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I wish I watched this pod cast 2.5 years ago.... Nooooooo (PS: If your divorcing somebody with a mental health condition, HAVE AN ESCAPE PLAN to get you and the children out BEFORE you notify them the relationship is over. This is to prevent false claims of abuse and often arrest which is DEFINITELY a possibility). You have been warned, protect YOURSELF and your KIDS....
I'm lucky enough to have a Christian Slavic ethnicity where divorce is rare. All these videos about divorce and the father having to bargain for time with the kids is really sad. But I guess that's what you get when you marry a Western woman who prioritizes material things over a solid foundation of household.
Yes, sadly it is. I didn't know Christian Slavic had such a good foundation. Im Catholic and married into a Southern Baptist family. All they care about is if your saved. Everything else goes out the window to Western culture....🙄
Friendly advice - please don't be so sure. I am lawyer from Poland who deals also with family courts. Our population consist of ruthly 95% of catholics. Divorce stats from 2016 are that 46% of all marriages ends in divorce in first 10 years.
@@tomaszgolembiewski4582 hmm interesting. Maybe I speak for 1st generation Slavs living in America and its anecdotal evidence, but very few ppl within my community and my wife's community get divorced. Thx for the info.
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Western women are horrible stains on the planet. Point blank.
Dodged a big bullet by not pursuing my ex gf for marriage. She wanted it. I didn't. Luckily I broke it off with her as I noticed things we'rent working out between us.
I did the same thing a couple years ago. It was then that I realized how easy it is to fall into the trap of being with someone who you truly shouldn't be with. Together for nearly 4 years, lived together for almost all of them, and the next "logical" step (according to the social norm) would be for me to get on one knee. I've never been happier since we split! We're still friends, but I couldn't imagine life with her forever. I'm 28 now, and excited for the future.
i am in a similar situation, I am 21 and my girlfriend is 25, I love her and she is super hot, but she want to get married around 28-30, but I never will marry make kids before 36-38, what are your opinions should I quit the relationship immediately or should I just relax and see what the future will bring?
Pennsylvania Divorce and Family Law attorney here. In my opinion, Rich is correct when he states that divorce and child custody laws can vary widely from state to state. Smart money is spent on understanding your rights and responsibilities BEFORE you get married. Spend an hour or two with a family law attorney in your jurisdiction BEFORE you send out wedding invitations, perhaps even before you buy an engagement ring. If you have accumulated assets or have a high earning capacity (present or future earnings) talk to an experienced family law attorney about a valid, properly drafted and executed prenup. If you are married already and want to get uncoupled, spend some time with a family law attorney in your jurisdiction who will help guide you. Many of my clients conference with me a year (or longer) before they take any action. This may often help avoid common pitfalls. Many people have no idea what they are getting into when they get married.
@@billjohnson5137 Speaking of engaged, that is the most sex a guy is ever going to get from that woman. The peak just before as she snares you into her web and just after as she prevents buyers remorse. Then gradually the wedding planning will be tiring and she won't want to. On your wedding night, she will say, oh I am too tired, how about tomorrow. Then you know you are really screwed!
@@superchuck3259..forget prenup....judge can throw it out for any reason they want...divorce court is not like civil or criminal court...forget the constitution lol
@@workingshlub8861 Yep, I know prenups are worthless. My idea to reform marriage would be to just allow 1 marriage for a person. If divorced then neither person can get married again. Marriage is a terrible idea for most men!
@@superchuck3259you are on the right track...or make it like drivers license..gotta renew every 5 years....marriage licenses never expire and they should.
I overheard a woman in the gym the other day yapping to a friend about how much it's costing to finance her upcoming wedding. Then I saw that the Groom was also in the gym. It took a lot for me not to pull him aside and tell him to run. I felt like I had cheated him by keeping the truth to myself.
This is not 1950 or prior where the brides family pays for the whole wedding, honeymoon, gives them the down payment for house. Now marriage is like a reverse dowry. The groom and the grooms family pays for half or all of the wedding, honeymoon. Bride is broke. Brides family is broke. And then wedding guests are just a bonus with their gifts. I went to a wedding a little while ago and realize what a scam it is The couple makes their friends think they are so special because they got invited to their wedding, like they did them a favor. When in reality they got everyone to pay for wedding, honeymoon and give them thousands of dollars in gifts.
Some women wear wasting money on a huge party with lots of decorations as a badge of honor. Shows her high status. Just like women that get men to take them on trips or spend on expensive dinners. Status based on spending excessively money she doesn't have. A head start on making her man into a human ATM machine. Weddings used to be at the Church, then at people's homes for reception party. Now days, that is not good enough, so wedding halls with crappy overpriced food. Men when women start asking, "Where is this going?" say, well if you mean marriage, well I don't do weddings, pause and see her response. It will tell you whether she is after the adventure or after a fulfilling life with you along with 3+ kids.
Every women I've known who demanded an expensive wedding ends up divorced within 7-10 years. This statement has yet to be challenged. If a women is so stupid as to waste their money, it speaks volumes as to her lack of reason and intelligence. Save the $100k wedding and retire 2-5 years earlier.
Good advice! Especially, the part about divorce being hard. It was the hardest and most stressful thing I've ever been through and I've been homeless. I would add, try to initiate the divorce first. Being the petitioner has its advantages. It doesn't mean that you won't lose, but you will have some advantages.
I'm going through this. Trust me it is so f-ing stressful. Getting out of bed in the morning is hard. Not going down the rabbit hole is very hard task. Depression is the devil on your shoulders. Do hit the gym and eat for your health. Anytime Fitness is $30. Per month and no contract. That's where I belong. Make yourself priority. You have to be priority to take care of your children and others....
Everyone arround me is shaking his head when I tell them I will never marry. Divorce rate in Germany was 38% in 2017. I always ask them if they would take a plane when it crashed with a chance of 38%.
I always think those stats are not true. I think people who marry around post 2005 will have about a 80% divorce rate. And of those 20% left, how many have had wives cheat on them, how many will be happy? 10% max I'd say. The problem is that people who become engaged are in a cult. You can tell them all the stats and experiences in the world and it doesn't matter. Their relationship is not part of those stats. They are special.
I use the analogy, I"ve got an investment opportunity for you, give me $100 and there is a 50% chance you'll lose half of it and if you don't I'll give you $100 back in 20 years
@@jamesp9226 exactly. The math is all wrong. The 50% stat comes from the fact that the number of recorded divorces is about the same as the number of marriages. But thats just 1 year. In the next year if you are married you are still in the 50/50 pool
Great video, Richard. One thing I would add from my experience is that if you're a man getting a divorce and you have a full-tine job and a side business, you may want to put the side business on hold while you and your wife are separated. I have a $70,000 per year job with benefits but I also have a landscaping business I operate on weekends which earns me another $25,000 per year net. When we got divorced, I was forced to include the additional $25,000 I earned in determining the child support order which gives my ex-wife another $400 per month. The woman judge in our case had no understanding of the fact that I am killing myself by physically laboring to earn this extra money just to make ends meet for myself. To the courts, income is income whether you're buying and selling baseball cards on eBay or building flagstone patios. However, if I were to become physically unable to do the extra work or if I were to decided not to do the weekend work anymore so that I could spend more time with my kids or my girlfriend, I would have to go back to court to have my child support reduced and that process would take about a year to go through. Even then, the court may deny my request to reduce my child support because they would say that I'm "voluntarily impoverishing myself" even though I still have the $70,000 per year job! I should have handed over my side business customers to a partner or asked my customers to pay me in cash until AFTER the divorce was finalized and then picked it back up later, if I wanted to, but not have told my ex-wife about it. Now I'm stuck working 65 hours per week until my kids are 18.
