When should a man introduce a woman to his family?

[@je39981]

I don't believe in getting close to the family till there's a ring on my finger and I'm walking down the aisle. In my opinion, going over the family home frequently, making their home your home, and not leaving a mystery is a recipe for disaster. It's better to keep it nice and simple, meet the parents briefly, send in a 'hi and bye' here and there. As you mentioned Tony, the man may love me but specific family members may not agree.

[@rosemarie5489]

I have seen cases when "meeting the family" was used to trap the woman into staying for a long time (even marrying) a guy they thought it was not the one.

[@shutit4024]

If the family ain’t sh*t I would like to know upfront before even marrying the guy because once you get married you’re marrying his family too idk I’m 21 maybe I might change my mind one day

[@kelsiejeris]

I met my boyfriend's parents Sunday at the eight-month mark, and we hit it off. So many people emphasize “when are you meeting them? Why wait so long” I’m glad we waited. Everything turned out great, plus my parents love him too. I love it

[@clarkclarke]

I never asked my guy about meeting his mom .(his dad passed when he was young). he asked me to meet his mom.. ..I was quietly surprised....

[@kelsiejeris]

@@clarkclarke that's great he wanted you to meet her hopefully, it went well!

[@lesliethomas5088]

You have some men that will introduce Every Woman to their family. And the crazy part. That Family make them feel like They are the one! Not knowing they like Everybody!! Lol

[@letrice2892]

I agree I remember yrs ago I met a man's mother and when I was leaving out I walked out before he did and I clearly heard his mother say to him u know u shouldn't be doing this u ain't right ...I took that as a sign and mama words were so right bcuz he had a gf across town as well so sometimes meeting the family can help u in a few instances lol

[@janellmd]

These days men introduce all the women they date to the family instead of only the serious relationships. Don't think women should take it for more than what it is...just meeting the family.

[@PeaceBeStill-]

Agreed.

[@sungaze342]

THAAAAAANK YOUUUUUUU🙄 OMG it’s not as big as a deal as it use to be it doesn’t hold much value as much anymore like way back then

[@NazarofGod]

@Karma Consciousness Truth!
My ex introduced other women to his family while we were in a relationship and after we'd broken up...just to play them. We're African and introducing a man/woman to your family was a serious matter. Not any more
In retrospect, it reminded me that mothers are loyal to their children, esp moms to their sons. His mom didn't owe me anything to alert me of her son's ways.

[@MargaretJenkins-ou3qx]

Pure bs

[@jessepera2457]

Can u imagine when the boys start dating and Tony and Sheri gotta give the ok?😅heaven help those girls lol they better have it to.ge.ther!

[@beefaye6861]

Lol...I can hear Tony now "oh u a loose booty 901" 😂😂😂😂😭😭

[@clarkclarke]

And that's how it should be .
...oh yes.....💕🙏🏾

[@jessepera2457]

@@beefaye6861 nooo she wouldn't even make it to the door😅😅

[@beefaye6861]

@@jessepera2457 😂😂😂

[@camuyana]

I'm so grateful to God that my mom did not took into consideration the color of the skin of my dad but decided on the character and values he was presenting to her. My mom is white and my dad is medium-dark skin Puerto Rican Indian. Every single color will have that what is desirable and what's not and what has value and what has no value in a person. But I also understand your point Tony that it would be very difficult for you if you cannot take that person as is and feel comfortable because not everybody will do so. Now my handsome medium-dark skin father is a very frail 87-year old which I gladly and proudly currently take care of. Thank you Mom for loving dad beyond the color of the skin of his skin until "death do you part". Again I understand your point Tony that not to everybody is comfortable to be engaging with another race and that beautiful black young women want to also enjoy having a good black man. Just want to tell my story because I come from a mixed marriage.

[@Sarablueunicorn]

If a man doesn't introduce you to his family within 3 months or don't do it when there's opportunity for it like holidays then it's a NO.
If he introduces it's still no guarantee, so keep your guard up.

[@nycgirllauren]

That makes no sense

[@Dr.Elaine1]

“Understand that meeting the friends and family could very well be the end of y’all’s relationship.” TG

[@dayana1588]

Why?

[@shutit4024]

@@dayana1588 I wanna know why too I kinda don’t get it

[@elegantz1779]

@@dayana1588 probably because of their influence on him and their judgment of you

[@Sexyyredd78]

@@elegantz1779 Exactly 🎯

[@NazarofGod]

One of my exes ghosted me one week after I'd met his friends. Figured they influenced him to rethink his marriage proposal.

