Thanks for watching this video. Please remember, that even if you see any of these thing your situation, it's just a reflection of where your ex is at emotionally, and emotions can definitely change. I hope you have a greta day :)
Did I mess up if I deleted him off of my social media? I felt like I couldn't handle seeing him be so happy without me and I was visiting his page too much... I noticed as soon as I deleted him he started checking my snapchat more... but as far as I knew he didnt want to "even think about getting back together"...
1. Your ex holds a lot of resentment to you 2. They are in relationship with someone else and things going well 3. Your ex is blaming you for the breakup 4. They're not open to talk with you 5. They shut down communication channel with you
Everything you are describing is all worked though with one ingredient: time. Notice everything you've described is related to one of your own terms: "emotional reactance"....give it time. go no contact. work on yourself. and don't expect overnight results. I can almost promise that IN TIME they'll reach out in some form or fashion...this is not the end of the world.
@Gregory wilks has rhis worked for you before ? We broke up yesterday and he was furious over a lie and he thought I was cheating (which was completely untrue) ... I'm going no contact ... he has a certain behaviour pattern of breaking up every couple months then coming back and I'm over it
1. They hold a lot of resentment towards you. 2. They are in a new relationship and it is going well. 3. If they blame you for break up. 4. They refuse to talk to you / they are not in communication with you 5. They have fully blocked you/ unfollowed / unfriended 4 out of 5 - probably time to move on... :/
And you shouldn’t care if they died either move on and make the best out of yourself not to show her but to prove to yourself you are worth it, always self improve something better is out there
My Ex is talking with me every single day if I want. Sometimes he calls me, but mostly he’s just attached to me a little bit. The more I talk with him, the closer he gets to me again. But he still wants to be friends.. but everyday we getting closer and closer. I can feel it.
Well, blocked my ex everywhere as he has not the slightest gram of insight or self-reflection on that he continuasly destroyed it, even tough I told him. Any contact ended that he tried to blame me, completely blind for the way too much direspectfull settings he performed towards me. Blocking someone who has been so important is bitter, same as to breakup as there was no insights. I ll keep him blocked, as the consequence of being persistent to any kind of advice. and this is in marble, not just stone!
it really depends. There are relationships that are unhealthy that's why some couple decided not to get back together. but there are also relationships where where couples developed that sense of trust and confidence back, which makes getting back together possible.
@@ClayAndrews We had such toxic relationship, the very inappropriate flirting, the lying the actual cheating the betrayal finally I couldn't stand it anymore and officially ended it. The person I met and fell with love after three months disappeared . I endured another year and half cleaning the few good times. Just asking to call me by my name instead of "hey" was a fight. My ex is now in a rebound marriage. I wished her a heart felt congratulations, an honest apology for my bad actions and that I am very thankful for the good times. That's it.
Hi Clay ,he,s blocked me of all connection ,it hurts but this seems to happen as a Patton because he un blocks me ,then blocks me again ,everytime he does this its life a knife in my guts , I Express my feelings and frustrations which are just but then he reaction is to shut me out ,block me again ,if we bump into each other by accident I try to make contact and say hi ,but he is cold and dismissive :(
@@RoachDawggJR Yes it does. That person who dumped could have inflicted most of the negative issues in the relationship while the other was trying to make it work out.
My ex was the one who has left before and when I wanted to work this out he didn’t want it then later came back and with my anxiety I said no, three years later and he’s still upset at ME and thinks it’s my fault
Me and my ex were together for an year and a half and the releationship was great. In the end, we started having arguments and due to insecurities she broke up with me. One year later and she contacted me and we've been friends since. Looks like i'm in the friendzone, what do I do ?
simply change your response with her, she's like a cat, she does check on you so start doing some of your favorites stuff with out her, put more time into yourself, she's just using you for a backbone, the faster you show your walking away, the sooner they see your moving, they try to keep that same distance, keep improving your own life and if you choose to let them in your's.
@@donkey5ever435 I'm sure by now you have found an answer, but in case you're still wondering: I would say if you're really interested in him, you have to tell him "I would love to meet up and see where things go, but I'm not interested in just friendship." You basically need to take the direct approach. Another caveat to this is your ex may not have the best communication skills, he may be trying to "be friends" with you so he can get closer to you. I am not trying to confuse you, but it is something to consider. SO TO REHASH: Tell your ex that you are not interested in solely friendship, but you are willing to meet up and see where things go (drinks, coffee, etc.)