Yep, lesson to all hard working men out there. STOP IT!!! When the wife gives you the faintest warning that she wants to divorce you. Stop earning extra money like with side businesses. Better to just sell it or close it down. Or put the side business income in her name, devious idea I just had. Also cut out the OT. Take extra days off to poke your head around to see what she is up to and make it to kids award ceremonies and activities(USA has a law allowing 24 hours off a year towards kids activities protected from bosses saying no, research yourself for details). Also if the kids are over 5 years old and in school, ask her to get a job. Get some income in her name if she is not working. If you know things are going tits up, there are many other things you can do, but overall relax, you are in it together, she goes down with the ship too! Spend, buy that lunch instead of eating left overs, join that gym, take that vacation, just let loose, it will all come crashing down soon! Thanks for sharing to reinforce this point I have about men not focusing on work anymore if divorce is looming. Heck if the wife ways, oh you are never around. Take a day off and surprise her, lets you see what she is doing all day, be prepared to catch her cheating too!
@@superchuck3259 BIG point here is to stop working OT!!! When my last few pay checks had OT on it, the courts considered that my income in their child support calculator and then I had to always commit to OT work to make ends meet with the higher child support rating.
@@CyphR1 Yep, I know of Terrance Popp saying he had a much higher paying job in the past 3 years used in the calculations because he got deployed and also mortgage industry was in decline. So courts were basing the finances off inaccurate information. Yep, exactly making anyone that earns more the financial slave to those working less!
@Fit freak Exactly, if you don't intend to have a ton of kids, talking 3+, why would marriage ever be an idea. For 1 kids a woman hardly deserves the benefits of marriage, just pay the child support and visit your kid. 2 Still not enough. Okay 3 is reasonable. 4 Give both of ya a medal. 5+ Bare foot and pregnant rules. All that said, if you never want kids, better get snipped and use a condom.
“Spend time with the kids”. Did that. Mom tried to get me to move out but I wouldn’t. We were “Separated under the same roof for over 4 months”. She finally cracked and moved out. During the entire time, I did everything. She just vedged in her room talking to my replacement on line. She convinced the kids to take her side and now am totally alienated from them.
@@eurotrashy2333 10 years later, we are reconnecting. My challenge is opening up to them for my feelings are to tell them "Your resignation has long ago been accepted " I am fighting the temptation to do this
I had to trick my ex into signing the divorce paperwork. I sent her the first set of papers and she "lost" them (I lived in Las Vegas and she lived in Chicago). The divorce laws in Vegas are pretty fair towards men and I had a great group of guys in my corner called Equal Rights For Divorced Fathers and Ernest Del Casal (highly recommended). They prevented me from getting screwed. How I tricked her was to have her meet me at the library where we'd do the weekend kid exchange but I had my paralegal meet me there. I stuck the paperwork in front of her and she sheepishly looked at it and signed it and had it notarized right there. She couldn't act up in public in a busy library.
Well he is someone who is divorced that will help men as he is experienced. Joke is there are women, 41 years plus, that have never been married trying to coach men into being able to date women. Fleeces the men for money and gives terrible advice. Most men wanting to date are not looking for just sex, a hooker would do, but those men want to marry and have kids. Sadly she doesn't know how to get married, easy as cream pie for a woman, and same cream pie to have kids too. But maybe this is good, men robbed of money by her will have less money thus making him less attractive to women. Now as far as Divorce advice, why worry, half the money comes from the soon to be Ex wife.
@@superchuck3259 I would never take a dating advice from a woman. No, I don't doubt that Richards coaching is useful, just that it is rather expensive.
Great points, I'm going through a separation now. I tried to stay in the family home but, the arguing got to be too toxic for my comfort level with having our kids around, 5 / 7 and my step daughter 15. I chose to move out. My wife created a schedule for the kids where I get them an equal amount of time. In Ohio, you can't file a dissolution until after being separated 30 days. I met with 3 attorneys for consultation so, I did my homework. When my wife started asking me for money / "child support", I was advised by my attorney not to give her any money until a court order. Anything I give her now is considered a gift. At that precise moment is when I saw the person I had not married. I'd seen it a few times (more than a few) in our relationship and marriage. When woman lose your resources, they will turn into your nightmare. Currently she is plotting to file with both children on her income tax even though we had agreed together to each claim one to be fair. She claims she needs the money to survive. Her and I come in relatively close on income with her being the bread winner by around a $12 difference. She's receives $400 a month for her first child and works full time. Right now, I'm trying to keep the peace long enough to retain my attorney and file the dissolution. The cost will be around $1,650 to get it filed and have a judge come in to do the proceeding. Keeping her patient in the process has been tough. I've explained to her that, shared parenting may result in her receiving less in support which turned her into the demon that she really is and she threatened to file for a divorce instead of working together on a dissolution. It's a mess but, I can say, waking up in my own condo and not having to deal with the stress is by far worth it. Guys if you're wavering on leaving, you're actually wavering on your own happiness and hers'. Although, I know now, she'll never be truly happy, which is very sad. Wish me luck!
Good luck and prayers. Sounds like the marriage was a short one if you can file dissolution. Good thing is she works and she can work forever. Some women just do not deserve to be taken care of financially anyways.
My uncle's ex wife was counteracting my uncle's attempts to use video recording in his defense by alleging that he's been trying to record inappropriate (voyeuristic) videos of their kids. As in including these allegations in the several FALSE police reports she made against him, in order to force him out of his own house once a certain threshold quantity of domestic abuse reports have been made against him, and then comes the restraining order which leads to eviction from the "matrimonial home". At least in New York that's how the story went. This is after she initiated the no-fault divorce, by the way. She even went as far as alleging that he molested the family dog. Anyway, the 3rd strike came as a really nasty, untimely surprise; he left for work in the early morning as usual and came home in the late evening (as usual, long commute) to find the house dark and with no one there - also not unusual; she'd often go out of her way to alienate him from the kids by conveniently "coincidentally" disappear with the kids to her parent's house or to a friend's house just before he gets home and then maybe reappearing with them by bedtime. Anyway, that night no one returned home and he went to sleep. At about midnight there's rings and knocks at the door - it's the police! So he's like sleepily trying to sort out what the hell is going on and they basically tell him that a final police report has been made against him that day and he's got a few minutes to grab whatever he needs and GTFO. He tried to explain to them that he didn't even see them all day, it was impossible for any act of domestic violence to occur, but that made absolutely no difference to them. The police weren't there to sort things out, they were set on carrying out their assignment and he was just a number. They gave him a few minutes and he threw as much as he could carry and fit into his car. Thank god he had his own car, right? Imagine if it's a guy with no car, no place to sleep, and in a few hours it's time to get up and go to work. Not the police's problem. Lucky for my uncle, my mom let him crash at her place that night. And then he spent the next few months living in my old room there. /sigh, yeah, that's the story. I guess let me know if you want to know how the rest of it played out.
@@Slavic_Boer Ok, now we are embarking on another topic. Listen my friend: If she has an exorbitant amount of jack, I mean millions...then we must discuss this. However, still be careful what you wish for. If you are going to be the 'boy toy' with a 65 year old rich cougar, just treat the relationship with respect WHILE you are gradually padding your bank account. I would still avoid marriage, unless she has Oprah money.
