I can’t tell you how many women my male cousins have brought around the family, especially to my grandmother. We treat them all special sorry 🤷🏾♀️. I never take a mans family seriously 🤣🤣🤣
Exactly. My brother brings every fling to us and my mom just be playing along 🙄 I don’t even speak to the poor girls cause I be feeling bad cause they really think they’re special to him 🥴
@@songbird8404 my brother used to bring em and I was mean af lmfao to all of them they hated it me lmfao all his wife's hates me expect the last one cus I grew out of doing that but I used to be mean to them he told em about me to the last one I was Like don't listen to him cus am grown and I out grew how I was lmfao he used to bring mad bitches home lmfao I snitched on him too lmfao I used to bag him w like a orgy of bitches in his room lmfao
I met the whole family, grandma &grandpa, invited to their 60th anniversary, his mama gave me some earrings, met all the friends, couldn’t talk to him on the phone without them speaking to me in the background, invited to the family vacations and still got played like boo boo the fool 😭
And that's why sometimes I get confused I can't compare who's wasting my time and who's not all of them act they're serious and still be lying 😂 confusion generation
Yup… They will waste all of your good years, but that’s why we have to take back that power & control over our own lives. Stop playing their games and be willing to walk away when love isn’t being served. I’ve learned a lot from Kevin.
In African culture, when we reach a certain age, we don't generally bring our partners around our folks unless there is marriage in the future. It is serious and we even plan months in advance.
That's right. Am in my 30s and I can't tell my mum and family that I have a boyfriend. Only when it's time for him to pay dowry and marry me. Africa for you.
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“A guy who is taking you seriously, trust his intentions with you and is not afraid to meet more people who will hold him accountable.” “He trust himself not to take decisions that will dishonor you.” 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
I agree with this video, men bringing you to meet their family is one thing, sometimes they are on bullshit and just want to bring a women around with no real intent. But like Kev says, when a man wants to meet YOUR family, that is different. I feel like him wanting to be around people who are special to you shows a different side of you to him, and it expresses more interest in my opinion. As always there is the exception to the rule.
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I love that phrase, lol! “Wiping they a$$!” But in all honesty, we really need more men with this type of energy. This would definitely level out the playing field and restore respect and integrity in dating. Excellent points here Kev, as always appreciate the love you have for us big bro!❤️❤️❤️
Wow. Watching this video triggered me. I come from a family where the men were not protectors or providers and hearing this information really stopped me in my tracks. I had to acknowledge the father wounds I still have to work on. Thanks for all your dating tips, they have actually helped me mature and find a road to healing. Thanks for your wisdom and honesty. 🙏🏽
girl mine too.. and he was crazy. & manipulative and still cheated but begged me to stay for 3 years just at the end to say "u too good for me Kae, you deserve a lot more than what i can offer you right now" and we havent talked since he said that he blocked me after lol
@@KaeWhatsNext sorry to hear that. I don't understand why we kept giving these pieces of shit losers more opportunities to hurt us even more, just for them to break up with us. What kind of backwards shit was that. At the end I know it's his loss and my gain.
@bk thank you 🤍 yea i been heartbroken ever since.. he was my first boyrfriend at age 20 lol im 26 now. lol he realllly hurt me, & definitely, & truly, to this day, im sure, he doesnt care 😂.
Not to discredit your very valid points. Ladies also look out for me who use their family AND yours to 'convince' you they're the one all the while being nasty to you but will go out of their way to win over your family, fairly easily as they don't spend that much time with them. But yea, Kevin's right. He does see or wants to know If he can see more of a future with you. If you're family is easy to win over by nice words and appearances better do your own vetting with your intuition and a trusted coach/therapist. Don't just go off of the impression he gave your family in the short time he spent with them.
My cousin used to do that! Bring a new girl around every month. She thought she was important when she wasn’t. He in fact used us to cover up doing dirt WHILE at family gatherings! Like a distraction! Or to prove the relationship was going somewhere! The girl he ended up marrying, he never introduced us at all. And we found out about her after marriage. It’s not a one size fits all. You really have to analyze the person. If you meet the family and they just treat you like a random… just know this is normal player moves for him. 🤣
Thanks for sharing such a great message, Kev. For no fault of my own, I grew up in and aged out of the foster care system as an orphan of the court, yet I always knew of my family and where they were. So I usually tell guys that I had a "nontraditional upbringing" and leave it at that because I don't care to get into all of the details of my dysfunctional family, especially too soon and when I sense a guy is unserious. I rarely connect with anyone in my family and I have a completely different lifestyle than my family, so I cannot really relate to them. I've broken generational curses and have supported myself since childhood. It's nice when guys show this trait, but he must also be open minded about women like me with unusual family units/upbringing. On the other hand, it's annoying when guys pry and judge women who don't have close-knit family dynamics like them. Just acknowledge and respect that we all grew up in our own unique ways, and it doesn't always mean that upbringing/family unit is a reflection of us today. Essentially, don't assume that women have the perfect family, that they have a relationship with their family, that they're comfortable with introducing you to their family, and that you're entitled to meeting their family.
EXCELLENT commentary, ma'am! I've been around guys that treated me different when they found out that I wasn't close or even had a relationship with anyone in my family. So true, girl! 💖
I've only had two serious relationships. It took me a long time to realize I was being thrown out of consideration because of things outside my control (shit family). You can tell guys give us a chance, but they won't.
