Stages 1 - Relief 2 - Elation (Can take upto a Month) 3 - Nostalgia (4-5 month point) 4 - Feeling the loss (Dumper effected by seperation anxiety) 5 - Neutrality (Months after the break up). As the dumpee work on your attachment style and get therapy. 6 - Regret and sadness. (Dumper worries dumpee found someone else) 7 - Enlightenment for the dumper (reflecting on their decision and wondering about you. This is the most likely time for them doing the "indirect, direct" approach to the dumpee). If you have a Cat its likely to be about them...😂 Final note - Dumpee must avoid post breakup mistakes by begging, pleading etc- so dumper can feel the loss. Stay strong and go no contact. When your ex reaches out - stay disciplined. Dont give away everything you've done for the last few + months. And dont say I've missed you so much!! (If they reach out) Good luck guys and stay strong.😊
#4 feeling the loss + separation anxiety timing is different for every relationship but oftentimes it happens around 45 days or 6 to 8 weeks which is why its so important to not break no contact during that time. He reached out to me on day 40 and I wanted to break contact so bad that 6th week. You'll be glad you didn't break no contact those first 8 weeks which is the hardest and why I like to count up to 60 days. Trust the process. If the love was real and strong, they will want to genuinely reconcile.
Man do I miss hearing Margret's voice and her endless amounts of knowledge and wisdom. These videos will never be outdated. Thank you Margret for everything you ,Craig and Victoria helped me get through during my most difficult time in my life.
Why would you take someone back after they have betrayed you with multiple people? No self respect there. Let them live the loss for the rest of their lives. You didn't lose them, they lost you.
This video and technique applies if you do want them back. If you don’t think the relationship salvageable then close the door. If they reach out, don’t respond. It’s that simple
Not everyone goes sleeps around. I been talking to a girl that got out of a 11 year relationship and had been 4 years single and not have slept with another man or anything. There are good woman and men out there don’t let one or 2 define them all.
After I had a breakup with my situationship, 2 months down I was doing so fine, moving on , doing me and just happy, stress-free. Then he messaged back..,. Out of nowhere, (it even feels like they know when you are moving on) at first I stayed strong then next thing you know I’ve been replying, after a month he’s been ghosting again.,, like clockwork. It is human nature , they just want to release that tension and anxiety within themselves if they still have you in their hands. Lesson learned. It’s a very hard road but you have to have self respect. If you let people ran over you multiple times then it’s on you.
Same here.. It was I after no contact for two months I texted he immediately replied I sd him to put some efforts to communicate n I was the doing again, he would say yes to all the communicate that hell do but never did.. I finally blasted him in text saying either be consistent or block me, without any explanation he blocked me..
My ex (with whom I was friends first) wanted to be friends after breaking up with me, and after a month, I decided that I didn't want to settle for friendship. I do miss him, but I don't want to settle for less; I believe he was more willing to break up with me because he thought that he'd still have me in his life.
In the months you're alone and doing work your ex is seeing someone else until it doesn't work. When they come back they're just bringing more scars and problems from that relationship they jumped into. When they date someone else it's just not worth it anymore, they may realize your worth but it took another man or woman to show them and that's not the kind of person you need. I love my ex and miss her but I'm not accepting another man's impact on her trying to fix us and went wrong with her rebound.
Great comment!! I love my ex and miss her but I'm not accepting another man's impact on her trying to fix us and went wrong with her rebound. I love this last line^^^
So so true! Every bit of it. I'm an Anxious he's an Avoidant. I was dumped after 10 yrs. I was floored. April 2021. Everyone we knew was also shocked at him. I was devastated 💔 Off he went at 54 yrs old pubbing and seeing other women. I Immediately went into NC and stayed in NC, even to this day Feb 2024. Ive never faulted. In that time I 1st heard off him via Xmas card 7 months later, sending All of his love! Dec 2023 he made contact yet again with my dad...his 4th attempt in total. Telling my dad he had the best years with me. I still stayed in NC. Me? Well, I worked on myself, listening to Margaret Craig and Victoria EVERY SINGLE NIGHT to calm my nerves. Their relationship wisdom is amazing....thanks guys and r.i.p. Margaret 😢❤ I worked on myself and met someone else Nov. 2021 and still with him. Hes just lovely. Kind. Caring. Loving and a brilliant dad to our kids. I say thank you to my ex, for dumping me. It has been a very Happy ending...... for me at least
My husband has been in a midlife crisis for almost 3 years with severe depression and an identity crisis. He finally left today for good. Hurts because I gave it my all to be his support and he blamed me for all the problems in his life. I have blocked him on everything so I can focus on healing my anxiety all of this caused me.
Hang in there, you must be experiencing a lot of pain months after this (at my time of reading) but you will emerge from this scarred but stronger and life will get better. Believe me it will
I dont beleive in love no more...no one really sticks around,once they are bored of you they throw you away like a piece of trash...the cheating the lying its all disgusting....yeah they may come back but they will leave again and there you go with the pain again..i feel like if they trully loved you they would have never left in the first place....they are allways looking for the next best thing trying to fill a void that other people cannot fill...
..I gave her 11 years of love and laughs...we never fought or argued...no negativity whatsoever....and what did I get!?....stomped and slashed my heart 1 day before our 11th anniversary of being together....chewed up spit out and kicked to the curb....
It’s good fall back on this video and watch it over and over so you can ease your pain and anxiety. That way, you’ll have some understanding of what your ex will be going through, even if you feel like you have little hope. I recently found out that my ex either muted me or blocked me on Facebook but not Instagram (not sure why she only did that on one platform or why she would do that).
My ex took to long to do the indirect direct approach. By then I had already settled on the way things were and become aware of the way she really was, a bad person and incompatible. By the time she reached out, i had already lost interest. Id rather start over with someone new or be single before i ever accept somebody who burned me and thought they could do better.
My ex got his fling pregnant 😭 we had only been back together 10 days, all the way through the pregnancy he's been telling me it's me he wants and loves. Now 10 days till the baby's due he's wanting to enjoy the experience of being a dad. He's ALWAYS wanted kids of his own, I can't have more... I've been left all over again 😭😭😭 My heart is broken 😭😭💔💔
Thank you for these videos after almost 6 months I finally feel like myself again and feel like I have moved on with my life and not worry about her coming back, if a huge relief of a feeling like being free
"Perceived root cause of unhappiness" kind of opened my eyes or gave me a feeling that this really good relationship, that she has ended out of the blue, was not all about the relationship and me in particular. We did not fight, we had a lot of harmony, there was definitely alot of love for and between us and I supported her in so many ways, but she has several problems/issues in her life (family things, work is very intense and overstrains her and some other things) and well maybe it was this. What do I know :)
Most of the time they already find a replacement before they end the relationship so I think the dumpee should just go out and date instead of waiting, perhaps they might never hear from the dumper
My ex rejoined the dating app where we met just 3 weeks after dumping me and moved on. At the same time, I met a woman that looked like a Barbie doll who told me not to waste my time trying to get back my ex bc she saw the true value in me and like an idiot I blocked the new girl only to run back to my ex and get rejected again. I regret losing the new girl as much as my ex.
Agree. I started dating someone new a few weeks after the break up. I personally think most exes dont come back. Only 2 out of 5 have tried to come back. Not sure my recent one will but I won't allow people who put me through emotionl pain come back.
Why would anyone want someone back that dumped them? - especially if they were with other people - EWWWWW sloppy seconds! No thanks, you wanted to be gone, stay gone!