Time to ramp up the social media and get pictures of the kids at each event. Get pictures with you and them too, someone will hold the camera for ya. Have the calendar too, so that social media can back up your story!
The vanishing seems to be the norm...My wife vanished twice the 2nd time now they vanished completely for 8 months no contacting no anything...I only learned she filed for divorce by going to the counties prothonotary website...Their last known location is in Mexico with an EX that lives their from ten year ago...So I guess they stayed pretty tight all the years of the marriage...Thank you for these great videos...I sure need them...
Great advice. I too, also agree NOT to move out. The reason it, it allows her to dictate when you could see the kid, if you didn't do what she wanted, she'd withhold the child. Also, with you moving out, she plays the victim, oooo he left me high n dry with a kid. Now, I'm a single working mom, poor me. Makes you look like the bad guy big time, even though she'd pick fights with me trying to get me to leave. I remember during my split mine tried EVERYTHING to provoke into arguments. She tried goating me into those circular arguments that couples have. I'd simply walk away from it, and go to the pool hall. I let her fire those arguments at me over text messages. I then saved every text of her baiting me, her friends plowing my phone with texts, her new bf trying to goat me into fights over text. I responded very PC like I was taught working a call centre years ago. Another tip I suggest is get a female lawyer, once I sat down with mine. Showed her the texts, that it wasn't me being the bad guy. She was an absolute shark for me. Our first split, I made the mistake of moving out, but I took my shit (midnight move). In the split in court she went after my car, cash everything. Luckily the car was financed, I let it get repo'd so there was no car for her to take. Then took my savings and bought another car cash. So it looked like I was broke. Luckily I got laid off in the fall so I was Unemployed during the first court appearance. She pointed out my Unionized job, I showed my EI since it's "seasonal", I actually asked for the winter lay off because I saw the split coming. I purchased items for the kid, clothes, diapers, food, I kept the receipts. I sent gift cards through her parents (claimed it was from family). So when we went in front of the judge, she was chasing support, she had some number she wanted. I showed monthly receipts of I was spending more already so there was no need to force me to pay (judge agreed). I also kept a journal of every visit, I had. Activities I took her to, any conversation me and the mother had. I illustrated which days she worked, who babysat the child. Literally the kid only slept at her house, the kid was with her parents all day since she worked retail and worked everyday 5 hours a day. Then I would pick the kid up from the grandparents and spend like 3-7 with the kid everyday. I'd drop the kid off, tuck the kid in, read story, turn off the light. The kid literally just slept at her house. I documented all of this. The judge read it, and her response was "he made it all up". The judge laughed and said "he's not steven king, when would he have time to make up these stories". She did have parental custody, but after a few short months. I pressed EXTREMELY hard for custody opposed to her. I had photos of how bad her place was (extremely dirty, mold, unclean). Even with all the evidence I had the judge was still hesitant giving me custody. He would rip her a new hole, each time in front of the judge. She had to bring in financial paperwork. A background check of her new current bf (he was mega sketchy). He had multiple names, no ID, and this weird scenario of he was 1 name until he was a certain age then went by another. Nobody understood what that meant, demanded a back ground check. She kept coming back, not having it done, judge giving her more time and more time and more time. A year n a half court battle, she didn't show up 1 appearance, judge said o ya? bam full custody for the Dad. Now had the tables been turned, the 1st moment I didn't have a form, they would of threw me under the bus. I couldn't believe the amount of chances they kept giving her.
I'm not planning a Divorce.....I'm not even married.....But, I watched this anyway. The way I look at it is that its like taking a CPR Class.....I don't want or expect to find a heart attack victim but I'm gonna learn what to do.....Just in case. And, that's why I watched this video. Knowledge is power. I really like your videos. They're filled with TONS of knowledge useful advice.
This man speaks the truth! Rich doesn't know me but he described what happened to me in detail. I've lost almost everything because perjury doesn't apply to most women in court. My ex-wife had fabricated fictional stories in family court and everyone believed her. It doesn't matter if you have evidence to show in your defense, most men will lose. I wish that the Redman Group was around when I was a Freshman in college. I wish I've learned that one of the factors to be the best version of yourself is that one must not get married. When woman gets bored during her marriage, she will forget her vow and her loving husband is screwed. Ie: Anthony Bourdain? Marriage... been there, done that, got a t-shirt, and I'll never do it again. Although, I will still date women because like Rich, I like them. As soon as a perceive a red flag, I'm outta there... Next!!
Before my divorce, wife pretty much cleaned out the house all sofas, TV, beds. I talked to a lawyer and they said *Nothing* could be done. I would recommend if you really don't want to lose electronics or furniture store it in an undisclosed location under a different name.
Yep...still being in the house while in the process, she came at me because I left the toilet seat up. No shit. And at the front end of the process she hired a lawyer on her own and said I could mediate thru her lawyer, I didn't need to get my own. WTF !? So i got my own lawyer, told her and she lost her shit, big time. It was the worst time of my life. And women bitch because we won't "commit" anymore. DUH.
I went through a divorce about 9 years ago and landed "reasonably" well. Fortunately, I had pretty good counsel and intuition. I can say with certainty that Rich is largely spot on here on all of these points. Another point of advice for me is lay off the booze 100% and keep a cool head, and don't worry so much about getting laid - that will come in time. One area of difference is that the woman you married is the woman you divorced - more than likely, you just were not paying that close of attention to her capacity when you married the woman. Everything else - 100% accurate.
Learn the divorce laws in your state. Especially the details of alimony. Specifically if your state has some kind of tiered alimony system where X years of marriage = Y years of alimony. Don't be fooled if she suddenly turns into a model wife 12-24 months before an upcoming alimony tier. Related, be highly suspicious if she, for anything less than an absolute rock solid reason, tries to convince you to move to another state. Hell, even if the reason seems rock solid, find out how the divorce laws in that state differ from your current state.
I've heard a lot about going to see a lawyer. I don't know enough about it even to ask the right questions. It would be great to see that "What to expect / how to prepare for your first lawyer meeting. " It's a lot of cash and I don't want to sit there saying duh.
I just finalized my divorce Nov 28, 2019 and he's right hold your ground, don't let anything out of the house, both of you stay there until you settle the Property Settlement, it really makes the Settlement process much faster, hugely faster. My first divorce was settled in less than a week, following this method. My 2nd divorce dragged out 4 years, which I didn't follow this advice.
Just declare a bankruptcy and you won’t have to pay a dime or a lot less, than what she wants. The only downside of this is you’re not gonna be able to get a loan for 3 or 5 years. But she wants to take it all, so what’s the difference? You actually gonna be able to save money. You’re still gonna be able to see your kids. It’s nit your fault you went bankrupt, it’s her fault.
I guess I’m rare. I filed after 14 years. She had to pay me a huge check for the equity of our home. Half the amount. I have my daughter 1,3 and 5th weekends and Wednesday night. I do pay $1000 a month in CS though.
Why do people complain so much about divorce when they know they could simply not get married. Most people get more sex when dating than after they get married, AND MEN WANT SEX. Take a hint. We don’t live in a Disney fantasy. Leave that to children and women.
Videos like this help men going through or facing a divorce or who got married ignorantly of the system in place. Most guys don't even know a family court exist. Its not like they teach this stuff in school and feminists sure AF aren't going to let it.
Sleep walking is why so many young college grads are drowning in debt. Imagining everyone will chase them down to give them VP jobs at Fortune 100 companies. When they get no calls back, um time to double down and get that Masters Degree!
