How to END a dry spell
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- Опубліковано 17 лип 2024
- Game is definitely streaky. Sometimes, it feels like girls like you no matter what you do, and other times, it seems like success is nearly impossible. When you've gone a while without positive results, you need to do something to reverse the momentum. Here is my suggestion.
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For ending dry spells, getting a lot of numbers and lowering your standard works. But it really boils down to what you want. For me, I date higher and higher quality women as I grow. So dry spell lasts longer as I proceed in my life as I become more picky. But for me, I prefer to stand a few month of dry spell and focus on getting the next higher quality girls, rather than lowering my standard and end my dry spell with a cheap one.
This is weird though... In my opinion, a 6 opens up the level for 8s and once you date an 8, dating up is easy!! All the grls react the same to you!
18 phone numbers is low? Wtf.
I got 7 leads and I'm working on more.
"dry spell from birth"
lmao
What if you kissed your mom. Does that count?
Commando Master depends Alabama or no
What do you do when things aren't going your way in game? When you're in a dry spell, you need to change something... obviously... but what SPECIFICALLY can you do? Find out in this video!
Whoa, whoa, whoa! 3-4 lays easily from 10 numbers?! That sounds INSANELY high. If that were the case then I'd be getting several lays per week, lol!
I normally have 10% of my numbers convert to dates. And then 10% of those will convert to lays. So 1% of my numbers will result in a lay. And my cold approach and phone game are both strong.
But you're saying 30-40% of numbers converting to not just dates, but lays (3-4 lays from just 10 numbers)?!
I've gotten about 1,000 numbers since starting game (mostly doing daygame with some nightgame). According to your data, I should have 300-400 lays, yet I don't even have 10 lays, lol.
Thanks for the kind words, Alekk!
I am always on the look out to refine my skillset. That being said, I've heard from other top instructors that the very best guys at this have sex with 5% of the women they approach. And let's say half of the women they approach are # closed. That means that world class dudes pork 10% of the girls they # close, far from 30-40%, not to mention mah man Todd said one could have sex with 30-40% of the women they number close "very, very easily." I don't think so.
That means if one got 20 numbers a week (1,000 numbers/year), which is totally possible in a big city, they could "very, very easily" have sex with 300-400 women per year. LOL, what?! You know how many girls that is for just one year?!
Good points. Those numbers were just thrown out off the top off my head (I generally answer these questions in one take), and they're probably slightly hight in retrospect, but they're not as outrageous as you think, under the right conditions... it does bring up an interesting point about measuring results and what factors skew them dramatically in one way or another. I may do a vid or blog about that sometime in the future.
todd my dude when will we have an update on this big surprise? Its been weeks.. I'm stressing over here! haha
Assuming your number closing solid numbers not just 2 minute interactions then sure 30% could be do able. But that also depends on your abilities besides number closing.. like how well you do on dates, text game, in date pulls, escalation skills ect.. A world class gamer could get very close to 30% and maybe even exceed it but that's only if he does everything right and plays to win right from the start.
however for most people that is a mere dream that they will never achieve, need some severe dedication to get that good haha
Hey Todd - I may have a follow-up topic for you below that goes along with the video about flash game you posted on the other channel. Been following you for years. Always appreciate the clear and concise delivery of concepts. You've definitely helped me level up across the board.
The flash game video encompasses what I've been experiencing lately in game. Due to executing your techniques and using much more low-key game, I've enjoyed a lot of success vs the flashier game I've utilized in the past. It suits me perfectly and seems to make sense to the girl based on my appearance.
As a follow-up to that video, I'd love it if you could shed some light on this subject that has been somewhat frustrating to me lately. I just moved to a new city that's loaded with girls. I'm a good looking guy like yourself and I feel like this is a factor that may be working against me. I usually do very well right up to the pull. The girl is attracted, it's definitely man to woman, we're talking about plans to hang out etc., but the same-night LMR always seems to be there with the hotter girls (NYC 8.5's and 9's). Everything eventually works out but it takes a few dates.
