Hey y'all, me again. Just wanted to again thank you for your kind & supportive comments. I really do appreciate them. I am a little surprised by the big focus on my sexuality, because it wasn't the main point discussed in this video. I didn't really define my sexuality in this video, but I can tell there is confusion on it, so I want to set the record straight: I identify as bisexual. I can understand why many may not have caught that in the video, & I can also understand those of you who assume I'm gay. I know I'm not the most masculine guy, which leads many to believe that there's no way that I'm anything other than gay. Still, I know how I feel on the inside & I know who I'm attracted to. Many of your comments were helpful in allowing me to fully accept my true feelings. Thanks so much. It really means a lot. One more thing: I know this video is about my disagreement with certain aspects of the church, but I did not intend to bash on the church or its members in any way. I hope that you strive to do the same in your comments. Thanks again. :) Now go watch a happy video or something!
+HerosComment Wow, you're right! All this time I thought that I couldn't choose my sexuality (it's almost like I was born with it or something) but now that you've chosen it for me, all of a sudden I'm gay! Normally, I wouldn't let anyone make this impossible decision for me, but it looks like because you've watched one video about me, you know more about myself than I do! You have forever changed my life--nevermind the women to whom I'm deeply attracted! You've opened my eyes to my new gay life! You truly are my hero!
I just wanted to let you know that not all Mormons are that way. My daughter is pansexual, and my nephew is gay. I love them both unconditionally. I came from a very religious and I have to say very bigoted family, but I couldn't understand feeling that way. I'm of the belief that we should love all mankind, no matter their differences. I know I'm not the only Mormon who feels this way. A TRUE Christian ( I mean believer/worshiper of Christ) loves everyone. I always try to live by the Golden Rule "Do unto others as you'd have done to you". Unfortunately, there are closed minded people in all religions and all walks of life, and that is just sad. What an empty and unhappy life they must lead. I'm happy for those people who are brave enough to accept who they are and are willing to share it with their loved ones. I wish them nothing but happiness and a very fulfilling life.
Connor - I am so proud of you right now ! DON"T go on that mission for ANY reason. I did knowing FULL WELL that I was big ol' gay boy in church drag clothing. I was in Spain Madrid mission and spent my entire mission fighting the MP and refusing to lift a finger to help the church, I got back in Dec on 1983 and to this day I still have nightmares of being stuck on yet another mission and I wake up crying and upset - and it's been 30 years since that damn mission yet I am still dealing with the PTSD from that rotten choice I made of going on a mission. Stick to your own path Connor.
Connor, I am Gay & Jewish, you are a truly beautiful, wonderful person. Don't cry, you have such a gorgeous smile, use that smile 😀 love & peace from Luca in Sweden 🇸🇪
When LDS missionaries landed on my doorstep, a four year journey began. I kept in touch with a few of them. A few years later, one of the missionaries came out to me. He’s now happily married to another Mormon but they have obviously left the church. You can still be a practising, devoted Christian. Other denominations are now more welcoming of us. Don’t give up! Keep your values, like staying away from drugs, alcohol and other common temptations. You’ve made a huge first step. Hang in there! With love, Gord in Winnipeg CANADA.
You are brave! I was 30 when I finally had the nerve to tell my parents who are devout LDS members. I struggled for years. I went on a mission. I cannot say I regret those experiences but sometimes I wish I would of been strong enough at 19 or 20 to come out and live comfortable and free so to speak. You have so much more ahead of you Connor. My family who are all very active in the Church have been such a support. I hope you find that same support from your family. Give them space and time if they are not so accepting at first. Their is a reason that gays call over gays family. Sometimes it is those friends that will be your support and your family. I don't know you but I love ya man. It seems when you find another member that is going through what I did it makes an instant connection. To understand exactly how you feel growing up Mormon and trying to live in that shadow. I know what you are going through and believe me it gets a lot better as time goes on. Be proud of how you were raised and the values your parents taught you and continue to make good choices. Now it is your turn to decide and live how you feel is right. Be proud of your choices so far and confident in the ones you will yet have to make. Be you!! Finally be you!
Conner - Hang in there. And trust me, there are millions of folks out there who are going to want to help you and discover the world with you. Be brave enough to ask for help when you need it and offer it to others whom you care ab out whenever you can.
You are the bravest person! What you just did is probably the hardest thing you will ever do in your life! I am 56 and I have nothing but regrets for not having come out at a younger age, I feel that I have wasted my whole life. I have not allowed myself to be experience being in love with anyone. I have lived a whole long life with a low self-esteem and loneliness because of what my religion and society thought about me. Your video has inspired me to reach out and start living and not just existing. Connor you are wise beyond your years, you will have a beautiful joy-filled life, you have amazing courage. Keep being your true self, you are beautiful and you are loved!
Clearly making this declaration was a struggle for you and not done without a lot of consideration, but you seem to be following your gut instinct and that takes strength, self-confidence and even bravery to represent yourself openly and honestly. That's more important than what any outside person might think of your choices. I wish you a terrific future and I have no doubt it will be a happy one.
Growing up in Utah, I understand and can relate. When I was little I remember going to church every Sunday with my grandparents. All my cousins and siblings are baptized and It just didn't work out for me i couldn't get into it. My town has 9 chapels and a temple. All my friends in high school go to seminary and I don't. And I've finally come to terms of why. Knowing that my family growing up LDS will one day figure out really freaks me out. This video is amazing, thanks👏🏼.
That took a lot courage. We all want to please our parents and community, but in the end you need to make a decision as to what is the truth and what is right for you. Giving false testimony or living a lie isn't going to bring you closer to God. If you treat your fellow man with love and respect, you can't go wrong. The LDS church provides a great sense of community and family, but they still have a lot to learn about tolerance and accepting diversity. We are all human and flawed, but as long as we do our best, we deserve the respect and love of everyone. God is love. Sometimes people miss that message.
You are so strong coming out like this. Be strong mate. Times can be tough, wait it out, revelation will come. It may not bee soon, but one day! Just hold on there!
Hi, I just found your video and I listened to every word, and yep, I understand the copious tears .... I felt the same, and for similar reasons. People, my parents had so many ideas and plans for me, that I tried very hard to not disappoint. But, I wasn't being me, and I wasn't free to just be me, out and real and in person. So I hid things about me and lied to myself and everyone. just over a year ago at 17, I found courage from some where to do what you did. And I have never been happier. Massive hug dude. It may sound silly, but I am really proud of you. :) please keep being you, you're awesome, and fearfully and wonderfully made just as you are :) Ben
Connor Hatch. I knew what you meant when you said you weren't 100% straight nor 100% gay. That obviously means bi. You are a beautiful young man. I gave up on church years ago, but I still have a strong faith in God. I didn't like anyone telling me how to think. I've had a lot of tragedies in my life. It has just made me that much stronger and I understand I can handle any crap that this old world dishes out. I , too, don't smoke, drink, or do drugs, and I have survived quite well without them. However, i am very open minded, so I am one to accept everyone! What's important is who you are, not what you are, and I think you are an awesome person! Hang in there and I know things will work out for you! They always do!
I hate that the church is seen as homophobic/ racist because it's not. People are. You are loved for whoever you are, I am a Mormon and believe in love.
I never tried to insinuate either of those things about the church. I think I was very fair in explaining that I had lost my faith. Not once did I mention the church with race or sexuality in the same instance. If you feel like others in the comments are painting the church in that light, it is not in my nature to prevent people from voicing their opinions. I'm not going to suppress what people have to say. If you read the comments, you will see that some people have verbally attacked me, but I'm not going to stop them from doing that. I respect your opinion, as I respect everyone's opinions, but I hope you know that I did not try to show the church as homophobic or racist.
Little Miss Crybaby When I first got to get my temple recommend, the Bishop said, explaining one of last last "rules" to get a temple recommend."So basically not following in any anti mormon organization, or like here, any LGBT support groups". He sated being in a lgbt march, or any support towards it, would stop be from getting a temple recommend. That is homophobic, saying it was bad enough to not be clean to go into the temple.
