Self-Love, be Intentional | Caitlyn Roux | TEDxYouth@CapeTown
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- Опубліковано 7 гру 2017
- Self-Love, be Intentional Self-Love, be intentional This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
We never realise how important it is to love ourselves, until we reach a point when we are about to lose ourselves.
Very true point . Thank you for sharing
Amen
I literally broke and I was wondering what it was.and did it take a while?😅
Well said!!!
Himadri Dutta wow... What a great way to view this.
"I knew I had the strength to move on. I just didn't know how strong I was."
I was right there at that part when I saw this comment
Malaya Canchela sameee haha
Could u enlighten me on what is meant by this phrase? Didnt understand when the speaker mentioned it either
@@dannyng4058 she's saying she knew that she could heal and move on, but she was impressed by how strong she was.
@@malayacanchela876 thats so weird, same happened to me i read this comment exactly as she was saying it, perfectly in sync.
About 5 years ago I started putting self love in to practice. I quit smoking. Got rid of bad relationships. Quit drinking alcohol. Got back in to the dance studio. Started a workout regimen. Changed my diet. Changed my sleep schedule. Started therapy. I “date” myself; take myself to movies, dinner, and other events. Travel with intention (yoga retreat) and try my very very best to keep self talk positive.
It is hard work and sometimes scary but soooo worth it.
The other day the instructor to a workout video I just finished said “thank you for showing up for yourself” I started to cry.
Show up for yourself ❤️
UPDATE: May 1st 2020. A little over a year from writing this comment. I just wanted to share for anyone who needs to hear it.
All of the changes I made helped me come off of antidepressants that I had taken for 21 years for anxiety and depression (of course with the help and guidance of a doctor and therapist) I was also able to come off of medication I was taking for I.B.S as well as birth control pills for terrible periods.
I have have been medication free for one full year 😊
Valerie I needed to read this. ❤️
Zandile Dlamini
Good luck on your journey ❤️
Beautiful story! 😍
Ryan Asrul
Thank you 😊
This is so beautiful Valerie, thank you for sharing xxx
I wish Psychology was mandatory in all highschools. Psychology focused on teaching us healthy ways to be stronger emotional and mental individuals. It would help our youth tremendously...
I completely agree!
They don’t teach coping methods in Intro to Psych. It’s a very general overview
I agree with this statement 100%! I've also had this thought, thanks for sharing!
Maybe you mean therapy? I took AP psych in high school and it was the overview of all the subjects/topics/themes/ studied in psychology.
It’s not really like what you think it is, so maybe like mental health class would be more like it
Freud is fun, after everyone in my class learned about his theories, they started f*king their parents bi-weekly
loveing your self is not about looking in the mirror or taking a selfie thinking how hot you look or delivering your self in a way to act and look as you think others think you should...
Self love is more like self respect in the fact we have been given the gift of life...
Love your self enough to not drink to much or poison your body and mind with toxic things... love your self enough to take care of your body, not for vanity but for the health and vitality of your body...
Taking care of your body and mind because life is a gift and the fact that you are here is a mirrical...
You are a mirrical, so love your self and others around you deeply with nothing but respect.
Marcus @ReshapeTheStars x
Reshape The Stars so beautiful! Thank you!
Thank you.
Reshape The Stars QQW
That was beautiful, thank you for sharing xx
Woooow... Reading this I thought it had over 1K likes... Only to get to the bottom... Thumbs up... I love this message
People need to have self love before jumping in relationships
Exactly
So agree
Agree
I wish things like this were taught in schools.
You need to internalize this, work on self-love and understand the absolute importance of heeding this statement and the detrimental effects of not doing so before you learn this through experience.
Great message: SELF-GROWTH IS INTENTIONAL!
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I love her outfit
She is beautiful! 💕
I was looking for this comment because same.
And I her shoes
I had that dress lol
Where is the dress from?
Self love is a journey that takes years and years to achieve that goal. I suffered from lack of self love and I really hated myself, my body, my look, everything about me even my family and my origins. Lack of self love leads you to mental health issues 😔
Amira N same
Spot on Amira N
Im going through this now. I need to start work on self love before i lose my self even more, and save relationships with my family before its too late 😢
@@Di_Senorita YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!! ALL THE BEST
@@henilnandu3089 Thank you so much
"Know your worth". this totally changed my life 2020 ...
Selam and yes !!
Know your worth, then add tax!