Unfortunately, my man doesn't ever get to meet my mom, because she passed away in September and he'd never met her before then. Her cancer was unexpected, she found out about it in April and when she found out about it in April, she was already stage 4, so she never got to meet this wonderful man in my life and he never got to meet her. I dont have any other family, so he only knows me. Sad but true. My mom was my family and now she's gone. I really wish he could've met her, and vice versa.
I met a man online 3 months ago. We are meeting in person for the first time tomorrow. I've mentioned a trip to see my parents. He was open to that. At first he was talking about us vacationing together. Last night he said he wants to do a life simulation trip. We shop, cook together and live life together for a few days. I never saw that one coming. Your video came at a good time!
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How did that go? I wouldn't sit around talking to someone for 3 months not actually meeting in person. I feel like that wouldn't go anywhere. I don't even do online dating. I only meet in person.
I would say 9/10 times this is true, but my older sister’s ex-boyfriend was *dying* to meet our mom & immediately attempted to cultivate this accelerated, artificial intimacy with both her AND my older brother. I didn’t like him right away and made it clear to him that the only contact I wanted with him was contingent on my sister being present. ….turns out he was looking for money and resources, and he hoped to get it from sweet-talking my mother and brother, when he’d already taken my sister for all she was worth financially and emotionally (she hadn’t told us she’d been paying for trips for him, giving him money, letting him drive her car etc) He is in the military, so maybe he feels insulated from any of the potential fallout and/or he felt like he could just pick up and leave when he had taken all he could. But both my mom and brother were immediately suspicious when he went out of his way to get both of their contact information and took it upon himself to begin texting them in an overly familiar way. I have my suspicions that he was running this grift on multiple women concurrently, but anyhow, all that to say that being eager to meet the fam isn’t ALWAYS a sure bet.
What happens if you dont have a safe family to show him? Ive walked away from my narcissistic family and Im finally getting ahead in life. (Working like crazy to make up for that bad time)
I'm in the same boat. No man will ever love us for things outside our control. It sucks. Even guys with shit families themselves want a girl from a half way decent family. It's this unspoken requirement men have that women don't have.
If he's a genuine, authentic guy let him know what your toxic family is all about. If he really cares about you he will understand where you are coming from and have your back at all times. Real men will never allow their girlfriends, wives, or fiancee to get hurt. Even from their own family. If he cares he will refuse to meet them and respect your wishes.
@@analyticalchick3064 That's not true! You gotta love and respect yourself first. If you can't even love yourself how can you expect a man to love you🤔...But self love and self care takes time and don't happen overnight. Healing may take years. You gotta be patient and willing to heal. As the saying goes, "Hurt people hurt others". If you refuse to heal what do you think will happen🤔... You'll continue to run into hurt men and may also run into men who you may actually hurt yourself. Either way a man hurting a woman or a woman hurting a man is equally bad. So you have two options: either refuse to heal and keep on attracting jerks and complain how no man will ever love you or seek to heal from your childhood wounds and focus on self love and self care. Yup before you were hurt by those crappy men your parents contributed to some of your hurt as well. There's such a thing as emotional and psychological abuse. And besides there are lots of good, authentic men out there willing to love you for all of you and not part of you. But you gotta be a reflection of them by being the best version of yourself and being authentic yourself. You attract what you are.
Tbh is think so! Any man who didn’t think about “me me me right now” is not planning that far ahead, especially when there’s going to be family present , and especially when it’s stressful things like holidays!
Not necessarily. Some just want you to think you have a future when you really don’t. Take it into consideration but keep looking for other evidence that he wants to be in your life long term.
This summer I had a first date and he brought his 8 year old daughter... Then he asked if I wanted to join them for Sunday barbecue with friends & family. To me this was borderline creepy.
When a man wants to take you around his family, treat it with a grain of salt; however, this past Thanksgiving, my friend first came to my house to meet my brother and eldest uncle, as my father and mother are with the Lord. He later took me to his family dinner where his mother had invited me, and we had a beautiful time. This man and I are friends, but he has treated me better than any other man has, and he has great promise if not more than being a good friend.
When he wants to meet your family. Interesting. I have found that it doesn’t matter if he wants me to meet his family. I always thought it was a good sign but have found those guys will dog me out anyway. So now I will look for it he wants to meet MY family. Thanks!
Its true. A few serious guys I have met, have always felt comfortable meeting my parents and asking their permission to take me out. And then the ones who probably wanted to use me only, only met me outside my parent's house lol I was too young to fully understand but I felt it. My husband was one of the few that came visit and not only get to know my parents but my siblings as well.
For Me: I've ALWAYS wanted to meet a guy's family out the gate 🙅🏽 I want to see how you treat them and how your relationship is with your sister and or brother and Parents & Granny (if they're still alive/around. You can identify red flags in some of the simplest of ways. I welcome the family cause I want their view point of you as a brother, Uncle, cousin, or nephew. #FlatOut 🌹
That's a terrible test. I don't treat my family particularly well because I was abused, choked, slapped, suffocated and even held at g u n point by my own sibling when we were teenagers. Yet, I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing my childhood abuse or tragedies to someone I just met. So, from their perspective I can seem a little withdrawn or rude.
@@ngoddess9684 That saddens me to hear that you've endured such abuse and I'm glad you're still here today. There are ALWAYS certain circumstances for every situation. There is no one size fit all for any relationship.
