A friend of mine says, "Love yourself so much that your partner wouldn't dare to love you any less." It's all about knowing and owning your value and refusing to be treated any lower than what you deserve.
but what if you dont deserve much there is not much value to a person there is a cost Always for everione els but unless you actually have a talent and use it correctly or put others before yourself you dont have really any value unless you think really positve anyway also in what way are we talking value lets make that clear before we talk about self value
I love how girls think that they don’t have to put in any work and are automatically worthy of commitment just because. The same way a girl can turn down sex with a guy, a guy can turn down commitment with a girl. Fact is, not all girls are commitment material. You don’t have to like it, but it’s true.
It's ok to not want committment or to want just fwb, but it's better if the other person isn't into that kind of arrangement, to leave instead of "settling" and waiting for the other party to change its their mind.
@LilEggsy I don't think human relationships are easily applicable to employment metaphors..they're far more delicate and complex. Also why even bother getting interested when you don't want to commit?
@@clowy9052 most guys want the sex. For guys, who they sleep with doesn't really matter and they don't get emotional or attached like some girls do. It's just the way it is. I know some girls who like that as well who just want a friends with benefits relationship without commitment, but it's more common in guys overall.
I'm pretty sure I had like really high value of myself when I was a child. My motto was "if you don't want me once, I don't want you a hundred". Then something happened during my puberty, don't know what.
Usually depression and/or facing the reality that society has so high expectations of you that you are unable to meet them and even if you do, society will still tell you that you don't meet them so you feel bad about yourself. But I do hope you will be able to find that self-value once again :)
Gat Sharon Me too. I still know the day. It was when I realized the competitive nature of mankind and society, when I was explicitely told for the first time in my life, that they were not interested in me. I was in 6th grade, say 12-13y old. Before that I had 1000% of self-esteem, afterwards none.
@@elemya anytime. I am goings through something myself and at my age I just am not going to waste any more time pulling on a string that isn't pulling back. You'll be just fine. If you need an ear 👂 just let me know
"We accept the love we think we deserve." So when it comes to self love, we can only love ourselves truly if we think we are worthy of it. Self worth is the start and the base of loving oneself truly.
@@PumpyGT I don't think it is, I'm thinking out loud here... Perhaps we're afraid. Fear can make things distorted. I believe if we'd take time somewhere calm and reflect on things we'd really trully understand ourselves. If the world wouldn't be in such a chaotic state it's calmness would resonate through us. If only we'd tune into this calmness within ourselves through prayer and meditation it too would reflect back to our world. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I hope and pray we all get into the right feels and state of mind ☝🏽💖🌌💫
How do we think we are worthy? We must earn anything to be worthy in this world...so I suppose this applies to self worth? I have this problem with confidence. People just tell me to be confident when I am a nervous wreck before presentation or social stuff, mingling with people, leaving a good impression etc But how am I suppose to be confident? Confident stems from Competence and when I have a history of messing up presentations and first impressions...yeah...its hard
I remember a guy once told me I love you but I am not ready for serious relationships because I am too young (he was 23). You are a wife material but we met too early so right now all I can offer is a relationships without any commitment. I said No even though I loved him. Now I am very proud of myself)
Reminds me of a girl I met in college who said I was the kind of guy she'd marry, but not date. I cannot emphasize just how much that traumatized me. Still bothers me to this day.
Hey guys I'm from the same squad like you two.My best friend gave me major hints that he likes me so when I finally fall for him and wanted to make it official,what he told me was "I love you.I really do but I can't make you my girlfriend or wife. The only relationship we can share is friendship. You are my more than friend but less than girlfriend. You are my half girlfriend." And I was there like "WTF". I suffered a lot because of him.He gave me excuses why we can't date and we should only stay friends but he kept crossing the friend's line.He wanted all the emotional feel of a romantic relationship from me but not ready to call me his girl because he doesn't find me SEXY ENOUGH (I'm skinny and he loves curvy girls) and He is from highest caste and I am from the 2nd highest caste.And after a month when I finally gave up on him,guess what? He got into a RELATIONSHIP with a girl who is from a lower caste and is freaking beautiful and CURVY. And now we are not friends anymore. I find him as a lier and a betraying friend. He still try to talk to me so I just response formally. Sorry for this loooooooong comment.Just wanted to share this with you guys.❤
I had this friend who kept making fun of my height and Asian eyes. But after watching this, I realised how I should stand up for myself and know my self value. Thanks, Anna!
Remember for some people u r not special but for some people ( like me) asian beauty is desired but not achiveable so you should definitely be proud of yourself, love u!
I really like the $20 analogy because it tells me no matter how many times I fall or break, I should know that I am worth it to not accept the same toxic people again and go through a breakup again
"If we let toxic & disrespectful people into our lives & allow them to stay there, we will have no choice but to form the belief that we are unworthy and don't deserve more. "
@@r011ing_thunder6 funny you say that, truth is I would probably patch tha ish up if it had all pieces. 🤣 20$ bill is still a 20$ bill in my eyes, also pretty sure banks have to take it as long as their serial number is legible.
It just happens so often that a person badly over-estimates their value while others badly under-estimate their value. Really knowing your own value is HARD.
I think knowing your true value is not saying "I'm better than this person!" It's saying "we're all equal and we all deserve to be treated with respect".
@@nighttimefolklore THIS!!!! Because when you know your true value, you know that it doesn't stem from how much money do you make or what car do you drive, you know your worth is inherent. Just because you exists, you have value. And when you know you have value just by existing, as a result you know that people have it too. Because they exist just like you. True self love is knowing that everyone is worth the same. No matter the degrees, the cars, the money. Everyone has worth, no one is superior or inferior. Self love is knowing you are not better than anyone else, and that's fcking ok 💞
Actually, I've never met anyone who over-estimated their value. But I've met A LOT of folks who under-estimated their value and thought the only way to make it better is to put other people even beneath them and associate with the few people that they deem "worthy". Everyone has infinite inherent value. The problem starts when you start thinking in hierarchies.
Just got out of a date earlier and the guy said, “I’m not really interested in you anymore”. I took it and said “I get it, oh well I had fun” He then tried to say “we can be friends though” Me: Yeah, I don’t really have the time to do a friend thing with you, sorry man Gave myself a high five!
I have to admit that after all these years of following Anna, these relationship advices have finally hit. I mean, they always do but not quite enough for me to gather up all my courage and apply them. BUT. I finally broke up with someone whom I felt never truly valued me for me but for the status of being in a relationship. I have never felt this relieved ever since we started dating. I was so good at making excuses for him it was pathetic. Good riddance is an understatement at this point.
@@icravedeath.1200 true, but also if someone realizes there is no true added value to their lives by being in a relationship that either lacks depth or is stagnant versus them choosing and rather staying single is no one's business. They made a choise and seem happier for it now, hopefully they're also aware of the downs that this comports. People that prefer not to compromise just to not be alone exist.