Dearest Connor: I am watching this in 2019 which is a few years since you posted it but I have only come across your video for the first time today. Thank you for such an honest and heartfelt video - I could see and sense your turmoil. I also came from a very religious household (Catholic) and later in life my mother joined the Church of Latter Day Saints - so I can understand, at least somewhat of what you were going through. I do hope things have become better for you in the intervening time and thank you again for such a brave video. DH
Connor, I found this video and immediately clicked on it because of the title, I was an acting member of the Mormon church. I left when I realized I was gay, and that it truly was not a choice, that I had no control over it and that made me question the religion, and most religions period. When I left the church I was extremely upset but I knew that I would not and could never truly believe in all of the teachings of the Mormon church, but I knew that I had to do it to truly be happy and live my life. All I'm trying to say is I understand your decision on a truly deep level, and I hope you know that you are not doing anything wrong, this is your life and you need to live it whatever way you want to, just remember to be true to yourself and be a truly good person, thats all you need to live a good life, and if you do that the true good people will find you and you will lead an amazing life.
Hey Connor I just saw your video and I’m truly grateful for it, you are so amazing and cute guy, do what you have to do, as you said, you will feel happier now. I really wanted to hug you when I saw this video, love you ✌🏼
Your video made me cry! Thank you for being brave, feeling comfortable to open up to complete strangers, and sharing your feelings! I firmly believe regardless of how you identify, whether it be gay or bi, that you are comfortable in your skin, honest with yourself and love yourself; you seem like a really great person with a good head on your shoulders. Never apologize for how you feel or who you are as a person - I'm proud of you and I'm certain there are many other people in this world who would say the same thing. Best of luck to you! Peace and Love.
Hey bud. This video really hit home for me. Thank you for having the courage to make this video. I too was raised in the LDS church and I even served a full time mission. On my mission and I think even before it I realized that I didn't believe in all the things that I was teaching. When I got back from my mission I tried really hard to overcome those obstacles and find the faith and answers that I was in need of to fully accept the teachings of the church. I finally accepted the fact that I would never receive the answers that I was looking for and I stopped attending church. It took me 8 years after that to final come out and say something to my parents. It wasn't until I felt the pressure from my parents to have my son baptized that I finally broke and said enough is enough. I need to live my life for me, my wife, and my son. I am now happy to say that I too have that weight off of my shoulders and I am so incredibly happy about that. If you ever feel down or need someone to talk to please don't hesitate to reach out. You are strong.
I just found your video. I can tell you have a wonderful heart. I am 53, and spent half of my life "pleasing" others with religion. I no longer do that. My life is mine, and I am responsible for it. I no longer choose to play church for anyone. I don't do drugs, or drink either... I wish I had the courage to say what you have now, when I was your age. I am sure you are going to be a wonderful man, with your own beliefs and understanding of what is right and wrong. Love whoever you end up loving! Love is Love.. no difference! I wish you all the best, and peace in your heart!
70 here. You are young and hurting but just remember " IT GETS BETTER ", It took me 30 years of teaching gospel doctrine to finally give up on church. I wasn't looking for any relationship when I found my soul mate, It's been just like walking on air! Learn to love yourself, avoid self destructive behavior, remember the golden rule, treat everyone with love and respect. You do that and you can't go wrong!
Just go with your heart and you won't fail! If your heart tells you, not being a mormon, then don't try being a mormon! Don't force yourself into something or someone you are not, because it wouldn't work. Be you, because there's no one youer than you!
As a member of the church I wanna say I’m proud that you were able to finally say what has been holding you down. I hope that you found happiness and remember God loves you and I hope everything went well with your family and friends. I know this comment is 3 years late but I really hope your happy wether that mean you’re in the church or not and that everything went well.
This showed up in my Recommended Videos tonight, so apologies for the random comment. I'm also concerned that UA-cam is becoming sentient. ;-) I grew up in the LDS Church too and had a similar point of clarity on what I did and didn't want. As someone who has some years added on to that clarity, I applaud you for being willing to share it with the world. Keep living your truth and even if it's not always easy, I promise it will be worth it to chart a path based on it! *hugs*
Connor, I applaud your courage and honesty. As a former member of the Church, I know how hard this was. I came out as a questioner of the Church and a bi-sexual man 40 years ago, just before heading to the MTC to start my Mission. Love is Love and God doesn't make any mistakes. I later concluded that I am mostly Gay and the more I dug the more I found that the Church is all based on the lies of a con-man who created the LDS Scriptures from whole cloth. Live your life in any way that fulfills you and makes you happy. Find love and run with it. Wish I could just give you a big hug and let you know that you are your own special creation and you will continue to shine. All the best for your future wherever your journey takes you! You are loved.
Hey Connor, I really respect you for making that video :) I was in a very similar situation about two years ago when I was 17, though I 'only' was raised strictly Christian, and not as a Mormon. Nobody in the church had hurt me in any way and I really liked the people I was together with there, but I started asking questions and having lots of doubts about the whole thing. It really helped me that I moved out to study in a different city then, because I was able to build a completely new life for myself and figure out who I am and what I stand for, and at first that meant throwing out a lot of things that I had learned at home. But at the same time, even in the times I questioned the very existence of a god, I had a sense of that what I was doing was right, that it was okay and necessary for me to ask these questions so that in the end I will find a faith that is true to who I am and not is something I've just copied from everyone around me. I've always been and still am very open about where I stand to the people around me, and that has allowed me to talk to lots of people and ask them about their stories and their experiences with God and faith, and that has been very interesting. :) Right now I'm just starting to take my first steps with God again but it feels so different from everything that was before, it feels soo good because it's me, it's my own faith now :) I don't know where you are at with this right now, it's been a while since you posted the vid, but I hope it's been an amazing year of getting to know yourself. I'm bisexual to by the way, so I could relate even more to what you said :D If you're interested I'd like to get to know you, you seem to be a genuinely nice and interesting person. :) Greetings from Germany! Jael
Dude it okay everyone is different just love the person who you are we all are different. If we were all the same this world would be hell just love yourself man we all love the person who you are ❤️
My dad is a Baptist preacher and I know how you feel, take care a be who you are, God created you and loves you for who you are and not what people want you to be.
Connor, you are such a sweet boy, it's definitely very hard to grow up and live in a hostile environment, I hope you break out of it and find a good place for youself and be surrounded by supportive people ... this will become easier as you progress in life, and you'll learn how to deal with hostility, unfortunately though, I am afraid homophobia even in its mildest forms is there to stay forever, and the pain will never go away, but you'll learn and know how to deal with it. homophobia and rasism are very serious problems, but I am afraid we'll never see real interest in fixing it, a lot of talk, but it's just to create a noise, not to find real solutions and understand the real roots of it and how to get rid of it forever ...
You are so brave. Coming out is one of the toughest things to do. I really admire you and this video. You are definitely a role model to millions of teens and adults. When I came out to my family, I was shaking and crying so badly. I was scared about what they would think of me. Accepted for who you are or not, you should always be proud of who you are. Thanks for this video. I'm really proud of you!
Connor I am Gay and catholic I belong to a parish that accepts LGBTQ+ people took me a long time to find a church like this but there are churches that accept everybody God loves everybody you are really brave.
We may not know each other but I just want to say that I love you, man. It is very brave of you to actually speak it out that way. I myself have struggles trying to follow the church’s standards, but still, I want to believe that the gospel can help me in my life. Serving a full time mission has been the greatest thing I have ever done in my life, but I wouldn’t judge if someone decides to not do so. You deserve happiness no matter who you are and how God has made you. Thank you for making this video.
I'm lds as well. My mom is die hard Mormon and especially after my dad died she tried her hardest to follow the gospel and for us as well and I'm bisexual. I haven't come out to her yet but I have to my brother and this was very inspiring.
Nice work, Connor. I am so glad you had the balls to stand up to the church and follow your heart. While I think religion has some great stories, structure and lessons, I think they should be used to inform one how to approach/live one's life. AND NOT to make one's life a prison. Oh yeah! and see the flick "Latter Days"-very inspiring film. Rock on!
Thank you, Connor, for expressing your thoughts on UA-cam. You're a brave guy, and other people will be heartened by seeing this video if they are experiencing the same struggle. Anyway, stay strong! I hope you have a wonderful life.