@@pineapp453 Subtract the tax from the worth and you'll get net worth. So net worth + taxes effectively defines your worth, did i get it right?
It is true you don't just wake up and become butterfly, Process is everything : )
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Beautiful!
Exactly
Definitely worth watching.. This year am focusing on myself more.
Monica Odhiambo great job
Same here 👍🏻
Me 2
me3
then im sure your age between 25-30 right ?
All the very best
In high school, I always asked other people for their opinion before I make a decision. I don't want other people hated me. I tried so hard to make other people happy, but I'm not. I feel so stress, anxiety and crying alone. No one knows. I let people insulted me, as long as them happy. I said to myself, "It's okay, as long them happy, I will be happy". Unfortunately, I'm not. After I finish my high school, I learn to love myself and put it as my first priority. Now I appreciate myself and I don't care about other peoples opinion. Why? Because I want to be happy, I want to be my own self.
when you work on yourself & trust yourself that helps others the most! being able to make a decision fast is a very powerful skill to have in life trust yourself always ! awesome job being aware of that & improving that ! :) you got this
I can relate to this
I relate to your comment, Especially the last part " I want to be my own self ", it's been hard throughout the years because i did the same always asked other people before i did something and now i know that i have to do it for me.
“There’s only one part of the Universe we can all be certain about improving, and that’s ourselves.” -Caitlyn Roux
such beautiful soft energy
Lily111 Many if these TED talks tend to be preachy and self-righteous and it completely takes away from the message. But with her you can tell her strength is genuine and she truly believes in what she says.
True
She’s very feminine ❤️
That was like a beautiful poem. I've reached a place where my moods change with the wind and I want stability, the ability to depend on myself. I am ready to be intentional. Wishing strength to everyone here.
"know that space between where you are currently and where you want to be is growth"
Lady, you have no idea how much your speech has influenced my life for good. I have been listening to it regularly for the past few months.
You just helped me to connect to my deeper self that I never thought existed. May God bless your beautiful soul. 💖💖
so empowering you putting that work it ! keep at it
There was a saying I’ve heard and has always stuck, “How do you expect someone else to know how to love you when you don’t even know how to love yourself”
Straight from the heart.
Beautiful message! Love seeing my fellow girls glow with such compassion.
I genuinely connected so much with what she was saying. It's amazing how everyone goes through their own journey of self-discovery and how relatable some of them can be. I was also fueled by my break-up to work on myself and to start understanding myself better. It has helped me love myself so much more and gain insight on the person I truly want to be. Thank you so much for this spectacular talk, I really enjoyed it.
Thank you for the message! I appreciate it a lot :) Glad you came across my talk
Thank you for your beautiful message xx
Caitlyn Roux It's a pleasure :), is there any chance I could contact you through Instagram to learn more about your journey?
Sure :)
DemlitionGuy me too.
I'm going to watch this video each morning to be mindful of the 'intentional ownership' of shaping my life. Thanks!
Thank you :)
Oh my gosh! I actually do watch this almost daily. It continues to be powerful and meaningful to me
It's amazing how often we need to be reminded of this. xxx
This is amazing! Honestly, I don't know how famous you were, but the every words what you said are just beautiful and so much inspiration. This speech was exactly what I wanted to realized that what I was missing for my life. Thank you so much for your speech ❤️
Very calm and peaceful yet POWERFUL! Thank you for this.
People's are afraid of being alone... bt I'm living my life alone for past 3 years like nobody is here with me. Yes it does scare me a lot that how am I living bt sometimes all I need is little bit of solitude to know my self purely.
:(
Loneliness epidemic is scary ! But when you are lonely it is better to do self assessment and start understanding yourself !
It's such a beautiful feeling when you realize how close you are becoming to yourself😍😍😍💚🙌
I love how honest this talk is, very down to earth which makes it so relatable
Last year, October to December, I was in a relationship where I started to lose myself and my problems ran deeper than my spouse, yea we had our issues but the relationship interrupted my healing process and I was not where I wanted to be so I had to let him go even though I really loved him. I had to start my self growth journey for me because I wanted to be somewhere mentally and physically. Now, in February 2022, I am finally healing from my break up and childhood trauma. I took on journaling, manifestations, working out, self love & business seminars, affirmations, college applications and I feel myself growing as a person and as a women. I continue to remind myself sometimes we all have to lose before we win and I have gotten closer to God and he has blessed me in ways, that I am forever grateful for. Some days I miss my ex but I remind myself that I am doing this for me and I am at peace and happy with the life I am living now. All I can say is stay positive, motivated and pray❤️. Thank you for letting me know I’m on the right path.
