Would You Ever, Could You Ever Date a Single Mom
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- Опубліковано 10 лип 2024
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Would you ever, could you ever consider dating a single Filipina Mom in The Philippines or single Thai Mom in Thailand. The subscribers to our channel Fly Me to The Philippines have written some disturbing comments regarding this question.
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In an other episode of Chrissy tells all she takes on the top 5 negative comments about why there are so many single moms in the Philippines and Thailand. Why a woman would find herself a single mom, and why a man would take on a commitment to raise another mans son.
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As a man, I would say that you must consider your responsibilities to the woman and her child when you enter their lives. You need to make sure that you don't hurt their long term life prospects. If you have determined that the love and respect from the woman is genuine and you have the respect of her family, I believe the man is responsible to add to their lives in a positive way. The foreign man's financial situation is most likely to be at a much higher level than the woman and her family. So, if the man chooses to become part of their lives, he needs to plan for the woman and her child's security and future. If there is mutual respect, the man will find satisfaction in this endeavor and the bond he creates with the woman and her child.
I totally agree, thanks for watching and taking the time to share your thoughts
There's lots of reasons women get into a relationship and have sex. It's not always love. This rule number One for men: Women will do almost anything to avoid accountability. Keep that in mind then life will make sense. Smile.
@@michaeljohnson6019when a woman wants something she will find a way to get it. By using her resources or a man's resources, to achieve the goal
And all the sisterhood said “amen!”
There's a flaw in this logic. A male choosing to be a stepdad with no rights to her kids has very low self-esteem. For some reason they don't feel they deserve to have kids of their own. Kind of a eunuch complex.
A male with this issue is going to have a very hard time judging others. A male who doesn't respect themselves is never going to be respected by others and because of this will have no ability to tell if other respect him. Instead he'll create some crazy measure of respect. Like he'll buy a Filipina's parents a bunch of stuff and assume that buys respect and love. But the opposite is true. Filipinos don't marry single moms or support another man's kids. They make fun of stupid foreigners who throw away their money and partner up with single moms.
However, such guys really have no choice. Their low self-esteem forces them to rationalize why raising another man's kids is a great idea.
If you date a single mom, better make sure she's not married. Otherwise, you're bringing down a heap of trouble on yourself.
I remember myself adding to my dating profile "you must need to produce a CENOMAR". 😂
Also, if in any of the children's certificate of birth the biological dad is there, regardless of marriage or not, you will also have issues if you ever decide to move them to your country or go on a vacation outside the Philippines. The dad would need to sign his consent...
This is very good advice here in the Philippines. You can get a certificate of no marriage with little difficulty and little money from PSA.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines In the US you could never take a man's kids out of the country if he has custody rights. Is that the case in PH?
@@yaimavol not sure but that’s my assumption
@@yaimavol Even to get the child a passport, both parents would need to be present, or issue a Special Power of Attorney, or the mother would need to prove she had the sole custody with a court letter.
If you aren't absolutely sure you won't want to move out the Phillies, avoid non-widower single moms, or ask to see the certificate of birth. If the baby daddy ran away, he won't show in that document and he won't be able to extort you.
I know a guy that needed to wait until his wife's daughter was 18, to move them to his country.
When I met my wife, she was a mom of 1 teenage girl. This did not matter to me at all! I fell in love with my wife and her daughter. We met when I was 40 years old! This was the best decision I ever made! We never did have a child between the 2 of us, but that did not matter! Since my wife passed away 2 years ago, my daughter fully supports me as any daughter would and very glad that she is in my life! God bless Chrissy!
Thanks, Marc for sharing your story and I’m so sorry for your loss
Hi Chrissy, totally agree with you. I met my wife in HK, I was getting on the inter-Island ferry as she was getting off. That was 26 years ago. after a few dates she was upfront and told me she had a son, living with her parents in Isabela while she worked in HK as a helper to support them. Seems the boy's father who she married did a runner when the real wife and 4 kids arrived on their doorstep!! Anyway, after we were married in 2005 I brought the boy to HK and adopted him. He's now 27 and running a bar in a French Michelin star restaurant in HK. Later my wife's youngest sister passed away leaving two small girls 1 & 4. The father went off the rails and himself died shortly after. I adopted both girls and brought them to HK. The eldest is now working and living with her partner, very happy, and the youngest I still have 2 more years at international school while she takes her A levels then off to Uni. Sometimes we struggle, but I wouldn't change anything for all the tea in China. Our son has also given us a beautiful grandson who my wife (Luz) spoils rotten. In fact Luz and James (Grandson) are on a flight today heading to Clark now, where I have a car waiting to drive them up to Isabela as it's school summer holiday in HK. Sadly, I'm working and our youngest has got a summer job so didn't want to go. It you truly love your partner then a child is a blessing. I'm now 67 and Luz is 58 and we are very happy. Hopefully one day we will get over to CDO. 😃
Wow, thanks for sharing. What a great life story.
You are a good man with a heart to help those who are in need.surely God will bless you thru these childrens who you gave the fatherly love. It is custumary and part of culture of the Filipinos that when you saw love, support that kindness will be repaid by those people you help more especially these children of your wife.
I have seen your video tags for a while but was reluctant to watch as I thought they were just another blogger targeting thirsty men with a pretty woman. After a while, I noticed one video that seemed interesting and watched. During that video, I noticed how the two of you interacted and listened to how each of you spoke not us but to each other. I enjoy chemistry and the way you present these thought proving topics. 👍 I subscribed shortly after.
Mike. Thank you for watching our channel and taking it a time to provide positive positive feedback. We certainly appreciate it.
Having seen many of your videos ,I have begun my own journey and I can honestly say I don’t think Rob had to “settle“ for anything. I know you’ve put your lives out there, please don’t let the comments of some clearly unhappy people discourage you from doing what you’re doing . Thank you so much for the content , more often than not it is very helpful and extremely informative, thank you so very much. 🙌
Thanks for watching our videos and we really appreciate the commentary in this particular video
Very much agree with @SPENJERE ! Haters will always hate. I feel very sorry for their pathetic life.
@@ronmiller997 Thanks Ron
Although not necessarily age related, men often fall victim to being O.L.D. (Overlooked, Lonely & Desperate). When that happens, more often than not, men tend to rationalize making bad financial and emotional decisions regarding women. Women can sense this like a shark senses blood in the water.
Wow, I love the acronym. Maybe I need to make a video about it.
Yup
Six signs of a desperate and lonely "Pay Piggy"
1. Retire after 20+ years of work, get financially ruined by the ex-wife and family court system, devise a plan to enjoy the 3rd/4th quarter of your life abroad, move to your chosen destination with the intent to live a simple life on the savings, and/or pension the courts were "kind" enough to leave you with.