You are a sweet and honest person. You should not torment yourself so much. Don't feel guilty about being a warm hearted person. I admire your commitment to your parents and religion but you have to follow your heart and respect how you are feeling inside yourself. I want to wish you a merry Christmas from here.
Hey Connor, I'm LDS and I truly accept you as you are. While I know it's against our believes I also believe it's not my right to judge you. You're very inspiring! Much love ❤️
You are beautiful and strong and a beacon of light to so many!!!! It is not easy to carve your own path in the world. This is why so many people just opt to take the well worn trail even if it literally kills them. But there is so much growth and light in listening to your inner voice, so keep following your heart and each next indicated step will be clearer and clearer.
This gave me so much comfort. I am currently going through everything you were talking about in your video. I have kind of hinted about not believe in the gospel to my parents and they have threatened to kick me out. I also am bisexual and there is no way that I would tell them because just to see the disappointment in their faces would hurt me so much. but anyways I found so much comfort through you sharing your story because it made me feel so much less alone so thank you 💕💕
The only thing I've ever known for certain is that we are never alone. There's always someone out there for us. I'm glad I was able to offer you some comfort for a little while :)
Well done fella.. that was a courageous video and i wish i'd had the balls to do that when i was 19. You have far more to offer the world in your integrity and sensitivity than the scriptures have. Let yourself free, whoever you are.
Hey, Connor, loved your video. It sounded something like me. When I was 25, I left the Church because I was tired of living a life "as plastic as my VISA card." For me, I joined a fraternity, where I was finally accepted for who I was. And I learned to love myself for who I was. But, I never broke my standards. Most of my LDS friends and family decided I was on the freeway to hell. Not that I recommend a fraternity for everyone. Just recommend being and loving yourself, regardless of what others think or say. And don't let people tell you your sexuality either. The funny thing was that I went back to Church when my best friend from the fraternity suggested it. He still is not LDS. But he said he wanted me to be happy and that being LDS was part of it, even if I did not fit into the classic LDS mold. He was right. My advice: just focus on being yourself and serving others.
Much love coming your way Conner, so please hang in there. People need more people like you in their lives and your family and friends should very proud. All the best, and please keep us posted.
GOD BLESS you Brother Connor. I too love the LORD and I finally believe that I am not a mistake. GOD does not make mistakes. He made me who I am and I must accept what I can not change. I am sure the LORD will continue to give you strength to be who HE made you to be.
What a beautiful way you have found to express yourself. Please don't feel like you are letting every one who matters in your life down. You have to put your needs to yourself above others expectations of you. Otherwise you will never find true happiness and you will end up in such turmoil over it all. Self acceptance is such a treasure. I hope you find it and it helps make you feel like a whole person. Sometimes a person has to put others on hold while problems and issues get sorted out. True friends and family who loves you will give you the time and space for you to explore these issues and allow you to resolve them. You seem like a very wise and feeling young person. I have a feeling you will get it all sorted out and you'll feel a whole lot better. Take Care friend.
As a member of the Church living in The Netherlands, my heart went out to you. Thank you for your honesty, it took a lot of guts to do this and I think many feel the same way. You, good sir, are a good guy., I was watching you and at one point, I wished I was with you to give you a big hug. There are many who love you for who you are and for your honesty and sincerity. Know this, God will always love you.
I spent a few months living with a family that was LDS and it was a really eye opening experience. Though I didn't agree with some aspects of the religion, they were a really chill, kind, down to earth family who looked at religion primarily from a place of love and bettering themselves. I'm proud of your decision though! I can see that it was a hard one, and I'm happy to see you choosing what you want
We often listen to what others want and not what we want I to am mormon and went through the same things you have. Religion should not be forced on us . I use to sit in church and listening to the teaching and most of them i could not accept. I followed my own path . First off we can never live for others we must live for ourselves... so do what you feel is right for you i followed the path along time and finally found what is right for me. Just be brave we can not change all things about us and thus accept that which we can,t the future will be what you want to be hugs and blessings you have taken the first steps be brave and you are not alone never
This is so raw. Wow. This is not a story. This is happening. I just sat straight up when I realized what was happening. And crying for you and haven’t heard it all yet. This was two years ago and I hope that by now you have found your way through this. I hustled want to reach through the screen and hug you, right now, and tell you it gets better. I hoe that by now, it has gotten better for you. 😰
Conner...I believe that we must be comfortable with ourselves. When I first came out I called myself bisexual but since then I realized that I was gay. We live in a world filled with labels but the ones that matter are the ones that we answer to. Be yourself...no matter what words that you use. Take care Conner! I wish you the very best!
Connoer, I feel your pain😥 Foll ow that BEAUTIFUL hearted of yours. That's where the TURE God of DIVINE love lives...BUG HUG BABY BROTHER. This is very brave of you.GOD LOVES YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.💙🤗💙
I realize this is an old post, but I found it compelling to listen to on many different levels. Your struggle with the official teachings of a religious denomination is as old as organized religion and its attempt to put order into its place on earth. I felt sad as I listen to you struggle to find the right words because I know that pain. As for UA-camrs interest in your sexuality ... I don't completely understand it, but that is the nature of man. Sexuality is a part of human nature. Each one of us experiences it on a unique level. No two of us are 100% anything. Sexuality was never a very big thing in my life until people began to question it, and that pissed me off on many levels. First, it's none of your business. Second, what's the reason for your interest? I am who I am. I'm attracted to who I'm attracted to. I love who I love. I am me. I can't - I don't want to - change who I am. I can choose to live what I consider a moral life, but that doesn't change me. I am me. I tell people that I'd they don't like who I am, that's OK. I want them to have the happiest life possible, I just don't want to be a part of it. It's not mean, just honest. Brutally honest for sure, but honest nonetheless. Both my parents have passed away, but when she was still alive and I was in my 30s, I would tell Mother, "I didn't ask to be this way. You and Dad made me this way. If there's something you don't like, you need to tell me gently, but you also need to know that I am who I am because of you." I never said it to her disrespectfully. It was simply a reality check for her. It was me saying to her, "Be gentle, Mother. I am your creation. I live what people consider a moral life. I am a good man. Please don't be too critical." Here's my 2 cents. You don't owe anyone an explanation for anything you choose to do. You are fortunate to be in the generation you are. You have so many choices, so many options open to you - unlike me, who is 40 years your senior. Be happy. Continue to enjoy PG movie and SpongeBob Squarepants. Live the life you want. People will come to understand who you are based on the life you live. I am a good judge of character, and I'm telling you, you are a good man. The world is a better place with you in it.
You are a very brave young man. It took a lot of courage to do this video and I can only hope that you have received 100% support from your family and friends. It's a very good first step to begin living your life for YOU. All the best. Much love being sent your way.
Congratulations! You found it! Your made in Gods image, in your heart you know his boundaries. Just live by them and be true to your own heart. God is love! You won't fing Him in a church, building or organized religion. In fact, it's been my experience organized religion will divide and tear apart your soul. I'm ex-Mormon and I have found peace and love in what God has I printed in my heart already. The Mormons are good people I won't deny...but you don't have to have them to be at peace with God and that's the truth. Doctrines and dogma will divide your soul and keep you torn apart inside! And God doesn't give a hoot about your sexuality. LIVE YOUR LIFE YOU ONLY HAVE ONE AND ITS YOURS! Gods grace is sufficient for YOU and his Spirit will guide you.
Connor I had a great friend when I lived in Phoenix that was a member of the LDS Church. He is openly gay, such as myself, and fortunately for him his family was very accepting. I used to be Christian myself but after seeing so much hypocrisy I removed myself from religion however I am very spiritual. I hope things are much easier for you these days my friend and I am sad you ever had that weight on your shoulders. I can completely empathize.
Ive always thought religion should not be used to brainwash your children , only whats right and wrong . It should be left for them to make up thier own mind when they are of a age to do that. Your very brave to do this ,hope it turns out alright in the end.
My friend is in the same situation as you. She has been raised Mormon her entire life and she has chosen not to follow that religion after college. I respect her choice even if her parents disagree, and I think it is brave for anyone to do that. Making a choice for yourself and not for other people can be important sometimes.