How can you expect to give love if you can't give love to yourself?
I love this talk 👏🙌
Been working on my self for the last 3 years and its been hard. Feel like alot of times im taking steps backwards. But once you start the journey of growth/self love you just never turn back because you know you worked so hard to get where you are. Now I'm feeling stuck but this speech just inspired me to keep moving forward. This was just what I needed to see. Everything you said, you said it so beautifully. Its like you took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you for sharing.
I’m astonished by how much I could relate and HOW much I needed to hear this. This helped me see that I will make it through the breakup and growth process I’m experiencing and gave me the reassurance I needed on this journey of self-love
- Becoming the person you want to be and not the person you were told to be.
- You have to learn self-love before you can pour value and love to others.
- How do you make it stick? You push.
- Am I adding value to me?
Great talk! The Universe gives us signs, I'll take this as one. Thank you.
Thank you Merissa :) x
Me too 🙌🏾 when the student is ready, the teacher will appear 😅
That’s right no one is in control of our happiness but ourselves. Once I stopped getting mad at my parents and other people who hurt me and stopped putting my energy there, amazing things happened. I realized that I can choose what to think about, and thinking about being mad made me feel worse. So now I live in happiness, not thinking about other people.
Yes yes yes! Love heals all. Love yourself enough always to want what’s best for YOU and become the best version of yourself. It’s possible it’s waiting for us💗
I relate to everything that she said, I used to ask myself why wasn't I happy and I realized that I was searching it in the wrong places. Self love comes first always. Its been within me all this years! Thank you so much for the powerful speech ❤
I couldn’t watch this just once! Great message we could all live by. ❤️
Such an inspiring speech:) It all makes sense. Thank you Caitlyn Roux for sharing!! I love seeing people overcome challenges
Couldn’t agree more, had similar experience in life and self love is amazing, helping others is amazing. And I feel like I have energy to do it all now
Thank you so much for your inspiration. I watched this video when I was in a bad state of my life when I broke up with my boyfriend the one effected me the most. The one I thought he was the one I would follow him to everywhere in the world. I didn't know what to do how to start over my life without him. And I realized it was just because I didn't know who I am, what do I want do in my life. This video actually help me a lot, it is a hit to my face and tell me wake up, it was not the end of the world, and I'm capable to bring happiness for my self.❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is powerfull. "I want to be the person I want to be, not the one I was told to be."
Shes so calm and confident..loved the talk
Me too
This message is so valuable. I can relate to it, self love is what helped me pick myself up after breakup with gf. It is what helped me to get back on my studies. Everyday in my dairy, after all the writing i fell and tell myself, I love you and all the best. Beleive me, it is immensly powerful. Im in peace, in both hard days and good ones, i dont beat myself when i make mistakes, because i accept myself and work to grow everyday. My life is changing little by little. Love you all. Thank you
To come to a place with yourself to accept who you are within is so beautiful to me. Losing myself was the biggest struggle I ever had to deal with . And then to try and express yourself to hopefully seek help but instead be told how I’m using this because “ I wasn’t getting what I want in the moment and that there is nothing wrong with you.” Imagine not feeling safe in your own company . A world full of people and still feeling alone. Learning to love yourself before loving other brought so much life to my world . And I am happy to say that I am somewhere that I dreamt about for years .
I love the way she talks and the lil shoulder movements.. Its adorable! Also self love is a complete process, take it easy. Love yourself!
celebrate the little wins ! all about setting goals each day & appreciating what good things you did in the day!
That was a really amazing speech. Self Love is a mission and discipline. It‘s work. It‘s responsibility. And it‘s absolutely worth it.
That Lady spoke her heart out and it was as if she was talking about me. It felt so personal and yet so professional at the same time. I am goibg to start my self love journey today. The people who are watching this , Best of luck to you guys too.
Those words recall me how i was before and how I became now after putting myself into the centre of my life and after starting to focus on self development, I really made an incredible change and I'm proud ..
Experiences teach us how important is self love
This hit me so deeply. Thank you so much for this. I haven't been treating myself well, and this talk showed me I need to change it so I can help others. I put everyone before myself, but I need to give myself love too. Thank you so much.
Pleasure Sophie, I hope you are shinning xx
This video is so powerful that I came back and rewatched it every time I got my heart broken, still helps! xx
Thank you!
