “ Evil is evil.” Amen.
Very excellent points made in this video. Thank you! Something I like a lot about Richard is that he considers his words, works to origins and seems to have an excitement about analyzing himself and his responses. This excitement maybe stems from love for humanity and it shows in him reflecting - on how his own existence is happening. On that note I'm going through something, and it seems no matter how I frame my words I'm actively (naively) trying to express a truth and "triggering" a reaction from my 'subject', no matter how much I care about the person. My internal locus of thought is abstract... well I'm confusing many emotions suffice to say. I may be pouty/bitchy and misanthropic and it's literally contagious. I could be my better side but also my relationship/life is a train wreck. I feel desperate like I need to take action (real ptsd) but simultaneously feel I need to not respond to my partner. I am having Karen-esque moments displacing my need for control and bothering people in public. By chance I found this channel and it's a blessing to be able to comment. Richard is also admirable in his self direction. You can't hope to imitate someone this funny and practised meeting people and talking and living well, but in trying to reach a little how they think I can peer influence myself into a traits I need. I liked a lot of points in this video upload. On the "claw" metaphor : my passitivity and how I express aggression/communicate/motivate myself is my problem. Richard's covered self empowerment a lot. I need to still click into my life somehow some things I can "sink my claws into". Richard is correct the psychobabble I got from counselors further confuses me and damaged my executive functioning. I'm seeing people judge me as a spaz and confirming it with them now. If he can expand people using their claws. Plant more seeds on making more money or doing things that aren't sitting gobsmacked or smoking pot. Sorry for myself and everyone else that can't choose their words the best and effect others. I have so much inside me to say I act madly for it and writing a question into 2 sentences.... I saying triggering shit trying to think it out. If Richard reads this then I want to say Sorry for being impolite, robotic even. Richard knows what to do he holds a group seminar so well. I want to hear people and stimulate discussions. When I get a sense it's lurking behind the topic, I just spout shit to get people talking. (Im good at it making people think too, in school some kids called me professor. I'm trying to become sensitive and avoid saying things that elicit emotions that give negative results) I get confused with my feelings too and say shit I wanted to hear about, not always good to getting somewhere useful. If my head wasn't so full with the things I don't want to do then I would talk to people better and connect to life again! I also need to RELAX and let people do their things, do not "play God", do not overthink, be in the moment enjoying health and avoid dicks. My head isn't going to have a magic solvent answer that is pretty egotistical I need to behave differently or at least focus on what I can/should control.
BEST 🎉 TO THE POINT..... It is our unwilling ness to except evil evil exists. It hurts, we want to pull the curtain back and forget we aren't in Kansas anymore. OZ doesn't exist.
You're hilarious lol I love watching your videos. You are so well informed, intelligent and authentic. Thank you for doing what you do. -Anonymous Psychotherapist
I have a masters in psychology. High school teacher. I believe the argument on morality is a valid one, and something I have been considering recently as I’ve seen teenagers almost completely lose their moral compass over the last few years. There is indeed an explosion in narcissistic psychopathy among my students, to quite a worrying degree. Morality does not seem to matter to many of them, on any front. And before anyone says teenagers have always been this way, I can assure that in my 23 years of teaching, what I’m seeing now is alarming. And it’s being made worse by adults who seek a reason for the behavior instead of working to stamp it out. Just as you said, the adults who should be protecting the good students, allow all sorts of immoral behavior from students who shouldn’t even be allowed in school anymore. It worries me that those of us in education who try to stand up for the good kids are labeled heartless and uncaring.
As a teacher of 30 years, primary qualified, secondary and qualified visual impairment teacher, I agree with you.
I'm one of the teachers you probably hate, who asked to work with those pupils who have SOCIAL emotional and behavioural difficulties, violent, withdrawn, neurodiverse, trans, gay etc.
I come from poor working class family, was a wild tomboy etc, drive a 600cc motorbike to school (wrongly judged by posh teachers).
I have become equally aware of the narcissistic behaviours of teenagers and primary age too. I have watched the behaviour over the years snd now the quiet children, who go to school to try and do their best are expected to endure the behaviours of the pupils I work with and say nothing. They don't get the attention the others elicit and it's unfair. WORSE?...The senior management teams do nothing about it. I believe that we know the pupils with ACEs, provide support mechanisms for them to be flung in your face. They are wise, they play on you, are 'systemed up' and know what they're doing. I wouldnt be 2 minutes with them if the system allowed.
This dark behavior energy field was intentionally created and released like a fog of w a r upon humanity in 2015 as a type of spirit curse, if you will.
I can't remember the details, but they explained that this frequently field is part -- a i -- and would induce psychopathic, sadistic and/or illicit behaviors including high levels of anger and violence.
They had been testing the success of this frequency induction program on individuals (prefrontal cortex, amygdala...) for decades which played out in many random, violent or disturbing ways.
These acts would make no sense to the observers unless they knew what had been done to trigger that person's agressive behavor.
No one will ever see "them" pulling a trigger. No, they are stealthy and get others to do those acts for them.
The studies were promising so they released this field upon us all, but only those that were prepped or weak-minded will be susceptible, but unfortunately most humans have become weak-minded and have received the prep/ im plan ting as well.
There is much more to the story. I hope you understand what I'm saying.
I'm working closely with a teacher in a CA Middle School and the experiences that she is witnessing in her classroom includes the children verbally and physically assaulting each other and the teachers. This happens on a daily basis and is considered acceptable and condoned.
This will escalate, but I dare not expand on what I foresee for humanity.
Thank you for validating what you are observing as well. The more we have contributing to this, the better we can formulate a plan to intercede.
I was trying to explain what I have learned and try to provide some more evidence that would be helpful but for some reason everything I've written is immediately deleted. I guess I'm hitting too close to home and that's a good thing because it just confirms that what I know is terrifying to those in control
This energy field was created and released upon humanity about 9 years ago as a type of curse, if you will.
I can't remember the details, but they explained that this frequently field is part ____ and would induce psychopathic, sadistic and/or illicit behaviors including high levels of anger and violence.