The crappy situation for me is I'm watching these videos bc I'm still pining after a man who I only dated for 2 months, but his 21 year marriage ended this year 2023 and divorce was finalized shortly after. I knew I shouldn't have dated him bc he probably wasn't ready to move on. He said he was, but after two months when I wanted to progress the relationship he said he wasn't ready and went back to therapy and his therapist told him to tell me to find someone else who can treat me the way I deserved. He was the nicest man I've ever met. I've been hoping he'd come back to me, but after watching this, I'm the rebound that doesn't work out 😞
Thank you for the talk. It's been 3 months since my husband left. I haven't filed the divorce papers yet. He hasn't contact me yet. I'm still in pain but I'm just trying to focus on my future.
Coming up to a year since the breakup, over 6 months NC and I'm fighting off a renewed urge to reach out. Still terrified that I'll never hear from him again especially emotionally after having to reinforce a no contact boundary to allow me to process the pain whilst he was emotionally unavailable. Part of me thinks he's paved on completely after so long hearing nothing, but atleast I know I'd never go back to that relationship because I can see the pitfalls from having done the work! I have a feeling I'll be one of those 30 year or never returns success stories 😂
This is good to hear. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. the way my ex is handling the breakup is a bit mixed. My ex already feels all the sadness and grief and heart break and misses me already since the break up. So since from the start. It’s been 2 months. But he is still cold, doing things to make him better, didn’t change his mind, and in no contact with me… he still respects me so even if we did talk he wouldn’t ignore.. we talked a few times since I begged but he does feel relief from his choice even if he is in pain….. it’s all confusing. It’s hard because we see each other at church. I just have to heal and get better for myself…. And just see what the future holds
I made the mistake of not being disciplined after they reached out. I emailed them 6 weeks later and they weren’t ready to talk on the phone. It’s been NC for 9 months since I made that mistake.
What do any of you think of “manifesting an ex back” many people have had like a self concept phase where they just focus on their growth, and kind of still have their ex in the back of their mind imagining positive scenarios with them because there is a soul connection despite the breakup. And because of this soul connection where you truly feel each other / feel they’re telling you something, one day the dumper contacts you trying to come back. Is this common? Because my situation was very strange and once his mother knew about us , our plans were ruined. I feel within me he was forced to do this and he pops up In my dreams every week
Craig I don't know what to do. I had a breakup almost a 14 months ago. Initially for 2 months I begged and pleaded. I hadn't found your channel and I was really depressed. Then I went into no contact. She reached out to me in a strange way -- like kinda complaining each time. But she used to do it at least twice/month. She almost had regular contact with me in January. We talked for a whole month. It was so nice. I was so happy. I thought I had her. Then, I don't know she distanced a bit. She used to delete the number and save me. I had confrontations and she apologized but she did it again. She finally blocked me before exams. I felt like like contacting her and realised I was blocked. I was angry and I wanted to move on. She contacted me before exams and I was so angry about that flaky behavior. I poured my hearts anger at her. I blocked her. Two days later she begged me to talk to her and was crying for doing so. And she told we shouldn't bother each other at all. She didn't contact me after that. I thought I would be okay with her. I have been on 5 dates since man... But I can't find that happiness that connection... I am not happy. I had been missing her since a month ago. Then I heard she had a new bf, and that guy was hitting on her since January. I feel something been stolen from me. I don't want to loose the love of my life. I don't know what to do. I just feel tremendous pain. I wanna do whatever it takes. I really love her man. Idk if it's ever gonna be right
I’m sorry, but you deserve someone who wants to be with you. She obviously isn’t the right woman for you. You holding yourself hostage for a girl who wants nothing to do with you. This is what’s keeping you from finding a woman who will treat you the way you deserve. What makes this girls so special that she can treat you terribly, get with another man and still have you questioning your existence?
@@standground7956 I was dumped last week. I too am looking for someone who wants to be with me. My ex blames me for his unhappiness. He found comfort by cheating on me with his ex. He told me his ex was a better company than me. I almost die when he told me that. I just want to be love. That's all I want. Love and acceptance. Why can't I have that? I am in so much pain right now.
@@LaoSoftware You will have that eventually! You’re ex did you a favor by cheating and showing you who he truly is. Just date as many men as possible and be honest and upfront with what you want in a relationship. You don’t have sleep with anyone of them to find what you’re looking for.
My girlfriend actually broke up with me because she doesn’t know how to be alone. She found herself miserable and wracked with anxiety when we were apart. She told me she has no hobbies, and if she isn’t spending time with somebody, then she doesn’t have anything to do. So she intentionally broke up with me so she can learn how to be alone. This is comforting because I really do not believe she’s spending time with anyone else. But I do believe this is going to be a long time. Either very long or very short. It’s been 11 days so far, so I don’t know how to feel.
I’m in a very similar situation my guy, My girlfriend left 3 days ago and done it over the phone as she was at her home city and I was at our new place that we found together and have been waiting for her to fully move into when our final year of university starts in October. She has had a lot of family problems and health scares on her dad’s behalf and hasn’t felt happier with herself at all in months most likely. She she broke it off to ‘find herself again’ and grow to love her own company again which is a healthy reason to leave. She isn’t the type to go clubbing and sleeping around she’s a little book worm. I will have to see here in a week or 2 for her to move out of the house into her new place, I plan on packing her shit the moment I get home. I’ve grown a lot in just a few days. The pain still creeps up now and then but I’m doing good despite everything. I haven’t spoken to her in nearly 2 days now so it’s early days. But to be honest I don’t see myself taking her back even if this no contact bullshit goes the way everyone else in the comment section seems to be sharing. She isn’t the one in my eyes. Hopefully you’re doing okay dude! Keep your chin up
Can you do a video on how when your ex comes back and there's long distance that can be rekindled between two people because you can't meet up? Not for me because mine non X doesn't care whether I live or die but for other people I'm sure they could be in that situation
I was in a relationship with someone for almost 7 years. It started as a situationship then became a relationship. I wanted the next step of moving in together and getting married. He’s a dismissive and I’m an anxious attachment. Anytime I would talk about anything deep it was very overwhelming for him. I pushed for an answer because I was so confident that he would see me as a great partner. I was such a ride or die for him and want the next step. He came back and said no but when I pleaded my case…he said he needed more time. I gave him a month and I went into NC for 6 weeks but I reached out recently to get an answer and we talked on the phone. He said he was very happy with his choice and how he has no anxiety for the last 6 months. The only time he has anxiety is talking to me on the call. How we had communication issues and he wasn’t happy. I was very hurt. I always tried to communicate with him and I do remember we had such great moments but it seems like he’s only concentrating on the bad( when I wanted something more deep) I was always respectful towards him. Anyways I’m going NC again and it’s just so hard. His voice of saying he knows he made the right decision just hurts.
You are the best thank you for sharing so much positive energy and sharing with us who are in difficult situations how to be dumped by couples, many blessings to you guys🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💯💯💯 thank you🙏🏻
My dumper told me that I need more financial help from him. Than he wanted to give. Not considering he is the one who make the offer I live alone and cover my own expenses. He offered to cover my light bill take me out and make reference to help with my rent. When I ask him about helping with the rent as he mentioned he went into withdrawal and then broke up with me Explain if we can move part that.
@@sharon2785hey I screwed up financially with my ex too and caused him a lot of stress. He called me lazy and said I like to cut corners in life. Which I’m employed so not sure why he would be harsh with me like that. His family is pretty elitist even though they are also kind. Can you please give me an update on your situation?
I'd like to know too...My ex is a fearful avoidant I guess she'll never reach out and I won't neither because she dumped me. She's giving off the vibe that she misses me on social media but I can't do anything but stay silent.
If it was a longterm relationship, usually even the most stubborn exes reach out sooner or later... But what's most important is the person who broke the contact MUST be the one to reach out.