Worth listening to you. Thank you 😊
I am listening to her talk again after two years and I realized that practicing self-love makes me become a wiser and better person. Thank you :)
i knew i had the strength to pick myself up but i didn’t know how strong i was.
i believe that happiness is something you create for yourself by your own.
personal growth has to be intentional. it doesn’t happen by accident.
the more you focus energy on getting to know yourself, staying alone, the more you realize how happy and stable you become. you become the person you want to be rather than the person you are told to be.
without self love you take away from the ability you have to pour into others’ life from kindness to love to helpfulness…
the relationship i have with myself is the most important relationship.
am i giving value to myself? know your worth so the universe knows too.
This is so me! Self love has brought in so much growth in me and now it is my calling to help others who struggle with this!
same girl!!
UA-cam knows I just broke up. Dang
Le Tran Minh Thu Awwwww...I hope your doing well ❤️❤️
So did I on december, not on bad terms but definitely incompatible, been analyzing myself deeply and I've come to the conclussion that I don't love myself the way I should
Kesini
Ugh me too
true
Beautiful, deep, and reflexive journey thru this speech. So much truth, honesty, empathy, and respect for what life means. And it starts in ourselves. Such a mythical connection that we can create with our souls and feel it with others too. I call it "the awakening". Magical
I started not loving my self when I got into middle school, and it gotten worse since then, mostly cause I don't have very good social skills, and quarantine made it worse. So I'm trying to love myself, workout, doing everything I can to feel confident. So thank you.
This just goes to prove how even somebody as beautiful as this can still struggle with loving themselves. It is so easy not to see how special we are. 💕 xxx
It is important to love yourself because you are going to live with yourself for the rest of your life ! If you don’t treat yourself well and love yourself , then how can you love others ?
Love this ted talk so much
Loved this one! Deep talk in normal words happily showering it through peoples mind about life and how beautifully can we live it and this i can relate completely
This is so important 🙌🏽 people should focus more on this message than we do social media.
Thank you so much for this video. By learning to love yourself without the approval of others you can truly learn to have a sense of self, respect, and love. By keeping this mantra in mind everyone can truly live full out
So this quarantine this year i was focusing more loving myself❤
Me too
@@missrelaxed3872 keep it up😊
beautiful time to look within & appreciate self
This TedTalk is Gold - amazing advice !! ❤️❤️ Thank you Caitlyn Roux! 💯👌🌺
This is a very good TedTalk! My substance abuse peer support counselor recommended I watch the,, and my God she was right.. very motivating!! But this particular one, so far my favorite! I am going to try it.. loving myself! Thank you so much Caitlyn Roux!
Thank you for this talk, I can relate so much on this, that’s crazy. You glow, thanks again, I needed this
I've learned in THiS past year!
I TRULY LOVE MYSELF FIRST 👍 WHAT OTHER'S think ABOUT ME DOES NOT MATTER 🙏 I WILL CONTINUE TO BE ME!!! NOT PERFECT but IMPERFECT in MY OWN WAY!!
I am HAPPY in MY SKIN!!!
I CAN Look in the Mirror and SMILE 😊
YOU MATTER 🙏🙏🙏
YOU ARE AWESOME🙏🙏🙏
GOD BLESS 🙏
YOUR MESSAGE
Thanks for sharing!
Well said Himandri. I’m on my way to doing the work that I have to do to live myself. How can I love any one else the way God intended if I don’t live myself enough do do what I have to in order to heal physically, emotionally and spiritually most of all. I’m so grateful for these Tedxtalks
This is the best talk i have watched in a while! I needed this more than anything! Thank you! ❤️
"Don't just place a small amount of value on yourself, because rest assured the world will not raise your price. Know your worth."
the respect we have for ourselves set the standard for others respecting us ! lead by example
After just listening her first sentence I liked the video ,her voice is beautiful
I SO LOVE TED TALKS I ONLY KNEW ABOUT IT BECAUSE OUR MATH PROF IN FEU ALWAYS SHOWS US TEDTALKS
i relate to her so much
you can feel the energy that radiates from her comes from genuine, down to earth self-love :) and this is my goal
Such beautiful words, thank you
so powerful
Sis! I needed this
I am aware of my emotions. I'm thoughtful and polite. I use my senses to the best of their capability. I'm good and I do good for others. People love me for my attitude. I'm a clean and calm soul. Anger, frustration, and disgust are no longer part of my behavior. I accept people as they are and I love myself before anyone else.🎈
Personal responsibility- putting yourself first! We are a soul on a personal growth journey..this helped me..