They had been testing the success of this frequency on individuals for decades which played out in many random, violent or disturbing ways.
These acts would make no sense to the observers unless they knew what had been done to trigger that person's agressive behavor.
The studies were promising so they released this upon us, but only those that were prepped or weak-minded will be susceptible, but unfortunately most humans are both!
There is much more to the story. I hope you understand what I'm saying.
I'm working closely with a teacher in a CA Middle School and the experiences that she is witnessing in her classroom includes the children verbally and physically assaulting each other and the teachers. This happens on a daily basis and is considered acceptable and condoned.
This will escalate, but I dare not expand on what I foresee for us.
Thank you for validating what you are observing as well. The more we share, the better we can formulate a solution.
D J T level ten narcissist crossing into sociopath
I've had a horrific childhood, but I don't go around trying to destroy peoples lives. Unfortunately, I continue to be victimized by these people because of my empathy. No more!!
Change your proimity.
Is it because of your empathy or your lack of boundaries?
@@blydnhvghn Probably both. I'm working on that.
Ja es wird zu viel entschuldigt und zu wenig gehandelt
I am trying to not end up attracted to these people as well We have a broken sense of being in healthy relationships. We have to first understand what a healthy person looks like.
Straight forward and spot on advice. After spending years puzzled and consumed with "figuring them out", I finally realize that when I see the N pattern of behavior, the crazy, the mind boggling and bending, I no longer need to stay and figure them out. I need to cut and run; period. Not my circus, not my monkey. I also avoid the charasmatic and charming individuals. When you make me feel like I am the only fascinating person in the room, it is a Big Red Flag waving wildly in the wind.
Yes, the charismatic and charming ones are often the psychopaths putting it on to manipulate, unless of course, they are equally charming to everyone, and, all of the time: then and only then, are they truly the nice ones!
The narcissist begins always with the charm offensive.
@@matthewsheeran IDK. I've known narcissist who charm entire communities... there's more to it than that.
@@trinleywangmoThat's exactly right and I could be the canary in the coalmine in that area, so to speak, because they often drop their mask with me while keeping up the facade for others! Of course, it's not a good feeling, but at least I know to stay away. 😊
There's a book called People Of The Lie, by a psychologist named Scott Peck, written in the late 70s. His premise was that psychology needed to start talking about evil. He hypothesized that the way a person becomes evil is that they're committed to an overly pristine self image and will take drastic steps to protect that image - sound familiar? They harm people to protect their image, then feel a need to deny and cover up the harm they've done. After multiple repetitions of this cycle, Peck says, they destroy their consciences and operate in the world like psychopaths, even though they started life not psychopaths.
It's an interesting read, complete with decade-suitable references to Watergate and Vietnam.
Yes im going to buy this book. I reallyyyyyy want to read it.
Great great book. An important read.
Yep. M Scott Peck opened up my eyes about 6 weeks after my malignant narcissist fiance dumped me for her next victim. That was 14 years ago, and apparently I didn't learn my lesson. Right now I am in the process of recovering from another one.
M Scott Peck wasn't Catholic but participated in an exorcism he wrote another book about. He said that unusually good souls get possessed in his experience but the people of the lie choose evil - they refuse growth & wish to blame others for that. Here in the US with Maga, I am reminded of what Peck wrote re: group evil.
@@OutlawJoseyWales71 - You will repeat it until you do your own work. Ending up with narcissists isn't a one way street.
Thank you Richard. Two of my therapists including the one I'm currently seeing have asked me why the boys who assaulted me, assaulted me. It was very hurtful. I don't give a f*** if those boys were also abused or not. The fact is, they turned it on me, someone who had never done them any harm. All I ever done was try to get away from them. I am not to blame and it's not my responsibility to find out why they were so goddamn evil.
Maybe you should ask your current therapist what this question was all about. Maybe they just wanted to find out whether YOU wrongly blame yourself for something that was not your fault, which would be something they would have to work on with you. IF they wanted to put the blame on you, look for a new therapist. A 'blamer' would be unprofessional, harmful not helpful, and therefore not worth your time. And only worth to be made your ex-therapist. 😉
All the best wishes on your healing journey to inner freedom and happiness! 🙏🏻💞
Terrible therapists.
They assaulted someone because they wanted to. Must've been several steps that occurred leading up to it, where they could have made different decisions. Let the therapists ask them. 🤗xx
True.
@@anne-louisegoldie Exactly 💯🤗
“Evil is evil. The end.” That part. I wasted years in a marriage only to learn day 1 wouldn’t have been too soon to get out. The things that were the worst are things no one with a moral compass could do to a spouse.
Same. I've been in the divorce process for 11 months (with no children together) they truly are evil
Exactly my story. Pure Evil, continuously.
It's not wasted time, it was a learning experience. That is what I tell myself all the time.
Narcissism= Demonic
@@cherhart So glad you’re out! And that you didn’t experience what the supply after you experienced!
I am 100% over the glorification of serial killers, psychopaths, etc. I will no longer watch those shows, interviews, documentaries. I don’t want to hear anything those POS have to say. Yes, I have listened to the experts. And we study narcissism as a desperate attempt to learn enough so that we don’t repeat getting involved with these types.
Perfectly stated. Let's just warn the victims and be done.
So true. It's just because there is no actual way to solve the problem right now that breeds people's obsession with it.
@@Liz-wz8dhI don't agree. It is very often people who have suffered at the hands of evil trying to make sense of it.
Ignoring it certainly doesn't make it go away. Trying to understand it is not horrifying it. Horror movies like Nightmare on.... And slasher movies etc are what glorify it. like
I'm the same way I refuse to watch movies or documentaries about them. Hollywood has glorified these types for years and it's sick.
Thankyou so much Richard. Sometime ago, I was invited on a hike to a waterfall with a man whom I would later come to realize was a narcissistic psychopath. While attempting to scale a cliff, I asked for hand to support me as there was a long drop to the bottom.
Just before I reached the top of the cliff, he dropped my hand and I started to fall. Had there not been a root of a tree for me to grab and had my interaction time not been what it was, I would not be writing this today.
