The #1 Thing That Kills Women's Attraction
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
- Why do girls go hot and cold? Why do they flake? How can they love you one moment and not seem to care at all the next? These seem like insane events, but they actually make a ton of sense. This video explains why.
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Women are loyal only to their FEELINGS
(feelings change almost every day)
Our intuition is all we got
@@kky.x stay single
@@capncrush6729I’ve been a relationship for nearly 5 years lol
More like every few seconds, minutes, hours, not even a day.
@@kky.xSo...its almost over...😐
If the interaction is not continuously being fun and flowing then it’s going down. Even being friendly or neutral is not good enough for women.
@@FreeFlow__ i know it sucks but women are very flickle and will disqualify a guy very quickly 😢
@@CommandoMaster If she only wants you at your best she isnt meant for you. Its simple as that. We take negative experiences as facts, when in reality there are faithful woman that will stick with you in hard times.
@FreeFlow__ exactly, women who leave at the drop of a hat are just a bad deal to begin with and I would recommend staying away from those women .
@@FreeFlow__”meant for you” that’s such a feminine way to view it and it’s not real. There are biological attraction triggers
There are ways to keep it fun and exciting without saying much of anything.
It's the art of anticipation, but there's not enough room in this comment section to explain it.
I know that doesn't help, but it basically consists of saying very little and looking at her in a way that conveys mystery.
Like, "What is this guy gonna do with me? Make love to me? Show me something? Hurt me? I don't know yet but it's hot"
The best part is you only have to do it a couple times and you'll instantly become an exciting guy in her mind. Just to know you're capable of making her feel that way is enough
Guys think they should just be able to be themsleves and women should be happy, but unfortunately that's not how it works. At least not in the beginning. Their need for constant excitement will simmer down after a year or two, I promise.
(unless she's young and stupid)
I find that some women want to skip the banter and flirting and go straight to the evaluation process. I'm trying to make it fun and light and they're trying to find out my resume. It's pretty annoying, because I'm basically fighting them for control of the direction of the date, and they're leading it to very boring places
Call them out for being boring then
@@user-ee1fn4vt8b i just usually know it's not going anywhere and end it
Then they are bored and leave your ass. They literally take themselves into disinterest
@@Eviad2219 they aren't bored. They're boring. It's on them
Thats when your masculine frame comes in, Thats a good thing, keep it fun and light. Make fun of her trying to figure you out and give her crumbs of what shes actually after, that will make her fall for you relatively quick
You will never be happy with anyone if you have self hatred inside. Being with the right someone can help you feel warm, appreciated and loved, but it's still up to you to purge that hatred, shame, and toxicity from your soul.
And here I am almost 40 when finally understand why I have disastrous lovelife
You just weren’t born a Chad. Chad doesn’t have to put up with this nonsense.
@@Josh-fp2qn They have their own nonsense - like getting falsely accused by bitter exes who did NOT get what they want from him... 🤣🤣🤣
Guys just get your passports instead of dealing with this nonsense from modern women
No cap
Have you actually gone abroad to prove it's different than here or are you just assuming it's better.
They are the same, but the culture is different. 1:25
They are the same after a few years in the western country. They will learn and change unless you keep them sheltered. 😅
@@GyobuTheDemonOniwait’s better for a Western man. It’s about 100x better
9:19 yea, because that is not who she initially PERCEIVED you as. This is what happens with me a lot. Because I am in entertainment, I am perceived as the party guy, guy to have "fun" with. Not that they not having fun, but if you know what it means "fun". But in talking to me, they realize my head space is set straight, so they start to drift because they did not PERCEIVE me to be a "stable" guy and that is not what they initially got interested in me for.
I remember this girl that had a crush on me, i was already in a relationship, when i broke up with my ex she lost interest in me. I guess she liked the energy i was conveying, unavailable, had options and like she couldn't have me. Maybe i projected this confidence that i didn't care if i had her or not and i had another girl to go home to, either way, women are weird
This happened to me exactly. It Sucks really hard.
They dont know what they want, and want what others have
No, it was what they call "social approval". You were taken , a big tell tale sign when a women CHOSE to be in a realationship with you is that is a HUGE sign towards other women that you are one of the good ones. So they already know that and therefore starting to test the waters, flirting with you etc it's sometimes soo innate its unconscious. And yes like you experienced the otherway is also true, when you are single its the opposite you lose that approval
Nothing kills women's attraction more than the lose of respect of the man she loves.
