My Mister (나의 아저씨) Revisited: Ep 3 Favourite Scenes Reaction & Thoughts Including "The Kiss Scene"
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- Опубліковано 24 вер 2024
- My Mister is a korean tv drama series that's a sleeper hit on netflix and has developed a cult following around the world thanks to it's class!
It's also my favourite drama series of all time!
In this video we'll go over my favourite scenes from My Mister Episode 3...a series of scenes I'd probably call "Setting Boundaries" because the two main characters start to establish a relationship that's forcing them to address their internal dilemmas...
Lee Ji-An needs money fast to keep her grandma safe and needs to keep thinking of Dong Hoon as a target and nothing else to justify getting him fired to herself...
And Dong Hoon is starting to feel pushed around by her while being drawn to her at the same time and so is looking for a way to navigate himself out of the situation in a way that works with his values.
However...my favourite scene at the beginning of the episode is the meeting between him and his wife that beautifully shows their communication issues, their past and the feelings that are bubbling away under the surface.
Then we'll discuss the two significant meetings between Dong Hoon and Ji-An that shape their relationship and foreshadow the later developments in the drama.
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Drop your thoughts in the comments and let me know your favourite scenes in My Mister!
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I also like the scene where Jian and Donghoon talk together drinking. One thing about the scene might be the generational conflict. I think the generational conflict is one of the themes in this Drama, which I think is the reason why Donghoon frequantly speak out the terms like "adult" and "young." The conflict, I think, is relatively more significant in Korea than in other places, for example, US because the speed of change in Korea has been extremely fast. Dong-hoon's parents' generation literally went through the Korean War, and by the time Jian reached an adulthood, Korea had already reached the stage of a developed country. Donghoon's generation also is affected a lot by their parents, so there is actually a huge generational conflict in Korea because young people cannot understand what adults take for granted. The question about Jian's father is one of the popular questions many people in Donghoon's generation actually ask. Many adults might say that they don't intentionally judge others by asking those questions, while young people ask adults to refrain intentionally from asking those private questions.
And I personally think the reason Dong-hoon gets angry at Ji-an's words is because of his uncomfortableness as he says. Although 'uncomfortable' is not clearly from his moral sensibility, it still expresses his conscience, as he didn't want to kill the big insect in the first episode, I think. And the character he has is such that most of his thoughts and actions are based on his conscience, which makes him uncomfortable about doing wrong and refraining from doing right. And Ji-an's words stimulate his conscience, I think. Maybe some truth might be in her words, but even if it isn't, Donghoon seems to get angry from whatever lets his conscience uncomfortable.
"Are you scared you will fall for me?" Dong Hoon is adamant about not letting people know what he's feeling or what pain he's going through, and part of that is never saying the quiet part out loud. He stood up because Ji An exposed a quiet thought he would rather leave unacknowledged, by her and even himself.
you said it very well! :-)
Ha..ha..Ji An really knows which button to push with everyone....DH, the CEO, loan shark, the female uppity co-worker, DH wife...
일단 할말잊어버릴까봐 한국어로 씁니다.첫번째 씬 저도 생각한거라 반갑구요. 두번째 씬에서는 그렇게 생각못했었어요. I agree with your first point which was hard hitting to me too. As for the 2nd scene i never approached that way but i am convinced now. I can't help but wonder if English delivers their rather unique, still so realistic, authentic, unclichéd dialogues...really the dialogues are another gem of this drama...o m g. I can praise the beauty of this drama 247 until forever.
You mean about the relationship between DH and his wife?
Yes I wish I could also understand it in Korean...i only hear the tone of voice, inflection and yet the subtitles seem not to get criticised a lot which must be a good sign..yes...it's writing on another level from the writer...👍😜
These are my thoughts on Dong Hoon and the other characters, but it's a bit difficult to express it in English...😅
During the drama, from the words of his mother, his monk friend (that's one of my favorite scenes) and his wife, we understand that he is unable to communicate. He keeps it all inside because he mistakenly thinks it's the best way to "protect" others. Lee Ji An forces him to express his emotions (starting from anger) and even "steals" them from him with the wiretapping device.
I like how everyone reacts differently to Dong Hoon's character: everyone knows that he can't express his feelings, but the mother worries, the friend accepts him, the wife is somewhat disappointed... In my opinion Ji An, precisely because at the beginning she would like to use this trait of his character to hate him, ends up being more and more attracted to him and wanting him to open up.
I really appreciate your analysis of his married life and I think this scene between husband and wife is just the moment when we understand her personality, her difficulties, her "justifications". He is ruining the marriage while thinking of safeguarding it with his silence and his "do not react". It's really sad.