As I scrambled over the face of the cliff onto the flat, I looked at him in horror, asking "What did you do?" "I don't know," he replied.
He did not make any move to help me up. He did not apologize. He did not ask he how I was as we made our way back to village. Two days later, when I brought up the incident again, he denied that it ever happened. I began doubting myself, believing in the possibility that what I experienced never happened. Or, if it did happen, it was an accident. And, I made excuses for him believing that he was too embarrassed to acknowledge his mistake.
However, the beautiful thing about life is that the truth always comes out in the end.
Recently, two acquaintances approached me to tell me that this man had made a specific attempt to contact them to want them about his concerns about my mental health. He told them both that I was "making up stories that never happened."
"The murderer's blow tells us nothing of his character; but in his remorse or exultation over his deed his secret is revealed to us," wrote Julian Hawthorne in his April 1886 Atlantic Review of his father's book, The Scarlet Letter.
I believe that he tried to kill me that day, to cover up a wrongdoing that he feared would be disclosed. The narcissistic psychopath is willing and capable of killing to conceal their false identity.
What wrongdoing do you think he was trying to cover up, may I ask? Something you knew about him?
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What was your relationship up this man before you went on a hike, together ?
From your writing, I gather that you just met this person - so, how could you know anything about them ?
Psychopaths always tell on themselves : projection by inquiring about your mental health , after he almost let you drop down a cliff … their always protecting their shitty image 😵💫
MY SON DID A SIMILAR DEED LUCKY I WAS ABLE TO RUN FOR ASSISTANCE ....HAD GOOD WITNESSES WHO VERYFIED THE STATE I ARRIVED IN AT THEIR DOOR ....OR I WOULD HAVE HAD TO GO HOME AND LIVE WITH THE ASSAULT I STARTED TO SEE WHAT HE TRULY WAS AND THAT WAS MY PUNISHMENT HE WAS LUCKY TO ESCAPE JAIL .....
I love it when you mock. The tone is perfect and made me fall of my chair laughing because that is just how they sound. Humor makes all this tolerable. Thank you Richard.
It is IMPERATIVE to discern evil, and name it as evil, and morally condemn it in order to heal. Your real authentic feelings know the truth. You must take moral solidarity with your real pain and real experience of evil to process it through. If you deny their responsibility, if you deny the evil or bypass it or make compassionate excuses for it, you will short circuit the healing process. This (!!!) is where therapy gets it wrong. What they must do is take full moral solidarity with the victim's moral injury in cases of abuse.
Brilliantly put! 👏 Evil is evil with NO moral compass. Richard, you should be running the country. ❤
We have free will...evil is evil but people have a personal choice to be or not to be
@@vkngwmn6636Indeed. And that’s the difference between us and them
Hah! This piece of information that 40% of BPD is misdiagnosed hits hard now. I was diagnosed with BPD. Previously I had ADHD, depression, anxiety and insomnia diagnosed. I asked the psychiatrist why they did not consider cPTSD, but she told me I was too old for this (39) and the trauma was too long time ago. I was raised by a covert narcissist with ADHD and something I can't even describe - probably a sort of narcissistic psychopath or a sadistic narcissist. Thus, I had the cPTSD theory. Initially, I accepted this "being too old for cPTSD" explanation, although it did not fit right, and I started researching BPD. To some degree, it matched my issues - weak anger management and fear of abandonment. As people with personality disorders do not understand they have it, I thought it must be the case for me, too.
However, the further I went with the research, the more I started suspecting I couldn't have BPD, as I have no issues with unclear self-image, no erratic relationships, I have a stable and quiet lifestyle, 99% of the time I'm emotionally balanced with two feet on the ground etc. 1% is when I get triggered by something and freak out. I spent a year trying to persuade doctors that I do not have a personality disorder and we should go back to the drawing board and test for cPTSD. Eventually, I gave up and went to another place, where they immediately recognised cPTSD. I got the treatment that improved my life in a week so drastically that I could not even imagine it was possible to feel so normal and not to have this "all the disasters that have and might happen" broadcasting in my head 24/7. I'm even able to sleep 6 hours in a row now. However, those people who thought I had BPD told me the fact that I feel constantly exhausted is due to my "personality disorder." Although I also have insomnia, which is a common symptom of cPTSD.
If people were too old for any type of mental or emotional trauma, we wouldn't even be talking about this. One thing I know from experience, there are some exceptionally bad therapists, councilors, etc out there and they can do some serious damage.
Agreed but it is very difficult to diagnose many psychiatric conditions. People present in so many different ways & when there is more than one condition it can complicate diagnosis. It’s just such an inexact science. In my case I was diagnosed with depression for over 10 years but discovered with the help of an amazing psychiatrist that it was actually bipolar. Changed my life
I 100% agree with you!!!!! Evil people are out there hurting people every f'ing day!!!!! 😢
It's important to call a dick a dick when you see one!
We can't call out a superior or someone behind the desk for shafting us, even if they sit like fat cats.
Some people suck/are dicks! Or are bums! I don't want to confuse my relationships with it too much but Richard is making a good point - if someone is not using a good enough sense of morality, It's a problem to you.
It's refreshing to hear you say this. It needs to be said. I never agreed with Vaknin on it all just being purely psychological. There's something spiritual going on. A darkness that permeates withing ones soul.
Cheers everyone
Yes exactly. And when you come face to face with demonic evil you finally understand that there is a God and there is free will to choose.
🙄 there is nothing such. Science has basically done what nieches quote implies. "God is Dead" and we killed him.
Spirits and spirituality is tied to religion and as this dies off globally, you see more decaying morality. The only solution is Philosophy.
Spiritualityand religion Is an explanatory principle for all of everything, and there's comfort in that in an objectively cruel and cold world.
But that's all it is. Nothing more. Projecting that onto people is where you go wrong.
Build autonomy and a sense of self outside of those safe spaces.
