What Makes An Ex Realize They Love You?
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- What makes an ex realize they love you ? When going through a breakup, we often want our exes to think back on the relationship and remember the intense feeling of connection and love that they had for us. In this video, we discuss some behaviors that allows your ex to process and reflect on the relationship.
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If you are someone who got left, take courage amid all of the overwhelming emotions. When a person excuses themselves from our lives, do not try to keep them there. It will only make you feel more miserable, more sad and more despondent. Time with no contact will help you fortify your spirit and resolve to move on without that person. In this way, you can heal and find your true soul mate, the person who will choose you in any situation and above everyone else every time. Blessings to you all. You are loved.
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It depends on what YOU did. So instead of moving on you should be working on yourself instead of just bringing the same issues to a new person thinking what will solve your issues is just changing the externals a.k.a new person
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You are so sweet. You speak well and wisely xxx
I tried to date someone else and all I could think the whole time was ‘wow I miss my ex’ I hope he feels the same
Do the work! You want to blow him away! 🙌 #TheKnowledge
@@jayman9168 first of all my ex broke up with me, I’ve been single for over 3 months and I’ve been on one date and haven’t slept with anyone else you freak? Why would my ex care if I did anyway when he ended things? You need to mind your business
Me too. I stopped caring about finding love as much. If i meet someone new, cool. If my Ex comes back, cool. But all i care about now is reaching my life goals.
Oh my Jesus!!! Yes!! I sabotaged 100s of potential relationships w really great women since the breakup bc I couldn't stop thinking about her & comparing. Now, I can't even do my regular mentor sessions at volunteering without thinking of her bc all my mentors are young women her age and it's like my unconscious can no longer tell the difference. How are we really supposed to work on ourselves when literally everything reminds us of them?
@@Js-wd6dr gee thanks Captain Obvious
I miss coach Margaret😢may her soul rest in peace ❤💐🌷🪷🪷🪷
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DO NOT keep reaching out to your ex it will make it worse you have to let go trust me. I messed up badly, when it ends you can say one time i would like to work things out if you do not want to i understand. Then go work on yoursef that is your best chance i promise.
How long before it's to long
I'm watching all these videos and they give me hope. My dilemma is she's going thru trauma therapy and ended it. Theres a long story about us, but im the first guy who didn't abuse her or hurt her. So, like all the research says, a trauma victim will push away healthy partners. Hoping these videos apply to our situation. I'm on day 32 of no contact. Praying she returns.
Update?
Any update friend? I'm on day 8 of no contact and I have a similar situation I think
I pushed away the one guy that actually wasn’t interested in abusing me. I’m in therapy now. My low self-esteem, not trusting anyone created a mess in my relationship. He blocked me everywhere. I respect it. I still love him though. In a way I’m kind of glad he did do that I can stay focused on healing and hope he heals from whatever I may have caused to him. Regardless of how he may see me today I hope he can forgive me even if he’s no longer with me.
Close to two years, she never came back, she even said we are soulmates and she so much wanted to stay friends and yet she completely vanished from my life. Best thing you can do for yourself is don’t waste energy for thinking she comes back, live your life by thinking you will not get second change, if you get that’s great, but don’t hold your breath waiting thing which might or might not happen.
I’ve now had new girlfriend for a year and i live best times in my life, but still sometimes i think of her, even if it ended and it ended in quite good terms, i think there was something special, that’s why i’m surprised she never reached out and i really thought she would come back after i give her the space.
Nearly the same here, and adding to that there's the fact that we already knew each other since we had our first "relationship" 20 years ago (we gave it another try many years later), so we were friends or that's what i've always thought. Covid restrictions and finantial turmoil took me the best in the last year of the relationship, while she was promoted in her job instead. I felt very anxious and, focusing in trying to save my business, i had to put our relationship on standby for a year: big mistake. She was very loving and comprehensive of my situation in the meantime, but it was too much waiting for her that whole year, so she broke up with me. I must say that it was in good terms: i aknowledged my mistake. However two days later she began to act supercold so i did no contact shortly afterñ; 20 months have now passed and not a sole new or word from her, absolutely nothing. As you said, she completely vanished.
The acute pain of the breakup is largely gone now and i continued with my life. But i'm not gonna lie: her supercoldness still hurts and it's very difficult to digest after all those years being "friends".
