I don't really see other Pick Up gurus talking about this super specific practical stuff anymore... s/o to Todd for continuing on what the old school Pick Up community started.
Most other Pick up guru had sellout, turn to social circle game stuff or self-improvement...only Todd and some other people still teaches and practice pickup. We should be thankful
Cause pickup was and is a scam. Girls look for who you really are. What you achieved in life and how you see yourself in othee word confident and how others see you. You dont get your shit together by learning some stupid pickup techniques or practice. You will soon wake the fuck up and will see by faking it you are not gonna make it in long run. If you dont grow as a person you don't learn any social "skill". Its a scam
@@ehsanag5837 You'd think you guys would use some common sense and extrapolate from other skills you've acquired in your life. You need both sides cooked to fry a proper burger. "I'm just gonna practice piano when I feel like it" vs. "I'm going to ignore feeling and just hammer out the scales". See the glaringly obvious? I'd suggest looking elsewhere for building confidence and spiritual groundedness than the pick up community but if you have no grasp on female psychology and especially how it pertains to cold approaching, your confidence will only take you so far.
Summary/notes Recommendations: - 3x approaches at least in 1 go - 3 days a week minimum - ex: Friday, sat, Tuesday (3x3) - reasoning: good frequency for analysis, and prevents rusty ness - warnings: - don't go out and do a ton of approaches a day like 10+, because u want to have a life LOL, and to bring good vibes to a set (so u don't hate the game) What do you focus on when you go out? - figure out what ur success criteria is (ex: get a date, or finish a full set) - make sure you succeed 30% of the time, ideally 50-70% of the time or else it'll be frustrating. Don't make it too high or else it's gonna be too boring - get to flow - TRACK RESULTS AND NOT EMOTIONS. - come up with a hypothesis for why you're failing. Then test it - change something related and see if it improves - be very specific with this change (i.e. girls aren't reciprocal of my cold approach because I come off too strong, add more pull than push for ex)
This video speaks volumes regarding fundamentals. Back in Feb 2018 I made a 30-day commitment to approach at least 1 woman per day and wrote down my results in a journal. One year later I've continued the process with amazing results by my standards. This video takes me back to the drawing board. Approaching women consistently and keeping a journal has helped immensely. Thank you Todd.
I love that "do not judge your results by your emotions ..." I am from Argentina and I think that's the most powerful advice of game, because if you judge the results incorrectly, you will never improve in any area of your entire life. We need to mantein control of our emotions or they will take control of our lives. I have to add that is important to be cold in this because if we analyze things and add what we feel to what it simply is, we will lose the north and consequently it will take much longer to solve our mistakes. This is something that I did wrong despite having taken a lot of action. And that's also why a mentor helps so much because that person is not feeling what we feel, he only sees what's wrong and does say how to fix it. Pd: JP is the CJ versión of pickup (GTA SA)
Also, I like you put the caution about approaching TOO much. Not only can lead to, as you say, becoming stale, losing interest in doing it. But it’s also the fact that that time could be better spent increasing your SMV in other ways. I’ve come across a few guys that think that all they have to do to get results is approach, approach, approach- yet they don’t even go to the gym, which I think could do a lot more for their results.
Now that I have more fbuddies than I can satisfy it would make sense to focus on health. Otherwise Pickup is like MMA. 99.99% of people get the massive increases from improving technique, and physical fitness and external factors such as advanced grooming are not worth it, iow always level up your game. And the 00.01% of people where gym counts they already have impeccable game. But gym + bad game will lead to mediocre results at best. Probably not even intermediate level, just bad.
When he said “if level 1 was too hard you’d probably give up” and I immediately thought of Dark Souls 3 and laughed. I almost did give up, but I kept trying. Eventually I beat that first “tutorial” boss and was overwhelmed in a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. It was because through repetition I started to learn the patterns of my opponent (the girl, even though seeing a girl as an opponent isn’t a good frame but you get my point) and I learned, adapted and then dominated. I imagine this is how game is. Like Dark Souls 3, it appears VERY daunting at first until you become more experienced.. then you continue on through the game excited for the next big challenge knowing you faced knee weakening adversity and anxiety before and overcame it. I guess this is like how you start with 6’s and work your way up to smoking hot 10’s to really put your skills to the test after you sharpened your sword enough.
I don't think RSD is getting behind. I just think they have a different aproach on the matter. They are more motivational, while Todd is more technical. They complement each other
Damn I needed this video I’ve been going out 3-4 times/week for the last 6 months but have just been getting drunk so I don’t feel nervous about when I approach. Not gonna lie have had some success this way but have only noticed very little improvement in my game overall and have yet to bang a 9 or 10 or even an 8. I’m gonna start holding myself to staying sober and building momentum so I can analyze my results effectively. Thanks Todd!
Analasys: welcome all results, even failiure. Don't focus on how i felt. Be thinking and study game. Form a hypothesis from my results. Why i am getting my failiures? Come up with a suggested change. What can i change? Put it into practice. Get incrementally closer to perfection but accept it will never be perfect. Make tiny changes and twikes and measure the effectiveness.
