3 Reasons You're a Mess

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  • Опубліковано 26 гру 2024

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  • @auraali182
    @auraali182 3 роки тому +3871

    She really goes to therapy for all of us

  • @samshritaanand1290
    @samshritaanand1290 3 роки тому +1506

    Probably the most important reason: You/we watch all of Anna's videos, get personally attacked but don't do anything about it

    • @WHALEx3
      @WHALEx3 3 роки тому +46

      Damn lol, this comment made me feel double-personally attacked

    • @Armz69
      @Armz69 3 роки тому +13

      Proly cuz she do so in a loving and relatable way

    • @annalarsson5662
      @annalarsson5662 3 роки тому +9

      Right!? I did NOT authorize this biography.

    • @oponomo
      @oponomo 3 роки тому +5

      Shadow-much?

    • @bamu9889
      @bamu9889 3 роки тому +5

      I feel attacked and now I will go cry about my problems

  • @paigeconnelly4244
    @paigeconnelly4244 3 роки тому +771

    When Anna sticks that mustache on, you know EXACTLY where that character is going...

  • @maryakrivopoulou3584
    @maryakrivopoulou3584 3 роки тому +72

    "you do not want to be where you're not wanted" that's so soothing to hear actually

  • @Andi_andI
    @Andi_andI 3 роки тому +201

    My 20s were the period of my life when I did my best to emulate and personify perfection.
    My 30s will be stage of maturity when I embrace being a whole person, and bring my shadow out into the light.

  • @DiscordBeing
    @DiscordBeing 3 роки тому +380

    Thank you for mentioning shadow work: all these years of therapy and UA-cam therapy videos and I've NEVER heard of that :)

    • @watcher1258
      @watcher1258 3 роки тому +5

      First time I heard about shadow stuff.
      It sounds like some powerful stuff.

    • @pageperpage
      @pageperpage 3 роки тому +8

      Depends on what kind if therapy you go towards to. It may not come out in CBT approaches, but it's part of psychoanalytic work or IFS, gestalt, parts work.

    • @camitowanda9216
      @camitowanda9216 3 роки тому

      Same !

    • @randomcarrot7970
      @randomcarrot7970 3 роки тому +3

      going to therapy can still be shadow work, depends on the methods used

  • @tijanabojic290
    @tijanabojic290 3 роки тому +91

    The timing of this for me is scary

  • @Education-Edge
    @Education-Edge 3 роки тому +149

    Timestamp
    1. Inner Child - 1:34
    2. Ego - 2:57
    3. Shadow - 4:14

  • @westernwanderer8397
    @westernwanderer8397 3 роки тому +251

    Anna's psych videos really make me feel like I need to see a therapist. Thanks a lot, Anna. Thought I was okay.

    • @DarkDennis1961
      @DarkDennis1961 3 роки тому +7

      They make me wonder "am I the only happy person on the planet?"

    • @lily-pl6eo
      @lily-pl6eo 3 роки тому +14

      @@DarkDennis1961 okay no need to BRAG

    • @lily-pl6eo
      @lily-pl6eo 3 роки тому +9

      every person without or without these "issues" could benefit from therapy!

    • @gsiya4023
      @gsiya4023 3 роки тому +3

      @@lily-pl6eo except its expensive an inaccesible and I just don't like doing it online ,I hate online

    • @LunaVioletta7
      @LunaVioletta7 2 роки тому

      @@DarkDennis1961 or are you so good at repressing your emotions that you have fooled yourself into thinking you have no issues? (Btw acknowledging your issues/trauma doesn’t mean you’re unhappy)

  • @aprilisme1186
    @aprilisme1186 3 роки тому +287

    Ty for sharing your therapy knowledge with people that can’t afford it.
    Side note: all 3 of your wardrobes are fantastic.

  • @WSJade
    @WSJade 3 роки тому +107

    I'm doing my master's in counselling psychology and this is actually so accurate and applicable, much to my surprise. Thanks Anna!

  • @SamElle
    @SamElle 3 роки тому +61

    doing inner child work helped me SO SOOO much!! Honestly working through it with my therapist was not easy but I realized it was necessary for healing my childhood trauma!!!