@@r.maelstrom4810 sorry to hear that. Big reason why we brokeup was also the covid times, it was difficult time, can't do anything can't go anywhere and just overall very stressful time, she also had lot things to handle because he's dad got very ill (not because of covid) so she had to to take care of him and she just didn't had time for everything, she also started to seeing therapist and eventually we both felt frustrated, there wasn't anything major wrong with us, we just lost the connection and then we had one argument and that was it, one fight in 1,5 year relationship and that's it! I'm surprised she didn't want to fight for it at all, when sametime she called us soulmates and wanted so much to stay as friends.
@@delic83 I'm seriously starting to think that most of our exes who simply leave and never look back do indeed suffer from severely untreated personality disorders like NPD, Bipolar or BPD. It's pretty much confirmed in that it's mostly us guys who end up seeking therapy while the women merely jump into a new relationship and keep doing this endlessly hoping that their next hook up will finally be their perfect dream man when in fact they're only prolonging their delusion that every relationship is supposed to be 100% drama, trouble free. In reality, all relationships have problems even the richest people have issues and end up divorcing - Gates, Bezos, and yet they still maintain that they can and will do better, never addressing or resolving or realizing the truth that they themselves are also the problem in all their failed relationships. Smh
@@r.maelstrom4810 I have gone cold to someone I loved so deeply and thought he was my soulmate. I still love him, I still feel his presence. Not even one single day goes by without thinking of him. But I have never reach to him and have no plans to reach out to my ex. He broke up with me and I accepted it
@@almasqadri7208 That's the thing: he broke up with you. May be is the way i was educated or nurtured, but i always try to end things in good terms, at least to avoid that uncomfortable moment that we meet again unexpectedly, just in case, and to honor the sympathy we had. I don't know why this ex, precisely the one who i remember the most dearly, is acting this way. I expected that she wouldn't reach out the first 6 months or year, but after nearly 2 years? Her lack of consideration after 20 years getting along quite well disturbs me and, now, angers me.
Ok, she cheated, you are confident and secure after berak-up. She came back. And why would I want that?
I am really struggling to let her go, she was a big part of my life I don’t just know what happened.
Is it normal to feel like you're suffocating sometimes? I have to go on long runs sometimes at 2 or 3 in the morning. It helps me feel like I can breathe again... I kinda understand where Forest Gump was coming from now.
Yes it feels that way, feels like you’re sick all day and can’t escape your own skin. I’m sorry of your pain, I can say understand it as I am going through heartache. I hope you can stay strong. Try thinking positive and take it one min and one day at a time. Meditate and believe this space will heal things.
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One of the best videos once again!!secure and confident and not chasing!!stay focus on my personal goals and development.
They will chase you probably only if they see that the energy they put in, will come back to them in form of love, empathy, gratitude, joy, kindness, humor, intelligence...
or in form of helping people, philantropy, something inspiring for both, or going to concerts, of calssical music, or something unique, or talking about science, going camping , hiking etc.
After 2 failed relationships and one 2 month interaction, I'm about to purchase the workbooks to improve myself and hopefully aim towards changing my attachment style to secure.... I hope it helps...
What about quasi no contact while in a relationship? Clearly being taken for granted. Already have established a track record of being an amazing boyfriend.
My ex cheated on me and then left me for the guy and later married him. like wth I have no words. she called me before she married him and asked me if she should. I was like no? Like what the hell is going on lol. 😂
Oh hell no she asked you if she should marry him? As if you would ever say yes? The audacity! I hope you’re okay ❤
Omg this is so crazy you probably destroid their marrige with 1 word 😂😂😂
I’m glad you said no! She probably had a guilty conscience so hoping you’d give your blessing saying yes.
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Thank you Craig, very useful as usual😂
I just wanna say THANKYOU for this content🙏🏽
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Excellent video...very nice and inspiring advice..making me feeling strong.
My wife left me and I was pretty heartbroken after the breakup. We still texted everyday and she said she didn’t want a divorce but we hardly had any physical contact with each other and she kept her new address a secret. We went on a few dates and had sex a few times during this six month stretch but it grew increasingly awkward. She kept asking me for money which I refused to do and starting huge fights about it. She left me after all and I had know way of knowing what she was up to. I finally decided I needed to divorce her which I did and now I’ve had to block her because she’s still trying to guilt trip me into giving her money. I miss her I would like to have some type of relationship with her but I just don’t think it’s possible.
Good for you. That takes a lot of strength to leave a manipulator like her.
Wow this is heartbreaking. I’m so sorry you experienced this
I am sorry for what you have gone through and hope you find love again, with someone who is financially independent and loves you for being you.
