60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 14/33 - Value Issues

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  • @j.d.buchanan4897
    @j.d.buchanan4897 3 роки тому +82

    I love Tim, he is such a talented and inspirational teacher. These videos are helping me so much, more than therapy, more than self-help books. I regularly cry when watching them but I keep coming back because I am learning so much about myself and about what really matters.

  • @loricoe4566
    @loricoe4566 8 місяців тому +6

    These videos help me a lot seeing that I’m not alone. I’m glad he’s a Christian also.

  • @helenyates3951
    @helenyates3951 3 роки тому +29

    Very valuable and condensed
    So much of western culture is about putting conditions on values. Its a great trap. We are all wounded by this. Our world needs to change this.
    We are all inherently valued regardless of what we do. It's how we are and how we can be. Value is innate because God created us. We are all beautiful....

    • @hman9581
      @hman9581 6 місяців тому

      Unconditional love is "otherworldly" and it only comes through Jesus Christ.

  • @JPlayz_GG
    @JPlayz_GG 10 місяців тому +20

    It saddens me this isn't taught to people until they go through their own trauma. As a parent, I have seen how my family or even myself have said certain things to my kids that have shaped their values (and yes some values might not be what is ideal such as saying you're so beautiful so much). This world is crazy and I am grateful to this content.

    • @chrissemenko628
      @chrissemenko628 2 місяці тому

      We did the best we could through our own wounds.❤
      Christi

  • @daniellemichayla
    @daniellemichayla 3 роки тому +27

    God’s using you to help me for sure. Your content has been a huge blessing to me. Thank you.

    • @heathermason489
      @heathermason489 3 роки тому +2

      Yes!!!! Such a blessing, so thankful❤

    • @trudytru8224
      @trudytru8224 3 роки тому +2

      Helping me so much too. Had a decade of therapy and this is working much better for me

  • @williehaller5840
    @williehaller5840 3 роки тому +17

    I love this channel. I've learned so much. Thanks, Tim

  • @SAvannagEvanS
    @SAvannagEvanS 3 роки тому +20

    Wow! Wow! This is blowing my mind. Seeing my own behaviour and endeavours over the years to get respect (love) and affirmation that I'm valued. Thank you so much! So much insight! ❤🙏

  • @sll110
    @sll110 3 роки тому +12

    I have to admit, you are angel sent by God, also you are Athena, because you have wisdom, though listening to you, making me too painful to die..

  • @AiCash-mc8fb
    @AiCash-mc8fb 3 роки тому +6

    Thanks UA-cam for recommending this to me.

  • @giannafrancis5176
    @giannafrancis5176 3 роки тому +10

    This is what I need today. Thank you.

  • @adimeter
    @adimeter 2 роки тому +5

    Amazing thought--I can now choose who influences my life!! Thank you for that, Tim Fletcher.

  • @Wisdom891
    @Wisdom891 5 місяців тому +2

    Came for the psychology; stayed for the gospel 😊

  • @mcmic1212
    @mcmic1212 3 роки тому +6

    I thank God for your work. The Lord impressed me to watch this video with intentionality and I'm glad I did. This teaching unlocked a key, know I know what to pray and how to apply my emotional efforts and energy...my value inwardly. God bless you, you're saving lives.

  • @maranata693
    @maranata693 9 місяців тому +2

    Thank u Tim! you mentioned my anxiety to be authentic in a relationship, because I am afraid, that I am not valuable, not loveable! 😢
    Thank you for your videos, I am using them to get healed ❤

  • @JWGMarie
    @JWGMarie 5 місяців тому

    I am so happy that I came across Tim. I’ve been around for a while and have attended many workshops, read many books, researched, connected science & spiritual. Thought I had a pretty good idea after 30 years lol. Tim was the answer for me. He connected science & spirit and his words gives all the ultimate truth.

  • @lanishortsunshine5773
    @lanishortsunshine5773 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you.for alll these videos...helps my mind and my heart...lol....yay.

  • @evelynmontez3565
    @evelynmontez3565 8 місяців тому +1

    This is so great. Now I see why I'm obsessed with cleaning . It's my value.

  • @janethomas78
    @janethomas78 3 місяці тому

    truest form of healing

  • @charliesomoza5918
    @charliesomoza5918 10 місяців тому +1

    Absolutely beautiful beyond words for what truly really matter.One of the best.Love and truth for all of you.Blessings.

  • @catherinewilson1079
    @catherinewilson1079 2 роки тому +4

    Better to build a life on the cornerstone❣️

  • @josefinemilo
    @josefinemilo 10 місяців тому +2

    Thank you 🙏❤️

  • @unmistakablyjaselle2179
    @unmistakablyjaselle2179 3 роки тому +4

    I am all in this, and man it gives me anxiety just listening! I love my Friday nights with Tim. But man the anxiety and tics from over stimulation!

    • @adimeter
      @adimeter 2 роки тому +1

      That's interesting that you feel this way. Tim's talks have a negative impact on you? I am glad you shared this--it only proves we are all so different.

  • @laurentiurudeanu4102
    @laurentiurudeanu4102 Рік тому +2

    Another great one from Tim! Excellent, exhaustive, to the point presentation, congratulations and a thousand thanks!
    To add to it, when it comes to value, no discussion is complete without mentioning the construction of the ideal self and the mind-boggling neurotic scaffolding built around it, all with the purpose of protecting it, propping it up and compensating for the sorely felt lack of inherent value.