Wow, Richard is 100% on my ex and exit. I got myself a GoPro since no one believes the word of a man, she became psycho at the end, I made myself the priority with self care and took charge in the exit (exit like a ninja if you can). YES IT IS GOING TO BE A LOT HARDER THAN YOU THINK. I’m finally (3.5 years after) beginning to feel at ease. Still have shared custody but for my own sake and for the kids sake -I had to totally block her on my week. Ignore the bipolar narcissists! Good job Richard as always! Cheers dude.
What happens if you're a Maple Leafs season ticket holder & she dumps you for a player on the team? Do you continue to attend the games as a serious cup contender, or do you sell off ur tickets on Stubhub to the highest bidder?
You say stay in the home but then you give the example of the woman bruising her own face on the wall. Dude, if you weren't there, she couldn't acuse you of abuse. But if you leave, then it's abandonment. It's a catch 22.
She cheated on me. She’s also narcissistic and a terrible mom.
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The woman you divorce will not be the woman you married. Western women/westernized women are pure garbage and not worth the risk. You’d be better off watching porn and staying alone than to risk getting with a bad woman.
What do you think about mediation? Hiring a mediator and drawing up a parenting agreement and splitting the money. Also your correct, this is the worse thing you will ever go through as a man.
Your disclosure on the matter of temper being the ammunition she needs to use against you can go beyond divorce, relationships and so forth. Temper can be used to discredit your position in work, social circles, family and many other aspects of your life. When you lose your cool, you lose credibility. I have seen this with a hot-headed plate in my circle! Great chat Rich.
I am not a lawyer but I work in this field and Rich gives good advice, better advice than I hear many lawyers give their clients. I am an expert witness in real estate valuation matters and do a lot of real estate valuation work for marital asset distribution. If they call me in to testify $$$. Try to keep it amicable and don't let lawyers stir things up. The easiest ones I have seen is where they go to mediation. There is probably a mediation expert in your area. Check it out. It doesn't have to be a big deal. In mediation everyone is always easy to deal with and seem happy doing it this way. I like those assignments. It's the cheapest and easiest way only if it is not contentious. You cannot imagine how irrational people can get even to their own detriment. I once saw a house where they went through with a hammer and put a hole in every surface including every cabinet, wall and counter top. Every plumbing fixture was broken and a can of paint was drizzeled across every floor covering and surface (they got back together). Another one where he was in the home and she wanted to get in, she drove her Jaguar through the motorized driveway gate. Things get crazy.
This is your best area of expertise I think Rich. You look completely in the zone talking on this subject. You're doing a great job sir, I salute you. Could I refer you to Terrence Popps latest 'live from the lair' video. Opposite end of the scale but a spine tingling piece of work and well worth a watch. Greetings from bonny Scotland
LISTEN to what Richard says! Better yet don't get married. I've been through the machine! I've won a medal for what I was put through. #1 she moved her new girl friend in #2 I told her no way (it was my house she wasn't in title of the home) #3 she called the cops and had me charged with two false counts criminally. #4 I was forced out of my house for a year #5 I am $100k lighter with family and criminal lawyers Women are psycho... And Richard is absolutely so correct on this topic it isn't funny.... Listen, Listen, Listen to Richard
Oof divorce looks hard in the west ! In my country we follow the islamic way , the mother gets no alimony and just goes back to her father's house.She gets the kids until they're 3 then the father gets the custody.
My 1# concern was financial stability which brought with it a safe and stable environment that my children weren't getting at their moms. Once I eliminated all of my debt and became accustomed to a frugal lifestyle I cut back my income earning back to the minimum I needed to get by. Because of all the money I was earning my ex was living her life like it was a party and didn't adjust to the decrease of child support and spousal support. Her 80% custody became 0% almost a year later when she abandoned our children and moved in with a guy that she doesn't want to be with
Richard , I mentioned " Parental Alienation " a couple of times commenting on your videos . I was hoping you would bring this up to help educate your audience. Parental Alienation is a serious condition ( professionally recognised )that happens in at least 10% of divorcing couples. There are " specific " criteria that are easy to identify and a " must " to be id'ed to navigate the divorce !
Get your money right The story behind the story Has anyone seen the above points on his community page? Costs like 1k to get access to that at the min. And can't afford right now.
What If she agrees to 50.50 custody of kids but wants to work out assets later. Should you leave then with a partial.separation agreement? That is the assets split would yet to be agreed. Or to complicate things further for my specific case. She wants to take some of our joint funds/savings to buy a house in her name only. And then later on finish the separation agreement. Should I let her do this? Ultimately this would allow her to move out before complete separation agreement is signed. Whatever way I look at it I am losing leverage. Thoughts @richardcooper @entrepreneurincars
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I wish I watched this pod cast 2.5 years ago.... Nooooooo (PS: If your divorcing somebody with a mental health condition, HAVE AN ESCAPE PLAN to get you and the children out BEFORE you notify them the relationship is over. This is to prevent false claims of abuse and often arrest which is DEFINITELY a possibility). You have been warned, protect YOURSELF and your KIDS....
@@backlundbob4171 Hopefully you know to never ever live with a woman! She can call the police and take over. What a screwed up world!
I'm lucky enough to have a Christian Slavic ethnicity where divorce is rare. All these videos about divorce and the father having to bargain for time with the kids is really sad. But I guess that's what you get when you marry a Western woman who prioritizes material things over a solid foundation of household.
Yes, sadly it is. I didn't know Christian Slavic had such a good foundation. Im Catholic and married into a Southern Baptist family. All they care about is if your saved. Everything else goes out the window to Western culture....🙄
Brate!
Friendly advice - please don't be so sure. I am lawyer from Poland who deals also with family courts. Our population consist of ruthly 95% of catholics. Divorce stats from 2016 are that 46% of all marriages ends in divorce in first 10 years.
@@tomaszgolembiewski4582 hmm interesting. Maybe I speak for 1st generation Slavs living in America and its anecdotal evidence, but very few ppl within my community and my wife's community get divorced. Thx for the info.
Western women are horrible stains on the planet. Point blank.
Most of the guys I know lost everything in the divorce. I'm so thankful I didn't get married.
Dodged a big bullet by not pursuing my ex gf for marriage. She wanted it. I didn't. Luckily I broke it off with her as I noticed things we'rent working out between us.
If any doubt, DTB.
I did the same thing a couple years ago. It was then that I realized how easy it is to fall into the trap of being with someone who you truly shouldn't be with. Together for nearly 4 years, lived together for almost all of them, and the next "logical" step (according to the social norm) would be for me to get on one knee. I've never been happier since we split! We're still friends, but I couldn't imagine life with her forever. I'm 28 now, and excited for the future.
i am in a similar situation, I am 21 and my girlfriend is 25, I love her and she is super hot, but she want to get married around 28-30, but I never will marry make kids before 36-38, what are your opinions should I quit the relationship immediately or should I just relax and see what the future will bring?
Julian quit the relationship or she’ll pressure you hard soon and you’ll feel like shit. Then you’ll be stuck.
Pennsylvania Divorce and Family Law attorney here. In my opinion, Rich is correct when he states that divorce and child custody laws can vary widely from state to state. Smart money is spent on understanding your rights and responsibilities BEFORE you get married. Spend an hour or two with a family law attorney in your jurisdiction BEFORE you send out wedding invitations, perhaps even before you buy an engagement ring. If you have accumulated assets or have a high earning capacity (present or future earnings) talk to an experienced family law attorney about a valid, properly drafted and executed prenup. If you are married already and want to get uncoupled, spend some time with a family law attorney in your jurisdiction who will help guide you. Many of my clients conference with me a year (or longer) before they take any action. This may often help avoid common pitfalls. Many people have no idea what they are getting into when they get married.