I've been hearing for years that basically any girl no matter how hot she is will go home with someone on the first night, but you seem to be debunking this in that video. How often do you actually have two or three or more dates until you finally get the girl home? Is this just a common thing with higher quality girls? I would push harder on closing but I feel like when I meet someone I might actually want to keep seeing, it's not worth going hard and possibly ruining it. How much does patience really come into play when it's a girl I'm actually highly interested in seeing in the future and potentially turning into a constant thing? I'm assuming it's because they're viewing me as a potential relationship so they don't want to diminish their value. I can't help but feel like I'm doing something wrong if I can't get a same night pull with a really hot girl at least 50% of the time but it seems like it could be a result of remaining congruent with the low-key relaxed game. I'd much appreciate your thoughts. Thanks!
Thank yout , Todd ! This is what I experience right now
Brother thanks for this video I was in one a few months back and somehow got out but now I really understand how it works 🔥
Quite professional, short, sweet, to the point
3:57 is just gold. so obvious, but so important. if you're neglecting the leads/dates to focus on LMR and physical escalation (or whatever your sticking point was) then eventually you will find yourself in a dry spell.
What are some other good instructors? I've never really ran across pua's that can teach as helpfully, truthfully, and simply as you
Hey Todd, thanks again for a great video!
My question is how do i know what to focus on when writing a field report?
For someone going into college from school, how do you start your social life and game life properly in order to achieve the kind of social/game life you want?
Amiya Sekhar throw wild parties and have good drugs
Your thoughts and advice on really being a source of laughter and fun when applied to pickup.
Hi Todd, you have taught us the models of value/comfort, social capital and leveling. My question for you is, if you had to select just one model which you think is the most important and is always in the forefront of your head above everything else in an interaction , which one would it be? I'm a beginner at game, therefore focusing on all the models simultaneous is too much processing for the time being, but I'll get there. Please help. Cheers
So I’ve been following You and Tyler for a while. I’ve probably gotten most of my game from you twos videos. Does Rsd Tyler and the rest of RSd really have the kind of game they claim?
always i like your ides this was great answer good video
If you move in to a new city and DON'T hit the ground running, you can end up making it harder for yourself to get started down the road. This is because you have momentum behind you when you move in to that new city, that you build/network off of for a very long time from those initial stages if you get going early. If you move in to a city and wait a few weeks to get out there and start meeting people, it can feel like having to beat down the doors in an unknown climate (having to learn the landscape/ geography for the area in terms of good bars, clubs, etc., slower). Use that momentum and get in there early
Todd, can you give advice on what to do after ending a long term relationship?
that was amazing. thnx brother.
Thank you!
you mentioned that in opening the follow up matters more than the opener, what are some of the things that make follow ups more reliable? cold reads?
Hey todd. I'm 5 feet 7. Should I just rock my height, or wear those "high heels for men"? And how to be confident with it?
Can you talk about cassanova emotional/spiritual seduction (I.e. way of superior man) vs. indifferent bad boy no validation giving seduction and getting the girl to pursue you.
Todd can you give us exercises in order to improve our negging skills?
Hey Todd! Did you ever consciously quit from Game for like 3-6 months or so? So for me right now I need to finish my bachelor thesis for university, build a working business and do my Job at the gym 3-4 times a week. I feel that I really don´t have the time nor the emotional ressources for game... I know they all say just 30 minutes a day, but it´s that I really don´t have the space in my head for that right now. All of my wingmen are calling me back, because I did game intensively like 2 months ago... How would you approach a situation like that? Thank you very much ! :)
Todd can u give us some background on specifically how you went from getting over approach anxiety to being able to show intent when u first started pickup. PS. I think your pickup method is the most practical and I have alot of respect 4 u as a teacher (I swear im not brown nosing) - Zakir
hgfff uhgf you have approach anxiety simply because you don’t approach. That’s how you get over it. Make steady intentional eye contact that’s how you show intent.
Makes sense, my game is better than ever, but I’ve become too picky and spoiled in approaching and am just not getting enough leads
Like the other guy here, i also have exams coming up and it sucks to know i won't have time to go out and game. Feels bad man
QUESTION: How do I maintain attraction after sex and dating with a girl for a few weeks?