The saying goes "Friends are the family you choose". If you have great friends, then engage your tribe. If you don't have strong stable friends, then your local community organization or place of faith/worship can be helpful in terms of starting to build quality platonic friendships.
Good advice, and even better if he likes your family too ❤️ It surely deepens his connection with you if he likes your parents, and siblings are a bonus 😂
You mention important people. Can family be substituted for best friends? Does that also mean if your family is messed up (but you still love them) there's a high probability the relationship is doomed?
Yes. I had a shit family who is all dead now. I have had lots of first dates and not being asked on a second date. They often ask about family on the first date. It's this dirty secret that men require women to be already loved in order to be loved.
@@analyticalchick3064 Seems strange they'd ask about extended family on the first date. Don't know if that's a product of where you are. Although I'm not that sociable, have had a handful of serious relationships, and lately I'm not even getting to the first date.
@@grey_wolf_tg2235 They ask if I get to see family often. When I tell them my parents are dead, they start asking don't you have someone and start listing siblings cousins aunts uncles don't you have someone, how is it possible you don't have anyone. I stopped dating because of it. Guy friends admit that men do this, but women seem to be in denial about it. Guys that are trying to sleep with me, of course pretend they will date me anyway.
@@analyticalchick3064 That's unfortunate. And it's strange that players who just want to sleep with you would ask that question anyway, unless if there is no family it supports the idea that they can be abusive and no family member will come after them. Perhaps that's the other side of the coin for men asking about family. If they're underhanded they want to know if they're likely to get caught and not bother going forward if there is a strong family bond.
@@grey_wolf_tg2235 I think that they are looking for something real but when I'm ineligible because no family is alive and love me, they think they can just hit it and quit it.
My boyfriend lives very far from me and we've been good and now he's started asking about my parents and knowing more about me I like this gesture a lot, it is positive. Anyway thank you about this video I learnt even more, and I think I was destined to watch it.
KEV HICK, I agree with you, but here's another perspective: In the culture I was raised, unless I'm serious about someone, I do not bring them home; same case for my brothers. My parents consider it disrespectful. Or, as my father put it, "This ain't no ho house." ;) And if I'm seeing someone, I'd rather not meet his parents because it implies to them that I'm serious about their son when I'm not. It also makes me feel pressured; a loaded scenario I like to avoid.
Hey Kev, I think that women are more prone to bring home who they are dating (to meet those special people) before a man does especially if he bringing her to meet his mom.
ah meet d family.. dat's really dangerous (if ur (some in the) family is dysfunctional & vain envious narcs).. i can tell coz it already happened to me. those are d ones who feed evil influence to treat me like trash & shit, to cheat & betray me. & it didn't end there.. i have an amazing God that's why i could still able to continue to live day by day.
If a man is judging you unfairly on things beyond your control like family, you best believe he himself come from a PERFECT family. We all have choice on who we are going to be but none of us have the control to choose our family and many of us are unfortunate to be stuck with bad family.
Thank you so much for this. Will keep this in mind when I get out on the dating scene which will probably be never because the guys of our generation are horrible
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My mother is easily manipulated to turn on me and my father is a narcissist. I can’t bring anyone around them for my own safety. I hit the jackpot. I have secret relationships or ones where they never meet.
Kev! Thank you for the clarity and advice you give. It’s so helpful! Do guys think about a future before committing? Do they think about marriage? I have convinced myself guys don’t have feelings in this department 😟
I lost my mom & dad completely sold his soul to a psycho narc stepmom. So my "family" who I have extremely low contact with are toxic. It has nothing to do with me. So he's gonna run off over something I have no control over. This is triggering and I hope it's not true.
I'm about to be 49 and I never had a good relationship ever. So calling it quits now is not a big deal in my opinion. Raising my children didn't allow time and now I have time but don't see the point with these "men" out here.
There shouldn’t be a sign . There is supposed to be a direct conversation about it. Period. In a real relationship, a man makes his intentions CLEAR. Unless he SAYS he wants a future with a woman, nothing points to that. Only his voice saying it LOUD and clear!!! Period !
My Dad is an alcoholic… I automatically think most people would think I’m dysfunctional 😔. (I worry about this so much… even though I have gone so far in life)
So do I just wait for him to ask to meet them or just invite him over one day? Should I drop a little hint hint for him to meet them? Is there a time frame you would suggest? I’ve never thought about this point I’m very curious. Thank you! :)
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Men seek dating coaches to increase their numbers. Women seek dating coaches to weed out the players, users, and abusers to find the one. They don’t need interpersonal skills, they need discernment.
Easy. Show that you are emotionally intelligent and know how to control your emotions. Show that you have self awareness, know how to accept your mistakes, apologize and change your behavior. Set healthy boundaries and show that u can’t be manipulated. Always try to bring positive energy to your relationship. Stop being negative and DON’T nag. Keep calm, confident and collected . Show that u love and respect yourself. I STARTED DOING THIS TO MY NEW RELATIONSHIP AND IT DRASTICALLY CHANGE MY LIFE. (Sorry for my english, but u get the point.) GOOD LUCK!
Can't wait till my mom croaks then. I come from the most toxic family and had to work through/beyond so much because of them. Men who've met them before wondered how in the world I even came from them.
It took me a long time to realize that no man would ever love me because my parents didn't love me. Women give me shit that I need to try to get married and I tell them that no man will ever love me because no one, not even my parents, has ever loved me. You made a whole video about it. I knew I wasn't crazy for giving up on love.