I did the unfriending and unfollowing of her on the day she said what she did. She only blocked me in IG two weeks later. Almost two months later she unblocked me. Not sure how long I was unblocked.
my ex and I had a mutual breakup and a great coparenting relationship. he also knew that I wasn't fully healed or over the break up but we were friends. then he found someone soon after and would literally rub it in my face but pretending that he was telling me those things as a friend. I played along and hid the pain it caused me because I didn't want to seem jealous but I was. it broke me. but then I realize that he really didn't love me and I cut it off. now he thinks that I'm bitter and angry but I don't care because I'm nobody's fool. (well not anymore at least)
Only #1. After doing 60 day no contact I texted him on day 63. He contacted me back Sept 5 2021. I wanted to know if he was dating or seeing anyone he says he's not dating, no casual hooking up and he doesn't want a relationship. Can that change. We were together 4 years and he gave me an engagement ring on Dec 26 2020
Change is something that is constant in life. It may or may not change but it all depends on the actions that you will take and refuse to do to make a difference in the situation. :-)
So what if your ex girlfriend is in stage 2, and we were broken up 6 months prior to them getting into a new relationship, and they're telling me that right now they can't trust me with their heart in a relationship and don't want to sabotage what they have so far. What do I do at this time?
Hey drama2u, going through a mental health concerns can be confusing for a person. Other's would feel the need to detach from people. Though the reasons of a depressed person in breaking up may vary, but in general, it may come from a place of confusion.
@@ClayAndrews my ex boyfriend of 2 months decided to move away to live with his mom in another state without even discussing it with me. We broke up from a silent break up strategy. He just decided everything on his own.
If they don’t want you back, why do they text about once or twice a month? My ex texted me that she was in my town for vacation. I replied back. She never replied after that. Why even text me to tell me she’s in town? 🤯
Yeah my ex has been with her new man for over 2 years yet she still messages me once or twice a month. I don't know why she does that. It makes it hard to get over her but I'm making good progress I'm about done.
Travis Eversole it's a test, their dealing with emotions and wanted some feedback from you to just get a response, for you stay strong you have to be a playground , woman are like the cat's, she's testing you. you need to understand the key is yourself, work to change your mind and have fun in lifestyle changes, if you try or start to chase they run, if you sidestep they come around... if you want there affection you must show new changes in your life, one look for fun stuff to do, if she's interested she's reach out. make your own plans and that way she may join in. do not talk about any of the pass ! do not give your neediness to her, if she does something you like then reward her, if it's something you don't like ignore it. they will pick up on this with out knowing what your doing and why. Be a mystery it turns them on! it feels great to be the king so change how you get stuff. request for things, asking is not weak ! Noone likes to be told what to do, this is why you request, then surport it if done. so if your cat has ran, let it... instead of chasing, to control it your Time is what's valued! this has been requested to fill your heart with your own value with love start enjoying your new life, the old is gone, the new is now.
Hey Coach! So way before she broke up with me she asked me for a break and 3 weeks later she broke up with me (btw I begged and plead for a week during the break) she texted me a small paragraph breaking up with me obviously and my response was "I agree with you on this. I respect your decision, take care and keep working hard" My question is, did I handle the break up right? I wanted to say say something like I disagree with you on this and wish we could continue this, wish you the best etc...but it's too late now Haha. Let me know what you guys think :)
Thanks man I just had to ask someone about it. I really love this girl and I wanna work things out, we had a 3.5 year relationship. We had some issues but we really loved each other :') but dont worry I'm doing quite well...I know what I did and I'm willing to work things out. Thanks man!
Hey my ex dumped me I had a similar experience. He tried to take a break a few weeks ago I said no. Then last week we broke up ... have been in nc for 7 days
@@samarztk much respect. Ensure that you can keep up with the no contact rule. I bet you that if he is used to you pleading, he will be shocked at your silence.
Omnitrix8 💯!!!! I would beg him to call me and text me back ASAP I was so needy. It was a LDR so it’s his fault for not trying enough imo. Anyways I’m sure he’s shocked.
How can i see signs when we never saw each other since the break up? I mean he reached out twice though, but since then it's been 2 months without a word.
2 months isn't long at all, he'll contact you again don't worry. Me and my ex have been on and off for the last 8 years and he always comes back eventually cos friends or lovers, we're better together than apart. I mean how many times do you break up with someone and never hear from them again? Don't worry just chill, stop counting the days and he'll be back when he's ready.