Still in recovery from a brutal experience with a vicious grandiose somatic narcissistic colleague over 30 years ago but the horror lasted two years! Did me lasting damage but opened my eyes to the damage that had already been done to me in childhood making me the perfect scapegoat on which she could dump all her toxic material - I was not alone so did not think I was insane - I had a fellow sufferer so we could commiserate - watched everyone around me being seduced and deceived - truly horrifying but woke me up to the true nature of this world we are living in. Thank you Richard - thanks to your books and videos I do not feel I am in a minority of one.
Your not alone..im continuously running into cult like people where the narcissists mirror the leader and your hunted like an animal by the group of them..when you talk or get help you sound like your crazy
They already play the victim against you and smear your rep first so itt never stops they all know each other but pretend to hate each other so you find out after the fact it's a plot 12 against one..so tiring
Sleep deprivation and fear..targeted individuals are forming groups to discuss the abuse
terrifying..😵
Feels like we're living in a mental illness world. Like its surrounding us at all times.
Pleeeaaase... Don't ever call it 'lasting damage', as that will MAKE it last (self-fulfilling-prophecy). You could call it 'a temporary damage on my healing journey'. You WILL heal. If you put the firm intention and work into it. Just like any of us, you are unstoppable. Unless you stop yourself. Don't. Give yourself what you deserve. Because you can. 🙏🏻💞
It was hard for me to see the extent of narcissism in me, because the ones you and everyone else describe are such cartoon figures with no depth at all. No ability to think in terms of enlightened self interest or to seek win wins as a default. The truly accomplished narcissists have that as a default, but not rigidly so. Immoral and evil? That is an overly simplistic way to view the NPD construct. I had some humility. I make mistakes and am not perfect. I never thought I could do no wrong. I had a sense of humor about myself and my known foibles. I was very open to learning, but only from those more intelligent or more accomplished or knowledgeable than me. It was hard to see and straighten out my life. I do find the caricatures of narcissists a bit superficial and facile. However this youtuber is not bad at all. He has a pretty good knowledge base, but he isn't a psychologist or psychiatrist and has no lived experience with it.
I just have to add that I can see a point in the fact that evil is evil and we should be done with it, but as a victim I have to emphasize the importance of understanding what the f**k happened there and why. As a reasonably normal functioning person before this s**tshow entered my life, such type of behaviour was beyond my comprehension and understanding, and it really helped me to recognise the terms such as reactive a**se, projecting, triangulation, supply and stuff like that to be able to explain to myself what just happened. Once you're able to understand, once you heal, burn it inside and take the power away.
Agreed: here’s to the warrior breed. Stay true to self!
You’re right . For most of us it’s just so hard to understand how & why someone who claims to love you can treat you so badly. Ordinary people would simply leave. It’s far more complicated than those who haven’t experienced it understand. But the acknowledgment here of the spiritual element is very validating. I experienced some weird things after the person I dealt with left. It sure is a journey
This is spot on, the most psychopathic narcissist I’ve met was dumb, so unbelievably stupid, but he was so stubborn and single minded it was like he was a machine that just destroyed anything he wanted and couldn’t have, especially women, if a woman rejected he went out of his way to terrorize her and make her life a living hell, he’d do it for YEARS as well, he wouldn’t let go of it and was relentless, even women he didn’t know well like neighbours who rejected him, people had to move house to get away from him once he set his eyes open you
R, I adore your ability to speak TRUTH in such an intelligent, comical way!!
I tangled and was trapped in a "love" ( Parasitic ) relationship with a seriously personality disordered and sadistic person. There had been injured of course in life - some of those injuries were serious and many were of their own making. BUT they were laser focused on staying with me and absorbing as much of my good nature - care - concern etc as possible. They were creative and charming but outwardly acted like a bratty undeveloped boy - but in a MANLY WAY - - he used sex mostly to entice and control me. But there was no end to their trumping my needs by theirs - scaring me and then crumbling into tears like a toddler that I had to console - - and of course I did naturally rush to comfort him as I am empathetic and felt very concerned and badly for him. BUT BUT BUT - - after fully understanding ALL THAT FED INTO HIS BROKEN STATE - - and Trying To Get Him Mental Health Support / Medication / Medical Intervention - -I finally realized HE WAS DEVOURING ME - I WAS BEING EATEN ALIVE. I know that sounds gross - dramatic - and most psychologically oriented people don't relate to that - - But the ESSENTIAL TRUTH is that I WAS FOOD FOR HIM. And I was Suffering Greatly at His Will - His Projection - His Demands for SEX ATTENTION CONCERN - - He was in a state of continuous CHAOS while calling himself SELF ACTUALIZED ! He was the definition of Crazy Making and Bottomless Insatiable Predation. GROSS is ONE WORD TO DESCRIBE THIS - - I was PREDATOR BLIND UNTIL I WAS ALMOST COMPLETELY DEVOURED BY THIS MAN. He was IMMORAL DARK ATTRACTED TO EVIL - and HE BROUGHT THAT INTO MY LIFE - HOME - and BODY - - I DID GET AWAY and I DID FACE & ERADICATE THAT DARKNESS From Around Me. I will never sit with the hungry wolf again - feeling for them and trying to find something to feed them with - - I know what a Dangerous Wolf IS Now.
Spot on!
I used to say that my ex-husband was a bottomless pit; I would keep pouring things in--effort, love, cooperation, you-name-it--but the pit never even began to fill.
The greatest trick of the devil..
Now that I think about it BPD was brought up by my mom and then every provider I had just accepted it. Turns out I’m actually autistic and traumatized by being told I was willfully difficult and a horrible person because of my autistic traits
Same it's common especially for women.
Similar sit.
For many years was undiagnosed ACC, ASD until 2017. Almost 40.
My abusive narc mom was trying to get me on all sorts of meds. As a child, growing up. Making up all these diagnosis like she was a expert...just projecting her mental illness onto a me, a kid.
Had providers dope me up. So I would be easier to control, abuse, steal from.
And every time I complain, speak out, rebell, try and get help. Oh he's off his meds again. Was a nightmare that I overcame. As a grounded, responsible adult. I try my hardest to make my recovery my own.
Those that get in the way or don't understand. I just avoid and keep on. Blessings.
Self diagnosing me. Projecting onto a kid 12-16 like I'm the one with all the issues. Providers didn't care, clueless and shoved pills at me for 20+ years.