Actually- you choose. You can love yourself and treat yourself with love, even if your parents didn't show love for you. At the end the relationship is with you, not with your parents. But if you decided that nobody will love you- You are right too if thats what you want. We always can choose the live we live. If you are unhappy- change the way you think of yourself, change the way you act- things will be different.
@@denitsaangelova. You didn't watch the video. The men look for your family as a means of vetting you. You can do that social work type bullshit in your head all you want, but men have criterias they have. Men require you to have a family that loves you before they will love you.
@@analyticalchick3064 My mom passed when I was 13, My father rased me and my brother as a single parent working 9-5 with very low salary. We always had the bare minimum, but never something too impressive. I'm thankful for everything my father did for me his life hasn't been easy too. When I was young- I needed to grow up fast. English isn't my first language, i speak 3 languages, I worked, I studied I now have education. When people were having fun around me- I was trying to do the most out of what I have. There isn't a person around me that can say something bad about me. And I can tell you- I have never been judged. Even more- because I needed to grow up fast - people see me as someone knowing how to act. Most of the people I meet like me now, even if I was invisible as a child because of the work I have put in. It builds some character. Yes, it's perfect if you can grow up in family with good lifestyle and reputation, but even if you don't it's not the end of the world. It doesn't mean if you stuggle growing up that you will never be loved. You can choose to say what failed you on the way of the life you want to live or you can try to do the best with what you have. Develop in yourself the most of what you can be- be kind, educate yourself, try to look good, learn yourself to do things - people won't ask you what is your family like- because you will be worth it, no matter what your family is.
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Hey, what can you do, besides just telling them that you don't have any family? If that joker doesn't accept that answer, SCREW 'EM! Not everyone has a great, loving family and those that don't understand why, need not apply. Why go through a bunch of rigamarole, getting yourself all stressed out over an explanation that you can't provide? 😒
My daddy is dead. So if a man never asks to meet my HEAVENLY Daddy, Jesus Christ, then that should suffice to tell a woman everything she needs to know about that man…RUN!
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I can’t tell you how many women my male cousins have brought around the family, especially to my grandmother. We treat them all special sorry 🤷🏾♀️. I never take a mans family seriously 🤣🤣🤣
Omg and families are even in on the man's cheating 😳
This dont work for modern men
Exactly. My brother brings every fling to us and my mom just be playing along 🙄 I don’t even speak to the poor girls cause I be feeling bad cause they really think they’re special to him 🥴
@@songbird8404 my brother used to bring em and I was mean af lmfao to all of them they hated it me lmfao all his wife's hates me expect the last one cus I grew out of doing that but I used to be mean to them he told em about me to the last one I was Like don't listen to him cus am grown and I out grew how I was lmfao he used to bring mad bitches home lmfao I snitched on him too lmfao I used to bag him w like a orgy of bitches in his room lmfao
I met the whole family, grandma &grandpa, invited to their 60th anniversary, his mama gave me some earrings, met all the friends, couldn’t talk to him on the phone without them speaking to me in the background, invited to the family vacations and still got played like boo boo the fool 😭
I just recently told my son, I don't want to meet anymore women in his life until he knows she's the one. 🤦♀️
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As a mother should
These men these days are weird. It’s sad, they will actually do all these things and still play games to string you along. It really depends🤷🏽♀️
Thats right
yes!
This is SO true! Still be playing the games! Unbelievable 😑
And that's why sometimes I get confused I can't compare who's wasting my time and who's not all of them act they're serious and still be lying 😂 confusion generation
Yup… They will waste all of your good years, but that’s why we have to take back that power & control over our own lives. Stop playing their games and be willing to walk away when love isn’t being served. I’ve learned a lot from Kevin.
In African culture, when we reach a certain age, we don't generally bring our partners around our folks unless there is marriage in the future.
It is serious and we even plan months in advance.
Western world bring theirs since 12 yo lol
That's true, I'm African!
That's right. Am in my 30s and I can't tell my mum and family that I have a boyfriend. Only when it's time for him to pay dowry and marry me. Africa for you.
@@tisabanda9497 Truth but now am.a mother to a 11year old daughter and I have made our relationship open as ever and will be like that I have cut those chains .Take care by the way are you Zambian .I am Zambian live in Lusaka 🇿🇲❤️
Very true. Dating is not part of our vocab. Only courting.
“A guy who is taking you seriously, trust his intentions with you and is not afraid to meet more people who will hold him accountable.”
“He trust himself not to take decisions that will dishonor you.” 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
I was with an abusive narcissist for 20 years. He introduced me to his family almost immediately.
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I agree with this video, men bringing you to meet their family is one thing, sometimes they are on bullshit and just want to bring a women around with no real intent. But like Kev says, when a man wants to meet YOUR family, that is different. I feel like him wanting to be around people who are special to you shows a different side of you to him, and it expresses more interest in my opinion. As always there is the exception to the rule.
I wish I had a single man in my life that would stand up for me.
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M.kitt same here
Maybe a brother in the church would stand up for you.