If I could get 1% better everyday for a year, I will be 3800% or 38x better by the end of the year. Wow, that statement just opened up my eyes to a whole new perspective. Great video
If anyone is reading this. There is also very practical addition to the 3x3 approaches a week routine that Todd mention, in a new video, that I found very useful. He mentioned that 2 out of the 3 days can be replaced by dates/instant dates/longs sets. But you have to have atleast one day where you do your 3 approaches that week. So for e.g. you could have 2 dates and a day with 3 approaches a week. Or you could have 1 instand date and 2 days with 3 aproaches for example. I found this helps to keep you from burning out. Motivates you to actualy get dates because they are more relaxed (burn less social calories) and they dont take more of your time on top of the 9 approaches you are already doing. It also motivates you to stay in set and push for instand dates and long sets. All of this is great becuase these things (atlest for me) are the ones that get you results the most. If you wanna hear exatctly how he said it, the video is "Advanced Conversation Techniques that Actually Work"
I think you're the most reliable pick up "guru", I've never seen a video explaining how much you should go out an approaching, it feels like a workout schedule and it makes approaching more tangible for me, I think I'm gonna buy your program, as soon as I get the money for that
@@antonsaraste4726 it's crazy cuz still to this day most girls I stop on the streets are impressed by the fact that I stopped her, they say "this never happens and even when it does it's a corny way...this actually shows a big majority of guys just don't use this...most people I see dating either met a friend of a friend or dating apps (except night club approaches which dont count in this way)
I had to watch this video 3 times 1st time i picked up 1st point (3×3) 2 nd time i picked up 3rd point (analysis) and now I'm picking up 2nd point (making it engaging). Thanks todd.
Love this video! Really made me pause and reflect (wrote field reports) on the few hap-hazard successes I've had in the past and realising that I actually had those successes because I was unknowingly doing good game - still made some mistakes, but the game was solid!
GOD DAM IT TODD ... YOU REALLY ARE A GREAT TEACHER!!! Seriously, few people are so very talented at their trade. Thank you kindly for sharing all the valuable content from all of your hard work learning these lessons.
I find it almost impossible to analyse results, because it just seems that the only variable that matters is out of my control. And it's HER! Personally, I get rejected early in set quite often. Either an instant backturn after I say 'hi', or it'll be a girl who is just giving me NOTHING after I open and talk and she clearly wants me to go away, but she's too polite to say so, so she just gives me one-word-answers and doesn't contribute at all until I run out of things to say. I'm in the UK. We don't tend to talk to strangers lol. HOWEVER, if I open a girl and she talks back for a few minutes and asks me things etc, I can usually get the lay. It just happens. I'ts easy. Why? Because she likes me. And THAT'S why she was receptive to my open. I feel like with the sets where I get rejected, I could have Tyler and Todd and Mystery and whoever else in my ear telling me what to say, and it wouldn't make any difference.
Think of the outcome of the interaction as a function of many variables, many of which are within your control (== your game) and some of which aren't. The reason you can't get the girls that "don't like you" is probably bc you are affected by the way she acts, thus failing a very common shittest aka the bitchy/unavailable front many girls put on. Solution: be grounded, unaffected by anything, especially her reactions, which however doesn't mean being uncalibrated.
@@RonnieColeman80 2 years later how do you feel now out of interest? I've got laid lots more BUT that issue is exactly the same. e.g I only bang the girls who are clearly somewhat receptive. If a girl clearly isn't into me/doesn't talk back etc, then no amount of game helps. I think 'game' isn't what it is sold to us as. It's more a way to more efficient bang the 'yes girls' as opposed to somehow making the 'no girls' attracted to you. Even infields prove this if you watch closely, tbh. Basically 'attraction material' (negs, teases, self amusement, pushpull etc) is simply not fit for purpose.
Every Todd video after a couple of minutes I'm like; "Shit I'm doing that too! I'm glad he's adressing this. This is a great video!" Just almost every video..
The one thing Todd isn’t factoring in is the amount of time, energy, money and health you are sacrificing to go out 3 or more times a week. It’s actually more efficient to go out once.. I see the point about game being better when it’s spread out, but for the normal person we can’t be out at the bars or what not that often.. I’ll stick to my once a week maximum. Unless he’s counting the gym or grocery store no way I’m hitting the bars 3 times a week lol
I never go out just to hit on girls. I hit on girls 10 times a day without going to bars if i wanned. At the supermarket, at the gym, work or just through the streets going in these places. I hit on the same girls 2 or 3 times if i see them again. I just dont be a jerk about it
Do you even need to do ‘sessions’? I see plenty of girls worth approaching just by going about my day. And it also feels more authentic, masculine and empowering to like meet girls WHILE being on my purpose, as opposed to going out specifically to try to meet girls. I mean an alpha natural would have better things to do with his time right?
sessions can be are easier because you can get in the flow, warm up properly and spam approach. If you think you can approach just by going about your day, do it! That's way harder and if you can do that you've reached an awesome level of game.
Great video Todd ! Most practical and analytical video on the subject. I am curious , would you talk about your Poker Career as well? How did you start and end ? For myself im very interested in both area. Thanks again Todd for the great videos !
I have brought home some low SMV women and had a great time. I feel like the super hotties get mad that I think I even have a chance. I also have low self esteem from childhood trauma so I’m working on how I present myself. Nice clothes and a good attitude make a big difference in how women respond to me. If I feel good about myself, the rejection doesn’t slow me down and I feel like she is missing out. Hard to do that when I’m spiraling in shame and depression, so I’m prioritizing mental health to improve game.