I was of the thinking that I would try to get my ex back. But I found out how quickly she jumped into bed with someone else, almost immediately after breakup. Decided to go to therapy and win my life back instead. It’s been hard.
Cool now do a video for the 95% of everyone where their two-faced ex moved on immediately with someone else and was never heard from again bcuz they didn’t go through any separation anxieties or regrets or anything mentioned in this video except relief
@@standground7956 I do. I healed & moved on long ago. And I hope the guy she cheated with for months leaves her shattered eventually, I just wish I could see it happen. But to imply most exes experience the loss like in this video just isn’t true Most of these ppl their exes jumped for joy and never looked back.
I did a $500 one-hour zoom session with this guy and literally learned NOTHING, he didn’t even point out that she was probably cheating when I went over what happened. The first 15 minutes were wasted talking about living in Florida lol.
My relationship last two years long distance, i bought him a plane ticket and booked a Airbnb to celebrate the two year mark. Only to be told two days before that he had cheated on me . I told him i forgive him and I understand seeing as it's a long distance relationship however he said he said he's not interested in seeing me for our anniversary.i wrote a understanding text to him, mailed him some stuff i had bought for our anniversar . He sent me back the money I had spent for the Airbnb and for the flight with a text stating that I was too much . Then I deleted him from my contact . I am numb , i cried but i'm numb
Go Grey rock or yellow rock, depending if you're dealing with court or not. If dealing with court, go yellow Rock and use parenting app. Never talk with ur ex in person alone!
I’m the one who broke up and I regretted it almost immediately. I was in a bad place with excruciating pain from sciatica (slipped and herniated disk pressing on the nerve). I suffered from lack of sleep and on opioids for the pain. I made a snap judgment because I was feeling unloved and in a fog. It’s been two and a half months of crying over this. I had back surgery a month ago and physically so much better. I broke no contact 3 weeks ago and we text almost every day now but he isn’t indicating he wants to see me. I’m not pressuring him for anything but I want to reconcile. I love him and miss him deeply. I don’t know what to do. He still reacts to my social media posts, texts me and what not. Do you think there’s a chance for us to be together again? I’m starting to lose hope. I know I hurt him. I just wish he could see that I made a huge mistake and I wasn’t myself. 😢 I’m doing much better now, physically. My broken back is healing but my broken heart is not. Does anyone have any tips or insight? Should I just let him go?
This comes from a caring place, please believe me: it’s your mess, you broke, now it’s down to you to fix it. Keep being patient, show you are sorry and you care, be consistent, they will learn to love and trust again ❤
@@arzumgulsar6951 thank you. He’s slowly coming back around. I appreciate the advice. I’m being patient while making an effort. I told him I love him and I’m not giving up on Friday night on a date. He’s coming over tonight too. I’m feeling good about it.
Not sure how to feel about my ex, I love her and always will wish her the best, I've corrected the things that were the down fall of our relationship, got help for my mental health and started a new job (a huge upgrade) but I'm not sure how to feel. It's been just over a year
I ❤️ u guys. this video has really helped me a lot to the steps in what the ex is liably encountering. I really appreciate u guys no end. we've been apart for a month. I sent her this last msg. in which expressed how I felt about her deception. lying n manipulation n really gave it to it with both barrels. then blocked..the hurtful thing was that she was seeing another behind my back for 3 months. n if it wasn't for my reaching out to her outa genuine concern. I still wudntve known. so this has been extremely painful. I'm definitely following ur advice n thank u once again.
Every time Craig mentions “doing the work” I think about Bill Murray in the movie What About Bob. “I’m doing the work … I’m baby stepping…”. Good stuff! 😀
This just sounds like they're gonna smash a bunch of people and come back to you. I'm good, I don't need someone new or old. I seen her post some pasty dude online "happy on a date". I'll stick to therapy and exercised stay single.
This is the best Explenation i ever seen and after some days it started to happen to me !!! She sent indirect messages and watching my stories on Instagram and also pushing her freinds too which i seems theyre knew , never knew them ! and it just stareted to happen in the phase where my mind has taken the lead and heart is resting after 7months of agony and she unblocked to watch what im doing after 7months of break up of my 4year relationship with her while she was cheating the whole last year with another and her family knew it and they try it to encurage it (probably her father bcs he told me infront of her that someone wanted to marry her )...
If it's the job of the education department to help set up young people for life, then the stuff you are teaching probably needs to be in the school curriculum. Forget Algebra and Trigonometry, relationships ( intimate or otherwise ) are one of the hardest things to understand and navigate through life.
39th day on NC since "I really like you and you're wonderful, I just don't think we should date, and that I need to be with someone my age that's all, but I really appreciate you and our friendship." with no reaching out to her since (I'm 38 & She is 31). This sucks, but I'm staying true to NC and working (therapist, working out, exploring interests, and not dating ANYONE or on ANY social media or apps)...she has not reached out and I have not checked any social media or gone to any places we used to go to together...any and all feedback is appreciated...never approached things this way with many previous Exes before, and still learning and growing. Much love to all!
I am listening to what you are saying but I know that my X has no regrets about his decision. He has gotten into two other serious relationships since he left me. Is it possible that a dumper will never miss a dumpee?
I am the dumper and I wish my ex could hear this and just hurt me by moving on! I try to explain this psychology to him but he won’t listen to me because is a chauvinist and refuses to listen to a woman. Instead he cries and professes his love every time we see each other. Like why wouldn’t he have some dignity and try to make me jealous or see what I’m missing??!! I don’t understand!! And I can’t move on until he does because we live in a tiny town and I don’t want to hurt him. It would hurt me immensely to see him move on but I would rather see him thriving than moping around
The asking for a meetup or "striking while the iron is hot" seems completely contradictory to all the other advice and it's the one thing i disagree with in all these vids. You can be friendly and respond if they reach out but asking for a meetup is the same as spilling your guts and saying you missed them, etc. They should have to do some of the work at that point
I have been watching your videos over and over for weeks now. I am currently married have been for 6 years well after one week after getting married I have caught my husband taking to other girls sexual home social medias. I was going to leave him but he begged for me back promised he would change and not do it again well thought out the 6 years probably every 6 months Is catch him doing it again well long story short he’s done this in every relationship always cheated always did this stuff and I’m his first marriage and longest relationship but over time after me forgiving him he kept doin it and my word of leaving him when I’d catch him over time me not doing it my words Didn’t mean crap to him and that’s my fault but even tho I’d catch him taking to a bunch of girls at a time every time sexually and all kinds of different social media platforms I never thought he’s actually physically go meet up with a girl and sleep with her and well almost 1 month ago he started acting weird like not caring if we broke up or telling me we are 2 different ppl and wasn’t being affectionate or intimate I started thinking he was doing something again like I have caught him in the past so I went through his phone and found him having sexual conversations on snap chat with a bunch of girls and getting their cash apps so he could send them money for sexual videos of them and sending nudes of himself and getting nudes of them and well I contacted the girls and one of them told me he hooked up with her 2 different times this past dec. I have always told him when I’d catch him in the past just talking sexual to girls if he wants to be single and get divorced just tell me and he would always say I’m not doing anything he could never tell me the truth. I ended up kicking him out and this Thursday will be one month since I had kicked him out. We went 2 weeks with our seeing each other and only talked a few times other then that we had no communication in that 2 weeks. He had reached out to my daughter to ask her how was school and reached out to her a few other times and he even asked his sister my sister in law that I talk to every day and we are really close if I was going to go to her house due to her having a pool party which I was and at that pool party which was after the 2 weeks I kicked him out and no contact he approached me and told me to have my daughter ready he’s be there at 4 pm tomorrow to pick her up. My daughter isn’t his biological daughter he has no kids of his own and well I asked him where