My fam is dysfunctional I don’t even like showing my friends my family lmao
Me neither. They're ridiculous.🙄😂
Same
Same lol
I love that phrase, lol! “Wiping they a$$!” But in all honesty, we really need more men with this type of energy. This would definitely level out the playing field and restore respect and integrity in dating. Excellent points here Kev, as always appreciate the love you have for us big bro!❤️❤️❤️
Wow. Watching this video triggered me. I come from a family where the men were not protectors or providers and hearing this information really stopped me in my tracks. I had to acknowledge the father wounds I still have to work on. Thanks for all your dating tips, they have actually helped me mature and find a road to healing. Thanks for your wisdom and honesty. 🙏🏽
Kev drops so many jewels he needs to open up a jewelry store. 💎
My ex did that and he still was abusive though.
girl mine too.. and he was crazy. & manipulative and still cheated but begged me to stay for 3 years just at the end to say "u too good for me Kae, you deserve a lot more than what i can offer you right now" and we havent talked since he said that he blocked me after lol
i laugh now but it hurt so bad. he always use to make my day just to break them
@@KaeWhatsNext sorry to hear that. I don't understand why we kept giving these pieces of shit losers more opportunities to hurt us even more, just for them to break up with us. What kind of backwards shit was that. At the end I know it's his loss and my gain.
@bk thank you 🤍 yea i been heartbroken ever since.. he was my first boyrfriend at age 20 lol im 26 now. lol he realllly hurt me, & definitely, & truly, to this day, im sure, he doesnt care 😂.
Sorry
There are no guarantees
I hope you find happiness in your life
Not to discredit your very valid points. Ladies also look out for me who use their family AND yours to 'convince' you they're the one all the while being nasty to you but will go out of their way to win over your family, fairly easily as they don't spend that much time with them.
But yea, Kevin's right. He does see or wants to know If he can see more of a future with you. If you're family is easy to win over by nice words and appearances better do your own vetting with your intuition and a trusted coach/therapist. Don't just go off of the impression he gave your family in the short time he spent with them.
Excellent point m. I did a video about that years ago. Maybe it’s time for another for my new subs.
My cousin used to do that! Bring a new girl around every month. She thought she was important when she wasn’t. He in fact used us to cover up doing dirt WHILE at family gatherings! Like a distraction! Or to prove the relationship was going somewhere! The girl he ended up marrying, he never introduced us at all. And we found out about her after marriage. It’s not a one size fits all. You really have to analyze the person.
If you meet the family and they just treat you like a random… just know this is normal player moves for him. 🤣
“ I’m coming with the intimidation, im on the way with it! “ 😂
I loved this part 😂
Thanks for sharing such a great message, Kev.
For no fault of my own, I grew up in and aged out of the foster care system as an orphan of the court, yet I always knew of my family and where they were. So I usually tell guys that I had a "nontraditional upbringing" and leave it at that because I don't care to get into all of the details of my dysfunctional family, especially too soon and when I sense a guy is unserious.
I rarely connect with anyone in my family and I have a completely different lifestyle than my family, so I cannot really relate to them. I've broken generational curses and have supported myself since childhood.
It's nice when guys show this trait, but he must also be open minded about women like me with unusual family units/upbringing.
On the other hand, it's annoying when guys pry and judge women who don't have close-knit family dynamics like them. Just acknowledge and respect that we all grew up in our own unique ways, and it doesn't always mean that upbringing/family unit is a reflection of us today.
Essentially, don't assume that women have the perfect family, that they have a relationship with their family, that they're comfortable with introducing you to their family, and that you're entitled to meeting their family.
EXCELLENT commentary, ma'am! I've been around guys that treated me different when they found out that I wasn't close or even had a relationship with anyone in my family. So true, girl! 💖
beautifully written
Well said sis. I can relate to this. Some of us parented ourselves and have turned out very well.
I've only had two serious relationships. It took me a long time to realize I was being thrown out of consideration because of things outside my control (shit family). You can tell guys give us a chance, but they won't.
Kudos to you on making it from out of the messed up system!
Unfortunately, my man doesn't ever get to meet my mom, because she passed away in September and he'd never met her before then. Her cancer was unexpected, she found out about it in April and when she found out about it in April, she was already stage 4, so she never got to meet this wonderful man in my life and he never got to meet her. I dont have any other family, so he only knows me. Sad but true. My mom was my family and now she's gone. I really wish he could've met her, and vice versa.
😆😆 wanted your step-dad to see you was winning!!
This tickled me 😂😂😂
I met a man online 3 months ago. We are meeting in person for the first time tomorrow. I've mentioned a trip to see my parents. He was open to that.
At first he was talking about us vacationing together. Last night he said he wants to do a life simulation trip. We shop, cook together and live life together for a few days. I never saw that one coming. Your video came at a good time!
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How did that go? I wouldn't sit around talking to someone for 3 months not actually meeting in person. I feel like that wouldn't go anywhere. I don't even do online dating. I only meet in person.
@@analyticalchick3064 it went very well. We would video chat before we met. I understand your perspective and respect that.
I would say 9/10 times this is true, but my older sister’s ex-boyfriend was *dying* to meet our mom & immediately attempted to cultivate this accelerated, artificial intimacy with both her AND my older brother. I didn’t like him right away and made it clear to him that the only contact I wanted with him was contingent on my sister being present.
….turns out he was looking for money and resources, and he hoped to get it from sweet-talking my mother and brother, when he’d already taken my sister for all she was worth financially and emotionally (she hadn’t told us she’d been paying for trips for him, giving him money, letting him drive her car etc)
He is in the military, so maybe he feels insulated from any of the potential fallout and/or he felt like he could just pick up and leave when he had taken all he could. But both my mom and brother were immediately suspicious when he went out of his way to get both of their contact information and took it upon himself to begin texting them in an overly familiar way. I have my suspicions that he was running this grift on multiple women concurrently, but anyhow, all that to say that being eager to meet the fam isn’t ALWAYS a sure bet.
