Mine rebounded after 2 weeks of BU and I know It will crash and burn. They always do. But honestly…them rebounding is such a turn off. Like my attraction dropped significantly lol like I almost don’t even care. It stings a bit here and there if I sit around and think about it but then it’s like…there’s something better out there for me and imagine I block that blessing because I wanna get them back. No thanks! I’ll wait for better ❤️
my ex broke up with me in january. he even let me know he was already talking to someone. valentines day they made it official. theyre doing everything really quick like going on trips and buying each other gifts. i cant wait for the day it crumbles down.
He was monkey branching. My ex did the same to me. We were together for almost 3 years and broke things up with me by the end of feb. Such a evil person. Threw me out like a used condom.. like nothing.
Dated my ex for 2+ years. She was dating a new person two months after we broke up, official with them 4 months after we broke up, just leased an apartment together 6 months after we broke up. I've heard all of this from a mutual friend and I'm just baffled at the speed that this is going. She is moving her daughter in with this new guy who is basically a stranger. I can't help but feel like I dodged a bullet with the breakup. She clearly cannot make good decisions; at least not at this point in her life.
Her rebound relationship will eventually fail. You probably did dodge a bullet. She’ll be older and probably less physically attractive by the time that rebound fails. And still the same emotional immaturity. You’re on this channel and working on yourself, and hopefully lifting weights. You’ll win.
@Dad Brad oh, I've worked on myself like never before. I lost around 60 lbs while also hitting the gym pretty hard. I look better than I have in a decade. I also have a new lady in my life. Been dating for a month and a half. I'm taking things slow as I want to build something new the right way. I still have some feelings to work through from my last relationship, but the bulk of the processing is complete. Channel's like this one helped me figure myself out so much better. My mental health has improved greatly from watching these. Would have been lost without them. Now, I'm just waiting for my UA-cam feed to go back to my normal videos instead of breakup ones 🙃
@Dad Brad yup! I posted progress photos for New Year's as I was proud of the changes I had made! It took alot of work. My mutual friend said that when someone showed my ex the photos (she blocked me 🤷♂️) that her response was for that friend to tell me that she had moved on. I just rolled my eyes and said, OK. You don't make those kind of changes for someone else's benefit; you make them for your own.
I had one that literally had another man sleeping with her the very next night, then staying there every night, official after 10 days and living together and engaged already. 🤦🏻♂️
Why would you return to a person who's been with someone else after your breakup? Usually they already had their new toy lined up prior to ending things so what's the point of rekindling things? You're just a back up plan that provides stability at that point and not really their first pick.
We were together 7 yrs. He admitted he had been talking with her, we never had an argument but sex wasn't great, I wasn't as responsive as I once was, but his PE was a problem for me. So 2 weeks after breakup he is in a relationship. I can't understand why he couldn't talk to me. I talked to him. It is so hard!!!
I think I've lost hope with my ex. She went into a rebound 9 weeks after we broke up. She seems so happy and has moved on so quickly. I can't even imagine dating someone, let alone doing intimate things with them. It just sucks. Your videos have helped me find my confidence.
Ex got into a new relationship one week after she ended it. 3 and a half months later she called me to say how things weren’t going well with the new guy and we had a nice conversation, I was polite and understanding while making jokes like we used to, left it at that and didn’t hear anything from her for another week when she texted and called about how once again he wasn’t treating her right. Been a couple days since we spoke but the cracks are showing and I can take comfort in the fact she’s thinking about me enough to reach out about this while still in the relationship. I’m just focusing on my own stuff so we will wait and see what happens
@@randommf3549 a week after we last spoke she unblocked me on socials but it’s been 5 weeks since we last spoke and they’re still together and profile pic has changed multiple times to different photos of them so looks like they’re getting on well again at the moment. But I’m positive about it, just focusing on myself and have found I’m getting happier as the weeks go on
Don’t be plan B. It can be a relief to know she downgraded but don’t be her shoulder to cry on. Cut her off and ever talk to her again. Her problems are her problems.
Mine has reached out throughout his rebound. I’ve stayed in NC and allowed him to come to me. He has also made flirtatious comments and inappropriate comments (for someone who is with someone else.) They moved in together within 2.5-3 months after meeting. We were together for 2 years. Don’t think she has a clue who I am but we live in the same complex. He’s also been keeping tabs on me and constantly wanting to be engaged in my life. He just asked me to grab coffee or a drink today.
Some people are saying don't take them back which may be the right idea, but some people just end with the first person with the leadership skills and self respect not to give your attention to someone when they downgrade you
My ex started dating someone less than 5 weeks after we broke up. We were together for 10 months. I've been in NC since I found out about her dating someone else. As of today, she has been with this new guy for 6 months. At this point, I'm guessing her rebound is not a rebound and they are very serious. They have already gone on trips together and are talking about marriage and she is posting on social media how she is so happy and thankful for this new person. It hurts bad right now bc I don't think she'll ever come back.
@@chrisjon8563 I'd lean anxious bc she was way more into me in the beginning and suffered from very low self esteem etc...but she also showed traits of BPD and was in medication for depression and anxiety which she then jumped off of. Honestly, I have no idea what to think except that I just want to have a conversation with her. I never got told anything I did wrong or that I wasn't supportive etc...she was just gone
@@JesseJames771 i have a similar story, i was with my ex for 8 months. She is an Anxious attacher, we got into fights last two weeks of our relationship. Then after she broke up with me, a co worker confessedon that same day and they started dating the next day. They are 3,5 months in right now, idk if she'll ever comeback but I'm so tired of waiting i've become numb. And i dont think she has BPD. Btw does your ex shows the stages of rebound during the first 5 months?