are you taking her and he said does it matter and well we got in a fight I wasn’t too happy about that and the reason why is he never reached out before to take her on the 2 weeks or hardly texted her or anything and well after fighting about that we someone started talking about us and that I don’t think he’s sorry for what he did by cheating on me and he said he was getting help he was going to see a therapist and it’s cuz he has a problem his brother is like this and his dad and well later that night I ended up staying the night with him we didn’t do anything didn’t cuddle kiss or anything it was awkward but then the morning after he ended up going with me swimming at his sisters and didn’t even end up taking my daughter to the movie and later that night me and my daughter stayed the night again and well we ended up being intimate and he even cuddled me all that night I felt like things were going good and then the next morning we both woke up went to work he even kissed me bye and texted me when he got to work and we even flirted through texts and he asked if after work if me and my daughter wanted to go for ice cream he had told me he loved me and well we went for ice cream and I asked him after ice cream if he wanted us to stay the night again and he said he’s really tired and it just felt like he was making up a excuse I don’t know what went wrong all I know is after that I got upset cuz I just wanted to cuddle again or whatever not keep him up I felt like it was a excuse and every since that day he has been weird again acting like he don’t care at times so today I started the no contact again due to us both having to see each today cuz we had court for something else. I just don’t know how to be cuz we are married and wanted to say this before he hasn’t reached out to my daughter I’m over a week or even since that day we went for ice cream. It’s like he did a 360 again and right back to where he was being when we first separated. I really need some advice I don’t know how to do the no contact or even if it works when we are married. Please help me I don’t know where to go from here or if the no contact rule applies when we are married. Thank you and love all the your videos
Marla, there is that saying which is also one of Craig Kenneth's videos on his other channel called "when someone shows you who they are believe them" Your husband is a serial cheater, he was a cheater before you met him & he is still a cheater while you were with him. He's not going to change & he doesn't respect you. He will carry on talking to & sleeping with other girls not only behind your back but in front of you but you are rewarding his bad behaviour by still being available to him. He knows from past experiences that he can say whatever he wants & you won't leave completely. No contact needs to be for you & also for your daughters sake in order to work through the break up & to your on yourself. He isn't even really interested in seeing your daughter unless it is to manipulate you & gain access to you for his iwn selfish needs! It isn't fair to your daughter. If you can do it I would suggest to get a coaching with one of the 3 coaches & to sever ties with this man, he's only going to keep hurting you & your daughter & will never respect you or give you what you want
I was driving home and he was behind me I came home and he went real slow passing me then he messaged me about a post I posted on fb I didn't respond to him I doing right
☺️☺️hey yall,...it's me katie again and I was wondering how too contact you coach Craig I have just having so much happening and been feeling afraid I really was going but everything else too has bee. Overwhelming and it's all ready a big step for me I'm very sorry that I did not reach out yet but I guess things will just keep happening like I don't worry but I do and it's just Overwhelming and it's hard too contact like that and on top of all of that we all keep getting hacked☺️
I was just dumped today..caught me by complete surprise,i saw no signs. I am 56 years old and this has gutted me. We only were together for 5 months,but things moved fast and he lived with me fir 4 months. This is helping me,but do i have to wait months? And by the way i did text bomb him ans called him several times and he didnt answer. Im not going to do it anymore, this has helped.
It’s been 92 days since the breakup and we’ve been together for over 5 and a half years and I just recently found out that my sister texted my ex girlfriend back and told her that I don’t have her boots. I asked why and she said that I wouldn’t have known how to handle it. I told her that I would, and now I’m afraid, more sad actually, that she won’t reach out to wish me happy birthday or Merry Christmas or anything, or just telling me that she’s thinking about reconciling. (She’s a very literal person, I know) Do you think that she might change her mind and reconsider reaching out?
Why are you keeping track of how many days you broke up with an ex? It’s an ex. You’ve already given them over 5 years of your life, why not move on and be with someone else who actually wants you?
@@standground7956 It’s hard when you’ve invested so much in the person you were with for years, intimately, emotionally and spiritually! I still have faith she’ll come back.
Stages
1 - Relief
2 - Elation (Can take upto a Month)
3 - Nostalgia (4-5 month point)
4 - Feeling the loss (Dumper effected by seperation anxiety)
5 - Neutrality (Months after the break up).
As the dumpee work on your attachment style and get therapy.
6 - Regret and sadness. (Dumper worries dumpee found someone else)
7 - Enlightenment for the dumper (reflecting on their decision and wondering about you. This is the most likely time for them doing the "indirect, direct" approach to the dumpee). If you have a Cat its likely to be about them...😂
Final note - Dumpee must avoid post breakup mistakes by begging, pleading etc- so dumper can feel the loss. Stay strong and go no contact.
When your ex reaches out - stay disciplined. Dont give away everything you've done for the last few + months. And dont say I've missed you so much!! (If they reach out)
Good luck guys and stay strong.😊
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#4 feeling the loss + separation anxiety timing is different for every relationship but oftentimes it happens around 45 days or 6 to 8 weeks which is why its so important to not break no contact during that time. He reached out to me on day 40 and I wanted to break contact so bad that 6th week. You'll be glad you didn't break no contact those first 8 weeks which is the hardest and why I like to count up to 60 days. Trust the process. If the love was real and strong, they will want to genuinely reconcile.
What if they already moved on? I don't think they will have any regrets or nostalgia if things worked out in their favour
Man do I miss hearing Margret's voice and her endless amounts of knowledge and wisdom. These videos will never be outdated. Thank you Margret for everything you ,Craig and Victoria helped me get through during my most difficult time in my life.
What happened to her?
@@downwiththeclique7239she unfortunately passed away.😢
@@downwiththeclique7239she passed away, 😢💔
Why would you take someone back after they have betrayed you with multiple people? No self respect there. Let them live the loss for the rest of their lives. You didn't lose them, they lost you.
PERFECT!
Wow🙏🏻 that's the truth. Thank you for sharing. I got dumped over a text 😂😂 deleted her from everything. 🙏🏻💪🏻
This video and technique applies if you do want them back. If you don’t think the relationship salvageable then close the door. If they reach out, don’t respond. It’s that simple
@tawanabrittanie let them say that lol. It's a valid point but I find it really weird why they're here
Not everyone goes sleeps around. I been talking to a girl that got out of a 11 year relationship and had been 4 years single and not have slept with another man or anything. There are good woman and men out there don’t let one or 2 define them all.
RIP Coach Margaret
Rest in peace my dear Margaret 🕊️
After I had a breakup with my situationship, 2 months down I was doing so fine, moving on , doing me and just happy, stress-free. Then he messaged back..,. Out of nowhere, (it even feels like they know when you are moving on) at first I stayed strong then next thing you know I’ve been replying, after a month he’s been ghosting again.,, like clockwork.
It is human nature , they just want to release that tension and anxiety within themselves if they still have you in their hands. Lesson learned. It’s a very hard road but you have to have self respect. If you let people ran over you multiple times then it’s on you.
Same here.. It was I after no contact for two months I texted he immediately replied I sd him to put some efforts to communicate n I was the doing again, he would say yes to all the communicate that hell do but never did.. I finally blasted him in text saying either be consistent or block me, without any explanation he blocked me..
My ex (with whom I was friends first) wanted to be friends after breaking up with me, and after a month, I decided that I didn't want to settle for friendship. I do miss him, but I don't want to settle for less; I believe he was more willing to break up with me because he thought that he'd still have me in his life.
In the months you're alone and doing work your ex is seeing someone else until it doesn't work. When they come back they're just bringing more scars and problems from that relationship they jumped into. When they date someone else it's just not worth it anymore, they may realize your worth but it took another man or woman to show them and that's not the kind of person you need. I love my ex and miss her but I'm not accepting another man's impact on her trying to fix us and went wrong with her rebound.
