All of these are great suggestions if you are involved with someone who wants to listen. Anytime I made suggestions or mentioned anything about attachment, how we communicate or anything referencing positive learning he’d yell at me or mock me. He’d say things like, “don’t all of those videos you watch tell you to stay away from me?” “You just won’t shut up about any of it and let shit go.” It was a very hurtful and awful situation ship (unbeknownst to me) experience to have. So these are all great pieces of advice but when you are dealing with an Avoidant, Narc or alcoholic (I think he may have been all three)it won’t help you at all.
Hey Coach! I kind of have my answer already but want your quick input if possible. I believe my ex is staying away because of something I literally didnt do. I went out of my way and provided actual proof but she seems to be sticking to her own story about it. I feel sabotaged, blindsided so it's been hard to "fully move forward" without worrying about being labeled as something I'm not. I have a reputation, morals and values that I stand by.. is this my ego? Any tips?
Hello coach. We live together for 15 months. Then decided to separate room last April because of some fight. But still he was calling and inviting me as a girlfriend. And we continue seeing and sleeping as couple. But last july he told me to love him only as a friend. I agreed even it feels so bad. I didnt reach out to him. He was always the one initiating the conversation. I didnt ignore him. But since August he changed a lot. Now he is not sending me msg.
She reached out after a month.. 3 short conversations across 2 weeks. I thought I was playing it cool, but looking back I definitely wasn’t. Now another two months back in no contact. I’m all out of hope. Last I hear she moved to another city 30 minutes away. It wasn’t for work, so I can only assume it’s to move in with someone new. What we had was so special, I just can’t believe she found something similar or better so quickly
Special for you. Not for her. Move on. And don’t listen to these two. They are right about improving yourself… but once you have done that… you find someone new. Not chase after an ex. A million fish in the sea. I suggest you watch red-pill content. Most of the advice here is garbage and doesn’t work.
@@chingron I’m familiar with red pill content and I think you are wildly misguided. You don’t know my relationship or how she felt while in it, but I do find your arrogance off-putting and aggravating.
@@makingmodernmen8843 You are right… I don’t know your relationship or how she felt. But… here is what I know based on your own words: 1) She left. If she left, then it obviously wasn’t as special for her as you thought. 2) You suspect that she has already moved in with a new person. This part really says a lot. First, it reinforces the point that it wasn’t very special for her if she both ended it and moved on so quickly. Second, your words suggest, and I could be wrong, that she was staying with you. If that is true, it sounds more like a situation where she was using you for resources. Then, as soon as a better option came along, she took it. And… I can guess the better option was probably someone you would describe as “misguided and arrogant”. You treated her like a queen and some misguided arrogant A-hole ended up getting her. Sadly… it will keep happening to you over and over again unless you educate yourself about female nature. And… I can guarantee that anyone taking the advice from these two people won’t find much success.
Hey dude i was in a similar situation after mine reached out but I decided to cut it off myself before she inevitably pushed me away again because she didn’t even want to hangout. I told her that kind of once in a while texting did me no good and wasn’t healthy for me. There was no meaningful connection and it didn’t seem like she wanted to rebuild anything. I felt like being kept at “just in case” distance and I wasn’t fine with that. A part of me regrets cutting it off but I also realize I will be better off moving on from this. I hope you’ll feel better too. Loving self is probably best course of action once people leave. Cheers mate
I was in a long distance relationship. We went on a trip and I noticed he was distant, so I brought this up and up until it annoyed him. I was demanding and upset for most of the trip. I haven't heard from him he literally ghosted me after dropping me at the airport. I have lost it and called everyday for a week. No answer. I have since stopped. Is there anyway to fix this or is two weeks ghosting really just unacceptable because this feels wrong.
I hope this makes you feel better what you are about to read below 👇 I am way in front of you, with 2 years no contact, not a peep! No contact is a cross country marathon! No winners, just survivors! Winner winner, chicken 🐔 dinner!