Terrible, I'm so sorry. I am confident things will be okay
I know everyone is coddling you but think about it. you still want a relationship with her but your not willing to help her with what she wants? wonder why its not working out
I hate myself for breaking no contact nearly every night since the breakup. But does it matter when she blocked my number 2 months after the breakup and all those texts can never be retrieved?
What if he’s an alcoholic and he cheated the whole time he was with me (a year) with a girl that he has never met in person for 3 years that lives in Vegas? He planned a whole future with her without ever seeing her in person and I know he that he was selling her a fantasy because if you really love someone no matter the circumstances you would make the effort to go see them. I think as of right now he’s getting the help that he needs, this happened a month ago and I’ve found someone that treats me well and the way I deserve because my ex wasn’t invested in me the way I was with him.
Bloody he'll u dint need it ur worth more please don't u can't make him stop drinking I couldn't my ex n I'm glad he's gone don't don't font its like living with jakle n Hyde u deserve someone who knows wtf they have in u aren't a bottle of scotch xxxx
I did move to the other side of the world from Canada to Australia
What if one person sabbotage relationship and break up, and then still did not leave, and eventually you have to leave them?
Yeah I was begging my wife not to leave me and she said she wanted me to let her go and after a while I told her that I would leave her alone and let her go so she called me back wondering why I said that 😂
I hope everything is ok
My ex cheated then she caMe back and i just wanted to take revenge so i left her . Then again i missed her and i tried 1 year to get back to her but she was with someone else and dod't wanted me . Now she again wants to be with me . I said no but i feel guilty. What should i do to get out of this guilt
What did you do?
If they lost attraction or it was killed. Then no chance are they thinking of the ex everyday
I’m getting ready to release my first song on Spotify about the break up and I’m conflicted about whether or not I want her to hear it.
Thank U for the insight, Coach❤❤
What if i was the one who broke up because he played with me
How long do you wait before reaching out? I've done no-contact for almost a month and a half, but I see she still looks at my social media, so it seems like I'm still on her radar. I've been dating other women, but still just think about her and compare them to her non-stop.
If she's still checking the no contact isn't working, if she started checking after a month or so just wait few more weeks...
Never reach out. That is for her to do the reaching out since she broke up with you.
There is no duration of time like 30 or 90 days etc for you to reach out. That is nonsense. She must do it..... if she does. Some people take months or years to reach out or not at all.
No contact is for working on yourself not to get her back.
Wether she comes back or you meet someone new make sure that you are a better version of yourself.
Dating other women while comparing them to your ex sounds like you are not ready for something new
@@conquistadorchevalier6687 Thanks. I did send her a merry Christmas text, mostly to test the water. A couple of dry replies and that was it. Time to let go, as hard as that can be.
@@jbougger I completely understand. Yes it is better to move on in the sense to work on yourself in becoming a better version of you. Focus on yourself rather than finding another woman.
Reaching out to your ex does nothing for you, it may give you a small amount of relief but then it becomes despair shortly after when your feelings are not reciprocated.
Trust in what Craig says by keeping up no contact. Watch all of his videos not only about no contact but all of the other ones too on both of his channels.
Imagine that you chase a cat... the cat will run away every time. When the cat has had enough time away from you it will come back in it's own sweet time.
This is similar to chasing/contacting someone who doesn't wish to be contacted, they are not interested!
Before learning the principles of what Craig, Margaret & Victoria teach I made similar mistakes by contacting my ex in the past & it didn't work.
I don't even contact them for their birthday's or any type of holidays. I disappeared.
When I went no contact most of my exes have come back to me one way or another. Some took weeks or months, others took a few years.
I gave 2 of them a chance when they came back but unfortunately they did not do the work & I had outgrown them. It didn't work out with either of them.
I don't wish to date at the moment but when I am ready I will be ever improved. This is what you need to aim for. I wish you well
It’s been almost a year for me and he rebounded immediately & still watches my social media. I had to delete my Facebook page. I don’t want him watching me.
My ex said she didnt see a future with me. But i felt her care i felt her wanting me but she pulled away when i showed needyness and threatened to call police. Then j stopped its been 1yr no contact and she instantly had a new relationship w a new guy so A second rebound after breaking up w the last rebound and then messgaing me. Recently after 10 months she was stalking my socials and her bestfriend who she tells EVERYTHING to, she unblocked me so i knew it was her stalking me using fake accounts even tho shes in a rebound. What is this?? I know shes the ONE for me
Fken text her ? Tf
@@BreezyFTWz that will ruin no contact idiot and push her away further i gotta wait for her to make a communication
Be careful too, there’s plenty of fish in the sea. You don’t want that “she’s the one “ mindset, just rather to work on yourself. My two cents and best of luck.