Getting the girl is not the problem here, I have no problem with going on dates with gorgeous girls and having sex on the first meet, or second. But the last few months I've been having sex with the best girls of my life, however the further along we get, the more I feel my pimpness regress and my old familiar traits start popping up. I am very aware that the girls attraction for me will be slowly declining the more time she spends with me (at this point i'm talking about seeing a girl for a few weeks or more on a regular basis, this seems to be the dipping point.)
As of yet, no girl out of the 5 longer term ones in my head, has dumped me or wanted to "slow things down", but nevertheless, I can't help but feel its on its way.
You just slapped me in the face with talking about if you're in a new city to approach a bunch of girls. I moved away from home, live alone, and for the last 7 months I've just been going to work, gym, and home/repeating. Mind you I'm in the process of starting an amazon business so most of my attention is on that but I could've been sleeping with a lot of girls... I need to start taking action in this area of my life for my own mental sanity lol.
Hi Todd, how about if you live in a country where you don't speak the language? For example I live in Germany but unfortunately I don't speak the language.
How do you deal with the friends during tandem game?
Yeah you're right, when you say when on a dry spell that you bring a girl back only to mess up. Had this with like 3 or 4 girls on the trott highly frustrating. Then it's a while again till you get another opportunity with another girl
Hey Todd. So I've known this girl for a few years and made a move on her a while ago whilst she was going through I break up. She said she couldn't at the time and when I tried meeting up with her afterwards she kept cancelling. We bumped into each other couple of months ago and had a platonic interaction. We have a lot in common. A few weeks later she messaged me at 4am in the morning cos she locked herself out and she said could she hang out with me at mine and said don't take this the wrong way I just want to hang out.
Whilst she was in my room she was in my bed and ended up talking about the doubts she has about her current relationship (new boyfriend). I made a mistake I know not making a move but I was unprepared. Live and learn eh? It feels like a friendship with sexual tension. It doesn't feel like just friends zone. She does currently live with her bf and is having doubts about him.
I've seen her once since then and it was with her bf at a bbq. She was talking to him telling him about the kind of things I did like she was like "Tim does this... Tim does this... " and I felt like he felt threatened as he did not respond at all when natural thing would have been to ask me questions.
Whats your advice? Apologies for the essay :)
Cheers.
How to correctly add vulnerability and thus relatability into interactions? I've had different girlfriends tell me that (after many years of self-development and being in the game) they feel I do not have insecurities. I notice that this is hindering the ability of creating an emotional connection.
I'm begining my quest for abundance. I wanted to know if you had some insight into different blueprint. I find my self with really explict girls who play but dont progress and then shy girls that want exclusive relationships. What are some thing to creat better closes in different interactions
DAMNN THIS IS WHAT WE NEED
Dude, this is practically game in a nutshell
Todd can you plz tell me what to do when a female friend of your lowers your status in the eyes of your target behind your back
How to heat things up on a day date? Recently I've been on some afternoon dates and there was ZERO sexual tension.
Don't do day dates
Please read : this one is quit a bugger , what to do when the girl is 9/10 and it's a day game aproach, and she doesn't feel u , is it better to b persistent or let go (mind of abundance ) and to open direct or indirect
There is no way to have 100% in day game. This is a number game. If you want to have a chance with 9/10 then you should approach at least hundred of them.
At some point i wanted to have LTR and family and i did find a HSE(high self esteem) girl that suits my standards , but problem is that most of the time you meet LSE(low self esteem) girls and i'm so used to them that i having hard time with this one. Can you make some pointer how to game or rather maintain healthy relationship with HSE girls.
How do you break a social dry spell. Had a ton of friends two years ago, have lost almost all of them due to life. How do you rebuild a social circle again
Hey Todd, great to see you back on UA-cam and look forward to seeing your future content.
Potentially controversial question: what advice would you have for a married man, who has had success using day game when he was single, who wants to discreetly sleep with women (independent ones who don't mind sleeping with married men) in the time he has away from his wife?
Whether that be a few days away staying at a hotel or meeting the women at their places after work?
Todd the god. He ain't no fraud. He ain't no cap he ain't no fassad.
Hey Todd i have a advice for a video, i've been on i think three dates and more good ones i might add nut still the bad ones where i got tricked into talking relationships previous girls or the cultural difference (not liking the typical swedish girl, hahah). And the date ended badly. Maybe you should do a video on safe options for dates. What to talk about on dates, what to avoid, and why, etc etc so you stay fine. Forexample this last one i mean i could tell it was going kinda well, until we came into the "girls" topics.