People who are engaged are in a cult. They won't do that. A man engaged cannot fathom their wife would ever change.
@@billjohnson5137 Speaking of engaged, that is the most sex a guy is ever going to get from that woman. The peak just before as she snares you into her web and just after as she prevents buyers remorse. Then gradually the wedding planning will be tiring and she won't want to.
On your wedding night, she will say, oh I am too tired, how about tomorrow. Then you know you are really screwed!
@@superchuck3259..forget prenup....judge can throw it out for any reason they want...divorce court is not like civil or criminal court...forget the constitution lol
@@workingshlub8861 Yep, I know prenups are worthless. My idea to reform marriage would be to just allow 1 marriage for a person. If divorced then neither person can get married again.
Marriage is a terrible idea for most men!
@@superchuck3259you are on the right track...or make it like drivers license..gotta renew every 5 years....marriage licenses never expire and they should.
I overheard a woman in the gym the other day yapping to a friend about how much it's costing to finance her upcoming wedding. Then I saw that the Groom was also in the gym. It took a lot for me not to pull him aside and tell him to run. I felt like I had cheated him by keeping the truth to myself.
This is not 1950 or prior where the brides family pays for the whole wedding, honeymoon, gives them the down payment for house.
Now marriage is like a reverse dowry. The groom and the grooms family pays for half or all of the wedding, honeymoon. Bride is broke. Brides family is broke.
And then wedding guests are just a bonus with their gifts.
I went to a wedding a little while ago and realize what a scam it is
The couple makes their friends think they are so special because they got invited to their wedding, like they did them a favor.
When in reality they got everyone to pay for wedding, honeymoon and give them thousands of dollars in gifts.
Some women wear wasting money on a huge party with lots of decorations as a badge of honor. Shows her high status. Just like women that get men to take them on trips or spend on expensive dinners. Status based on spending excessively money she doesn't have. A head start on making her man into a human ATM machine. Weddings used to be at the Church, then at people's homes for reception party. Now days, that is not good enough, so wedding halls with crappy overpriced food. Men when women start asking, "Where is this going?" say, well if you mean marriage, well I don't do weddings, pause and see her response. It will tell you whether she is after the adventure or after a fulfilling life with you along with 3+ kids.
you prolly would have got shit for it....he was already bought in to it and was in maximum mangina mode.
Every women I've known who demanded an expensive wedding ends up divorced within 7-10 years. This statement has yet to be challenged. If a women is so stupid as to waste their money, it speaks volumes as to her lack of reason and intelligence. Save the $100k wedding and retire 2-5 years earlier.
Good advice! Especially, the part about divorce being hard. It was the hardest and most stressful thing I've ever been through and I've been homeless. I would add, try to initiate the divorce first. Being the petitioner has its advantages. It doesn't mean that you won't lose, but you will have some advantages.
hey coach
What are the advantages?
I'm going through this. Trust me it is so f-ing stressful. Getting out of bed in the morning is hard. Not going down the rabbit hole is very hard task. Depression is the devil on your shoulders. Do hit the gym and eat for your health. Anytime Fitness is $30. Per month and no contract. That's where I belong. Make yourself priority. You have to be priority to take care of your children and others....
You’ll be fine, chin up! How old are you my man?
Everyone arround me is shaking his head when I tell them I will never marry. Divorce rate in Germany was 38% in 2017. I always ask them if they would take a plane when it crashed with a chance of 38%.
I always think those stats are not true. I think people who marry around post 2005 will have about a 80% divorce rate. And of those 20% left, how many have had wives cheat on them, how many will be happy? 10% max I'd say.
The problem is that people who become engaged are in a cult. You can tell them all the stats and experiences in the world and it doesn't matter. Their relationship is not part of those stats. They are special.
I use the analogy, I"ve got an investment opportunity for you, give me $100 and there is a 50% chance you'll lose half of it and if you don't I'll give you $100 back in 20 years
@@jamesp9226 exactly. The math is all wrong. The 50% stat comes from the fact that the number of recorded divorces is about the same as the number of marriages. But thats just 1 year. In the next year if you are married you are still in the 50/50 pool
Great video, Richard. One thing I would add from my experience is that if you're a man getting a divorce and you have a full-tine job and a side business, you may want to put the side business on hold while you and your wife are separated. I have a $70,000 per year job with benefits but I also have a landscaping business I operate on weekends which earns me another $25,000 per year net. When we got divorced, I was forced to include the additional $25,000 I earned in determining the child support order which gives my ex-wife another $400 per month. The woman judge in our case had no understanding of the fact that I am killing myself by physically laboring to earn this extra money just to make ends meet for myself. To the courts, income is income whether you're buying and selling baseball cards on eBay or building flagstone patios. However, if I were to become physically unable to do the extra work or if I were to decided not to do the weekend work anymore so that I could spend more time with my kids or my girlfriend, I would have to go back to court to have my child support reduced and that process would take about a year to go through. Even then, the court may deny my request to reduce my child support because they would say that I'm "voluntarily impoverishing myself" even though I still have the $70,000 per year job! I should have handed over my side business customers to a partner or asked my customers to pay me in cash until AFTER the divorce was finalized and then picked it back up later, if I wanted to, but not have told my ex-wife about it. Now I'm stuck working 65 hours per week until my kids are 18.
Yep, lesson to all hard working men out there. STOP IT!!!
When the wife gives you the faintest warning that she wants to divorce you. Stop earning extra money like with side businesses. Better to just sell it or close it down. Or put the side business income in her name, devious idea I just had. Also cut out the OT. Take extra days off to poke your head around to see what she is up to and make it to kids award ceremonies and activities(USA has a law allowing 24 hours off a year towards kids activities protected from bosses saying no, research yourself for details). Also if the kids are over 5 years old and in school, ask her to get a job. Get some income in her name if she is not working. If you know things are going tits up, there are many other things you can do, but overall relax, you are in it together, she goes down with the ship too! Spend, buy that lunch instead of eating left overs, join that gym, take that vacation, just let loose, it will all come crashing down soon! Thanks for sharing to reinforce this point I have about men not focusing on work anymore if divorce is looming. Heck if the wife ways, oh you are never around. Take a day off and surprise her, lets you see what she is doing all day, be prepared to catch her cheating too!
@@superchuck3259 BIG point here is to stop working OT!!! When my last few pay checks had OT on it, the courts considered that my income in their child support calculator and then I had to always commit to OT work to make ends meet with the higher child support rating.
@@CyphR1 Yep, I know of Terrance Popp saying he had a much higher paying job in the past 3 years used in the calculations because he got deployed and also mortgage industry was in decline. So courts were basing the finances off inaccurate information. Yep, exactly making anyone that earns more the financial slave to those working less!
I'm so glad I never got married. 43 years of a happy and free life :D
Yes, the world is your oyster!!!!
And does your family, friends, colleagues, and people in general judge you?
.....and you just smile back?
Wish I knew what I knew now....but so glad I divorced her
@Fit freak Exactly, if you don't intend to have a ton of kids, talking 3+, why would marriage ever be an idea. For 1 kids a woman hardly deserves the benefits of marriage, just pay the child support and visit your kid. 2 Still not enough. Okay 3 is reasonable. 4 Give both of ya a medal. 5+ Bare foot and pregnant rules. All that said, if you never want kids, better get snipped and use a condom.