Great comment!!
I love my ex and miss her but I'm not
accepting another man's impact on her trying to fix us and went wrong with her rebound.
I love this last line^^^
Thanks for this one of the best comments I've read from 100s of watched videos.
So so true! Every bit of it.
I'm an Anxious he's an Avoidant.
I was dumped after 10 yrs. I was floored. April 2021. Everyone we knew was also shocked at him. I was devastated 💔
Off he went at 54 yrs old pubbing and seeing other women.
I Immediately went into NC and stayed in NC, even to this day Feb 2024. Ive never faulted. In that time I 1st heard off him via Xmas card 7 months later, sending
All of his love!
Dec 2023 he made contact yet again with my dad...his 4th attempt in total. Telling my dad he had the best years with me. I still stayed in NC.
Me? Well, I worked on myself, listening to Margaret Craig and Victoria EVERY SINGLE NIGHT to calm my nerves. Their relationship wisdom is amazing....thanks guys and r.i.p. Margaret 😢❤
I worked on myself and met someone else Nov. 2021 and still with him. Hes just lovely. Kind. Caring. Loving and a brilliant dad to our kids.
I say thank you to my ex, for dumping me. It has been a very Happy ending...... for me at least
My husband has been in a midlife crisis for almost 3 years with severe depression and an identity crisis. He finally left today for good. Hurts because I gave it my all to be his support and he blamed me for all the problems in his life. I have blocked him on everything so I can focus on healing my anxiety all of this caused me.
Im so sorry. Bless you for being there when he needed you. Wish you the best
Hang in there, you must be experiencing a lot of pain months after this (at my time of reading) but you will emerge from this scarred but stronger and life will get better. Believe me it will
My wife going thu menopause she left me a month ago today I know it’s over and I never hear from her again
I think marriage is much different than a person dating for a few months 😞 God gives pretty good instructions ❤ start there
Can you give me an update
I dont beleive in love no more...no one really sticks around,once they are bored of you they throw you away like a piece of trash...the cheating the lying its all disgusting....yeah they may come back but they will leave again and there you go with the pain again..i feel like if they trully loved you they would have never left in the first place....they are allways looking for the next best thing trying to fill a void that other people cannot fill...
Underrated comment.
..I gave her 11 years of love and laughs...we never fought or argued...no negativity whatsoever....and what did I get!?....stomped and slashed my heart 1 day before our 11th anniversary of being together....chewed up spit out and kicked to the curb....
It’s good fall back on this video and watch it over and over so you can ease your pain and anxiety. That way, you’ll have some understanding of what your ex will be going through, even if you feel like you have little hope.
I recently found out that my ex either muted me or blocked me on Facebook but not Instagram (not sure why she only did that on one platform or why she would do that).
I totally agree...I'm going too watch .over and over as its realy helping
honestly
He blocked me on everything, but the PlayStation. I don’t know why.
My ex took to long to do the indirect direct approach. By then I had already settled on the way things were and become aware of the way she really was, a bad person and incompatible. By the time she reached out, i had already lost interest. Id rather start over with someone new or be single before i ever accept somebody who burned me and thought they could do better.
Keep on trucking.
Yea like who can wait min 5 months for their ex to maybe come back, at the earliest? The dumpee has no choice but to move on
My ex got his fling pregnant 😭 we had only been back together 10 days, all the way through the pregnancy he's been telling me it's me he wants and loves. Now 10 days till the baby's due he's wanting to enjoy the experience of being a dad. He's ALWAYS wanted kids of his own, I can't have more... I've been left all over again 😭😭😭
My heart is broken 😭😭💔💔
That's fucked up, I'm sorry to hear that
So who was the dumper, & who was the dumpee?
🤣🤣🤣lmfao..
Hahahaha that’s what you get for not giving him a kid 😂
What’s the issue be a step mom
Yep, I got the “I miss you and the cat” text too🙄
🙄🙄🙄 triple eyeroll.
😂😂😂
Thank you for these videos after almost 6 months I finally feel like myself again and feel like I have moved on with my life and not worry about her coming back, if a huge relief of a feeling like being free
Update?
i wish i can fast forward time and get to be where you are
You guys are so comforting
"Perceived root cause of unhappiness" kind of opened my eyes or gave me a feeling that this really good relationship, that she has ended out of the blue, was not all about the relationship and me in particular. We did not fight, we had a lot of harmony, there was definitely alot of love for and between us and I supported her in so many ways, but she has several problems/issues in her life (family things, work is very intense and overstrains her and some other things) and well maybe it was this. What do I know :)
Most of the time they already find a replacement before they end the relationship so I think the dumpee should just go out and date instead of waiting, perhaps they might never hear from the dumper
My ex rejoined the dating app where we met just 3 weeks after dumping me and moved on. At the same time, I met a woman that looked like a Barbie doll who told me not to waste my time trying to get back my ex bc she saw the true value in me and like an idiot I blocked the new girl only to run back to my ex and get rejected again. I regret losing the new girl as much as my ex.
@@alanzo428 at least you didn't pretend like you're ready to date the new woman, that would not have gone well for both of you
Agree. I started dating someone new a few weeks after the break up. I personally think most exes dont come back. Only 2 out of 5 have tried to come back. Not sure my recent one will but I won't allow people who put me through emotionl pain come back.
Why would anyone want someone back that dumped them? - especially if they were with other people - EWWWWW sloppy seconds! No thanks, you wanted to be gone, stay gone!
😂 💯
we miss you margaret 😢
NCT is absolutely works just be patient trust the process i been through that my X reaching out after 25days of no contact i just disappear😂😂
This really cheered me up. You guys are entertaining AND educational. Thank you…
The crappy situation for me is I'm watching these videos bc I'm still pining after a man who I only dated for 2 months, but his 21 year marriage ended this year 2023 and divorce was finalized shortly after. I knew I shouldn't have dated him bc he probably wasn't ready to move on. He said he was, but after two months when I wanted to progress the relationship he said he wasn't ready and went back to therapy and his therapist told him to tell me to find someone else who can treat me the way I deserved. He was the nicest man I've ever met. I've been hoping he'd come back to me, but after watching this, I'm the rebound that doesn't work out 😞
Aww. I was in the same situation. He said he didn't want to make the same mistake he made with his ex-husband.
Thank you for the talk. It's been 3 months since my husband left. I haven't filed the divorce papers yet. He hasn't contact me yet. I'm still in pain but I'm just trying to focus on my future.
For sure he doesn’t want to pony up the money a divorce will cost. Bide your time and make sure he does pay.
Would you consider reconciling?
Update?
Craig, you should do a video on indirect/directs entitled "I miss the cat"!
Oh my gosh yes!! 😂😅❤
Coming up to a year since the breakup, over 6 months NC and I'm fighting off a renewed urge to reach out. Still terrified that I'll never hear from him again especially emotionally after having to reinforce a no contact boundary to allow me to process the pain whilst he was emotionally unavailable. Part of me thinks he's paved on completely after so long hearing nothing, but atleast I know I'd never go back to that relationship because I can see the pitfalls from having done the work! I have a feeling I'll be one of those 30 year or never returns success stories 😂
Update?
This is good to hear. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. the way my ex is handling the breakup is a bit mixed. My ex already feels all the sadness and grief and heart break and misses me already since the break up. So since from the start. It’s been 2 months. But he is still cold, doing things to make him better, didn’t change his mind, and in no contact with me… he still respects me so even if we did talk he wouldn’t ignore.. we talked a few times since I begged but he does feel relief from his choice even if he is in pain….. it’s all confusing. It’s hard because we see each other at church.