This is handsdown the BEST TED Talk I've ever seen!! ❤ I could relate to EVERYTHING she said and I feel the same about self-care. You can't pour from an empty cup! Beautiful human, thank you for this amazing video! ✨
Thank you for your beautiful words!
“Can’t pour from an empty cup.” I’m stealing that. ☺️
@@caitlynroux4741 hi
You cant pour from an empty cup ..... what an amazing statement 👌
Lisa Nichols says, "You can't pour from a full cup either. You only get to pour from your saucer, from your overflow."
These words have stuck with me ever since.
I can't put into words how this talk inspires me
amazing!
Its 2020.... Qurantine... This girl oh my god.. Just listed my life and enlightened me how to life rest of my life... Soo grateful.. 😍 Thank u
Beautiful ! Much love and appreciation to you for dropping this knowledge.
Caitlyn, you're such an amazing inspiration for what it means to be peaceful and actually happy with ourselves. To get to know which potential we have in us and how great the feeling can be to discover this. Thank you!
understanding ourselves & appreciating ourselves is so important ! im all about that !
@@daniellenormand7200 amen 🙏
guys, happiness comes from within !
Definitely!
This really resonated with me sm, amazing message, Caitlyn. Love.
Loving oneself. Love yourself. Love yourself is the best way one could do.
This speech is exactly what I need at this moment as someone who has just experienced something huge in self-discovery. Love your self first before love others.
(BGM should be Love Yourself by J. Bieber)
This instantly. Raised my self esteem 😊
You can feel it 🤍🤍🤍
Self-love for me is basically all about how much you LIKE YOURSELF.
I have been using the affirmation "I like myself" the past 2 weeks and my interactions with other folks have been awesome so far.
They were saying that I am witty and funny.
I learned that affirmation from Brian Tracy's videos.
Pretty cool affirmation 😍😍😍
This TED presentation actually impress me . I completely agree with your ideas, your sharing. Thank you so much
Good work, UA-cam. Finally a recommended video that actually is pertinent to me and my growth as a person
all about the personal growth
If we could understand why someone as beautiful as yourself had such a lack of self love, then perhaps we could help a lot of other people that don't have half of what you poses. Congratulations, you exude confidence and you actually look the part of what you've described yourself wanting to be, a model, in more ways than one. As a role model you now have a tremendous responsibility to act accordingly; therefore the best thing you can do, is to expand the the love of self or self love to all sentient beings that share our planet with us. Help save the planet, share the love ❤️
Thank you for your kind words Maurice x
Yes, it is the perception of most people. They are just not aware of what self-love really is.
Thank you so much for your great comment
This was.. a life changing rant about this kind of subject that I deal with. It's something that I am having trouble finding, and listening to this video really inspired me to find my self love. I actually talked to my mom about my self worth, and my insecurities, because I saw pictures of myself that my friend gave me of me and her. I hated, and still do hate the way I look. But, tomorrow is where I start, I'm sick and tired of being sad and feeling these emotions in which I don't want to feel anymore. I'm only thirteen, but I'm so tired of my negative thoughts, and it's not going to change if I don't do anything. I need, and a lot of other people needed this video for inspiration. Again, thank you.
*Personal Growth is Intentional.*
sienna m My heart goes out to you. Only 13 and dealing with self deprecation. I hope you have made some progress since you posted this! 🙏💙
this is the best talk on self-love, the one that touched my heart.
truly powerful so many important things in self love
so many thoughts I feel are my own I am really crying
Last week I ran my first 5k without stopping and all the time I could hear the voice in my head saying that I can do it. Forwago, thank you so much for everything!!
terrified of being alone and not knowing who you are bc u are obssesed with the way other people see you is so relatable
Wonderful talk.
Powerful! Such an intelligent woman. I also had to teach myself self love not so long ago..its an empowering journey
a never ending journey but the most beautiful one
I swear self love is so essential. I wish this was talked about even more openly. I just did a video on self love and I’m truly hoping everyone can start working on loving themselves
What's it called? Would love to see it :)
- dont try to please everyone
- you are you, your happiness (not depend on someone to make u worthy)
- dont live for some weird standards
=> be intentional of personal growth process
=> love yourself first and inspire to others’ lives, add value
--> where u are currently VS where u want to be
You are so well spoken Caitlyn.
Thank you Hannah, appreciate it :)