“Spend time with the kids”. Did that. Mom tried to get me to move out but I wouldn’t. We were “Separated under the same roof for over 4 months”. She finally cracked and moved out. During the entire time, I did everything. She just vedged in her room talking to my replacement on line. She convinced the kids to take her side and now am totally alienated from them.
How is the situation now?
@@eurotrashy2333 10 years later, we are reconnecting. My challenge is opening up to them for my feelings are to tell them "Your resignation has long ago been accepted " I am fighting the temptation to do this
I had to trick my ex into signing the divorce paperwork. I sent her the first set of papers and she "lost" them (I lived in Las Vegas and she lived in Chicago). The divorce laws in Vegas are pretty fair towards men and I had a great group of guys in my corner called Equal Rights For Divorced Fathers and Ernest Del Casal (highly recommended). They prevented me from getting screwed. How I tricked her was to have her meet me at the library where we'd do the weekend kid exchange but I had my paralegal meet me there. I stuck the paperwork in front of her and she sheepishly looked at it and signed it and had it notarized right there. She couldn't act up in public in a busy library.
One has to admire how elegantly Richard is promoting his $600 per hour coaching. Good video, though.
Well he is someone who is divorced that will help men as he is experienced. Joke is there are women, 41 years plus, that have never been married trying to coach men into being able to date women. Fleeces the men for money and gives terrible advice. Most men wanting to date are not looking for just sex, a hooker would do, but those men want to marry and have kids. Sadly she doesn't know how to get married, easy as cream pie for a woman, and same cream pie to have kids too. But maybe this is good, men robbed of money by her will have less money thus making him less attractive to women. Now as far as Divorce advice, why worry, half the money comes from the soon to be Ex wife.
@@superchuck3259 I would never take a dating advice from a woman. No, I don't doubt that Richards coaching is useful, just that it is rather expensive.
Holy shit, that’s how much it costs?. That’s good business
@@lukeism2 Assholeconsulting from Cappy is dirt cheap in comparison.
Great points, I'm going through a separation now. I tried to stay in the family home but, the arguing got to be too toxic for my comfort level with having our kids around, 5 / 7 and my step daughter 15. I chose to move out. My wife created a schedule for the kids where I get them an equal amount of time. In Ohio, you can't file a dissolution until after being separated 30 days. I met with 3 attorneys for consultation so, I did my homework. When my wife started asking me for money / "child support", I was advised by my attorney not to give her any money until a court order. Anything I give her now is considered a gift. At that precise moment is when I saw the person I had not married. I'd seen it a few times (more than a few) in our relationship and marriage. When woman lose your resources, they will turn into your nightmare. Currently she is plotting to file with both children on her income tax even though we had agreed together to each claim one to be fair. She claims she needs the money to survive. Her and I come in relatively close on income with her being the bread winner by around a $12 difference. She's receives $400 a month for her first child and works full time. Right now, I'm trying to keep the peace long enough to retain my attorney and file the dissolution. The cost will be around $1,650 to get it filed and have a judge come in to do the proceeding. Keeping her patient in the process has been tough. I've explained to her that, shared parenting may result in her receiving less in support which turned her into the demon that she really is and she threatened to file for a divorce instead of working together on a dissolution. It's a mess but, I can say, waking up in my own condo and not having to deal with the stress is by far worth it. Guys if you're wavering on leaving, you're actually wavering on your own happiness and hers'. Although, I know now, she'll never be truly happy, which is very sad. Wish me luck!
Good luck and prayers. Sounds like the marriage was a short one if you can file dissolution. Good thing is she works and she can work forever. Some women just do not deserve to be taken care of financially anyways.
If Jeff Bezos was so smart, he should've annulled the marriage behind her back via her Amazon Wishlist.
My uncle's ex wife was counteracting my uncle's attempts to use video recording in his defense by alleging that he's been trying to record inappropriate (voyeuristic) videos of their kids. As in including these allegations in the several FALSE police reports she made against him, in order to force him out of his own house once a certain threshold quantity of domestic abuse reports have been made against him, and then comes the restraining order which leads to eviction from the "matrimonial home". At least in New York that's how the story went. This is after she initiated the no-fault divorce, by the way. She even went as far as alleging that he molested the family dog. Anyway, the 3rd strike came as a really nasty, untimely surprise; he left for work in the early morning as usual and came home in the late evening (as usual, long commute) to find the house dark and with no one there - also not unusual; she'd often go out of her way to alienate him from the kids by conveniently "coincidentally" disappear with the kids to her parent's house or to a friend's house just before he gets home and then maybe reappearing with them by bedtime. Anyway, that night no one returned home and he went to sleep. At about midnight there's rings and knocks at the door - it's the police! So he's like sleepily trying to sort out what the hell is going on and they basically tell him that a final police report has been made against him that day and he's got a few minutes to grab whatever he needs and GTFO. He tried to explain to them that he didn't even see them all day, it was impossible for any act of domestic violence to occur, but that made absolutely no difference to them. The police weren't there to sort things out, they were set on carrying out their assignment and he was just a number. They gave him a few minutes and he threw as much as he could carry and fit into his car. Thank god he had his own car, right? Imagine if it's a guy with no car, no place to sleep, and in a few hours it's time to get up and go to work. Not the police's problem. Lucky for my uncle, my mom let him crash at her place that night. And then he spent the next few months living in my old room there. /sigh, yeah, that's the story. I guess let me know if you want to know how the rest of it played out.
Was married 1 week shy of 21 years, been with this woman for 30 years, yes you are wright!!!! the woman i married is not the woman i divorce
Nah, tip #1 - Don't get married period. Problem solved.
@@Slavic_Boer Ok, now we are embarking on another topic. Listen my friend: If she has an exorbitant amount of jack, I mean millions...then we must discuss this. However, still be careful what you wish for. If you are going to be the 'boy toy' with a 65 year old rich cougar, just treat the relationship with respect WHILE you are gradually padding your bank account. I would still avoid marriage, unless she has Oprah money.
Thank you! You were a few steps ahead of me.
Yoooo that thumbnail is killin me 😂😂😂
Document everything you can. Especially a calendar of who had the kids what days.
Time to ramp up the social media and get pictures of the kids at each event. Get pictures with you and them too, someone will hold the camera for ya. Have the calendar too, so that social media can back up your story!
The vanishing seems to be the norm...My wife vanished twice the 2nd time now they vanished completely for 8 months no contacting no anything...I only learned she filed for divorce by going to the counties prothonotary website...Their last known location is in Mexico with an EX that lives their from ten year ago...So I guess they stayed pretty tight all the years of the marriage...Thank you for these great videos...I sure need them...
( AKA Jim Smith) Great advice Rich. You knocked it out of the park today.
I saw a video of girl I dated on Instagram of her new boyfriend rubbing her feet. HAHAHHA
He is a blue pilled guy.
ye yito Very
It's disgusting)
well maybe its his fetish you wouldn´t know
I don’t think that’s bad. If I was dating a girl I really liked I’d do that for her.
Great advice. I too, also agree NOT to move out. The reason it, it allows her to dictate when you could see the kid, if you didn't do what she wanted, she'd withhold the child. Also, with you moving out, she plays the victim, oooo he left me high n dry with a kid. Now, I'm a single working mom, poor me. Makes you look like the bad guy big time, even though she'd pick fights with me trying to get me to leave. I remember during my split mine tried EVERYTHING to provoke into arguments. She tried goating me into those circular arguments that couples have. I'd simply walk away from it, and go to the pool hall. I let her fire those arguments at me over text messages. I then saved every text of her baiting me, her friends plowing my phone with texts, her new bf trying to goat me into fights over text. I responded very PC like I was taught working a call centre years ago.