2. After arrival, fall in "Lust" and attach yourself to a young local woman with kid(s) because she makes you feel "young", abandon the plan that you laid out in step #1, put on the old "Step Dad" cape and assume the financial responsibility of raising kid(s) that you have no rights over while the real father is down the road gambling, smoking and drinking.
3. Build a house for your new girlfriend/wife and let her extended family move in, pay for her kid(s) private school/college, buy braces for her mouth, a new iPhone for her social media addiction, and lots of sexually revealing clothes for her attention seeking nature. Provide an allowance to "upgrade" her lifestyle, provide her parents with a monthly allowance, buy the brother-in-law a motorbike, build and fund the sister-in-law a Sari-Sari store and pay for every party/fiesta that happens.
4. Notice that your girlfriend/wife is becoming more distant, annoyed and combative towards you. You also notice that she has become more westernized, is surrounding herself with other westernized women and has become thirstier for online attention.
5. Spend the majority of your lonely days struggling with the items listed in steps #3-4 until you become bankrupt, mentally exhausted or physically compromised due to stress.
6. Rationalize steps #1-4 by saying. "She and her kid(s) should be left in a better position than when I found them" or "I can't take it with me" or "Someone has to step up to the plate and do the honorable thing" or "She loves me and will never betray me" or "It's just part of the culture for a foreigner to take care of her and her family" or "I am providing for her in "exchange" for companionship" etc...
Gentlemen, take off your blinders and at least try to be honest with yourself. If you have relocated or are thinking about relocating to another country to find love then either you are now, are becoming or have been a Pay Piggy to some degree.
"Present yourself as a Pay Piggy and get roasted like a Lechon.
I am currently engaged to a Filipina who has a 10yo daughter. I'm in my 60's and have already raised 3 of my own children but I'm very glad to have the chance to be a father again to this wonderful girl. We are going through the K1 visa process right now, and that is stressful both emotionally and financially but we pray every day for the time when we will be together again and be a family. For all of the haters that think we western men are being manipulated I feel sorry for them. They have never known the love a truly good and Christian woman, and have never seen the adoration in the eyes of a child that has never had a father in her life. My own adult children are accepting of my new bride to be, and they are looking forward to welcoming a new "ate" into our family. I consider my life to be blessed by their presence, and I hope and pray for you and Rob to continue to be blessed as well.
Well, Dennis, thanks for watching and what a great comment. Really appreciate you taking the time to share.
Hamburger A: Single mom with a cute daughter fathered by another man.
Hamburger B: Single woman I can father a cute daughter with.
In both cases I have a cute daughter. Which do I choose? I pick Hamburger B.
Why would I pick the single mom instead? It's not like there's only one Filipina in all of PH who would make a great partner. IMO what's going on is guys are getting online and falls for the first Filipina that is nice to him. And single moms are hitting the dating sites hard. Lots of single Filipinas working, going to college and don't have the time to be online 14 hours a day. Many singles moms have nothing but time to be on dating sites to get to these men before the Filipinas without kids. For the guys it's lazy dating.
@@MrWaterbugdesign
You are a very shallow human.
@@MrWaterbugdesign Well you know, there's a reason that the Big Mac and the Whopper are both so popular. Some people prefer hamburger A, and some people prefer hamburger B. One is not better than the other, but people have their reasons for which one they choose. My fiancé has her Bachelors degree and works 12 hours every night as a call center rep, and I vetted dozens and dozens of potential mates before choosing her. Be careful about painting people with one large brush. Every couple has their own unique story.
Very well stated !
Let me introduce all to the concept of gratefulness. The first thing is that you must first forgive yourself, then you must let go of pain. Often this is existential pain. So your pain affects you next love. The solution is gratefulness. When the idea of gratefulness is explored further, it is an integral part of love itself. My comment is good job Rob. You are a true lover of the first order.
Wow, I’m grateful to have you watching our videos and taking time to share your thoughtful comment
Great analysis and advice. You and Rob are great humans.
Wow❤️🙏👍
A likeable presenter - for a difficult topic. Taking on real responsibility for other people's children is a big and long-term challenge. The tasks don't get any easier as you get older. This applies to both the children and the parents. I have concrete experience as a father, grandfather and sports coach.
Thanks for watching our channel and taking time to share your comment. We certainly appreciate it.
I am 63 now with 3 grown sons , my Philipina is 51 now with 3 grown daughters and we are on our 10 th year together and nothing in life is perfect but we have been happy together and i love her girls and grandkids and she loves mine . not all relationships are lucky like ours .
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We Dominican men often prefer single mothers, particularly if they only have one kid and he/she is under 5...And we are also not shy to marry a former pros...Why? Because we understand women. A woman who has a child by an irresponsible man or a man who was abusive to her will appreciate your "caballerosidad" way more than a spoiled bougie girl living with mom and dad, particularly when that single mom sees that you don't judge her by her past or her mistake in choosing the tiguere that she chose...I was a teacher for many years and worked in a small touristy town and my students were between 18 and 32...the best girls in class were the pros...they behaved better BECAUSE of the already existing stigma towards what they do, which they try to conceal with very decorous and ladylike behavior...the 304s in my classes sending me invitations were the middle class girls with a nice husband or a handsome boyfriend...of course, as with everything in life you have to be picky...a single mom that finds a good man the second time in a country like the Philippines is well aware that this is something to cherish and protect...which is why they are so loyal...I would rather marry a Pinay pros from Angeles than any of my cowerkers at a lawfirm in NYC...no doubt...
Thanks for watching our video and sharing such an interesting perspective
The world doesn't work the way you view it, bohio. If that's true, then Dominican men do not understand women; at least not decent ones or keepers. A bad head will always be a bad head. You can't shake off who she is out of her because of your "caballerosidad" or gentlemanliness. Las mujeres no funcionan como piensas. Entiendes amigo? Saludos.
Most foreigners are older men who don't want children but do want a woman. What surprises me is that these men need to ask questions and be taught how to understand what Filipino women think about this. It seems as if they can't think independently. I would think that the most common scenario is that men who date women with children ensure that these children from previous relationships feel like they have a stepfather who cares about them, providing the best education in the Philippines and thus a better starting point in life ahead of them.
Thanks for watching our channel and sharing your thought. Well said.
Yes, they feel it's the best they can do, but are not honest with themselves. I enjoy kids, so we had one of our own, there is no comparison. Not that you can't love another child, but it's just not the same and we all know it.
Thanks for the insight
Our pleasure Danielle thanks for watching
Definitely not a fan of this video. Being a stepdad sucks. All the responsibility and none of the authority.
@@travisl9201 🤔
Yahh, that’s the downside of being a step Father
I think that is a possibility. But I have also seen where step-dad is given all the authority and love of a biological father. Much depends on the mother and supporting family's attitude as well as communication.