He doesn't even want to talk about us to his friend and he deleted 2 pics of me... just of me.. he left 2 with my name, one with us and a video of us kissing.... it's been a week..
@@karleyb9954 Oh, yeah, in march I was off his feed-posts and also deleted his tag in my pics so I archived them and in november (or december, I don't remember) he deleted the stories with only my name too. I don't feel bad about this anymore, I got into another relationship in April of 2021 (break-up was in February) and I've been with this person for 10 months now and it's been mega-amazing and for almost half of the relationship I would get these weird feelings like.. "OMG, how are you WANTING to make time for me?? So...that's NORMAL????🤔😶" And then I finally understood what healthy and 'making an effort' meant, so, yeah, I'm good. He moved abroad to his mom and stepdad's city and he's been there ever since June. I understood in the end that I could've never fully compete with his mom and grandma because his heart & mind were already occupied and controlled by them... In the end, I only pity him, cuz he's never had a mind of his own, bless his heart... In his eyes, I was the bad and toxic bitch that his "women" hated and, internally, he had to make a choice; and he did. I'm not mad anymore. His only aspirations were gaining money (which would get "stolen" by his mom) and owning "bad-ass" cars that consume more money than a monthly paycheck. But it's his choice to struggle, I warned him back when.. I can't do more and frankly, I don't wanna. He's made his bed, he'll lay in it. I feel sorry for him for the fact that he'll never be fully independent, because of his mom and no woman will endure what I did so she can be with an uneducated, unmannered, lazy-ass mommy-puppet, in my opinion.🤷🏼♀️ I was treated like a friend with benefits under the title of a relationship ( = don't call me when I'm out/don't ask me to come see you when I don't want to/don't you dare assume that if I'm buying myself something to eat or drink, that I'll do that for you too etc.) but he would always act nice and sweet and would buy me stuff when at the end there would be s*x. And at some point, I picked that up and I let him one time to "pamper" me and then I'd say..."omg, I am so full from this chicken (or whatever), I'mma lie down for a bit". And then I'd sleep, intentionally, for 3h and then I'd say that it's late and should go home. He would be SOOO pissed and at some point that fired me up with "control" bc he'd start picking little fights and ask me for the money for the take-out or whatever and I'd tell him I don't have money on me cuz I didn't know we'd get take-out and he'd tell me he'd wait outside for me to grab it and I'd tell him "no. Goodnight, baby. U should do yourself a 'handy', u look tense ;-)" and then I'd leave. In my opinion, he deserved it. My body isn't your bank-deposit anymore, u can't "invest" and "put money" in it and expect it somehow back WITH interest... yup.. pretty much the rollercoaster of the relationship.
@@biancavulc5131 omg my ex is co dependent on his mom and his sister.... And I feel they have alot to do with our breakup ... it's now been months and he has yet to delete our pics or videos .... I asked him to at this point as we haven't seen each other since end of Oct.... it's now February... like wow.... and I asked him for some real commitment and that's when shit got hard between us and he would pick arguments ... anyways needless to say ... at this point I'm moving on he talks over messenger off and on when he feels it suits him but I'm not waiting any longer.... for his Crumbs
Hi Ben, asking her back should be done in the right moment and time. Be sure to check her emotional capability and readiness in having that kind of conversation.
I realized, after watching dozens of Clay's videos, that 99% of them are about getting your ex back. He went through that experience, so imo, he's biased. I don't think every video should be about "getting the ex back"...
So much of this advice is contradictory and they are constantly saying “this doesnt mean it will happen this way”, One said “no contact” “but show them you're having a good time, maybe go on vacation and send them a postcard”. Huh? How is that no contact?
@@lisat5666 6 months after breakup, I learned how to love myself better and it's right I was working so hard to get him back even I had known he's not good enough... i found that getting someone back is not a good choice😇 and if no contact does work in every situation, then there would not be so many people crying for their breakups every day
@@lisat5666 I can understand your thought... and I know this is what you want in this moment. maybe you can share your story with me, we can figure it out together!
Well I'm not really interested in getting my ex back as a girlfriend but just as a friend. First we had our breakup and we were still friends and then I said something she understood differently than I ment it and now she doesn't want anything to do with me although I cleared the misunderstanding and I really don't know what to do.
