Make Your Ex Feel Instantly Connected To You
Вставка
- Опубліковано 2 лют 2021
- Make Your Ex Feel Instantly Connected To You
Ex Solution Program: modernlove.life/esp
==========================
Work with me:
Connect and Commit: www.modernlove.life/cc
What to say to turn potentially devastating situations with your ex into opportunities for connection
Ex Solution Program: modernlove.life/esp
Navigate your ex’s emotional world to build a stronger connection and inspire commitment for lasting love
Effortless Connection: modernlove.life/ec
Build the foundation for a strong relationship with more cooperation, connection, and consistency.
Emotional Freedom (Formerly "Compatibility Code"): modernlove.life/ef
Overcome the pain of your breakup to build a new possibility for love with your ex or with someone new
Coaching: modernlove.life/coaching
Work with us to develop a custom solution for your current situation
==========================
Follow me:
Email newsletter: modernlove.life/newsletter/
UA-cam Subscribe: ua-cam.com/users/Relation...
Amazon: www.amazon.com/Clay-Andrews/e...
Facebook: / 666769470572030
iTunes Podcast: itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/c...
==========================
Clay Andrews shares what you can do to Make Your Ex Feel Instantly Connected To You
In this video, Clay Andrews highlights the importance of building an emotional connection between you and your ex. If you focus on wanting to be back together rather than strengthening your emotional connection, you might end up pushing your ex farther away.
**** IMPORTANT ****
This is an internet video, and it should be obvious, but this video and other videos on this channel should not be taken as a substitute for the evaluation of a psychologist, therapist, counselor, etc. This video and other videos on this channel are intended for informational uses only, and only reflect the personal opinions of the creator. The creator of this video is not responsible for your actions or choices or the consequences of your actions or choices. - Навчання та стиль
Lol he actually covers every question you have as an ex 😂
Recap:
1. Build an emotional connection through a shared emotional experience. Going beyond a surface level thing. It can start as surface but then go into the emotional thing. Lead with emotion.
2. Listen for the emotional content. If they are telling you about a situation, think of what emotion they are feeling.
3. Meet where they are emotionally. "I can understand how/why you feel that way. Something similar happened to me" then you can go into your story.
Side note: Personally, I would steer from sharing too much about your personal situation just so that you aren't making it all about you. So I see the importance of being relatable but just don't turn it into being about you.
4. Reward them for being vulnerable/sharing something with you. Do this
How exactly do we reward them?
Aren't we all bunch of sad people here trying to get back to their ex n why didn't we grab the chance to do well in the first try. Why is it so hard n why no matter how much we reminded ourselves don't fuck this up we still fuck this up bad, even we have a lot of reasons to love this person we still want to break up with them or still want to be away from them.
Holy shiitake mushrooms. I just realized something with me and my separated wife that I have been messing up. Last night we were cleaning out a desk to sell and she found old notes and plane tickets from a trip and she said you were so corny and I blew the chance at a connection and I ruined it by saying the wrong thing. I need to pay more attention. She has been giving me clues on what to do the whole time and I have been missing the point….thank you for this video!!!!
Super duper Clay!💡💡
Thank you! Cheers!
This is Priceless info!!! thank you!!
You are so welcome! Glad it was helpful. :-)
Awesome advice on a great subject Clay 👍😁
Glad you enjoyed it
You’ve helped me so much with learning about communication! How to communicate with myself, and others. Thank you Clay! Much love and peace to you and your family🖤
You're welcome, Kati. It;s great to hear how we made an impact on your journey. :-)
Fantastic advice there dude. I'll definitely implement this at some point. :)
Thank for watching and happy to hear that this video resonates with you. :-)
My ex bf has been hovering lately after being broken up for about 8 months. He reached out during xmas to wish my happy holidays and then I reached out to tell him happy birthday not to long ago. He started a conversation and we caught up and everything. He mentioned how much his family liked me, how they still ask about me , etc. After talking to him though I’m just glad we’re on okay terms. I realized I deserve better and moved on. I am at peace. Sometimes by the time they come back we don’t want them any more.
I've been in the similar situation with Seth but it never lasted.
You broke up with him ?
Yeah works both ways especially when both people have met new people love goes on literally no relationships last these days due to the current society we live in
May I know what was the reason that you broke up?
You are so kind to share this . I will test it as soon as it is possible. I wish I knew all this before.
You're welcome, Maria. Be sure to subscribe to our channel as well. :-) We'd truly appreciate that.
Please coach make video on what to do next after the first date with ex
Hi Clay. I have been loving you and your videos. Regarding what you said in this video, I like what you explained about creating a connection by relating to an experience our ex had. However, I have read in books on conversation that it is a bad to take something someone has shared about themself and immediately use it to start talking about ourselves.
According to the books, while our intention may be empathy, immediately linking something someone said about themself to ourselves can come across as though we are trying to take the focus off the other person and put it on ourselves. It can come across as self-centered, even if that is not our intention. Does using your technique run the risk of seeming like we are just trying to take the focus off of the other person to to talk about ourselves? I don't want my ex to misunderstand my intention and feel that way. Thank you and keep up your stellar vidoes!
Hes back in test drive stage so it's really not possible to connect emotionally right now. But I'm just looking at where I was at 1 week ago, 2 weeks ago.. and it's getting better.
Clay # 1 rule dont bring the pass back into conversation.....don’t remind them about anything in the pass but focus present time
I disagree, at least in the beginning. Imo, it is a good thing to talk about positive things from the past...but never linger on negative memories. In fact, if the ex brings up something negative, I try to steer to something positive. This way the ex will know not everything about your history is negative. Perhaps after you build up a good rapport then you can try to always steer to the present, or future.