@@jeffreycaudle5108 Sure, could happen. And I could win the lottery. But even in this extreme "I saw it work once" case the male still has no legal right to those kids. The Filipina has 100% control. Yes she can hand out some authority as long as the male does as she wants. But if the male does something she doesn't like she can snap that "authority" right back.
In reality the stepdad has no real authority over her kids. If you want to rationalize what you see and call it all good then that's on you.
Great video Chrissy. As a 55 yo divorced man, I'd like to address a couple of your scenarios.
First, this priority thing. This is such a lame excuse, saying you won't be her priority. If you're married, with children, and your wife comes in the house to you and the children sick as a dog, who do you think she is going to prioritize? My hope would be the children, and this should be the result whether dad or step dad.
I've been married twice. 1st wife had a son when we met and we has 2 boys together. 2nd wife had a son and daughter. No children together. In both instances I had full authority to discipline. It's not that rare. If you are a rational, fair, and trusted man, a woman will naturally let you lead, if you pick the right one. If you are a tyrant, or you pick a woman that has no expectations of her children, hell yes she's gonna waffle back and forth. And yes, I am divorced, but for entirely different reasons.
Once a man has had children of his own, it is much easier to fall into a step dad role. For him, the priority of his mate and her child has to be equal to the priority he places on himself. Again, this all leads back to choosing the right woman, the man being aware and comfortable with his role, and accepting that she can truly love him enough to trust.
To simply say no single mother is worth anything comes from a very immature, self-centered, black pilled, I'm alpha so I should be priority and lead no matter what, mindset, in my opinion.
Many of these men aren't fit to lead a home unless the goal is to push it off a cliff. There is a huge difference between leading and ruling, and sadly, a lot of men can't tell you what that difference is.
Excellent video. Rob and I are from the same neighborhood in Scottsdale. You did very well here.
👋 Thanks 🙏
Before I found my single province farm girl that was never married and had no children I stayed away from single moms because I did not want to fall in love with one.. dating a single Filipino mom could get complicated very quickly because lots of things can go wrong that would not happen with dating a single girl with no children.. I have raised three kids so I know raising children is not a walk in the park but I enjoyed every minute of it.. that was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life..😊
Thanks for watching our video Richard and sharing your story
Hello Chrissy, I'm 61, never married and no children. I view this as good thing or a blessing because I came from a terrible home as a child, and as a result, I wasn't mature enough or stable enough as an adult to handle the responsibilities. I have been working on myself my whole life, and I like what I have made of myself. I am now a valuable human being. Ready to retire in the Philippines.
Thanks for sharing
Great points David. I have a very similiar story and same age range. I would welcome a single Mom...with time in to know eachother first.
Fantastic video Chrissy and well articulated. Too many twisted and judgemental peeps . Personally i would welcome a single Mom and an oppty to be a positive influence.
wow
Rob and Chrissy are in a unique relationship. Most American women would not have the option to send their children to go live with their grandparants for the 1st 10 months of a new relationship. Rob was lucky that way to have Chrissy all to himself and feel that he was #1 in her life. Now that Chrissy's child has moved in the house along with Chrissy's Dad and Stepmonther, it will be interesting to see how the relationship moves foward. Also, be very careful dating single mothers in the philippines if they lie about being married you could go to jail or worst.
Thanks joe for watching and sharing your thoughts. We appreciate having you here.
There are people who have kind, generous hearts willing to give and help others without any expectations. There are people who put their own needs first, which is understandable. Chrissy blessed us viewers with her heart-felt story and deep appreciation for all Rob has brought into her and her son's lives. Chrissy is an articulate, intelligent, and very beautiful woman and a great example of what you need to look for if you choose to date a single mother.
Jon, thanks for your kind words and your support of our channel. We’re really fortunate to have you here is one of our subscribers.
Hey Chrissy…I’ve enjoyed watching the video’s you and Rob produce and a couple of reasons I watch your videos is because of how informative they are and regardless of the topic. To me it’s easy to see the love and respect both of you have for each other because of the teamwork you both present in your videos. What a team you guys are together and it’s so satisfying to see the professionalism as well as the fun that you share together. You’re very intelligent Chrissy and so is Rob. I also agree with everything you said about the responsibilities of family in a loving relationship regardless that the children didn’t come from the two of you. When a man loves a woman from a failed marriage, being responsible for her children and loving them should be the natural choice in my opinion. In heaven there’s no such thing as orphans or unwanted children because God is love and He is the Father to everyone born on earth. His agape love for us is the most powerful love known to mankind and it’s endless. He is the example we should all be following. I wish the two of you continued success in everything the two of you strive for as a loving couple. Thank you again for another wonderful video.
Wow we’re blushing- love this comment
Don't listen to the haters guys! I met my Filipina in 1999 (here in the US) with her 2 girls 6 and 7 who I helped raise. we married in 2007, had our daughter in 2008. And now I even have 2 (Step) granddaughters. I feel Rob is like myself and has a big heart and loves family. And there is never anything wrong with that. Kudos to you guys for living the dream! Thanks for sharing! (My profile pic has my 15 yr old daughter and 12 yr old granddaughter. :)
Love this comment
Dear Chrissy, you are 100% right and your review of the various creteries "is spot on". My best regards to you and your family from Denmark
Hi Bent. Hope all is well in Denmark
Love your Vlog
❤️🙏👍
My now wife was a single mom in Davao when we met. I made it clear I could not give her any children because I got fixed a LONG time ago after having 4 of my own. Her son has never met his father, so he has known only me in that role. I have never asked my wife of 12 years anything about her past relationships, and frankly I was not interested in that part of her life when what I could observe for myself more than answered any important questions I had. I also did not have a problem with her (our) son and her parents being a higher priority for her, which is not to imply I am not a priority. We talked it out and I can understand why she feels that way. An example of what does not make sense is why I live in a place that has been over 120F for the past couple weeks.
Thanks for sharing that Stephen
I’m 62. Can’t have children. Dating a single mom would be fine with me. She would probably be more mature than a young Filipina. Less likely to play games. My ex was a divorced mom. Her daughter became my daughter. We are very close even after the divorce. Yes I would consider a relationship with a single mom.
Thanks for watching and thanks for sharing your feedback
Very insightful, my current wife has/had 2 children when we met, I put them through school and university, I’m no hero, if you accept a mother with children, be responsible, accept your decision. Willingly, or move on. Women with children come as a “package deal”, if they leave their children, they can leave you too. Loyalty becomes universal. Good luck with your choices. By the way. My decision has been very rewarding and it’s had its trying times. But in the end, I feel it’s been worth every moment.