Make it a habit to accept yourself as you are NOW. Don't make it a habit to be looking for change in 6 months because that 6 months never comes and instead you are left with 30 years wasted on waiting to be and love a different, "better" version of you. Do not self-medicate compulsively with self-improvement. The work is NOT to improve but to accept and value who you are NOW with all your flaws and unique beauty, etc. That is the habit that will have payoffs.
This same principle can be extended to life. Being grateful for what you have. Count your blessings. The hand you were dealt with may not be optimum but try to see the good, try to be happy.
Yes! I have a belly and I love flat stomach and I was always like once I get flat belly, I’ll start liking how I look like. But a few weeks ago, I realized that getting a completely flat belly would take a long time and I would just waste my time thinking of how unflattering my belly is. So, I’m trying to ignore that (while also working out to actually get to my goal) and focus on the features I like. It’s nice.
I really like how you asked how to do this practically. However, as someone who has been doing affirmations for a year, they don't work when something unexpectedly comes along and hurts you and you realize that, after beating yourself up, those affirmations were used to cover up the pain even if you weren't intending for them to. They just aren't working anymore. I learned that if you do not realize it, you shouldn't say it, because the universal language is that of vibrational frequency. If your words don't match your conscience, you aren't learning. Instead, I decided to affirm my intentions. Example: "I set my intentions to honor myself."; "I set my intentions to choose what is best for me." Self-value is such a damn complex topic! I have the logical understanding by personal observation that all humans are created equally, but we live in a world where ego is at work collectively, and therefore, it's difficult for one person such as myself to make a significant change. I learned that, as an adult, others are responsible for their own behavior. What has affected me the most in my life is how others have treated me. I've asked, "If I'm so valuable, why have I been treated this way?" ... but through spontaneity, I learned that something as simple as speaking up for myself, showing my emotion, and establishing my boundaries with others help me to shine my light. I struggle every day to treat myself right, but I know that I can get the furthest if I give a damn about myself.
@@lindseyjacob1365 while we all are a part of the universe, it is true, that I find myself in the role of telling annoyingly my family and friends about the truth, that nobody wants to deal with. :-D so, what part of the universe are you? ;-)
I’m a single, virgin, young adult male, with no relationship experience, and no degree. I know my value. According to the standards of the world I have none. 😅 I’m sure I do but it rarely feels like it. Like everyone kinda looks down on or thinks less of me because of those things especially women I know.
As someone who has no degree living in Korea, I definitely understand what you mean by feeling like everyone looks down on you. I hope you meet someone who isn't shallow to look down or think less of you due to societal standards. There are plenty of people like that, but it's a matter of finding the right time and place and also some luck, so I wish you the very best.
Imma not a therapist, but for one, certainly don't worry about the virgin thing....there are PLENTY of advantages of being one. As for the degree......heck I did not earn mine until age 50 ! I have been reasonably successful financially before 50. As for woman wanting someone with a degree?.....women can correct me if I am wrong but what they want to see is motivation for improvement......educational any other needed areas.
It's refreshing to show how someone so ridiculously beautiful, intelligent and talented can struggle with their self worth. Young women and girls no doubt look to you for motivation, encouragement and inspiration. Sharing your own insecurities can go a long way to reassuring others that they are not alone.
"I was so proud of myself u guys". What everyone of us say when we start to help ourselves. I.e., Say No without guilt, Enforce Boundaries, saying what you think, Standing up for yourself, Not pleasing people, striving not for approval, validation and attention and for self care, facing your fears and developing your confidence. All the Best Fellow Beings. Amor Fati! and Memento Mori!.
My mom just told me im ugly and didn't inherit her beauty. I know everyone says looks don't matter but deep down I know it does. I feel so sad right now.
This is such a disgusting thing to say to a child... Maybe she just said that during a fight and didn't mean it? Parents see their kids as the most beautiful so if she was serious, the problem's in her, not you. Maybe you're not similar to her but you're still beautiful in your own way.
Conventions looks are just another asset. You either have it or you don't. I personally don't get the obsession with conventional beauty. Truth be told everyone is beautiful in different ways, it's just not the "most sought after" beauty. But I think it's more toxic to think that beauty is necessary. It's okay to not be beautiful. We all grow old and wrinkly eventually. Just one less thing to lose along the way. This is my personal opinion ofc. When I look in the mirror, I like what I see. Not because other people think I'm pretty (they think I'm average at best) but because I've come to terms with my features, every pore on my face, every cellulite and Mark on my body. The world doesn't have to love it, and I don't have to love it. I just have to accept what I see and claim it as mine without shame. Eventually, beauty stops mattering for myself. I'm happy in my own skin. (but your mom was terrible for saying that TBH)
@@reshmamiriam9289 The reason you feel deep down that looks matter is because your mum has been emotionally abusing you. If you're told every day that you're ugly you're going to feel like thats the only important thing about you. IT'S NOT. The world is so much more than looks. Everyone gets old and wrinkly and loses their beauty, if you focus only on external beauty you're stuck in a losing battle as beauty will always fade. You seem like a really kind person and I don't want you to be sad. I hope you can get over the horrible things your mum is saying to you and learn to love yourself. look after yourself x
You're so strong and aware for recognizing that you don't have to devalue yourself to deserve the attention of others. I give much respect to your therapist. They are clearly doing excellent work of helping you discover your true and beautiful self.
Tip I learned from my therapist that helped me with self-love/knowing your value: stop your mind's negative self talk. Stop all of it. Never beat yourself up mentally, or demean yourself, or think poorly of your choices or feelings. Just by noticing and stopping these thoughts it greatly improved my self-confidence and gave me more compassion for myself.
I think you're fantastic Anna. I am 46 years old and have already learned most of which you speak about but sometimes it's good to hear it out loud from someone else and to be reminded of important things. Also, I have found that doing extreme amounts of physical activity, in conjunction with focusing positively, is by far the most powerful weapon to beat negativity, stress, depression and anxiety. It puts you in a whole 'nutha world, it really does. But you must do it for at least a few weeks before you notice big change in how you feel.
this brought tears to my eyes. i never realized how tough i've always been to myself, thank you for this! though it may be hard, i'll try my best to practice this.
I have been learing English and some philosophy through listening to her videos, and she has never ever failed to make me inspired. When I'm down, they cheer me up. When I'm motivated, they make me more motivated. Love you from Japan💕
*me a 15 year old boy and relating more to this channel than anything else*: can I please stay here? I kinda enjoy the love :') Also you're the best thearpy type UA-camr ever, love your stuff👍✨
yooo yes dude-- amazing that you are becoming self aware and working on yourself at 15. I am so thankful for the internet for this. I bet if our parents and their parents parents parents had access to so much great content, there would be a lot less scarred people in the world :D
I’ve been watching Anna since I was in 8th grade, and I’m now going into my senior year of high school. She has always taught me important lessons throughout my adolescence, and I can’t wait to keep growing. Love you, Anna!!!!!