    • @geomancer6371
      @geomancer6371 2 роки тому

      "The child is the father of the man" - Wordsworth

  • @MegKonrad
    @MegKonrad 3 роки тому +89

    I’ve been doing a lot of reading about all three of these healing aspects, and it’s really made me look at myself differently. I’m still working on checking in on my inner child, putting my ego in place, and understanding my shadow self. Hope to do more work about it in therapy. Thank you for talking about it, Anna!

    • @murielmun4198
      @murielmun4198 3 роки тому +3

      Do you have any recs on resources where one could start??

    • @MegKonrad
      @MegKonrad 3 роки тому +7

      I don’t have a ton because I’m only just dipping my toes into this side of healing, but a good book I’d recommend that touches on these things is “How to Do the Work” by Nicole LePera

    • @murielmun4198
      @murielmun4198 3 роки тому +1

      @@MegKonrad Thank you so much! Will check it out

  • @valerieEswenson
    @valerieEswenson Рік тому +1

    Everything said on EGO I wrote down word for word in a notebook. Just mind-blowing and I’ve been in a recovery program for 3 years and we always mention ego but nobody has said anything this insightful. And so many people in the meetings give a look when they know you absorb yourself with too much non approved material that wasn’t written by our peeps. And I’m like sorry I don’t just have substance problems. I have mental health & apparently loads of other things. I am always like oh I saw this great TedTalk and they are like 😒 Whatever if it kept me sober that day I count it as a win!

  • @DodZz666
    @DodZz666 3 роки тому +45

    This quote is brilliant actually: Until you make the unconscious conscious it will control your life and call it fate ….. that is deep .. thanks Anna for your great videos :)

  • @WHALEx3
    @WHALEx3 3 роки тому +332

    Maybe we’re a mess because we’re facing the results of record high inflation, a lack of community caused by bad housing infrastructure and social media, or the fact that living is so hard and the easiest ways we can self-sooth is said social media, drinking, and binge watching Netflix.
    Idk though, I just guessing.

    • @stylesismyhusband
      @stylesismyhusband 3 роки тому +21

      I think you're giving people too much credit lol. Most people would rather stick their heads in the sand and not read about the world and politics and be sedated by all their forms of entertainment

    • @AC-cg4be
      @AC-cg4be 3 роки тому +30

      Fun fact:
      Generalizing an entire population to try and understand a small portion usually isn't a great idea.
      You pretty much missed her entire point.

    • @TheDSasterX
      @TheDSasterX 3 роки тому +32

      I believe OP is referring to the Shadow... of Capitalism. Time to take Anna's advice and eat the rich!

    • @michikomanalang6733
      @michikomanalang6733 3 роки тому +2

      I mean, that’s a big chunk of it.

    • @alexis22712
      @alexis22712 3 роки тому +18

      This comment is basically avoiding accountability for yourself

  • @YourGirlSudanny
    @YourGirlSudanny 2 роки тому +2

    I'm a mess simply cuz I can't get out of my head 🥺😩🤦🏾‍♀️it's just constant overthinking & analysing. Exhausting.

  • @Porcelynnn
    @Porcelynnn 3 роки тому +15

    Ego work is hardddddd but I love it! It’s been a great process learning so much about myself and my ego. The goal is to have a small ego. Some people call this process ego death. Really interesting stuff.

  • @stephaniemthoma
    @stephaniemthoma 3 роки тому +23

    I love how the inner child, shadow and ego came into play here- way to make this type of deep work more mainstream!