[@jerseygirl049]

That line though "Man I aint never seen him act like this with a woman" LOLLLL!

[@Mekia-hr8qh]

Meeting the family don’t mean nothing! Absolutely nothing!

[@drginawalker2260]

Amen

[@asill.6668]

I agree!

[@MargaretJenkins-ou3qx]

Shit things have sure changed

[@finesseg5259]

Wow.. I was always lead to believe if you met the parents he was serious about you...never thought about these scenarios..thanks!!

[@Carolina-et7wy]

Tony you are so right! why meet the parents and family so fast. Get to know the person first!!

[@marysepierre4491]

You are a blessing in our lives, I thank You for allowing GOD to use you.

[@QueenConsious]

First of all I don’t need advice from his mom or family because I come First a Real King is to leave his parents and go to his wife don’t put his family in your relationship let’s talk facts cause everybody got a opinion

[@PeaceBeStill-]

🗣PREACH

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT !HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING!,GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021

[@krissyhall2838]

Omg yess

[@asill.6668]

AMEN!

[@MiracleDeniece]

I met my husband's family immediately, like the second day and then we got married a year and a half later so sometimes it works out.

[@Erika-zt2ih]

You have so much wisdom Tony!!! Love how funny & serious u can be!! Thanks for your time & all the advice!

[@LifeCoachLi]

Ohhhh Tony this convo was sooooo overdue!!! A few things I’ll touch on “women in the way” and how both Mom/Sis just don’t want him involved because they benefit from his singleness. Race, I prefer black men and although I can attempt to understand the cultural aspect of [Granny] I pray that a kingdom love intercept my future marriage- not in any attempt to erase what can’t be erased but at the same time I’ll never marry where I’m not the standard of my mans beauty//desire. But most importantly, I was in revelation as I listened to this…
You went from organized Pimp [no or lil regard for women/objectifying] to now using your entire life to teach us- this can only be Jesus. A Saul to Paul transformation!!! It’s beautiful!! I thank you, for this message. It’s needed, insightful and practical. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Much love from your certified Life Coach from up ⬆️ here in the Chi

[@ebonymahogany4682]

I hear you but it is odd that you say you’ll never marry a man whom you’re not his standard of beauty. Men have a desire for women and usually for their own race due to proximity and culture. If you’re dating a black man who only prefers white women and that’s their “standard of beauty”, you’re going to have a lot of issues in that relationship. Also, grannies discrimination (that’s what it is) has nothing to do with how beautiful you are and the man should be making it known that you are the one he loves. Again, none of this has to do with his standard of beauty. Black men who date white women still have an affinity for black women, just an FYI.

[@LifeCoachLi]

@@ebonymahogany4682 I appreciate your opinion. It’s not odd to me at all, what wife desires to be a second option or desire when it comes to physicality? Tony gave a great example, white women were his only option, it was a settling. My point is, I won’t settle…play second fiddle to any other woman for any reason. So, I say that to say-- kingdom men have an ability that “most” [were using absolutes here that perhaps are unfair] don’t, it’s to love first the soul of a woman, making skin color take a seat!! That’s the exception I’ll wait for. I’ve had this exact convo with many black men [friends] I’m in Chicago so things run a bit different up here, I’m aware that proximity makes an impression. But appreciate your perspective 👍🏽

[@ebonymahogany4682]

@@LifeCoachLi mmm ok so you only date black men who AREN’T attracted to black women because if he was it might mean that he truly doesn’t desire you…got it.

[@LifeCoachLi]

@@ebonymahogany4682
Based off the way you jumped on my comment to tell me “what I couldn’t have” giving your opinion but clearly not in any way that shows consideration for me/my point of view and then choosing to only address my preferences in black men-imma say you obviously feel some sort of way. I’ll leave you with this- I love, love!!! My skin attractiveness is to dark skin [not only black men] I don’t only dare black men, not that it’s your business anyway. I serve Christ in life, and love- He is the standard I’ll wait on- and yes I will have what’s mine- chocolate and fine!!! I’m still wondering why you care… I’m not dating your brother sis??? 🤔🙏🏽

[@kaprisenecole8423]

Most black mens' standard of beauty is indeed a beautiful melanin enriched black woman. Your comment suggested otherwise. That's probably why the lady responded. You are mistaken and were corrected. Peri_odd.

[@millicentstollenwerck5239]

I will remember this segment of the message, maybe for when I date someone long enough to meet his parents. With the games these men play, that's a big IF.