5 years here contact, im richer, healthier, and more fun. she never came back. ill keep my dignity and punish her with cold shoulder forever@@davidallahgod3217
I'm sorry for you both, my ex broke up w me over a week ago and I just feel like we still have feelings, and I don't want to get over her. But I feel that I just have to bc she probably won't come back
I know the answer. No, unless it's by accident. Your ex will be posting to see if you will watch it even if you're not the first thing they think of when they're posting it, they will look at who has viewed it and your name will be in their mind. JUST DON'T. I was originally blocked, I held out, didn't react and she unblocked me after a month and a half, then for 2 weeks was viewing my stories on Facebook and Instagram, she wanted a reaction or a message and I didn't say anything, I knew she'd never see them because she blocked me but once I realised she sneakily came back, (I had the power!) I one day decided to see who saw my stories which I never checked and her name was on there, I kept it moving and a week later she texted me. Just hold out and don't show any interest, she will respect you more. It's a silly game but women like a strong independent man who isn't going to chase or check up on them, they like a man that is focused - deep in their genes it shows a man that is uber competitiveness to being a better person, a man without need for pleasure, a man that can't be knocked off his task, deep down honestly it shows family/tribal traits like being strong, capable, protective and centered around looking after whoever is in his life and not chasing who isn't, they crave being in that circle but your ex will want to work her way back into that circle and be rewarded for it by being the main girl, it gives her reward points rather than simping, showing that you aren't desirable and knowing you've done nothing but wait for her to come right back. I have made every mistake possible but one thing I didn't do was crack. Let her come back, expect her to come back but let her come back to a better man. It's not being passive aggressive as long as you're polite or careless when you view them. Don't go out of your way to view them. She will know and respect that more to the point she will want you to view it just so she can say you're doing it because even if you don't think it, it plays into her ego.
… as a German Biologist - my Life approach is to never ever even met the person - who will become an EX Emotional Immunity to sense hidden Toxxins Domestication and Subordinance makes us dumb to accept and tolerate anything. With Social Awareness training I leant to spot the signals fast from afar - from whom to stay far away. And we get ever more addicted to pro Mises leading to Misery…
silly way to look at it, not wanting to work through things and replacing every time there’s a rough patch makes every new relationship less valuable. and the connections less meaningful. there’s billions of opportunities for everyone, what is special is the ability to work through things.
I was in no contact with my ex for 2 months then broke the no contact I went to talk to her because she had blocked me on all social media but when I met her My ex told we are having a toxic relationship and she has moved on I think her friends are suggesting things to her she told cruel things about me and I felt very bad called her mom explained the situation my ex didn’t want her to know about her Relationship now she has blocked me everywhere what should I do now do I have any hope left 😢 we where In a 6 year old relationship now I have lost my job my mom is sick iam depressed what to do please help me
My ex went out with another woman who he was having sex before our relationship. He's having sex with her aswell. We were in no contact for over 2 months. Then he started communicating. We had sex. And nowhe's silent in mydirection. And is communicating with her. She says they are together. I don't know what to do... I am in no contact again for 10 days. But he's with that woman
Your ex is a jerk first of all. But besides that. You need to pull away and stay away. No one should put up with that. Have some respect for yourself. He’s sleeping with another woman and going back like a yoyo…. This guy is really just trash
Sorry not sorry I will never speak like that "I'm struggling what's going on" to me it sounds needy , annoying , and attention seeking ! Why can't we be ourselves and just catch yourself being to harsh at some point in your life you have to understand what your doing is wrong too ! And own up to them and respect yourself enough to change because you owe it to yourself to do that if not then something is completely wrong w/you there is nothing wrong knowing when you said , did or acknowledge something wrong however to each is own ppl have to learn period ... And it's ppl who stay in the relationship because they l❤v them you are not teaching that person ish your just condoning they're toxic behavior
My ex she dumped me after 8 weeks because I misunderstood her & a,situation. I was,drunk & her friend was Yet she kept seeing me & were intimate.up until a,few months ago This confused me!! Yes i lashed out yet she still saw me & was, still intimate with me. I said that I love you & let's work it out! She said that she has,sex with me because I make her feel good & complete in the bedroom so id lash out I miss her i forgive her want her back ❤
I haven’t even watched this video, but I question any “coach” that teaches people how to get back with their ex… Once a person becomes your ex, they should stay your ex. At most… they can be for recreational use only.