Just came across your video. Was really impressed because I could see, what a big step it was for you, to do this video. Hope you have tone fine this last year. Just wanted to wish you all the best for your future.
I feel bad for you man, I'm a Muslim whose a skeptic and I barely believe anymore and although I lost the feeling of guilt Im still emotional destroyed because I loved my religion and I never thought it could be false. your lucky to have people to share it with though. this society is way more religious and even talking about my skepticism would be really hard
Connor, you are very brave to come out as your true self. You know that living a lie is not the answer to inner peace. You are on a journey. It took me 63 years to accept fully who I was - not having to live up to other people's expectations of who I should be. You describe yourself as bisexual. I respect you for that acknowledgement of who you are. Remember that sometimes when a door is closed to us, a window opens, making you look up to the sky. God, whatever you perceive God to be, is with you and in you. We are made in the image of God. Jesus said: Love one another, even as I have loved you. Above all, whatever it takes, be yourself. There may be a cost involved. You do not have to prove yourself or justify yourself. God loves you. Period. By the way, I would recommend Quaker meetings. I appreciate what they call - collective stillness. It is very therapeutic. Check out mindfulness online. Quakers respect each person's spiritual journey, wherever it takes them. Take care, my friend. All the best.
You rock kiddo... You just spoke on behalf of millions of faceless, voiceless persons in the LGBT community, fearful of living in their truth. I hope your message inspires and brings hope. One love from Jamaica mon...
It's a little frightening to think that I've spoken on the behalf of so many people, but I do hope that you're right about inspiring & bringing them hope in their journeys.
Thank you for sharing, my friend. I could feel the apprehension in your voice. Believe me, it takes time, and at your own pace. As for the Bible - it says a lot of things. Just know that neither Jesus nor God Himself spoke on the subject. God gave us His 10 Commandments in the Old Testament, and Jesus gave us very wonderful parables and teachings about love and compassion. You are loved. God loves ALL His flock. Don't feel badly about not following the LDS teachings. All God cares is that you're a good person with a kind, loving heart. Believe in Him. He has gotten me through a lot. Love and hugs from Minnesota!
I understand were your coming from I recently came out to my family. It's been hard yes emotionally physically. I am here to support you but never put you're self down. Later on in life you'll feel better and you'll find yourself and who you want to be. ❤️
Really enjoyed watching your videos & when I came across this one it definitely hit home! It was tough for me to come out because I grew up in a religious family but at the end of the day I wanted to make myself happy and not worry about everybody else’s opinion! We’re all humans & we’re all unique in our own way❗️ definitely subscribed & turned on my post notifications 🤗
Hi Connor I wish be there give you a strong hug and make sure you're brave enough for what you do congrats my dear I really enjoy your video and remember people around will keel loving you no matter what. Accept exactly the way you're and the rest is story alright.
I'm so sorry for all of the things you have experienced. I think that you're a wonderful person and even though I don't know you, I'm so proud that you chose to not do the mission when you didn't believe in it. With that, you're being completely honest and you're not living a lie any more.
Man you need to start taking control of your life! stop worrying about others, you need to do what you want, be yourself be proud speaking as a 52 year old, I understand parental pressure to comply with they,re hopes and expectations, however your your unique wonderful self be proud of you man ! do what you want and feel is right for you! they live they,re lives you live yours matey sending hugs !
You, sir, are so much braver than I was at your age. I know how it feels to want to please everyone. You can't. You are who you are. Your gay. Ok. That does not define who you are. It is just a part of you. Try not to let it be bigger than it is. You are so much more. I am 52. So I am nearing the twilight years of my life. I started a company 20+ years ago (before you were born) and things are going well. I donate a considerable amount of my income to charities I feel strongly about. Surprisingly, none of my charities are gay related. As I said, your sexuality is but a small part of who you are. I believe there are much more important things in this world than my (or your) sexuality. Hope this gives you an idea of what you MAY be thinking about in 30 years. I wish I could take away the anguish you are feeling now. But the world doesn't work that way. I've rambled on way too long. Just know that you are not the first, nor the last person to experience what you are feeling. I hope in 30 years, you will be able to ease a young mans anxiety as I have tried to do today. Wishing you all the best.
So proud of you Connor, God gave you a brain to think and make choices, which you have done. You can't live your life for others expectations of you. You're smart and you obviously have a really good heart! Stand proud! X
Thank you so much for this video. I completely understand what you are going through. When my parents found out that I was gay they thought that I was broken. They have been trying to fix me for the past year now. I have thought about committing suicide so many times because I am sick of being treated like I am broken. I want you to know that I completely support you and I know that you an amazing person. Thank you again so much for this video.
I so relate with this from my lack of faith in the gospel and my feelings about it and wanting to believe it and stuff. 💙 I came out really suddenly online as well and almost wish I'd told people in person first but if I'm honest I'm glad it was overwith quickly
Way to go Conor,,, the best thing you can do is live your life, be true to yourself and have fun. Get too know you, your family, friends, will understand or they may not, the important thing is for you to do what you think is right for you... Thanks for sharing
I've lost my faith 4 years ago, It's okay to doubt yourself and feel this way about your religion. trust me you'll get through it eventually and remember THERE IS NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU. I hope you have a great, fulfilling life
I can relate to the pain you are experiencing. It was about your age when I had my crisis of faith. I imagine that being a member of LDS has pressures that I never had to deal with but none the less I had a conflict between my sexual orientation and my faith. I also had problems accepting some scriptures which had nothing to do with my orientation. Part of being an adolescent is identifying your own self. It is not only completely normal to question your family's religious views it is also healthy. I don't believe God wants us to have blind faith. He gave humans the ability to think and question for a reason. It took me 10 years for my faith to return. He never left my side. Please also realize that morals and religion are not necessarily the same. Your family instilled in you a moral code. Even if you become atheist that code is the basis of who you are. If you stray at some point your core morality will bring you back to your family values. May the Lord bring you peace.
Connor, it’s been a long time since you posted this, but I just came across it. You are an amazing person, who you are. You sound so honest, sincere and sweet. I only wish I had the courage you do, when I was your age. I know how hard it is. You are who you are, when you’re born. It’s not a choice people. So many can’t understand that. You take care and be strong. You are a beautiful soul.
Conner, this is the second time I watched your video, after a year and I feel your pain inside. I really hope you are doing better and go in the direction that feels the best. Best of luck to you. Take care.
as i was watching this video, what was running through my mind was " I want to hug this guy".
Yeah right me too I just want to give him a huge strong hug
Exactly, that was how I felt.
This is so unfair on this guy, why does he have to go through this, it is not his fault, being gay is NOT A CHOICE.
Being Bisexual isn't a choice either.
@@nickosmond9561 no one said it was…
Hey y'all, me again. Just wanted to again thank you for your kind & supportive comments. I really do appreciate them. I am a little surprised by the big focus on my sexuality, because it wasn't the main point discussed in this video. I didn't really define my sexuality in this video, but I can tell there is confusion on it, so I want to set the record straight: I identify as bisexual. I can understand why many may not have caught that in the video, & I can also understand those of you who assume I'm gay. I know I'm not the most masculine guy, which leads many to believe that there's no way that I'm anything other than gay. Still, I know how I feel on the inside & I know who I'm attracted to. Many of your comments were helpful in allowing me to fully accept my true feelings. Thanks so much. It really means a lot.
One more thing: I know this video is about my disagreement with certain aspects of the church, but I did not intend to bash on the church or its members in any way. I hope that you strive to do the same in your comments.
Thanks again. :) Now go watch a happy video or something!
+Connor Hatch I will bet every one here would support you no matter what. I know i do.
+Connor Hatch : You are inspirational! Wish you the best.
+HerosComment Wow, you're right! All this time I thought that I couldn't choose my sexuality (it's almost like I was born with it or something) but now that you've chosen it for me, all of a sudden I'm gay! Normally, I wouldn't let anyone make this impossible decision for me, but it looks like because you've watched one video about me, you know more about myself than I do! You have forever changed my life--nevermind the women to whom I'm deeply attracted! You've opened my eyes to my new gay life! You truly are my hero!
Confusion and focus on your sexuality may be stemming from using the words "coming out" in your video title.