I literally said this to the person who tried this with me. I was like, "I know I can't do this. My feelings will grow and I'm going to get hurt. We're not on the same page." He said he understood. WELL about two weeks later I started rationalizing to myself the way "old Anna" did and felt like it'd be better to stay in his orbit and maybe I could grow on him. Of course, this did not work and I hurt myself really bad. I feel like devolved and regressed because I started off strong and ended up weak.
To be starved for meaningful connections and risking your wellbeing because of it i see it more as daring and careless than weak. Even more so since you're realizing in hindsight you made a faux pas, I believe you have potential for improving. Sometimes when we might feel like we are regressing it is more likely we are just going at an excruciatingly slow pace. Or we taught we made a huge leap foward but were actually stuck in the same place. I hope in your journey you'll look for and will find better people that treat you well.
To be starved for meaningful connections and risking your wellbeing because of it i see it more as being daring and careless than weak. Even more so since you're realizing in hindsight you made a faux pas, I believe in your potential for improvement. Sometimes when we might feel like we are regressing it is more likely we are just going at an excruciatingly slow pace. Or we taught we made a huge leap foward but were actually stuck in the same place. I hope in your journey you'll look for and will find better people that treat you well.
It's so weird a girl this beautiful would struggled with that relationship example she gave. She can probably get almost any dude she wants. The hard part Is finding the right person
Juan Pablo Gonzalez S. V. If you look up attachment theory it will make sense. I think Anna (like me) struggled with an anxious attachment style. And no matter how pretty you become, it will unconsciously stick with you as long as the childhood trauma is unresolved.
Dude here. No disrespect to AA at all, but even though she is extremely attractive, she seems to be off the charts in trait neuroticism (look it up). People like this are typically extremely difficult to deal with in interpersonal relationships. You could not pay me enough to date her.
@@Manny123-y3j I agree "she seems to be off the charts in trait neuroticism" The contant over analizing would just send your head into orbit. Chill out or you'll be single forever
Been a fan of your films for a long time but still blown away by the quality. Also, shout out to whoever is doing your effects. They must spend their life masking. Keep up the great work!
To the person reading this: You are who you are. You are a gorgeous and beautiful creation. You are a masterpiece. You are who you are. You are strong and courageous. You can absolutely do it. You are powerful. Remind yourself that you are who you are. Move forward with your determination, and conviction. You can absolutely do it. Have a great day ahead, Remember you are who you are. ❤️❤️❤️
same for friends, if someone is not actually going to put in the same effort as you, you don’t have to be always the *cool* friend who reaches out first
I see a lot of positive energy in you unlike the girls who preach of positivity but are really hallow in terms of energy from the inside . yes take that as a huge compliment, your energy is authentic
I struggled with validation internally for a while and I believe that giving myself validation for how I get things done vs what I get done is key for me. In Anna’s case she could validated for saying how she really felt to the guys face in a way that was authentic instead just avoiding or going along with him.
If someone's turns you down, your spirit, or maybe your client. Just know that there's something in this universe that will appreciate your value. Just never end the fight! Give thanks no matter what.
I love you Anna. Really happy to see your development into this confident, amazing individual who inspires a world of women to be the best version of themselves. Thank you for the daily dose♡
Adding onto what she said about internalising your sense of self worth. This is so important guys. Valuing yourself and building your self esteem means you have to detach you and your value from the materialistic world. You are NOT what you have, own, accomplished or look like. Once you become satisfied and love you for who you are today, not for what you could be/will be, not for what you could own. But for what you are, flaws and all. This is when you truly value yourself.
yeah she's really into spirituality, not religion, like me! And she's vegetarian too, I dream to meet a girl like her one day, such a creative and beautiful soul 😭
Perfect timing. Found out on my bday that my LDR was hooking up on bumble. Cut that off cold turkey, but ive been so miserable. I need to remember my worth!
Last girl I dated did the exact same thing to me (seemingly out of nowhere) and I responded the same way Anna did. Wasted another two months investing my energy in someone who didn’t really care about me. It didn’t help we were in the same friend group so I felt more pressure to try and fix things between us. I quickly learned that she is a deeply broken person with abandonment and insecurity issues and any effort I made would’ve been futile. Real life is not like Hollywood where if you just show enough love to someone you’ll magically fix them. They have to hit rock bottom first before they even recognize they need to change. All that to say…NEVER AGAIN!
I'm glad she mentioned measure progress in 6 month or even year increments. A lot of people say be patient, give yourself time, but they don't say what that means.
I've found myself to be my happiest self when I've been single & treated myself the way I deserve a boyfriend / S.O. to treat me It's so rewarding to flatter yourself with your own Prince Charming. Buy yourself chocolate on your period the way you wish a boy would. Verbalize "It's okay, you're gonna be okay" to yourself when you're crying on the bathroom floor and feeling all alone. Because ultimately, if/when I break up with a boyfriend, I was always a better boyfriend to myself than he could ever be 🖤
Most girls almost ALWAYS KNOW What they getting themselves into when they start dating that guy. She thinks she can change him. Girl u ain’t changing squat. Plenty of men out there that are already good to go so stop sidestepping them for the bad boys coz bad boy is just an image, inside they all little men. Tiny little men.
While I totally agree, some guys don't know how to change, and a healthy amount of communication and seeing boundaries can help to determine if he's ready, willing and able to change. Sometimes, it's a miss, just out of a timing issue.
Im just kinda realizing how depressed i was and why, i use to always use logic to reason with myself about how i feel. Very black and white stuff. Im so thankful i found your channel.
I'm loving this channel! It's not only extremely relatable to everyone watching, but it also gives insight to how I'm creating psychological turmoil in other people's lives. Keep up the great content!
No know your weaknesses. And then go through the growing pains of turning them into strength. Otherwise its a blindspot, Achilles heel left unchecked!! You will be loved were you have not yet healed and as such that is where you will be targeted, attacked and/or break!! That also where you will start to put yourself back together again!!! You'll shatter, but you'll come back stronger!!!
You make me wanna reevaluate my life. Inspire me to get myself together and focus on my mental health. It’s like having a big sister 💕 Love you girl. I’m proud of you 😇
I totally did this last month!!! I had 8 Shaktis in my Harem but NONE of them wanted a committed relationship. NONE!!! Wtf all 8 said no. So I said no to all of them as I was looking for love and a deeper connection. Now my nervous system is so much more relaxed AND I have a super successful tribe of loyal friends and not flaky women and 3 amazing businesses in just 4 weeks! Yes yes yes! Thank you for reminding me how far I’ve come in such a short about of times. Before that I was totally a disempowered man.
I’m convinced that her therapist is just self help books. Either that or her therapist reads a lot of books and just repeats what she/he read to their patients.
idk about you but people who studied and want to stay on date are prolly gonna look out for new published books and articles. for me thats a good sign that so called experts are not stuck at what university has taught them.
WOW!! "Okay, well I'm actually looking for a commitment and I can't just hang out with people without developing feelings, so I'll have to bow out but it was really nice getting to know you" -- Anna Akana. WOW Powerful!!! In a world that continuously normalizes toxicity in place of healthy relationships!!! This was on the head, amazing!!! So powerful!!! So Great!!! I'm using this in my life!!