Actually he more focuses on self growth and bettering yourself... he says over and over you MIGHT get another chance, but to focus on you and do the work
@@trinityspirit9100 Regardless… after listening to it… worst advice I have ever heard. His advice is essentially… “Do not be yourself. Coddle the person. Appease the person. Walk on egg shells around them to ensure you don’t do something stupid to turn them off.” Worst advice I have ever heard and it doesn’t work.
@@abekabe678 If they left you, it means they aren’t into you. If you keep pining over and chasing after someone who left you, then you are just pathetic. And even if they take you back, they won’t respect you.
All of these are great suggestions if you are involved with someone who wants to listen. Anytime I made suggestions or mentioned anything about attachment, how we communicate or anything referencing positive learning he’d yell at me or mock me. He’d say things like, “don’t all of those videos you watch tell you to stay away from me?” “You just won’t shut up about any of it and let shit go.” It was a very hurtful and awful situation ship (unbeknownst to me) experience to have. So these are all great pieces of advice but when you are dealing with an Avoidant, Narc or alcoholic (I think he may have been all three)it won’t help you at all.
Hey Coach! I kind of have my answer already but want your quick input if possible. I believe my ex is staying away because of something I literally didnt do. I went out of my way and provided actual proof but she seems to be sticking to her own story about it. I feel sabotaged, blindsided so it's been hard to "fully move forward" without worrying about being labeled as something I'm not. I have a reputation, morals and values that I stand by.. is this my ego? Any tips?
Here is the tip… she didn’t drop you because of something you didn’t do. She wanted to end it and that is the excuse she is using.
@@chingron thank you for your response. I think you are right unfortunately.
Hello coach. We live together for 15 months. Then decided to separate room last April because of some fight. But still he was calling and inviting me as a girlfriend. And we continue seeing and sleeping as couple. But last july he told me to love him only as a friend. I agreed even it feels so bad. I didnt reach out to him. He was always the one initiating the conversation. I didnt ignore him. But since August he changed a lot. Now he is not sending me msg.
Hi Guys, what is the fee for coaching?
She reached out after a month.. 3 short conversations across 2 weeks. I thought I was playing it cool, but looking back I definitely wasn’t. Now another two months back in no contact. I’m all out of hope. Last I hear she moved to another city 30 minutes away. It wasn’t for work, so I can only assume it’s to move in with someone new.
What we had was so special, I just can’t believe she found something similar or better so quickly
Special for you. Not for her. Move on. And don’t listen to these two.
They are right about improving yourself… but once you have done that… you find someone new. Not chase after an ex. A million fish in the sea.
I suggest you watch red-pill content. Most of the advice here is garbage and doesn’t work.
@@chingron I’m familiar with red pill content and I think you are wildly misguided. You don’t know my relationship or how she felt while in it, but I do find your arrogance off-putting and aggravating.
@@makingmodernmen8843 You are right… I don’t know your relationship or how she felt. But… here is what I know based on your own words:
1) She left. If she left, then it obviously wasn’t as special for her as you thought.
2) You suspect that she has already moved in with a new person. This part really says a lot. First, it reinforces the point that it wasn’t very special for her if she both ended it and moved on so quickly. Second, your words suggest, and I could be wrong, that she was staying with you. If that is true, it sounds more like a situation where she was using you for resources. Then, as soon as a better option came along, she took it.
And… I can guess the better option was probably someone you would describe as “misguided and arrogant”.