Bryan, thanks for watching your video and sharing your interesting experience
I married a single mom with 2 kid's, 30 years ago. They consider me their real dad. It was the best thing I ever did, and I would do it all over again.
Kenny awesome thanks for sharing your experience with us
Hi Chrissy
I think you could have a bright future in Social Media - Media in general ..
You present well speak pretty good English and are young and seem educated as well ..
I am sure Rob would agree
Watching you both bounce off each other in individual streams is well done …
I think Chrissy has a bright future with a LITTLE of Robs guidance …
He seems to have it all together ..
Wow, thanks for such positive feedback and such a nice note
I have already loved and raised other men's children. Paid for them, cared for them, did all the dad stuff. It all becomes a waste of time the day you lay down the law or draw a line never to cross and they tell you "you're not my real dad". I never want to hear that again.
Sorry to hear that
Majorly risky business marrying a single M, even for recreational use, single M's are a serious liability. Typically, single mother's baby fathers are low frequency men (aka Pookie/ Ray Ray with multiple baby mommas..Or they left or divorced the nice Lastly, if you slip up and become her latest baby daddy ( Game over !!!
That is the real truth without sugar coating it. The reality is the mom sides with the kids than the husband. It is better to stay away from such if ever possible. I see people admire Crissy coz of her beauty and wit but what she say may not even be the reality on the ground
I think this sugar coats all the issues of becoming an instant family. As a man, you must understand that you will ALWAYS come "second" to her children, no matter what others may have you believe. That's how it's supposed to be. But, you need to know what you are getting into. Take into consideration all the additional costs, mentally, physically, monetarily, and everything in between. You have to sacrifice so much as well. If you are willing, then more power to you, but you should know that blood family will always come first. She loves you because you provide her so many benefits for herself and her child. She will never choose you over her flesh and blood. If she does, then she's not a worthwhile person.
Thanks for watching our channel and for taking the time to share your thoughts and such a detailed comment
@@angilif32 See how they congratulate you. Don't fall for the LIES
"She loves you because you provide her so many benefits for herself and her child."
As it is the case with ALL and I mean ALL the foreigner-Filipina relationships.
Even if we take your comment literally and at face value, don't you think Chrissy had a big enough heart for all? Rob is supporting the family, she doesn't really have to work though the UA-cam channel and consulting brings in some additional funds. So with him doing the traditional support role, she has more than enough time and capacity to be there for both him and her child. The boat just isn't sinking. I think in the West, when both parents work, the woman has multiple kids maybe from multiple men, and many are living paycheck to paycheck, and men are still somehow supposed to provide and do more chores and be a dad and everyone is divided against each other. . . what you said is more relevant because everyone is stretched so thin. Sometimes we in developed countries look down on developing countries but when you think about family dynamics, taking care of the elderly, social support from friends and family, having two-parent families raise kids. . . I think we could learn a lot from places like the Philippines. In case you didn't notice, the US is a hot mess right now.
@@DrJamesBWood That's your assumption. No one, especially not me, is looking down on third world countries. I come from a poor family as well. I know the value of a dollar. But, reality is that there is a reason why Filipinos are looking for older and much more established men. They are reliable and able to provide for their additional family. It's not a diss, it's reality. You seem to be taking it a bit personal. It is an exchange. But, when you state that "you don't know who you are going to save, your son or husband." Come on! It is great that she is contributing and now she has more flexibility to do so. Her son is going to a private school. Something that your typical Filipino family can't afford. I have no love loss for the U.S. That's why I left. I never felt at home there. But, you have to be aware that it is transactional. It is very, very, very rare that she (or anyone) would choose a foreigner that is broke and can't provide. Young foreigners mostly provide looks and probably a "good time". That's why older men are very popular. They gain stability, upward mobility, and a "father figure". Western men get not to be lonely and have a purpose.
Thankyou. You and rob are awesome. I’m in the same boat as you guys. My Filipina has a child too.i brought up 2 kids myself,and I’m willing to bring up her child too. We are in love. And that’s what matters. Have a great day. David
David thanks for watching and you are totally right we agree
Amazing - You are absolutely correct. There are many men who can absolutely bond with a child that is not there own. My wife and i adopted an infant boy and girl from Korea 36 years ago. They are everything to us and gave us the most incredible gift, GRAND CHILDREN. Without our children and grand children our lives would be empty. You and Rob have something very special. You have love for each other and a family. We should all be so blessed. Your video is an inspiration to others and affirmation of the power of love.
Glenn thanks for sharing your experience and relaying how terrific it turned out and thanks for the advice
Well said. Much happiness to you both.😊
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Very well said. Agree 100% with you. You are a great example to everyone. Rob is a good man.
Daniel, thanks for watching our video and taking the time to share such nice positive feedback
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines You are absolutely welcome.
I adore you so much for your hard life and you blessed you found Rob ..even you work long time on your videos.. I think he is not so easy as it looks, then he has his own plan of life golfing, playing cards…and you have as most important your son to take care off
Thanks for watching and taking time to share those thoughts
My pinay is a single mom and I feel that she values my wisdom, direction and ability to lead. These women value stability and hope for the future. And as a foreigner, that’s what we provide. They appreciated greatly! I’m 53. Past the stage of wanting to change diapers. Because I was actually a stay at home dad. That was fun! But that stage is over. So I prefer a single mom with children already. Because she’s OK with a partner who does not want to have any more children. For me single moms are the best partners for men who don’t want to make new babies💯👊🏾
Yes, you expressed very important considerations. Some of us already have been through the parenting yet we’re willing to raise children who are not diaper age
Good video. Rob is so lucky to have such a gorgeous partner. Beautiful inside and out!!!
Bill you made her blush
My story!
My girlfriend is pregnant and she deliver the baby around october.She dont want me in the hospital when this days comes.Very strange for me,a woman would be happy if the father is there right?She only wants me to pick me up in the airport after birth.I told her this situation is very strange and i think the real father will be there,and its not me.she told me if i dont support they can blacklist me and put me in jail.Is this so easy? How would you handle this? I said if you dont care about my decision and am not there on delivery she can handle everything alone and i keep my hands of everything.
Not sure- perhaps the bill will go up if you’re there
I have heard that it is a criminal offence in the Philippines for a man to be alone with a child that is a not a relative. Is this true? It would mean the mother cannot even go out shopping (assuming no grandparent around as in your case).