Thanks
Wat r girls topics.
I had a period of success but I also didn't have a receding hairline during that time
Damn Todd’s skin glowing like fuck 😂
How long before it's a drought? imo it's anything after 3 months
Getting numbers is like sport to me. Problem is I lose interest and then never call. Self inflicted dry spell.
After two weeks of nothing, he releases How to end a dry spell...
Todd : When a girl blatantly rejects me from a cold approach opening pick up at a bar, what should my come back be ? How do I defuse the situation to save face or try reattracting her ?
If a girl disrespecting you then you should do same thing you will do if anyone else openly disrespects you. Verbally attack her behaviour as unacceptable but don't attack her personally (you can instead say what you know she is a nice girl inside and should stop acting like this).
Laugh it off
@Rex Erection No way, do you think people would be watching this video if that worked for them? Obviously it doesn't work for a large number of people.
I’m currently watching this at 2 in the morning
Can you explain how should a man behave on a first date in order to get to the second one? (for the sake of argument, sex on a first date is not an option)
Thanks
How to get good at teasing?
how do you personally deal with general stress in life.......what percentage of life should be about girls, i realize now it needs to be less than 100
When getting shit tested or even straight up rejected, how do you handle it internally and maintain a high value strong frame?
acklackl move on to the next
Well, now that i'm moving i'll do this!
7 years
In the dating game, as soon as we leave, memories slowly fade, and new flirtations arise.
I avoid telling friends and family that I'm in to pick up for fear of judgement what's the best way to overcome that
Don't even tell them.
What if you get ghosted by every girl?
This is just my situation right now. My game was peaking not long ago however I have now become what we in Norway call "russ". Its a graduation where we buy buses and party on them all night. However my game is based around talking and energy levels and I just can't seem to understand the dance or rave game that is going on on the bus. Any suggestions to dance game?
herbankidd hehe
Any advice for 18-20 year old guys getting into game?
OQO0 same as anyone else I guess
i personally would give you a couple advices if you have entered on this is for a reason and you have to be very opendmind about the things youre learning dont be scare of trowing some old mindsets or old thoughts if you really want to learn and always play to win
Hey Todd, has the MeToo Movement completely killed your business model?
I am fairly good, but I don't want to spend that much time and energy texting all the girls, how do I make it super effective ( btw my main goal is to find a mom for my future kids, but adventures on that path is welcome😊)
What's the thin line between "there is no chemistry or connection or for some situation it isn't meant to be with this girl" and not having gamed her properly, how can you distinguish this two situations?
Stefano Catalano in the latter point you already established some connection but then you blew it cuz your game wasn’t up to par
@AshToddv how to protect yourself from betaization.
Almost in all the sets, girls talk about their past boyfriend and how he hurt them and how they did everything for him. After hearing the story, i feel so drawn towards her emotionally and get needy , wanting the love they gave to him. How to handle this situation.
dont let them talk about their ex, change the subject
What the best way to break down your day/nightgame session or dates to learn the most from it?
So I've pretty much gotten over my approach anxiety, however now I do not approach much not because I'm afraid, but because feel like what I am doing just isn't working and there is no point, unless I have something new to try. So now that I can approach (I do direct approaching), what can I do begin flirting with the women and getting them to stay and talk to me for a while? Whats the next step after approaching and how should I do it?
DeepPurple1987 don’t just approach aimlessly... have a reason why your approaching i.e. what you’d like to get out of the interaction.
"Mutli-Decade dry spell since birth" 😂 😂 you mean a virgin! I'm fucking dead 😂
How to pick up girls at gym?
Ask to workout together.
18 numbers in a day, that might be a Guiness record.
I got 23 in two hours and captured it on camera once ;)... will re-release the video soon, keep an eye out for it ;)
Hey Todd, i've had the best results of my life this month. Now I have to study for exams for 4 weeks and won't be going out. Will my game deteriorate?
Depending on how much you are going out now (how many days a week), it will very likely deteriorate. But from a relatively small break of 4 weeks you should "recover" within two days or so of going out.