It's both and very nuanced depending on the girl and if you're going to be seeing her often(at work/school/social circle) or just that one time / night. A big factor is how secure as well as outgoing she is. The more secure the more feining disinterest can work in your favor to get her to like you. Those are always the most fun especially if the girl is rather intelligent. Get her chasing you and keep her wondering pretty much until the very moment you put it in. Lol
What if your biggest sticking point is going out somewhere public with the goal of "meeting girls".. i feel so creepy and akward being out in public with this goal instead of when i'm just out in public because i have a more "normal" goal like working out or going to the store etc..
@@dragonninja598000 I don't go out in my daily life, i also don't like doing 2 things at once, also this comment was 2 years ago and i have since given up on girls :D
One thing to observe is that a key component of what makes sociopaths so great at game (in addition, of course, to total lack of social fear or anxiety, etc.) is the fact that they view the chase itself as part of the overall goal, rather than just a pain in the ass process that's necessary in order to get laid. They revel in and derive satisfaction from the approach, the manipulation, the deception, and THEN the actual sexual conquest -- and the ability to ride that wave until they're found out. As fucked up and Machiavellian as it might sound, PUAs NEED to find a way to incorporate this into game in order to improve dramatically.
20 apporaches .. 10 approaches .. that quite terrifying just to imagine. That's the quantity approach. Get as many blow offs as possible. Who has more blow offs to withstand is more badass. Maybe if somebody have absolutely terrible approach anxiety it might be useful for the start but if your interactions go at least somewhere you get few approaches at most unless you want to game all day. For me one approach a day would be just fine if you get at least 20min good interaction with a phone number, still 100x better than 20 blow offs. However that's a minimal interaction, Ideally you want to have ONE hour interaction and a pull. I have this one rule I learned the hard way .. yes failure is million times better than nothing but win is million times better than failure. You should always go for win even if that would be a very small win and always avoid failures but not at the cost of stagnation or doing nothing. I think unless you are really creepy weirdo hard case you should be able to talk to anybody for 20min that's not that hard to learn. You try to get as far as possible in that interaction not start again over and over just to get your "sets" for the day. That can subconsciously self-sabotage you.
Don't worry about chasing girls and getting game, you will meet better people by becoming a better person and things between you and someone will naturally happen
How do you focus on achieving your goals and living your purpose as opposed to focusing on constantly qualifying yourself and seeking validation from others? What is the root cause of this issue? I know the majority of guys suffer from this. Thanks
@@icejumperke I guess you're from another planet. ;) This has to do with compound interest. A 1% increase everyday actually equates to a 3,800% increase after 365 days. "If you do 1% more than someone else every day, you will still just have done 1% more than than the other person after 365 or any number of days. However, if you improve over someone else by 1% every day, you will have exceeded the other person by approximately 3800% after 365 days, since 1.01365=38, rounded off to the nearest whole number. That’s compound interest. That’s why people who constantly focus on improving rather than optimizing on their existing skills are more successful in the long run." -Håkon Hapnes Strand www.quora.com/Is-this-mathematically-valid-if-you-just-do-1-a-day-more-than-everyone-else-then-you-will-do-3800-more-than-everyone-in-a-years-time
you might answered this a little bit in a previous video, but i m still not sure about this stuff: How to start gaming as an 18 year old virgin? i kind of feel like embarass myself in bed, so i m not sure if i should wait for "the right one" (or atleast nearly) which understands the issue, or just take the first one i can. Besides that, shall I tell her i m a virgin or just do it with out mentioning? I m really glad this channel exists and would be happy if you realise this question, since i feel like i m not the only one with this kind of problem.
develop skills to where you can perform them subconsciously, so you just "flow" instead of thinking about what you're doing. Also, meditate, it teaches you how to put your mind into that focused state
@@danielsuelzle4364 Bro, I just discovered this in work while I had some time, meditation is key cause you got to know what for you're there, it keeps you stable
Question: I often treat dm’s on dating/social media apps like an in person interaction, and I end up shooting myself in the foot because it’s harder to convey that I am teasing and being flirty strictly through text. I’ll disqualify or nag and sometimes it works but often it doesn’t. Whats your advice for dm’s especially before you meet/hangout with the girl?? Hey Todd, you’re killing it, and the content is literally life changing, thank you!
Cam don’t dm any girls on Instagram... it’s puts them on a pedestal and therefore the interest in you won’t be much... the main thing to get them attracted is in person sexual tension not the words... eye contact body contact and body language etc...
Thanx todd so i am getting back into game after experiencing major burn out like i didn't have any motivation and now i am going to be going out and trying to hammer this in it will be hard BUT i look forward to the learning experience and i thought to myself ahh so i am getting these reactions of which are mixed so what can i do to change that and i'm slowly working on it now and this vid just helps me even more thank you.
Serious question here. If you approach girls often in the same city centre, how do you not get labelled as the weird guy? People aren't stupid and they know what you're doing, I know it's different for someone who is very good at pick ups, but as a beginner people will just think you're a creep going around alone bothering people.
Very interesting video. But it will be very interesting to know how interpret girls reactions. For example how you can interpret when girl instantly hates you after good interaction before. Is this something you did right now, or you lead to it? Thank you.
I have a hard time trying to figure out what you're actually saying in this old video my brain I guess is just not working on trying to figure out what you're saying
1% better in a day is quite a bit, it's a huge number, even if it doesn't sound like it. That'd actually be kinda challenging and maybe even impossible with a full time job or studying to do for a full year. Still, you don't need to do that much to be twice as good in a year, you'd only need around 0.3% improvement each day from your Day 0 self, which should still be difficult, but more plausible. No slacking allowed on the job of self improvement, eh? If you wanna improve even by "tiny" 0.3% a day you'd still need to try and learn something new every day, but it wouldn't have to have much of an impact on who you are. You're welcome. ~The guy who overthinks percentages.