[@beefaye6861]

Right ...be careful.....

[@arianams6710]

Thank you for this uncle Tony.
I dated a guy who had a sister who told him that I was using him until I went of to school in TX. He told me his sister/aunts/mom never been loved by a man and knew nothing of it. Some how he still let them get in his ear and convince him that I was a user, unfit, and God knows what else. Even his gay brother. He ate up everything they said sadly. We had only been dating for a few months...It’s crazy, my intuition kept telling me that they didn’t really care about him and they wanted him to be miserable just like they were.
I say this to say, i will always be cautious when meeting my future partner’s family. Thanks for giving us the game on how to go about this.

[@janieh3950]

Hey, brother Tony. 🤣🤣🤣 You play to murch with the hat.

[@breannn]

To me if y’all are in a relationship and he haven’t introduced you to his family or friends, that could mean you are a side chick. Never meeting his friends, family, spending holiday’s, or not going over his house are all signs.

[@chelseynicholson7948]

I think so too if it's been a while

[@shutit4024]

See this is the gray area I’m still confused by

[@shutit4024]

Sometimes he may not even have a girlfriend but still doesn’t mean he’s seeing other women

[@erind2261]

Been there. Done that. I didn't question at first b/c he was not close to his family at all. I met his mom ONCE. Year after year nothing...
Not even a favorite cousin.
I was a slowpoke but now i know better. There was definitely something he didn't want me to see.

[@Ms.J.]

Yes and no. I had a family member bring the side chic around more than the main. The "main" lived further away, so that benefited him in regards to cheating. We all knew which was which; they didn't.
Like Tony said, meeting the family don't matter. Especially when it's early!

[@kdizzleambitious_as_key]

I’m the first comment! Aye! Thx Mr. &Mrs. Gaskins, love your content! Thank God your here to be a big brother I’ve never had.

[@iam.foreverblessed]

Go ahead and put on that armour 😂😂

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD HAS U COVERED! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021

[@bellaapple2166]

"I'm not going to compete with that' wow I needed to say this more. ❤️🙏🏻

[@iamjessie.b]

This is a video I agree with. I’m really trying to get to know him better and I don’t need to stress about family at all. Thanks Tony! Everyone pressuring me about if I’ve met the family but I really am still getting to know him.

[@clarkclarke]

Tony ...I read a story of a wife who wanted to be an entrepreneur....the husband didn't want her to be one ...she did anyway......she went on a business trip and came home to an empty house ....the brother-in-law who picked her up at the airport and helped his brother...her husband... to move out... said nothing to her ....when she called her mother in law ....the mother in law said she (the wife )was just upset because he (the husband) took "action" first .... mother -in-law was in cohoots with her son...😖

[@julianacheriza1575]

I heard that too!!

[@dublingirl1691]

Tony’s hairline is perfectly fine!! 😁😂

[@janieh3950]

Exactly 🤣🤣🤣

[@joannahulitt3161]

Tony I wish I knew about you before I started another relationship after being alone and at peace now I am recovering from trauma etc. thank you for your videos

[@rosemarie5489]

Meeting the family can be used as a trap to keep the woman much longer in a relationship that would have otherwise been short. A girl who was studying with me meet the guy's family two weeks after she meet the guy. His sister and mom acted like she was part of the family. They started posting pictures of her on social media letting others know that she and the guy were together even when that was not yet the case. She ended up living with the guy for four years, financially supporting herself and him because he " couldn't find a job". Turns out his mom wanted to pass his weight to another woman.The girl wanted to leave very early but just because she met the family, she felt guilty to just leave. Another girl I know ended up meeting the family within the first week. The guy had three children from two different women and was searching for someone to share his bills with. His parents also acted very much taken by the girl and pressured her into marrying the guy within 6 months. She got divorced less than one year after the marriage.

[@123heydatsme]

What do you mean by “pass his weight to another woman”?

[@sarahgamutan2725]

Nice input. Didn't realize this can be the case.

[@rosemarie5489]

@@123heydatsme Well. His mom was taking care of him , so she was carrying his weight. She passed his weight to another woman, his new girlfriend who started to support him financially after that.

[@asill.6668]

@@123heydatsme Lol

[@b.6628]

I feel like meeting the family is a 50/50 they may like you, they may negatively judge you etc. It's nice to have that approval but it's not the all in all. (atleast for me) once I see your family is doing that overly protective rude thing I'm good on
another visit unless something changes lol

[@DebtDemolisherTV]

Raggedy Ann!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@OgeNkume]

True words right here Tony. I'll likt to think that if the relationship is right ain't nobody gonna be worried about meeting who. Meeting either girls parents or boys parents is like validation required whereas for a relationship to work it takes You, your partner and God. When you both choose you whenever you meet the parents y'all will blend in and their blessings will come through because God has already approved too. For me, we working us and our relationship. Developing in the dark until we ready to let parents from both ends meet us.