  • @suwijip2383
    @suwijip2383 3 роки тому +9

    Hi Ana! Wow! I came across to your account like almost 3 years ago. I always resonate with most of your videos but never leave a comment yet, this is my first time because I feel like we've grown together, we shared the same journey. From all of the hurts to spiritual awakening and now to as what Carl Jung refer the Individuation Process. The universe always takes you to the people who are meant to be in your journey, like you, your videos are super insightful and inspiring, I feel less alone in this journey so thanks! Sending you lots of love 💕

  • @savanaahava7647
    @savanaahava7647 10 місяців тому +1

    Your short fun videos about serious topics are changing our lives for the better 🎉 thanks Anna!! 😊😂

  • @NickNotas
    @NickNotas 3 роки тому +6

    Unresolved trauma will negatively manifest itself in every aspect of your adult life if you don't make a conscious effort to change the trajectory of your life. We all have the agency to change our lives for the better, but sometimes it's a matter of first recognizing that we have a problem that needs fixing. From there, we have to identify the necessary action steps to create lasting and positive change. It's never easy "parenting yourself" but it's a worthwhile effort if it means being able to create meaningful adult connections and living a life you're proud of. -Emma

  • @nenelevy9925
    @nenelevy9925 3 роки тому +8

    Her editor’s choice of music is ✨IMMACULATE✨

  • @rachellin2253
    @rachellin2253 3 роки тому +112

    Could you talk about the idea of over rationalising and analysing situations and feelings? Is it actually a coping mechanism?

    • @banahna
      @banahna 3 роки тому +13

      It’s coping but it’s not healthy to not feel your feelings😳

    • @sleverlight
      @sleverlight 3 роки тому +1

      I think I do that xD

    • @user-qv2qf1jk5o
      @user-qv2qf1jk5o 3 роки тому +2

      Enneagram five moment 😳

    • @elizabethmaraj530
      @elizabethmaraj530 3 роки тому +8

      Yes. You over-analyze and intellectualize them in order to avoid actually feeling those feelings.

    • @lukawho8503
      @lukawho8503 3 роки тому

      @@elizabethmaraj530 what now? I feel (ironically) incapable of really feeling and not think on it.

  • @suhanisharma208
    @suhanisharma208 3 роки тому +71

    I really like how your topics are SOO deep but also funny at the same time ❤️😌

  • @MsZephyra
    @MsZephyra 3 роки тому +8

    Welp, I feel called out! So much self-sabotage and vicious cycles preventing me from getting closer to my career goals... hopefully, parenting myself can help until I have the energy to find a good therapist and plunge into shadow work... ugh, "cry, journal, cry some more" is exactly what I've been dreading. 😔

  • @givemethree2463
    @givemethree2463 3 роки тому +11

    "People pleasing to the point of avoiding conflict at all cost" guess I came here to be personally attacked :(

  • @MindsettoMastery
    @MindsettoMastery 3 роки тому +2

    Shadow work is about shining the light of awareness on the ugliest parts of your unconscious mind - your shame, guilt, insecurities, and fears. It's difficult to face, but the pay-off for doing so enormous. 💫

  • @benjaminpack2922
    @benjaminpack2922 Рік тому

    3 reasons you're remaining awesome, practicing excellence, granting the best wisdom and counsel you have, being loving the best way you know how, both to yourself and others.
    Thank-you Anna!

  • @citlallycolin7997
    @citlallycolin7997 3 роки тому +3

    Wow, I never heard shadow work. I'm gonna look more into that, thanks

  • @Anjel1e
    @Anjel1e 3 роки тому +10

    I've been... more analyzing than actually addressing my issues by segmenting them in categories/characters that I've been calling my cynicism and my inner child. So basically this without realizing it. Maybe one day I'll be comfortable creating a comic addressing this. Thanks Anna.

  • @madisonrose1893
    @madisonrose1893 3 роки тому +11

    Your videos really helped me going thru my life and inspired me to take care of my mental health. Thank you so so much, Anna. I'm very grateful for your uploads! Love your videos ❤️

  • @TheDanaYiShow
    @TheDanaYiShow 3 роки тому +10

    "what do you mean you have to pay taxes... EVERY YEAR??" 😂

  • @Orangeoverlorde
    @Orangeoverlorde 3 роки тому +4

    The middle schoolers in your school watch you, and honestly so do I. Your therapy is helpful for people of almost any age

  • @bngr_bngr
    @bngr_bngr 3 роки тому +22

    My friend that went to Harvard thought that students didn’t have to pay taxes.