I'm sorry to hear about the misunderstanding. Do give her some time to process what happened as she may have been also struggling emotionally on what had happened.
Thanks for watching this video. Please remember, that even if you see any of these thing your situation, it's just a reflection of where your ex is at emotionally, and emotions can definitely change. I hope you have a greta day :)
Did I mess up if I deleted him off of my social media? I felt like I couldn't handle seeing him be so happy without me and I was visiting his page too much... I noticed as soon as I deleted him he started checking my snapchat more... but as far as I knew he didnt want to "even think about getting back together"...
@@Candy-dn1kl yeah, same thing happened to me too
@@Candy-dn1kl you did great though, that was a brilliant decision you took
@@Ladysepy99 i still want to be with him though thats the thing... :( good job to you too though
@@Candy-dn1kl thanks, wish you all the best in getting him back, just have faith and be patient
1. Your ex holds a lot of resentment to you
2. They are in relationship with someone else and things going well
3. Your ex is blaming you for the breakup
4. They're not open to talk with you
5. They shut down communication channel with you
Everything you are describing is all worked though with one ingredient: time. Notice everything you've described is related to one of your own terms: "emotional reactance"....give it time. go no contact. work on yourself. and don't expect overnight results. I can almost promise that IN TIME they'll reach out in some form or fashion...this is not the end of the world.
Wow that's nice 😍
K Das 😍
Hello
@Gregory wilks has rhis worked for you before ? We broke up yesterday and he was furious over a lie and he thought I was cheating (which was completely untrue) ... I'm going no contact ... he has a certain behaviour pattern of breaking up every couple months then coming back and I'm over it
I've never felt this anxious in my entire life ... I feel constant panic ... I need some advice please
When 4 and 5 happens trust me..they are done..move on..heal and press forward
If you make the necessary changes and really love your ex then don’t give up. Time is key and patients
1. They hold a lot of resentment towards you.
2. They are in a new relationship and it is going well.
3. If they blame you for break up.
4. They refuse to talk to you / they are not in communication with you
5. They have fully blocked you/ unfollowed / unfriended
4 out of 5 - probably time to move on... :/
@@BeaxyCodm I have no insingh into your situation. No idea, even if you are male or female . So \_o_/
@@Andrii87 a girl
Same and done nothing but tried to fix things 🥺
3 out of 5 for me. Soon to be 4 out of 5.
But I'm not giving up.
@@MistSGM 🙂be cerful bc my bf cheated on me and i found out
You're never wanted back when they wanna stay as friends after that
My ex literally don’t have an interest in me anymore, she has been with her rebound for a year. She don’t care if I died lol
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And you shouldn’t care if they died either move on and make the best out of yourself not to show her but to prove to yourself you are worth it, always self improve something better is out there
Same
I wouldn’t want me back either. Ha😐
My Ex is talking with me every single day if I want. Sometimes he calls me, but mostly he’s just attached to me a little bit. The more I talk with him, the closer he gets to me again. But he still wants to be friends.. but everyday we getting closer and closer. I can feel it.
Continue whatever you are doing. The goal is to get yourselves closer, emotionally.
Hey, do you have any update? You can try arranging meeting up face to face?
This is a sad video
Well, blocked my ex everywhere as he has not the slightest gram of insight or self-reflection on that he continuasly destroyed it, even tough I told him.
Any contact ended that he tried to blame me, completely blind for the way too much direspectfull settings he performed towards me. Blocking someone who has been so important is bitter, same as to breakup as there was no insights. I ll keep him blocked, as the consequence of being persistent to any kind of advice. and this is in marble, not just stone!
99.9% chance you won’t get back together. Even if they contact you it doesn’t mean they want you, they just want to let you know they still exist
Not true, but I would have move on by the time they contact me.
it really depends. There are relationships that are unhealthy that's why some couple decided not to get back together. but there are also relationships where where couples developed that sense of trust and confidence back, which makes getting back together possible.