Another tip I suggest is get a female lawyer, once I sat down with mine. Showed her the texts, that it wasn't me being the bad guy. She was an absolute shark for me.
Our first split, I made the mistake of moving out, but I took my shit (midnight move). In the split in court she went after my car, cash everything. Luckily the car was financed, I let it get repo'd so there was no car for her to take. Then took my savings and bought another car cash. So it looked like I was broke. Luckily I got laid off in the fall so I was Unemployed during the first court appearance. She pointed out my Unionized job, I showed my EI since it's "seasonal", I actually asked for the winter lay off because I saw the split coming.
I purchased items for the kid, clothes, diapers, food, I kept the receipts. I sent gift cards through her parents (claimed it was from family). So when we went in front of the judge, she was chasing support, she had some number she wanted. I showed monthly receipts of I was spending more already so there was no need to force me to pay (judge agreed).
I also kept a journal of every visit, I had. Activities I took her to, any conversation me and the mother had. I illustrated which days she worked, who babysat the child. Literally the kid only slept at her house, the kid was with her parents all day since she worked retail and worked everyday 5 hours a day. Then I would pick the kid up from the grandparents and spend like 3-7 with the kid everyday. I'd drop the kid off, tuck the kid in, read story, turn off the light. The kid literally just slept at her house. I documented all of this. The judge read it, and her response was "he made it all up". The judge laughed and said "he's not steven king, when would he have time to make up these stories".
She did have parental custody, but after a few short months. I pressed EXTREMELY hard for custody opposed to her. I had photos of how bad her place was (extremely dirty, mold, unclean). Even with all the evidence I had the judge was still hesitant giving me custody. He would rip her a new hole, each time in front of the judge. She had to bring in financial paperwork. A background check of her new current bf (he was mega sketchy). He had multiple names, no ID, and this weird scenario of he was 1 name until he was a certain age then went by another. Nobody understood what that meant, demanded a back ground check. She kept coming back, not having it done, judge giving her more time and more time and more time. A year n a half court battle, she didn't show up 1 appearance, judge said o ya? bam full custody for the Dad. Now had the tables been turned, the 1st moment I didn't have a form, they would of threw me under the bus. I couldn't believe the amount of chances they kept giving her.
I'm not planning a Divorce.....I'm not even married.....But, I watched this anyway. The way I look at it is that its like taking a CPR Class.....I don't want or expect to find a heart attack victim but I'm gonna learn what to do.....Just in case. And, that's why I watched this video. Knowledge is power.
I really like your videos. They're filled with TONS of knowledge useful advice.
I would really have to want to save a man to do CPR on em!
This man speaks the truth! Rich doesn't know me but he described what happened to me in detail.
I've lost almost everything because perjury doesn't apply to most women in court. My ex-wife had fabricated fictional stories in family court and everyone believed her. It doesn't matter if you have evidence to show in your defense, most men will lose.
I wish that the Redman Group was around when I was a Freshman in college. I wish I've learned that one of the factors to be the best version of yourself is that one must not get married. When woman gets bored during her marriage, she will forget her vow and her loving husband is screwed. Ie: Anthony Bourdain?
Marriage... been there, done that, got a t-shirt, and I'll never do it again. Although, I will still date women because like Rich, I like them. As soon as a perceive a red flag, I'm outta there... Next!!
Before my divorce, wife pretty much cleaned out the house all sofas, TV, beds. I talked to a lawyer and they said *Nothing* could be done. I would recommend if you really don't want to lose electronics or furniture store it in an undisclosed location under a different name.
On a serious note: thanks for your videos, it’s actually helped me a lot. Respect from the U.K. 🇬🇧
Hurry up and Brexit already
@@billjohnson5137 Hum will the marriage laws change with Brexit????? Dunno would be fascinating.
#1 Never get married in the first place.
Just wear a Go-pro while living in a matrimonial home on divorce.
Wear a vest like the cops wear with the cameras.
Yep...still being in the house while in the process, she came at me because I left the toilet seat up. No shit. And at the front end of the process she hired a lawyer on her own and said I could mediate thru her lawyer, I didn't need to get my own. WTF !? So i got my own lawyer, told her and she lost her shit, big time. It was the worst time of my life. And women bitch because we won't "commit" anymore. DUH.
This is well incredibly informative.
I went through a divorce about 9 years ago and landed "reasonably" well. Fortunately, I had pretty good counsel and intuition. I can say with certainty that Rich is largely spot on here on all of these points. Another point of advice for me is lay off the booze 100% and keep a cool head, and don't worry so much about getting laid - that will come in time.
One area of difference is that the woman you married is the woman you divorced - more than likely, you just were not paying that close of attention to her capacity when you married the woman.
Everything else - 100% accurate.
Learn the divorce laws in your state. Especially the details of alimony. Specifically if your state has some kind of tiered alimony system where X years of marriage = Y years of alimony. Don't be fooled if she suddenly turns into a model wife 12-24 months before an upcoming alimony tier. Related, be highly suspicious if she, for anything less than an absolute rock solid reason, tries to convince you to move to another state. Hell, even if the reason seems rock solid, find out how the divorce laws in that state differ from your current state.
Come on, really, nahh, women never ever plan divorces!!! LOL Never, they are not like that!
jk 80% of divorces are initiated by women!
Just make sure you and your friend's alibi stories match up 😂
I've heard a lot about going to see a lawyer. I don't know enough about it even to ask the right questions. It would be great to see that "What to expect / how to prepare for your first lawyer meeting. " It's a lot of cash and I don't want to sit there saying duh.
I just finalized my divorce Nov 28, 2019 and he's right hold your ground, don't let anything out of the house, both of you stay there until you settle the Property Settlement, it really makes the Settlement process much faster, hugely faster.
My first divorce was settled in less than a week, following this method. My 2nd divorce dragged out 4 years, which I didn't follow this advice.
1) Marriage is IPO for women
2) Divorce is cashing out.
3) Children produces passive income for women enforced by the government
Just declare a bankruptcy and you won’t have to pay a dime or a lot less, than what she wants. The only downside of this is you’re not gonna be able to get a loan for 3 or 5 years. But she wants to take it all, so what’s the difference? You actually gonna be able to save money. You’re still gonna be able to see your kids. It’s nit your fault you went bankrupt, it’s her fault.
Her:"I felt unsafe" is all it can take to end up in cuffs. Def control your emotions
ZERO DRINKING AND ZERO DRUGS. Yes I am yelling cause men they will get you arrested for drugs!
I guess I’m rare. I filed after 14 years. She had to pay me a huge check for the equity of our home. Half the amount. I have my daughter 1,3 and 5th weekends and Wednesday night. I do pay $1000 a month in CS though.
How much is your net salary per month?
Any updates or advice 5 years on ?
Why do people complain so much about divorce when they know they could simply not get married.
Most people get more sex when dating than after they get married, AND MEN WANT SEX.
Take a hint. We don’t live in a Disney fantasy. Leave that to children and women.
Videos like this help men going through or facing a divorce or who got married ignorantly of the system in place. Most guys don't even know a family court exist. Its not like they teach this stuff in school and feminists sure AF aren't going to let it.
Thanks Rich
Sleepwalking through life is real! I didn't stop till I was 25. I'll be 29 this year and things are totally different.
Sleep walking is why so many young college grads are drowning in debt.