    • @aderiancreature8464
      @aderiancreature8464 3 роки тому +2

      In Germany, as long you don't work, you don't have to pay taxes

  • @Efflorescentey
    @Efflorescentey 2 роки тому

    “Are you over praising or undervaluing yourself?”
    Yes.

  • @MaitreyaNaik
    @MaitreyaNaik 3 роки тому +4

    Perfect topic for a good blanket-and-meditate in the cold northern winter 🥶

  • @anyateh5742
    @anyateh5742 3 роки тому +2

    Love that there are English captions! Thanks Anna for all your amazing videos.

  • @DarthHao
    @DarthHao 3 роки тому +18

    Very insightful advice! Perhaps I’ll try these out when I get spare mental stamina. Staving off pandemic-induced suicidal ideation on an hourly basis is currently consuming all I’ve got.

  • @angelicac.2556
    @angelicac.2556 3 роки тому +2

    Hi Anna, I can't afford therapy and you really help me with your videos. Please don't ever stop filming them: I have the opportunity to learn a lot about myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

  • @Vgenv
    @Vgenv 3 роки тому +1

    2:49 - I really needed to hear this 💎

  • @coyotelady6132
    @coyotelady6132 3 роки тому +10

    I am a mess and I do know why 🤣 I like to just ignore things until its impossible to ignore, everything is fine 😬

  • @zenzone8684
    @zenzone8684 3 роки тому +9

    Only thing i like about MONDAY is anna's upload!!

  • @jeramincasayuran5165
    @jeramincasayuran5165 2 місяці тому

    Shadow work is kinda like having to accept what is given, blaming yourself so you can start to take the first steps of responsibility. Your surroundings will show the outcome and there will be consolidation.

  • @freshstrt3140
    @freshstrt3140 3 роки тому +6

    I want to heal myself.

  • @Rachel-ro8vo
    @Rachel-ro8vo 3 роки тому +7

    Big fan of your work!

  • @jhh-jiynks6568
    @jhh-jiynks6568 3 роки тому +2

    Bravo anna, absolutely perfect.
    Geez, ya give me goosebumps.
    Well done dear

  • @laurens.7962
    @laurens.7962 3 роки тому +2

    SPOT ON thank you SO MUCH for sharing your knowledge with all of us

  • @justpassingthruskdjb
    @justpassingthruskdjb 3 роки тому +12

    WELL, THIS CAME FOR MY THROAT

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      @marlenasopi2469 3 роки тому

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      Gaze: "Amazed"
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      Жизнь, как красивая мелодия, только песни перепутались.
      #однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков #垃圾

  • @lenakataeva7525
    @lenakataeva7525 2 роки тому

    I used to have problems with all three spheres. Now I kinda comfortable with ego. I need to work hard on inner child and shadow. I guess I'm going back to journaling

  • @Forty2Times
    @Forty2Times 3 роки тому +3

    She feels like the big sister we all need

  • @gsbguitarsgsb679
    @gsbguitarsgsb679 2 роки тому

    Thanks for exposing your lunacy. Makes mine look like a walk in the park. Not really, mine is probably far worse than a lot of other people. LOL. You are an adorable gem in this crazy world. Don’t ever change…

  • @srishtiagrawal5787
    @srishtiagrawal5787 3 роки тому +7

    Got the notification just as I was drowning in the guilt of the mess I made

  • @DanielRRomani
    @DanielRRomani 3 роки тому

    I've been asking people what they mean by 'shadow work' for months, and never got a good answer. Here I didn't even ask you, but that description of shadow work finally makes sense to me. Thank you!

  • @D0ntTaseM3Br0
    @D0ntTaseM3Br0 Рік тому

    You finally... helped me understand that I do have an Ego after all... and that im not broken... i just was simply not hearing anyone of my friends or love ones because I thought I was a horrible person... although its true i have lost a lot of friends due to having BPD and Aspergers.... but they all stem from everything you said.