@2:20 YASSSSS QUEEN 👑 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I didn’t even realize that I just tag along with what partners’ have wanted me to do, thinking I’d change them.. MY EYES HAVE OPENED
I’ve been in a relationship with some old friend, and it feels like they don’t care enough to respect my opinions, and values. And for the longest time I tried my best to change their mind, but it just wasn’t working. So anyway that’s the story of how I realized I can’t fix people 💖✨ Edit: I was constantly pouring myself into them like the kind, caring, and “over-reactive” person I am, but they did everything in their power to not do the same ig
She did same thing when she was younger but "now that she's learned and sowed her wild oats" she wants commitment, no thx. No one owes her their commitment, if that's his decision to dump her she needs to respect that and you ought to as well and not shame him into a relationship
@@SoulDelSol when did she say anyone owed her their commitment? She is simply being honest about what she wants in a relationship and the other person can take it or leave it. The part about "sowing wild oats" sounds incely
A friend of mine says, "Love yourself so much that your partner wouldn't dare to love you any less." It's all about knowing and owning your value and refusing to be treated any lower than what you deserve.
Or higher.
@@Avenus112 tf?
I think it also aplies when loving someone else. I learned that recently. Gotta love mahself first and I hate myself
You’ll still get cheated on
but what if you dont deserve much there is not much value to a person there is a cost Always for everione els but unless you actually have a talent and use it correctly or put others before yourself you dont have really any value unless you think really positve anyway also in what way are we talking value lets make that clear before we talk about self value
Anna is like the one friend who goes to therapy and becomes the therapist of the group
This is so true!
chan 😂
Or maybe most people are very mentally unhealthy and Anna's healthy lifestyle highlights the unhealthy lifestyle most of us live.
*needing her own help the most
This made me lol 😂 Love Anna’s videos
When people don't value you, don't get angry get away.
Yes wish I knew this long ago
How is that to be done without money?
Women don’t value men...they value what they can give them. Facts
@@stephengreico2810 Men do the same too don't you know!
Suze V Can It
When people dont recognise your value, LEAVE.
but if you strive for some guy who looks much better than you, then don’t expect him to hang around
Or kick them out.
What if they're your parents and you don't have another place to go to?
also know your own value, most ppl by nature views themselves of higher value than they really are to make themselves feel better about themselves
Love you!
The $20 theory is really helpful for sexual abuse survivors.
Sometimes you really do feel like you've lost your value
Well, if you literally tear the bill into pieces, no shop will accept it and no bank will exchange it for a new one. So it's basically lost its value
@@kortess7900 not true. Banks will replace ripped bills
@@kortess7900 this comment is very inappropriate in this context
Only people who has been abused think they worth less because of that, I view you guys more like survivors
@@kortess7900 you missed the point and said something you should've kept to yourself. Pointless.
Ways to get to know your value:
1. Weekly reflection
2. Writing affirmations
3. Therapy
4. Guided meditation
> Give yourself time.
🎉
"I am worthy of being committed to" I LOVE THIS. Dont settle for someone who's not going to take you seriously💖👍
That's right! You are worthy! Don't let others put you down!
I don't actually think there's disrespect in asking for a 'fwb kind of agreement
I love how girls think that they don’t have to put in any work and are automatically worthy of commitment just because.
The same way a girl can turn down sex with a guy, a guy can turn down commitment with a girl. Fact is, not all girls are commitment material. You don’t have to like it, but it’s true.
Chukz Fitness couldn’t of said it better
It's ok to not want committment or to want just fwb, but it's better if the other person isn't into that kind of arrangement, to leave instead of "settling" and waiting for the other party to change its their mind.
Guys who say they just want a no strings attached relationship almost never magically fall in love and commit.
ofc, why would he settle?
@@sickkunt1573 What do you mean?
@LilEggsy I don't think human relationships are easily applicable to employment metaphors..they're far more delicate and complex.
Also why even bother getting interested when you don't want to commit?
@@clowy9052 most guys want the sex. For guys, who they sleep with doesn't really matter and they don't get emotional or attached like some girls do. It's just the way it is. I know some girls who like that as well who just want a friends with benefits relationship without commitment, but it's more common in guys overall.
@LilEggsy ..Yeah none of that computes with me.
I'm pretty sure I had like really high value of myself when I was a child. My motto was "if you don't want me once, I don't want you a hundred". Then something happened during my puberty, don't know what.
That also happened to me :/
Usually depression and/or facing the reality that society has so high expectations of you that you are unable to meet them and even if you do, society will still tell you that you don't meet them so you feel bad about yourself. But I do hope you will be able to find that self-value once again :)
Gat Sharon Me too. I still know the day. It was when I realized the competitive nature of mankind and society, when I was explicitely told for the first time in my life, that they were not interested in me. I was in 6th grade, say 12-13y old. Before that I had 1000% of self-esteem, afterwards none.
Hormones looool but same
That's my life, don't know where or when I did wrong.
Dear Universe,
Thanks for sending this message through Anna 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I like your pic sheen
Amen!
Wait until it sends a meteor....the universe has no mind dude...its just operates certain laws and physics. Only minds do that....
I want the universe in my contact list
Me too
It is. It's called Google. Lol
@@CardGamesTV1 no that's *_the zucc_*
Willow L. Death
I can send you a super deep text once a month? Lol
@@CardGamesTV1 u wish, dummy
For all my women out there, I would strongly recommend to read "The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden". I have studied men before
That is such an amazing book
would def recommend it
My boyfriend just left me, I definitely needed a little reminder that my value doesn't change whatsoever, thanks Anna and universe for the message
You'll be fine. Things happen for a reason just keep your head up and realize that you have your own life to live
@@AVILE00 thank you for your kindness, things will get better, I don't want to invest emotionally where I'm not appreciated anymore
@@elemya anytime. I am goings through something myself and at my age I just am not going to waste any more time pulling on a string that isn't pulling back. You'll be just fine. If you need an ear 👂 just let me know
@@AVILE00 thank you 🙏
I CAN BE YOUR BOYFRIEND!!!)) C:
That 20$ metaphor is mindBLOWING
Isnt it !!!
@@dianaa.2802 *deep epic voice* ISN'T IT!!!
Yeah but if you fart on it I don’t want it
@@redfuse8369 But still... Just because you don't want it doesn't mean that it's lost it's value.
cringe metaphor. doesn't apply to people who allow themselves to be abused and end up used up. Nice cope though!
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
Never underestimate
The value in you
Cute, can i borrow it?
copied 😂😅❤
Aww
"I can't just hang out with people without developing feelings", I think I need to say this to someone
Those who can are lucky.
I can…been doing it for years
Or date within your league
What is this a personal attack?
-Anna Akana 2019
Is this like a personal attack or something?
-Brie Larson
You didn’t understand that reference.
@@FrogEnjoyer17 YES.
It’s a reference dude....
Is Anna Akana single presently?