You treated her like a queen and some misguided arrogant A-hole ended up getting her.
Sadly… it will keep happening to you over and over again unless you educate yourself about female nature. And… I can guarantee that anyone taking the advice from these two people won’t find much success.
@@makingmodernmen8843red pill is psycopath content. Cuckoldry in revenge.
Hey dude i was in a similar situation after mine reached out but I decided to cut it off myself before she inevitably pushed me away again because she didn’t even want to hangout. I told her that kind of once in a while texting did me no good and wasn’t healthy for me. There was no meaningful connection and it didn’t seem like she wanted to rebuild anything. I felt like being kept at “just in case” distance and I wasn’t fine with that. A part of me regrets cutting it off but I also realize I will be better off moving on from this. I hope you’ll feel better too. Loving self is probably best course of action once people leave. Cheers mate
I was in a long distance relationship. We went on a trip and I noticed he was distant, so I brought this up and up until it annoyed him. I was demanding and upset for most of the trip. I haven't heard from him he literally ghosted me after dropping me at the airport. I have lost it and called everyday for a week. No answer. I have since stopped. Is there anyway to fix this or is two weeks ghosting really just unacceptable because this feels wrong.
Almost 5 months.. havnt heard a peep
I hope this makes you feel better what you are about to read below 👇
I am way in front of you, with 2 years no contact, not a peep!
No contact is a cross country marathon!
No winners, just survivors!
Winner winner, chicken 🐔 dinner!
@@davidallahgod3217 ouch.. not really. I really need some sort of closure but probably wont get it. She is haunting me in my dreams now.
5 years here contact, im richer, healthier, and more fun. she never came back. ill keep my dignity and punish her with cold shoulder forever@@davidallahgod3217
@@davidallahgod3217 does it get easier? can you find love again? do the nightmares stop?
I'm sorry for you both, my ex broke up w me over a week ago and I just feel like we still have feelings, and I don't want to get over her. But I feel that I just have to bc she probably won't come back
Should you watch their stores after the breakup? If you don’t, is that being passive aggressive?
Good question 😂
I know the answer.
No, unless it's by accident. Your ex will be posting to see if you will watch it even if you're not the first thing they think of when they're posting it, they will look at who has viewed it and your name will be in their mind.
JUST DON'T. I was originally blocked, I held out, didn't react and she unblocked me after a month and a half, then for 2 weeks was viewing my stories on Facebook and Instagram, she wanted a reaction or a message and I didn't say anything, I knew she'd never see them because she blocked me but once I realised she sneakily came back, (I had the power!) I one day decided to see who saw my stories which I never checked and her name was on there, I kept it moving and a week later she texted me.
Just hold out and don't show any interest, she will respect you more. It's a silly game but women like a strong independent man who isn't going to chase or check up on them, they like a man that is focused - deep in their genes it shows a man that is uber competitiveness to being a better person, a man without need for pleasure, a man that can't be knocked off his task, deep down honestly it shows family/tribal traits like being strong, capable, protective and centered around looking after whoever is in his life and not chasing who isn't, they crave being in that circle but your ex will want to work her way back into that circle and be rewarded for it by being the main girl, it gives her reward points rather than simping, showing that you aren't desirable and knowing you've done nothing but wait for her to come right back.
I have made every mistake possible but one thing I didn't do was crack. Let her come back, expect her to come back but let her come back to a better man. It's not being passive aggressive as long as you're polite or careless when you view them. Don't go out of your way to view them. She will know and respect that more to the point she will want you to view it just so she can say you're doing it because even if you don't think it, it plays into her ego.
Never watch, if you watch it seems needy. If you don’t watch you seem like you don’t care and you seem more confident
… as a German Biologist - my Life approach is
to never ever even met the person -
who will become an EX
Emotional Immunity to sense hidden Toxxins
Domestication and Subordinance
makes us dumb to accept and tolerate anything.