  • @ingridmolins19
    @ingridmolins19 9 місяців тому +1

    Finding your channel has been a blessing, thank you🙏

  • @pegagonza3784
    @pegagonza3784 9 місяців тому

    Thanks!

  • @UnapologeticGen
    @UnapologeticGen 8 місяців тому +1

    thank you for this video ... very important..

  • @mi6432
    @mi6432 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you. x

  • @Monkchip
    @Monkchip 7 місяців тому

    Thank you, sir. I value you and your ability to speak these words to me. I understand better now.

  • @neferzoe
    @neferzoe 3 роки тому +3

    Great work!

  • @kaimissouri
    @kaimissouri 9 місяців тому

    I love how you explain with your beautiful, convincing accent and body language
    And everything complex simplified

  • @Ali76564
    @Ali76564 Місяць тому

    Thanks

  • @miuthub7954
    @miuthub7954 8 місяців тому

    I wanted to not cry today but.... Okay maybe tomorrow. So true about the whole value system constructed not only how you under value yourself

  • @Happybakedbread-f3r
    @Happybakedbread-f3r 8 місяців тому

    God bless you all

  • @Loved2024
    @Loved2024 Рік тому +1

    Just Awesome❤

  • @catherinewilson1079
    @catherinewilson1079 2 роки тому +8

    You are describing our modern culture! 😥😥😥

  • @shelteredsparrow2736
    @shelteredsparrow2736 7 місяців тому

    Great video

  • @ChitinousMass
    @ChitinousMass 7 місяців тому +1

    Hey! So i have several questions relating to this issue of inner value, which is kind of beating my up.
    How do you achieve a sense of inner value if in order to function in society you are valued as an individual in terms of your social status and not by your inner person?
    Your social status is determined by what you deem for yourself a worthy pursuit in order to become competent and desirable for employers, customers and potential partners.
    The amount of time and effort you put into growth is also determined by your sense of self worth and self respect and exploring those areas also leads you to grow those same inner values.
    Inner and outer values are not exactly separate.
    How do you manage having a sense of self worth when you know that you are not what you could be precisely because you don't value and respect yourself?
    And you know that your choices lead you to not only be less than you can be but also that you are the author of your own insuccess.
    Thare is no getting away from that existential responsibility if you want to live in this world. And you are the sole person responsible to how painful your life is.
    How is self forgiveness even possible after a long uninterrupted series of self sabotage? Especially when reality starts confirming what your inner critic is on about.

  • @haidyyousif2125
    @haidyyousif2125 9 місяців тому

    🧡much Helpful🙏

  • @fairygurl9269
    @fairygurl9269 10 місяців тому +4

    Integrity 🤘

  • @simo2073
    @simo2073 6 місяців тому

    I have a name for all of these other than just myself.

  • @middleofnowhere1313
    @middleofnowhere1313 Рік тому +6

    I was supposed to be valuable for my intelligence but i didn't turn out to be the prodigy they wanted. The whole thing was a disaster.

  • @phoebebeacham9816
    @phoebebeacham9816 8 місяців тому

    Value … from The Almighty ❤

  • @visionvixxen
    @visionvixxen 8 місяців тому

    Can you address this one time w regard to neurodiverse or personality disorder or trauma actually related to oneself- ways of being we cannot change- and how to deal with the trauma or advocating for self so you don’t have gaslighting trauma

  • @myphonyaccount
    @myphonyaccount 6 місяців тому

    we have been SO miseducated.

  • @leahflower9924
    @leahflower9924 2 роки тому +2

    I gave up on doing a lot of things because I said I feel the same when I try and when I don't try so why bother 🤷 people told me I was wrong they said I will find meaning by doing stuff

  • @Ruby-wise
    @Ruby-wise 4 місяці тому

    Is it possible to try at least…45 of the 60?

  • @zurc_bot
    @zurc_bot 2 місяці тому

    do we put value to these things because we are part of the herd? the majority?
    if you were are a sociopath and have a clique of similar minded values, your value system changes.
    But is there an innate value system? because being part of the herd is not necessarily a good thing.

  • @chocolatejellybean2820
    @chocolatejellybean2820 9 місяців тому

    is his work covered in a book?

  • @christopherleubner6633
    @christopherleubner6633 9 місяців тому +2

    I'm useful but not genuinely valued. 😢

  • @Tetradepodmelontea
    @Tetradepodmelontea 9 місяців тому

    I see society as a very incicere construct where you must make statements opposite of what actually happen at your working environment to not make others irritated by your unironical disagreement with how so called "cooperation" really works.

  • @alanwood4968
    @alanwood4968 9 місяців тому

    I have one. If im happy in my skin then im ok.

  • @robertjennings397
    @robertjennings397 10 місяців тому +1

    Your glasses are not correct. The frame shape makes your eyes ‘look’ off target. You have so much to say.

  • @Jasmina-w7q
    @Jasmina-w7q 8 місяців тому

    Hepynesfür ather??????? Dont know,this stalking peopel,dont wont to know

  • @katebueno191
    @katebueno191 10 місяців тому

    You going to leave !! And your screaming shows ate done too !! Not like you notbwrong about everything you say !!

    • @Ominous89
      @Ominous89 9 місяців тому

      Ever since I got Tim Fletcher recommended in my feed, my mental health has been improving better than I could do myself or with the help of a therapist. I can only hope that you will have better days, so you can stop hating people for speaking out unconvenient harsh truth.