What is this, a personal attack?
-Anna Akana 2019 (july)
"We accept the love we think we deserve."
So when it comes to self love, we can only love ourselves truly if we think we are worthy of it. Self worth is the start and the base of loving oneself truly.
My self worth is probably negative
@@PumpyGT I don't think it is, I'm thinking out loud here... Perhaps we're afraid. Fear can make things distorted. I believe if we'd take time somewhere calm and reflect on things we'd really trully understand ourselves. If the world wouldn't be in such a chaotic state it's calmness would resonate through us. If only we'd tune into this calmness within ourselves through prayer and meditation it too would reflect back to our world. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I hope and pray we all get into the right feels and state of mind ☝🏽💖🌌💫
How do we think we are worthy? We must earn anything to be worthy in this world...so I suppose this applies to self worth?
I have this problem with confidence. People just tell me to be confident when I am a nervous wreck before presentation or social stuff, mingling with people, leaving a good impression etc
But how am I suppose to be confident? Confident stems from Competence and when I have a history of messing up presentations and first impressions...yeah...its hard
How do I change the way of love I think I deserve
"I'M BEAUTIFUL. I'M BEAUTIFUL. I'M BEAUTIFUL" LOL accurate omg I love her
I remember a guy once told me I love you but I am not ready for serious relationships because I am too young (he was 23). You are a wife material but we met too early so right now all I can offer is a relationships without any commitment. I said No even though I loved him. Now I am very proud of myself)
Reminds me of a girl I met in college who said I was the kind of guy she'd marry, but not date. I cannot emphasize just how much that traumatized me. Still bothers me to this day.
@@chewface It's weird, how did you interpret that?
@@chewface It means that you are perfect for settling down after she had her fun and fucked all the Chad's.
Hey guys I'm from the same squad like you two.My best friend gave me major hints that he likes me so when I finally fall for him and wanted to make it official,what he told me was "I love you.I really do but I can't make you my girlfriend or wife. The only relationship we can share is friendship. You are my more than friend but less than girlfriend. You are my half girlfriend."
And I was there like "WTF".
I suffered a lot because of him.He gave me excuses why we can't date and we should only stay friends but he kept crossing the friend's line.He wanted all the emotional feel of a romantic relationship from me but not ready to call me his girl because he doesn't find me SEXY ENOUGH (I'm skinny and he loves curvy girls) and He is from highest caste and I am from the 2nd highest caste.And after a month when I finally gave up on him,guess what?
He got into a RELATIONSHIP with a girl who is from a lower caste and is freaking beautiful and CURVY. And now we are not friends anymore. I find him as a lier and a betraying friend. He still try to talk to me so I just response formally. Sorry for this loooooooong comment.Just wanted to share this with you guys.❤
@@chewface lol what she said doesn't even made sense
Whether at work, relationships or in general, if they don’t see your value, moving on is not an option...it’s the only choice.
Facts 💯
I had this friend who kept making fun of my height and Asian eyes. But after watching this, I realised how I should stand up for myself and know my self value.
Thanks, Anna!
I hope it goes well!!
Say what? You're beautiful exactly the way you look.
@@kamildugosz7280 thank you. I really appreciate that
Remember for some people u r not special but for some people ( like me) asian beauty is desired but not achiveable so you should definitely be proud of yourself, love u!
@@zuzannagula6888 wow thank you so much
Great message and great example with the $20!
Yeah for real, it finally got to me.
She got that from a preacher. Saw it on Facebook months ago
Yes! And if you're done using it for that example...
@@UrbanHero92 yeah ive heard it from more than one preacher
AvidLearner11 I've heard this example being used many times by a multitude of people.
I really like the $20 analogy because it tells me no matter how many times I fall or break, I should know that I am worth it to not accept the same toxic people again and go through a breakup again
"If we let toxic & disrespectful people into our lives & allow them to stay there, we will have no choice but to form the belief that we are unworthy and don't deserve more.
"
Until the bill is ripped.
@@r011ing_thunder6 funny you say that, truth is I would probably patch tha ish up if it had all pieces. 🤣 20$ bill is still a 20$ bill in my eyes, also pretty sure banks have to take it as long as their serial number is legible.
This woman is a National Treasure & should be respected & protected as such! 😤
She´s a national walking STD collection.
Its true, I'm Nicholas Cage and very much want to steal her
***International
Anna uploads at the best time... Something I really need to hear rn 😔😔😔
Honestly
was thinking the same exact thing
I hope you have a good day 😌
Same girl 💜
It just happens so often that a person badly over-estimates their value while others badly under-estimate their value. Really knowing your own value is HARD.
I think knowing your true value is not saying "I'm better than this person!" It's saying "we're all equal and we all deserve to be treated with respect".
@@nighttimefolklore someone said it
@@nighttimefolklore THIS!!!! Because when you know your true value, you know that it doesn't stem from how much money do you make or what car do you drive, you know your worth is inherent. Just because you exists, you have value. And when you know you have value just by existing, as a result you know that people have it too. Because they exist just like you. True self love is knowing that everyone is worth the same. No matter the degrees, the cars, the money. Everyone has worth, no one is superior or inferior. Self love is knowing you are not better than anyone else, and that's fcking ok 💞
Actually, I've never met anyone who over-estimated their value. But I've met A LOT of folks who under-estimated their value and thought the only way to make it better is to put other people even beneath them and associate with the few people that they deem "worthy".
Everyone has infinite inherent value. The problem starts when you start thinking in hierarchies.
Look in the mirror, if he is better looking then you or your chasing him your out of his league
Just got out of a date earlier and the guy said, “I’m not really interested in you anymore”.
I took it and said “I get it, oh well I had fun”
He then tried to say “we can be friends though”
Me: Yeah, I don’t really have the time to do a friend thing with you, sorry man
Gave myself a high five!
Johnny Bravo A human 4 is always better than a troll
That's because you're a 10.
M L you’re my kind of person :)
@@kadraeallday5582 best come back lol
Whew great job!! Have a good day today\
4:10 aggressively “I’m beautiful “ 😂
Update
Thank you to everyone who liked
Your beautiful 😾
You made me click on that 10x
Definitely worth turning into a gif!
LOL THAT PART MADE ME LAUGH SO HARD
I laughed so hard at that part 😂😂😂😂😂
I have to admit that after all these years of following Anna, these relationship advices have finally hit. I mean, they always do but not quite enough for me to gather up all my courage and apply them. BUT. I finally broke up with someone whom I felt never truly valued me for me but for the status of being in a relationship. I have never felt this relieved ever since we started dating. I was so good at making excuses for him it was pathetic. Good riddance is an understatement at this point.
True ✔
Do that to anybody, nobodys too good for you, all equal unless proven otherwise.
@@icravedeath.1200 true, but also if someone realizes there is no true added value to their lives by being in a relationship that either lacks depth or is stagnant versus them choosing and rather staying single is no one's business. They made a choise and seem happier for it now, hopefully they're also aware of the downs that this comports. People that prefer not to compromise just to not be alone exist.