@@chrisjon8563 Man. I'm sorry you're going through that too. That sucks big time! As far as rebound signs....I don't really know. I know she never posted me on social media then after two months with this new guy she's saying things like she'll always take care of him and he went on vacation with her family and she just posts stuff like she is so glad he's in her life and that she's fully recovered from her mental health and eating disorder issues. She did start dating him soon after our break up but I was only with my ex for 9-10 months. Pretty soon....her new relationship will be longer than mine. I know she's talking about marrying this guy too and that makes me so sad bc I have no clue what I did wrong. All I heard was that I was perfect and she was so happy with me then she told me we weren't good and I was shocked. I've been going to therapy to recover bc I was going to marry this girl
Sad to say you just found out 5 weeks later, but the person been in the picture they wasn't new, just new to you. That's his problem now bruh, move on you can never trust her again
My ex just lies. We were together for 14 years and married for 10. He never wanted kids and liked older women. Now he’s with someone 12 years younger than him with three kids. I don’t know what is true anymore
I know for certain my ex won’t be able to act like her ‘true’ self with this new person. Soon, her real behavior is going to rear it’s ugly head. She felt comfortable rearing it with me & even I hated it (hence leaving her this time). Love coach Victoria! ❤
The question is why I would waiting for someone that was with me and now is in another relationship? And why I should choose her again after she did it? Sometimes better say nothing and just disappear for the rest of the life.
My ex dumped me 2nd week of January even tho it did need to end long ago he kept talking to me a few weeks semi giving me hope then less then 2 weeks after we finally called it quits- then he moved on to a new girl with the same first name 😒 blocked me from everything giving me the reason so I wouldn’t see something that would hurt me 😑.. she was in the background for sure and they were official right away.
Honestly at first it hurt quite a bit especially considering the undeniable downgrade between us. Now, I just feel sorry for my ex that she's in such an emotionally broken state that she would allow someone of his character into her daily life.
It's just insane the audacity of this people. My ex did the same thing. 7 years together, engaged. And she told me she met a guy 2 weeks after the breakup(now i believe he was there way before). She said it to me to make it "easier" for me to let her go, her words... It's like it wasn't enough breaking your heart, they had to spit on the pieces and crush it with their feet. No respect for you, no respect for the relationship and no self respect, too.
Dear Creg please do a video on Fearful Avoidants (Disorganized) & how should we talk to them ,get them agree for marriage (commitment) decision without triggering them.
My situation is long distance which sucks. I'm left in the dark 😑 also restricted on social media which means even if I was a stalker I wouldn't be able to. Optimism is all you can have or move on.
same , but for long distance you need plan and timing ,just improve and work on yourself and after 8-12 months try to have meet up till that time good memories about you they will remember and the reason of breakup will be no much effective. i was also ldr and he is in rebound and I am struggling too
@@mohammadsaqer5680 Thanks man. Really needed to hear this. Things are not good right now. Dating is a nightmare after my break up. Can't believe she found someone new after 3 weeks while I'm still single after a year.
@@alanzo428what’s the situation now mate? How long was her relationship with her ex? Getting into a rebound is pure selfish on them but weather intentional or not they are still emotionally immature
Excellent video 👍 my ex wants to be friends with me and I have a funny feeling she’s seeing someone but I don’t have proof yet. I told her that if she ever crossed that line I would never go back with her.
The iceberg of attachment is no joke. What is expressed on the surface and the unseen feelings beneath are crucial and make no mistake, your ex is an emotional iceberg. I don't care what she/he says.
I asked for the reason why since he’s half way back. He said he was overwhelmed with stress that causes the breakup but went to date someone else . Because we have to not looking for words but for action the action now is going in the right direction. Should I still ask where are going? Or what’s the label now?
My ex of 4 and a half years relationship broke up with me in December 31 2023 because she said we lost the spark and she told me she started catching feelings for a coworker of her 😢😢 it was hurtful af, now im in NC since January 1 so i have 7 days already I've been going at the gym every day for 4 hours and just trying to forget her hopefully i either forget her and move on or she comes back before having a rebound and i forgive her but if she goes with someone else then that's it for me i cant be a backup plan for anyone no matter how much i love her
She just posted a story of her in a date with someone else.... Wow 11 days... 11 days is all it took to forget me I'm in so much pain rn I was doing good till I saw that story 😢😢😢
Same here. Boyfriend of nearly 4 years broke up with me. All because he was afraid of engagement… I had a terrible past few years and I’m hoping with time it will get better. I hope everything goes well with you too. My advice? Find distraction in friends and family first. Go out or stay in, and take care of yourself. Checklists are great for me, find something that is great for you too
@@randommf3549 I'm sorry that happened, I know your pain. I was with mine for 15 years and 2 kids. She started getting with a younger coworker. How r u doing now?
If there’s rebound after rebound, more then one, are there still rebounds? There’re 3 women after our breakup, it’s just a year, but there no gaps at all between us and all of them. This rebound now is only a month and he will marry her( transgender) this month, she’s living oversea. He is always a straight man, don’t know what happened there…. He wants to marry her before he met her, already planning wedding before they met in person. He just met her in person few days ago, he flew to her country to see her.
My husbands rebound is married and has severe mental health issues caused by severe epilepsy! They moved in together quickly and coming up 6mths. Makes co parenting a challenge - I have them 100%
How soon after breakups.. start to date 🤔 Would like to think that may depend on how long you were together in the first place. Know of a situation where after over 20yrs they were with another after only 7 mos Too soon make me suspect that they're shallow
Ohhh my god. The rebound contact happened to me. She wanted to be friends with me while she started dating him. She knew we had something and she did not want to tell me until it was serious. In the meantime she tried to becomes friends with me and asked if we can be friends because she really likes me. While he did not say that he was dating her either. 😂 I refused to be her friend and went no contact to him.
Well, my ex dump me again beginning of this month again and decided to stay with the rebound. Everything in this video was lining up perfectly, but at the end she told she cant do it anymore. Sneakin around texting, hanging out, etc. She went back to her monkey branch. I am again in pain... i knew she wasn't coming back due to the fact she told me she has an addiction problem (coke) so this guy has her tied up to it. Imma give up and move on. I cant help her anymore. So sad and heart broken again
Hi iv split up from my partner 3 months ago of 8 years we are still living together n she has recently met someone else on a dating site, is this a rebound relationship I'm trying to give her space in diffraction bedroom but she still cooks n does my washing. Bit confused I'd like to get back together?
divorced two months ago (we planned it about a year ago), she basically lost attraction/respect about 3 years ago… we share 3 kids and for the most part we get along fine… she started seeing this dude about a month ago (im better looking and make more $, shes also struggling keeping up w the house bills) she does feel guilt splitting our family apart… ive made real changes and she’s noticed, however from now on what should my attitude be towards her, i want to NOT have hopes to get back w her because i don’t want to get burned.