  • @ChaoticZae
    @ChaoticZae Рік тому

    As someone who can’t easily get back in therapy I just like to say Your videos are so fun, I’m always excited to see them and they’re very helpful. Thanks Anna : )

  • @triptripp1873
    @triptripp1873 3 роки тому +6

    Shadow work sounds kinda like a witch brew. But I do understand the point of it, trendy name aside. I think alot of people who are rly into observing themselves and figuring their inner workings through therapy, have basically done shadow work , and it rly is a very helpful thing, if you are feeling ready enough to start

  • @kelebaloyi8322
    @kelebaloyi8322 3 роки тому +13

    Thanks for the therapy sessions, they're a slap of common sense to the face, but very necessary ☺️😍

  • @RADIYAH30
    @RADIYAH30 3 роки тому +10

    I feel like I was slapped in the face with a lot of good information that I’ve been avoiding 😭💞

  • @mikecarbone828
    @mikecarbone828 3 роки тому +12

    Salutations Anna!
    Thank you for providing many of us an honest assessment of our own personal experience in a way that is not overbearing and condescending, but is light hearted, humorous, and entertaining. You take a subject that is difficult for many and make it accessible for all.
    Thank you for posting these videos!
    Please have an excellent and awesome day! ☀️✨

  • @chiafairy7091
    @chiafairy7091 3 роки тому

    hahahahahahahhaa when she said something like all those things you hate about yourself and are most ashamed of, that's just the surface of your shadow, woth that slight laugh of exactly knowing...ah no...😂😂😂 we gotta really go there?

  • @AyshaArts
    @AyshaArts 3 роки тому +4

    Wow you just hit the spot and I needed to hear this , thank you ✨

  • @hollyiris93
    @hollyiris93 3 роки тому +1

    I don't know how much times I can thank Anna and her awesome team enough for all of these wisdom and therapy for us all, thank you all!!!

  • @MrReese
    @MrReese 3 роки тому

    The inner child and the ego make so much sense, but shadow is just like "everything bad about you", that doesn't make any sense, especially since it apparently includes the inner child and the ego.

  • @ColinSemple
    @ColinSemple 3 роки тому +1

    That’s a section on ego is so important.

  • @christianguzman5248
    @christianguzman5248 2 роки тому

    Hi, this is my first time writing to your videos. I just want to say thank you. You've helped me. I hope that your life is going well and that when it's not, you get the same amount of help I've felt by listening to some of your videos.

  • @moisesvillagran8956
    @moisesvillagran8956 2 роки тому

    Ana, your mental health videos are exquisite and always make me feel understood and heard.

  • @gingerrocco
    @gingerrocco 3 роки тому +1

    Your last few vids have really hit straight through my soul. It’s like Anna and the algorithms have become one.

  • @Alresu
    @Alresu 2 роки тому +1

    Check, kinda check annnd check. Yay! Three out of three!

  • @davidcrowther9504
    @davidcrowther9504 Рік тому

    Thank you Anna. That was very illuminating. I probably have issues with all three, but my main one is probably my inner child...😔

  • @zekeal17squirrel
    @zekeal17squirrel 3 роки тому +1

    these help me so much i save these to help others people cause you put it so well :D

  • @user-py5de6xl8z
    @user-py5de6xl8z 3 роки тому +4

    Hearts that we broke long ago
    Book by Merle Shain
    Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.-Fulton Oursler

  • @Luke-zv6bb
    @Luke-zv6bb 3 роки тому

    NOT YUNG😩. Oml anna, seriously, thank u so much for all the work u do

  • @fatemakhambati5943
    @fatemakhambati5943 3 роки тому +3

    I always rewind to understand her point better. So well researched! There’s so much to be read between the lines. And yes it is true she goes to therapy for us!!!

  • @rnbwyogi
    @rnbwyogi 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you Anna, your videos are helpful and fun to watch...

  • @mioralecompte7322
    @mioralecompte7322 3 роки тому

    I did some shadow work and learned how messed up my ego and inner child are, so now I have to do work for all 3 👍🥲

  • @victoriale2792
    @victoriale2792 3 роки тому +3

    I love watching your videos over breakfast, its a great way to start my day. Thank you for sharing such valuable information

  • @hellothere3683
    @hellothere3683 3 роки тому +1

    needed this!