Yes!! I am proud of you🎉
Make it a habit to accept yourself as you are NOW. Don't make it a habit to be looking for change in 6 months because that 6 months never comes and instead you are left with 30 years wasted on waiting to be and love a different, "better" version of you. Do not self-medicate compulsively with self-improvement.
The work is NOT to improve but to accept and value who you are NOW with all your flaws and unique beauty, etc. That is the habit that will have payoffs.
Yes! Thank you ❤
Yes. But also try to be the BEST you!
This same principle can be extended to life. Being grateful for what you have. Count your blessings. The hand you were dealt with may not be optimum but try to see the good, try to be happy.
Yes! I have a belly and I love flat stomach and I was always like once I get flat belly, I’ll start liking how I look like. But a few weeks ago, I realized that getting a completely flat belly would take a long time and I would just waste my time thinking of how unflattering my belly is. So, I’m trying to ignore that (while also working out to actually get to my goal) and focus on the features I like. It’s nice.
Needed this thank you. Bless you💛🌻☮️❤️🤗
Actually, I'd still want the $20 if she farted on it, it's still $20🤔
Same😂😂
Just give it a little air out and you're good.
If she wiped her ar2e with it, I'd put on gloves and let those douchebags at the bank deal with it...
@@FrumpybutSuperSmart right
I'd want it more
I really like how you asked how to do this practically. However, as someone who has been doing affirmations for a year, they don't work when something unexpectedly comes along and hurts you and you realize that, after beating yourself up, those affirmations were used to cover up the pain even if you weren't intending for them to. They just aren't working anymore. I learned that if you do not realize it, you shouldn't say it, because the universal language is that of vibrational frequency. If your words don't match your conscience, you aren't learning. Instead, I decided to affirm my intentions. Example: "I set my intentions to honor myself."; "I set my intentions to choose what is best for me." Self-value is such a damn complex topic! I have the logical understanding by personal observation that all humans are created equally, but we live in a world where ego is at work collectively, and therefore, it's difficult for one person such as myself to make a significant change. I learned that, as an adult, others are responsible for their own behavior. What has affected me the most in my life is how others have treated me. I've asked, "If I'm so valuable, why have I been treated this way?" ... but through spontaneity, I learned that something as simple as speaking up for myself, showing my emotion, and establishing my boundaries with others help me to shine my light. I struggle every day to treat myself right, but I know that I can get the furthest if I give a damn about myself.
❤️💪
Rim Jabr 💚
❤️
What’s the progress yu made after 2 years
Ouch, old you sounds like current me
I need you to know your value (echo) value... value... value ;-)
@@alexanderringler5747 Universe is that you?! :O
@@lindseyjacob1365 while we all are a part of the universe, it is true, that I find myself in the role of telling annoyingly my family and friends about the truth, that nobody wants to deal with. :-D so, what part of the universe are you? ;-)
One day, old you will seem like old Anna.
Know your worth! Know your *valuuuuueeee* !
This was eerily related to what i was thinking about 20 mins ago. Def a loud confirmation from the universe for me lol
YOU ARE FREAKING WONDERFUL AND YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT ALLIE
Same!!
Allie A hmmmm I did not think of that in this way...🤔 maybe it really is a call from the universe
Same here
I’m a single, virgin, young adult male, with no relationship experience, and no degree. I know my value. According to the standards of the world I have none. 😅 I’m sure I do but it rarely feels like it. Like everyone kinda looks down on or thinks less of me because of those things especially women I know.
You must be working and making money, keep grinding ,a degree isn't worth it anyway
As someone who has no degree living in Korea, I definitely understand what you mean by feeling like everyone looks down on you. I hope you meet someone who isn't shallow to look down or think less of you due to societal standards. There are plenty of people like that, but it's a matter of finding the right time and place and also some luck, so I wish you the very best.
Yes, your value like mine is nonexistent until you start doing something
@@godofdogs6198 not trueb
Imma not a therapist, but for one, certainly don't worry about the virgin thing....there are PLENTY of advantages of being one. As for the degree......heck I did not earn mine until age 50 ! I have been reasonably successful financially before 50. As for woman wanting someone with a degree?.....women can correct me if I am wrong but what they want to see is motivation for improvement......educational any other needed areas.
The time, care and professionalism on your videos is outstanding
It's refreshing to show how someone so ridiculously beautiful, intelligent and talented can struggle with their self worth. Young women and girls no doubt look to you for motivation, encouragement and inspiration. Sharing your own insecurities can go a long way to reassuring others that they are not alone.
"I was so proud of myself u guys". What everyone of us say when we start to help ourselves. I.e., Say No without guilt, Enforce Boundaries, saying what you think, Standing up for yourself, Not pleasing people, striving not for approval, validation and attention and for self care, facing your fears and developing your confidence.
All the Best Fellow Beings. Amor Fati! and Memento Mori!.
My mom just told me im ugly and didn't inherit her beauty. I know everyone says looks don't matter but deep down I know it does. I feel so sad right now.
This is such a disgusting thing to say to a child... Maybe she just said that during a fight and didn't mean it?
Parents see their kids as the most beautiful so if she was serious, the problem's in her, not you. Maybe you're not similar to her but you're still beautiful in your own way.
Good luck
@@Marta-wl6su Thank you .but she meant it.. I have been hearing it for a long time.
Conventions looks are just another asset. You either have it or you don't. I personally don't get the obsession with conventional beauty. Truth be told everyone is beautiful in different ways, it's just not the "most sought after" beauty. But I think it's more toxic to think that beauty is necessary. It's okay to not be beautiful. We all grow old and wrinkly eventually. Just one less thing to lose along the way. This is my personal opinion ofc. When I look in the mirror, I like what I see. Not because other people think I'm pretty (they think I'm average at best) but because I've come to terms with my features, every pore on my face, every cellulite and Mark on my body. The world doesn't have to love it, and I don't have to love it. I just have to accept what I see and claim it as mine without shame. Eventually, beauty stops mattering for myself. I'm happy in my own skin.
(but your mom was terrible for saying that TBH)
@@reshmamiriam9289 The reason you feel deep down that looks matter is because your mum has been emotionally abusing you. If you're told every day that you're ugly you're going to feel like thats the only important thing about you. IT'S NOT. The world is so much more than looks. Everyone gets old and wrinkly and loses their beauty, if you focus only on external beauty you're stuck in a losing battle as beauty will always fade. You seem like a really kind person and I don't want you to be sad. I hope you can get over the horrible things your mum is saying to you and learn to love yourself. look after yourself x
The 20 dollar bill analogy was good I know peeps who need to hear that
Elonzo Davis yeah she proved it keeps its worth unless it’s farted on or becomes nasty
Abraham Villatoro “in sickness or in health”
Who are you quoting
Elonzo Davis and it would be nice if that were true but In truth maybe like 15% of people would probably stick to that
Abraham Villatoro I should said the quote and then *sponge bob meme*
You're so strong and aware for recognizing that you don't have to devalue yourself to deserve the attention of others. I give much respect to your therapist. They are clearly doing excellent work of helping you discover your true and beautiful self.