I think you can register your boyfriend fiancé at the Barangay # offices
In the Philippines, under Philippine family law or child protective law, a man can't be alone in private or public unless it's one of his own blood. So, if you are married to a single mom, or living with a single mom, you can't ever be alone in the house or in public with that child without risking having a complaint filed against you at the local police department. This can happen in the event a jealous father of the child/children finds out his ex-gf is living with, or married to a foreigner who has financial assets and who is giving his ex-gf a better life. And, adoption can't be done unless the father is willing to sign over all rights to the child. The courts give the blood father full rights, even though he may or may not have given one pesos in support. There are situations in which the father of the child will demand money for signing over rights. Date or marry a single mom in which the father's name and signature is not on the child's birth certificate. If it is, then expect long and expensive legal process to locate the father, deal with him (if possible), and deal with the long and expensive legal hurdles to adopt a child in the Philippines.
You make many good points. I have heard you can register with the local officials if the mother signs forms and documents stating that she is allowing her child to be with a foreigner.
"In situations where tough choices have to be made, a single mother will often prioritize the well-being of her child over that of her husband. This is because she recognizes that her child needs more care and attention, while her husband is an adult who can take care of himself. Furthermore, the bond between a mother and child is stronger, as the husband may leave her, but the child will always be a part of her life."
No one can argue with these points that you’ve made. Thanks for watching our video and taking time to share.
Yup, and I will never disturb that bond 😅
That's why it's a great responsibility for a man to take on this role. Most single mothers already have it in their minds that the man could leave at any time, so they subconsciously sabotage their relationships with the man by showing him how lesser of importance he is in the relationship. A humble single mom is what's needed for a successful relationship. Yet a lot of them walk around with their heads held high, almost as if they believe their Sexual marketplace value (SMV) is on the same level as a woman with no kids coming into a relationship.
I love your lovely view on Life! 😊
Thank you! 😊
Very brave of you to do this video & it was well answered for the most part :). Couple of things though.
1. What is the situation now with your former husband/partner? This issue (which I think is biggest for us foreigners) of how the ex partner is still involved in the child’s life is a HUGE potential problem. If they can come back at anytime & be fully in the child’s life it will cause many issues for the foreigner. The kid will not look at them as a dad like their own dad. I have heard a number of stories where everything was going great until the ex randomly chose to reenter the kids life & upheave the relationship between the foreigner & his wife. Surprised you never addressed this issue at all.
2. What is Rob’s input in your child’s life now? Everything I have seen up to now has not had your child as part of anything. I believe you said he is living there but sleeps with grandparents? I’m curious what part Rob plays in your boys life if much at all? We don’t get to see him interact with your son ever, so I do wonder if he’s quite seperate from actually building a father/son connection or we just don’t see it? Would be nice to see some future vids if them together & see how they connect. I only say this as when I look at single mums with kids, I’m very curious to see how that connection does or doesn’t work.
I know it’s a touchy subject but as you did the video I thought now is best time to ask. Thanks!
Thanks Mr. Nathan for your questions and for your support here in the Philippines children sleep with their parents or relatives until a very late age and advantage of having Chrissy‘s father here in the house is that we can have privacy in our bedroom like in the west and yet we don’t traumatize the child and make them sleep alone, which is very unnatural and Chrissy would not allow Other issues we have to work through as it relates to privacy and how much sharing is in the best interest and not taking advantage of the child for commercial means
As a man that had married two single mothers in the past, the answer is no for me. There are to many variables that come into play and as far as my experience things never ended well.
Sorry to hear that thanks for watching our video and sharing your experience with us
👍 you did a great job😊
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WoW, Chrissy ! What an excellent monologue.
You might have missed your calling. Well, it's not too late.
The secret word that you said and the Beatles said it is:
All you need is LOVE ❤
Of course, you have to be careful you find the right woman, children, and family to give your love.
If everything is done right. When you give your love.
The reward will be beyond your imagination to all involved.
There is no greater thing than: LOVE
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I married a single mom of six. It is a blessed life.❤
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Desperate!
Lucky You ok
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Love your story Krissie. 👍
Thank you! 😊
I have heard more stories of mothers cheating than fathers in the Philippines, but like always, society must always hold the men responsible for both, his and the woman's poor choices
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Maybe those stories are the ones you prefer to listen too?
Goes both ways that’s for sure! There not all princesses 😮
What do you mean? Women are wonderful!
I think I understand your point. Usually, in the west, the response women have to a man cheating is something like "Men are such dogs." But often when a woman cheats, the response women have is "Her husband didn't appreciate her enough, so it was just a matter of time until another man did. 🤷". So, when a man cheats it's his fault and when a woman cheats it's also his fault. 😉
That might be a little too cynical a take, but I understand how it SEEMS like it's the case. Most women who cheat say they do so because they don’t receive emotional satisfaction from their partners. So, in their mind, it's their husband's fault. However, they are more likely to engage in emotional cheating than sexual cheating. Men are more likely to engage in sexual cheating...although that gap is narrowing more and more all the time (probably because society is telling women they are justified in cheating. "You deserve to be treated like a queen! Replace anyone who doesn't treat you that way!").
It's all a mess. People should keep their promises...about how they will treat their spouses AND about how they will be faithful to their spouses. That's the only answer that will ever work. Unfortunately, it takes two decent people and not all marriages have that many.
i am a child to a single mother* my step father marry my mother when i was 7 or 8 my real father left my mother when she got pragnent ..... soo, i dont see a problem to marry a single mother as long as there is love
Thanks for watching our channel and taking time to share your personal story
Theres a lot of ignorant, unhappy, disaffected or estranged people out there with their anger and negativity. Thats a matter for them.
I like watching your channel 😊
We like having you here, Scott and thank you for putting out those positive vibes
Rob did NOT settle for a women with a child, rather he fell in love with a beautiful woman with a beautiful heart who happened to have a child. It was magic and meant to be. Right Chrissy and Rob?
Yes, we totally agree. Such a beautiful thought and so well put.
If Rob is happy with you and your son that’s really all that matters from his perspective. Just as long as you and your son are happy that’s all that’s matters from your perspective also . Remember some of the comments are coming from unhappy people who trying make comments to derail your happiness to make them feel better their miserable lives.
BigDave thanks for that.
Superb video. Being a father of 7 and raising the last 4 as a single dad, when dating a Filipina, parenthood was not an issue. For some, it is an issue and that needs to be discussed early in a relationship. Being the sperm donor is not the qualifier of being a father.
Hi Albert, good to see you here again thanks for your insightful comment as always
I think this is a good video, as long as the two individuals are in agreement and work together and love each other and communicate all should be well, and the child is a bonus if you love the mother and are willing to accept him or her.
@@omarburton1715 Thanks Omar
Rob and i apparently think similarly. It is a fair and realistic decision to seek a woman who already has a kid, thus less pressure to have more. Bottom line, a man does need to like children and be capable of being a father to someone elses kid(s). Kudos to the both of you!