@@Tiiipico123 I know I’ve been working on myself and I’ve pretty much closed the gap of the void she’s left whereas she’s just got into multiple rebounds I do know she’s been stalking my socials. Thing is bro every relationship is different, I really bonded with her and felt that “true love” with her, I know there are others out there but you only feel true love for once in your life time. It was kinda my fault, I pushed her away acting needy and obsessed and of course that pushed her away, every woman wants a man she can feel safe and comfortable and rely on. So I’ve been working on myself a lot to become a better version of myself for WHOEVER is yet to come in my life. Before I didn’t do enough inner work and just kept ruining it by smoking weed and overthinking about her, that led to me being clingy need and obsessive. I’ve been off weed for a long time now and my mind is fresh and I’ve been hitting the gym a lot more. Life’s much better, it’d be beautiful if she’s in it too.
@@gavwillams7018 You’re life already good without her, find another bitch easy. She don’t deserve you.
Had my ex break no contact a couple weeks ago and we met up and was a fun time. We have had some communication since, but not a lot and it has all been good vibes energy. It is a long distance relationship at the moment, but I’m moving to her area in 2 weeks. I almost feel like there is a point where I should make a move, or do you suggest I stay away and let her reach out again? How do you handle the situation after they have broken no contact and you feel like they are gradually getting closer to you?
Are you moving to her area to specifically be near her? Not judging, genuinely curious. I’m in a similar situation myself
@@seaveyhoops I was gonna be moving out of my city anyways for a life change. I just picked her location 1. Because it’s a fun area (Orange county, CA) 2. Because of her. So if it doesn’t work out I’d be happy with the move anyways. She actually talked me into moving out there back when we were dating and I really wanted to make the move, just needed for my current lease to end.
@@stevehague9129 wait for her to reach out, she will if she's interested. Make sure you are moving for you.
You can reach out to her. You need to rebuild trust and an emotional connection. You cannot do that with no interaction. If she doesn’t respond or is short, then pull back.
If I were you I’d wait for her to reach out again like Anthony said. If she was the one to break up with you it’s up to her to fix things. By reaching out you could be shooting yourself in the foot because you’re giving her all the power back. Also it will be easier to read her intentions, if she doesn’t reach out then clearly her intentions weren’t to get back together so that should be good enough for you to continue moving on. If your interactions were fun then you’ll be on her mind regularly anyway and if she craves more then she will be back
Coach Craig, May I order the knowledge course book series from Europe or do you have to be based in the US? Am going through the third traumatic breakup in a decade and clearly I need to work on myself (found a shrink) but I think the knowledge would be greatly beneficial
You are amazing!
Yeah they do these kind of things but only if they have a growth mindset. In my case i know she wont take any accountability on the part she played.
U on point thank u
What if she’s involved with someone? Could that be the reason to separate. Married 9 years
Yeah but she said she doesn’t love me
if it takes so much time for someone it tells me they are slow minded, i never went back to an ex no matter the years they try to come back - result: i meet better and better guys... going back in life is like eating vomit again my experience is its only getting worse when you try again, if someone wants to be with you they come correct from the very start and stay correct otherwise they are stupid and should get a plant not a human being those people are ugly never waste time on them
Does it count as No Contact if you both attend the same church? Assuming of course, that I keep my distance and don't engage with her.
I have the same problem! Watched it online last weekend to avoid seeing her! It hurts to much!
So why did they LEAVE YOU 😢
The question is. How do you do this whole no contact process when you share children ? I’m not even expecting to get her back. Realistically I don’t believe I could ever do that but I would love to show her I’m going to better myself and I don’t need her. (Not through spite ) but there’s things that I have to respond to for my kids etc. especially because their all young
Thankyou so much!
Wow this one was epic
I went 33 days no contact and then got a letter so I messaged him to tell him and we spoke about it. Then I tried to call him and he didn’t answer but text why am I calling? So I just said I wanted to chat about a few things but never mind. Have I ruined things completely to potentially come back?
i already beg her and she told everything to the teacher and cops now i got suspend she told them that i touch her kitty in class now i cannot talk to her she block me and she feel happy now they said i was agression her and violet her to im really in the shit now i don't think so she will miss me
How about if she has been in a new relationship and then she contact you!!
Hang up on her would be my response.
