Social Media And Breakups
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- Опубліковано 11 січ 2023
- A Commonly faced question during a breakup is "Why is my EX posting so much on Instagram?". Are you worried your EX is trying to make you jealous? Going through a breakup can be challenging enough without going on social media to see what your EX is up to. Worried about someone your EX "liked" on Instagram? This video is for you.
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It's crazy how she was unable to block any guys sliding into her dms during our relationship. But after 6 years and buying a house, a dog and a proposal...we broke up, and she had no issue blocking me.
Stay strong.
It’s good that you have clarity. Actions speak louder than words.
I muted for months after the breakup. It just didn't help. There will still be that window, and any point of weakness takes you back until you see them with someone new and that sets you back a great deal. Removing any points of contact was a tipping point for me in the recovery process.
one of the hardest things after a breakup is not checking on your ex on social media, it's almost like in a way if you are updated through their social media you still feel connected to them.
i deleted the app for the sake my sane 😅
After almost a year and
now she’s dating someone else. I had to block her and her family/friends on everything. Just to tempted to look at their profiles
2018, one hundred percent focus on you. Don’t lurk, don’t over post, do you become a better you. Do it for you! Rory you have no idea what I went through and how much you helped me, went from severe depression and wanting her back to breaking out of that. She did come back but my eyes were open by then.
Rory, you're awesome. Have a nice day.
I blocked. Im gonna move on
And if u break because she had line up some one else!
What should I do if my anniversary was on Valentine’s Day? Do I wait for them to reach out and if no response, reach out later in day or stay in NC? I’m currently in NC, hasn’t been long, roughly a week.
my ex still watches every story I post, often daily and sometimes 2-7 times daily (!) but no reach out from him, not even at any important day like my birthday or christmas. he still has my number saved in whatsapp, but I will delete him soon. 7 months since the breakup.
She blocked me 8 months ago on everything because "she knows what she wants", without a thought about reaching out or thinking how i feel or felt. Immature and selfish egocentric girl. I dont tolerate such behaviour anymore.
Can you make a video on if a love interest blocks you on everything out of the blue with no reason behind it?
Any livestreams or anything soon? I need advice lol
What if you deleted his contact and he couldnt see it from anyway
Thanks for your content Rory! Quick question, during N.C I unfriended her from all social medias, been in N.C for 2m, is it better to tighten up all the privacy settings so that they don't see any updates at all? Or should I allow them to see certain things?
Thanks for your question - generally I recommend removing them from social media so that they don't find any information about you and vice-versa. It's about mental health and stability. Keeping them around is a 2-way street of information that just drives us nuts with trying to impress them and social-media stalking.
Hey Rory, if you see this, I finally gathered the courage to remove her and unfollow her from all my social media, not block, just unfollowed, because muting them wasn’t enough, it was still tempting to look on their profile, it’s been 4 months of absolute no contact on both ends, I just feel like I hurt my chances of a reconciliation?
It's understandable that you needed to take steps to protect your own emotional wellbeing by unfollowing your ex on social media. While it's possible that this action could make reconciliation more difficult, it's also possible that it could have the opposite effect. By taking time apart and giving yourselves space to heal, you may both gain clarity and perspective that could help facilitate a healthy and positive reconnection in the future. It's important to focus on your own growth and healing in the meantime, rather than fixating on the possibility of reconciliation. Trust that the right path will reveal itself in time.
@@vshal786 I cried reading this, I want to thank you because I’ve been so focused on that factor that it’s taken over my life these past couple of weeks, I realize how obsessed and dependent I was on my ex that I know removing her was the right decision, because I know she was having trouble to, so I did what was best for both is us tbh, I promise I will focus on myself and only myself, thank you for being very kind and responding, it really helped me.
Alright so my ex stalks my Instagram every now and then and my friend invited me and a couple of other friends to a BBQ this Saturday. I was already thinking of posting stuff on instagram but after watching this video idk if I should bc some friends that got invited are girls. My ex knows them too but I’m not sure if u should post anything about the BBQ.
I just boot them off all my social media once we break up
I also removed her from my followers. I felt like knowing that she was watching my stories and posts would raise my anxiety. I don't regret unfollowing her but I do regret removing her from my followers. Before going no contact I told her that I made mistake and that she could follow me if she wanted. She told me not to worry about it but hasn't followed me.