Now current. Have own place. Own finances. Living my own life. No contact strict boundaries. Processing and working a lot on my cptsd.
It's a difficult process but worth it. I can see and feel my progress working. So many in need.
Where the medical, mental health community is clueless, won't listen, or is drug pushing. Been thru such 25+ years going.
I found knowledge and understanding and what worked for me. Mind, body, spirit.
Those that think they are "helping" me. Are just trying to exploit my progress and getting in way.
Keep up what works for you. Regardless of the world's take.
You are a genius! It took me the longest time to be able to not react, at all, ever. But I never considered, until you just said it, that he wasn't after MY reaction; he was setting up HIS next reaction. Now I see this scattered throughout all our history. Happy to say I'm No Contact and forevermore will be. Sanity is beginning to come back to me. Thank you for all you do for us!
My friend's bicycle was stolen out of the foyer in her apt. unit and she was told to go to a "Kumbaya" hand-holding group therapy together, so they could "work it out", She refused obviously. The law didn't do anything to him. We couldn't believe it. Yay, Canada.
On the Ted Bundy section, I also fell into "WHY did he do it " thinking as well, wanting to understand why a person becomes this way. But your description of him being a boring, moronic, machine, is very interesting and accurate. Our entertainment is certainly influencing our thinking by romanticizing such people. -- While I do think it's important to study them on a clinical level, it is the glamourizing them as interesting, unusual and geniuses -it's insidious and dangerous.
Wow....this world is so ass-backwards. That country is the biggest mess lol
Saw that Canada is telling its citizens to leave cars unlocked ( are they talking houses now too?)and let criminals steal. US is letting people steal up to about 900$ worth from stores unstopped. US allowing squatters to confiscate homes while putting owners in jail. Netherlands farmers being destroyed by crazy thinking. Its everywhere and must be called out
What?? Wow
I really needed to hear this. Thank you. I have ptsd cptsd. I was trauma bonded to a narc Psychopathic man for 8 years. In searching for a therapist to help me with my ptsd she kissdiangnosed me as bpd without a test and based on what... I am not bpd. I am suffering from cptsd and Stockholm syndrome.
I’m so glad so haven’t wasted money on psych doctors. I’ve been through the lifetime family and ex spouse gaslighting/ psychological murder, and my resultant reactive abuse, which did look like BPD episodes, and still struggle every day, waking up in a catatonic-like state still in disbelief stuck for hours in a CTPSD freeze response.
Every time I think about getting mental health help outside of watching videos and reading books, I see or read comments like this that reaffirm I will likely only be further invalidated and gaslit if I go to a psychologist.
Thank you for the additional validation. I’ll stick with the free videos.
Your strength to involve yourself so deeply into these very disturbed minds is truly amazing to me.
I agree with you about idolizing psychopaths. Completely! I don't want to hear their name EVER! Instead of obsessing on these people, let's talk about the victims. I don't want to know the name of --- when we discuss Columbine or any other events. It's perpetrator A and B. They want notoriety. They want to live forever through their misdeeds. I say we remember the victims, for they are worth remembering. But psychopaths...they are nothing. Less than nothing.
Narcissism is rarely disagnosed because they do not believe they need help, or that anything is wrong with them. Or they flat out refuse, just because introspection alarms them like nothing else.
Richard, thank you for reiterating what I inherently know to be the truth, and has taken so much courage to face. Evil is evil and cut it out if needed. We don’t need a psychology degree to know that evil does not change, but seeks to destroy again and again and doesn’t deserve attention.
"It is everywhere. It's in everything." FACTS
I had the good fortune of finding your channel and content six or seven years ago, Richard, and you had a profound impact on my recovery, mate. I was stuck in a trauma bond. and really suffering. I was struck by how matter-of-fact and factual you were….. and it gave me hope that you had regained your God-given, agency and sovereignty. Lord only knows how many people you have helped, mate, but I suspect there’s lots more good work to be done :-) XOXO
I found Richard’s channel five years ago and his teaching on narcissistic abuse and CPTSD was the missing link to my healing. His content, courses and teaching style are life changing and life saving for many of us. God bless Richard.
I think its just pure evil. They know what they are doing! They know its wrong! Theyre gonna do it anyway!
Evil is evil ! This is your best video
The father of my 3 children is evil...psychopathic. 8yrs seperated and still hell due to kids being unsafe. Recently he left the state without saying goodbye to our kids or letting us know he was leaving. Hope he never returns. 15yrs of hell is finally over. My famiy are also evil particularly my narc mother, just removed my sisters out of my life too as they are flying monkeys and they used my kids as pawns. The shit I've been through has horrified psychologists I've been to see. Really can't believe the family I was born into.
You're spot on. Married 30 yrs to malignant psycho. That's why Lucifer was kicked out of heaven for his morals. He's the very first psycho the unmoral angels came with him. Grandma andi
Thank you! Your content keeps my fangs sharp and my belly laughing. “Strangers are friends you haven’t met yet.” 😂🎉❤
I can't even tell you how this video has changed me. My mind is blown, thank you so so much.
So so true.
I immediately recognize evil people.
The red flags are everywhere🚩🚩🚩.
Now 12 years after a narcissistic relationship ended... 👏
Thank you for your work❤️🙏✨🤗
I grew up with an apathetic, enabling mother. She always said she couldn’t stop things from happening..that she was helpless
Life is...a feeling.
Mind, body & spirit/psychological/physical & emotional are the holy trinity, for a whole human being.
Mental health is dependent on the physical & emotional well being of an individual. Emotional dysregulation is cause for mental & physical dysfunction.
D.S.M & psychiatry is quackery, at best.
Empathy, apathy & psychopathy exist on a spectrum within each human being.
"Each human being is the owner of 2 wolves, good & bad, who fight for dominion over their host. Which wolf wins? The one you feed the most." Wise old chief.
We are what we practice & reap what we sow. As above, so below.
Gosh, I hope you read this. You’re brilliant. You’re absolutely right. I just got out of a narcissistic relationship and you are absolutely right and the reason why people don’t want to call it evil is cause it’s not popular. If people don’t believe there’s evil but there is evil thank you so much your brilliant. I love your videos.