I got cheated on for my 25th birthday and dumped. I still supported her and our 2 year old daughter afterwards. It was in July and is still very fresh but I know she is just distracting herself with the rebound and is just afraid of being alone, not in love with Ramon.
Wait it out! My ex started dating someone two months ago. I stayed quiet. She has contacted me quite a bit since then but would never tell me she was with someone else. Now, she has it hidden on Facebook and she’s telling me she wants to see me. She’s updating me about her life, our dog, etc. DO NOT acknowledge that relationship, especially if they start contacting you because CLEAELY it does not matter
I work with my ex, side by side. We weren’t together long but we were friends for 2 months and had a thing for a month before we started fighting. A couple weeks later without conversation, she moved on with someone else who we also work with. They instantly moved in together. I guess he didn’t have a place to live and it sounds like he puts himself in these positions. It’s now been six months. For 6 months she completely froze me out, everyday side by side. Well, they broke for a couple weeks. During that time her and I made up but she went back to him. Rumor says she couldn’t get him to move out, so they’re “working on things”. With this said, I’ve made my feelings known to her. I keep trying hard while she’s with him. Now, she doesn’t say yes but she doesn’t say no. One time she even mentioned that she felt pressured by me but for the most part, if I flirt with her, she does smile and willing to talking. I don’t know if she’s mentioned anything to him because if I was in her boyfriend’s position, I’d feel insecure about her talking to me. In fact, I’ve seen him react a certain way when he’s seen me talking to her. Right or wrong, I want her back. What I do know about her knew guy is, he just seems proud to have her but she’s not doing anything to really improve their life together. He just seems happy with the small situation they’re in, instead of building upon it.
Always try to find out how long the other person has been single when starting dating. A lot of times they will even try to downplay it or exaggerate how long it’s been because they know deep down it’s a bad look or too early to date. Or they will say “yea we were separated but still living together due to financial reasons” or something like that, when they broke up like a week ago lol. Or I fell out of love a year ago but I was trying to make it work and we broke up a few months ago (it was really 2 weeks ago). These type of people are immature in a way and a lot of times have mental health or attachment issues or difficulty being alone. And they destroy another person along the way in the rebound. They will bring you around their family and post you on social media a month after just getting out of a multi year relationship, and everyone close to them knows what it is, except for you, they made you for a fool basically in front of their family and friends.
hello, my ex gf is in the rebound relationship for 5/6 months. she never showed signs of interest ..... i am doing no contact after the last time we met. the break up was messy and difficult for me and i cried a lot in front of her. I am focused on healing and improving my life. is there hope for me ? my ex is 19 y old and me 22 y old
My ex has been in a rebound for 2 months, and weve been in no contact 6 weeks now. recently she unblocked me on instagram after telling her to block me 6 weeks ago. My accound is public and hers is private so its not asif shes trying to make me jealous.. what are your thoughts on this mate ?
Should we reach out to our ex if we were the one to use them physically after the breakup? Or do we stay in NC? how will they know we want to be with them romantically if we remain in NC?
My friend called me at 5:am one morning highly annoyed and angry at me for not calling him several times a day with my whereabouts while he was in his long distance rebound relationshyt. Reasons being he wanted it to appear as though I was chasing him (he told everyone I was jealous even though I wasn't...I didn't at the time and still don't care about his rebound relationshyt and he knows this...MAJOR blow to his extremely fragile over-blown ego). He also wanted to keep tabs on my whereabouts because the woman he rebounded walked out on her husband prior to hooking up with my friend. A physical altercation ensued between him and her ex-husband to where my friend is now staying home and no longer spends time at her house due to his safety, along with the time, distance and expense of traveling to see her.
I'm the dumper and she got into a relationship instantly I didn't. I was dealing with heavy things. I wanted so badly to move where she lived but I ran into some financial struggles that left me with no hope in many areas. She lives in europe and I'm in the usa. We seen each other in person many times. I didn't dump her because I found a rebound but she found someone quickly. So I feel dumped in a way. Does this all still apply? We've been talking recently about her mom because she is sick. I don't know what to do. I have never not loved her. I just ended things in a low state of mind and I never got to explain to her things because she dated someone i stantly. I'm type 1 bipolar too...
Ex got in a relationship 2 months after breaking up and even told her friends she wanted to get back with me then randomly found a new guy that’s the complete opposite and I’m not one to judge based off looks but he’s not the best looking guy and is everything she never wanted.
My ex broke up with me and had a date with the dude she made a new connection ruin with that very night , but after doing everything wrong it’s been 4 and half months since we last communicated. New car, new house, new cell, and no social media, yet she still uses my credit card through Apple Pay. But trying to stay strong ! I have no idea about her life now
It won’t make it past a year, sometimes they’ll even prolong it a bit just to not look like an idiot jumping around into new relationships without healing and taking time single, bringing them around their friends and family and posting them on social media like fools. And Dude, cancel that credit card lol
My ex is still with gf from high school he was crazy bout. It's 3 years now. I was married 35 years and he doesn't reach out at all. Got with her left me.
She left for someone else and started dating him right after she dumped me. It's now been 5 months and she only reached out to me twice during the holidays. I haven't heard from her in 2 months now, seems like her new relationship is going strong :/
My Ex is blocked for Eva I ain't got time for ongoing Toxicity, I gave him space to grow up and if he don't that's his new Boo thang problem the deal with. I'm now on Peace Ave 😊
Just recently found out my ex got engaged 6 months after we split now, we lost our pregnancy in Dec and he went to someone else instead of checking in on me he never spoke to me again I’m broken
My gf for 4 years left me a month later she dating a new guy. She says she's really happy and in peace now. I work out im in last year of college plus I work for a business company everyone is telling me she will regret it but time will tell I guess.. I messed up before in the past but I changed to be a better man for her. I got karma maybe I deserve it.. but it broke my heart she found someone already.
I was married for 16, 20 years together. I didn’t cheat, abuse her, and loved her and our children. She got with a new man after 1 month after our divorce. She brings him to our church and sits with him in our row we sat with our children for 13 years.