[@ghaywood902]

Thank you for this sage advice. Those scenarios are very true.

[@angeleyes1244]

My man is currently at a family wedding, it would of been nice to get an invite but I understand as we have only been together 4 months and I think his mum is quite a strong minded woman who either likes you or doesn't. I'm alot the other way and would interduce him to everyone cause I love him . I will give him the time he needs . Thank you for this great advice. Sending Blessings to you 😇 🙏🏼

[@rophnaicadesruisseaux8950]

My bf mom is the same but I never even meet her and he barely talks about me to her he’s Caribbean 🇹🇹 I’m Haitian she guess my ethnicity and quick to judge look down at me for being Haitian saying I do witchcrafts it really hurts so much doesn’t even know me

[@goddessyvonne2303]

My Dad came to see my boyfriend and I. Unfortunately, my Dad didn't like him. And he was right about him but I didn't listen

[@Carolina-et7wy]

I know how your dad felt! My daughter is dating a man twice her age. I gave him the benefit of the doubt met him and I thought to myself this not the man for my daughter. My family does not like him or agree with the relationship but what could I do. She's not listening I guess only time will tell.

[@cindeed4422]

What happened to the Q & A’s on UA-cam. I miss them. Some of us don’t do Instagram.

[@eveshalom3534]

I had to say! That’s so sweet how your sister view you! I’m sure it was challenging but I know her heart is for her Bro!

[@DayaTom]

Emotional incest is what it is.
And it's abuse as well.

[@melaniebarnes4374]

Tony I like you man . You keep it real blood or water ,I am the same way . I don't understand how others aren't but you protect your wife . The one you chose . I believe that if I choose you I'm going to and should love them right and give them what I didn't receive and what I observed that they didn't get previously. Thank GOD for you.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

"We'll take anything"...."You're the MAN pal!" 😂😂😂

[@jessepera2457]

This was good advice.

[@Regina.Clarke]

I really appreciate this take! I was over here like 🤔, but this is definitely a good idea.

[@jussjess2829]

When Tony said GM said “ please don’t bring no white women to my house.” I felt that 😩😩. Lol

[@asill.6668]

🤣🤣🤣

[@valeriebryant4039]

Thank you Mr.Gaskins for another great video

[@TameThaMoose6020]

Hilarious ! Baby Doll Anne......😂

[@nolongerrational]

I am so glad i saw your video. Meeting the family is so nuanced. The guy I am dating (8 months now) is not introducing me to his family and I have a feeling it might have to do with the fact that I am muslim and he grew up in latino catholic family. Even though I know he is into me but I have a feeling that is a point of hesitation on his part. I have not talked to him about it but maybe i should.

[@meloniceranger9747]

When he is certain she is the woman he wants to marry

[@jenei3286]

What about parents meeting parents after you’ve established an exclusive relationship?

[@NazarofGod]

I'm not TG, but in my culture in Kenya, parents meet after the man has done a formal introduction with the lady's family. His parents will accompany him in the dowry ceremony/traditional marriage where both families are united.

[@chigirl7243]

I always valued meeting a Man's family as a sign of our relationship. when it is just meeting a group of adults. When I became a mother, my child's father was still wanting to be with me. I found out from social media that he had multiple women at his moms house & introducing to family & our child. Him & his family took beach vacations with his lady, while I was home raising our child, thinking he was at work. His family doesn't respect me, but neither does he. It is interesting what people value and if we want to break unhealthy patterns. I expected his family to love me as a mother, but it feels more like hate

[@Derlet30]

Heartbreaking. But in all honesty, this speaks poorly of them as a family. If they were decent people, they would never treat you like this because they would put themselves in your position and ask themselves how they would feel if they were in your position OR more importantly, how they would feel if their daughter was treated that way.
My feedback: Don't let anyone disrespect you and set limits for what's allowed with your child. Otherwise, your child will also get the message loud and clear that his mother is not worthy of respect. And that will affect how he feels about himself later on.
This is unacceptable

[@stephaniemarie9850]

On a sidenote. The Hooked on Phonics ad is 🔥.