Bringing up a moral issue is extremely important and I’m happy that you’re standing up for it. I see too much of this PC correct language anymore and it’s just a way that people have to hide away from having the courage to stand up and do the right thing. thank you for this video. It’s very important.
Fantastic! Yes, we can grow, the narcissist can't.
It's so good to hear that articulated. I have often, so honestly said to narcisists during 'discussions', in which they are always right - that I love being 'wrong' about things.
It means I have a chance to grow and learn something that I was not aware of. I'm so happy for that !
Unfortunately, I have yet to see this revelation reciprocated. Even in situations where I'm proven to be correct, they can never admit it or even joke about it if I bring it up, perhaps, in a later conversation.
"Hey - remember those two times when I was right ?" - I've occaisionally quipped with a slight, teasing smile and a gentle lilt to my voice.
Their reaction, always the same: 'crickets'. Stone cold faces with absolutely no acknowledgement, whatsoever. Even if in a small social situation.
@@ZooxMaze Exactly.
From 26:15 YES! Our children need our protection from the evil cult
when they all have cell phones in their hands. I call it "the monthly subscription for your brain washing"
@@mattlacasse5828right, mobiles through social media are just advanced instruments for psychological conditioning.
Yes!! People of the lie, told us that when people create confusion it’s to cover their deception.
This has to be my all time favorite RG video yet. And I've seen many. Right to the point and an honest evaluation. 👍
40:28 through end of video - gold star ⭐️ Richard! Incredible! NPD can’t change - they fear change. They are jealous of those who have spirit, create, change, vulnerable, grow - they fear us gaining knowledge to escape the power dynamic.
Yes!!! It is time to acknowledge evil!! Thank you!😊
This vid really hit home. I escaped my abusive(physical and mental) ex-wife. And looking back maybe I would have escaped sooner if so many of the "experts" would have condemned her evil and advised me to get out. They excused her love of things over people. Her lack or morality on so many levels. Her psychiatrists, ministers, doctors all seeked reasons/excuses why she was the way she was. The doctors thought they could change her with drugs and therapy. The ministers thought they could change her with God/compassion. In the end it's like you said Richard; "evil is evil, the end."
thank you for reminding me that' evil is 'evil''--so many are afraid to call it what it is. I have the misfortune of having two narcopathic (psychopathic ,sadistic, torturing,-- while appearing normal on the outside ) parents,
I've been no contact for ten years and living in hiding from them..that's how bad they are...
the only difference between psychopaths that attack strangers and psychopaths that attack inside their own homes is their target.
that is the only difference..they all have the same drive to dominate to feel powerful and to make someone suffer to bring them sadistic pleasure.
in the legal system unfortunately domestic scapegoated persons are often slandered put into a box projected on and are blamed for things that they didn't even do...they are the most abused and tormented persons around and its a pervasive crime that is not even discussed.
the grape victims and domestic victims are labeled as "bad " victims..whereas stranger crimes where there is no connection to the criminal are viewed as "good ' victims...home invasion, car accidents,. shootings etc etc..
----this is the pervasive "system" which supports domestic criminals..and especially the scapegoating form of family abuse that is something that can go on for decades,...
----.this happened in the Timothy furgeson crime.... and the mother isn't properly described as her cluster b self,.... and it should be shown to the public...the child was scapegoated..that should be shown to the public... this abuse is real..not all kids are starved to death,... sometimes you survive and they do horrible things to you in adulthood .it never stops .. this isn't spoken about when the sadistic psychopath is your own parent..
the secondary abuse that society should wake up to is continuing to allow bringing cluster b's onto a police force or having access to survivors as doctors in icu rooms, or being social workers of traumatized people..this is a no brainer..evil is evil they don't respect the job title..
This is one of the most important videos I’ve seen on YT.
Autistic females are often diagnosed or given a suggested diagnosis of bpd before eventually being diagnosed with autism.This diagnosis was suggested to me along with bipolar and generalised anxiety disorder. Took 20 or more years to get the correct diagnosis.
Before autism: I'm all of it. (Trauma-based personality disorders) Question marks everywhere.
After autism: My life is explained. I have clarity.
Autism is probably one of the most overdiagnosed mental disorders
You need to listen to HG Tudor. He will explain in detail. Very good and breaks it all down!
Boom! Thanks for this awesome, authentic and straight talking breakdown of the issue. Needed to be said and definitely understood. Absolutely agree with all you said here. You cut through the BS sharply.
Your videos are so succinct, insightful, & helpful. Thank-you for all you do! You broke down what I experienced in the first 5 minutes. They were Highly Disagreeable. Ugggh! Glad I am out of that situation!
Lately I have realised traumatic experiences might actually cause brain damage.
This is not just emotional this is a physical change.
Lke being hot or cold.
I have the same idea recently!
I am 53 now and endured so much traumas and the damage of being treated so bad all my life. So much people are involved.
Yes, your brain gets damaged and your physique as a biologic system.
You absolutely NEED to keep out every human, situation that makes you suffer.
In my case, i can not reset the damage done to my body/mind.
I tried and tried, but it seems permanent.
The symptoms of my decline are endless.
This guy is right.
Bad is bad and you have to behave accordingly with everyone and everything that damages you and avoid people who harm you with no morality.
@heide-raquelfuss5580
That is the only way forward.
Reduce promixity to the generator of harm.
I think you are spot on.
Yes murder of the soul but you can heal it with nature, love, peace, gratitude and God.
@@ChristineMeyer-hs9rg and lithium orotate.
EXCELLENT stuff. Spot on. Thank you Richard for articulating ❤
I encountered a psychopath recently at my local gaming shop. In tabletop games, you generally paint your miniatures. I brought out my team, and most people complimented me on the paint job, but one guy - the owner - held one of the miniatures in his hand for a long time, agonising over it. Finally he grunted dismissively and said, "You've chosen a good colour scheme." I knew in that moment what I was dealing with.
Is that all what he did?
