What is love? A journey through the heart | Mia Hansson | TEDxDouglas

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  • Опубліковано 17 гру 2014
  • This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. What is love indeed?
    Born to parents from two different continents, Mia grew up and worked in Europe, Africa and South East Asia. Even while 'helping' her nuclear physicist father and geneticist mother at work, Mia had a hunch that there was more to life than science alone. Obsessed with finding the answer to the question of love she travelled through Tibet, studied jungle survival with Bruce Parry in Borneo, worked as a model in Paris, a journalist in Bangkok, and a human rights researcher in the Middle East, before going to live for a year at a Zen monastery. Finally, she found the answer - with unexpected results. Now a writer about 'spiritual life in the real world' and training to be a counsellor, Mia’s work has been featured in the Guardian, the BBC, The Huffington Post, Time Out, and as Editor to the Buddhist Society. She has an MA in Comparative Literature, three post graduate degrees and a Millennium Award from Jon Snow.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 203

  • @malaztarig8619
    @malaztarig8619 3 роки тому +58

    "sometimes we are far too often defensive and imagine that people want to hurt us, when they don't..."

  • @arroxas
    @arroxas 3 роки тому +56

    "There is a crack in everything and that is where light comes in." Beautiful. 💖

  • @petercini2022
    @petercini2022 2 роки тому +40

    When I was six years old my Dad went around the table asking us kids what was the most important thing in life. I forgot what I said, then discovered his notes--"love". I experience love with such intensity, the two romantic interests I had/have (first is loving as a friend now), they probably can't imagine how deep my sentiments are. Once I fall in love, I never fall out of love, it is with me forever. Once in a while, you stumble upon a soul that is breathtaking in its raw, unadorned beauty. Just being with them is such an incredible state of bliss, you don't fear death, you fear nothing, you feel safe. I am whole and don't need someone to complete me but when I meet a woman who bewitches me, she is always in my thoughts.

  • @parwinali5823
    @parwinali5823 4 роки тому +179

    She brought tears in my eyes when said : we can get love from plants and other things ❤️ very true ! It doesn’t just come from people!

  • @natiazaj7653
    @natiazaj7653 8 місяців тому +8

    I totally agree with her speech, love can be a big surprise. Sometimes you don’t even expect that it is next to you. It sometimes take a time, you can spend time together as a friend, and after a few years it can change immediately and something magical happens… then you finally may feel how comfortable and full of good vibe you can be in relationship, you have to feel it. If you hesitate - is it a right person, and you’re worry about this relationship, If you have internal feeling that you want to feel more safe, stable etc. So. Go ahead and meet another person, the sky is the limit. This is only your choice, which life you want to create. Process of ending is very hard, but it is worth it, and than when you meet a truly love of your life, you are not hesitate, you just feel it in the air

  • @godofloveanddeath1755
    @godofloveanddeath1755 5 років тому +15

    This topic is a lot harder to talk about because, to talk about love you have to true to yourself, open yourself to others. You see, today there are millions of people, who have friends and family but they ask, write, seek help anonymously.
    Most of us have friends and family yet we are all alone. I wonder why, we can't open ourselves.

  • @101Kittywhiskers
    @101Kittywhiskers Рік тому +2

    Love between the land and other beings can be reciprocal, people don’t get that. Plants saved my life, they give me joy and hope

  • @gnorwell
    @gnorwell 9 років тому +131

    A brave, honest, inspiring talk by a Buddhist practitioner. Buddhism can seem very cold to some people, but here Mia brings a warmth to that most difficult of topics, relationships.

  • @DJCornelis
    @DJCornelis 4 роки тому +18

    (Self) Love is the desire to thrive, the will to live a full-filling life. Love for another is understanding and admiring similarities and differences to the end of living a full-filling life together.