Is it the same if a narcissist is the dumper?
it's more like missing how you made them feel. Like an old toy. Just play with it and put it back on the shelf.
NOOO THEY ALWAYS RERURN 4 SUPPLY BUUUT YOULL NEVER EVER MATTER I DATED ONE LEARENED ALL I COUKD ABOUT IT THEN THEY DONT SEEM AS ATTRACTIVE DO NOT ENTERATIN HIM OR HER THEY ARE VERY VERY SPITEFUL ENTILED AND INHUMAN
My ex gf broke up with me in June. We have been dating for 3yrs and are 19yrs apart, she is 28 I'm 47. Lots of ups and downs due to depression from both of us. We are no longer depressed. She wanted to break up for past year apparently. We also spent time together after our break up but she slowly started pulling away the last week or so. We had a discussion a few days ago to go no contact. She initially suggested 30 days but then said that's too long and wanted to no contact for 3 weeks and then re-evaluate. I was ready to never see her again. 🤷🏻♂️ Is this good or bad sign that she went from a month to 3 weeks? Think she will come back? I may wait the 30 days.
@garychen9831 what happened?
Ooof yeah that age difference definitely ain’t predatorial at all 😬😬😬😬
My ex broke up 2 weeks ago, we've been together for a half year and everything seemed fine. I've been very caring, loving and supportive. The breakup hit me pretty hard and I cannot figure out why she ended it. Ever since I knew her, she dealt with numerous things in her life, but I've been there for her. I am so confused, your videos helped tho! Around 15:25 you say something about a video when people end things even tho everything went and was great, but I could not find it. Any help?
I feel you he cheated on me the worst thing he sent his photos with her in bed 😭
What if I did at start I don't now I just found my own way thru I couldn't T first I were too upset didn't stalk didn't beg just hurt n he knew feeding ego that stopped 7 months now miss him but don't go near don't yuppppp gone left him too it n last week he'd been viewing my lindkin baring in mind he were horrified in case I sed anything about us online I just felt less less less n never ever ever it were way we broke up were VILE tbh I were soo hurt but that quelled I realised it obs were never ever gunna be n carried on with out hardly thinking of him let him have his frikken space n his crabby ex n his 18 twins who he couldn't poss let no he were seeing anyone despite 19 years of living a lie in front of em b4 I came along nwe where just mates anyway met online saw he were nooo way ready n we just chatted about everything he were like my brother I never had I didn't have feeling 4 him I thought he were not my type we only fell 4 each other last year tbh he'd had Christian such boring upbringing I wondered how on earth all he wanted to fo where in his twenties played sport professional level then over years middle child he'd felt pushed out met this wife he had his ivf kids with at 30 she tbh is nothing but a gold digger but anyways they carried on in there house separate rooms kids kicking off him comming 4 advice had a huge breakdown tho tbh it were his ow. Fault 4 not living honestly he'd had heart attack at 28 we got attracted last year it were like I didn't like date loads n so I were like just taking it4 waf it were it were after covid I knew he still went places with his ex tho no divorce so I onew tbh him n her ge wasn't the best lover tbh but he were my friend n I loved him he didn't want anyone else near me n I do modelling but we split 7 months ago over me getting ftikken upset he'd not sed that he were taking his Mrs wither she's Asian has hardly any family so ya know I think he feels like he gotta like include her 4 kids who are both now at uni n he has got his big house on market ot at t selling n I got passed he'd not sed she'd be there but text her to say I were seeing him in front of his fsrli g twins soooooo he dropped me he didn't think he had purpose unless it were his kids tho he'd had to wait his job sell house get Bern deeply depressed 4 ages I were his person who lit up his world got him n were exiting but I knew it so he treated me like idifnt exist sed he'd never 4 me but to much had happened I obs sed lots at first ya know which isn't my style no way bit I were soo humiliated I guess I carried on yill2 mo ths ago making quips on f.b then 4got gzve up thort ehy did I even like the boring v side he wasn't anything like me obs he didn't realy surpass in bed boring realy so that helped tho I missed us I did nnnnn then week ago his profile on lindkin were sat there he'd viewed my jobs n whereabouts I'd given him the frikkej breakup see if h don't they can still live of the ego of u wanting g em I knew that it were never my thing if I broke up we spoke about it or 4 got about it it's were 6 years of friendship yeR of setting chatting n him buying me nice things which fontstter coz I'm not like her
What happened to coach Margaret?
I'm sorry, she passed away 😔 ❤
@@mmt2310 I wasn't expecting that. Thank you for letting me know.
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