I'm not interested in rekindling a connection that can only work if I have porous boundaries with a person who needs a complete lack of accountability to feel compatibility 🤷 hard pass.
@@enarcmcfly right??? it’s like where does the accountability come in
Looking great Clay 🤩🤩
Thanks 👍
I'm still at the point where I can't shift a conversation down. if I get a response she often just ends there. It feels more like whack-a-mole, if I manage to ever get any responses they are all work related. And Work is "Okay" or "Busy" and if I ask more I rarely get any response at all, nevermind getting enough detail to dive deeper into.
3 months late but you really should have done or still do 45 days of NO CONTACT just to get yourself together and work on yourself to outgrow your ex. So she actually has the desire to get back to you after you are doing so well. It can even wake you up and forget about them
Thank you so much clay. I'm getting there very slowly it's been nearly two years , since we broke up n we have just started talking for a full year now.
So my ex boyfriend is at point now were he just wants us to be close friends for now.
I don’t wanna be just friends, I’m in love and highly attracted. Yet I’d hate to lose contact as well cause it feels hopeful.
Ugh
@@chilloften I'm same but I can do that. Till him and I meet up which I cant do cause of pandemic
I tried this, my ex ( therapist) told me by saying “ I know how u feel, something similar happened to me.
“
“I was making it about me now, and she wasn’t seen anymore “
Man she was tough
14 months. She’s still has my heart, and engaged me yesterday after a while of nc
What happened?
I did that when we were in a relationship but my ex is a DA so when I’d ask him about feelings/his experience, he couldn’t really connect or he’d say he didn’t know….hard to build the connection that way so I guess I’d have to get creative.
Yes several ppl have alexithymia and can't describe their feelings. Difficult, one tries different types of questions but they really can't answer and name the feelings, just "I felt bad this morning". "I can't explain I just felt bad, thought i was down" tricky to love a person like that.
Clay, we got back together and we were going to see each other. He said we had to postpone because of a snowstorm. He lives in Nebraska, I'm in Oregon. His sister is trying to keep us apart. What can I do? She texted me twice and told me to leave her brother alone.
2 days ago my ex and I had our first phone call since we split up 13 months ago, and it went really well and I could tell that our connection was still there… but I’m kinda anxious bc I don’t wanna screw it up and don’t know if it’s gonna go anywhere further. She said she’s gonna call me again today or tmrw (or this weekend) so hopefully that goes well too.
Hey Clay when are you gonna live stream? Looking forward!
Btw me and my ex are talking well until she went offline days ago and nowhere to be found. She suddenly left the social media app without a trace. I am not sure if she is contact with her rebound ://
Our live stream are now exclusive to our course members inside our private community. :-)
Clay how can I try anything I've been abandoned rejected down talked by her to others. Blocked even.
Unsuccessfully though. I still know what's going on. 16 yrs together and just told "I'll always love you"
A frieze to blow people off. And not feel bad for quitting on a marriage and so called soul mate..
I need help..lost in turmoil
🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
Any tips for an ex who fell out of love on a guy?
First tip would be: don't invite him (or anyone else) to a game of Danganronpa.
I think Clay's got plenty of video's on the topic. Just click on his name below the video, go to his channel and look up any interesting clips. What he seems to focus on is (re-)building an emotional connection. Which I think is a good idea; plenty of other people out there with loads of tips on getting back together... but if you do that for the sake of doing it, you're bound to repeat the same mistakes as last time.
Have patience, have trust in yourself and try to look at it in the long run. Good lcuk!
he unfollowed me on everything. no contact. nothing. I no longer contact any of mutual friend of his. no reach out nothing.... the future is uncertain as we r from different countries.... no future, no need for connection? I don't know his decision.
Hey, updates? I think you were a bit anxious. The key is to be well with yourself first, and then trying to build something with the person.
How do you reward them after they open up emotionally? It seems that was skipped over.
Relate and Reward is covered in depth inside our Ex Solution Program course. You may want to check that particular course or our other courses. :-)
SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND she won’t let me get close enough
I'm sorry to hear about that, Niran. If our ex is in a new relationship[, it can truly be a challenge as they will impose certain level of boundaries. How would you like to proceed given the current situation that you both have?
@@ClayAndrews Hi clay,
I wanted to book a session but the price was too steep. I went all-in sent her 100 roses on v day and said fuck it.
She replied these are beautiful, then called me as she was blown away, then 4 hours later sent me an angry text, I replied apolgises but saying just wanted to show how I felt (This is after 6 months no contact, I broke up with her to pursue my business) she replied with basically fuck off, I don't care I'm happy with someone else now. lol I'm assuming her BF saw the messages or roses and got pissed... ah well all if fair in love and war.
Would love to chat to you about it, but not for $500+ haha great channel
Why is my ex no longer watching my ig stories but still follows me on ig? If he’s going to ignore me on social media why bother following? Why doesn’t he just delete me??
We wouldn't really know what had transpired on the end of your ex. Is the social media activity is more important to you than having a solid connection in person?
Firrst lol
how to reward your ex when they open to you?
relate and reward is a part of the communication skills that we cover inside our program. You might be interested in checking our courses. :-)
Hey my ex is following new guys posting sexy pics. I’m doing no contact it’s nearly been 3 weeks I messaged her to day just about being respectful in a nice way. What do I do :(
4th lol