@@Alan-BonneyLake-yr2ry thanks Alan really appreciate receiving your thoughts and feedback
This is a great video. If a woman was a single mother, I would respect her even more. It is so difficult for her, and my love would be even greater for her and her children
Well said! We agree
Thank you
You're welcome
I have been with a Filipina for 7 years, She is a gold digger and the biggest liar I have ever met. I was stuck helping her ungrateful family. Not all Filipinas are like this. I just wound up with the wrong one. For me to take care of a woman with a child , she must be grateful. If I found the right girl I don't mind. I am currently not looking. It feels good to be single. If the right one arrives, maybe.
Be patient and you will find one that has never been married and has no children, in my opinion, you should completely avoid any and all single mothers
Gonna be brutally honest with you, because you need it, okay? Don't lash out at the messenger.
If you've been SEVEN years with what you consider a gold-digger, then you also need to reevaluate your fitness and mental maturity in regards to knowing how women operate in general, and especially to recognize a worthy partner.
If you just expect the next woman being better, instead of already *knowing* she is after three months of dating, then you will fail again and spent another seven years being a pushover.
Be better. Know your worth. Own your shit.
Danielle, sorry to hear about your experience but we appreciate you watching our video and taking time to share with others
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@@Abelius I am not going to lash out. Just learned from my experience. I have my own property. I was involved in a relationship. We were going to get married. I wanted her to sign a prenup. I worked hard , I do not want her to keep my property. She cried , she refused to sign . The wedding was called off. What I learned is a valuable lesson. I do not take this as a bad experience. I take this as learning experience. In life we make mistakes learn from it , just don't repeat it. I told her all she wanted was my money. She then married another person with no prenup. after 5 years she divorced him and took everything.This could've been me. This taught me something. Protect your assets always. Learn life's lessons... so you don't repeat the same mistake.
I met my Filipina wife when I was 48 and she was 36. We both have children from previous relationships as well as a child together. 10 years on we now live in the Philippines. Her daughter is essentially my daughter. I supported her at school and now support her at university. She has her own room/bathroom in our house
Joshua it sounds amazing and a great life. You are blessed.
Having done it once, I must give a resounding no as my answer. There is no shortage of women without children in the Philippines.
Thanks for your honest opinion JD
I was a husband to a single Mom. And it wasn't easy by any means. But I took on the responsibility willingly. I feel that people should not weigh in on other people's lives and have to explain to others why. Continued Blessings to your Family...
Thanks Stephen we appreciate your here. I’m for sharing also.
I concur with your perspective on single motherhood. I was raised by a stepfather who was an exceptional mentor. As a single man contemplating relocation to the Philippines with the intention of starting a family, I am particularly drawn to the idea of partnering with a woman who already has a child. I am fully committed to providing the necessary guidance and support to ensure the child's success and well-being. In fact, the prospect of raising a child as my own holds greater appeal to me than the notion of starting a family with a woman who does not have children.
Don’t Do it Don’t Do it
Thanks Ron for taking the time to share your thoughts. I agree with them.
😊 Goodness, IN MY HEART ❤️. I raised 7 kids with 1 woman for 25 years.❤❤ Divorced 10 years now, at 60. I would joined another wonderful woman that had 7 daughters from her 1 marriage, but she was told not to since I am 12 years older.
Nothing wrong with a single mother with kids! ❤ 😊 As long as her BEHAVIOR BEFORE AND AT PRESENT ARE OF GOOD MORAL INTENTIONS. 😊
As a dad, I've had daycare children for years to protect.
Had 2 foreign exchange students in high school recently.
FAMILY CAN BE WHOM EVER YOU CARE DEEPLY ABOUT AND ENJOY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS WITH. ❤❤
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Have an amazing evening, take care and God bless you 🙏 😊
Thanks George
It's really a sign of a healthy and mature man, that he has allowed his heart to be healed and has opened himself to love more.
A man that will love not only his lady but all that is important to her, shows his character.
It shows that he is at a place in his life to truly give of himself.
The comments here that go against this video, you can feel their personal discontent.
Forgive all who have wronged you, so that God can clean your heart.
You will have a healthy outlook in life, and be a partner worthy of a filipina flower.
Otherwise, what are you looking for?
You can choose to be with a single lady, but don't have a toxic heart.
Speak a blessing to Rob and Crissy, and be happy for what they have.
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Spoken like a true feminist
I think you two are GREAT and I think you both have a healthy attitude. And I also think what I and others think doesn't really matter, as long as you two are happy and taking good care of each other and your child, all is well as that is what matters, not what others think. But since you asked. . . Unlike you two, I've never had kids. I've not previously wanted kids as I didn't think I could do it all, provide, give them enough time and stay competitive career-wise. Also, I have concerns about divorces which are the norm over here. My own parents had a horrible messy divorce and as a child, I was caught up in it. I don't want to bring children into this world and subject them to that. There are some big cultural differences between the west and Ph, you don't hear modern western women using phrases like "light of the house" and talking about having kids as a joyful duty. Honestly many seem to resent the option of having a child or doing anything domestic. We are so darn competitive over here and so divided that society, education, health and childcare are not good. So, since I've never had children, I'm in a different boat. I think that at this stage in my life I could provide for a family in the Ph, and maybe find a partner who would actually look towards her ability to have children with joy, and I think I could both provide and be present. So, If I do decide to go for kids, I would greatly prefer someone who also doesn't already have children so we could take that journey together. But that is my thoughts for me, no judgment for you two. Actually, that isn't true, there is some judgment for you two. . .I think you both are great and great for each other! Cheers.
Thanks, Dr. James for watching our video and crafting such a well written comment
My son's mom left us when my son was 16 months old and I raised him by myself. Drugs and alcohol were more important to her than our son and she left with another guy. Furthermore, she had 3 more kids. 2 she did the same thing left the child with the dad and 1 died from crack addiction. She finally found the right guy for her, a drug dealer.
Wow so sorry to hear that but thank you for watching our video and taking the time to share your experience
I am happy for you as a family because you understand what the 4 letter word is! LOVE. To say I love ice cream it’s not love. To love Chrissy because she is beautiful and has a beautiful body, not not love. LOVE IS WANTING THE BEST FOR EACH OTHER. Like your mother, your father, your sister your friend, your husband and son etc. Thank you for sharing. You both truly love each other!
Love this comment thank you
Yes, Yes! YES!! Pure Unconditional Love. Perfectly said! It's not relatives, it's connection, spiritual connection. The attraction of souls. The attraction to the attributes of God that you see in each other. "We are the flowers of one garden, the leaves of one sea" Baha'i
Thanks for this poetic comment beautiful
I just broke up with my fiancé who has 3 daughters. What I realized over the year we were together, I’ll never be a priority and she’s using me for money and a visa to the U.S. I also believe her parents are in on it too. I lost a lot of money and have a broken heart but at least I won’t end up in a miserable marriage. I know not all Filipinos are like this but it seems lying and scamming is very common in the Philippines. I’m not sure if I’ll try looking for anyone else over there again. I like the people, the culture and the women in my opinion are far better than here in the west but it seems to be difficult to find someone without ulterior motives.