I just wanted to let you know that not all Mormons are that way. My daughter is pansexual, and my nephew is gay. I love them both unconditionally. I came from a very religious and I have to say very bigoted family, but I couldn't understand feeling that way. I'm of the belief that we should love all mankind, no matter their differences. I know I'm not the only Mormon who feels this way. A TRUE Christian ( I mean believer/worshiper of Christ) loves everyone. I always try to live by the Golden Rule "Do unto others as you'd have done to you". Unfortunately, there are closed minded people in all religions and all walks of life, and that is just sad. What an empty and unhappy life they must lead. I'm happy for those people who are brave enough to accept who they are and are willing to share it with their loved ones. I wish them nothing but happiness and a very fulfilling life.
Connor - I am so proud of you right now ! DON"T go on that mission for ANY reason. I did knowing FULL WELL that I was big ol' gay boy in church drag clothing. I was in Spain Madrid mission and spent my entire mission fighting the MP and refusing to lift a finger to help the church, I got back in Dec on 1983 and to this day I still have nightmares of being stuck on yet another mission and I wake up crying and upset - and it's been 30 years since that damn mission yet I am still dealing with the PTSD from that rotten choice I made of going on a mission. Stick to your own path Connor.
Connor, I am Gay & Jewish, you are a truly beautiful, wonderful person. Don't cry, you have such a gorgeous smile, use that smile 😀 love & peace from Luca in Sweden 🇸🇪
LUCAX651 hey Luca, this is StorminMormon91. Are you still around?
When LDS missionaries landed on my doorstep, a four year journey began. I kept in touch with a few of them. A few years later, one of the missionaries came out to me. He’s now happily married to another Mormon but they have obviously left the church. You can still be a practising, devoted Christian. Other denominations are now more welcoming of us. Don’t give up! Keep your values, like staying away from drugs, alcohol and other common temptations. You’ve made a huge first step. Hang in there! With love, Gord in Winnipeg CANADA.
Just want to let you all know that I've read every comment & I am so thankful for your kind words.
+Connor Hatch sweety i believe the lord love you and i all the same. stay strong and follow your heart. i got your back doll.
What is happening now in your life since this video? Things better?
I've been feeling the exact same way and I'm so comforted that I'm not the only one :) thank you
+Rebecca Richins You're welcome :)
You are brave! I was 30 when I finally had the nerve to tell my parents who are devout LDS members. I struggled for years. I went on a mission. I cannot say I regret those experiences but sometimes I wish I would of been strong enough at 19 or 20 to come out and live comfortable and free so to speak. You have so much more ahead of you Connor.
My family who are all very active in the Church have been such a support. I hope you find that same support from your family. Give them space and time if they are not so accepting at first. Their is a reason that gays call over gays family. Sometimes it is those friends that will be your support and your family.
I don't know you but I love ya man. It seems when you find another member that is going through what I did it makes an instant connection. To understand exactly how you feel growing up Mormon and trying to live in that shadow. I know what you are going through and believe me it gets a lot better as time goes on.
Be proud of how you were raised and the values your parents taught you and continue to make good choices. Now it is your turn to decide and live how you feel is right. Be proud of your choices so far and confident in the ones you will yet have to make. Be you!! Finally be you!
Much love xoxo
Great comment!
Conner - Hang in there. And trust me, there are millions of folks out there who are going to want to help you and discover the world with you. Be brave enough to ask for help when you need it and offer it to others whom you care ab out whenever you can.
You've got balls, man. Well done!
True that!!!! Brave
You are the bravest person! What you just did is probably the hardest thing you will ever do in your life! I am 56 and I have nothing but regrets for not having come out at a younger age, I feel that I have wasted my whole life. I have not allowed myself to be experience being in love with anyone. I have lived a whole long life with a low self-esteem and loneliness because of what my religion and society thought about me. Your video has inspired me to reach out and start living and not just existing. Connor you are wise beyond your years, you will have a beautiful joy-filled life, you have amazing courage. Keep being your true self, you are beautiful and you are loved!
Clearly making this declaration was a struggle for you and not done without a lot of consideration, but you seem to be following your gut instinct and that takes strength, self-confidence and even bravery to represent yourself openly and honestly. That's more important than what any outside person might think of your choices. I wish you a terrific future and I have no doubt it will be a happy one.
Growing up in Utah, I understand and can relate. When I was little I remember going to church every Sunday with my grandparents. All my cousins and siblings are baptized and It just didn't work out for me i couldn't get into it. My town has 9 chapels and a temple. All my friends in high school go to seminary and I don't. And I've finally come to terms of why. Knowing that my family growing up LDS will one day figure out really freaks me out. This video is amazing, thanks👏🏼.
That took a lot courage. We all want to please our parents and community, but in the end you need to make a decision as to what is the truth and what is right for you. Giving false testimony or living a lie isn't going to bring you closer to God. If you treat your fellow man with love and respect, you can't go wrong. The LDS church provides a great sense of community and family, but they still have a lot to learn about tolerance and accepting diversity. We are all human and flawed, but as long as we do our best, we deserve the respect and love of everyone. God is love. Sometimes people miss that message.
You are so strong coming out like this. Be strong mate. Times can be tough, wait it out, revelation will come. It may not bee soon, but one day! Just hold on there!
Hi, I just found your video and I listened to every word, and yep, I understand the copious tears ....
I felt the same, and for similar reasons. People, my parents had so many ideas and plans for me, that I tried very hard to not disappoint. But, I wasn't being me, and I wasn't free to just be me, out and real and in person. So I hid things about me and lied to myself and everyone.
just over a year ago at 17, I found courage from some where to do what you did. And I have never been happier.
Massive hug dude. It may sound silly, but I am really proud of you. :)
please keep being you, you're awesome, and fearfully and wonderfully made just as you are :)
Ben
You just hit the nail on the head! You could have helped me make my video so much shorter! :) Thank you!
Connor Hatch. I knew what you meant when you said you weren't 100% straight nor 100% gay. That obviously means bi. You are a beautiful young man. I gave up on church years ago, but I still have a strong faith in God. I didn't like anyone telling me how to think. I've had a lot of tragedies in my life. It has just made me that much stronger and I understand I can handle any crap that this old world dishes out. I , too, don't smoke, drink, or do drugs, and I have survived quite well without them. However, i am very open minded, so I am one to accept everyone! What's important is who you are, not what you are, and I think you are an awesome person! Hang in there and I know things will work out for you! They always do!
I hate that the church is seen as homophobic/ racist because it's not. People are. You are loved for whoever you are, I am a Mormon and believe in love.
I never tried to insinuate either of those things about the church. I think I was very fair in explaining that I had lost my faith. Not once did I mention the church with race or sexuality in the same instance. If you feel like others in the comments are painting the church in that light, it is not in my nature to prevent people from voicing their opinions. I'm not going to suppress what people have to say. If you read the comments, you will see that some people have verbally attacked me, but I'm not going to stop them from doing that. I respect your opinion, as I respect everyone's opinions, but I hope you know that I did not try to show the church as homophobic or racist.
Connor Hatch no darling that's not what I meant, sorry, it's just videos like this that make me feel bad for you
Little Miss Crybaby When I first got to get my temple recommend, the Bishop said, explaining one of last last "rules" to get a temple recommend."So basically not following in any anti mormon organization, or like here, any LGBT support groups". He sated being in a lgbt march, or any support towards it, would stop be from getting a temple recommend. That is homophobic, saying it was bad enough to not be clean to go into the temple.
Little Miss Crybaby mormonism, come on, super bizarre. i piss on the book of mormon and no god killed me.
But the thing is, it comes from church. Thats whats the bible says so why are only the people homophobic?.
If God didn't love gay people she wouldn't keep making so many of us.
HH James exactly. Paul was the one that wrote the most homophobic verse in Leviticus, not God. There's a good chance it's been translated wrong
Exactly!!! And ALL good-looking! You can't deny that!!! God is great!
Kanade Otonokoji correction. Paul authored nothing in the Old Testament. Leviticus was authored by Moses. Everything else, I agree with.
You're doing the right thing! You don't want to teach something you don't believe in!