My ex a few months back viewed me 5 times in a day on a dating app you can make friends on there too I was, assuming she was as she has a new bird but doing that was like alarming to me.
Same situation. I was in a situationship with a guy for 1 year 4months. He said he likes me but hes confused about me nd then there’s a girl he said he’s into (he never dated her) came back into his life and he’s so sure about her. So I cut him off and it’s been 7 days since NC. I don’t think he’ll ever come back 😢 Any videos about situationships?
Broke NC after 3 weeks because she unfriended me on Snapchat... Lol I got ignored. Damn does this mean we are completely done?? We've been together for 6 months and just had an amazing valentine's trip with no issues. Ugh. This is hard.
Never ever break no NC. Start again and don’t contact her ever. I had guys who would come in and out when I was the dumper, asking questions trying to talk etc and it just pushed me further and further away.
@@emmalynrae592 I only did it first week into NC broke it twice because I didn't know what it was but I been holding up it's been 4 months she unblocked me a month or so ago lol.
Me and my gf (both women) were together for 8yrs and know each other for half iur lives, it hasnt been working for the past year, I didnt knwo what to do anymore and decided to break up with her even though I still loved her, in 2 weeks she disappeared off to somewhere and week later told me she’s with a guy she’s been seeing 5 yrs ago for a little bit when we had problems and then said she’s moving in with him in (to another country also) and now engaged after about 2 weeks with him. …………
My ex gf of a year started talking/seeing her new bf two weeks after we split. The new guy has some serious insecurities from what I saw on his TikTok.. seeking constant validation and reassurance from his audience, mainly his female followers. Then love bombed my ex across all his social media and rushed the relationship cause they’re in a long distance relationship. Yes, my ex entered a rebound long distance relationship without ever meeting the guy first! They have been together 2 months ish now and have since met. But crazy, I have never seen or met anyone that got out of a long term serious relationship and then jumped into a rebound long distance relationship 🤷🏻♂️
Again, I dunno, I remember through the whole relationship, where she said" i just want you to be happy" but she never did anything to help that happen. Meanwhile I carried all te adult aspects, and actually made her comfortable. In the end, I hope she is happy, I dunno, it has been most of a decades sinc we talked after a long time together. She was with the new guy before her and I were even done. I got played like a mutherfucker, no way around it, and still all busted up today. I guess I am a simp. Why she had to kill me like that after so long together, I will never understand. I can say I will never trust any female ever again.
I hate to enlighten you guys but my ex married her rebound Hes been married 3 times this is her second marriage She was telling me right up until 3 weeks before she married this guy that she cared about me she loved me she missed my kiss my touch what a bunch of lies She knew she was engaged in marrying this guy and strung me along to keep me on the hook I found out through Facebook
I can't trust you not to do it again when you see a new shiny toy in the window, that being said good luck to you amd your rebound or monkey branching that your doing
Its unfortunate but im just placating myself with these videos thinking this rebound will fail. The dude has more resources than me and they enjoy going to the bar together and all that. Im just taking the biggest L. She would meetup with me while this was going on but I dont think it means anything.
My nEx was having an affair with her new supply for years before I found out. I tried reconciliation but she's "madly in love with him" so I finally say enough and go as much no contact as I can when she reaches out to me for sex because new supply can't take her where she needs to go (why she kept sleeping with him when I couldn't idk) what turned into a one and done is sadly going on months with me now. Do you think they're relationship is going to last 😅
@@bethanyharrington1747 there wasn't respect, I was tied to her through a trauma bond I couldn't break at the time. I finally was able to break free and have been no contact for over 6 months now.
@@Unknownnnn1990 still with the guy. But still wants me around. We fooling around.. ah well. At this point im just gonna do that and the same time gonna go out with some other girls. That'll get her upset
@@flat4wankel lol we are literally in the same situation. How long have you been with her and how strong is your connection. Mine is a pretty strong 6 years so idk if I can get her back by hanging around with her to make the other guy insecure, or go silent again
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Mine rebounded after 2 weeks of BU and I know It will crash and burn. They always do. But honestly…them rebounding is such a turn off. Like my attraction dropped significantly lol like I almost don’t even care. It stings a bit here and there if I sit around and think about it but then it’s like…there’s something better out there for me and imagine I block that blessing because I wanna get them back. No thanks! I’ll wait for better ❤️
my ex broke up with me in january. he even let me know he was already talking to someone. valentines day they made it official. theyre doing everything really quick like going on trips and buying each other gifts. i cant wait for the day it crumbles down.
He was monkey branching. My ex did the same to me. We were together for almost 3 years and broke things up with me by the end of feb. Such a evil person. Threw me out like a used condom.. like nothing.
Anu update? Lol
Me too!! 😢
Updates please.
You sound very bitter. If you truly love your ex you will want them to be happy even if that doesn’t include you.
Dated my ex for 2+ years. She was dating a new person two months after we broke up, official with them 4 months after we broke up, just leased an apartment together 6 months after we broke up. I've heard all of this from a mutual friend and I'm just baffled at the speed that this is going. She is moving her daughter in with this new guy who is basically a stranger. I can't help but feel like I dodged a bullet with the breakup. She clearly cannot make good decisions; at least not at this point in her life.
Her rebound relationship will eventually fail. You probably did dodge a bullet. She’ll be older and probably less physically attractive by the time that rebound fails. And still the same emotional immaturity. You’re on this channel and working on yourself, and hopefully lifting weights. You’ll win.
@Dad Brad oh, I've worked on myself like never before. I lost around 60 lbs while also hitting the gym pretty hard. I look better than I have in a decade. I also have a new lady in my life. Been dating for a month and a half. I'm taking things slow as I want to build something new the right way. I still have some feelings to work through from my last relationship, but the bulk of the processing is complete. Channel's like this one helped me figure myself out so much better. My mental health has improved greatly from watching these. Would have been lost without them.
Now, I'm just waiting for my UA-cam feed to go back to my normal videos instead of breakup ones 🙃
@@christopherdriver9369 good job! Working on yourself for those types of (massive!)success is the best revenge on your ex.