@@scottc4206 Scott, sorry to hear about your experience, but I appreciate you taking the time to share with our subscribers
Thanks Chrissy. I love your perspective. Rob is a lucky man. I am 64, and I don't even know who my father is. Your son will not have that problem, and with Rob as a father figure, and you as his mum, his future is looking good. I am currently in an LDR with a mum of two from the province. I would have no hesitation taking on a father figure roll to her two children, 5 and 16. Ignore the haters, they are going to hate regardless.
Thanks for watching our video and taking the time to share your thoughts. We appreciate the feedback.
Absolutely beautiful and accurate video.
My 2nd marriage was to single mom, 4 boys 8 thru 14 After all kids grew up and a few years she passed.
I’m now dating a Filipina widow (in USA) with one daughter 23 yrs old, oh yeah I’m 71 and she is 56 ❤❤
Such an interesting life history thanks for watching our video and taking the time to share your story
I would only allow my affections to be for a single mom if she is a widower. There's no way I would involve myself with a woman knowing as a foreigner, the father has a huge advantage over me with the woman and her children or child.
On the other hand, if she is a widower, and this was a love that would had exist if the guy lived, then thats a plus because, it shows her devotion without the emotional scars of a bad relationship. Therefore, if her mourning was complete, and shes open to have a new healthy relationship, then I see nothing wrong with taking her into my life. There are no options for the child, you are the only example of a man she/he would come to know if the mom and the man loves eachother.
I am currently in this situation where my lovely beautiful Filipina significant other died and they had one 6 year old daughter. A year later, i came into their lives and we both love eachothers very much. The daughter call me uncle... i know i could never be her father, but i can be there for her.
I understand your thoughts thanks for sharing. I think it’s OK if you proceeded with a lot of caution and you make sure the X is not going to be a problem. Maybe he’s already moved on as another life and with another woman.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Her ex is gone... he died. She's a widow.
In America (USA, Canada), many young couples prefer to have dogs instead of childs. We live in a strange world.
Interesting point
It would depend on the mother, in particular her true attachment to the guy. The ex needs to be permanently absent ideally.
As a western guy I’m jaded and mistrustful
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
What's the deal with "law" about being alone with your girl friend's or boyfriend's child if they're under 18? How does Rob deal with this restriction? Will that restriction change once you're married?
I believe if you register at the Barangay , that’s one way to handle it certainly being married you become quasi related and you also register at theBarangay
Outstanding perspective! The appreciate you sharing! Peace ☮️
Michael, thanks for watching our video and taking the time to comment
if the woman is true to relationship a man will absolutely accept and love her children.
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Personally, I would prefer a Filipina with a child/children. I very much enjoyed raising my older children and would find it rewarding to be blessed with another chance at it. I feel that as a mother, a woman would definitely be more mature, settled and levelheaded. While some mention the added expense, I feel that if a guy feels that way, he really needs to look for a woman with no children. Great subject/content Chrissy, enjoyed it.
Thanks, Bob for sharing your thoughts and for your continued support
Any healthy male can become a father.
However a dad shows emotion, listens, plays, educates, counsels, demonstrates positive male behavior and becomes a caregiver who raises a child with love, care and attention.
So true thanks for sharing and taking the time to write your comment
Why not have your own children, rather than adopt? I wonder if a lot of guys want an easy out if/when the time comes.
Chrissy, it will be clear from a search of my comment history that I have an inordinate amount of affection for you and Rob despite the fact that I only “know” you through UA-cam. 😄 That’s partly a testament to how good you two are at making these videos, but I also think it’s because your genuine personalities shine through and you’re both very likeable people.
And I don’t disagree with anything you said in this video.
However [HERE IT COMES! 😆], having said that, let me offer a different perspective. 😉
I married a single mom with 4 kids (two boys and two girls). One of them was a special needs boy (not that that is overly relevant to my story). When the woman and I were dating - for about 5 years - she acted like she thought I hung the moon. Nevertheless, people thought I was crazy to marry her with all those kids. Who do you think ended up being right?
When we married
- I became her lowest priority…meaning behind her, her kids, and anything else she had going on in her life. The only way I could have gotten any lower would have been to cease to exist.
- From the beginning, her oldest daughter - a teenager - refused to accept me and she had a lot of influence over the other daughter (but the youngest daughter and I still had a better relationship than I had with any of the others because she knew she was the SECOND lowest priority her mom had).
- The woman essentially wanted me to raise her kids while she worked as a nurse and took online classes to become a Nurse Practitioner. Meanwhile, I had lost my day shift computer position and was sent to a swing-shift, high overtime, high stress hellscape of a blue-collar position that only allowed me time to work and sleep and that was all.
- The woman became more and more upset that I wasn’t spending more time with her kids watching TV and hanging out. She didn’t care that my job situation had changed. She began to pick more and more fights with me. (To be fair, I'm sure she was also tired of hearing me complain about my job).
- At the same time, she started talking about and regularly texting a doctor she had started working with. Even though she was just one of many nurses that worked with him and he was only one of many doctors she worked with, they definitely had developed the stereo-typical “work wife” and “work husband” relationship.
- We went to a Halloween party at his house and, despite the fact that his wife was beautiful and actually won “sexiest costume” at the party, the doctor was obviously flirting with my wife and blatantly eyeing her. (To be clear, I am not above confronting a guy if he crosses a line…but he didn’t go that far. He could have played the “I’m just kidding!” card and I would have looked like the jerk. Plus, I never believed for an instant that she would really cheat on me. Because I trusted her…).
- She wanted us to take a scuba diving trip to Mexico with him and his wife. I don’t scuba dive and neither does his wife. She said we could do what we wanted while she and the doctor scuba dived. She was furious when I said I didn’t want to do that.
- I found out she had three bank accounts other than the one she shared with me. The other accounts were supposedly dedicated to different things like her kids’ social security deposits, etc. The account that was used to pay the bills (including the bills related to her kids) was, of course, the one she shared with me.
I could go on and on and ON. You can predict the end. I never caught her cheating, but there is only so much smoke I can put up with and still deny that there seems to be a fire. I kicked her out, we divorced, she and the doctor went to Mexico for their diving trip sometime later, his wife filed for divorce (I have no idea if the trip and the divorce had anything to do with each other), apparently my ex and the doctor had some kind of falling out after that, etc.