Dearest Connor: I am watching this in 2019 which is a few years since you posted it but I have only come across your video for the first time today. Thank you for such an honest and heartfelt video - I could see and sense your turmoil. I also came from a very religious household (Catholic) and later in life my mother joined the Church of Latter Day Saints - so I can understand, at least somewhat of what you were going through. I do hope things have become better for you in the intervening time and thank you again for such a brave video. DH
Connor, I found this video and immediately clicked on it because of the title, I was an acting member of the Mormon church. I left when I realized I was gay, and that it truly was not a choice, that I had no control over it and that made me question the religion, and most religions period. When I left the church I was extremely upset but I knew that I would not and could never truly believe in all of the teachings of the Mormon church, but I knew that I had to do it to truly be happy and live my life. All I'm trying to say is I understand your decision on a truly deep level, and I hope you know that you are not doing anything wrong, this is your life and you need to live it whatever way you want to, just remember to be true to yourself and be a truly good person, thats all you need to live a good life, and if you do that the true good people will find you and you will lead an amazing life.
Hey Connor I just saw your video and I’m truly grateful for it, you are so amazing and cute guy, do what you have to do, as you said, you will feel happier now. I really wanted to hug you when I saw this video, love you ✌🏼
Conner, you are perfect who you are. I hope things are getting better for you.
You did an awesome job. Keep up the good stuff. Plz don't cry u made me cry.
Very moving, I can totally relate. Congrats for taking the path that you felt was right, I hope that it will guide you to something better.
Your video made me cry! Thank you for being brave, feeling comfortable to open up to complete strangers, and sharing your feelings! I firmly believe regardless of how you identify, whether it be gay or bi, that you are comfortable in your skin, honest with yourself and love yourself; you seem like a really great person with a good head on your shoulders. Never apologize for how you feel or who you are as a person - I'm proud of you and I'm certain there are many other people in this world who would say the same thing. Best of luck to you! Peace and Love.
Hey bud. This video really hit home for me. Thank you for having the courage to make this video. I too was raised in the LDS church and I even served a full time mission. On my mission and I think even before it I realized that I didn't believe in all the things that I was teaching. When I got back from my mission I tried really hard to overcome those obstacles and find the faith and answers that I was in need of to fully accept the teachings of the church. I finally accepted the fact that I would never receive the answers that I was looking for and I stopped attending church. It took me 8 years after that to final come out and say something to my parents. It wasn't until I felt the pressure from my parents to have my son baptized that I finally broke and said enough is enough. I need to live my life for me, my wife, and my son. I am now happy to say that I too have that weight off of my shoulders and I am so incredibly happy about that. If you ever feel down or need someone to talk to please don't hesitate to reach out. You are strong.
I just found your video. I can tell you have a wonderful heart. I am 53, and spent half of my life "pleasing" others with religion. I no longer do that. My life is mine, and I am responsible for it. I no longer choose to play church for anyone. I don't do drugs, or drink either... I wish I had the courage to say what you have now, when I was your age. I am sure you are going to be a wonderful man, with your own beliefs and understanding of what is right and wrong. Love whoever you end up loving! Love is Love.. no difference! I wish you all the best, and peace in your heart!
70 here. You are young and hurting but just remember " IT GETS BETTER ", It took me 30 years of teaching gospel doctrine to finally give up on church. I wasn't looking for any relationship when I found my soul mate, It's been just like walking on air! Learn to love yourself, avoid self destructive behavior, remember the golden rule, treat everyone with love and respect. You do that and you can't go wrong!
Just go with your heart and you won't fail! If your heart tells you, not being a mormon, then don't try being a mormon! Don't force yourself into something or someone you are not, because it wouldn't work. Be you, because there's no one youer than you!
calm down
As a member of the church I wanna say I’m proud that you were able to finally say what has been holding you down. I hope that you found happiness and remember God loves you and I hope everything went well with your family and friends. I know this comment is 3 years late but I really hope your happy wether that mean you’re in the church or not and that everything went well.
This showed up in my Recommended Videos tonight, so apologies for the random comment. I'm also concerned that UA-cam is becoming sentient. ;-)
I grew up in the LDS Church too and had a similar point of clarity on what I did and didn't want. As someone who has some years added on to that clarity, I applaud you for being willing to share it with the world. Keep living your truth and even if it's not always easy, I promise it will be worth it to chart a path based on it! *hugs*
I would *never* expect an apology for a comment! Especially one as kind as this!
Connor, I applaud your courage and honesty. As a former member of the Church, I know how hard this was. I came out as a questioner of the Church and a bi-sexual man 40 years ago, just before heading to the MTC to start my Mission. Love is Love and God doesn't make any mistakes. I later concluded that I am mostly Gay and the more I dug the more I found that the Church is all based on the lies of a con-man who created the LDS Scriptures from whole cloth. Live your life in any way that fulfills you and makes you happy. Find love and run with it. Wish I could just give you a big hug and let you know that you are your own special creation and you will continue to shine. All the best for your future wherever your journey takes you! You are loved.
Hey Connor, I really respect you for making that video :)
I was in a very similar situation about two years ago when I was 17, though I 'only' was raised strictly Christian, and not as a Mormon. Nobody in the church had hurt me in any way and I really liked the people I was together with there, but I started asking questions and having lots of doubts about the whole thing.
It really helped me that I moved out to study in a different city then, because I was able to build a completely new life for myself and figure out who I am and what I stand for, and at first that meant throwing out a lot of things that I had learned at home. But at the same time, even in the times I questioned the very existence of a god, I had a sense of that what I was doing was right, that it was okay and necessary for me to ask these questions so that in the end I will find a faith that is true to who I am and not is something I've just copied from everyone around me.
I've always been and still am very open about where I stand to the people around me, and that has allowed me to talk to lots of people and ask them about their stories and their experiences with God and faith, and that has been very interesting. :)
Right now I'm just starting to take my first steps with God again but it feels so different from everything that was before, it feels soo good because it's me, it's my own faith now :)
I don't know where you are at with this right now, it's been a while since you posted the vid, but I hope it's been an amazing year of getting to know yourself.
I'm bisexual to by the way, so I could relate even more to what you said :D
If you're interested I'd like to get to know you, you seem to be a genuinely nice and interesting person. :)
Greetings from Germany! Jael
Dude it okay everyone is different just love the person who you are we all are different. If we were all the same this world would be hell just love yourself man we all love the person who you are ❤️
My dad is a Baptist preacher and I know how you feel, take care a be who you are, God created you and loves you for who you are and not what people want you to be.
Connor, you are such a sweet boy, it's definitely very hard to grow up and live in a hostile environment, I hope you break out of it and find a good place for youself and be surrounded by supportive people ... this will become easier as you progress in life, and you'll learn how to deal with hostility, unfortunately though, I am afraid homophobia even in its mildest forms is there to stay forever, and the pain will never go away, but you'll learn and know how to deal with it. homophobia and rasism are very serious problems, but I am afraid we'll never see real interest in fixing it, a lot of talk, but it's just to create a noise, not to find real solutions and understand the real roots of it and how to get rid of it forever ...
You are so brave. Coming out is one of the toughest things to do. I really admire you and this video. You are definitely a role model to millions of teens and adults. When I came out to my family, I was shaking and crying so badly. I was scared about what they would think of me. Accepted for who you are or not, you should always be proud of who you are. Thanks for this video. I'm really proud of you!
Thank you xoxo
Connor I am Gay and catholic I belong to a parish that accepts LGBTQ+ people took me a long time to find a church like this but there are churches that accept everybody God loves everybody you are really brave.
We may not know each other but I just want to say that I love you, man. It is very brave of you to actually speak it out that way. I myself have struggles trying to follow the church’s standards, but still, I want to believe that the gospel can help me in my life. Serving a full time mission has been the greatest thing I have ever done in my life, but I wouldn’t judge if someone decides to not do so. You deserve happiness no matter who you are and how God has made you. Thank you for making this video.
I'm lds as well. My mom is die hard Mormon and especially after my dad died she tried her hardest to follow the gospel and for us as well and I'm bisexual. I haven't come out to her yet but I have to my brother and this was very inspiring.