@@adunnou2075 not every 'she blocked me' story is the same. What if I told you that I blocked her first because she was my crush and she flaked on me? Then she blocked after I unblocked her which was 5 months after the incident. So yes, you calling me a creep is perfectly suitable. Thank you.
If she's unwilling to speak to you in person just let it go. Persistence at this point is setting yourself up for a stalker charge. Just exercise patience and let her come to you.
I don't really see other Pick Up gurus talking about this super specific practical stuff anymore... s/o to Todd for continuing on what the old school Pick Up community started.
stealth797 True man. This is gold. So intuitive yet so nuanced 🙌🏼 💎
Most other Pick up guru had sellout, turn to social circle game stuff or self-improvement...only Todd and some other people still teaches and practice pickup. We should be thankful
Cause pickup was and is a scam. Girls look for who you really are. What you achieved in life and how you see yourself in othee word confident and how others see you. You dont get your shit together by learning some stupid pickup techniques or practice. You will soon wake the fuck up and will see by faking it you are not gonna make it in long run. If you dont grow as a person you don't learn any social "skill". Its a scam
@@ehsanag5837 You'd think you guys would use some common sense and extrapolate from other skills you've acquired in your life. You need both sides cooked to fry a proper burger. "I'm just gonna practice piano when I feel like it" vs. "I'm going to ignore feeling and just hammer out the scales". See the glaringly obvious?
I'd suggest looking elsewhere for building confidence and spiritual groundedness than the pick up community but if you have no grasp on female psychology and especially how it pertains to cold approaching, your confidence will only take you so far.
@@Audikontroller1 e.g give her some attention and don't always respond or answer right away and make her think about you. Isn't that part of it?
Summary/notes
Recommendations:
- 3x approaches at least in 1 go
- 3 days a week minimum
- ex: Friday, sat, Tuesday (3x3)
- reasoning: good frequency for analysis, and prevents rusty ness
- warnings:
- don't go out and do a ton of approaches a day like 10+, because u want to have a life LOL, and to bring good vibes to a set (so u don't hate the game)
What do you focus on when you go out?
- figure out what ur success criteria is (ex: get a date, or finish a full set)
- make sure you succeed 30% of the time, ideally 50-70% of the time or else it'll be frustrating. Don't make it too high or else it's gonna be too boring - get to flow
- TRACK RESULTS AND NOT EMOTIONS.
- come up with a hypothesis for why you're failing. Then test it - change something related and see if it improves
- be very specific with this change (i.e. girls aren't reciprocal of my cold approach because I come off too strong, add more pull than push for ex)
This video speaks volumes regarding fundamentals. Back in Feb 2018 I made a 30-day commitment to approach at least 1 woman per day and wrote down my results in a journal. One year later I've continued the process with amazing results by my standards. This video takes me back to the drawing board. Approaching women consistently and keeping a journal has helped immensely. Thank you Todd.
bro i would like to hear more on these experiences if thats cool with you
Me too
I wanna hear how you did a 30 day challenge in February
@@arvinkang7104 bro 💀😭
@@arvinkang7104 what in February ?
I love that "do not judge your results by your emotions ..." I am from Argentina and I think that's the most powerful advice of game, because if you judge the results incorrectly, you will never improve in any area of your entire life. We need to mantein control of our emotions or they will take control of our lives. I have to add that is important to be cold in this because if we analyze things and add what we feel to what it simply is, we will lose the north and consequently it will take much longer to solve our mistakes. This is something that I did wrong despite having taken a lot of action. And that's also why a mentor helps so much because that person is not feeling what we feel, he only sees what's wrong and does say how to fix it. Pd: JP is the CJ versión of pickup (GTA SA)
Raro ver a alguien de mi pais viendo esto, te parece que estas mejor despues de 8 meses?
@@facundojurisich743 somos mas de lo que pensamos 😁😊🇦🇷
Also, I like you put the caution about approaching TOO much. Not only can lead to, as you say, becoming stale, losing interest in doing it. But it’s also the fact that that time could be better spent increasing your SMV in other ways. I’ve come across a few guys that think that all they have to do to get results is approach, approach, approach- yet they don’t even go to the gym, which I think could do a lot more for their results.
Stephen Hughes was inlokkt myself to only a couple approaches a night and make them really count
@cp404405 won‘t Happen Buddy
Now that I have more fbuddies than I can satisfy it would make sense to focus on health. Otherwise Pickup is like MMA. 99.99% of people get the massive increases from improving technique, and physical fitness and external factors such as advanced grooming are not worth it, iow always level up your game. And the 00.01% of people where gym counts they already have impeccable game. But gym + bad game will lead to mediocre results at best. Probably not even intermediate level, just bad.
When he said “if level 1 was too hard you’d probably give up” and I immediately thought of Dark Souls 3 and laughed. I almost did give up, but I kept trying. Eventually I beat that first “tutorial” boss and was overwhelmed in a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. It was because through repetition I started to learn the patterns of my opponent (the girl, even though seeing a girl as an opponent isn’t a good frame but you get my point) and I learned, adapted and then dominated. I imagine this is how game is. Like Dark Souls 3, it appears VERY daunting at first until you become more experienced.. then you continue on through the game excited for the next big challenge knowing you faced knee weakening adversity and anxiety before and overcame it. I guess this is like how you start with 6’s and work your way up to smoking hot 10’s to really put your skills to the test after you sharpened your sword enough.