Tip I learned from my therapist that helped me with self-love/knowing your value: stop your mind's negative self talk. Stop all of it. Never beat yourself up mentally, or demean yourself, or think poorly of your choices or feelings. Just by noticing and stopping these thoughts it greatly improved my self-confidence and gave me more compassion for myself.
my value is not decided by the universe. It is decided by Richard Kevin Harrison from Pawn stars.
I think you're fantastic Anna. I am 46 years old and have already learned most of which you speak about but sometimes it's good to hear it out loud from someone else and to be reminded of important things. Also, I have found that doing extreme amounts of physical activity, in conjunction with focusing positively, is by far the most powerful weapon to beat negativity, stress, depression and anxiety. It puts you in a whole 'nutha world, it really does. But you must do it for at least a few weeks before you notice big change in how you feel.
Anna, your timing is perfect. I had a conversation last night that made me question my self-worth and brought this crumpled $20 bill back to life.
Anna you are glowing!! sis is getting more and more beautiful
We are all glowing... in infra red spectre...
Lmao the aggressive ‘I’m beautiful’ in the mirror really got me.
this brought tears to my eyes. i never realized how tough i've always been to myself, thank you for this! though it may be hard, i'll try my best to practice this.
YES ANNA CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that $20 bill analog really hit me though
I have been learing English and some philosophy through listening to her videos, and she has never ever failed to make me inspired. When I'm down, they cheer me up. When I'm motivated, they make me more motivated. Love you from Japan💕
*me a 15 year old boy and relating more to this channel than anything else*: can I please stay here? I kinda enjoy the love :')
Also you're the best thearpy type UA-camr ever, love your stuff👍✨
💕💕youre doing great! Know your worth💖
If u like this kind of therapy i will recommend this vid
ua-cam.com/video/YaG5SAw1n0c/v-deo.html
yo im a 15 year old boy too :V this channel slaps
yooo yes dude-- amazing that you are becoming self aware and working on yourself at 15. I am so thankful for the internet for this. I bet if our parents and their parents parents parents had access to so much great content, there would be a lot less scarred people in the world :D
You are getting a great start!
I’ve been watching Anna since I was in 8th grade, and I’m now going into my senior year of high school. She has always taught me important lessons throughout my adolescence, and I can’t wait to keep growing. Love you, Anna!!!!!
You're lost
I literally said this to the person who tried this with me. I was like, "I know I can't do this. My feelings will grow and I'm going to get hurt. We're not on the same page." He said he understood. WELL about two weeks later I started rationalizing to myself the way "old Anna" did and felt like it'd be better to stay in his orbit and maybe I could grow on him. Of course, this did not work and I hurt myself really bad. I feel like devolved and regressed because I started off strong and ended up weak.
The same thing happened to me. I was all caught on him for 6 months and didn't really get over it until he brought home other women.
To be starved for meaningful connections and risking your wellbeing because of it i see it more as daring and careless than weak. Even more so since you're realizing in hindsight you made a faux pas, I believe you have potential for improving. Sometimes when we might feel like we are regressing it is more likely we are just going at an excruciatingly slow pace. Or we taught we made a huge leap foward but were actually stuck in the same place. I hope in your journey you'll look for and will find better people that treat you well.
To be starved for meaningful connections and risking your wellbeing because of it i see it more as being daring and careless than weak. Even more so since you're realizing in hindsight you made a faux pas, I believe in your potential for improvement. Sometimes when we might feel like we are regressing it is more likely we are just going at an excruciatingly slow pace. Or we taught we made a huge leap foward but were actually stuck in the same place. I hope in your journey you'll look for and will find better people that treat you well.
It's so weird a girl this beautiful would struggled with that relationship example she gave. She can probably get almost any dude she wants. The hard part Is finding the right person
Juan Pablo Gonzalez S. V. If you look up attachment theory it will make sense. I think Anna (like me) struggled with an anxious attachment style. And no matter how pretty you become, it will unconsciously stick with you as long as the childhood trauma is unresolved.
Everyone has their problems, regardless of looks for sure...
Yeah like all the Hollywood stars have no relationship problems...
Dude here. No disrespect to AA at all, but even though she is extremely attractive, she seems to be off the charts in trait neuroticism (look it up). People like this are typically extremely difficult to deal with in interpersonal relationships. You could not pay me enough to date her.
@@Manny123-y3j I agree "she seems to be off the charts in trait neuroticism" The contant over analizing would just send your head into orbit.
Chill out or you'll be single forever
Been a fan of your films for a long time but still blown away by the quality. Also, shout out to whoever is doing your effects. They must spend their life masking. Keep up the great work!
To the person reading this:
You are who you are.
You are a gorgeous and beautiful creation.
You are a masterpiece.
You are who you are.
You are strong and courageous.
You can absolutely do it.
You are powerful.
Remind yourself that you are who you are.
Move forward with your determination, and conviction.
You can absolutely do it.
Have a great day ahead,
Remember you are who you are.
❤️❤️❤️
Empty words
I am who I am but I can choose to be better
If u see a man reading this to himself, most women would never wanna date that guy
Very easy to say this to someone you don't know
Delusion doesn't help people
I need this *UNIVERSE* in my life.
Your self-awereness is something I truly admire. I wish to one day be as perspective as you.
And your videos are literally life saving.
same for friends, if someone is not actually going to put in the same effort as you, you don’t have to be always the *cool* friend who reaches out first
This speaks to me so much. Thank you for always helping to build everyone up and empowering them to build themselves up.
22-05-2022
2:08 pm
Note to self: Know your value, Love. I am worthy of being committed to.
still yes! 23-09-2023
I see a lot of positive energy in you unlike the girls who preach of positivity but are really hallow in terms of energy from the inside . yes take that as a huge compliment, your energy is authentic
I struggled with validation internally for a while and I believe that giving myself validation for how I get things done vs what I get done is key for me. In Anna’s case she could validated for saying how she really felt to the guys face in a way that was authentic instead just avoiding or going along with him.
Oh the Irony. The Universe really is talking and I should’ve listened 5 videos ago. Thanks Anna, for being that universe lol.
If someone's turns you down, your spirit, or maybe your client. Just know that there's something in this universe that will appreciate your value. Just never end the fight! Give thanks no matter what.
It’s not about value it’s about mate selection in female human primates
Knowing my value is a huge part of my Christian faith. I really related to this, thank you.
How so?
This, young lady, is the most important lesson. Once you really know, you won't settle for less. I wish you luck and happiness
You have tremendous value. Don't ever think you don't. Any partner of yours that doesn't see your worth isn't worth your time and effort.
*Thank you Anna. I've finally found a form of affirmation that I can enjoy. Aggressively telling myself nice things.*
I love you Anna. Really happy to see your development into this confident, amazing individual who inspires a world of women to be the best version of themselves. Thank you for the daily dose♡
Adding onto what she said about internalising your sense of self worth. This is so important guys.