Was it a mistake? If it was, is there a way to fix it?
Ex gf keeps liking some of my posts, I know that doesn’t mean any, but gets me confused. Like she made clear it’s over and we should move on, but she keeps the likes and I’m not sure what to think of it. I still love the girl but I won’t reach out. It’s been 2 months since the breakup and last communication was on New Year’s Eve, she sent me a happy bday and wishes for new years, I replied thanks and wished her and family a new years. That’s it.
She wants to be on your mind when you see that she liked something of yours
The fact that she knows you're still hooked on her gives her a sense of relief, she probably isn't doing it on purpose or with bad intent, just subconsciously. She probably knows she could reach out to you at anytime and you would be open to try again so she doesn't.
When she starts doubting your feelings towards her, thats when she's most likely going to reach out, and thats when you ask her out if you're still interested by that time.
Personally deleting social media helped me tremendously in getting over my ex, its really just in your way + you could be doing something else instead.
I don't think this is right or wrong. Just the way I see it.
Hope this helps.
She wants to be in a position of power
No contact , remove from social media, don’t respond to messages unless she wants to reconcile
My ex just sent me a request to follow me again on social media. My initial response was shock due to the fact that she unfollowed me 3 years ago. Tbh I’m sure it’s to either see how I’m doing or to extend a hand of friendship but that’s me trying to mind read although I suppose I just would like to see what I should I be asking myself on the topic to whether or not to accept their request ? Thoughts Rory @thelovechat and fellow UA-camrs ?
Update? What did she want?
I unfollowed him after the breakup and then he immediately blocked me???
My ex went back to smoking and drinking, she still has a post of us of the places we would go out to eat, it’s been 2 Months of nc
I’m blocked, I got to see this through my sisters phone
@@kyro8853 stop fcking stalking her
Its been 7 months we dont contact anymore and i cant stand it i unfriended and unfollowed him every social media we had. I tried to connect with him yesterday but he did not reply! It feels like hes mad what i did. He was the one wanted the Break up. After the break up we stil chatted but to the point i can't stand it anymore to see his profile or new photo uploads it hurts me so bad so unfriended him and unfollowed him, i dod not message him for nearly 7 months now.. But yesterday i tried to reach out my message left unopened. Maybe hes angry.
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She's liking some of my stories and I feel like if I don't like one of hers back she won't reach out to me because she'll think I don't care, what should I do?
No contact
Dont
My ex cheated on me. Then everytime i post something, she either like or "haha" it (it was on FB). But nothing happened. Maybe it's just for sympathy or something. Oh yea, there was one she post a picture with a meme icon we used to send each other and set it only so I could see. I knew it because none of my friends saw that post while i was still able to. But yea, nothing happened between us. It's just some vague fucking act. Anyhow, I understand why you overanalyze things, it'd come to a point that you no longer feel like it. But until then, stay strong!
If you're unsure about how to respond to your ex liking your stories, it's important to take some time to think about what your intentions are. Are you comfortable with liking one of her stories back, even if you're not necessarily interested in rekindling a romantic relationship at this time? Or do you feel like responding in any way might send mixed signals that you're not prepared to deal with?
Ultimately, the decision about how to respond should be based on your own emotional boundaries and what feels most authentic to you. It's possible to acknowledge her actions without necessarily committing to anything beyond that. For example, you could simply send a polite message or emoji in response to her liking your story, without necessarily initiating any further communication. Whatever you decide, it's important to stay true to your own needs and boundaries.
Is it possible.. to get back with your ex a 3rd time...?
We are both young hes 22 and I'm 20... the first time we dated for a month before he broke it off and I moved out and had no contact for 6 months before he came back...
This time it was for a year and 3 months and he has "fallen out of love" over things we could've simply talked and worked on with eachother... I'm working on moving out.. but is it possible for "no contact" to happen a 2nd time..?
It's been 2 weeks since the break up and hes already on tinder.. says hes waiting for me to leave before he starts f-ing people again..
I dont know anymore.. he says he just wants to be best friends but wants to see me at least 3 times a year after I move 6 hours away
what you still doing sis hes warning you before he'll make the fun out of you..he wants you to move out before he starts fkn someone else?this is too toxic leave him at all cost and for your future and for your sanity
Social media!!! ?? What a joke..