Lmao perfect analogy
RSD will be out of business in 3 years max if Todd keeps pumping out this level of content. Incredible.
They are out of the pick up game now.
They created a cult , its like a religion . Brain washing .
I don't think RSD is getting behind. I just think they have a different aproach on the matter. They are more motivational, while Todd is more technical. They complement each other
@@rafaelb1756 Whats RSD please?
@@Catholic-Redpilled-Spaniard RSD stands for Real Social Dynamics. It's a group of PUAs. Todd is a former member of RSD
He basically explained Deep Reinforcement Learning for humans
Lmao true
This was so accurate lol
hes to smart
The fact that this comment has 160 likes makes me wonder about guys like me in ML field. Maybe we should start our own PUA conference some day
@@ritwikt7617 yeah right?
Damn I needed this video I’ve been going out 3-4 times/week for the last 6 months but have just been getting drunk so I don’t feel nervous about when I approach. Not gonna lie have had some success this way but have only noticed very little improvement in my game overall and have yet to bang a 9 or 10 or even an 8. I’m gonna start holding myself to staying sober and building momentum so I can analyze my results effectively. Thanks Todd!
This man just explained Machine Learning to me while talking about chicks! Legend!
He talked business to me as well 😅
Analasys: welcome all results, even failiure. Don't focus on how i felt. Be thinking and study game.
Form a hypothesis from my results. Why i am getting my failiures?
Come up with a suggested change. What can i change?
Put it into practice.
Get incrementally closer to perfection but accept it will never be perfect.
Make tiny changes and twikes and measure the effectiveness.
ti approachvash li
@@smartass751 da
Thats creepy as fuck what you just said
If I could get 1% better everyday for a year, I will be 3800% or 38x better by the end of the year. Wow, that statement just opened up my eyes to a whole new perspective. Great video
Im not good at math but how did you get these crazy
numbers ?
This is like so obvious, However i have never applied it or think about it. Thank you todd for making game easier 💕.
alonc wolonc nigga wassup with those hearts kinda sus
@@DaeDaeTV 🤣🤣
Lmfao
@@DaeDaeTV lmaooooooo
@@DaeDaeTV ahahaha
10/10 Darksouls developers wouldn't like the content 😂
Mats Herzog This is the dumbest joke I’ve read all day, and I absolutely love it. 😂
Lol I don't get it can you explain?👀😂
Vilethorn dark souls is known to be one og the hardest games that exist, and you will most likely get insainly frustrated and quit😏
If anyone is reading this. There is also very practical addition to the 3x3 approaches a week routine that Todd mention, in a new video, that I found very useful. He mentioned that 2 out of the 3 days can be replaced by dates/instant dates/longs sets. But you have to have atleast one day where you do your 3 approaches that week. So for e.g. you could have 2 dates and a day with 3 approaches a week. Or you could have 1 instand date and 2 days with 3 aproaches for example. I found this helps to keep you from burning out. Motivates you to actualy get dates because they are more relaxed (burn less social calories) and they dont take more of your time on top of the 9 approaches you are already doing. It also motivates you to stay in set and push for instand dates and long sets. All of this is great becuase these things (atlest for me) are the ones that get you results the most. If you wanna hear exatctly how he said it, the video is "Advanced Conversation Techniques that Actually Work"
I think you're the most reliable pick up "guru", I've never seen a video explaining how much you should go out an approaching, it feels like a workout schedule and it makes approaching more tangible for me, I think I'm gonna buy your program, as soon as I get the money for that
If i approach that amount of girls every girl will know me in my area in a month.. 😂
So i would need to move to go on doing it.. 😂
For me in a week lol
Surely you have other nearby towns or cities?
@@kungtony yeah
ich fahr jedes mal ewig mim zug weil ich auch in so na kleinstadt leb
mike at squatingcassanova explained this, in order to get good with cold approaches, 1 of the 4 key element is to be in a big city.
Frequency: don't do it like a chore and a job. Enjoy it.
Like Buddhists like to say: "Всичко е заради курвите".
There's a thin line to that on the other hand: this is a survival skill. Learn pickup or your life will be miserable, simple as that.
@@antonsaraste4726 it's crazy cuz still to this day most girls I stop on the streets are impressed by the fact that I stopped her, they say "this never happens and even when it does it's a corny way...this actually shows a big majority of guys just don't use this...most people I see dating either met a friend of a friend or dating apps (except night club approaches which dont count in this way)
@cp404405 i can understand it…are you italian by any chance ?
@cp404405 lol cuz this « I wont open up to u unless I know you and your whole list of friends » is so italian lol (and I live in italy)
The Toddfather is the thinking man’s pimp!
This is pretty simple. It's like running a business. You do the work, you stay engaged, you analyze results
You either Win or you Learn
I had to watch this video 3 times 1st time i picked up 1st point (3×3) 2 nd time i picked up 3rd point (analysis) and now I'm picking up 2nd point (making it engaging). Thanks todd.
Love this video! Really made me pause and reflect (wrote field reports) on the few hap-hazard successes I've had in the past and realising that I actually had those successes because I was unknowingly doing good game - still made some mistakes, but the game was solid!