@@ClayAndrews We had such toxic relationship, the very inappropriate flirting, the lying the actual cheating the betrayal finally I couldn't stand it anymore and officially ended it. The person I met and fell with love after three months disappeared . I endured another year and half cleaning the few good times. Just asking to call me by my name instead of "hey" was a fight. My ex is now in a rebound marriage. I wished her a heart felt congratulations, an honest apology for my bad actions and that I am very thankful for the good times. That's it.
hey clay, I feel like I’m in the friend zone, it seems like we flirt sometimes but I don’t know how to take the next step
How to help them release that negativity>
Hi Clay ,he,s blocked me of all connection ,it hurts but this seems to happen as a Patton because he un blocks me ,then blocks me again ,everytime he does this its life a knife in my guts , I Express my feelings and frustrations which are just but then he reaction is to shut me out ,block me again ,if we bump into each other by accident I try to make contact and say hi ,but he is cold and dismissive :(
No resentment...
What if they resent you for things they did to damage the relationship?
that doesn’t make any sense at all
@@RoachDawggJR Yes it does. That person who dumped could have inflicted most of the negative issues in the relationship while the other was trying to make it work out.
My ex was the one who has left before and when I wanted to work this out he didn’t want it then later came back and with my anxiety I said no, three years later and he’s still upset at ME and thinks it’s my fault
It’s me , sounds like me don’t want her.........
Its 100 days since the breakup and I didnt beg and I didnt even try to keep him... but no contact will work ? Im losing ma hope...
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Me and my ex were together for an year and a half and the releationship was great. In the end, we started having arguments and due to insecurities she broke up with me. One year later and she contacted me and we've been friends since. Looks like i'm in the friendzone, what do I do ?
simply change your response with her, she's like a cat,
she does check on you so start doing some of your favorites stuff with out her, put more time into yourself,
she's just using you for a backbone, the faster you show your walking away, the sooner they see your moving, they try to keep that same distance, keep improving your own life and if you choose to let them in your's.
WHY WOULD YOU WANT YOUR EX BACK?
Because I love her, because she never did anything wrong, because I know no other woman on earth will be better than her
I guess
What if your ex contacts you as friends, but you still want to be together?
Sounds like what you want may not be what he wants at this time.
@@ClayAndrews I know, what should I do?
@@donkey5ever435 I'm sure by now you have found an answer, but in case you're still wondering: I would say if you're really interested in him, you have to tell him "I would love to meet up and see where things go, but I'm not interested in just friendship." You basically need to take the direct approach. Another caveat to this is your ex may not have the best communication skills, he may be trying to "be friends" with you so he can get closer to you. I am not trying to confuse you, but it is something to consider. SO TO REHASH: Tell your ex that you are not interested in solely friendship, but you are willing to meet up and see where things go (drinks, coffee, etc.)
I did the unfriending and unfollowing of her on the day she said what she did.
She only blocked me in IG two weeks later.
Almost two months later she unblocked me. Not sure how long I was unblocked.
He doesn't want me back... i can tell
There's a lot of people in the world. Why exs come back? Its kinda strange
my ex and I had a mutual breakup and a great coparenting relationship. he also knew that I wasn't fully healed or over the break up but we were friends. then he found someone soon after and would literally rub it in my face but pretending that he was telling me those things as a friend. I played along and hid the pain it caused me because I didn't want to seem jealous but I was. it broke me. but then I realize that he really didn't love me and I cut it off. now he thinks that I'm bitter and angry but I don't care because I'm nobody's fool. (well not anymore at least)
That's remind me my ex. Why women think that peoples should string around until Jésus Christ return ?
My ex forced me to block him ☺
My ex never blocked me on social media 👀
That's totally fine too. :-) I hope you'll be able to work your connection back in the future.
Only #1. After doing 60 day no contact I texted him on day 63. He contacted me back Sept 5 2021. I wanted to know if he was dating or seeing anyone he says he's not dating, no casual hooking up and he doesn't want a relationship. Can that change. We were together 4 years and he gave me an engagement ring on Dec 26 2020
Change is something that is constant in life. It may or may not change but it all depends on the actions that you will take and refuse to do to make a difference in the situation. :-)
So what if your ex girlfriend is in stage 2, and we were broken up 6 months prior to them getting into a new relationship, and they're telling me that right now they can't trust me with their heart in a relationship and don't want to sabotage what they have so far. What do I do at this time?
My ex broke up with me, blocked me on everything and somehow refuse to talk to me what can I do?
Can you do a video on why a depressed man breaks up with his girlfriend?
Hey drama2u, going through a mental health concerns can be confusing for a person. Other's would feel the need to detach from people. Though the reasons of a depressed person in breaking up may vary, but in general, it may come from a place of confusion.
@@ClayAndrews I appreciate your reply.