  • @warrenspies140
    @warrenspies140 9 років тому +105

    This is a topic infinitely harder to talk about and more difficult to explain than Brian Green talking about super string theory to an audience full of non-physicists. Brian Green himself could not have explained a very difficult subject any better. This lady is a physicist of another sort; one of the heart and of what really matters, absolute reality! Because real typically normal life matters too!

    • @renehenriksen1735
      @renehenriksen1735 7 років тому +1

      Warren Spies >>> Very wise words. More relevant physics I would say. Brian Green doesn´t deal with physics on a more emotional level.

  • @TheHippoart
    @TheHippoart 3 роки тому +11

    Has anyone noticed how beautiful her voice is with that little tremble type of a feel!

  • @CoachRedRochelleStrauss
    @CoachRedRochelleStrauss 7 років тому +190

    Thank you for being vulnerable and teaching .

  • @lovemecom3832
    @lovemecom3832 6 років тому +82

    Love is sacrifice, even if you are far from each other you will always find a way to get along with your girl.. spending time to each other.

    • @drtgyjk
      @drtgyjk 6 років тому +2

      LoveMe,com yeah unconditional love is all abt seeing other person truly a part of urslf.. And being happy :)

    • @cosmoknight-skye2
      @cosmoknight-skye2 5 років тому

      I wish I could......! I hope I can!

  • @FrederickNoronha1
    @FrederickNoronha1 7 років тому +55

    Be honest to yourself, that's a good one.... we forget something so basic.

  • @nat4581
    @nat4581 5 років тому +23

    Mia thank you for a fantastic talk. I was walking and this little dog jumped into my arms. I felt an unbelievable love, like you could touch it. I have not experienced anything like that in my whole life. I'm fifty. I will never forget it and look forward to experiencing it again. Thank you much

  • @nathanlaing8441
    @nathanlaing8441 4 роки тому +11

    One of the best TED talks on this matter, thank you ♥

  • @martinwest2538
    @martinwest2538 2 роки тому +3

    True love is the thoughts and deeds of benevolence. Period. Relation issues are one thing in itself, it's all about attachment and bonding. If there is true love in a relation, depends on if the partners are capable of giving and receiving true love, i.e. being benevolent to each other as well as to themselves.

  • @smallpuppy4172
    @smallpuppy4172 7 років тому +11

    Really loved the honesty she brought into the talk, you can tell she truly means what she says.

  • @mouadrimwind8839
    @mouadrimwind8839 6 років тому +3

    her accent is so graceful

  • @Positivelearningswithsayali
    @Positivelearningswithsayali 5 років тому +6

    The way she was telling her feelings i felt itz me.. same feelings

  • @alexandercrush
    @alexandercrush 5 років тому +35

    Love is simple. Have two people that are attracted to each physically and have similar interests. Let these people spend time together for 1 month and you got love.

    • @ixmooves2261
      @ixmooves2261 4 роки тому +10

      That's romantic love. In a spiritual sense, romantic love is just a tiny fraction of pure love that's everywhere and in everyone.

  • @84blizzle
    @84blizzle 6 років тому +15

    I needed to hear this, though I pretty much share the same perspective, but I still learn from other people's experiences, especially when I can relate to it. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @tom7471
    @tom7471 2 роки тому +2

    How wonderful and beautiful, and moving, and vulnerable. We are all imperfect and seeing that at a deeper level, well, perhaps the light begins to shine in...

  • @8no1likeme-infinitestar65
    @8no1likeme-infinitestar65 4 роки тому +2

    We can only come from one of 2 places,....Fear or Love...that's it. So,I choose Love almost all the time and it has served me well♡:)

  • @KirylAnoshko
    @KirylAnoshko 10 місяців тому

    That’s amazing how much effort is needed from people to realise things they were taught in childhood.

  • @Funandconsciousness
    @Funandconsciousness 9 років тому +32

    Wow! That was beautiful in every sense, Mia. I LOVE REAL! You are that, and the love that we all are at our deepest core shines soooo brilliantly through you! Perfectly expressed. Thank you for bringing this to a TED stage.