Can man ever respect modern high body count woman ?
it all makes fucking sense
Being nice often loses their respect so it's as always stated....they are fickle. There is a very subjective way of looking at all these variables. Combine these two and what do you get? In other words; don't ever plan to keep her.
@@jerry-mind-sky Absolutely not.
Just be yourself. As long as you are not putting on a show she will see you as you trully are and she will see that you are constantly yourself. If she does not like your true self she is not meant for you.
Period.
Find the one that likes you for what you really are.
If you need to work on yourself. Do it to better yourself.
Which version of yourself? Everyone has several different versions of themselves.
"Just be yourself"
My response:
Are you sure about that? 😈😈😈
@@AlterFunKtion Yes.
@@luisgarciab 😈😈😈🤤
@@lint8391 your version
This is why I am me, that I am not going to live up to a character that I am expected to become.
If she likes, great, I don't have to continuously 'act out' someone else.
If she doesn't like, big deal, so what, I am not getting stressed over this.
Not all men will do anything with a girl just because she is “hot” to him. There are some men like sapiosexuals that actually turn down a girl who says stupid or offensive things and he sees her as less attractive in his eyes. Those men are extremely selective and more attractive to women than men who will chase any “hot” girl.
yeah, this happened to me before. Per example, there was this hot girl really into me but i wasnt liking her personality much and didnt see things progressing so even though she was still interested i ler it go.
I got brutally dumped out of nowhere by this girl who had told me I was her soulmate. The relationship was amazing but apparently one night she was tired and I said “wel I’ll just leave you alone then”. I said that like earnestly. I’ll just give you space. But she took at as like this sassy comment and dumped me the next day. I’m saying this girl had told me two days prior that she felt like she won the lottery by being with me. But apparently there were all these type of comments that were rubbing her the wrong way all along and she never let me know about them until wham dumped. Wtf
Good for you dude. 🎉. Imagine having been with her for a decade and then finding out things like that
Sounds like her failure to communicate had some issues fester. She likely meant it whenever she expressed how lucky she was to have you, yet it's for that reason she was probably too sensitive for her own good.
Dodged a bullet
if she was ur soulmate that wouldnt have happened, youll find one
That’s what I now understand that I never understood. I met with a hot girl and I instantly wanted to be with her but the girls always said “ why, you don’t know me” I thought why we have to “know “ each other? You’re hot and what’s here to “know “
I still don't know what the number one thing according to this video is.
She could be a dismissive avoidant…
real reason: She just found a better replacement.
@@rayrwyr Eh... If this was true they would stick with those replacements, or the replacements' values would increase until she's with someone with huge stature, which is rarely the case.
Women are a puzzle that once you solve they’re yours. Personally not worth the energy they take to conquer. If she’s not chasing you don’t bother
Where do you draw the line though? From playing it smart and playing games? I at least never initiate contact. I wait for her to message me first but then should I message right away or wait a day or two to respond? I feel like that would be kind of pushing it to wait days to respond?
@@MADOUT_VPSthat whole wait a day thing is nonsense. Just make it obvious to her you actually have a life. If you’re answering quickly often she will assume you have nothing going on or you’re desperate. Be like “hey I was doing a report” or you were at the gym.
@@MADOUT_VPSalso don’t get attached quickly or ask them to be your gf. Let her make that choice and don’t be bothered if she breaks things off. Be in control of your life and success.
@@sicarius.m1 sounds great man I’m actually a busy person, fair enough.
@@sicarius.m1 oh yeah definitely I can’t be the first one to ask for a relationship that’s just asking for trouble. Sounds like sound advice man. Thanks.
7:02 this is very true. Also with the flow of the Convo very true. It’s sort of like hearing a song or a novelty. It needs to make sense to the way they feeel
A 'novelty'? We really are all f***ed : (
@@lanceabson6239I’m dead ong
Usually, the real reason is she found another more attractive guy on her dating apps. That's what happened to me when the girl cancelled our third date two hours before the date, giving a BS reason and then later admitted she found another guy.
Not always. If she's losing interest in the span of a conversation with a girl you just met, then that's fumbling the bag..nothing to do with some other guy
She is not into you and let it go. No contact and maybe she'll come around. I had girls contacting me after a month of that.
Todd, I've seen a bunch of your videos over the years. I keep being surprised how useful they are, good work man!