What happens if you dont have a safe family to show him?
Ive walked away from my narcissistic family and Im finally getting ahead in life. (Working like crazy to make up for that bad time)
I'm in the same boat. No man will ever love us for things outside our control. It sucks. Even guys with shit families themselves want a girl from a half way decent family. It's this unspoken requirement men have that women don't have.
Ah well,
Money and career it is then..
Same, mine all passed away
If he's a genuine, authentic guy let him know what your toxic family is all about. If he really cares about you he will understand where you are coming from and have your back at all times. Real men will never allow their girlfriends, wives, or fiancee to get hurt. Even from their own family. If he cares he will refuse to meet them and respect your wishes.
@@analyticalchick3064 That's not true! You gotta love and respect yourself first. If you can't even love yourself how can you expect a man to love you🤔...But self love and self care takes time and don't happen overnight. Healing may take years. You gotta be patient and willing to heal. As the saying goes, "Hurt people hurt others". If you refuse to heal what do you think will happen🤔... You'll continue to run into hurt men and may also run into men who you may actually hurt yourself. Either way a man hurting a woman or a woman hurting a man is equally bad. So you have two options: either refuse to heal and keep on attracting jerks and complain how no man will ever love you or seek to heal from your childhood wounds and focus on self love and self care. Yup before you were hurt by those crappy men your parents contributed to some of your hurt as well. There's such a thing as emotional and psychological abuse.
And besides there are lots of good, authentic men out there willing to love you for all of you and not part of you. But you gotta be a reflection of them by being the best version of yourself and being authentic yourself. You attract what you are.
Does it count when he asks "what should we do for Christmas?" before even Halloween came up like jeez he's thinking that ahead?
Tbh is think so! Any man who didn’t think about “me me me right now” is not planning that far ahead, especially when there’s going to be family present , and especially when it’s stressful things like holidays!
No it doesn't count.
Not necessarily. Some just want you to think you have a future when you really don’t. Take it into consideration but keep looking for other evidence that he wants to be in your life long term.
This summer I had a first date and he brought his 8 year old daughter... Then he asked if I wanted to join them for Sunday barbecue with friends & family. To me this was borderline creepy.
That was just inappropriate. That’s poor judgment to bring his daughter on a first date. Sounds like he’s looking for a caretaker....
Run
@@cosmospray of course I did ;)
Nah, I think the only telltale sign a man sees a future with a woman, is when he sticks around with all her crazy^^
Happened to Me. When he kept coming back...WE knew.
I tell...one guy in my life been chasing me for 5 years. Still friends seen all my flaws even my exs didn't see...
@@D_only_tuquai you gotta be so lucky girl. Do you love this guy? If yes then it's so great chance!
Men don't like crazy women. Don't be fooled by this, he will of he gets what he wants, and will leave anyway if he doesn't.
@@lalalala-he4rz I dont have any emotional feelings for him its sad😔
When a man wants to take you around his family, treat it with a grain of salt; however, this past Thanksgiving, my friend first came to my house to meet my brother and eldest uncle, as my father and mother are with the Lord. He later took me to his family dinner where his mother had invited me, and we had a beautiful time. This man and I are friends, but he has treated me better than any other man has, and he has great promise if not more than being a good friend.
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Yeah, he's accurate
Smart Smart Man. All of his videos are worth watching...
Father in law: "I'm gonna wipe his ass!" 🤣
When he wants to meet your family. Interesting. I have found that it doesn’t matter if he wants me to meet his family. I always thought it was a good sign but have found those guys will dog me out anyway. So now I will look for it he wants to meet MY family. Thanks!
Its true. A few serious guys I have met, have always felt comfortable meeting my parents and asking their permission to take me out. And then the ones who probably wanted to use me only, only met me outside my parent's house lol I was too young to fully understand but I felt it. My husband was one of the few that came visit and not only get to know my parents but my siblings as well.
For Me: I've ALWAYS wanted to meet a guy's family out the gate 🙅🏽 I want to see how you treat them and how your relationship is with your sister and or brother and Parents & Granny (if they're still alive/around. You can identify red flags in some of the simplest of ways. I welcome the family cause I want their view point of you as a brother, Uncle, cousin, or nephew. #FlatOut 🌹
That's a terrible test. I don't treat my family particularly well because I was abused, choked, slapped, suffocated and even held at g u n point by my own sibling when we were teenagers. Yet, I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing my childhood abuse or tragedies to someone I just met. So, from their perspective I can seem a little withdrawn or rude.
@@ngoddess9684 That saddens me to hear that you've endured such abuse and I'm glad you're still here today. There are ALWAYS certain circumstances for every situation. There is no one size fit all for any relationship.
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His grandma, Auntie and momma all say the same thing.
Hey baby!!
Me not bringing NO dude around my family unless they’re proposing to me 😂😂🫠🫠
All my family is dead. Literally. Only have 2 adult kids - one away at college and one on the coast. Sad this is #1 sign- not applicable for me
Wish my narc fam was. Lol 😩
What about the people who do not have family to look out for them?
I know right?