With Social Awareness training
I leant to spot the signals fast from afar -
from whom to stay far away.
And we get ever more addicted
to pro Mises
leading to Misery…
Sounds like your over analyzing and have some fear about being vulnerable. Life can be messy and have no order. Good luck!
@@daniellinklater1779
Learn Reading
before screaming
under Analyst
Getting back together with your ex is like taking a shower and then putting your dirty underwear back on.
😂
silly way to look at it, not wanting to work through things and replacing every time there’s a rough patch makes every new relationship less valuable. and the connections less meaningful. there’s billions of opportunities for everyone, what is special is the ability to work through things.
Thanks
I was in no contact with my ex for 2 months then broke the no contact I went to talk to her because she had blocked me on all social media but when I met her My ex told we are having a toxic relationship and she has moved on I think her friends are suggesting things to her she told cruel things about me and I felt very bad called her mom explained the situation my ex didn’t want her to know about her Relationship now she has blocked me everywhere what should I do now do I have any hope left 😢 we where In a 6 year old relationship now I have lost my job my mom is sick iam depressed what to do please help me
only pray to God and live by faith not by sight. Hope God strengthen you
Hey how are you doing now? Hope your moms doing better
@@Xile179 no she passed away recently 😞
@@Karthik_jayaraman im sorry to hear about that, fuck i cant imagine going thru a break up and losing your mom. Are you feeling better at all?
what if ldr?
My ex went out with another woman who he was having sex before our relationship. He's having sex with her aswell. We were in no contact for over 2 months. Then he started communicating. We had sex. And nowhe's silent in mydirection. And is communicating with her. She says they are together.
I don't know what to do...
I am in no contact again for 10 days. But he's with that woman
Your ex is a jerk first of all. But besides that. You need to pull away and stay away. No one should put up with that. Have some respect for yourself. He’s sleeping with another woman and going back like a yoyo…. This guy is really just trash
Sorry not sorry I will never speak like that "I'm struggling what's going on" to me it sounds needy , annoying , and attention seeking ! Why can't we be ourselves and just catch yourself being to harsh at some point in your life you have to understand what your doing is wrong too ! And own up to them and respect yourself enough to change because you owe it to yourself to do that if not then something is completely wrong w/you there is nothing wrong knowing when you said , did or acknowledge something wrong however to each is own ppl have to learn period ... And it's ppl who stay in the relationship because they l❤v them you are not teaching that person ish your just condoning they're toxic behavior
My ex she dumped me after 8 weeks because I misunderstood her & a,situation. I was,drunk & her friend was
Yet she kept seeing me & were intimate.up until a,few months ago This confused me!! Yes i lashed out yet she still saw me & was, still intimate with me. I said that I love you & let's work it out! She said that she has,sex with me because I make her feel good & complete in the bedroom so id lash out
I miss her i forgive her want her back ❤
What about attachment style when you have autism?
Do you still have attachment?
Early childhood attachment trauma is a cause of autism if I remember correctly.
I haven’t even watched this video, but I question any “coach” that teaches people how to get back with their ex…
Once a person becomes your ex, they should stay your ex. At most… they can be for recreational use only.
Actually he more focuses on self growth and bettering yourself... he says over and over you MIGHT get another chance, but to focus on you and do the work
@@trinityspirit9100 Regardless… after listening to it… worst advice I have ever heard. His advice is essentially… “Do not be yourself. Coddle the person. Appease the person. Walk on egg shells around them to ensure you don’t do something stupid to turn them off.”
Worst advice I have ever heard and it doesn’t work.
Not all ex r desame some ex are so good that u can take them over and over again especially if there way the best thing that ever happened to u.
Yeah dude in a lot of cases you're right, but if they're genuinely good people's you're gonna want them back
@@abekabe678 If they left you, it means they aren’t into you. If you keep pining over and chasing after someone who left you, then you are just pathetic. And even if they take you back, they won’t respect you.