I just have to heal and get better for myself…. And just see what the future holds
Stay strong. You feel like you don't got this. But I have a feeling you're stronger than you think.
I made the mistake of not being disciplined after they reached out. I emailed them 6 weeks later and they weren’t ready to talk on the phone. It’s been NC for 9 months since I made that mistake.
Back to being single. It ain't that bad! I like having more time to read and write instead of talking for long hours on the phone. I miss him though.
Oh my god. My ex has said he’s missed my cat a few times now
Lol that’s funny.. he misses u more trust me
😂😂😂😂
What do any of you think of “manifesting an ex back” many people have had like a self concept phase where they just focus on their growth, and kind of still have their ex in the back of their mind imagining positive scenarios with them because there is a soul connection despite the breakup. And because of this soul connection where you truly feel each other / feel they’re telling you something, one day the dumper contacts you trying to come back. Is this common? Because my situation was very strange and once his mother knew about us , our plans were ruined. I feel within me he was forced to do this and he pops up In my dreams every week
She dumped me and she has the cats and the dog, and I miss them all but staying strong in NC, 60 days and going
These is very helpful to ease the pain of the dumpee side.the consolation that dumper will feel realized what they 've lost in thier life
Margaret is cool love the way she speaks. ❤
Craig I don't know what to do. I had a breakup almost a 14 months ago. Initially for 2 months I begged and pleaded. I hadn't found your channel and I was really depressed. Then I went into no contact. She reached out to me in a strange way -- like kinda complaining each time. But she used to do it at least twice/month. She almost had regular contact with me in January. We talked for a whole month. It was so nice. I was so happy. I thought I had her. Then, I don't know she distanced a bit. She used to delete the number and save me. I had confrontations and she apologized but she did it again. She finally blocked me before exams. I felt like like contacting her and realised I was blocked. I was angry and I wanted to move on. She contacted me before exams and I was so angry about that flaky behavior. I poured my hearts anger at her. I blocked her. Two days later she begged me to talk to her and was crying for doing so. And she told we shouldn't bother each other at all. She didn't contact me after that. I thought I would be okay with her. I have been on 5 dates since man... But I can't find that happiness that connection... I am not happy. I had been missing her since a month ago. Then I heard she had a new bf, and that guy was hitting on her since January. I feel something been stolen from me. I don't want to loose the love of my life. I don't know what to do. I just feel tremendous pain. I wanna do whatever it takes. I really love her man. Idk if it's ever gonna be right
I’m sorry, but you deserve someone who wants to be with you. She obviously isn’t the right woman for you. You holding yourself hostage for a girl who wants nothing to do with you. This is what’s keeping you from finding a woman who will treat you the way you deserve. What makes this girls so special that she can treat you terribly, get with another man and still have you questioning your existence?
@@standground7956
I was dumped last week. I too am looking for someone who wants to be with me. My ex blames me for his unhappiness. He found comfort by cheating on me with his ex. He told me his ex was a better company than me. I almost die when he told me that. I just want to be love. That's all I want. Love and acceptance. Why can't I have that? I am in so much pain right now.
@@LaoSoftware You will have that eventually! You’re ex did you a favor by cheating and showing you who he truly is. Just date as many men as possible and be honest and upfront with what you want in a relationship. You don’t have sleep with anyone of them to find what you’re looking for.
Once they’ve broken it mate, it will never be the same.
@@standground7956 you’ve got some good, sound advice. Thanks, I needed to hear this myself.
I was blocked for no reason in no contact, now day 75 and losing hope…
Why aren’t you in therapy or dating
update ?
@@cjthemvp123 I never reached out, nor did she. Not much else too it I’m afraid, I wish I could give you some hope but life does get better!
My girlfriend actually broke up with me because she doesn’t know how to be alone. She found herself miserable and wracked with anxiety when we were apart. She told me she has no hobbies, and if she isn’t spending time with somebody, then she doesn’t have anything to do.
So she intentionally broke up with me so she can learn how to be alone.
This is comforting because I really do not believe she’s spending time with anyone else. But I do believe this is going to be a long time. Either very long or very short. It’s been 11 days so far, so I don’t know how to feel.
I’m in a very similar situation my guy,
My girlfriend left 3 days ago and done it over the phone as she was at her home city and I was at our new place that we found together and have been waiting for her to fully move into when our final year of university starts in October.
She has had a lot of family problems and health scares on her dad’s behalf and hasn’t felt happier with herself at all in months most likely.
She she broke it off to ‘find herself again’ and grow to love her own company again which is a healthy reason to leave.
She isn’t the type to go clubbing and sleeping around she’s a little book worm.
I will have to see here in a week or 2 for her to move out of the house into her new place, I plan on packing her shit the moment I get home.
I’ve grown a lot in just a few days. The pain still creeps up now and then but I’m doing good despite everything. I haven’t spoken to her in nearly 2 days now so it’s early days.
But to be honest I don’t see myself taking her back even if this no contact bullshit goes the way everyone else in the comment section seems to be sharing.
She isn’t the one in my eyes.
Hopefully you’re doing okay dude! Keep your chin up
Can you do a video on how when your ex comes back and there's long distance that can be rekindled between two people because you can't meet up? Not for me because mine non X doesn't care whether I live or die but for other people I'm sure they could be in that situation
"They'll feel it when they slow down."
Mine hasn't slowed down; busy, successful, supported. Oh....OH. I don't want to hurt him anymore 😱😭
This video was very helpful.
Sad to hear about Coach Margaret 🙏
I was in a relationship with someone for almost 7 years. It started as a situationship then became a relationship. I wanted the next step of moving in together and getting married. He’s a dismissive and I’m an anxious attachment. Anytime I would talk about anything deep it was very overwhelming for him. I pushed for an answer because I was so confident that he would see me as a great partner. I was such a ride or die for him and want the next step. He came back and said no but when I pleaded my case…he said he needed more time. I gave him a month and I went into NC for 6 weeks but I reached out recently to get an answer and we talked on the phone. He said he was very happy with his choice and how he has no anxiety for the last 6 months. The only time he has anxiety is talking to me on the call. How we had communication issues and he wasn’t happy. I was very hurt. I always tried to communicate with him and I do remember we had such great moments but it seems like he’s only concentrating on the bad( when I wanted something more deep) I was always respectful towards him. Anyways I’m going NC again and it’s just so hard. His voice of saying he knows he made the right decision just hurts.
What if the person that your partner has left you for was always in background throughout the entire relationship❓
You are the best thank you for sharing so much positive energy and sharing with us who are in difficult situations how to be dumped by couples, many blessings to you guys🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💯💯💯 thank you🙏🏻
Miss you Margaret ❤
My dumper told me that I need more financial help from him. Than he wanted to give. Not considering he is the one who make the offer
I live alone and cover my own expenses. He offered to cover my light bill take me out and make reference to help with my rent. When I ask him about helping with the rent as he mentioned he went into withdrawal and then broke up with me
Explain if we can move part that.
@@sharon2785hey I screwed up financially with my ex too and caused him a lot of stress. He called me lazy and said I like to cut corners in life. Which I’m employed so not sure why he would be harsh with me like that. His family is pretty elitist even though they are also kind. Can you please give me an update on your situation?
Rip Coach Margaret
But what happens if you end up in a stalemate where no one has the courage to reach out for fear of rejection?
I'd like to know too...My ex is a fearful avoidant I guess she'll never reach out and I won't neither because she dumped me. She's giving off the vibe that she misses me on social media but I can't do anything but stay silent.
Me three
Same here
Then it's time to grow a pair for at least one of the parties.
If it was a longterm relationship, usually even the most stubborn exes reach out sooner or later... But what's most important is the person who broke the contact MUST be the one to reach out.