As for the kissing scene, IU is the best actress I've ever seen when it comes to "eyes language". She can portray so many shades with only her eyes and blushing a little.
I've already said that the dialogue between Ji An and Dong Hoon at dinner is one of the most memorable scenes of this episode for me, and hearing your opinion made me feel understood.😜
Appreciate your thoughts on this..totally agree with everything you said..I do believe her role is so rich and the writing is so good that an actor's job is really not to mess it up by doing too much...all the way through she just IS in this drama...lives through every moment fully...it's very rare to see in an actor over 16 episodes
@@ManVsDrama it's insane how hard (or even impossible) is to find a weakness in the plot/script/acting of this drama. Sometimes when I watch a movie or a drama for the first time, I'm amazed by the originality, but when I rewatch it I usually find some lacks in the story. In the case of My Mister, every rewatch helps me to find more complexity and "unity" in the plot. Even if we are talking about things like control devices, or "daring" funerals, the story never loses its sense of reality. You can breathe realism in every scene. Both the creators and the actors made it a masterpiece.
Actually rewatching this series a second time and I'm love picking up these additional hints I didn't notice before 😆
Your comments about the issues in the relationship between Dong hoon and his wife are spot on. And I totally agree that Lee Ji-ah is very much under-appreciated in this drama, being overshadowed by the other more prominent actors. She did a fantastic job in her role. However, there's something about her that bothers me --- her unnatural-looking plastic-surgery-enhanced face. I find it very distracting at times 😄
Speaking of underrated actor, another one in my view is Dong hoon's supervisor/boss, played by Jung Jae sung. This man truly deserves more recognition. He not only plays the ass-kissing bad-guy role very well but also brings much-welcome levity to this heavy show.
Yeah..I don't know...no idea but I don't notice it I guess. Sometimes it's the role that's getting you talked about more...She's also great in a completely different show right now..."the Penthouse" where she's the only character with some values and heart haha... It's true about Jung Jae Sung...his character is kinda crucial...He's probably the only one that's a bit of a one dimensional character we can all hate (apart from the female office worker who always tries to get one over Ji-An and fails everytime lol)...It's true..he brings a ridiculousness to his role that's important in the balance! :-)
@@ManVsDrama Yes, I also enjoyed the female office worker's character in the show; she also plays an important part in the story (to show Ji-an's tenacity, to move the plot along when she helped reveal to Jung Jae Sung's character about Dong hoon's close relationship to Ji-an, among others). Boy, the writer of this show really knew what she was doing when she put in all these wonderful and well-placed characters.
The fact the minor characters were played so well by the actors is one of the reasons why this drama is so amazing. I can give a few more such characters that really stand out and made strong impressions on me. I'll name one more: the short guy who sold his cleaning business to the brothers. To me, his acting is so believable and on point that it seems like he is an actual person I have met in real life.
I love this drama all in all again and again, but ep3 is the pinnacle of dark times of this drama and still chokes me lol... I do agree on your point with Lee Ji Ah though. She brought real life to a very difficult character to act
The pinnacle of dark times...good way of saying it..yes this is the last episode before a dark office drama reveals itself to be a life affirming human relationships drama..👍😎
Lee Ji Ah was one of my first Korean actress crushes. Still as beautiful as she was in Iris.
Watching you talking about the first scene, I could also focus and pick up some lines I missed before.
When the wife is angry and says "Don't rip it up like that. You will put it back as it was and it will dry up!"( I'm sorry. I don't know exactly how it is translated in English )
It shows their little but deep conflict and also sounds like Donghoon's attitude about his own wound. He did not cure it and let it be, and he looks dried up through the show until he finally collapses and cries (the beginning of his self cure) at the last episode.
I really want to thank you for sharing your thoughts and love about this show. I'm truly enjoying your contents and looking forward to the next ones.
See...and you now found another level of meaning that could well have been intended...that's just why I love going over this drama with this series...I learn so much from rewatching it and reading the comments! Thanks I'll keep going ..as we know the drama only gets better and better!
DH is the way he is is because he thinks he has to act strong. His 2 brothers are failures and he has to be the man about the house without a father. His neighbourhood looks up to him as the only success as all the rest are becoming less successful with time. He has to be strong for everyone and that means he won't burden them with his problems which resulted him unable to express himself.
Lee Sun-kyun's previous series before this was 2016's "My Wife Is Having An Affair This Week". It was an excellent, insightful redo of a Japanese drama and much worth the watch, especially since he's such a different character going through such similar problems.
Oh..I don't actually know that one...I'll have a look! Thanks.