@@siedmyNo. He then proceeded to exclude me from his group. When I challenged him about it, he proceeded to gas-light and go round and round in circles in such a way that only narcissists are capable of. It really is maddening to deal with someone like that. He was able to go round in circles without actually ever answering my original question then somehow managed to flip the conversation to make it appear that I was somehow being unreasonable for even questioning him in the first place. However, he let the veil slip when I said, "Do you not like being challenged or something?" He then flew off the handle and said, "You couldn't even BEGIN to challenge me!" before completely banning me because he can. But his jealous reaction to my mini was the first clue.
@@nicholasgordon4999lol, what a clown. If you’re still in the group, you should go out of your way to compliment other players and watch him lose his mind. lol
@@KenDavis-uo8kq He's the owner, so he shut me out from everything - including social media groups. He flew into a narcissistic rage after a few questions.
Hahahaha
Listening to you makes me feel happy and sad at the same time. Finally knowing I can understand what’s happening to me.
I had a fabulous team lead a group of sexually abused adult children. She said when women are traumatized or triggered in a sexual abuse or repressed memory they displayed strong Borderline behavior, for a short peroid of time ( 6 months or less) usually in group therapy most symptoms subsided as patients got through issues in group setting" then one on one therapy for the issues that came up in group. She made her own model by ta she got from client feedback, successes, wrong turns, her professional observations, research and sharing others who specialize. She said then it was a trauma response and ignore that BPD diagnosis. Are you in?
All in. The crap that psychologists and especially psychiatrists power trip level gaslighting and waving drugs. Yup, I was in. Had it only included narcissists, for my future self to avoid. But whats the fun in that. It should be in high schools as common knowledge.
LOL! Thank you Richard! We have been dealing with a combative covert narcissist that has been causing issues and the health care system is soooo broken....
Yes! Authentically passionate. Evil is Evil.
🔥 Evil is evil, the end. Thank you for the work you do.
Just want to say you're looking so well. I can see you have healed and that you are in a good place. Thank you for all the information and great personality
Mine got so close. Was truly trying to get diagnosed. 34 years trauma bonded. Final discard 4 weeks ago, now a nasty stranger. Don’t you think it’s worse, the closer they are to getting ‘healed’? Think self aware, ashamed, looked into NPD and decided BPD, became a trauma expert, took me to psychiatrist trying to get me to explain. He rang psyche as he was starting to split, said its an emergency, but not in time. Serious vulnerable, but looking psychopathic now. Serious toxic twilight zone projection.
Richard, you have helped me so so much. Can’t thank you enough. You are THE BEST Morality exactly, those two snakes thing stuck with me. 🐍
PERTH AU ❤
I believe he has messed up the identities of our 4 kids. He won’t read his own messages from the day before. Has to idealise me or hate me which hurts the poor kids more. Mother wound I believe you hurt my mother, you hurt me. After giving us all lectures, promises at least 80 times in 4 years. The injustice is the worst! He looks evil to me now. Can’t decide if he has amnesia or if he was an evil manipulative lying bastard
Omg you are describing him. Looks Dumb. Nobody home. Zero empathy, like a robot
Thats my husband. To a tee. He is dangerous.
How do you last 34 years in a bad environment with a narcissist or psychopath. I lasted 2 yrs not knowing wtf was going on and once I figured he was “off” I stayed 3 yrs more trying to be of support thinking I could help him heal from his bs until I couldn’t handle it anymore. I left after a big fight during one of his discards. Either way good for you that you were a let to breakaway from that abuse.
“A moral degenerate “ 💯 agree. I think that about sums it up
Thanks! 'bout time we get back to basics. M. Scott Peck Redux:
The Road Less Traveled
Well spoken , I have understood this since I was eight , and that was a life changing occurence !
Thank you . I just feel like crying with grief . This world !!!
LOVE this!!! yes!! I also cant stand the mystification of evil people..loved the Ted Bundy analogy, it's NOT the victims task to analyze & legendize evil people & their deeds..evil is evil..end of story..thank you ..R.Grannon 🙌🏾👍🏽💥❤️🖤🔥💥💯
Yes! I often wondered about the diagnosis of BPD vs vulnerable narc. Makes sense from my experience. Your humor on the topic is much appreciated! 😂Please keep up your work. 🙏 It’s so helpful!
Wow. Your content is so unique and totally stands out from everyone else. I wasn’t expecting this. Your voice is so important thank you. I got so much out of this. You made it so easy to understand.
RICHARD, YOU R SUCH A FREAKIN BEYOND AWESOME PERSON❣️❣️ AND R SO CLEAR ON EXPLANATIONS, THANK YOU 😊
Very important point..... reject evil as evil....it is our duty❤
Wonderfully presented, explained as always. Thank you
Thank you so much for the video !
Finally I have clear answers ! Doesn't matter what happened to them in the past, everyone always have a choice to the path they take.
Richard, you are so right in everything you say..
Christian Bale played American Psycho well and that recording of him raging on set in later years was hilarious!
Thank you for speaking Morality! I totally AGREE!
Awsome talk, straight to the point.... And yes, narcissistic psychopathic ..doesn't really matter... get them out of your home mind view and work on yourself, where does the pain in your heart right now truly belong... take care of yourself, love yourself ❤
Richard😂 i listened to some of ur podcasts/youtube videos today and the swearing helps me blow off so much steam laughing during ur videos. I didnt expect your sense of humour man ❤❤❤❤
It's been a little while since I've watched one of your vids. This, I very much needed to see. Thank you, Richard. You're awesome. Appreciate you.
You’re refreshing and made me smile … my ex husband is a psychopath and my daughter has been diagnosed with BPD. I became the family scapegoat for everything they needed to blame on somebody else. Every psychologist ended up charmed by him, perhaps because he was paying the bill 🤷🏼♀️ He enables my daughter because it serves him. He has committed so much fraud, bribed officers of the court and the smear campaigns are tantamount to academy award performance. Neither my daughter nor my ex husband have a functioning moral core.
"Nasty, painful, exhausting." Truth.