  • @MrMarcelWiel
    @MrMarcelWiel 8 років тому +15

    Thanks so much Mia. How lovely and brave

  • @GracindaC
    @GracindaC 7 років тому +2

    This is inspiring. So emotional, so raw and honest

  • @ndeshishikwamanga3912
    @ndeshishikwamanga3912 7 років тому +1

    thank you so much. ... this really is the greatest speech I've ever listened or ever heard. thank you Mia

  • @mindfulart2640
    @mindfulart2640 5 років тому +15

    Mia, thank you for sharing this lovely talk with us. I also would love to share how much i appreciated your vulnerability and the honest, kind way you talked. Your story with the plant made my eyes teary. For i long for such moments in my life and i feel so grateful when they happen.
    Inclusiveness is such a great ideal. May our illusory sense of separateness melt away into the direct and tangible experience of our collective expanding consciousness.

  • @919lovebug
    @919lovebug 7 років тому +16

    your vulnerability is so powerful. thank you!

  • @nicabbott3204
    @nicabbott3204 3 роки тому

    Mia you shine, yourself, like the small plant you spoke about so clearly - Love cannot be taken it can only be given. Thank you.

  • @shoshannahsansaricq5185
    @shoshannahsansaricq5185 7 років тому +6

    Mia Hansson, you are an incredible and beautiful soul.

  • @siddhanttelang
    @siddhanttelang Рік тому +3

    What a beautiful speech!!!
    Thanks for your great insight.
    I wish you all the happiness and prosperity in your life.

  • @SXHQQSSS
    @SXHQQSSS 6 років тому

    The Net of Indra!!! Fabulous Talk! Worth Pondering On!! BRAVO!!

  • @anitaloyd3703
    @anitaloyd3703 7 років тому +3

    Sharing. information and thank. Love is knowledge of oneself

  • @nadeasalvatore
    @nadeasalvatore 6 років тому +2

    I truly love your speech :) Thank you

  • @rushbeast6413
    @rushbeast6413 6 років тому

    Mia you are simply awesome and so realistic . I need your help to get rid of my guilts that bothers me everyday..

  • @indigometanoist6475
    @indigometanoist6475 6 років тому +1

    When she spoke of Indras net, and feeling like there was a protective hand over her it rung deep within me. I feel that same protection. Especially when I am at my lowest. The trauma I have experienced my entire life, quite literally, has provided me with the means of empathy & love. As long as I purely love and know that I am capable of it I am free.

  • @seanwoods1100
    @seanwoods1100 7 років тому +15

    Very eye opening appreciate your simplicity

  • @JustAnotherYou2
    @JustAnotherYou2 4 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing.

  • @jitendraitankar
    @jitendraitankar 7 років тому +2

    real good one...happy to listen to those experiences

  • @adagostaro4651
    @adagostaro4651 3 роки тому +1

    Wow!! Thank you. AD.

  • @janetlees5885
    @janetlees5885 8 років тому +9

    Wonderful - full of simple wonder. Thank you.

  • @elf1717
    @elf1717 7 років тому +12

    This talk was absolutely beautiful. I don't know what to say..but thank you.

  • @sujitthomas5262
    @sujitthomas5262 5 років тому +15

    Wow I really loved her speech... It was wonderful to hear her great thoughts.... Just amazing... Everything is a choice in this temporary world
    .. That's what I believe... Some people are emotional and some not... Its all about the taste of a person that makes the person go forward and select the things which they want... Some gives importance to love some not,, some are into luxuries or money or any other passion... 7.7 billion of the entire world is different and unique in 7.7 billion ways every individual is different and amazing in thereown... For me iam not a emotional person & I don't give much importance to feelings or any such kind of craps...To love someone is a choice what matters for me is not to be harmful by any means...After all I have got one life in this temporary world and its not to get stick with one and to create some unwanted emotions but to enjoy my precious days in the way which I want by chasing my dreams and living it according to my taste and that's what I have to say everyone live a life In your way if it love or money or any kind of passion towards whatever it may go for it.. Its your life and its one time offer use it well rock it your best...live a rememberable worthy life before we depart from this earth... Keep rocking.. Luv u all

  • @Eventsandthings
    @Eventsandthings 5 років тому +1

    Well said... Thanks!