@@ClayAndrews my ex boyfriend of 2 months decided to move away to live with his mom in another state without even discussing it with me. We broke up from a silent break up strategy. He just decided everything on his own.
@@ClayAndrews I will never detach
If they don’t want you back, why do they text about once or twice a month? My ex texted me that she was in my town for vacation. I replied back. She never replied after that. Why even text me to tell me she’s in town? 🤯
Yeah my ex has been with her new man for over 2 years yet she still messages me once or twice a month. I don't know why she does that. It makes it hard to get over her but I'm making good progress I'm about done.
@@davecooper360 For quick manifestation con-tat Dr Omon
Travis Eversole
it's a test,
their dealing with emotions and wanted some feedback from you to just get a response, for you stay strong you have to be a playground , woman are like the cat's, she's testing you.
you need to understand the key is yourself, work to change your mind and have fun in lifestyle changes, if you try or start to chase they run,
if you sidestep they come around... if you want there affection you must show new changes in your life, one look for fun stuff to do, if she's interested she's reach out.
make your own plans and that way she may join in.
do not talk about any of the pass ! do not give your neediness to her, if she does something you like then reward her, if it's something you don't like ignore it.
they will pick up on this with out knowing what your doing and why.
Be a mystery it turns them on!
it feels great to be the king so change how you get stuff.
request for things, asking is not weak ! Noone likes to be told what to do, this is why you request, then surport it if done.
so if your cat has ran, let it...
instead of chasing, to control it your Time is what's valued!
this has been requested to fill your heart with your own value with love start enjoying your new life, the old is gone, the new is now.
Don Morrison 👍🏻👍🏻
it goes both ways.. Guys also do this, they tried to test the waters
Hey Coach! So way before she broke up with me she asked me for a break and 3 weeks later she broke up with me (btw I begged and plead for a week during the break) she texted me a small paragraph breaking up with me obviously and my response was "I agree with you on this. I respect your decision, take care and keep working hard" My question is, did I handle the break up right? I wanted to say say something like I disagree with you on this and wish we could continue this, wish you the best etc...but it's too late now Haha. Let me know what you guys think :)
That is the prefect response. Don't be surprised if she reaches out. But don't bank on it
Thanks man I just had to ask someone about it. I really love this girl and I wanna work things out, we had a 3.5 year relationship. We had some issues but we really loved each other :') but dont worry I'm doing quite well...I know what I did and I'm willing to work things out. Thanks man!
Hey my ex dumped me I had a similar experience. He tried to take a break a few weeks ago I said no. Then last week we broke up ... have been in nc for 7 days
@@samarztk much respect. Ensure that you can keep up with the no contact rule. I bet you that if he is used to you pleading, he will be shocked at your silence.
Omnitrix8 💯!!!! I would beg him to call me and text me back ASAP I was so needy. It was a LDR so it’s his fault for not trying enough imo. Anyways I’m sure he’s shocked.
I cant figure the first three if my ex wont communicate back with me..!(?help please
Not in any relationship.
5/5 :)
How can i see signs when we never saw each other since the break up? I mean he reached out twice though, but since then it's been 2 months without a word.
2 months isn't long at all, he'll contact you again don't worry. Me and my ex have been on and off for the last 8 years and he always comes back eventually cos friends or lovers, we're better together than apart. I mean how many times do you break up with someone and never hear from them again? Don't worry just chill, stop counting the days and he'll be back when he's ready.
@@centrerandom5640 yeah it's what I thought, maybe he's not ready, thank you so much
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@@centrerandom5640 that's very comforting to hear
He doesn't even want to talk about us to his friend and he deleted 2 pics of me... just of me.. he left 2 with my name, one with us and a video of us kissing.... it's been a week..
Did he finally delete them
@@karleyb9954 Oh, yeah, in march I was off his feed-posts and also deleted his tag in my pics so I archived them and in november (or december, I don't remember) he deleted the stories with only my name too. I don't feel bad about this anymore, I got into another relationship in April of 2021 (break-up was in February) and I've been with this person for 10 months now and it's been mega-amazing and for almost half of the relationship I would get these weird feelings like.. "OMG, how are you WANTING to make time for me?? So...that's NORMAL????🤔😶"
And then I finally understood what healthy and 'making an effort' meant, so, yeah, I'm good. He moved abroad to his mom and stepdad's city and he's been there ever since June. I understood in the end that I could've never fully compete with his mom and grandma because his heart & mind were already occupied and controlled by them... In the end, I only pity him, cuz he's never had a mind of his own, bless his heart...