You are an amazing man, Richard, I admire you and your intelect deeply
Duuuy. Haha yes the perpetual wringing of the hands 😂 I’ve come around. ‘Does that person have a functioning moral code?’ Morality makes things very simple yes.
He would say... Without you I don't know who I am...I don't have a moral compass. Very interesting!
Great lecture. Yes, it makes sense that lack of moral compass should be determinative in diagnosing psychopathy and or NPD. Makes sense.
Thank you so much Richard. You have a gift for explaining the cluster B's. You are helping me come out of the fog in wich lurks way more danger than I ever knew existed. I've been blinded by my own narcissistic character.
There was no mistaking it in the one i knew.
Dark triad criminal thug all the way.
Had demons to feed. They were Hungry!
As well as informing us to improve our lives, you entertain us while we get to witness you stutter (like a human being) as your intelligence is piqued, and your american accent is spot on and hilarious, Richard.
🦄✨️ Psalm 51, thank God for you Richard 🙏🏻
Authorities make it seem like it's the victim's responsibility to analyze their predator.
I was diagnosed with BPD without having been tested (asked tons of questions) from a guy who met me once. I took it seriously because he had the biggest office of all the other clinicians. Omg. It has been part of my identity ever since. Damn it. Damn it.
Have you explored Autism? Just curious.
@@LocaButt I told my new head doctor I want to. I also have some serious cptsd. Doc agreed my ptsd is quite complex. Mind f-ingly complex.
@@LocaButt also, I'm not sure the criteria for autism and bpd overlap whatsoever. So that may have been a bit of a jump.
@nataliesuper5836 Yes, but Autistic people are almost guaranteed to have trauma because everything is amplified, good or bad. Something that is annoying to a neuro-typical person could be traumatic for an Autistic person. It is not an either/or situation.
Definitely worth exploring. :))
@nataliesuper5836 There is great overlap.
Laughing about what you said at 23:30. Who knows, one narcissist maybe watching this video to see what the rest of us think about them.😅
I see the morality from a different angle. I think the only moral thing that can be attached to psychopaths is to figure out how the rest of mankind can be kept safe. To call a psychopath a moral degenerate is someimes too optimistic but on the other hand there are too many psychopaths for us to incarcerate. They are on a sort of spectrum .Your work has helped me and sometimes I giggle when you describe interaction between the narcissist and it's source of fuel. I have been there and done that. Blessings to you!
Real good production Richard! So informative, revealing and alarming. I’ve been terribly naive and you’re so right in recognizing “evil is evil” and seeing what you’re dealing with. I also see your goal oriented behavior to elicit a reaction to enforce the power dynamic which I feel was the seed to my former partner engineering the demise of our relationship. I also knew a woman in the nineties that I wrongly accepted a hoover call during the pandemic. I was n/c for fifteen years. I’m back to n/c with her now as she’s a psychopath and no respect for boundaries. She’s trying to hoover me again and I’m not biting. She devalued me and has dead eyes and truly believe she’s evil. She “milkshaked” my dinner one time with her fingers and it infuriated me. One of these “I’m not hungry” types but feeds herself ramoras herself through life. Very good segment to rewatch! Thank you and best Sir.
This video is true public service. Thank you! I love your perspective. Call evil evil again!
Evil exists. People are evil. History teaches us that. You are so right. Yes, you are 100% right. Only one issue needs to be determined. End of story. “ Evil is evil.” Amen.
Very excellent points made in this video. Thank you!
Something I like a lot about Richard is that he considers his words, works to origins and seems to have an excitement about analyzing himself and his responses. This excitement maybe stems from love for humanity and it shows in him reflecting - on how his own existence is happening.
On that note I'm going through something, and it seems no matter how I frame my words I'm actively (naively) trying to express a truth and "triggering" a reaction from my 'subject', no matter how much I care about the person. My internal locus of thought is abstract... well I'm confusing many emotions suffice to say.
I may be pouty/bitchy and misanthropic and it's literally contagious.
I could be my better side but also my relationship/life is a train wreck. I feel desperate like I need to take action (real ptsd) but simultaneously feel I need to not respond to my partner. I am having Karen-esque moments displacing my need for control and bothering people in public.
By chance I found this channel and it's a blessing to be able to comment.
Richard is also admirable in his self direction. You can't hope to imitate someone this funny and practised meeting people and talking and living well, but in trying to reach a little how they think I can peer influence myself into a traits I need.
I liked a lot of points in this video upload. On the "claw" metaphor : my passitivity and how I express aggression/communicate/motivate myself is my problem.
Richard's covered self empowerment a lot. I need to still click into my life somehow some things I can "sink my claws into". Richard is correct the psychobabble I got from counselors further confuses me and damaged my executive functioning. I'm seeing people judge me as a spaz and confirming it with them now.
If he can expand people using their claws. Plant more seeds on making more money or doing things that aren't sitting gobsmacked or smoking pot. Sorry for myself and everyone else that can't choose their words the best and effect others.
I have so much inside me to say I act madly for it and writing a question into 2 sentences.... I saying triggering shit trying to think it out. If Richard reads this then I want to say Sorry for being impolite, robotic even. Richard knows what to do he holds a group seminar so well. I want to hear people and stimulate discussions. When I get a sense it's lurking behind the topic, I just spout shit to get people talking. (Im good at it making people think too, in school some kids called me professor. I'm trying to become sensitive and avoid saying things that elicit emotions that give negative results) I get confused with my feelings too and say shit I wanted to hear about, not always good to getting somewhere useful.
If my head wasn't so full with the things I don't want to do then I would talk to people better and connect to life again! I also need to RELAX and let people do their things, do not "play God", do not overthink, be in the moment enjoying health and avoid dicks. My head isn't going to have a magic solvent answer that is pretty egotistical I need to behave differently or at least focus on what I can/should control.
BEST 🎉
TO THE POINT..... It is our unwilling ness to except evil evil exists. It hurts, we want to pull the curtain back and forget we aren't in Kansas anymore.
OZ doesn't exist.
You're hilarious lol I love watching your videos. You are so well informed, intelligent and authentic. Thank you for doing what you do. -Anonymous Psychotherapist