Valuing yourself and building your self esteem means you have to detach you and your value from the materialistic world.
You are NOT what you have, own, accomplished or look like.
Once you become satisfied and love you for who you are today, not for what you could be/will be, not for what you could own. But for what you are, flaws and all. This is when you truly value yourself.
I didn't know you were spiritual? Im more spiritual than I am religious. You're amazing, constantly inspiring me and motivating me. Thank you
yeah she's really into spirituality, not religion, like me! And she's vegetarian too, I dream to meet a girl like her one day, such a creative and beautiful soul 😭
Wow the effort put into these videos makes me want to punch the 'like button'
That takes a lot to leave, even when you know he's not valuing you properly. Well done. You should be proud of yourself.
She looking like a snack in this vid
stfu
Well now we know why you subbed to her.
@@trueworldprince3939 make me bish lmao
lol my man
everybody: "wow anna, omg so inspirational"
fullmetal: "she looking like a snack"
@@zespinossa3723 haha not taking away from her message I just thought she was stunning in this vid lol
Perfect timing. Found out on my bday that my LDR was hooking up on bumble. Cut that off cold turkey, but ive been so miserable. I need to remember my worth!
Koko Ro you've got this!
It's going to take some time but you'll be alright.
What is your worth? Just out of curiosity.
Last girl I dated did the exact same thing to me (seemingly out of nowhere) and I responded the same way Anna did. Wasted another two months investing my energy in someone who didn’t really care about me. It didn’t help we were in the same friend group so I felt more pressure to try and fix things between us. I quickly learned that she is a deeply broken person with abandonment and insecurity issues and any effort I made would’ve been futile. Real life is not like Hollywood where if you just show enough love to someone you’ll magically fix them. They have to hit rock bottom first before they even recognize they need to change. All that to say…NEVER AGAIN!
To the beautiful soul reading this: You are valued. You are loved. You are so, so worthy 💗
Loved the little southern accent when saying "I love attention"
Arnab Bandyopadhyay weirdo ew
I'm glad she mentioned measure progress in 6 month or even year increments.
A lot of people say be patient, give yourself time, but they don't say what that means.
I've found myself to be my happiest self when I've been single & treated myself the way I deserve a boyfriend / S.O. to treat me
It's so rewarding to flatter yourself with your own Prince Charming. Buy yourself chocolate on your period the way you wish a boy would. Verbalize "It's okay, you're gonna be okay" to yourself when you're crying on the bathroom floor and feeling all alone.
Because ultimately, if/when I break up with a boyfriend, I was always a better boyfriend to myself than he could ever be 🖤
Most girls almost ALWAYS KNOW What they getting themselves into when they start dating that guy. She thinks she can change him. Girl u ain’t changing squat. Plenty of men out there that are already good to go so stop sidestepping them for the bad boys coz bad boy is just an image, inside they all little men. Tiny little men.
While I totally agree, some guys don't know how to change, and a healthy amount of communication and seeing boundaries can help to determine if he's ready, willing and able to change. Sometimes, it's a miss, just out of a timing issue.
no brett.
no.
@@bretthorting9400 I agree, but it's not their partners job to help them change, if they just don't know how, they can get help from a professional
Hahahahaha! Tiny little men is correct
I'm not sure about always, but it does certainly happen. Probably often, seeing how popular that trope is in fiction
ANNNNNNNNNNNNAA ILYYYYYY YOU ARE EVERYTHING I NEED!!!
Im just kinda realizing how depressed i was and why, i use to always use logic to reason with myself about how i feel. Very black and white stuff. Im so thankful i found your channel.
I'm loving this channel! It's not only extremely relatable to everyone watching, but it also gives insight to how I'm creating psychological turmoil in other people's lives. Keep up the great content!
No know your weaknesses.
And then go through the growing pains of turning them into strength.
Otherwise its a blindspot, Achilles heel left unchecked!!
You will be loved were you have not yet healed and as such
that is where you will be targeted, attacked and/or break!!
That also where you will start to put yourself back together
again!!! You'll shatter, but you'll come back stronger!!!
Anna Akana has really helped build me into a strong person.😸
The universe = God
You are fearfully and wonderfully made ♥️
Why is it fearful?
Story of my life these days. The commitment thing specifically. Now im working on self love. Knowing my worth.
What’s the difference with this and (old)
I think the music?
Wdym?
@@Lol-st7sk Anna uploaded two, one with an (old) at the end which looks like it is now taken down.
You make me wanna reevaluate my life. Inspire me to get myself together and focus on my mental health.
It’s like having a big sister 💕
Love you girl. I’m proud of you 😇
I totally did this last month!!! I had 8 Shaktis in my Harem but NONE of them wanted a committed relationship. NONE!!! Wtf all 8 said no. So I said no to all of them as I was looking for love and a deeper connection. Now my nervous system is so much more relaxed AND I have a super successful tribe of loyal friends and not flaky women and 3 amazing businesses in just 4 weeks! Yes yes yes! Thank you for reminding me how far I’ve come in such a short about of times. Before that I was totally a disempowered man.
Brava! 🙌💯
I’m convinced that her therapist is just self help books. Either that or her therapist reads a lot of books and just repeats what she/he read to their patients.
you mean that's not really therapy right? I had the same feeling
Lol
Facts
idk about you but people who studied and want to stay on date are prolly gonna look out for new published books and articles. for me thats a good sign that so called experts are not stuck at what university has taught them.
WOW!! "Okay, well I'm actually looking for a commitment and I can't just hang out with people without developing feelings, so I'll have to bow out but it was really nice getting to know you" -- Anna Akana. WOW Powerful!!! In a world that continuously normalizes toxicity in place of healthy relationships!!! This was on the head, amazing!!! So powerful!!! So Great!!! I'm using this in my life!!
@2:20 YASSSSS QUEEN 👑 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I didn’t even realize that I just tag along with what partners’ have wanted me to do, thinking I’d change them.. MY EYES HAVE OPENED
We’re not 30, what’s the point of commitment to me or you wtf
I'm in a similar situation...
She's so adorable. How to make serious profound subjects funny and entertaining.
Made my day :)
I’ve been in a relationship with some old friend, and it feels like they don’t care enough to respect my opinions, and values. And for the longest time I tried my best to change their mind, but it just wasn’t working. So anyway that’s the story of how I realized I can’t fix people 💖✨
Edit: I was constantly pouring myself into them like the kind, caring, and “over-reactive” person I am, but they did everything in their power to not do the same ig
Dayum! Anna growing up. Also, what guy or girl can say no to Anna?! My gawd...
She did same thing when she was younger but "now that she's learned and sowed her wild oats" she wants commitment, no thx. No one owes her their commitment, if that's his decision to dump her she needs to respect that and you ought to as well and not shame him into a relationship
@@SoulDelSol when did she say anyone owed her their commitment? She is simply being honest about what she wants in a relationship and the other person can take it or leave it. The part about "sowing wild oats" sounds incely