In his eyes, I was the bad and toxic bitch that his "women" hated and, internally, he had to make a choice; and he did. I'm not mad anymore. His only aspirations were gaining money (which would get "stolen" by his mom) and owning "bad-ass" cars that consume more money than a monthly paycheck. But it's his choice to struggle, I warned him back when.. I can't do more and frankly, I don't wanna. He's made his bed, he'll lay in it. I feel sorry for him for the fact that he'll never be fully independent, because of his mom and no woman will endure what I did so she can be with an uneducated, unmannered, lazy-ass mommy-puppet, in my opinion.🤷🏼♀️
I was treated like a friend with benefits under the title of a relationship ( = don't call me when I'm out/don't ask me to come see you when I don't want to/don't you dare assume that if I'm buying myself something to eat or drink, that I'll do that for you too etc.) but he would always act nice and sweet and would buy me stuff when at the end there would be s*x. And at some point, I picked that up and I let him one time to "pamper" me and then I'd say..."omg, I am so full from this chicken (or whatever), I'mma lie down for a bit". And then I'd sleep, intentionally, for 3h and then I'd say that it's late and should go home. He would be SOOO pissed and at some point that fired me up with "control" bc he'd start picking little fights and ask me for the money for the take-out or whatever and I'd tell him I don't have money on me cuz I didn't know we'd get take-out and he'd tell me he'd wait outside for me to grab it and I'd tell him "no. Goodnight, baby. U should do yourself a 'handy', u look tense ;-)" and then I'd leave. In my opinion, he deserved it. My body isn't your bank-deposit anymore, u can't "invest" and "put money" in it and expect it somehow back WITH interest... yup.. pretty much the rollercoaster of the relationship.
@@biancavulc5131 omg my ex is co dependent on his mom and his sister....
And I feel they have alot to do with our breakup ... it's now been months and he has yet to delete our pics or videos .... I asked him to at this point as we haven't seen each other since end of Oct.... it's now February... like wow.... and I asked him for some real commitment and that's when shit got hard between us and he would pick arguments
... anyways needless to say ... at this point I'm moving on he talks over messenger off and on when he feels it suits him but I'm not waiting any longer.... for his Crumbs
It seems like me and my ex flirt quite a bit I wanna ask for her back but idk how to go about it
Hi Ben, asking her back should be done in the right moment and time. Be sure to check her emotional capability and readiness in having that kind of conversation.
Now what?
You broke up with your ex then now your wishing him /her to comeback?be firmed and be true to your self don’t play games…..just saying…
Not blaming...
I realized, after watching dozens of Clay's videos, that 99% of them are about getting your ex back. He went through that experience, so imo, he's biased. I don't think every video should be about "getting the ex back"...
We have other videos that talks about dating. You can check that in the playlist section. :-)
This is a bit confusing because in the other video. A new/rebound relationship was a sign that the ex wasn't over you.
Yeah that also confused me
So much of this advice is contradictory and they are constantly saying “this doesnt mean it will happen this way”, One said “no contact” “but show them you're having a good time, maybe go on vacation and send them a postcard”. Huh? How is that no contact?
@@lisat5666 6 months after breakup, I learned how to love myself better and it's right I was working so hard to get him back even I had known he's not good enough... i found that getting someone back is not a good choice😇 and if no contact does work in every situation, then there would not be so many people crying for their breakups every day
@@yawensu4580 I want my ex back. The heart wants what it wants, I still want to try...
@@lisat5666 I can understand your thought... and I know this is what you want in this moment. maybe you can share your story with me, we can figure it out together!
My ex is doing this
Not blocked...
Inventing a narrative around the relationship and painting the partner black. This is precisely what pwBPD do. Good luck flipping them.
He’s not talking to me
Mine only text me once a day then he ignores all my other texts
Sign 1) they get married to someone else haha
Well I'm not really interested in getting my ex back as a girlfriend but just as a friend. First we had our breakup and we were still friends and then I said something she understood differently than I ment it and now she doesn't want anything to do with me although I cleared the misunderstanding and I really don't know what to do.
I'm sorry to hear about the misunderstanding. Do give her some time to process what happened as she may have been also struggling emotionally on what had happened.
@@ClayAndrews thank you for your reply.
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