I was of the thinking that I would try to get my ex back. But I found out how quickly she jumped into bed with someone else, almost immediately after breakup. Decided to go to therapy and win my life back instead. It’s been hard.
This is a really good video
The cost of dumping me... Is me
Cool now do a video for the 95% of everyone where their two-faced ex moved on immediately with someone else and was never heard from again bcuz they didn’t go through any separation anxieties or regrets or anything mentioned in this video except relief
That person did you a huge favor. You should thank them for showing you who they really are.
@@standground7956 I do. I healed & moved on long ago. And I hope the guy she cheated with for months leaves her shattered eventually, I just wish I could see it happen. But to imply most exes experience the loss like in this video just isn’t true Most of these ppl their exes jumped for joy and never looked back.
@@MikeKillian I agree!
I did a $500 one-hour zoom session with this guy and literally learned NOTHING, he didn’t even point out that she was probably cheating when I went over what happened. The first 15 minutes were wasted talking about living in Florida lol.
My relationship last two years long distance, i bought him a plane ticket and booked a Airbnb to celebrate the two year mark. Only to be told two days before that he had cheated on me . I told him i forgive him and I understand seeing as it's a long distance relationship however he said he said he's not interested in seeing me for our anniversary.i wrote a understanding text to him, mailed him some stuff i had bought for our anniversar . He sent me back the money I had spent for the Airbnb and for the flight with a text stating that I was too much . Then I deleted him from my contact . I am numb , i cried but i'm numb
Could you PLEASE make a video about NO CONTACT when you have kids? How to behave?💔
Go Grey rock or yellow rock, depending if you're dealing with court or not. If dealing with court, go yellow Rock and use parenting app. Never talk with ur ex in person alone!
Keep it short and strictly about the kids. End the conversation if it’s not about the kids.
This video is great! Thank you.
Rip coach Margaret
Missing you Margaret! SIP Angel.
Im the dumper and im sure that im much much much more devastated than dumpee, and im having terrible separation anxiety from the start🤮
I’m the one who broke up and I regretted it almost immediately. I was in a bad place with excruciating pain from sciatica (slipped and herniated disk pressing on the nerve). I suffered from lack of sleep and on opioids for the pain. I made a snap judgment because I was feeling unloved and in a fog. It’s been two and a half months of crying over this. I had back surgery a month ago and physically so much better. I broke no contact 3 weeks ago and we text almost every day now but he isn’t indicating he wants to see me. I’m not pressuring him for anything but I want to reconcile. I love him and miss him deeply. I don’t know what to do. He still reacts to my social media posts, texts me and what not. Do you think there’s a chance for us to be together again? I’m starting to lose hope. I know I hurt him. I just wish he could see that I made a huge mistake and I wasn’t myself. 😢 I’m doing much better now, physically. My broken back is healing but my broken heart is not. Does anyone have any tips or insight? Should I just let him go?
If you broke up, you reach out. Your love should be bigger than your anger and ego. You tell him you want to reconcile.
If you were feeling unloved, that feeling might not go away and maybe he is ok with the break up so you should give him a chance to miss you
This comes from a caring place, please believe me: it’s your mess, you broke, now it’s down to you to fix it.
Keep being patient, show you are sorry and you care, be consistent, they will learn to love and trust again ❤
@@arzumgulsar6951 thank you. He’s slowly coming back around. I appreciate the advice. I’m being patient while making an effort. I told him I love him and I’m not giving up on Friday night on a date. He’s coming over tonight too. I’m feeling good about it.
You need to let them know what you want. Be honest what you want and let them know if they need time to trust you, give that to them
Not sure how to feel about my ex, I love her and always will wish her the best, I've corrected the things that were the down fall of our relationship, got help for my mental health and started a new job (a huge upgrade) but I'm not sure how to feel. It's been just over a year
thank u guys so much
I ❤️ u guys. this video has really helped me a lot to the steps in what the ex is liably encountering. I really appreciate u guys no end. we've been apart for a month. I sent her this last msg. in which expressed how I felt about her deception. lying n manipulation n really gave it to it with both barrels. then blocked..the hurtful thing was that she was seeing another behind my back for 3 months. n if it wasn't for my reaching out to her outa genuine concern. I still wudntve known. so this has been extremely painful. I'm definitely following ur advice n thank u once again.
update?
This was helpful
If she has a fling and feels free to what ever she wants then let her be and DON’T take her back.
Every time Craig mentions “doing the work” I think about Bill Murray in the movie What About Bob. “I’m doing the work … I’m baby stepping…”.
Good stuff! 😀
This just sounds like they're gonna smash a bunch of people and come back to you.
I'm good, I don't need someone new or old. I seen her post some pasty dude online "happy on a date".
I'll stick to therapy and exercised stay single.
This is the best Explenation i ever seen and after some days it started to happen to me !!! She sent indirect messages and watching my stories on Instagram and also pushing her freinds too which i seems theyre knew , never knew them ! and it just stareted to happen in the phase where my mind has taken the lead and heart is resting after 7months of agony and she unblocked to watch what im doing after 7months of break up of my 4year relationship with her while she was cheating the whole last year with another and her family knew it and they try it to encurage it (probably her father bcs he told me infront of her that someone wanted to marry her )...
Move on and never look back. It’s over.
That's right. It seems like a game. They dumped me. It hurts but they are gone.
Does this apply to gay straight relationship? So hard to find advices for people like me 😔
It’s the same…trust me it’s universal…straight, gay, bi, poly …
What about a situation where the ex left and got with someone else within a few months. Separation anxiety could still apply?
What if the break up was mutual? What role do each of you take? Who is the dumper Who is the dumpee?
If it's the job of the education department to help set up young people for life, then the stuff you are teaching probably needs to be in the school curriculum. Forget Algebra and Trigonometry, relationships ( intimate or otherwise ) are one of the hardest things to understand and navigate through life.
39th day on NC since "I really like you and you're wonderful, I just don't think we should date, and that I need to be with someone my age that's all, but I really appreciate you and our friendship." with no reaching out to her since (I'm 38 & She is 31). This sucks, but I'm staying true to NC and working (therapist, working out, exploring interests, and not dating ANYONE or on ANY social media or apps)...she has not reached out and I have not checked any social media or gone to any places we used to go to together...any and all feedback is appreciated...never approached things this way with many previous Exes before, and still learning and growing. Much love to all!
Is it too late to do “no contact” after 22 months?
It's never too late
Why my ex is hiding her rebound
I am listening to what you are saying but I know that my X has no regrets about his decision. He has gotten into two other serious relationships since he left me. Is it possible that a dumper will never miss a dumpee?
Hmmmm, he sounds like a narcissist. I'm not a doctor. I'm a stranger. So for what it is worth, you deserve someone that'll treat you better.
How do you do no contact if you were married with a child? I only contact her if I can talk to our child and that's it. What else can I do?
My ex loved nothing more than cuddling and watching movies with me. How happy can she be out 3x a week with her friends? All Distractions.