The saying goes "Friends are the family you choose". If you have great friends, then engage your tribe. If you don't have strong stable friends, then your local community organization or place of faith/worship can be helpful in terms of starting to build quality platonic friendships.
Good advice, and even better if he likes your family too ❤️ It surely deepens his connection with you if he likes your parents, and siblings are a bonus 😂
it is SO refreshing to hear you being so honest about why you introduced your new girl to your family, to show her off😂 great credit for that❤
You mention important people. Can family be substituted for best friends? Does that also mean if your family is messed up (but you still love them) there's a high probability the relationship is doomed?
Yes. I had a shit family who is all dead now. I have had lots of first dates and not being asked on a second date. They often ask about family on the first date. It's this dirty secret that men require women to be already loved in order to be loved.
@@analyticalchick3064 Seems strange they'd ask about extended family on the first date. Don't know if that's a product of where you are. Although I'm not that sociable, have had a handful of serious relationships, and lately I'm not even getting to the first date.
@@grey_wolf_tg2235 They ask if I get to see family often. When I tell them my parents are dead, they start asking don't you have someone and start listing siblings cousins aunts uncles don't you have someone, how is it possible you don't have anyone. I stopped dating because of it. Guy friends admit that men do this, but women seem to be in denial about it. Guys that are trying to sleep with me, of course pretend they will date me anyway.
@@analyticalchick3064 That's unfortunate. And it's strange that players who just want to sleep with you would ask that question anyway, unless if there is no family it supports the idea that they can be abusive and no family member will come after them. Perhaps that's the other side of the coin for men asking about family. If they're underhanded they want to know if they're likely to get caught and not bother going forward if there is a strong family bond.
@@grey_wolf_tg2235 I think that they are looking for something real but when I'm ineligible because no family is alive and love me, they think they can just hit it and quit it.
Hmmm popped up out of nowhere I’ll take the sign to watch it
My boyfriend lives very far from me and we've been good and now he's started asking about my parents and knowing more about me I like this gesture a lot, it is positive. Anyway thank you about this video I learnt even more, and I think I was destined to watch it.
KEV HICK,
I agree with you, but here's another perspective:
In the culture I was raised, unless I'm serious about someone,
I do not bring them home; same case for my brothers.
My parents consider it disrespectful.
Or, as my father put it, "This ain't no ho house." ;)
And if I'm seeing someone, I'd rather not meet his parents because
it implies to them that I'm serious about their son when I'm not.
It also makes me feel pressured; a loaded scenario I like to avoid.
Hey Kev, I think that women are more prone to bring home who they are dating (to meet those special people) before a man does especially if he bringing her to meet his mom.
I am the exception to this the only man I introduced to Mom was my ex husband. No one since then was married for 9 yrs divorced for 5.
Yes but I am from a toxic dysfunctional family, and I didn’t grow up with a dad 😅 how would I handle that part? Much love from the Netherlands 🌟
1 minute ago the was posted! LOL cool. No one taking me seriously. Thats Protection! My family is with the Lord! 😏
Yep. My family is dead now and they were shit when they were alive.
ah meet d family.. dat's really dangerous (if ur (some in the) family is dysfunctional & vain envious narcs).. i can tell coz it already happened to me. those are d ones who feed evil influence to treat me like trash & shit, to cheat & betray me. & it didn't end there.. i have an amazing God that's why i could still able to continue to live day by day.
Great one again, Kev! Thanks, my brotha! 🤩🤩🤩
Thank you for another great video! ❤️
If a man is judging you unfairly on things beyond your control like family, you best believe he himself come from a PERFECT family. We all have choice on who we are going to be but none of us have the control to choose our family and many of us are unfortunate to be stuck with bad family.
I love your advice. You are soo real. This is the same advice Nana would give.
Thank you so much for this. Will keep this in mind when I get out on the dating scene which will probably be never because the guys of our generation are horrible
Thank you for this video 😊❤
Where I'm from, you have to meet family to make sure you aren't related🤣🤣🤣🤣
LMAO
The disclaimer is, this does not apply to conmen, marriage scammers and any other category of man with ulterior motives 🙏🏽
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He wanted to meet my parents (and did) and later told me his reasoning (same as what you said).
My mother is easily manipulated to turn on me and my father is a narcissist. I can’t bring anyone around them for my own safety. I hit the jackpot. I have secret relationships or ones where they never meet.
This was a great video, course all the other ones are too. Thanks for giving us the game.
Kevin you're a great speaker & always feed us well!!!💯
That is so sad that the world has come to such superficiality and it's hard to take anyone serious because of that.
It makes a lot of sense!...
Kev! Thank you for the clarity and advice you give. It’s so helpful! Do guys think about a future before committing? Do they think about marriage? I have convinced myself guys don’t have feelings in this department 😟
I lost my mom & dad completely sold his soul to a psycho narc stepmom. So my "family" who I have extremely low contact with are toxic. It has nothing to do with me. So he's gonna run off over something I have no control over. This is triggering and I hope it's not true.
This the best video you made. Love it 😍
I'm about to be 49 and I never had a good relationship ever. So calling it quits now is not a big deal in my opinion. Raising my children didn't allow time and now I have time but don't see the point with these "men" out here.
I don't no how old you are but this is very good advice brillianly spoken check into teaching classes slot of fellas could use this knowledge
I'm loving your channel. Just stumbled on it, but new subbie here
Thanks for the great content as always!!!