@Dad Brad yup! I posted progress photos for New Year's as I was proud of the changes I had made! It took alot of work. My mutual friend said that when someone showed my ex the photos (she blocked me 🤷♂️) that her response was for that friend to tell me that she had moved on. I just rolled my eyes and said, OK. You don't make those kind of changes for someone else's benefit; you make them for your own.
I had one that literally had another man sleeping with her the very next night, then staying there every night, official after 10 days and living together and engaged already. 🤦🏻♂️
Why would you return to a person who's been with someone else after your breakup? Usually they already had their new toy lined up prior to ending things so what's the point of rekindling things? You're just a back up plan that provides stability at that point and not really their first pick.
Bingo thsts it right there you're not their first pick and i had to realize this fact.
Exactly. They left because they tried to do better. They return because they are settling for you.
This has happened to me, all of the above. I felt humiliated, inadequate, unattractive.
We were together 7 yrs. He admitted he had been talking with her, we never had an argument but sex wasn't great, I wasn't as responsive as I once was, but his PE was a problem for me. So 2 weeks after breakup he is in a relationship. I can't understand why he couldn't talk to me. I talked to him. It is so hard!!!
I think I've lost hope with my ex. She went into a rebound 9 weeks after we broke up. She seems so happy and has moved on so quickly. I can't even imagine dating someone, let alone doing intimate things with them. It just sucks. Your videos have helped me find my confidence.
Ex got into a new relationship one week after she ended it. 3 and a half months later she called me to say how things weren’t going well with the new guy and we had a nice conversation, I was polite and understanding while making jokes like we used to, left it at that and didn’t hear anything from her for another week when she texted and called about how once again he wasn’t treating her right. Been a couple days since we spoke but the cracks are showing and I can take comfort in the fact she’s thinking about me enough to reach out about this while still in the relationship. I’m just focusing on my own stuff so we will wait and see what happens
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@@randommf3549 a week after we last spoke she unblocked me on socials but it’s been 5 weeks since we last spoke and they’re still together and profile pic has changed multiple times to different photos of them so looks like they’re getting on well again at the moment. But I’m positive about it, just focusing on myself and have found I’m getting happier as the weeks go on
Updates?
Don’t be plan B. It can be a relief to know she downgraded but don’t be her shoulder to cry on. Cut her off and ever talk to her again. Her problems are her problems.
Would you take her back? You are in a similar situation as I am.
Mine has reached out throughout his rebound. I’ve stayed in NC and allowed him to come to me. He has also made flirtatious comments and inappropriate comments (for someone who is with someone else.) They moved in together within 2.5-3 months after meeting. We were together for 2 years. Don’t think she has a clue who I am but we live in the same complex. He’s also been keeping tabs on me and constantly wanting to be engaged in my life. He just asked me to grab coffee or a drink today.
Some people are saying don't take them back which may be the right idea, but some people just end with the first person with the leadership skills and self respect not to give your attention to someone when they downgrade you
No comparison. Just look back and connect the dots to see how you were being cheated on. Let them go
My ex started dating someone less than 5 weeks after we broke up. We were together for 10 months. I've been in NC since I found out about her dating someone else. As of today, she has been with this new guy for 6 months. At this point, I'm guessing her rebound is not a rebound and they are very serious. They have already gone on trips together and are talking about marriage and she is posting on social media how she is so happy and thankful for this new person. It hurts bad right now bc I don't think she'll ever come back.
Does she have an anxious attachment style? Or an avoidant style?
@@chrisjon8563 I'd lean anxious bc she was way more into me in the beginning and suffered from very low self esteem etc...but she also showed traits of BPD and was in medication for depression and anxiety which she then jumped off of. Honestly, I have no idea what to think except that I just want to have a conversation with her. I never got told anything I did wrong or that I wasn't supportive etc...she was just gone
@@JesseJames771 i have a similar story, i was with my ex for 8 months. She is an Anxious attacher, we got into fights last two weeks of our relationship. Then after she broke up with me, a co worker confessedon that same day and they started dating the next day. They are 3,5 months in right now, idk if she'll ever comeback but I'm so tired of waiting i've become numb. And i dont think she has BPD.
Btw does your ex shows the stages of rebound during the first 5 months?
@@chrisjon8563 Man. I'm sorry you're going through that too. That sucks big time!
As far as rebound signs....I don't really know. I know she never posted me on social media then after two months with this new guy she's saying things like she'll always take care of him and he went on vacation with her family and she just posts stuff like she is so glad he's in her life and that she's fully recovered from her mental health and eating disorder issues. She did start dating him soon after our break up but I was only with my ex for 9-10 months. Pretty soon....her new relationship will be longer than mine. I know she's talking about marrying this guy too and that makes me so sad bc I have no clue what I did wrong. All I heard was that I was perfect and she was so happy with me then she told me we weren't good and I was shocked. I've been going to therapy to recover bc I was going to marry this girl
Sad to say you just found out 5 weeks later, but the person been in the picture they wasn't new, just new to you. That's his problem now bruh, move on you can never trust her again
My ex just lies. We were together for 14 years and married for 10. He never wanted kids and liked older women. Now he’s with someone 12 years younger than him with three kids. I don’t know what is true anymore
This is a very good message. Thanks
I know for certain my ex won’t be able to act like her ‘true’ self with this new person. Soon, her real behavior is going to rear it’s ugly head. She felt comfortable rearing it with me & even I hated it (hence leaving her this time).
Love coach Victoria! ❤
The question is why I would waiting for someone that was with me and now is in another relationship? And why I should choose her again after she did it? Sometimes better say nothing and just disappear for the rest of the life.
My ex dumped me 2nd week of January even tho it did need to end long ago he kept talking to me a few weeks semi giving me hope then less then 2 weeks after we finally called it quits- then he moved on to a new girl with the same first name 😒 blocked me from everything giving me the reason so I wouldn’t see something that would hurt me 😑.. she was in the background for sure and they were official right away.
Same exact thing happened to me
Honestly at first it hurt quite a bit especially considering the undeniable downgrade between us. Now, I just feel sorry for my ex that she's in such an emotionally broken state that she would allow someone of his character into her daily life.