Also my ex didn't follow these stages I had the indirect direct months ago without NC
Weirdly me too. Like 3-4 days after the breakup.. but idk if it was just breadcrumbing or not 🤔
I am the dumper and I wish my ex could hear this and just hurt me by moving on! I try to explain this psychology to him but he won’t listen to me because is a chauvinist and refuses to listen to a woman. Instead he cries and professes his love every time we see each other. Like why wouldn’t he have some dignity and try to make me jealous or see what I’m missing??!! I don’t understand!! And I can’t move on until he does because we live in a tiny town and I don’t want to hurt him. It would hurt me immensely to see him move on but I would rather see him thriving than moping around
I have an ex that I dumped who had a healthy mindset and I really respected him for not begging and for moving on even though it stung
The asking for a meetup or "striking while the iron is hot" seems completely contradictory to all the other advice and it's the one thing i disagree with in all these vids. You can be friendly and respond if they reach out but asking for a meetup is the same as spilling your guts and saying you missed them, etc. They should have to do some of the work at that point
Totally agree
You have to stay disciplined...LIKE BULL! 🤣
I have been watching your videos over and over for weeks now. I am currently married have been for 6 years well after one week after getting married I have caught my husband taking to other girls sexual home social medias. I was going to leave him but he begged for me back promised he would change and not do it again well thought out the 6 years probably every 6 months Is catch him doing it again well long story short he’s done this in every relationship always cheated always did this stuff and I’m his first marriage and longest relationship but over time after me forgiving him he kept doin it and my word of leaving him when I’d catch him over time me not doing it my words
Didn’t mean crap to him and that’s my fault but even tho I’d catch him taking to a bunch of girls at a time every time sexually and all kinds of different social media platforms I never thought he’s actually physically go meet up with a girl and sleep with her and well almost 1 month ago he started acting weird like not caring if we broke up or telling me we are 2 different ppl and wasn’t being affectionate or intimate I started thinking he was doing something again like I have caught him in the past so I went through his phone and found him having sexual conversations on snap chat with a bunch of girls and getting their cash apps so he could send them money for sexual videos of them and sending nudes of himself and getting nudes of them and well I contacted the girls and one of them told me he hooked up with her 2 different times this past dec. I have always told him when I’d catch him in the past just talking sexual to girls if he wants to be single and get divorced just tell me and he would always say I’m not doing anything he could never tell me the truth. I ended up kicking him out and this Thursday will be one month since I had kicked him out. We went 2 weeks with our seeing each other and only talked a few times other then that we had no communication in that 2 weeks. He had reached out to my daughter to ask her how was school and reached out to her a few other times and he even asked his sister my sister in law that I talk to every day and we are really close if I was going to go to her house due to her having a pool party which I was and at that pool party which was after the 2 weeks I kicked him out and no contact he approached me and told me to have my daughter ready he’s be there at 4 pm tomorrow to pick her up. My daughter isn’t his biological daughter he has no kids of his own and well I asked him where are you taking her and he said does it matter and well we got in a fight I wasn’t too happy about that and the reason why is he never reached out before to take her on the 2 weeks or hardly texted her or anything and well after fighting about that we someone started talking about us and that I don’t think he’s sorry for what he did by cheating on me and he said he was getting help he was going to see a therapist and it’s cuz he has a problem his brother is like this and his dad and well later that night I ended up staying the night with him we didn’t do anything didn’t cuddle kiss or anything it was awkward but then the morning after he ended up going with me swimming at his sisters and didn’t even end up taking my daughter to the movie and later that night me and my daughter stayed the night again and well we ended up being intimate and he even cuddled me all that night I felt like things were going good and then the next morning we both woke up went to work he even kissed me bye and texted me when he got to work and we even flirted through texts and he asked if after work if me and my daughter wanted to go for ice cream he had told me he loved me and well we went for ice cream and I asked him after ice cream if he wanted us to stay the night again and he said he’s really tired and it just felt like he was making up a excuse I don’t know what went wrong all I know is after that I got upset cuz I just wanted to cuddle again or whatever not keep him up I felt like it was a excuse and every since that day he has been weird again acting like he don’t care at times so today I started the no contact again due to us both having to see each today cuz we had court for something else. I just don’t know how to be cuz we are married and wanted to say this before he hasn’t reached out to my daughter I’m over a week or even since that day we went for ice cream. It’s like he did a 360 again and right back to where he was being when we first separated. I really need some advice I don’t know how to do the no contact or even if it works when we are married. Please help me I don’t know where to go from here or if the no contact rule applies when we are married. Thank you and love all the your videos
Marla, there is that saying which is also one of Craig Kenneth's videos on his other channel called "when someone shows you who they are believe them"
Your husband is a serial cheater, he was a cheater before you met him & he is still a cheater while you were with him.
He's not going to change & he doesn't respect you. He will carry on talking to & sleeping with other girls not only behind your back but in front of you but you are rewarding his bad behaviour by still being available to him.
He knows from past experiences that he can say whatever he wants & you won't leave completely.
No contact needs to be for you & also for your daughters sake in order to work through the break up & to your on yourself.
He isn't even really interested in seeing your daughter unless it is to manipulate you & gain access to you for his iwn selfish needs! It isn't fair to your daughter.
If you can do it I would suggest to get a coaching with one of the 3 coaches & to sever ties with this man, he's only going to keep hurting you & your daughter & will never respect you or give you what you want
How do you handle being the dumpee but have a child together, my daughter lives with me
Y’all just pray
So the dumper goes and sleeps with a bunch of people while the dumpee is sad. Awesome.
My question is does this apply even when they are with someone else? Do they still go through these stages while they are with another person?
I wish I had the money for coaching as I’m so mentally broken I don’t know what to do with my self I haven’t eaten for nearly a week 💔🥺😭🥺😭🥺
I was driving home and he was behind me I came home and he went real slow passing me then he messaged me about a post I posted on fb I didn't respond to him I doing right
☺️☺️hey yall,...it's me katie again and I was wondering how too contact you coach Craig I have just having so much happening and been feeling afraid I really was going but everything else too has bee. Overwhelming and it's all ready a big step for me I'm very sorry that I did not reach out yet but I guess things will just keep happening like I don't worry but I do and it's just Overwhelming and it's hard too contact like that and on top of all of that we all keep getting hacked☺️
I am the dumper I dont feel happy at all just sad. There was no love.
I talked to my ex a couple of weeks ago but what's your opinion is if your partner has depression and a bad pass ?
I was just dumped today..caught me by complete surprise,i saw no signs. I am 56 years old and this has gutted me. We only were together for 5 months,but things moved fast and he lived with me fir 4 months. This is helping me,but do i have to wait months?
And by the way i did text bomb him ans called him several times and he didnt answer.
Im not going to do it anymore, this has helped.
How are you doing now?
my BF for 6 yrs break me up bec of other woman. It's so painful..
I have the same, we are 7years together and he choses her 💔💔💔
I've sent my last letter to my ex 1 week after the breakup. Will these stages still come into place?
I think a dumpee should go dating as soon as the breakup,let the dumper knows that with all the pain they as a dumpee can still find someone
I am unable to process payment for the course. What shall I do?
My ex responded about a post I posted on FB I didn't respond I left him on read
Worst than athletes foot 🤣🤣🤣
It’s been 92 days since the breakup and we’ve been together for over 5 and a half years and I just recently found out that my sister texted my ex girlfriend back and told her that I don’t have her boots. I asked why and she said that I wouldn’t have known how to handle it. I told her that I would, and now I’m afraid, more sad actually, that she won’t reach out to wish me happy birthday or Merry Christmas or anything, or just telling me that she’s thinking about reconciling. (She’s a very literal person, I know) Do you think that she might change her mind and reconsider reaching out?
I have separation anxiety and I’m going through a separation alaition.
Why are you keeping track of how many days you broke up with an ex? It’s an ex. You’ve already given them over 5 years of your life, why not move on and be with someone else who actually wants you?
@@standground7956 It’s hard when you’ve invested so much in the person you were with for years, intimately, emotionally and spiritually! I still have faith she’ll come back.
@@standground7956 Plus, 5 and a half years is a lot and we planned a future together. If you can’t say anything supportive, don’t say anything at all.
@@standground7956 If you have nothing nice to say if someone just wants to grieve, let them, and don’t say anything at all!!!
Me and my x separated in October at first he would ghost me then I would text him and he responds now so what should I do now
Why are you interested in staying in contact with an ex?