There's no such thing as a high caliber girl, everyone mingles within their social circle of shared values. Best thing a guy can do is just enjoy what he does, embrace the loneliness, and don't pay attention to how attractive a girl is, her beauty will absolutely do nothing for you past the first time you have sex with her. It's all a waste of time and energy.
spot on man!!! me and my fiancé split 2.5 years ago and after having all this time to work on myself etc etc everything ur saying is accurate!!!!
Can't wait to get into my next relationship so I can be like: "BABE WAKE UP‼️NEW TODD V UPLOAD" 🗣️"
on the real though, thank you for the consistent value giving Todd.
What the fuck.
8:20 this is the part where a lot of men "fail". for women it's all about their perception and once that step is not taking to escalate, she will PERCEIVE the man as low value. Or, if she saw him as a guy that gets a lot of women but is "stuck" at that stage, that perception will start to change. I on purpose mess up at this stage when I can't be bother and then they start to drift away.
What does this say about women? Why do guys need to constantly be on the rise in some way? Why can’t they settle for just good ethics.
Да ладно, специально?
Yeah well , also look at the tell tale signs during a date.. Few points what I seek are "is she flirting with/complimenting me', "is she asking a lot', and above all 'does she "accidentally" touching me" - especially the last one, if non of those happen (ofc she could be one of those shy one's) I don't escalate further .. Only reciprocate , if she touches me. I know when i lost her already so to speak.
She looses interest in you when and only when she has options. Point. Whatever you do, whoever you are, if she can reach better dudes then she dumps you.
All this bullshit about "game" and "different stages" only hinder the main reason:
50 years ago she had no options rather than her close social circle.
Nowadays she can reach every Tinder chad in 100 km radius.
That's all.
Simply don't waste time on her, go next. You game doesn't matter anymore, spin as many plates as possible at the same time, instead of investing your time into this void.
Modern dating is full of crapy mind games. Just boring. I'm done, you can have it.
Nice clarity! Great post. The 4 stages of a relationship just made a lot of light bulbs go off in my head! Looking forward to watching more of your vids.👍👍
Todd deserves a Nobel Prize in dating. This video is perfect
Hey Todd great breakdown as always. I have a question about congruence and your example of the party guy vs the stable guy. There's totally a world where party guy just did all his taxes and is really proud of himself for it and when a girl asks him what he was up to last weekend that just is the thing he did. Is there any way to convey that stable quality or is he truly locked into to whatever tiny little made up box she invents the day she meets him. Obviously any one thing can be fixed with a better frame and more empathy; but its a bigger question, its about being able to express the various dimensions of who you are, including at times our incongruences, and not feeling like we're on a tightrope
A 4 min video from Todd gives x10 more value than a 2 hr long video from Owen talking about the synergistic cosmo anbiguety of state transverse BLAH BLAH BLAH
Who is Owen?
Which course of yours covers more in detail relationship stuff??
I might make a relationship course soon, but for now, I'd star here: ua-cam.com/video/nJMtHxgub2o/v-deo.html
Todd it’d be phenomenal if you made additional videos that covered various topics concerning long term relationship management.
@@AskToddV A long term relationship course would be infinitely amazing.
@@AskToddV I really hope you do make a relationship course!
Everything you said is spot on Todd, but doesn’t it make you wonder what the dynamic process looks like with two women who are attracted to each other and escalating? It doesn’t look like any of this. So how does their seduction process work and can something be gleaned from it that would work for guys? Food for thought
They're probably just better at reading each other's energy and riding the wave. Two people that are right for each other tend to know the other person's wavelength instinctively, little to no need to play any games.
I’m a woman here trying to understand the woman I’ve been dating for 4 months. Never been w a woman before and it’s kind of a nightmare lol. The body is wayyy more complicated, the emotional demand is confusing and exhausting, but the feelings I get from her (physically and emotionally) are addictive. I agree she went straight to the evaluation after like 1 week of the good stuff (light hearted fun).
I do think women have more control than he says, though yeah a lot of it’s up front, as if we came in the door for sex that’s already a given, but women most def can screw up commitment, and being some one healing my own trauma, and trying to be a better man, it’s nuts to see a women who won’t take responsibility for her triggers, or be willing to reality test them, or be willing to work or capable of approaching some ideas that we may need to work on, as insecure attatchments have been on the increase in society. Like sure a naive guy might get taken, but I guess I have the opposite problem, I’ve learned so much about people that I see the problems a mile away. And like if I’m kinda not in the best spot I might screw you, but your sweetness dosent fix your crazy. Like I’ve dealt with enough of that
I sometimes wonder if it's even worth it .