  • @kevinfishburne
    @kevinfishburne 6 років тому

    Hit me in the feelz. Sage words.

  • @enlightenment-transmission
    @enlightenment-transmission 7 років тому +20

    Mia has awakened to Love. It's incorrect to associate her with Buddhism especially Zen (or Sufism). When I had my own Awakening/Enlightenment I was put under various labels. Being unique cannot be captured by any religion. I hope Mia discovers this.

    • @mariye469
      @mariye469 7 років тому +2

      Agreed!

    • @SR-mv2mf
      @SR-mv2mf 7 років тому +8

      Dave Oshana Enlightenment Transmission Teaching lol no enlightened person calls themselves enlightened and then gives unsolicited suggestions to tedx presenters

    • @milliemiller4954
      @milliemiller4954 7 років тому +3

      Buddhism is the tool that got her there; probably the most "neutral" tool, which is important when the mind is impressionable because the soul is weak.
      At the end of the day, we need one another to pass down illuminating though and also to share it. It's less likely that she could have done this on her own; she needed the support network of LOVE

    • @drtgyjk
      @drtgyjk 6 років тому

      Enlightenment Transmission Buddhism and jainism was born at the time when inequality and oppression by ellite class was prevailing in india it doesn't have nething except love to share..

  • @azitam.a.1682
    @azitam.a.1682 3 роки тому +6

    “Let us have love and more love; a love that melts all opposition, a love that conquers all foes, a love that sweeps away all barriers, a love that aboundeth in charity, a large-heartedness, tolerance, forgiveness and noble striving, a love that triumphs over all obstacles.”
    - Abdu'l-Bahá

  • @sal2417
    @sal2417 3 роки тому +1

    Love is wanting more for somebody then they want for themselves

  • @nikelodeon6852
    @nikelodeon6852 4 роки тому

    This woman has achieved enlightenment.

  • @milliemiller4954
    @milliemiller4954 7 років тому +6

  • @bermandonahue5234
    @bermandonahue5234 5 років тому

    Thank you.

  • @cosmoknight-skye2
    @cosmoknight-skye2 5 років тому +1

    Thank you

  • @ayaemam6851
    @ayaemam6851 6 років тому

    this was beautiful !!!! thank you

  • @shashikantgaikwad7216
    @shashikantgaikwad7216 3 роки тому

    Brilliant, God bless!!👏

  • @andrewhiggins1975
    @andrewhiggins1975 3 роки тому

    Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @drunkdadchronicles
    @drunkdadchronicles 6 років тому

    so good...thank you

  • @tashinashi2842
    @tashinashi2842 7 років тому +12

    So beautiful!

  • @naananature
    @naananature 7 років тому +4

    Thank you, you give me love :)

  • @christineescajeda3776
    @christineescajeda3776 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing bless you

  • @Kicikicimaj
    @Kicikicimaj 7 років тому +8

    incredibly insightful and got me emotional . thank you xxx

  • @sabaidrees4738
    @sabaidrees4738 7 років тому

    love each and everything

  • @yuwarajshrestha7328
    @yuwarajshrestha7328 7 років тому +2

    Excellent!

  • @jonkelly2003
    @jonkelly2003 7 років тому +3

    Beautiful Mia. I've been do TM and it's advanced techniques in large groups at Maharishi University of Management for 33 years.

  • @samueltheafrican
    @samueltheafrican 2 роки тому +1

    The best speech about love ever. I’m going to be speaking at a school tomorrow and I have been contemplating what my topic should be, now I know. Thank you ✨

  • @s4mh528
    @s4mh528 4 роки тому +1

    wow. a twist in the fabric of love.