You creep fucking is not a video game you wont make it by this fucked up mentality. Pickup is a scam
I would love for Todd to do a video on “Emotional Control” and how a “good” night out should feel the same as a “bad” night out.
You should be going out to have fun primarily, girls are the plus on the night.
Henry Oreyomi girls can't be the plus if you're going out to talk to girls
MentalFreedom mmm Todd’s certainly an expert on that
Such a simple but gold concept. Todd the god!
GOD DAM IT TODD ... YOU REALLY ARE A GREAT TEACHER!!! Seriously, few people are so very talented at their trade. Thank you kindly for sharing all the valuable content from all of your hard work learning these lessons.
Todd you are literally a legend, thanks.
Thank you profesor Vandehey!
you are teaching it like it's no other than working out or studying other language. Which makes totally sense! Great stuff!
Damn this guy turns pick up into a science hahah
Criteria for success
1. Insta date
2. Number close
3. Rejected (embracing)
Just what I needed thanks Todd your the best instructor and person there is in the pick up community
before opening video. I knew this is a amazing video! and seen no dislikes at all! Going so good in direction mr Todd ! great really
One of the best videos from one of the best pickup coaches out there. I've been doing game for a few years now and I find this video incredibly useful
UNDERSTODD COACH
getonurkneesOH Todd puns always the best 😂
I find it almost impossible to analyse results, because it just seems that the only variable that matters is out of my control. And it's HER! Personally, I get rejected early in set quite often. Either an instant backturn after I say 'hi', or it'll be a girl who is just giving me NOTHING after I open and talk and she clearly wants me to go away, but she's too polite to say so, so she just gives me one-word-answers and doesn't contribute at all until I run out of things to say. I'm in the UK. We don't tend to talk to strangers lol. HOWEVER, if I open a girl and she talks back for a few minutes and asks me things etc, I can usually get the lay. It just happens. I'ts easy. Why? Because she likes me. And THAT'S why she was receptive to my open. I feel like with the sets where I get rejected, I could have Tyler and Todd and Mystery and whoever else in my ear telling me what to say, and it wouldn't make any difference.
I feel you man, but maybe I'm just a beginner
Think of the outcome of the interaction as a function of many variables, many of which are within your control (== your game) and some of which aren't. The reason you can't get the girls that "don't like you" is probably bc you are affected by the way she acts, thus failing a very common shittest aka the bitchy/unavailable front many girls put on. Solution: be grounded, unaffected by anything, especially her reactions, which however doesn't mean being uncalibrated.
I’m wondering if your mindset while approaching is causing some of your problem here.
@@RonnieColeman80 2 years later how do you feel now out of interest? I've got laid lots more BUT that issue is exactly the same. e.g I only bang the girls who are clearly somewhat receptive. If a girl clearly isn't into me/doesn't talk back etc, then no amount of game helps. I think 'game' isn't what it is sold to us as. It's more a way to more efficient bang the 'yes girls' as opposed to somehow making the 'no girls' attracted to you. Even infields prove this if you watch closely, tbh. Basically 'attraction material' (negs, teases, self amusement, pushpull etc) is simply not fit for purpose.
Its called black pill
Yea, studies show that hitting your muscles at least twice per week, every 48 hours or so will stimulate muscle protein synthesis..
Whenever I cross this thumbnail, I see, "How to Get Food Fast".
same, I guess pussy counts tho
Every Todd video after a couple of minutes I'm like; "Shit I'm doing that too! I'm glad he's adressing this. This is a great video!" Just almost every video..
Lol facts
Symha Syn it’s really empowering to hear it from the source
This is the most powerful video in all dating coaching
"front loaded toward the start of the week" LMAO
To get good game faster go out and approach more. Implement what you’ve seen in the videos and you’ll be a master at in no time.
The one thing Todd isn’t factoring in is the amount of time, energy, money and health you are sacrificing to go out 3 or more times a week. It’s actually more efficient to go out once.. I see the point about game being better when it’s spread out, but for the normal person we can’t be out at the bars or what not that often.. I’ll stick to my once a week maximum. Unless he’s counting the gym or grocery store no way I’m hitting the bars 3 times a week lol
Aww how cute lol
I never go out just to hit on girls. I hit on girls 10 times a day without going to bars if i wanned. At the supermarket, at the gym, work or just through the streets going in these places. I hit on the same girls 2 or 3 times if i see them again. I just dont be a jerk about it
I agree in all of this. But this is where you and I differ Todd.
I welcome feelings, not see them as obstacles.
Listen to your gut. Act on it.
brothajack1993 that’s not what he meant but nice quote
Your gut is not your emotions. Your gut is your "soul". Emotions are from your ego. IMO
Literally walked around downtown like a tool not approaching... First day ever but fuck haha it's kind of funny to think that I suck this bad 😂.
Todd maybe some people will realise that this model can be used for purposes other than pick up. Excellent work.
it is about getting in state, for this you need the first three approaches to get things going (sacrifce the lamb)
Do you even need to do ‘sessions’? I see plenty of girls worth approaching just by going about my day. And it also feels more authentic, masculine and empowering to like meet girls WHILE being on my purpose, as opposed to going out specifically to try to meet girls. I mean an alpha natural would have better things to do with his time right?
sessions can be are easier because you can get in the flow, warm up properly and spam approach. If you think you can approach just by going about your day, do it! That's way harder and if you can do that you've reached an awesome level of game.