The point of my tale is that I took the leap of faith with a single mom (who seemed to ADORE me when we were dating) and all I got from it was a lot of trouble, a slightly smaller bank account, a larger distrust of women when they tell me how amazing I am, and 3 wasted years.
I should add, however, that there WERE red flags that I ignored when I started dating her. So that's on me. And I don't believe my ex is representative of the typical single mom. But she also probably isn't as rare as one might like to think.
Thanks for your support and sharing your story.
@Rlh125. Having had a bad relationship before, it was painful reading your experience. Remember that not all women are the same. While it's its totally understandable to feel cautious after an experience like what you went through, but try to remember the majority of Filipinas are the most loving women in the world. I hope in time your heart will heal and you will find the ONE that is meant to be perfect for you. Try hard not to let one bad apple define your view of all Filipinas or an entire gender. So sorry for what you went through. My Filipina wife often says “the world is round and the pain they gave will come back to them”. Good luck RLH125
@@oviecarroll126 Thanks very much for that. By the way, just to be clear, my ex wasn't a Filipina. She was just a cookie-cutter "me first" western woman. I'm the type of guy who can look back and see my fault in past relationships...but, in this case, I know I didn't do anything to her to deserve what happened. Well, except ignore some red flags from her past and give her the benefit of the doubt that she was who she claimed to be and not who her past suggested she was.
Oh well. That was 10 years ago and my life has been much better without her. 😉
@@oviecarroll126 Great comment Jack
No, been in this situating here in the states, never a good thing. Man takes on the responsibility of family and raising the children with none of the authority for the child. Gets attached to the child and then she runs off and cheats or worst decides she wants a divorce. You, as the man became attached to the kids and never gets to see them again. Really. will tear a man apart. In another case, a friend of mine decided to adopt the children and then after a year or two she files for a divorce. That man that was generous with his heart, will not have visitation rights but will be required to pay child support. Which was a choice by the man, yes. Is also punished by the courts for having a good heart. I myself have dated single moms but it will never go anywhere, because of life experiences and friends' experiences. I am 60 years old; I have never been married with no kids and not really looking to get married in the future, not a priority. Not to be critical of the content but you said write my thoughts. Plus, opinions are like ____, everyone has one, you can fill in the blank. God bless
Thanks for watching our video William and taking the time to write down your thoughts we really appreciate you sharing them here
Like your thoughts on the matter. Very succinct.
Chrissy you forgat Reason #6 . I was married to a filipina for 10 years . We had two beautiful daughters . Then out of nowhere she left me , because she fall in Love with a Filipino . So don't forget Reason #6 😅. It's not always the man's fault .
Thanks for sharing your story
Great video, thanks, Chrissy! I looked for a woman in her 30s, with just one child, in his or her teens, widowed preferably and educated, who wouldn't want more children. Any descent man would love that womans' child as if his own, and help raise him or her to the best of his abilities. These beautiful Filipinas deserve better lives than what their culture, and life has given them.
Russel Thanks for sharing!!
The partner's children are not complete strangers. They are the children of the woman I love, that makes a difference.
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Keep telling yourself that, we have to make justifications to ourselves to stay in denial of whats' really going on. The father is not paying, and she's not contributing to her kids' support. You are her 'beta provider' all the way.
Since you love the hen the chicken have to be loved, remember the mother ought to let the children know her husband or friend ought to be respected at all costs.
@@richardduncan3044 thanks for sharing your thoughts, Richard
I didnt hear a benefit for dating a single mom here. Did I miss it? He is older and didnt want kids so he can pay for yours?
You want more kids but decided not to because he is taking care of yours?
This can be solved with just finding someone who doesnt want kids or cant have kids. You suggest a compromise which can also be accomplished with starting a new family.
Just be straight, there is no benefit for dating a single mom. To say it any other way is disingenuous.
On the strong, independent part. It matters not to me, how a couple decides to set up their relationship financially. But arent men running from the west to avoid the illusion of strong and independent women? Definitely running from single moms claiming to be such who are dependent on men.
This video is such a weird take in general.
Thanks for watching our channel and for taking the time to write your thoughts
I hope you talk Rob into having a little girl! 🙏🙏❤️❤️
Eric 😂
Hi, I am the man you talked about as being on the extreme end of having a relationship with a single, married mother of 5 children. Her husband abandon her and her 5 children 11 years ago and has never even visited his children or provided any support. For me the relationship was never a problem or challenge. For me if you love the woman, then you accept and love the children. I did and do. Now we have a 6 year old child of our own so we now have the 6 kids you reffered to. In our case the only problem is getting her single so we can get married. We are hopping the divorce law that passed the house of representatives will also pass the Senate and then be signed into law. Other wise we will have to wait on an annulment. I enjoyed your vlog.
Thanks for sharing your experience and the feedback
Some people can afford a instant family. Me I can t. But I understand how hard it is to raise a family.
Yes, it takes resources Toby, commitment, and time
Chrissy looking extra very mommy today . always nice to see her . very honorable woman .
"wisdom is proved by its children " or its results, when the young Son grows up grateful, educated , confident , successful , it will show Rob and Chrissy made a good choice,
Thanks Rory
A Step Father, is not the same of having your own. I'm telling you from experience. You can say or think whatever you wish, it's your opinion. Switch it, for you being a Step Mother, is not the same. As a Mother or Father you sacrifice your life for them, not so if it's not.
Blood is thicker than water cheers
Thanks for watching and giving us your thoughts
Interesting. I'll look into this. I have a few single moms stalking me.
Thanks for watching Ken. Good luck.
I want to be with someone but I'm scared of not living long enough.
Im 65 years old now I love kids but at my age I don't know if I have the energy to help raise a kid.
I dated single moms here in West and been hurt.
Because you love the kids as well as the mom.
It hurts because you can't see the kids if it doesn't work out with the the mom😢
It’s definitely a gamble and there’s plenty of downside risk
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Do you think a single mom would have me at 65 years old and I'm disabled?
@@hermanedwards1981 Sure - I think it’s worth a try
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Even with my disability?
And heath problems?
@@hermanedwards1981 I am not familiar with the particular issues
I am dating a married woman in the Philippines. When I first met, and as an American, I thought no problem if it works she can just get a divorce. Wrong. But I didn’t have a clue. The Philippines and the Vatican are the only two places where divorce doesn’t exist(maybe soon). If I had it to do over again I WOULD NOT DATE A MARRIED WOMAN. With that said I would date a single mom if she were unmarried or if she had an annulment.
Thanks, Papa Doug as always it’s great to see you here and thanks for sharing your thoughts
What kind of a man what’s another man’s seed walking around his pad? 🤷♂️🙅♂️
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@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Only men share their pot of gold to help raise another man’s seed 😊
NO
Thanks for watching and thanks for offering your opinion