Nice work, Connor. I am so glad you had the balls to stand up to the church and follow your heart. While I think religion has some great stories, structure and lessons, I think they should be used to inform one how to approach/live one's life. AND NOT to make one's life a prison. Oh yeah! and see the flick "Latter Days"-very inspiring film. Rock on!
Thank you, Connor, for expressing your thoughts on UA-cam. You're a brave guy, and other people will be heartened by seeing this video if they are experiencing the same struggle. Anyway, stay strong! I hope you have a wonderful life.
Oh My God, from the first second I just wanted to run to you and give you the biggest hug ! you are so brave for making this video !
+VeraZoller thank you :)
You are a sweet and honest person. You should not torment yourself so much. Don't feel guilty about being a warm hearted person. I admire your commitment to your parents and religion but you have to follow your heart and respect how you are feeling inside yourself. I want to wish you a merry Christmas from here.
Connor I respect your courage. I understand you. If u ever need a friend please contact me.
Hey Connor, I'm LDS and I truly accept you as you are. While I know it's against our believes I also believe it's not my right to judge you. You're very inspiring! Much love ❤️
You are beautiful and strong and a beacon of light to so many!!!! It is not easy to carve your own path in the world. This is why so many people just opt to take the well worn trail even if it literally kills them. But there is so much growth and light in listening to your inner voice, so keep following your heart and each next indicated step will be clearer and clearer.
This gave me so much comfort. I am currently going through everything you were talking about in your video. I have kind of hinted about not believe in the gospel to my parents and they have threatened to kick me out. I also am bisexual and there is no way that I would tell them because just to see the disappointment in their faces would hurt me so much. but anyways I found so much comfort through you sharing your story because it made me feel so much less alone so thank you 💕💕
The only thing I've ever known for certain is that we are never alone. There's always someone out there for us. I'm glad I was able to offer you some comfort for a little while :)
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This is so cute, Live a happy life man.
Well done fella.. that was a courageous video and i wish i'd had the balls to do that when i was 19. You have far more to offer the world in your integrity and sensitivity than the scriptures have. Let yourself free, whoever you are.
Hey, Connor, loved your video. It sounded something like me. When I was 25, I left the Church because I was tired of living a life "as plastic as my VISA card." For me, I joined a fraternity, where I was finally accepted for who I was. And I learned to love myself for who I was. But, I never broke my standards. Most of my LDS friends and family decided I was on the freeway to hell. Not that I recommend a fraternity for everyone. Just recommend being and loving yourself, regardless of what others think or say. And don't let people tell you your sexuality either. The funny thing was that I went back to Church when my best friend from the fraternity suggested it. He still is not LDS. But he said he wanted me to be happy and that being LDS was part of it, even if I did not fit into the classic LDS mold. He was right. My advice: just focus on being yourself and serving others.
William Green did you hate your parents
Much love coming your way Conner, so please hang in there. People need more people like you in their lives and your family and friends should very proud. All the best, and please keep us posted.
Aw baby.. This was so genuine and I'm so happy that you gathered the courage to speak about this.
Thank you :)
GOD BLESS you Brother Connor. I too love the LORD and I finally believe that I am not a mistake. GOD does not make mistakes. He made me who I am and I must accept what I can not change. I am sure the LORD will continue to give you strength to be who HE made you to be.
What a beautiful way you have found to express yourself. Please don't feel like you are letting every one who matters in your life down. You have to put your needs to yourself above others expectations of you. Otherwise you will never find true happiness and you will end up in such turmoil over it all. Self acceptance is such a treasure. I hope you find it and it helps make you feel like a whole person. Sometimes a person has to put others on hold while problems and issues get sorted out. True friends and family who loves you will give you the time and space for you to explore these issues and allow you to resolve them. You seem like a very wise and feeling young person. I have a feeling you will get it all sorted out and you'll feel a whole lot better. Take Care friend.
it's never too late to come out with things that really melt you inside...I admire you...I wish I could do the same....
As a member of the Church living in The Netherlands, my heart went out to you. Thank you for your honesty, it took a lot of guts to do this and I think many feel the same way.
You, good sir, are a good guy., I was watching you and at one point, I wished I was with you to give you a big hug. There are many who love you for who you are and for your honesty and sincerity.
Know this, God will always love you.
I spent a few months living with a family that was LDS and it was a really eye opening experience. Though I didn't agree with some aspects of the religion, they were a really chill, kind, down to earth family who looked at religion primarily from a place of love and bettering themselves.
I'm proud of your decision though! I can see that it was a hard one, and I'm happy to see you choosing what you want
Follow your heart, Connor. You're a good person and will live a meaningful life being true to yourself. Much love and support heading your way!
We often listen to what others want and not what we want I to am mormon and went through the same things you have. Religion should not be forced on us . I use to sit in church and listening to the teaching and most of them i could not accept. I followed my own path . First off we can never live for others we must live for ourselves... so do what you feel is right for you i followed the path along time and finally found what is right for me. Just be brave we can not change all things about us and thus accept that which we can,t the future will be what you want to be hugs and blessings you have taken the first steps be brave and you are not alone never
I'm 13 and I just came out to my best friend. It was the scariest thing I have ever done in my life.
Good on you! That's an awesome first step!
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This is so raw. Wow. This is not a story. This is happening. I just sat straight up when I realized what was happening. And crying for you and haven’t heard it all yet. This was two years ago and I hope that by now you have found your way through this. I hustled want to reach through the screen and hug you, right now, and tell you it gets better. I hoe that by now, it has gotten better for you. 😰
Conner...I believe that we must be comfortable with ourselves. When I first came out I called myself bisexual but since then I realized that I was gay. We live in a world filled with labels but the ones that matter are the ones that we answer to. Be yourself...no matter what words that you use. Take care Conner! I wish you the very best!
Connoer, I feel your pain😥 Foll ow that BEAUTIFUL hearted of yours. That's where the TURE God of DIVINE love lives...BUG HUG BABY BROTHER. This is very brave of you.GOD LOVES YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.💙🤗💙
I realize this is an old post, but I found it compelling to listen to on many different levels.
Your struggle with the official teachings of a religious denomination is as old as organized religion and its attempt to put order into its place on earth.
I felt sad as I listen to you struggle to find the right words because I know that pain.
As for UA-camrs interest in your sexuality ... I don't completely understand it, but that is the nature of man. Sexuality is a part of human nature. Each one of us experiences it on a unique level. No two of us are 100% anything.
Sexuality was never a very big thing in my life until people began to question it, and that pissed me off on many levels. First, it's none of your business. Second, what's the reason for your interest? I am who I am. I'm attracted to who I'm attracted to. I love who I love. I am me. I can't - I don't want to - change who I am. I can choose to live what I consider a moral life, but that doesn't change me. I am me.
I tell people that I'd they don't like who I am, that's OK. I want them to have the happiest life possible, I just don't want to be a part of it. It's not mean, just honest. Brutally honest for sure, but honest nonetheless.
Both my parents have passed away, but when she was still alive and I was in my 30s, I would tell Mother, "I didn't ask to be this way. You and Dad made me this way. If there's something you don't like, you need to tell me gently, but you also need to know that I am who I am because of you."
I never said it to her disrespectfully. It was simply a reality check for her. It was me saying to her, "Be gentle, Mother. I am your creation. I live what people consider a moral life. I am a good man. Please don't be too critical."
Here's my 2 cents. You don't owe anyone an explanation for anything you choose to do. You are fortunate to be in the generation you are. You have so many choices, so many options open to you - unlike me, who is 40 years your senior. Be happy. Continue to enjoy PG movie and SpongeBob Squarepants.
Live the life you want. People will come to understand who you are based on the life you live.
I am a good judge of character, and I'm telling you, you are a good man. The world is a better place with you in it.
You are a very brave young man. It took a lot of courage to do this video and I can only hope that you have received 100% support from your family and friends. It's a very good first step to begin living your life for YOU. All the best. Much love being sent your way.