Imagining everyone will chase them down to give them VP jobs at Fortune 100 companies.
When they get no calls back, um time to double down and get that Masters Degree!
Wow, Richard is 100% on my ex and exit. I got myself a GoPro since no one believes the word of a man, she became psycho at the end, I made myself the priority with self care and took charge in the exit (exit like a ninja if you can). YES IT IS GOING TO BE A LOT HARDER THAN YOU THINK. I’m finally (3.5 years after) beginning to feel at ease. Still have shared custody but for my own sake and for the kids sake -I had to totally block her on my week. Ignore the bipolar narcissists! Good job Richard as always! Cheers dude.
Words of Wisdom: "There's no such thing as an amicable divorce".
It is just a marketing ploy! Word choice!
Talk to 3 lawyers about your case. If you make the mistake of finding a bad lawyer, you will be operating off of a flawed strategy.
Buy gold and silver bury it somewhere no one will look. I made a trap door in my basement where I put my gold coins, ala John Wick.
What happens if you're a Maple Leafs season ticket holder & she dumps you for a player on the team? Do you continue to attend the games as a serious cup contender, or do you sell off ur tickets on Stubhub to the highest bidder?
Take another one :)
Sell !
@@abdelrahmansallam4101 this is the only correct response.
Sell and plot your revenge
Love your channel
I heard the Ex"s calling the Police and the guy has to leave
dislikes comes from women who dont want men to know these tips!!
I"ve personally found spring and fall the best time to get a divorce
You say stay in the home but then you give the example of the woman bruising her own face on the wall. Dude, if you weren't there, she couldn't acuse you of abuse. But if you leave, then it's abandonment. It's a catch 22.
These matters should be taught in high school. I feel a bit guilty getting this advice for free!
It’s almost impossible to stay in the matrimonial home if you’re divorcing a BPD or cluster B type woman.
Fazel Ali Yep, I’m dealing with that now.
I wish I would of known all these things or thought of all these things myself. It’s 100% on Par
But what if she makes more than you and you have been the custodial parent for the most part.
The courts favor taking money from the larger earner. But you got an earner, why you want out?
She cheated on me. She’s also narcissistic and a terrible mom.
The woman you divorce will not be the woman you married. Western women/westernized women are pure garbage and not worth the risk. You’d be better off watching porn and staying alone than to risk getting with a bad woman.
My dad needed this prior to his five divorces.
Jesus! Five divorces? Sounds like it would make a good book
What a slow learner!
Did his lawyer offer him the deal, buy 4 get 1 free!
What do you think about mediation? Hiring a mediator and drawing up a parenting agreement and splitting the money. Also your correct, this is the worse thing you will ever go through as a man.
Your disclosure on the matter of temper being the ammunition she needs to use against you can go beyond divorce, relationships and so forth. Temper can be used to discredit your position in work, social circles, family and many other aspects of your life. When you lose your cool, you lose credibility. I have seen this with a hot-headed plate in my circle! Great chat Rich.
I am not a lawyer but I work in this field and Rich gives good advice, better advice than I hear many lawyers give their clients. I am an expert witness in real estate valuation matters and do a lot of real estate valuation work for marital asset distribution. If they call me in to testify $$$. Try to keep it amicable and don't let lawyers stir things up. The easiest ones I have seen is where they go to mediation. There is probably a mediation expert in your area. Check it out. It doesn't have to be a big deal. In mediation everyone is always easy to deal with and seem happy doing it this way. I like those assignments. It's the cheapest and easiest way only if it is not contentious.
You cannot imagine how irrational people can get even to their own detriment. I once saw a house where they went through with a hammer and put a hole in every surface including every cabinet, wall and counter top. Every plumbing fixture was broken and a can of paint was drizzeled across every floor covering and surface (they got back together). Another one where he was in the home and she wanted to get in, she drove her Jaguar through the motorized driveway gate. Things get crazy.
Shows that even with money, men get no respect!
This is your best area of expertise I think Rich. You look completely in the zone talking on this subject. You're doing a great job sir, I salute you. Could I refer you to Terrence Popps latest 'live from the lair' video. Opposite end of the scale but a spine tingling piece of work and well worth a watch. Greetings from bonny Scotland
LISTEN to what Richard says! Better yet don't get married. I've been through the machine! I've won a medal for what I was put through.
#1 she moved her new girl friend in
#2 I told her no way (it was my house she wasn't in title of the home)
#3 she called the cops and had me charged with two false counts criminally.
#4 I was forced out of my house for a year
#5 I am $100k lighter with family and criminal lawyers
Women are psycho... And Richard is absolutely so correct on this topic it isn't funny.... Listen, Listen, Listen to Richard
100K what a waste. Vow never again!
Guys,,,,, please,,,,, do NOT get married. Date, have fun, enjoy the fun, DO NOT GET MARRIED!
Oof divorce looks hard in the west ! In my country we follow the islamic way , the mother gets no alimony and just goes back to her father's house.She gets the kids until they're 3 then the father gets the custody.
That makes sense. The wild women in the USA act the fool at their parents home. Bet that is no so over there.
What Islamic country is this in which this happens?
@@locoindio Algeria , its also happens in Saoudi Arabia and Moroco , America needs to stop exporting femenism !
My 1# concern was financial stability which brought with it a safe and stable environment that my children weren't getting at their moms. Once I eliminated all of my debt and became accustomed to a frugal lifestyle I cut back my income earning back to the minimum I needed to get by. Because of all the money I was earning my ex was living her life like it was a party and didn't adjust to the decrease of child support and spousal support. Her 80% custody became 0% almost a year later when she abandoned our children and moved in with a guy that she doesn't want to be with
That's what women do. There are not more bad fathers than bad mothers. Ive seen it.
@@billjohnson5137 Men need to be leaders and fight for their children!
"The woman you marry isn't the woman you divorce". If truer words have ever been spoken, I've never heard them.
COOP, still think the V- neck looks great. Jacked and shows it off well.
one kratos a day thanks doctor
*Obligatory never get married in the first place type comment* ........
Richard, I understand that I'm off topic. As a sub, may I request an increase in automotive content in the channel? Thanks regardless - mike
tip number one : don't date, get a sax doll
most men need to hear NEVER MARRY IN THE FIRST PLACE..
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Richard , I mentioned " Parental Alienation " a couple of times commenting on your videos . I was hoping you would bring this up to help educate your audience.
Parental Alienation is a serious condition ( professionally recognised )that happens in at least 10% of divorcing couples. There are " specific " criteria that are easy to identify and a " must " to be id'ed to navigate the divorce !
so did the guy go to jail??
I have a mother who called the police on me for the same bullshit
Great advice all around. Definitely be the one to file first. I did and now have primary custody of our child.
Ok, i did everything wrong, now what?
Hit or miss, don’t let her take the kids, yuh
Staying in the marital home is not always a choice. She can always cite mental stress in the provisional order and get you kicked out.
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Has anyone seen the above points on his community page?
Costs like 1k to get access to that at the min. And can't afford right now.
Hide your money
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Just found out my wife planned for FIVE YEARS…and I had no idea
What If she agrees to 50.50 custody of kids but wants to work out assets later. Should you leave then with a partial.separation agreement? That is the assets split would yet to be agreed.
Or to complicate things further for my specific case. She wants to take some of our joint funds/savings to buy a house in her name only. And then later on finish the separation agreement. Should I let her do this? Ultimately this would allow her to move out before complete separation agreement is signed.
Whatever way I look at it I am losing leverage. Thoughts
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