Is it not alpha to go talk to girls when you want to talk to girls? Is it not alpha to try to push yourself?
@@napoleon_bonaparte2462 alphas dont watch "how to get good with girls" videos on the internet
Great video Todd ! Most practical and analytical video on the subject.
I am curious , would you talk about your Poker Career as well? How did you start and end ?
For myself im very interested in both area.
Thanks again Todd for the great videos !
Me: approaches them, "hey, whats up". them: "hi" . then thats it
😂
I have brought home some low SMV women and had a great time. I feel like the super hotties get mad that I think I even have a chance. I also have low self esteem from childhood trauma so I’m working on how I present myself. Nice clothes and a good attitude make a big difference in how women respond to me. If I feel good about myself, the rejection doesn’t slow me down and I feel like she is missing out. Hard to do that when I’m spiraling in shame and depression, so I’m prioritizing mental health to improve game.
One of the best videos in the entire internet
I don’t feel intimidated talking to beautiful girls, the problem is I don’t like going out.
force yourself until you find one and you can go back in your cave with her lol
Day game? Do it your daily life. Done.
Not Geting Girls your Hole Life, or Going Out Despite you Not Liking It. Your choice...
Just imagine that big fat ass bent over your bed, you gonna start feeling like it now.
@@luhrare 😂 you wish
Question: How does attraction work? Do girls just initially like you or they’re indifferent and you make them like you?
This!
It's both and very nuanced depending on the girl and if you're going to be seeing her often(at work/school/social circle) or just that one time / night.
A big factor is how secure as well as outgoing she is. The more secure the more feining disinterest can work in your favor to get her to like you. Those are always the most fun especially if the girl is rather intelligent. Get her chasing you and keep her wondering pretty much until the very moment you put it in. Lol
Fuck that, dont make them like you, make them love you
@@chief3796 I see you watched that video also haha
A little bit of both
I love this guys channel, he gives you straight game no bullshit.
What if your biggest sticking point is going out somewhere public with the goal of "meeting girls".. i feel so creepy and akward being out in public with this goal instead of when i'm just out in public because i have a more "normal" goal like working out or going to the store etc..
Then make it your goal to just say hi or introduce yourself. Once that is normal, make it your goal to get a number.
I can relate with you same here
You can just approach people going about your daily life. Like while in line to get your coffee etc. The point is to make it apart of your life.
@@dragonninja598000 I don't go out in my daily life, i also don't like doing 2 things at once, also this comment was 2 years ago and i have since given up on girls :D
Why does this sound like a briefing before a spec ops mission like huh
I love the analogies you give Todd ! Dope video.
Then what's the challenge progression? I don't have very social friends, should i be practicing alone in my city?
Yeah sure 😅
Why the others should motivate you to do things you wanna do?
Out of all the "Game" teachers this is rock solid material, what you're teaching you're are teaching for free, shit man, this is grade A material
Some impressive rounding. completely forgot about the extra 15 days in a year when Gaming XD
One thing to observe is that a key component of what makes sociopaths so great at game (in addition, of course, to total lack of social fear or anxiety, etc.) is the fact that they view the chase itself as part of the overall goal, rather than just a pain in the ass process that's necessary in order to get laid. They revel in and derive satisfaction from the approach, the manipulation, the deception, and THEN the actual sexual conquest -- and the ability to ride that wave until they're found out. As fucked up and Machiavellian as it might sound, PUAs NEED to find a way to incorporate this into game in order to improve dramatically.
This is a Masterclass in PU. Great Video Todd.
Easily one of the best if not the best at teaching pickup. Respect.
Can anyone tell me why my friend sent me this video?? And what game are we talking about??
Most importantly have fun!!!
Румен Бонев well said
20 apporaches .. 10 approaches .. that quite terrifying just to imagine. That's the quantity approach.
Get as many blow offs as possible. Who has more blow offs to withstand is more badass.
Maybe if somebody have absolutely terrible approach anxiety it might be useful for the start but if your interactions go at least somewhere you get few approaches at most unless you want to game all day.
For me one approach a day would be just fine if you get at least 20min good interaction with a phone number, still 100x better than 20 blow offs. However that's a minimal interaction, Ideally you want to have ONE hour interaction and a pull.
I have this one rule I learned the hard way .. yes failure is million times better than nothing but win is million times better than failure. You should always go for win even if that would be a very small win and always avoid failures but not at the cost of stagnation or doing nothing.
I think unless you are really creepy weirdo hard case you should be able to talk to anybody for 20min that's not that hard to learn. You try to get as far as possible in that interaction not start again over and over just to get your "sets" for the day. That can subconsciously self-sabotage you.
20min before blow off? It sounds like you wait for long time before you show intent.
This is pure gold. Three thumbs up
preaching good stuff Todd good meeting ya at victorian the other week my guy
Wow, THAT'S content, awesome Todd!👍🏼
This man truly is a genius
Don't worry about chasing girls and getting game, you will meet better people by becoming a better person and things between you and someone will naturally happen
How do you focus on achieving your goals and living your purpose as opposed to focusing on constantly qualifying yourself and seeking validation from others? What is the root cause of this issue? I know the majority of guys suffer from this. Thanks
In Todd’s world, a year consists of 380 days. Damn, nice!
Lol, it’s because 1% every day compounds.
@Frederick0220 - Yes, well.. That would be 365%.. Or am I from another planet where there’s another period of time in a year..?