  • @Marth286
    @Marth286 2 роки тому

    I think a lot of people could relate and appreciate your videos. I am thankful someone uses her voice on youtube to provide this help in a fashion that is easy to digest and targets an audience that could really benefit from it. The audience being everyone because we never stop from learning ourself. Great job

  • @jjeennc
    @jjeennc 3 роки тому

    My inner child really made a mess of my relationship! Thanks for validating that for sure…the work continues….🙏

  • @neugabi
    @neugabi 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for this!! Gave me a clearer view for my issues

  • @ninaso146
    @ninaso146 3 роки тому +1

    needed this

  • @girloftheo.r.1096
    @girloftheo.r.1096 3 роки тому +1

    Anna you and this channel are fantastic, your videos are so helpful and accessible! It what every person needs to hear

  • @zakiatabassum9549
    @zakiatabassum9549 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much Anna. I always seem to find your videos when I need them the most. You've helped me a lot. I hope you never stop making these videos.

  • @r011ing_thunder6
    @r011ing_thunder6 2 роки тому

    Hey so I remember not saying thank you or showing gratitude for stuff people have done for me and I brush it off as “oh I’m shy that’s why. Darn” or “I’m an introvert” but I don’t think shyness and Introversion have to do with not showing gratitude.

  • @dontokoi30
    @dontokoi30 4 місяці тому

    Regarding ego, I don't think I've ever met a person alive who didn't whatabout their way to personal infallibility.

  • @Ryan713
    @Ryan713 3 роки тому +3

    So this is what it's like when your therapy isn't mandatory with meds. My therapist is about as engaging as a photograph. But he's male, and that's a keeper!

  • @beaolayon7344
    @beaolayon7344 3 роки тому +13

    This level of high quality needs more recognition 😩👌

  • @lilianamontero2715
    @lilianamontero2715 3 роки тому +1

    This is so good, thank you

  • @pallavimenon6299
    @pallavimenon6299 3 роки тому +2

    Although I had heard about shadow work before I didn't really know what it was until now.
    As always thank you for going to therapy for all of us. For real

  • @marianqian9516
    @marianqian9516 3 роки тому +2

    hi anna! i just wanted to let you know that i really appreciate your videos, thank you for making them :)

  • @mydarkestlovely2166
    @mydarkestlovely2166 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you anna ❤️

  • @hopefaraway_
    @hopefaraway_ 2 роки тому

    i’m blessed to have stumbled upon your channel a year ago. Thank you Anna, you keep me alive ❤️

  • @latue87
    @latue87 3 роки тому +1

    "Why are you cutting away to me?!" Lol

  • @jofaj
    @jofaj 3 роки тому +1

    watching this at 5.06am ... oh well, at least we learn something new each day :D

    • @jofaj
      @jofaj 3 роки тому

      02:45 hit differently :D

  • @Thehealthycreative_
    @Thehealthycreative_ 3 роки тому +3

    glad to know you've done your shadow work! You rock :)

  • @leemylks7600
    @leemylks7600 Рік тому

    "Your ego is huge!" (other person responds:) "Thank you! I've been working on it a lot, it used to be gigantic." ~lol - well played Anna

  • @tanyanikolova9055
    @tanyanikolova9055 3 роки тому

    Anna, how did you manage to be so self-aware and stable after your loss and all else? I really need to make my days better when I suffer with ptsd and anxiety. I don't go to therapy because I cant afford. Blame, shame and guilt are so embedded in me and I can't seem to stop them.

  • @ubermenschen3636
    @ubermenschen3636 2 роки тому

    My suppressed “Mess” is so deep in my subconscious and unconscious mind that I have no idea I’m suppressed, oppressed, depressed, or repressed.

  • @xcristinat
    @xcristinat 3 роки тому +2

    I've been watching Anna's videos for a long time, but in the past few months, she's really been helping me realize that my therapist isn't doing sh!t for me cause I've been doing therapy over a year and I feel like there's been zero progress. Fu¢k...I need to break up with my therapist 😩