Congratulations! You found it! Your made in Gods image, in your heart you know his boundaries. Just live by them and be true to your own heart. God is love! You won't fing Him in a church, building or organized religion. In fact, it's been my experience organized religion will divide and tear apart your soul. I'm ex-Mormon and I have found peace and love in what God has I printed in my heart already. The Mormons are good people I won't deny...but you don't have to have them to be at peace with God and that's the truth. Doctrines and dogma will divide your soul and keep you torn apart inside! And God doesn't give a hoot about your sexuality. LIVE YOUR LIFE YOU ONLY HAVE ONE AND ITS YOURS! Gods grace is sufficient for YOU and his Spirit will guide you.
Good on you mate. It's hard to leave the church when your family is so rooted in it. But it's worth it
Connor I had a great friend when I lived in Phoenix that was a member of the LDS Church. He is openly gay, such as myself, and fortunately for him his family was very accepting. I used to be Christian myself but after seeing so much hypocrisy I removed myself from religion however I am very spiritual. I hope things are much easier for you these days my friend and I am sad you ever had that weight on your shoulders. I can completely empathize.
Ive always thought religion should not be used to brainwash your children , only whats right and wrong . It should be left for them to make up thier own mind when they are of a age to do that. Your very brave to do this ,hope it turns out alright in the end.
My friend is in the same situation as you. She has been raised Mormon her entire life and she has chosen not to follow that religion after college. I respect her choice even if her parents disagree, and I think it is brave for anyone to do that. Making a choice for yourself and not for other people can be important sometimes.
Just came across your video. Was really impressed because I could see, what a big step it was for you, to do this video. Hope you have tone fine this last year. Just wanted to wish you all the best for your future.
I feel bad for you man, I'm a Muslim whose a skeptic and I barely believe anymore and although I lost the feeling of guilt Im still emotional destroyed because I loved my religion and I never thought it could be false. your lucky to have people to share it with though. this society is way more religious and even talking about my skepticism would be really hard
Connor, you are very brave to come out as your true self. You know that living a lie is not the answer to inner peace. You are on a journey. It took me 63 years to accept fully who I was - not having to live up to other people's expectations of who I should be. You describe yourself as bisexual. I respect you for that acknowledgement of who you are. Remember that sometimes when a door is closed to us, a window opens, making you look up to the sky. God, whatever you perceive God to be, is with you and in you. We are made in the image of God. Jesus said: Love one another, even as I have loved you. Above all, whatever it takes, be yourself. There may be a cost involved. You do not have to prove yourself or justify yourself. God loves you. Period. By the way, I would recommend Quaker meetings. I appreciate what they call - collective stillness. It is very therapeutic. Check out mindfulness online. Quakers respect each person's spiritual journey, wherever it takes them. Take care, my friend. All the best.
Connor, I hope you ran from the LDS church as far and fast as you could. Live a real and authentic life.
You rock kiddo... You just spoke on behalf of millions of faceless, voiceless persons in the LGBT community, fearful of living in their truth. I hope your message inspires and brings hope. One love from Jamaica mon...
It's a little frightening to think that I've spoken on the behalf of so many people, but I do hope that you're right about inspiring & bringing them hope in their journeys.
Thank you for sharing, my friend. I could feel the apprehension in your voice. Believe me, it takes time, and at your own pace. As for the Bible - it says a lot of things. Just know that neither Jesus nor God Himself spoke on the subject. God gave us His 10 Commandments in the Old Testament, and Jesus gave us very wonderful parables and teachings about love and compassion. You are loved. God loves ALL His flock. Don't feel badly about not following the LDS teachings. All God cares is that you're a good person with a kind, loving heart. Believe in Him. He has gotten me through a lot. Love and hugs from Minnesota!
I understand were your coming from I recently came out to my family. It's been hard yes emotionally physically. I am here to support you but never put you're self down. Later on in life you'll feel better and you'll find yourself and who you want to be. ❤️
Hey, Connor I was really touched by your video and what you had to say. I hope you’re happy and are doing better these days
Really enjoyed watching your videos & when I came across this one it definitely hit home! It was tough for me to come out because I grew up in a religious family but at the end of the day I wanted to make myself happy and not worry about everybody else’s opinion! We’re all humans & we’re all unique in our own way❗️ definitely subscribed & turned on my post notifications 🤗
Hi Connor I wish be there give you a strong hug and make sure you're brave enough for what you do congrats my dear I really enjoy your video and remember people around will keel loving you no matter what. Accept exactly the way you're and the rest is story alright.
I'm so sorry for all of the things you have experienced. I think that you're a wonderful person and even though I don't know you, I'm so proud that you chose to not do the mission when you didn't believe in it. With that, you're being completely honest and you're not living a lie any more.
Man you need to start taking control of your life! stop worrying about others, you need to do what you want, be yourself be proud speaking as a 52 year old, I understand parental pressure to comply with they,re hopes and expectations, however your your unique wonderful self be proud of you man ! do what you want and feel is right for you! they live they,re lives you live yours matey sending hugs !
You just live your life for you. Not anyone else. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be anything to others
You, sir, are so much braver than I was at your age. I know how it feels to want to please everyone. You can't. You are who you are. Your gay. Ok. That does not define who you are. It is just a part of you. Try not to let it be bigger than it is. You are so much more. I am 52. So I am nearing the twilight years of my life. I started a company 20+ years ago (before you were born) and things are going well. I donate a considerable amount of my income to charities I feel strongly about. Surprisingly, none of my charities are gay related. As I said, your sexuality is but a small part of who you are. I believe there are much more important things in this world than my (or your) sexuality. Hope this gives you an idea of what you MAY be thinking about in 30 years. I wish I could take away the anguish you are feeling now. But the world doesn't work that way. I've rambled on way too long. Just know that you are not the first, nor the last person to experience what you are feeling. I hope in 30 years, you will be able to ease a young mans anxiety as I have tried to do today. Wishing you all the best.
Love your honesty and your courage...Way to go Connor!
So proud of you Connor, God gave you a brain to think and make choices, which you have done. You can't live your life for others expectations of you. You're smart and you obviously have a really good heart! Stand proud! X
Thank you so much for this video. I completely understand what you are going through. When my parents found out that I was gay they thought that I was broken. They have been trying to fix me for the past year now. I have thought about committing suicide so many times because I am sick of being treated like I am broken. I want you to know that I completely support you and I know that you an amazing person. Thank you again so much for this video.
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Connor, just follow your heart. The good Lord leads where He will, and that is never a bad things. Proud of you, and keeping you in my prayers!
Wonderful video, Connor. You are so brave. I hope you are doing well and are happy. You deserve to be.
I so relate with this from my lack of faith in the gospel and my feelings about it and wanting to believe it and stuff. 💙 I came out really suddenly online as well and almost wish I'd told people in person first but if I'm honest I'm glad it was overwith quickly
Way to go Conor,,, the best thing you can do is live your life, be true to yourself and have fun. Get too know you, your family, friends, will understand or they may not, the important thing is for you to do what you think is right for you...
Thanks for sharing
I've lost my faith 4 years ago,
It's okay to doubt yourself and feel this way about your religion.
trust me you'll get through it eventually and remember THERE IS NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU.
I hope you have a great, fulfilling life
I can relate to the pain you are experiencing. It was about your age when I had my crisis of faith. I imagine that being a member of LDS has pressures that I never had to deal with but none the less I had a conflict between my sexual orientation and my faith. I also had problems accepting some scriptures which had nothing to do with my orientation. Part of being an adolescent is identifying your own self. It is not only completely normal to question your family's religious views it is also healthy. I don't believe God wants us to have blind faith. He gave humans the ability to think and question for a reason. It took me 10 years for my faith to return. He never left my side.
Please also realize that morals and religion are not necessarily the same. Your family instilled in you a moral code. Even if you become atheist that code is the basis of who you are. If you stray at some point your core morality will bring you back to your family values. May the Lord bring you peace.
Connor, it’s been a long time since you posted this, but I just came across it. You are an amazing person, who you are. You sound so honest, sincere and sweet. I only wish I had the courage you do, when I was your age. I know how hard it is. You are who you are, when you’re born. It’s not a choice people. So many can’t understand that. You take care and be strong. You are a beautiful soul.
Conner, this is the second time I watched your video, after a year and I feel your pain inside. I really hope you are doing better and go in the direction that feels the best. Best of luck to you. Take care.
Wish you all the best of the world. You made the best decision because it's your decision and that counts.