You are a good person to feel like that. Don't let your goodness get taken advantage of ......this is from experience . Good luck to you
Thank you very much for this video! It feels like a God's sign to me. Thank you
Thank you for this video, You've brought some things to mind that I hadn't thought of
Just two weeks after breaking up with me he sent a text to say he was seeing someone else. The utter shock is unbearable.
It's just insane the audacity of this people. My ex did the same thing.
7 years together, engaged. And she told me she met a guy 2 weeks after the breakup(now i believe he was there way before). She said it to me to make it "easier" for me to let her go, her words...
It's like it wasn't enough breaking your heart, they had to spit on the pieces and crush it with their feet.
No respect for you, no respect for the relationship and no self respect, too.
Dear Creg please do a video on Fearful Avoidants (Disorganized) & how should we talk to them ,get them agree for marriage (commitment) decision without triggering them.
My situation is long distance which sucks. I'm left in the dark 😑 also restricted on social media which means even if I was a stalker I wouldn't be able to.
Optimism is all you can have or move on.
same , but for long distance you need plan and timing ,just improve and work on yourself and after 8-12 months try to have meet up till that time good memories about you they will remember and the reason of breakup will be no much effective.
i was also ldr and he is in rebound and I am struggling too
Honestly, big part of me just wants him to come back so I can tell him to f-off after he rebounded on me :)
Wish I knew this sooner. I was the rebound.
All these signs merely indicate that I was the rebound and my ex ran straight back to her ex smh. Back to the drawing board now I go 😔
Stay strong you are not replaceable
@@mohammadsaqer5680 Thanks man. Really needed to hear this. Things are not good right now. Dating is a nightmare after my break up. Can't believe she found someone new after 3 weeks while I'm still single after a year.
@@alanzo428what’s the situation now mate? How long was her relationship with her ex? Getting into a rebound is pure selfish on them but weather intentional or not they are still emotionally immature
Excellent video 👍 my ex wants to be friends with me and I have a funny feeling she’s seeing someone but I don’t have proof yet. I told her that if she ever crossed that line I would never go back with her.
The iceberg of attachment is no joke. What is expressed on the surface and the unseen feelings beneath are crucial and make no mistake, your ex is an emotional iceberg. I don't care what she/he says.
I asked for the reason why since he’s half way back. He said he was overwhelmed with stress that causes the breakup but went to date someone else . Because we have to not looking for words but for action the action now is going in the right direction. Should I still ask where are going? Or what’s the label now?
Things are sparkling in. I don’t see friendship but more on the romantic side. How to spot the using me part without asking where are we standing.
Sadly I was a rebound relationship of my ex.
OMG, thanks for expressing exactly how I feel...
My ex of 4 and a half years relationship broke up with me in December 31 2023 because she said we lost the spark and she told me she started catching feelings for a coworker of her 😢😢 it was hurtful af, now im in NC since January 1 so i have 7 days already I've been going at the gym every day for 4 hours and just trying to forget her hopefully i either forget her and move on or she comes back before having a rebound and i forgive her but if she goes with someone else then that's it for me i cant be a backup plan for anyone no matter how much i love her
She just posted a story of her in a date with someone else.... Wow 11 days... 11 days is all it took to forget me I'm in so much pain rn I was doing good till I saw that story 😢😢😢
Same here. Boyfriend of nearly 4 years broke up with me. All because he was afraid of engagement… I had a terrible past few years and I’m hoping with time it will get better. I hope everything goes well with you too. My advice? Find distraction in friends and family first. Go out or stay in, and take care of yourself. Checklists are great for me, find something that is great for you too
@@randommf3549 I'm sorry that happened, I know your pain. I was with mine for 15 years and 2 kids. She started getting with a younger coworker. How r u doing now?
If there’s rebound after rebound, more then one, are there still rebounds?
There’re 3 women after our breakup, it’s just a year, but there no gaps at all between us and all of them. This rebound now is only a month and he will marry her( transgender) this month, she’s living oversea.
He is always a straight man, don’t know what happened there….
He wants to marry her before he met her, already planning wedding before they met in person.
He just met her in person few days ago, he flew to her country to see her.
When you go to the psych ward
@@adaptercrash what do you mean ?
The one woman after another part sounds like monkey branching, rather than rebounding.
My husbands rebound is married and has severe mental health issues caused by severe epilepsy! They moved in together quickly and coming up 6mths.
Makes co parenting a challenge - I have them 100%
How soon after breakups.. start to date 🤔
Would like to think that may depend on how long you were together in the first place.
Know of a situation where after over 20yrs they were with another after only 7 mos
Too soon make me suspect that they're shallow
This video helped me so much 😩
Ohhh my god. The rebound contact happened to me. She wanted to be friends with me while she started dating him. She knew we had something and she did not want to tell me until it was serious. In the meantime she tried to becomes friends with me and asked if we can be friends because she really likes me. While he did not say that he was dating her either. 😂
I refused to be her friend and went no contact to him.
You did the right thing..stay strong 💯
Well, my ex dump me again beginning of this month again and decided to stay with the rebound. Everything in this video was lining up perfectly, but at the end she told she cant do it anymore. Sneakin around texting, hanging out, etc. She went back to her monkey branch.
I am again in pain... i knew she wasn't coming back due to the fact she told me she has an addiction problem (coke) so this guy has her tied up to it. Imma give up and move on. I cant help her anymore. So sad and heart broken again
Hi iv split up from my partner 3 months ago of 8 years we are still living together n she has recently met someone else on a dating site, is this a rebound relationship I'm trying to give her space in diffraction bedroom but she still cooks n does my washing. Bit confused I'd like to get back together?
divorced two months ago (we planned it about a year ago), she basically lost attraction/respect about 3 years ago… we share 3 kids and for the most part we get along fine… she started seeing this dude about a month ago (im better looking and make more $, shes also struggling keeping up w the house bills) she does feel guilt splitting our family apart… ive made real changes and she’s noticed, however from now on what should my attitude be towards her, i want to NOT have hopes to get back w her because i don’t want to get burned.
I would start with God ❤
I got cheated on for my 25th birthday and dumped. I still supported her and our 2 year old daughter afterwards. It was in July and is still very fresh but I know she is just distracting herself with the rebound and is just afraid of being alone, not in love with Ramon.