This is my most favourite kdrama of all time possibly my favourite show. I really liked your review. I noticed you also watched reply 1988. My top 3 shows are my mister,reply1988 and MR.SUNSHINE . If you still haven't watched mr.sunshine. I highly recommend. It will be in your top best dramas. I will look forward if you ever watch Mr.sunshine
I love mr sunshine...watched twice..it's probably my second fave after my mister👍😎 I'll share my thoughts on that too soon and will make a top 10 video soon I think👍🙂
@@ManVsDrama pls do I would love to hear your thoughts about it😊
The Judas Kiss. I agree with you that Ji An looks like she’s about to jump off a cliff here, it’s a desperate gamble for her. There is a small detail right after the kiss (easy to miss) that
gives a major clue as to PDH’s feeling for JIi An. If you missed it, go back and watch the scene again. Come back here to see what it is and what I think it signifies.
After PDH says “don't do that” we cut to PDH’s hand on Ji An’s arm, it’s a quick shot, but instead of pushing her away, he squeezes her arm. He pushes her arms away later but why did the director insert this shot here? PDH might not have even consciously realized he made this gesture but I think on some level Ji An felt it. Later in episode 5, she repeats this same grasping gesture, see if you can spot it. It's an incredibly subtle detail but easier to spot in ep5.
I’m not sure that Ji An knew that the kiss would fail. And, on a deeper level I think she hoped it would. The look of disappointment on her face as she turns away speaks to feelings of abandonment and rejection that was burned in at an early age. She has very low self esteem and the fact that she was rejected here must have hurt. I think this is why when PDH tells her later she is nice, she plays it over and over again.
Both characters have had a long drought of any kind of love or physical affection and we know they are longing for it.
We never once see any kind of intimacy between PDH and his wife and the only physical contact Ji An is receiving is a beat down. For PDH the question as to whether he has romantic feelings for Jin An I think gets answered here. He squeezes her arm and says “don’t you understand”. I think I do.
Oh...it's interesting reading of the scene. Personally I see zero romantic intention when she tries to kiss him..she just has to get a shot of them looking like they're kissing because she needs to get the money quick and she succeeds in getting the shot..she knows that he's going to push her off but has to get on with it...and looks like she's disgusted with herself in the process..and he's trying to stop her in a controlled way..?
@@ManVsDrama I agree, your analysis is perfect. I don't think her intention is romantic, but there is a desire here.
I don't think Ji An is lying (or ever really lies) when she describes why she kissed him later. "It’s just that I had not kissed someone in a long while. So I simply tried it.
You looked as bored as I was. How does he look so bored when he makes 5 to six million won a month? You work under a junior from university, although you know he wants to fire you you feign ignorance and trudge on like a diligent lifer. You are someone who looks the most bored and unhappy here. It seemed like your life was as hellish as mine so I wondered if kissing you would make my life less boring and entertaining, even for a second. That’s why I kissed you.
My life is still boring and dull. It’s the same. How was it for you?"
In addition to getting paid, she was also hoping to escape her life with the kiss, but it's a cheap escape. The kind of cheap diversionary intimacy given to Kang Yoon by the CEO and easily discarded. PDH shows his character by turning this down while leaving open the possibly for something more precious.
@@JWPanimationpersonally I think she lies very plausibly. I think she makes it up in that scene in the office..it's like she lies according to the role that she's been playing with him...she tells a plausible story that sounds like brutal honesty..but mostly she says things she picked up about him....because she can sense he will forgive her for it and not fire her..I just think she's pure survival at this stage in the drama...she still needs to get the money from the CEO to protect grandma by getting rid of the loanshark. Interesting debate 👍😎
@@ManVsDrama God I’d love to keep this response short, it’s just there is so much to unpack here, please bear with me.
Absolutely, the best liars know, in order to be plausible, there has to be some truth mixed in. I read another post where you and another viewer were discussing Ji An’s truthfulness. It's a question about her character I’ve been pondering too. How much is Ji An lying? I hope you will explore this in a future video by really going in depth about Ji An, her character and motivations (PDH too).
I agree, Jin An is smart and agile enough to know exactly what to say to PDH to keep him from firing her, but I can't find anything false in her explanation. She could have played to his ego, saying she had a crush on him (a lie), but did not. The reason she kissed him, had absolutely nothing to do with him. She knows what he's dealing with and understands him, but does not give a shit about him. I think she was also capable of having taken some “entertainment” from the kiss (pleasure) and then betraying him later. This is the exact opposite of romance.