@@icejumperke I guess you're from another planet. ;) This has to do with compound interest. A 1% increase everyday actually equates to a 3,800% increase after 365 days.
"If you do 1% more than someone else every day, you will still just have done 1% more than than the other person after 365 or any number of days. However, if you improve over someone else by 1% every day, you will have exceeded the other person by approximately 3800% after 365 days, since 1.01365=38, rounded off to the nearest whole number. That’s compound interest. That’s why people who constantly focus on improving rather than optimizing on their existing skills are more successful in the long run."
-Håkon Hapnes Strand
www.quora.com/Is-this-mathematically-valid-if-you-just-do-1-a-day-more-than-everyone-else-then-you-will-do-3800-more-than-everyone-in-a-years-time
I was looking for a comment on this, thanks for clarifying
No probs, fam!
you might answered this a little bit in a previous video, but i m still not sure about this stuff:
How to start gaming as an 18 year old virgin? i kind of feel like embarass myself in bed, so i m not sure if i should wait for "the right one" (or atleast nearly) which understands the issue, or just take the first one i can. Besides that, shall I tell her i m a virgin or just do it with out mentioning?
I m really glad this channel exists and would be happy if you realise this question, since i feel like i m not the only one with this kind of problem.
Great break down friend... Very clear
Focus: how to get into flow? Define realistic challenges.
develop skills to where you can perform them subconsciously, so you just "flow" instead of thinking about what you're doing. Also, meditate, it teaches you how to put your mind into that focused state
@@danielsuelzle4364 thanks!!
@@danielsuelzle4364 Bro, I just discovered this in work while I had some time, meditation is key cause you got to know what for you're there, it keeps you stable
Thanks, I put all possible metrics on google sheet now for schedule and results
Most guys don't do game or do cold approach pickup, that's what it looks like, and I think it's true
Question: I often treat dm’s on dating/social media apps like an in person interaction, and I end up shooting myself in the foot because it’s harder to convey that I am teasing and being flirty strictly through text. I’ll disqualify or nag and sometimes it works but often it doesn’t. Whats your advice for dm’s especially before you meet/hangout with the girl??
Hey Todd, you’re killing it, and the content is literally life changing, thank you!
Cam don’t dm any girls on Instagram... it’s puts them on a pedestal and therefore the interest in you won’t be much... the main thing to get them attracted is in person sexual tension not the words... eye contact body contact and body language etc...
Only hard thing about this is I live in a small town 😕 not a lot of people I don’t know to pick up lol
Todd your chanel is just pure gold😍
Thank you !! This is really cool and clear!!
Nobody else explain the game that well !!
i really learn a lot from your videos. Youre just motivating. Thanks man
Dope content Todd! That was crazy cool!
Thanx todd so i am getting back into game after experiencing major burn out like i didn't have any motivation and now i am going to be going out and trying to hammer this in it will be hard BUT i look forward to the learning experience and i thought to myself ahh so i am getting these reactions of which are mixed so what can i do to change that and i'm slowly working on it now and this vid just helps me even more thank you.
When you say go out, besides clubs and bars, what other places are good to practice your game?
Malls
Is this Video exclusively on Night Game? How does it merge with Day Game, Online and Social Circle?
Think about it. The unit used is 'approaches'. So day or night. Not social. And online doesnt count, "Approaching" is too easy.
Serious question here. If you approach girls often in the same city centre, how do you not get labelled as the weird guy? People aren't stupid and they know what you're doing, I know it's different for someone who is very good at pick ups, but as a beginner people will just think you're a creep going around alone bothering people.
What I do is audio record my sets listen to them and make adjustments to what I say and even read up on how to dress
Body language also plays a big role imo
This piece of advice is gold. Thank you
Very interesting video. But it will be very interesting to know how interpret girls reactions. For example how you can interpret when girl instantly hates you after good interaction before. Is this something you did right now, or you lead to it? Thank you.
Thank you
The OODA loop of learning game. Nice!
Genius. Thanks for bringing back clear instructions and truth in a sea of bullshit.
I have a hard time trying to figure out what you're actually saying in this old video my brain I guess is just not working on trying to figure out what you're saying
Really informative and useful video 👌
1% better in a day is quite a bit, it's a huge number, even if it doesn't sound like it. That'd actually be kinda challenging and maybe even impossible with a full time job or studying to do for a full year. Still, you don't need to do that much to be twice as good in a year, you'd only need around 0.3% improvement each day from your Day 0 self, which should still be difficult, but more plausible. No slacking allowed on the job of self improvement, eh? If you wanna improve even by "tiny" 0.3% a day you'd still need to try and learn something new every day, but it wouldn't have to have much of an impact on who you are.
You're welcome.
~The guy who overthinks percentages.
TLDR: pick up is just powerlifting.
Frequency is a key
Eric bugenhagen
Honestly really like the math approach here
Question: how to persist and follow up when a girl blocked you on social media and is not willing to talk to you in person?
Jakub Turliński wow buddy youre a creep
@@adunnou2075 not every 'she blocked me' story is the same. What if I told you that I blocked her first because she was my crush and she flaked on me?
Then she blocked after I unblocked her which was 5 months after the incident.
So yes, you calling me a creep is perfectly suitable. Thank you.
If she's unwilling to speak to you in person just let it go. Persistence at this point is setting yourself up for a stalker charge. Just exercise patience and let her come to you.
Jakub Turliński bro it’s dead let her go.
F that. Plenty of fish in the sea