One of your best videos
Wait it out! My ex started dating someone two months ago. I stayed quiet. She has contacted me quite a bit since then but would never tell me she was with someone else.
Now, she has it hidden on Facebook and she’s telling me she wants to see me. She’s updating me about her life, our dog, etc.
DO NOT acknowledge that relationship, especially if they start contacting you because CLEAELY it does not matter
I work with my ex, side by side. We weren’t together long but we were friends for 2 months and had a thing for a month before we started fighting. A couple weeks later without conversation, she moved on with someone else who we also work with. They instantly moved in together. I guess he didn’t have a place to live and it sounds like he puts himself in these positions. It’s now been six months. For 6 months she completely froze me out, everyday side by side. Well, they broke for a couple weeks. During that time her and I made up but she went back to him. Rumor says she couldn’t get him to move out, so they’re “working on things”. With this said, I’ve made my feelings known to her. I keep trying hard while she’s with him. Now, she doesn’t say yes but she doesn’t say no. One time she even mentioned that she felt pressured by me but for the most part, if I flirt with her, she does smile and willing to talking. I don’t know if she’s mentioned anything to him because if I was in her boyfriend’s position, I’d feel insecure about her talking to me. In fact, I’ve seen him react a certain way when he’s seen me talking to her. Right or wrong, I want her back. What I do know about her knew guy is, he just seems proud to have her but she’s not doing anything to really improve their life together. He just seems happy with the small situation they’re in, instead of building upon it.
Can you please share the link to the video about people who struggled to stay alone(un-selective)? Thanks
I'm the chump that was foolish enough to fall in love when I was the rebound.
Always try to find out how long the other person has been single when starting dating. A lot of times they will even try to downplay it or exaggerate how long it’s been because they know deep down it’s a bad look or too early to date. Or they will say “yea we were separated but still living together due to financial reasons” or something like that, when they broke up like a week ago lol. Or I fell out of love a year ago but I was trying to make it work and we broke up a few months ago (it was really 2 weeks ago). These type of people are immature in a way and a lot of times have mental health or attachment issues or difficulty being alone. And they destroy another person along the way in the rebound. They will bring you around their family and post you on social media a month after just getting out of a multi year relationship, and everyone close to them knows what it is, except for you, they made you for a fool basically in front of their family and friends.
hello, my ex gf is in the rebound relationship for 5/6 months. she never showed signs of interest ..... i am doing no contact after the last time we met. the break up was messy and difficult for me and i cried a lot in front of her. I am focused on healing and improving my life. is there hope for me ? my ex is 19 y old and me 22 y old
You a baby in terms of where you are in life! Move on and get out there!
update?
My ex has been in a rebound for 2 months, and weve been in no contact 6 weeks now. recently she unblocked me on instagram after telling her to block me 6 weeks ago. My accound is public and hers is private so its not asif shes trying to make me jealous.. what are your thoughts on this mate ?
Should we reach out to our ex if we were the one to use them physically after the breakup? Or do we stay in NC? how will they know we want to be with them romantically if we remain in NC?
My friend called me at 5:am one morning highly annoyed and angry at me for not calling him several times a day with my whereabouts while he was in his long distance rebound relationshyt. Reasons being he wanted it to appear as though I was chasing him (he told everyone I was jealous even though I wasn't...I didn't at the time and still don't care about his rebound relationshyt and he knows this...MAJOR blow to his extremely fragile over-blown ego). He also wanted to keep tabs on my whereabouts because the woman he rebounded walked out on her husband prior to hooking up with my friend. A physical altercation ensued between him and her ex-husband to where my friend is now staying home and no longer spends time at her house due to his safety, along with the time, distance and expense of traveling to see her.
He told me he didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore and ended our 20 year relationship and then he moves on with someone new, he’s a lier
Walk away from the game ...what's better than old FRUIT ....FRESH FRUIT! YAY 🤪
GOOD LUCK
I'm the dumper and she got into a relationship instantly I didn't. I was dealing with heavy things. I wanted so badly to move where she lived but I ran into some financial struggles that left me with no hope in many areas. She lives in europe and I'm in the usa. We seen each other in person many times. I didn't dump her because I found a rebound but she found someone quickly. So I feel dumped in a way. Does this all still apply? We've been talking recently about her mom because she is sick. I don't know what to do. I have never not loved her. I just ended things in a low state of mind and I never got to explain to her things because she dated someone i stantly. I'm type 1 bipolar too...
Ex got in a relationship 2 months after breaking up and even told her friends she wanted to get back with me then randomly found a new guy that’s the complete opposite and I’m not one to judge based off looks but he’s not the best looking guy and is everything she never wanted.
My ex broke up with me and had a date with the dude she made a new connection ruin with that very night , but after doing everything wrong it’s been 4 and half months since we last communicated. New car, new house, new cell, and no social media, yet she still uses my credit card through Apple Pay. But trying to stay strong ! I have no idea about her life now
It won’t make it past a year, sometimes they’ll even prolong it a bit just to not look like an idiot jumping around into new relationships without healing and taking time single, bringing them around their friends and family and posting them on social media like fools. And Dude, cancel that credit card lol
If they monkey branched, don't waste time on pleasing the person.
Don't even bother trying with mine it's written in ink in the house of commons
Wjat if her rebound is with her ex that she was with before me and they dated for a little over 2 years
My ex is still with gf from high school he was crazy bout. It's 3 years now. I was married 35 years and he doesn't reach out at all. Got with her left me.
😞
What if its not a rebound? Can i still get my avoidant ex back?
She left for someone else and started dating him right after she dumped me. It's now been 5 months and she only reached out to me twice during the holidays. I haven't heard from her in 2 months now, seems like her new relationship is going strong :/
My Ex is blocked for Eva I ain't got time for ongoing Toxicity, I gave him space to grow up and if he don't that's his new Boo thang problem the deal with. I'm now on Peace Ave 😊
Just recently found out my ex got engaged 6 months after we split now, we lost our pregnancy in Dec and he went to someone else instead of checking in on me he never spoke to me again I’m broken
My gf for 4 years left me a month later she dating a new guy. She says she's really happy and in peace now. I work out im in last year of college plus I work for a business company everyone is telling me she will regret it but time will tell I guess.. I messed up before in the past but I changed to be a better man for her. I got karma maybe I deserve it.. but it broke my heart she found someone already.