Your father-in-law : “I’m gonna wipe his ass !” 😆😆😆
😂
There shouldn’t be a sign . There is supposed to be a direct conversation about it. Period. In a real relationship, a man makes his intentions CLEAR. Unless he SAYS he wants a future with a woman, nothing points to that. Only his voice saying it LOUD and clear!!! Period !
My Dad is an alcoholic… I automatically think most people would think I’m dysfunctional 😔. (I worry about this so much… even though I have gone so far in life)
Good points
So do I just wait for him to ask to meet them or just invite him over one day? Should I drop a little hint hint for him to meet them? Is there a time frame you would suggest? I’ve never thought about this point I’m very curious. Thank you! :)
Dating coach for women 😂 bro I'm impressed. I've never seen anything like this before 😂 I am not laughing cynically I just never thought women would EVER think they need a man's help in the dating sphere. It through me off. And it's a bit funny. Women have interpersonal skills far greater developed than men. I just never see women needing a dating coach.
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Men seek dating coaches to increase their numbers. Women seek dating coaches to weed out the players, users, and abusers to find the one. They don’t need interpersonal skills, they need discernment.
@@zenchi9214 exactly Facts
how can you convince a guy you aren't crazy, if some of your family are?
Great Question👍🏿💯
Please answer 🥲
Easy. Show that you are emotionally intelligent and know how to control your emotions. Show that you have self awareness, know how to accept your mistakes, apologize and change your behavior. Set healthy boundaries and show that u can’t be manipulated. Always try to bring positive energy to your relationship. Stop being negative and DON’T nag. Keep calm, confident and collected . Show that u love and respect yourself. I STARTED DOING THIS TO MY NEW RELATIONSHIP AND IT DRASTICALLY CHANGE MY LIFE. (Sorry for my english, but u get the point.) GOOD LUCK!
Can't wait till my mom croaks then. I come from the most toxic family and had to work through/beyond so much because of them. Men who've met them before wondered how in the world I even came from them.
Sorry that this was reality and happy to hear that you overcame
My ex did the same thing. Thinking he is serious then pull away
It took me a long time to realize that no man would ever love me because my parents didn't love me. Women give me shit that I need to try to get married and I tell them that no man will ever love me because no one, not even my parents, has ever loved me. You made a whole video about it. I knew I wasn't crazy for giving up on love.
Actually- you choose.
You can love yourself and treat yourself with love, even if your parents didn't show love for you.
At the end the relationship is with you, not with your parents.
But if you decided that nobody will love you- You are right too if thats what you want.
We always can choose the live we live. If you are unhappy- change the way you think of yourself, change the way you act- things will be different.
@@denitsaangelova. Well said.
@@denitsaangelova. You didn't watch the video. The men look for your family as a means of vetting you. You can do that social work type bullshit in your head all you want, but men have criterias they have. Men require you to have a family that loves you before they will love you.
@@analyticalchick3064 what if your parents died and both was only children ?
@@analyticalchick3064
My mom passed when I was 13,
My father rased me and my brother as a single parent working 9-5 with very low salary. We always had the bare minimum, but never something too impressive.
I'm thankful for everything my father did for me his life hasn't been easy too.
When I was young- I needed to grow up fast. English isn't my first language, i speak 3 languages, I worked, I studied I now have education. When people were having fun around me- I was trying to do the most out of what I have. There isn't a person around me that can say something bad about me.
And I can tell you- I have never been judged. Even more- because I needed to grow up fast - people see me as someone knowing how to act. Most of the people I meet like me now, even if I was invisible as a child because of the work I have put in. It builds some character.
Yes, it's perfect if you can grow up in family with good lifestyle and reputation, but even if you don't it's not the end of the world. It doesn't mean if you stuggle growing up that you will never be loved.
You can choose to say what failed you on the way of the life you want to live or you can try to do the best with what you have.
Develop in yourself the most of what you can be- be kind, educate yourself, try to look good, learn yourself to do things - people won't ask you what is your family like- because you will be worth it, no matter what your family is.
Thanks for all you do!
Nd dis is the exact reason y I don’t wanna go to his family functions 😴 like sir Dey will not be referring to me as which one
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Kev, my asshole met my family and I met his right away. He was still an abuser.
what about if the woman has no family?
Hey, what can you do, besides just telling them that you don't have any family? If that joker doesn't accept that answer, SCREW 'EM! Not everyone has a great, loving family and those that don't understand why, need not apply. Why go through a bunch of rigamarole, getting yourself all stressed out over an explanation that you can't provide? 😒
If you don't have any family, just introduce him to your closest friends. The ones that you view as family 🌺💞
This can be dangerous becareful and o hope you have a close group of friends or something
@@mlbm13 What is that supposed to mean this is dangerous be careful? Like we had a choice in the matter?
I finally realized that no man would ever love me because no one has ever loved me.
Men have meet my mom n still have done grimes stuff n we done so🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
My cousin use to take a new girl to the family house every Friday. We always pretend like she was the only one to come there. 😂
Awesome Work!
Word!
What about meeting his daughter and interacting with her. We have a daughter the same age and we always bring them together.
What should I look for if you have no one who cares for or protects you?
My daddy is dead. So if a man never asks to meet my HEAVENLY Daddy, Jesus Christ, then that should suffice to tell a woman everything she needs to know about that man…RUN!
Now what if you are the black sheep of the family and refuse to associate with your toxic family?
Thanks
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