  • @alex119251
    @alex119251 7 років тому

    Thank you, I am in love with Your accent

  • @TheCarrifaery
    @TheCarrifaery 7 років тому +16

    beautiful vulnerability and sweetness

  • @gsplover2936
    @gsplover2936 7 років тому

    oh, that was so beautiful!!!

  • @ideagenerator4518
    @ideagenerator4518 7 років тому +1

    Good talk thanks for sharing these ideas!

  • @hannamelnikava6838
    @hannamelnikava6838 6 років тому

    thank you

  • @satnamo
    @satnamo 5 років тому +3

    Love is a friendship inspires by beauty and truth and sustains by loving-kindness.
    The rule of friendship means that there must be a mutual understanding between them;
    each supplying what the other lacks and trying to benefit the other:
    Always using sincere and friendly words.
    Therefore the expressions of love must be kind and gentle.

  • @irenediaz605
    @irenediaz605 6 років тому

    AMAZING!

  • @NG2155
    @NG2155 4 роки тому +1

    True love always mutual and something more...

  • @kanikamaheshwari9732
    @kanikamaheshwari9732 Рік тому

    So trueeee❣️

  • @acyw123
    @acyw123 7 років тому +5

    Beautifully spoken. It is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks for sharing.

  • @veApolo
    @veApolo 5 років тому

    Awesome Brave soul and heart..

  • @lenazhou7335
    @lenazhou7335 3 роки тому

    life is imperfect !

  • @whitehotmoonlight
    @whitehotmoonlight 6 років тому

    YES! YES! Well done!

  • @mimichelle_
    @mimichelle_ 6 місяців тому

    Beautiful and genuine ❤

  • @PHOTOLOIART
    @PHOTOLOIART 4 роки тому

    Beautiful.

  • @MarinaPier77
    @MarinaPier77 6 років тому

    Beautiful talk

  • @noemin04
    @noemin04 7 місяців тому

    ❤ very beautiful!

  • @piuchuipoukahmei7938
    @piuchuipoukahmei7938 2 роки тому

    "LOVE" is a broad sense that means connecting from one heart to another heart self-relation that's given about LOVE.- also give a different meaning

  • @FREEMASONKILL3R
    @FREEMASONKILL3R 4 роки тому +1

    That’s true the heart only has an off and on. I’m usually heartless and cold but when I meant someone I started being open and loving another sid eu haven’t seen since I was a kid

  • @giorgiapolly
    @giorgiapolly 6 років тому

    thanks

  • @sportyspice7847
    @sportyspice7847 2 роки тому

    She nailed that 👋‼️🤜🤛

  • @unzahid
    @unzahid 4 роки тому

    great.

  • @coleengallardo1622
    @coleengallardo1622 7 років тому +3

    Filipino here! 👐

  • @AbdullahSaleem1
    @AbdullahSaleem1 6 років тому +1

    Waoo !!!
    What a beautiful lady.

  • @pls-shanice
    @pls-shanice 2 роки тому

    My grandparents met through international letter exchange at school too

  • @msan8510
    @msan8510 5 років тому

    Love

  • @bobbymengel7054
    @bobbymengel7054 3 роки тому

    Lovely vid

  • @8no1likeme-infinitestar65
    @8no1likeme-infinitestar65 4 роки тому

    Love yourself to best love others

  • @sunzenith7028
    @sunzenith7028 6 років тому

    Hello, totally inspirational! Made it more real that you were looking at cards occasionally as well, real life :-)

  • @user-ke2tz3cs7o
    @user-ke2tz3cs7o 4 роки тому

    Buddhism is special!!! Don't believe what I am telling you, but prove it yourself.

  • @8no1likeme-infinitestar65
    @8no1likeme-infinitestar65 4 роки тому

    Fear is fake...its a lie...so ALL IS LOVE❣

  • @KG-uo7jv
    @KG-uo7jv 18 днів тому

    👏👏👏👏👏