I was married for 16, 20 years together. I didn’t cheat, abuse her, and loved her and our children. She got with a new man after 1 month after our divorce. She brings him to our church and sits with him in our row we sat with our children for 13 years.
Damn she's a cold piece of work obviously she's trying to hurt you by bringing him around.
My ex a few months back viewed me 5 times in a day on a dating app you can make friends on there too I was, assuming she was as she has a new bird but doing that was like alarming to me.
My baby momma lost feelings n got in a relationship right away after within the next 2 months n idk wat to do bout it..
Same situation. I was in a situationship with a guy for 1 year 4months. He said he likes me but hes confused about me nd then there’s a girl he said he’s into (he never dated her) came back into his life and he’s so sure about her. So I cut him off and it’s been 7 days since NC. I don’t think he’ll ever come back 😢
Any videos about situationships?
She can have him i dont need a lier or an immature man in my life
Tell us something we don't know
Broke NC after 3 weeks because she unfriended me on Snapchat... Lol I got ignored. Damn does this mean we are completely done?? We've been together for 6 months and just had an amazing valentine's trip with no issues. Ugh. This is hard.
Never ever break no NC. Start again and don’t contact her ever. I had guys who would come in and out when I was the dumper, asking questions trying to talk etc and it just pushed me further and further away.
@@emmalynrae592 I only did it first week into NC broke it twice because I didn't know what it was but I been holding up it's been 4 months she unblocked me a month or so ago lol.
What if my ex’s rebound is my best friend & golf buddy ? 😂
We live in the same building. Broke up twto wees ago.we saw her 3timez to day
Why would you want to take back an unfaithful woman back !
Me and my gf (both women) were together for 8yrs and know each other for half iur lives, it hasnt been working for the past year, I didnt knwo what to do anymore and decided to break up with her even though I still loved her, in 2 weeks she disappeared off to somewhere and week later told me she’s with a guy she’s been seeing 5 yrs ago for a little bit when we had problems and then said she’s moving in with him in (to another country also) and now engaged after about 2 weeks with him. …………
That's crazy, I am sorry that sounds fu.... traumatic.
How are you now, and what happened with your ex?
Is watching a lot of breakup videos a bad thing too?
Depends
They went with the rebound
mine was ldr and me and my mom rooting for my ex's rebound fail soon and i will blow my ex with my extraordinary changes then😅
My ex gf of a year started talking/seeing her new bf two weeks after we split. The new guy has some serious insecurities from what I saw on his TikTok.. seeking constant validation and reassurance from his audience, mainly his female followers. Then love bombed my ex across all his social media and rushed the relationship cause they’re in a long distance relationship. Yes, my ex entered a rebound long distance relationship without ever meeting the guy first! They have been together 2 months ish now and have since met. But crazy, I have never seen or met anyone that got out of a long term serious relationship and then jumped into a rebound long distance relationship 🤷🏻♂️
Seems like she was more of a fan of him on tiktok ..it want work
If you want to get revenge on a guy who steals your woman then just let him keep her.
Again, I dunno, I remember through the whole relationship, where she said" i just want you to be happy" but she never did anything to help that happen. Meanwhile I carried all te adult aspects, and actually made her comfortable. In the end, I hope she is happy, I dunno, it has been most of a decades sinc we talked after a long time together. She was with the new guy before her and I were even done. I got played like a mutherfucker, no way around it, and still all busted up today. I guess I am a simp. Why she had to kill me like that after so long together, I will never understand. I can say I will never trust any female ever again.
He hasn’t even contacted the children or seen them
I hate to enlighten you guys but my ex married her rebound Hes been married 3 times this is her second marriage She was telling me right up until 3 weeks before she married this guy that she cared about me she loved me she missed my kiss my touch what a bunch of lies She knew she was engaged in marrying this guy and strung me along to keep me on the hook I found out through Facebook
I can't trust you not to do it again when you see a new shiny toy in the window, that being said good luck to you amd your rebound or monkey branching that your doing
Its unfortunate but im just placating myself with these videos thinking this rebound will fail. The dude has more resources than me and they enjoy going to the bar together and all that. Im just taking the biggest L. She would meetup with me while this was going on but I dont think it means anything.
My nEx was having an affair with her new supply for years before I found out. I tried reconciliation but she's "madly in love with him" so I finally say enough and go as much no contact as I can when she reaches out to me for sex because new supply can't take her where she needs to go (why she kept sleeping with him when I couldn't idk) what turned into a one and done is sadly going on months with me now. Do you think they're relationship is going to last 😅
I don’t understand how you can respect her?? Sharing?? 🤢
@@bethanyharrington1747 there wasn't respect, I was tied to her through a trauma bond I couldn't break at the time. I finally was able to break free and have been no contact for over 6 months now.
He blocked me on all medias 😖 he’s with someone else !
update ?
Ok my ex been reaching out since beginnin of june but still with the rebound!
Breadcrumbs!
@@remyd1984 i called her out on it already. Dunno what to do really
@@flat4wankel any update?
@@Unknownnnn1990 still with the guy. But still wants me around. We fooling around.. ah well. At this point im just gonna do that and the same time gonna go out with some other girls. That'll get her upset
@@flat4wankel lol we are literally in the same situation. How long have you been with her and how strong is your connection. Mine is a pretty strong 6 years so idk if I can get her back by hanging around with her to make the other guy insecure, or go silent again
"Shes for the streets" lmao vcitoria didn't like that
Lol i dont have any of these signs.
not true at all ... theres ladies with boyfriend and they still look at your stories all the time... your opinion is wrong lol
Why in this world would you take that person back, you are the man, you are taking left overs. Be the man don’t be a simp. She is not worth it.
Jesiblles and Charlatans
Love these comments why would take her back? Lol why would u watch a 20min video if u woulnt take her bck? 🤡🤡🤡
nahh true, why would you want someone back if they left you for someone new, just to come back to you and be their 2nd option?