Yes buddy, unfortunately your
game will deteriorate especially if u have just got good. but it'll be easy to maintain. Just approach 3 girls any one time u leave the house
You will recover fast, game is a skill and therefore it will easily be adjustable in my opinion.
Probably. Just give up all hope
herbankidd
Lool
Seriously curious, is Todd wearing makeup?
Alright alright... how about dry spells since before my birth?
Amazing
Do you have advice on how to overcome social anxiety as an introvert?
Get comfortable being uncomfortable.
How do you prevent LMR from happening?
Pray to God 😊
Is this a DnD guide video? Never used the dry spell anyway....
Honestly I lost my v card last year and got some extra the next month by being on these dating sites and on facebook.
Should u tell other girls u have a gf?
golden
Dope!
I'll also add ,hit the books ,to get a makeover ,new hair style,clothing style ,hit the weights and come back at it with new tools in your bag
Here's my advice:
Lead off with a neg and then look for IOI's, make sure you escalate quickly and keep playfully insulting while laying foundation, but don't forget to agonize her friends while giving off clarity of intent, look for affirmations (her breathing) and keep communication frequency at compliance, she will shit test you so build credibility by direct game, using the disarm approach wingman. Drop anchor, then eject while eye glazing using the implicit technique, one she's lockedout nickle back her till game over.
Hello Todd. what to do when girl insults you?
Mikhail Gavrilec punch her
Ok, having multiple LTRs is a "dry spell". Why do you all not address this. Everytime I start getting decent at game I get a GF. Must be an 8 + for me. Last one lasted 4 years.... Ended 6 months ago, Now I;m rusty again.
women rush to where i shop sellers happy but i see that women are acting more freely they started flirting without talking and more women adding each day should i look needy to avoid this
Hey Todd, how do I game a girl who already has a boyfriend?
André de Samos woo her with money
What is a dry spell
not getting laid in a long time
18 numbers isn’t a lot? Time for me to raise my standards
I know right, I have never got that many in a day. Maybe 5 or 6.
how do you respond to I have a boyfriend?
Max did a video about it..
Move on to the next. She’s not interested in you. Or compliment her for it.... it’ll keep the door open
Mad thing is some girls have still given me their number or fb even when they have a boyfriend/married
Can you talk a bit about lowering your standards?
U broke it down into 20 steps
Lmao 🤣
Any advice on picking up a cougar? Or how about even a sugar mama relationship lol
Question: What's the right thing to do after you just had sex with a girl, either if you want to see her again or not but you don't wanna make her feel bad?? It would be great to know what you personally do in these situations and also some of your couches' take. Maybe text her that same night, or give her time to chase, be a little indifferent after sex and kik her out, or let her stay with you for some time...
"hey that was awesome"
Mithun Penheiro thanks man, that's something that has been confusing me a lot. I think it would be helpful for everybody to know what to do in these situations
If it's someone you'd like to see again, I'd say pretend she's already your friend and just talk about your life, watch a good movie or whatever you normally like to do that she probably would enjoy too,
If you don't want to see her again make it about you not her, and be extra flattering like: hey I'm a one time kind of guy but damn this was nice and wauw you do look amazing.
One very important thing to do after the sex it is to make her feel validated, make her think she is special for you and it was great experience and you enjoyed it very much. If you don't do that and instead become cold asshole then there is a chance she will feel bad about it and guess what.. in some modern countries she could go to the police and say it was rape and there is nothing you can do about it other than having hidden cam/audio-recorder in your place. To avoid such shit you should make her feel special and what there is a chance for LTR even if there is no chance for her actually. After having sex for some time she could lost interest herself if you do some lame things and/or just relax and whatever you want. Or you can create crazy rules for your relationships where she would be on level of slave for you and most girls will reject you, but some of them accept and you'll get someone who is ready to do anything for you.
Konstantin Udachlivii cool bro that's a really good advice, but I feel sometimes that some kind of girls if they feel too validated after sex they tend to get away and not come back. Like that we need to make them chase us in order to keep them interested. This is kinda tricky😥
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multy decade dry spell from birth = lol. Smooth. It's me
How do you lose your virginity if you're old?
Rob Smith buy a hooker