When she tells the CEO that she takes pleasure in bringing people down like PDH, I don’t think she’s lying either. I love this line she says in one of her meals with PDH. “Would you hate me, with your utmost passion. Like there is no tomorrow. And in return, I will hate you with my utmost passion.” She's not one dimensional though. I agree with you that she immediately feels disgust at herself right after kissing PDH. But, she has no remorse for what she is planning to do to him. She hates the person she is becoming and is conflicted but can't see past herself. Deep, deep, down, we know she cares about the well being of her grandmother and is capable of empathy, but she’s teetering on the edge of sociopathy. Once PDH sees her care for her grandmother and acknowledges it, and she really sees him for who he is - everything flips. She now has empathy for him and we can replace the word "hate" to "love" with utmost passion.
@@JWPanimation agreed on many points but I strongly believe she's lying to the CEO later...about supposedly wanting to destroy "good guys like dong hoon"...because it was the only way to convince the CEO that she was still working for him when she was basically just protecting dong hoon.. even earlier in the drama we never see her taking pleasure in doing bad things to him...but we see flashes of pity even earlier in my view...for example after the forces that kiss on him to get the shot...she looks back at him with STH like pity or concern.. to me everything at the beginning is driven by need to protect her grandma ...later it's all driven by helping PDH survive and at times a hope for a temporary escape from the hopelessness of her future of being fired again and working another meaningless temp job...but yeah...maybe it's a definition of lying...so much to discuss👍😁
there are lots of parts I miss in this drama, probably I am watching it weekly when they aired it in Korea. Gonna watch it again
Yeah..it's worth going over again for sure...there's so much subtle subtext to notice!!enjoy!
I feel that the truth in that last statement is that as a man of deep integrity he understands that there is truth in that and that one simply doesn't allow oneself to be put in a situation where you can become interested or get entangled. It is, very sadly, a concept and behavior that the west has abandoned in its frantic rush to cultural suicide.
I love your videos telling us about your thought. Keep doing it and I’m looking forward to it:)
I like Donghoon but when I see him talking to his wife, I wanna punch him in the face. I don't remember correctly but his wife said he made her lonely even when they're together and he doesn't seem like he needs her. Honestly, I totally understand why she cheated on him. You know, everybody wanna be needed by people they love. If my girlfriend didn't need me and I felt it, I think I'd prepare to break up with her slowly even before I realize it. Anyway, the fact that Donghoon hasn't been so nice to his wife gets us to understand her on some level and makes this drama more realistic. I mean, Donghoon is a real grown-up, He's a good person but after all, he's not perfect.
Maybe simply they are not made for each other. There are some aspects in which we feel empathetic about her as well though. I like the way she understands /respects Ji an when she found out Ji an's feelings for Dong Hoon. She's not the worst kind of unfaithful wife.
From my view it's not anyone's fault...but it's what happens when people don't communicate about problems..and when they realise they have different goals or priorities in life but feel they need to stay together out of a sense of duty...🤨
Although I understand, it still does not justify her cheating with his most hatred person and scheming him quit his career job.
Yes and it's also significant that she's the one who says to dong hoon when ji-an is on the run later: "let's come clean and tell everything. we can't let her be on the run. We need to help her. " That actually comes from her, not him.✊🙂
The actor Lee Sun-kyun played the lead in the 2010 series 'Pasta', the most face-punchable misogynist creep you can imagine. Early in this series I could detect a tiny hint of his character chef Choi from that series.
I agree sooo much with your thoughts about these scenes! Now I have to go to work, but later I know I will comment with a whole essay about my thoughts 😝
We're waiting👍😜
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.
Thanks for watching and commenting!!👍😎
This is an amazing episode. The interesting thing is even though his wife is having an affair with his rival I stated to worry about her.... Its just great writing
It's true...even as an actor I still understand more and more about how crucial the script is..great scripts make acting such a pleasure..
@@ManVsDrama the shock I felt when jian tried to kiss him. I was saying "no no no don't do it"
I like what you are doing here but may I ask that you reposition your monitor? I am watching on my phone and I cannot read the subtitles.
I'll try to adjust the angle further👍
님 참 똑똑하신 것 같아요. 분석포인트가 한국사람과 좀 달라서 깊이 듣고 싶은데 자막이 영어라.아무튼 영어실력을 키워서라도 천천히 볼게요
Thank you. It should have Korean subtitles in Korea shouldn't it?
@@ManVsDrama 네 님이 하신 말씀을 제가 이해할수가 없어요 한국자막이 안되서요. 영어자막밖에 안되서요. 그래도 구글해석돌려서 해볼게요. 감사합니다.
저도 본방할때는 일이 바빠서 못보다가 넷플릭스에서 세번 봤어요 볼때마다 울어서 울다가 잠이 들곤했죠. 다른나람사람들의 리뷰들을 보면서 좀 더 다양한 관점으로 보는 법을 듣고싶어서 찾아왔어요. 제가 가는 커뮤에 누가 이 링크를 올렸더라구요. 시간될때 하나씩 볼게요