I have a pattern where I do super well on the first date, the girl is really into me and then on the second date I flop as I get a bit insecure and flat. Is this a common phenomenon? I think it happens out of fear of messing up the good impression I made first.
Can you make a video purely about screening & evaluating?
Система Тодда. Там все есть
It has nothing to do with the offspring or anything like that. Women emotions just change constantly
Women aren't usually thinking about offspring when they judge a man, but Todd is just saying that those are the original reasons why women evolved to have those preferences on a very deep intuitive level. Even for women who don't plan to have kids, they still have brains that were molded by those evolutionary pressures.
@@Paul-yk7ds thats an excuse
@@someone7773 I think the point here is trying to understand the world so we can take effective action, not trying to blame anything or make excuses for anything
@@Paul-yk7ds then what about gay girls? We have to see it for what it is. Once you understand women you cant respect them. Throwing in excuses like oh well its not rlly their choice leaves room for respect
@@someone7773 Dude, if you "can't respect women," I'd argue that you can't respect men either. We're all f'd. Humanity sucks in many ways. Accept it and do the best you can, protect yourself and build a life you can enjoy
I think I innately understand this idea. Never heard it explained this way before but it makes sense explaining it in terms of a tribe.
Still the GOAT. Thanks for this video
It's complicated.
Fantastic talk!
I almost feel like every conversation with a woman needs to hit different points, like a sales call, until there’s a breakthrough. If she doesn’t respond to the humor, then joke about yourself, if no response, than switch to your intelectual side, then try your empathetic side talking about your dog or your charity work, if no interest, then try business talk and success, maybe something spiritually inspiring, then maybe try something more sensual.
And would you want to have to do this until you die with that person? Would women be like that of men as a whole were harsher on them and didn't tolerate the bs?
Well no because all of that has an agenda. You have to be authentic or else she'll feel it, and that's the problem. The more you're gaming with an agenda inauthentically, the more a woman can feel it. They are BETTER than you at sniffing out your motives and your scincerity, you have to understand that. Stop trying to beat them at their game and instead LEARN to make your own game (confidence, your own personality, your own brand that she loses if she turns down) stronger.
This is so accurate - thank you for sharing!
Heard this crazy story else where and kinda was an eye opener but it's sooo true haha.. Ok so some hot girl she has BPD , some serious mental illness right, so her fed up bf asked around and what do you know , her mom also had BPD, even her grandmother had BPD.. So the thing is most of the time when a girl is hot enough men would still want her , so the gene pool continues ! Crazy right , it also happens to 'Bad boys' or supposed narcissists . So like you said if the is deemed hot , it doenst matter most of the time
BPD are the best girlfriends. Initially. After a few months they leave, then come back. Usually fall in love after the first date. Proper fruit loops
This is a long term losing proposition. If the girl isn't living and speaking loyalty she's isn't staying for 10 minutes or 10 years from now.
If women play games with you, then they're not worth it
Whats attractive about a person other than surface level which is flesh and body is the character of their soul, the more depth and wisdom and positive stuff you add to your personality ,you re developing your soul and energy .non of these are needed ,work on yourself and you will raise your vibration and will also attract many things and manifest from the universe ,not everyone are for you so when someone rejects you donť get mad cause rejection is divine protection also evil and wicked things are designed to charm you ,charm and attraction are two different things , evil charm will pull you in to harm you and the good charm will attract you to them.
For the engineers out there - take the nabla operator of their flux, and hopefully you’ll get a constant value 😅😂❤
While some of this stuff is true its just exhausting, Id rather just find someone whos more direct and is less likely to complicate something that should be built on mutual respect and trust. Natural biology or not hell Id hope more have common sense to see how borderline crazy it is.
Yep, be into people who are into you. It's not hard.
Being yoursefl and not resorting to game that mutch is playing it on hard mode.
Title should be how to simp
How to potentially abandon yourself and your needs is another
All males age 16+ need to be taught this in schools.
cool dude. man i like your direct content. seen a lot of chick stuff. you hit it directly. Bravo
Men have to have social calibration, be congruent and all that. What about women? What's your opinion when women go overboard on sht tests to the point that it just sounds like an insult? Do you perceive as in insult or just a real hard test?