[@natashamcclellan2707]

I agree!! Taking notes ! 💜✍🏽✍🏽

[@kristamonae]

“Hairline ain’t where it need to be “ 💀🤣

[@tlashai9902]

You have to have family around to vet out potential partners for marriage, but that doesn’t mean he’ll always pick them over you. If a man doesn’t take you to meet his family then you probably don’t mean to much to him, or he’s embarrassed by his family you just never know. In my case I’m a loner, but parents are in different places, they can meet my siblings. I’m with the man, only what he thinks matters. I didn’t care to much about my ex’s family I was just about me and him.

[@Sarablueunicorn]

If he doesn't introduce you to family (and he's in good terms with family) then you definitely worh less than horse shit to him. If he does introduce you to his family it still might mean nothing.
Check on Gabby Petito's case. She was engaged and living together with her fiancé at his parents house, they went on a road trip and he killed. Came back home and parents hired a lawyer and helped him escape and hide.
The guy killed his wife to be, she lived with his family and ended up killed. Neither him or his parents give a rat's ass about her or her life.
That's how dramatic things can be. A narcissist will definitely take you to his family, his family will work as his enables and you are in hell.
Nowadays "actions speak louder than words" doesn't help so much because many men know how to act and might use actions if words are not enough. The only thing you can trust is your gut feeling, if at any time, any situation you feel your gut uncomfortable there's definitely sth there. It's not your anxiety, you are not overthinking and you are not crazy.

[@teetheorigin774]

You are always on time! I was just asking myself these questions and you answered them.

[@monicamarshall539]

Tony you are sooo funny She like Annie” lol 😂

[@daniellamoreno3616]

Good advice some guys take some things serious.
Some men take the woman back home to meet parents and not take it that serious you gotta kinda see how he is or acts and see if this serious thing or just to impress his family and him.
This is in all honestly one the best videos on meeting family or parents looked at 3 so far until found yours.

[@indiachristovale60]

Hello from Brooklyn New York

[@c.l.9344]

🗽

[@beautifullykayla]

perioddd! im in brooklyn too

[@indiachristovale60]

@@beautifullykayla 👋🏾

[@Mary-gr3mr]

My dude supports his immigrant Mother. They basically "married" as u mentioned..... I don't know how I'm supposed to feel about that

[@cocoabutter70]

Wow.. very insightful commentary👍

[@amberschannel6351]

very good info 🙏 ty

[@deedee2736]

I am from a town 1hr away from Selma Alabama and I feel his grandma pain.

[@Alysssa_xxo]

Hi Tony and friends! 🥰❤️

[@tinajones8050]

Listening.

[@tiasinclair9741]

Really Good, get to know one another well ,including the man family they get, to know you too.

[@melaniewilliams4082]

Instagram went through a popular blogger account far back as 2018 and stopped her from going live from a harmless post .

[@cuniqueness]

Look,
You can be meeting The Adam’s Family or the Monsters. No rush for me!!!!🛀

[@elanabethfariss117]

Hi there, where is the link to purchase the book, A Woman's Influence?

[@vanessachambers697]

Be Blessed 😊

[@keyairaspivey5093]

This reminds me of one my family members they married into the wrong family and his family person who will drop their plans to be with his family. I can't do it.

[@Snow-fy5wv]

Hello from Montreal Canada

[@Sunshine-nj8cd]

My boyfriend lives in America and I live in the Caribbean he sends me pics of his children and family but I never spoke to them we both seperated and divorced around the same time, we clicked just like that 😃

[@Chidimmaaa]

Hi Tony I am in a relationship with a upcoming relationship counselor, I have a very different past I've been hurt multiple times and I'm a recovering woman scorned. I trust my man I truly do as I was rolling down the street in my car I was thanking God for my man because I know he has given me the utmost respect he has not stepped out on me and he's a good dude. Recently he told me that he's having a video conversation with a friend to talk about relationships and present time I thank him for telling me but does it mean that I have to agree with it? Or should I just let it go and let him do his work?

[@bonedietywitch946]

The term is called emotional incest. My mother did this to my brother all the time

[@dashafenty9969]

THANK YOU FOR THIS VID TONY ❤️

[@JermaineThomas4050]

Really great video.

[@GodFirstInallthings]

Heyyy Blessed tribe❤

[@pat4eva09]

Grandma 👵🏾 definitely knows best 👀👀

[@mysuisselife2089]

The term in emotionally incestuous

[@FantasyTarotKammie]

41:51

[@FantasyTarotKammie]

42:00

[@lynnmitchell273]

Well it’s been 15 months ?????