Thank you 🙏🙂
Women are not worth chasing this day and edge
I think the part about missing phase progression is huge, and I think logistics issues can exacerbate this. If you live far from her, for instance.
And then if she gives you an opportunity to progress and you don't, it can't taint or sink the seduction.
Todd is one of the few creators who gets it. Thank you for all the excelent information. Saludos desde México!!
What is the influence of makeup and clothing on beauty of a woman?
At wich point in game you don't have to dial anymore with flakes and girls who only looking for attention 🙄 sometimes I'm really frustrated that I'm not able to the see the sights early enough.
Bought more jewlery, todd v couldn't even get through to me. Ask a girl out just decline said it's not you it's me. At home crying watching xfiles on t.v.
Or, she just got on her phone and found a better option, duhhhhh
For that week)
I wasn't aware that women could even be interested in me in the first place...
Not worth it
Your right. A woman gets turned of by poor behaviour and immaturity. Also when a guy is clingy and needy. Broke all the time and can’t get his act together. Low value.
Some of your advice or case studies are useful, others like is is just too damn of an act for me to accept it.
Over time women become less attractive unless they are more interested and nurturing
Stay awY from the succubus
I love this video, absolutely on the nose but he forgot the other option, just ignore any woman who does all this bullshit that we have to dance around, they are out there and they're called migrant women
Todd one question, I cant find a video about it and to be honest I only trust you :D
Recently I have the problem that girls like me at the date and we are even kissing but then a few days after she loses interest and I don't think the problem was that I am beeing needy. Do you have an idea why she changes her mind after the date?
She found someone better. Move on
If you kiss too much, it kills the tension. Also, with younger chicks, kiss just a little bit in middle of date, no making out in public. With older chicks, better not to kiss until you are wherever you will actually smash; kissing isn't special to women 30 + it's just predictable
You might be boring
You have to go 90%
She will make the important 10%
Remember a girl has 50 times more options than you and so they are fickle.
It's about options.
Pretty standard
we are not born to please anyone
This video is like a rick roll parody
Guys just give up she can replace you at a swipe of her phone, she has infinite options all better than you in her DMs, your chances of winning this lottery are almost zero, game isn't going to help 😄
Thank you bro, gonna give up now.
C’mon Bro, that’s not true for everybody. If you play right and she invest into you than you hooked her up. She will always look around for better options, for sure. But why don’t try to level up your life so you have less competitors ?? Even if she walks away for another guy better than you, you can always get 10 girls as good as her eaasy, but probably better not on social media 😉
@@Manuel-dd5qkfor some guys, the notion that they have to spend their lives fighting for the approval of a woman isn’t worth their effort.
And herpes seeks to exploit the "hot =would F" mechanic....
wait, whats the ONE thing? i think my attention span is fucked
Back in the 80s, we had one goal.... get their panties off.
guys just get rich and skip this BS, seriously.
Omg I’m 36. I’m too old for this
And if you dont get rich then just dont have a relationship? Or settle for a low quality girl?
@@greenedoge5087work on money and relationships and relationship with god at the same time
Oh yeah super easy 👌
Yeah lol because bill gates and will
Smith failed with women because they don’t have a lot of money
lol this is a joke
Being a Creep.
It's only creepy if she does not find you hot.... 🤣🤣🤣
@@mrconfusion87 Creepy is as creepy does. There's plenty of pretty boy creeps out there.
How to reverse a failed shit test???
Bluepill Coper
Just go gym, earn money, get girls numbers and one will like you. As for the rest fuck em
Lol. What a shit show.
This video should be behind a paywall
Information wants to be free, and it should.
remove the _"evolutionary"_ nonsense though.
Actually, evolution is a myth, so quit throwing that term around..
Can someone tell me urgently, there is one girl i am talking with nowadays on insta and its just started before 3days, so i can widen the topic should i go for normal conversation. This girl is seriously taking over half day to reply me, and i notice that she responds in the evening only. Her time taking to reply me is pissing my attitude. Is it normal for girl to take such amount of tine if its just start of chatting on online. She comes in my relatives.
I am just done with modern woman mood swings pleaser bullshit. Its going worse day by day.. Man breaking a marraige is eveil but if a woman cheats over a husband after 10 years of marraige then its her choice.